Story 3: "She'll ask for him to take her shopping to places that I don't like." Well, OP, if you don't wanna join 'em in buying sparkly Hello Kitty clip-on earrings at Claire's, that's your feckin' loss, ain't it?
Yes! What’s so gross is that she assumes it’s the sister (the young child!!!) who has ulterior motives and not the grown adult man in the room. To the point where op feels she has to spy on them to make sure nothing happens?!?! Gross and creepy on so many levels
And implying he’s a pedo lmao. Incest is crazy but thinking he’d do something is assuming your man could find a 9 year old attractive. He should’ve dumped her
not just that, but it seems like she’s assuming the boyfriend also wants his 9yo sister. so gross! i would for sure be pissed if my partner was thinking that way about me and my family
I was pro the girlfriend going there to spy, untill I found out the sisters age. Yuck. The girlfriend is yeallous of a kid. What was even her plan of going there? What did she expect to see??
Honestly I don't think the ages should really matter. If they were sisters a year or two apart I don't think anyone would question them sitting close on the couch, going to dinner, or on vacations together. The idea that it being wrong because of their genders is just...gross. It implies that just cause they're the opposite sex it must be sexual....they're siblings. It's weird to me so many people's brains jump to that being weird just because of the gender of the siblings.
But like seriously tho!! ^ When my older sister was 9 (THIRD GRADE!) her teacher had serious beef with her, and tried to ruin her reputation at school with bald faced lies about some *very* inappropriate things. She faced less than zero consequences. 56 year old woman. Trusted with the care of (at the time) class sizes of 25 to 30 children. How horrific. Some people project their trauma and insecurities onto the most innocent people, it's so so sad, and they need to take accountability for their own hurt and healing instead of victimizing an innocent person(s). Plus it is a bit of a concern that if she reaaaallly thought her partner was trying to hook up with his minor sibling, I would be FAR more concerned about the safety of the child than I would about being "cheated" on by my partner if this was me. Like, the concept of my partner cheating with their CHILD sib wouldn't even register to me as cheating, it would register as "my partner is a potential abuser and I need to keep myself and this child safe if I can." I hope she has access to therapy and/or other care structures so she can heal whatever it is that makes her act this way.
That woman conveniently leaving out the age of her boyfriends little sister is such a red flag. She's literally implying that her bf is a groomer or a pedo or something and then acts like it's weird when he gets offended? She sounds absolutely insane, he needs to dodge that bullet. Jfc like I can't think of something more delusional???
Reminds me of when my cousin's (now ex) girlfriend got mad, he gave me a massage. He was a masseur, and I was a paying customer. I was 16, and he was 22 or maybe even turned 23. He gave me a massage, doing his job. I was his COUSIN and she was still jealous. I was also UNDERAGE. like tf?
I hope that little girl never finds out what an absolute fucking weirdo his brother dated. if they've been together for two years she was what, seven when they met ? so OP has just been stewing on this idea that entire time ? I hope she gets broken up with lmao.
sounds like shed be the type to blame children for CSA and is kinda projecting her own thoughts and feelings. she’s kidding giving off the vibes that she herself is a pedo ngl
Story 4...OP is such an ahole...this ISN'T her daughter being ungrateful...this isn't even about the daughter using her mom this is about her making sure her fiancee and his family HAVE SOMETHING TO EAT ON THE WEDDING DAY!!!!!!!
Right?! I was so confused when they were immediately like “no, OP’s not the ahole.” I mean, if it had been about a food allergy, would they feel the same way? The dad has ulcers! He literally cannot have spicy food! And the daughter is correct. If she’s going to have to pay for the food regardless, she can just pick a catering company and then she can choose exactly what food she wants there. And why is OP so opposed to just making less spicy food? It’s not like they’re insulting her cooking. OP is basically saying “well, I ONLY cook spicy cajun cuisine so you’re gonna eat it!”
And the fact the daughter would rather pay a catering company than OP told me everything about whether they already had the "don't make it spicy" conversation lol 😂
Story 5???? if it’s an abortion and she’s just not making it clear, it’s very obvious she’s intentionally leaving it out because she knows she’s in the wrong. When she was describing what she did I thought she sa’d a kid and that’s why she wanted to move, shea definitely overreacting
I had the exact same thoughts by the way she was describing it at first. And if she was really 14 when she had the abortion, and talked about having such a hard life growing up... It doesn't sound like she got pregnant due to a normal relationship with someone close to her age. Implying she's a monster for not going through with a pregnancy when she was a traumatized child herself is absolutely disgusting.
Ikr? I’m still angry about that story. Sounds like SIL had a traumatic event as a 14 year old and a family that was opposite of supportive. Now she has some crazy judgmental bitch in her new family recreating the trauma. OP is definitely TAH.
