Ben Aldridge feels ‘more alive’ after coming out and claiming his identity

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  • @christinecashman
    @christinecashman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I loved Ben in the long call and I love the relationship he had with Jonathan .When Ben came out gay I was very proud to call myself a fan of his… Love the interview stay happy Ben xx

  • @brianmatthews1736
    @brianmatthews1736 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Ben, if you get a chance to see this comment...you spoke of feeling so free, and open after coming out...I think EVERY person who is gay that "comes out" gets that feeling. Before we claim it to the world, and tell everyone without reservation it is a huge secret. Being "in the closet" is a perfect way to put it...the constant lying, and having to remember to keep up the charade that you are interested in women sexually. and remembering all the lies to be able to keep up that charade is number 1 extremely exhausting, number 2. very demoralizing...after a while the guilt of being a "liar" comes home to roost. number 3. you can't really openly love who you want to without being guarded, and not able to have any kind of PDA....it feels like liberation from prison, and the lack of actually living a life at all prior to dropping the "act"....good luck to you, and enjoy finally living life to the fullest...Brian

  • @peterbaker8019
    @peterbaker8019 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So talented. So sexy. I just have it BAD for Ben Aldridge. I admit it. He is my new favorite actor and my hero.

  • @fc8240
    @fc8240 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I genuinely appreciated his openness, hopefulness & transparency. No, not cats! Lol. I'm glad you didn't get hooked into cats movie.... it was bad. Really bad. Lol. The play is glorious.... the movie is not. You dodged a bullet mate.
    🇬🇧🏳️‍🌈🌈👍😘⭐️👏💕❤️🎭 well done....

  • @raedjibrail5565
    @raedjibrail5565 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Great, open, transparent interview. Nice chap! Fascinated to watch the show now. Thanks for bringing The Long Call to light for me.

  • @larrycippola7506
    @larrycippola7506 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Straight or gay, that’s one handsome man! (To me better without the mustache.)

    • @garethbritagne6566
      @garethbritagne6566 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      He looks a little like Murray Bartlett from Looking.

  • @scottmcclanahan9501
    @scottmcclanahan9501 2 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    He is simply dreamy.

  • @reamdelrey
    @reamdelrey 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I’m so happy for this and him and I’m running straight to watch The Long Call.

    • @lalala4ever
      @lalala4ever 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's really well done.

  • @AdAm-dd4jq
    @AdAm-dd4jq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hate the term “queer”. I know it’s popular these days within the LGBT community but it’s a slur to me and many others. That was the word used to dehumanise and bully us.

    • @takata98
      @takata98 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Totally agree! Sadly though it seems like the younger generations embrace and regurgitate it without any recognition of it being a pejorative or the offence it causes to the older generations who live with life long trauma just because they experience it's use in different times "Get over it!" is about as understanding a comment most made by recent generations when they weren't even born, let alone try to comprehend their elders who faught for the kind of rights and recognition they enjoy today. Most were ostracized or abused for a great portion of their lives. Cpmsequently great many older generation feel disassociated from their community because they in their lifetime will never accept this terms of reference.

    • @greggles_
      @greggles_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't use it then. Simples.

    • @Thatssomebadhatharry1
      @Thatssomebadhatharry1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@greggles_ shut up

    • @Thatssomebadhatharry1
      @Thatssomebadhatharry1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s mainly the crazy straights jumping on our bandwagon desperate for a unique identity or the pots and pans lovers that call themselves queer anyway. No self respecting homosexual or bisexual would ever do that

    • @bilbcn
      @bilbcn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Ad Am. The original idea behind labelling yourself as ‘queer’ was to OWN the word. If you use it yourself then it can no longer be used as an insult against you.

  • @HipPocketMemories
    @HipPocketMemories 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This was Anne Cleeves most mature book to date and I can't wait for the ITV version!

  • @CionnFE
    @CionnFE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Well done for your thoughtful and reasoned account of coming out. I’m sure your openness will be an inspiration to people in many ways. Best of luck to you ❤️

  • @thezenable
    @thezenable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    "claiming his identity and queer actors playing queer roles"
    Claiming his identity and GAY actors playing GAY roles- fixed it.
    Stop using slur words. Queer is a slur word

    • @jeffreyanderson1851
      @jeffreyanderson1851 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It’s been reclaimed and neutered at this point. Queer is not the same as gay. It has a much edgier political component.

    • @thezenable
      @thezenable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      bad word will always be a bad word, especially for generations who got beaten and called like that. Yea queer is not the same as gay since straight people call themselves queer. now, even worse.

    • @cooza1944
      @cooza1944 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thezenable if it is not a slur to the individual using it about themselves or anyone who openly calls themselves queer, then let them use it. It’s all I feel comfortable calling myself because I feel it perfectly describes me, since I’m not totally sure of how to identify my sexuality.

