I love how you voice how I’ve been feeling for so long. And I wish family and friends would understand the inner feelings more. I’m blessed my husband understands me and my SDIT Skye is there for me for when it gets rough. I just wish more people would be understanding of PTSD/CPTSD for abuse survivors and have more readily available help or resources. Thank goodness for the youtubers like yourself I have found and others who are helping spread the light! Much love and thanks so much for your openness! Mahalo from Hawaii!! 🌈🌺💕
Disabled United States Marine Corps veteran here. You articulate things very well and I think that is needed as well as the conversation itself. I wish more people just "listened". Sometimes, that's all it takes. I can personally relate to your videos and I've even started a FB closed group to talk about my personal journey with PTSD and my new SDiT, but this post is about respecting, admiring and supporting you.
Great explanation! It's true that it's not well understood by the general public. Hats off to those that want to learn about it so they can support someone.
As a sufferer of this mental illness I can tell you that everything you said makes perfect sense. I often wish that there was a place I could escape to which everyone truly cared and is empathetic toward each other. Living with this disease has days where it feels like absolute hell. I was at work yesterday and I felt like I was seriously going to start crying while in the training room. The feelings of inadequacy had hit me hard and I was having flashbacks. I completely understand what you are going through. It has affected my relationships and jobs. Keep on pushing lady!
Thank you. I'm literally crying. I have the most amazing woman in my life who is struggling with PTSD. I dont know much about how to help other than listen and just be around her. You are amazing. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this. My fiance has PTSD and I've never really been sure how to help when he has flashbacks. He told me a couple things tonight, that when he hears me telling him to calm down, that it's okay, it's like he hears me, but behind the flashbacks he's hearing and seeing, and that it would help to touch his hand and to get in front of him so he can see me, to remind him that he's not there anymore. I hope this helps someone and would really appreciate knowing any other ways I could help him 💖
Maaaaaaannnn I love youuu soooo mucccchhhh It's incredibly hard for me to even deal or talk about anything in general because I developed an entire new persona to hide my C-PTSD that is SUPER DUPER HIGH FUNCTIONAL AND ELOQUENT that talks NEVER about myself and ALWAYS about other people. Yeah, sort of a saviour complex, feels nice to help others when I can't help myself but mannn I wish I could scream, cry or show the symptoms enough to the other people in my life.
I really love this video and the rest of your info videos on PTSD. I'm recently diagnosed with PTSD and its very hard for me to explain to my family and friends how it works with me. I've had to "fake it til you make it" for so long, they think I'm exaggerating my condition and overlook what I'm telling them, even with the medical diagnosis. I can't begin where to talk about it to give them understanding, to give myself some kind of peace of mind... Anyways, I'll be showing your videos to speak for me. 👍... Thank you 💯
I just want to thank YOU for speaking on behalf of the sufferers of ptsd by saying just that, "thank you," to us significant others/wives/parents/family members/close friends for being patient, trying to understand & be there if they want to talk. After spending 16 & 1/2 yrs together with my Sig. Other, I'm just finding out that he may not be the cold hearted, rude, and mostly un-emathetic and un-sympathetic partner & step Dad I was thinking he was. That it is his PTSD from his military days that often makes him seem so cold and unable to understand simple things I'm telling him. He hid or refrained from telling about his ptsd for about the 1st 14 yrs of our relationship. It was my adult son who explained to me why he was so cold, he told me how the military has to make these people strong enough to kill by teaching them to turn off their conscience, emotions or feelings to be able to go to war. Then thru watching him have nightmares, & talking in his sleep, I figured it out. That, together with what my son told me..& he finally admitted it. He said he didn't want me to hurt for him so he kept it to himself. My son really saved our relationship because I was about to leave what I thought was just a cold, knumb uncaring person. But now I'm learning how to deal with it & try to be supportive enough to help him. It helped me love him again. Because I can see thru videos like yours that it's the PTSD, not the person. Still difficult at times but at least I have a lot more patience because I understand better. Sometimes I do just want to throw up my hands and say "is it just and excuse to allow him to be an asshole or disrespect me?" But in my situation it's a true blessing that he usually always comes around by morning to be back in a positive, affectionate mood. I thank God for that! Thank you again for sharing to help us understand.
