“ He’s a great person, he’s very kind, he’s going to take good care of you… “ How can a mother say this to her 12-year-old daughter about the 24-year-old man who just raped her? And then force her to marry him? I’m so glad this lovely young woman searched and found the truth, that forced marriage is not allowed in Islam,found the help she needed and got a divorce. got a divorce.
I am so glad she realized this The fact that the religion is so against forced marriages even stating that this act goes into rape and everyone participating will sin too
The Quran doesn’t allow this but everyone thru the comments saying it happened to all of them. Some even say she still loves her family ~ imagine what happens if they don’t obey? People are naive. Today we know what all those countries practice they can have as many wives as they want but go ahead continue lying to the world, continue lying to Hallah it doesn’t matter……
My mother forced me to marry a man I didn’t want to marry, I resented her for years especially when my husband started abusing me and cheating on me. Long story short i divorced him. I learned to forgive my mother.
@Valene Chavez I'm so sorry. I'm proud of you for standing up and saving yourself. That definitely takes strength and courage. It hard... I haven't talked to my mother in years because of her controlling narcissistic ways. I've forgiven her, but any contact at all is a hard no. I really wish I could have her in my life, but it's just not in the cards. If don't mind me asking, is your relationship with your mother good now?
“I said yes and I will forever regret that”…you were a CHILD, a baby, a little girl. You had no real choice and saying “yes” never made you complicit. The people around you failed you and no part of this was your responsibility or “fault” in any way. This story is so so sad. My heart hurts for you and I hope you can heal.
What type of father (& mother) marries his daughter to a man that raped her? Most fathers would go to jail for killing a man that raped his child & took her virginity. It’s so sad that she doesn’t see how horribly her parents treated her. I get that she loves them but what they did was so f*** up. I wish her the best moving forward!
@@nv2224 True, and unless 4 adult males witness such an attack, it is often the woman who is punished for what happened to her. Women and children are simply property in that religion.
“My parents did so much for me” “ I love them”.. about parents that forced her to marry a guy that raped her. That’s just insane!! I could never ever look at their faces again.
مش brainwashed أبدا أمْر والديها كان عن جهل كبير بتعاليم الإسلام الرّحيمة بالإنسان ..هي عذرت جهلهما و لا يمكن أن تقطع الصّلة بوالديها بسبب الجهل بأوامر الله عزّ و جلّ
@@jasminkrieger8464 in ancient times, everyone married very young. That was all there was to life. People were trying to survive, not really "live" and enjoy life. They also did a lot of things that we would consider heinous crimes today. So, yeah..
@@writing._. no its not.. literally nowhere in the Quran states this. Infact, Islam granted women in pre-Islamic Arabia their rights, as they had been originally seen as lesser than donkeys
@@0ksammy then why are they still treated differently? Like marrying as soon as you reach puberty, female genital mutilation, reason behind wearing a hijab and loose clothes?
@@writing._. that doesn't mean it's allowed in Islam??? Also men have to wear loose clothing in Islam or they get sinned for it. Also fgm isn't allowed not even mentioned in Islam.
I've just discussed this with my 17 yo daughter. If she informed me of rape at any age, she would have my full support to have him incarcerated. I asked her if the girl's parents would be as understanding if a 24 yo woman raped their 12 yo son?? Would they expect the minor to become engaged to the 24 yo woman? Mysogony, criminality, and immortality are a few words that come to mind. I'm proud of Jahana for seeing this thru to her satisfaction, without the help of her family. Did anyone notice her arm???? There were signs of self-harm - which considering what she went thru, I'm not at all surprised. I wish her full and exciting life, free of cultural barriers & predators.
@@beckygail9454 that's not true at all. what does that have to do with being pakistani or not. as if everyone in pakistan would do something like that or pakistani in general. that is rare. You can't say that everyone does it that way or that it's common in Pakistan. neither of us had been engaged or married as children. not a single one from our family, relatives or acquaintances.
There is a problem when people especially women from this lady in the videos culture act like what she went through doesnt exist. It happens. Stop pretending it dont happen in your culture. It happens with Pakistani culture, it happens within Muslim culture just to name two. Watch more videos like this one to see which parts of the world these horrible crimes happen. And you can get offended all you like, I dont care. Because then you cant see, and you are, part of the problem why underage and incestual forced marriages continue.
The parents i guess chosen him but they chosen wrong but they gave their Word and Pride cant take that back i wouldnt agreed From Start if i was the father ans someone alles Cousin uncle or whatever to marry my daughter i Would say no even if they Would be upset because my son or daughter choose forthemselves ans choose well like a Partner who dont hurt them my mother like i sayed in poland should have hat the arranged marriage she refused shes with my father 29 years of marriage married her childhood Friend she loves her parents but refused that they planned for it they warmed up to my father earning their Respect he was q kind hard working man hat his own company earned good money but h3 aswell respected my mother never hit abused her they Loved each other of course they sometimes argued but made later up my dad is the best das dir Me ans my two younger Brothers Anyway
Agreed. Unfortunately, they were raised to think this is totally normal. No excuse for their behavior but it’s a shame this is normalized in some family. She wanted to please them so badly…
Wow, what a courageous woman. She never spoke ill of her family, even after everything and she's not bitter. I wish her the very best, she deserves to have peace and be happy.
@@KS-cl8br Parents more worried about their stupid reputation looking good to others than protecting their own daughter. She is not a property. They are gross.
@@jasminkrieger8464 let her off?? I don’t think the marriage should have taken place in the first place. What kind of man needs to force his self on a young woman? In reality she was still a child. He deserves absolutely no measure of respect.
@@minigolfandothergames7096 we are all genetic Distant related to each other ans have look a like in Earth to each other but cousin or Brother father is closer related
Don’t thank that (ex-husband) man for anything, he harm you , rather Thank Allah cause you did not need to even get a divorce in Islam since you were not ok with it in the first place . Your religion gave your rights , that no man or woman can take away .
