April B. Ahammer That's what I do too. I take that shit personal AF. Playing games with me is so damn disrespectful and I don't fuck with people who belittle by playing games! They don't deserve me. Too petty and too basic! Bye! 👋
Guys like to hide their true feelings, money, intentions with mind games. However, when you see the guy for his true self, usually it’s like going out with a selfish, insecure, low ego, emotionally unavailable Uneducated type.
I'm so privileged to been schooled when I was younger on men. Thanks to my dad and grand father . I don't play with people and don't allow people to play with me and I just love the reassurances videos.keep it up the great work Elliot.
It absolutely does suck. It is all about power, and he needs to be in control. Why do I feel like if I'm patient and keep reassuring him... he will trust me enough to let me in?? I guess we're both insecure... and unsure of what we want.
I found out my husband was using me and my daughter as collateral in showing value to an old girlfriend who dumped him when he was 16. He never got over it. When he became successful, he hunted this girl down, showed her how great his life was and was willing to give it up for her. He only dated her for 6 months as a teenager. Talk about mind games. He filed for divorce from me, went after the girl; after 6 months she dumped him again. This was insane.
This is so interesting. I mean I can only imagine how this may have affected you. But it is so fascinating how a guy could be so unintelligent. It is unfortunate how many individuals do so much logical things due to their emotions.
damn i know such guys. one guy(23) had a girl and a child & always forcefully acted as if hes happy af but always checked my reaction after every single thing he acted out, mind you he had a crush on me for 5/6 years. its sick af how far men go to impress other ppl instead of being happy with themselves & their own life. i could not care less, your comment just reminded me of sth
Men are so damaged. The fact he is still worried about a girl he dated at 16 is crazy. They never move on. I know people say women are damaged but men go about it totally different. I feel if they got therapy and expressed their wants they could move on but instead they internalize it and go about doing hurtful manipulative things to future partners.
I don't get WHY dating HAS to be SO damn complicated. Why can't people just grow the fuck up and tell one another the way they REALLY FEEL???? I am currently in the middle of getting divorced after 17 yrs married and 22 yrs together....and I'm 40!!!! SO..as you can see...I haven't had a whole lot of "Dating" experience in my life...at least not in my ADULT life. I'd been with my husband since he was 17 and I was 18....so to go out and date another man would just feel weird to me because Id be feeling the whole time like I should act and behave like someone different.
I'm so glad I found your channel. You have such a great perspective. I was in a "relationship" with a guy for two months. He happened to come into the barber shop where I work and we hit it off. It was amazing how much we seemed to have in common, yet we were from completely different worlds. As we were dating, I kept living my life and being happy, which seemed to make him a little insecure. He said he was inspired to change his life in positive ways because of me(not that i asked him to). Then we began talking about sex. I told him I wanted it to be something special between us. It had been one month when he asked me to be exclusive with him. He then became very distant. There were a few times within the two months that he had acted shady where his actions and words were not matching up. During that time I said that I needed a little time to clear my head and figure things out. Every time he literally begged my forgiveness and promised to "man TF up". After the sex talk he was distant and then he dumped me through a text message saying he was "too embarrassed to say it in person or call me" I was so confused until it hit me. He had researched me before we even met. He researched me through my clients by getting them to ask me personal questions and through social media. Everything he told me was completely made up by what he knew I wanted to hear. He even lied about his religion! I've never felt so violated in all my life. I think what saved me was that I was true to myself and didn't rush into sex. I never contacted him, he would text me every morning and throughout the day. I never had to or wanted to chase him. I sure wish I left after the first red flag though. This video gives me so much comfort. Thank you so much!
We should make like a group, just of girls who have been treated like that! My story is similar. Basically I met this guy this summer, we spent a lot of time together. He would come to my house and pick me up and we would go for a walk or we would take photos of each other ( I am pretty passionate about photography) or go to the gym together... He was so dedicated, I never even made a move, it all came from him, but once summer was over he stopped texting. I sent him a few messages and he just left them on read... then this December he reappeared. He called a few times, we went out a few times, he was more distant but I figured that he just had a lot of things to do since he had to work. Anyway on New Years he kissed me. After that he started ignoring me again. I wrote him a text message telling him that I like him. He didn’t even reply...
It’s BS and it doesn’t work for men to play these mind games! Whether they have other options or just not that into you could be possible options too but generally speaking even if these games are created intentionally it messes with a woman’s head and in no way does it attract her! It will confuse her and instead of building rapport and attraction like you mentioned it further pushes her away! So dudes don’t play games it shows a lack of maturity! I know some do it to keep several women on the loop which isn’t right! But if you’re not into her just let it go!
I’m an ongoing victim now. After he gave me 2 weeks off i am not sure what he’s into. But it’s only virtual romance not meeting yet in person. But he still message like 1 line love you and i can see him doing live public singing and entertaining more girls
My ex sent me an "an accidental" text then whoops and called and let it ring once. A grown man and playing games like that. I didn't respond if he wants to talk he can send a real text, I don't time for the bs. Why do men sent "accidental" texts?
lelolai03 it’s called hoovering. He’s a Narcissist and it’s a disorder that’s very very serious. Google “ten ways a narcissist Hoover’s”. - sending the “misdirected text” is on the list. Textbook. Educate yourself and save yourself.
