I was married to the idiot at the time and didn't have a choice...I HAD to put his name on the birth certificate and she is the spitting image of him...she looks so much like him that she could be his identical twin sister...people could not tell that I was the mother...they thought that I was the stepmother or a babysitter. They would need a maternity suit to see if I was the mother...go figure!!!
I only know a few adult males who actually are thoughtful, considerable, and successfully plan things for others, while being mindful of those who will be in attendance. Also as a mainly solo hiker and traveler, I wouldn't ever wait for an adult male. Especially during an evaluation or an emergency. Ladies don't risk your personal safety and life waiting for these stubborn adult males. One of the most valuable things that I learned is that you have to be okay with leaving folks where they are!! Self preservation is the first law of nature.
Studies literally prove that men tend to take emergency situations less seriously and only care about themselves. Listen to all the women’s stories in California with the recent fires, it’s disgusting and disturbing knowing how selfish men are.
THIS!!! I Recently lost my brother due to a house fire. He and his partner ultimately perished from their injuries because he had to run back to grab his effing laptop. SMH! NEVER DEPEND ON AN XY!!! They have NO CLUE what it means to “protect” someone.
I know about 7 men under the age of 40 who I know and trust. I tell them every time i talk to them how much i appreciate them because men, in general.....yikes. and they understand and don't fight me on it because they know, too.
I'm European. One way how to get spiteful ex to sign that form is grabbing him at weakest point. My sister threatened to increase child support if he doesn't sign. He pays minimum and she is ok with that but when he becomes hemotional then she can put him in his place by threatening to increase child support if he misbehaves. His addictions needs that money.
My ex had to sign a form to get my kids’ passports last fall. I told him it was just so I could take them on a cruise but in the back of my mind I knew we might need them to flee the country. Not even bothering asking him to get one (for the kids’ sake) because I know he can’t be bothered. I would never get pregnant during this administration. Never having any more kids even though I live the ones I have. 4b and IUDs all the way ladies.
@@tarshaledwards7468 i got mine December of '24. Of course, I don't believe that I'm what could be "breeding stock" cause yay for having documented mental health issues, documented developmental/neurodivergent issues and even more severe chronic health illnesses. Who the frick knows what they plan on doing with people who are like me. Of course, considering what past autocratic style regimes did to people like me, I've got a pretty good idea...... especially because my hands are largely out of commission.
My daughter will be 21 in two weeks. She has Medicaid and they won't pay for a tubal until age 21. She's getting her tubes tied and keeping her nexplanon. She wants to be so infertile she's in the negative. 😂 I'm also furious that my TWENTY ONE YEAR OLD has to make this decision NOW, instead of at her leisure.
@@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar Hoping they do it for her. I had doctor after doctor refuse to tie mine because I am childless (by choice), and I'm in Canada. I'm now past that age but it still makes me mad. Other folks, PLEASE at least get an IUD if you have a uterus, while they're available.
I worked at a passport agency and most of the men who came to apply for a last minute passport were dragged there by women. The women filled out their forms for them
I work at a pharmacy and it’s the same honestly. I asked a man which refill did he need and he legit said idk and called his wife… some of these women are doing too much mental and emotional labor for these men.
@ it was frustrating to see because the women would have to remember the grown @ss men’s SSN/ DOB/ place of birth, phone numbers, parents’ full names WITH their freakin’ DOB/ POB… 🥴 On top of remembering the same for their kids.
This is why I’m 4B and Childfree , I don’t have to forcefully ask a booger to sign a passport or anything for me. I had to ask my dad to repair my laptop for 3 months and he went to the technician last day before I come to school. So I know how don’t need that kind of energy around me ever again. Get your passport ladies!!!
Not putting my son's deadbeat father on the BC was the best decision I've ever made, all we need is his BC showing only my name in the parent section 😁 I've been wanting to get our passports since the election but I was waiting for my divorce to go through, that happened today so I can finally get the process going.
Same. I also didn't put my son's dad on the BC because of this. Renewing my passport and getting my son's passport as well this month. Getting my mom's as well. Anybody else better get on the bus and get it done.
I know it isn't easy, and used to be even more difficult, to divorce, but please leave people before you hate them or their behavior makes you hate them, and it even gets to that point.
As an adoptee with a short-form birth cert, I learned that you may need an Apostile Stamp (like a Notary of Public) which costs approximately $25 in order for your documents to be accepted in the EU.
So I have a restraining order against my children’s father. I brought it when I got my daughter’s passport hoping it wouldn’t be a problem. Thankfully they didn’t even bring him up. I hope the same for me when I go for my sons and for all other moms
Wait. Wait. WAIT. Are you telling me that I'm NOT the only woman who's in a relationship with a man who's telling her that she's overreacting and being ridiculous and that all of this will be worked out in the courts over the next two years (and then rectified during the midterm elections)??? I feel like I'm going crazy because my husband literally will NOT acknowledge that this is even abnormal. He says that the Republicans are just "doing Republican stuff, dismantling the government." WHAT?????? I love my husband, but he's making me feel really unsafe. What is everyone else doing??
@AmberwingArt I got my daughter her passport. My husband agrees. She's doon to be 20 years old. She also made the decision to switch from the pill to the IUD. I have a tubal, so I'm mostly okay. My other children are male, and they'll be okay. I'm mostly worried about my niece because she's 12. Her mom is negligent but won't let anyone help my niece, and she's in a vulnerable position right now.
