Neighbours TV....central heating buzzing.....dogs barking......cars passing.....it's like living in a prison of noise sometimes. I've moved home, prayed for deafness, considered suicide. This video helped and I'm getting help for this. Peace and love to all my fellow sufferers
Omg Jefferson I feel for you , I know how it feels this is kinda of what I’m going through every time my neighbors play music I can hear the bass of the music and I focus on it and it makes me feel scared and anxious because I don’t know when it will stop I have also considered deafness to god and being mentally tired of it all .
@Kit Coffey hey! Try cognitive therapy for noise sensitivity. I found I was just angry about certain things and used noise to justify it. I'm much better now. Remember...we decide what annoys us otherwise we would be annoyed about something in the world all the time, no?
@Yus hang in there man. Remember you can always move, earplugs or some legal recourse? Honestly, nothing is more important than your peace if mind so there's no shame in moving. I wish you the best
Finally I found what I was looking for: fear of noise. Whenever there is thumping noise from upstairs, people playing loud music or chatting specially at night times that triggers me. I feel helpless, get stressed, consistently anxious about the noise may start again, even after it is over. I hold my breath and cant concentrate or sleep even hours after that.
My triggers are loud chewing but mostly smacking. It doesnt matter who makes the noise or when...It never leaves me! Unless you have misophonia you wont understand how hard it is to live with. Having said that, i do appraciate you sharing this video
Grace Wilson same!! they tell me i’m being dramatic but it’s at the point where even my families voices are a trigger and i snap all the time but they just won’t take me seriously. even a few hours after i’m triggered i’m still really sensitive to sounds so if they are slightly too loud its so overwhelming and i just want to cry ugh i feel like i’m being dramatic when i try to explain how it makes me feel. my friends are like why are you so angry about a door creaking or someone chewing but i CANT HELP IT.
Haha that's funny because that shit sends me into a rage too.. or I'll just leave the room. Yet I blast music loud when I can. Go figure. Them fucking lip smackers are the worst and just want to shove the food down their throats.. but man do I have self control with part. It's just how I feel.
buy me pizza I do too! Personally hearing some say ‘shh’ is what really bothers me, and it’s even more infuriating when they tell you to stop stomping your foot when that’s your only coping mechanism
Any noise from any neighbors ever (especially music with bass, talking, moving furniture, cars, anything) makes my heart start racing and makes me hate being in any home - I live in downtown Chicago and it’s ALWAYS noisy. Worst of all, I’ve become the neighbor that everyone hates and all my family thinks I’m high-maintenance.
Hi Allison. I get it. I have 3 loud kids who are my very, very close neighbors. Whenever they're outside (which is so often), I hear them. I live alone and am so quiet, but for 6 months out of the year (spring and summer) I hear them and it enrages me. People who don't live with me, say it's no big deal, but they don't live through it like I do.
Allison: Oh, I've been there. There was even a time where I was afraid my neighbors would plot against me bcuz of all my noise complaints in both Baltimore & D.C. 😞
@@victort4294 wait... im pretty sure I was raised by a couple of narcissists also was abused... so misophonia is a common response for being raised by narcissists?
It becomes hard to avoid when one of the worst triggers is breathing, rather more obnoxious breathing, that's worse. My mum breathes really loud, I've been on vacation spending the last 4 days only with her and when we're in the hotel room or another quiet place and all I hear is her breathing, I feel like crying, I feel angry, I wanna scream and punch something, or sometimes I wanna kill her, usually I isolate myself in my room and I can not wait to do that again soon
That's me everyday at school, but with sniffing today my teacher found out on my papers that Misophonia is not on there(because I havnt been diagnosed)she thinks I'm lying. And she is telling the other teachers I told that I have it that I'm lying
also im glad i read this comment and the supportive replies to it. Maybe people wont hate me and seperate me from the normals bc i wanna torture and murder my parents and everyone in my house. This doesnt mean im a fucking psychopath id rather just never talk or see them
same to me, but mine is my father's breathing sound. sometimes i found myself staring at him when he's asleep (that's when he breathes loudly the most), feeling like i was having a panic attack and at that moment i just wanted to kill myself or harm someone. i haven't come over it yet and that's kinda scary to me.
Malcolm's story is not typical. People with misophonia *cannot* control our reactions, and applying these principles do *not* work. We're talking about a pathological response to these trigger sounds, not mere annoyance. It's a sickness, not merely a condition. I've had this since I was 7 and I'm now 59. Up until as recently as the late aughts, it was seen as a character flaw; even now, not everyone we know has gotten that memo. Some of us don't even have the words to describe how terribly this affects our lives. There is no "overcoming" misophonia.
Sometimes I get so stressed, depressed and angered by little noises that I have considered puncturing my own eardrums... misophonia is one of the most overlooked conditions there is and it is pure torture.
@Desert Solitaire honestly it's nice to know that I'm not alone. I wonder what has caused this for all of us? I had an abusive background from childhood so I'm assuming that?
At this point any kind of noise gets on my nerves, especially at night, I get so angry when I'm woken up that I can't get back to sleep though I'm extremely tired. When I'm awake it's chewing, any mouth noise drives me crazy ... And the neighbors ... I hate the neighbors, especially when they walk and move furniture around. It feels like a physical agression, it's like someone is beating me up. I'm mentally and physically exhausted.
hi thats exactly what happens to me when i sleep. "small" noises wake me up so easily even though im insanely tired. did u manage to figure out any solutions?
Misophonia has affected my life so much. I lost my boyfriend because of it. I lost the relationship with my mother. She thinks I am rude whenever I have to cover my ears or scratch something just to make the "pain" go away. Doesn't matter how much you try to explain. It still looks like you're the crazy one. And it does make me feel crazy. If I could see myself from the outside and see how I act whenever I hear a trigger I would be so embarrassed. Not only do I wish this would be studied more and recognized as an actual disorder, but I wish other people would be made aware of it's existence.
I use headphones all day with 12 hour rain sounds on in the background because if I hear any of my triggers I might actually lose my mind. Sleep is impossible without them
*My theory on misophonia:* If you grow up in a dysfunctional family where you are in a situation (ex. at the dinner table) and there is constantly someone screaming/criticizing/abusing, your brain unconsciously pairs the anger and rage you feel during that situation with the sound occurring at the same time (breathing, smacking, coughing, etc.) If this happens at a young age, your brain does not develop properly and the link between the anger and the sound never goes away. It will ruin your social life and work life (you may not be able to function at work). This disease is one of the worst forms of mental illness and will ruin your life.
Ye, mine started when i was i kid and it centered around my father. Sniffing, explosive throat clearing, gulping liquids, teeth clicking while eating. Since i am now retired and live in asia, i mainly look for places to live with no loud thumping bass music thundering through my walls and #1 is HAMMERING! No construction areas nearby. As far as people, before i retired i was driven insane by hawking and spitting, throat clearing, screaming sneezing, smacking while chewing food, gum popping and cracking, sucking good out from in between teeth, loud explosive sudden coughing and whistling has turned me into a wannabe serial killer. Why do people think that anyone wants to listen to the happy little song in thier head being turned into a shrieking, squeeking, sqealing, screeching, peeping, dissonant sonic discharge from thier face?
I think your on to something here. I had experience criticisms and berating at the dinner table growing up and chewing sounds and breathing sounds annoy me and I has sensitivities to loud noises I may be different from Misophonia. I am wondering if caffeine may contribute to the problem..
But is it causation or correlation. My undiagnosed Autism Spectrum Disorder may have made me predisposed to Misophia plus undiagnosed food sensitivities and allergies may have caused my behavior problems that lead to the umplesant dinner tables conversations that may have lead to misophia. I really didn't notice my misophia problem until my early 20's when i started consuming caffeine on a daily basis.
I think I have misophonia from my downstairs neighbours. The sound of their TV or talking loudly on the phone gives me a fight or flight response. My heart starts thumping in my chest and I get so stressed out. When they are out or the TV is off, I can't relax because I'm wondering when it's going to start up again. It's an awful existence.
Time to move...this is my life and we always ask the quiet people to move instead of ever asking anyone to be quiet...yes, it is a hellish existence. And the rent is too damn high and apparently those of us who want quiet must be rich or get used to blowing money on moving over and over. So sad that quiet is somehow the issue.
I’m sick of having this. I’m only ten and I can’t remember the last time I haven’t cried or shouted.I get super angry and then I start crying so much .My brother likes to talk to his friends but when he talks and I’m in another room I can’t stand it.He clicks,talks,chews,taps and makes so many annoying noises that I can’t stand.Its so much worse with people closer to me. In school I’m fine but when I’m alone with my friends or family it gets so bad and I want to scream.I feel really bad because nobody understands and they think I just like to be mean or rude but I don’t. I just want to be normal.
Geez, that sounds terrible. I understand how you feel. I didn’t know I had misophonia until started getting triggers from my dad (about one year ago, I’m 15), but I had audible and visible triggers from my younger sister starting a few years prior. Recently I gained a new trigger from the (VERY) loud “shwhsh shwhsh shwhsh” sound of my dad’s feet walking/scraping the floor. It sounds like your case is much worse than mine though! I’m sorry to say but you’ll probably get even more triggers and get triggered a lot more in public places in the next few years and beyond. This stuff can’t really be helped with, but if you can, try blocking stuff out by playing loud music in your earphones if you have a pair. Just know and understand that your pain is valid!
Mine started when I was about 12. I’m 38 now. The good thing about getting older as you can just walk away from people a lot easier. It does affect your lifestyle, but you will have more freedom to determine who you are around as you get older. You just have to find the balance of not shutting everyone out of your life because of it.
I experienced similar things due to this since i was like 4, and like you i would be seen as "rude" or "attention seeking" for telling my sister not to whisper to my cousin when im trying to sleep. They would always get me wrong and try to whisper even lower, and that would just hurt my head even worse, so i would almost have a meltdown. Apparently whispering is one weakness of mine, like, you could've talked in a normal speaking voice? I'm 20 now, fighting anger issues and i only learned about this condition's name last year. In school i have so many difficulties too, with the little little noises my classmates make. I lost control a few times and it was awful. If you ever start experiencing this in school, try to find someone you trust who will try to understand and support you. If it affects your relationship with your family, try to help them understand you. My family now understands that i have this condition after a year of trying to tell them, and it makes a huge difference.
People chewing or any mouth sounds make me wanna get violent I’m not a angry person but WHEN SOMEONE SMACKS THERE FOOD I could deck someone and my dad chews his food so loud I can hear it from across the house I have to wear headphones 24/7 to avoid it
i developped misophonoia since childhood . i was raised in an abusive household where my so called mother chew like a cow and a father slams doors and stamps the elephant feet. i m 45 now and i still can t stand those noises !
I can’t eat food with family anymore,at work people wisening I ask them do not do that I’m ready kill them,cose me stress.Just tipping here makes me crazy.Children screaming outside or people talking under my door outside ,I can’t deal.Gum,chips,soda drinking,I can go on and on.I try defocus but get more angry.All I can do summer go to the garden and woods .Nothing helps ,I’m 61 now and have this from age 11.I think beside flying to the Moon spend money to finding cure,so many people have this condition.
@@SuperCassieC Oh, so you're on medication for your fear of noise too? Because I have to take bunch of different medecine to be able to sleep because of the noise and I think it won't change, so I'm bound to become an addict at some point... it's been 4 years.
Especially if it's a dumbass entitled parent who allows their children to prance around the apartment early in the morning EVERY DAY. I'm not sure there's a hypnosis that prevents people from waking up to this.
I remember my Grandad hated anyone eating crisps. It didn't bother me when I was a little girl However, the older I have got the more I started to dislike certain sounds like crisp eating. Barking dogs, dripping taps, ppl chewing gum and scraping of knives and forks on plates when eating...YUK I have even got angry at time knowing it's not normal to feel such enragement and have left the room to escape it. Eating out can become a nightmare
I can really feel you. Same issue. I have a lovely family and it kills me when i think i cant have dinner with them anymore. I dont know how to help myself. Let me know if you found some solution online.
Hey me too!! My sister couldn't stand me when I was a kid because of her misophonia... and I only started developping it myself in my late twenties. Very similar triggers to hers too
Everything that makes a annoying or loud or high pitch noise or heasphones get me insane including visual triggers. Can't deal with majority of people. I personally think people should learn not to be annoying and more aware of the unnecessary noise and fidgeting!🥀
Working from home during COVID, and the sound of the people that had extra loud exhaust to their cars are maddening. Needlessly add noise pollution is horrible. Even going out to hikes, I can pick up on those damn cars. So, I will practice of focusing on something else. Also, to find a new home to live where less people live.
