Are you a person who believes that education and letting go is how insomnia ends? If so, our way will work for you, because this is what we believe as well. For personal coaching, head over to www.thesleepcoachschool.com and find an option that fits you. We look forward to seeing you on the inside!
Thank you Daniel, I recently bought set it and forget it and feel like I'm getting my life back. In the last 12 days, I've slept naturally 10 of them, from a 2 month period of no sleep without heavy medication. I still have the bad night here and there, but understand my sleep drive will take over and I've learned to do things on those days that I enjoy. I went golfing the next day after a bad night with friends and no one noticed I didn't sleep. So simple but I found the line that insomnia is created in my thoughts and habits in thag book really helpful. I'm almost finished the book and think my journey is nearly over thanks to it.
Wonderful, so wonderful reading these lines today 😊! Thanks for giving the book at chance and for doing the work of applying everything to yourself. Also thanks for sharing and be in touch!
My favorite mantras: - This too shall pass - Just keep swimming (Dory the fish!) - If you are going through hell, keep going - (to anxious thoughts, fear) "You can be here"
When I first got the education a month ago I was relieved and hopeful but now my anxious brain feels too focused on ‘sleep will come.’ I just watch all night for it to come. My head hurts from being so vigilant even when I try to watch tv. I haven’t been sleeping at all
Hang in there, it’s so common that education actually turns into a sleep effort. “Now I have the education, why won’t I sleep”. Well it’s the effort of course creating some struggle. But this is such a normal part of the journey, when our brain realizes and no longer creates efforts, things get easier
I really like this podcast. It helps a lot. I saw on another on of your podcasts or the book Set it and Forget it. I can't remember. But writing down my worries for 5 or 10 minutes a day is working for me. I add the things I am upset or mad about also. Most days I am writing the same stuff as the day before but it does make me not spend my days thinking about this stuff so I am sleeping.
Hi Luke, Jamie just assigned you to Coach Alina, she’s amazing and with some willingness to learn and share and do heart work - you’ll arrive where you want it be.
Daniel i think i was doing this a bit wrong. I was trying to positive think my way to get sleep. So when i lie in bed when anxious thoughts about sleep come i force to think positively because i believed that it was up to my positive thoughts that would cause me to sleep and that if i couldnt think positive or if one negative thought came then i couldnt sleep. This caused me to get super hyper aroused Friday night to the point that little to no sleep came and i couldnt keep anything down in my stomach.
So i was using all these techniques including positive thoughts to hold sleep by its neck so that i could pour all these things into it so that i can control it to sleep better. Yes its good to live a positive happy life but not to control sleep. So i have to learn to just let go and allow the panic attacks and hyper arousal and accept wakefulness. BFT here
Oh yes this is a big realization! And 100%, trying to force ourselves to be positive is a struggle.. and as odd as it sounds, even optimism and hope aren’t required for what we want, because peaceful sleep and peace of mind require nothing.
Daniel I really like what you said at the end -it's the knowledge of the education and the wisdom of letting go. I've been struggling with the brain-zap hypnic jerks again since Christmas after 7 months clear... I got v triggered, then nasty flu, then bad virtigo. Its funny as I managed to clear the virtigo one day -I just found myself saying 'I've had enough of that -no more' as it started up. I just calmly let it go and it never bothered me again. I would love to be able to do this with the jerks but I have been honestly, deeply terrified of them. Its almost as if my brain now starts checking the content of the dreams as they start up and alerting me about the 'incorrect' content or it just jolts me awake. I have become really caught up on having the right mindset & lost feeling of being able to aquire that naturally. Its such a fine balance of trust but not obsessing, sometimes I feel I need a long free period without work to be able to really let go control and put this into practice (& I only work part time anyway)
What I meant by brain checking content of dream onset is -obviously dreams are weird and random and its as if it's OCD-like checking quickly, saying 'this wouldn't happen' 'that music's not right' etc -I guess the frontal brain cortex or whatever - has gone on overdrive! Then I feel I have to get up & really calm myself & get to trust point -but I also fear my brain feels it needs to go through all this to get to 'safe spot' AAAGGGHHH!!!!!