@@bunneywolf 😰😰😰😨😨😨🫂🫂🫂 sh*t, that's f-cked up. I wish charity works would do their job and protect the vulnerable. Sometimes, even online ones do a better job than the irl ones.
@aviatedviewssound4798 ...if you are being forced into that, then you are not really doing it "for the ladies". Also, you think civilians don't... die? They get tortured.
I’m in Canada. My son and I just renewed our passports. It’s his first adult passport. At 16 they’re considered adult passport. I didn’t need to ask my ex to sign.
My abusive father WANTED to move to Mexico for a job opportunity. It was literally his idea. Mom still needed to poke, prod, pressure, and, pester him into renewing his passport--for months. Despite that, he still missed the deadline and Mom and I had to go to a foreign country without him, because he made sure he was the breadwinner (financial abuse) and quit his job in the states. The job in Mexico was our only bet at this point. Mom was SILENT throughout the entire plane ride. Yeah, she divorced him later when he cheated on a woman as young as his daughter.
THIS IS THE ESSENTIAL JOURNALISM WE NEED NOW. Thank you, you really are doing life saving work. Your integrity and bravery is inspiring. Hope everyone sees this video.
@@shaynaconde What you are doing is the purest and most selfless work of love you can do. You have a giant heart and even bigger cajones! (Misspelled on purpose so I don't get censored, lol)❤
There's also a tuberculosis outbreak in Kansas. It's being called the largest TB outbreak in US history lol. When you were talking about all the disease outbreaks it made me think of that.
Oddly enough my father was the one who was the most OCD about planning out things. He was a 70's hippy prepper. But he checked over everything several times before we left and my mom was the one you couldn't completely rely on.
I’m married with 2 boys. I told my husband I was getting my passport and I did at the end of 2024. He and my boys don’t have them. He’s has NO IDEA what’s going on right now, and I don’t care.
Then divorce now and celebrate a real Independence Day. Why struggle with clueless useless people? They’re clearly not on your level, they’re not aware. You’re stuck with a prison lifetime responsibility. Single and childfree is the way to go.
if your sons are not adults then you should prob help them get their passports asap but if they are adults who want to follow in their fathers (unfortunate) footsteps then...
If you’re going thru the hassle of getting passport books, pay the extra fee to get passport cards as well. They are wallet-sized proofs of citizenship.
One of my daughters does not have hers, I am worried about sending her birth certificate and social through the mail to departments that might not exist from day to day.
Get another official copy of your daughter's birth certificate and Social Security card. Better to have backups, because if something happens sending them though the mail, you'll still have her originals on hand. Keeping a photocopy is fine, but a raised seal original is better.
I believe you can get an expiediated passport ( my spelling is awful I know . 3 concussions in 3 years ) for a few hundred dollars extra . Theres companies authorized to do just this . Hurry to do this please . If you want to adopt a nice older woman for an auntie or grandmother please let me know .
Since the current situation is so up in the air, and many women can't afford that way out, we need to create one. I have no idea how to start that, or what it would be like, but I surely would participate.🚂
I just want to say thank you for staying on top of this and sharing. I found the updated renewal forms, and will have Go bags ready for me and my wife by weeks end.
Just women and children In General,these groups have always been more vulnerable and at risk. I don’t wanna live in Texas anymore, especially because I have a daughter and I’m a woman myself, obvious reasons why I don’t wanna be here anymore lmao.
I got my 1st passport (!!) just before Biden left office knowing what was coming. I offered to pay the fees for all 3 of my adult children to get theirs. I have 2 girls and one boy. Any guesses on who didn’t take me up on that offer? Now, we are scrambling to get the application for him that disappeared. Found one, but who knows if it’s going to be the “correct” application now?! My son is a 6’4, white straight male, so I figure he’s good? We will leave him behind if it comes to that 😮💔
Tell him you'll sign away his child support payments if he does this . If not then you say you have a new shark attorney you're dating who specializes in this very thing AND WANTS TO DO IT FOR FREE .....FOR FREE .
Even if you have the passport sometimes when traveling abroad without the child’s father/mother, you need to have a notarized letter that that parent is giving you permission to take the child out of the country.
Sure, but we're talking about a complete breakdown in social order situation. If it we're a matter of life and death/safety, forgery is an option. Not legal, no, but by then we're way past respecting law.
I have noticed more censorship on here lately. You’d fit in on BlueSky lol, but I’m excited to hear more about your patreon. Thanks for sharing your videos
Before the election, (because I had a bad feeling) I made sure, me and my two daughters updated our passports because they expired ….because too many people called me an alarmist when I said they’re gonna overturn Roe versus Wade…and then they did…. then I said Trump isn’t gonna pass over power peacefully and they called me an alarmist again and guess what he didn’t do?…. My husband didn’t feel the need to renew his passport. Let’s be honest he’s safe., He’s a middle class white man.
I got my granddaughter and her mother passports and my husband and I got new photos to get ours renewed. I’m working on the renewal forms. Plan to bring in Thursday. I was worried but renewal doesn’t go through DC my state goes through Texas.