Story 5 gave me whiplash. “Paid a violent male to harm a baby” but then it turns out she really meant “got an abortion at age 14”. That’s like… I mean… that is deliberately misleading.
That’s how truly unhinged extremist pro lifers are though. They see it this way and not open to any discussion. Disregard science. Disregard woman’s right. Disregard health needs. And only see an embryo and fetus as a physical child and all others who have another opinion be damned. Sad.
That doesn't sound like she they're talking about the sis in law having an abortion. If you really look at the wording it sounds like she paid a man to kill her baby or a baby that she was responsible for / over. O P wouldn't be as flipped out w sis in law & worried about her kids if it was abortion
With the wedding food lady, the groom’s father literally has health issues that won’t allow him to eat spicy things. So you’re willing to risk the man’s life over spices???
Also it's pretty normal for a wedding to have at least one or two alternate options for people with allergies, food restrictions, religious or other preferences etc. One main and a side of just biscuits is fine maybe for a dinner or to bring to a potluck, but for a major dinner? You need more variety than that 🤷♀️
Literally. Like OP is making it seem like her daughter is trying to take advantage of her, but in reality the daughter is just making sure her fiancée and his family have something to eat
I don’t get why the daughter and her husband need to explain anything. Even if nobody had any health issues, and just wanted some options that were not spicy food, it is justified, no further explanation necessary
Right??? That point is really important. It’s the GROOMs family that has legit health problems, not just some random guest making requests. Why cook food for them if the groom and his family can’t even eat it? She is absolutely the asshole
First story really sucks… like I get having trauma but at the end of the day I need to take accountability for your trauma and u cannot take that fear abs trauma out on your parter who loves u. He will never find a partner long term if he can’t get over this accident, because it was an accident.
I couldn't agree more. I understand how trauma can be Linked with your body. I have a gut disorder that makes me bloated and made me gain weight and I blame myself for the reason it happened. I don't want anyone to see me naked. But I know it's my issue. The individual in the story is not taking any responsibility for their pain. they are simply projecting their pain onto their partner.
He needs to go to therapy, so obviously. Your trauma is not your fault, but it's your responsibility, and he's turning it into her issue when it's really his.
Also, when his family said how he looks on the outside doesn’t matter, it’s what on the inside that does, that’s something people say a lot about many things. His family probably wasn’t trying to say he was ugly on the outside, they were probably just trying to say he shouldn’t worry about them because he’s beautiful, not understanding that he’d take as he was ugly on the outside. They were probably trying to be supportive and just went about it wrong. Most people don’t have a clue when they haven’t experienced something like he has.
@@LuxIqraa yeah that's the worst part. If you think your SO/boyfriend is capable of that stuff then you really think lowly of him and you should just depart from his life sweetie
The first story. My partner has burn scars on various parts of his body that he got as a youth from an accident. I'm thankful he is far from embarrassed or ashamed of them. He was traumatized, but now as an adult, he embraces them. And I find them a special part of who he is. ❤
That’s lovely. This poor kid also lost his mom. Thats such a trauma and to be made fun of. I hope his bully is ashamed as an adult father looking back.
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Story 3- THERE’S NO WAY! How insecure do you have to be to think your partner’s 9 year old sister is a threat? I thought at first the sister might be older but when it was revealed she’s just a kid- bro. She’s 9, she looks up to him/just has love for her sibling! Honestly, hope the bf has a revelation or maybe stumbles upon the Reddit post because the fact she wanted to go by herself just to spy on them is WILD.
Right?! Clearly op hasn’t been around any children that give a shit about her. Kids ESPECIALLY young kids like 9 years old miss their family when they don’t see them very often. This op seems weird AF.
Seriously!!! I have a baby and an 8yo, and that baby LOVES him and loves to kiss his face and snuggle him, and if anyone ever made an implication about my son because of that I ABSOLUTELY flip out. And I'd instantly question the bizarre motives of that person with babies and children.
Honestly it sounds like OP has been dumped and doesn’t even know it yet. No way a good brother like her (ex)BF is gonna tolerate her jealous delusional BS
Imagine if she has a daughter one day who admired her daddy. She'd accuse them both of all kinds of things and can ruin a life. Out of jealousy not concern
I’ve, as an adult, shared a hotel room with my adult brother. Separate beds. There’s nothing weird about it. We aren’t ever in the hotel except to sleep, and why the hell would we pay twice the cost when we change in the bathroom and we both like onsies to sleep in. There is absolutely nothing gross going on.
Story 3: "She makes him take her shopping to stores I don't like." It turns out to be a Build-A-Bear. Also, when she asked if she could join in the trip, he didn't refuse. He said the Travel Agency COULDN'T accommedate and the Hotel was BOOKED! So accusing him of WANTING to be alone with his sister in a Hotel room is super out of line.
