I remember from grade school: a teacher told us the more money we have, the more we want. You never have enough. I had an epiphany about 2 years ago: I have more money than I need. I lead a relatively frugal life style and everything I have is paid for. I can now stop obsessing when the stock market drops. I found out after a lifetime that money doesn’t bring happiness. Having too little or too much can complicate your life. You must reach a point where you are satisfied with what you have in order to find peace.
Thank you for mentioning motherhood!! Becoming and learning to be a mother is one of the most isolating experiences, even with family & friend support. Many women lose their sense of self within (or for the duration of!) the first few years. It doesn't help that her partner often feels neglected as she is healing. The sweet cuddles of a baby is not enough to make it worth it. We just want to wash our hair alone for fifteen minutes in peace, please! :') PSA: grocery trips and showers without kids are NOT breaks.
My husband make 23k a year as a custodian and I make about 9k a year as a part time substitute teacher. I have a mortgage I acquired before getting married. I have a savings my husband has a 401k. I have no 401k. We both work for schools in New Mexico. My monthly mortgage is 600 a month includes tax and homeowners insurance. According to others I’d be extremely poor. I was raised as a minimalist by my parents.
I'm a school bus driver and where I work I'm one of the senior drivers. I know a lot of stuff and I want to do, do, do then I can feel like I'm needed. However, I've sewed many quilts and gave them as gifts. Not once did I feel the need for validation. They all said thank you, but it was never excessive. I felt more at peace and happy with the quilts than at work. It may be time to retire. 34 years is a long time. And is not getting a thank you from the bosses going to continue to push me to want to do more and more? Thoughts to ponder
I found myself attracted to self-validation a lot with minimalism. In fact, if you sold a tool kit (patent pending) I would have bought it, and then taken the rest of my days switching out items in it for more efficiently intentional things...at least in that moment. It is a big distraction to constantly try to identify what is intentional, instead of just be...that's a lot harder. Thanks for another great video!
Why do you guys always wear black? Lol . Black is very polished and professional. Clean. On another note; I grew up poor too on welfare, later became a hoarder, now becoming a minimalist. Love all you guys
Interesting, as a 90 year old relative grew up in the depression when they had very little and saved everything, used & reused everything, which she still does to this day. The circumstances one lives are often ingrained into one’s psyche. Impossible to get them to change these habits.
My only complaint about the simple notation about how little people live on in other countries is that it also costs a LOT less to pay for things in those countries. I went to India years ago and it was pennies to pay for something that would have been $6 or $7 here. We could get a full dinner, and be given second helpings for free for about $1.25 at that time and to eat out where we'd lived in America at that time it would have been at least around $15 - $20 (at a modestly priced place) and no second helpings. Oh, and the place in India gave us a beverage also included in the $1.25. I had to go to the emergency little hospital place one time (It was a little interesting - kind of reminded me of what you'd see in that old show M.A.S.H). Again, my bill was the equivalent of a little over $1. I kind you not. It would be at least $200 to go to the E.R. here. I have heard in somewhat recent times that prices are getting jacked higher in India now and so I'm not sure of the comparisons for there at this point. But just the other day a woman I know who is from Equador told me you could be a whole bag of grapefruits there for about $1 - maybe 8 grapefruits in the bag. And a whole bushel of bananas for about $1 also (she gestured with her arms how big this bushel would be and it was BIG - like almost the length of her arm by what she indicated. How many bananas might that be for $1? A LOT. Here we can get maybe 5 or 6 bananas for $1 maybe. Unless it's at a gas station, then it will be only one banana for that cost. Here a grapefruit is close to $2 for one now. I mean, you really can't say we have too much when you look at the dollar amounts we have coming in per month without also looking at the cost of living. I have friends originally from Jordan and they tell me similar stories about such low costs for food and life in general so the costs to pay for essentials is soooo much less. This is not to say that people in many countries live with very little comparatively. Yes. I agree completely with that. But don't just say Americans live on an average of this much per day (some high amount comparatively), and that some people in the world live on this tiny little amount without