Bothered or Unbothered - It's a Choice!

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  • @carterstephan8275
    @carterstephan8275 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +28

    As a retired Chiropractor who is now dealing with TMS, I can tell you Dan is correct! Knowing what I know now I wouldn't have put labels on patients like I did. When you can't "fix" a patient you just tell them they'll have to live with it. This is so not true!

    • @carla6871
      @carla6871 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      Great comment! I hope you can share this knowledge with colleagues who haven't retired - Dan's knowledge is so helpful!

    • @carterstephan8275
      @carterstephan8275 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@carla6871 yeah it's been eye opening to say the least. Hope to share my story and unique insights with Dan at some point.

    • @stayred77
      @stayred77 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      I work in nuclear medicine at a hospital and had severe back, pelvic, hip pain, dizziness. It took me 4 years to accept this was TMS because no one would validate that this could be mind body. So I kept searching for the physical cause. I had 2 pelvic surgeries I wish I didn't have. 6 months ago I finally fully embraced TMS and went back to living my life. It was HARD at first. I went back to doing all the things I had given up like running. I dropped the fear completely. Today after 6 months I am a completely different person. I was at the point of disability and now am about 75% symptoms free. Some days i have no symptoms. My biggest issue now is anxiety no longer pain.And the pain was WICKED.

    • @carterstephan8275
      @carterstephan8275 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@stayred77 so glad to hear you are improving! Best wishes!

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@carterstephan8275 Feel free to get on a call with me when you feel like sharing. TalkWithDan.com

  • @caliborn6884
    @caliborn6884 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +13

    My experience is sadness. After being an athlete all my life, it’s a long fall. Thank you for this daily reminder

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      The sadness comes from believing there is no recovery. But there is. It's proven. It's not just possible for you, but probable when you implement.

    • @stayred77
      @stayred77 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      That athlete is still inside you. It's not easy and the symptoms don't go away overnight, but they will eventually. But you have to drop the fear. show your brain you are safe and it's OK. I was a marathon runner and stopped due to TMS. I started working with a sports rehab PT, this is what really helped me to teach my body movement was safe. Now I'm running again. You have to get past the fear. Even if your scared keep going, keep going. Keep going.I was at the point of disability and unable to work from severe pelvic and back pain. You got this. Come back here every day and listen to what Dan says. Keep it in your head. This is a brain retraining game.

  • @jerrylee8540
    @jerrylee8540 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +22

    This is where I feel I keep getting stuck in the cycle, giving so much power to the symptoms - Fear can be so strong, it creeps up, until it tips over - some times can sit with it but other times let the fear take over and end up in an anxiety attack / crying overload. Thank you Sir for your continued videos. Love to every one.

    • @1STBUCKLEY
      @1STBUCKLEY 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Gets me like that too

    • @MiaR3514
      @MiaR3514 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Me as well. Wishing strength and peace to all.

  • @kateking3953
    @kateking3953 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

    A dear, wise friend, long with the morning stars, used to say 'it's all energy, darling'. And then I was watching a farrier working on a nervous horse, and he said it's all to do with energy, if you stay calm and don't get frustrated or upset the horse will stay calm. It made me think of my friend, and how everything is about energy. Where you choose to put your energy, how you choose to expend it, whether you're carless with it. And not just physically, because for a lot of us that's a major problem. But emotional energy. It's easy to waste it.

    • @JeepYogi
      @JeepYogi 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      💯 well said

    • @EllieJ-kd6dl
      @EllieJ-kd6dl 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Totally agree... 👍
      Albert Einstein once said:
      "Everything is energy and that's all there is to it......."
      He wasn't a genius for no reason ! 😉

    • @marieleak8731
      @marieleak8731 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      So True!

  • @Inge508
    @Inge508 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +11

    So important !
    Just like we can’t have our nervous system jump to safety immediately.. we can’t get to that unbothered stage in a short time.
    At least that’s my experience..
    It took me over 2 years to start feeling comfortable with the massive discomfort !
    Nearly 50 k Dan!🎉
    Guess you can’t stay indifferent to that too?😂👍🙏🎉🎉🎉

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      Thanks Inge - I knew you'd be keeping an eye on the subscriber count. Getting very close.