In story 4, try taking the idea and applying it to a different scenario. Mom offered to cook for the wedding, but only offered food that she already knew the husband and at least some of his guests couldn’t eat. To me that makes mom the asshole… it’s like gifting a free skiing trip to the happy couple knowing one is in a wheelchair. Like…. Thanks I guess? But I wish you would’ve gifted something we could actually both enjoy. Is it really a gift if you don’t care about what the recipient wants?
Came to comment from story 2. I get where you’re coming from with it potentially being an olive branch Morgan to reunite the sisters but I really don’t think accepting a last min offer to be maid of honor is it. Like you mention family therapy between them could be beneficial but the pressure of planning for the wedding of someone who historically has not liked you and still resents you doesn’t seem like the way to go about mending their relationship. I think it’s good for OP to have denied her sister since she seems to have always tried everything to include her and the sister is potentially only asking her because she assumes she is a pushover. It sends the message that OP has firm boundaries. The sister needs to realise the ultimate enemy here is the parents. They suuuuuuck and I feel bad for both sisters. I hope they can rebuild and become close.
Exactly! Just because someone decides to show you a hint of interest or kindness after YEARS of mistreatment, does not mean you have to accept it. You can acknowledge the attempt at fixing the relationship but say I cannot put myself here again
I will say though, the sister must feel so alone. There's so much resentment there and when she finally reaches out to her sister herself, she's pushed away again. I feel so horribly bad for her.
Thank you i was like i thought they just explained why that would be unhealthy and then she turned around and says that. I dont think Morgan actually understands the significance in setting that boundary so they can began to have an actual healthy relationship. Plus that boundary was her choosing to love and stand up for herself without that OP wouldnt be reading the advice and maybe making a change. Sorry for how long this is her advice sometimes makes me smh
Last story, from r/AmITheDevil repost: apparently the sister posted "Because I was going to live with my brother, and dedicate all of my energy to him, to his recovery, his emotional well being, his mental state. I just wouldn't have any time at all for my ex." Also for what it's worth, brother was apparently deployed to South Korea. I'm not military but based on comments that's one of the milder gigs one could be assigned.
from what i know as well SK is not a super difficult place to be stationed. if course no place is easy but aside from NK and SK’s petty beef they have going on…really the most he is doing is training shit every day. and theres a LOT of fun things to do in SK. im mot saying the country is the most amazing, they have their downsides as every place does, but it is MUCH better than being stationed in a warborne country. SK is just not that rn
Story 4 is just not fair to the bride. I don’t think it makes sense to say you’ll cook for her wedding and then decide it can only be specific dishes that you like. If you didn’t want to cook the food they would prefer just don’t offer to cook.
The wording of that story is driving me nuts. I think if the SIL hurt a child in their care, the family would want to distance themselves from her. But it it was an abortion, I can see why the fam is telling OP she's overreacting. OP sounds like a major Karen.
The boyfriend didnt just blow up because she asked or questioned something like a friendship once, shes been hounding him over his nine year old sister wanting to hang out with her brother she only sees a few times a year! She hounds him every time they visit! Saying his nine year old sister is in love with him and hes basically grooming her?! And he only blew up after she insinuated that he was going to have sex with not only his sister but a nine year old. Im surprised it took him this long to kick her out.
1:19:43 This part of story 5 literally made my mouth drop!!!! I have never been so irritated by an OP in my life. She needs to GET A GRIP. Pro-Birthers are some of the most infuriating people on earth. Good Riddance to her, I only feel bad for her children cause they'll be away from the only family they have that has a lick of common sense and compassion for a a woman who was put in a very tough situation as a young girl. Gosh I'm fuming
*S4:Hot+Spicy -* As someone who refuses to be pressured into eating (hot) spicy food after being hospitalized for a week + diagnosed w/colitis from something I ate, this story ticks me off. If the father of the groom has ulcers that make spicy food painful + dangerous, who is this woman to decide every dish must be what she says, calling her son inlaw “this boy” becuz he turns red when she burns his palate with her food?? ROAR. Your cooking is not YOU, it’s just a part of you. Being considerate of others should also be a part of you.
I know, right?! I think more people need to realize that spicy food can cause actual physical harm to some people. Just like with food allergies, in a way. If the fiance was allergic to the food, everyone would be calling OP an ahole.
Honestly to me, sounds like she is against the marriage, doesn't like her daughter being with him. The spicy food is just a way to throw a fit and look down on the fiance.
Story 5 is crazy, but sounds like they live in the south. 👀 I knew as soon as she said that the girl harmed a child when she was very young. She was being deliberately obtuse because she knows that not everyone is anti-choice. Like, if the girl was a minor and pregnant, it’s nuts to force her to have a child to teach her some weird lesson about responsibility and change her life forever. What if the sex wasn’t consensual?? Good lord. OP can be pro-life, but she is way overreacting to something that has nothing to do with her.
well the sex couldn't be consensual at the age of 14 surely? I believe most states have the age of consent at 16 but not younger, therefore she is not legally giving consent at that age.
