Other than the compliments I got from my now departed Unicorn of Amazingness that was the love of my life the last compliment I got from a woman was... A nurse. Telling me I was very tough because she forgot to dose me with Novocain before she started abrading out a wound I needed stitches for because she was convinced I had a piece of metal in it. There was nothing in the wound...
I compliment my man pretty much every time we meet up. On the other hand, he has never complimented me without being first prompted, aka "what do you like about me". I will have to talk to him about it cause it's bothering me, but yeah, here you go. An account of a reverse situation. The thing is, we are both autistic. We just like clear communication and don't soak in stupid social norms like other people do.
If she did compliment ole boy on his Lego set Is because they're antique and worth a nice penny!! She was like ole girl on that movie 40yr old virgin!!! SHE MAKING ME SELL MY THINGS AND I DON'T WANNA!! cash out big babe!! Lol 😂 😅😂
Yeah I was about to be like, you women don’t even like it when we play video games or any little thing that detracts attention away from them. The correct way to getting the man they want that’s into those things would be “Hey I dig your lego collection, maybe we can build something cool sometime?” It’s that easy but women want to do anything except participate.
Women generally indicate their interest in a man by glancing at him momentarily. Women generally indicate their utter disdain for a man by glancing at him momentarily.
Women remain children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling matters to the most important. Arthur Schopenhauer
Yep. I've never gotten flowers. I'm 45. I've had a total of 15 years in LTRs size I was 17, and about 7 years in STRs that didn't take off. Been on another 100,150 first or second dates. Women have mostly only offered to pay for anything when in an LTR, and even then it was rare enough to be touching, unexpected. Only my first gf in high school reciprocated anywhere close to the effort I put in. Not coincidentally, she and I have been talking a lot recently. We're both single, never married, no kids, and I have been in love with her since I was 17. It was a fantastic relationship for 2.5 years, but the last 6 months were not great, through no fault of hers. We were both immature, and I was dealing with since truly crushing shit I couldn't ask her to deal with (life ruining stuff; some of it my fault, most not.) We've stayed friends, and have known each other for almost 30 years. She is the only woman I've ever been in love with, and yes, that includes my ex fiancee who I was with for 7 years. I told myself I didn't need to be on live to have a good marriage; I'm faithful, honest, hard working, physically fit, apparently good looking (I've been told very handsome, even beautiful, but from sources Im unsure how serious to take), and capable of earning a lot of money though I've lost everything both times thanks to the crash in 2008/9 and CoVid (plus my ex fiancee stealing about $350,000). I've got an IQ high enough that most people think I'm lying if I give a specific number; even so, I'm an idiot for taking so long to stop struggling against the obvious truth. And it has been obvious; I just thought I did learn to love someone else, and or be happy without being in love with my partner. It took my grandmother dying, my dad and my best friend getting terminal illnesses to make me realize I should tell her what I've felt this whole time, rather than sparing her feelings. She told me I was the love of her life, and the reason she'd never married. Now I just need to complete my move back to the USA... But after living in Asia for 15 years, it's not super easy. I know most of this is off topic, but life has been so terrible with everybody I care about getting sick and dying. I have to put aside everything in feeling to help them, and don't have anybody to talk to except strangers. This is the first ray of light since about 2020. Wish me luck. If this doesn't work out, I hope that taking action and trying will allow me to move on. Not that I really want to, but it would be an okay consolation prize and hopefully allow me to meet and fall in love with someone else. If you read all this, thank you. I don't expect anybody to care, but sometimes we need to say it write everything and have our words witnessed. I wish I could be entirely self-resistant in every way but I have not ever quite managed. Read this, I hope your life goes amazingly well, and I wish you luck, health, happiness, and prosperity.
@@MrBrachiatingApedang dude! I care. I was going to say something funny because that was so long but I got into it. All I can say is stay good even though good is not what women want anymore. It's a test. It's all a test. Will you compromise your good nature to get a girl? There is only another life after this and another, then another, and on and on because the soul( you inside the body) is eternal. And the way you conduct yourself determines what atmosphere you will be in next. So realize that( a symptom of the soul is awareness for example)and stick to your guns. If you're good, eventually your life will be too. You are so not alone.
Thee best way I've ever heard it put is "When a woman gives a signal she's interested in a guy, the only people who'll ever pick up on it are the other women in the room"
That' what my best friend's mother once told me, after we'd all been out to dinner and she said afterwards, "You didn't even see the six women around the restaurant looking at you, did you?"
Totally the other way around. Women don’t give compliments. Just expect us to read their minds. Most ladies I’ve came across still act like they’re in the high school/college dating phases thinking their looks will last forever
Whenever you see girls say stuff that is opposite of reality like this know that it's projection and the reason it sounds so false is because they think men act like women do and it leaves everyone who doesn't know they're lying confused. They're the bad guys in the situation and if they just think hey let's put guys in the bad guy position and me in the good guy position then nobody will know I was the bad guy in this situation not knowing that men literally have different brains and don't act the same and they just tried to project to the internet their bad behaviours onto men
Yeah man!! Now I've learnt my lesson. My recent was couple of years back I didn't know she liked me, till one day we were working together then she ask me do I had a GF told her nope!! She says you should try?? I asked with who!!?? You?? She just smiled and went back too her department. Then covid and family deaths changed all that.
If she's working and flirting with me, I expect it's because she's working for a bigger tip or a commission. How many women actually talk to guys randomly in public? It generally happens during networking or forced interactions like purchases. I just expect they're selling something and leave it at that.
@@shenglongisback4688You dodged a bullet. I don't mean her. You should never mix your personal life with your professional life. AKA "Don't $hit where you eat".
This is an underappreciated comment. Women have so poisoned the well between the sexes these days, that's exactly the first thought that comes to mind, warranted or not.
Sex, I got several of those compliments back in my 20´s. All wanted sex and nothing else. Women back then disgusted me and they still do. One jumped right on me after first time seen and some text messages back then, not even talked a word. She was hella confused when I pushed her back.
I'd correct that by saying dont ask women advice on absolutely anything and everything, they're useless on advice in general you're better off talking to a brick wall and figuring out what to do on your own, they will only screw things up for you guaranteed
No. Her problem is she thinks she is more then she is. And in her mind all men must like her. I see nothing I like in her. I don't see a woman that works hard. I don't see a woman that gives for a relationship. And that's just the beganing. Want my attention. Start by showing me that. I'm tired of little girl games.
@@theholywand11 I can guarantee they do, you just don't realize it. Any small talk, acknowledging your existence, giving you the time of day, and other small acts don't happen with shorter guys.
As a man that has never received an honest compliment from someone other than family I can say if a random woman walked up to me and said that I might be in shock but quickly think I am being pranked. The mentally safe option is to ignore them. I've bitten once when a woman said she really likes how I look and my messages are so thoughtful and engaging making her look forward to reading and responding. I replied by asking her on a date and I get ghosted. It hurt a lot back then, but now I realize she probably had a bet with a friend to see how fast she can get me to ask her out on a date. Some women find sport in that, especially when it takes so little effort on their part.
@@petersimpson4648 Wise move. I managed to dodge that bullet because I overheard the person who approached me joking with her friends about it just beforehand ... the only "insulting" part of the whole thing was they really thought I was stupid enough to believe that she'd genuinely want me to ask her out, LOL! It's amazing what intel you can pick up in the library by sitting in one of the "carrels" (small cubicle) and no-one knows you're there ...
@@gabem6863 I guess I must be a woman then. 🤷♂️ Seriously dude, get real. Women have so many options it’s ridiculous - rejection doesn’t even FAZE them. But as a man, it’s like “welp, back to the drawing board - hopefully I can get one date out of ten potential ones and maybe a 10% chance of a second one!” Not to mention that when you’re young and fall for a girl who just ends up leaving you for your best friend after three years together, that shit sticks. It really messes with you, ESPECIALLY when no other women seem interested enough in you afterwards.
MY MOTHER WAS A TEACHER, & LATER A PSYCHIATRIST. SHE TOLD ME. DON'T FALL FOR THE BODY LANGUAGES? A MAN CAN UNDERSTAND, STRICTLY 7 ONLY FROM WERBAL EXPRESSION! = EVEN A MOTHER ISN'T ABLE TO UNDERSTAND, A MUTE KID, WHAT HE ISN'T SAYING? = GIRLS JUST WANT THINGS, BUT WHEN THE CARDS ARE DOWN, THE LAMEST EXCUSES THEY COME UP WITH ; WELL NOT EXZCTLY, I WANNA BE A CAREER WOMEN = I HAVE SOMEHTING IN MIND = YOUR TOO GOOD FOR ME . . . LAME YET THEY WANT EVERYTHING! IF SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WANTS, HE GIVIN IT TO HER . . .