also putting in perspective the cost to live there in comparison to here. In my household we can eat....frugally. But we are always lacking in equipment we need to work well within our business. It's been a struggle for years, yet the business does make money and is growing. But the slow rate we're able to replace things we need to function within it causes other issues: as we then can't ever buy what we need to go with the elements we can finally get and by time we can add other things, the original item is too outdated to work with them. We've had to constantly finagle and try to make things work the best we can and it honestly has sucked and been limiting. I sure as heck don't feel even average in America when I see what many people dump on all sorts of things every year. I wish I could do that even once in 5 years. It would make a huge difference for our work. It is really not that easy for many people in this country and, no, in our household we don't buy extras of other things and waste money. We haven't had money to waste. That said, I've kept too many sentimental items through my life and have held onto everything I have been able to because I never have known when I could buy a new shirt or pants in the future. So even old, crappy things I've held onto and in the end I have ended up with too much clutter. But it isn't because I've binge bought over the years. It's because I have been too scared to let things go due to life-long financial constraints and things I've associated with people I've loved and don't want to let go of. But I do have to clear the clutter now. It's causing other issues. If people are going to compare things like how much the average person has coming in per month in America compared with people in low income countries, at least put it in perspective of how little things in that country also typically cost. It's really off-putting to not include that in the presentation.
Money doesn’t make a person happy, however, it alleviates stress. Also, living in CA, one needs much more to rent/own housing. Overall, I agree, that money doesn’t buy happiness.
Thanks for talking about money the way you do. It definitely isn't the solution to our problems; working on us a lot more may be though. I've never been so stress free, and it takes work and a very healthy relationship with what I make and expect to get to that place.
I don’t stress about money anymore in late 30s. I now stress that I may not spend my money. I fear dropping dead unexpectedly and/or waiting to retire to enjoy and be happy. So making changes 😂
Wonderful to hear you are thinking this way in your late 30s. I am in my late 60s and, only now, realize we do not require as much as we think. Stay the course.
I’m 67 and may I suggest you enjoy life now, of course you should save for the future, but it’s not guaranteed, make memories now because that may be all you have in the future. You could have a lot of money for retirement but be too sick or have other issues that prevent you from enjoying it. Don’t bet on tomorrow…word to the wise from the voice of experience!😊
There are three sides of every coin .There are truly our elderly and low income families, retirees that aren't making it , especially in thos economy .Then there are ppl that are just selfish .Then there's ppl that haven't truly found themselves yet ....And then we have ppl like the Kardashians, that young women especially, ' want ' to be like!!
I am in a service profession. I am emotionally worn out from constant giving and receiving no care. I am a single parent and have no family at all. Sometimes is very overwhelming and difficult.
As Egyptian,It was so insanely weird for me when it comes to the sixth one , because it's a part think on our daily basis here in my country 😅 because some people have beliefs that they should do with anyone 🙂
I do Declutter my things which helps so much with household chores. Less clutter, less stuff sitting around. My husband Tends to keep everything and doesn’t lift a finger when it comes to housework.BUT I’ve noticed he has started clearing his dinner plates from table, putting dirty clothes in laundry Shoot even yesterday I showed him his work shirt covered in concrete and told him I had washed it twice( he said Toss It) ..Set the examples and she may pick up on it on her own, please watch The Minimal Mom TH-cam Videos…that was a game changer…And I don’t have young kids but wish I knew this when mine were younger.
Joshua Becker is the best! So humble and kind. Loving his latest book✨
I remember from grade school: a teacher told us the more money we have, the more we want. You never have enough. I had an epiphany about 2 years ago: I have more money than I need. I lead a relatively frugal life style and everything I have is paid for. I can now stop obsessing when the stock market drops. I found out after a lifetime that money doesn’t bring happiness. Having too little or too much can complicate your life. You must reach a point where you are satisfied with what you have in order to find peace.
Thank you for mentioning motherhood!!
