My best friend and I both realised we were both asexual, decided we only wanted to marry each other and have felt a lot of comfort in knowing we will probs spend our lives together rescuing animals and adopting old people 😅
Hey Alayna. I totally agree. Please share more or keep reading from the ones you've received. Such awesome videos every time. Kindest regards from South Africa🤗
Forgive me if I'm wrong, but aren't most people who say "current husband" divorced and using the term in order to distinguish between their current and their ex partner?
To all the "I'm in love with my best friend" confessors: I was friends with my now wife for 5 years before either of us made a move, we both regret not telling each other sooner. Tell her!
On the flip side for anyone worried about the rejection, I was close friends with my friend/crush for about 6 years before I told her how I felt (mostly because I was still figuring things out) and when I finally did, she said something along the lines of "I'm flattered but I don't see it" and we continued being friends like normal. I think our situation worked out because she knew I would respect her boundaries and I didn't put her on a pedestal, so it wasn't like she broke my heart or I was fawning over her after confession. I just wanted to put it out there, she didn't pick it up, so I threw it somewhere else and we kept seeing each other on a friendly basis (it's been about 15 years since then) and we're still very close. At the time of confession I had thought all women had some interest in other women (and maybe they do but I just wasn't her type 😅) so she helped me accept straight women on that far end of the spectrum who aren't even interested in experimenting.
For the people who don't want to tell their crushes that they have a crush on them, 3 of my friends have confessed their feelings for me and I don't feel the same way to either of them. The friendship has continued between us and nothing changed. Honestly just tell people how you feel
I did not continue friendships with people who asked me out. Can't shake the feeling that the friendship is less meaningful since they had an ulterior motive
@@radiationshepherd As much as I understand that, it's the reason people are scared to tell their crushes. They value the friendship more than anything else and that's why it takes them a long time. Usually there's no "ulterior motive" but feelings developed through spending time with the person. Most people can get over it and continue the friendship :)
@@butterbeer4582 I agree and disagree in the same time. It really depends on the person, and yes, people can be sexually and/orromanticallyattraced from the begining of a relationship and don't tell the other and the latter jus think it's friendship. Not automatically make it an "ulterior motive" though, but can definitively still change the relationship, or even end it, if the person "being persued" know that the other whish for more/wasn't actually satisfyed/fulfilled with their current relatonship actually.
To the person who isn't telling their bestie: No unspoken sexual tension. I've watched friendships detonate because one party had feelings for the other and never said anything until things between them had gotten *so* bad, with one person having no idea what they'd done to make the other so mad at them. Just tell your friend that you've caught feelings, have no expectations, and then she'll have a point of reference if you need to back up for a minute sometimes to work out jealousy or whatever. Maybe a relationship will come or maybe it won't, but that person is your bestie for a reason; you know you can talk to them about anything, so talk to them about this, too.
I'd rather say nothing and have them in my life at least as my friend and be happy than lose them in both ways. Like what is the point? I have all I ever needed. An amazing person in my life. I don't feel jealous that I can never have them. Accept this and move on. If that is something you can't accept, just don't be friends with your crushes.
I just pass on advice that I was given: conflicts are usually about what is _not_ being said. Too often, we see an unresolved conflict in life, and we have the temptation to think that some action caused the conflict- someone said something, someone did something, etc. More often than not, I've found, conflicts are about un-expressed feelings. The conflict keeps going, and cannot resolve because one or two people have left important things un-said to one another. They don't think they can be honest, or they don't think it's worth risking being honest. Once people say what they are actuality feeling, and get real, a lot of times that's all you need to release the tension and resolve the conflict.
When I was kindergarten I had no idea what lgbtq+ but me and a girl (I’m a girl) decided we wanted to get married and have children. We were like 7. I think this was the first clue of my gayness
“I just thought all women were attracted on some level by other women,” AHHHHHH. This could’ve been mine. It wasn’t, I didn’t submit one, but dang. It me.
Honestly, I still feel that. It doesn't have to be sexual attraction, but I firmly believe that all women are attracted to each other on some level, even the most basic. (Though I suppose, that could just be 'I have eyes and can recognise attractive people; now let me look at you and shower you in compliments'.)
@@sl33pw17h4ng3l5 yeah i thought i was bi but i'm asexual (i prefer guys romantically i think) there's definitely more types of attraction than just sexual
That was me, but the opposite. I took some time to realize that people are actually attracted to each other, and don't just acknowledge they're beautiful. Just me being my aroace self lol
The girl who ended up in a three-way with her professor is living the dream. What gay girl didn't have an unhealthy crush on at least one of their professors?
@@shobo4482 You should always tell her how you feel, but there's always a chance it won't end up well. One of my ex, when she told her best friend that she was bi and really liked her, her best friend slapped her.
YES! Rejection is normal. Rejection is healthy. Tell someone if you love them. If they reject you, accept the rejection and be free to love someone else.
Accept the rejection and be free to love someone else 😲 Genius! Such great advice! I feel like people spend way too much time wondering. Redistribute that energy elsewhere if it's not reciprocated instead of it festering inside your head & heart!
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial hahaha omg i didn't think you'd actually see this! how dare you expose me like this miss alayna 😅 well let's just say that journey home from mexico was one for the history books... so now that i have exposed one of my dirty gay little secrets i hope this at least turns into a never-ending series cause i've got lots more stories to tell 😜
@@AnniBaby94 I can’t tell if you’re the mile high club one or the wedding night 3 way one! … if it’s the first one I never understood how someone could go from dirty looks to hooking up?! Doesn’t dirty looks usually mean you DON’T like someone 😳
@@boland73 So, she and her gf were provoking the woman giving them nasty looks by being intimate and handsy with each other and THEY did the sexual stuff.