Most compliments I give to a woman if I’m getting to know them or if I’m in a relationship often are ignored due to how many compliments they get. The advice to compliment a woman would be great if they didn’t fall on deaf ears
If only simps would understand this. Everytime I explain why you should never freely give out compliments to woman is because they receive too many. Woman, as lovely as they are, are overrated. Thank you special clothing for woman that hides imperfections. You tricked these fools we all call simps.
Other than on movies where they make it obvious, correct. We men are direct creatures, we don't get subtly or nuance. Maybe the top 5% of men who are tall, good looking don't have this problem but the rest of us do. If a woman likes you, then your flirting is wanted, if she doesn't you're a creep.
Check out Bill Burr's "no reason to hit a woman" comedy bit, he brings up how women argue and even though it's stand up comedy, he hits the nail on the head
Difference being there is no statute of limitations with a woman, turns out something you did fifteen years ago is actually a big problem now, even if it wasn't at the time.
This has happened a few times: ran into a college friend who mentioned that she had a crush on me. I had no idea that any of them were slightly interested. Their 'signals' are like a mouse fart in a rock concert. Men have absolutely no effing clue about what you are doing. If you want to convey information to a man, you must use your words. Men understand LANGUAGE, not 'clues'.
I got complimented on my eyes all the time. Some were into me, most weren't. I just have really awesome eyes. Now if she asked about a Lego collection it's full send!
@BushidoBasher - Been doing it for the longest time. I’m borderline emotionally abusive. Sadly, it’s to the point where I have the girls I’m sleeping with in tears, asking me why I treat them like this? I tell them that they would never respect me if I was a nice guy. When the say that’s not true, I end up telling them that they’re still here. That usually proves my point. Oddly enough, they all stick around.
In college two girls used to drop by my room to say hi when they were hanging out. They’d be all chatty and goofing around and then they’d be gone as quickly as they appeared. I thought they were just being friendly. This went on for a long time. Skip ahead to the end of the year the one I thought was just drop dead gorgeous came by BY HERSELF to say goodbye. We talked a little bit and as she was getting ready to leave she asked “How come you never asked me out?”. 🤯 I had no clue. BTW at that point I was with the one I thought was the one who turned out not to be the one. 🤦🏻♂️ 🤦🏻♂️ 🤦🏻♂️ Don’t travel in a pack when you’re hunting a man! The only thing worse for a guy than having one woman laugh at you is the prospect of having two women laugh at you!
Or six women laugh at you! I was at a bar with some friends, and there was a table of women - I figured they were on a girls' night out and didn't want to be approached, so didn't go near them. I had to leave earlier than the other guys (working early the next day) and on my way to the door one of these girls walks up and asks "Why didn't you come over and say hello?" I explained that it looked like they were having a girls' night out, which clearly isn't an invitation some guy to rock up and start hitting on them. I wondered why she thought I would be silly enough to walk over to a table of six women and try some corny pick-up line type of introduction. She could have walked up to the bar when I went up to get a round of drinks and said "hello" herself.
@@billhilly9426Dude, you do realize women have a sixth sense in picking up body language, right? Women can smell discomfort on a man 100 miles away (yes, I said 100 miles) and if you become uncomfortable they WILL leave.
I've been complimented about my clothes a few times, by older women I worked with. Aside from that, my ex-wife's compliments were always about something I fulfill for her needs. Her best one was "You're my support human." After the divorce it really hits home just how much you aren't ever seen as a person, but as a tool to fix problems women have in the world.
There is a term for that - it's called "Briffault's Law" You need to look it up to see how it works. It's 100% true and 100% brutal and applies to all women, even your own family.
Girls grow up in 20 yrs you might be dateable. But you spend to much time trying solve the physical, not the biochemistry which is the major functioning of the drives by several hormonal.
This girl is full of bs. We need it straight and direct, Emily is spot on with her analysis.💯👌🏻🇬🇧 Women play stupid games that we men have no time or energy for.
@@treybie1 oh its not exactly a thing to be proud of all options are dogshite but men know how to work with shite as we raised that way unlike the women who fall apart when life kicks their ass.
Sorry ladies im not playing rigged games or signs if i wanted to play games id turn on the x box if i wanted to read signals id be watching the road signs
If it's any consolation, there are women who don't play games. I told a good man I liked him, I pursued him, and I painfully waited to see if he'd like me back. It took a total of 2 years. We've been married for 20+ years and he was worth all the anxiety and uncertainty of those 2 years. 😊
😂 BS 60kg Marvel types aside, there are many female athletes who fall into that category. Though their attitudes sometimes negate their accomplishments.
Men are rarely quiet around me. I can't get them to stop talking 😂 What does that mean? I always thought they were just being friendly. However, I pick up on signals about as much as a dead fish does, though.
@ThatAussieChick00 if they talk a lot around u and joke a lot, trying to be funny then they like u, actually maybe not like u like u, but trying to see if u like them, testing the field, and trying to get your attention, they might not like u but for sure they are attracted to u and wouldn't say NO to date invitation. Or simply guy is extrovert who likes to talk a lot, but if he is extrovert well thats another topic. Extrovert who likes u will most likely tell u that or ask u for date, maybe give u compliments.
@@ThatAussieChick00To be completely honest coming from a male perspective, it means you are either A. Attractive or B. Which is the more rare case, seen to have a cool personality (possibly the male version of friend-zoned but not always.)
I forget where I read or saw it, but when a gal says she was " being so obvious", but other women couldn't tell if she was interested in a guy, what hope does a guy have?
It took mrvthree months to work up nerve to ask a young lady out. I knew I was OK when I called and she answered. The excitement in her voice said I was OK. We dated for 17 months then married and stayed that way for the next 43 years. I lost her to cancer 3 1/2 years ago.
I’m sorry for your loss, may she always be in your memories. I knew my girlfriend for almost 2 years before we actually began dating. We are still going strong and she keeps me mature and sane.
Exactly... unless they are dating a football player or NASCAR driver because they will then become experts on football, etc. After they divorce him... they'll never watch another game or race again for the rest of their lives. Why? Because they never cared to begin with.
Yeah I'm just not going to ask her as watching day time TV, shopping, scrolling through social media and gossiping aren't even hobbies and I'm not interested in hearing about them.
It's rare and mostly comes out if a woman is trying to be kinda obvious. Like if a female is into you subtly but you "don't get it", they will try harder and you get unsolicited compliments while they square you and look straight at you mostly. Women have been obvious to me in various ways though, coz I'm not taking hints.
Let me help you. She is hot. The only guys that would ignore her are guys on her level. That's why she likes them. They are the guys that can get girls like her. Not an average guy that's just nice to her. Of course hes nice, shes out of his league.
I've had women say things like that to me. They were either: 1. 50 years older than me, 2. sloppy drunk, or 3. trying to pick up one last trick in a waterfront bar.
One thing I heard a woman say was that once she knows that a man truly likes her, then she automatically pulls away because there is nothing more to achieve.
So true, most women really do not compliment men like that. Their "flirting" is usually not obvious at all and even *if* we manage to pick up on it, we're afraid we're misinterpreting the signals and prefer to err on the side of caution...
Some men bully them because they are dating the "bad boys" they are attracted to. Kind, good men treat them with kindness and politeness which women say they want but in reality view it as weakness.
I agree, and I’m lucky enough to have a woman who is an exception to that rule. I treat her like a Queen and she treats me like a King, we have really good communication skills between each other, and are always working to improve it.
@@angrydragon4574 imagine using female jargon. I treat her like a Queen and for damn good reason, no one else has ever been deserving. If you can’t find a woman who is worthy enough, then why are you with her?
@@angrydragon4574 also, she never asks for money or gifts, she never begs or cries when I don’t get her things. All she has ever wanted from me is my loyalty and love.
@@d.i.m.eproductions6925 I use female jargon because "ick" is an OBVIOUS euphemism for "disgust." And I only have rude things to say to you that you'll dismiss so I'll keep it short - STOP SIMPING. I'm GLAD that you found a loving woman who can reciprocate that love to you but when you pedestalize your woman it's just pathetic. Love her, don't idolize her. And don't reply back, if you do I'm going to give you the raw truth that you don't want to hear.
I think the men she described had ZERO interest in her, but she pretended that they did so she could feel better about herself. When a man likes a girl we say so, or avoid her if we think we're unworthy.
I noticed one woman kept looking at me. I had already told two women before that I was only there to get my sister home safely. one bought me a soda and told me that I was a better man than her brother. But this girl heard that and kept glancing in my direction and lifting her glass. I waved but did not continue it as I pointed at my sister on the floor. She kept it up and so I stood up with my soda and said "I'm going to go sit over here and thin out the dating pool because I'm not out for fun, I'm here to get my sister home without some creep clinging to her." and sat in the corner where I could keep an eye on her incase she needed to tell me something. The two I mentioned this before lost it laughing and said "Girl that's as clear of a signal as you're ever going to get!"
The only women (in my experience) to give compliments to men are as follows. Family, women who have put you in the friend zone, and stri... "Exotic dancers."
