I Failed - Please read the description
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ก.ย. 2024
- Howde all
I have thought for a very long time of what to do with this video.
Should I upload it, Delete it, store it away.
What to do?????
I have finally come to the conclusion that I'm going to post it and just let it be what it'll be.
This video is not one of my finest moments in life as I let my demons take total control over my actions and as a result I failed to achieve what this video was supposed to be.
It was supposed to be fun and cool but it turned out to be dark and extremely un fun.
All because of me. No one else is to blame here.
Either way. Here it is for what it is.
I'm sure others who suffer with mental health issues can relate to this.
I just hope theres something to be gained from this video for someone out there.
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Play this video to your friends. This is NOT Failure. This is a start...
Well said Fletch - couldn't agree more!
what 👆 he said
I imagine those liberal French girls are more interested in pleasure seeking and serving their own agendas. I doubt they provide genuine support to anyone else. And the fact they didn't try to see what was wrong with their apparent friend gone AWOL says it all.
Dave when you get as old as I am and survived a heart attack that should have killed you according to the cardiologist that saved you (no - not a recommendation for something to try lol) and then spent 20 years making the most of what you can of life you understand that there is no failure in being honest with yourself and others about what you are feeling. The gentle washing of the soul by being honest is instead very liberating as you begin to understand that many others have the same issues and many mistakenly struggle in silence on their own rather than confront their demons for all to see and support with comfort and love. Those who care about you (many thousands in your case) will never judge just sympathise whilst you overcome the silent pain, but better days always come and it is those days that make life a blessing to enjoy every happy minute of. We are here for you. God bless.
Loved your coment.. you've been through some tuff times..in 35 but have had my own medical troubles and it realy teaches you what's important..its still hard because some people never learn that lesson . I'm sure dave loved your coment ..and your awsome for writing it. You seem like a smart man in the eyes of life experiences
Well said....I too had a near death heart attack a few years back....it's life changing
@@riverman6655 I was in a motorcycle accident in 2008 it was a tuff road to get back to almost normal .but having injuries and walking with more difficulty and that sort of stuff I lost some freinds but learned a big life lesson..I try to stay humble ...sadly some people think they are invincible and dont treat others or themselves well. I'm no angel but i know what it's like to deal with mortality and who we truly are.. that's why i comend you for your coment. Life is hard but it's worth the effort.. wish u the best
Well said Mr. North.
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In this video, Dave, you show your honesty, humility, empathy, dignity and strength as a man.
There is no failure there whatsoever.
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Dave you bring so much joy to music enthusiasts and your not alone.
You have 82.000 friends on You Tube who will always listen to what you have to say.
Keep rocking mate.
I feel your pain man. I suffer from post military PTSD as well as scars from a weird childhood. It all came to a head when my mother passed and I imploded. Long story short, guitar saved my life and I’ve found a way for it to keep me alive.
I’ve seen the worst things life has to offer and as I’ve aged I’ve become aware of my faults and NOT to dwell on the or “beat myself up” because of choices I’ve made and how I’ve lived my life. Dave, you’re a good soul and more man than most for your honesty. You’ve brought many people joy and you have worth that is beyond scale but it all means nothing till YOU believe it. We love you Dave, you’re not alone. Don’t be scared and don’t give up. You’re not alone but it’s a fight you have to fight and we are all in your corner.
Love, Peace and hair grease! ✊🏼
Dave I can relate, when we battle with mental health we need to talk but it's so hard, don't feel alone mate, don't let the darkness win, I don't know you from Adam but this video I understand what you're talking about my late Mum used to say I am going to have a good cry, never understood that till got older, till had my own good cry, hang in there bud, have a cuppa, everyone that supports you , lets give Dave the biggest virtual hug,
As a person really suffering it helps see that im not alone. You have put in to words what i could never find the words for myself. This vid need to be seen as its so educational for people who don’t understand what us people who suffer with mental health. Love you dave
It DOES help SoulsBorne Fud! We're social animals & feedback from "our people" helps. That's why this current situation is so torturous... Stay strong my friend. X
Youre certainly not alone
There is no fail or succeed with mental health, it is not a competition. You highlighting this is amazing, I have suffered with issues like this for many years now and I do feel for you. It sucks. Thank you for sharing this Dave.
Whenever I feel crap or funny, I turn on one of Dave's videos, and you know, I feel like I have a friend.
I used to get rather 'low' too. I looked at the railway line and wondered whether it wouldn't be so much 'easier' to just lay down on them and let the train take the strain! Then I met a train driver and he told me how he still had nightmares years later about the woman who jumped in front of his engine five years previously and their eyes met, or that's how he experienced it, for a moment before he smashed into her.
