I have a problem with the premise that “if you take care of your man sexually, he will not stray”. I say this because, it the supports the notion that men stray because their wives are not having sex with them. So the buck starts and stops with the woman. It’s her fault that the man was unfaithful. Yet, cheating is a choice. I have seen men cheat on their women who “take care of them sexually”. Women who felt settled in their relationships because things were “great” all around. But in most cases, their men were being charming because they were covering up their guilt and shame from stepping out on their wives - but the wives interpreted it as an expression of love. Girl, you could have your sex life all figured out with your man… you could add onto the Kama sutra from your own prowess… put up a pole in your room, contort yourself like a cotton sheet being wrung… and still have that man cheat. It’s a choice!
This just shows that we were not raised properly by our cultures and traditions as children. Sex in marriage is NOT supposed to be a chore. It's supposed to be something both spouses enjoy and look forward to. It's important that spouses romance each other outside of the bedroom in order to enjoy what happens inside the bedroom. This should be done purely out of love for one another and nothing else. No ultetior motives. One more thing, men were not taught how treat and touch their wives to make them enjoy sex more but women were. As a result, many husbands tend to be selfish in their marriages. Marriage is not for selfish people. This is why many women are stuck in marriage but are unhappy😔. We need to change that. Go back to how marriage was intended to be. God is the Author and Creator of marriage. The Word of God is where husbands and wives will get their best council for marriage and enjoy their marriage, each other and their sex lives😊, not cultures and traditions.
This is a very nice show but it is extremely short. Just as you think the guests are going deeper with their answers it's like they're cut short and the presenter has moved on to the next question with another guest. We don't get the chance to tap into/embrace the conversation taking place.
So much goes into getting your woman ready for sex in a marriage….. I used to be soooo wild and wanting my husband, recently it has become more of a task than something we can both enjoy. For me dates, helping out with house chores, prioritising our family needs over family tax…. In my experience would be such a turn on. I have become this ever tired, aggressive wife mainly because he fails on the above mentioned. It is so weighing me down that I’m just always not in the mood. 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
i learned that Woman needs foreplay,intimacy and other things besides the Bang Bang that we hold in High regard as Men and that When Woman cant perform dont't internalise too much to make such a Big Deal like Men ,Sex is a foundation for Men if it shows crack it affects the whole.
Interesting topic but limited time. It feels like wen they were answering it wasn't to an open ended point where they could dive deeper into the topic and question maybe an hour long session would allow for more open ended answers n less of a scripted short answer but none the less interesting topic.
The reality is 80% of the marriage experience is doing life with your partner. Mawuthu uyaphaphama its 20 years later. The movie life is only 20% if not less than that. Even pictures of married couples really dont move me cause “bottom line” that perfect picture for sure is not you reality. Ireality ukuthi ukhulisa izingane, uyapheka, uyakotiza kwamarriage, Ndoda lapho is just cruising, naye he becomes one of the kids. Bathwele abafazi ngyanitshela, dont rush for marriage, enjoy singleness. If you really want to get married at-least ko 40 usuphilile wezwa ukuthi now am bored I am ready to be someones slave.
Hay mna ndiyawubonga umtshato unless I marry a man who is the opposite of what you have described (most men really do become babies), I’ve accepted im probably going to be a spinster and pls, ga monate jwang?!
Bathong, how Mr Khadinde speaks about his wife 😭😍😍 so beautiful!!
I have a problem with the premise that “if you take care of your man sexually, he will not stray”. I say this because, it the supports the notion that men stray because their wives are not having sex with them. So the buck starts and stops with the woman. It’s her fault that the man was unfaithful. Yet, cheating is a choice. I have seen men cheat on their women who “take care of them sexually”. Women who felt settled in their relationships because things were “great” all around. But in most cases, their men were being charming because they were covering up their guilt and shame from stepping out on their wives - but the wives interpreted it as an expression of love.
Girl, you could have your sex life all figured out with your man… you could add onto the Kama sutra from your own prowess… put up a pole in your room, contort yourself like a cotton sheet being wrung… and still have that man cheat.
It’s a choice!
Agree,the flippen muppet would still cheat after doing cartwheels and splits😫.
This is so so accurate and quite sad.
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💯 my sister it's a choice and there's no formula 🤷
Amen to that. Well said
Love how open, honest & vulnerable Lehlohonolo was.
Thank you so much for this feedback, because it’s not easy to be so vulnerable.
This is so Educating ❤️
When the guy said I'm the wanter I just started laughing
This episode was fun I'm loving this series. Its educational and the guests are open minded. Really learning alot
Loved Lehlonolo’s contributions , so honest...we need this so deep.❤️❤️❤️💐
Dearly appreciated Moyahabo; because it’s really not easy being honest about one’s sexuality.
I'm glad such spaces are there for us to learn from. Thank you 🙏🙏💐🌻💕🌼🇿🇦🇿🇦
what an insightful discussion on the issue of sex in marriage. Thank Mpho and your team, we learnt a lot from the episode...