Is there any specific technique to sewing them so they dont show the seem? I would think that it would look like hemmed pants otherwise. Please advise. Girl needs to fix her falling cuffs
Hi. As someone who’s in love with their best friend and we are both pansexual, I’ve told her, it’s been six months and we’re not together but we did move in together. She sleeps in my arms every night. Sometimes things like this can move slow and is TERRIFYING but so worth it
I read a quote once that said something like relationships are terrifying because they always end badly; either you break up or one of you dies. It's not easy being vulnerable especially when you don't know what to expect, but I would just say to enjoy it now and worry later if you can
Not all of us♥️ Some are, but like in the way some are sex repulsed. It’s not motivated by hatred, but it’s just an extreme discomfort in the idea to be with a man. For me, I’m not personally repulsed by the thought of being with a man. The thing is, nothing’s *there*, like the same romantic feelings feelings I have with women? I feel none of that with men.
Feel free not to answer, but is it anything similar to how you might feel about being sexual with a woman you're attracted to? I'm bisexual/omnisexual & attracted to people of all genders, so I just have "people I'm attracted to" and "people I'm not" haha.
I'm not completely repulsed by men but being in a relationship with a man is a whole different story like I don't think I could be in a romantic relationship with a guy to me it just feels uncomfortable and creepy idk if anyone can relate but here's my opinion
Hell no. My best/closest male friend was best man at my and my wife's wedding 10 years ago. He and my wife get on really well, too. Why would we be repulsed?
As someone who gets asked out a lot, I would like to tell everyone who is worried about confessing to their crush something. The worst that'll happen is you get (lovingly) picked on. They won't feel the same and now it's something to tease you with. And if ANYTHING worse than that happens, you dodged a bullet by confessing early and not getting any closer to that person.
Okay but i get asked out a lot too but its always by men 😭✋. But also yeah shoot your shot because it might just go well, I made the first move with my crushes and they all worked out
@@irradiated_woman8016 It evens out. Harrassed a lot because I'm "weird" and don't dress conventionally, but also I'm pretty okay at being nice and look good.
I assume that the "I" part of the stealing paw patrol socks one was the gay part of the secret. Though, is it really a secret if you did it yesterday and you told the internet immediately?
Can confirm: if you have feelings for a friend, tell them. Told my my best friend after about a year that I had feelings and they were reciprocated and now we’ve been together almost 2 years. ❤️
About telling your friend they're your crush- I actually talked to a friend not that long ago to tell her that I had feelings for her and that I thought she was my crush, that the way I felt about her was stronger than if she were 'just a friend'. She took it so well, said she didn't feel the same but that we're great friends and so she would like us to continue being friends!! Moral of the story: if they're really your friend, they won't change how they treat you, they'll understand and listen to you, and it'll make you both even closer.💛
I used to have a crush on my best friend, but it never came to anything because he became like a brother to me, also he’s gay and I have since come out as trans. Which means I’m a straight woman with a gay bestie.
16:13 You say "Fantasy World" and I know you mean sexually but all I can think of is rainbows and unicorns, you know? Rolling green hills, rainbows and puffy white clouds, with unicorns and fairies and your wishes coming true. Haha, such a childish interpretation of "Fantasy World" lol!
I’m 25 and engaged and just now realizing a lot of occasions in my life that I may be attracted to girls…. I think I’m possibly Bi but very confused, I only realized this a week ago😬
@@chimbo8741 Thank you! 🥺 I really do love my fiance and he knows about it and still loves me and is okay with it. I guess I’ll have time to figure it all out! 💗
When I was around 10 I had a crush on my then best friend and would make up crushes on guys whenever she would ask. I avoided victorious secret as long as I can remember and thought everyone stared at women because they we're so pretty (it made sense to me at the time). I came out to my mom at 12 as bi and she said she knew I was different but she's also bi. I came out as a lesbian at 13 and have come to terms with it. I'm now out to everyone as a lesbian and am 14. Alayna, you inspire me so much and I hope you continue doing what u love.
I can't imagine how someone could sleep next to someone and not know what they are doing. I would feel totally inadequate if I woke up to something like that
I watched your videos a year ago, and here I am!!! Out, lesbian, separated from my best guy friend ever, who I had two kids with, and so so so proud of myself. Thanks for helping me get there. :)
ohh I should've had someone telling me 'shoot your shot' three years ago. I was too afraid to risk the friendship. Then last autumn we ended up admitting that both of us have had feelings for each other...
Hi Alayna Joy! 😊 I'm sure you get tons of comments and messages everyday, but I felt compelled to send you a message of gratitude for the gift you have given me through your TH-cam channel. I'm not sure what grace of luck caused me to stumble onto your channel, I think I had been watching videos of lesbian comedian Cameron Esposito and eventually your content showed up in Recommendations. But you are the first queer content creator I found. And once there I consumed nearly every single video you made because your story spoke to me so clearly (and the silly videos gave me some much needed laughs). I'm a cis woman who has been in hetero relationships my whole life (I'm 50 now). I've been interested in being with women romantically or sexually since ending a 9 year relationship in my late 20s (also engaged), but a combo of comp het and controlling partners meant I was never able to explore that side of me. Aside for a disastrous brief 1-month attempt last year, I haven't dated anyone for the past 8 years -- my last relationship was so abusive it utterly destroyed every aspect of my life, and it's taken me this long to try to rebuild it and myself. That time has been very lonely, but I also knew I could not date men anymore. And until our society has gender equality, I can't see me ever dating men again. I'm done with the sexism, the rigid gender roles, the entitlement, the fragile egos, the narcissism, the sexual hangups and shame around sex, and sex that's penis-focused instead of female-focused that all come with dating men -- even the seemingly "progressive" men.* (Which is not to say I hate men by any means. I just don't want to waste any more of my life with them.) And I still have so much sexual trauma I can't even think of a penis without feeling turned off or triggered. I left the abuse 9 years ago, and over the past 2 years I've been thinking about shifting to dating women more and more. After watching your channel and listening to your stories I realized that this shift was not simply out of practicality. I remembered back to all the times over the past 2 decades when I genuinely desired to connect with women, no matter what my hetero relationships were like (good or bad). And I had suppressed that important side of myself because it was not possible in my last relationship (7.5 years of my life sucked away and as I mentioned, abusive). My last partner was adamant that he would not allow me to have relationships with women, even before we became a committed couple, and told me I had to choose between him and exploring that part of myself (I made the wrong choice). Watching you talk about ending your engagement and coming out as lesbian was heartbreaking and I so admired your strength to not only tell that story and sit with those feelings of grief, but also your generosity in sharing such private feelings with the TH-cam public. Listening to you parse your feelings about your bi-sexuality and lesbianism was instrumental in helping me understand my own. And once I acknowledged I was queer... I felt lighter, like a weight was lifted. I felt *~happy~. I remember closing one of your videos after calling it a night on the "gay research" -- lol -- and realized the idea of being queer just felt ~good.