    • @mlabmb
      @mlabmb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not anymore, gorg

    • @Thatssomebadhatharry1
      @Thatssomebadhatharry1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Also gay isn’t an identity , it’s a same sexual orientation

  • @middlekid3
    @middlekid3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    He is so cute glad he came out he seems much happier….welcome to the 🏳️‍🌈 family.

  • @rgncajun21
    @rgncajun21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I hope he’s living his best life now

    • @garethbritagne6566
      @garethbritagne6566 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And hopefully he finds the right man as well.

  • @nadb1351
    @nadb1351 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thought BA was great in Fleabag but found his acting in The Long Call very emotive, very powerful. Look forward to seeing more of this lovely actor's work.

  • @TamaMaehe
    @TamaMaehe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love Ben as Thomas Wayne in Pennyworth. Will definitely watch The Long Call..

  • @andresaguirre3227
    @andresaguirre3227 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He is young,beautiful,talented and a healthy gay man. I am the opposite (well,gay too) of all above,god it hurts so much....

  • @cocteaupvssylice
    @cocteaupvssylice 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wait just realised that he’s the arse guy in fleabag 😳 fuck is he handsome

  • @unattractiveashell6904
    @unattractiveashell6904 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He’s so hot and talented

  • @josephmendoza2942
    @josephmendoza2942 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I know I am dating myself but I love him in Lark Rise to Candleford. Yes. Daddy suits him.

  • @robm7449
    @robm7449 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Damn he's a sexy looking man with that moustache

  • @donaldcorrell2518
    @donaldcorrell2518 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Binged the series. Excellent story and wonderful casting.

  • @ClaireWiles
    @ClaireWiles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Ben is absolutely gorgeous, his face, voice, personality. The tash though, I don't like it.

  • @RickCasse
    @RickCasse ปีที่แล้ว +1

    His accent is so hot💀

  • @johnfriars1746
    @johnfriars1746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thrilling and moving it is this tv series The long call..... beautifully done 👏👏👏👏 I loved it ....the characters and the role they all played ....and of course Ben Aldridge superb part he played....I feel moved and amazed with the whole story so real..... wish you all the best Ben you're a great actor and as a heard you in this interview with attitude very yourself and bright ❤️👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏well done good luck

  • @paulvargas2609
    @paulvargas2609 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ben has now become one of my new favorite actors. In all that i have seen him in he is one of the most charismatic and talented actors i have seen. Plus he is gorgeous!!!

  • @QuantumPV
    @QuantumPV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    So important! When he said that growing up he didn’t have any role models or images reflected back at him so he could understand his own feelings better to get to know himself, it affected me because I’ve experienced the same thing.

  • @christopherfloyd9284
    @christopherfloyd9284 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm happy for you. How inspiring!

  • @jennibeltz4182
    @jennibeltz4182 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love your work Ben, all the best in the future. 🤗

  • @idcman6692
    @idcman6692 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    His moustache makes him a daddy

  • @MissPerriwinkle
    @MissPerriwinkle 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    love ur work ben....much success awaits ye....

  • @The_Anglo_Saxon-Celt
    @The_Anglo_Saxon-Celt 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Inner daddy

  • @Earth098
    @Earth098 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What an excellent man he is!!!
    But I hope people will stop using the word 'queer' to refer gay people, even though some of the gay people use it as an 'identity' most of us really don't like that term at all.
    By the way I totally agree that this new movement called 'gay actors playing gay roles' is a totally ridiculous idea. Some of the best gay movies and shows were played by straight people. Some of the best examples include, Brokeback Mountain, A place to call home, Maurice, etc.
    It's completely different from cis gender people playing transgender roles, because transgender is a gender, and therefore it's not accurate when played by a different gender. It's not the case when it comes to sexual orientations.

  • @sanusiyousuf6492
    @sanusiyousuf6492 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He is so gorgeous

  • @Shamus1206
    @Shamus1206 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just saw the previews of the show on Britbox.
    Can't wait.
    Will be my next binge.

  • @carolperry7695
    @carolperry7695 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    he resembles Kevin kline in the big chill

  • @jamesdavidkmoss
    @jamesdavidkmoss 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That was boring,he may have the looks,but that's about it.

  • @johnkellett2669
    @johnkellett2669 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    To thine own self be true.....Who cares what others think....

  • @dannlj6660
    @dannlj6660 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very good looking

  • @FearlessNetwork
    @FearlessNetwork 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video! Thanks for sharing!

  • @charmedone23456
    @charmedone23456 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    comentario a lo margaritazavala jajaja

  • @davislongsworth7150
    @davislongsworth7150 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I like this and Ben very much, but,I don't like the word queer.Maybe because I was called that in school.