Anytime a woman gives me a compliment, they're wanting something. A favor, money, help moving something, getting someone else to do something for them, etc.
Once told a girl i liked her, she called me a creep. Now im 31 year old and single because i find it comfortable to have a king size bed to myself and enjoy a steak with a beer whenever and only care for my sister's kids, them little bastards have a rich uncle.
My friend said to me the other day "I bet you have a great little man cave" I laughed and said I don't have one, he looked very confused until I reminded him that I am divorced, my whole house is a man house, my hobbies are out on display everywhere, every room is a gaming room. There's no unnecessary pillows or cushions anywhere. Life is bliss.
Women, if you want something to happen, you need to step up and initiate. You've actively killed the old school ways of waiting for guys to do it, so now it's up to you.
They absolutely destroyed the way it was and obliterated most of the confidence in most men about the time the 2000s entered the 2010s. MeToo and Feminism began getting pounded into us. Very friggin' stifling. it's felt uncomfortable for over a decade now. It truly sucks ass. Ironically, being Bluepilled is becoming the only way to break through now. Only the most oblivious extroverts seem to win now. I mean, cuz he can be manipulated and benefited from.
@@SartorialisticSavage65 Oh, it started far earlier than that. I was a teen in the early 80s. I'm an old bachelor of 58, and I'll die that way. Done...
@@la_old_salt2241 trust me I know about your time too, not the way you do, but through underground music, I know we live in very parallel experiences. But home computers just started coming around in your teen years, that's the main difference. It (tech) made all the bs of the 70s and 80s that was already bad even worse. I wish I could hug ya or buy you a drink.
@@Warvvolf And how should you take care of Somebody, that puts your Life in Danger, without having to Clean it UP afterwards? Please elaborate... -Ali Kuroi Fenris
I've shown unending kindness to women I liked, treated them like a princess, lifted them up, was ready to help them, and they couldn't have thought less of me. I guarantee you treat this girl the way she thinks she wants to be treated and you'll be left crying in the dust too
Not to mention any and every woman gets online and overblown compliments albeit probably inappropriate ones which inflates an otherwise unattractive woman's ego
This isn't true. I made all my accounts private and took down any photos with me in it so I didn't have to deal with it anymore. It's not like I can't look in the mirror and draw the same conclusions.
Im 48 and been single since 40. This is where my life truly started. No more arguing, no more fights about fkn chores, no more arguing about not getting out, when coming back, where are you who are you with, no more narcissism, no more NOTHING! Ill never go back to this. ✌️
Wow, I'm not sure i would celebrate having bad taste and choices in women. I don't believe for a second ALL your married buddies believe that, I more believe you want to stroke your own ego yo make up for your loneliness. Seriously, pick better women, there are so many, why y'all settling for less than letting it turn you into an incel? Same for women, whining and whining when THEY chose a shitty partner. Unless your partner is a master manipulator, YOU are just as much at fault for settling with something less than what you feel you deserve
I used to have this peace u are discribing..so i thought ""i want to share this peace with a wife""..we can do things together etc...man im a dumbass..my peace is destroyed now..lonely as ever .. Full narcissism...gaslighting.etc... Soon to be divorced i hope..and then never ever again.
@@derekdavis1932 I was like that too, it’s rarely, if ever, possible. But trust me, when you’ll be alone in your new home, you wont go back. Peace of mind is priceless. ✌️
None of them have ever said to me they'd like to try on the cable tie and the mask and lie silent in the trunk of my car, no matter how much I try to convince them it's fun.....
@@TheInsomniaddict I thought I did once. She even let me drive her out to a remote location late at night. But then she started freaking out at the six foot deep hole I tried to put her in. I spent all day digging that, the selfish bitch I swear women these days are all psychos or something........
I got complimented once. About my eyelashes. She's happily married now. Me, I've been successfully rejected by every woman I've been interested in. Too much of a friend, too young, wrong race, wrong religion...
That's an insane way to think as if regular people don't say hi all the time. Taking that as a sign that a girl likes you is fucking weird my dude because I highly doubt she's into you, she's just saying hi and being nice. You're gonna be looked at as a creep if you take that as a sign that they like you. Grow up.
@@LethalByChoiceI think you misunderstood his point. He is well aware that "hi" is a basic social interaction among people, but he is stating that women nowadays think saying "hi" to a guy is them approaching them and showing signs of interest, when in reality no socially adept person will ever take it as flirting. Then they still blame the man for their own weak flirting attempt with the man.
That's funny, there's a girl who works at the gym who occasionally says hi to me as I walk past. Recently I heard her lamenting to a coworker that I don't make a move. Like, if you asked to get coffee I'd be down for that lol. "Hi" is just a friendly greeting. I'm not going to jump on every little sign of friendliness when I spent my life being told by media that hitting on women is creepy. Even if I wanted to, it's so ingrained that it's a visceral aversion at this point.
Woman, how in the world are you always so spot on with your advice? Always! I have yet to see one of your advice videos that are incorrect, and they are complicated points!!! Thank you for educating us and the ladies on these topics. It reminds me that there are still good people out there. Means more to me than you know. Genuinely thank you.
Yeah,it's called human connection! As a woman who grew up with a mentally emotionally and physically abusive mom literally spent a half of my childhood trying to kill me and I have the scars on my neck from the knife to prove it and I had a stepfather that just sat back and watched her do it. Us women who generally do care and are being straight up and honest and are not playing mind games immediately get the assumption that we just want something for men. It's called basic relating. I see the stereotyping played out by both sides men and women that have been abused by women will just always assume that every woman is like that and up to something and vice versa. Is not until both a man and a woman actually fully mature and realize hey not every man and woman out there is complete total piece of crap, maybe just maybe more better relationship opportunities will show up. 🤷🏼♀️ Till then I'll be on my own avoiding men, because it's the same argument have, what's the point? If I have the most love and respect for myself why am I going to let a man or a woman jeopardize that and waste my time
She doesn't understand simply "having a girlfriend" is usually a net-negative for a guy. Most women--especially western women--today simply aren't worth making any sort of commitment to.
I've gotten one similar compliment from an older woman way back when I was 18, she was way too old for me and I had no interest in her, but I still remember that compliment very vividly. Will probably never forget it.
100% facts. My wife calls me a flirt but to me I'm just talking and bs'ing. It makes her so mad because afterwards she is like "that lady was hitting on you" and I just don't see it.
That’s why Grandma is such an awesome woman. She’s lived long enough to know we don’t get enough compliments. So she compliments us and makes our day. Thanks grandma!
As a male i can confirm this. Ive had numerous females tell me that they had a crush on me in high school and never once did they say anything that wouldve remotely clued me in, and the one I had the biggest crush of my life on made me think she hated my guts 😂.
Like women saying they're 'romantic' - no, they're not - they want to be romanced - men write the love songs - women write the 'Im strong without you' songs.
It's a liability to presume ANY perceived flirtation is actual flirtation. It's always safer to assume she's "just being nice". Sucks because there've been a handful of times I wanted to return the "interest" but had to play dumb for my own protection.
Countless times. Where I'd love to reciprocate what I think might be genuine interest. But just can't take the chance that I'm wrong due to the current landscape. So long as we're all going to be lumped into the category of having the bear chosen over us in a hypothetical that will never come to pass, i have to assume all interest is just common pleasantries and nothing deeper than that.
Yeah it's tough and confusing because most of the time flirting is just a fun and efficient way for strangers to become friends. You have to be brave and willing to lose the friendship if you want to find love.
Ive had times where the girl was chatting with me, laughing, starting conversations out of no where, she was cute and I felt like she was genuinely interested, so I asked her out and she told me she has a boyfriend and sees me as a friend! Its definately safer to always assume she isnt interested, because tbh women dont flirt or approach ,so if it seems like she is its probably just in your head
I was so bad at asking a lady out. I got rejected a lot. Ladies, if you read this, just be honest and upfront with your feelings about liking a guy. Us men are not mind readers.
They're afraid of rejection but can't understand how men don't like approaching. You understand the only course of action is go to traditional cultures for a wife or just use nodern women for fun
@@samuraitadpole5459They'll need to learn to accept rejection. Because this is the MGTOW and #drizzledrizzle era. Men aren't playing stupid games anymore. We are of the mindset what can I get out of her? And no I don't just mean sex. What resources can I get out of her.
We also dont take compliments as flirting at first. Its got a delay . Had a lady complimented my hair today i said thank you and kept walking for about 15 seconds then realized it😅
@@samuraitadpole5459 exactly. I spent those 15 seconds second guessing if she knew what good hair was because it's not here and that's what made me go "oh wait... I'm dense"
@@williamlee3066You're not the only one with that flaw. Nonetheless it's very sus when it's immediate and it's not until days or even weeks later that you notice it. Women really messed things up if it takes weeks for a man to figure out that she was flirting.