~* And once I came to those realizations and embraced that aspect of myself, I recognized that I *do* have a future, that I don't have to spend the rest of my life alone. (Ignoring the obvious challenges of attempting to date and enter the queer world at my age, lol). I'm still not sure if I identify as bi-sexual or lesbian because thanks to the pandemic I haven't had an opportunity to even try to be with a woman. But I'm ok with that. The right label will come to me in time. The important thing is I have been able to look at my full self. I haven't come out to anyone yet (even though my closest friend is bi), I'm not quite ready, but you were a hugely important part of me coming out to myself. Coming out also led me to understand that if I want companionship despite my chronic illnesses (caused by abuse), then I need to start taking better care of myself so that I can be accessible. So it's helping me with healthier self care as well. Thanks again for all you do, all your effort, your kindness, your humor, your openness, your boldness, your beautiful soul. I'm eternally grateful. *Edit to clarify: Upon second reading of my comment I realized it may come across as man bashing to some people, which is not at all my intent. Our society does cis boys and men a disservice by instilling these qualities as they are raised. So much so that even progressive cis men most often grow up with the unconscious traits and gender biases I mentioned. This in turn does a great disservice to cis women who date cis men, particularly feminist, independent, out spoken, accomplished women with sexual agency. I hope this changes with the youngest generations. Peace. 🙏 (P.S. - I was new to TH-cam when I found your channel and didn't understand the whole Like 👍 thing and how it helps creators, and frequently forgot to hit the button. So I just went through and did a sweeping Likes on your vids for karma.)
Beautiful comment! I'm a young person and it's nice to see 'older' people share their feelings and vulnerabilities so openly. I am confused with my sexuality as well, but i think all of these labels don't really matter in the end. I think its okay to not know and just sit with it, however I'm sure you've had that time to reflect a lot already! I wish you the best of luck with everything! :))
I'm so glad that you were able to escape your abusive past, and I wish you all the best in exploring yourself and finding what makes you happy. I'm so proud of you! Get it girl!!
As a lesbian who’s in love with her bisexual best friend, I did in fact tell her recently. We are waiting a little to discuss further since she just got out of a relationship, but she may end up being my first girlfriend.... so anyways, I would recommend telling your best friend if your in love with them...
You fell victim to the British Sun Psych! I was born here and am highly melanated. It never ceases to amaze me how I always have my factor 50, hat and cover up and my melanin challenged compatriots seem to think basic sun safety doesn't apply to them. And that is when the English sun, that you think is weak and feeble, will kick your unprotected ass down the stairs. Sheesh people, get it together - if I can you can!!
So about the person who likes to do it themselves while their so is sleeping next to them, First of all you should just tell them that, honesty is very important Also I think you might be asexual maybe Asexuality spectrum is very wide
My girlfriend has a similar kink, I'm very fine with it. Honestly, for different people it can be an indicative of anything; For someone it might be asexuality, for others it might not mean anything.
sometimes i would just fantasize and i would try to fantasize about men but it didn’t feel right so i would do the entire thing again in my head but imagine the man was a woman instead and that was when it felt right. however i still thought i was straight. i realize now i’m a raging lesbian lol
I can recommend confessing feelings too - either they are returning (HOPEFULLY, that is obviously the best outcome!), but even if they don't like you the same way back, it will give you a lot of peace, knowing you have said it. It's a lot easier to move on and stop being stuck in that hopeless love. I have tried both getting it returned and when it wasn't. Both scenarios, I ended up being very happy that I got it off my chest :)
19:19 Completely unrelated to the rest of the video, but definitely funny :p By the way, I think you meant to say: "For those of you to whom my face is new."
When I told my mother I like women, to the lady who wasn't sure if she should leave or not and was a late bloomer, she told me to explore and find out so I want living a lie. 🤷🏻♀️
I know these videos are very entertaining and often funny, but you are so so right that they are medicinal as well. Sharing your fears, the things you locked away in your brain because you were afraid no one would understand... and then finding out other people get it? That's HUGE. That's healing. That's reassurance everyone needs.
Hi! Just wanted to let you know how appreciative I am of your videos. You helped me come out to my boyfriend of almost 10 years that I’m a lesbian.. it was something that I always suppressed and had some idea that I was but always that I was bi and just didn’t recognize that I genuinely was gay… don’t know how this goes I love him so much he’s truly my best friend only time can really tell where this goes now but thank you for your videos you really are helping so much ❣️
Ok i have a couple things: First, I just wanted to let you know that you made me realize Im omnisexual lol. I knew I like guys and had also been attracted to genderfluid and nonbinary people too. Then saw your videos and was like “damn, I get what you’re talking about”. So now I’m both queer in my sexuality and gender Second, I love how quirky and excepting you are. Your videos are so fun and you never really judge anyone and it feels so nice for someone like me who thinks the same way but the other people in my life kinda don’t (at least not to the extent that you do). Did that make any sense? Idk but imma go with it Anyway - keep doing you!
You have to make more!! My favorite series yet!! Really glad I have my own room and my parents leave me home alone a lot so I can actually watch them lol LOVE U ALAYNA 💕
If you have a crush on your friend that you know is Bi or Lesbian, TELL THEM! If your friendship is strong enough and they don't have feelings for you nor the desire to be with you like that they will get over it, trust me, it happened to me and i DON'T see my friend any differently than I saw her before she told me!
i was watching this video in the break room and my supervisor walked in right when you said “all underboob action” oh my goodness, the look she gave me and she was all like “no, you watch whatever you wanna watch” lol
When you said you don't sing on this channel, the "vitally important producers!" part popped in my head and I was like... Um are you sure? Then you said about it at the end 😂
These videos always make me feel so vanilla lol. My only gay secret is I've been in an on and off relationship with my also on and off best friend for about 3 years. It's been messy and all over the place. Last year we dated for a few months then had an ugly breakup and went on to not speak for 9 months but reunited at our high school graduation and have agreed to be best friends again and nothing more. Been that way for 8 months now.