@@na1ani218 I mean sure. But then my original point still stands. It’s nuts to force child to have a baby to teach them some weird life lesson. There could be so many factors and variables at play, the the OP from the Reddit post deliberately hiding that important context is really sus.
@maureen3070 oh I totally agree! I was just saying it wasn't necessarily an older person with the 14yo which would bring up the "non consensual" bit. That OP is crazy wild and I would be embarrassed to have OP in my family.
The first story is so touching! Anyone who survives something traumatic like a fire etc are heros!!! His partner is amazing too for not seeing him for only his scars and it sucks that the bf had stupid people in his past judge him for something he did not ask for. It just goes to show you that if someone truly loves you they won't care about your past ❤
The mom is actually kind of in the wrong. I mean she offered to do it free, but just because she offered to do it free doesn't mean she should go out of her way to make food that half of the wedding party, primarily the father in law, can't eat. Then when having that pointed out, flipping out and being like "IF YOU'RE GOING TO TREAT ME LIKE THE HIRED HELP THEN PAY ME" which is a unacceptable response that kinda gives some narcicistic undertones. This entire time you made a big deal about how good of a cook you are and obviously you'd have to cook for your kids wedding but omf not if it means you cant make the wedding party sick like.... she just wants everything to be about her and to have the spotlight. No doubt she expects loud praise for cooking as well. Wanting to be paid if she was approached out of the blue from her kids is one thing, but she offered and did all this because the daughter wanted everyone to be able to eat like...?????
@@redbunny22 exactly but at least with him it is a preference thing, for his dad with the stomach ulcers his choices in her ideal world is to eat nothing and make a scene or eat something that could land him in the hospital.
Mom who cooks is the asshole. Cooking is "her thing" and she let her pride get in the way. You're suppose to cook the food the bride/groom want. Not what you want. Gifts are for the receiver. And also, they wanted none spicy food, mom knew the son couldn't handle spice, dad has a medical condition... is the grooms family not suppose to eat?!?!?! Its not like she was asking for a huge thing.
Yeah ! Right?! I lived on an island where everyone has different diets / believes. Some don't eat beef, some don't eat pork, some don't eat meat once a week, ... In my own family some are vegetarian, some are celiac, ... Every time you have a party, you try to accommodate everyone. That's basic respect.
For the first story, although it’s nuanced, your partner should not be responsible for your insecurities. Of course sympathy involved, however, for the boyfriend to not consider how much OP has done for him and the literal adjustments to his life and relationship to accommodate his partners feelings is beyond me. I understand the initial reaction. However, to sit with such resentment for your partner who had done nothing but support and love you? That’s just plain selfish.
I have to agree. I mean we always need to acknowledge each other's trauma and have space for it. The issue lies within the individual choosing to continually not get help to deal with their trauma. When someone says, oh I did therapy and it didn't work, I'm like "well do it again". When you think about it, you didn't really hear much about Opie in this story. So, when your trauma is dominating the relationship, it's time to get help
Especially with the way OP did everything in his power to try to avoid the topic of the scars, defending him amongst peers, even being okay with having relations 100% in the dark… I dont understand how the bf overlooked all of that
Story 4 bothers me because she told them what she was going to cook, and then deciding that you only wanted to cook what your daughter can eat isn't a good gift. A gift being conditional, especially since it was a justifiable ask for health reasons, is a terrible gift that you shouldn't be surprised people get mad at. And this depends on how long before the wedding you decided you wanted to die on this hill, they already helped pay for some of the ingredients so not all of it was on you anyways. You didn't offer a gift you had an offer that they decided to turn down.
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Story 4, OP is TA. The daughter is asking her to accommodate a legitate medical issue. His dad having ulcers absolutely means he can't tolerate spicy. She also is TA for how she presents this legitimate medical issue, acting like they just can't handle spice and saying "I didn't think his whole family would be like this" as if it's a negative thing.
Story 3: F* OP. I have a 2y age gap with my big brother and we used to hang out all the time as teens, went to concerts and the movie theater. He got his first gf at 17yo, an only child, and she single handedly poisoned our relationship lol. Even though my brother spent all his time with her she was super jealous of me and couldn't even stand that we were texting or sitting next to each other at FAMILY DINNER (she was always welcomed in our home)😂🤦🏻♀️. In the end, she even started rumours that I was into my brother even though I thought things were friendly between us and I wasn't jealous at all, just annoyed she was icying me out. They broke up cause she was heavily isolating him. My relationship with my brother never fully recovered cause he's still a bit self-conscious of us doing solo activities together. I'm 30yo and I still get echoes form that rumour from time to time, it makes for juicy gossip in a small town, even though they only dated for a year lol. That girl was crazy, just like op.