Nothing is by accident!!! It is just a trick that he is using . If he would be really interested in you he will call you and leave a voice message .... ... think of him treating you like a million dollar business..... he will make sure that he does everything right ..... he is looking for a booty call and that is it !!!! Move on to a nicer guy ..... if you can find one 😀.... I am wishing good luck !!!
Guy was interested... no show on meeting up. Heard back week later. I didn't react. He told me to text a time n place the next time. I did. He cancelled at last minute. I blocked his ass. . Once yeah twice no.
What a breath of fresh air! I appreciate your brutal honesty about the games that men play. Not saying some women don't play too, but it seems to be primarily a male characteristic. However, I think a player is gonna play even with higher status until he can't (gets caught playing). stop the games 🛑
Elliot, if you ever coach men, please tell them that starting off with games make a lady eventually loose trust in a man's integrity and character, and it will be remembered and undermine the relationship. You are right, a woman will question the masculinity of a man who does not know what he wants and who sends mixed signals.
Sometimes, we men honestly don't know what we want. And we are certainly not omnipotent. Often, not only am I unsure of how the woman feels, I'm unsure how I feel. Though, that's not true of "players". Players make no emotional investment, so they don't stress.
You are not God ! God is omnipotent ! and this is why some guys get confused !!!! So don’t expect to be omnipotent but you always have to act nice and loving and be authentic with yourself and others...... Love and respect one another is THE UNIVERSAL LAW . Respect it !
thanks Elliot your fab at telling us girls exactly how guy's think instead of telling us bull like lot's on here and boo to the sad Hater's must be in secure, bitter people taking it out on u!!
I like your down to truth video, that I need... I am a high-quality women in the beginning then I give my power away and I am not sure how to stop doing that ....if I can change it so late in life.
Another great video. I agree that you teach women how to be better people. not just how to play a game. I learn from you how to be a better dancer with or without a partner. Thank you!
You describe my ex boyfriend to a T! He keeps trying to get the upper hand but I don't play the game. I would like to date him again but he keeps his guard up and won't let go of the games. Even though he's handsome and has his own he still seems to have low self esteem. I thought it was my imagination but you described what I feel coming from him. Thanks so much for letting me know I'm not nuts lol.
+Elliot Scott Dating the sad thing is that he didn't do this years ago when we used to see each other but here he is in his 50s now and playing games with me. That's why it was so hard for me to figure it out because I'm looking for the guy I knew 13 years ago. I told him a couple weeks ago I was disappointed in him about how he's been behaving.
It is called BIG EGO..... do not let him treat you less than you deserve!!! He is not a real MAN..... the one God has for you does not do any TRICKS.....
This guy teases me, texts but doesn’t call, makes plans for dates and than says he’s cleaning but doesn’t have the motivation, than posts being out on Facebook. Said we were going out for dinner but then said hours later he’s gonna make dinner for himself soon. Wtf!!
Man I love this guy! thank you for helping me distinguish a man that plays mind games. You basically described exactly what this guy is doing. Like exactly. Feel so strong now_ knowledge is power. You’re the best!
Great video Elliot, thanks for this! Have you seen videos from this guy called Coach Corey Wayne? Playing stupid robotic games is what he teaches men, and getting into women’s pants is what his ultimate goal is. He has some good videos, but in general he makes me feel sorry for the poor boys who take relationship advise from him. The best those can achieve is to hook a women with low self-esteem and low self value who is willing to put up with their childish games and has no other option available, or believes she has no other option available.
You mentioned in the beginning of the video that when guys (or people) are younger they don't know what they want and they play mind games. What about older guys. I'm trying to online date and I reach out to guys who are in their 40's and 50's and they seem like they play mind games too. Shouldn't they know what they want by then and have themselves pulled together by then?
What was it that got you into coaching women in dating? Why are you so passionate about helping women? Are you working on writing another book or have plans for any new material?
Dudes r simple. Ghost them. I mean really ghost them. They all come back around anyway. Even the top douchiest ones. Sometimes, at times when you least expect it too. See how they like that sh... and if he's stays gone? Acts like he just wants a booty call? That's cool too. Bc you already ghosted him anyway. As in not relying on him for sh. Not even an emotional bond. And that's F`n free. He can't even manage that sh? B, bye! 😅🖐. Because there's dudes out here more than willing & then some 😋. idk how this ended on my feed thing but thats how I got here. & no, I didn't watch the video.
i say this with love🤗dry shampoo that mop dude. Batiste you can get at Walgreens. you spray at the roots then rub it in. it refreshes your hair and you don't have to shampoo everyday. it'll take the Shiney,greasy look away. love your vids.
Also it’s sad to admit but the vast majority of women respond to that drama even if they don’t like it. What you like and what you respond to are two different things. It’s not always the right move to be just a nice guy. From experience more girls fall for the drama than the nice guy.