After hearing your story you are the lucky one. I do-not care what religion or culture your from, No one should be forced to be marry to someone you do not agree.. I am truly hAppy for you.
She is a Muslim and her family is Muslim . Islam strictly prohibits marrying off your child without their consent. You shouldn't even manipulate their minds so they can accept or whatever. The problem has to do with culture and there are endless cultural practices hurting girls and women.
So sad and aggravating. My mom was forced to marry my dad too. She tried to commit suicide, but they revived her only to force her to stay married to him. She had us six kids. Then, of course my father died towards the end of the Vietnam War. My mom was 13. My dad was the sole provider. He left us orphaned. In our culture orphans were often mistreated. Let's just say it was a tough life for her and for us kids.
Your life must have been hard with her mom carrying so much trauma 😢 to actually kill oneself to get out and be revived to have to continue that life (at first ) - that must be one of the Most horrible things to go through . Did she find some peace after being widowed ! 😢
The crazy thing is how people make their children believe its what their religion says, and they should follow it when it's just a cultural norm, also makes me angry how they emotionally blackmail their own kids not caring about their happiness when that's litterally their job, to make sure the child is safe and happy no matter what
This religion does not seem to curb or stop the worst of human behavior ever, instead it allows and gives a pass to acts that other religions or indeed people of no religion consider sinful. I have never understood why so many want to defend it and pretend the bad behaviors are all related to culture alone.
@marial8415 And it never seems to faze me how there's misconceptions about islam, as soon as a Muslim does something wrong they say "oh it must be his religion" but atheist or people who follow other religions will do something wrong n nobody will mention their faith, its become so common now especially in the media, that the people are also blindly stereotyping and the scrutiny muslims recieve is unbelievable and we defend our religion like any other person would n theres no need to pretend when everything is clear, culture and religion are 2 different things, you need to learn the difference....forced marriage is culture not islam n a simple Google search will tell you that
@Aronno because it's in our face constantly, in way or another whether it be that we all have to eat halal, or mainstream news constantly telling us how the latest bombing or stabbing has nothing to do with islam, the muslim ra..pe gangs across the UK, hijabi girls telling us how much more liberated they are than western women and criticizing everything about the west but strangely not wanting to live in the 50 plus countries where the religion rules. I wish I could stop caring so how about you get out of our faces for a change,
I'm a Muslim woman and I never experienced this but I definitely know my older female relatives had to go through with arranged marriages. I asked my dad about his sister and he said she cried so much because she didn't want to leave our country and get married to a stranger. Now, years later, I met a couple. The man was almost 30 when he married his wife when she was 14. They are so incompatible, not just because of age but personality. He said he was the one who cried because he didn't want to marry her and she was happy. This is not Islam.
To state that is not Islam is not the truth. Why is the age of criminal responsibility for females 9 years - why is sex with children not regarded as Paedophilia when one of the most important claims that Islam makes is that observant Muslims must emulate the lifestyle and behaviour of the person you consider to be your 'prophet'? It is well documented that this same 'person' married Ayesa when she was 6 years and consummated the marriage with her when she was 9 - In so many Islamic Nations men are encouraged to 'marry' 9 year olds. Why does Islam confer upon all men sole moral authority over women and girls to the extent that a Muslim women does not have ownership of her own body?
@@Egalitarianism Not every muslim accepts hadeeth. There are plenty of Muslims who only follow the Quran and what is says is there is no compulsion allowed. Also, there is no age of maturity specified because it differs from person to person and time to time. Just because a so called Islamic nation (many muslims reject that such a state exists) encourages that men marry 9 year olds, doesn't mean it's what the Quran tells us to do. Neither male or female has full bodily autonomy in Islam. These bodies are gifts to be looked after - this means you cannot deliberately cause it harm. Nowhere does Islam allow all men sole moral authority over women. Male relatives are to care for and provide for women which is why what's hhis is hers and what's hers is hers. If you don;t like it, that's your business. No one can make you follow it. Nor can anyone make you educate yourself better on the topic.
My husband and I would be tripping over each other to get to the man who hurt our daughter, and we would be processed together in the local jail for murder 😡
It is amazing that you've created such a safe space where people can shine in their truths. Despite what our upbringings are. Our generational curses must be broken and we have to be honest because only the truth will set us free.
Your parents don't deserve to have such a kind and compassionate beautiful daughter like her. I'm so happy that she managed to get out of that situation and I'm glad she realized that her family was distorting religion for their own sepfish reasons. I wish her nothing but the best.
Its sad that with all this she can't seem to come to the reality that her parents failed her. They basically groomed her for this man. No protection culture over family. Imagine at 12, I don't know how she still loves them and speaks highly of them or the family as a whole
Yes, that struck me too. What does the Quran also say about rape? The cultural norm of marrying cousins--so dangerous for genetic diseases, treating daughers as cattle, that's from my understanding nothing to do with Islam and everything to do with cultural norms. She was drugged and raped. And no one gave a d...
I think she is so brave and smart, learning that the culture and the Koran are different and living by the Koran, Follow your faith and your God, you can't go wrong.
Hi, I can’t imagine the amount of pain and struggle you went through! May Allah make it easy for you and grant you lots of peace and happiness moving forward. Your story really touched me as I went through something very very similar. when I was 17 I was forced to marry my cousin who was also ten years older than me. Fortunately I was able to come back before he got physical with me. I was forced to keep in touch with him by my parents, and then he was coming here…I was so scared. And I decided to leave home. I couldn’t stay with my parents who did that to me, even when I told them I didn’t want to, it was haram to force me, and I could never live with him. And now I’m 18 and I’m going to be living on my own. Inshallah the future holds something better for both of us ❤ You’re so strong! And I’m glad your parents stuck by you in the end.