So glad it made sense Lucy. And thanks for being here and sharing. Sorry there’s been some more struggle again, but I think you’re seeing the answers 🙂
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Daniel -thank you. I don't know if you'll get to read this & I don't want to speak too soon but I think I maybe finally breaking into the true acceptance thing. Was watching the somnophobia lady (at 3am😅) (& yes somnophobia so similar to jerks) & as she was talking about acceptance I started to finally feel what that really meant and everything has changed. I'll report back 🤩was in a pretty diabolical state 😕& never able to crack this acceptance thing so far 😙always tried to do it with positive thinking
Hi Lucy, anytime! And this is so nice to hear 🙂 it’s sort of a mysterious thing in terms of how we find it, but it happens when we are willing to do some of this heart work, so glad you’re seeing this happen!
Thank you so much for all your videos Coach Daniel, they are really very helpful, I just wish I had come across them at the start of my insomnia journey 5 years ago. Just a quick question or thought I had recently. I love how you say it’s OK to stay in bed and not to stress about leaving the bed when you can’t sleep. The stress of doing that was too much for me and didn’t work. It made things worse and I was like a jack in the box the whole evening.However if we stay in bed are we not reinforcing the awake bed connection even more?
Hi Debs, so glad you are here now… but yes hope more find us earlier and wish you had. I’d say this - the connection that keeps us struggling isn’t bed-awake but awake-danger, when wakefulness no longer keeps us awake, then there’s no struggle. And the awake-danger connection can change regardless of where we are
Thank you coach Daniel🙏 Lately my brain is doubting that being awake is safe. Because recently, I stumbled upon a comment from a community member that confirmed that insomnia has caused a cognitive decline. Once I have read the comment, my brain sent me alarms (thoughts, fears,..). Is there an evidence that I can rely on that can disprove this comment ? N.B: I am sleeping well ..but I am still sensitive to any information that I find about the health consequences of insomnia.
Hi Peace, So glad things are easier. And you know, it’s difficult to disprove a claim. Like I could say eating tofu causes gallstones - how can we disprove this? The burden of evidence imho is with the person making the claim! And I’ve never seen any such claims hold up. Also - often seeking reassurance can be part of the safety behaviors that keep us in some struggle
I'm happy I found your channel and I'm trying to open my mind to your approach. My initial obstacle is that there is a lot of research showing that lack of sleep does damage your health. I'm kind of stuck on that. What to do about that?
So glad you’re here Rose. We have a playlist called Heard online, that’s where we debunk these claims. That can be great to start there, link in description of any new video
Sadly with my new sleep paralysis , I am terrified to sleep! The visuals are scary and hearing peoples experiences make it worse. My bed used to be my sanctuary, now I am scared to sleep. It’s hard to be awake because I’m still in the fear stage. My fear is not being able to sleep, it is falling into sleep.Any suggestions?
I went through this where I was scarred to go to sleep, but at the same time I was scarred about not being able to sleep. And while I didn't suffer from sleep paralysis per-se, I did used to have extremely vivid and often disturbing dreams which caused me not to want to sleep. And where I could feel myself between the waking and sleeping state which would startle me. In my case I came to the conclusion that sub-consciously I feared death and this was seeping into my my sub-conscious when going to sleep. And the more I thought about it, the more I couldn't sleep and the more I couldn't sleep the more I was worrying that if I didn't sleep I could die which would cause more troubling thoughts and on and on like a vicious circle. My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer and all this started around that time hence the fear of death and being afraid to fall asleep. How this resolved itself was simply letting go and confronting my own mortality. I sought out on a spiritual quest of sorts to find all the answers to all the big questions such as "what happens when I die?", "Is there a God"? "What is the meaning to all this, if any?" etc etc. And it was only when I resolved these questions that I had asked of my self for basically my entire life did both my sleep (and vivid dreams) and fear of death (or fear of anything) start to fade and eventually went away. I still have vivid dreams but not nearly as so vivid. But I sleep fine now except I have funny sleep schedule lol.