GET IT GIRL! But like please make more of these! (I also just admitted some secrets and honestly would love to hear you react to some) And even if you just react to those of others, I loveeeee these!!!
You are a ray of sunshine. Thank you. Just raged against Paypal for the past half hour and needed a little pick me up and you accomplished that in all of 1 minute :)
I told my now ex-best friend that I had feelings for her and she was completely shocked, uncomfortable, definitely not interested in me, and didn’t talk to me for a few months. She basically needed space which is fine but the way she went about it was wrong in my opinion because it really hurt me. How can a best friend completely cut you off like that. Honestly I wish I never had told her because we are no longer friends. While we started having other issues within our friendship, it was never the same after I told her I had liked her. So I would personally not tell a best friend you like them unless you’re okay with the possibility of never being friends with them again.
My best friend and I both realised we were both asexual, decided we only wanted to marry each other and have felt a lot of comfort in knowing we will probs spend our lives together rescuing animals and adopting old people 😅
omg this is the most wholesome thing I have ever read ^_^
Old people need rescuing in 2020 and 2021.
That’s precious
Omg you've just described my dream. I hope that I can find this level of happiness and I wish you both all the best!!
Most gorgeous thing I've ever read, I might print this out and pin it above my bed.
I NEED MORE OF THIS... MORE GAY CONFESSIONS please?
Yessss I’m so glad you enjoyed this!!
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial +
Watch rose and Rosie lez confess
Me too 😄😄
Alayna be like "In case anybody here didn't know I'm a gay woman, I want them to know." I feel you Alayna, I feel you.
Me in my snazzy mens button-up 👁👄👁
@@alexbarone9443 Lmao yuup, literally stole 6 of my dad's shirts, and they're like 3 sizes bigger than my shirts, I love them 😂
Gosh, massive mood
what if she sliped one of her own secrets and we will never know wich one was it
i feel like alayna is such a bad liar that she would just giggle and give it away hahahah
I hope it would be the stolen paw patrol socks while being drunk in a playground 😆
Now there's an idea
a good one, i might add
Your way to funny bro
“Church or Bible Camp, those are really the place to find the hidden gays”
My friends and I go to a catholic school and we are all closeted gays. 😀
Lmao 🤣 I’mma bout to go to art school… so yeah ….
Same haha
me too lmaoo all my friends are fruity
i love the king pfp
@@vicko4788 aww thx
I would literally have listened to another hour of this. More gay secrets, please!
Amazing feedback thank you so much
Omg! I can't believe you responded 😭 Thank you so much for creating such fantastic and entertaining content.
Hey Alayna. I totally agree. Please share more or keep reading from the ones you've received. Such awesome videos every time. Kindest regards from South Africa🤗
I definitely agree!
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial +
I love when people refer to their spouse as “current husband.” Like, you gonna be gettin’ another one!?
LOL
#Polyamory
Well you never know if you're gonna get a divorce and marry someone else
You never know, might as well keep it real.
Forgive me if I'm wrong, but aren't most people who say "current husband" divorced and using the term in order to distinguish between their current and their ex partner?
To all the "I'm in love with my best friend" confessors: I was friends with my now wife for 5 years before either of us made a move, we both regret not telling each other sooner. Tell her!
What if I love my best friend [ aka my girlfriends best friend too ] and my girlfriend???
@@kimmel636 Polyamorous?
This is so cute
On the flip side for anyone worried about the rejection, I was close friends with my friend/crush for about 6 years before I told her how I felt (mostly because I was still figuring things out) and when I finally did, she said something along the lines of "I'm flattered but I don't see it" and we continued being friends like normal. I think our situation worked out because she knew I would respect her boundaries and I didn't put her on a pedestal, so it wasn't like she broke my heart or I was fawning over her after confession. I just wanted to put it out there, she didn't pick it up, so I threw it somewhere else and we kept seeing each other on a friendly basis (it's been about 15 years since then) and we're still very close. At the time of confession I had thought all women had some interest in other women (and maybe they do but I just wasn't her type 😅) so she helped me accept straight women on that far end of the spectrum who aren't even interested in experimenting.
@@kimmel636 this happened to me, I told her and it turned out we all had crushes on eachother... if you're cool with poly its really great
For the people who don't want to tell their crushes that they have a crush on them, 3 of my friends have confessed their feelings for me and I don't feel the same way to either of them. The friendship has continued between us and nothing changed. Honestly just tell people how you feel
wow you’re very popular 😳
@@rrrrrrrrrr9354 😊
I did not continue friendships with people who asked me out. Can't shake the feeling that the friendship is less meaningful since they had an ulterior motive
@@radiationshepherd As much as I understand that, it's the reason people are scared to tell their crushes. They value the friendship more than anything else and that's why it takes them a long time. Usually there's no "ulterior motive" but feelings developed through spending time with the person. Most people can get over it and continue the friendship :)
@@butterbeer4582 I agree and disagree in the same time. It really depends on the person, and yes, people can be sexually and/orromanticallyattraced from the begining of a relationship and don't tell the other and the latter jus think it's friendship. Not automatically make it an "ulterior motive" though, but can definitively still change the relationship, or even end it, if the person "being persued" know that the other whish for more/wasn't actually satisfyed/fulfilled with their current relatonship actually.
that one person really said “fuck the police”…. literally 😂😂😂
I always thought the Police was a great Rock-N-Roll band.... You don't like 'em?...Por Que?
@@Bcr26420 I think they meant ACTUAL police officerss..
@@sapphodil3154 I don't see the problem with either one in this context. 🤔🤭
To the person who isn't telling their bestie: No unspoken sexual tension. I've watched friendships detonate because one party had feelings for the other and never said anything until things between them had gotten *so* bad, with one person having no idea what they'd done to make the other so mad at them. Just tell your friend that you've caught feelings, have no expectations, and then she'll have a point of reference if you need to back up for a minute sometimes to work out jealousy or whatever. Maybe a relationship will come or maybe it won't, but that person is your bestie for a reason; you know you can talk to them about anything, so talk to them about this, too.