Im glad my difficult ex husband signed the paperwork for my son to get his passport for a school trip a little over a year ago. The annoying pary was that it was weeks before my son turned 16 which is when he could have gotten the passport on his own. Now I have to do the same process for my toddler. I won't be having any children under this administration. I already scheduled with obgyn for an implant.
My mom was a single mom. We just told the government it was for a school trip (it really was for a schools trip for a week). They didn’t need my dusty ahh father’s permission. Might have helped I was already 16 at the time. Not sure how or if that’s changed in the last 10 years.
I had full legal and physical custody, so I got the passport. Then after staying in Ecuador more than 6 months (max tourist time), I was required to have the father sign a “poder especial” because US court judgements aren’t Ecuadorian court. I was detained 4 times! Finally, My ex went to the Ecuadorian consulate in the US to help get documents , but it could have been me stuck in a country.
My bio kid has their passport. It was easy for me because I'm the only parent listed on the BC. My suggestion for those who are in a different situation is to hire a lawyer.
Shoot…if your page is being flagged I know you’re saying something right. I like the video. Subscribed. I would urge anyone to take this advice. I need to get on it myself and I should talk to my parents about getting ours. I love them too much to leave them but if we could all have a chance at surviving a very probable catastrophe… Who am I kidding, I’ll be the one stress eating Doritos 🥲 please pour out a bag onto the dewy morning earth for me now and then in remembrance. Just not spicy…they’re too spicy.
Nothing new to need the signatures of both parents. I'm an expat that has lived in Australia for almost 30 years. Each and every time I got my children's American and Australian passports both of us had to be interviewed. Too many cases of one parent taking the child out of the country causing an international custody case.
Best way to copy a signature is to turn the original signature upside down and draw a copy rather than write so your own handwriting doesn’t come through.
Be aware that you can’t take your kids overseas without a certified letter head if both parents are presently living closeby. You might get a visit from a custom agent before the flight or upon return. 😎
I have concerns about leaving when I don’t have a savings, or college education. I am not sure how I could make that work….:( is leaving a luxury for people for have money set aside? Additional skills and education to work and survive in a new country?
Leaving is definitely easier when you have money, but if you HAVE to leave, you sell everything you can and go to a country that will accept you, even if that means hopping from country to country.
I was able to get an Urgent passport in 3 days for my daughter to GTFO of America this pass Jan, when my ex husband didn't sign the papers and I already booked the tickets I got it with my divorce documents. I ended up calling the passport agency in El Paso Texas and asking them how I can get it and they told me all I need is divorce papers that say I'm sole legal custody and decision maker. I looked through my Divorce documents and saw that I had that. So they gave me a passport for her My other step was to get the courts to rule him as abandoned his child. And get sole legal custody and decision maker that way But luckily I didn't have to do that. If you're not married to the father when the baby is born DONT put his name on the birth certificate. And if he does, get the child a passport as soon as child is born. A divorce can happen and you'll never see the dad again and you'll want to leave America
I want to renew my passport but unfortunately I have 3 years left on it and this country that I was born (not American) doesn’t allow renewing at this time.
if your "other" parent is absent you should be able to notarize a statement stating they are absent. essentially you put your word on the line w that notary statement saying "i cannot find him/her." it's how i got my oldest's passport. thank god my little's dad signed the form, now i just need to renew all of them!
The crazy part is I think I would survive better in a communist country I've lived in a blue state for 11 years now it's not that great up here but it's better then living in the south because there customs are different so whenever I hear trump say he's throwing education to the states I feel relieved because if your mayor is smart he will place protections on it so he can't mess with it if they don't want to fund it fine we can tax them on all the goods they order from us too..the mountains have plenty of wildlife in it that's why they don't have to raise prices on us it's expensive here for a reason because of the wild life that's why I think it should be apart of Canada.
A lot of Communist countries have little to no reproductive rights for women and they have have poor Equal Ops legislation for women especially when it comes to work. I am from Northern Europe, which is social democratic btw, where there are better rights for women.
When I legally changed my kid's last name, all I had to provide was the signed registered mail receipt proving I sent my deadbeat ex the papers to sign, even though he didn't return them. I'm wondering if it's something similar for passports.
It's because passports ask for our last name and if you changed your last name, it's a hassle of paperwork. I mean, women who can afford to vacation are typically child free tho.
Lol. The conversation between husband and wife on passports: So. On. Point. Me: Uhm. Things are happening and it's worrying me and we should renew our passports. Him: You're overreacting. it's just fine. I don't want to go anywhere.
Yes, I'm blissfully child free and have traveled extensively with my husband. He allowed his passport to expire despite me constantly nagging him. He filed just last week. I'm hoping the passports are still being issued. Cause I'm watching this madness very closely.
This friend of yours, should they not be contacting the ACLU right now for assistance? Have they tried this yet? If not perhaps you should Point them that way and then let us know what happens
Shayna 😂 the voices are taking me out! You made me so mad at Philip! Philip, please, Lucius is a collective term here, ok? I'm Kenyan and a couple of decades ago it was harderto divorce than it is now. Especially if your husband had the means, he'd frustrate you in court. I know several families where the wife went to "visit" the US or other country with the kids, including a celebrity couple. They've never returned 😩😂
You can also send in for a passport in the mail. They'll send it back with your documents returned. (Birth certificate, social) You just have to include a passport photo (you can get one at CVS.