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Thank you Daniel. This is helpful. Did you do a video/podcast on insomnia and covid? After an entire year of sleeping well, insomnia was ignited by having covid- the worry, the physical symptoms, etc. Feeling like if I didn’t get sleep, I couldn’t heal from covid. I feel like I’m starting all over again 😩
It is right that i decide to let my brain when i close my eyes to think what it wants to think ??? Before sleeping problems this was the way that i was sleeping,i was thiking many things but i wasnt having a problem.
Hi Cat, I’d say this is one of those times where we can go “what’s the alternative?”. If we try to not let it think something, it will think that even more! As you said, when you weren’t attempting to control, there was no struggle 🙂
Yes!! I don't understand people that they say they don't think anything before sleep ,I was always thinking but i didn't have a problem.My problem now is that I monitoring myself if he sleeps but im trying to let it be as you said. Maybe if I have the attitude that OK I will sleep tonight after a tired day my brain will get used to it ? Or is it effort ??
Hi Cat, yeah I think people are confused. We always have some thoughts! I think trying to control them is tricky, but when we just let them be we see that sleep happens even when we think for example “I’ll never sleep”
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 just like what happened to me yesterday and many nights !!! Yesterday I was thinking all the things that freak me out my heart was pouncing but after that I slept !! Maybe is because i learn to not freak out with anxious and panick attacks i just leave them there and they fade like you say
This was an interesting and useful video thanks Daniel I am looking into your apprach as it makes sense to me. I struggle to accept and not worry about insomnia when it gets to the second or third night because I become obsessed that I won't be able to function or preform well at my volnteer job. Its also holding be back from applying for jobs. Im trying to move on after an injury. In the past I have had to take some sick days from a previous job due to not sleeping and feeling unsafe to drive or my able to do my job . And got bullied from my manager. Then I had a head injury and when I didn't get enough sleep i had a mental breakdown so that has added to my anxiety of not being able to sleep. And how to manage it . Would be interested in your thoughts if you see this or have the time.
Im desperate I tried everything including hight dose of CBD with thc but my mind don't switch off. Meditation make more anxiety. I don't know anymore what do. I lost all my family and. my mother and my boyfriend in fews months
Hang in there Rita, you’ve definitely come to a place where people would recognize where you are. Hopefully our way will lead you to where you want to be
Hey Daniel i really appreciate these videos I find them to really help, I’m currently experiencing a faze insomnia induced by the fear of not sleeping and the fear that not sleeping will kill me I was just curious does insomnia eventually lead to death or can you live a normal life with it ?
Anytime Ethan, so glad you’re here 🙂 And you know, we have a playlist called Heard online where we look at claims like people saying if we have insomnia it affects our health, and we find that there’s no evidence for this at all. People with insomnia have the same life expectancy as people without. And just knowing this can take so much pressure of 😊
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thank you so much for responding i really appreciate this kind of information really helps out a lot,it’s such a shame that there is no clear cut answer for this question on Google I remember my insomnia being at an all time high when I started panic googling if it would kill me and that’s when I unfortunately stumbled across SFI however with the knowledge of that not actually being an insomnia was such a relief 😊
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 wish nothing but the best for you Daniel just one more question is there any of your videos that you could recommend to me that might help with the fear of never sleeping again because I believe that to be a huge factor to why my insomnia comes back, I am aware that we all eventually sleep but my Brain seems to have a hard time believing that
Thank you so much, Ethan. And I would say it is tricky. When we try to convince our brain, it’s sort of like when we try to convince a friend with a different political opinion. The more we push, the more pushback. I think we can really help is listen to the success stories, and know that everyone in those episodes had the same fear. And it didn’t keep them from leaving the struggle.