I’m in a gay relationship and I like both my partner and her best friend sooo- WHAT DO I DO?
I'd rather say nothing and have them in my life at least as my friend and be happy than lose them in both ways. Like what is the point? I have all I ever needed. An amazing person in my life. I don't feel jealous that I can never have them. Accept this and move on. If that is something you can't accept, just don't be friends with your crushes.
I just pass on advice that I was given: conflicts are usually about what is _not_ being said. Too often, we see an unresolved conflict in life, and we have the temptation to think that some action caused the conflict- someone said something, someone did something, etc.
More often than not, I've found, conflicts are about un-expressed feelings. The conflict keeps going, and cannot resolve because one or two people have left important things un-said to one another. They don't think they can be honest, or they don't think it's worth risking being honest.
Once people say what they are actuality feeling, and get real, a lot of times that's all you need to release the tension and resolve the conflict.
okay, this needs to become a regular thing because this is glorious
It’s kinda like Lez Confess on Rose and Rosie’s channel
When I was kindergarten I had no idea what lgbtq+ but me and a girl (I’m a girl) decided we wanted to get married and have children. We were like 7. I think this was the first clue of my gayness
Oh, I also had a "wife" around that age 💓 It felt really good. Then I forgot about it unill recently
“I just thought all women were attracted on some level by other women,” AHHHHHH. This could’ve been mine. It wasn’t, I didn’t submit one, but dang. It me.
Honestly, I still feel that. It doesn't have to be sexual attraction, but I firmly believe that all women are attracted to each other on some level, even the most basic. (Though I suppose, that could just be 'I have eyes and can recognise attractive people; now let me look at you and shower you in compliments'.)
@@sl33pw17h4ng3l5 yeah i thought i was bi but i'm asexual (i prefer guys romantically i think) there's definitely more types of attraction than just sexual
@@sl33pw17h4ng3l5 i believe that all humans are naturally attracted to the same gender bi by birth
That was me, but the opposite. I took some time to realize that people are actually attracted to each other, and don't just acknowledge they're beautiful. Just me being my aroace self lol
@𝗜 𝗱𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 valid question tbh
The girl who ended up in a three-way with her professor is living the dream. What gay girl didn't have an unhealthy crush on at least one of their professors?
Threesome, checked
Sex with a professor, checked
Sex with a cop, checked
All of that in just one encounter.
I think that was fake. Some incel fantasy.
@@wavygravy30 like incels watch Alayna and pretend to be girls
@@jabon8832 Nope, exactly my point.
Alayna's response of "share with the class" was a top tier pun.
"WHAT'S THE GAY PART OF THIS SECRET???"
I swear you need to make t shirts
And "Me. I am the gay secret." on the back
When I heard the one about the socks my brain immediately said "be gay, do crime!" Lol 😆
"you're maintaining this friendship relationship in the hopes that something might happen" hit me where it hurts why don't ya lol
Tell her
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle easier said than done 😔
@@shobo4482 always
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle but at the same time not telling her could so end up hurting you so it's a bit of a mixed situation lol
@@shobo4482 You should always tell her how you feel, but there's always a chance it won't end up well.
One of my ex, when she told her best friend that she was bi and really liked her, her best friend slapped her.
YES! Rejection is normal. Rejection is healthy. Tell someone if you love them. If they reject you, accept the rejection and be free to love someone else.
Accept the rejection and be free to love someone else 😲 Genius! Such great advice! I feel like people spend way too much time wondering. Redistribute that energy elsewhere if it's not reciprocated instead of it festering inside your head & heart!
@reverb - That's such wonder advice! I took a screenshot of your comment to save on my phone. 👍😊
that moment when you're watching this at work and then alayna reads out your secret...
omg which one was you which one was you 😘
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial hahaha omg i didn't think you'd actually see this! how dare you expose me like this miss alayna 😅 well let's just say that journey home from mexico was one for the history books... so now that i have exposed one of my dirty gay little secrets i hope this at least turns into a never-ending series cause i've got lots more stories to tell 😜
@@AnniBaby94 Unfortunately, yours is not one of the ones Alayna had questions about.
@@AnniBaby94 I can’t tell if you’re the mile high club one or the wedding night 3 way one! … if it’s the first one I never understood how someone could go from dirty looks to hooking up?! Doesn’t dirty looks usually mean you DON’T like someone 😳
@@boland73 So, she and her gf were provoking the woman giving them nasty looks by being intimate and handsy with each other and THEY did the sexual stuff.
Alayna realizing she sings on this channel throughout the video somehow feels like a metaphor for coming out and just how perfect
GET IT GIRL
and yes the english sun can burn really bad even sometimes when it’s snowing
I was not prepared
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial How? We have sun in Canada too, you know.
“Hey bestie… love you… but like. I actually like love you” lmao 😂
I love that part too🤣🤣🤣
I sewed all my short sleeved shirts so that they’re forever cuffed 👍
Now there’s an idea
I've definitely considered doing that before! 3 T-shirts down lol
I did it to all my bands t-shirts
Me too! Well the majority of them. Love cuffed sleeve shirt and pants.
Is there any specific technique to sewing them so they dont show the seem? I would think that it would look like hemmed pants otherwise. Please advise. Girl needs to fix her falling cuffs
You helped me to accept myself and come out to the world (it went well)
Congrats!
omg congrats!! 🌈🌈
Congrats!
Hi. As someone who’s in love with their best friend and we are both pansexual, I’ve told her, it’s been six months and we’re not together but we did move in together. She sleeps in my arms every night. Sometimes things like this can move slow and is TERRIFYING but so worth it
I read a quote once that said something like relationships are terrifying because they always end badly; either you break up or one of you dies. It's not easy being vulnerable especially when you don't know what to expect, but I would just say to enjoy it now and worry later if you can
Not all lesbians are repulsed by men? Oh, perhaps I should discuss this in therapy 😬
Not all of us♥️
Some are, but like in the way some are sex repulsed. It’s not motivated by hatred, but it’s just an extreme discomfort in the idea to be with a man.