😶 well i certainly know some people are shy and won't say it cause they fear rejection. Such as me, some days after i discovered i was gay, i asked a guy out I did get rejected. But then when i tried again with another, i finally didn't get rejected. Looks & face & body dont matter as long as its Genuineness. And i recommend everybody should learn about genuine love more than usual
The last one, i had two options...She either really likes me and can hardly contain herself, or, she hates me and wants to get as far away as possible. I seriously can not tell which option is correct. Either way, i feel the risk factor is way more massive than playing with snakes in the wild, or riding motorbikes in that reckless way, or smoking, or trying to cross the road with my eyes closed.
If women are more actively flirty its also safer to assume she is just being nice, because if you get it wrong, in the current day, you risk getting called a creep, stalker, blasted on social media etc
Women rarely if ever give compliments to men about anything.
I can count the number of compliments women have given me on 1 hand and I'm in my 60's.
It's rare, but the silver lining is when it does happen, it's highly likely it's sincere.
I get a lot of compliments from women about my piercings and hair.
Other than the compliments I got from my now departed Unicorn of Amazingness that was the love of my life the last compliment I got from a woman was...
A nurse. Telling me I was very tough because she forgot to dose me with Novocain before she started abrading out a wound I needed stitches for because she was convinced I had a piece of metal in it. There was nothing in the wound...
I compliment my man pretty much every time we meet up.
On the other hand, he has never complimented me without being first prompted, aka "what do you like about me".
I will have to talk to him about it cause it's bothering me, but yeah, here you go. An account of a reverse situation.
The thing is, we are both autistic. We just like clear communication and don't soak in stupid social norms like other people do.
If women are flirty, it's seen as nice and caring and affectionate, if men are flirty it is seen as creepy.
Depends if they fancy you or not. It's only creepy to them if they don't
And that is if you are noticed at all.
And then you hear "just cause a girl is nice to you, doesn't mean she likes you" and then their primary mode of flirting is being nice lmao
Even playful flirting like with a co-worker...got me in trouble a couple times.
you don't need this empty headed hypocrite chick😮
You know 200% this girl never complimented a Lego set for any man.
She’s trolling/ being a pick me…
Be 'played' legos w a mane built together.
Man/remove 'e'(ph speil-chu ked)
If she did she'd have a minimum of 3 kids by now.
If she did compliment ole boy on his Lego set
Is because they're antique and worth a nice penny!! She was like ole girl on that movie 40yr old virgin!!!
SHE MAKING ME SELL MY THINGS AND I DON'T WANNA!! cash out big babe!! Lol 😂 😅😂
Weird how many problems are solved by people talking to each other.
Or put at risk
"How DARE you!!!"
And be hold accountable for it? Nah, better keep it vague so you can always have plausible deniability
They always say they want more communication
Weird how so many problems are CAUSED by people talking to each other.
Most men need it to be clear as day. If not, we don't even try because of the possibility of harassment accusations...
Spot on!
Exactly!
aww 😢
Nice try at flipping the accusation shit on men. 😂 what a joke.
Agree
."I would love to hear about your lego collection." Said, no woman ever.
Which is sad because mine are vintage :)
@@WarvvolfWhen did Legos come out?
@@allisonhunter1063 They first appeared in 1949. They were first sold in the US in 1961.
@@TheQuantumWave Very cool.
Yeah I was about to be like, you women don’t even like it when we play video games or any little thing that detracts attention away from them. The correct way to getting the man they want that’s into those things would be “Hey I dig your lego collection, maybe we can build something cool sometime?” It’s that easy but women want to do anything except participate.
She is confused, so confused
She confused me too, probably my problem, or Im ugly, lol
She's still got a middle school mindset.
@@GlidingBoulder Most of us are, unless we're Chad Tyrone Thunderstroke III.
That’s the stuff she’s saying in her head while giving a guy a look that could easily be taken for contempt or staring off into space.
So, she’s describing how men are responded by women but thinks that men are doing it.
Women generally indicate their interest in a man by glancing at him momentarily.
Women generally indicate their utter disdain for a man by glancing at him momentarily.
facts
Lol
Nah they give the 'evil eye' when they hate people. Goes for other women too.
My first thought was “is she in third grade?” That’s how elementary school kids operate
You beat me to it 😂
Women remain children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling matters to the most important.
Arthur Schopenhauer
Mentally, she is still in 3rd grade.
No, girls in third grade are more direct.
The games need to stop.
Yeah. I'm thinking, she can't be serious (🤦🤣).
The first time most men will get flowers is at their funeral. Sad but true.
Yep. I've never gotten flowers.
I'm 45. I've had a total of 15 years in LTRs size I was 17, and about 7 years in STRs that didn't take off. Been on another 100,150 first or second dates. Women have mostly only offered to pay for anything when in an LTR, and even then it was rare enough to be touching, unexpected.
Only my first gf in high school reciprocated anywhere close to the effort I put in. Not coincidentally, she and I have been talking a lot recently. We're both single, never married, no kids, and I have been in love with her since I was 17. It was a fantastic relationship for 2.5 years, but the last 6 months were not great, through no fault of hers. We were both immature, and I was dealing with since truly crushing shit I couldn't ask her to deal with (life ruining stuff; some of it my fault, most not.) We've stayed friends, and have known each other for almost 30 years. She is the only woman I've ever been in love with, and yes, that includes my ex fiancee who I was with for 7 years. I told myself I didn't need to be on live to have a good marriage; I'm faithful, honest, hard working, physically fit, apparently good looking (I've been told very handsome, even beautiful, but from sources Im unsure how serious to take), and capable of earning a lot of money though I've lost everything both times thanks to the crash in 2008/9 and CoVid (plus my ex fiancee stealing about $350,000). I've got an IQ high enough that most people think I'm lying if I give a specific number; even so, I'm an idiot for taking so long to stop struggling against the obvious truth. And it has been obvious; I just thought I did learn to love someone else, and or be happy without being in love with my partner.
It took my grandmother dying, my dad and my best friend getting terminal illnesses to make me realize I should tell her what I've felt this whole time, rather than sparing her feelings. She told me I was the love of her life, and the reason she'd never married. Now I just need to complete my move back to the USA... But after living in Asia for 15 years, it's not super easy.
I know most of this is off topic, but life has been so terrible with everybody I care about getting sick and dying. I have to put aside everything in feeling to help them, and don't have anybody to talk to except strangers. This is the first ray of light since about 2020.
Wish me luck. If this doesn't work out, I hope that taking action and trying will allow me to move on. Not that I really want to, but it would be an okay consolation prize and hopefully allow me to meet and fall in love with someone else.
If you read all this, thank you. I don't expect anybody to care, but sometimes we need to say it write everything and have our words witnessed. I wish I could be entirely self-resistant in every way but I have not ever quite managed. Read this, I hope your life goes amazingly well, and I wish you luck, health, happiness, and prosperity.
Flowers are a symbol of Female Fertility. Why on Earth would That Obvious Symbol be gifted to a Man ??
Honestly just get me a gift card for Lowe's or harbor freight 😂
@@MrBrachiatingApedang dude! I care. I was going to say something funny because that was so long but I got into it. All I can say is stay good even though good is not what women want anymore. It's a test. It's all a test. Will you compromise your good nature to get a girl? There is only another life after this and another, then another, and on and on because the soul( you inside the body) is eternal. And the way you conduct yourself determines what atmosphere you will be in next. So realize that( a symptom of the soul is awareness for example)and stick to your guns. If you're good, eventually your life will be too. You are so not alone.
Give a plant, herbs if they cook. Most would just be confused at flowers. I was given a boutonniere once.
Thee best way I've ever heard it put is "When a woman gives a signal she's interested in a guy, the only people who'll ever pick up on it are the other women in the room"
Sounds about right seems like other women can read their own languages something that men can’t see glad you point that out thanks!
That' what my best friend's mother once told me, after we'd all been out to dinner and she said afterwards, "You didn't even see the six women around the restaurant looking at you, did you?"
True, women hunt and defend in packs. At some point, someone in that pack will get the ball rolling.
Exactly
@@martinlewandowski8782 That's true.
Also, those were *her* words
Totally the other way around. Women don’t give compliments. Just expect us to read their minds. Most ladies I’ve came across still act like they’re in the high school/college dating phases thinking their looks will last forever
Whenever you see girls say stuff that is opposite of reality like this know that it's projection and the reason it sounds so false is because they think men act like women do and it leaves everyone who doesn't know they're lying confused. They're the bad guys in the situation and if they just think hey let's put guys in the bad guy position and me in the good guy position then nobody will know I was the bad guy in this situation not knowing that men literally have different brains and don't act the same and they just tried to project to the internet their bad behaviours onto men
Every time I thought a girl was flirting with me, she wasn’t. When I wasn’t aware of her interest, she was.
Yeah man!! Now I've learnt my lesson.
My recent was couple of years back I didn't know she liked me, till one day we were working together then she ask me do I had a GF told her nope!! She says you should try?? I asked with who!!?? You??
She just smiled and went back too her department.
