I fee so frustrated with my parents . My father today made the remark after coming home from a work trip “ what have you been eating this week your face looks so puffy you need to stop eating so much or you’re going to get fat “ and a couple of weeks ago my mother said “ why are you so obsessed with food it’s ridiculous “ I just don’t even bother to say anything to them if they don’t bother to understand . They’ve been acting so insensitive but I am committed to recovery because it’s for me and not them . My life not theirs
It can be so hard when people don't understand. I bought some snacks that I keep in my room so that nobody else has to know when I have to eat in the middle of the night. Good for you, choosing to prioritize your health over other people's opinions. ❤️
Yes I’ve been in treatment programs that put you on a certain amount of calories and that is all you can have Even if your hungry you were not allowed to have anymore food then you were binging. Mean while I was totally underweight. There was so much more that was so terrible there. It felt like I was in prison in inpatient treatment. I have done so much better by following you and a few others. You have helped me tremendously. Thankyou for everything. Loved your book too❤️
Every time I've been an inpatient (3 times), they DROP my calories from what I have been taking in down to 1200 calories and then wonder why my weight isnl' increasing. (In Canada anyway) inpatient treatment is bullshit
Does stinky just live at the top of that cat tower thingy? I swear hes there for every video 😂 thank you for your videos as always, hope you enjoy the weekend x
Tabitha, can you please tell more about nutrition and keto? I have some acquaintances who were overweight until they start eating less than they used to and doing sports.
I find that when I’m eating I want to be fully focused on the food to “maximise the experience”. So when I do something else such as try to have a casual conversation it frustrates me and makes me panic. Also I take a very long time (at least half an hour for a meal) to eat for the same reason. This leads to me feeling very full and spending a good chunk of my day eating and yet it’s still not a large quantity of food. What do you recommend?
I experienced the same in the beginning of my recovery but with time and really A LOT OF FOOD I finally was ok to spent dining time together with my family. But really I needed a lot of food, so that I wouldn’t “celebrate”every meal like how I did. Food wasn’t limited anymore, when your brain get used to this it will be a lot more calm and actually enjoy to dine together. ☺️ you can do this!! 🧡
The only thing I can think of is CHALLENGE IT. You have identified a behaviour that clearly linked to your ED so you have to change it. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will be scary. But you can do this. Go against what feels 'right' or 'safe'. Take the steps. Eating food doesn't need to take long: chew, swallow, repeat. And if you've finished sooner than before but are still hungry: eat more. My experience is that one of the reasons we eat slowly is that we only allow ourself said amount and want to stretch it as long as possible and dread the moment when the food is gone. Also, eating slowly can be a way to try and eat less (e.g. if you only have 30min break: the slower you eat, the less food you can process during that time). The reason that you hate being distracted (again: totally relatable) is, I think, that you(r brain) adhere(s) soooo much importance on food because it's this thing that your brain perceives as scarce and consequently, when your body gets food, your brain will go like "WOW, there's food here! I need to focus my human on this very important thing". ... hope this makes sense!
Maybe I would try to watch videos while eating cause the last week recovery is becoming a challenge for me. Idk, I started to see changes on my body and suddenly I started to feel less hungry :c before I was eating so much better, now I’m getting full so quickly and sometimes I skipped meals cause I’m still full...
I fee so frustrated with my parents . My father today made the remark after coming home from a work trip “ what have you been eating this week your face looks so puffy you need to stop eating so much or you’re going to get fat “ and a couple of weeks ago my mother said “ why are you so obsessed with food it’s ridiculous “ I just don’t even bother to say anything to them if they don’t bother to understand . They’ve been acting so insensitive but I am committed to recovery because it’s for me and not them . My life not theirs
It can be so hard when people don't understand. I bought some snacks that I keep in my room so that nobody else has to know when I have to eat in the middle of the night. Good for you, choosing to prioritize your health over other people's opinions. ❤️
R.E.S.P.E.C.T.! Keep going strong! And even though your parents are not supportive, know that you are not alone xxx
I'm glad you're staying committed! They just don't understand, you're doing the right thing
Thank you for explaining this! It now makes sense why I can eat and digest so much more food when I eat it while watching a movie or TH-cam videos. 😊
Especially your advice on how to get back into rest-and-digest-mode was very inspiring! Let's get some cross-word-puzzles 😊
Yes I’ve been in treatment programs that put you on a certain amount of calories and that is all you can have Even if your hungry you were not allowed to have anymore food then you were binging. Mean while I was totally underweight. There was so much more that was so terrible there. It felt like I was in prison in inpatient treatment. I have done so much better by following you and a few others. You have helped me tremendously. Thankyou for everything. Loved your book too❤️
Every time I've been an inpatient (3 times), they DROP my calories from what I have been taking in down to 1200 calories and then wonder why my weight isnl' increasing. (In Canada anyway) inpatient treatment is bullshit
Awesome! Thank you!! Grab a glass of wine 🍷 Happy Friday!!
Does stinky just live at the top of that cat tower thingy? I swear hes there for every video 😂 thank you for your videos as always, hope you enjoy the weekend x
I hope you had a nice nap! ;) and have a great weekend!
Not being able to catch your breath can also be a sign of very low iron, which, if you suffer from a severe ED, you may also be experiencing
Thank you🙌👍
Tabitha, can you please tell more about nutrition and keto? I have some acquaintances who were overweight until they start eating less than they used to and doing sports.
Eating less and doing sports and keto are two seperate things
I find that when I’m eating I want to be fully focused on the food to “maximise the experience”. So when I do something else such as try to have a casual conversation it frustrates me and makes me panic. Also I take a very long time (at least half an hour for a meal) to eat for the same reason. This leads to me feeling very full and spending a good chunk of my day eating and yet it’s still not a large quantity of food. What do you recommend?
Maybe liquid calories would help? Things like milkshakes and sodas with or between meals?
Angie Smith thank you for taking the time to share some advice, bless 💙💙
I experienced the same in the beginning of my recovery but with time and really A LOT OF FOOD I finally was ok to spent dining time together with my family. But really I needed a lot of food, so that I wouldn’t “celebrate”every meal like how I did. Food wasn’t limited anymore, when your brain get used to this it will be a lot more calm and actually enjoy to dine together. ☺️ you can do this!! 🧡
The only thing I can think of is CHALLENGE IT. You have identified a behaviour that clearly linked to your ED so you have to change it. Yes, it will be hard. Yes, it will be scary. But you can do this. Go against what feels 'right' or 'safe'. Take the steps. Eating food doesn't need to take long: chew, swallow, repeat. And if you've finished sooner than before but are still hungry: eat more. My experience is that one of the reasons we eat slowly is that we only allow ourself said amount and want to stretch it as long as possible and dread the moment when the food is gone. Also, eating slowly can be a way to try and eat less (e.g. if you only have 30min break: the slower you eat, the less food you can process during that time).
The reason that you hate being distracted (again: totally relatable) is, I think, that you(r brain) adhere(s) soooo much importance on food because it's this thing that your brain perceives as scarce and consequently, when your body gets food, your brain will go like "WOW, there's food here! I need to focus my human on this very important thing". ... hope this makes sense!
Lara sc that’s exactly what it feels like, “celebrating”! Thanks for your experience, it makes sense that eating more would be the solution 👍
Maybe I would try to watch videos while eating cause the last week recovery is becoming a challenge for me. Idk, I started to see changes on my body and suddenly I started to feel less hungry :c before I was eating so much better, now I’m getting full so quickly and sometimes I skipped meals cause I’m still full...
Are you full or are you judging the weight gain?
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