For me, I’m not personally repulsed by the thought of being with a man. The thing is, nothing’s *there*, like the same romantic feelings feelings I have with women? I feel none of that with men.
Feel free not to answer, but is it anything similar to how you might feel about being sexual with a woman you're attracted to?
I'm bisexual/omnisexual & attracted to people of all genders, so I just have "people I'm attracted to" and "people I'm not" haha.
I'm not completely repulsed by men but being in a relationship with a man is a whole different story like I don't think I could be in a romantic relationship with a guy to me it just feels uncomfortable and creepy idk if anyone can relate but here's my opinion
@Solarmoo yes I am
Hell no. My best/closest male friend was best man at my and my wife's wedding 10 years ago.
He and my wife get on really well, too.
Why would we be repulsed?
I can’t believe this was twenty minutes, it went by so quickly
Your comment literally made me go back and check the video length again cause I didnt believe you 😆 time flies when you're....gay? Lol
8:52 "Not all lesbians are repulsed by men" **repulses from a male fly**
GET IT GIRL!
I SEE YOU
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial I SEE YOU TOOO🤩
this is the content i needed today
Alayna talking about cuffing her sleeves is the biggest mood
As someone who gets asked out a lot, I would like to tell everyone who is worried about confessing to their crush something.
The worst that'll happen is you get (lovingly) picked on. They won't feel the same and now it's something to tease you with.
And if ANYTHING worse than that happens, you dodged a bullet by confessing early and not getting any closer to that person.
Love the end of your username.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle Thanks.
Okay but i get asked out a lot too but its always by men 😭✋. But also yeah shoot your shot because it might just go well, I made the first move with my crushes and they all worked out
>"as someone who gets asked out a lot"
SUCH a flex, and I love it. Get it girl!
@@irradiated_woman8016 It evens out. Harrassed a lot because I'm "weird" and don't dress conventionally, but also I'm pretty okay at being nice and look good.
As a lesbian ace these confessions blow my mind
Same lol
Wait that exist? (I don't mean this in a mean way) I mean it in a wait is that what I am kind of way
@@lysol2071 homoromantic asexual
@@kay-sp4gk thank you
I assume that the "I" part of the stealing paw patrol socks one was the gay part of the secret. Though, is it really a secret if you did it yesterday and you told the internet immediately?
No, I think 'being drunk on playground' is the gay part
Doing it every time xd ✌🏻
@@nikolacechova1841 i concur. I too have been drunk on a playground. lol
The Sun shines in England? Who knew!
Fake news lol
😂😂😂
I think it's as frequent as total solar eclipses.
Can confirm: if you have feelings for a friend, tell them. Told my my best friend after about a year that I had feelings and they were reciprocated and now we’ve been together almost 2 years. ❤️
About telling your friend they're your crush- I actually talked to a friend not that long ago to tell her that I had feelings for her and that I thought she was my crush, that the way I felt about her was stronger than if she were 'just a friend'. She took it so well, said she didn't feel the same but that we're great friends and so she would like us to continue being friends!! Moral of the story: if they're really your friend, they won't change how they treat you, they'll understand and listen to you, and it'll make you both even closer.💛
My favorite glorious little sunbeam. It's so perfect her name Joy because that's just what she bring us!
I used to have a crush on my best friend, but it never came to anything because he became like a brother to me, also he’s gay and I have since come out as trans. Which means I’m a straight woman with a gay bestie.
“I volunteer as tribute” lmao!
16:13 You say "Fantasy World" and I know you mean sexually but all I can think of is rainbows and unicorns, you know? Rolling green hills, rainbows and puffy white clouds, with unicorns and fairies and your wishes coming true. Haha, such a childish interpretation of "Fantasy World" lol!
I’m 25 and engaged and just now realizing a lot of occasions in my life that I may be attracted to girls…. I think I’m possibly Bi but very confused, I only realized this a week ago😬
Good luck
It will get easier and less confusing. 💕 you have to take some time and really be honest with yourself about what you want.
@@chimbo8741 Thank you! 🥺 I really do love my fiance and he knows about it and still loves me and is okay with it. I guess I’ll have time to figure it all out! 💗
When I was around 10 I had a crush on my then best friend and would make up crushes on guys whenever she would ask. I avoided victorious secret as long as I can remember and thought everyone stared at women because they we're so pretty (it made sense to me at the time). I came out to my mom at 12 as bi and she said she knew I was different but she's also bi. I came out as a lesbian at 13 and have come to terms with it. I'm now out to everyone as a lesbian and am 14. Alayna, you inspire me so much and I hope you continue doing what u love.
As Alayna would say. "GET IT GIRL"
I can't imagine how someone could sleep next to someone and not know what they are doing. I would feel totally inadequate if I woke up to something like that
I'm curious about how friendly & inclusive Beducated is for trans, non-binary and genderqueer individuals and couples!
I watched your videos a year ago, and here I am!!! Out, lesbian, separated from my best guy friend ever, who I had two kids with, and so so so proud of myself. Thanks for helping me get there. :)
ohh I should've had someone telling me 'shoot your shot' three years ago. I was too afraid to risk the friendship. Then last autumn we ended up admitting that both of us have had feelings for each other...
Yes!! Well done!! conrats!!!!!
@@Mia-i6y9x oh, I didn't mention that we didn't go any further from there. Like, we're just close friends now because the feelings have passed.
@@tebasilem3426 that's still something to congrats, isn't it?
Hi Alayna Joy! 😊
I'm sure you get tons of comments and messages everyday, but I felt compelled to send you a message of gratitude for the gift you have given me through your TH-cam channel.
I'm not sure what grace of luck caused me to stumble onto your channel, I think I had been watching videos of lesbian comedian Cameron Esposito and eventually your content showed up in Recommendations. But you are the first queer content creator I found. And once there I consumed nearly every single video you made because your story spoke to me so clearly (and the silly videos gave me some much needed laughs).
