How To Overcome Shyness - The Cure for Shyness
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- How To Overcome Shyness - The Cure for Shyness
Overcome shyness and social anxiety and live a life of confidence.
Watch this short clip from the workshop 'Beyond Belief' with Michael Neill and Dr. Dicken Bettinger
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#HowToOvercomeShyness #shyness
I used to be so shy that I even thought abt quitting but Jesus saved me. I can now give speeches in front of people without flinching. At first I used to eat my lunch in the bathroom but now I can make friends easily☺️
Hmm what got rid of the shyness ? If you don't mind me asking
i want to stay home all the time and be alone i even want lockdown why? bc im so shy and overthink everything that it just hurts my heart-
Can u help me? I don’t know why.. when people talk me or I heard the work presentation I’m about to get faint...
AMENNN YES THANK YOU! W God anything is possible! I’m working on it. God is working on me. About. A week ago, I prayed to God to pls help me to not be shy going out ( I was going out) and for the first time, I wasn’t anxious! I was like 2/10. Anxious
OnLY AFTER I PRAYED
@@captainscentsible1811 I don't know whether this helps you now. To get rid of shyness, go outside your comfort zone. Talk to people whom you never talk. Put yourself out there. Slowly it will go away. It's not that you are not shy anymore. Shyness tells that we are conscious about how others are looking or perceiving us. It goes away when we put ourselves out accepting who we are as a person. More we accept ourselves, more we can face others. Even after working on all these, we can have shyness. It's part of ourselves somewhere. Accept it gracefully and shine.
Since I was really young it was drilled into me that I was a shy person and it was always a negative thing, no one ever told me how I could help myself tho lol
Many thanks, been searching for "can meditation cure social anxiety?" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster - (search on google ) ? It is a great exclusive product for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my neighbour got cool success with it.
Same
I\'m not sure but ,if anyone else wants to learn about best books for getting over shyness try Alkarno Shyness Alchemist (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my buddy got cool success with it.
me too. it sucks, however what I do for career is helping a lot. I now know that sometimes you will feel shy which is okay.
Been my Achilles heel, though my father kept trying to get me to be extraverted that it was often counter productive
"As the man thinks in his heart, so is he, " so true
What helped me is to not associate my thoughts with who i am. We are not a thought! Thought are waves with information that comes and goes… raising your awareness is so huge ! :)
I'm not a shy person, I just feel shy sometimes.
am not shy either, however there are things that make us feel sorry but thanks to shyness therapy there are many people who manage to face that.
ssoonnyymm naturally
Thats normal.. being shy is being shy all the time trust me
I have spent months researching treating shyness at home and discovered a great resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you are interested)
There are a few factors in reducing shyness at home . One resource I found which successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (check it out on google) it's the best blueprint that I've heard of. look at the amazing info .
I wish youtube had a 'WOW' button :)
Exactly
The doctor is so lovely, hearing this for the first time was so refreshing. Thank you doctor.
It feels so calm listening to him.
So much.. Do u know his name please?
@@ahlamzaid8475 Hope it's still of any help after 4 months ;)
Dr Dicken Bettinger
I get so tired when people think it's bad to be shy!! I'm an introvert-even when I'm with people I call my friends. It's okay to be shy! There is nothing wrong with being introverted more!! I like to listen to other people as much as talking to them. I will admit I am some what talented in music and I also have a degree in computer drafting and design. That can be a problem when I am supposed to sing a solo or karaoke. Yet when I am playing the drums it's like I'm in my element. I am as comfortable playing the drums in any setting as I am in my apartment. I have done solos for church (singing) I was glad they were over with! I have never known how some people excel at being in front of others why other people like me even though we may do/perform well we just don't feel as comfortable in front of others-especially in this area.
Thank you Dicken! Thank you Michael! Love this!
My dads rough criticism made me so shy and inadequate.....its insane...my shyness gets triggered over little things....and any self esteem I build crumbles in front of anything....anything....rude looks from strangers...rejection from a woman..folks staring at me...my buddies jabbing jokes at me...its crazy...I function well alone...
I feel the exact same way
thank you. this is treasure.
I have thought about my shyness very consiciously everyday for 10 years. I understand that thinking is part of the problem. But shyness makes me lonely, so it’s naturally to start to think about how to change my shitty life. Action of course beats thinking every time, just to go to places and see people and be with thoughts and experience created by them. But I can’t do it.