Then covid and family deaths changed all that.
Bro like the fucking sammme
If she's working and flirting with me, I expect it's because she's working for a bigger tip or a commission. How many women actually talk to guys randomly in public? It generally happens during networking or forced interactions like purchases.
I just expect they're selling something and leave it at that.
@@shenglongisback4688You dodged a bullet. I don't mean her. You should never mix your personal life with your professional life. AKA "Don't $hit where you eat".
Women ☕
If a woman hands out compliments to a man she barely knows, he's gonna think....ok what does she want?
This is an underappreciated comment. Women have so poisoned the well between the sexes these days, that's exactly the first thought that comes to mind, warranted or not.
I would assume it's either a set-up, or she charges by the hour.
Sex, I got several of those compliments back in my 20´s. All wanted sex and nothing else. Women back then disgusted me and they still do.
One jumped right on me after first time seen and some text messages back then, not even talked a word. She was hella confused when I pushed her back.
@@Icezapp1 #Coolstorybro
Yeah, she's distracting you while her henchmen get in position to roll you.
Every time these young women give dating advice it just reinforces the FACT that you should never take dating advice from a woman.
"You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. You ask a fisherman how to catch a fish." Lol
@@skyecloud968ask, then he tells you to "Never you mind what I'm doin".
young women* but yall rather date your a younger maturity level right?!
I'd correct that by saying dont ask women advice on absolutely anything and everything, they're useless on advice in general you're better off talking to a brick wall and figuring out what to do on your own, they will only screw things up for you guaranteed
Especially on Tik Tok or Instagram. Because most of the time, it's them just coping or venting in an esoteric way.
-Don't chase
-Don't do special favors
-Don't compliment
-Don't approach first
Still had no issue getting women and eventually a wife.
same. when youve had enough of their shit thats when they wont leave you alone. they can smell it.
@@RSK412 It's only when something is unobtainable that they really want it. It's why married Men get hit on so much more.
I'm pretty sure she's talking about the 5% men she notices and not about the 95% she ignores.
No.
Her problem is she thinks she is more then she is.
And in her mind all men must like her.
I see nothing I like in her.
I don't see a woman that works hard.
I don't see a woman that gives for a relationship.
And that's just the beganing.
Want my attention. Start by showing me that.
I'm tired of little girl games.
If you're 6'2" or taller, women flirt with you all day every day, if not, ignored.
IM 6'3" and no we do not get hit on for being tall I assure you
@@theholywand11 I can guarantee they do, you just don't realize it. Any small talk, acknowledging your existence, giving you the time of day, and other small acts don't happen with shorter guys.
@@IvanhoeWolfe-zn6fc And who the fuck wears a red yankees hat? That's blasphemy, might as well just move to Boston at that point.
As a man that has never received an honest compliment from someone other than family I can say if a random woman walked up to me and said that I might be in shock but quickly think I am being pranked. The mentally safe option is to ignore them. I've bitten once when a woman said she really likes how I look and my messages are so thoughtful and engaging making her look forward to reading and responding. I replied by asking her on a date and I get ghosted. It hurt a lot back then, but now I realize she probably had a bet with a friend to see how fast she can get me to ask her out on a date. Some women find sport in that, especially when it takes so little effort on their part.
Damn!
I had a similar experience in high school. I responded negatively to being approached because I thought it was a prank.
Women's logic is like shooting barrels in a fish. Everything they say, they don't mean and everything they do has a double meaning.
@@petersimpson4648 Wise move. I managed to dodge that bullet because I overheard the person who approached me joking with her friends about it just beforehand ... the only "insulting" part of the whole thing was they really thought I was stupid enough to believe that she'd genuinely want me to ask her out, LOL!
It's amazing what intel you can pick up in the library by sitting in one of the "carrels" (small cubicle) and no-one knows you're there ...
Final year university, I got asked out randomly and I thought it was a prank 😂
What is the best signal you can give to a man? Just telling him straight that you are interested in him.
Thats one of my dreams I would love to come ture being told they like me. Then I would know.
Don't give signals, just be straight up.
They won't. They are even more afraid of rejection. Reject a guy and he moves on after a while; reject a woman and she falls completely apart
@@gabem6863 Reject a girl and she might go tell the bouncer to get you kicked out.
@@gabem6863
I guess I must be a woman then. 🤷♂️ Seriously dude, get real. Women have so many options it’s ridiculous - rejection doesn’t even FAZE them. But as a man, it’s like “welp, back to the drawing board - hopefully I can get one date out of ten potential ones and maybe a 10% chance of a second one!” Not to mention that when you’re young and fall for a girl who just ends up leaving you for your best friend after three years together, that shit sticks. It really messes with you, ESPECIALLY when no other women seem interested enough in you afterwards.
Never once had a girl tell me she wanted to see my Lego collection. I would take that as a euphamism.
That's funny!
When I was young we offered to show them our etchings. I MUST be ancient.
Thank you so much for calling out that BS.
Isn't this the same girl who said she gives slight glances to men, and they should know that means she likes them? This girl is crazy!
She just does it for attention
That's literaly how they think. Was looking for that video to show my friend so he starts noticing those ques, mind remembering her name or @?
So... not any different from most.
MY MOTHER WAS A TEACHER, & LATER A PSYCHIATRIST. SHE TOLD ME. DON'T FALL FOR THE BODY LANGUAGES? A MAN CAN UNDERSTAND, STRICTLY 7 ONLY FROM WERBAL EXPRESSION! = EVEN A MOTHER ISN'T ABLE TO UNDERSTAND, A MUTE KID, WHAT HE ISN'T SAYING? = GIRLS JUST WANT THINGS, BUT WHEN THE CARDS ARE DOWN, THE LAMEST EXCUSES THEY COME UP WITH ; WELL NOT EXZCTLY, I WANNA BE A CAREER WOMEN = I HAVE SOMEHTING IN MIND = YOUR TOO GOOD FOR ME . . . LAME YET THEY WANT EVERYTHING! IF SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WANTS, HE GIVIN IT TO HER . . .
Oh wow, good catch. Didn't notice that. Oh man, yeah that girl is crazy
Most compliments I give to a woman if I’m getting to know them or if I’m in a relationship often are ignored due to how many compliments they get. The advice to compliment a woman would be great if they didn’t fall on deaf ears
Not gonna work, since the amount of compliments they get is like drops of water forming an ocean, it's natural to be totally desensitized
On the other hand NOT complimenting them is an unforgivable offence.
If only simps would understand this. Everytime I explain why you should never freely give out compliments to woman is because they receive too many. Woman, as lovely as they are, are overrated. Thank you special clothing for woman that hides imperfections. You tricked these fools we all call simps.
just dont... let them have the bear
if you give them a well thought out compliment it will hit better
That girl is gaslighting on social media.
50 years on this planet and I have never known if a woman was “flirting”
Exactly. This YOUNG lady is very NAIVE!
Other than on movies where they make it obvious, correct. We men are direct creatures, we don't get subtly or nuance. Maybe the top 5% of men who are tall, good looking don't have this problem but the rest of us do. If a woman likes you, then your flirting is wanted, if she doesn't you're a creep.
Women have been terrible at giving the signals long before the discovery of fire.
It's always in the eyes. You have to learn what a woman looks like when she is longing for you. It's almost like a sadness because she can't have you
Same!!! It is never clear. We as men do not pickup on SUBTLE clues.
Arguing with a woman is like being arrested.Everything you say can and will be used against you.
And everything they say are lies, manipulation tactics.
Facts
Check out Bill Burr's "no reason to hit a woman" comedy bit, he brings up how women argue and even though it's stand up comedy, he hits the nail on the head
Difference being there is no statute of limitations with a woman, turns out something you did fifteen years ago is actually a big problem now, even if it wasn't at the time.
Forever. LOLOL
This has happened a few times: ran into a college friend who mentioned that she had a crush on me. I had no idea that any of them were slightly interested. Their 'signals' are like a mouse fart in a rock concert. Men have absolutely no effing clue about what you are doing. If you want to convey information to a man, you must use your words. Men understand LANGUAGE, not 'clues'.
While I've RARELY received any sort of compliment regarding my eyes, I've NEVER had a woman say anything positive about my Lego collection...
😂😂😂
Thats rough buddy
I got complimented on my eyes all the time. Some were into me, most weren't. I just have really awesome eyes. Now if she asked about a Lego collection it's full send!
Maybe you need to add more pirate Legos into your collection
Maybe she's talking about your L-ego collections 😂
"Treat a women like shit and they won't leave you alone"
I heard this 50 years ago, and its still true today.
That only works with certain women.
I've done it before. Never worked out. So... What may have worked 50 years ago never worked today.
@@digital2701361You’re right. It only works on women below 40
PSA, if you tried this and it didn't work, you have good taste, take the w. 😁
@BushidoBasher - Been doing it for the longest time. I’m borderline emotionally abusive. Sadly, it’s to the point where I have the girls I’m sleeping with in tears, asking me why I treat them like this? I tell them that they would never respect me if I was a nice guy. When the say that’s not true, I end up telling them that they’re still here. That usually proves my point. Oddly enough, they all stick around.