So, I figured, my 'release' would just be an act of incredible selfishness as I'd pushed my burden onto the shoulders of a complete stranger, in a weird paradoxical way, and that was massively unfair and unkind on my part. It's the ghastly 'ripples' one leaves behind that cause so much damage to others, and I didn't have a 'right' to do that. Anyway, that's how I rationalized it. My 'job' was to keep going, carrying on with my pain and not spread it around onto others.
On another occasion, I had a lovely girlfriend who talked all the time and I was so busy listening to her, what was going on inside her head, that I forgot about why I was feeling miserable!
I felt that I was a complete failure too when I was younger. And, objectively, I probably was. Instead of a glittering academic career, I chose to walk away from it all and became 'reborn' in another country, culture and language. I went from a high-status existence at an elite university, to cleaning toilets in a crappy grill bar with a boss who was a right bastard. Well, it only lasted about a month. But they were long days during winter and I wasn't used to having to get up a five o'clock and scrub floors clean. I felt like I was living on the bottom of a deep, dark, lake. The murky weight of the water pressing down on me from all sides.
Then I began to work with children in pre-school and suddenly I was forced to be the adult in the room. Wow! I was supposed to know stuff and the kids expected me to look after and help them navigate their little world. I had to read lots of stories to them and wipe lots of bottoms. That kind of changed my perspective on what was important in life. I was responsible for keeping the kids safe when we went on trips too. I sometimes feel that those children kicked the 'demons' out of my head. They weren't having any of it and wanted me 'on' all the time, servicing their needs, which seemed close to bottomless.
When I had two daughters of my own, I didn't have time for anything else, not even playing guitar! Now, years and years, later, I've picked up the guitar again, as I love guitars and always have. I really like your playing. I like your articulate improvisations. I'm currently attempting to move in the direction of Robert Fripp's 'jazz metal' and contrasting, ambient, soundscape style. That is quite a project! I have a feeling I'll manage to play 'Starless' on the day I shove off this mortal coil!
Well, that's certainly enough about me! I hope it managed to stop you from thinking too much about... You, for a few minutes. Love, Michael
Dave, if anything I admire you for deciding to upload this video and sharing this with your fans. Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows, and almost everyone struggles with issues like this, in their own way, in some capacity. I think it’s necessary to take breaks often, and all of us will be overjoyed to see new uploads from you, as always. You are such a light in the TH-cam guitar community and I have immense respect for you opening up in this video, because it is obvious how tough it is for you. Thank you so much for everything you do!❤️❤️
There is nothing wrong with this video, is just dave thinking loud and walking around a park, he didn't bother anyone over there, just him walking, nice.
Fishermen in the lake: “There’s a guy over there talking to himself”
80K+ people of the tube behind the camera: “Dave, we can relate”
I totally get when you say it's like you're screaming at the top of your voice but no one can hear it. That's precisely how I feel sometimes, because as I´ve discovered, I'm particularly good at pretending I'm ok, while I'm falling apart on the inside.
You are an inspiration Dave, you are an incredibly talented musician, and one of the nicest humans I've ever known, every time I watch any of your videos it feels like I'm talking to an old friend. WE LOVE YOU DAVE, please remember that always.
I suffer anxiety and depression dave .I had a heart attack friday morn 40 min to hospital in ambulance I didnt think I was gonna make it. At that moment I remember thinking I dont want to leave this place as fucked up as it is . Its beautiful just look around yourself unfortunately I'm alone in a hospital with no one with . This shit goin on in the world now will end bro and you will be so busy you wont know what do or refuse. We love you dave.❤
i have learned the art of being alone, since 13 years old i didn't feel lonely being alone. i don't know if i'm just weird, anti-social or just have a strong mind not needing company or relationships. i enjoyed relationships with my past ex gfs. but when they are gone i don't need the feel to have a quick replacement of companion.
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Please don't be ashamed of yourself or how you feel - what you call your 'mental health'. We are all alone and sometimes it's valuable to experience the reality of that, just be still and silent in that loneliness. Listen and don't judge.
You are dearly loved by so many, Dave ❤ and no-one thinks you have failed. And ironically the honesty of this video has brought you closer. Not everything has to be fun & cheery all the time - that's just gaslighting fakery.
Take care friend ❤
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Thank you, Dave for making me fell less alone! Stay strong! You don't know how many people you've helped through this video!
Dave I Dont think you are alone, you Got 80 thousand people caring about you , it would be amazing to have you as a friend , hopefully we can crack a cold one someday
I have so much admiration for you dude, talking so deeply and honestly, I can't help but relate to every single word, thank you for posting this. You are an inspiration to us all!