Oh your story really touched my soul ❤ And I’m a mother of 27 years old beautiful daughter and I would never ever ask her to marry or to be with a man of my choice. It’s her life and she’s the one who got the top priority to decide about her own life & rights ❤
This is sooooo horrible!! This poor girl going through all that and the outlook she has on life today says so much about who she is. I have a 12 year old daughter and I can’t imagine making her marry her cousin!! I’m so sick to my stomach that her parents (any parents of this culture/religion) did this to her!!!!!!!!! And yet she still thinks the world of her parents and family….. what is wrong with people?!?!
I’m so sorry for the horrible experience that you went through and I’m glad everything worked out for you. And I’m very proud of you for not just listening to your parents about what your religion says and instead went to the Quran itself to find out. The blur between culture and religion is a huge issue and has been for a long long time.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I am so glad you can differentiate between the religion and the culture. Forced marriage is forbidden, and by speaking out, hopefully you can help others in the same situation. May Allah reward you and keep you safe. You are a beautiful strong woman. Don't let any man bring you down ever again.
I am from Pakistan.. and finally the things have been changed here aswell in most region.. mostly girls get married after 18 or so.. but your story is so heartbreaking yet powerful.. the person who did this to you will face the consequences in SHAA ALLAH
Watching this makes me appreciate my parents more. I know for sure my parents wouldn’t force me to marry someone. I’m so sorry that this happened to her but I’m glad that she can forgive her parents and move on🙂
I’m impressed that even at this young age this girl was able to learn the difference between what was expected of her in her culture and what was expected in her in her religion. I’m even more impressed that she was able to see that her parents loved her and wanted the best for her but were victims of their cultural beliefs as well. We are all shaped by our culture wether we live in the west or the east. Arranged marriage is not inherently wrong. In fact it was also the norm in western societies until recently. Arranged marriage was and is used as a way to bring families together, strengthen social ties and keep family resources safe. Marital relationships were mostly arranged all over the world for thousands of years. Love marriages are a western concept that is only a few hundred years old. What isn’t acceptable is forced marriage and there is a big difference between an arranged marriage and a forced marriage . She is a role model, trail blazer and teacher for her family. I’m sure her family was initially shocked after she stopped the marriage. They probably didn’t understand the difference between their culture and their religion themselves. But this young girl taught them. Good luck to this girl and her family 🙏🏻
You have reasoned this out even better then me,few western minds can understand this as well you,I can't think of anything more humiliating than to marry someone you don't want to be married to and at 12years old she was to young to understand what marriage is..people move to the west buy want to stick to they're eastern culture with western born and bred children who doesn't understand a thing about eastern culture..
You are beautiful. You are strong. You are a Survivor. Regardless of the circumstance that brought on this series of events, you not only found the light at the end of the tunnel, you barreled through the other side and came out blazing bright like the sun.
I wish you all the best as you continue to heal from the abuse and trauma you endured by the hands of people who were supposed to protect you. You are a beautiful soul and you don't deserve what was forced upon you.
Sister, you are such a beautiful strong true faithful one. God bless u. That exercise of seeking the truth... Mash Allah. You were able to separate, understand and stand for the truth and yourself. I am so happy for you. Love and Peace.
Survivor here 💛🇬🇧ur so strong thank u for sharing your story 💛 yes i agree 100 about culture and religion and that is how I cope with my pain my reading of several holly txts my ways to talk to my god
You are such a brave & strong woman! ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing your story. In the old days of southern America; some “shotgun weddings” happened because of sexually assault & not all of them where welcomed by the female. Sometimes the woman was blamed for “teasing’ the man; though we known that’s not necessarily how it went down. About 20 years ago; I was shocked on a church bus ride when a woman was asked how she met & married her husband & she embarrassed him; by openly saying he SA’d her & they were forced to marry. It seemed her father & uncles made sure he was a good husband in all ways. Obviously that not always the case. Thank you for your strength & diligence in telling your story!
Any comments that they all admire you being brave woman, And I would like to say how proud how grave and how strong you are I wish you I wish you the best of luck in your life.
Sadly, in the Middle East and parts of Asia, the line between religion and tradition is faded. Unless one has actually learned religion from the Quran (or Bible;Torah), religion becomes an inherited part of the next generation’s life with a mix of tradition passed down as religion, when in fact, it is far from the holy teachings. She has so much strength and forgiveness in her heart, may Allah reward her good deeds
She is lucky that when she went to Pakistan they did not force her to stay there. I hope her parents asked for forgiveness from her for making her go through that
Childhood abuse and manipulation have always been passing on through many generation. I know that because i'm from it very similar. Unfortunately most of the time, a mother can only pass on to her daughter what she knows. This often coming from, lack of education, poverty and a society that suppress women and children. Hopefully this of pain will eventually subside, because i like see young ladies have the same rights and freedom as their counterpart.
It's crazy how she keeps describing all that as "culture"! Like, she keeps saying (to herself) it's a "different culture". No, the pre-arranged marriages for underaged girls, and to their own blood relatives to that, being illegal in the US and the entire civilized world, is not different "culture", for chrissake. It's evolution and progress. And the countries, societies, and communities where that is the "culture" are beyond backwards, they are plain criminal. The International Community must change the laws in these abusive countries.
@@twinnish Yes, and it seems that there are some statistical differences regarding the frequency, e.g. the frequency of marrying minors and cousins being higher in Islamic communities, and in the countries of the Indian subcontinent, regardless of religious denomination of the family. As for marrying cousins, some faiths have rules like my Christian Orthodox Church that forbids marrying anyone closer than your 8th cousin. I know of a couple who had to formally convert to Catholic Church in order to be able to get married because they weren't apart enough. (They only found out they were distant relations when they applied for their marriage license) Apparently the Catholics don't mind cousin marriages 😁 Maybe it's time for the world to (re-) introduce laws defining better the restrictions regarding both the age and the level of kinship of the newlyweds,so as to help prevent situations like the ones described in this channel's videos.
Agreed…..please do not think this doesn’t happen in the USA. You can probably guess where? Impoverished areas where “spare the rod and spoil the child” rules. Google the stats….and those are stats only from formally recorded events.
