Married for 18 years and my husband has a doctorate degree in malice keeping. He keeps malice for months. At first, I always beg him to forgive even if I am not at fault, but I stopped begging. His family aee not helping matters because they don't see anything wrong with him keeping malice for months, they cook and snmend to him because he stops eating my food. He keeps malice at every single chance he can get. I am now ficusing on taking care of my children and myself instead of wasting my time begging
Please focus on yourself. Dress and go out, have fun. It's good he's not eating your food, you don't have to stress out yourself about what to cook for dinner and when he come to his senses, still don't focus on him. Just pray and ask God for direction
That's marriage tortures not really good for you woman 😢😢😢because there is always something quarrelling about in marriage but not malice don't let fay break before settling the matter
And it was Yvonne who was ready for marriage, but physically interacted with the very man for 14 years in body soul and spirit, BUT NEVER KNEW HIM? Most of you are not helping Yvonne at all to assimilate her wrong attitude and other lapses viz marriage or whichever relationship or individual understanding about humanity. And this is why she has even adopted the suicidal mentality about I WILL NO MORE GO FOR LOVE. I WILL GO FOR MONEY. SHE HAS NO CONCERN ABOUT CHARACTER, BUT SHE STLL WANTS HER HUSBAND BACK, BECAUSE ACCORDING TO HER HE IS A GOOD MAN. Were her husband the character most of you believe he is, would Yvonne be implying and insinuating that she wants to go back into his arms??? You people better prefer logic to emotion. YVONNE, YOU NEED TO DELETE THAT YUL EDOCHIE AND JUDY AUSTIN MENTALITY OUT OF YOUR PSYCHE, AND STOP MASKING YOUR AVOIDABLE FAULTS AND OTHER LAPSES WITH WHAT YOU ARE FEIGNING AS MALICE. TRUTH KNOWS NO BARRIER!!!
Clearly the husband is a chronic bachelor, notice he was already 43 when he married. He saw the opportunity to go back to his bachelor life and he seized it.
@suzzybabe5812 My dear sister, God bless you for this your observation !! The best comment so far!! The man can’t cope with marital life As you said he is used to being single!!😟😟
@@bolu101 you hit the nail on the head. Period. Not every friend will work in marriage, we make friends with all kinds of people but marriage requires a special type of compatibility to float.
Most of the time honestly....the best friendships will crumble in an amorous relationship, not to talk of marriage. Especially as we all expect marriage to be a certain way😢
I don't know these people but I have been married for 12 years now. Here's my humble 2 cents: 1) the husband seems to have dismissive attachment style. The wife seems to have anxious attachment style. We develop these during early childhood. People with dismissive attachment style will retreat into a tiny boat and ruminate in the middle of a mental ocean while being physically present. But they travel so far away in their minds... that they don't know how to come back to their partners and arrange things. Hence, the rate of divorce of this attachment style. 2) The lady was unaware of how to position herself in the marriage and might have been a bit too abrasive with the husband. Men tend to take what their wives say as a sign of praise, respect or an attack on their virility. It would seem that he got tired of feeling like the buddy/ husband who made less money and started feeling contempt towards her. Since he detached from her to save his fractured ego, he also detached from their child as the ultimate punishment towards the wife. Rather petty indeed. Watch him have another child and be a present father to that child. 3) My husband often asks for my point of view. I have learnt over the years that I tended to overstep and would start giving unsolicited advice/solutions. So now when he wants to share something I ask him: "wait, before you start, do you need me to just listen, empathize, tell you what I would do, tell you what I see or do you want to brainstorm solutions? I cannot tell you how his face brightens when he hears me say this.
Out of all the comments,nah this make sense pass,see they were at the early stage of marriage, So things like that tends to happen,that's when they tend to learn how to bond together,the woman just park her bags an ran away... Instead learning how to talk with her husband without insulting him, marriage no be Romeo and Juliet.some marriage need at least the first one year or 2 to understand each other..if she came from a home with mother figure,she will understand there is a far difference between friendship, relationship and marriage... marriage requires work and attitude improvement..The man haven't voice out his own side so I not quick to judge,but haba ,una wey dey married for long una dey insult una husband for argument? But she said it in her video and the husband always warn her that he didn't like it, and she boldly said the husband should like it,that it's part of friendship...and pple saying he wasn't ready for marriage...
I'm the dissmisive type and a female and I've never seen such a great analogy of my mental state, thank you. I broke up with my partner and baby's father of 9 years a year ago because I was completely blind to myself and how I made people feel. My partner was anxious, I believe, but lacks ability to properly verbalise what is going on with him, I say I believe because we didn't go for counseling, partly because he didn't raise it and I was going to have to pay for it. I still don't know where I stand with that relationship.
My husband was just like that before, he'll neither talk to me nor eat my food when we have issues; I'll even apologize, when I'm not even at fault 😂......he can keep malice for one or two weeks straight 😢 It got to a point.....i just stopped apologizing 😅 soon, he'll come back to himself, after getting tired of eating junks...... He'll now confess to me, how he suffered' not eating good food for weeks 😂😂 He stopped doing that now, cos' he knows i no go send am......na to dey enjoy 'ME' time o 😂 But, he's such a wonderful man; whilst he's on his hunger strike, he'll still stock up the house with groceries ❤ My point here is: Malice keeping is a cheap blackmail 👌 The thing stopped when i stopped giving in to it...... I'll just see it as' him going on a 2wks break 😂 Our marriage will be 17yrs tomorrow (June 16)
Because she's probably lying 🤥🤥🤥🤥. I was on her side before but she has been repeating this story for ages...... When she's not a witch haba....the way she runs the guy down on social media at every opportunity she gets is ridiculous
I was the one keeping malice because I learnt it from my mother. My husband sat me down and said if I ever try it again, that will be the end of it. I believe we learn malice from somewhere.. and it's not a good way to live.
wetin you no go chop as a rich man, na from the time wey you never get you go refuse am. not after marriage, should have discussed it and probably stopped it before marriage. overall, their communication got restricted because of marriage. she married a friend not a boss.
Weldone again Neze❤ 1. The man was very insecure 2. The man is a boy age does not equal maturity 3. What you cannot tolerate in friendship, dating say it and if you still cannot take it, forget. If they call you mumu before marriage and you laughed then continue to laugh after marriage 4. Malice 😂😂😂 that man is not fit to be in marriage 5. As much as one is not advocating divorce, marriage is not a jail sentence. You cannot force anyone to want you. If the man refuse to be a man or vice versa..... Vamoose 6. All said and done in this case, . Yvonne could you have been more patient? 😵
Am glad she did not care what society thought of her leaving their matrimonial home. I am happy that she thought of herself first and her baby's well being.
The truth is how long will she have condoned it. She has to keep breaking the ice. She will always be at his mercy. Keeping malice is an emotional game and it is draining most especially for an extrovert like Yvonne.
Exactly, it’s like when you are dating yourself in a relationship, you always have to initiate everything, at some point you have to choose yourself first and let the person go.
Am married for 6 years now, and during my 1st year i packed my bag 3 times and went back home ones. My family didnt support my action but they didnt send me back to my husband house immediately. My dad had to call for a meeting between both families and we trashed things out, and now we look back and laugh at our stupidity and we understand each other much much better now.
First few years are usually the toughest. Marriage just like other human endeavors gets better with more experience and a better understanding of the craft
I feel for her. I know by now the man is regretting the whole thing. The man couldn't handle marriage issues. But didn't she see that aspect of his life as a malice keeper before marrying him. You are friends with someone for 14 years yet you couldn't be his wife for 2 years. I think both of them has too much ego. They couldn't conquer themselves for their marriage to work. But what crime did the baby commit that the father couldn't go and welcome his child. He didn't know how to face his wife I guess.