In fairness, men are super subtle. If we like a girl, we say weird things like "i like you". Sadly thats too subtle to properly signal our intent
@@EX0007he was being sarcastic and witty
If a man goes out of his way to assist a woman, it means he likes her
You are absolutely right! Cannot be more on point.
In college two girls used to drop by my room to say hi when they were hanging out. They’d be all chatty and goofing around and then they’d be gone as quickly as they appeared. I thought they were just being friendly. This went on for a long time. Skip ahead to the end of the year the one I thought was just drop dead gorgeous came by BY HERSELF to say goodbye. We talked a little bit and as she was getting ready to leave she asked “How come you never asked me out?”. 🤯 I had no clue. BTW at that point I was with the one I thought was the one who turned out not to be the one. 🤦🏻♂️ 🤦🏻♂️ 🤦🏻♂️ Don’t travel in a pack when you’re hunting a man! The only thing worse for a guy than having one woman laugh at you is the prospect of having two women laugh at you!
Or six women laugh at you! I was at a bar with some friends, and there was a table of women - I figured they were on a girls' night out and didn't want to be approached, so didn't go near them. I had to leave earlier than the other guys (working early the next day) and on my way to the door one of these girls walks up and asks "Why didn't you come over and say hello?" I explained that it looked like they were having a girls' night out, which clearly isn't an invitation some guy to rock up and start hitting on them. I wondered why she thought I would be silly enough to walk over to a table of six women and try some corny pick-up line type of introduction. She could have walked up to the bar when I went up to get a round of drinks and said "hello" herself.
@@vk2igspot on 💯, you approach a table of 6 women by yourself and your chances of having even a meaningful convo are slim
It's not just the laughing they will ruin it for you out being hateful or jealous
Dude you blew it. They were down for whatever and you blew it. You gotta take your chances.
@@billhilly9426Dude, you do realize women have a sixth sense in picking up body language, right? Women can smell discomfort on a man 100 miles away (yes, I said 100 miles) and if you become uncomfortable they WILL leave.
I've been complimented about my clothes a few times, by older women I worked with. Aside from that, my ex-wife's compliments were always about something I fulfill for her needs. Her best one was "You're my support human." After the divorce it really hits home just how much you aren't ever seen as a person, but as a tool to fix problems women have in the world.
Women only view around 17% of men as people.
Sorry about that, brother! I wish you all the best in your future!
Yep, they justly ask not to objectified, time we ask not to be turned into walets caddies and wrenches.
Support human is brutal.
There is a term for that - it's called "Briffault's Law" You need to look it up to see how it works. It's 100% true and 100% brutal and applies to all women, even your own family.
most def the other way around, she's living in la la land... Thank you Emily for telling the truth!
Watched a couple of your shorts and gotta say I love them. Thank you for saying the truth and what should be said
Girls grow up in 20 yrs you might be dateable. But you spend to much time trying solve the physical, not the biochemistry which is the major functioning of the drives by several hormonal.
This girl is full of bs. We need it straight and direct, Emily is spot on with her analysis.💯👌🏻🇬🇧 Women play stupid games that we men have no time or energy for.
Surely animal excreta should also be assigned the correct gender? It's only bull when said by a male.
If you're nice to a woman, they either think you're a creep, ignore you, or friend-zone you.
If you are a low value man they will
and friendzones the best outcome of the 3
@@robertharrison1058 Being ignored is way better than the friend zone. WAY better!
@@treybie1 oh its not exactly a thing to be proud of all options are dogshite but men know how to work with shite as we raised that way unlike the women who fall apart when life kicks their ass.
Yah if you get friendzoned, there is a good chance the girl is going to use you. She knows you like her so she can use that to her advantage.
Sorry ladies im not playing rigged games or signs if i wanted to play games id turn on the x box if i wanted to read signals id be watching the road signs
baseball is a better way to read signals...
they usually mean something, like a fastball or curveball or maybe even a sinker.
If it's any consolation, there are women who don't play games. I told a good man I liked him, I pursued him, and I painfully waited to see if he'd like me back. It took a total of 2 years. We've been married for 20+ years and he was worth all the anxiety and uncertainty of those 2 years. 😊
Or you can bamboozle them with star signs: "What? I thought the Moon was in Aquarius?"
@@NicoleK8 You far and away the exception.
@@vk2ig No, no, Uranus...
I don't think that younger women really understand that millennial feminists have destroyed any chance that they have for relationships going forward
Well, unless they actually maintain their virtue and make the first move every once in a while.
Actually boomer and gen x feminists are more responsible. Millennials are the inheritors and have just thrown gas on the fire.
A classic example of why you shouldn’t listen to what a woman says BUT WHAT SHE DOES.
BUT WHAT ABOUT WHEN SHE DOES NOTHING XD cuz that's quite literally the issue.
Applies to all people.
Facts, which is why as a proud Father, teaching my daughter to express herself vocally and openly. Whilst also being a badass at sports & games.
@@kristopherford5209a woman “badass at sports” is an oxymoron.
😂 BS 60kg Marvel types aside, there are many female athletes who fall into that category. Though their attitudes sometimes negate their accomplishments.
Often, if I'm quiet around a woman, it's because she's annoying and I absolutely do not want to engage with her.
Same same
Men are rarely quiet around me. I can't get them to stop talking 😂 What does that mean? I always thought they were just being friendly. However, I pick up on signals about as much as a dead fish does, though.
@ThatAussieChick00 if they talk a lot around u and joke a lot, trying to be funny then they like u, actually maybe not like u like u, but trying to see if u like them, testing the field, and trying to get your attention, they might not like u but for sure they are attracted to u and wouldn't say NO to date invitation. Or simply guy is extrovert who likes to talk a lot, but if he is extrovert well thats another topic.
Extrovert who likes u will most likely tell u that or ask u for date, maybe give u compliments.
@@ThatAussieChick00To be completely honest coming from a male perspective, it means you are either A. Attractive or B. Which is the more rare case, seen to have a cool personality (possibly the male version of friend-zoned but not always.)
I forget where I read or saw it, but when a gal says she was " being so obvious", but other women couldn't tell if she was interested in a guy, what hope does a guy have?
Their idea of being "obvious" is holding a glance half a second longer than normal and then expecting the guy to chase her down as she walks away.
You're supposed to read her mind, doofus
@Brad2325 it's obvious to them and that's all that matters
@@samuraitadpole5459 Cue the complaints of, "Oh my God, men are so clueless"... hahahaha
Plus, the difference between getting a positive reaction from a girl and getting tagged for harassment is based on how attractive she finds you.
I agree 100% with the channel host. I appreciate her sympathy.
It took mrvthree months to work up nerve to ask a young lady out. I knew I was OK when I called and she answered. The excitement in her voice said I was OK. We dated for 17 months then married and stayed that way for the next 43 years. I lost her to cancer 3 1/2 years ago.
Sorry for your loss
It's different today, sorry for your loss.
Super-congrats on 43 years. Amazing. Rare as a comet.
And so sorry that the comet came and went. There's a star in the skies for you.
Bro's winning in life, sorry for the loss tho ✊😞
I’m sorry for your loss, may she always be in your memories. I knew my girlfriend for almost 2 years before we actually began dating. We are still going strong and she keeps me mature and sane.
Women change the subject about 10 seconds after they ask a man about his hobby - it is their way of saying - ask ME about my hobbies. ME ME ME!
Exactly... unless they are dating a football player or NASCAR driver because they will then become experts on football, etc. After they divorce him... they'll never watch another game or race again for the rest of their lives. Why? Because they never cared to begin with.
Yeah I'm just not going to ask her as watching day time TV, shopping, scrolling through social media and gossiping aren't even hobbies and I'm not interested in hearing about them.
I wish women would even have hobbies. Most of the women I know only hobbies are shopping and traveling.
@@BeTeK11or putting on fakeup
Too true
I've gotten three unsolicited complements from women in my lifetime, just three. I'm 40 now and all three of them were elderly. Women don't do this.
It's rare and mostly comes out if a woman is trying to be kinda obvious. Like if a female is into you subtly but you "don't get it", they will try harder and you get unsolicited compliments while they square you and look straight at you mostly. Women have been obvious to me in various ways though, coz I'm not taking hints.
Man I always get hit on/flirted by older women over 65
They do if they’re interested and socially competent. Maybe young women don’t know how
@@noth606it's also the same chicks you need to steer away from because those chicks are players.
My same experience
Thet were always grandmas
It felt nice though to be wanted 😂
This is spot on.
The reason she thinks men either bully or ignore women they like is because those are the guys SHE likes! She likes the guys who bully or ignore her.
The heart wants what it wants, and it wants what it can't have.
Yup.