As an Ex-Muslim myself, she’s not right about what the Quran says. The Quran allows men to beat their rebellious wives and rebellious here means refusing to have sex with their husbands. She’s brave and I’m glad she’s overcome what she went through but I think religion as well as culture is to blame for it.
It’s not necessarily the religion itself but the people of that religion they take and twist the words of their holy book and interpreted the wrong way and use it to their advantage to do evil they’re not a good representation of that specific religion and they’re not a true follower of that religion as well
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“ He’s a great person, he’s very kind, he’s going to take good care of you… “ How can a mother say this to her 12-year-old daughter about the 24-year-old man who just raped her? And then force her to marry him? I’m so glad this lovely young woman searched and found the truth, that forced marriage is not allowed in Islam,found the help she needed and got a divorce. got a divorce.
Children are so vulnerable and trust their parents, especially the good kids
@Serena Cena so true and sad
I know right , Go's to show you how far the dysfunction goes , smh so sad 😔
It’s none of your business you’re not a Muslim and why is your value is correct why not everybody else you’re a hypocrite and all of your kind are
Sad beyond words.
just because it’s culture doesn’t mean it’s okay and should be continued. she is so brave. i pray for so many other girls who are in this situation
It's not in culture! It's all about getting PR.
It’s not culture. It’s religion. Read the Quran and Sahih Al-Bukhari.
In Islam that man would be stoned to death for rape shut up if you don’t know anything about Islam
@@suigeneris2663 its not its culture, forced marriage is prohibited in islam
@@suigeneris2663it's religion to force a young girl/child to get married? Thank God I was born Christian!
I love how she read Quran on her own and came to the realization that what she was going through was not ok.
Didn't Mohammed forced married Aisha at 5
Your puppet mohmad married aisha when she was six and consumated marriage when she was nine as in the book of surah
Your demon god allah allowed it
Followers of this kind of culture have usually been negatively influenced by religious fanaticism.
I am so glad she realized this
The fact that the religion is so against forced marriages even stating that this act goes into rape and everyone participating will sin too
@@suracakir8175 so mohmad sinned and muslim god allah too
I was forced to get married when I was 16. thanks for sharing this sister. not everyone is brave enough to share their stories.
hope your doing great now my love x
Sorry to hear that, hope you are doing well
Stay strong love ❤ me too 😭
You are so brave. Jesus loves you, you are so so precious to Him Batool
The Quran doesn’t allow this but everyone thru the comments saying it happened to all of them. Some even say she still loves her family ~ imagine what happens if they don’t obey? People are naive. Today we know what all those countries practice they can have as many wives as they want but go ahead continue lying to the world, continue lying to Hallah it doesn’t matter……
The adults who should have protected her were the very people that failed her and allowed her to be harmed.
it's usually mothers
It's crazy she still loves her parents after they allowed this to happen to her.
My mother forced me to marry a man I didn’t want to marry, I resented her for years especially when my husband started abusing me and cheating on me. Long story short i divorced him. I learned to forgive my mother.
@Valene Chavez I'm so sorry. I'm proud of you for standing up and saving yourself. That definitely takes strength and courage. It hard... I haven't talked to my mother in years because of her controlling narcissistic ways. I've forgiven her, but any contact at all is a hard no. I really wish I could have her in my life, but it's just not in the cards. If don't mind me asking, is your relationship with your mother good now?
Religious is brainwashing women into being doormats
You are so brave
Yep. Culture over conscience.
“I said yes and I will forever regret that”…you were a CHILD, a baby, a little girl. You had no real choice and saying “yes” never made you complicit. The people around you failed you and no part of this was your responsibility or “fault” in any way. This story is so so sad. My heart hurts for you and I hope you can heal.
What type of father (& mother) marries his daughter to a man that raped her? Most fathers would go to jail for killing a man that raped his child & took her virginity.
It’s so sad that she doesn’t see how horribly her parents treated her. I get that she loves them but what they did was so f*** up.
I wish her the best moving forward!
A lot of men around the world so not value women, doesn’t matter if it’s their daughter, mother, wife or sister!
Islam allows marriage to the rapist.
@@nv2224 True, and unless 4 adult males witness such an attack, it is often the woman who is punished for what happened to her. Women and children are simply property in that religion.
@@nv2224 True
These are parents that have been brainwashed in a very dark tradition. No child deserves this.
“My parents did so much for me” “ I love them”.. about parents that forced her to marry a guy that raped her. That’s just insane!! I could never ever look at their faces again.
Yeah like she's brainwashed
مش brainwashed أبدا
أمْر والديها كان عن جهل كبير بتعاليم الإسلام الرّحيمة بالإنسان ..هي عذرت جهلهما و لا يمكن أن تقطع الصّلة بوالديها بسبب الجهل بأوامر الله عزّ و جلّ
Her parents were brought up in that culture and didn't know better.
@@dawns.6022 they had lived in the USA for many years, they did know better!!
@@Celisar1 People's beliefs and traditions don't all of a sudden vanish when they immigrate.
A 12 year old, so sad to be gaslighted by your parents, not be protected or comforted that's horrible.
nice white girls, contact me, a nice white guy
In achient Japan they married that young even in India at 14 was it
Isn’t that against the law
@Ks Yes, but if the marry outside of US 🤷🏾♀️
@@jasminkrieger8464 in ancient times, everyone married very young. That was all there was to life. People were trying to survive, not really "live" and enjoy life. They also did a lot of things that we would consider heinous crimes today. So, yeah..
Girl as a Muslim I am so proud of u. That u stood up for yourself.
Huh! Women standing for their rights in your religion is a crime. They are punished for it! Pathetic!!!
@@writing._. Where is your proof of that??? Show me Qurans verses for such claims.
@@writing._. no its not.. literally nowhere in the Quran states this. Infact, Islam granted women in pre-Islamic Arabia their rights, as they had been originally seen as lesser than donkeys
@@0ksammy then why are they still treated differently? Like marrying as soon as you reach puberty, female genital mutilation, reason behind wearing a hijab and loose clothes?