New subscriber here! I love your videos but I was wondering if you would consider getting them captioned? I'd love to send these to my boyfriend who is HOH so he could understand me better, plus it would make your channel more accessible to deaf folk :) keep up the awesome work
Holy shit. I'm still trying to wrap my brain around my C-PTSD and I just realized recently that all my physical pain is part of it. I've seen so many doctors that couldn't figure out what was going on. I get it now. Its the stupid C-PTSD. I have been trying to process it on my channel and get people talking about it more. I had a therapist who knew nothing about how to help with my illnesses and it took me over a year to find a new therapist but I'm not sure if he knows anything about this either. Just had to go eith who takes my insurance... I'll find out tomorrow. I'm glad I found this channel. I'm struggling so bad lately I have barely been able to even work on my channel much or do much of anything but I just keep trying... or... trying to try.... hopefully I will be on medicine again soon. Which relieves me and aggravates me. Thank you for doing this.
Thank you for this video and this channel. my girlfriend has c-ptsd and I’ve been trying to understand it better and do some research and it can be pretty daunting, and you make this whole thing a lot easier to understand! so thank you!!
I have a friend that really listens to me when I talk about my PTSD. She doesn’t make me feel like a burden, or like I’m annoying or anything. I’m so grateful for her.
I just realized that girlfriend has PTSD and there wasn't much I could do for her due to social distancing issues. Now she has completely blocked herself from me as she thought I couldn't understand her and taking a break from everything. Is there anything I can to do help her? I love her so much and I really want to help her
Loved this video! It really helped me to better understand my bff and bf. Was wondering if i was doing everything right to help him and if there was anything more that i could do. Really a great video. Thank you
Shit you made me cry!!! Alright let me change my diaper. Self deprecating humour, I watched you do the exact thing when you mentioned your "moving your hands" it's exactly one of my coping methods to calm me down. Going to show this to wife and kids, kids are above the age 17, I've had PTSD the entire 19 years, now I've been diagnosed with AS which had me in ICU and lost vison In one eye for six months. I just can't work anymore, they keep saying I'm using it as excuse. Shit this is public, damn Ambien. Weird right
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I isolate myself from people that I don’t know, because of my trust issues due to my CPTSD. I’m constantly hard on myself for having flashbacks and not fixing them.
Thanks for helping me understanding ptsd . Do people get healed from it ever? Or is it something that a person has to accept to live that way the rest of the life? Someone i really care about deeply has it. Its hard sometimes to take his melt downs when they are directed at me. Another question - do u think people with ptsd are capable of dealing with other peoples problems or is it overwhelming for them?
I’m working on healing my CPTSD. You still have it, but as time goes on, you can learn how to manage it better. I’m constantly tough on myself if I find myself having flashbacks. I tell myself in a harsh way that I need to change it overnight. There’s even times where I just want to scream at myself, “you need a freaking cure!” But I would never scream that at anybody else if I could help it. Which I’m good at not screaming at others.
It the so-called friends and family that get me I try to explain what it's like to be on this side of the mirror and they offer advice instead of listening.
I swear, if somebody asks me if they can give me their advice, I literally want to say, “why? So that way if your advice doesn’t work for me, you can find ways to tear me down?”
you know what would be cool? if some war-vets would start a PTSD support group that anyone with the diagnoses can join, so that non-millitary PTSD gets taken seriously too (hopefully)
I think the label of mental illness should be vanished forever for some people suffering with some form of PTSD or C-PTSD!! that they never had prior till life altering events in life.