I am in an situation at work. There is a younger (25) man and we have sexual attraction. I have been there 2 months. It's all the usual sparks...eyes meeting and zing zang. He have been opening up to me more lately telling me he watches chick flicks but he can't let his friends find out (against bro code). He never ask anything about me though. He hasn't ask for a number or anything. He has paid for my lunch, is always helpful, always coming over and chatting. I accidentally touch him and he flinched. He looked so frighten the rest of the day. The next day he touched me back. The attraction is strong, but nothing is happening outside of work. Is this guy playing games or should I give him more time.
In my experience, if a dude is really feeling you, he would have asked for that number by now.....I think he bullshitting and he's doing that thing i like to call "work flirt"......he flirting with you but its not going outside of the workplace.....I also know that if a dude talk to you more about himself and never really asks about you and ur life and all that he bullshitting there too
Sheryl Henderson I try not to focus too much on the WHY....I just know I will no longer entertain a nicca that's sole purpose is to waste a person's time..
What a confusing way to get close to gain ground. My ex is my baby's dad too. He says he's looking for a house for us but never asks me out anymore and takes forever and ever to text me back. It's so ridiculous.
So I hooked up with this girl twice and she says she is in love with me she texts me 50 times at once and per day . Thing is I just wanted to hook up so I didn’t reply anything just neutral things like what I’m doing etc...and now she says she wants a relationship etc...I don’t think I’m playing any games sometimes women are just not reasonable. Even if I wanted a relationship it wouldn’t be after a week and two hookups.
Here you go ..... you just have to be strait forward and honest with yourself and tell the other party as well BEFORE SEX .... if the girl still wants that it’s cool ..... but otherwise it’s called using another person for your own pleasure..... women do not like or appreciate any of that whatsoever .....
Since when does sex mean relationship? Its up to the girl to say she only sleeps if she is in a relationship. In which case we both have the right to walk each on our own way. Its dishonest to say "look i slept with you , you are my bf now"
Yes, he's is insecure, I agree, probably a narcissist. Wrong field, the Olympics and Hollywood hire actors and people that like games. Gives one an audience too. Thats right confidence is no action or reaction... Matters of fact. Leave him in the dust. Good video.
Thank you for saying this. I am going back and forth with this mind game. A co-worker of mine goes a head and professionally decline me. I asked him if he is rejecting me, he says no but professional decline. Because he does not mix business and pleasure. His playing these mind games. Any advice? We are on a attractiveness issue.
Selenge Galbaatar This co-worker seems like he’s trying very hard not to break any rules at work. Men can be hard to understand sometimes. It’s all about your gut instinct... if you feel there’s chemistry between you or not ...does he make eye contact..there are subtle signs and hints that can give you a better idea... So, I suppose the question is, Did you approach him first and what did you say ? There may be a slight chance that you may have scared him off if he felt that you were chasing him. Men don’t like us to chase them ..they like to feel they have earned you as apposed to an easy win....Are you sure he isn’t married or in a relationship already?
I was waiting for more than 10 m out for him... We had gone with more people to have a drink after work and I started feeling bad so him said: I gonna get my jacket wait... Nothing happens. I call him once. No call me back. So next day waiting for a call... I am wondering why he did that?
The guy i like is acting like this, and when i distance or not pay attention he said i am the bad i think he is insecure or inmature but i don't like this game
Hi Elliot, I just want you to know a little about me, your audience here who adores you. I am 5'5", 117 lbs, I'm a trained classical ballerina and I still train and go to my dance classes, I am either in the ballet studio or at the gym 5-6 days a week. I have a masters degree and I have a great job and career. I'm smart, driven, and dedicated to the things that are what are important in life. I'm super loyal, to a fault, and just have not found the right guy. I think the things you say are spot on and you have an amazing understanding of male and female dynamics. I get guys giving me their numbers all the time and men who I have made it clear I'm not interested who still try to chase me. Im told I am a beautiful girl/woman. So, I say all these things to illustrate a little to you about your audience and the kind of women who are following your lessons here. I think your audience is probably made of very wonderful and amazing women who like you say we just need some insight and maybe a little guidance as to our dating lives. I'm not saying I'm perfect but Im definitely not a 'low tier' woman. For sure! lol And this is part of my problem, I'm too nice, in the past I have put up with a lot of bad behavior from boyfriends because I was too nice and maybe didn't think highly enough of my self. Anyway, I just wanted you to know a little about me and let you know I take what you say to heart. I just wish you would swear a little less lol. You are too smart for so much swearing. Ok, well one of these days I may just have to get one on one dating coaching from you. Have a blessed day!!! Love you!
Damnnnnn....ouch, basic. I think my having a child that takes up so much of my life at this time is is really effecting my ability to play a more detached role. I don’t have my life the way I want it presently and this is definitely destabilizing my sense of confidence and self esteem. If my circumstances wheee different is have more options, less time to ponder and fret etc.
Fish stick Bio very true! And my parents factored all this into the trust knowing that they daughter is vulnerable to some degree. Oddly enough though since my health has taken a decline the thought of anyone not just romantic prospects that is a drain to me in any way I just can’t have anything to do with. I’m really worried about my ailing health right now and in these times that we are now living in you really want to make sure that who you have in your life really do have your back!!! My son comes first in all things and anything that puts him in jeopardy I’m not going to go anywhere near. I’m getting used to be single and I only want someone in my life if they are truly going to add to it in a positive way.
