@@littleangel4780Yeah, all these Flag waving God Fearing So called Patriots who Pledged their allegiance to the Flag America and the Government UNDER GOD .. AND, THESE "AMERICAN PATRIOTS" Showed who they really were. When they showed they HATED THEIR FELLOW AMERICANS HATED THEIR GOVERNMENT and LIED TO THEIR GOD.. . Refusing to wear a mask get the JAB Pretending that COVID was FAKE. If it was fake the Government found out who would be good Military material and who would actually listen when in crisis. That showed who was going to be problematic and not help when in an emergency or War situation. They realized that most every Republican will Rebel against this Country and be a hindrance and not the help they need if there was a real emergency. They found out that Dems and Liberals Love the people of this country and would help and sacrifice for the greater good..
I was wondering how so much could be lost on this mother - “she taught me everything I know”, “I needed someone to look up to”. Eugenia was calling her mother out in all the ways the mother had failed her. Not sure if that registered to the mom = /
@@tamekiawilliams5216as someone who plans to be a mother, it would be a dagger through my heart too. I'm determined to make sure my children never have to say that to me. 😢
There was no silver lining. That woman was discarded in the wink of an eye and the mother kept it to herself because she was ashamed of what happened. To Skeeter, the maid was her mother. What a terrible thing to have done to that old woman in front of a room full of strangers.
@@andrewkuldip8785 Skeeter felt what her mother did killed her by breaking her heart. No one said a thing about being with her family during her final days. Skeeter loved this woman and I wished she would have had a chance to go and see her before she died.
@@hennesseyme9112The silver lining was that she got to be with her ACTUAL family before passing. Skeeter is NOT her family. Most of these women did not want to be a maid nor raise someone else's child. I know older black ppl who raised whyte children. The whyte kids, now adults, gloat about the bw who had to do the parenting in their households and loved their black nannies, babysitters, and/or maids, while the elder bw despise them and their whole situation, but still had to smile at them when they were kids and now as adults. The delusional mindset to say skeeter didn't get to see her, forget Skeeter and her mom.
We're not black, we're Hispanic. When I was a small child my mom cleaned a home for a older white couple for many years. We grew a relationship with them, they always treated my mom with respect and always showed love to me. As time went on they grew older and had to be put into hospice. One of their last wishes was for my mom to have their small pickup truck as we did not have a car at the time. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, their children did not respect that last wish. It was a little upsetting but in the end we let it go and chose to hang on to the memories we had with that couple, now that...they can't take away.
personally I believe disrespecting the final wishes of the dead ties the spirits to this world and not in a good way so those ignorant descendents might be very unlucky until they make it right.
This shows the importance of having a will, no matter how little you have. Sometimes our family is not going to respect our wishes. But you are right, memories are the most important thing, and they can't take those
@@lindachadwick7358 I remember her in an episode of the groundbreaking tv show called Emergency!! She played a worried mom when her teenage football playing son got hurt & was unconscious. This was in the 70’s and probably before she became famous.
Being a "Yankee", I grew up with a huge fear of the South, thinking all Southerns were cruel and couldn't understand why they were so mean to people of color. Then I met a new friend, a black woman who moved to New York. She was a very successful, educated business woman who was kind and had great class. When she looked at property to rent, she would be told the house was just rented or they needed 6 months' security deposit. She taught me that northerners with discrimination often don't directly show it, but Southerns did. She said she preferred the honestly in the South rather than the hypocrisy in the North. Wow did I learn a lesson. There are kind people and mean people every where.
There's misunderstandings on both sides. During the pandemic and quarantine there are those who died because they didn't want to wear masks, and they believed in science of vaccines instead of washing hands with soap and water.@@danielshapiro2472
@@danielshapiro2472As a yankee, you don’t know anything about the south or what its like to live in it. I highly encourage you to read the archived letters of the confederate army. You might learn something.
I grew up in the south and moved to California after graduating high school. I witnessed and actually experienced so much racism in California. I’m in an interracial relationship and had people in *California* tell me that I’ve ruined myself and that I’m a traitor because I’m not dating a white man. But then I hear others in CA claim that the South is racist. Meanwhile I have friends and family in the South who are loving and accepting of my boyfriend. The media really loves to sell the trope that the south is horrible. But evil is everywhere. And things aren’t always what you expect.
This is SO real. Living in the north in Oregon they try to cover their hate but growing up in California and Las Vegas people are more honest and it diminishes the whole issue to be honest
Every time I watch this scene I cry because I know this happened so many times to so many good human beings for NO reason other than their skin color! It’s so sad that people did this and thought it was justified/ok to do.
The bigger problem is that she did that Knowing it was wrong. She didn't think it was okay, but she did it Anyway. Peer pressure or not that woman raised her little girl and loved her. She deserved better than that and so did both daughters.
It’s still going on today! Except it says CHILDREN of all skin color - and they’re being used as property and are being traded as we speak. The comments are vey wise but, if we abolished slavery in the U.S. how long will we pine over what happened in the past until we stop being blind to the slavery that is happening NOW!