im a heavy pepsi drinker. since i was 15 i drank 8 cans of pepsi a day all my life and im 34. i use to be able to fall a sleep when i drink caffine easy. now march 18th something changed in me. it started with sleep start. were i would drift off to sleep and just when im about to fall a sleep i get wide awake out of no weres. and had a sleepless night only sleeping 2 hours a night. and for the 2 weeks i was always very tired in the day and still had a hard time sleeping and staying a sleep for 2 hours. then afther 2 weeks my sleepyness went away now. even if i sleep 2 hours i won.t feel sleepy. then i notice when i wake up middle of the night i don.t feel super sleepy only a little bit but its enough for me to fall back to sleep. i wake up 3 times. and then in april i was geting 3 hours of sleep. then in my may i get 5 hours of sleep. i tryed to do something like a test. i was thinking if i go past staying up 12 hours and don.t go bed tell i get tired mabay i,ll sleep 8 hours. so i was up 24 hours and still noting. i was not tired. i was tired tho but not exterme tired. i was thinking ok i,ll try staying up more. then i got to 36 hours and still not geting tired. then when it was 42 hours i started to worry and was like i gotta try to go sleep i don.t think my body is gonna get tired if i keep this up so i went to bed and tryed sleep and was worryed because i don.t wanna get to 3 days because thats were you see hear things and see things. still was hard for me to sleep but i fell a sleep and got 2 hours of sleep and wake up and feeled fine no tired still the same. i tryed something els. i sleeped a hour and stayed up all day and when i went to bed i sleeped 8 hours. but it only happend onces the next day it was back to 2 hours. it seems i can only sleep 8 hours if sleep only a hour. today i get 5 hours. its been 3 mounths now. and if i drink caffine i,ll be awake for 2 days. then i drink caffine in the morining and when its my bed time i can still go sleep. just can.t drink no caffine in the eveining. i drink caffine 11:30am and my bed time is 12am. yeah i neve got exterme tired in 3 mounths now. its like its gone. i just hope it will come back to me. after staying up 12 hours i get tired but not exterme tired. its enough for me to sleep. and ppl said they cured there imsoina by doing no rule of staying up 12 hours. keep doing what ur doing tell you get tired but if i tryed that im worryed i won.t get tired and might end up being up 3 days. im very scared to be up 3 days i don.t wanna see things. i never been up 3 days in my life yet and i don.t wanna know. befor i had insomina most i been awake was 30 hours and i would be exterme tired to were i would pass out in few secs and only sleep few hours then the next day i would be back to 8 hours again every day. and my dr give me meds but i don.t wanna take em. i don.t wanna depend on them. even tho i only get few hours of sleep i still fine my mood is good and i can get by the day no porplem.
I don't know how your sleep is now but 3days of no sleep can't make you see. things or hear things. Personally I have gone 4days of no sleep but I was only scared but didn't hear things or see things. I hope you found a solution. It has to take months for you to experience that
@@nkundwashanice574 its better then befor. my normal sleep now is 5-6 hours. and good days i get 8-10 hours but only onces or twice then its back to 5-6 hours. my insomina is going away every mounth. since july my sleep started to get better. when i get 8 hours for 2 weeks then my insomina will be gone.
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Are you a person who believes that education and letting go is how insomnia ends? If so, our way will work for you, because this is what we believe as well.
For personal coaching, head over to www.thesleepcoachschool.com and find an option that fits you.
We look forward to seeing you on the inside!
Thank you Daniel, I recently bought set it and forget it and feel like I'm getting my life back. In the last 12 days, I've slept naturally 10 of them, from a 2 month period of no sleep without heavy medication. I still have the bad night here and there, but understand my sleep drive will take over and I've learned to do things on those days that I enjoy. I went golfing the next day after a bad night with friends and no one noticed I didn't sleep. So simple but I found the line that insomnia is created in my thoughts and habits in thag book really helpful. I'm almost finished the book and think my journey is nearly over thanks to it.
Wonderful, so wonderful reading these lines today 😊! Thanks for giving the book at chance and for doing the work of applying everything to yourself. Also thanks for sharing and be in touch!
My favorite mantras:
- This too shall pass
- Just keep swimming (Dory the fish!)