    • @richardsoper777
      @richardsoper777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's about owning the word Queer, by the LGBT community, in a similar way that the 'N' word is re-claimed and owned in Black culture and the 'P' word in Pakistani community.

    • @theboyjames3065
      @theboyjames3065 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@richardsoper777 You've totally dismissed Davis' negative experience of the word as if it's alright now. And these people "reclaiming" the word? Who are they? Because I'm telling you, straight people can identify as "queer" and that isn't the "community" reclaiming the word.

    • @richardsoper777
      @richardsoper777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@theboyjames3065 think you need to re-read my comments. I have not dismissed Davis negative experience, just given some context to the use of the word Queer. After all this was the point of Davis comment and how open people like Ben now use (own) the word Queer. It still may feel raw and negative to some people, but it does not have the same hurtful meaning it once had. Please rethink your comment.

    • @theboyjames3065
      @theboyjames3065 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@richardsoper777 Can you, then, explain to myself (and Davis) what it now means?

    • @richardsoper777
      @richardsoper777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@theboyjames3065 Queer is an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities who are not heterosexual or not cisgender.

  • @Leftatalbuquerque
    @Leftatalbuquerque 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He's looking very 1981-85.

  • @charmedone23456
    @charmedone23456 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    salieron conservas, por decir lo menos.

  • @fredliu5066
    @fredliu5066 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im in luv with him, such a beautiful human

  • @Kamo766
    @Kamo766 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We love you ♥️ Ben.

  • @mikey73love
    @mikey73love ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks so much for sharing...I wish I have the courage and bravery like you to live free. Also, hopefully they bring back The Long Calling...love Johnathan and Matthew storyline, ur both beautiful and loving guys. They just needed good marketing and promoter in order to attract investors and viewers. There are viewers out there love to see gay actors representing themselves on screen, and not str8 acting as gay. Good luck❤

  • @LeeLee-i6c1p
    @LeeLee-i6c1p ปีที่แล้ว

    Ben ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @silenusut
    @silenusut 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good one: subbed. Interesting wardrobe… with those looks (& moustache) lots of British Empire drama roles await?

  • @charless.sturdivant
    @charless.sturdivant 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good All the best comeing from westbury, LI.

  • @colby_247
    @colby_247 ปีที่แล้ว

    He is great in Knock at the Cabin. He is very handsome.

  • @stevenwills6931
    @stevenwills6931 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just started to watch 'The Long Call' and am really enjoying it. Then watched the interview above and thought what a great guy and how well he speaks. I have to say I still dislike the word 'queer' which for me always sounds like an insult (a generational thing maybe?). I understand that people want to 'normalise' it but surely in this day and age of political correctness.... need I say more? Anyway, Ben is doing a great job in playing this part.

  • @FINEDIAMOND
    @FINEDIAMOND ปีที่แล้ว

    He is so beautiful! I’m looking forward to watching this movie as someone who has been through excommunication from their religious element and family.

  • @carolholeman7370
    @carolholeman7370 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Attitude mag shoot made him look Italian. Maybe the look is for a new role? The Long Call is excellent. Would love a series with these characters.

  • @christinecashman
    @christinecashman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ben you are amazing,I’m honoured to be a fan of yours.. Always xx

  • @remyazharyyosef1811
    @remyazharyyosef1811 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Moustache is in....even hotter if it's pencil-type.

  • @kierbaudy
    @kierbaudy ปีที่แล้ว

    He's playing Thomas Wayne in Pennyworth and the mustache fits that time and fits his character, but not a fan of the mustache either. Now he is more recognizable with his mustache, it might be difficult to lose it.

  • @jennibeltz4182
    @jennibeltz4182 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So frustrating that all the gorgeous actors seem to be gay. Love your work Ben, wishing you every success in your future. 🤗

  • @tommoncrieff1154
    @tommoncrieff1154 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It’s simply not true there was no gay representation on TV when Ben was growing up. He’s 35, about to be 36, born 1985. Channel 4 already had several weekly gay series from the early 1980s, BBC2 had a weekly gay series in the 1990s, EastEnders had Michael Cashman kissing his boyfriend in prime time evening soap in 1987, we had Boy George in the 80s, Graham Norton from the late 90s and endless gay dramas, movies, series. He’s making out the Long Call is in some ways a breakthrough, but it was fairly routine stuff, to make the gay thing a dramatic issue the plot had to involve a an extreme religious cult where everyone lived in interior design frozen in 1964, despite none of them being old enough ever to have lived like that.

    • @thewardinFrance
      @thewardinFrance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you!!! Yawn yawn interview!

    • @Tapot_goo
      @Tapot_goo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      But that’s only a few compared to the straight drama and films even now there’s not really that many big films/ series with substance it’s usually about them coming out and everyone hating them or super sexual. He’s also saying he’s the first gay lead police inspector which he is. He’s literally celebrating it and being happy so I don’t understand your negativity.