I've been watching your videos for a long time. On a superficial level your guitar playing is amazing, emotional and some of the most beautiful I've ever heard. Beyond that though your personality, and genuine love for music and what you're doing has had great effect on me. I truly believe that I'm a better person for having watched your videos (somehow they seem like much more than just that) and to have been invited into your sphere over the past few years. Everyone has their own struggles and the opinions of others when depressed seem to hold less weight, but just know that you've effected some of us in the most beautiful and positive way.
All I wanted was to watch a review of the CR120 years ago and here I am getting all sappy....... it was a good purchase.
When I was 12 all the way through my teens. It seemed like I was the the only one with mental problems, when I got older I noticed so many people are in the same boat.
I became a recluse because of severe anxiety, pretty much lost all my friends because I stopped trying just like you stated you felt you think people don't want you around and you don't know what to do.
You're not fighting this battle alone dude and I 100% get where you're coming from.
You’re honesty is amazingly brave. Thank you for sharing, it may not mean much at this moment but posting this video shows you’re stronger than you know.
Big love mate - chin up.
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Usually when I’m really struggling I shut my house up curtains and all and hide from the world or sometimes just drive to the beach and sit in a daze so good on you for going for a walk in nature when you were really struggling. It’s good to be outdoors and try de stress in the sounds of the birds and trees
I can relate to that. Can't everybody?! Love the way you demonstrated that even on a really bad day, you still hope your video might make a positive difference to us. eg. 'I hope you enjoyed the views of the lake' (I did), 'hope you have a good morning, afternoon, evening, see you soon' (thanks, maybe I will, looking forward to it), 'if you know anyone who gets like this, talk to them' (comforting that people know the importance of that and encourage it - thanks). In fact that last 5 mins is so spot on. The value of being with someone in solitary distress (the "silent scream" state) just showing compassion, acceptance, not judging, being patient, just being there really shouldn't be underestimated. I saw Ruby Wax talk once about how when she was in hospital one time and was literally paralyzed by depression, stuck sitting in a chair unable to speak, and she said the most helpful thing was when one of the nurses just came and sat next to her and held her hand for a while.
I love you Dave. Thanks for this video ✌️❤️
You have done the community a service Dave, well done. This is a dialogue that needs to be more open especially with us men . Thank you 👍
I suffer from depression as well. It's not fun having that in your head. Ive been lucky enough not to have any major issues the last several years.
I think you did the best you could in your video that particular day Dave. Sometimes being alone and reflecting on one self is needed to figure out the crap in your head... at least you're not turning to drugs and alcohol. That is definitely not the answer to what's going on.
You have an awesome platform in TH-cam to get your feelings out, keep that up Sir. You have friends throughout the world don't forget that. Keep up the good fight!
That's the truth. I spent around 15, 16 years of my life in a stoned/drunk delirium. Looking back on it, it bums me out. I feel like I lost time and failed to accomplish stuff that I really needed to do in that time frame. But, I've been off of all of that since 2013. So, there is that.
I too spent a great deal of time under the influence of both during my depression. It made it worse. I fed off my own self pity/loathing.... what a mess I was in. Glad I'm not that person these days.
Hey Dave, I’ve listened actively to your thoughts and reasoning.
I’m a mental health carer and have lived experiences of many of the issues you’ve raised.
There is one thing that’s outstanding in your understanding of your predicament, it’s INSIGHT, you maintain insightful, objective, intelligent self assessment. This is recovery .. your doing better than you believe ( I’m sure you know) praise yourself for thinking of others and the compassion you possess, a quality not to be underestimated. Recovery never ever runs smooth or straight , but I’m positive your moving in a forward trajectory. It’ may feel like your sinking and nobody notices, but this is all a lie.. mental illness wears a mask at times and pretends to be all we will attain to. Your not in any way accepting denial as an answer .. your insight maintains you and guided you. I wish you well Dave and please keep posting your essential messages, they smash taboo, provoke positive discussion and aid recovery. Not bad going considering you feel terrible.
Sunnier days are just around the corner as are challenges . Good luck dude and most of all good health.✌️
A very good description and well narrated video of how the dark side of depression works.
I have found through my nigh on six decades of life, that creative people seem to be commonly afflicted.
I like to think and reading some of the comments below others agree, that this particular episode of your dark battle has been a light to others.
It was a good thing this video was uploaded for some people and others will feel a little lighter because you shared a deep part of yourself in this way.
My lovely Mother in law always said, "Nothing ever lasts, nothing good and nothing bad" It's very true. Dark moments will give way to light days.