    • @Inge508
      @Inge508 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@PainFreeYouyou must feel so excited 😆 ! I’m checking all the time😂😂

  • @bethmulligan1
    @bethmulligan1 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    This word "unbothered" really works for me. I love this video! Thank you once again dearest Dan.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, indifference might not feel as accessible.

  • @anonanonanon6273
    @anonanonanon6273 6 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    I was diagnosed with a severe mental illness 2 years ago and it's surprising how much your channel and other chronic pain channels have helped. I'm not perfect by any means but I'm down from 6 medications to 2 and this is the first year I haven't been hospitalized. I thought I was going to have to go on disability at one point. I think some sound advice I got from therapy is if you can't accept it right now just accept that you can't and really sit with those feelings when it's bearable. Anyway, I don't have TMS but this channel has been super helpful.

  • @thedeckteckmaster
    @thedeckteckmaster ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    It occurs to me that its really important to honor our intention. Having the intention “if the pain comes, i will relax and not be bothered,” is very good, no matter if you are able to stay relaxed or not.

  • @allthetopbananas4232
    @allthetopbananas4232 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    PDP is kind of entrapment, so if the problem is entrapped perception, then the answer must be “untrapped” perception, which means, you step back out of that programme into the consciousness that you are-your real self identity before the the entrapment cycle happened, that can observe for what it is. Being an “observer,” the ego mind-fear conscious identity, eventually lose its power over when we start to let go.

  • @mahmoudazab7385
    @mahmoudazab7385 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +6

    I swear
    You are brilliant

  • @michelefinizio6520
    @michelefinizio6520 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    😊 thank you Dan everything is a choice happiness is a choice acceptance is a choice I'm glad you said being bothered is a choice I like what you said act as if you are okay because you are OK when you truly believe that the fear subsides have a great weekend God bless you ❤

  • @Jenny-wv9nq
    @Jenny-wv9nq 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +9

    I have severe ME/CFS. I say “have” for context. I now know it’s TMS. For the first time in 20 years of literal hell, Im experiencing more frequent days of less intense symptoms. This is from the knowledge I’ve gained from your videos in the last 3 weeks. Today I’m experiencing a real flare of symptoms because I cried so much yesterday. I cried as Im realising a lot of repressed emotions that made my brain switch on pain in the first place and I allowed myself to feel these emotions without getting lost in the story behind them. Feels a bit like a no win situation though. Crying has always made my symptoms worse which I always felt it was because of the adrenaline and my sensitivity to absolutely everything. Your advice would be greatly appreciated.

    • @1STBUCKLEY
      @1STBUCKLEY 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +7

      Change the message you're giving your brain, the dialogue is so important. "Severe" and "crying always causing..."
      Your crying is definitely healing. It's exhaustion. Your body is clearing stuff, it will recalibrate. You're on the right pathway 🙏

    • @Jenny-wv9nq
      @Jenny-wv9nq 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

      @@1STBUCKLEY thanks so much for your positive reply. I am aware of language now (finally) it was more for context. Even when I was crying yesterday I felt ok about it, I just woke up experiencing many symptoms today after a good while of less severe ones. I know I need to be “unbothered” by them, wish me luck 😊🙏

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      I just recorded a success story for CFS - it should post in a few days. Look for it.

  • @allicat31103
    @allicat31103 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    I love that ive learned so much from you that i can agree with the title and keep scrolling! I watched so many! Thank you!!

  • @bethhenderson9154
    @bethhenderson9154 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    We love you too!

  • @Lenneke8422-b3t
    @Lenneke8422-b3t 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Ty Dan love you ❤❤❤

  • @daveh7038
    @daveh7038 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks for the raw truth!

  • @clintsturgill7087
    @clintsturgill7087 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank you you are awesome as always.

  • @JeepYogi
    @JeepYogi 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you

  • @ambergeorge6435
    @ambergeorge6435 4 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My hero ❤

  • @barbaracronin4164
    @barbaracronin4164 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

    Nauseous or not nauseous wish it WAS a choice

    • @JamieR
      @JamieR 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I can emphatize. I was nauseous for years. It can be really challenging. I hope you find a way!

    • @thelaceygirl
      @thelaceygirl 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      In my experience, this is from high anxiety.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      The symptom is not a choice. The response to it IS definitely a choice.