Misophonia just destroyed my mental health. My mom was the cause. She coughs every minute with over 60 dB. It makes me very angry and then I begin to cry. I've searched help from others for 6 years and yet, it still didn't fix anything. My mom tried to check herself at several doctors. Nothing. Her chronic coughing will never go away. Few more years until I can move out completely from the 3 year torture, that I experienced and still do.
I’ve been struggling since I was 16, my trigger is chewing. Once my boyfriend was just joking with me and he started to chew on my ear for FUN and I bursted into tears... I really want to overcome it because it ruins my life and harms people I love
I think I’m going insane, I thought I was the only one who got annoyed by things like throat clearing and any natural noise that comes from humans but at this point it’s almost everything I hear, its getting harder everyday to live with people I wish that I could just live by myself.
I can relate to every one of these comments. I am a 55 year old male. My misophonia started at puberty. As I write I can hear the guy's thumping music downstairs. A couple of days I went down there and complained and he has turned it down but I can still hear it, very faint but still there. The condition has adversely affected me, and affected so many relationships I cannot begin to explain. My strategy has always been to avoid the situation but obviously this is not always possible or practical. It's a cross I must continue to bear, I am the problem, not others. Thankfully my wife completely understands and she is supportive and sympathetic. I suspect the guy who made this video is not a sufferer because as we know, once a certain noise becomes a trigger there's no going back, all you can do is try and remove yourself from the situation or do something to mitigate it like wearing headphones. This condition sucks, it has messed up my life in so many ways 😭
Misophono is horrible condition certain noise especially from people can be a killer punch iv live with this condition since puberty you can't always move yourself self from the noise thats draining me someone whistling is probably the worst one but they are others and it comes from people mostly noisy factory's no problem but people slapping or snorting is horrible but whistling is top of hate list 😢
Lately I've been having such a hard time with misophonia because no one around you know what it is and at first they'll just think you're overreacting and tell you to get over it. It's really not that simple. And I'm still really young so it's such a bad problem. My mum has a friend that would come over often. Tbh I think he's really gross. Only this year I started to realise that I hated chewing sounds, loud breathing, throat clearing and lip smacking. But it was mostly only one person who made me cry so much. It was my mum's friend. Since he's always over he eats tea with us and I can't eat In the kitchen anymore, it has to be taken to my room for me to eat it because I can't even stand looking at him eating. Whenever I heard the sounds, I would literally freak out so much I dont know what to do so I'll run to my room as quick as I can and hide under the blankets. But then my mum would come in and ask what's wrong. She'd always be really mad at me for running off. The shock of the chewing and the yelling from my mum just made me cry for such a long time. I explained what was wrong after I did some research and found that I had misophonia. Of course my mum didn't believe me and her friend just told me to get over it. I was diagnosed with anxiety a couple months after probably due to the misophonia, and I was already paranoid all the time so just being somewhere where people will be eating, id run off. The worst thing is, my friends do it too, they're not as bad so I politely ask them to stop if it's triggering me. I did tell them my problem but one of my friends basically didn't care. I dont eat at school, no reason why, I just don't like eating in front of lots of people. Any time my friend was eating something, like chips, she would come up closer and make chewing sounds and crunching sounds and I actually hate it so much because it's an actual serious thing. If it's bad it'll send me into panic straight away. In class if someone next to me is breathing heavily im just super stressed until the teacher stops talking so I can tell them to stop. It's really embarrassing to have this and be in public because you never know what could happen and everyone might think you're rude for getting mad. I've been trying to deal with the anger but I just can't. It's like I dont control what I do when I hear it. I forget everything and get away immediately. My flight or fight response really takes over and I only realise my mistake of getting mad after I sit down. If anyone has some really good tips and know what I should do, then please help. I dont want misophonia to make me so bad that I become depressed. It physically hurts.
I find de-focusing extremely hard, I can't even do my breathing exercises when a dog is barking, for example, I can't ignore it, it takes over everything, I can't focus on a conversation, I can't focus on other noises, I have tried... But I will keep trying all these things. Thank you for the video and for acknowledging this horrible condition.
Same here as far as de-focusing goes. I'm dealing with barking dogs next door to me, 20 feet from my living room. Small 1 bedroom house and there's no getting away from it. Barking is one of the most annoying sounds to deal with. I can even hear the dog's chain collars from them walking around while I'm inside my house if there is no fan or TV on, but many times I can hear it even then.
@@yearginclarke That's a shame... I feel your pain, if you own the house I'd suggest you invest on a good sound isolation system like foam, mineral wool or something.. it might be a little expensive but if you're going to live there it might be a necessity for your mental health, it would be for mine... I was renting so I finally left that place.. it's sad we have to change homes because of a dog (or better said, their uncosiderate owners...) hope you find a solution to yours
@@DCLsMusic I don't own the house, so I'm just gonna have to leave someday when I can afford a new place. Actually I do have the money, but I will struggle to get a new place due to not making 3x the rent. I work a seasonal job where I'm laid off in winter time. I had to really prove myself with bank statements and references showing that I'm responsible with money, just to get into my current house, even though I have good credit. I'm trying to reboot my life/career right now so I can make more money and live somewhere that doesn't have noise problems. Thanks for the tips, I do appreciate your words!
I live in the basement with roommates and the squeaky floorboards are so loud and constant, today was the worst, I had to leave the house, had an anxiety attack, depression, came back and heard it again and completely freaked out and got a bloody nose
I live in an apartment with no insulation. My neighbors are literally just a board or two away. And omg the constant opening and closing of cupboards and stomping around make me want to scream, pull my hair out or punch something.
@@caitlyn9972 yes totally same story Im again crying today and had to sleep in the living room because my neighbor is talking to someone in phone 01.00 am to 4.00 am
I needed to watch this. I get so irritated by chronic coughing, cans being opened, food chewing, phone conversations, but this is primarily in the office environment, where I feel things should be quiet. It drives me nuts! I have noise canceling earbuds now.
If I hear noisy conflict or a TV being too loud it makes me so infuriated, and I cannot think properly. When I'm alone and I'm listening to loud music I'm just fine though. At the same time being in a silent room with other people makes me angry too. Being in a silent room by myself is okay though.
Go and talk to your neighbour and ask him if you can meet the rooster. Maybe you could even help feed it. By doing so, you'll raise your affinity level for the rooster and your neighbour, and it won't disturb your reality any more.
Perhaps Malcolm has a completely valid point and the water feature is really irritating. Maybe he should talk to his neighbour and explain his situation. Lots of quite normal people can't stand their neighbours' wind chimes, dogs barking, music and shouting. I would not bring psychopathy into this necessarily. - - - The impact that sound has is routinely under-estimated by our societies. Constant noise is exhausting to everyone's mental health. - - We don't want people's dogs shitting on our lawn or NDN bbq smoke filling our bedroom either. A home should be a sanctum so that we can relax and sleep deeply and safely. When we feel like we can't do that because of regular banging and crashing, it's perfectly natural to feel angry and disturbed.
my god this had me tearing up so bad... the noises coming to my mind just triggered me. and the lacking life goals and just living explains so much it makes perfect sense. I've been isolated lacking motivation and lost everything in life car, job, relationship and covid hit right after. may be homeless soon. now I just need to solve the social anxiety to get my life in motion. thank you so very much
Cure: ear buds. I have this, and you have to accept that you are simply not logical and right in your head. Then purchase and use ear buds of highest class at the same moment you start feeling triggered by a noise. Use till surpass, rinse & repeat. For your life till the end. I was close to blacking out in anger with spit drooling down my lip totally black in the eyes over upstairs neighbour kids jumping and literally killing the floor. I was *this* close. Moving cured that...
@@prestonbowden I've tried foam ones for ages and recently discovered silicone ones from the chemist. They're called Otifleks. They sit so well in the ear, really block out noise and are comfortable.
Noise canceling $270 Apple AirPods still don’t keep out soft sounds. The volume has to be all the way up to drown out noises such as someone popping gum, snacking or typing on a keyboard! It’s hell.
The key is tailor-made silicone ear plugs. They changed my life when I had domestic violence happening in the flat above and a party animal having raves every weekend in the flat below. Total hell. Proper silicone earplugs - moulded just for your ears - from an audiologist are expensive - but it might the best $100 you ever spent.
All of this is so familiar to me. My husband has a habit of wiping the side of his nose with his finger. He does it intermittently all the time. It makes a sort of ‘zipping’ sound. I am constantly anticipating the next one and my blood boils!! It’s the sound and movement combined that make me want to scream, smash the television, smash the whole room up! I actually imagine punching him very hard sometimes then I feel guilty afterwards. I hate myself for this but it’s out of my control. He also tends to keep crossing and uncrossing his feet, this is slightly more tolerable but still an irritant. I am nearing my 60th birthday and this is something that has only developed over the past 12 months. It is ruining everything we do together, I can’t even enjoy breakfast with him any more! He has recently retired and we had so many plans but I feel as though our marriage is falling apart. I’ve been reading a lot about Misophonia but it’s made me even more depressed because there seems precious little I can do about it.
I have had this at times but I realised that it was largely my obsession with the sound that was most of the problem & managed to sort of talk & relax & distract myself out of it & it is not too bad now & only comes back occaisionally. But I can certainly sympathise. It is really unbearable when it gets a grip of you. Sometimes there is nothing to do but somehow get away from the sound.
I think there maybe a subset of us who get angry because the public behaviour seems wildly selfish. Like loud cell phone conversations, watching videos on a phone without headphones, booming base from cars or next door, racing motorbikes in a residential area at 2am, fireworks let off after 2am in your street. It's the closest I've ever come to doing physical violence to anyone. I know it seems like justifying obessessing mental processes, but these people are distressing so many *hundreds* of people with their egotistical behaviour it drives me nuts. It's like they are showing off how little the care for other people. --- --- I would say that, for me, getting away from the noise really, really helps. I know this isn't possible for everyone - if chewing noises cooks your noodle etc. or your have to live with your family. I moved house because of the noise and later moved my bedroom to get away from midnight motorbike rallies. It really helped. Screaming NDN moved away and it was an incredible relief. I use earplugs, fans, white noise and other measures to block out the infuriating selfish actions. - - - We can say "it's our own problem and we need to change our mental perspective" but if other people are acting like arseholes, that is a real stressor. I agree that violent fury for things we can't control doesn't help us in anyway, but some of the anger is understandable.
I do best at night before and during sleep with a large fan on medium or even high for "white noise," and overhearing smartphone conversations taking place on cheap, tinny speakers has a very distressing effect on me. On the other hand, I soothe myself by realizing that more people than ever in American society are becoming almost totally clueless about their obnoxious behavior in public. So when I'm subjected to speakerphone conversations or people watching videos on their smartphones with no headphones while at a coffee shop, I now just get up and leave or turn up my own BOSE headphones so loud (almost always with classical music) that I can usually drown out the offending ambient sounds. That said, I really am going to try to redirect my focus. That was the best tip of all (for me) in this video. It's simple but not at all simplistic. Many thanks!
its almost a year since im stuck at home because of the coronavirus and recently i cant stop feeling overwhelmed with my family because they're getting louder and louder each day, i felt as if something's wrong with me and i'm always one dog bark away from breaking down and i often find myself walking around the house trying to disassociate just to calm myself because i get so angry and then guilty and then i just want to die to make it all stop. thank u for this video, im not sure if its the same thing im experiencing right now but it gave me comfort knowing i can understand a bit of what im going through, i hope you're staying safe! thank u so much.