Married 43 years and I agree with the men won't keep or make appointments for health. But I sure can tell you my hubby would be the first dragging my ass out of any situation. Well, background dictates. I trust my husband, lol... when my kids were young he made sure me and the kids had our passports up to date. Military helped with that lol. Ladies get a power of attorney for your kids and never worry again I didnt have to but he gave me one. . I hope the other woman find a man like that.
There is now a requirement that both parents have to be at the passport appt but there is a form that they can sign. If there is a reason they can’t make it to the appt but it has to be one of several valid reasons! Also don’t assume they will have many appts bc I got my passport before the rush of ppl and there were two times I could have come and then weeks of nothing available. I live in a Washington DC suburb and there is no reason for it to be that hard to get appts. So if you live someplace rural I would start right away. If I could go back and just have them put only my name on the birth certificate I would have but at the time he was all joyful about having a baby. It’s just smarter to be the only one on that birth certificate. Maybe say it’s bc you’ve heard certain forms are harder to get if there are two ppl on it 🤷🏻♀️ you won’t be technically lying! It will need to be signed in front of a notary public (the form for him to give you permission to travel with your own child). I think it’s actually for safety reasons so ppl don’t take off with a kid to a country where the kid can’t be extradited but effectively it’s a way to take power from single moms.
Questions 1) why would they be able to leave even with a passport if something goes down? And 2) where are these women going thats "safe" and wouod they be safe if trump was like give us back our women!?!?! Lol idk
Never put a man's name on the birth certificate. Let the kid keep your name.
I've always thought it was odd that children get their father's last name when the maternal bloodline is far more enduring.
So then no child support?
Women like to be selfish😮.
You want to beat a man and stop him from crying.
For real
Too bad more women don't listen to this.
I was married to the idiot at the time and didn't have a choice...I HAD to put his name on the birth certificate and she is the spitting image of him...she looks so much like him that she could be his identical twin sister...people could not tell that I was the mother...they thought that I was the stepmother or a babysitter. They would need a maternity suit to see if I was the mother...go figure!!!
When I tell you I got me and my mom our first passport and my dad refused to go with us to renew his.... okay, sir, bet!
I'm curious....Did your father explain why he didn't renew his passport??!! 😮😮
It’s HIS land, and he knows it. The wyt male privilege.
They deserve what they voted for
Leave him at home and you and your mom enjoy yourselves. Safe travels!
I got mine and my son’s recently. Dad had to be there for our minor and was supposed to get his too, but didn’t. Oh well!
The true hard part is making it out of the country without a plane crash… like they falling out the sky these days.
I only know a few adult males who actually are thoughtful, considerable, and successfully plan things for others, while being mindful of those who will be in attendance.
Also as a mainly solo hiker and traveler, I wouldn't ever wait for an adult male. Especially during an evaluation or an emergency. Ladies don't risk your personal safety and life waiting for these stubborn adult males. One of the most valuable things that I learned is that you have to be okay with leaving folks where they are!! Self preservation is the first law of nature.
Studies literally prove that men tend to take emergency situations less seriously and only care about themselves. Listen to all the women’s stories in California with the recent fires, it’s disgusting and disturbing knowing how selfish men are.
THIS!!! I Recently lost my brother due to a house fire. He and his partner ultimately perished from their injuries because he had to run back to grab his effing laptop. SMH! NEVER DEPEND ON AN XY!!! They have NO CLUE what it means to “protect” someone.
@anonymousa-uy1hk I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers to you and your family. 👪
@@ipeefreely9865 thank you
I know about 7 men under the age of 40 who I know and trust. I tell them every time i talk to them how much i appreciate them because men, in general.....yikes. and they understand and don't fight me on it because they know, too.
I'm European. One way how to get spiteful ex to sign that form is grabbing him at weakest point. My sister threatened to increase child support if he doesn't sign. He pays minimum and she is ok with that but when he becomes hemotional then she can put him in his place by threatening to increase child support if he misbehaves. His addictions needs that money.
My ex had to sign a form to get my kids’ passports last fall. I told him it was just so I could take them on a cruise but in the back of my mind I knew we might need them to flee the country. Not even bothering asking him to get one (for the kids’ sake) because I know he can’t be bothered. I would never get pregnant during this administration. Never having any more kids even though I live the ones I have. 4b and IUDs all the way ladies.
*love
IUD🎉….get one before they ban those. Got mine in September 2024.
@@tarshaledwards7468 i got mine December of '24. Of course, I don't believe that I'm what could be "breeding stock" cause yay for having documented mental health issues, documented developmental/neurodivergent issues and even more severe chronic health illnesses.
Who the frick knows what they plan on doing with people who are like me. Of course, considering what past autocratic style regimes did to people like me, I've got a pretty good idea...... especially because my hands are largely out of commission.
My daughter will be 21 in two weeks. She has Medicaid and they won't pay for a tubal until age 21. She's getting her tubes tied and keeping her nexplanon.
She wants to be so infertile she's in the negative. 😂
I'm also furious that my TWENTY ONE YEAR OLD has to make this decision NOW, instead of at her leisure.