@warrioroftruth6307Everyone can inherit the kingdom of heaven no matter what race. Don’t let you anger and emotions lead you to what you feel like is truth. There is a lot of pride division and hate in those groups and the Lord hates all three. Follow Jesus and let him direct your path not man playing on your feelings. I’ve been there so I know how it feels to feel like you finally found the real truth but there is nothing good at the end of that road. Everyone belongs to God
The really sad thing is people are still treating people like this and it’s really shitty and pathetic that we as a whole society have not grown up at all.
The only photo I've ever seen of my great-grandmother was in this uniform. My great-grandmother was the help. I absolutely loved seeing this depicted in such realness. Her diary told many stories like this movie. I got my smile from her. Thank you Great Grandma Mary
@@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld I understand that thought but on the other hand you would be introducing her to the rest of us and helping to get the truth out. While I am appalled by the way these women were treated I throughly enjoy watching the movie and the book is great to read also.
The really sad part is that there are still people out there, to this day, that think it’s okay to treat others like that, based on their skin color. I think En vogue said it best “be color blind. don’t be so shallow”. Love this movie.
To be fair, she was probably thinking of her family and the implications it would have on her children and husband if she went up against those mean women. Not making excuses, but that's the mentality of people living in that era. Even those who weren't racist had to act like one in order to fit in. It was still terrible though. That old lady didn't deserve that after so many years of working for the family. 😢
I think that's why she got sick. Guilt and anger at herself about what she'd done. She got better when she forgave herself and stood up to Hilly for her daughter.
The world was different back then. You have no idea how you would have handle this if you had been born in this erea. We are born in a time where this is consider outrageous. But back then, this family treating blacks as family was outrageous. Different times man. Different times. But at least things are moving forward in a postive way if can get others to see this
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@mr.doctorcaptain1124 Actually, gutlessness is the very essence of being a coward.
Let me preface: I am a white man and I have always said I have 3 grandmothers. One for each parent and the 3rd was a local lady that took my brother and I as a nanny or whatever you want to call her but we called her our grandmother. I forever am thankful that in college I found out she was in the hospital. I was able to make it to say goodbye.
@@sharond.940Right, whyte ppl trip me out when they talk about the older bw who took care of them growing up, as if these women didn't have their own families
@@bre9328Many women have full-time jobs and also children of their own. Most work at least in part out of financial necessity (as I do). I'm speaking of current times, separate from segregation and slavery.
Give people their flowers when they are alive cause once they take their last breath and leave this earth the flowers you would be able to bring them are the ones you put on their grave. Life is too short. Tell ppl you love them now. Show your appreciation now. ❤ Have a blessed day everyone
That’s why you stand on the side of goodness and righteousness no matter what. Not only to prevent injustice but to not have to live with guilt like that
Emma Stone shaking her head like that will never not make me cry. Like it’s hitting her that she’ll never get to see her again, she never got to tell her how much she loved her or say goodbye, and she’s just shaking her head in heartbroken disbelief. 😢😭
This by far was the saddest scene I've ever seen in any movie. Just seeing the wind knocked out of her while her eyes swole with tears, broke my heart just watching it.
The acting in this film is unreal. Alison Janney, as ugly as this scene is, really killed it. So did Emma, and especially the legendary Cicely Tyson (RIP ❤️) Just incredible.
It IS sad. It's sad that she didn't have the guts to be strong enough when she should have been, and it's sad that when she tried to fix it it, it was too late. But, of course, the biggest victim in all of this is the person she wronged.
It’s pretty frickin’ sad for Rachel. She got treated like dirt after showing them decades of love and kindness. There’s a lot of sad parts in this movie, but Rachel having to walk out that door with those harpies staring at her sure made me cry. What a way to end a long career of really hard work.
@@BillBarr4President why do people say shit like that? We all know it’s a movie. Most people know it’s based on a book. No one thinks it’s a documentary. But the behavior isn’t from just that time period. Grown adults succumb to peer pressure and it use it as an excuse to treat others as less than them to this very day
Yes I can, peer pressure is extremely effective, especially when paired from someone percieved as having some authority over you. The Milgram study proved that.
The directors and writers of the movie made this scene up completely. In the book Constantine‘s daughter was able to pass for white, and she barged into the party and started fraternizing with the other ladies but the other ladies were unaware that her daughter wasn’t white.
@patriciamartin1205-Minnie should have opened up a pie shop in that town!The first customers could have been the ladies ( her Mother’s so called friends)at Eugenia’s house!LOL!
Subtitles are painfully inaccurate but 1 of the best scenes in that movie is when the mother says to her daughter maybe courage skips a generation because her daughter is courageous while she, herself didn’t have a backbone
@@s.e.e455 I see your point. Anyway, we have to remember that space is relative. We are all connected, no matter the country. And looking the other way is abusing yourself first.
This is an example of someone who is simply “not a racist” vs. anti-racist. An anti-racist would’ve told the President to leave. Hell, wouldn’t have even let her in the front door. What you believe internally counts for jack if you let the bad stuff continue around you.
Except for the fact that this has nothing to do with racism. Unless the issue was about firing all the black help and hiring white maids. This is about class and age.