I was waiting for more than 10 m out for him... We had gone with more people to have a drink after work and I started feeling bad so him said: I gonna get my jacket wait... Nothing happens. I call him once. No call me back. So next day waiting for a call... I am wondering why is he doing that?
Elliot. If you don't play, and lean to play, you will lose. I really don't want to catnmouse with this guy. I love him, but I'm secure enough let go if he can't step it up and show me explicitly what it is he wants with me. I'm sick of the dating game, it's so freaking confusing and frustrating and all the while you're getting older. I don't get the rules and I'm losing....
Hey Elliot! Love watching your videos they're awesome! I was wondering if it is possible to contact you through any private social media im so desperate and lost and confused about a thing i would love to get your advice on! Love from Sweden
Elliot Scott what happens when a ex friend & a shy male friend that I like as a friend. do nothing but dose a shouting matches; in front of and or within the area or room. over the smallest things just like what u said petty things such as "drama ". Yet I stay out of it getting fusterated listening,watching ect. I finally got the nerve to put my foot down ; stood up for my male friend. my ex friend was the agresser of the sisuation I got sick of her doing this over time & time again. my male friend did thank me yet susjest to me for him to handle his own battles. Yet I'm laid-back passive person that values her relationships & friendships. Please redirect me with ur wise advice please & thank u Elliot Scott. my name is Jodi Stewart
I went out with a guy for two months and found out he was terrible in bed! After being sexually frustrated with his bad moves, I found another guy who showered me with gifts, jewelry and he loves to buy me clothes. He thinks that I look cute in short skirts. Although, he dresses like an uptight lawyer. If I’m on a date and he’s a cheapskate, I start texting my ex and leave him in the dust! I will not waste my time with a fake, low baller who is emotionally unavailable, and has a fragile ego. 😎
I'm low tear... trying to get better, but it's hard to change, esp. about your social environment... but you can just say it, the truth is the truth, not an offence
Ladies, who thinks themselves are irreplaceable? Everyone on this earth is. If the guy is immature or insecure, they will automatically play games! Like a habit that they formed for years, it’s nothing to do with women
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When I know a guy is playing mind games I block them. End of games!
April B. Ahammer That's what I do too. I take that shit personal AF. Playing games with me is so damn disrespectful and I don't fuck with people who belittle by playing games! They don't deserve me. Too petty and too basic! Bye! 👋
Game Over!!!😂😂🤣🤣
Yup
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You go girl!
Guys like to hide their true feelings, money, intentions with mind games. However, when you see the guy for his true self, usually it’s like going out with a selfish, insecure, low ego, emotionally unavailable Uneducated type.
Even high valued woman can get played but when they wake up to the games , they walk away from it because they can find better men
I'm so privileged to been schooled when I was younger on men. Thanks to my dad and grand father . I don't play with people and don't allow people to play with me and I just love the reassurances videos.keep it up the great work Elliot.
A person reaps what they sow, your body is a holy temple. It is not right to use a person or play mind games.
Amen, These games are demonic, God wont allow men (or women) to use or abuse another human being for self gratification.
Exactly
I like how genuine and straightforward you are! I feel like we could just hang out talking all day! Thanks for being so real with us!!
Intelligent approach … finally a guy with a high class advice. Thank you for this video, you are a class act.
Thank you. I am just tired of other TH-camrs spitting out bullshit and giving women shitty advice.
It absolutely does suck. It is all about power, and he needs to be in control. Why do I feel like if I'm patient and keep reassuring him... he will trust me enough to let me in?? I guess we're both insecure... and unsure of what we want.
I found out my husband was using me and my daughter as collateral in showing value to an old girlfriend who dumped him when he was 16. He never got over it. When he became successful, he hunted this girl down, showed her how great his life was and was willing to give it up for her. He only dated her for 6 months as a teenager. Talk about mind games. He filed for divorce from me, went after the girl; after 6 months she dumped him again. This was insane.
So glad he got dumped. Don’t take him back 😂
This is so interesting. I mean I can only imagine how this may have affected you. But it is so fascinating how a guy could be so unintelligent. It is unfortunate how many individuals do so much logical things due to their emotions.
What a dummy. I hope life has been great after you got away from him
damn i know such guys. one guy(23) had a girl and a child & always forcefully acted as if hes happy af but always checked my reaction after every single thing he acted out, mind you he had a crush on me for 5/6 years. its sick af how far men go to impress other ppl instead of being happy with themselves & their own life. i could not care less, your comment just reminded me of sth
Men are so damaged. The fact he is still worried about a girl he dated at 16 is crazy. They never move on. I know people say women are damaged but men go about it totally different. I feel if they got therapy and expressed their wants they could move on but instead they internalize it and go about doing hurtful manipulative things to future partners.