I think this video does give some decent advice on lessening your fight or flight response. When you're less stressed, less tired, more happy, etc. your fight or flight response to any given situation (including misophonia triggers) will be more mild. I do feel like calling it simply "noise sensitivity" is downplaying the fact that it is a sensory processing disorder, though, and while you can train your FoF response to be less severe, it still is worth being acknowledged that the problem is that it's being activated by mundane sounds in the first place. Misophonia is literal torture while it is happening and very quickly the whole experience begins to turn into gradual, unkempt trauma (which is why people develop phonophobia - the anxiety and panic just from the thought or idea that they may hear certain noises). Still a decent video though that I hope helps a lot of people. The tone's shifted a lot in the past few years from "misophonia is uncurable and ever-worsening" to "misophonia can't be cured yet, but it can be mitigated". Another thing that can help with misophonia treatment is medicine. Because part of the disorder is being unable to shift your focus away from the sounds, medicines that are specifically designed to help with focusing (i.e. ADHD medicines) can help make your reaction to triggers much less severe, and while it can't eliminate misophonia completely, it can help people who have completely unbearable responses to misophonia actually be able to be around the sound enough to lessen their normal response to it. This is purely anecdotal but I talked about it with my doctor and took a low dose of methylphenidate for a while and was able to help make my misophonia much, much less severe even after I stopped taking the medicine for a period of time. There are other medicines too (especially if you're in the US), although your ability to get them is going to depend on your doctor and your insurance coverage. I had to stop taking the medicine twice -- the first time because my insurance didn't cover the prescription and it was too expensive, the second because it was finally affordable but I was studying abroad in a country where amphetamines (prescription or not) were illegal. I'm sure if you're in desperate need, though, you should be able to find something that will work with your insurance, etc -- just speak about it with a doctor and hopefully they can help. You don't have to be ashamed of the fact that you have misophonia. It is not your fault, not your choice, and not your normal to feel the way misophonia makes you feel. Some people will not understand it in much the same way they don't understand other disabilities, but there are people out there that will care and people that can help. It is a struggle but you can make it. Also, I had an audiologist once recommend me hearing aids that could be used as white noise generators to help filter out trigger sounds or at least make them less bad. The hearing aids were $1500 a piece ($3000 combined), so this likely isn't an option for most people, BUT wireless headphones with active noise cancelling (i.e. Airpod Pros) are significantly less expensive and could be used in conjunction with a smartphone to accomplish the same thing -- the only downside being that they aren't dedicated medical devices. In school or in some work environments you may would have to talk to the appropriate person to get ADA accommodations to wear them at any time you need them, but that should be an option. Misophonia is an SPD that is just as valid as any other SPD and your success can well be tied to your ability to get proper treatment, so advocate for yourself. It can be a long, tedious, and seemingly unending battle, but you can do it. You can fight this disability.
As i sit here in my room crying because i just have not been able to function all day. Wanted to find something on TH-cam but of course i cant stand it. The only thing sort of helping is having the fan on. It blocks the noise. I do know that tomorrow will be a better day. Its temporary it will pass.
Had this since i was about 16. I am mostly triggered at night, because i like to sleep with total peace amd quiet. The sound of background noise of people partying, laughing, talking, loud tv, stomping, anything disruptive at night would mean i have to put my headphones on to tune it out. Otherwise... i would rage and cry over having no control over how nuts it all drives me. I dont mind wearing ear plugs because it happens at night so it's easier to cope with... but I'm currently pregnant and lately have been having a REAL tough time at the thought of not being able to wear my headphones or ear plugs once i have a newborn to listen out for at night .. send help 😫
It's such a hard thing to live with. If I get invited out somewhere, my first thought is 'what is going to be there to annoy me?'. So so many noises trigger me but my worst one EVER is people who make a sucking noise when they lick their fingers after eating. I can go from calm to the angriest person alive as soon as I hear that noise so when I go to restaurants, I sit there just waiting for that noise from people on other tables. Often it is something that people with OCD suffer with which I do.
What gets me is short term vs long term. When it triggers me is when I can’t remove myself. Especially from the workplace. Full blown rage. Also when my son is making an effort to avoid chewing noises it tend to be be perfectly fine. The rage only then comes when he doesn’t realize he’s doing.
thank you so much for this. I am really suffering tonight and funny enough, even though I can't listen to music or audiobooks, I am able to take in your voice and speaking. Because I am doing something purposeful, I suppose. But what you are saying is making so much sense and giving me hope. I really can't thank you enough.
This unfortunately and ironically started happening to me shortly after the pandemic started a year ago, and it still drives me very crazy to this day. I know this is not healthy since before the pandemic this kind of thing didn't really happen (or was just different) though, now I know the disorder I have thanks to the creator of the video after getting a out of nowhere feeling to do research on TH-cam after watching another video on here.
I can listen to birdsong, ocean waves, animals even barking but humans and the voices and the sounds they make and even their cars aaaaaaaaaaargggggghhhhhh
im so glad to see I am not the only one. I have lived in my house for 4 years, the sound of a basketball ball hitting the ground has never bothered me until the last 3 months. when I hear the ball hit the ground at my neighbors house its like my brain goes Into I am being attacked mode and all its systems shut down. its to the point I have to tell myself that the kid next door is not antagonizing me on purpose (because I feel that he is). I can now hear the basketball bouncing from 7 houses down :( it drives me insane and I am constantly anticipating when it will happen again.
I can 100% relate. I wear earplugs, and noise cancelling headphones all day, so I can't hear peoples voices, tv's etc. But nothing drowns out the noise of halfwits banging doors. I spend most of my day enraged, and contemplating on what I'd like to do to them. On very odd occassions I only consider damaging there car or some such thing. But on most days I find myself actually wanting to murder them.
Not sure if I have this or not, would appreciate people’s 2 cents. I’m not consciously scared of or dislike/ hate loud noises, people raising their voice, etc but when I hear even slightly loud noises I can’t physically help it but jump/ twitch/blink. I have to put a lot of energy into trying to sit /stand still and it still doesn’t work fully. This all started a few years ago I haven’t always had it. Had a knife pulled on me and some other experiences at that time so I definitely think it’s a trauma thing, but breathwork and meditation aren’t helping with it and they’re supposed to cure ptsd and cptsd
It sounds more like a startle response based on the trauma. I don't think it's misophonia (which I'm sure I have) or any other kind of sound sensitivity. I can understand why breathwork and meditation would not work. My guess is that looking for a therapist who treats trauma is the best thing to do, but there are a lot of crappy therapists out there. Find someone (therapist or not) who specializes in healing trauma and has a very good reputation for it, if you can. This is my own opinion, but it seems like trying to sit still or be quiet is the opposite of what your body needs. The startle response seems to be your body's way of trying to protect itself, and so I imagine trying to repress that response is not what you most need. I wish I had an answer for you, but I do hope that you can find ways to help release the trauma and feel better. I wish you the best.
Thank you so much for these unique takes. I’ve ruminated over this problem a lot in the decade I’ve suffered from it and hadn’t thought of it in many of the ways you shared
My Misophonia is pretty specific. Sounds from specific people trigger me. It will randomly chose to be triggered by a person, and then it will be silent with others. It is strange, anxiety-inducing, and depressing.
So relieved to hear that they are many fellow like me. My trigger sound is noises from adjacent rooms especially closing doors and stomping or dropping items on the floor. It makes my matter worst when do I sleep because I cannot relax in the fear that the noise would happen again. Nowadays I am living with a pair of earplugs and Lorazepam. I hope someday I can find an effective treatment to end my abnormality for all.
I have slept on a cold bathroom floor and also several times in a car because I could hear snoring. Unfortunately I think my two daughters have inherited this from me. One daughter has a fan going in the middle of winter and white noise blaring from her iPad just to fall asleep (she sleeps alone). I have dreamt of inventing some kind of sleeping pod that is sound proof, that would be my heaven.
I ve started to suffer of misophonia on my teen years but I found out what It was(put a name on my disorder) just a couple of years ago.i ll be keen to volunteer as a "a guinea pig"in order to develop a treatment against it.
I realized it is particularly noises made by other people nearby, specially individuals or two person conversations. If it is a crowd noise outside then I just ignore it. Or a abstract noise (like the subway or a restaurant) it actually calms me (odd?), but if it is particular single sounds done by single people, then it drives me crazy (to the point of hysteria). That added to my OCD and skizoid personality (In which I generally feel anxious outdoors and, during the day for no reason). This costed me crippling depression and a suicide attempt (not entirely due to misphobia, but adding other psychological issues).
Similar with me, I can live on a really busy road junction and it wouldn’t bother me in fact I’d like it. But an unnecessary noise, banging, rattling noises in the wind, footsteps above in an apartment drives me absolutely insane.
I hate having this, I just want a normal relationship with my mom but everytime she makes the noise that I hate I can not take it I always go into a different room. I always feel like I am a terrible child and I always tell my mom I love her even though It seems like I don't.
one thing I learned is to make it clear it's the noise not her. my mom would take everything personal and think I hated her. people just don't understand and are not so open minded. neither of my parents understand the mental pain I've been through because their experience is either non-existent or so far in the past they forgot.
Every year or two my OCD brings me new curses to make my life even harder. In the latest one and thanks to my noisy upstairs neighbor I developed misophonia or phonophobia and I can't release the tension and constant preparedness in my mind which triggers my migraine often. To hell with this life.
Barking dogs make me crazy. Been like this for over 40 years. He's right...I anticipate the sound, and get enraged at them for barking, and at their owners for letting it go on. No matter where I move, someone owns a yapping dog. Wish could just not hear it.
I seen they have these anti bark machines that are like 160$. When the dog barks the machine will throw off a sound that only dogs hear and hate so the dogs eventually learn not to bark. It's humane too. So I think it's worth it rather than go insane from a yapping dog.
@@Jessica-iq6kj These are two properties in a rural area across 4 lanes of hwy with a median. They each have 4 or 5 hunting dogs kenneled outside 24/7. No device would have any effect, unless NASA built me something. But thanks for trying! OL' Jack
@@50PlusWarriorFitness lol dang that sucks!! So it's not yapping dogs but the big annoying barking dogs ugh. I live in an apartment next to a little yapping dog and have considered getting one of those machines but after confronting the owner it seemed to help a bit. Although I'm pretty sure she hates me and thinks I'm a "Karen" or something oh well. For you though I don't know? Probably don't confront the hunter lol. That's a dilly of a pickle. Hopefully the hunter moves soon!!
@@Jessica-iq6kj Unfortunately for me, I'm 61 years old and retired. I just moved into this house in a small rural area for my retirement last March. I had no idea what was coming, or else I never would have moved here. Being a rural area, the culture here appears to be owning no less than 3 hunting dogs at a time, that are kept kenneled outside. I believe that I'm the only house without a dog. Being that this is the cultural norm around here, nobody is bothered by barking dogs but me. I looked into the local ordinances on barking dogs, and essentially, there are none. I'll bet if I drove my Jeep with the top down and blasted rock music down the roads someone would care. I'm considering doing that at all hours. When the cops are called, I'll just say, shut those dogs up and I'll stop doing what I'm doing. If you won't stop them from disturbing the peace, you can't stop me then. Guess we can discuss it in court. Sorry for the rant. I'm just as fed up as Edel Al Bazy who commented below me here.
@@50PlusWarriorFitness don't be sorry for the rant I totally get it. I live in California and sheesh there's always noise it sucks... dogs, stomping neighbors, loud rap music in cars, mariachi music, etc I get it!! I just pray that people like us are able to find an escape. I use my AC/heating fan for a white noise type sound, ear plugs (Mack's), or headphones which helps to a degree. I think our best best for people like us is to all move to Northern Alaska I'd probably die though since I'm used to the heat 😆. Or just be heavily sedated... joking. But still. So yeah maybe file complaints and get evidence. Record it and time stamp it. Hopefully this will help you come to some kind of solution!!
I just bought a townhome & all day I hear my neighbors. I get mad when they don’t leave the house bc I stay home all day. I have to wear loops earplugs 24/7 bc the dogs barking..the neighbors stomping up & down the stairs & the loud music every weekend. I’m angry 24/7 & just wanna cry
Just wanted to say I hear what you're saying and you're not alone. I'm sorry you suffer with this. I don't live in a town home or an attached home but I still hear noises from neighbors, loud voices, music in their back yard, barking dogs, Kids screaming, car engines running. I can't stand it.
Some of this sounds like bs, sorry. But most people with misophonia simply can't just "ignore" a sound that triggers them. It's almost impossible to focus on anything else and that's why misophonia is so annoying. Of course, it helps if you have some music or white noise in the background, but that's simply not possible most of the time, it doesn't "cure" misophonia either, it just temporarily makes the noise go away or make the noise more quiet. I understand the thought of "defocusing" on sounds by focusing on other sounds, but what i've read people with misophonia have a really hard time with selective hearing, and that's why they get so annoyed with certain sounds. That technique doesn't work if there are no sounds except the ones that triggers the person. If I sit around a table, eating food with my family, the only sound I hear is them eating. If no one speaks it's almost dead-quiet. Maybe I'm wrong and I hope these methods work for someone. Just wanted to write my thoughts on this from what I know and have experienced.
Thank you so much Mark, this video really helped. The house lockdown has really brought all the realities of the self which were always ignored earlier. The idea of focusing and de focussing sounds really helpful.
I'm still unsure about my condition, but everytime i hear noises that's usually repetitive or loud, (till it makes a kind of vibration) i feel extremely uncomfortable and i just want to leave as quickly as possible. Sometimes it's a semi-bumpy highway car ride, sometimes it's the speaker, and other random things like a fan. I thought i was suffering from panic attack or phobia, but until now I'm still unsure. Its been more than 8 years since i first experience it.