@@writing._. that doesn't mean it's allowed in Islam??? Also men have to wear loose clothing in Islam or they get sinned for it. Also fgm isn't allowed not even mentioned in Islam.
I have a 14 year old daughter and there’s no way she would be engaged or married at this age 😢
Your obviously not Pakistani.
I've just discussed this with my 17 yo daughter.
If she informed me of rape at any age, she would have my full support to have him incarcerated.
I asked her if the girl's parents would be as understanding if a 24 yo woman raped their 12 yo son??
Would they expect the minor to become engaged to the 24 yo woman? Mysogony, criminality, and immortality are a few words that come to mind. I'm proud of Jahana for seeing this thru to her satisfaction, without the help of her family.
Did anyone notice her arm???? There were signs of self-harm - which considering what she went thru, I'm not at all surprised.
I wish her full and exciting life, free of cultural barriers & predators.
@@beckygail9454 p
I read and hear about stuff like this and I thank God that I live in America! We have it so good here and we don’t even appreciate it.
@@beckygail9454 that's not true at all. what does that have to do with being pakistani or not. as if everyone in pakistan would do something like that or pakistani in general. that is rare. You can't say that everyone does it that way or that it's common in Pakistan. neither of us had been engaged or married as children. not a single one from our family, relatives or acquaintances.
She has the kindest and purest of heart, after all what happened to her she still in her heart to forgive.
There are not enough women from this culture speaking out about forced marriage.
They would be endangering their lives if they spoke out....
This woman is an unusually brave woman!
I am also a woman of " this culture" and never forced to marry...so think before stereotyping...
@@AA-cl5nk she was talking about the 'forced ones' only not everyone.
There is a problem when people especially women from this lady in the videos culture act like what she went through doesnt exist. It happens. Stop pretending it dont happen in your culture. It happens with Pakistani culture, it happens within Muslim culture just to name two. Watch more videos like this one to see which parts of the world these horrible crimes happen. And you can get offended all you like, I dont care. Because then you cant see, and you are, part of the problem why underage and incestual forced marriages continue.
No their bad parents for not caring at all. Her parents don’t deserve happiness or peace at all
The parents i guess chosen him but they chosen wrong but they gave their Word and Pride cant take that back i wouldnt agreed From Start if i was the father ans someone alles Cousin uncle or whatever to marry my daughter i Would say no even if they Would be upset because my son or daughter choose forthemselves ans choose well like a Partner who dont hurt them my mother like i sayed in poland should have hat the arranged marriage she refused shes with my father 29 years of marriage married her childhood Friend she loves her parents but refused that they planned for it they warmed up to my father earning their Respect he was q kind hard working man hat his own company earned good money but h3 aswell respected my mother never hit abused her they Loved each other of course they sometimes argued but made later up my dad is the best das dir Me ans my two younger Brothers Anyway
Agreed. Unfortunately, they were raised to think this is totally normal. No excuse for their behavior but it’s a shame this is normalized in some family. She wanted to please them so badly…
They were just scared she could call the police on them as an american citizen! And could have them deported!!
Is it just me or does it seem like her parents set her up to be assaulted?
Yes. And she still says that they are great loving parents. 😔
Of course they did. Daughters have no value in that culture
Probably yes. As if to force her to marry the man who raped her i.e. took her virginity!!! Meaning no man would take her because she's damaged!!!! 😡
@@darlenebutler4023 so true … they use them to bring the men over from their country …. It’s common true women have no value in South Asian culture
They clearly did..so she would marry him
Her parents didn’t love her truly. It seems they were about status and how others view them from the outside
It's sad that most Pakistani parents care wayyy more about what people will say than their own child's happiness.
It's crazy
Yes so sad is always the same what ppl will think
Caring about what other people think put you in your own prison.
As a Pakistani, that is one thing that I really don’t like the idea of that at all tbh….
and that is how this barbaric religion was forced into us
I’m so proud of you for speaking out about your abuse. Such a beautiful, strong woman. Praying you find peace & happiness in this life.
Wow, what a courageous woman. She never spoke ill of her family, even after everything and she's not bitter. I wish her the very best, she deserves to have peace and be happy.
She should see if she can press charges on her parents in the US for trafficking.
So happy she canceled his visa. Obviously her parents aren't loving.
@@KS-cl8br
Most Asian parents are not loving.
They love there siblings bk home then there own kids
@@KS-cl8br Parents more worried about their stupid reputation looking good to others than protecting their own daughter. She is not a property. They are gross.
I know that would be a logical thing to do, but I don't think she wants to. She just seems grateful she made it out of the marriage.
@@ariyaahrary1656 reputatiob is everything in Asian cultures. IJJATH they call it
Forgiveness is really something. She is definitely a stronger person than me to thank her abuser at the end.
Well he let her go instead of insist in the marriage he let her off by divorce
@@jasminkrieger8464 let her off?? I don’t think the marriage should have taken place in the first place. What kind of man needs to force his self on a young woman? In reality she was still a child. He deserves absolutely no measure of respect.
@@minigolfandothergames7096 he was her cousin related to her thats even more worse
@@minigolfandothergames7096 we are all genetic Distant related to each other ans have look a like in Earth to each other but cousin or Brother father is closer related
@@minigolfandothergames7096 he got away with it since he was Distant family the father and mother should never agreed to the marriage proposal
Im 16 and in a forced engagement. Stories like yours give me hope, thank you.
Get out of it. Islam gives you the right. A forced marriage is an invalid marriage. Love from a muslim
IF you are in a muslim family, study islam and verses from the quran about forced marriages. study as much as you can, and collect proof.
Praying for you ❤😢
I hope you can escape asap. Praying that luck will be on your side and you can marry the man you choose not your parents. Never give up girl!!
Muslim learn from Mohammed😊he was married a 9 year old girl and 9 wife
Conditioning from childhood creates this kind of complacency. It is very sad this woman had to go through this.
