My dad took his life 8/21/23 and it’s now March 2024 and I still feel times I can’t even function. It was the biggest loss of my entire life and he was my best friend. It was very unexpected and I feel ok sometimes and others are just debilitating. You are so right when you say listen to your body and soul. Although I feel a lot of guilt, sadness and anger.. I never really know when I’ll be triggered. I encourage anybody going through major grief to take time out for your mental. No matter how long. If you need it, you need it. Thank you for sharing your video! It made me cry but helped a lot!
I am one of these persons who was looking for a video that dealt with grief while working. I am at my desk crying and having a real moment of grief. next month March will be the 1st anniversary of her passing. So much was going on before she passed and all those things came back like a flood and I felt emotionally overwhelmed!! I was crying so much at my desk!! I immediately implemented your suggestions about having someone at work who I can talk with. It help me so much. I also started journaling as well and that has helped me!!! she passed April 6th 2021. she was 75 years old. Thank you for your words of encouragement and the good advice!!!
This was so helpful. My dad died suddenly 2 weeks ago. My mom passed away 27 years ago. I literally feel orphaned. It's such a weird feeling. Yesterday was my first day back at work and I just struggled to focus and my sharpness and clarity were not there which frustrated me. Today I gave myself breaks to cry and breathe. I know this is a process and I have to be patient and know that I will get through this. Thank you so much for this video.
I’m so sorry :(. I lost my aunt less than 2 weeks ago as well. She was my rock. Tomorrow I return to work and I am feeling so anxious. I hope your days get better as you continue through each day. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss, Lori. I really wish there was something I could say that would make what you are going through even slightly easier. Sending love.
My brother passed suddenly while we were out of town for another funeral about 4 weeks ago. My first day back after the funeral was especially difficult. I just started this job and was going through training so I had come back to some errors I made the week before that I had to correct and the women I work around seemed annoyed by my errors. It took a lot for me not to get up and walk right back out
@@blackluxury5585 I’m so sorry to hear about what you’ve gone through. To loose someone you’ve known your entire life is hard. Talk about a broken heart. A sibling may have actually known you before you knew you. I guess we just expect them to be there, never imaging life without them. I will pray for you. As for the people at work, they’re just that, people at work. Many can’t put themselves in your place. Empathy and compassion can be scarce. Hang in there, it will get “easier”. 🙏🏼
Not all employers consider a brother to be a close enough family member for grief at work. One day of funeral leave and be back to normal. Never tell your grieving employee to leave your grief at the door. Returning to work was and is more stressful than it needed to be.
Dealing with grief is a rough wave. If you want to share stories, tips, memories this is an open space. I know talking about my people really helps me, I invite you to do the same 💜
I lost my cousin 2 ½ months ago; for me I have been dealing with the process of grief and sometimes I've found myself taking days off work due to the circumstances. I feel bad everytime I take time off as my mental health has slipped downwards (if it makes sense).
Thank you, so much. Today is my first day back to work after losing my mom. I know it will be difficult but you have made it a bit easier. Again, thank you.
My sister died 3 months ago and I am still a mess. My niece and nephew don’t want anything to do with me and wouldn’t let me be part of the funeral. They did a lot of mean things to me while their mom (my sister) was sick. My sister and I had a history of fighting, she was 11 years older. It’s so complicated. I’m falling apart. I’m the last one standing and the grief awful. I’m trying to work and there are so many times where I just want a day to think.
Jennifer, I'm truly sorry for your losses. That must have been truly tough for you. Sending all my love and healing energy your way ❤ Yes! The love never dies! 🙏 I think the issue with our society is that we do not have conversations about grief and death often and from a young age. Movies always stylise grief as being constantly in tears. From my personal experience, I can tell you that wasn't the case, and I felt guilty for a long time, asking things like: "Why am I not crying?" "Why do I feel fine?" I lost my nan at 16, and she was my best friend. My mother and I don't have a great relationship, and she was always there for me as a non-judgemental female sounding board. I took a week off school. Whilst the rest of my family were absolutely torn apart. I kinda just stayed in a state of numbness and never really had that huge cry like everyone else. It's been over 10 years, and every few months, I feel like I just need to cry or I see something that reminds me of her that gets me teary. I guess this is what my grief journey looks like!
