Victorian Etiquette Between Husbands and Wives
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ต.ค. 2024
- Victorian experts Gabriel and Sarah Chrisman read some tips on etiquette between husbands and wives from a 19th-century advice manual. If you love the Victorian era, be sure to look for Sarah's books on Amazon! www.amazon.com...
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It's a shame etiquette books and guides have gone out of fashion, we so often see them in a negative light these days, but I think many marriages and relationships can be improved by these bits of advice. Thank you for sharing! PS: I've been a fan of yours for years since your corset book (I corset as well), but didn't realize you had this channel, so glad I found you!
Author Emilee Harris because anything before 1960 is considered sexist 😒😒😒
Oh I absolutely hope they make a comeback. While there is a robust discussion to be had on which values are the right ones to promote I think the concept of formal etiquette and proper manners would be a nice addition to our modern era
LOVE THIS! Another forgotten art that in my opinion is why families have fallen apart.
I think films and sitcoms have trained us to view relationships as a continual Battle of the Sexes!! One always seems to be trying to dominate the other,rather than trying to be equal.
Honestly, it's not the sitcom's fault people have always been cruel to the opposite sex and there have always been people like the author of this book who knew that a relationship shouldn't be like that. If we look at history, human mentality really doesn't change much. That's sad sometimes.
I think the toxic dynamic is to aim for equality, in the sense of sameness, rather than equity, which allows for understanding and celebration of difference
@@AliciaB. This is what equality means. Many people misrepresent it, but equality does not mean and has never meant being the same, just equal.
OliwiaTheAutodestructive equal in value but we have different needs and speak a different language.
I think it's a conflict of accuracy vs drama. Drama always wins in media
This was lovely. Elevating to hear. I would wish all of this for all humans - 9f every socioeconomic 'class.' As Sarah did not find a corset dehumanizing, neither do I find these precepts for both (shall just say 'both'!) sexes to be so. I am certain, as a 63 y/o woman, that I am not the only one to feel that I missed out on formerly sanctioned aspects of womanhood. Further, I recognize/acknowledge that I would have been a better woman/person, had such volumes/teachings been readily available during more recent eras. The two of you share so much of worth - thank you.
I feel like this advice is useful in any era and I also like that it emphasises the joint responsibility of both the husband and wife and reminds them that they're on the same team, it's definitely better than the baby boomer "I hate my wife" jokes. It's not like Victorian people didn't have the same marriage problems we do today, but I feel like the advice then was better and more supportive of the young couple.
Cecily Erker society treats people as disposable...the second said boyfriend shows a flaw “oH heS tOxiC mUsT bReAk Up” And men and women wonder why they can’t ever find that person
I like how it shows men and women as different, and how that is a strength in developing goodness in one another. Patience and kindness people, patience and kindness and balance :)
You're going to get some grief but TOO BAD. As a divorced man I think if I took to heart some of what you said I'd still be married. The short version of marriage etiquette...GROW UP !!!!!! Hope you guys are well. The first three books in your series is coming in two days. Be well.
God, I miss this time!
They are so cute 😭❤ I Just love them!
it’s hard not to love them! too cute 💘
I can agree omg!!
Much better than I expected.
perfect timing as I'm sure many husbands and wives should be working on their etiquette with one another being that we have to be together 24/7 now 😂😂👍
I couldn't fault any of that advice- it was lovely and based on kindness and respect.
I remember watching this video a year or two ago and I couldn't find it for the life of me until today. Such a lovely presentation and sentiment.
This was such sound advice even in this day. It seems civil behavior has been lost by some. I saved up and bought one of your kindle books, very much enjoying it.
hello Karen i see you love this channel as well, great channel, i love the past ! hope all is well at your end, stay safe and take good care
That was simply lovely, we could do with re introducing this wisdom into our lives.
1:58 is my favorite! No matter what century you are in always have a lovely good bye!!
Wasn't that just so adorable! It is something to think about.
A very enjoyable video, indeed! Gabriel and Sarah Chrisman are a lovely couple! The Victorian Etiquette between husbands and wives should be revived for today's married couples! It might help both newly weds, and older married couples. Couldn't hurt, eh? ~Janet in Canada
I really love these two. Sarah looks really cute and Gabriel often looks quite dapper. You do what you do and please keep sharing, we enjoy it a lot.
This video was absolutely delightful! It made me almost teary-eyed, grateful to recognize so many of the guidelines for husbands are performed habitually by my own husband. 💗 I recognized a couple points I can brush up on, myself. 😉 Books like this are priceless! I just added it to my Amazon cart, and look forward to reading more. 😁 -Jesse Danson (Skagit Valley)
You guys are so lovely! I am obsessed with etiquette books but I've never read one focused on married couples, its so interesting how small details are highlighted so much!