I have quite a few people that do listen to me. But this is one of the main reasons why I have trust issues around people that I’m not too familiar with. Because I feel like they won’t listen, nor will they care to listen. Whenever I’m having my CPTSD moments, I already tell myself, “we don’t care!” That’s what I say out loud if I’m having intrusive thoughts or flashbacks. ‘we don’t care! Every time I talk about my flashbacks related to my CPTSD, I could spit!” These are a few things I say out loud to myself.
I love how you voice how I’ve been feeling for so long. And I wish family and friends would understand the inner feelings more. I’m blessed my husband understands me and my SDIT Skye is there for me for when it gets rough. I just wish more people would be understanding of PTSD/CPTSD for abuse survivors and have more readily available help or resources. Thank goodness for the youtubers like yourself I have found and others who are helping spread the light! Much love and thanks so much for your openness! Mahalo from Hawaii!! 🌈🌺💕
Disabled United States Marine Corps veteran here. You articulate things very well and I think that is needed as well as the conversation itself. I wish more people just "listened". Sometimes, that's all it takes. I can personally relate to your videos and I've even started a FB closed group to talk about my personal journey with PTSD and my new SDiT, but this post is about respecting, admiring and supporting you.
Oh my gosh this is so cathartic. Thank you. ❤️
This is making me cry how accurate this is. I just want to reach in and hug you for making this
Great explanation! It's true that it's not well understood by the general public. Hats off to those that want to learn about it so they can support someone.
As a sufferer of this mental illness I can tell you that everything you said makes perfect sense. I often wish that there was a place I could escape to which everyone truly cared and is empathetic toward each other. Living with this disease has days where it feels like absolute hell. I was at work yesterday and I felt like I was seriously going to start crying while in the training room. The feelings of inadequacy had hit me hard and I was having flashbacks. I completely understand what you are going through. It has affected my relationships and jobs. Keep on pushing lady!
Sending lots of strenghts, blessings and good thoughts your way :)
Thank you. I'm literally crying. I have the most amazing woman in my life who is struggling with PTSD. I dont know much about how to help other than listen and just be around her. You are amazing. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this. My fiance has PTSD and I've never really been sure how to help when he has flashbacks. He told me a couple things tonight, that when he hears me telling him to calm down, that it's okay, it's like he hears me, but behind the flashbacks he's hearing and seeing, and that it would help to touch his hand and to get in front of him so he can see me, to remind him that he's not there anymore. I hope this helps someone and would really appreciate knowing any other ways I could help him 💖
I'm a introvert. Nothing wrong with liking quiet time by yourself.
Maaaaaaannnn I love youuu soooo mucccchhhh
It's incredibly hard for me to even deal or talk about anything in general because I developed an entire new persona to hide my C-PTSD that is SUPER DUPER HIGH FUNCTIONAL AND ELOQUENT that talks NEVER about myself and ALWAYS about other people. Yeah, sort of a saviour complex, feels nice to help others when I can't help myself but mannn I wish I could scream, cry or show the symptoms enough to the other people in my life.
I really love this video and the rest of your info videos on PTSD. I'm recently diagnosed with PTSD and its very hard for me to explain to my family and friends how it works with me. I've had to "fake it til you make it" for so long, they think I'm exaggerating my condition and overlook what I'm telling them, even with the medical diagnosis. I can't begin where to talk about it to give them understanding, to give myself some kind of peace of mind... Anyways, I'll be showing your videos to speak for me. 👍... Thank you 💯
I just want to thank YOU for speaking on behalf of the sufferers of ptsd by saying just that, "thank you," to us significant others/wives/parents/family members/close friends for being patient, trying to understand & be there if they want to talk. After spending 16 & 1/2 yrs together with my Sig. Other, I'm just finding out that he may not be the cold hearted, rude, and mostly un-emathetic and un-sympathetic partner & step Dad I was thinking he was. That it is his PTSD from his military days that often makes him seem so cold and unable to understand simple things I'm telling him. He hid or refrained from telling about his ptsd for about the 1st 14 yrs of our relationship. It was my adult son who explained to me why he was so cold, he told me how the military has to make these people strong enough to kill by teaching them to turn off their conscience, emotions or feelings to be able to go to war. Then thru watching him have nightmares, & talking in his sleep, I figured it out. That, together with what my son told me..& he finally admitted it. He said he didn't want me to hurt for him so he kept it to himself. My son really saved our relationship because I was about to leave what I thought was just a cold, knumb uncaring person. But now I'm learning how to deal with it & try to be supportive enough to help him. It helped me love him again. Because I can see thru videos like yours that it's the PTSD, not the person. Still difficult at times but at least I have a lot more patience because I understand better. Sometimes I do just want to throw up my hands and say "is it just and excuse to allow him to be an asshole or disrespect me?" But in my situation it's a true blessing that he usually always comes around by morning to be back in a positive, affectionate mood. I thank God for that! Thank you again for sharing to help us understand.