I sleep with earplugs every night. Still, i'm so sensitive to hearing a faint bassy music beat from my neighbours when i try to fall asleep at night. Many times, it will disrupt me from falling asleep and mess with my head in a weird way. Am i just hypersensitive?
Sound sensitivity is NOT misophonia. Hyperacusis is sound sensitivity. Misophonia is when a specific sound causes an aggrivation, anger or rage response to the hearer. Sound sensitivity, i.e. Hyperacusis is not curable in many cases, like for people with Autism or Sensory processing disorder. Hyperacusis is also NOT misophonia or vice versa. People with hyperacusis can also have misophonia. And that's a whole different ballgame. Once you are severely overstimulated while having hyperacusis your body goes into something called sensory overload. Parts of your prain processing information or your ability to think logically or reason about things practically switches off (in layman's terms). You therefore cannot truly control your reaction to the sound which is not just annoying for someone with hyperacusis, but ACTUALLY PHYSICALLY HURTS! SOME people with hyperacusis can then have presentation of misophonia as a result of sensory overload. Giving such unclear wording in your video causes those with less knowledge on the subject to fill the gaps in their lack of knowledge with wrong assumptions, which causes people to react and act in stupidity and harmfully towards people with actual hyperacusis, or Autism and often leads people to think THEY have the right to not only have an opinion on our health conditions, but we can and only refuse to treat or fix them. Not helpful.
I have pretty severe misophonia my triggers are chewing breathing itching music and sometimes talking when they are coming from another room I have a hard time sleeping and even the smell of gum makes me nauseous and now I’m so scared of being triggered that my mind makes the sounds itself and seeing my mom who chews gum all the time slightly triggers me
I go into a crowded place like large supermarket or out to dinner at a busy restaurant and I can hear everyone talking all at once, the person dropping something, the kid crying 10 metres away or the self service registers at the supermarket all beeping at once. I find it really overwhelming and have to escape from the situation and I avoid all these places at great costs.
I think living in apartments is just not what humans are made for. You are basically stacked in boxes on top of each other. I feel it gives me a deep feeling of insecurity when hearing my neighbors above me.
I am thinking of throwing myself onto the street in front of my house. Constant traffic. .. I am very upset about it, pulling my hair, harming myself physically by hitting my head with my fists. It's dreadful.
I've had headaches for the last 17 years. It's got to the point that even my Dog whining causes sharp pain headaches & I will fall asleep within an hour. Noise makes me angry & bad tempered because it causes headaches, dizziness, tiredness etc. I've tried explaining it to people I know but they don't get it. It gets worse every day. I think it's noise sensitivity to a degree, noises & strong smells give me headaches.
Anyone who suffers from this don't drink. When I do and I hear my neighbor banging on the wall or their dogs barking for hours I get extremely violent. I never used to be like this I just don't understand why people hit the walls of their home given I'm in the top floor of the building and they are underneath me. I put carpet throughout the apetment when I bought so that my walking doesn't bother them yet they slam the walls in their place its insane that people do this. Why the walls?
I have hypersensitivity to sound and movement plus Misophonia all my life. Its a blessing for my hypersensitivity to sound but a curse for the Misophonia..love and hate. When triggered, Ill get nervous, anxious, panic attack, rage, self harming, suicidal thoughts. In Jan this year, someone blast off his phone speaker right next to me which causes my ears hurting, ringing, feeling numb & clogged up - up until now. Been to a specialist, says the wind cant get through? Been in meds 2 weeks, went again, says the wind can get through now. Give some meds. But my condition still the same. This month, I got slapped 2-3x on my left ear which is the sensitive one & the hurting one. After that, my ear & hearing condition got worse? I just want my sensitive hearing back. Been on suicidal thoughts up until now. Not feel like myself anymore. The one who cause me to be in pain at first place, the one who slapped me was my dad
True. What triggers me is that I am angry while listening to this noise and my parents tell me that its not a big issue. I should overcome it. I asked a family doctor and he said there is no such thing as misophonia and I donot need therapy. FML
There is treatment... I started somatic experiencing. It s not perfect but It helped me a lot. Neuroplasticity is real. Needs some time and the right therapy for you tough
Wish people understood this. Certain noise when im under stress pains my heart- its like a pain that shoots through my heart. I will get some one to break that water sprinkler- pay them off.
@@Orangebitingthing Absolutely. I dread it more every year. It’s bad on New Year’s as well, but at least that’s usually just NYE. 4th of July fireworks go on for days it seems like. It’s almost as though people are doing it maliciously. I’m also getting less tolerant of noise with age. It’s a rough life.
Snoring, breathing, coughing, heavy breathing,chewing and more. My mum doesn’t stop I get so triggered i become over with anger and start crying- I also find myself listening out for it even tho I don’t want to hear the noise
I’m currently in this situation, and I thought I was crazy. My coworker is constantly coughing and clearing his throat. I have moved my desk and I have ANC headphones. I want to become irate at him and blame him, because it’s incessant and he can do something about it (drink warm tea, etc.). I hate it distracts me and draws my attention away from what I’m doing.
I use two white noise machines in my bedroom to help me sleep. It’s takes a little getting used to but it does help block out most unwanted noises. I’m 59 and I’ve been living with depression and anxiety my entire life. I feel that there is no hope now and that most people just don’t understand how bad it can be. When I hear rap music ( especially the bass) played super loud I have the exact feeling you would have if you were being lead to an execution chamber. I honestly don’t know how I’ve survived this long without having a heart attack or stroke. I’ve put off getting help, so my plea to younger people is to-get help before it’s too late, this stuff can be deadly. I’m incapable of harming myself but some may not be so lucky. Please get help!!! I’m going to my first ever psych evaluation next Monday. I don’t know what to expect but I’m running out of time, I just can’t live like this anymore, my entire life has stopped.
Hi Mark ! I've listened to Your speak about what I suffer from. I do not know where to find help.I live in DK. I shall tell a bit more tomorrow. Now I shall try sleep. Thank You for this very interesring lecture. Till later...good night !🌻
Low tv sound coming from another room Tv vibrations Someone breathing while I’m sleeping Construction work Traffic sounds I can literally hear everything around me if I’m anxious every single vibration or beat no matter how low it is .. i can never sleep without white noise .. I became more anxious with years.. I quit college for a year because I had noise problems in all the places I stayed in .. I just wanna die .. I can’t stand any more minute alive 😭 everything triggers me and my madness.. in a second all of my senses are awake and I can’t sleep .. my mind can’t reach any level near sleeping when I’m hearing noises .. I struggle with sleeping and doing homework and projects mostly .. sometimes I ask my family not to make any sound while I’m studying .. first they listen .. then they turn the volume on .. even if it’s low it triggers me, even more , I focus on it and lose all concentration.. it’s just sad how Im obliged to limit my family’s lives .. I gave up .. I just try to cope now .. I even stopped asking ppl to understand me they just don’t get it now matter what 😭
Please do one on hyperacusis (more global sound sensitivity), I'm dying--I have never been able to keep "background" noise in the background, also haven't slept in years and get NO help from "doctors"
Elly Xx I’m in my room right now and my brother keeps talking downstairs and it’s really annoying to me. It hurts my head and I just want to throw something, but I don’t, because I know what right and wrong and I know he’s just down there having fun talking to his online friends.
Scoobidy Poop i know what you mean! my triggers used to just be eating sounds (i’ve shown symptoms since i was 9/10) but recently i’ve developed more, my door creaks when the wind blows and that triggers it, my family talking to me like my dad just asking if i’m alright when he comes upstairs i snap at him just because i need him to stop talking and it’s the same with all my family members. coughing and sniffling, rustling of plastic are also triggering to me now but no one takes me seriously, i’m not mean or rude on purpose
Elly Xx I completely understand you. I know how it feels, if we say anything about it people will think we are being ignorant and tell us to get over it. My mom even asked me to go to therapy. I know therapy isn’t bad but I don’t need it. I feel for you. You probably have it so much worse. I developed it at 13. I really hope that nothing else will end up triggering me. The only things that trigger me are mumbling, and dishes clanging. But I can’t do anything about it. I asked my dad to get a dish washer, he said that he would, but with the dishes it’s more of when their eating and the fork is clanging on the plate or bowl. But it’s only when I am not there. If I’m where the sound is coming from the annoyance goes away. Way back when my room was made on top of my brothers my mom suggested soundproof floors. When I asked him he said he wasn’t rich. It would’ve been better on me but I don’t want to sound picky, so I only bring it up some times. It’s sad that this thing is going on in my brain and I can’t do anything about it. You probably have more triggers. But those two triggers are always around. My dads doing the dishes now. My brother is below me talking now. I really do try to ignore it but I can’t. And it really doesn’t help that my hearing is amazingly strong. 😪
I just can't do anything about it. The rage consumes me, I feel almost possessed, and on the verge of crying out of helplessness....
I get the same it’s torture.
I hear ya!
I feel u
We are here for you
I with you.
I hope we find help.
Neighbours TV....central heating buzzing.....dogs barking......cars passing.....it's like living in a prison of noise sometimes. I've moved home, prayed for deafness, considered suicide. This video helped and I'm getting help for this. Peace and love to all my fellow sufferers
Omg Jefferson I feel for you , I know how it feels this is kinda of what I’m going through every time my neighbors play music I can hear the bass of the music and I focus on it and it makes me feel scared and anxious because I don’t know when it will stop I have also considered deafness to god and being mentally tired of it all .
what help are you getting, because I tried this hypnosis and it didn't work at all
@Kit Coffey hey! Try cognitive therapy for noise sensitivity. I found I was just angry about certain things and used noise to justify it. I'm much better now. Remember...we decide what annoys us otherwise we would be annoyed about something in the world all the time, no?
@Yus hang in there man. Remember you can always move, earplugs or some legal recourse? Honestly, nothing is more important than your peace if mind so there's no shame in moving. I wish you the best
Noise reduction headphones, go to starship sleeping quarters for white no use or whatever helps. Earplugs, boxfans ,insulation walls, and windows.
Misophonia absolutely kills me
L I T E R A L L Y .
me too
Literally I'm sick to stomach from it
Yes omg
My girlfriend of 5 years voice is beginning to become a trigger sometimes and Idk what to do.
Finally I found what I was looking for: fear of noise. Whenever there is thumping noise from upstairs, people playing loud music or chatting specially at night times that triggers me. I feel helpless, get stressed, consistently anxious about the noise may start again, even after it is over. I hold my breath and cant concentrate or sleep even hours after that.
isn't there any solution for this?
Something to cheer you guys up: th-cam.com/video/4IRB0sxw-YU/w-d-xo.html
Exactly the same with me
I feel you, i am the same. I hope you are well now. God bless you
@@recsimulacrum me too, i hope you are well now. God bless you
My triggers are loud chewing but mostly smacking. It doesnt matter who makes the noise or when...It never leaves me! Unless you have misophonia you wont understand how hard it is to live with. Having said that, i do appraciate you sharing this video
Same 😩😩
God my bloody family thinks I’m faking it but they don’t know what it’s like to have it and go through the struggle
Grace Wilson I’m so sorry. I know that pain too.
Grace Wilson same!! they tell me i’m being dramatic but it’s at the point where even my families voices are a trigger and i snap all the time but they just won’t take me seriously. even a few hours after i’m triggered i’m still really sensitive to sounds so if they are slightly too loud its so overwhelming and i just want to cry ugh i feel like i’m being dramatic when i try to explain how it makes me feel. my friends are like why are you so angry about a door creaking or someone chewing but i CANT HELP IT.
Sheridan thank you 🙏 I’m currently getting therapy from my sister
I stamp my foot when I hear loud breathing and chewing with an open mouth it even triggers me if I can‘t hear it but I just feel it
Haha that's funny because that shit sends me into a rage too.. or I'll just leave the room.
Yet I blast music loud when I can. Go figure.
Them fucking lip smackers are the worst and just want to shove the food down their throats.. but man do I have self control with part. It's just how I feel.
buy me pizza I do too! Personally hearing some say ‘shh’ is what really bothers me, and it’s even more infuriating when they tell you to stop stomping your foot when that’s your only coping mechanism
yh and when i hear someone talking or mumbling eventhough im not near them mostly deep voices I FEEL LIKE CUTTING MY EARS OF
THATS IT SOMEBODY GONE DIE
I start crying and I feel like screaming but I hold it in but that just makes it worse
Any noise from any neighbors ever (especially music with bass, talking, moving furniture, cars, anything) makes my heart start racing and makes me hate being in any home - I live in downtown Chicago and it’s ALWAYS noisy. Worst of all, I’ve become the neighbor that everyone hates and all my family thinks I’m high-maintenance.