Let me help you. She is hot. The only guys that would ignore her are guys on her level. That's why she likes them. They are the guys that can get girls like her. Not an average guy that's just nice to her. Of course hes nice, shes out of his league.
Cat & Mouse Games , Brain Drains, but if you don't go for her, you're never gonna get her !!! DDH
@@SartorialisticSavage65
Tsun Tsu taught her well too, i see...
-Kurosan Yasuke
I've had women say things like that to me. They were either:
1. 50 years older than me,
2. sloppy drunk, or
3. trying to pick up one last trick in a waterfront bar.
One thing I heard a woman say was that once she knows that a man truly likes her, then she automatically pulls away because there is nothing more to achieve.
And that's why she will always be alone.
That's why she will always be alone.
“Single mom with cats in her 40s” vibe.
Only a woman could be THAT insane. My GOD!
EMily thank you for trying to shine a light for some of these young ladies. You are a rare and brave soul. God bless you.
So true, most women really do not compliment men like that. Their "flirting" is usually not obvious at all and even *if* we manage to pick up on it, we're afraid we're misinterpreting the signals and prefer to err on the side of caution...
Ur analysis is spot on.
That was the definition of gaslighting.
Some men bully them because they are dating the "bad boys" they are attracted to.
Kind, good men treat them with kindness and politeness which women say they want but in reality view it as weakness.
I agree, and I’m lucky enough to have a woman who is an exception to that rule. I treat her like a Queen and she treats me like a King, we have really good communication skills between each other, and are always working to improve it.
@@d.i.m.eproductions6925You may have found an exception but when you said "treat her like a Queen" it even gave me the ick and I'm a man.
@@angrydragon4574 imagine using female jargon. I treat her like a Queen and for damn good reason, no one else has ever been deserving. If you can’t find a woman who is worthy enough, then why are you with her?
@@angrydragon4574 also, she never asks for money or gifts, she never begs or cries when I don’t get her things. All she has ever wanted from me is my loyalty and love.
@@d.i.m.eproductions6925 I use female jargon because "ick" is an OBVIOUS euphemism for "disgust." And I only have rude things to say to you that you'll dismiss so I'll keep it short - STOP SIMPING. I'm GLAD that you found a loving woman who can reciprocate that love to you but when you pedestalize your woman it's just pathetic. Love her, don't idolize her. And don't reply back, if you do I'm going to give you the raw truth that you don't want to hear.
Yeah,
Those men aren’t playing hard to get,
They just don’t want you.
Poor girl.
Dating is DEAD and women, killed it!
BS
Close. Feminism and #MeToo killed it
Don't worry. There's enough Zeta males and Pookies for everyone. Haven't you seen? Oh the regret lol...
GG, just Surrender... Mother...
There is nowhere to run...
to be fair us men had our part in it too. Over the years we've been so dumbed down and feminized and passive, that most women don't want that.
I think the men she described had ZERO interest in her, but she pretended that they did so she could feel better about herself. When a man likes a girl we say so, or avoid her if we think we're unworthy.
Or it's the guys that sleep with her but refuse to commit....
Chads
Yup I instantly avoided women especially ones I doubt are attracted to me because I really would rather not make things awkward.
I noticed one woman kept looking at me. I had already told two women before that I was only there to get my sister home safely. one bought me a soda and told me that I was a better man than her brother.
But this girl heard that and kept glancing in my direction and lifting her glass. I waved but did not continue it as I pointed at my sister on the floor. She kept it up and so I stood up with my soda and said "I'm going to go sit over here and thin out the dating pool because I'm not out for fun, I'm here to get my sister home without some creep clinging to her." and sat in the corner where I could keep an eye on her incase she needed to tell me something.
The two I mentioned this before lost it laughing and said "Girl that's as clear of a signal as you're ever going to get!"
@JackDesert That was the dumbest and fakes story I've ever heard. That made no sense at the end.
The only women (in my experience) to give compliments to men are as follows. Family, women who have put you in the friend zone, and stri... "Exotic dancers."
It's rare, but some young women who don't know any better _will_ also say kind things to a man like me.
...I appreciate it.
Anytime a woman gives me a compliment, they're wanting something. A favor, money, help moving something, getting someone else to do something for them, etc.
You are so right!!
Once told a girl i liked her, she called me a creep. Now im 31 year old and single because i find it comfortable to have a king size bed to myself and enjoy a steak with a beer whenever and only care for my sister's kids, them little bastards have a rich uncle.
My friend said to me the other day "I bet you have a great little man cave" I laughed and said I don't have one, he looked very confused until I reminded him that I am divorced, my whole house is a man house, my hobbies are out on display everywhere, every room is a gaming room. There's no unnecessary pillows or cushions anywhere. Life is bliss.
@@TheMikeTB Plus, the toilet paper hangs the right way, and there aren't any arguments about putting the seat down.
@@stevepreskitt283 overhang or underhang?
@@TheMikeTB Overhang, of course. Ain't no one got time to be reaching behind the roll trying to find the end.
The cool uncles club. Yes indeed. Hehe.
Women, if you want something to happen, you need to step up and initiate. You've actively killed the old school ways of waiting for guys to do it, so now it's up to you.
THIS^
They absolutely destroyed the way it was and obliterated most of the confidence in most men about the time the 2000s entered the 2010s. MeToo and Feminism began getting pounded into us. Very friggin' stifling. it's felt uncomfortable for over a decade now. It truly sucks ass. Ironically, being Bluepilled is becoming the only way to break through now. Only the most oblivious extroverts seem to win now. I mean, cuz he can be manipulated and benefited from.
@@SartorialisticSavage65 Oh, it started far earlier than that. I was a teen in the early 80s. I'm an old bachelor of 58, and I'll die that way. Done...
@@la_old_salt2241 trust me I know about your time too, not the way you do, but through underground music, I know we live in very parallel experiences. But home computers just started coming around in your teen years, that's the main difference. It (tech) made all the bs of the 70s and 80s that was already bad even worse. I wish I could hug ya or buy you a drink.
That will never happen. A woman that take some kind of responsibility?
Come on, be realistic!
You assume I could afford legos? This is a mega bloks household
Duuuude😂 sameeeee
You're message is Spot on Ms. Emily 😬😬😬 you wouldn't realize until it's too late..😅😅😅
*men also have to deal with being false accused/allegations!!*
We now know why...
Just stop being creepy creeper.
@@Warvvolf
And how should you take care of Somebody, that puts your Life in Danger, without having to Clean it UP afterwards?
Please elaborate...
-Ali Kuroi Fenris
@@ToxicIdeaStorage Hitman?
@@Warvvolf
It seems so...
Classic case of projection and denial. 🚩 annnnnnnd RUN
I've shown unending kindness to women I liked, treated them like a princess, lifted them up, was ready to help them, and they couldn't have thought less of me.
I guarantee you treat this girl the way she thinks she wants to be treated and you'll be left crying in the dust too
They like things that raise dopamine and sociological highs, it's in there biological programming
Man to random woman: "You are gorgeous."
Woman: *"Officer, he's harassing me!!!"*
It's literally the exact and utter opposite of what she's saying.
She's very NAIVE!
Not to mention any and every woman gets online and overblown compliments albeit probably inappropriate ones which inflates an otherwise unattractive woman's ego
This isn't true. I made all my accounts private and took down any photos with me in it so I didn't have to deal with it anymore. It's not like I can't look in the mirror and draw the same conclusions.
Im 48 and been single since 40. This is where my life truly started. No more arguing, no more fights about fkn chores, no more arguing about not getting out, when coming back, where are you who are you with, no more narcissism, no more NOTHING! Ill never go back to this. ✌️
Keep rocking life peacefully 🕊️ king👑
I had the same experience! It's bn 16 years divorced for me & all my married or not "single" buddies are jealous of my lifestyle. 😂 👍
Wow, I'm not sure i would celebrate having bad taste and choices in women. I don't believe for a second ALL your married buddies believe that, I more believe you want to stroke your own ego yo make up for your loneliness. Seriously, pick better women, there are so many, why y'all settling for less than letting it turn you into an incel? Same for women, whining and whining when THEY chose a shitty partner. Unless your partner is a master manipulator, YOU are just as much at fault for settling with something less than what you feel you deserve
I used to have this peace u are discribing..so i thought ""i want to share this peace with a wife""..we can do things together etc...man im a dumbass..my peace is destroyed now..lonely as ever ..
Full narcissism...gaslighting.etc...
Soon to be divorced i hope..and then never ever again.
@@derekdavis1932 I was like that too, it’s rarely, if ever, possible. But trust me, when you’ll be alone in your new home, you wont go back. Peace of mind is priceless. ✌️
I can't believe how well you understand men. Keep up the good work!
Not a single woman on the face of the planet said "I would love to hear about your Lego collection" and wasn't a genuine Lego fan...
None of them have ever said to me they'd like to try on the cable tie and the mask and lie silent in the trunk of my car, no matter how much I try to convince them it's fun.....