@@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar Hoping they do it for her. I had doctor after doctor refuse to tie mine because I am childless (by choice), and I'm in Canada. I'm now past that age but it still makes me mad.
Other folks, PLEASE at least get an IUD if you have a uterus, while they're available.
I worked at a passport agency and most of the men who came to apply for a last minute passport were dragged there by women. The women filled out their forms for them
I work at a pharmacy and it’s the same honestly. I asked a man which refill did he need and he legit said idk and called his wife… some of these women are doing too much mental and emotional labor for these men.
That's not true as a man, I am going to apply for my wife.
NOT FILLED OUT THEIR FORMS FOR THEM
@ it was frustrating to see because the women would have to remember the grown @ss men’s SSN/ DOB/ place of birth, phone numbers, parents’ full names WITH their freakin’ DOB/ POB… 🥴
On top of remembering the same for their kids.
This is why I’m 4B and Childfree , I don’t have to forcefully ask a booger to sign a passport or anything for me. I had to ask my dad to repair my laptop for 3 months and he went to the technician last day before I come to school. So I know how don’t need that kind of energy around me ever again. Get your passport ladies!!!
Booger 💀The way I screamed 🤣🤣
Me too - and I got the old fashioned birth control - a partial hysterectomy!
Not putting my son's deadbeat father on the BC was the best decision I've ever made, all we need is his BC showing only my name in the parent section 😁 I've been wanting to get our passports since the election but I was waiting for my divorce to go through, that happened today so I can finally get the process going.
Congratulations!
Same. I also didn't put my son's dad on the BC because of this. Renewing my passport and getting my son's passport as well this month. Getting my mom's as well. Anybody else better get on the bus and get it done.
Congratulations on getting divorced.
Congrats
CONGRATS ON YOUR FREEDOM (aka divorce)!!!!
Not me thinking the other type of divorce is murdur 👀
😂😂
Thats what Im thinking too. 😂
You should hear the stories of deathbed confessions from the staff working in nursing homes.
I know it isn't easy, and used to be even more difficult, to divorce, but please leave people before you hate them or their behavior makes you hate them, and it even gets to that point.
nah, they can trace that.
Just a small tip but get some sort of grab and go bag for important papers and organize it ahead of time. Who knows what's coming down the road.
Right! And have certified/notarized copies of as many documents as possible.
As an adoptee with a short-form birth cert, I learned that you may need an Apostile Stamp (like a Notary of Public) which costs approximately $25 in order for your documents to be accepted in the EU.
So I have a restraining order against my children’s father. I brought it when I got my daughter’s passport hoping it wouldn’t be a problem. Thankfully they didn’t even bring him up. I hope the same for me when I go for my sons and for all other moms
Do all of them have your last name or their father's?
Wait. Wait. WAIT. Are you telling me that I'm NOT the only woman who's in a relationship with a man who's telling her that she's overreacting and being ridiculous and that all of this will be worked out in the courts over the next two years (and then rectified during the midterm elections)??? I feel like I'm going crazy because my husband literally will NOT acknowledge that this is even abnormal. He says that the Republicans are just "doing Republican stuff, dismantling the government." WHAT?????? I love my husband, but he's making me feel really unsafe. What is everyone else doing??
That... is not normal 😨😰🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂💯
@AmberwingArt I got my daughter her passport. My husband agrees. She's doon to be 20 years old. She also made the decision to switch from the pill to the IUD. I have a tubal, so I'm mostly okay. My other children are male, and they'll be okay. I'm mostly worried about my niece because she's 12. Her mom is negligent but won't let anyone help my niece, and she's in a vulnerable position right now.
@@bunneywolf 😰😰😰😨😨😨🫂🫂🫂 sh*t, that's f-cked up. I wish charity works would do their job and protect the vulnerable. Sometimes, even online ones do a better job than the irl ones.
Ladies, y'all acting like you're the ones who will put your lives on the line, we are always the ones dying for you guys.
@aviatedviewssound4798 ...if you are being forced into that, then you are not really doing it "for the ladies".
Also, you think civilians don't... die? They get tortured.
I’m in Canada. My son and I just renewed our passports. It’s his first adult passport.
At 16 they’re considered adult passport. I didn’t need to ask my ex to sign.
It's the same in the US
I keep stopping myself from saying, “they won’t do that” anymore
My abusive father WANTED to move to Mexico for a job opportunity. It was literally his idea.
Mom still needed to poke, prod, pressure, and, pester him into renewing his passport--for months. Despite that, he still missed the deadline and Mom and I had to go to a foreign country without him, because he made sure he was the breadwinner (financial abuse) and quit his job in the states. The job in Mexico was our only bet at this point. Mom was SILENT throughout the entire plane ride.
Yeah, she divorced him later when he cheated on a woman as young as his daughter.
Oh it's not the opposite: we're 100% taking our kiddos with us. We're just ejecting the booga towards the drugstore.
THIS IS THE ESSENTIAL JOURNALISM WE NEED NOW. Thank you, you really are doing life saving work. Your integrity and bravery is inspiring. Hope everyone sees this video.