- If you are going through hell, keep going
- (to anxious thoughts, fear) "You can be here"
When I first got the education a month ago I was relieved and hopeful but now my anxious brain feels too focused on ‘sleep will come.’ I just watch all night for it to come. My head hurts from being so vigilant even when I try to watch tv. I haven’t been sleeping at all
Hang in there, it’s so common that education actually turns into a sleep effort. “Now I have the education, why won’t I sleep”. Well it’s the effort of course creating some struggle. But this is such a normal part of the journey, when our brain realizes and no longer creates efforts, things get easier
I really like this podcast. It helps a lot. I saw on another on of your podcasts or the book Set it and Forget it. I can't remember. But writing down my worries for 5 or 10 minutes a day is working for me. I add the things I am upset or mad about also. Most days I am writing the same stuff as the day before but it does make me not spend my days thinking about this stuff so I am sleeping.
Thanks so much for all the encouragement 🙏 it’s the gas that keeps the tank always full!
Decided to join bedtyme today, hope I can find my peaceful self again.
Hi Luke, Jamie just assigned you to Coach Alina, she’s amazing and with some willingness to learn and share and do heart work - you’ll arrive where you want it be.
Hey how's bedtyme experience? I too want to join soon
Daniel, you’re doing amazing job. Thanks from Toronto
Jassi! Thanks so much for all the support 😊
Daniel i think i was doing this a bit wrong. I was trying to positive think my way to get sleep. So when i lie in bed when anxious thoughts about sleep come i force to think positively because i believed that it was up to my positive thoughts that would cause me to sleep and that if i couldnt think positive or if one negative thought came then i couldnt sleep. This caused me to get super hyper aroused Friday night to the point that little to no sleep came and i couldnt keep anything down in my stomach.
So i was using all these techniques including positive thoughts to hold sleep by its neck so that i could pour all these things into it so that i can control it to sleep better. Yes its good to live a positive happy life but not to control sleep.
So i have to learn to just let go and allow the panic attacks and hyper arousal and accept wakefulness. BFT here
Oh yes this is a big realization! And 100%, trying to force ourselves to be positive is a struggle.. and as odd as it sounds, even optimism and hope aren’t required for what we want, because peaceful sleep and peace of mind require nothing.
Daniel I really like what you said at the end -it's the knowledge of the education and the wisdom of letting go. I've been struggling with the brain-zap hypnic jerks again since Christmas after 7 months clear... I got v triggered, then nasty flu, then bad virtigo. Its funny as I managed to clear the virtigo one day -I just found myself saying 'I've had enough of that -no more' as it started up. I just calmly let it go and it never bothered me again. I would love to be able to do this with the jerks but I have been honestly, deeply terrified of them. Its almost as if my brain now starts checking the content of the dreams as they start up and alerting me about the 'incorrect' content or it just jolts me awake. I have become really caught up on having the right mindset & lost feeling of being able to aquire that naturally. Its such a fine balance of trust but not obsessing, sometimes I feel I need a long free period without work to be able to really let go control and put this into practice (& I only work part time anyway)
What I meant by brain checking content of dream onset is -obviously dreams are weird and random and its as if it's OCD-like checking quickly, saying 'this wouldn't happen' 'that music's not right' etc -I guess the frontal brain cortex or whatever - has gone on overdrive! Then I feel I have to get up & really calm myself & get to trust point -but I also fear my brain feels it needs to go through all this to get to 'safe spot' AAAGGGHHH!!!!!
So glad it made sense Lucy. And thanks for being here and sharing. Sorry there’s been some more struggle again, but I think you’re seeing the answers 🙂
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 Daniel -thank you. I don't know if you'll get to read this & I don't want to speak too soon but I think I maybe finally breaking into the true acceptance thing. Was watching the somnophobia lady (at 3am😅) (& yes somnophobia so similar to jerks) & as she was talking about acceptance I started to finally feel what that really meant and everything has changed. I'll report back 🤩was in a pretty diabolical state 😕& never able to crack this acceptance thing so far 😙always tried to do it with positive thinking
Hi Lucy, anytime! And this is so nice to hear 🙂 it’s sort of a mysterious thing in terms of how we find it, but it happens when we are willing to do some of this heart work, so glad you’re seeing this happen!