Some men are not cut out for matrimony and child rearing they are so into themselves, though they can be charming, pleasant and friendly, but once you get closer you begin to see the selfishness and lack of self esteem leading to malice and silent treatment which is a killer of relationship
Neze, mothers are very crucial in those early years of marriage if not for my mother, may God bless her soul we almost crashed our marriage even before we started because we were preparing for the church wedding and she was in her first trimester I couldn't stand all the pregnancy wahala and I getting irritated by it, my mother called me me and talked some sense into me and that was it. We made amend since then we've been living happily and managing our differences for 20 years and counting.
Sadly, i do not think the husband was ever in love with her to begin with. Marriage is not easy at all, and only the strong survive their marriages( it is not for the weak)
He was in love with her but ego, pride and unforgivenes stood in the way. For her it was pride, insubordination (lack of submission) and impatience or willingness to teach him or help him.
@@chrisokoboh7472 You said it all my brother. Not every man is that humble to show love when his wife is showing insubordination especially when the woman can fend for herself.
My ex was 5.5years older than me. As soon as his mummy died in 2018 in another continent he started keeping malice with me. He kept malice for 12 calender months. But when I cook he eats the food that I am providing and cooking as a sign of doing me a favour. Hehehe 😁😁. Eventually the marriage ended irrevocably in 2019. Gentlemen and gentleladies. Keeping malice with a spouse is emotional and Psychological abuse. It can lead the person to a mental breakdown. Men grow up. Anytime the woman is a provider and the man is a beneficiary some men become resentful. I will never advice anybody. It was hell. But now I'm good I'm healing and I am moving on.
She was "too good" for him and he knew it..i think he realised she wasn't in his league and he couldn't pull himself up enough to match her so he kept withdrawing into his shell
In my opinion, no one is too good for another. Each person has his or her weaknesses. That said, going by her story, the man may have felt too insecure, and that affected him psychologically. He could have done better. Yvonne, although I can not fault her as much, could have managed the situation better as well.
Very short marriage for me too at the exception that I actually started financially supporting our marriage thinking he needed space to find a befitting carrier and elevate himself. It all ended by him giving me an ultimatum to give up on my business and drive Uber to help him with bills 🙈 No brainer 😂
You see Yvonne has grown up with no mother, of course that love and attention was missed. Marriage was her safe heaven, that man just needed to give her attention and care... Period.
For a man that didn't care you walked out of his house, never bothered to call, visit or even mention your name anywhere....... I don't think so. I know he's in a better place. Don't get this twisted. He's balling. He didn't lose nada !
I always knew tht there’s an actress called Yvonne Jegede but I never knew anything about her. I must say I’m pleasantly surprised after watching this video. Yvonne seems like such a lovely, down to earth person. I like her.
I don't think this was just a game of pride, for someone not to take responsibility of his child, it says a lot about who he was in that marriage. It was more than a battle of egos. That man would have crushed that marriage either way
I totally agree 👍 Some marriages are meant to never happen.! Like, how in the world can one cope with a man who intentionally chooses to be a sperm donor and absolutely nothing more ???
Your opinion is very valid Neze. Honestly there is a big difference between no-marriage friendship and marriage friendship. I honestly believe that the guy loves his wife but just held his pride and ego above love. The fact that he is not speaking does not mean he is not dying inside.
No! she doesn't look proud but very vocal and extremely playful. However, everyone has an element of pride. Unfortunately, when a woman makes more money, there's always a big problem. Everything she does is perceived as pride by her husband ! Even her humility is seen as pride. However, the marriage would have survived if she had tried playing the malice game and also continued being the first to break the silence (cos I know she was tired of being the first to talk to him after every disagreement). I hope they reconcile because she seems to have loved him and wished they could even still be friends.
An insecure man is an insecure man. I've been on both sides of this issue. It's really crazy though. Her story sounds so much like mine. Some men change completely once the label changes.
And that's exactly the case here.. Over familiarity breeds contempt... Some guys are meant to be friend-zoned for life.! They would still be friends till date, if they didn't erroneously marry each other.😊
My soon to be ex-husband didn't speak to me for all of the 9 months I was pregnant with his child. I went into labor, told him I was calling a friend to take me to the hospital, went in, gave birth, and named my daughter. Granted he came later after the fact; I couldn't get over that pain. Sometimes, the emotional absence is worse than physical pain. Every situation is different, but peace of mind is worth more than a marriage. Stress is a killer.
There are certain words I would never say to my house help, let alone my husband. In marriage, we learn to adjust to each other. Let consider each other's feelings in marriage please
With the insults part right? I was saying that playfully insult people is not right just because they don’t tell you to stop doesn’t mean you should continue. From her explanation The husband wasn’t empathetic towards her as well.
@@canesugar911 But she said in the interview that she is the one that playfully insults her husband. She didn’t say her husband insults her. Una sef lol
Marry your friend marry your friend now look at. As a man how u treat ur wife while pregnant shows the level of your love, commitment, respect and empathy. I love her strength to walk away from a toxic environment for her peace.
@@KehindeOmikunle said what well,the you hear where yvonne said to her husband you dey crazy,and expect him to be ok with it,please if nah man dey tell him wife you are crazy almost every day,wont you say the man is still toxic, if the man react its toxic,he kept silent nah toxic,not forgeting that she never had a mother figure who was suppose to teach her about marriage, you dont support both party untill you live with them.silent kills marriage faster but an adult can not just go silent just like that.
@iykedesignworld7287 so where is the place of communication? He can tell his wife what he likes and what he doesn't like and mind you. There is no dictionary for a perfect marriage. Everyone's makes what he or she wants. I know what I am referring to, saying, " You have said it well," keeping malice in a marriage. Who does that help.
It’s not easy been in a relationship with a man that keeps malice. I dated one years back and he almost drove me crazy. We would have little misunderstandings and settle but this guy will take days to come back to his usual self. It’s draining abeg. You will not understand except you’ve been there.😢
💯 Exactly.! There are different levels to this malice keeping thing.. If he doesn't give a sh!t about her even when she leaves the house pregnant for the entire day... Abeg na how pelzin wan take cope with such gross negligence?
Its not just draining alone. It can choke life out of you! Imagine enjoying yourself and having a good time outside and then you come back home and immediately the atmosphere changes and become heavy and dark because of malice
I can only speak from experience when I say in my case that I made more than my husband. In fact, he didn't work. However, no one would have ever known that he didn't work, because I would never tell anyone. I was more than respectful, I worked 12 hours overnight, came home in the morning and cooked breakfast for him, I cleaned the house and washed his clothes. I never withheld myself from him. If he handled money better, then he could have even been in charge of the finances. I tried and did as much as I could as long as I could. But he didn't want to work because he couldn't find a job making more than me. 🤔 So finally, I had taken all that I was going to take and all that I could. He later told my father that everything was his fault, and that I couldn't have been a better wife! I believe that when some guys feel less than and disrespected, it is personal! Their self-esteem and pride have gotten the best of him!
Hahahaha that was my husband (my friend) in our early days. He had school cert in malice keeping in those days. It pained me so much until one day he bragged about the certificate. lol 😝. That’s when I understood what I was dealing with. I quickly went into training and got an upgraded certificate in malice keeping (fake it till you make it), that type you sing songs along, infact by the time I was done with the training I couldn’t even recognize myself and my new acting skills 😂. Bam 💥 it worked. My husband was cured completely. Hahahaha 😂
You can only save something if both parties are willing to do the work. No third party should force 2 grown adults to be together. And even if there was love, i doubt it would have been enough to keep them. They were better off as friends.