Don’t thank that (ex-husband) man for anything, he harm you , rather Thank Allah cause you did not need to even get a divorce in Islam since you were not ok with it in the first place . Your religion gave your rights , that no man or woman can take away .
After hearing your story you are the lucky one. I do-not care what religion or culture your from, No one should be forced to be marry to someone you do not agree.. I am truly hAppy for you.
She is a Muslim and her family is Muslim . Islam strictly prohibits marrying off your child without their consent. You shouldn't even manipulate their minds so they can accept or whatever. The problem has to do with culture and there are endless cultural practices hurting girls and women.
So sad and aggravating. My mom was forced to marry my dad too. She tried to commit suicide, but they revived her only to force her to stay married to him. She had us six kids. Then, of course my father died towards the end of the Vietnam War. My mom was 13. My dad was the sole provider. He left us orphaned. In our culture orphans were often mistreated. Let's just say it was a tough life for her and for us kids.
She had 6 kids by age 13? How old was she when she had her first kid?
@@Amandaaa2244 no. She was forced to marry him at 13.
Yeah. That wasn't so clear.
I hope you guys are having a better life now.
Your life must have been hard with her mom carrying so much trauma 😢 to actually kill oneself to get out and be revived to have to continue that life (at first ) - that must be one of the
Most horrible things to go through . Did she find some peace after being widowed ! 😢
She is an amazing, strong, courageous person. May she be blessed and protected.
The crazy thing is how people make their children believe its what their religion says, and they should follow it when it's just a cultural norm, also makes me angry how they emotionally blackmail their own kids not caring about their happiness when that's litterally their job, to make sure the child is safe and happy no matter what
This religion does not seem to curb or stop the worst of human behavior ever, instead it allows and gives a pass to acts that other religions or indeed people of no religion consider sinful. I have never understood why so many want to defend it and pretend the bad behaviors are all related to culture alone.
@@aronno9868 exactly
@marial8415 And it never seems to faze me how there's misconceptions about islam, as soon as a Muslim does something wrong they say "oh it must be his religion" but atheist or people who follow other religions will do something wrong n nobody will mention their faith, its become so common now especially in the media, that the people are also blindly stereotyping and the scrutiny muslims recieve is unbelievable and we defend our religion like any other person would n theres no need to pretend when everything is clear, culture and religion are 2 different things, you need to learn the difference....forced marriage is culture not islam n a simple Google search will tell you that
@Aronno because it's in our face constantly, in way or another whether it be that we all have to eat halal, or mainstream news constantly telling us how the latest bombing or stabbing has nothing to do with islam, the muslim ra..pe gangs across the UK, hijabi girls telling us how much more liberated they are than western women and criticizing everything about the west but strangely not wanting to live in the 50 plus countries where the religion rules. I wish I could stop caring so how about you get out of our faces for a change,
@@Haleema_21 Haleema you must be so proud to worship a man who married a 6 year old when he was fifty.
I'm a Muslim woman and I never experienced this but I definitely know my older female relatives had to go through with arranged marriages. I asked my dad about his sister and he said she cried so much because she didn't want to leave our country and get married to a stranger. Now, years later, I met a couple. The man was almost 30 when he married his wife when she was 14. They are so incompatible, not just because of age but personality. He said he was the one who cried because he didn't want to marry her and she was happy. This is not Islam.
To state that is not Islam is not the truth. Why is the age of criminal responsibility for females 9 years - why is sex with children not regarded as Paedophilia when one of the most important claims that Islam makes is that observant Muslims must emulate the lifestyle and behaviour of the person you consider to be your 'prophet'? It is well documented that this same 'person' married Ayesa when she was 6 years and consummated the marriage with her when she was 9 - In so many Islamic Nations men are encouraged to 'marry' 9 year olds. Why does Islam confer upon all men sole moral authority over women and girls to the extent that a Muslim women does not have ownership of her own body?
Arranged and forced are 2 completely different things
@@Egalitarianism Not every muslim accepts hadeeth. There are plenty of Muslims who only follow the Quran and what is says is there is no compulsion allowed. Also, there is no age of maturity specified because it differs from person to person and time to time. Just because a so called Islamic nation (many muslims reject that such a state exists) encourages that men marry 9 year olds, doesn't mean it's what the Quran tells us to do. Neither male or female has full bodily autonomy in Islam. These bodies are gifts to be looked after - this means you cannot deliberately cause it harm. Nowhere does Islam allow all men sole moral authority over women. Male relatives are to care for and provide for women which is why what's hhis is hers and what's hers is hers. If you don;t like it, that's your business. No one can make you follow it. Nor can anyone make you educate yourself better on the topic.
Yes it is.
@@Egalitarianismget your facts right!!
As a future mom I can’t understand it, i just can’t. If someone will touch my kid this person will be tortured to death, ESPECIALLY if its a relative
My husband and I would be tripping over each other to get to the man who hurt our daughter, and we would be processed together in the local jail for murder 😡
Bless her what a kind lovely woman her parents put her through all that and she is still saying how wonderful they are.
It is amazing that you've created such a safe space where people can shine in their truths. Despite what our upbringings are. Our generational curses must be broken and we have to be honest because only the truth will set us free.
This story is very powerful! I’m glad that you were strong enough to overpower your situation!
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Unfortunately i see Stockholm syndrome, stay strong please and seek mental health, you're very strong ❤
Heartbreaking story. I personally went no contact with my mother due to her abuse. It is crazy she still loves her family that literally betrayed her.
The worst thing is that the mothers want their daughters to suffer sexual abuse.
Because they also went through that, these women don't have power they are under males. These mothers worship males
Your parents don't deserve to have such a kind and compassionate beautiful daughter like her. I'm so happy that she managed to get out of that situation and I'm glad she realized that her family was distorting religion for their own sepfish reasons. I wish her nothing but the best.