As someone who was also hated by my siblings for things out of my control… I hope they are able to mend things but also OP should guard themselves. I have tried mending things with my siblings but the anger against me for experiencing a different childhood with our parent will seemingly never go away. We are all full grown adults now and I don’t think that hurt will ever go away for them. I let go of the guilt, accept their trauma, and hope their individual lives are good. We just don’t have a relationship. And if OP chooses that is the best way for both of them to have their most fulfilling life, sometimes that’s what people need.
I feel so sad for the sisters. My sister and I didn’t experience the same level of care and I spent my childhood protecting her. For us though, it’s made us so strong in adulthood. She is my protector and I am hers, I can’t imagine my life without her. I hope they can come back to each other and can love each other the way their parents didn’t.
I don’t think I’ve ever involuntarily facepalmed but story 5 had that effect on me. I had to pause and physically walk away from my phone to take a breath because I was going to scream and throw my phone. Holy sht this OP and the OP from the 3rd story are competing for who’s most insane.
Story 1: I’m a first grade teacher who had a student this last year who was in a similar situation at age 2. They have burns scars all up their legs and torso, I believe 40% of their body. Not ONCE did I hear anyone make fun of them or comment about it. Bullying is 100% TAUGHT by parents. If these 6/7 year olds can function without commenting, so can everyone else. Side note: there are small numbers of kids (especially this young) who become “bullies” temporarily due to changes in their life and not knowing how to cope, but by middle school, they know better.
Agreed. Small kids especially can be very matter of fact about things if it’s told to them in the way of “this happened and that is why this friend has scars” or “this person cannot see very well and that is why she has a white cane to help her”. They don’t associate any negative value to it from themselves unless they are told it is a bad thing.
Fully using the hot sauce bar idea for my wedding. My fiance loves spice and I cannot handle it at all. That's such a great way to accommodate a bunch of different tastes!
58:11 OP basically asked her BF if there was inappropriate things going on between him and his baby sister! Of course he is going to get upset. Lol. Almost sounds like OP left the age of the little sister out on purpose.
Ditto, I’m toiling away packing my shit and I seriously need to zone into other people’s problems 😄 Thank you for keeping me going binging through this escapade. Love you guys x 🇬🇧
Story 4: Sounds like the food via the mother is possibly cultural. Feels like she’s not stoked about the family the daughter is marrying into. Feels deeper to die on a hill about food.
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The sister in story 2 was honeslty so lucky to have OP. The story is extremely similar to my cousins. Their parent's always treated my older cousin like crap but the younger so much better. Because my younger cousin didn't know better and it was all she was exposed to, it made her also think badly of my older cousin for no reason and seriously damaged their relationship until my younger cousin went to college and realized how insane her parents are. So OP's sister is lucky that OP recognized what was happening and tried to counteract it.
My dad was burned over 80% of his body as a kidm it definitely messed him up. It's a lifelong thing. He never worked on it. And it ended up effecting my life as a child. He really messed me up. And now I'm dealing with the mental health consequences. He always wore a white tank top underneath everything. I've also experienced extreme bullying. Schools claim to have zero tolerance but that's not true at all. They'll pick and choose who gets protected or not. Bullying in any form should be punished and treated as serious as it is.
My mom and I cooked most of the food for my sister’s wedding with a couple aunts contributing a couple dishes. Since the wedding was in our area (the husband’s family lives a few states away) only his mom, dad, sister and a few friends came to the wedding. His sister is allergic to capcasin (the thing that makes a lot of things spicy, like red pepper, cayenne, etc.), gluten makes his mother ill, and a couple friends are vegan/vegetarian. We made sure to have more dishes than not fit their dietary needs. Sure there were some foods that certain individuals couldn’t eat, but we made sure everyone had plenty of options.
14:01 I have two boys. The eldest is almost 5. We just had a weird phase of….aggressive behavior. (Three boys, including mine, were getting weirdly violent with each other…but they are friends 🤷🏻♀️). We ended up grounding him for a week for no screens or sleepovers. (Real wake up when we left a friends and he couldn’t have a sleepover) everyday that he acted up, I added a day to his grounding. As he was learning to control himself, one of the boys hit him in the stomach. We discussed how that made him feel and now knowing that it hurts, we know why we shouldn’t do it to others. I also stated that hitting ppl can have unintended consequences, like hitting someone in the eye could make their eye stop working. He is a sensitive kid, so this really shook him. I guess giving him consequences for his actions and also explaining what can happen (make the pain a reality) really helped us. Also the slight brainwashing. (If you have ever started singing the clean up song around toddlers you’ll know…they are sleeper agents) golden rule and “we are nice people who are nice to others” has helped with my littlest. (Does every thing big brother does…so we had two aggressive phases happening at once).