Thank you so much for all your videos Coach Daniel, they are really very helpful, I just wish I had come across them at the start of my insomnia journey 5 years ago. Just a quick question or thought I had recently. I love how you say it’s OK to stay in bed and not to stress about leaving the bed when you can’t sleep. The stress of doing that was too much for me and didn’t work. It made things worse and I was like a jack in the box the whole evening.However if we stay in bed are we not reinforcing the awake bed connection even more?
Hi Debs, so glad you are here now… but yes hope more find us earlier and wish you had.
I’d say this - the connection that keeps us struggling isn’t bed-awake but awake-danger, when wakefulness no longer keeps us awake, then there’s no struggle. And the awake-danger connection can change regardless of where we are
Thank you coach Daniel🙏 Lately my brain is doubting that being awake is safe. Because recently, I stumbled upon a comment from a community member that confirmed that insomnia has caused a cognitive decline. Once I have read the comment, my brain sent me alarms (thoughts, fears,..). Is there an evidence that I can rely on that can disprove this comment ?
N.B: I am sleeping well ..but I am still sensitive to any information that I find about the health consequences of insomnia.
Hi Peace,
So glad things are easier. And you know, it’s difficult to disprove a claim. Like I could say eating tofu causes gallstones - how can we disprove this?
The burden of evidence imho is with the person making the claim! And I’ve never seen any such claims hold up.
Also - often seeking reassurance can be part of the safety behaviors that keep us in some struggle
Ouch! I was doing the delegation thing wrong then... Using it with intent. When it should be just a reminder!
Awareness is change 👍
I'm happy I found your channel and I'm trying to open my mind to your approach. My initial obstacle is that there is a lot of research showing that lack of sleep does damage your health. I'm kind of stuck on that. What to do about that?
So glad you’re here Rose. We have a playlist called Heard online, that’s where we debunk these claims. That can be great to start there, link in description of any new video
Do you think that listening to guided meditation while being awake in bed can help?
Yes
It’s yet another sleep effort. I’d say stop.
@@Thebaron666 yeah I stopped that a long time ago lol it did not work
Sadly with my new sleep paralysis , I am terrified to sleep! The visuals are scary and hearing peoples experiences make it worse. My bed used to be my sanctuary, now I am scared to sleep. It’s hard to be awake because I’m still in the fear stage. My fear is not being able to sleep, it is falling into sleep.Any suggestions?
I went through this where I was scarred to go to sleep, but at the same time I was scarred about not being able to sleep. And while I didn't suffer from sleep paralysis per-se, I did used to have extremely vivid and often disturbing dreams which caused me not to want to sleep. And where I could feel myself between the waking and sleeping state which would startle me. In my case I came to the conclusion that sub-consciously I feared death and this was seeping into my my sub-conscious when going to sleep. And the more I thought about it, the more I couldn't sleep and the more I couldn't sleep the more I was worrying that if I didn't sleep I could die which would cause more troubling thoughts and on and on like a vicious circle. My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer and all this started around that time hence the fear of death and being afraid to fall asleep. How this resolved itself was simply letting go and confronting my own mortality. I sought out on a spiritual quest of sorts to find all the answers to all the big questions such as "what happens when I die?", "Is there a God"? "What is the meaning to all this, if any?" etc etc. And it was only when I resolved these questions that I had asked of my self for basically my entire life did both my sleep (and vivid dreams) and fear of death (or fear of anything) start to fade and eventually went away. I still have vivid dreams but not nearly as so vivid. But I sleep fine now except I have funny sleep schedule lol.
Hi Rachy, James shared some amazing insight here. Learning about somniphobia which we have videos on here, maybe this could help.
Hi! What should we do about headache, nausea and loss of interest in things that accompanies insomnia the next day. 🥺
@@johnmonk3381 I guess so, but I'm preparing for the most important exams of my life rn and not being able to do that makes me weak.
I know, life itself is an exam but I gotta study the entire day and I want to atleast sleep peacefully.