Its sad that with all this she can't seem to come to the reality that her parents failed her. They basically groomed her for this man. No protection culture over family. Imagine at 12, I don't know how she still loves them and speaks highly of them or the family as a whole
The religious beliefs brianwash them
I agree. Do you think her parents allowed the gRape to happen?
Yes, that struck me too. What does the Quran also say about rape? The cultural norm of marrying cousins--so dangerous for genetic diseases, treating daughers as cattle, that's from my understanding nothing to do with Islam and everything to do with cultural norms. She was drugged and raped. And no one gave a d...
I think she is so brave and smart, learning that the culture and the Koran are different and living by the Koran, Follow your faith and your God, you can't go wrong.
It is so crazy and horrible how this kind of thing happens to women, hopefully others in need hear this story.
These things as being going on for centuries and still going on, i feel sorry for women and girls
He didn't set you free. YOU SET YOURSELF FREE!!
I am so happy you finally became free. Thank you for letting me share your story. Inshallah you will find a love match as you deserve 🙏🌺❤️
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your parents are at the center of your trauma. thats sad
I’m so happy for you. Such a beautiful strong American woman ❤
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Hi, I can’t imagine the amount of pain and struggle you went through! May Allah make it easy for you and grant you lots of peace and happiness moving forward. Your story really touched me as I went through something very very similar. when I was 17 I was forced to marry my cousin who was also ten years older than me. Fortunately I was able to come back before he got physical with me. I was forced to keep in touch with him by my parents, and then he was coming here…I was so scared. And I decided to leave home. I couldn’t stay with my parents who did that to me, even when I told them I didn’t want to, it was haram to force me, and I could never live with him. And now I’m 18 and I’m going to be living on my own. Inshallah the future holds something better for both of us ❤ You’re so strong! And I’m glad your parents stuck by you in the end.
May God bless you and .may you receive all help and support you need.
Stay away from your parents.
Oh your story really touched my soul ❤ And I’m a mother of 27 years old beautiful daughter and I would never ever ask her to marry or to be with a man of my choice. It’s her life and she’s the one who got the top priority to decide about her own life & rights ❤
This is sooooo horrible!! This poor girl going through all that and the outlook she has on life today says so much about who she is. I have a 12 year old daughter and I can’t imagine making her marry her cousin!! I’m so sick to my stomach that her parents (any parents of this culture/religion) did this to her!!!!!!!!! And yet she still thinks the world of her parents and family….. what is wrong with people?!?!
She is beautiful inside and out.
So sad she can’t see how toxic her parents and family are 😢😢😢
I am so happy for her she was incredibly brave to do what she did,bless her I hope she has a very happy life xx
I’m so sorry for the horrible experience that you went through and I’m glad everything worked out for you. And I’m very proud of you for not just listening to your parents about what your religion says and instead went to the Quran itself to find out. The blur between culture and religion is a huge issue and has been for a long long time.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I am so glad you can differentiate between the religion and the culture. Forced marriage is forbidden, and by speaking out, hopefully you can help others in the same situation. May Allah reward you and keep you safe. You are a beautiful strong woman. Don't let any man bring you down ever again.
What a story! Thank you for humbling me, sister… you have a brave heart that loves the truth xx
I am from Pakistan.. and finally the things have been changed here aswell in most region.. mostly girls get married after 18 or so.. but your story is so heartbreaking yet powerful.. the person who did this to you will face the consequences in SHAA ALLAH
You look so peacefull and gracious. God bless your soûl ! How brave you are to share your story ! Thank you for this video
this cousin thing is trauma for me ..somthing like this happened with me too..but i m deniying marriage and i will never marry my cousin
May Allah bless you with a good spouse from far away. Ameen
Allah bless you Sister and protect you.
Thank you for this testimony. I think people need to realize there is a difference between culture and your faith. ❤❤❤
Watching this makes me appreciate my parents more. I know for sure my parents wouldn’t force me to marry someone. I’m so sorry that this happened to her but I’m glad that she can forgive her parents and move on🙂
What a beautiful and gentle woman! May rhe rest of her life be good and fulfilled.
I feel privileged because of where I grew and I didn’t realize it was a privilege
The only person you should thank is yourself young lady! You've done so well! 100% for bravery 🎉🎉
I’m impressed that even at this young age this girl was able to learn the difference between what was expected of her in her culture and what was expected in her in her religion. I’m even more impressed that she was able to see that her parents loved her and wanted the best for her but were victims of their cultural beliefs as well. We are all shaped by our culture wether we live in the west or the east. Arranged marriage is not inherently wrong. In fact it was also the norm in western societies until recently. Arranged marriage was and is used as a way to bring families together,
strengthen social ties and keep family resources safe. Marital relationships were mostly arranged all over the world for thousands of years. Love marriages are a western concept that is only a few hundred years old. What isn’t acceptable is forced marriage and there is a big difference between an arranged marriage and a forced marriage . She is a role model, trail blazer and teacher for her family. I’m sure her family was initially shocked after she stopped the marriage. They probably didn’t understand the difference between their culture and their religion themselves. But this young girl taught them. Good luck to this girl and her family 🙏🏻
You have reasoned this out even better then me,few western minds can understand this as well you,I can't think of anything more humiliating than to marry someone you don't want to be married to and at 12years old she was to young to understand what marriage is..people move to the west buy want to stick to they're eastern culture with western born and bred children who doesn't understand a thing about eastern culture..
So reasonably explained. Thank you! Very thoughtful!
She is incredibly brave to share this❤
I decided not to focus on everyone else, I decided to please myself and my creator
Such a strong beautiful woman that does not appear bitter but remains true to her Faith. ❤
Lovely young woman not sure how she thinks her parents are wonderful when they knew she was abused at 12..baffles me
You are beautiful. You are strong. You are a Survivor.
Regardless of the circumstance that brought on this series of events, you not only found the light at the end of the tunnel, you barreled through the other side and came out blazing bright like the sun.