Hi Allison. I get it. I have 3 loud kids who are my very, very close neighbors. Whenever they're outside (which is so often), I hear them. I live alone and am so quiet, but for 6 months out of the year (spring and summer) I hear them and it enrages me. People who don't live with me, say it's no big deal, but they don't live through it like I do.
Allison: Oh, I've been there. There was even a time where I was afraid my neighbors would plot against me bcuz of all my noise complaints in both Baltimore & D.C. 😞
You are not alone, I am exactly the same way. I’m learning now that it is a mental response to being raised by a narcissist.
@@victort4294 wait... im pretty sure I was raised by a couple of narcissists also was abused... so misophonia is a common response for being raised by narcissists?
I can definitely relate
It becomes hard to avoid when one of the worst triggers is breathing, rather more obnoxious breathing, that's worse. My mum breathes really loud, I've been on vacation spending the last 4 days only with her and when we're in the hotel room or another quiet place and all I hear is her breathing, I feel like crying, I feel angry, I wanna scream and punch something, or sometimes I wanna kill her, usually I isolate myself in my room and I can not wait to do that again soon
I have had this problem with not being able to bear the sound of my own breathing. That was really scary.
That's me everyday at school, but with sniffing today my teacher found out on my papers that Misophonia is not on there(because I havnt been diagnosed)she thinks I'm lying. And she is telling the other teachers I told that I have it that I'm lying
also im glad i read this comment and the supportive replies to it. Maybe people wont hate me and seperate me from the normals bc i wanna torture and murder my parents and everyone in my house. This doesnt mean im a fucking psychopath id rather just never talk or see them
@@santaana2932 same tbh but pls dont ever get that thought into reality pls its dangerous, but overall i agree
same to me, but mine is my father's breathing sound. sometimes i found myself staring at him when he's asleep (that's when he breathes loudly the most), feeling like i was having a panic attack and at that moment i just wanted to kill myself or harm someone. i haven't come over it yet and that's kinda scary to me.
Malcolm's story is not typical. People with misophonia *cannot* control our reactions, and applying these principles do *not* work. We're talking about a pathological response to these trigger sounds, not mere annoyance. It's a sickness, not merely a condition. I've had this since I was 7 and I'm now 59. Up until as recently as the late aughts, it was seen as a character flaw; even now, not everyone we know has gotten that memo. Some of us don't even have the words to describe how terribly this affects our lives. There is no "overcoming" misophonia.
Sometimes I get so stressed, depressed and angered by little noises that I have considered puncturing my own eardrums... misophonia is one of the most overlooked conditions there is and it is pure torture.
@Desert Solitaire honestly it's nice to know that I'm not alone. I wonder what has caused this for all of us? I had an abusive background from childhood so I'm assuming that?
Earplugs
At this point any kind of noise gets on my nerves, especially at night, I get so angry when I'm woken up that I can't get back to sleep though I'm extremely tired. When I'm awake it's chewing, any mouth noise drives me crazy ... And the neighbors ... I hate the neighbors, especially when they walk and move furniture around. It feels like a physical agression, it's like someone is beating me up. I'm mentally and physically exhausted.
Same with me, it beats me up inside, destroys any semblance of peace.
hi thats exactly what happens to me when i sleep. "small" noises wake me up so easily even though im insanely tired. did u manage to figure out any solutions?
Misophonia has affected my life so much. I lost my boyfriend because of it. I lost the relationship with my mother. She thinks I am rude whenever I have to cover my ears or scratch something just to make the "pain" go away. Doesn't matter how much you try to explain. It still looks like you're the crazy one. And it does make me feel crazy. If I could see myself from the outside and see how I act whenever I hear a trigger I would be so embarrassed. Not only do I wish this would be studied more and recognized as an actual disorder, but I wish other people would be made aware of it's existence.
This breaks my heart. I suffer from Misophonia and I understand ❤️
I use headphones all day with 12 hour rain sounds on in the background because if I hear any of my triggers I might actually lose my mind. Sleep is impossible without them
*My theory on misophonia:* If you grow up in a dysfunctional family where you are in a situation (ex. at the dinner table) and there is constantly someone screaming/criticizing/abusing, your brain unconsciously pairs the anger and rage you feel during that situation with the sound occurring at the same time (breathing, smacking, coughing, etc.) If this happens at a young age, your brain does not develop properly and the link between the anger and the sound never goes away. It will ruin your social life and work life (you may not be able to function at work). This disease is one of the worst forms of mental illness and will ruin your life.
Ye, mine started when i was i kid and it centered around my father. Sniffing, explosive throat clearing, gulping liquids, teeth clicking while eating. Since i am now retired and live in asia, i mainly look for places to live with no loud thumping bass music thundering through my walls and #1 is HAMMERING! No construction areas nearby. As far as people, before i retired i was driven insane by hawking and spitting, throat clearing, screaming sneezing, smacking while chewing food, gum popping and cracking, sucking good out from in between teeth, loud explosive sudden coughing and whistling has turned me into a wannabe serial killer. Why do people think that anyone wants to listen to the happy little song in thier head being turned into a shrieking, squeeking, sqealing, screeching, peeping, dissonant sonic discharge from thier face?
Omg really!
I think your on to something here. I had experience criticisms and berating at the dinner table growing up and chewing sounds and breathing sounds annoy me and I has sensitivities to loud noises I may be different from Misophonia. I am wondering if caffeine may contribute to the problem..
But is it causation or correlation. My undiagnosed Autism Spectrum Disorder may have made me predisposed to Misophia plus undiagnosed food sensitivities and allergies may have caused my behavior problems that lead to the umplesant dinner tables conversations that may have lead to misophia. I really didn't notice my misophia problem until my early 20's when i started consuming caffeine on a daily basis.
I think I have misophonia from my downstairs neighbours.
The sound of their TV or talking loudly on the phone gives me a fight or flight response. My heart starts thumping in my chest and I get so stressed out.
When they are out or the TV is off, I can't relax because I'm wondering when it's going to start up again.
It's an awful existence.
Time to move...this is my life and we always ask the quiet people to move instead of ever asking anyone to be quiet...yes, it is a hellish existence. And the rent is too damn high and apparently those of us who want quiet must be rich or get used to blowing money on moving over and over. So sad that quiet is somehow the issue.
Same.. once I find that a noise is bothering me I develop the fear of when it will start
I've loathed so many neighbors bcuz of noise. It's a torturous way to exist.
I play ocean wave sounds on a constant loop
I have the same exact feeling!
I’m sick of having this. I’m only ten and I can’t remember the last time I haven’t cried or shouted.I get super angry and then I start crying so much .My brother likes to talk to his friends but when he talks and I’m in another room I can’t stand it.He clicks,talks,chews,taps and makes so many annoying noises that I can’t stand.Its so much worse with people closer to me. In school I’m fine but when I’m alone with my friends or family it gets so bad and I want to scream.I feel really bad because nobody understands and they think I just like to be mean or rude but I don’t. I just want to be normal.
Geez, that sounds terrible. I understand how you feel. I didn’t know I had misophonia until started getting triggers from my dad (about one year ago, I’m 15), but I had audible and visible triggers from my younger sister starting a few years prior. Recently I gained a new trigger from the (VERY) loud “shwhsh shwhsh shwhsh” sound of my dad’s feet walking/scraping the floor. It sounds like your case is much worse than mine though! I’m sorry to say but you’ll probably get even more triggers and get triggered a lot more in public places in the next few years and beyond. This stuff can’t really be helped with, but if you can, try blocking stuff out by playing loud music in your earphones if you have a pair. Just know and understand that your pain is valid!
Mine started when I was about 12. I’m 38 now. The good thing about getting older as you can just walk away from people a lot easier. It does affect your lifestyle, but you will have more freedom to determine who you are around as you get older. You just have to find the balance of not shutting everyone out of your life because of it.
I experienced similar things due to this since i was like 4, and like you i would be seen as "rude" or "attention seeking" for telling my sister not to whisper to my cousin when im trying to sleep. They would always get me wrong and try to whisper even lower, and that would just hurt my head even worse, so i would almost have a meltdown. Apparently whispering is one weakness of mine, like, you could've talked in a normal speaking voice? I'm 20 now, fighting anger issues and i only learned about this condition's name last year. In school i have so many difficulties too, with the little little noises my classmates make. I lost control a few times and it was awful. If you ever start experiencing this in school, try to find someone you trust who will try to understand and support you. If it affects your relationship with your family, try to help them understand you. My family now understands that i have this condition after a year of trying to tell them, and it makes a huge difference.
Are you taking about when people tak and when they open their mouth they make that snapping sound cuz God i that that
was like that when i was9
People chewing or any mouth sounds make me wanna get violent I’m not a angry person but WHEN SOMEONE SMACKS THERE FOOD I could deck someone and my dad chews his food so loud I can hear it from across the house I have to wear headphones 24/7 to avoid it
Me 2
isn't there any solution for this?
Deep Shrestha I don’t think so :/
Just the same as me
Me too!!!!!! ;(
i developped misophonoia since childhood . i was raised in an abusive household where my so called mother chew like a cow and a father slams doors and stamps the elephant feet. i m 45 now and i still can t stand those noises !
Same with the door slamming. A huge trigger.
I can’t eat food with family anymore,at work people wisening I ask them do not do that I’m ready kill them,cose me stress.Just tipping here makes me crazy.Children screaming outside or people talking under my door outside ,I can’t deal.Gum,chips,soda drinking,I can go on and on.I try defocus but get more angry.All I can do summer go to the garden and woods .Nothing helps ,I’m 61 now and have this from age 11.I think beside flying to the Moon spend money to finding cure,so many people have this condition.
The worst one for me is stepping noises, especially the ones coming from an upper floor...
Me too...apartment living is the worse.
is there not any solution for this?
That’s exactly why I’m here! Not enough xanax on the planet to get over the sound of someone walking above me
@@SuperCassieC Oh, so you're on medication for your fear of noise too? Because I have to take bunch of different medecine to be able to sleep because of the noise and I think it won't change, so I'm bound to become an addict at some point... it's been 4 years.
Especially if it's a dumbass entitled parent who allows their children to prance around the apartment early in the morning EVERY DAY. I'm not sure there's a hypnosis that prevents people from waking up to this.
I remember my Grandad hated anyone eating crisps. It didn't bother me when I was a little girl
However, the older I have got the more I started to dislike certain sounds like crisp eating. Barking dogs, dripping taps, ppl chewing gum and scraping of knives and forks on plates when eating...YUK
I have even got angry at time knowing it's not normal to feel such enragement and have left the room to escape it.
Eating out can become a nightmare
You're the only other person I've heard of to be sensitive to dog barking. Thanks for sharing.
I must be related to you.
I can really feel you. Same issue. I have a lovely family and it kills me when i think i cant have dinner with them anymore. I dont know how to help myself. Let me know if you found some solution online.
Hey me too!! My sister couldn't stand me when I was a kid because of her misophonia... and I only started developping it myself in my late twenties. Very similar triggers to hers too
Everything that makes a annoying or loud or high pitch noise or heasphones get me insane including visual triggers. Can't deal with majority of people. I personally think people should learn not to be annoying and more aware of the unnecessary noise and fidgeting!🥀
That's the problem... They don't understand that.. They be like I didn't even notice I was making a "noise"
people who don't have this disease don't give a crap about us. Don't expect them to change.
Thought I was the only one who got visual triggers. When I see certain people move their jaw as they eat in a weird manner it makes me rage.
Sensory overload. Autism
High pitch voices r just so much annoying even to those people who r not having misophonia
Working from home during COVID, and the sound of the people that had extra loud exhaust to their cars are maddening. Needlessly add noise pollution is horrible. Even going out to hikes, I can pick up on those damn cars. So, I will practice of focusing on something else. Also, to find a new home to live where less people live.
Misophonia just destroyed my mental health. My mom was the cause. She coughs every minute with over 60 dB. It makes me very angry and then I begin to cry. I've searched help from others for 6 years and yet, it still didn't fix anything. My mom tried to check herself at several doctors. Nothing. Her chronic coughing will never go away. Few more years until I can move out completely from the 3 year torture, that I experienced and still do.