Your doing a grand job mate, thanks for sharing now get back to thrashing that Strat!
I think many people will now know more about these situations thanks to your opening up to us. Everyone is different in the way they “naturally” process the thoughts in their own head. For me, it was stuffing anger down deep inside and dwelling on it instead of talking about it. Your right, a friend or acquaintance to act as a sounding board can help immensely. Conversation is a pathway to examining your own thoughts in more than a single dimension (our own heads). My problem almost killed me. The stress of internalizing started to affect my blood pressure and my heart to the point of landing me in the hospital ICU twice. This mental stress can and will affect a person physically. I was fortunate. I started talking about it to everyone and that allowed me to slowly change my natural mental habits. No one else could do it for me...I had to make the change. So I hope you’ll start to explain to everyone who will listen and are able to slowly recover to a new way of thinking that will no longer bring you to this kind of low. There are more of us out there than you can imagine. Praying for you Brother, your friend, Steve.
I'm glad you posted this, it's important to share the ups and the downs of mental health.
I am unfailingly impressed with how you deal with your personal challenges and also show other humans (especially men) ways to deal with them. You’re a splendid human!
Hey Dave, I've been there a lot and I don't want to tell you how to feel or tell you what works for me will work for you, but the feelings you have I have as well. I will take walking meditations and find that my anger, frustrations, and low self worth will pace my walk and put music on my ear buds that will change my mental state for better not keep me in the mood I'm trying to escape. It's does help me, it may help you. Also, we all lose battles in life and sometimes the beast of depression loves to pull us down, but tell the voice to shut up and dig deep. You're in this awesome group you created we are all here for you. I will be listening always!! 🤘
This isn't a failure, all you need to do to make today a success is to keep breathing. You've got this, it WILL get better in time it alway does. And the people around you need to be given the chance to help you, they've got no chance if you don't talk to them.
WE have both beat this before, you are not alone my friend.
You alone, with your small but dedicated audience, have inspired me at 32 years old to buy a marshall, a jack hammer, a gov'ner and a ds2 and play with such passion that I've always wanted to. You did this for me, and believe me it's gonna help over the next few months mate. I feel the same, but I have another tool to use to feel better now, all because of you. You bring joy to so many, never underestimate your impact on the world Dave. You are far from alone!
Hi Dave, I just discovered your channel a few weeks ago. Right now I'm working hard on your Blues guitar lesson, part 1. I hope, I get it right before part 2 comes. Like most others, I cannot see failure here. But what I really want to say is that mental issues are illnesses. People who don't suffer from them, are lucky people. People who do, are unlucky. What I mean is, there's no guilt involved. You don't suffer from them because you did something wrong or because you don't deserve to be happy or whatever. I'm quite sure you do deserve to be happy and live a happy life. I know you are a tremendously gifted musician and from what I could see so far, I'm rather sure you are a loveable and fun person to be around. If I could, I'd have a drink or two with you and a chat. Keep your head up, Dave. Showing this video to the whole freaking world is quite a courageous thing to do. You should be proud of that. I'm sure it helps a lot of people with the same or similiar problems to see, they are not alone. Cause they are not. You are not. We are not!
You aren't alone. With something as simple as a mobile phone and a camera you can stay in thouch with thousands of people that support you and what are you doing.
Dave you are the farthest thing away from a failure. You bring so many people joy and are willing to raise issues that others have trouble confronting let alone talking openly about on TH-cam which helps so many people! You are a quality person!!!
30years mate I’ve suffered a similar mental health problem , talking is good for me ... If you ever need a ear brother , i got a shoulder and I’m good at shutting up and listening
All the best
Johnny Sanchez
It’s been ages since I’ve been on a walk, or been on a walk, seen some nature, with a friend. I understand all the words you say- and as an observer, I see things in your thinking that aren’t healthy- things I might recognise from my own personal experience. That helps me.
The people that understand you are the ones that count, nobody is entitled to have everybody understand them- An audience is always a blessing.
It’s helpful to see you on my screen- as I’m sure it is a lot of people- giving voice not just to your internal conflicts but ours aswell.
How open you are on camera is, beyond me, it might not feel like bravery from your perspective but- you’re one step ahead of me at least in that regard. Just like anything scary- your brain will never give you the green light, but your legs keep moving, you go back to your friends and I don’t really understand it but it is- inspiring. I think- I’m not sure whatever word to use- but in the absence of a better word, I’ll go away now and have a better day. Thank you Dave.
Dave, I'm sad that you feel so bad.
I really don't understand where you're coming from, but if nothing else, we are all here to lend a ear.