I’d be so offended that woman was telling me what to do in my own house I would keep Constantine and Rachel there to spite her, not only because it would be the right thing to do
This is Exactly why I never in my life care what others think, I do what my heart tells me to do. If someone doesn’t like it, then the door is open, and I expect you to walk through it. I never would want to cause the kind of pain this woman would have felt if this were true. Honestly, I can tell you I’d ask everyone who was in the room to leave my home immediately.
I believe you. Hats off to you because back then during that Jim Crowe era, it would have taken some phenomenal guts to do.what you say. The consequence would have been social ioslation. But I heard of steller individuals who knew that, but couldn't have cared less.
Trust me, I could deal with isolation, if it meant isolating myself from people I have no respect for. I believe if more people stood up for what they believe, and hopefully believing something positive, more people would step up and follow you. The problem with Society today is, we have WAY too many followers and not enough true leaders. @@keithbell9348
She should have used that opportunity to teach her child how to stand up to the Bullies and kick THEM out instead of her own family. Constantine was a part of their family. She should have been treated better.
Peer pressure defines people as being weak...people often jump on the band wagon as too scared to step out of line n be ostrisised....n the really coward thing is...those who jump on the band wagon act all innocent when later alone n crossing the victims path... I was once evicted due to this sort of behaviour though managed to soar higher than those who plotted against me.....cowards are everywhere
She sent her brother to bring Constantine "home." Home. All inside of her she loved Constantine and Rachel and knew their home was with her. But as much as she loved them, she loved the acceptance of others more. When you finally learn that this type of acceptance is not worth the cost, it destroys a part of you.
@@margomckaine78 I understand, but when the lady said she sent her son to go get Constantine it came off to me like she saw her as a possession. She should have written a letter of apology asking her to come back, Constantine wasnt chattle
@@msnos6245 In that period, she was Chattel and I never looked at it the way you expressed except to the fact that she thought she could do as she pleased with the help. I wish it was written that Skeeter could have gone quickly to say goodbye before she died.
It was the same in the apartheid years. Ppl uphold 'honour' in the eyes of their peers by belittling those less fortunate. Apartheid was ugly. I hate racism.
Definitely a sad scene and an example that 'Evil thrives when good men do nothing'. I've watched the movie The Help twice which was brilliantly acted by all involved, however, it was extremely sad the way black people were treated and in some cases, still are. Cowardice is something so-called sympathisers need to be deeply ashamed of!
I know some people like to say Skeeter is just a "white saviour", but they fail to realise she is a young woman who loved "the help" as her family. They fail to see this is about a young woman who comes back home to a missing mother figure, and that she can't ever see her again. Her relationship with Constantine is just like baby girl's with Aibileen. The paid worker cares more about raising the child with love, compassion, wisdom.
Wasn't it kinda the daughter's fault cause the lady told her she was attending people but the daughter decided to barge in to see her mom, back in the day she must've known something like that would get her in trouble or her mom, she caused the scene and got her mom fired. Though obviously the lady could've disregarded it, but the daughter was disrespectful barging in like that, I kinda feel like the lady stood her ground, although it's true that firing the old lady wasn't really necessary cause it wasn't her fault but it's a back in those days kinda movie so not everything was fair anyways
@@spikesgirl9371News flash...Yes, most Yanks were better! Blacks weren't lynched in the North, Blacks had jobs and even professions in the North, Some Blacks achieved middle class status in the North, Blacks were not as segregated in the North, and Blacks were protected by the law in the North!
The book was so much different in this part. I hate how they make Charlotte look in this. This isn't what happened at all and when I found out, lessened the how much I loved the movie. In the book, Constantines daughter was an evil spiteful brat who purposely tried to embarrass Charlotte in front of 95 other people. She even spit in her face. I could write every detail that happened but in the end Constantine decided to take her daughters side and LEAVE. 🤦
She regret it, don’t pretend peer pressure doesn’t exist at any age Especially in those times, some white good women felt forced to do things like that
@@manahylgilani355 it’s the behaviour of a normal person who makes mistakes, regrets it and tries to make it right like she did That’s a good person to me 🤔
@@Lelo.Machakawhen did she try to make it right? By still treating the people who worked for her like shit after? Having her daughter turn the tv off when they were all watching national news. Talking about don’t encourage them? Like they’re subhuman or little kids. She was still trash
Ok I haven’t read all the comments…and I’m not going to. But that young women acting with no respect in someone’s house is just wrong. Nothing to do with colour - everything to do with brashness and arrogance. If someone steamed into your home like that when you had guests, showing you no respect…we’ll, you know what I’m saying.
I teared up when i saw this scene. How people change just in to fit in their group and how they cut ties with people abruptly who did no bad to you but "help" (service). Heartbreaking.
It's so sad for everyone involved....even the mother. She made a grave mistake and it ended up hurting causing her daughter deep pain something she can never take back. Sometimes change comes too late at a price.
When people do not take responsibility for their actions it is the absolute worst possible thing! It is dangerous and damaging! It IS your fault! No one is perfect. Self-reflect and take responsibility for your actions.💔
This part of the movie just broke my heart. I started sobbing and crying like a baby... it hurts even more knowing that this happened for real those times. Very sad...