I'm a cis woman who has been in hetero relationships my whole life (I'm 50 now). I've been interested in being with women romantically or sexually since ending a 9 year relationship in my late 20s (also engaged), but a combo of comp het and controlling partners meant I was never able to explore that side of me. Aside for a disastrous brief 1-month attempt last year, I haven't dated anyone for the past 8 years -- my last relationship was so abusive it utterly destroyed every aspect of my life, and it's taken me this long to try to rebuild it and myself.
That time has been very lonely, but I also knew I could not date men anymore. And until our society has gender equality, I can't see me ever dating men again. I'm done with the sexism, the rigid gender roles, the entitlement, the fragile egos, the narcissism, the sexual hangups and shame around sex, and sex that's penis-focused instead of female-focused that all come with dating men -- even the seemingly "progressive" men.* (Which is not to say I hate men by any means. I just don't want to waste any more of my life with them.) And I still have so much sexual trauma I can't even think of a penis without feeling turned off or triggered.
I left the abuse 9 years ago, and over the past 2 years I've been thinking about shifting to dating women more and more. After watching your channel and listening to your stories I realized that this shift was not simply out of practicality. I remembered back to all the times over the past 2 decades when I genuinely desired to connect with women, no matter what my hetero relationships were like (good or bad). And I had suppressed that important side of myself because it was not possible in my last relationship (7.5 years of my life sucked away and as I mentioned, abusive). My last partner was adamant that he would not allow me to have relationships with women, even before we became a committed couple, and told me I had to choose between him and exploring that part of myself (I made the wrong choice).
Watching you talk about ending your engagement and coming out as lesbian was heartbreaking and I so admired your strength to not only tell that story and sit with those feelings of grief, but also your generosity in sharing such private feelings with the TH-cam public. Listening to you parse your feelings about your bi-sexuality and lesbianism was instrumental in helping me understand my own. And once I acknowledged I was queer... I felt lighter, like a weight was lifted. I felt *~happy~. I remember closing one of your videos after calling it a night on the "gay research" -- lol -- and realized the idea of being queer just felt ~good.~*
And once I came to those realizations and embraced that aspect of myself, I recognized that I *do* have a future, that I don't have to spend the rest of my life alone. (Ignoring the obvious challenges of attempting to date and enter the queer world at my age, lol).
I'm still not sure if I identify as bi-sexual or lesbian because thanks to the pandemic I haven't had an opportunity to even try to be with a woman. But I'm ok with that. The right label will come to me in time. The important thing is I have been able to look at my full self. I haven't come out to anyone yet (even though my closest friend is bi), I'm not quite ready, but you were a hugely important part of me coming out to myself. Coming out also led me to understand that if I want companionship despite my chronic illnesses (caused by abuse), then I need to start taking better care of myself so that I can be accessible. So it's helping me with healthier self care as well.
Thanks again for all you do, all your effort, your kindness, your humor, your openness, your boldness, your beautiful soul. I'm eternally grateful.
*Edit to clarify:
Upon second reading of my comment I realized it may come across as man bashing to some people, which is not at all my intent. Our society does cis boys and men a disservice by instilling these qualities as they are raised. So much so that even progressive cis men most often grow up with the unconscious traits and gender biases I mentioned. This in turn does a great disservice to cis women who date cis men, particularly feminist, independent, out spoken, accomplished women with sexual agency. I hope this changes with the youngest generations. Peace. 🙏
(P.S. - I was new to TH-cam when I found your channel and didn't understand the whole Like 👍 thing and how it helps creators, and frequently forgot to hit the button. So I just went through and did a sweeping Likes on your vids for karma.)
Beautiful comment! I'm a young person and it's nice to see 'older' people share their feelings and vulnerabilities so openly. I am confused with my sexuality as well, but i think all of these labels don't really matter in the end. I think its okay to not know and just sit with it, however I'm sure you've had that time to reflect a lot already!
I wish you the best of luck with everything! :))
@@roniiowens1994 Thank you for your lovely supportive response. 😊 I wish you much luck and happiness in your own journey. 💜
I'm so glad that you were able to escape your abusive past, and I wish you all the best in exploring yourself and finding what makes you happy. I'm so proud of you! Get it girl!!
@@reptiqueen7275 Thank you for your lovely encouraging comment! 💕 Much appreciated! Best gay wishes for you too, hee.
As a lesbian who’s in love with her bisexual best friend, I did in fact tell her recently. We are waiting a little to discuss further since she just got out of a relationship, but she may end up being my first girlfriend.... so anyways, I would recommend telling your best friend if your in love with them...
Also I only recently realized I’m a lesbian and not bi, so yay!
Omg update us please
"I told you I was gay right?" We know Alayna. Literally all of us :P
"it's not safe for work, but it sure is effective!!" im dying
as I was reading this she literally said it at the same time
"I'm gonna have to make more of these"
I am down for that! Sign me in!
Wow so fun! Do some mooore. And btw while listening to those confessions does anyone felt like their lives are just boring?😂 Like gay boring but still
You fell victim to the British Sun Psych! I was born here and am highly melanated. It never ceases to amaze me how I always have my factor 50, hat and cover up and my melanin challenged compatriots seem to think basic sun safety doesn't apply to them. And that is when the English sun, that you think is weak and feeble, will kick your unprotected ass down the stairs. Sheesh people, get it together - if I can you can!!
British sun... newbie mistake! When it shines, it’s strong, it burns...
I made the same mistake and suffered on the first hot day 😂 my scalp peeled
Alayna realising she sings on this channel is the most underrated part of the video lol
i just looked at my search history, and i have just watched two hours of these video 😂 it was fun
So about the person who likes to do it themselves while their so is sleeping next to them,
First of all you should just tell them that, honesty is very important
Also I think you might be asexual maybe
Asexuality spectrum is very wide
Yeah, I would be mortified if I woke up to that without consenting to it beforehand. Might just be my hypervigilance talking though.
I was thinking the same thing. Sounds pretty ace to me.
@@jubilationcryer it's not your hyperviligance. that's all I was thinking then as well
My girlfriend has a similar kink, I'm very fine with it. Honestly, for different people it can be an indicative of anything; For someone it might be asexuality, for others it might not mean anything.