Thanks my dear Barriater Neze. I have been waiting for your take on this. Now here's my $0.2! Love and relationship is a 2 way traffic, a give and take. If you're a man or woman who can't be vulnerable or support your partner all either emotionally or otherwise, then maybe that relationship is lopsided. One thing that ruins lives like cancer is anger. Each relationship is unique as each human. The long and short here is I think she's smart, knows what she wants therefore understands her non-negotiables. She's not wrong for doing what works for her and her situationship
My thoughts exactly! He gives the vibes of an abuser & eventually I think he would've began getting physical with her. I also see him as a mama's boy who loves to throw silent tantrums & if he doesn't get his way he acts out by going cold on her & shutting her out! Very insecure & immature individual! Yvonne's better off without him. She's beautiful with such a loving & sweet spirit to sit there & allow such a bitter man to destroy her & her child! God will lead her to her soul mate in his own time. All the best Yvonne & thank you Barr. Neze for your, as usual, wonderful & captivating delivery! 🙏🥰
Look @ how he abandoned her even before she gave birth & totally disappeared after seeing his child only once! 😲 Who does that?!🤔😔 I'm just happy that she didn't allow this experience to make her a bitter person. Up! Up! Up my sister...🇳🇬🇯🇲🙏🥰
It is better to pack and leave in peace. Abuse comes in different forms..personally, I can not make an insultive joke to my husband because I do not like it.
Neze has so much wisdom. School indeed is not scam. I watched the podcast, and I'm glad she didn't escalate the matter the way other bloggers have. Yvonne only went to that podcast to promote her movie.
True, the first year of my marriage, I packed my things out of the marriage more than 5 times. Then hubby will plead and then unpack the box, for those times 😅😅. Uptill a point he had to ask 'how come it doesn't take you 5mins to pack a language that takes him more than an hour to unpack"😅 20years and still counting, where I won start to pack 😂😂😂. Marriage e no easy oooo, but if you are able to navigate, e sweet die Wella
Greetings from Kenya! I never knew a man like me would be caught up listening to gossips..😂😂 the way you narrate is pure genius and your beauty! Have listened to stories about many that i don't know and got captured.😂
@@jaytee2021 ever since I came across her channel, my gangster points went down... 😂 Namskizanga tu on the low low. Nikisema hawa wasichana wanataka kuolewa mbona siwaoni?😂
The man did not love her,he was just for her money. He would have visited when she came back. Or even called to wish her safe delivery or congratulations for the sake of the child. The wife would have forgiven him for the sake of the child if he checked his child,he is heartless for abandoning his child. By the time he wakes up from sleep it might be too late. God please give her the strength to rise this child to be successful in life and give the husband long life to see and feel the pains of an abandoned child to leave you when you need care/help or support.🙏🏽🙏🏽
Yvonne shared the same story on a podcast recently and some Twitter citizens didn't let us hear word, with vloggers editing out the part where she mentioned finance and making it about gender and money. Barrister Neze, I agree with everything you said about the absence of their mothers. The situation could have been resolved by an elderly person thst both parties respect. 🌺🌺🌺 When I entered a relationship with my long term friend, the dynamics changed 360 like Yvonne's case. My friend and partner felt like I was intimidating him because I asked "too many questions and he didn't feel comfortable" he said he feels "less confident".... meanwhile he had always stated that one of the reason he was attracted to me was my intelligence, as he is sapiosexual (i.e attracted to highly cerebral people). Mind you, this person is equally very intelligent, focused and ambitious.... people thought we were perfect match. I admired him so much and looked up to him for answers, as I am naturally inquisitive since childhood. We eventually apologized to one another and ironed things out because we are both flawed and not perfect. But we are now back to being friends. 🌺🌺🌺🌺 Anyways, the lesson is that as much as we're told to marry our friends, for some people, dynamics change as soon as they transition into romantic relationship or marriage.... You're therefore at best remaining friends with certain people in our lives. Some friends do not have the capacity to handle the man/woman that you are if you both transition into relationship. A man is designed to be the head and provide leadership. And if his leadership is threatened by the woman you are, then you're at best with another man whose masculinity supercede yours and can match your energy head-on. 🌺🌺🌺 My thoughts on this story: 1. Yvonne mentioned in the honest bunch podcast that they didn't traditionally "court/date" and went straight into marriage. Dating would have shown Abas' actual tolerance for those joking insults that Yvonne exhibited. Proper courtship would have revealed Yvonne's tolerance for Abas' malicious tendencies. 2. I do not support women leaving their marriages because of conflicts, however, it takes two to tango. If only one person is trying hard to work out things, then they can get stretched thin at some point (especially considering that pregnant women can be impulsive) 3. Both parties played roles in the break of the marriage and quite frankly it's easy to judge people until we put ourselves into their shoes. 4. Counseling could have probably resolved this same issue. 5. I haven't heard Abas side of the story, however, keeping malice to the point of ignoring your child is very wild and I wouldn't have expected a 40-year-old to behave like that 🌺🌺🌺 Honestly, this isn't about "men are scum" or "women will show you shégè" I just think they both should have taken their time to study themselves well to determine if they were a great match for marriage. This story and my experience has solidified my lessons that being friends with someone does not automatically equate healthy marriage. It takes MUTUAL and INTENTIONAL hard work to make it work. Love and Light 💫 Benita 🌹
The same issue am facing, mine can keep malice for 2 months and even more. He always accuse me taking his glory because am more successful. Men are something else
there are certain things that if a woman feels comfortable discussing with a man she is in a friendship with, they can never become EMOTIONALLY linked. For instance when she will open up to him about the guys that were toasting her while they were still friends... so they were better off as FRIENDS right from day 1...to sum it all up, the genuine friendship that existed between them was mistaken for relationship
The man should do his best, I’m sure a woman that loves you won’t try to control you no matter how much she makes. If your wife knows that you’re doing your best, she would never disrespect you!
These Gen Z girls loves money and not the man. So if their man doesn't have money they would want to control him in order to have their way. If you tell them that the man loves them very much, their response would be "who love elp."
Then his best was not good enough 😉😉😉. Do you know what it means to be pregnant? You go through a lot. Nothing can justify a heartless man. Even for anything care because of your child.
Neze... I like the way you narrated without taking side with any of them. This story opened my eyes to a lot about marriage .God bless you sis, you've gain 1 new follower
That man was never her friend. She married her enemy. He used silence as a manipulative tactic even during and after her pregnancy. She did the right thing by moving out. He seems to be a typical narcissist.
Hello dear Barrister Neze, my favourite Star. You are really glowing. Thanks for all you do. Your Nigerian Mbaise sister. Grace Opara. Keep up the good work.
Na wa oooo. Men who love malice keeping. It really really hurts if you have been through it. Proud and Pompous man. I have gone thru this. I don’t know how to keep malice.
why is it that the RIGHT ones always end up in the hands of the WRONG people !?? this lady, Yvonne oozes of fidelity and she's a complete wife material 99yrd...I wish I was Nigerian
Love the back to back content from Neze. Thank you. I can feel Yovnne's pain. Some people are just meant to be friends, and nothing more. Classic example of pride comes before the fall. Sad
It gets tiring when one person always has to apologize for what they don't even know and the other always being angry over nothing. He really has no reason not to see his son..
This financial issue thing enh? ...Men change somewhere in between as the woman keeps being the one who earns more, even if the woman isn't dangling anything over the man's head.
