I’m truly blown away that the people in your life have acted the way they have about you getting sober and bettering your life. As hard as it can be, it sounds like you are winning removing these people from your life. They should be your biggest supporters and cheerleaders, not tearing you down! ❤
@@tylerrondeau misery loves company, right? There is a stigma that ppl who choose not to drink think they are better than them (the drinkers) for getting healthy because they see themselves as inferior to you, but project it onto you, the one who has chosen a healthier path. It’s all psychological. I guess I can ask, Meghan, did you feel this way when you were a drinker? When ppl would get healthy, would you feel inferior to them? Maybe you have come out the other side and see both sides of this? Do you feel any of what I’ve said is true?
to answer the question, I have never felt inferior to physical or mental bettering, maybe financially, but I am not one to really get jealous of others, and always want the best for them. I have realized I am the problem, because I have chosen not to GAF anymore, and stop trying. If they want to be in my life, they wont act a fool, and realize the only thing different, is that I want better for myself and my life... they don't, so that is very intimidating to a lot.
My dad used to say if you have one true friend you’re lucky. You have that! AND a new lease on life as a sober person. Ignore the haters and keep going girl!👊🏻
Unfortunately being a female, it gets real awkward, especially at child pick up lol. But you learn so much about yourself, and what you do not want in your life, so I am coming to terms that I am the problem, because I do NOT want to deal with negative bs anymore ahah.
I've lost family and friends along my journey of not just quitting alcohol but to better myself as a whole I'm 25 about to be a dad if continued the same journey I honestly would've been an absolute mess, so I'd rather lose people than to lose myself and an opportunity to be an amazing father
Most of its calling people out and not being able to handle certain victim mindsets lol. But my circle has definitely shrunk. I like who’s in my life now
Change is not always easy. It is often frightening because of the "unknown" factor. To grow we must change. There are people I am no longer "friends" with because of the choices I have made to do the next right thing for me. I refuse to say I "lost a friend" because they obviously were not true friends. Practice self care (it's not being selfish) and work to be a better you! Then, you will attract real friends who want nothing but the best for you.
Hey Meghan! You look great! I’m so proud of you and hubby. I lost all my friends when me and hubby were seperated. I have one good friend and it’s all I really need. It comes from the inside out, not the other way around. You are human and please don’t beat yourself up. Your children are learning how to cope and that is priceless.
I have my true friends that will never go anywhere, it is just the friends that came in because of alcohol, and it was never built on solid clarity. Now you realize you have nothing in common. I hope everything is well for you. It was gorgeous here, now its cold and cloudy a lot.
You know my story right? I’m estranged from my sister and parents. It was hard to walk away from them but I had to for my own peace. I was just thinking how beautiful it is where you are. Enjoy that sun!!
@@Soberstrong My older brother lived in Los Angeles for about 10 years. Fun place to visit but I couldn't live there. Getting to an event and getting back home was an all day process. Too many people!
I resonate with your story. My husband and I recently moved our family to a new state for a new start. Some of the pieces are still coming together. Your videos are encouraging! Keep up the great work!
When I move to Idaho we must be friends ! lol 😊 everything you said is how I feel - I can’t wait to move to new state, new trails, biking, deep talks, new adventures , living alcohol free - I haven’t stopped yet but everything in me says to do it ! On a health journey now !
Real friends would understand and still love you instead of giving you grief. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders now, and they are likely just jealous. Best wishes now and in the future! You picked a beautiful place to move to~
@Soberstrong Change is hard. You're in a different season of life now and some friends aren't meant to be a part of it. You're making space for new and better ones~
Why blame yourself? Misery loves company, so when you de-attach yourself from it and grow spiritually then you've fundamentally changed your vibration and that shakes off what's no longer required in your life. Don't beat yourself up about it. Better things are ahead now. These things always have a lag, there is a transitionary stage and that causes anxiety. But, things always work out for the best! Just have faith and be proud of having the courage to move forward in your life in a positive way!
States in the US are borderless for most practical purposes. In Europe a similar distance move involves a different country, language, legal system. Totally different situation
Oh wow you're moving Meghan!? Or is this for those who are newly sober? If you are, where are you moving to or have moved to? Hope all is well anyway keep sobering on 💪.
You don’t know they will turn their backs on you, or you wouldn’t be friends with them. They don’t have a label that says “shitty friend” but God I wish they did. Lol
Oregon is a good state to move away from😉 yall seem to be doing well so if that’s makes other people unhappy than “say la vie”and that sounds like a problem they should figure out for themselves. Nice to see ya🤗
I’m truly blown away that the people in your life have acted the way they have about you getting sober and bettering your life. As hard as it can be, it sounds like you are winning removing these people from your life. They should be your biggest supporters and cheerleaders, not tearing you down! ❤
@@tylerrondeau misery loves company, right? There is a stigma that ppl who choose not to drink think they are better than them (the drinkers) for getting healthy because they see themselves as inferior to you, but project it onto you, the one who has chosen a healthier path. It’s all psychological.
I guess I can ask, Meghan, did you feel this way when you were a drinker? When ppl would get healthy, would you feel inferior to them? Maybe you have come out the other side and see both sides of this?
Do you feel any of what I’ve said is true?
Not surprised. It’s pretty much the norm in my experience.
to answer the question, I have never felt inferior to physical or mental bettering, maybe financially, but I am not one to really get jealous of others, and always want the best for them. I have realized I am the problem, because I have chosen not to GAF anymore, and stop trying. If they want to be in my life, they wont act a fool, and realize the only thing different, is that I want better for myself and my life... they don't, so that is very intimidating to a lot.