Hi Pooja, we have a concept called battle scars, check the unrefreshing sleep playlist. Fingers crossed for your exams!!
Hey can you speak more about paradoxical, insomnia i have it due to a withdrawal symptoms of a medication is it possible to leave it behind?
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Thank you Daniel. This is helpful. Did you do a video/podcast on insomnia and covid? After an entire year of sleeping well, insomnia was ignited by having covid- the worry, the physical symptoms, etc. Feeling like if I didn’t get sleep, I couldn’t heal from covid. I feel like I’m starting all over again 😩
You’re welcome Tina, and we do, it’s here somewhere, hang in there!
It is right that i decide to let my brain when i close my eyes to think what it wants to think ??? Before sleeping problems this was the way that i was sleeping,i was thiking many things but i wasnt having a problem.
Hi Cat,
I’d say this is one of those times where we can go “what’s the alternative?”. If we try to not let it think something, it will think that even more! As you said, when you weren’t attempting to control, there was no struggle 🙂
Yes!! I don't understand people that they say they don't think anything before sleep ,I was always thinking but i didn't have a problem.My problem now is that I monitoring myself if he sleeps but im trying to let it be as you said.
Maybe if I have the attitude that OK I will sleep tonight after a tired day my brain will get used to it ? Or is it effort ??
Hi Cat, yeah I think people are confused. We always have some thoughts! I think trying to control them is tricky, but when we just let them be we see that sleep happens even when we think for example “I’ll never sleep”
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 just like what happened to me yesterday and many nights !!! Yesterday I was thinking all the things that freak me out my heart was pouncing but after that I slept !! Maybe is because i learn to not freak out with anxious and panick attacks i just leave them there and they fade like you say
This was an interesting and useful video thanks Daniel I am looking into your apprach as it makes sense to me. I struggle to accept and not worry about insomnia when it gets to the second or third night because I become obsessed that I won't be able to function or preform well at my volnteer job. Its also holding be back from applying for jobs. Im trying to move on after an injury. In the past I have had to take some sick days from a previous job due to not sleeping and feeling unsafe to drive or my able to do my job . And got bullied from my manager. Then I had a head injury and when I didn't get enough sleep i had a mental breakdown so that has added to my anxiety of not being able to sleep. And how to manage it . Would be interested in your thoughts if you see this or have the time.
Hi there, I’m glad it was helpful. And I’d say look at episode 333 which is about these thresholds, it can help much
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thanks very much I will check it out
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 is there an easy way to find episode 333. As I can't find it
Im desperate I tried everything including hight dose of CBD with thc but my mind don't switch off. Meditation make more anxiety. I don't know anymore what do. I lost all my family and. my mother and my boyfriend in fews months
Hang in there Rita, you’ve definitely come to a place where people would recognize where you are. Hopefully our way will lead you to where you want to be
Hey Daniel i really appreciate these videos I find them to really help, I’m currently experiencing a faze insomnia induced by the fear of not sleeping and the fear that not sleeping will kill me I was just curious does insomnia eventually lead to death or can you live a normal life with it ?
Anytime Ethan, so glad you’re here 🙂 And you know, we have a playlist called Heard online where we look at claims like people saying if we have insomnia it affects our health, and we find that there’s no evidence for this at all. People with insomnia have the same life expectancy as people without. And just knowing this can take so much pressure of 😊
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 thank you so much for responding i really appreciate this kind of information really helps out a lot,it’s such a shame that there is no clear cut answer for this question on Google I remember my insomnia being at an all time high when I started panic googling if it would kill me and that’s when I unfortunately stumbled across SFI however with the knowledge of that not actually being an insomnia was such a relief 😊
Anytime Ethan, and your kind words are what always keeps the tank full 🙏
@@thesleepcoachschool8192 wish nothing but the best for you Daniel just one more question is there any of your videos that you could recommend to me that might help with the fear of never sleeping again because I believe that to be a huge factor to why my insomnia comes back, I am aware that we all eventually sleep but my Brain seems to have a hard time believing that
Thank you so much, Ethan. And I would say it is tricky. When we try to convince our brain, it’s sort of like when we try to convince a friend with a different political opinion. The more we push, the more pushback. I think we can really help is listen to the success stories, and know that everyone in those episodes had the same fear. And it didn’t keep them from leaving the struggle.