    • @anonymousfox7219
      @anonymousfox7219 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Usually when a person make that kind of statement they aren't saying there was literally no representation they mean that they felt there was none or they personally didn't run into it at all.

  • @kimblackmore2996
    @kimblackmore2996 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ben and Lacey our girl miss they

  • @anthonywalsh785
    @anthonywalsh785 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    very cute young man indeed. good luck for your future.

  • @stumpali
    @stumpali 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow - this interview is boring!!

  • @stephenfermoyle4578
    @stephenfermoyle4578 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    dream weaver i have no idea who this is but so great

  • @danielwinch2986
    @danielwinch2986 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He’s claimed a dodge tache, too.

  • @averages64
    @averages64 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh my … what a lovely surprise! Congrats Ben!

  • @J1mmyMack
    @J1mmyMack 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dodged a bullet on Cats!

  • @liner2
    @liner2 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful human being.

  •  2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a cute man.

  • @yourtravelswithbruce
    @yourtravelswithbruce 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Cats did it for me too!

  • @jtarantula3390
    @jtarantula3390 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He's so fine

  • @TimAtackable
    @TimAtackable 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marry me Ben!!

  • @lindacottan2738
    @lindacottan2738 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I said many years ago to my sister that i was certain Ben was gay from the very first episode of Our Girl. She laughed and said i was so wrong. My observation was not a judgemental one but merely a feeling. I think perhaps his family played a big part in him delaying his sexuality publicity. Anyway, i’m glad he is now comfortable talking about himself.

    • @Abhishekxsahu
      @Abhishekxsahu 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's called gaydar ✨😂

  • @johnthompson932
    @johnthompson932 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love you!

  • @jasbegs1258
    @jasbegs1258 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Go man!

  • @lukasfortinthedogstar
    @lukasfortinthedogstar 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    so the father of batman was gay...hum,hum

  • @openallyourdoors
    @openallyourdoors 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Us too

  • @BartekKowalski-qi4rj
    @BartekKowalski-qi4rj 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    👍👍👍

  • @RicardoPM777
    @RicardoPM777 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    👏👏👏

  • @yojiviriak675
    @yojiviriak675 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Cute

  • @stevepark2630
    @stevepark2630 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Absolutely loved The Long Call and Ben played the part with both compassion and empathy for someone in that position in life. (Note to Ben)...Please don't use the word queer, it's offensive. Queer definition is - differing in some way from what is usual or normal : odd, strange, weird. Ben you are not odd, you are not strange and you are not weird.

  • @ceebee23
    @ceebee23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ben is wonderful in The Long Call and his scenes with Juliet Stevenson are gob smacking.
    The first gay detective in an ongoing role I ever saw on TV was in the 1998 series Dalziel & Pascoe based on books by Reginald Hill ... the character of Det Sgt Wield was played by actor David Royle.

  • @debs4013
    @debs4013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love Vera and Shetland so much I still binge watch the whole series. Unfortunately The Long Call just wasn't for me, Martin Shaw was brilliant as always , so was the lady who played his religious mother, and I was suprised to see Anita Dobson. Apart from these I think some of the other characters just did not gel for me. I did stick with it to the end but wasn't for me sadly.

  • @dameinnoble3995
    @dameinnoble3995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I came put as gay at 18. At 34 I slept with a female friend and discovered that I had been scared away from women because of childhood trauma of being molested by a teenage girl. I am still find men attractive but relationship wise I'm fully into girls these days.

  • @kllwc7772
    @kllwc7772 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Are his parents Italian or Spanish ?

    • @phily8093
      @phily8093 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why? Because he's got a moustache? 🙄

    • @kllwc7772
      @kllwc7772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@phily8093 So YOU think ONLY Italian or Spanish men have some kind of facial hair ? 😌

    • @phily8093
      @phily8093 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kllwc7772 no. I was wondering on what superficial basis you asked that question.

    • @kllwc7772
      @kllwc7772 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@phily8093 You were the one who mentioned facial hair in moronic and infantile way. Not me. HOW you phrase a message or post is telling. You have zero sense of IRONY....

    • @kllwc7772
      @kllwc7772 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@phily8093 You have a troll-like vibe about you...

  • @achnix3167
    @achnix3167 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Who cares...

    • @Tapot_goo
      @Tapot_goo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why you here then you freak

  • @michaelwilde4779
    @michaelwilde4779 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    That mustache is terrible.

  • @keithss67
    @keithss67 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Who?

  • @xadam2dudex
    @xadam2dudex 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Declan Bennett who plays Jonathan is also a gay actor so that is good they had gay actors playing gay roles like in Looking with Jonathan Geoff and Russell Tovey