I’ve been struggling since I was 16, my trigger is chewing. Once my boyfriend was just joking with me and he started to chew on my ear for FUN and I bursted into tears... I really want to overcome it because it ruins my life and harms people I love
I hate breathing, singing, hiccups, tapping and if I can see a foot tap
I think I’m going insane, I thought I was the only one who got annoyed by things like throat clearing and any natural noise that comes from humans but at this point it’s almost everything I hear, its getting harder everyday to live with people I wish that I could just live by myself.
I can relate to every one of these comments. I am a 55 year old male. My misophonia started at puberty. As I write I can hear the guy's thumping music downstairs. A couple of days I went down there and complained and he has turned it down but I can still hear it, very faint but still there. The condition has adversely affected me, and affected so many relationships I cannot begin to explain. My strategy has always been to avoid the situation but obviously this is not always possible or practical. It's a cross I must continue to bear, I am the problem, not others. Thankfully my wife completely understands and she is supportive and sympathetic. I suspect the guy who made this video is not a sufferer because as we know, once a certain noise becomes a trigger there's no going back, all you can do is try and remove yourself from the situation or do something to mitigate it like wearing headphones. This condition sucks, it has messed up my life in so many ways 😭
Misophono is horrible condition certain noise especially from people can be a killer punch iv live with this condition since puberty you can't always move yourself self from the noise thats draining me someone whistling is probably the worst one but they are others and it comes from people mostly noisy factory's no problem but people slapping or snorting is horrible but whistling is top of hate list 😢
Lately I've been having such a hard time with misophonia because no one around you know what it is and at first they'll just think you're overreacting and tell you to get over it. It's really not that simple. And I'm still really young so it's such a bad problem. My mum has a friend that would come over often. Tbh I think he's really gross. Only this year I started to realise that I hated chewing sounds, loud breathing, throat clearing and lip smacking. But it was mostly only one person who made me cry so much. It was my mum's friend. Since he's always over he eats tea with us and I can't eat In the kitchen anymore, it has to be taken to my room for me to eat it because I can't even stand looking at him eating. Whenever I heard the sounds, I would literally freak out so much I dont know what to do so I'll run to my room as quick as I can and hide under the blankets. But then my mum would come in and ask what's wrong. She'd always be really mad at me for running off. The shock of the chewing and the yelling from my mum just made me cry for such a long time. I explained what was wrong after I did some research and found that I had misophonia. Of course my mum didn't believe me and her friend just told me to get over it. I was diagnosed with anxiety a couple months after probably due to the misophonia, and I was already paranoid all the time so just being somewhere where people will be eating, id run off. The worst thing is, my friends do it too, they're not as bad so I politely ask them to stop if it's triggering me. I did tell them my problem but one of my friends basically didn't care. I dont eat at school, no reason why, I just don't like eating in front of lots of people. Any time my friend was eating something, like chips, she would come up closer and make chewing sounds and crunching sounds and I actually hate it so much because it's an actual serious thing. If it's bad it'll send me into panic straight away. In class if someone next to me is breathing heavily im just super stressed until the teacher stops talking so I can tell them to stop. It's really embarrassing to have this and be in public because you never know what could happen and everyone might think you're rude for getting mad. I've been trying to deal with the anger but I just can't. It's like I dont control what I do when I hear it. I forget everything and get away immediately. My flight or fight response really takes over and I only realise my mistake of getting mad after I sit down.
If anyone has some really good tips and know what I should do, then please help. I dont want misophonia to make me so bad that I become depressed. It physically hurts.
It doesn't get better in fact it gets so much worse.
@@jasephreedy7796 :(
Sorry
The only thing that sorta works is avoiding stress, via good sleep and ect. What is most important is avoiding triggers
@@jemelia change your environment
I have anxiety attacks when I hear the neighbors, especially their children. It’s so horrible that I want to sell our house or just run away
I find de-focusing extremely hard, I can't even do my breathing exercises when a dog is barking, for example, I can't ignore it, it takes over everything, I can't focus on a conversation, I can't focus on other noises, I have tried... But I will keep trying all these things. Thank you for the video and for acknowledging this horrible condition.
Same here as far as de-focusing goes. I'm dealing with barking dogs next door to me, 20 feet from my living room. Small 1 bedroom house and there's no getting away from it. Barking is one of the most annoying sounds to deal with. I can even hear the dog's chain collars from them walking around while I'm inside my house if there is no fan or TV on, but many times I can hear it even then.
@@yearginclarke That's a shame... I feel your pain, if you own the house I'd suggest you invest on a good sound isolation system like foam, mineral wool or something.. it might be a little expensive but if you're going to live there it might be a necessity for your mental health, it would be for mine... I was renting so I finally left that place.. it's sad we have to change homes because of a dog (or better said, their uncosiderate owners...) hope you find a solution to yours
@@DCLsMusic I don't own the house, so I'm just gonna have to leave someday when I can afford a new place. Actually I do have the money, but I will struggle to get a new place due to not making 3x the rent. I work a seasonal job where I'm laid off in winter time. I had to really prove myself with bank statements and references showing that I'm responsible with money, just to get into my current house, even though I have good credit. I'm trying to reboot my life/career right now so I can make more money and live somewhere that doesn't have noise problems. Thanks for the tips, I do appreciate your words!
I live in the basement with roommates and the squeaky floorboards are so loud and constant, today was the worst, I had to leave the house, had an anxiety attack, depression, came back and heard it again and completely freaked out and got a bloody nose
I live in an apartment with no insulation. My neighbors are literally just a board or two away. And omg the constant opening and closing of cupboards and stomping around make me want to scream, pull my hair out or punch something.
@@caitlyn9972 yes totally same story Im again crying today and had to sleep in the living room because my neighbor is talking to someone in phone 01.00 am to 4.00 am
Guys please try tip number 6! De focusing. It helped me immensely! Give it ur best shot on this.
There is no number 6. Do you mean #4??
I needed to watch this. I get so irritated by chronic coughing, cans being opened, food chewing, phone conversations, but this is primarily in the office environment, where I feel things should be quiet. It drives me nuts! I have noise canceling earbuds now.
If I hear noisy conflict or a TV being too loud it makes me so infuriated, and I cannot think properly. When I'm alone and I'm listening to loud music I'm just fine though. At the same time being in a silent room with other people makes me angry too. Being in a silent room by myself is okay though.
My neighbor's rooster has given me sound anxiety...even when it's quiet, I'm constantly braced for it to crow. I felt literally crazy today from this.
Go and talk to your neighbour and ask him if you can meet the rooster. Maybe you could even help feed it. By doing so, you'll raise your affinity level for the rooster and your neighbour, and it won't disturb your reality any more.
@@paradigmarson9586 I already shot it
Well the rooster isn't exactly pleasant. Why hear that shot when you could enjoy peace. Fuck these docs
I can't understand why people keep roosters. Self-involved much?
Perhaps Malcolm has a completely valid point and the water feature is really irritating. Maybe he should talk to his neighbour and explain his situation. Lots of quite normal people can't stand their neighbours' wind chimes, dogs barking, music and shouting. I would not bring psychopathy into this necessarily. - - - The impact that sound has is routinely under-estimated by our societies. Constant noise is exhausting to everyone's mental health. - - We don't want people's dogs shitting on our lawn or NDN bbq smoke filling our bedroom either. A home should be a sanctum so that we can relax and sleep deeply and safely. When we feel like we can't do that because of regular banging and crashing, it's perfectly natural to feel angry and disturbed.
my god this had me tearing up so bad... the noises coming to my mind just triggered me. and the lacking life goals and just living explains so much it makes perfect sense. I've been isolated lacking motivation and lost everything in life car, job, relationship and covid hit right after. may be homeless soon. now I just need to solve the social anxiety to get my life in motion. thank you so very much
I’ll be praying for you
Cure: ear buds. I have this, and you have to accept that you are simply not logical and right in your head. Then purchase and use ear buds of highest class at the same moment you start feeling triggered by a noise. Use till surpass, rinse & repeat. For your life till the end. I was close to blacking out in anger with spit drooling down my lip totally black in the eyes over upstairs neighbour kids jumping and literally killing the floor. I was *this* close. Moving cured that...
Those that cancel out most noise. When I feel the triggers I use them for the duration instead of getting into a fit of rage.
@@prestonbowden I've tried foam ones for ages and recently discovered silicone ones from the chemist. They're called Otifleks. They sit so well in the ear, really block out noise and are comfortable.
Right. I've used Mack's earplugs for DECADES. I ALWAYS have some nearby in every place I live or travel.
Noise canceling $270 Apple AirPods still don’t keep out soft sounds. The volume has to be all the way up to drown out noises such as someone popping gum, snacking or typing on a keyboard! It’s hell.
The key is tailor-made silicone ear plugs. They changed my life when I had domestic violence happening in the flat above and a party animal having raves every weekend in the flat below. Total hell. Proper silicone earplugs - moulded just for your ears - from an audiologist are expensive - but it might the best $100 you ever spent.
All of this is so familiar to me. My husband has a habit of wiping the side of his nose with his finger. He does it intermittently all the time. It makes a sort of ‘zipping’ sound. I am constantly anticipating the next one and my blood boils!! It’s the sound and movement combined that make me want to scream, smash the television, smash the whole room up! I actually imagine punching him very hard sometimes then I feel guilty afterwards. I hate myself for this but it’s out of my control. He also tends to keep crossing and uncrossing his feet, this is slightly more tolerable but still an irritant.
I am nearing my 60th birthday and this is something that has only developed over the past 12 months. It is ruining everything we do together, I can’t even enjoy breakfast with him any more! He has recently retired and we had so many plans but I feel as though our marriage is falling apart. I’ve been reading a lot about Misophonia but it’s made me even more depressed because there seems precious little I can do about it.
Thank you, Mark, I am literally beside myself with my neighbours’ door banging! I will try some of the things you suggest.
The sound of wind and MY OWN breathing and heartbeat makes it impossible to sleep. I haven't slept in 3 days because of it
I have had this at times but I realised that it was largely my obsession with the sound that was most of the problem & managed to sort of talk & relax & distract myself out of it & it is not too bad now & only comes back occaisionally. But I can certainly sympathise. It is really unbearable when it gets a grip of you. Sometimes there is nothing to do but somehow get away from the sound.
I think there maybe a subset of us who get angry because the public behaviour seems wildly selfish. Like loud cell phone conversations, watching videos on a phone without headphones, booming base from cars or next door, racing motorbikes in a residential area at 2am, fireworks let off after 2am in your street. It's the closest I've ever come to doing physical violence to anyone. I know it seems like justifying obessessing mental processes, but these people are distressing so many *hundreds* of people with their egotistical behaviour it drives me nuts. It's like they are showing off how little the care for other people. --- --- I would say that, for me, getting away from the noise really, really helps. I know this isn't possible for everyone - if chewing noises cooks your noodle etc. or your have to live with your family. I moved house because of the noise and later moved my bedroom to get away from midnight motorbike rallies. It really helped. Screaming NDN moved away and it was an incredible relief. I use earplugs, fans, white noise and other measures to block out the infuriating selfish actions. - - - We can say "it's our own problem and we need to change our mental perspective" but if other people are acting like arseholes, that is a real stressor. I agree that violent fury for things we can't control doesn't help us in anyway, but some of the anger is understandable.
I do best at night before and during sleep with a large fan on medium or even high for "white noise," and overhearing smartphone conversations taking place on cheap, tinny speakers has a very distressing effect on me.
On the other hand, I soothe myself by realizing that more people than ever in American society are becoming almost totally clueless about their obnoxious behavior in public. So when I'm subjected to speakerphone conversations or people watching videos on their smartphones with no headphones while at a coffee shop, I now just get up and leave or turn up my own BOSE headphones so loud (almost always with classical music) that I can usually drown out the offending ambient sounds.
That said, I really am going to try to redirect my focus. That was the best tip of all (for me) in this video. It's simple but not at all simplistic. Many thanks!
its almost a year since im stuck at home because of the coronavirus and recently i cant stop feeling overwhelmed with my family because they're getting louder and louder each day, i felt as if something's wrong with me and i'm always one dog bark away from breaking down and i often find myself walking around the house trying to disassociate just to calm myself because i get so angry and then guilty and then i just want to die to make it all stop. thank u for this video, im not sure if its the same thing im experiencing right now but it gave me comfort knowing i can understand a bit of what im going through, i hope you're staying safe! thank u so much.
Me too I feel like dying sometimes
This is so relieving! I thought it was me! I HATE TO HEAR PEOPLE SAY “um”! It’s everywhere!!!