THANK YOU!!! ngl it's a little scary (especially with the emails I've been getting) but I have a community now and I want to keep yall safe :)
@@shaynaconde What you are doing is the purest and most selfless work of love you can do. You have a giant heart and even bigger cajones! (Misspelled on purpose so I don't get censored, lol)❤
There's also a tuberculosis outbreak in Kansas. It's being called the largest TB outbreak in US history lol. When you were talking about all the disease outbreaks it made me think of that.
omg yeah all on top of bird flu, and covid still raging smh
It’s evidently in Ohio now too.
Had no idea about this. Only heard about a flu epidemic that's higher than usual even for the time of year. The news rarely bothers to report on this.
@@kiribull
They're not now especially with leather face being over national healthcare.
Yeah cuz them crazy people been drinking raw milk… like TB the B stands for Bovine as in cows. 😅
LEAVE THEM!!!!!! dont give any warnings or help. dont tell them shyt.
"But that's their child's father". I'm not saying that cause I care. I'm saying that cause that is what they are going to say.
I'm a documented man and... if women didn't exist I wouldn't exist. And that didn't start BEFORE birth.. that shit is still relevant and I'm 35.
Without your dad you wouldn’t exist simp
Oddly enough my father was the one who was the most OCD about planning out things. He was a 70's hippy prepper. But he checked over everything several times before we left and my mom was the one you couldn't completely rely on.
I’m married with 2 boys. I told my husband I was getting my passport and I did at the end of 2024. He and my boys don’t have them. He’s has NO IDEA what’s going on right now, and I don’t care.
Are your boys adults? should you not help the kids get them ?
Then divorce now and celebrate a real Independence Day. Why struggle with clueless useless people? They’re clearly not on your level, they’re not aware. You’re stuck with a prison lifetime responsibility. Single and childfree is the way to go.
if your sons are not adults then you should prob help them get their passports asap but if they are adults who want to follow in their fathers (unfortunate) footsteps then...
If you’re going thru the hassle of getting passport books, pay the extra fee to get passport cards as well. They are wallet-sized proofs of citizenship.
They aren’t accepted in all countries. But it’s not a bad idea and we may need proof to move in our own country if that’s what you meant.
Passport cards are only valid in Canada and Mexico. Not useful if you're trying to escape to another continent.
Yeah. I know. That’s why I worded my comment the way I did.
One of my daughters does not have hers, I am worried about sending her birth certificate and social through the mail to departments that might not exist from day to day.
If you have to send originals, keep copies. Good luck to you.
Get another official copy of your daughter's birth certificate and Social Security card. Better to have backups, because if something happens sending them though the mail, you'll still have her originals on hand. Keeping a photocopy is fine, but a raised seal original is better.
I believe you can get an expiediated passport ( my spelling is awful I know . 3 concussions in 3 years ) for a few hundred dollars extra . Theres companies authorized to do just this . Hurry to do this please . If you want to adopt a nice older woman for an auntie or grandmother please let me know .
@@Janet-g4f send it through DHL or a private shipping company
Since the current situation is so up in the air, and many women can't afford that way out, we need to create one.
I have no idea how to start that, or what it would be like, but I surely would participate.🚂
If you have always been a single parent and there is no father on the birth certificate, you're cool to get your kid a passport on your own.
Finally, having dual citizenship will come in handy ❤
you are living the dream rn
I just want to say thank you for staying on top of this and sharing. I found the updated renewal forms, and will have Go bags ready for me and my wife by weeks end.
Idk who’s in more trouble, American nationals or immigrants.
Nationals b/c the immigrants at least can go to other countries and start over.
Just women and children In General,these groups have always been more vulnerable and at risk. I don’t wanna live in Texas anymore, especially because I have a daughter and I’m a woman myself, obvious reasons why I don’t wanna be here anymore lmao.
@@Tigerlily_Freshwhat’s unfortunate is that some immigrants had to give up their citizenship when they moved here. So they actually can’t go back.
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That is very sad, they gave up everything and ended up with nothing!
I got my 1st passport (!!) just before Biden left office knowing what was coming. I offered to pay the fees for all 3 of my adult children to get theirs. I have 2 girls and one boy. Any guesses on who didn’t take me up on that offer? Now, we are scrambling to get the application for him that disappeared.
Found one, but who knows if it’s going to be the “correct” application now?!
My son is a 6’4, white straight male, so I figure he’s good?
We will leave him behind if it comes to that 😮💔
Son will be ok, lol
I already have our grab bags ready. I can get a passport, but my ex-husband will not sign the paper without someone with authority to make him do it.
Typical, men claim they’re leaders and think logically, but will actually make women and their children lives harder and put them in jeopardy.
That sucks maybe there is some kind of social or legal channel you can go down.
Tell him you'll sign away his child support payments if he does this . If not then you say you have a new shark attorney you're dating who specializes in this very thing AND WANTS TO DO IT FOR FREE .....FOR FREE .
Look into filing a case with the court to dispense with his consent.
Even if you have the passport sometimes when traveling abroad without the child’s father/mother, you need to have a notarized letter that that parent is giving you permission to take the child out of the country.
Sure, but we're talking about a complete breakdown in social order situation. If it we're a matter of life and death/safety, forgery is an option.
Not legal, no, but by then we're way past respecting law.