  • @mark5368
    @mark5368 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I get it but when the eye and head pain gets so bad , I sometimes start to cry.

  • @AuroraDushku
    @AuroraDushku 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    My symptoms are so high, they keep change, keep moving and get new symptoms every day..

    • @AuroraDushku
      @AuroraDushku 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      I have just joined your membership…😞

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Welcome.

  • @kaylaryder8371
    @kaylaryder8371 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    perfect for me this morning lol lol just i'm jones'in for indifference lol mikayla i'm saying hello shallow breath etc i did see what triggered it right it's caused by pdp lol thank you Dan

  • @MidwestBen101
    @MidwestBen101 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    love you

  • @Gail-u3y
    @Gail-u3y 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thank you Dan your a wise man for sure 🎉. Is it normal for a lidocaine Infusion not to help TMS?

  • @DottieBengo
    @DottieBengo 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

    Love MSU University. There's a few in the UK who went there.😂

    • @bethhenderson9154
      @bethhenderson9154 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I live right down the st from MSU!

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      haha - yep.

  • @spencer5956
    @spencer5956 3 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Hey Dan, can you do a video specifically about visual disturbances (visual snow, floaters, palinopsia, light sensitivity, etc.) and tinnitus? A lot of people are looking for guidance on that stuff specifically and it'd be helpful to hear it called out by name. Thank you.

  • @DevenCamara
    @DevenCamara 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Hi Dan, great video as always. I am wondering if any of your success stories have anyone speaking on sleep apnea?

  • @sherylmarshall1444
    @sherylmarshall1444 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +5

    What if the more you do the stronger your symptoms get. I’ve been walking 30mins a day plus housework , kids and dinners as well as one or two hour bus journeys to osteopath and my anxiety group. I had a terrible flare this week and still went but symptoms aren’t just staying the same they are getting worse and worse and I have been indifferent. It’s not easy.

    • @sherylmarshall1444
      @sherylmarshall1444 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      Just I know that doesn’t make sense but I act unbothered until I can’t any longer. I’ve been walking for 8 weeks and pain, pins and needles numbness and muscle contacting tightening. I can feel my back as I walk getting heavier and heavier. Last night my throat neck chest all become numb heavy etc. but I’m back out waking as I type and watch you again. Just need a glimmer

    • @1STBUCKLEY
      @1STBUCKLEY 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +4

      Step outside of yourself, let your body get on with it. Roll of the eyes etc. I know how difficult it is but we have to keep doing it. You checked out Dare App similar to Dan's message. Dan had recommended Barry McDonagh book.
      We are all in the same boat.

    • @sherylmarshall1444
      @sherylmarshall1444 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@1STBUCKLEY thanks 🙏 I have the curable app. I’ll check it out too. Take care

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Create the glimmer with your mindset. Symptoms going up means one thing. The brain perceives all this activity as dangerous. And if you respond to increasing symptoms with fear, that response confirms the danger. Two things you can focus on.
      th-cam.com/video/sE3_cs7YgCY/w-d-xo.html

    • @reneea6357
      @reneea6357 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      I’ve been thinking of a lot of decisions I’ve made in life that add up to a search for peace of mind over other worldly priorities. After a lifetime of chaos and trauma. Today I decided peace of mind is more important than my many symptoms. So I’m focusing on relaxing, breathing, recalling peaceful ‘glimmers’, and acknowledging hope as priority over the fear and discomfort of symptoms. And the symptoms do really seem to fight even harder for center stage. I’m convinced this is my brain not feeling safe with being at peace, because it is unfamiliar. It’s been programmed in fight or flight literally since birth. But I am certain I can find peace and also be free of symptoms. I am certain. ✌️everybody. ❣️

  • @lifeinhim0861
    @lifeinhim0861 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Oh my gosh, so funny, MSU!! I really think this is what happened to me. I was given the diagnosis new daily persistent headache. No proof, just surmising that this is the closest to my symptoms. I don't buy it anymore thank you for the encouragement

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      It's a descriptive diagnosis. Daily Headaches. Yep. No cause or cure. Thanks doc. Disregard. It's perceived danger / stress / fear. DansFastStart.com