I think this video does give some decent advice on lessening your fight or flight response. When you're less stressed, less tired, more happy, etc. your fight or flight response to any given situation (including misophonia triggers) will be more mild. I do feel like calling it simply "noise sensitivity" is downplaying the fact that it is a sensory processing disorder, though, and while you can train your FoF response to be less severe, it still is worth being acknowledged that the problem is that it's being activated by mundane sounds in the first place. Misophonia is literal torture while it is happening and very quickly the whole experience begins to turn into gradual, unkempt trauma (which is why people develop phonophobia - the anxiety and panic just from the thought or idea that they may hear certain noises). Still a decent video though that I hope helps a lot of people. The tone's shifted a lot in the past few years from "misophonia is uncurable and ever-worsening" to "misophonia can't be cured yet, but it can be mitigated".
Another thing that can help with misophonia treatment is medicine. Because part of the disorder is being unable to shift your focus away from the sounds, medicines that are specifically designed to help with focusing (i.e. ADHD medicines) can help make your reaction to triggers much less severe, and while it can't eliminate misophonia completely, it can help people who have completely unbearable responses to misophonia actually be able to be around the sound enough to lessen their normal response to it. This is purely anecdotal but I talked about it with my doctor and took a low dose of methylphenidate for a while and was able to help make my misophonia much, much less severe even after I stopped taking the medicine for a period of time. There are other medicines too (especially if you're in the US), although your ability to get them is going to depend on your doctor and your insurance coverage. I had to stop taking the medicine twice -- the first time because my insurance didn't cover the prescription and it was too expensive, the second because it was finally affordable but I was studying abroad in a country where amphetamines (prescription or not) were illegal. I'm sure if you're in desperate need, though, you should be able to find something that will work with your insurance, etc -- just speak about it with a doctor and hopefully they can help. You don't have to be ashamed of the fact that you have misophonia. It is not your fault, not your choice, and not your normal to feel the way misophonia makes you feel. Some people will not understand it in much the same way they don't understand other disabilities, but there are people out there that will care and people that can help. It is a struggle but you can make it.
Also, I had an audiologist once recommend me hearing aids that could be used as white noise generators to help filter out trigger sounds or at least make them less bad. The hearing aids were $1500 a piece ($3000 combined), so this likely isn't an option for most people, BUT wireless headphones with active noise cancelling (i.e. Airpod Pros) are significantly less expensive and could be used in conjunction with a smartphone to accomplish the same thing -- the only downside being that they aren't dedicated medical devices. In school or in some work environments you may would have to talk to the appropriate person to get ADA accommodations to wear them at any time you need them, but that should be an option. Misophonia is an SPD that is just as valid as any other SPD and your success can well be tied to your ability to get proper treatment, so advocate for yourself. It can be a long, tedious, and seemingly unending battle, but you can do it. You can fight this disability.
As i sit here in my room crying because i just have not been able to function all day. Wanted to find something on TH-cam but of course i cant stand it. The only thing sort of helping is having the fan on. It blocks the noise. I do know that tomorrow will be a better day. Its temporary it will pass.
I'm sorry for your experience. Just know you're not alone
I know how you feel. Maybe we can find hope.
Had this since i was about 16. I am mostly triggered at night, because i like to sleep with total peace amd quiet. The sound of background noise of people partying, laughing, talking, loud tv, stomping, anything disruptive at night would mean i have to put my headphones on to tune it out.
Otherwise... i would rage and cry over having no control over how nuts it all drives me. I dont mind wearing ear plugs because it happens at night so it's easier to cope with... but I'm currently pregnant and lately have been having a REAL tough time at the thought of not being able to wear my headphones or ear plugs once i have a newborn to listen out for at night .. send help 😫
Sniffles set me off like a bomb's fuse being blown
Me too!!!!! Especially when it is consistent, like every 5 seconds, Can't cope!! But I have noticed it only gets me angry wen my sister does it
God I'm living with it constantly every single day,,thank God for ear phones I don't know what to do.its a living hell
It's such a hard thing to live with. If I get invited out somewhere, my first thought is 'what is going to be there to annoy me?'. So so many noises trigger me but my worst one EVER is people who make a sucking noise when they lick their fingers after eating. I can go from calm to the angriest person alive as soon as I hear that noise so when I go to restaurants, I sit there just waiting for that noise from people on other tables. Often it is something that people with OCD suffer with which I do.
What gets me is short term vs long term. When it triggers me is when I can’t remove myself. Especially from the workplace. Full blown rage. Also when my son is making an effort to avoid chewing noises it tend to be be perfectly fine. The rage only then comes when he doesn’t realize he’s doing.
thank you so much for this. I am really suffering tonight and funny enough, even though I can't listen to music or audiobooks, I am able to take in your voice and speaking. Because I am doing something purposeful, I suppose. But what you are saying is making so much sense and giving me hope. I really can't thank you enough.
Thank you, and also this comment section.. It made me feel I'm not alone..
Every noise i can hear amplified more so than others its really bad and even though I sleep alone I still need ear plugs and an eye cover to sleep.
This unfortunately and ironically started happening to me shortly after the pandemic started a year ago, and it still drives me very crazy to this day. I know this is not healthy since before the pandemic this kind of thing didn't really happen (or was just different) though, now I know the disorder I have thanks to the creator of the video after getting a out of nowhere feeling to do research on TH-cam after watching another video on here.
I can listen to birdsong, ocean waves, animals even barking but humans and the voices and the sounds they make and even their cars aaaaaaaaaaargggggghhhhhh
im so glad to see I am not the only one. I have lived in my house for 4 years, the sound of a basketball ball hitting the ground has never bothered me until the last 3 months. when I hear the ball hit the ground at my neighbors house its like my brain goes Into I am being attacked mode and all its systems shut down. its to the point I have to tell myself that the kid next door is not antagonizing me on purpose (because I feel that he is). I can now hear the basketball bouncing from 7 houses down :( it drives me insane and I am constantly anticipating when it will happen again.
My pet hate is people banging doors in the flats where I live ,sometimes I just scream in anger.
I can 100% relate. I wear earplugs, and noise cancelling headphones all day, so I can't hear peoples voices, tv's etc. But nothing drowns out the noise of halfwits banging doors. I spend most of my day enraged, and contemplating on what I'd like to do to them. On very odd occassions I only consider damaging there car or some such thing. But on most days I find myself actually wanting to murder them.
Not sure if I have this or not, would appreciate people’s 2 cents. I’m not consciously scared of or dislike/ hate loud noises, people raising their voice, etc but when I hear even slightly loud noises I can’t physically help it but jump/ twitch/blink. I have to put a lot of energy into trying to sit /stand still and it still doesn’t work fully. This all started a few years ago I haven’t always had it. Had a knife pulled on me and some other experiences at that time so I definitely think it’s a trauma thing, but breathwork and meditation aren’t helping with it and they’re supposed to cure ptsd and cptsd
It sounds more like a startle response based on the trauma. I don't think it's misophonia (which I'm sure I have) or any other kind of sound sensitivity. I can understand why breathwork and meditation would not work. My guess is that looking for a therapist who treats trauma is the best thing to do, but there are a lot of crappy therapists out there. Find someone (therapist or not) who specializes in healing trauma and has a very good reputation for it, if you can. This is my own opinion, but it seems like trying to sit still or be quiet is the opposite of what your body needs. The startle response seems to be your body's way of trying to protect itself, and so I imagine trying to repress that response is not what you most need. I wish I had an answer for you, but I do hope that you can find ways to help release the trauma and feel better. I wish you the best.
Thank you so much for these unique takes. I’ve ruminated over this problem a lot in the decade I’ve suffered from it and hadn’t thought of it in many of the ways you shared
My Misophonia is pretty specific. Sounds from specific people trigger me. It will randomly chose to be triggered by a person, and then it will be silent with others. It is strange, anxiety-inducing, and depressing.
So relieved to hear that they are many fellow like me. My trigger sound is noises from adjacent rooms especially closing doors and stomping or dropping items on the floor. It makes my matter worst when do I sleep because I cannot relax in the fear that the noise would happen again. Nowadays I am living with a pair of earplugs and Lorazepam. I hope someday I can find an effective treatment to end my abnormality for all.
I have slept on a cold bathroom floor and also several times in a car because I could hear snoring. Unfortunately I think my two daughters have inherited this from me. One daughter has a fan going in the middle of winter and white noise blaring from her iPad just to fall asleep (she sleeps alone). I have dreamt of inventing some kind of sleeping pod that is sound proof, that would be my heaven.
hopefully u make it cuz i need it fr
I ve started to suffer of misophonia on my teen years but I found out what It was(put a name on my disorder) just a couple of years ago.i ll be keen to volunteer as a "a guinea pig"in order to develop a treatment against it.
I realized it is particularly noises made by other people nearby, specially individuals or two person conversations. If it is a crowd noise outside then I just ignore it. Or a abstract noise (like the subway or a restaurant) it actually calms me (odd?), but if it is particular single sounds done by single people, then it drives me crazy (to the point of hysteria).
That added to my OCD and skizoid personality (In which I generally feel anxious outdoors and, during the day for no reason). This costed me crippling depression and a suicide attempt (not entirely due to misphobia, but adding other psychological issues).
Similar with me, I can live on a really busy road junction and it wouldn’t bother me in fact I’d like it. But an unnecessary noise, banging, rattling noises in the wind, footsteps above in an apartment drives me absolutely insane.
I hate having this, I just want a normal relationship with my mom but everytime she makes the noise that I hate I can not take it I always go into a different room. I always feel like I am a terrible child and I always tell my mom I love her even though It seems like I don't.
This is my exact situation. I’m so sorry.
one thing I learned is to make it clear it's the noise not her. my mom would take everything personal and think I hated her. people just don't understand and are not so open minded. neither of my parents understand the mental pain I've been through because their experience is either non-existent or so far in the past they forgot.
@@Cheifnhookah yea I feel that my parents are very close minded that’s why they think I don’t love them
@@haleybanion Thank you. I hope everything goes well with you. It would be nice if We can connect.
My family think i'm crazy 😢
You are not!
Every year or two my OCD brings me new curses to make my life even harder. In the latest one and thanks to my noisy upstairs neighbor I developed misophonia or phonophobia and I can't release the tension and constant preparedness in my mind which triggers my migraine often. To hell with this life.
How are you doing now? I totally understand what you're going through!
Barking dogs make me crazy. Been like this for over 40 years. He's right...I anticipate the sound, and get enraged at them for barking, and at their owners for letting it go on. No matter where I move, someone owns a yapping dog. Wish could just not hear it.
I seen they have these anti bark machines that are like 160$. When the dog barks the machine will throw off a sound that only dogs hear and hate so the dogs eventually learn not to bark. It's humane too. So I think it's worth it rather than go insane from a yapping dog.
@@Jessica-iq6kj These are two properties in a rural area across 4 lanes of hwy with a median. They each have 4 or 5 hunting dogs kenneled outside 24/7. No device would have any effect, unless NASA built me something. But thanks for trying! OL' Jack
@@50PlusWarriorFitness lol dang that sucks!! So it's not yapping dogs but the big annoying barking dogs ugh. I live in an apartment next to a little yapping dog and have considered getting one of those machines but after confronting the owner it seemed to help a bit. Although I'm pretty sure she hates me and thinks I'm a "Karen" or something oh well. For you though I don't know? Probably don't confront the hunter lol. That's a dilly of a pickle. Hopefully the hunter moves soon!!
@@Jessica-iq6kj Unfortunately for me, I'm 61 years old and retired. I just moved into this house in a small rural area for my retirement last March. I had no idea what was coming, or else I never would have moved here. Being a rural area, the culture here appears to be owning no less than 3 hunting dogs at a time, that are kept kenneled outside. I believe that I'm the only house without a dog. Being that this is the cultural norm around here, nobody is bothered by barking dogs but me. I looked into the local ordinances on barking dogs, and essentially, there are none. I'll bet if I drove my Jeep with the top down and blasted rock music down the roads someone would care. I'm considering doing that at all hours. When the cops are called, I'll just say, shut those dogs up and I'll stop doing what I'm doing. If you won't stop them from disturbing the peace, you can't stop me then. Guess we can discuss it in court. Sorry for the rant. I'm just as fed up as Edel Al Bazy who commented below me here.
@@50PlusWarriorFitness don't be sorry for the rant I totally get it. I live in California and sheesh there's always noise it sucks... dogs, stomping neighbors, loud rap music in cars, mariachi music, etc I get it!! I just pray that people like us are able to find an escape. I use my AC/heating fan for a white noise type sound, ear plugs (Mack's), or headphones which helps to a degree. I think our best best for people like us is to all move to Northern Alaska I'd probably die though since I'm used to the heat 😆. Or just be heavily sedated... joking. But still. So yeah maybe file complaints and get evidence. Record it and time stamp it. Hopefully this will help you come to some kind of solution!!