Becoming and learning to be a mother is one of the most isolating experiences, even with family & friend support. Many women lose their sense of self within (or for the duration of!) the first few years. It doesn't help that her partner often feels neglected as she is healing. The sweet cuddles of a baby is not enough to make it worth it. We just want to wash our hair alone for fifteen minutes in peace, please! :')
PSA: grocery trips and showers without kids are NOT breaks.
My husband make 23k a year as a custodian and I make about 9k a year as a part time substitute teacher. I have a mortgage I acquired before getting married. I have a savings my husband has a 401k. I have no 401k. We both work for schools in New Mexico. My monthly mortgage is 600 a month includes tax and homeowners insurance. According to others I’d be extremely poor. I was raised as a minimalist by my parents.
three of the most great , inteligent and inspiring minimalists in one video thank you all for this great content
Endless chase of needing more money - Really made me think 🤔 I am in my sixty’s and have never felt deeply secure even though we have enough.
I'm a school bus driver and where I work I'm one of the senior drivers. I know a lot of stuff and I want to do, do, do then I can feel like I'm needed. However, I've sewed many quilts and gave them as gifts. Not once did I feel the need for validation. They all said thank you, but it was never excessive. I felt more at peace and happy with the quilts than at work. It may be time to retire. 34 years is a long time. And is not getting a thank you from the bosses going to continue to push me to want to do more and more? Thoughts to ponder
What a joy to receive a handmade quilt, I sew, so I know the work involved to make one! Such a treasure😊
Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant 👏 My 3 favorite minimalist youtubers. Loved it... wi definitely be coming back to listen to it again.
I grew up in poverty. Money buys many things, the best of which is freedom.
I found myself attracted to self-validation a lot with minimalism. In fact, if you sold a tool kit (patent pending) I would have bought it, and then taken the rest of my days switching out items in it for more efficiently intentional things...at least in that moment. It is a big distraction to constantly try to identify what is intentional, instead of just be...that's a lot harder. Thanks for another great video!
Why do you guys always wear black? Lol . Black is very polished and professional. Clean. On another note;
I grew up poor too on welfare, later became a hoarder, now becoming a minimalist. Love all you guys
Interesting, as a 90 year old relative grew up in the depression when they had very little and saved everything, used & reused everything, which she still does to this day. The circumstances one lives are often ingrained into one’s psyche. Impossible to get them to change these habits.
Thank you Joshua Becker for your nice words about mothers raising moral healthy children and never been approved for it 🙏
My only complaint about the simple notation about how little people live on in other countries is that it also costs a LOT less to pay for things in those countries. I went to India years ago and it was pennies to pay for something that would have been $6 or $7 here. We could get a full dinner, and be given second helpings for free for about $1.25 at that time and to eat out where we'd lived in America at that time it would have been at least around $15 - $20 (at a modestly priced place) and no second helpings. Oh, and the place in India gave us a beverage also included in the $1.25. I had to go to the emergency little hospital place one time (It was a little interesting - kind of reminded me of what you'd see in that old show M.A.S.H). Again, my bill was the equivalent of a little over $1. I kind you not. It would be at least $200 to go to the E.R. here.
I have heard in somewhat recent times that prices are getting jacked higher in India now and so I'm not sure of the comparisons for there at this point. But just the other day a woman I know who is from Equador told me you could be a whole bag of grapefruits there for about $1 - maybe 8 grapefruits in the bag. And a whole bushel of bananas for about $1 also (she gestured with her arms how big this bushel would be and it was BIG - like almost the length of her arm by what she indicated. How many bananas might that be for $1? A LOT. Here we can get maybe 5 or 6 bananas for $1 maybe. Unless it's at a gas station, then it will be only one banana for that cost. Here a grapefruit is close to $2 for one now. I mean, you really can't say we have too much when you look at the dollar amounts we have coming in per month without also looking at the cost of living. I have friends originally from Jordan and they tell me similar stories about such low costs for food and life in general so the costs to pay for essentials is soooo much less.
This is not to say that people in many countries live with very little comparatively. Yes. I agree completely with that. But don't just say Americans live on an average of this much per day (some high amount comparatively), and that some people in the world live on this tiny little amount without also putting in perspective the cost to live there in comparison to here.