I don't get WHY dating HAS to be SO damn complicated. Why can't people just grow the fuck up and tell one another the way they REALLY FEEL???? I am currently in the middle of getting divorced after 17 yrs married and 22 yrs together....and I'm 40!!!! SO..as you can see...I haven't had a whole lot of "Dating" experience in my life...at least not in my ADULT life. I'd been with my husband since he was 17 and I was 18....so to go out and date another man would just feel weird to me because Id be feeling the whole time like I should act and behave like someone different.
I'm so glad I found your channel. You have such a great perspective. I was in a "relationship" with a guy for two months. He happened to come into the barber shop where I work and we hit it off. It was amazing how much we seemed to have in common, yet we were from completely different worlds. As we were dating, I kept living my life and being happy, which seemed to make him a little insecure. He said he was inspired to change his life in positive ways because of me(not that i asked him to). Then we began talking about sex. I told him I wanted it to be something special between us. It had been one month when he asked me to be exclusive with him. He then became very distant. There were a few times within the two months that he had acted shady where his actions and words were not matching up. During that time I said that I needed a little time to clear my head and figure things out. Every time he literally begged my forgiveness and promised to "man TF up". After the sex talk he was distant and then he dumped me through a text message saying he was "too embarrassed to say it in person or call me" I was so confused until it hit me. He had researched me before we even met. He researched me through my clients by getting them to ask me personal questions and through social media. Everything he told me was completely made up by what he knew I wanted to hear. He even lied about his religion! I've never felt so violated in all my life. I think what saved me was that I was true to myself and didn't rush into sex. I never contacted him, he would text me every morning and throughout the day. I never had to or wanted to chase him. I sure wish I left after the first red flag though. This video gives me so much comfort. Thank you so much!
joyful gabby ya
Sounds like my situation. I’m trying so hard to move on I just feel stupid and hurt, yet he’s good and moving on 💔
We should make like a group, just of girls who have been treated like that! My story is similar. Basically I met this guy this summer, we spent a lot of time together. He would come to my house and pick me up and we would go for a walk or we would take photos of each other ( I am pretty passionate about photography) or go to the gym together... He was so dedicated, I never even made a move, it all came from him, but once summer was over he stopped texting. I sent him a few messages and he just left them on read... then this December he reappeared. He called a few times, we went out a few times, he was more distant but I figured that he just had a lot of things to do since he had to work. Anyway on New Years he kissed me. After that he started ignoring me again. I wrote him a text message telling him that I like him. He didn’t even reply...
It’s BS and it doesn’t work for men to play these mind games! Whether they have other options or just not that into you could be possible options too but generally speaking even if these games are created intentionally it messes with a woman’s head and in no way does it attract her! It will confuse her and instead of building rapport and attraction like you mentioned it further pushes her away!
So dudes don’t play games it shows a lack of maturity!
I know some do it to keep several women on the loop which isn’t right!
But if you’re not into her just let it go!
I’m an ongoing victim now. After he gave me 2 weeks off i am not sure what he’s into. But it’s only virtual romance not meeting yet in person. But he still message like 1 line love you and i can see him doing live public singing and entertaining more girls
This is why I can't be bothered with men and dating. I don't play games.
My ex sent me an "an accidental" text then whoops and called and let it ring once. A grown man and playing games like that. I didn't respond if he wants to talk he can send a real text, I don't time for the bs. Why do men sent "accidental" texts?
lelolai03 it’s called hoovering. He’s a Narcissist and it’s a disorder that’s very very serious. Google “ten ways a narcissist Hoover’s”. - sending the “misdirected text” is on the list. Textbook. Educate yourself and save yourself.
Nothing is by accident!!! It is just a trick that he is using . If he would be really interested in you he will call you and leave a voice message .... ... think of him treating you like a million dollar business..... he will make sure that he does everything right ..... he is looking for a booty call and that is it !!!! Move on to a nicer guy ..... if you can find one 😀.... I am wishing good luck !!!
Dude, I have been seeing a lot from you lately, and I must say you nail it everytime. Thank you, really. Subscribing right now.
Thank you so much! Love it. Happy I am popping up on your searches finally haha
Guy was interested... no show on meeting up. Heard back week later. I didn't react. He told me to text a time n place the next time. I did. He cancelled at last minute. I blocked his ass. . Once yeah twice no.
What a breath of fresh air! I appreciate your brutal honesty about the games that men play. Not saying some women don't play too, but it seems to be primarily a male characteristic. However, I think a player is gonna play even with higher status until he can't (gets caught playing). stop the games 🛑
Elliot, if you ever coach men, please tell them that starting off with games make a lady eventually loose trust in a man's integrity and character, and it will be remembered and undermine the relationship. You are right, a woman will question the masculinity of a man who does not know what he wants and who sends mixed signals.
Sometimes, we men honestly don't know what we want. And we are certainly not omnipotent. Often, not only am I unsure of how the woman feels, I'm unsure how I feel.
Though, that's not true of "players". Players make no emotional investment, so they don't stress.
You are not God ! God is omnipotent ! and this is why some guys get confused !!!! So don’t expect to be omnipotent but you always have to act nice and loving and be authentic with yourself and others...... Love and respect one another is THE UNIVERSAL LAW . Respect it !