Wait... Have you grounded kids that hit him in the stomach?? Also... Do your kids share the room? It might be why they fight all the time - "hell is other people" and all that.
@@cardboard2night lol no. The kid hitting twice in the stomach happened in the middle of grounding and I did not add another day that day. He probably got a piece of candy that day actually for not reacting. (The three I’m talking about mainly are about 4/5 that were in the same daycare class). My two don’t really fight. They barely play fight because the 5yr is scared of hurting the 2yr old. They more….hug wrestle. Lol but the issue with the two year old is that…he’s two and pushes ppl out of his way, which can be hard to notice as an adult, but becomes painful as parent when he does it to other toddlers.
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I agree with you guys on the abortion story. However, please don’t call people that are against abortion “pro-life” because they aren’t. They’re pro-birth. If they were actually pro-life this country would be very different.
100%. If they were truly pro-life, they would be against corporal punishment, support welfare and social services, and funding education. Sounds like religious bigotry to me.
The story with the GF being insecure of the BFs 9 YEAR OLD SISTER give me the vibes that she’d be one of those mums whose in constant competition with their daughters 💀💀
Morgan, as someone who struggles very hard with "ADHD fast brain words are hard", too - You're my hero. You've helped me feel so much more confident in myself.
story 3 is insane. Kids tend to get close to older figures they feel close to. I've worked as a camp counselor with kids 5-10 and even over a week kids will latch on to you, want to hug and snuggle up to you, and more. It's normal, especially since it's her brother, that bond/attachment is even stronger. OP is crazy to think something is weird. Her boyfriend needs to RUN
1:07:11 the thing is the mom isn’t asking to pay for extra supplies its more about actually paying her to cook because they dnt want to follow what she wants to cook
I really resonated with Story 2. My half-brother was 12 when I was born and I was told all my life by my mom how differently my dad treated me versus my brother. I was the golden child and he was the scapegoat. He’s resented me my whole life and has never wanted a relationship with me. He has never flat out said that he wishes I was never born (from what I remember, at least) but he doesn’t have to and didn’t have to when I was a child. From the outside, being the golden child seems like it wouldn’t be all that difficult but that’s just not true. From a very young age, I internalized that my sibling resented me for being born and I believed that I had to be the perfect daughter in order to make up for my half-brother. I can’t even begin to express the impact that’s had on me. I have chosen to go no-contact with my brother because he has grown up to be a very volatile and abusive person. Now that he has two kids of his own, I cannot build a relationship with someone who is actively abusing their children. I feel so very sorry for my half-brother’s child self but I feel so angry at him as an adult.
When you all were describing insecurity in story 1, I wonder if you meant “psychological safety”. It is the concept that if things feel unsafe, we conceal or hide aspects of ourselves out of self protection.
Why is it bad for a brother to take a trip with his sister? Two sisters were taking a trip together or two brothers were taking a trip together. Would it be such a big deal? My kids are super close and I know for a fact that my son would totally take his younger sisters on a trip. If A girlfriend is jealous of his siblings. That’s absolutely ridiculous.
omg at 38:30 when Lauren talks about the knee jerk reaction to be nice to someone mean if they're being nice in the moment is so relatable I hate it hahaha
The second story - I feel like the ball is in the sister’s court. OP has done SO much for her and is only human. She can only take so much emotional toll herself. The sister needs to be the one to come apologize and get the help she needs to sort this mess out.
I feel like it was that the ball was in sisters court, and she reached out to Op, and then op turned her back on her. The absolute trauma this poor girl must have must be massive
@@shelbylee242the sister is in her 20s now right? This is going to sound cold but she’s an adult that knows right from wrong. Yes, she went through trauma, but that never gives her the right to lash out at the sister who’s been constantly supporting her. If I had a sibling like OP growing up, it would be very hard to even say something negative about her, much less come to her with a “you owe me” attitude.
@@shelbylee242 I had a traumatic childhood, one part being when my dad and stepmom moved in together and she had her son. My stepbrother is 2 years younger than me. My stepmom and her parents would treat him like the only child or they would intentionally do things to make me feel less than. ie. during holidays like Christmas or birthdays, they would send him money or get him a game console ect and I would get maybe half the amount of money and a greeting card. Which I was always grateful for anything I got, but we were kids and it eventually took a toll on me and made me so upset. Lots of double standards, stepbrother could do what he wanted when he wanted, I was under strict rules until I graduated and left the house at 17. And my dad is a good man overall, but he enabled the abuse and double standards. I was a bit resentful of my stepbrother every now and again when it got bad but he never asked to be treated better by adults who knew better than we did. He and I remained close until I moved out. I've long since been in therapy and I've even had tough conversations with my stepmom, stepbrother, and my dad, and while they didn't give me closure I learned to find it for myself as an adult. All of that to say, when you are no longer a product of your environment that you cannot control, when you become an adult who can make their own choices and cultivate your own relationships, you can no longer use trauma as an excuse. It can 110% be an explanation for prior behavior, but there has to be accountability for who you choose to be after you're safe again. The sister in that story would be there with open arms, she loves her sister more than anything it seems like. But she can't just be her proverbial punching bag for the rest of their lives when sister needs a last minute fill in because she doesn't reflect on what actually happened to her and everything her sister did to try to protect her.