In my household we can eat....frugally. But we are always lacking in equipment we need to work well within our business. It's been a struggle for years, yet the business does make money and is growing. But the slow rate we're able to replace things we need to function within it causes other issues: as we then can't ever buy what we need to go with the elements we can finally get and by time we can add other things, the original item is too outdated to work with them. We've had to constantly finagle and try to make things work the best we can and it honestly has sucked and been limiting. I sure as heck don't feel even average in America when I see what many people dump on all sorts of things every year. I wish I could do that even once in 5 years. It would make a huge difference for our work.
It is really not that easy for many people in this country and, no, in our household we don't buy extras of other things and waste money. We haven't had money to waste. That said, I've kept too many sentimental items through my life and have held onto everything I have been able to because I never have known when I could buy a new shirt or pants in the future. So even old, crappy things I've held onto and in the end I have ended up with too much clutter. But it isn't because I've binge bought over the years. It's because I have been too scared to let things go due to life-long financial constraints and things I've associated with people I've loved and don't want to let go of. But I do have to clear the clutter now. It's causing other issues.
If people are going to compare things like how much the average person has coming in per month in America compared with people in low income countries, at least put it in perspective of how little things in that country also typically cost. It's really off-putting to not include that in the presentation.
Love Josh Becker.
Money doesn’t make a person happy, however, it alleviates stress. Also, living in CA, one needs much more to rent/own housing. Overall, I agree, that money doesn’t buy happiness.
Money is a god. Never enough comes from envy of others. Contentment is rich.
What he said about moms. 💯
Really interesting talk, life is very distracting these days
Thanks for talking about money the way you do. It definitely isn't the solution to our problems; working on us a lot more may be though.
I've never been so stress free, and it takes work and a very healthy relationship with what I make and expect to get to that place.
I don’t stress about money anymore in late 30s. I now stress that I may not spend my money. I fear dropping dead unexpectedly and/or waiting to retire to enjoy and be happy. So making changes 😂
Wonderful to hear you are thinking this way in your late 30s. I am in my late 60s and, only now, realize we do not require as much as we think. Stay the course.
I’m 67 and may I suggest you enjoy life now, of course you should save for the future, but it’s not guaranteed, make memories now because that may be all you have in the future. You could have a lot of money for retirement but be too sick or have other issues that prevent you from enjoying it. Don’t bet on tomorrow…word to the wise from the voice of experience!😊
There are three sides of every coin .There are truly our elderly and low income families, retirees that aren't making it , especially in thos economy .Then there are ppl that are just selfish .Then there's ppl that haven't truly found themselves yet ....And then we have ppl like the Kardashians, that young women especially, ' want ' to be like!!
Reading his book now. Very insightful!
I am in a service profession. I am emotionally worn out from constant giving and receiving no care. I am a single parent and have no family at all. Sometimes is very overwhelming and difficult.
Very very true !! '" moral children " !!
"We can bubblewrap our world, but that doesn't mean we'll be happier or more secure"
As Egyptian,It was so insanely weird for me when it comes to the sixth one , because it's a part think on our daily basis here in my country 😅 because some people have beliefs that they should do with anyone 🙂
Love you guys ,,
What does a husband do when his wife is ok living in a messy cluttered home and he is not...add three small children.
You can’t change somebody else. This is her house too.
I do Declutter my things which helps so much with household chores. Less clutter, less stuff sitting around. My husband Tends to keep everything and doesn’t lift a finger when it comes to housework.BUT I’ve noticed he has started clearing his dinner plates from table, putting dirty clothes in laundry Shoot even yesterday I showed him his work shirt covered in concrete and told him I had washed it twice( he said Toss It) ..Set the examples and she may pick up on it on her own, please watch The Minimal Mom TH-cam Videos…that was a game changer…And I don’t have young kids but wish I knew this when mine were younger.
People solely on SS struggle and have to live with others
Lol 22k, a lot of Americans are making less than 12k with two children