The daughter was wrong and coming thru the dining room when there was a private function going on. She should have come in quietly thru the back door. I would expect that from any person - no matter the color. But she should not fired her maid as a result of the daughter’s actions.
It’s a movie , it drama , but back then it was real, this was the real world to a most if not all black people, especially in the south. This was our history , and your history..
Loved this movie and bought for my video library . That's exactly what was going on back then in the south.. Hard to believe this actually happened in our nation.😢
As someone who always grows up with maid since I was born, my mom was a working-mom got home at night and go to the office in the morning so I don’t spend so much time with her, I could really feel skeeter’s pain. Few maids are so close to me, I bawled my eyes out when she left us to get married when I was only 6. I cried all night, and my mom has to call my grandma because she needs help to take care of the children while she’s at work. I learned so many lessons growing up, one thing for sure is that I don’t want to ever make my children love other ladies more than their mom or ever to make my children where her mother is growing up.
Imagine peer pressure being an excuse to treat people like they're lesser humans.
You don't think that is at the core of how this entire social structure came about?
Adults do it all the time and perceive it as normal. The pandemic was a perfect example. How people vote is another.
@@littleangel4780Yeah, all these Flag waving God Fearing So called Patriots who Pledged their allegiance to the Flag America and the Government UNDER GOD .. AND, THESE "AMERICAN PATRIOTS" Showed who they really were. When they showed they HATED THEIR FELLOW AMERICANS HATED THEIR GOVERNMENT and LIED TO THEIR GOD.. . Refusing to wear a mask get the JAB Pretending that COVID was FAKE. If it was fake the Government found out who would be good Military material and who would actually listen when in crisis. That showed who was going to be problematic and not help when in an emergency or War situation. They realized that most every Republican will Rebel against this Country and be a hindrance and not the help they need if there was a real emergency. They found out that Dems and Liberals Love the people of this country and would help and sacrifice for the greater good..
What do you mean “imagine?” Sadly, it happens every day…
Welcome to MAGA Christianity
"I needed someone to look up to" she said it all with that line
I was wondering how so much could be lost on this mother - “she taught me everything I know”, “I needed someone to look up to”. Eugenia was calling her mother out in all the ways the mother had failed her. Not sure if that registered to the mom = /
As a mother, that would have put a dagger through my heart
@@tamekiawilliams5216as someone who plans to be a mother, it would be a dagger through my heart too. I'm determined to make sure my children never have to say that to me. 😢
@@tamekiawilliams5216 Lots of mothers don't have hearts that care that much
At least Constantine was with her family when she died. That's the silver lining.
But she didn't got to say goodbye to Skeeter and she feld like family
There was no silver lining. That woman was discarded in the wink of an eye and the mother kept it to herself because she was ashamed of what happened. To Skeeter, the maid was her mother. What a terrible thing to have done to that old woman in front of a room full of strangers.
@@hennesseyme9112, I know. But would you rather Constantine not be with her family during her final days?
@@andrewkuldip8785 Skeeter felt what her mother did killed her by breaking her heart. No one said a thing about being with her family during her final days. Skeeter loved this woman and I wished she would have had a chance to go and see her before she died.
@@hennesseyme9112The silver lining was that she got to be with her ACTUAL family before passing. Skeeter is NOT her family. Most of these women did not want to be a maid nor raise someone else's child. I know older black ppl who raised whyte children. The whyte kids, now adults, gloat about the bw who had to do the parenting in their households and loved their black nannies, babysitters, and/or maids, while the elder bw despise them and their whole situation, but still had to smile at them when they were kids and now as adults. The delusional mindset to say skeeter didn't get to see her, forget Skeeter and her mom.
That's why her mother said " Courage sometimes skips a generation"
"I'm glad you brought it back to the family."
So moving, so touching
We're not black, we're Hispanic. When I was a small child my mom cleaned a home for a older white couple for many years. We grew a relationship with them, they always treated my mom with respect and always showed love to me. As time went on they grew older and had to be put into hospice. One of their last wishes was for my mom to have their small pickup truck as we did not have a car at the time. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, their children did not respect that last wish. It was a little upsetting but in the end we let it go and chose to hang on to the memories we had with that couple, now that...they can't take away.
personally I believe disrespecting the final wishes of the dead ties the spirits to this world and not in a good way so those ignorant descendents might be very unlucky until they make it right.
God bless your mama. And your family. ❤ Dios está contigo..
Absolutely correct, they can't take that away.
This shows the importance of having a will, no matter how little you have. Sometimes our family is not going to respect our wishes. But you are right, memories are the most important thing, and they can't take those
You let it go but it'll stay with them forever. Reminding them of their wrong doing
What a talent Cicely Tyson was. And she was absolutely beautiful.
I remember first seeing her in The Autobiography of Miss Jane Pittman when I was in my teens.
I Cried like a baby. I was seven so kinda was lol@@lindachadwick7358
@@lindachadwick7358 I remember her in an episode of the groundbreaking tv show called Emergency!! She played a worried mom when her teenage football playing son got hurt & was unconscious. This was in the 70’s and probably before she became famous.