My dad used to say if you have one true friend you’re lucky. You have that! AND a new lease on life as a sober person. Ignore the haters and keep going girl!👊🏻
I recently let go of a long friendship that no longer served me well. Tough thing to do but necessary for health and sober living
Unfortunately being a female, it gets real awkward, especially at child pick up lol. But you learn so much about yourself, and what you do not want in your life, so I am coming to terms that I am the problem, because I do NOT want to deal with negative bs anymore ahah.
I've lost family and friends along my journey of not just quitting alcohol but to better myself as a whole
I'm 25 about to be a dad if continued the same journey I honestly would've been an absolute mess, so I'd rather lose people than to lose myself and an opportunity to be an amazing father
Dear if you lost friends because of your glorious sobriety then they were not real true friends
Most of its calling people out and not being able to handle certain victim mindsets lol. But my circle has definitely shrunk. I like who’s in my life now
Amen.
Change is not always easy. It is often frightening because of the "unknown" factor. To grow we must change. There are people I am no longer "friends" with because of the choices I have made to do the next right thing for me. I refuse to say I "lost a friend" because they obviously were not true friends. Practice self care (it's not being selfish) and work to be a better you! Then, you will attract real friends who want nothing but the best for you.
Hey Meghan! You look great! I’m so proud of you and hubby.
I lost all my friends when me and hubby were seperated. I have one good friend and it’s all I really need. It comes from the inside out, not the other way around.
You are human and please don’t beat yourself up. Your children are learning how to cope and that is priceless.
One good friend. And a dog helps too.
I have my true friends that will never go anywhere, it is just the friends that came in because of alcohol, and it was never built on solid clarity. Now you realize you have nothing in common. I hope everything is well for you. It was gorgeous here, now its cold and cloudy a lot.
I have two dogs and two friends haha. ;)
One more thing, I love to see your positive posts. You rock. ❤
You know my story right? I’m estranged from my sister and parents. It was hard to walk away from them but I had to for my own peace.
I was just thinking how beautiful it is where you are. Enjoy that sun!!
Lived in Idaho my whole life, don't have any plans to leave, I like it here LOL
hahahah I left a blue state, I don't plan on leaving Idaho.
@@Soberstrong My older brother lived in Los Angeles for about 10 years. Fun place to visit but I couldn't live there. Getting to an event and getting back home was an all day process. Too many people!
I resonate with your story. My husband and I recently moved our family to a new state for a new start. Some of the pieces are still coming together. Your videos are encouraging! Keep up the great work!
You got this!
Truth will set you free.❤
When I move to Idaho we must be friends ! lol 😊 everything you said is how I feel - I can’t wait to move to new state, new trails, biking, deep talks, new adventures , living alcohol free - I haven’t stopped yet but everything in me says to do it ! On a health journey now !
When you moving here!! Email me meghanmelin1@gmail.com
Such a beautiful trail! Thank you for sharing. Change is empowering. Good for you. So strong. So true.
We are on the same path. Crazy world
Real friends would understand and still love you instead of giving you grief.
You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders now, and they are likely just jealous. Best wishes now and in the future! You picked a beautiful place to move to~
And some of these people don’t even bring value, not sure why I let them get to me so much. I moved on to a better place for sure 🥰
@Soberstrong
Change is hard. You're in a different season of life now and some friends aren't meant to be a part of it. You're making space for new and better ones~
@@cyoung6425 I love this and needed to hear this. Thank you 😊
Why blame yourself? Misery loves company, so when you de-attach yourself from it and grow spiritually then you've fundamentally changed your vibration and that shakes off what's no longer required in your life. Don't beat yourself up about it. Better things are ahead now. These things always have a lag, there is a transitionary stage and that causes anxiety. But, things always work out for the best! Just have faith and be proud of having the courage to move forward in your life in a positive way!
Thank you for always being so positive.
and another day sober
it allways surpise me that amreicans move so easily from state to state...it really is different from europe....
States in the US are borderless for most practical purposes. In Europe a similar distance move involves a different country, language, legal system. Totally different situation
❤😊.
Good woman.
👽👽👽👽working in retail can teach great deal about people👽👽👽👽
a low energy weekend i guess...the past is boring; dont feel like doing much
Oh wow you're moving Meghan!? Or is this for those who are newly sober?
If you are, where are you moving to or have moved to? Hope all is well anyway keep sobering on 💪.
I moved in 2018 from my home Oregon, to Idaho, and it was hard, but worth it.
My question is why were you friends with these sort of people?
You don’t know they will turn their backs on you, or you wouldn’t be friends with them. They don’t have a label that says “shitty friend” but God I wish they did. Lol
@@bzmama3162 Yeah. I suppose. I have a pretty good nose for useless people at first sight, however.
@@ShadesOClarity that’s a great quality; I usually find out ppl suck the hard way. lol
@@bzmama3162 Being the misanthrope that I am it takes awhile for me to warm up to potential friends. Believe me, they get vetted.
@@ShadesOClarity that’s awesome. Most of us don’t have that kind of spidey-sense. 👍
for the rest a total off day i guess...went to the gym, no energy at all i guess
Oregon is a good state to move away from😉 yall seem to be doing well so if that’s makes other people unhappy than “say la vie”and that sounds like a problem they should figure out for themselves. Nice to see ya🤗