@@nelsonhibbert5267LMAOOOO
@@nelsonhibbert5267 One day you'll find that special someone that share your hobbies m8
@@TheInsomniaddict I thought I did once. She even let me drive her out to a remote location late at night. But then she started freaking out at the six foot deep hole I tried to put her in. I spent all day digging that, the selfish bitch I swear women these days are all psychos or something........
@@nelsonhibbert5267 If you call them Zip Ties you might have better luck, cable ties makes you sound like a weirdo...
I got complimented once. About my eyelashes. She's happily married now. Me, I've been successfully rejected by every woman I've been interested in. Too much of a friend, too young, wrong race, wrong religion...
Hang in there buddy, and don't give up. You are definitely not alone, and in the majority of men with the rest of us.
Eh don't take it personally. It happens to most of us. Lol.
Passport.
Get it.
@@sugarnads lol sad
@@sugarnads
Philippines?
Women think telling a guy "hi" is taking a shot and if misses it, it's his fault
Hi to us is just normal courteousness. Asking open ended questions about our interests is a better indicator.
That's an insane way to think as if regular people don't say hi all the time. Taking that as a sign that a girl likes you is fucking weird my dude because I highly doubt she's into you, she's just saying hi and being nice. You're gonna be looked at as a creep if you take that as a sign that they like you. Grow up.
@@LethalByChoiceI think you misunderstood his point. He is well aware that "hi" is a basic social interaction among people, but he is stating that women nowadays think saying "hi" to a guy is them approaching them and showing signs of interest, when in reality no socially adept person will ever take it as flirting. Then they still blame the man for their own weak flirting attempt with the man.
That's funny, there's a girl who works at the gym who occasionally says hi to me as I walk past. Recently I heard her lamenting to a coworker that I don't make a move. Like, if you asked to get coffee I'd be down for that lol. "Hi" is just a friendly greeting. I'm not going to jump on every little sign of friendliness when I spent my life being told by media that hitting on women is creepy. Even if I wanted to, it's so ingrained that it's a visceral aversion at this point.
@@DoctorVic Fair point
Woman, how in the world are you always so spot on with your advice? Always! I have yet to see one of your advice videos that are incorrect, and they are complicated points!!! Thank you for educating us and the ladies on these topics. It reminds me that there are still good people out there. Means more to me than you know. Genuinely thank you.
A Woman giving a man a compliment,...she obviously wants something !
Yep.. it's a manipulation tactic.
She might as well say it with her hand out.
Yeah,it's called human connection! As a woman who grew up with a mentally emotionally and physically abusive mom literally spent a half of my childhood trying to kill me and I have the scars on my neck from the knife to prove it and I had a stepfather that just sat back and watched her do it.
Us women who generally do care and are being straight up and honest and are not playing mind games immediately get the assumption that we just want something for men. It's called basic relating. I see the stereotyping played out by both sides men and women that have been abused by women will just always assume that every woman is like that and up to something and vice versa. Is not until both a man and a woman actually fully mature and realize hey not every man and woman out there is complete total piece of crap, maybe just maybe more better relationship opportunities will show up. 🤷🏼♀️
Till then I'll be on my own avoiding men, because it's the same argument have, what's the point? If I have the most love and respect for myself why am I going to let a man or a woman jeopardize that and waste my time
Keep in mind how old that "girl" is and the lack of experience she has... Just sayin' She's gonna learn the hard way, sadly.
She's just mad because men ignore her so she gets defensive and blames men for her own failings.
Specifically, she's projecting,
@devonm042690 yup, immature women project their own faults onto us all the time. Delusional
She doesn't understand simply "having a girlfriend" is usually a net-negative for a guy. Most women--especially western women--today simply aren't worth making any sort of commitment to.
U r a smart person/ girl / women. Thanks for posting this.
I received a compliment from a girl once. She said I had cool eyes. And l am still enjoying that one compliment 8 years later.
I've gotten one similar compliment from an older woman way back when I was 18, she was way too old for me and I had no interest in her, but I still remember that compliment very vividly. Will probably never forget it.
I've tried many times over the years, I don't mind rejections, but what I do mind is being seen as a creep for making a move.
100% facts. My wife calls me a flirt but to me I'm just talking and bs'ing. It makes her so mad because afterwards she is like "that lady was hitting on you" and I just don't see it.
She's correct! But only applies up to middle school.
I don't think women are even aware that they can compliment men anymore.
That’s why Grandma is such an awesome woman. She’s lived long enough to know we don’t get enough compliments. So she compliments us and makes our day. Thanks grandma!
You bet! Also call al my sons, sil's and grandsons handsome, as in hi handsome! Besides they are!
He finds her cute, but doesn't need 23 years of child support...
This...100%
So true. Well said
As a male i can confirm this. Ive had numerous females tell me that they had a crush on me in high school and never once did they say anything that wouldve remotely clued me in, and the one I had the biggest crush of my life on made me think she hated my guts 😂.
It’s not always true. I had a lot of compliments from women, including High School.
@@thebigpicture2032 Yeah I've gotten them too but it's very rarely upfront enough to indicate a crush
What a waste of potential from the bold and brave...
@@thebigpicture2032 Compliments is one thing lmfao, hints are completely different....
@@alexinfinite7142 what about batman?
We're not allowed to be nervous though, because "confidence is key" and similar poor priorities
Covert Chauvinism is key. I mean, whut???
Like women saying they're 'romantic' - no, they're not - they want to be romanced - men write the love songs - women write the 'Im strong without you' songs.
Amen brother!
It's a liability to presume ANY perceived flirtation is actual flirtation. It's always safer to assume she's "just being nice". Sucks because there've been a handful of times I wanted to return the "interest" but had to play dumb for my own protection.
And fuck is this so irritating tbh. It should NOT be rocket science just to know if a girl likes you or not but these fucking women make it like this.
Countless times. Where I'd love to reciprocate what I think might be genuine interest. But just can't take the chance that I'm wrong due to the current landscape. So long as we're all going to be lumped into the category of having the bear chosen over us in a hypothetical that will never come to pass, i have to assume all interest is just common pleasantries and nothing deeper than that.
Yeah it's tough and confusing because most of the time flirting is just a fun and efficient way for strangers to become friends. You have to be brave and willing to lose the friendship if you want to find love.
Exactly, it has become way too risky to assume she's actually into you.
Ive had times where the girl was chatting with me, laughing, starting conversations out of no where, she was cute and I felt like she was genuinely interested, so I asked her out and she told me she has a boyfriend and sees me as a friend! Its definately safer to always assume she isnt interested, because tbh women dont flirt or approach ,so if it seems like she is its probably just in your head
I was so bad at asking a lady out. I got rejected a lot. Ladies, if you read this, just be honest and upfront with your feelings about liking a guy. Us men are not mind readers.
They're afraid of rejection but can't understand how men don't like approaching. You understand the only course of action is go to traditional cultures for a wife or just use nodern women for fun
@@samuraitadpole5459They'll need to learn to accept rejection. Because this is the MGTOW and #drizzledrizzle era. Men aren't playing stupid games anymore. We are of the mindset what can I get out of her? And no I don't just mean sex. What resources can I get out of her.
We also dont take compliments as flirting at first. Its got a delay . Had a lady complimented my hair today i said thank you and kept walking for about 15 seconds then realized it😅
Better safe than sorry
@@samuraitadpole5459 exactly. I spent those 15 seconds second guessing if she knew what good hair was because it's not here and that's what made me go "oh wait... I'm dense"
@@williamlee3066You're not the only one with that flaw. Nonetheless it's very sus when it's immediate and it's not until days or even weeks later that you notice it. Women really messed things up if it takes weeks for a man to figure out that she was flirting.
Correction: "i looked at him, then away, then at him, then away again. Why didnt he get my hint???"
😶 well i certainly know some people are shy and won't say it cause they fear rejection.
Such as me, some days after i discovered i was gay, i asked a guy out
I did get rejected. But then when i tried again with another, i finally didn't get rejected.
Looks & face & body dont matter as long as its Genuineness. And i recommend everybody should learn about genuine love more than usual
The last one, i had two options...She either really likes me and can hardly contain herself, or, she hates me and wants to get as far away as possible.
I seriously can not tell which option is correct.
Either way, i feel the risk factor is way more massive than playing with snakes in the wild, or riding motorbikes in that reckless way, or smoking, or trying to cross the road with my eyes closed.
She says “You’re never gonna get a girlfriend” like that’s a bad thing.
Oath of Enma is playing
I am a Yukime Fan...
She cannot lie anymore.
She has seen Death itself twice...
That girl has ZERO idea wtf she's talking about...
That's why she needs her boobs to send the message and get jobs.
Don't know if I've seen such a clear case of projection. Absolutely nothing she said is anywhere close to being true.
If women are more actively flirty its also safer to assume she is just being nice, because if you get it wrong, in the current day, you risk getting called a creep, stalker, blasted on social media etc