@@lindachadwick7358 another great movie with her in it is SOUNDER. If you haven't seen it I recommend it.
Being a "Yankee", I grew up with a huge fear of the South, thinking all Southerns were cruel and couldn't understand why they were so mean to people of color. Then I met a new friend, a black woman who moved to New York. She was a very successful, educated business woman who was kind and had great class. When she looked at property to rent, she would be told the house was just rented or they needed 6 months' security deposit. She taught me that northerners with discrimination often don't directly show it, but Southerns did. She said she preferred the honestly in the South rather than the hypocrisy in the North. Wow did I learn a lesson. There are kind people and mean people every where.
They were paid workers. The daughter in this movie didn't respect her own Mom and her job. The grown woman could have waited in the kitchen.
There's misunderstandings on both sides. During the pandemic and quarantine there are those who died because they didn't want to wear masks, and they believed in science of vaccines instead of washing hands with soap and water.@@danielshapiro2472
@@danielshapiro2472As a yankee, you don’t know anything about the south or what its like to live in it. I highly encourage you to read the archived letters of the confederate army. You might learn something.
I grew up in the south and moved to California after graduating high school. I witnessed and actually experienced so much racism in California. I’m in an interracial relationship and had people in *California* tell me that I’ve ruined myself and that I’m a traitor because I’m not dating a white man. But then I hear others in CA claim that the South is racist. Meanwhile I have friends and family in the South who are loving and accepting of my boyfriend.
The media really loves to sell the trope that the south is horrible. But evil is everywhere. And things aren’t always what you expect.
This is SO real. Living in the north in Oregon they try to cover their hate but growing up in California and Las Vegas people are more honest and it diminishes the whole issue to be honest
Every time I watch this scene I cry because I know this happened so many times to so many good human beings for NO reason other than their skin color! It’s so sad that people did this and thought it was justified/ok to do.
The bigger problem is that she did that Knowing it was wrong. She didn't think it was okay, but she did it Anyway. Peer pressure or not that woman raised her little girl and loved her. She deserved better than that and so did both daughters.
It’s still going on today! Except it says CHILDREN of all skin color - and they’re being used as property and are being traded as we speak. The comments are vey wise but, if we abolished slavery in the U.S. how long will we pine over what happened in the past until we stop being blind to the slavery that is happening NOW!
@warrioroftruth6307 I’m a christian, brother 🫂
@warrioroftruth6307Everyone can inherit the kingdom of heaven no matter what race. Don’t let you anger and emotions lead you to what you feel like is truth. There is a lot of pride division and hate in those groups and the Lord hates all three. Follow Jesus and let him direct your path not man playing on your feelings. I’ve been there so I know how it feels to feel like you finally found the real truth but there is nothing good at the end of that road. Everyone belongs to God
The really sad thing is people are still treating people like this and it’s really shitty and pathetic that we as a whole society have not grown up at all.
The only photo I've ever seen of my great-grandmother was in this uniform. My great-grandmother was the help. I absolutely loved seeing this depicted in such realness. Her diary told many stories like this movie. I got my smile from her. Thank you Great Grandma Mary
She must have been a great lady.
@@NadiaGirl1 thanks dear... I never knew her... just her diary and pictures.
Have you thought of publishing her diary?
@@desertfamilyhomestead3127seems wrong to me 😒
@@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld I understand that thought but on the other hand you would be introducing her to the rest of us and helping to get the truth out. While I am appalled by the way these women were treated I throughly enjoy watching the movie and the book is great to read also.
The really sad part is that there are still people out there, to this day, that think it’s okay to treat others like that, based on their skin color. I think En vogue said it best “be color blind. don’t be so shallow”. Love this movie.
Yes, it's really sad that people think that white people are evil because of something that happened long before we were born
All races do it not just white people
@@kellymcquay2626The OP didn't say or even imply anything about white people.
@kellymcquay2626 Who started it, Not saying two wrongs make a right but remember that next time.
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Yes they did
Imagine not having a spine...and then living with it...her fault...no tears.
To be fair, she was probably thinking of her family and the implications it would have on her children and husband if she went up against those mean women. Not making excuses, but that's the mentality of people living in that era. Even those who weren't racist had to act like one in order to fit in. It was still terrible though. That old lady didn't deserve that after so many years of working for the family. 😢
I think that's why she got sick. Guilt and anger at herself about what she'd done. She got better when she forgave herself and stood up to Hilly for her daughter.
@@s_shaleh we still have people doing that to this day. Gutlessness is never an excuse for being a coward
The world was different back then. You have no idea how you would have handle this if you had been born in this erea. We are born in a time where this is consider outrageous. But back then, this family treating blacks as family was outrageous. Different times man. Different times. But at least things are moving forward in a postive way if can get others to see this
@mr.doctorcaptain1124 Actually, gutlessness is the very essence of being a coward.
Let me preface: I am a white man and I have always said I have 3 grandmothers. One for each parent and the 3rd was a local lady that took my brother and I as a nanny or whatever you want to call her but we called her our grandmother. I forever am thankful that in college I found out she was in the hospital. I was able to make it to say goodbye.
Did she have to neglect her own children to look after you and your brother?