You so nagive about youreself
Hey Roope, I hear where you are coming from, It might not be best for you at this time to take the action that you speak about above and I wouldn't agree that taking action beats thinking every time, [some actions are best thought out and discarded before becoming an action] but I'd be an advocate of taking 'inspired' action - action from an inspirational thought or thinking [I've heard people describe this as a 'thought that pops into mind' that is 'outside' the usual habitual thinking we would normally have]
All that said the thought or thinking that is being pointed to in the above video describes thought not so much as just the thinking we have in our own mind but how thought can 'colour' or create an overlayed experience over the 'actual' or shared/objective reality we live in
- kinda like wearing the very best 3d headset and gaming kit, interacting in a game like Minecraft - we can get so lost or immersed in that experience of building our own world created of thought, building and engrossing ourselves in that world of thought [the game] - all the while the created/collective reality still exists - [the world that you are actually living a breathing in- the room you would be in playing the game in, the game console you would be playing on, the building that you are actually in -with the friends that would possibly be with you at that time etc ]
I wonder what might come to mind if you watched the video again, Something that comes to mind as I type this is that the person in the video came to their own understanding after experiencing a few meetings with Dicken and what I'd describe as 'playtime' or time to experiment/test the ideas between sessions. It seems to me it was the combination of both that helped that person realise the true nature of their shyness and without really trying...new actions unfolded
I hope this was helpful and of some value to you
Best wishes Roope
i am shy but i still go shopping, college, work, not to the extreme where i can't go anywhere
your comment tells a story
but your profile picture tells a difrent one
THINKING is not part of the problem as you have stated it is thinking shy thoughts that is ALL of the problem. Take away shy thoughts you are no longer shy.
I really hope I get over shyness it ruined my life people even think I have depression I can’t even buy a bus ticket without feeling anxious I feel ok with taking online bc people don’t know who I am
You struggle with social anxiety, not shyness
Sad social anxiety disorder
Society
Thank you very much my brother thank you thank you thank you!!!I hope everybody will satisfy as me watching this.so profound...
Those last minutes explain so much 🌷
This was amazing 🙏 I could listen to him for hours
This is amazing.
Great story!
How did i miss this ?😫😫
I'm must face it, Thank you so much for this video.
This is fantastic!
doctor you are amazing i got confidence after watching this
it made me feel better thank you
Wow. Perfect timing on this. I wouldn’t consider myself to be very shy although there are times where I do experience a bit of anxiety. Now even more due to Covid restrictions, but this here is eye opening. Great recommendation.
God bless! You’re beautiful
I learnt so much from this talk.. Thank you doctor.. It's OK to be shy at times but don't be foolishly shy
I mean, it's early since I'm only half way through... but I think this video has changed my life....
Thanks doc!
Cheers to being present ❤️
People around me always misunderstood me for being shy, when the truth is I'm an introvert, I have anxiety giving speeches but that always depends on the audience. I just don't really feel like doing small talks, I like to be alone because I feel exhausted with people. I hate so much especially at work when they think I'm shy and they doubt if I can do things or not. People should need to be educated that shyness and introvertness are not the same.
I definitely appreciate this. No lie, this worked/helped before I even finished the video... 🤗😁😀
Exactly.. me too.. this men is a genious..
Lifechangeing video
Thank you !
Thank you so much.everybody is telling that it is genetic and you were born with it and you cant change it i felt so hopeless.god bless you
you see im a stress eater and im always stressd how i dont know i just stress over everything what have to matter to where i am or have to be
change Your view on the World and Your World will change 🙌
the greatest results that I have had was with the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - I found it the most useful resource i've seen.
I’m shy but when I down 3 tall can models I’m lit
He is mimicking Ekhart Tolle!! His ideas, concepts, voice, moves! Scary
Before eckhart their was Sydney banks, listen to him
I am not shy are my thoughts and then I get around people and I start blushing,then I realize I am shy,how in the hell do I overcome this crippling condition.?
a proper way to implement and overcome a disorder by requesting the appropriate help
Am so shy
Wow
Holy shit!
I am a very shy person and I really hope this video hopes me not be shy .
Did it help
Im very shy around other students in class to the point i stay silent the whole class period and don't talk to nobody I am try to break out of that before i hit college
the more intelligent you are the more shy you are@@chrisnarvaez3434
Hello the greatest info that I have had was by using the Seans Shy Program (just google it) - definately the no.1 idea i've seen.
Idk if i’m wanting to watch this 16 minute video… can anybody summarize for me?
What's the dr name?
Not thinking about being shy is one thing, but the symptoms that follow are a whole other thing. When I feel shy in a room full of people I suddenly can hardly breath, my heart beats super fast and my voice starts trembling. Everyone looks at me not undetstanding what's wrong. Nothing i do seem to help with these symptoms. Anyone like me?
Yeah. I've learned to be ok with that overwhelming feeling because it just happens so much😔
Yes, In this moment I was actually getting more and more afraid to breathe and to look at people. I've found that I just need ti do the opposite. Breath heavily and look around
Is that a panic attack maybe??
social anxiety disorder
Worrying is just praying for things you DON’T want.
Good info the greatest info that ive ever had was by using the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - definately the most helpful method i've seen.
Another comment saying the same above...lol...advertising?