Story 3: OP is absolutely nuts omg. I have a very close relationship with my brother (always have) and the amount of people we’ve come across who don’t understand that siblings can be close friends too is just baffling to me. It’s not like OPs brother is going out with some random girl or a close friend who’s a girl, it’s his SISTER. I absolutely don’t blame him at all for getting fed up with it and kicking OP out after her continuously insisting that there’s incest going on, and honestly if I was him I’d be strongly considering ending the relationship altogether. Like, imagine being jealous of your partner’s SIBLING??? And the fact that now she’s gonna book a hotel close by to creep on them and “keep an eye out”??? Absolutely unhinged behavior. It is completely normal for an older brother to be doting on his younger sister, ESPECIALLY when there’s a big age gap.
Im 26 and have a 9 yo nephew, we absolutely cuddle to watch movies and I make time together a little special. There's nothing weird about it, he's a kid and I'm just glad he wants to be around me
Story 3: I am laughing as I’m writing this. Never mind the fact that she was already jealous of her boyfriend’s sister, the fact that the sister is nine years old, I literally rolled on the floor. 😂😂😂
Story 4- Mom offered, she wasn't asked. It seems like she wants to grandstand her FABULOUS food. A gift with conditions isn't a gift. Love Morgan's idea about a hot sauce bar. I'm sure 'mom' would hate the idea of people having control over the taste of 'her' food. Also, I'm a floral designer and have done wedding and funeral flowers for family and friends, and only charged for the wholesale cost of the flowers. Fortunately, I have awesome people in my life that were nothing but grateful and appreciative. Acquaintances on the other hand...nightmare demands! Lesson learned.
Story 2 at the end of it i rolled my eyes yes you are a people pleaser and that would keep them in an unhealthy cycle its not an olive branch again its a test. If everyone one is too hurt and going through trauma that some cant operate from a healthy place no progress will be made, enabling can be done at best. I have to shake my head almost every time you give advice
The mom isn’t doing them any favors! “I’ll cook for you but you don’t get to chose the menu” also…. the husband at the wedding wouldn’t be able to eat any of the food, that should be enough to change it
"I have two kids and I cannot imagine not loving them unconditionally! Your love grows with each child. You become softer and full of love. My heart breaks for these girls. The parents are not doing well, and they need to know they have failed as parents."
Story 3: I have 5 brothers, I’m not super “cuddly” with them, but I am partial to hugs. So I didn’t think anything of that from the beginning. Bc I don’t think “oh their siblings… must be fucking”, but maybe that’s just me. BUT SHES 9 YEARS ILD?? 9 YEARS OLD?!! That is insane. OP needs to be in therapy or hospitalized (that’s dramatic but…) bc what the fuck. If you see a young girl hanging out and cuddling with her older BROTHER! and you think “ooooohh they’re hooking up” THERE IS SOMETHING GENUINELY WRONG WITH YOU!! SHE IS NINE!! I can’t remember his age, 26? but she is NINE!!! And your worried that their hooking up or something? Get help. Seriously.
And if she does think her boyfriend is gonna hook up with his 9 year old sister… WHY IS SHE NOT CALLING THE COPS??!? WHY IS SHE JUST LIKE “ugh 😡cheating” like bruh if that were true the sister would be in serious danger and you need to get her AWAY from your boyfriend
About the hot sauce bar suggestion for story 4, Jambalaya is the kind of food you cook *with* the spice. You don't just add it later. It affects the flavor in surprising ways. I still think it's a little unreasonable for a mother to demand payment for cooking for the wedding, but in my culture the family of the betrothed do almost everything for the wedding from cooking to providing a venue on some distant relatives property and doing set up. It's not necessarily required, just kind of the default. I do understand not everyone can do that, just where I'm coming from
Its 100% the parents fault if their kids are bullies 1st story "i wonder if its nature or nurtre" story about parents treating op like the golden child "why do parents think its ok to cause such trauma" 999 cases out of 1000, its the parents fault!