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@@sharond.940Right, whyte ppl trip me out when they talk about the older bw who took care of them growing up, as if these women didn't have their own families
@@bre9328theres pain and gratitude on all sides of this thing. But grandmother is a dignifying sentiment.
@@bre9328Many women have full-time jobs and also children of their own. Most work at least in part out of financial necessity (as I do). I'm speaking of current times, separate from segregation and slavery.
You can see the pain that Rachel and her mom are in because of them. Find it very hard to watch each time since you can feel the pain yourself.
It’s so sad how she wants to rush to go be with her and says “I have to go find her, she needs me” 🥺
How beautifully performed by all the actors.makes me tearful every single time.
You broke her heart!
Them words would be tattooed in her brain and her heart for the rest of her life.
So sad things like this happened for real.
The short rest of her life 😢
The way Constantine turned back and stood with her hand over the safety door . . Heartbreaking to say the least .
I feel Constantine knew what was really going on, but my God did that stab me in the heart
Give people their flowers when they are alive cause once they take their last breath and leave this earth the flowers you would be able to bring them are the ones you put on their grave. Life is too short. Tell ppl you love them now. Show your appreciation now. ❤ Have a blessed day everyone
That’s why you stand on the side of goodness and righteousness no matter what. Not only to prevent injustice but to not have to live with guilt like that
That dramatic pause and the facial expression on skeeter were Oscar worthy to me. "you broke her heart"
Allison Janney is awesome in this movie. Peer pressure during this Era was huge.
She's a phenomenal actress.
Allison Janney is one of THE underrated actresses.
I love Allison
Lol... so it makes it okay then?
Superior how...where? Weak ass evil cowards
Democrats do have quite the long history of pressuring and attacking those who don't agree with them completely. Nothing has changed
Emma Stone shaking her head like that will never not make me cry. Like it’s hitting her that she’ll never get to see her again, she never got to tell her how much she loved her or say goodbye, and she’s just shaking her head in heartbroken disbelief. 😢😭
Emma Stone really is a phenomenal actress
She's now 2 time Oscar winner
Aww. That's the saddest part of the movie. The great and the late Cicely Tyson. Wonderful time piece actress. 😢.
this has to be only a mild version of what it was really like
This by far was the saddest scene I've ever seen in any movie. Just seeing the wind knocked out of her while her eyes swole with tears, broke my heart just watching it.
The scene that does it for me is the little girl at the end banging on the window screaming for Aibeleen with tears in her little eyes.
@@daevonthesavage7483 YESSSS!!!! That 🎯 hits too.
The acting in this film is unreal. Alison Janney, as ugly as this scene is, really killed it. So did Emma, and especially the legendary Cicely Tyson (RIP ❤️)
Just incredible.
You summarized it perfectly. Stunning performances.
One TRUE comment! The actors/actresses in this film were superb. Really, I applaud this cast, yes, even Hilly (Bryce Dallas Howard) 😂😂😂
💯 agree - this is the most underrated comment right here.
That was Eugenia's other Mama. She taught her what was right and wrong. I adored Cecily Tyson. What a fine actress.
It is not sad..a grown woman succumbed to peer pressure rather than behave as a human being. Typical ..courage skipped a generation.
That,in itself,is sad.
It IS sad. It's sad that she didn't have the guts to be strong enough when she should have been, and it's sad that when she tried to fix it it, it was too late. But, of course, the biggest victim in all of this is the person she wronged.
It’s pretty frickin’ sad for Rachel. She got treated like dirt after showing them decades of love and kindness. There’s a lot of sad parts in this movie, but Rachel having to walk out that door with those harpies staring at her sure made me cry. What a way to end a long career of really hard work.
it's called a movie
@@BillBarr4President why do people say shit like that? We all know it’s a movie. Most people know it’s based on a book. No one thinks it’s a documentary. But the behavior isn’t from just that time period. Grown adults succumb to peer pressure and it use it as an excuse to treat others as less than them to this very day
Yes I can, peer pressure is extremely effective, especially when paired from someone percieved as having some authority over you. The Milgram study proved that.
We don't excuse evil or cowardice.
She is a wealthy white woman ...I thought she was supposed to be superior in every way. 🤔
I forgot Emma Stone was in this. No wonder it was such a good movie!
There were a lot of excellent actresses/actors in this movie!
These White Southerners never knew what being a Christian was!
It hasn't changed.
And they still don’t
The South has good peaches and nice weather. I would much rather have grown up in TN or GA or the Carolinas than sick a$$ MinnesotaStan.
That's why they're unforgiven til this day, but let them tell it.
Neither did Northern Yankee Christians and their Sunday social club "churches."
The directors and writers of the movie made this scene up completely. In the book Constantine‘s daughter was able to pass for white, and she barged into the party and started fraternizing with the other ladies but the other ladies were unaware that her daughter wasn’t white.
Where's the pie? Need one for the ladies at the dinner table. ❤
@patriciamartin1205-Minnie should have opened up a pie shop in that town!The first customers could have been the ladies ( her Mother’s so called friends)at Eugenia’s house!LOL!