    • @lifeinhim0861
      @lifeinhim0861 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@PainFreeYou thank you! I've watched all your fast start videos. Been watching you for a while! I do have a real vascular condition so it's a little complicated for me. 4 years in but doing the work

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@lifeinhim0861 Yes, but do you have proof the vascular issue is causing the headaches? Like hard proof? Or just an opinion?
      Fear and belief the vascular condition may be keeping enough danger going that you keep the headaches.
      th-cam.com/video/V4S_kQHnJ9o/w-d-xo.html

    • @lifeinhim0861
      @lifeinhim0861 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@PainFreeYou I was diagnosed with fibromuscular dysplasia (FMD) in my carotid arteries which I was told causes headache, neck pain and dizziness. I have all three. But I don't have classic migraines and I have a lot of visual symptoms as well as trouble walking. Starting to develop agoraphobia. Thank you for the link, I will check.out the video.

    • @lifeinhim0861
      @lifeinhim0861 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      And yes, the stroke doctor does think it's just an opinion that my symptoms are caused by the fmd

  • @pampatton8658
    @pampatton8658 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I totally agree with what you’re saying 150%, but something just struck me. Do you think the doctors come up with some diagnosis, even if it’s just an opinion, so that they have a code to put on the paperwork and Insurance will pay? Even more reason to be unbothered by the diagnosis. Lol.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, to my understanding, doctors need a diagnosis to bill.

  • @haydenfarley4746
    @haydenfarley4746 7 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    The law of attraction is real folks

  • @StephanieBecker-v8l
    @StephanieBecker-v8l 15 นาทีที่ผ่านมา

    I developed weird ankle sensations (tingling, warmth and pressure) that I wouldn't describe as pain but it is very distressing. This developed when I was very stressed. When my stress levels are high when this developed. This is mostly in my left ankle but does bounce to my right. When in a high anxious state, my left ankle can crack, which does create pain. Is this TMS?

  • @JanellSailer
    @JanellSailer 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

    Is ic something the mind can heal? I have flares and pain after i eat a certain food. My pain is awful and can't sleep. I try to ignore it but its so hard. Help

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      The body knows how to heal itself. Fear causes pain. IC is often a scary, but misdiagnosis. Presence of pain does not mean embedded infection. Lowering the fear and trusting the body will allow any true issue to heal. But lowering the fear will lower the intensity of the pain and eventually turn it off. We have several IC success stories. Scroll through to find them. PainFreeYouSuccess.com

  • @WordsBloom
    @WordsBloom 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    Question. Isn't doing your "micro meditation" at the beginning of every video reminding your brain that you could still be in danger unless you do that ritual each time? Because normal healthy people who feel safe don't have to do that.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +2

      If you view it that way, perhaps. But it's better than sitting tense and tight and breathing shallow. Awareness that you are carrying tension and allowing your body and breath to relax is a good thing. We sometimes need to create safety proactively, because letting the default take over causes some to live in tension and shallow breathing all the time.
      I view the micro meditation as reminding ourselves that we are, indeed, safe. Which we are.

  • @bethhenderson9154
    @bethhenderson9154 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I have a hard time figuring out what the danger is

    • @Lenneke8422-b3t
      @Lenneke8422-b3t 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      You can't find out so stop looking sweet friend ❤

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

      Fear of the pain is often THE danger. Our response to it confirms the brains perception of danger. The loop continues. Fear of movement. Fear of body positions. Fear of it worsening. Fear of it never going. SO many perceived dangers.
      th-cam.com/video/GFF4i9BYXZ0/w-d-xo.html
      Stop trying to figure out THE danger and focus on KNOWING you will be okay and safety.

    • @bethhenderson9154
      @bethhenderson9154 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @PainFreeYou makes perfect sense...thank you Dan!

  • @jamielynn2864
    @jamielynn2864 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +1

    I'm tapering off my gabapentin but my pain at night keeps me from sleeping. How do I push through that without taking drugs. I generally take ibuprofen and methocarbomol at night and ibuprofen at least once a day. Do I need to stop? Am I just letting my brain win?

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา +3

      No, if the meds provide a benefit, take then until you don't need them any longer. View it not as the brain winning, but self kindness.

    • @jamielynn2864
      @jamielynn2864 5 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      @@PainFreeYou Thank you!