Thanks Jennifer, Working through some tremendous grief at the moment, yet moving forward with work and career. It's comforting knowing that we all have to work through grief in different seasons of our life. Thanks for being vulnerable and encouraging
Felt compelled to type in 'struggling with grief and work', and I stumbled across this video. It doesn't remove the pain, but it helps to hear someone explain how I'm feeling. I'm permanently sad and, I too, find trivial things so exhausting. So much so, I need them to hurry up and speak faster. My tolerance and patience has reduced to zero to 2%, which has changed me as a person. I lost my wife in May, but she was a once in a lifetime wife, and her loss hits me hard daily. Thanks for your video.
So true. The little stupid things we talk about at work (this is in my head. I don’t share the feeling with people) feels so pointless when your thinking of your daughter being dead. It’s like. Come on.
I’m realizing I may need to take short term disability. My mom died and I’m having a really hard time with it. There are a lot of days when I can’t make myself go to work😞
I'm so sorry for your loss, Cantrice. I wish I could say words that would make things even a tiny bit better, but I know those words don't exist. But I'm sending so much love your way. Speak with your manager or HR to see what your options are.
@@JenniferBrick thank you for responding. It’s a very frustrating place to be in wanting and knowing I need to work but just not being mentally capable. I have spoke with my hr rep and will be speaking with my dr. to insure he will fill out the necessary paperwork. I will get 60% of my check which is not great but honestly last pay period I brought home $78 because I just could not mentally be at work. At least this way I can afford to pay by bills while I take a break. I never thought this would be me😞
@@cantrice5994 are you seeing a grief counsellor? It can be so helpful, I think of it as a shortcut in finding the tools to navigate grief. If you have an EAP program, a certain number of sessions may be included with your insurance. Your HR rep would be to inform you on coverage.
This is exactly how I feel. I feel bad for taking time off work as I don't want to miss days/pay; sometimes it is so hard not to as I have instances where I wake up feeling depressed due to grief.
This was a really hard one to film and edit. But I think we need to normal grief and reset the there uniformed expectations around it. If nothing I hope it made you feel like you aren't alone. I'm glad it helped 🥰
Two days ago my dear puppy Nala died. She was only 2 months and a half. It was so unexpected. We used to cuddle together every day. She was the most beautiful puppy ever, her eyes, her cute smell. The way she used to yawn. I miss her so much and I feel like I could have prevented her death by deworm her better, we did, but vet told us she was infested with parasites since she was born. He couldn't save her. She was hospitalized for 4 days. Everything was so sudden and I feel guilty about working, I don't want to move forward without her but I have to 😔
It's been hard to work. I feel like such a failure because I've been making one error for the past three months. I know it's due to my grandpa's passing. He was in and out of the hospital and passed away just today. My boss is aware, but god, I don't know what to do. I want to work, but it's been so hard to.
My brother died a few weeks ago. Its time for me to go back to university and work. So far I’ve missed two days of uni. I don’t know how to get back to life. Im supposed to go to work tomorrow I just don’t know what to do
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so weird when the world seems to be carrying on like nothing happened when something so devastating just occurred. It will feel really effing weird when you're back at work and school, but I promise you'll figure it out. Make sure you're ready, and talk to people about what's going on. For example, talk to your manager and if you choose to go to work tomorrow instead of calling in, let them know you don't know how you're going to cope; you might be fine, you might need to leave early, you might need to take a minute in the bathroom to have a moment to yourself. People don't know how to deal with others' grief, but most are extremely sympathetic and want to help you - and telling them what you need helps them help you. Sending you all the vibes.
@@JenniferBrick thank you so much Jennifer it means the world to me. I am thinking of just taking a step back for now. Living a slow phase lifestyle. Focusing on both school and work at a time like this is proving itself too much for me
My dad took his life 8/21/23 and it’s now March 2024 and I still feel times I can’t even function. It was the biggest loss of my entire life and he was my best friend. It was very unexpected and I feel ok sometimes and others are just debilitating. You are so right when you say listen to your body and soul. Although I feel a lot of guilt, sadness and anger.. I never really know when I’ll be triggered. I encourage anybody going through major grief to take time out for your mental. No matter how long. If you need it, you need it. Thank you for sharing your video! It made me cry but helped a lot!