😂
This scene is a good reminder of useful rule in life, know your place before acting silly. Fear the consequences instead of being hurt by them.
😢😢 this is crazy because Emma stone seems so genuine and while hearted person that in the scene she was not acting that was her real response.
I love to see that later in the movie the mom redeemed herself by helping Skeeter from Hilly despite not being able to save Constantine herself
Emma Stone: Angry>Shocked>Devastated>Disgusted. The best actress!
Subtitles are painfully inaccurate but 1 of the best scenes in that movie is when the mother says to her daughter maybe courage skips a generation because her daughter is courageous while she, herself didn’t have a backbone
The mother later admtted that she had been a coward and mentions that bravery skipped her.
People who look the other way are also abusers.
You should tell that to people who live in New York.
@@s.e.e455 I see your point. Anyway, we have to remember that space is relative. We are all connected, no matter the country. And looking the other way is abusing yourself first.
This made me cry. So heartbreaking 💔
With friends like these, who needs enemies.
This is an example of someone who is simply “not a racist” vs. anti-racist. An anti-racist would’ve told the President to leave. Hell, wouldn’t have even let her in the front door. What you believe internally counts for jack if you let the bad stuff continue around you.
Except for the fact that this has nothing to do with racism.
Unless the issue was about firing all the black help and hiring white maids.
This is about class and age.
I’d be so offended that woman was telling me what to do in my own house I would keep Constantine and Rachel there to spite her, not only because it would be the right thing to do
This is Exactly why I never in my life care what others think, I do what my heart tells me to do. If someone doesn’t like it, then the door is open, and I expect you to walk through it.
I never would want to cause the kind of pain this woman would have felt if this were true. Honestly, I can tell you I’d ask everyone who was in the room to leave my home immediately.
I believe you. Hats off to you because back then during that Jim Crowe era, it would have taken some phenomenal guts to do.what you say.
The consequence would have been social ioslation. But I heard of steller individuals who knew that, but couldn't have cared less.
Trust me, I could deal with isolation, if it meant isolating myself from people I have no respect for. I believe if more people stood up for what they believe, and hopefully believing something positive, more people would step up and follow you.
The problem with Society today is, we have WAY too many followers and not enough true leaders. @@keithbell9348
Gossip teen didn’t need any of that.
Yeah, wasn’t gossip teen’s fault at all.
She should have used that opportunity to teach her child how to stand up to the Bullies and kick THEM out instead of her own family. Constantine was a part of their family. She should have been treated better.
Peer pressure defines people as being weak...people often jump on the band wagon as too scared to step out of line n be ostrisised....n the really coward thing is...those who jump on the band wagon act all innocent when later alone n crossing the victims path...
I was once evicted due to this sort of behaviour though managed to soar higher than those who plotted against me.....cowards are everywhere
This was definitely one of the best movies i ever seen it has everything..... comedy! Tears, lessons , wow ❤
This film isn't perfect but it can't be denied that a few scenes were heartbreaking, especially this one
I didn't even know that I could be that angry... I would never be able to look at my mom without being pissed if I would be her.
Emma Stone is too good. She conveyed deep heartbrokenness, betrayal, and disgust all in one short scene.
That scene broke my heart.
I’d been dead back then quick. Cause I just wouldn’t stand for their shit. Ugh I cried on this part.
Excellent acting in this movie!!
"You broke her heart"
This 10 sec sequence alone deserve an oscar
Im stuck on the part where she said she sent her brother to bring the lady back. Not to ASK the lady to come back.
She sent her brother to bring Constantine "home." Home. All inside of her she loved Constantine and Rachel and knew their home was with her. But as much as she loved them, she loved the acceptance of others more. When you finally learn that this type of acceptance is not worth the cost, it destroys a part of you.
@@margomckaine78 I understand, but when the lady said she sent her son to go get Constantine it came off to me like she saw her as a possession. She should have written a letter of apology asking her to come back, Constantine wasnt chattle
@@msnos6245 Because she was going to make Constantine go back to WORK even at that age. You are right.
@@msnos6245 In that period, she was Chattel and I never looked at it the way you expressed except to the fact that she thought she could do as she pleased with the help. I wish it was written that Skeeter could have gone quickly to say goodbye before she died.
It was the same in the apartheid years.
Ppl uphold 'honour' in the eyes of their peers by belittling those less fortunate. Apartheid was ugly. I hate racism.
Definitely a sad scene and an example that 'Evil thrives when good men do nothing'. I've watched the movie The Help twice which was brilliantly acted by all involved, however, it was extremely sad the way black people were treated and in some cases, still are. Cowardice is something so-called sympathisers need to be deeply ashamed of!
Anyone who knows something is wrong, yet chooses to look the other way is just as bad as the wrongdoers.
I know some people like to say Skeeter is just a "white saviour", but they fail to realise she is a young woman who loved "the help" as her family. They fail to see this is about a young woman who comes back home to a missing mother figure, and that she can't ever see her again.
Her relationship with Constantine is just like baby girl's with Aibileen. The paid worker cares more about raising the child with love, compassion, wisdom.