There was no love simple. The guy sounds like a typical tradition man, who love respect. She did well to end it well soon b4 it goes to another level. She is alive and well telling her story , so also for him.
Personally you will never know anyone till you make them angry. So I will advise anyone to push their friends or spouse to the limit to know how they manage their anger
If it’s not spiritual oooo,bcos things are happening,their marriage was not well managed,those are the normal first year marriage misunderstanding,my first year of marriage also went through a lot of arguments here and there that we almost ended it,thank God for our parents who stood by us,and now we are 16years and staying very strong,now we knew that those arguments then was just normal,that’s why good parents needs to be around to help also
African men are not trained to manage a wife who earns more than them especially if the said wife is African,but if this Yvonne was a different race this same man will adapt very quickly and will do the needful to make the marriage work.....i think he didn't love Yvonne enough to want to be committed and married to her, allegedly theirs was an arranged marriage by his mother...... keeping malice is very bad for any marriage,especially from a husband who is supposed to be the head of the family.
I've always loved jegede and her super-expressive sanguine nature. She's so full of feminine energy and feminine energy can do really crazy things sometimes that it'll take a real man of understanding and strength to handle. It looked like Abounce was not built to handle an energetic woman like her and that's why he buckled under her pressure. For free-spirited people like Jegede and me, silent treatment and malice in a place you call home can feel like HELL. I have experienced a bit of this with a male buddy back in the years and it was like hell, that awkward atmosphere chokes life out of your spirit. God forbid ! You can be angry when provoked but please thrash it as soon as possible to avoid creating demonic atmospheres
Married for 18 years and my husband has a doctorate degree in malice keeping. He keeps malice for months. At first, I always beg him to forgive even if I am not at fault, but I stopped begging. His family aee not helping matters because they don't see anything wrong with him keeping malice for months, they cook and snmend to him because he stops eating my food. He keeps malice at every single chance he can get. I am now ficusing on taking care of my children and myself instead of wasting my time begging
He will even be cooking his own food.. turning u to be so frustrated that people will see u crazy... in fact, you're the problem to his family
Please focus on yourself. Dress and go out, have fun. It's good he's not eating your food, you don't have to stress out yourself about what to cook for dinner and when he come to his senses, still don't focus on him. Just pray and ask God for direction
What is malice?
That's marriage tortures not really good for you woman 😢😢😢because there is always something quarrelling about in marriage but not malice don't let fay break before settling the matter
Tell God to arrest his heart till he stopped keeping malice
Yvonne recognised early, the importance of good mental health. Thank God for that ❤
Facts! She's smart and intentional looking form the outside in
Absolutely! Thar mam is a lucky article. He is nuts!
Taking care of your mental health comes first for us women because if it’s not on point it affects everyone because we carry everyone.
Neze is very good at explaining things,far better than most journalists,do you agree with me??
I agree madam MTN 😂
Me to i agree with you Neze is the best
Eiiiiiiiiiiii scantiwaaah everywhere you go 😂😂😂😂😂.
Ei Betty😂😂😂 listening to the previous episode, I thought of you... I was like Betty is not here, saaanaa😂😂😂😂😂
Nezevita you are one in a million👍👍👍👍
Abeg, someone should show me love by liking my comment awww! Since the very day i visited this channel, no one has ever liked my comment! Hmmmmm😭😭😭
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The man wasn't ready for marriage, he was used to staying alone. He is a chronic bachelor who couldn't share his space with anyone.
Hahahaha
We haven't heard his side of story
You are so damn right! No normal Yoruba man stays unmarried at 40 years
Don't use marriage to destroy a good friendship!
And it was Yvonne who was ready for marriage, but physically interacted with the very man for 14 years in body soul and spirit, BUT NEVER KNEW HIM? Most of you are not helping Yvonne at all to assimilate her wrong attitude and other lapses viz marriage or whichever relationship or individual understanding about humanity.
And this is why she has even adopted the suicidal mentality about I WILL NO MORE GO FOR LOVE. I WILL GO FOR MONEY. SHE HAS NO CONCERN ABOUT CHARACTER, BUT SHE STLL WANTS HER HUSBAND BACK, BECAUSE ACCORDING TO HER HE IS A GOOD MAN.
Were her husband the character most of you believe he is, would Yvonne be implying and insinuating that she wants to go back into his arms??? You people better prefer logic to emotion.
YVONNE, YOU NEED TO DELETE THAT YUL EDOCHIE AND JUDY AUSTIN MENTALITY OUT OF YOUR PSYCHE, AND STOP MASKING YOUR AVOIDABLE FAULTS AND OTHER LAPSES WITH WHAT YOU ARE FEIGNING AS MALICE. TRUTH KNOWS NO BARRIER!!!
Clearly the husband is a chronic bachelor, notice he was already 43 when he married. He saw the opportunity to go back to his bachelor life and he seized it.
@suzzybabe5812
My dear sister, God bless you for this your observation !!
The best comment so far!!
The man can’t cope with marital life
As you said he is used to being single!!😟😟
Or he waited to get money
U are a prophetess
He saw an ATM. But shock that she is not a pushover. She is hurt. Hope God helps her overcome this hurt.
Some men are not supposed to be married
Marry your friend... Marry your friend..... Most times your friend is better as your friend but so terrible as your spouse
FACT
Have friendship with the person you’re marrying, don’t just marry someone because you’re friends.
Exactly🙏🙏🙏
@@bolu101 you hit the nail on the head. Period. Not every friend will work in marriage, we make friends with all kinds of people but marriage requires a special type of compatibility to float.
@@bolu101W
Sometimes it’s better to remain friends than marriage
You are absolutely right
True 👍 ✔️
I would not advise marrying male friends. It’s a whole different relationship dynamic
They should have dated before jumping into marriage
Most of the time honestly....the best friendships will crumble in an amorous relationship, not to talk of marriage. Especially as we all expect marriage to be a certain way😢
I don't know these people but I have been married for 12 years now. Here's my humble 2 cents: 1) the husband seems to have dismissive attachment style. The wife seems to have anxious attachment style. We develop these during early childhood. People with dismissive attachment style will retreat into a tiny boat and ruminate in the middle of a mental ocean while being physically present. But they travel so far away in their minds... that they don't know how to come back to their partners and arrange things. Hence, the rate of divorce of this attachment style. 2) The lady was unaware of how to position herself in the marriage and might have been a bit too abrasive with the husband. Men tend to take what their wives say as a sign of praise, respect or an attack on their virility. It would seem that he got tired of feeling like the buddy/ husband who made less money and started feeling contempt towards her. Since he detached from her to save his fractured ego, he also detached from their child as the ultimate punishment towards the wife. Rather petty indeed. Watch him have another child and be a present father to that child. 3) My husband often asks for my point of view. I have learnt over the years that I tended to overstep and would start giving unsolicited advice/solutions. So now when he wants to share something I ask him: "wait, before you start, do you need me to just listen, empathize, tell you what I would do, tell you what I see or do you want to brainstorm solutions? I cannot tell you how his face brightens when he hears me say this.
Out of all the comments,nah this make sense pass,see they were at the early stage of marriage, So things like that tends to happen,that's when they tend to learn how to bond together,the woman just park her bags an ran away... Instead learning how to talk with her husband without insulting him, marriage no be Romeo and Juliet.some marriage need at least the first one year or 2 to understand each other..if she came from a home with mother figure,she will understand there is a far difference between friendship, relationship and marriage... marriage requires work and attitude improvement..The man haven't voice out his own side so I not quick to judge,but haba ,una wey dey married for long una dey insult una husband for argument? But she said it in her video and the husband always warn her that he didn't like it, and she boldly said the husband should like it,that it's part of friendship...and pple saying he wasn't ready for marriage...