I wonder if it may be the “not getting caught”’or the “sneaking” that is doing the arousing..
I think the gay part in the stealing socks secret was the anti-police sentiment maybe? LOL that one was so funny
sometimes i would just fantasize and i would try to fantasize about men but it didn’t feel right so i would do the entire thing again in my head but imagine the man was a woman instead and that was when it felt right. however i still thought i was straight. i realize now i’m a raging lesbian lol
I can recommend confessing feelings too - either they are returning (HOPEFULLY, that is obviously the best outcome!), but even if they don't like you the same way back, it will give you a lot of peace, knowing you have said it. It's a lot easier to move on and stop being stuck in that hopeless love.
I have tried both getting it returned and when it wasn't. Both scenarios, I ended up being very happy that I got it off my chest :)
These confessions have me SHOOK
19:19 Completely unrelated to the rest of the video, but definitely funny :p
By the way, I think you meant to say: "For those of you to whom my face is new."
When I told my mother I like women, to the lady who wasn't sure if she should leave or not and was a late bloomer, she told me to explore and find out so I want living a lie. 🤷🏻♀️
I know these videos are very entertaining and often funny, but you are so so right that they are medicinal as well. Sharing your fears, the things you locked away in your brain because you were afraid no one would understand... and then finding out other people get it? That's HUGE. That's healing. That's reassurance everyone needs.
Hi! Just wanted to let you know how appreciative I am of your videos. You helped me come out to my boyfriend of almost 10 years that I’m a lesbian.. it was something that I always suppressed and had some idea that I was but always that I was bi and just didn’t recognize that I genuinely was gay… don’t know how this goes I love him so much he’s truly my best friend only time can really tell where this goes now but thank you for your videos you really are helping so much ❣️
Alayna: this isnt an advice vid
Also her: gives godamn gold advice on the bestie subject. Such a good way to go about it
This is going to be my new favourite series. IM SO HAPPY THERE’S ALMOST 1000
Ok i have a couple things:
First, I just wanted to let you know that you made me realize Im omnisexual lol. I knew I like guys and had also been attracted to genderfluid and nonbinary people too. Then saw your videos and was like “damn, I get what you’re talking about”. So now I’m both queer in my sexuality and gender
Second, I love how quirky and excepting you are. Your videos are so fun and you never really judge anyone and it feels so nice for someone like me who thinks the same way but the other people in my life kinda don’t (at least not to the extent that you do). Did that make any sense? Idk but imma go with it
Anyway - keep doing you!
Can we make this a regular series? I am enjoying this so much.
You have to make more!! My favorite series yet!! Really glad I have my own room and my parents leave me home alone a lot so I can actually watch them lol
LOVE U ALAYNA 💕
came here for Alayna, staying for the cuffs
Valid
If you have a crush on your friend that you know is Bi or Lesbian, TELL THEM! If your friendship is strong enough and they don't have feelings for you nor the desire to be with you like that they will get over it, trust me, it happened to me and i DON'T see my friend any differently than I saw her before she told me!
I like my girlfriend and her best friend…..
This brought me so much joy. 10/10 need more of this content.
More! This could’ve been an hour long and I would be here the whole time.
i was watching this video in the break room and my supervisor walked in right when you said “all underboob action” oh my goodness, the look she gave me and she was all like “no, you watch whatever you wanna watch” lol
😂😂😂
OH NO!! Well that must have been odd lol
Makes my heart happy that you know of and like Rose and Rosies videos. Ya’ll are my three fav youtubers
When you said you don't sing on this channel, the "vitally important producers!" part popped in my head and I was like... Um are you sure? Then you said about it at the end 😂
Make this a series!!! These were great. So much love to you!
Soundlyawake does a "The dumbest thing I've ever done" series and it is gold. I'm glad for more embarrassing secrets in my life!
These videos always make me feel so vanilla lol. My only gay secret is I've been in an on and off relationship with my also on and off best friend for about 3 years. It's been messy and all over the place. Last year we dated for a few months then had an ugly breakup and went on to not speak for 9 months but reunited at our high school graduation and have agreed to be best friends again and nothing more. Been that way for 8 months now.
Omg please make more of these I love them
GET IT GIRL! But like please make more of these! (I also just admitted some secrets and honestly would love to hear you react to some) And even if you just react to those of others, I loveeeee these!!!
omg i just finished my exams yesterday, this is the best post-exams gift EVERRRRR ❤️
You are a ray of sunshine. Thank you. Just raged against Paypal for the past half hour and needed a little pick me up and you accomplished that in all of 1 minute :)
So we can expect another 4 or 5 vids of this content?
I expect a solely dedicated channel
GET IT GIRL!!! I love this!!
I always read thru the descriptions lmaooo
We want more pls..make it a 1 hour video😻😻
MORE MORE MORE PLZZ.. THESE ARE SO FUNNTO WATCH UGH
"For those of you to whom my face is new...."
These secrets were relatable. 100%
Always here early for my favourite fellow baby gay
You laughing at them before reading them to us gives me happy chemicals, hope that’s not weird to say lol
1:40 as a closeted gay, i don’t love secrets.
I told my now ex-best friend that I had feelings for her and she was completely shocked, uncomfortable, definitely not interested in me, and didn’t talk to me for a few months. She basically needed space which is fine but the way she went about it was wrong in my opinion because it really hurt me. How can a best friend completely cut you off like that. Honestly I wish I never had told her because we are no longer friends. While we started having other issues within our friendship, it was never the same after I told her I had liked her. So I would personally not tell a best friend you like them unless you’re okay with the possibility of never being friends with them again.
Loved this ❤️ also Alayna, coconut oil will do wonders on the redness and dryness of a sunburn without trapping in the heat which can prevent healing.
Okay, I'm really determind to shoot my shot tonight to my bestfriend after this video
Do It !!!
Did it work?
Howd it go?
update pls ?
Or are you too busy with dating them? OooOooO
I love the healthy and respectful advice you give 🙏
hey hope you’ve had an amazing week, your videos make my Fridays so much better
OMG please do queer secrets advice videos!!!