Thank you for explaining the difference between culture and religion. I get those 2 confused sometimes.
I wish you all the best as you continue to heal from the abuse and trauma you endured by the hands of people who were supposed to protect you. You are a beautiful soul and you don't deserve what was forced upon you.
Sister, you are such a beautiful strong true faithful one. God bless u. That exercise of seeking the truth... Mash Allah. You were able to separate, understand and stand for the truth and yourself. I am so happy for you. Love and Peace.
I can't believe she still thanks her parents... They allowed all that to happen.
As crazy as it sounds it is so common is our culture 😢. More power to you for speaking up.
Thank you for talking about the difference between culture and religion.
such a strong woman, so sorry, a very beautiful lady...beauitful eyes...prayers for your wellness
The arranged marriages I've seen are creepy it's basically a narcissist with a codependent
Arranged and forced are not the same
Not even close
Survivor here 💛🇬🇧ur so strong thank u for sharing your story 💛 yes i agree 100 about culture and religion and that is how I cope with my pain my reading of several holly txts my ways to talk to my god
You are such a brave & strong woman! ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing your story. In the old days of southern America; some “shotgun weddings” happened because of sexually assault & not all of them where welcomed by the female. Sometimes the woman was blamed for “teasing’ the man; though we known that’s not necessarily how it went down. About 20 years ago; I was shocked on a church bus ride when a woman was asked how she met & married her husband & she embarrassed him; by openly saying he SA’d her & they were forced to marry. It seemed her father & uncles made sure he was a good husband in all ways. Obviously that not always the case. Thank you for your strength & diligence in telling your story!
Any comments that they all admire you being brave woman,
And I would like to say how proud how grave and how strong you are I wish you
I wish you the best of luck in your life.
Sadly, in the Middle East and parts of Asia, the line between religion and tradition is faded. Unless one has actually learned religion from the Quran (or Bible;Torah), religion becomes an inherited part of the next generation’s life with a mix of tradition passed down as religion, when in fact, it is far from the holy teachings.
She has so much strength and forgiveness in her heart, may Allah reward her good deeds
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@@Yolk421 this is NOT permitted in Islam. It is incorrect
@@arayishb Muslims don’t follow the Koran , they follow culture FACTS
What about when the Mosaic law says that a woman who is raped, has to marry her rapist?
Deuteronomy 22:28-29
@@judyperri9496 the correct Muslims do.
You are resilient , and beautiful inside & out. I’m so happy everything worked out for you. I’m so happy for you.
She is lucky that when she went to Pakistan they did not force her to stay there. I hope her parents asked for forgiveness from her for making her go through that
So much strength and bravery and beauty. Thanks for sharing
You are a gorgeous, and very brave woman. I wish you all the happiness possible.
Childhood abuse and manipulation have always been passing on through many generation. I know that because i'm from it very similar. Unfortunately most of the time, a mother can only pass on to her daughter what she knows. This often coming from, lack of education, poverty and a society that suppress women and children. Hopefully this of pain will eventually subside, because i like see young ladies have the same rights and freedom as their counterpart.
Thank you sooooo much for being so brave to tell your story
I'm so glad you are free and happy now!
It's crazy how she keeps describing all that as "culture"! Like, she keeps saying (to herself) it's a "different culture".
No, the pre-arranged marriages for underaged girls, and to their own blood relatives to that, being illegal in the US and the entire civilized world, is not different "culture", for chrissake. It's evolution and progress. And the countries, societies, and communities where that is the "culture" are beyond backwards, they are plain criminal. The International Community must change the laws in these abusive countries.
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@@twinnish Damn...Let me guess, Utah?
@@twinnish Yes, and it seems that there are some statistical differences regarding the frequency, e.g. the frequency of marrying minors and cousins being higher in Islamic communities, and in the countries of the Indian subcontinent, regardless of religious denomination of the family.
As for marrying cousins, some faiths have rules like my Christian Orthodox Church that forbids marrying anyone closer than your 8th cousin.
I know of a couple who had to formally convert to Catholic Church in order to be able to get married because they weren't apart enough. (They only found out they were distant relations when they applied for their marriage license)
Apparently the Catholics don't mind cousin marriages 😁
Maybe it's time for the world to (re-) introduce laws defining better the restrictions regarding both the age and the level of kinship of the newlyweds,so as to help prevent situations like the ones described in this channel's videos.
Yes and the states that are like that are more conservative more religious less educated with higher poverty.
Agreed…..please do not think this doesn’t happen in the USA. You can probably guess where? Impoverished areas where “spare the rod and spoil the child” rules. Google the stats….and those are stats only from formally recorded events.
A true Warrior Woman right there!
Such a brave beautiful woman.
Sorry to hear. The same thing happen to me as a Carrebbean young girl in the 60's which scared me until this day. It was an aunt
I am not Muslim, so I do not know of your culture, but I truly respect you for finding your voice and courage.
There’s a difference between religion and culture, what she had to go through was based on culture and is opposed in Islam
She seems so sweet I feel so sad that she had to go through this.
You are such a strong woman. God bless you. ❤️🙏
and the fact that these kinds of things happen every day due to "culture" is so heartbreaking.
As an Ex-Muslim myself, she’s not right about what the Quran says. The Quran allows men to beat their rebellious wives and rebellious here means refusing to have sex with their husbands. She’s brave and I’m glad she’s overcome what she went through but I think religion as well as culture is to blame for it.
It’s not necessarily the religion itself but the people of that religion they take and twist the words of their holy book and interpreted the wrong way and use it to their advantage to do evil they’re not a good representation of that specific religion and they’re not a true follower of that religion as well
I’m so sorry this happened to you, it’s not ok and I’m glad you realized that it was not ok
This is so sad, demented, this shouldn't be happening to lil girls man.
U r SO STRONG. WE R PROUD OF U SISTER😢
So brave to get outta that situation sis. MashaAllah to you ❤❤❤ please keep it up. We need woman like yourself to encourage our youngsters