I'm the dissmisive type and a female and I've never seen such a great analogy of my mental state, thank you.
I broke up with my partner and baby's father of 9 years a year ago because I was completely blind to myself and how I made people feel. My partner was anxious, I believe, but lacks ability to properly verbalise what is going on with him, I say I believe because we didn't go for counseling, partly because he didn't raise it and I was going to have to pay for it.
I still don't know where I stand with that relationship.
My husband was just like that before, he'll neither talk to me nor eat my food when we have issues; I'll even apologize, when I'm not even at fault 😂......he can keep malice for one or two weeks straight 😢
It got to a point.....i just stopped apologizing 😅 soon, he'll come back to himself, after getting tired of eating junks...... He'll now confess to me, how he suffered' not eating good food for weeks 😂😂 He stopped doing that now, cos' he knows i no go send am......na to dey enjoy 'ME' time o 😂
But, he's such a wonderful man; whilst he's on his hunger strike, he'll still stock up the house with groceries ❤
My point here is: Malice keeping is a cheap blackmail 👌 The thing stopped when i stopped giving in to it...... I'll just see it as' him going on a 2wks break 😂
Our marriage will be 17yrs tomorrow (June 16)
All these my mamas una strong o😭
I cannot can sha
Happy 17th wedding anniversary.
@@namakaukambai4884 Thanks 🥰😍😘
Congratulations, sister 😊
😂😂😂😂😂😂 ohhh my God! I like how you put it straight to him😅😅😅😅.
Not me begging my husband to come eat my food no way 😆😆😆😆.
Yvonne is so strong for narrating this without crying
I think it's because she's healed or on a healing journey.
Because she's probably lying 🤥🤥🤥🤥. I was on her side before but she has been repeating this story for ages...... When she's not a witch haba....the way she runs the guy down on social media at every opportunity she gets is ridiculous
@@giftedchild9490 why will u say she is lying while she is repeating her story, that is what she went through and cannot be changed.
@@giftedchild9490 and if they didnt ask her she wont be telling it.
@@giftedchild9490 likely because she is hurt, and probably loves him still
I was the one keeping malice because I learnt it from my mother. My husband sat me down and said if I ever try it again, that will be the end of it. I believe we learn malice from somewhere.. and it's not a good way to live.
That's what my husband told me to he learned it from home
Couples should respect each other. No name calling, no insults and no derogatory words.
I second this motion Lol 😂
wetin you no go chop as a rich man, na from the time wey you never get you go refuse am. not after marriage, should have discussed it and probably stopped it before marriage. overall, their communication got restricted because of marriage. she married a friend not a boss.
NEZE my girl you are the best at what you do, I've discovered you not so long ago but can't get enough of you.
Hi
Some couples don’t take it as insult. The important thing is communication.
I never knew the other girl in African Queen was Yvonne, just recognised her for the first time
Me too
Same here had to go watched the video again on downloads
Weldone again Neze❤
1. The man was very insecure
2. The man is a boy age does not equal maturity
3. What you cannot tolerate in friendship, dating say it and if you still cannot take it, forget. If they call you mumu before marriage and you laughed then continue to laugh after marriage
4. Malice 😂😂😂 that man is not fit to be in marriage
5. As much as one is not advocating divorce, marriage is not a jail sentence. You cannot force anyone to want you. If the man refuse to be a man or vice versa..... Vamoose
6. All said and done in this case, .
Yvonne could you have been more patient?
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It was my own patience that kept me for almost 10 wasted yrs
How can a man abandon his own baby just because he has issues with the mother? There is no excuse for that.
That is the lowest of the low!
Insecure, small man does this.
Well, what happened to hearing the other person's version before judging?
Is that only reserved for when the accused is a woman?
@@adewaleibraheem3974he is not talking since she started talking, but that doesn’t make an excuse for him to not care for his child!
@@adewaleibraheem3974 This is a very unbiased and realistic comment you just made here sire. A very thoughtful one.
Very well done sire
I'm glad she made the decision for her mental health.
Your right
Very right, people with an inferiority complex are very difficult to live with and they are emotional abusers.
Am glad she did not care what society thought of her leaving their matrimonial home. I am happy that she thought of herself first and her baby's well being.
The truth is how long will she have condoned it.
She has to keep breaking the ice. She will always be at his mercy.
Keeping malice is an emotional game and it is draining most especially for an extrovert like Yvonne.
Exactly, it’s like when you are dating yourself in a relationship, you always have to initiate everything, at some point you have to choose yourself first and let the person go.
Am married for 6 years now, and during my 1st year i packed my bag 3 times and went back home ones. My family didnt support my action but they didnt send me back to my husband house immediately.
My dad had to call for a meeting between both families and we trashed things out, and now we look back and laugh at our stupidity and we understand each other much much better now.
Awwww...my comment got a 📌📌😊😊 thanks ma'am 😘😘
That's what I am talking about ❤️
It’s so important to have supportive families. May God bless your marriage
First few years are usually the toughest. Marriage just like other human endeavors gets better with more experience and a better understanding of the craft
I feel for her. I know by now the man is regretting the whole thing. The man couldn't handle marriage issues. But didn't she see that aspect of his life as a malice keeper before marrying him. You are friends with someone for 14 years yet you couldn't be his wife for 2 years. I think both of them has too much ego. They couldn't conquer themselves for their marriage to work. But what crime did the baby commit that the father couldn't go and welcome his child. He didn't know how to face his wife I guess.
To me, she is the best actress in Nigeria, very versatile. She can play any role.
Alot of men hate it when their women are earning more than them or generally doing better than them.💁🏿💁🏿 Some men see their wives as competition.
Sadly true😢
Exactly what I’m expecting ❤❤❤❤”Competition “ Even boyfriends
Absolutely true
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Sadly
Yvonne’s English is on another level 🔥 🔥 and how she moves from pidgin to very fluent English weh!! I love!
Some men are not cut out for matrimony and child rearing they are so into themselves, though they can be charming, pleasant and friendly, but once you get closer you begin to see the selfishness and lack of self esteem leading to malice and silent treatment which is a killer of relationship
Neze, mothers are very crucial in those early years of marriage if not for my mother, may God bless her soul we almost crashed our marriage even before we started because we were preparing for the church wedding and she was in her first trimester I couldn't stand all the pregnancy wahala and I getting irritated by it, my mother called me me and talked some sense into me and that was it. We made amend since then we've been living happily and managing our differences for 20 years and counting.
God bless your home❤
Yes she is the best
It's a gift from God
May the love and understanding your marriage continue to grow strong to the glory of God Almighty.
God Bless your m and other mums like her. Many would activley destroy thrir sons home
Sadly, i do not think the husband was ever in love with her to begin with. Marriage is not easy at all, and only the strong survive their marriages( it is not for the weak)
He was in love with her but ego, pride and unforgivenes stood in the way. For her it was pride, insubordination (lack of submission) and impatience or willingness to teach him or help him.
@@chrisokoboh7472 So, in other words they both did not have the High Emotional Intelligence to make it work in a Marital Agreement/Contract.
@@chrisokoboh7472 You said it all my brother.
Not every man is that humble to show love when his wife is showing insubordination especially when the woman can fend for herself.
@@Nadia1Nad You're correct.
@@chrisokoboh7472and all these Mr counsellor you found out online. Wow
Nezeville was born to do this, the way she narrates her stories are just so amazing❤️🍾
She speaks English with elegance and grace ❤
Ignoring your partner is a silent killer in the relationship.