My dad died three months ago today. Trying to get used to it all and this video helped. Thanks so much
So nice to hear someone who gets it
I am one of these persons who was looking for a video that dealt with grief while working. I am at my desk crying and having a real moment of grief. next month March will be the 1st anniversary of her passing. So much was going on before she passed and all those things came back like a flood and I felt emotionally overwhelmed!! I was crying so much at my desk!! I immediately implemented your suggestions about having someone at work who I can talk with. It help me so much. I also started journaling as well and that has helped me!!! she passed April 6th 2021. she was 75 years old. Thank you for your words of encouragement and the good advice!!!
My Mom died 5/1/22, today she would've been 89, I miss her so much.
This was so helpful. My dad died suddenly 2 weeks ago. My mom passed away 27 years ago. I literally feel orphaned. It's such a weird feeling. Yesterday was my first day back at work and I just struggled to focus and my sharpness and clarity were not there which frustrated me. Today I gave myself breaks to cry and breathe. I know this is a process and I have to be patient and know that I will get through this. Thank you so much for this video.
I’m so sorry :(. I lost my aunt less than 2 weeks ago as well. She was my rock. Tomorrow I return to work and I am feeling so anxious. I hope your days get better as you continue through each day. ❤️
I’m struggling with the recent loss of my brother. Returning to work has been stressful. Thank you for this video.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Lori. I really wish there was something I could say that would make what you are going through even slightly easier. Sending love.
Me too am in exactly same situation lost my brother, sudden accident and going back is tough.
My brother passed suddenly while we were out of town for another funeral about 4 weeks ago. My first day back after the funeral was especially difficult. I just started this job and was going through training so I had come back to some errors I made the week before that I had to correct and the women I work around seemed annoyed by my errors. It took a lot for me not to get up and walk right back out
@@blackluxury5585 I’m so sorry to hear about what you’ve gone through. To loose someone you’ve known your entire life is hard. Talk about a broken heart. A sibling may have actually known you before you knew you. I guess we just expect them to be there, never imaging life without them. I will pray for you.
As for the people at work, they’re just that, people at work. Many can’t put themselves in your place. Empathy and compassion can be scarce. Hang in there, it will get “easier”. 🙏🏼
Not all employers consider a brother to be a close enough family member for grief at work. One day of funeral leave and be back to normal. Never tell your grieving employee to leave your grief at the door. Returning to work was and is more stressful than it needed to be.
Dealing with grief is a rough wave. If you want to share stories, tips, memories this is an open space. I know talking about my people really helps me, I invite you to do the same 💜
I lost my cousin 2 ½ months ago; for me I have been dealing with the process of grief and sometimes I've found myself taking days off work due to the circumstances. I feel bad everytime I take time off as my mental health has slipped downwards (if it makes sense).
Thank you, so much. Today is my first day back to work after losing my mom. I know it will be difficult but you have made it a bit easier. Again, thank you.
Keeping you in my thoughts today 💜
My sister died 3 months ago and I am still a mess. My niece and nephew don’t want anything to do with me and wouldn’t let me be part of the funeral. They did a lot of mean things to me while their mom (my sister) was sick. My sister and I had a history of fighting, she was 11 years older. It’s so complicated. I’m falling apart. I’m the last one standing and the grief awful. I’m trying to work and there are so many times where I just want a day to think.
Jennifer, I'm truly sorry for your losses. That must have been truly tough for you. Sending all my love and healing energy your way ❤ Yes! The love never dies! 🙏
I think the issue with our society is that we do not have conversations about grief and death often and from a young age. Movies always stylise grief as being constantly in tears. From my personal experience, I can tell you that wasn't the case, and I felt guilty for a long time, asking things like: "Why am I not crying?" "Why do I feel fine?"
I lost my nan at 16, and she was my best friend. My mother and I don't have a great relationship, and she was always there for me as a non-judgemental female sounding board. I took a week off school. Whilst the rest of my family were absolutely torn apart. I kinda just stayed in a state of numbness and never really had that huge cry like everyone else. It's been over 10 years, and every few months, I feel like I just need to cry or I see something that reminds me of her that gets me teary. I guess this is what my grief journey looks like!