Personally, I embrace solitude. I live in the backwoods of East Texas with my wife and dogs. I don't prefer company except for just a very very few people. If I don't watch myself, I separate myself from family. Now don't get a big head, but you, not just your fantastic musicianship, are an absolute treasure to us. We love you brother. Thanks for the tour.
Beautiful place to live. Take care of yourself, and rant any time you need. We're on the other side of the water, but as close as your lens. Peace Love and Joy bro.
I think you are not a failure at all, Dave. I know at times we can be the hardest on ourselves and I as well as many others are so thankful that you share yourself with us. Your lessons always speak right to me and give me hope that I can play a little better in spite of my short comings musically. Thanks for trusting your followers and I am sure we all wish you the very best in all things. Peace
Thanks Dave. You are definitely not alone. We all have things to do that keep us healthy and it's a struggle day to day to make the right choices. I've been part of a group trying to do better diet and sleep and exercise etc, and we have a chat room where we share our struggles. Put anxiety and depression on top of that and I have some really tough days sometimes. But getting on and dropping a message letting people know how I feel can really help. It's a step in the right direction, but not as difficult as having to tell people face to face that I'm struggling. We all need each other. Hope you can continue to find people who care and will back you up.
Fair play to you Dave for putting into words what many with this can't. I'm lucky and haven't had that feeling for a long time now but just by watching your video I'm off to talk to someone I know who still gets it and gets it a lot worse, so than you for reminding me to be there for others.
I enjoy the videos about you the person just as much as those about your awesome guitar playing and Id love to know a bit more in them about what you've been up to in the week (I got totally confused when you were back from France and then Back in France again lol!) :-)
Keep up the good work mate, both on here and in your progression through life. Although youtube is only one window for us out here to look into your world it certainly suggests you are an incredibly kind and special person!
Can definitely relate to a lot of what you said... About 10 years ago I went through a horrible period of mental illness. On occasions when it would flair up I'd be around people and just wishing someone would ask if I'm okay, while I'm bottling all this stuff up. Sometimes they would actually ask, and me not wanting to bring anyone down or be a burden would chicken out and just say "yeah I'm fine" or whatever... And then comes that feeling of shame, like they threw me a lifeline, but I refused it.
I can relate to this! It's okay Dave... Going off on your own helps puts things into perspective and helps you reconnect when you feel better :). At least you can analyze your feelings and recognise why it's stupid lol. That landscape is epic! The perfect place to have some alone time and reflect and get things off your chest! Sometimes when I get in that headspace getting out is like hitting a reset button. Sometimes... Let the emotions come and go like the tides... My gf is studying bhudism at the moment and it has some really good lessons which I didn't expect to find helpful!
Heyo Dave, even though you feel alone, you're not alone in feeling how you do. I know and understand well what you're feeling and experiencing--you and I are a lot alike in this regard. You're not a failure, though. You're a thoughtful and sensitive person who is grappling with trying to find your place, your peace, and your missing pieces in the world. Some of us just carry that weight heavier than others. If you ever need a silver lining about being this way: this is probably a lot of the reason you are such an expressive and emotive musician. It's these depths of intense emotions which tear everything apart within you that give you the ability to bring it out in your music. It's no coincidence that the most creative, expressive people in history were frequently troubled by these very same things. Sending you hugs, man. I know how it is.
I'm glad you put this up Dave. There's more ways to help people than showing them how to be awesome on guitar. This will definitely help someone realise that it isn't just them that feels this way sometimes.
Hey Dave lad.
I suffer from moments like these a lot at work. As I might have said in the comments section on other videos of yours, I too have suffered from depression, anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts.
My moments usually get triggered at work and I find it painfully difficult to communicate to my work colleges what I’m experiencing. So I clam up, or worst of all I use diversionary tactics to try and kill conversation dead. I hate it :-( My colleges know my struggles with mental illness, and they all know I see a therapist regularly, but I get scared... worried that they will continue to see me as a broken person. All of this of course is ridiculous - but it’s very, very difficult.
You do all of us on here suffering with mental health difficulties a great service. To hear it spoken about... we know we’re not alone. As hard as those times feel, it’s a comfort to know there’s at least one other person out there who understands. So, from the bottom of our hearts, Dave mate, hang in there buddy. We love you, and I’m sure your friends in France understand. Take care mate. Thanks for all your good work and tremendous videos. All the best ❤️
I admire your perseverance to not give up on living life. You are a positive influence in not just the guitar world but every day life. Thank you Dave.
Thank you for sharing this and articulating what so many of us feel. I think this video will do more good in the world than you know.
”All because of me. No one else is to blame here." No! This is not your fault! Blaming yourself is just another symptom of the problem.