Ty for being so open on our channel, its great to just hear wat you have to say, and it is helping me understand PTSD. Stay safe n well
I know this was hard to do and exhausting. Passage of time helps with an occasional slip due setback or even illness. You are so brave! Keep it up!
New subscriber here! I love your videos but I was wondering if you would consider getting them captioned? I'd love to send these to my boyfriend who is HOH so he could understand me better, plus it would make your channel more accessible to deaf folk :) keep up the awesome work
+Kate S Absolutely! Making my videos more accessible is a fantastic idea, I'll try to get on that in the next week! Thanks for watching! 😄
Oh and captions, in my case, actually help with dissociating so it's awesome for that too! :D
Holy shit. I'm still trying to wrap my brain around my C-PTSD and I just realized recently that all my physical pain is part of it. I've seen so many doctors that couldn't figure out what was going on. I get it now. Its the stupid C-PTSD. I have been trying to process it on my channel and get people talking about it more. I had a therapist who knew nothing about how to help with my illnesses and it took me over a year to find a new therapist but I'm not sure if he knows anything about this either. Just had to go eith who takes my insurance... I'll find out tomorrow.
I'm glad I found this channel. I'm struggling so bad lately I have barely been able to even work on my channel much or do much of anything but I just keep trying... or... trying to try.... hopefully I will be on medicine again soon. Which relieves me and aggravates me. Thank you for doing this.
I'm coming to terms with my own PTSD (childhood abuse) and this is fantastic as I can't figure out how to explain this to my soulmate.
Thank you for this video and this channel. my girlfriend has c-ptsd and I’ve been trying to understand it better and do some research and it can be pretty daunting, and you make this whole thing a lot easier to understand! so thank you!!
Thank you for helping me understand PTSD better so I can help my loved one. This video was very helpful
I feel so alone when my ptsd acts up. I also have DID. used to be called multiple personality disorder. When that acts up too i feel very alone
I have a friend that really listens to me when I talk about my PTSD. She doesn’t make me feel like a burden, or like I’m annoying or anything. I’m so grateful for her.
So lucky
Great video! You’re doing something so important, and I sincerely hope you’re proud of yourself! Also, I love the new intro ;)
Thank you so much, friend!
Thanks for posting this, ad all of your other videos. I feel you do such a great job of giving us a voice.
That is lovely well done thanks for the information.
I just realized that girlfriend has PTSD and there wasn't much I could do for her due to social distancing issues. Now she has completely blocked herself from me as she thought I couldn't understand her and taking a break from everything. Is there anything I can to do help her? I love her so much and I really want to help her
Thanks for Breaking down norms of ptsd, not only veterans have it.
Most helpful videos ❤️ helping myself and others learn little bits at a time! Love it.
Thank you for helping us out! This is some incredibly important info I should have had months ago but didn't.
You are clearly so so sweet and strong. Thank you so much for this!!! Blessings and happy thoughts
Loved this video! It really helped me to better understand my bff and bf. Was wondering if i was doing everything right to help him and if there was anything more that i could do. Really a great video. Thank you
Thank you so much. Just shared this with my fiancé.