Thank you. So good to hear. Its exhausting that so many men play mindgames... So many
I can’t deal with it much longer. One day it’s great, next it’s trash.
...this was sooo honest. I love your videos but this throw back hit me. Thanks!
This advice saved from a lot of headache. Thanks so much.
thanks Elliot your fab at telling us girls exactly how guy's think instead of telling us bull like lot's on here and boo to the sad Hater's must be in secure, bitter people taking it out on u!!
o Games build up misstrust and soon ore later she walk away
Yup,I walked away,I ain't dumb dude,I know your ways.👋👋
Either play them back for fun, or cut them off!
"I'm telling you, we're like dogs"~ Never fails to crack me up whenever you said this XD
I really appreciate your advice! It's like having a big brother to turn to haha :)
I agree!!!!!!!
thank you so much. this advice is helping me to move forward and do what I need to do!
Freaking awesome. Love the clarity which your videos provide. Thanku. ❤️
Thank you. I try. That means a lot to me.
how about a video on guys who future-fake?
I like your down to truth video, that I need... I am a high-quality women in the beginning then I give my power away and I am not sure how to stop doing that ....if I can change it so late in life.
Another great video. I agree that you teach women how to be better people. not just how to play a game. I learn from you how to be a better dancer with or without a partner. Thank you!
Be the dancer and own the stage!
Elliott is authentic and assuring
I really like your video's and what your trying to teach us!
You describe my ex boyfriend to a T! He keeps trying to get the upper hand but I don't play the game. I would like to date him again but he keeps his guard up and won't let go of the games. Even though he's handsome and has his own he still seems to have low self esteem. I thought it was my imagination but you described what I feel coming from him. Thanks so much for letting me know I'm not nuts lol.
You're not nuts ;)
+Elliot Scott Dating the sad thing is that he didn't do this years ago when we used to see each other but here he is in his 50s now and playing games with me. That's why it was so hard for me to figure it out because I'm looking for the guy I knew 13 years ago. I told him a couple weeks ago I was disappointed in him about how he's been behaving.
It is called BIG EGO..... do not let him treat you less than you deserve!!! He is not a real MAN..... the one God has for you does not do any TRICKS.....
new here...appreciate your values. great message. positive and natural vibes. love it. thank you!
I LOVE YOU AND I LOVE NEW SUBS! WELCOME TO A GREAT COMMUNITY.
Can you make a coaching video for men?? Let them know that's its not okay to play mind games with women....
This lesson is so good! Seriously! Amazing Elliot! It's the confidence thing I am working on! Just exactly what you are talking about.
If you change your confidence everything else will follow
This guy teases me, texts but doesn’t call, makes plans for dates and than says he’s cleaning but doesn’t have the motivation, than posts being out on Facebook. Said we were going out for dinner but then said hours later he’s gonna make dinner for himself soon. Wtf!!
Man I love this guy! thank you for helping me distinguish a man that plays mind games. You basically described exactly what this guy is doing. Like exactly. Feel so strong now_ knowledge is power. You’re the best!
Any guy who tries to control a woman with elementary school type mind games isn’t worth the $2 coffee you can buy yourself. 🤓🍿🔥🔥🔥🔥
thanks for all the great info, you're awesome!
Thank you for this video.. I'm going threw this right now.. & it hurts... but I stand my ground & refuse to play tagg over the phone. Thank you 💘💔💪💖
This was hands down the best explanation of this issue that I've come across. Well said!
Great video Elliot, thanks for this! Have you seen videos from this guy called Coach Corey Wayne? Playing stupid robotic games is what he teaches men, and getting into women’s pants is what his ultimate goal is. He has some good videos, but in general he makes me feel sorry for the poor boys who take relationship advise from him. The best those can achieve is to hook a women with low self-esteem and low self value who is willing to put up with their childish games and has no other option available, or believes she has no other option available.
Your hair is fine Alliot. actually u look hot in every video stop worring about it😉... & keep it up with the good material
Slowing getting to watch all your up loads, love them all thank you for helping🖤
Great video!
Question: I a guy plays mind games does that mean he doesn't like you?
always great advice!! thanks, elliot
You posted this on my birthday! Thanks for this, this is just the thing I was looking for.
Happy Belated Birthday!!!
Now that I have been listening to your advice I'm realizing that I have been making poor choices with men for too long... 😩
You are pretty good at this.
You mentioned in the beginning of the video that when guys (or people) are younger they don't know what they want and they play mind games. What about older guys. I'm trying to online date and I reach out to guys who are in their 40's and 50's and they seem like they play mind games too. Shouldn't they know what they want by then and have themselves pulled together by then?
Please do a Q&A video about yourself! 😍😍
You ladies need to ask me some questions ;)
Elliot Scott Dating 💋say no more fam, mention it in your next video.
What was it that got you into coaching women in dating? Why are you so passionate about helping women? Are you working on writing another book or have plans for any new material?