I love your videos. I love watching you play the guitar. Watching this is like being with a friend who it reaching out. It makes me love you even more. Keep reaching out if that's what you need to do. You have lots of friends.
I get these feelings too. Don't feel guilty. It's easy to forget that's is ok not to feel ok.
Dave - you have shown strength and courage in sharing. Your honesty is inspiring and your comments help me to think about how I might help others who are suffering. This could be considered a win, not a fail.
I like this video in the sense that I don't feel so alone. That I'm not the only one that feels this exact way from time to time. Talking about it helps, instead of harboring and keeping it all in. Good part is there is a lot of support for you here Dave. Wishing you the best and things do get better. Its a bad day, not a bad life!!!
I can relate Dave, though I never dealt with the Black Dog the way you do. I was just very bad at socialising in my teens and twenties. Talking in groups was never one of my strong points until I took public speaking classes, which helped big time. That and comedy improv classes. It will drag you kicking and screaming out of your comfort zone, but in a supportive environment. Would highly recommend it once pandemic times are over. Failing that, maybe find some classes like that that are done online.
You have been my light throughout the last year, when I lost my partner and kids... Then I found guitar and seen your videos..., more than you will ever know, you and your music and teaching, explaining your love and passion, helped me to live and find passion and ove again..so please always share, and when you feel like this believe me, were here to listen and be helpful, don't apologise for it, just share how you feel please mate, and we will be here to learn, help, and try to understand, so one they we don't ask WHY you feel like this..we will just be their to say...lean on us dude!
No matter what you upload we will all love it 😂 rock on Dave and I hope your having a great Sunday evening 🤘🏼❤️
Not a fail... A very beautiful place worthy of your camera and eye. I do exactly what you're doing. Thanks for sharing this.
I can completely understand and relate to this. Interesting in a sad way, how it affects people in different ways. If it happens to me, I have to be alone and at peace for a short while, but be active as soon as possible and pick myself up. I have to stop, wait, then start again. I have a very, very good network of support too and they understand. My very best wishes to you and I thank you for your honesty and bravery posting this video, because you should never be afraid to be you.
Thank you so much for this powerful video. Your ability to express your feelings is a true gift. Your apologies are so unnecessary, but they show what a decent person you are. You have achieved a great deal, just getting to France, and you just happen to be a great guitarist. Take care buddy, and once again thank you.
Thanks for sharing my man, I can relate to what you're saying. A lot of people have good suggestions but even that can feel less than helpful when the last thing you feel like doing is sitting and thinking in a mindful state or go for a run. What I mean is do whatever is the path of least resistance is for you. If you want to try something new, fine. If you want to do nothing, fine.
Thank you for sharing this video. You're a good human and although I may have never experienced what you're going through, I can try to understand. This is real and raw and you never have to feel ashamed or anything to post something like this. God bless and keep being you 🙌❤️.
Hey Dave, what comes to mind for me: Like you’re following the music guiding you what to play, it could well be good to follow your feeling in being alone for a while. Wishing that this nasty feeling of yours at that point could fade in some form of accepting. I sometimes compare these moments in time with them glass orbs shaken up, after some time, the snow will fade and you will be able to have a clear view again. Thanks for sharing Dave, definately NOT a fail!
I love you, Dave. For your courage to put it all out there, good and bad, we all have dark and light in us but most of us try to bury the dark til it builds up and explodes. We all love you like a brother.
Took the time for once to watch this video in full. A lot of us have been there. But your channel brings so much joy!
We’re all here for you Dave. I have that dark side too and it’s a powerful thing that’s hard to beat. Not sure what else to say but we love you!
Dave, the minute you share how you feel and publicly battle mental health topics ( however you do it) you can chalk up a success. Not everything in life is perfect for those that are swayed to think they are. This is a great video as I am viewing it because I am alone but with someone who gets it at the same time. Take care..🙏🏻🇦🇺
This is by no way a fail. The fact your on camera talking quite openly is something I could never do,I keep everything bottled up and exactly like you feel like I’m bothering people if I tried to explain what’s going on in my head.But the fact your telling strangers on TH-cam about this is a brave thing to be doing!I I really hope my point is coming across right as I have trouble putting down what I feel.then I over analyse,overthink etc So I can relate ! Sometimes it’s horrible being trapped in my own head.Cheers and all the best.
@Dave, your "failure" will allow someone else who's less strong to take a positive step forward - your openness about your mental health challenges is absolutely awesome & that, in itself, will be enough to chime a bell with someone else going through similar challenges & maybe get them to open up & if as a result of this video you help a single person, then that will have been a fantastic achievement of which you should be very proud.