I have read a great deal of the sample of this on kindle, but I just purchased the actual book. I love how the duties stated in the book are almost *completely* in keeping with Islamic duties between spouses.
It makes me feel great that I can merge my life-long passion for Victorian ettiquette with my new religion and its decrees.
The best of both worlds in my opinion. Acting upon them is something that would take a lot of practice, but I am sure they make things more smooth than what they would otherwise be without such guidance.
You guys are amazing.
I wish etiquette of all types was more emphasized in our society today. We have become so casual, there is little respect left. Men and women are different, for each have different roles and responsibilities. Thank you for this!
Absolutely beautiful. This needs to be followed. Women of course work now days, but the simple principles of respect work. A marriage of two=one love.
monnicamarie a marriage= one flesh 🥰
A woman that wants to become a wife shouldn't focus on a career. If she wants to remain single though then she must focus on a career
Victorian era professional, landowner,
and capitalist classes women generally
did not work. but majority of workers of various sorts had no choice but factory,
domestic, farm etc. both women & men.
recently bought your book: Words for Parting; can't wait to read it!
Beautiful advice. I wish more people would heed it.
This would be a great wedding gift
❤️❤️❤️Lots of advice applies to this day :) thanks for this! I love that you are uploading more videos right now. Would love to see more baking videos, I just love your channel! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This actually pretty wonderful, I shared this video with my girlfriend. 😁
Girl how did you bag that hot chap?
My copy of "A bouquet of Victorian roses" just arrived today in Edinburgh. I am very excited!
Great! I've always loved dressing victorian to early 1900's. In the past three years I've turned my whole life into one victorian paradise. I live in endglad so getting hold of a victorian terrace house is quite easy. I also love engineering and trains, so I've started working in the past year as an engineer and driver at a heritage railway near me originally built in 1859. It's in the middle of nowhere so its just us all dressed as victorian workers sitting in a small village pub as steam trains roll by as well as traction engines and hansom carriages. Hope you're loving life too.
Hi Sarah, I'm curious, how did you guys meet? I would love to see a video and have you explain how you two came to be together especially since you both love the Victorian era and love living in a historical way of life...it's like you were meant to be. ❤
@@SnowBall-hz6pu I just last evening ordered her two books on their entering the Victorian error and then going fall into it. I am so excited to read their story. I also would be extremely interested at 62 to find where one would purchase a corset suitable for daily wear. You know I love that. I have found this community of like-minded people. It just makes me feel like the final piece to the way we live our life. Not as extreme and all in and on a rural basis because we live in the country on a small farm, but I love it.
Those are such wonderful pieces of advice! I'm a wife myself and a couple of those pieces of advice I thought "Oops I do that . . . gotta stop". I agree with the lady below. I think that marriages would definitely improve with these types of advice. I didn't find any of it sexist, quite the contrary. It puts a wife and husband into roles not gender inequalities that can be follow amicably. Thankyou for sharing!
I'll admit it : I was fully prepared to be offended at the advice. Boy was I pleasantly surprised. There was absolutely NOTHING untoward about any of it. It was marvelous advice and surprisingly modern.
Woah. I thought that It would be a bunch of rediculous rules but that...
was beautiful! I am just a kid but I'll hang onto that advice, I may need it. Haha
Lovely ! Thank you
so cool! thank y’all!
That's a time I would have loved living in, I always felt like a 19th century man living in the 20th and 20 first centuries...
Wisdom words! It was really interesting to see you both help each other load the ice box, I've always wanted to see what format was the ice you had available since I've read your book a victorian life!
Awesome guys..love u😍
A wonderful couple. 👫
Can someone writte down whats the name of the book of ettiquetes? English is not my mother language, I didnt understand
Btw loved the video
J F true ladies and proper gentlemen by Sarah chrisman 😊
All good advice.
OMG. If every married couple read this book there would be no divorces.
Amazing
Great
Hey Mrs.Sarah may I please ask to give us a tour of your beautiful house please?
Love these Biblical values. Ephesians 5: 22-25. ; 33
omaword ya'll are so cute!
From where do you buy your clothes ?
She sews them all by hand! 😍
Hi there, you might like to know that part of your video features in this Goodrow Productions non-commercial film of A Christmas Carol (th-cam.com/video/Trr37Okat08/w-d-xo.html). Thanks so much. Your film features at 4min 19seconds.
How beautiful 😍