Cara SanDiego is
This is so much of spiritual guide to me
Thanks 🙏
Dudes r simple. Ghost them. I mean really ghost them. They all come back around anyway. Even the top douchiest ones. Sometimes, at times when you least expect it too. See how they like that sh... and if he's stays gone? Acts like he just wants a booty call? That's cool too. Bc you already ghosted him anyway. As in not relying on him for sh. Not even an emotional bond. And that's F`n free. He can't even manage that sh? B, bye! 😅🖐. Because there's dudes out here more than willing & then some 😋. idk how this ended on my feed thing but thats how I got here. & no, I didn't watch the video.
Everyone is insecure, you will never be sure if someone likes you.
Real talk 💯
i say this with love🤗dry shampoo that mop dude. Batiste you can get at Walgreens. you spray at the roots then rub it in. it refreshes your hair and you don't have to shampoo everyday. it'll take the Shiney,greasy look away. love your vids.
Also it’s sad to admit but the vast majority of women respond to that drama even if they don’t like it. What you like and what you respond to are two different things. It’s not always the right move to be just a nice guy. From experience more girls fall for the drama than the nice guy.
I am in an situation at work. There is a younger (25) man and we have sexual attraction. I have been there 2 months. It's all the usual sparks...eyes meeting and zing zang. He have been opening up to me more lately telling me he watches chick flicks but he can't let his friends find out (against bro code). He never ask anything about me though. He hasn't ask for a number or anything. He has paid for my lunch, is always helpful, always coming over and chatting. I accidentally touch him and he flinched. He looked so frighten the rest of the day. The next day he touched me back. The attraction is strong, but nothing is happening outside of work. Is this guy playing games or should I give him more time.
In my experience, if a dude is really feeling you, he would have asked for that number by now.....I think he bullshitting and he's doing that thing i like to call "work flirt"......he flirting with you but its not going outside of the workplace.....I also know that if a dude talk to you more about himself and never really asks about you and ur life and all that he bullshitting there too
I agree with you. It is just strange to me when people do that. I will never get it.
Sheryl Henderson I try not to focus too much on the WHY....I just know I will no longer entertain a nicca that's sole purpose is to waste a person's time..
SheBoutDatCurlyLife Johnson
He'll get your number no matter what
thank you elliot your the best im learning😚
What a confusing way to get close to gain ground. My ex is my baby's dad too. He says he's looking for a house for us but never asks me out anymore and takes forever and ever to text me back. It's so ridiculous.
So I hooked up with this girl twice and she says she is in love with me she texts me 50 times at once and per day . Thing is I just wanted to hook up so I didn’t reply anything just neutral things like what I’m doing etc...and now she says she wants a relationship etc...I don’t think I’m playing any games sometimes women are just not reasonable. Even if I wanted a relationship it wouldn’t be after a week and two hookups.
William she is a one big red flag - Run
She is some crazy girl, women are not like that.
Here you go ..... you just have to be strait forward and honest with yourself and tell the other party as well BEFORE SEX .... if the girl still wants that it’s cool ..... but otherwise it’s called using another person for your own pleasure..... women do not like or appreciate any of that whatsoever .....
Since when does sex mean relationship? Its up to the girl to say she only sleeps if she is in a relationship. In which case we both have the right to walk each on our own way. Its dishonest to say "look i slept with you , you are my bf now"
Yes, he's is insecure, I agree, probably a narcissist.
Wrong field, the Olympics and Hollywood hire actors and people that like games. Gives one an audience too. Thats right confidence is no action or reaction... Matters of fact. Leave him in the dust. Good video.
Loved it "fuck that power struggle"
Thank you for saying this. I am going back and forth with this mind game. A co-worker of mine goes a head and professionally decline me. I asked him if he is rejecting me, he says no but professional decline. Because he does not mix business and pleasure. His playing these mind games. Any advice? We are on a attractiveness issue.
Selenge Galbaatar This co-worker seems like he’s trying very hard not to break any rules at work. Men can be hard to understand sometimes. It’s all about your gut instinct... if you feel there’s chemistry between you or not ...does he make eye contact..there are subtle signs and hints that can give you a better idea... So, I suppose the question is, Did you approach him first and what did you say ? There may be a slight chance that you may have scared him off if he felt that you were chasing him. Men don’t like us to chase them ..they like to feel they have earned you as apposed to an easy win....Are you sure he isn’t married or in a relationship already?
I was waiting for more than 10 m out for him... We had gone with more people to have a drink after work and I started feeling bad so him said: I gonna get my jacket wait... Nothing happens. I call him once. No call me back. So next day waiting for a call... I am wondering why he did that?
Wow! New suscriber here thanks for telling us so clearly. I can't download your ebook btw could you email it to me please?
The guy i like is acting like this, and when i distance or not pay attention he said i am the bad i think he is insecure or inmature but i don't like this game
You're a handsome man and a wonderful soul!