The other thing is it's NOT a failure... it's just that in this half of the match, Dark Dave has scored the first goal... or perhaps played the better guitar riff... but there's plenty of time left in the match (or at the gig) so plenty of time for "Good Dave" to equalise or come up with a better riff.
The huge importance of this is that in uploading the video, you've shared your challenges - openly & honestly... and that's got to be a first step in getting help
Those moments are perfectly normal for me.
And I guess perfectly normal for creative and sensitive people.
Just shows you handle it fine.
Better to walk it out than keep it inside, tire yourself out, sleep and wake up healed...
Be proud.
Spot-on.
Love ya Dave. I relate to you and you are not alone, my friend. I often feel like I should be alone because Im not like others, too. Im making some changes.
"Be your own psychotherapist"
You got this man, we all do. Lets believe in ourselves, together!!
The timing of this video for me is amazing, not going to say why, but it is much appreciated, thanks for uploading this.
Much appreciated, I really think you should not fight the feelings and the daemons but rather accept them and learn to let them go. I mentioned to you earlier that meditation is the thing you really need to train. I know you can,and these videos are just very genuine, which are much appreciated.
Dave, Thank you for sharing what you're going through. Many people have similar feelings, and I know it helps when people you admire speak out, it lets you know you're not alone. You're a good dude, and I wish you well.
Dave, There’s nothing to apologize for. The video was excellent. Depression is no joke. You are absolutely right that it is healthy to ask a trusted friend or loved one to help when experiencing negative feelings. It takes courage to let others around you know when you need help. On a happy note, that area where you were in France is just gorgeous. It must be really something to see in person.
No failure here, You opened up to 84 thousand people who rate you highly and respect sincerely and admire you immensely. I’ve been playing guitar relatively poorly for the last 40 years, played at least 3 thousand pub like gigs sometimes to an audience of 4 people sometimes packed houses, played solos duos trios 4 piece and now 5 piece, busked. Oh yeah, started following you recently and my guitar playing has improved, relatively. Look forward to when you hit the 100 thousand subscribers and hopefully snowballs to your first million. Keep up the good work Dave. Incidentally I hail from Dublin and funnily my first gig was in the south of France. Best wishes from Germany
You have not failed; you are a wonderful and strong human being.
There is no need to be ashamed or beat yourself up over how you feel, and it can be so difficult to open up and talk. Your friends will see this and understand; this can open up conversations with them and really help them help you. The fact you have now shared this with everybody here is a great thing, for yourself and others who are also suffering. You have over 82.2 thousand friends here, and there is so much love for you in the world.
To be honest, with all the amazing music you gift us and all your sympathy and openness you've gotten us used to, this video is the exact opposite of a failure, massive respect to you for spitting it all out! I wish I could do more than just writing a comment here, but I hope it will help a bit ... 🤗
Keep pushing and fighting Dave!!! I truly believe you are a strong and powerful person and the same powers that make you feel this way can make you feel the exact opposite with a bit of help and guidance. You’ve got the power Dave believe it!!!!
Dave not all days can be good, but every day has its good moments. Embrace life, you are one of a kind, one of a billion. Chin up. You truly are an inspirational dude.
Dave, you are not alone in this. As someone that goes through this periodically, I can identify. Just try and stay focused and know you are not truly alone at any time. As long as you have a phone and a camera, you are in contact with others when needed. God Bless you!
Live in France for about 3 years back in 1990.Liked the slower pace of life and the weekend shopping trip to Mammoth
Only just discovered your videos llast week Dave. Ive really enjoyed them. You're right, loads of people myself included will relate to this articulate description of mental health struggles. It's ok not to be on form all the time mate, none can be and yes, some days/weeks/months the bastard wins. Well in for getting out on a walk. Try not to beat yourself up for taking time on your own, sometimes it's necessary and it's nothing to be ashamed of. All the best
Its all good Dave, glad you have this channel to vent, especially it comes via buffer of you talking to the lens, and then uploading the video. Nothing wrong with admitting you go through hard times socializing, plenty of us have these days - only part that is important, is to make your friends and family aware and be honest, dont hide it or try to blame yourself for everything. I am absolutely sure Nicole and Marjo will understand the struggle and would support you anytime, give you space where you need it and company when you feel like it. Stay strong Dave, you've got plenty of support out there!
Listen Dave, you are a great guy and people feel it. Times like these come occasionally and it is what is. People get stuck in their heads and forget that the Hearth is just down below. Don't turn toughts in emotions, turn emotions into toughts. Listen to the Hearth and ride the sweet feeling of Life and Love, it's around you, everywhere, you just need to find it. The eyes can't see whats really important. Find yourself, and more important - love yourself. Achive peace. Stop thinking, start feeling!