This guy reminds me of louie ck
I used to be an extrovert but became an introvert when I realized that I never hit a growth spurt and will be 5'5" for the rest of my life
so you made a decision at the age of X, about yourself, and you've been living inside the decision of an X year old ever since. Was the X year old right? Is the decision true? (hint: NO!) What would you like to decide now?
With all due respect, but it sounds to me as a simplified approach to a complex problem of pathological shyness. 'It's all in your head, you know' at times doesn't help if we're talking abt social phobia.
Perhaps you can search up Dr Bill Pettit's webinar series with the 'Real Change Portal' he also teaches using the three principles. He is a board certified psychiatrist with 30-40 years of experience working with the most gruesome mental illnesses. He has stories such as seeing a schizophrenic person, who had lived in the mental hosp for 47 years and become fully well again after seeing his own health through the principles. It just shows that this really holds the cure for even the worst mental illness that the 'experts' had come up.
It really is though. Its so simple but hard to remove all our self limiting beliefs. My social anxiety disappered once i had the realisation that A. I am not my thoughts. I am not my narrative I have created. B. Life is in constant change. Including my identity which is not fixed. C. Our ego and mind get locked into negative thought habits. Its all fight v flight mode. Look up Buddhism to help dissolve the ego. D. All external circumstances are meaningless until our mind applies meaning to them. We need to validate ourselves and not get our worthiness from external sources.
Stop imprisioning yourself in your mind. Meditation really helped me to find that presence inside me that lies behind all the lies the ego tell us.
What is the name of this amazing man?
Dicken Bettinger
So what's the cure?
There are several factors in remedies for shyness. One plan I found which successfully combines these is the Seans Shy Program (check it out on google) without a doubt the best blueprint i've seen. look at the awesome information .
But could a person be shy and generate anxieties from experiencing shyness ? ?
I think both is connected upto certain extent , we get anxious when we r too shy.
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hey ,if anyone else trying to find out best books for getting over shyness try Tarbally Fast Shyness Tactics (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my colleague got excellent success with it.
Read this short article if you're struggling with shyness: bulletproofadvice.net/how-to-overcome-shyness/
Don't forget, everyone has to start somewhere...you WILL prevail if you have the hope and drive to do so. Good luck everyone :)
I'm to shy 😔
No, u think you r shy, both is completely different things
I am not able to overcome my shyness i need help 😞..
Affirmations that you're not shy. That you're confident. Fuse that with positivity to overcome the fear.
Repetition after that and your mind will begin to change the Learnt habit. Over time you'll become more conscious and correct it.
Every person who thinks is shy should meditate. (Thank me Later)
What is his name?
Dicken Bettinger is the man speaking, he is awesome.
@@daynaclift2276 thank you so much!
louie CK
I think, that could work if it literally stopped you from doing the most basic stuff. But if u are talking like u just get shy around people i thibj only will work exposure urself to the things u hate
TGSNT.TV
So shyness needs a cure?
Yes. Shyness is negative thoughts of you not being able to socialize that are constant and you are always bullying yourself of not being able to socialize. This does not make you feel good and being shy you always avoid social situations. So yes shyness does need a cure because it hurts you. If you are an introvert that is different because you are not afraid of talking but you like being quiet so an introvert can talk but they like the they are queit
@@laurenbosson8826 what
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
No shy person is going to say they shy
Louie CK?!
ssoonnyymm I thought the same!
Hahahahahaha. Noooooo :)
Can anyone else hear the whistling? 😅
God bless you
You have a nice smile
Childhood bullying make a extreme social anxious person with lot of Anxiety and always worrying and overthinking. Also parents bad behaviour toward me while growing also added fuel to the fire.
Now i want to get rid off it or atleast reduce some of it. I hope i will help me and God will help me ❤️
The greatest success that i've ever had was with The Seans Shy Program (just google it) - definately the most incredible resource that i have ever tried.
Why?
Hmmm, change your thoughts and the shyness goes away.Sorry, things just dont work that way.
He’s not saying that it’ll work immediately but I think it can help. I’m a VERY shy person so I know how it feels to be afraid of doing something just because I’m shy, I missed a lot of opportunities because of this shyness, been unemployed for too long after graduation because I’m afraid to try but I think it’s better to trick yourself into thinking like someone else to get better than being a “I can’t do it, I’m so shy.” kind of person without even trying. ❤️
So overthinking is GENETIC?!? :D :D
Clearly you didn't watch all the video
I don't belive it. You are exaggerating.
It's not that easy to stop being shyness
i know.
Yeah no
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Having struggled with shyness all my life I find this speakers attitude pretty appalling and lacking in sympathy.
There is no cure for shyness.
Great, just stop thinking to overcome shyness. Become enlightened and you will stop being shy, that is true, but of course not very helpfull.
This is exposure, the guy talking does not understand what he is saying, though he is a good speaker. He is saying: just do it and get used to it, not: stop thinking.
Another guy who has to use an extreme example that does not apply to 99% of us , who are just shy and want to stop being so.
Wrong, do some homework.