I have noticed more censorship on here lately. You’d fit in on BlueSky lol, but I’m excited to hear more about your patreon. Thanks for sharing your videos
Before the election, (because I had a bad feeling) I made sure, me and my two daughters updated our passports because they expired ….because too many people called me an alarmist when I said they’re gonna overturn Roe versus Wade…and then they did…. then I said Trump isn’t gonna pass over power peacefully and they called me an alarmist again and guess what he didn’t do?…. My husband didn’t feel the need to renew his passport. Let’s be honest he’s safe., He’s a middle class white man.
I got my granddaughter and her mother passports and my husband and I got new photos to get ours renewed. I’m working on the renewal forms. Plan to bring in Thursday.
I was worried but renewal doesn’t go through DC my state goes through Texas.
My son is turning 16 this November. All that stuff doesn’t apply to me… but he’ll soon be able to get his passport without my ex-husbands assistance.
Im glad my difficult ex husband signed the paperwork for my son to get his passport for a school trip a little over a year ago. The annoying pary was that it was weeks before my son turned 16 which is when he could have gotten the passport on his own. Now I have to do the same process for my toddler. I won't be having any children under this administration. I already scheduled with obgyn for an implant.
I agree - I’d be nervous about getting married or having kids right now. Good luck out there everyone!
My mom was a single mom. We just told the government it was for a school trip (it really was for a schools trip for a week). They didn’t need my dusty ahh father’s permission. Might have helped I was already 16 at the time. Not sure how or if that’s changed in the last 10 years.
I had full legal and physical custody, so I got the passport. Then after staying in Ecuador more than 6 months (max tourist time), I was required to have the father sign a “poder especial” because US court judgements aren’t Ecuadorian court. I was detained 4 times!
Finally, My ex went to the Ecuadorian consulate in the US to help get documents , but it could have been me stuck in a country.
Don’t they want more people to have kids? Every day they add more and more reasons to stay child free, especially as a woman.
My bio kid has their passport. It was easy for me because I'm the only parent listed on the BC. My suggestion for those who are in a different situation is to hire a lawyer.
If things get really bad .. imma do what I need to do after I do what is acceptable socially
this woman is a great combo of informative and delightfully animated. my new favorite young person educating my old brain
Shoot…if your page is being flagged I know you’re saying something right. I like the video. Subscribed.
I would urge anyone to take this advice. I need to get on it myself and I should talk to my parents about getting ours. I love them too much to leave them but if we could all have a chance at surviving a very probable catastrophe…
Who am I kidding, I’ll be the one stress eating Doritos 🥲 please pour out a bag onto the dewy morning earth for me now and then in remembrance. Just not spicy…they’re too spicy.
If you have between 30k-100k saved, you can live the rest of your life in certain countries without ever having to work again.
Nothing new to need the signatures of both parents. I'm an expat that has lived in Australia for almost 30 years.
Each and every time I got my children's American and Australian passports both of us had to be interviewed. Too many cases of one parent taking the child out of the country causing an international custody case.
How many will just quietly forge the signature??
Best way to copy a signature is to turn the original signature upside down and draw a copy rather than write so your own handwriting doesn’t come through.
Be aware that you can’t take your kids overseas without a certified letter head if both parents are presently living closeby. You might get a visit from a custom agent before the flight or upon return. 😎
I have concerns about leaving when I don’t have a savings, or college education. I am not sure how I could make that work….:( is leaving a luxury for people for have money set aside? Additional skills and education to work and survive in a new country?
Start saving now, any amount start small, save all your $5 bills/don't spend. Also, you can go to college or trade schools online... prayers up!
Leaving is definitely easier when you have money, but if you HAVE to leave, you sell everything you can and go to a country that will accept you, even if that means hopping from country to country.
It's also good to research different countries and to understand their visa requirements for American citizens
Your storytelling never fails to bring a smile to my face. I've had a rough day and the put yourself first bit made me laugh, ty
Gurl you tell the truth but you crack me up! Great info!
"Omgaaahhh, Debra!! The game is on!" 🤣🤣🤣
Literally evil men succeed at their evil because good people fail to act
Nebula is also a great space for content like yours. They usually host long form video essays but I am sure they would welcome you.
The deleting of comments has been intensifying by the day, it seems.
Thank you for educating the masses.
I was able to get an Urgent passport in 3 days for my daughter to GTFO of America this pass Jan, when my ex husband didn't sign the papers and I already booked the tickets
I got it with my divorce documents. I ended up calling the passport agency in El Paso Texas and asking them how I can get it and they told me all I need is divorce papers that say I'm sole legal custody and decision maker. I looked through my Divorce documents and saw that I had that. So they gave me a passport for her
My other step was to get the courts to rule him as abandoned his child. And get sole legal custody and decision maker that way
But luckily I didn't have to do that.
If you're not married to the father when the baby is born DONT put his name on the birth certificate. And if he does, get the child a passport as soon as child is born. A divorce can happen and you'll never see the dad again and you'll want to leave America
😅Shes the bestie Ive never met❣️
You're awesome for getting this info out there!
"Mouthbreathing boogas"
If you have to think about protecting yourself against the future behaviour of your partner/husband…….
I want to renew my passport but unfortunately I have 3 years left on it and this country that I was born (not American) doesn’t allow renewing at this time.
Was taking with my brother yesterday, I instructed him on what to do to get his passport. He doesn't have internet, tv, or a smartphone.