Much love, keep rockin' 🤘😉
Well buddy... you're very brave for being honest about your experience. I admire your courage. During my darkest hours, I used to remind myself that I'm not the first person to deal with these emotions and I won't be the last. Sometimes all you can do is simply endure. Therapy was a huge help. It taught me the vocabulary needed to express myself. And the tools to understand and unravel why and how I got there. I could trace how I came to have a perspective and filter that was not helping me navigate certain situations successfully. And time. Give yourself time. There's no rush. It's OK to be uncomfortable and not want to engage. Whatever you choose.... it's OK. Be kind to yourself. I'm sure you have no trouble being kind to others. So do be kind to yourself as well. Forgive yourself for those awkward moments and negative feelings. You are worthy of happiness and all that goes with it.
Dave you can always talk to us! You help us get through some gloomy times with your epic guitar videos
Love all your uploads Dave , your playing is a total joy , your openness in your talks about music and life makes you genuinely human!
Kong may you keep posting 🎸🎸🎸
Kong 😎😎 Long 👍
Dave it's beautiful and you are a beautiful soul and nowhere near a failure. You bring us all light and your light shines bright and the world is better because you are in it!!!
Dave, this is a very brave video to put up, I hope people who maybe confused by what has happened will now know your true feelings. look at the MIND website there is some very good stuff there. Take care.
This might be one of your best videos, Dave. I've done a similar walk many times and can relate to every word you said. This is one of the most genuine descriptions of depression I've ever heard and you're a strong person to share it, knowing that the chance it will help others outweighs the personal anxiety of posting it. You're a good dude, Dave.
We all fail sometimes dude.
But it's how we deal with it that makes us who we are.
And you, my friend, are bloomin awesome x
Thank you for feeling you could share this with us, like you so many of us have mental health issues but are too afraid to say so, so don't feel you alone in this, all the best and remember we all care about you.
Dave, a big reason I come back to this channel again and again is because you are real. I struggle a lot too and you have no idea how healing and calming your videos are. Keeping going, there are a lot of us with you.
Dave, just to add my voice to those that have already told you this - you haven’t failed at all. You are a lovely, genuine bloke who happens to be afflicted by something that too many people suffer with in silence. Sending you best wishes, brother.
This video is about success, not failure. I just saw a man going through the dark side of his moon and come out on the other side. Failure would be to be like me for the past few years: I'm dwelling on the dark side of my moon, comfortably numb. You just brought a glimpse of light to my existence.
Failure and success are fleeting, not absolutes. Today I'll take you're example and fuel my self-will to take one more step towards the brighter side of my soul, even if there is no one to see it right now.
This hole i'm in is circumstantial. I know it intellectually, but emotionally is hard for me to grasp it sometimes, and this video was very helpful in that regard. A success.
Like your music this video is also very inspirational.
Thank you!
You might not always realize it, but you bring a lot of good feelings to a lot of folks.
Sometimes I just have to go back and watch your review of the Katana 50w just to kind if share your feeling of joy.
Thanks for what you do.
dave you’ve helped my mental health in the way that i’ve gotten closer to my favorite guitar player john frusciante. i love you and what you gift us. pls don’t go anywhere man.
I suffer from severe depression, I have since I was little and so I understand what you are saying. I always spend time alone because I don't feel anyone understands or also that I don't want to put people through what I go through, there are lots of reasons but over the years I have had a lot of relationships with great people disintegrate because they didn't understand what I was going through. Therapy helped me. Just talking to somebody who had no stake in my life really helped and I may do that again once this pandemic is over. It is a life long battle but I have a son and I don't want to check out and leave him alone. While at first I was unsure about you posting this vid, I am actually quite glad you did because not enough people know depression from the other side and it needs to be much more talked about and respected as an illness. I am glad you posted it and I hope it helps you and others who watch. You are not alone Dave! Don't feel alone at least..that is all I can say to help you, I know.
Dave, thank you for your honesty. I feel like this on and off pretty much every day. Which is why not much gets done. But as an example of how little things help. your love n review of the wee zoom g2.1u pedal made me dig mine out of the shed and has completely altered/sorted my recording process, (using it as an interface with all my cheap ass shit gear) which has helped me immeasureably. What good it'll do in the long run, who knows, but it sure helped n gave me a shot of inspiration. Anytime you need to talk about owt, you have my ears. Much love. W
Dave, you are the man. I always get a lift by watching your videos. Believe me, I know how it feels. I have to become another person to be able to talk to people most of the time....
You're a bright light to many and an incredible artist. All people should see this video. Thank-you for sharing.