You are so good at what you do
Hi Elliot,
I just want you to know a little about me, your audience here who adores you. I am 5'5", 117 lbs, I'm a trained classical ballerina and I still train and go to my dance classes, I am either in the ballet studio or at the gym 5-6 days a week. I have a masters degree and I have a great job and career. I'm smart, driven, and dedicated to the things that are what are important in life. I'm super loyal, to a fault, and just have not found the right guy. I think the things you say are spot on and you have an amazing understanding of male and female dynamics. I get guys giving me their numbers all the time and men who I have made it clear I'm not interested who still try to chase me. Im told I am a beautiful girl/woman. So, I say all these things to illustrate a little to you about your audience and the kind of women who are following your lessons here. I think your audience is probably made of very wonderful and amazing women who like you say we just need some insight and maybe a little guidance as to our dating lives. I'm not saying I'm perfect but Im definitely not a 'low tier' woman. For sure! lol And this is part of my problem, I'm too nice, in the past I have put up with a lot of bad behavior from boyfriends because I was too nice and maybe didn't think highly enough of my self. Anyway, I just wanted you to know a little about me and let you know I take what you say to heart. I just wish you would swear a little less lol. You are too smart for so much swearing. Ok, well one of these days I may just have to get one on one dating coaching from you. Have a blessed day!!! Love you!
Uma Clark I’m loyal to a fault as well and just had my heartbroken 💔
Damnnnnn....ouch, basic. I think my having a child that takes up so much of my life at this time is is really effecting my ability to play a more detached role. I don’t have my life the way I want it presently and this is definitely destabilizing my sense of confidence and self esteem. If my circumstances wheee different is have more options, less time to ponder and fret etc.
Remember there are tons of Narcissists out there to prey on single mothers..... keep an eye on it.... good luck ! Pace and Love!
Fish stick Bio very true! And my parents factored all this into the trust knowing that they daughter is vulnerable to some degree. Oddly enough though since my health has taken a decline the thought of anyone not just romantic prospects that is a drain to me in any way I just can’t have anything to do with. I’m really worried about my ailing health right now and in these times that we are now living in you really want to make sure that who you have in your life really do have your back!!! My son comes first in all things and anything that puts him in jeopardy I’m not going to go anywhere near. I’m getting used to be single and I only want someone in my life if they are truly going to add to it in a positive way.
I was waiting for more than 10 m out for him... We had gone with more people to have a drink after work and I started feeling bad so him said: I gonna get my jacket wait... Nothing happens. I call him once. No call me back. So next day waiting for a call... I am wondering why is he doing that?
Elliot. If you don't play, and lean to play, you will lose. I really don't want to catnmouse with this guy. I love him, but I'm secure enough let go if he can't step it up and show me explicitly what it is he wants with me. I'm sick of the dating game, it's so freaking confusing and frustrating and all the while you're getting older. I don't get the rules and I'm losing....
I feel your pain because I’ve been there before.
Your hair looks great 👍🏻
Thank you so much for your videos!!
+Ana Rebecca Welcome. Anything I can do to help you or make them better let me know :)
+Elliot Scott Dating They're excellent! You take away the fear of the male perspective. Much appreciated!! :)
+Ana Rebecca That is my ultimate goal
+Elliot Scott Dating Success!
brilliant
+Michelle whitely Thank you :)
Hey Elliot! Love watching your videos they're awesome! I was wondering if it is possible to contact you through any private social media im so desperate and lost and confused about a thing i would love to get your advice on! Love from Sweden
Thank u.
Would you say the mind games are even more or less intense when the guy you're dating is a psychiatrist?
by trade*!
Elliot Scott what happens when a ex friend & a shy male friend that I like as a friend. do nothing but dose a shouting matches; in front of and or within the area or room. over the smallest things just like what u said petty things such as "drama ". Yet I stay out of it getting fusterated listening,watching ect. I finally got the nerve to put my foot down ; stood up for my male friend. my ex friend was the agresser of the sisuation I got sick of her doing this over time & time again. my male friend did thank me yet susjest to me for him to handle his own battles. Yet I'm laid-back passive person that values her relationships & friendships. Please redirect me with ur wise advice please & thank u Elliot Scott. my name is Jodi Stewart
You must know the guy I'm
Seeing. Lol. Gosh thank you for ur insight. Again ..... another Great Video ‼️
thank u for the video helped me a lot
It's my job! You're welcome!
thank you Elliott.
I went out with a guy for two months and found out he was terrible in bed! After being sexually frustrated with his bad moves, I found another guy who showered me with gifts, jewelry and he loves to buy me clothes. He thinks that I look cute in short skirts. Although, he dresses like an uptight lawyer. If I’m on a date and he’s a cheapskate, I start texting my ex and leave him in the dust! I will not waste my time with a fake, low baller who is emotionally unavailable, and has a fragile ego. 😎
Thank you!
I'm low tear... trying to get better, but it's hard to change, esp. about your social environment... but you can just say it, the truth is the truth, not an offence
Anyway nice video
Thank you.
Ladies, who thinks themselves are irreplaceable? Everyone on this earth is. If the guy is immature or insecure, they will automatically play games! Like a habit that they formed for years, it’s nothing to do with women
Happy i found u
Awesome
Exactly f..that!!!! Enough said!!!
I walk away if a Dude start to Play
My husband is playing mind games with me. What can I do? He's not having sex with me for 3 weeks.
Saved me* 🙂
You-tube is showing me videos that I may have missed ;) Sorry for the old comments.