I think they could start hiring stern, european men with uniforms and heavy accents shouting PAPERS PLEASE and some of these fools won't get it
In some countries even if you have a passport for your kid, you still need permission from the father to leave the country
Trump just asked school to ease sa rules
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Thank you so much Shayna, you are appreciated.🙏🏼✨️
Your emulation of Deborah's spouse is hilarious 😂😂😆😆.
if your "other" parent is absent you should be able to notarize a statement stating they are absent. essentially you put your word on the line w that notary statement saying "i cannot find him/her." it's how i got my oldest's passport. thank god my little's dad signed the form, now i just need to renew all of them!
if i could do TWO things differently i'd not have a father's name on either birth cert. all either one has done is make sht difficult.
'She can queue in a line better than them...'
Ive never been to a passport office...i do it online. Going to the office is like going to the DMV. Unbearable. Renew early and line free
The crazy part is I think I would survive better in a communist country I've lived in a blue state for 11 years now it's not that great up here but it's better then living in the south because there customs are different so whenever I hear trump say he's throwing education to the states I feel relieved because if your mayor is smart he will place protections on it so he can't mess with it if they don't want to fund it fine we can tax them on all the goods they order from us too..the mountains have plenty of wildlife in it that's why they don't have to raise prices on us it's expensive here for a reason because of the wild life that's why I think it should be apart of Canada.
A lot of Communist countries have little to no reproductive rights for women and they have have poor Equal Ops legislation for women especially when it comes to work.
I am from Northern Europe, which is social democratic btw, where there are better rights for women.
There is no communist country. There are only dictatorships who abuse the word "communism".
When I legally changed my kid's last name, all I had to provide was the signed registered mail receipt proving I sent my deadbeat ex the papers to sign, even though he didn't return them. I'm wondering if it's something similar for passports.
I gotta look out for me Lucious!
It's because passports ask for our last name and if you changed your last name, it's a hassle of paperwork. I mean, women who can afford to vacation are typically child free tho.
Lol. The conversation between husband and wife on passports: So. On. Point.
Me: Uhm. Things are happening and it's worrying me and we should renew our passports.
Him: You're overreacting. it's just fine. I don't want to go anywhere.
Yes, I'm blissfully child free and have traveled extensively with my husband. He allowed his passport to expire despite me constantly nagging him. He filed just last week. I'm hoping the passports are still being issued. Cause I'm watching this madness very closely.
6:13 I'm delicate, I'm fragile 🤣
This friend of yours, should they not be contacting the ACLU right now for assistance? Have they tried this yet? If not perhaps you should Point them that way and then let us know what happens
Shayna 😂 the voices are taking me out! You made me so mad at Philip! Philip, please, Lucius is a collective term here, ok?
I'm Kenyan and a couple of decades ago it was harderto divorce than it is now. Especially if your husband had the means, he'd frustrate you in court. I know several families where the wife went to "visit" the US or other country with the kids, including a celebrity couple. They've never returned 😩😂
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I needed that lmao 💜
I'm in Michigan. We have licenses that allow us Michiganders to cross over and go to Canada. I have mine.
You can also send in for a passport in the mail. They'll send it back with your documents returned. (Birth certificate, social) You just have to include a passport photo (you can get one at CVS.
I have full legal and physical custody
You're amazing 😅😅😅😅!!!
I needed that laugh, thank you!
Not me thinking passport bros was a real thing, thinking airline operation will improve when shit hits the fan 😂
Married 43 years and I agree with the men won't keep or make appointments for health. But I sure can tell you my hubby would be the first dragging my ass out of any situation. Well, background dictates. I trust my husband, lol... when my kids were young he made sure me and the kids had our passports up to date. Military helped with that lol. Ladies get a power of attorney for your kids and never worry again I didnt have to but he gave me one. . I hope the other woman find a man like that.
Get the book and the card (ref Tabitha Speaks Politics) it might be slightly less expensive than the Real ID that could be required by May.
Not stress eating Doritos 😂😂😂
What country you want to go to? Lets get outta here! ASAP
Preach!!!
There is now a requirement that both parents have to be at the passport appt but there is a form that they can sign. If there is a reason they can’t make it to the appt but it has to be one of several valid reasons! Also don’t assume they will have many appts bc I got my passport before the rush of ppl and there were two times I could have come and then weeks of nothing available. I live in a Washington DC suburb and there is no reason for it to be that hard to get appts. So if you live someplace rural I would start right away. If I could go back and just have them put only my name on the birth certificate I would have but at the time he was all joyful about having a baby. It’s just smarter to be the only one on that birth certificate. Maybe say it’s bc you’ve heard certain forms are harder to get if there are two ppl on it 🤷🏻♀️ you won’t be technically lying! It will need to be signed in front of a notary public (the form for him to give you permission to travel with your own child). I think it’s actually for safety reasons so ppl don’t take off with a kid to a country where the kid can’t be extradited but effectively it’s a way to take power from single moms.
My partner already had his passport through work. However, he is still in America and I left in December.
Also, yes create that Patreon!
I would not be surprised if going across state line you will need a passport
Questions 1) why would they be able to leave even with a passport if something goes down? And 2) where are these women going thats "safe" and wouod they be safe if trump was like give us back our women!?!?! Lol idk
Also, that sweater is so cute 😍