Our spice is getting hotter things are getting interesting 25 years later...love my husband so attentive
25 years, wow... keep it up
Very informative and helpful topic.... Wish it was a bit longer👌
One meal a day keeps a doctor away🤣🤣🤣🥰🥰🥰I love it
Kwaax he is right though if u are fed well u will not feel hungry even if a plate of full kitchen passes by u are full., 😂
How did I not know about this show! 🥰🥰🥰 thank you
LOVE today's show
what an interesting episode, we learned so much. Thank you.
As a newly wed,this is very informative💪🏼😊
Profound Topic 🙂
Exclnt topic.. Lve from 🇧🇼🇧🇼
Mara today's show was short we need part 2 pls..
Loved the content, too short though.
🤣🤣Wena ka di dreadlocks.
Great topic, it's time we start talking about sex openly in relationships. I loved the wisdom that was expressed in this episode.
I'm the wanter 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This just shows that we were not raised properly by our cultures and traditions as children. Sex in marriage is NOT supposed to be a chore. It's supposed to be something both spouses enjoy and look forward to.
It's important that spouses romance each other outside of the bedroom in order to enjoy what happens inside the bedroom. This should be done purely out of love for one another and nothing else. No ultetior motives.
One more thing, men were not taught how treat and touch their wives to make them enjoy sex more but women were. As a result, many husbands tend to be selfish in their marriages. Marriage is not for selfish people. This is why many women are stuck in marriage but are unhappy😔. We need to change that.
Go back to how marriage was intended to be. God is the Author and Creator of marriage. The Word of God is where husbands and wives will get their best council for marriage and enjoy their marriage, each other and their sex lives😊, not cultures and traditions.
Preach sister 👌
I'm the wanter as well😂😂😂
A lil suggestion. When you show names of the guests on screen rather right what they do or what they are rather than just writing 'guest'
I'm the wanter😂😂😂😂😂
Taking notes. Hubby tshaba kooooo 😂
This is a very nice show but it is extremely short. Just as you think the guests are going deeper with their answers it's like they're cut short and the presenter has moved on to the next question with another guest. We don't get the chance to tap into/embrace the conversation taking place.
@Khanyisa we see you girrrrl
So much goes into getting your woman ready for sex in a marriage…..
I used to be soooo wild and wanting my husband, recently it has become more of a task than something we can both enjoy.
For me dates, helping out with house chores, prioritising our family needs over family tax…. In my experience would be such a turn on.
I have become this ever tired, aggressive wife mainly because he fails on the above mentioned. It is so weighing me down that I’m just always not in the mood. 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
You literally put me in your words,
Yes I agree.
Understandable
Its nice ,really 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great episode. There are so many things I can take away from the conversation.
Lol Mr Khathide made me laugh so hard
, is he the son of Pastor khathide? 🤔
😅yes
@@thamaneskosana I thought as much. Thank you
i learned that Woman needs foreplay,intimacy and other things besides the Bang Bang that we hold in High regard as Men and that When Woman cant perform dont't internalise too much to make such a Big Deal like Men ,Sex is a foundation for Men if it shows crack it affects the whole.
Interesting topic but limited time. It feels like wen they were answering it wasn't to an open ended point where they could dive deeper into the topic and question maybe an hour long session would allow for more open ended answers n less of a scripted short answer but none the less interesting topic.
Yes! It felt rushed. Touch and go. They honestly need to make the episodes longer.
The reality is 80% of the marriage experience is doing life with your partner.
Mawuthu uyaphaphama its 20 years later. The movie life is only 20% if not less than that.
Even pictures of married couples really dont move me cause “bottom line” that perfect picture for sure is not you reality.
Ireality ukuthi ukhulisa izingane, uyapheka, uyakotiza kwamarriage, Ndoda lapho is just cruising, naye he becomes one of the kids. Bathwele abafazi ngyanitshela, dont rush for marriage, enjoy singleness.
If you really want to get married at-least ko 40 usuphilile wezwa ukuthi now am bored I am ready to be someones slave.
Hay mna ndiyawubonga umtshato unless I marry a man who is the opposite of what you have described (most men really do become babies), I’ve accepted im probably going to be a spinster and pls, ga monate jwang?!
Where, or exactly who, did Hloni get help with his sexual struggles? I think that will help some of the viewers on where to get help.
I'm the wanter😂😂😂
This shows format is way too short sad 😢. Please remove the skits to allow for more time.
Hai Khathide.
Jwalo ka ntatae
Lol month end!!
What is the difference between sex in a stable relationship and in a marriage? I hope I get answered.🤲🏽
I ask this because not everyone believes in marriage…
Maybe In a marriage you are more secure cos marriage is more about commitment
Is there a way I can get that painting hanging on the wall? Im a curator
Like the fact that 90% of the comments are from women.
These adverts are so annoying 😣
Married sex is premeditated sex - Esther Perel
I agree that this was very informative and insightful too... But why not touch on the issues woman face why dwell on men only?
Yeah those words used by men to describe sex are scary. They also make the whole journey of sex cheap, like you are just about the sexual act...
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Ok