I have it to thanks for your bravery and story💗💗💗
Fantastic job. Congrtulations!
Thank you for this video. Thank you for your channel.
Shit you made me cry!!! Alright let me change my diaper.
Self deprecating humour, I watched you do the exact thing when you mentioned your "moving your hands" it's exactly one of my coping methods to calm me down.
Going to show this to wife and kids, kids are above the age 17, I've had PTSD the entire 19 years, now I've been diagnosed with AS which had me in ICU and lost vison In one eye for six months. I just can't work anymore, they keep saying I'm using it as excuse. Shit this is public, damn Ambien.
Weird right
My boyfriend has PTSD and this was so helpful
I've been having trouble with a friend of mine. Same here.
All. Of. This. Thank you!
He told me he liked the normal be, but he left me because my ptsd was too much. This keeps happening. My heart is broken. I can’t.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I isolate myself from people that I don’t know, because of my trust issues due to my CPTSD. I’m constantly hard on myself for having flashbacks and not fixing them.
Yes. This is me. Thank you ❤
I struggle with PTSD it’s really rough more days then not but I have an amazing therapist who is help me
Thanks for helping me understanding ptsd . Do people get healed from it ever? Or is it something that a person has to accept to live that way the rest of the life? Someone i really care about deeply has it. Its hard sometimes to take his melt downs when they are directed at me. Another question - do u think people with ptsd are capable of dealing with other peoples problems or is it overwhelming for them?
I’m working on healing my CPTSD. You still have it, but as time goes on, you can learn how to manage it better. I’m constantly tough on myself if I find myself having flashbacks. I tell myself in a harsh way that I need to change it overnight. There’s even times where I just want to scream at myself, “you need a freaking cure!” But I would never scream that at anybody else if I could help it. Which I’m good at not screaming at others.
Very informative loved it
They don't care sister. They just think we're FUBAR. My PTSD gives me PAIN in my joints.
I just don't know what to do some days. Thanks love ya.
I really wish some people in my life knew some of these things...
I have just found you and was wondering do you allow people to write to you, I have PTSD,Depression,Anxiety,OCD,Illness Anxiety, Chronic Pain
It the so-called friends and family that get me I try to explain what it's like to be on this side of the mirror and they offer advice instead of listening.
I swear, if somebody asks me if they can give me their advice, I literally want to say, “why? So that way if your advice doesn’t work for me, you can find ways to tear me down?”
I have PTSD. To better help others I admin a face book group.
PTSD Advice and support by soldiers and civilians.
I'm sharing this video with them.
you know what would be cool? if some war-vets would start a PTSD support group that anyone with the diagnoses can join, so that non-millitary PTSD gets taken seriously too (hopefully)
I have had PTSD for almost 40 years.
I suffered with it for 22years and only got diagnosed a year ago.. finding these videos helps so much
I'm sending this to my wife. Oy you're good.
What if I was the cause of the complex ptsd and I'm trying to change and the person reminds me of the trigger. What do I do?
Avoid giving the person triggers
I think the label of mental illness should be vanished forever for some people suffering with some form of PTSD or C-PTSD!! that they never had prior till life altering events in life.
Nice glasses
Listen and talk to me like a NORMAL person. And empathize. Please ...😑💙
I have quite a few people that do listen to me. But this is one of the main reasons why I have trust issues around people that I’m not too familiar with. Because I feel like they won’t listen, nor will they care to listen. Whenever I’m having my CPTSD moments, I already tell myself, “we don’t care!” That’s what I say out loud if I’m having intrusive thoughts or flashbacks. ‘we don’t care! Every time I talk about my flashbacks related to my CPTSD, I could spit!” These are a few things I say out loud to myself.
I stuggle with awful anxiety and ptsd I set up my channel to help others as it can be very lonely love to all and check out my channel it may help x