Thanks Jennifer,
Working through some tremendous grief at the moment, yet moving forward with work and career. It's comforting knowing that we all have to work through grief in different seasons of our life. Thanks for being vulnerable and encouraging
Felt compelled to type in 'struggling with grief and work', and I stumbled across this video. It doesn't remove the pain, but it helps to hear someone explain how I'm feeling. I'm permanently sad and, I too, find trivial things so exhausting. So much so, I need them to hurry up and speak faster. My tolerance and patience has reduced to zero to 2%, which has changed me as a person. I lost my wife in May, but she was a once in a lifetime wife, and her loss hits me hard daily. Thanks for your video.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Thomas.
I like to think my mom is in a better place!
Thank you 🙏 💛
Jennifer, you are wonderful.
So true. The little stupid things we talk about at work (this is in my head. I don’t share the feeling with people) feels so pointless when your thinking of your daughter being dead. It’s like. Come on.
I’m realizing I may need to take short term disability. My mom died and I’m having a really hard time with it. There are a lot of days when I can’t make myself go to work😞
I'm so sorry for your loss, Cantrice. I wish I could say words that would make things even a tiny bit better, but I know those words don't exist. But I'm sending so much love your way.
Speak with your manager or HR to see what your options are.
@@JenniferBrick thank you for responding. It’s a very frustrating place to be in wanting and knowing I need to work but just not being mentally capable. I have spoke with my hr rep and will be speaking with my dr. to insure he will fill out the necessary paperwork. I will get 60% of my check which is not great but honestly last pay period I brought home $78 because I just could not mentally be at work.
At least this way I can afford to pay by bills while I take a break. I never thought this would be me😞
@@cantrice5994 are you seeing a grief counsellor? It can be so helpful, I think of it as a shortcut in finding the tools to navigate grief. If you have an EAP program, a certain number of sessions may be included with your insurance. Your HR rep would be to inform you on coverage.
@@JenniferBrick I am searching for one. I have seen 2 therapist and they have not been the right fit. I do have Eap services.
This is exactly how I feel. I feel bad for taking time off work as I don't want to miss days/pay; sometimes it is so hard not to as I have instances where I wake up feeling depressed due to grief.
Thank you for sharing something so personal with us. This is very helpful. Really appreciate it.
This was a really hard one to film and edit. But I think we need to normal grief and reset the there uniformed expectations around it.
If nothing I hope it made you feel like you aren't alone. I'm glad it helped 🥰
Jennifer Brick thanks for your kind words :) you are doing an awesome job - keep up the good work .
Two days ago my dear puppy Nala died. She was only 2 months and a half. It was so unexpected. We used to cuddle together every day. She was the most beautiful puppy ever, her eyes, her cute smell. The way she used to yawn. I miss her so much and I feel like I could have prevented her death by deworm her better, we did, but vet told us she was infested with parasites since she was born. He couldn't save her. She was hospitalized for 4 days. Everything was so sudden and I feel guilty about working, I don't want to move forward without her but I have to 😔
I am so sorry for your loss 😥
It's been hard to work. I feel like such a failure because I've been making one error for the past three months. I know it's due to my grandpa's passing. He was in and out of the hospital and passed away just today. My boss is aware, but god, I don't know what to do. I want to work, but it's been so hard to.
It was terrible to return after losing my daughter. I got really worse.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Patricia 💔
My brother died a few weeks ago. Its time for me to go back to university and work. So far I’ve missed two days of uni. I don’t know how to get back to life. Im supposed to go to work tomorrow I just don’t know what to do
I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so weird when the world seems to be carrying on like nothing happened when something so devastating just occurred. It will feel really effing weird when you're back at work and school, but I promise you'll figure it out. Make sure you're ready, and talk to people about what's going on. For example, talk to your manager and if you choose to go to work tomorrow instead of calling in, let them know you don't know how you're going to cope; you might be fine, you might need to leave early, you might need to take a minute in the bathroom to have a moment to yourself. People don't know how to deal with others' grief, but most are extremely sympathetic and want to help you - and telling them what you need helps them help you. Sending you all the vibes.
@@JenniferBrick thank you so much Jennifer it means the world to me. I am thinking of just taking a step back for now. Living a slow phase lifestyle. Focusing on both school and work at a time like this is proving itself too much for me
Ive lost both my parents in the last 5 weeks. Im back at work tomorrow
Lost my little brother last month. Now I guess it’s time to lock in💀
I'm so sorry for your loss