Very correct.
For me, the man was not really man
You have said it all my love ❤️
My husband (ex) is the president of malice keeper
But he cares about our children
Mine too
Nigerian men and narcissism na 5 and 6. May God help us.
Finally someone has said it... The vast majority of them are a turn off.
There she goes again. That word that most you don't even know the meaning. Una go jus come online begin spew nonsense.
Let’s just say African men and narcissism 😢
My ex was 5.5years older than me. As soon as his mummy died in 2018 in another continent he started keeping malice with me. He kept malice for 12 calender months. But when I cook he eats the food that I am providing and cooking as a sign of doing me a favour. Hehehe 😁😁. Eventually the marriage ended irrevocably in 2019. Gentlemen and gentleladies. Keeping malice with a spouse is emotional and Psychological abuse. It can lead the person to a mental breakdown.
Men grow up. Anytime the woman is a provider and the man is a beneficiary some men become resentful. I will never advice anybody. It was hell. But now I'm good I'm healing and I am moving on.
She was "too good" for him and he knew it..i think he realised she wasn't in his league and he couldn't pull himself up enough to match her so he kept withdrawing into his shell
In my opinion, no one is too good for another. Each person has his or her weaknesses. That said, going by her story, the man may have felt too insecure, and that affected him psychologically. He could have done better. Yvonne, although I can not fault her as much, could have managed the situation better as well.
Very short marriage for me too at the exception that I actually started financially supporting our marriage thinking he needed space to find a befitting carrier and elevate himself. It all ended by him giving me an ultimatum to give up on my business and drive Uber to help him with bills 🙈 No brainer 😂
You see Yvonne has grown up with no mother, of course that love and attention was missed. Marriage was her safe heaven, that man just needed to give her attention and care... Period.
Marriage is nobody’s safe haven
@@NileGoddessthen it is what???
What does that the fact she didn’t grow up with her mother have to do with the failed marriage? She’s not the only one to blame for it all.
Male ego is a wonderful thing
@@AfricanDeeIt has alot to do with everything. Mommy issues and daddy issues are real. And, yes it takes two to tango. He has major issues too.
I like Yvonne's mindset and energy. Her husband is insecure and inadequate. His loss; her gain.
It will be good to hear the husband side as well.
Coming from an elderly woman i presume going by the photograph. The future of humanity is extremely bleak
He has moved on...na she dey cry for social media
I like yvonne too
For a man that didn't care you walked out of his house, never bothered to call, visit or even mention your name anywhere....... I don't think so. I know he's in a better place. Don't get this twisted. He's balling. He didn't lose nada !
I always knew tht there’s an actress called Yvonne Jegede but I never knew anything about her. I must say I’m pleasantly surprised after watching this video. Yvonne seems like such a lovely, down to earth person. I like her.
Neze is a gifted storyteller, she narrate the stories better even more than the real owners of the gist😊
Some people are better off as friends than couples.
Neze is simply the best storyteller of this century,
I don't think this was just a game of pride, for someone not to take responsibility of his child, it says a lot about who he was in that marriage. It was more than a battle of egos. That man would have crushed that marriage either way
I totally agree 👍
Some marriages are meant to never happen.!
Like, how in the world can one cope with a man who intentionally chooses to be a sperm donor and absolutely nothing more ???
She's supposed to be my wife😢
@@ukachukwunnamdi1481are you sure you would have been able to handle her?
Exactly!!! He married just to marry, he was never in love.
I have an aunt who told her father's child the son wasn't his .. meanwhile she said it to hurt him, the man handed off the child and mother till date.
I have no idea who the people she discusses on this channel are but, the way she tells stories has me hooked! Lol!!!
Wow…. Barrister NeZe is the best reporter, she is very precise and concise in all her narratives. Her vocabularies are on point. Thank you….👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Your opinion is very valid Neze. Honestly there is a big difference between no-marriage friendship and marriage friendship. I honestly believe that the guy loves his wife but just held his pride and ego above love. The fact that he is not speaking does not mean he is not dying inside.
The husband was struggling with inferiority complex and insecurity which lead him to pride
Yvonne actually strikes me as the proud one
No! she doesn't look proud but very vocal and extremely playful. However, everyone has an element of pride.
Unfortunately, when a woman makes more money, there's always a big problem. Everything she does is perceived as pride by her husband ! Even her humility is seen as pride.
However, the marriage would have survived if she had tried playing the malice game and also continued being the first to break the silence (cos I know she was tired of being the first to talk to him after every disagreement). I hope they reconcile because she seems to have loved him and wished they could even still be friends.
Exactly
Gbam! This is the resume of the matter. Boys in grey hair.
An insecure man is an insecure man. I've been on both sides of this issue.
It's really crazy though. Her story sounds so much like mine. Some men change completely once the label changes.
So true, my dear .
And that's exactly the case here..
Over familiarity breeds contempt...
Some guys are meant to be friend-zoned for life.!
They would still be friends till date, if they didn't erroneously marry each other.😊
We plenty inside this boat
Hmmmm
I love it when my wife throws those subtle jokes and insults
My soon to be ex-husband didn't speak to me for all of the 9 months I was pregnant with his child. I went into labor, told him I was calling a friend to take me to the hospital, went in, gave birth, and named my daughter. Granted he came later after the fact; I couldn't get over that pain. Sometimes, the emotional absence is worse than physical pain. Every situation is different, but peace of mind is worth more than a marriage. Stress is a killer.
Wicked man...😢
What the heck? Did he resent you being pregnant or what????😮😮
There are certain words I would never say to my house help, let alone my husband. In marriage, we learn to adjust to each other. Let consider each other's feelings in marriage please
With the insults part right? I was saying that playfully insult people is not right just because they don’t tell you to stop doesn’t mean you should continue. From her explanation The husband wasn’t empathetic towards her as well.
But he has the right to insult her?
@@canesugar911 But she said in the interview that she is the one that playfully insults her husband. She didn’t say her husband insults her. Una sef lol
If u and ur husband accommodate such play there is nfin wrong with it.
Marry your friend marry your friend now look at. As a man how u treat ur wife while pregnant shows the level of your love, commitment, respect and empathy. I love her strength to walk away from a toxic environment for her peace.
You have said it well.
Very True . Pregnancy and children can make or break a real relationship as well as marriage.
@@KehindeOmikunle said what well,the you hear where yvonne said to her husband you dey crazy,and expect him to be ok with it,please if nah man dey tell him wife you are crazy almost every day,wont you say the man is still toxic, if the man react its toxic,he kept silent nah toxic,not forgeting that she never had a mother figure who was suppose to teach her about marriage, you dont support both party untill you live with them.silent kills marriage faster but an adult can not just go silent just like that.
@iykedesignworld7287 so where is the place of communication? He can tell his wife what he likes and what he doesn't like and mind you. There is no dictionary for a perfect marriage. Everyone's makes what he or she wants. I know what I am referring to, saying, " You have said it well," keeping malice in a marriage. Who does that help.
Have friendship with the person you’re marrying, don’t just marry someone because you’re friends.
My pain is that, she'd have so many other suitors willing to cross oceans or has crossed ocean for her😢
And does that make them Good men ma'am?
You are so real and objective Neze. No judgement.
struggles of a successful modern day woman. Enjoying Neze from Zim😚😚😚
It’s not easy been in a relationship with a man that keeps malice. I dated one years back and he almost drove me crazy. We would have little misunderstandings and settle but this guy will take days to come back to his usual self. It’s draining abeg. You will not understand except you’ve been there.😢
I completely agree with you. It can make me crazy. I'm happy she chose her sanity.