Wasn't it kinda the daughter's fault cause the lady told her she was attending people but the daughter decided to barge in to see her mom, back in the day she must've known something like that would get her in trouble or her mom, she caused the scene and got her mom fired. Though obviously the lady could've disregarded it, but the daughter was disrespectful barging in like that, I kinda feel like the lady stood her ground, although it's true that firing the old lady wasn't really necessary cause it wasn't her fault but it's a back in those days kinda movie so not everything was fair anyways
everyone did a phenomenal acting job in this movie .
She did break her heart. 😢
Yeah, teen's minds as the character Emma's playing are always somewhat broken, that line is true.
Not enough people are talking about the line “you broke her heart” shit makes me teary eyed
I'm not crying...you're crying. Great movie!
As a Yankee, I cannot imagine allowing racism to prevail
You acting like you yanks were any better. News flash, you weren't.
@@spikesgirl9371News flash...Yes, most Yanks were better! Blacks weren't lynched in the North, Blacks had jobs and even professions in the North, Some Blacks achieved middle class status in the North, Blacks were not as segregated in the North, and Blacks were protected by the law in the North!
As a southerner, neither can I.
You think this is about race?
God when she says that she died the amount of raw emotion captured between both of them is incredible truly great actresses and a truly great movie
The book was so much different in this part. I hate how they make Charlotte look in this. This isn't what happened at all and when I found out, lessened the how much I loved the movie.
In the book, Constantines daughter was an evil spiteful brat who purposely tried to embarrass Charlotte in front of 95 other people. She even spit in her face. I could write every detail that happened but in the end Constantine decided to take her daughters side and LEAVE. 🤦
This scene made me cry 😢
Sorry I'm so sorry. That means nothing. She betrayed Constitine over the need to belong.
"You broke her heart."
Imagine living with the guilt of those words.
Rachel and Skeeter had the same energy and spirit both fierce and brave women because they were raised by the same strong mother ❤️
Two truly awesome actors!
This is so heartbreaking. Poor Rachel.
She died around her ppl, who loved her
Imagine going into somebody else’s home and demanding they fire their hired help
These two poor women treated terribly but bigots
She regret it, don’t pretend peer pressure doesn’t exist at any age
Especially in those times, some white good women felt forced to do things like that
That's not the behaviour of a good person
@@manahylgilani355 it’s the behaviour of a normal person who makes mistakes, regrets it and tries to make it right like she did
That’s a good person to me 🤔
@@Lelo.Machakawhen did she try to make it right? By still treating the people who worked for her like shit after? Having her daughter turn the tv off when they were all watching national news. Talking about don’t encourage them? Like they’re subhuman or little kids. She was still trash
You broke her heart, You broke mine too with this scene 😢💔💔
Ok I haven’t read all the comments…and I’m not going to. But that young women acting with no respect in someone’s house is just wrong. Nothing to do with colour - everything to do with brashness and arrogance. If someone steamed into your home like that when you had guests, showing you no respect…we’ll, you know what I’m saying.
Clearly rachel well dress but she is not smart enuf to understand situation
I teared up when i saw this scene. How people change just in to fit in their group and how they cut ties with people abruptly who did no bad to you but "help" (service). Heartbreaking.
This movie is phenomenal. The acting from every single person is phenomenal. The Help is definitely one of my favorite movies of all time.
Betrayal kills in a lot of ways. Poor Constitine
I can't even watch this part again. It hurt me down to my very soul.
It's so sad for everyone involved....even the mother. She made a grave mistake and it ended up hurting causing her daughter deep pain something she can never take back. Sometimes change comes too late at a price.
When people do not take responsibility for their actions it is the absolute worst possible thing! It is dangerous and damaging! It IS your fault! No one is perfect. Self-reflect and take responsibility for your actions.💔
This part of the movie just broke my heart. I started sobbing and crying like a baby... it hurts even more knowing that this happened for real those times. Very sad...
The daughter was wrong and coming thru the dining room when there was a private function going on. She should have come in quietly thru the back door. I would expect that from any person - no matter the color. But she should not fired her maid as a result of the daughter’s actions.
It’s a movie , it drama , but back then it was real, this was the real world to a most if not all black people, especially in the south. This was our history , and your history..
She never showed her true emotions only until someone cared for that person that the feel bad. Not on their own free will..she wasnt sorry..
Loved this movie and bought for my video library . That's exactly what was going on back then in the south.. Hard to believe this actually happened in our nation.😢
I needed someone to live up too. Kills me
The saddest part of the movie is the arrest of Anjuan Ellis.
Went against her own morals. She would forever regret that.
The maid lady is so gorgeous
This was definitely the saddest part of the movie. Had me/has me in tears.
As someone who always grows up with maid since I was born, my mom was a working-mom got home at night and go to the office in the morning so I don’t spend so much time with her, I could really feel skeeter’s pain. Few maids are so close to me, I bawled my eyes out when she left us to get married when I was only 6. I cried all night, and my mom has to call my grandma because she needs help to take care of the children while she’s at work.
I learned so many lessons growing up, one thing for sure is that I don’t want to ever make my children love other ladies more than their mom or ever to make my children where her mother is growing up.
"You broke her heart!"
I thought MY heart was going to break.
This scene broke my heart