Have to take my trazadone and serequel to sleep
Hi Janel, often what gets us into struggle is criticizing ourselves for taking medications.. and kindness helps so much
Dr should we let the fear come when we cloee our eyes?
Hi Samantha, I think we have no real choice, because trying to block it makes emotions stronger
Have musical hallucinations also
Hi Janel, I remember a guest called Kristen talking about these, hearing her story could maybe help, hang in there!
im a heavy pepsi drinker. since i was 15 i drank 8 cans of pepsi a day all my life and im 34. i use to be able to fall a sleep when i drink caffine easy. now march 18th something changed in me. it started with sleep start. were i would drift off to sleep and just when im about to fall a sleep i get wide awake out of no weres. and had a sleepless night only sleeping 2 hours a night. and for the 2 weeks i was always very tired in the day and still had a hard time sleeping and staying a sleep for 2 hours. then afther 2 weeks my sleepyness went away now. even if i sleep 2 hours i won.t feel sleepy. then i notice when i wake up middle of the night i don.t feel super sleepy only a little bit but its enough for me to fall back to sleep. i wake up 3 times. and then in april i was geting 3 hours of sleep. then in my may i get 5 hours of sleep. i tryed to do something like a test. i was thinking if i go past staying up 12 hours and don.t go bed tell i get tired mabay i,ll sleep 8 hours. so i was up 24 hours and still noting. i was not tired. i was tired tho but not exterme tired. i was thinking ok i,ll try staying up more. then i got to 36 hours and still not geting tired. then when it was 42 hours i started to worry and was like i gotta try to go sleep i don.t think my body is gonna get tired if i keep this up so i went to bed and tryed sleep and was worryed because i don.t wanna get to 3 days because thats were you see hear things and see things. still was hard for me to sleep but i fell a sleep and got 2 hours of sleep and wake up and feeled fine no tired still the same. i tryed something els. i sleeped a hour and stayed up all day and when i went to bed i sleeped 8 hours. but it only happend onces the next day it was back to 2 hours. it seems i can only sleep 8 hours if sleep only a hour. today i get 5 hours. its been 3 mounths now. and if i drink caffine i,ll be awake for 2 days. then i drink caffine in the morining and when its my bed time i can still go sleep. just can.t drink no caffine in the eveining. i drink caffine 11:30am and my bed time is 12am. yeah i neve got exterme tired in 3 mounths now. its like its gone. i just hope it will come back to me. after staying up 12 hours i get tired but not exterme tired. its enough for me to sleep. and ppl said they cured there imsoina by doing no rule of staying up 12 hours. keep doing what ur doing tell you get tired but if i tryed that im worryed i won.t get tired and might end up being up 3 days. im very scared to be up 3 days i don.t wanna see things. i never been up 3 days in my life yet and i don.t wanna know. befor i had insomina most i been awake was 30 hours and i would be exterme tired to were i would pass out in few secs and only sleep few hours then the next day i would be back to 8 hours again every day. and my dr give me meds but i don.t wanna take em. i don.t wanna depend on them. even tho i only get few hours of sleep i still fine my mood is good and i can get by the day no porplem.
I don't know how your sleep is now but 3days of no sleep can't make you see.
things or hear things. Personally I have gone 4days of no sleep but I was only scared but didn't hear things or see things. I hope you found a solution. It has to take months for you to experience that
@@nkundwashanice574 its better then befor. my normal sleep now is 5-6 hours. and good days i get 8-10 hours but only onces or twice then its back to 5-6 hours. my insomina is going away every mounth. since july my sleep started to get better. when i get 8 hours for 2 weeks then my insomina will be gone.
@@iamkakashi20 Some insights on how you have overcome it;8years? That is really good progress!
Great comment that "insomnia is a form of fear" false evidence appearing real
Thanks Harry! Clarity leads us to peace 🙂