💯 Exactly.!
There are different levels to this malice keeping thing..
If he doesn't give a sh!t about her even when she leaves the house pregnant for the entire day...
Abeg na how pelzin wan take cope with such gross negligence?
Check well you're the one initiating the misunderstanding that's why you can easily want it to be overlooked.
I've been there so I really understand. It's tough. Mine was for a whole year. He was not even answering greetings.
Its not just draining alone. It can choke life out of you! Imagine enjoying yourself and having a good time outside and then you come back home and immediately the atmosphere changes and become heavy and dark because of malice
I can only speak from experience when I say in my case that I made more than my husband. In fact, he didn't work. However, no one would have ever known that he didn't work, because I would never tell anyone. I was more than respectful, I worked 12 hours overnight, came home in the morning and cooked breakfast for him, I cleaned the house and washed his clothes. I never withheld myself from him. If he handled money better, then he could have even been in charge of the finances. I tried and did as much as I could as long as I could. But he didn't want to work because he couldn't find a job making more than me. 🤔 So finally, I had taken all that I was going to take and all that I could. He later told my father that everything was his fault, and that I couldn't have been a better wife! I believe that when some guys feel less than and disrespected, it is personal! Their self-esteem and pride have gotten the best of him!
Yep 👍🏾
Hahahaha that was my husband (my friend) in our early days. He had school cert in malice keeping in those days. It pained me so much until one day he bragged about the certificate. lol 😝. That’s when I understood what I was dealing with. I quickly went into training and got an upgraded certificate in malice keeping (fake it till you make it), that type you sing songs along, infact by the time I was done with the training I couldn’t even recognize myself and my new acting skills 😂. Bam 💥 it worked. My husband was cured completely. Hahahaha 😂
Yesoooo 💯 she is too much
@@Ekwy2023😂😂😂🎉😂
You be bad person 😂😂😂. You delivered him from the spirit of malice.
@@hassandy159
Hahahaha yes oo.
How spirit of malice go destroy handsome person like that? 😝
It took him back from the spirit o. Hehehe 😂
Lack of family intervention on both sides. This marriage could have been saved easily.❤❤❤
She did say in one of her other interviews that if her late mother-in-law had been alive, the marriage might have been saved.
Exactly so sad 😞
You can only save something if both parties are willing to do the work. No third party should force 2 grown adults to be together. And even if there was love, i doubt it would have been enough to keep them. They were better off as friends.
Not all families, some family will even worsen the matter.
Not all marriage can be saved
Thanks my dear Barriater Neze. I have been waiting for your take on this. Now here's my $0.2! Love and relationship is a 2 way traffic, a give and take. If you're a man or woman who can't be vulnerable or support your partner all either emotionally or otherwise, then maybe that relationship is lopsided. One thing that ruins lives like cancer is anger. Each relationship is unique as each human. The long and short here is I think she's smart, knows what she wants therefore understands her non-negotiables. She's not wrong for doing what works for her and her situationship
😢no one has ever liked my comment.... Love of barr Neze
A man shouldn't keep malice with his wife no matter what
Talk it out. If they both can come to understand they need to sick counsellor
Agree
I agree.
It's mental torture, pure emotional abuse.🙁
Should a woman keep malice as well?
it was good she moved out. He was a volcano waiting to rapture. She is a happy lady and she will be happily married again.
My thoughts exactly! He gives the vibes of an abuser & eventually I think he would've began getting physical with her. I also see him as a mama's boy who loves to throw silent tantrums & if he doesn't get his way he acts out by going cold on her & shutting her out! Very insecure & immature individual! Yvonne's better off without him. She's beautiful with such a loving & sweet spirit to sit there & allow such a bitter man to destroy her & her child! God will lead her to her soul mate in his own time. All the best Yvonne & thank you Barr. Neze for your, as usual, wonderful & captivating delivery! 🙏🥰
Look @ how he abandoned her even before she gave birth & totally disappeared after seeing his child only once! 😲 Who does that?!🤔😔 I'm just happy that she didn't allow this experience to make her a bitter person. Up! Up! Up my sister...🇳🇬🇯🇲🙏🥰
It is better to pack and leave in peace. Abuse comes in different forms..personally, I can not make an insultive joke to my husband because I do not like it.
Neze has so much wisdom. School indeed is not scam. I watched the podcast, and I'm glad she didn't escalate the matter the way other bloggers have. Yvonne only went to that podcast to promote her movie.
True, the first year of my marriage, I packed my things out of the marriage more than 5 times. Then hubby will plead and then unpack the box, for those times 😅😅. Uptill a point he had to ask 'how come it doesn't take you 5mins to pack a language that takes him more than an hour to unpack"😅 20years and still counting, where I won start to pack 😂😂😂. Marriage e no easy oooo, but if you are able to navigate, e sweet die Wella
NEZE YOU ARE ALWAYS MY WELL SPOKEN LADY... THAT MAN O🤞🤷?.
Barr Neze is such good interpreter of stories couple with her beautiful voice
Lolz, "what does she bring to the table" Now you done see that the table cannot handle what a woman brings 😂😂😂. The man is terrible
😂😂😂on point
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Looks like she brought not just the table but the entire house, and she got punished for doing too much..
God help us all 🙏
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Lol
You only know how mature a man is when you live with him
Exactly
Thank you 💯
Neze, even if you are reciting the ABC's I'll quickly CLICK!!!
😂😂😂😂
I was taking a course when i saw this video, i had to pause the course because, ma'am you're a damn good narrator. ❤
I love neze's gestures, her communicative skills. She's my role model now
Greetings from Kenya! I never knew a man like me would be caught up listening to gossips..😂😂 the way you narrate is pure genius and your beauty! Have listened to stories about many that i don't know and got captured.😂
😂😂😂we ata Mimi Niko hapa mwanamke. .. naomba Mungu anisaidie sana nisipate mwanamume kama huyu
@@jaytee2021 ever since I came across her channel, my gangster points went down... 😂 Namskizanga tu on the low low. Nikisema hawa wasichana wanataka kuolewa mbona siwaoni?😂
Udaku to the world😂😂😂
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Naona ni madem tu mmecomment kwa hii comment yangu. Kumbe gossiping is followed everywhere... 😂 Mnafanya mpaka gangster points zangu zinashuka!😂
The man did not love her,he was just for her money.
He would have visited when she came back.
Or even called to wish her safe delivery or congratulations for the sake of the child.
The wife would have forgiven him for the sake of the child if he checked his child,he is heartless for abandoning his child.
By the time he wakes up from sleep it might be too late.
God please give her the strength to rise this child to be successful in life and give the husband long life to see and feel the pains of an abandoned child to leave you when you need care/help or support.🙏🏽🙏🏽
Ameeeen 🙏
Yvonne shared the same story on a podcast recently and some Twitter citizens didn't let us hear word, with vloggers editing out the part where she mentioned finance and making it about gender and money.
Barrister Neze, I agree with everything you said about the absence of their mothers. The situation could have been resolved by an elderly person thst both parties respect.
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When I entered a relationship with my long term friend, the dynamics changed 360 like Yvonne's case.
My friend and partner felt like I was intimidating him because I asked "too many questions and he didn't feel comfortable" he said he feels "less confident".... meanwhile he had always stated that one of the reason he was attracted to me was my intelligence, as he is sapiosexual (i.e attracted to highly cerebral people). Mind you, this person is equally very intelligent, focused and ambitious.... people thought we were perfect match. I admired him so much and looked up to him for answers, as I am naturally inquisitive since childhood.
We eventually apologized to one another and ironed things out because we are both flawed and not perfect.