I just bought a townhome & all day I hear my neighbors. I get mad when they don’t leave the house bc I stay home all day. I have to wear loops earplugs 24/7 bc the dogs barking..the neighbors stomping up & down the stairs & the loud music every weekend. I’m angry 24/7 & just wanna cry
Just wanted to say I hear what you're saying and you're not alone. I'm sorry you suffer with this.
I don't live in a town home or an attached home but I still hear noises from neighbors, loud voices, music in their back yard, barking dogs, Kids screaming, car engines running.
I can't stand it.
Some of this sounds like bs, sorry. But most people with misophonia simply can't just "ignore" a sound that triggers them. It's almost impossible to focus on anything else and that's why misophonia is so annoying. Of course, it helps if you have some music or white noise in the background, but that's simply not possible most of the time, it doesn't "cure" misophonia either, it just temporarily makes the noise go away or make the noise more quiet. I understand the thought of "defocusing" on sounds by focusing on other sounds, but what i've read people with misophonia have a really hard time with selective hearing, and that's why they get so annoyed with certain sounds. That technique doesn't work if there are no sounds except the ones that triggers the person. If I sit around a table, eating food with my family, the only sound I hear is them eating. If no one speaks it's almost dead-quiet.
Maybe I'm wrong and I hope these methods work for someone. Just wanted to write my thoughts on this from what I know and have experienced.
Thank you so much Mark, this video really helped.
The house lockdown has really brought all the realities of the self which were always ignored earlier. The idea of focusing and de focussing sounds really helpful.
I'm still unsure about my condition, but everytime i hear noises that's usually repetitive or loud, (till it makes a kind of vibration) i feel extremely uncomfortable and i just want to leave as quickly as possible. Sometimes it's a semi-bumpy highway car ride, sometimes it's the speaker, and other random things like a fan. I thought i was suffering from panic attack or phobia, but until now I'm still unsure. Its been more than 8 years since i first experience it.
I sleep with earplugs every night. Still, i'm so sensitive to hearing a faint bassy music beat from my neighbours when i try to fall asleep at night. Many times, it will disrupt me from falling asleep and mess with my head in a weird way. Am i just hypersensitive?
I get exactly the same, I pray to God that it’s quiet and a slight disturbance I’m gone.
Same problem
I know what you mean. Low frequency is the worst! Ear plugs are useless for me because still I feel the bass in my body.
Sound sensitivity is NOT misophonia. Hyperacusis is sound sensitivity. Misophonia is when a specific sound causes an aggrivation, anger or rage response to the hearer. Sound sensitivity, i.e. Hyperacusis is not curable in many cases, like for people with Autism or Sensory processing disorder. Hyperacusis is also NOT misophonia or vice versa. People with hyperacusis can also have misophonia. And that's a whole different ballgame. Once you are severely overstimulated while having hyperacusis your body goes into something called sensory overload. Parts of your prain processing information or your ability to think logically or reason about things practically switches off (in layman's terms). You therefore cannot truly control your reaction to the sound which is not just annoying for someone with hyperacusis, but ACTUALLY PHYSICALLY HURTS! SOME people with hyperacusis can then have presentation of misophonia as a result of sensory overload. Giving such unclear wording in your video causes those with less knowledge on the subject to fill the gaps in their lack of knowledge with wrong assumptions, which causes people to react and act in stupidity and harmfully towards people with actual hyperacusis, or Autism and often leads people to think THEY have the right to not only have an opinion on our health conditions, but we can and only refuse to treat or fix them. Not helpful.
I have pretty severe misophonia my triggers are chewing breathing itching music and sometimes talking when they are coming from another room
I have a hard time sleeping and even the smell of gum makes me nauseous and now I’m so scared of being triggered that my mind makes the sounds itself and seeing my mom who chews gum all the time slightly triggers me
I go into a crowded place like large supermarket or out to dinner at a busy restaurant and I can hear everyone talking all at once, the person dropping something, the kid crying 10 metres away or the self service registers at the supermarket all beeping at once. I find it really overwhelming and have to escape from the situation and I avoid all these places at great costs.
So the reason why anxiety is heighten due to noise sensitivity is because WE tend to wonder when it will start again. 👁
I thought I was going mad, thank for explaining what's happening to me & the free advise 🤔
I think living in apartments is just not what humans are made for. You are basically stacked in boxes on top of each other. I feel it gives me a deep feeling of insecurity when hearing my neighbors above me.
I am thinking of throwing myself onto the street in front of my house. Constant traffic. .. I am very upset about it, pulling my hair, harming myself physically by hitting my head with my fists. It's dreadful.
traffic noise is horrible. i live near a busy road and cant bear it.
First try some silicone (soft) earplugs. They've changed my life. I don't care how ridiculous I look wearing them inside during the day.
I've had headaches for the last 17 years. It's got to the point that even my Dog whining causes sharp pain headaches & I will fall asleep within an hour. Noise makes me angry & bad tempered because it causes headaches, dizziness, tiredness etc. I've tried explaining it to people I know but they don't get it. It gets worse every day. I think it's noise sensitivity to a degree, noises & strong smells give me headaches.
Anyone who suffers from this don't drink. When I do and I hear my neighbor banging on the wall or their dogs barking for hours I get extremely violent. I never used to be like this I just don't understand why people hit the walls of their home given I'm in the top floor of the building and they are underneath me. I put carpet throughout the apetment when I bought so that my walking doesn't bother them yet they slam the walls in their place its insane that people do this. Why the walls?
I have hypersensitivity to sound and movement plus Misophonia all my life. Its a blessing for my hypersensitivity to sound but a curse for the Misophonia..love and hate. When triggered, Ill get nervous, anxious, panic attack, rage, self harming, suicidal thoughts. In Jan this year, someone blast off his phone speaker right next to me which causes my ears hurting, ringing, feeling numb & clogged up - up until now. Been to a specialist, says the wind cant get through? Been in meds 2 weeks, went again, says the wind can get through now. Give some meds. But my condition still the same. This month, I got slapped 2-3x on my left ear which is the sensitive one & the hurting one. After that, my ear & hearing condition got worse? I just want my sensitive hearing back. Been on suicidal thoughts up until now. Not feel like myself anymore. The one who cause me to be in pain at first place, the one who slapped me was my dad
There’s no treatment but thanks for trying
Yes.. Unfortunately
True. What triggers me is that I am angry while listening to this noise and my parents tell me that its not a big issue. I should overcome it. I asked a family doctor and he said there is no such thing as misophonia and I donot need therapy. FML
@@farinafarani938 fuck... Even the doctor
Delta plus noise reduction head set👌
There is treatment... I started somatic experiencing. It s not perfect but It helped me a lot. Neuroplasticity is real. Needs some time and the right therapy for you tough
its so hard to divert my attention from anything else
Wish people understood this.
Certain noise when im under stress pains my heart- its like a pain that shoots through my heart.
I will get some one to break that water sprinkler- pay them off.
Checking in on the Fourth of July to this video. I know my people are dreading the fireworks. I hate them, too, guys. Know you’re not alone. ❤
@@Orangebitingthing Absolutely. I dread it more every year. It’s bad on New Year’s as well, but at least that’s usually just NYE. 4th of July fireworks go on for days it seems like. It’s almost as though people are doing it maliciously. I’m also getting less tolerant of noise with age. It’s a rough life.
@@tbc9096 yeah, it does get worse with age. And I hope we both get pouring rain for new years. Why can't people just chill out??
@@Orangebitingthing Right! I hope for rain every 4th of July but it never seems to happen, unfortunately
Snoring, breathing, coughing, heavy breathing,chewing and more. My mum doesn’t stop I get so triggered i become over with anger and start crying- I also find myself listening out for it even tho I don’t want to hear the noise
I definitely need to get rid of these loud noises in my head altogether,I need that help from this video only!!
I’m currently in this situation, and I thought I was crazy. My coworker is constantly coughing and clearing his throat. I have moved my desk and I have ANC headphones. I want to become irate at him and blame him, because it’s incessant and he can do something about it (drink warm tea, etc.). I hate it distracts me and draws my attention away from what I’m doing.
I use two white noise machines in my bedroom to help me sleep. It’s takes a little getting used to but it does help block out most unwanted noises.
I’m 59 and I’ve been living with depression and anxiety my entire life. I feel that there is no hope now and that most people just don’t understand how bad it can be. When I hear rap music ( especially the bass) played super loud I have the exact feeling you would have if you were being lead to an execution chamber. I honestly don’t know how I’ve survived this long without having a heart attack or stroke.
I’ve put off getting help, so my plea to younger people is to-get help before it’s too late, this stuff can be deadly. I’m incapable of harming myself but some may not be so lucky. Please get help!!!
I’m going to my first ever psych evaluation next Monday. I don’t know what to expect but I’m running out of time, I just can’t live like this anymore, my entire life has stopped.
I hate when people play music too loud when my little brother was young when he sniffed it grated with me
I hate to be that guy but if I hear someone smacking you bet I will turn up the music load smacking drives me insane I hate it
Hi Mark ! I've listened to Your speak about what I suffer from. I do not know where to find help.I live in DK. I shall tell a bit more tomorrow. Now I shall try sleep. Thank You for this very interesring lecture. Till later...good night !🌻
Thank you for this. It sounds like something that could work, at least in part, for me. My hopes are high! Especially tip number 4.
Did you try it?
Instructions unclear. I am now deaf.
Low tv sound coming from another room
Tv vibrations
Someone breathing while I’m sleeping
Construction work
Traffic sounds
I can literally hear everything around me if I’m anxious every single vibration or beat no matter how low it is .. i can never sleep without white noise .. I became more anxious with years.. I quit college for a year because I had noise problems in all the places I stayed in .. I just wanna die .. I can’t stand any more minute alive 😭 everything triggers me and my madness.. in a second all of my senses are awake and I can’t sleep .. my mind can’t reach any level near sleeping when I’m hearing noises .. I struggle with sleeping and doing homework and projects mostly .. sometimes I ask my family not to make any sound while I’m studying .. first they listen .. then they turn the volume on .. even if it’s low it triggers me, even more , I focus on it and lose all concentration.. it’s just sad how Im obliged to limit my family’s lives .. I gave up .. I just try to cope now .. I even stopped asking ppl to understand me they just don’t get it now matter what 😭
Please do one on hyperacusis (more global sound sensitivity), I'm dying--I have never been able to keep "background" noise in the background, also haven't slept in years and get NO help from "doctors"
what about when basically every sound any of your family makes annoys you..? I have this SO BAD and it's incredibly hard to be around my family...
Hannah Wenger same.... it’s really hard
me too mine has got a lot worse recently due to quarantine i think or it’s just getting genuinely worse
Elly Xx I’m in my room right now and my brother keeps talking downstairs and it’s really annoying to me. It hurts my head and I just want to throw something, but I don’t, because I know what right and wrong and I know he’s just down there having fun talking to his online friends.
Scoobidy Poop i know what you mean! my triggers used to just be eating sounds (i’ve shown symptoms since i was 9/10) but recently i’ve developed more, my door creaks when the wind blows and that triggers it, my family talking to me like my dad just asking if i’m alright when he comes upstairs i snap at him just because i need him to stop talking and it’s the same with all my family members. coughing and sniffling, rustling of plastic are also triggering to me now but no one takes me seriously, i’m not mean or rude on purpose
Elly Xx I completely understand you. I know how it feels, if we say anything about it people will think we are being ignorant and tell us to get over it. My mom even asked me to go to therapy. I know therapy isn’t bad but I don’t need it. I feel for you. You probably have it so much worse. I developed it at 13. I really hope that nothing else will end up triggering me. The only things that trigger me are mumbling, and dishes clanging. But I can’t do anything about it. I asked my dad to get a dish washer, he said that he would, but with the dishes it’s more of when their eating and the fork is clanging on the plate or bowl. But it’s only when I am not there. If I’m where the sound is coming from the annoyance goes away. Way back when my room was made on top of my brothers my mom suggested soundproof floors. When I asked him he said he wasn’t rich. It would’ve been better on me but I don’t want to sound picky, so I only bring it up some times. It’s sad that this thing is going on in my brain and I can’t do anything about it. You probably have more triggers. But those two triggers are always around. My dads doing the dishes now. My brother is below me talking now. I really do try to ignore it but I can’t. And it really doesn’t help that my hearing is amazingly strong. 😪