But we are now back to being friends.
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Anyways, the lesson is that as much as we're told to marry our friends, for some people, dynamics change as soon as they transition into romantic relationship or marriage....
You're therefore at best remaining friends with certain people in our lives.
Some friends do not have the capacity to handle the man/woman that you are if you both transition into relationship.
A man is designed to be the head and provide leadership.
And if his leadership is threatened by the woman you are, then you're at best with another man whose masculinity supercede yours and can match your energy head-on.
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My thoughts on this story:
1. Yvonne mentioned in the honest bunch podcast that they didn't traditionally "court/date" and went straight into marriage. Dating would have shown Abas' actual tolerance for those joking insults that Yvonne exhibited. Proper courtship would have revealed Yvonne's tolerance for Abas' malicious tendencies.
2. I do not support women leaving their marriages because of conflicts, however, it takes two to tango.
If only one person is trying hard to work out things, then they can get stretched thin at some point (especially considering that pregnant women can be impulsive)
3. Both parties played roles in the break of the marriage and quite frankly it's easy to judge people until we put ourselves into their shoes.
4. Counseling could have probably resolved this same issue.
5. I haven't heard Abas side of the story, however, keeping malice to the point of ignoring your child is very wild and I wouldn't have expected a 40-year-old to behave like that
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Honestly, this isn't about "men are scum" or "women will show you shégè"
I just think they both should have taken their time to study themselves well to determine if they were a great match for marriage.
This story and my experience has solidified my lessons that being friends with someone does not automatically equate healthy marriage. It takes MUTUAL and INTENTIONAL hard work to make it work.
Love and Light 💫
Benita 🌹
I love your take. Quite detailed and you write so well.
@@Dioranma Thanks Ma'am 😊
Your analysis is on point, full of wisdom.
The same issue am facing, mine can keep malice for 2 months and even more. He always accuse me taking his glory because am more successful. Men are something else
Am so glad I watched this episode before getting married... Thank you Neze...This was very informative ❤ ...
there are certain things that if a woman feels comfortable discussing with a man she is in a friendship with, they can never become EMOTIONALLY linked. For instance when she will open up to him about the guys that were toasting her while they were still friends... so they were better off as FRIENDS right from day 1...to sum it all up, the genuine friendship that existed between them was mistaken for relationship
The man should do his best, I’m sure a woman that loves you won’t try to control you no matter how much she makes. If your wife knows that you’re doing your best, she would never disrespect you!
This is not true and very far from the truth. Disrespect is in my gender's DNA
These Gen Z girls loves money and not the man. So if their man doesn't have money they would want to control him in order to have their way.
If you tell them that the man loves them very much, their response would be "who love elp."
@ATheintentionalnini Your last sentence ma'am. Was it born out of thought or fact?
Good question
Then his best was not good enough 😉😉😉. Do you know what it means to be pregnant? You go through a lot. Nothing can justify a heartless man. Even for anything care because of your child.
Neze I really liked your submission on this matter...very apt
Neze... I like the way you narrated without taking side with any of them. This story opened my eyes to a lot about marriage .God bless you sis, you've gain 1 new follower
That man was never her friend. She married her enemy. He used silence as a manipulative tactic even during and after her pregnancy. She did the right thing by moving out. He seems to be a typical narcissist.
Have you heard from the guy before conclusions?
His actions speak louder than words.
The man won't talk because he is in the wrong. If you don't love the woman, then why not love your son and be there for him ?
@@jessycachil3201 His actions speak volumes
Hello dear Barrister Neze, my favourite Star. You are really glowing. Thanks for all you do.
Your Nigerian Mbaise sister. Grace Opara.
Keep up the good work.
The guy is very wicked. It is better she left early. How can a man keep such malice even to the son.
GOD will surely comfort her and give her a father her son never had !
Love how clear you explain all things. Love it❤
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Clearly from the man's behaviour he wasn't interested in the marriage as well so yes she made a good decision by leaving why prolong the pain.
God bless Neze. Your wisdom is from above, and may you never be put to shame IJMN ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for this video. I’m getting married soon and I needed to hear this. Subscribed✅
Na wa oooo. Men who love malice keeping. It really really hurts if you have been through it. Proud and Pompous man. I have gone thru this. I don’t know how to keep malice.
why is it that the RIGHT ones always end up in the hands of the WRONG people !??
this lady, Yvonne oozes of fidelity and she's a complete wife material 99yrd...I wish I was Nigerian
Why would you have to be Nigerian to connect with this beautiful soul?! Love is love barring all colors, class & creed! 🙏🥰💞🤗
A man aged past 40yrs and unmarried is a problem yet to be discovered.
@@Aboakye1000😂😂😂 I will keep this comment in mind
@@Thrive_Haven please do because it's the story of my life.
Love the back to back content from Neze. Thank you.
I can feel Yovnne's pain.
Some people are just meant to be friends, and nothing more.
Classic example of pride comes before the fall. Sad
You are correct. Abandonment could lead to fighting
Yvonne is the problem
@@justforphone1318
Really?😳😳
Please explain!!
Thanks!!
@@mumidigbaro1317 She has been in some controversy. I think this is why Neze did a piece on her. Google her
It gets tiring when one person always has to apologize for what they don't even know and the other always being angry over nothing.
He really has no reason not to see his son..
For her not to have seen this "malice" in over a decade of friendship is unbelievable.
And that's where the lies begins 😂😂😂 .... The signs are always there
This financial issue thing enh? ...Men change somewhere in between as the woman keeps being the one who earns more, even if the woman isn't dangling anything over the man's head.
There was no love simple. The guy sounds like a typical tradition man, who love respect. She did well to end it well soon b4 it goes to another level. She is alive and well telling her story , so also for him.
Personally you will never know anyone till you make them angry.
So I will advise anyone to push their friends or spouse to the limit to know how they manage their anger
Neze, u are not only good as content creator but also as a very good counselor. U most have been very good also defending ur clients in court.
Nezeville, my sister gossip too sweet for your mouth that's why I love watching your comments. God bless you dear
I think some marriages are not meant to be.periodt❤
But being a single mother is meant to be.period❤
If it’s not spiritual oooo,bcos things are happening,their marriage was not well managed,those are the normal first year marriage misunderstanding,my first year of marriage also went through a lot of arguments here and there that we almost ended it,thank God for our parents who stood by us,and now we are 16years and staying very strong,now we knew that those arguments then was just normal,that’s why good parents needs to be around to help also
Can we please hear the other side of the story?
God bless you for that
African men are not trained to manage a wife who earns more than them especially if the said wife is African,but if this Yvonne was a different race this same man will adapt very quickly and will do the needful to make the marriage work.....i think he didn't love Yvonne enough to want to be committed and married to her, allegedly theirs was an arranged marriage by his mother...... keeping malice is very bad for any marriage,especially from a husband who is supposed to be the head of the family.
Exactly. You’ve said it all
It's the truth@op.
I've always loved jegede and her super-expressive sanguine nature. She's so full of feminine energy and feminine energy can do really crazy things sometimes that it'll take a real man of understanding and strength to handle. It looked like Abounce was not built to handle an energetic woman like her and that's why he buckled under her pressure.
For free-spirited people like Jegede and me, silent treatment and malice in a place you call home can feel like HELL.
I have experienced a bit of this with a male buddy back in the years and it was like hell, that awkward atmosphere chokes life out of your spirit. God forbid !
You can be angry when provoked but please thrash it as soon as possible to avoid creating demonic atmospheres
That was a good move from Yvonne . It would have been a toxic environment for the new baby. Yvonne and baby just manage your life and forget the donna