For the first one I feel for OP because it seems he’s in a rough situation but this is not acceptable or okay. I recognize the trauma his partner has endured but it is under no circumstances okay for your partner to walk on egg shells out of fear they might leave you if you see them naked. Therapy should be the bare minimum requirement- couples and individual. No one should walk on egg shells in their own home or a lock and knock policy to prevent your partner from seeing you without a shirt. To blow up on uour partner, leave and not communicate is incredibly immature and frankly abusive.
they weren’t justifying her they were saying they can empathize with her. those are two separate things. you can feel for someone and also think they’re in the wrong for their decisions. If a persons mom dies and they in turn lash out and yell and insult people afterwards, you can both understand and empathize with their grief and also say insults and yelling isn’t the right thing to do. both things can exist at the same time. OPs sister is blaming the sister when she should be blaming the parents and she’s in the wrong for that. but that doesn’t mean the pain her parents caused her doesn’t exist.
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Story 3: "She'll ask for him to take her shopping to places that I don't like."
Well, OP, if you don't wanna join 'em in buying sparkly Hello Kitty clip-on earrings at Claire's, that's your feckin' loss, ain't it?
OP is just mad that Justice doesn’t carry her size 💅
😂😂😂👏👏👏best comment by far
FOR REAL
like, "places i don't like"?????? you mean you don't share the same interest in clothes with A NINE YEAR OLD? that's...good, isn't it?
istg😂
Story 3: girlfriend is literally sexualizing a child. Understand why boyfriend got so mad. She’s proving she’s not safe to be around his sister.
Yes! What’s so gross is that she assumes it’s the sister (the young child!!!) who has ulterior motives and not the grown adult man in the room.
To the point where op feels she has to spy on them to make sure nothing happens?!?! Gross and creepy on so many levels
And implying he’s a pedo lmao. Incest is crazy but thinking he’d do something is assuming your man could find a 9 year old attractive. He should’ve dumped her
not just that, but it seems like she’s assuming the boyfriend also wants his 9yo sister. so gross! i would for sure be pissed if my partner was thinking that way about me and my family
I was pro the girlfriend going there to spy, untill I found out the sisters age. Yuck. The girlfriend is yeallous of a kid. What was even her plan of going there? What did she expect to see??
Honestly I don't think the ages should really matter. If they were sisters a year or two apart I don't think anyone would question them sitting close on the couch, going to dinner, or on vacations together. The idea that it being wrong because of their genders is just...gross. It implies that just cause they're the opposite sex it must be sexual....they're siblings. It's weird to me so many people's brains jump to that being weird just because of the gender of the siblings.
Beefing with a 9 year old is CRAZY
Over the 9 year olds brother 💀
grade 4 :/
One sided beef too 😭
But like seriously tho!! ^
When my older sister was 9 (THIRD GRADE!) her teacher had serious beef with her, and tried to ruin her reputation at school with bald faced lies about some *very* inappropriate things. She faced less than zero consequences.
56 year old woman. Trusted with the care of (at the time) class sizes of 25 to 30 children. How horrific.
Some people project their trauma and insecurities onto the most innocent people, it's so so sad, and they need to take accountability for their own hurt and healing instead of victimizing an innocent person(s).
Plus it is a bit of a concern that if she reaaaallly thought her partner was trying to hook up with his minor sibling, I would be FAR more concerned about the safety of the child than I would about being "cheated" on by my partner if this was me. Like, the concept of my partner cheating with their CHILD sib wouldn't even register to me as cheating, it would register as "my partner is a potential abuser and I need to keep myself and this child safe if I can."
I hope she has access to therapy and/or other care structures so she can heal whatever it is that makes her act this way.
I beef with a 12 year old, but it’s my OWN brother. He humbles me every time I see him 😅
That woman conveniently leaving out the age of her boyfriends little sister is such a red flag. She's literally implying that her bf is a groomer or a pedo or something and then acts like it's weird when he gets offended? She sounds absolutely insane, he needs to dodge that bullet. Jfc like I can't think of something more delusional???
Reminds me of when my cousin's (now ex) girlfriend got mad, he gave me a massage. He was a masseur, and I was a paying customer. I was 16, and he was 22 or maybe even turned 23. He gave me a massage, doing his job. I was his COUSIN and she was still jealous. I was also UNDERAGE. like tf?
I hope that little girl never finds out what an absolute fucking weirdo his brother dated. if they've been together for two years she was what, seven when they met ? so OP has just been stewing on this idea that entire time ? I hope she gets broken up with lmao.
sounds like shed be the type to blame children for CSA and is kinda projecting her own thoughts and feelings. she’s kidding giving off the vibes that she herself is a pedo ngl
When they said she was 9 I actually shrieked
I don't see how the interactions are inherently romantic? Maybe I'm missing something.
"She's 9"
Way to bury the lead,lady
Huh? Believe tell me that's not story 3...💀 cause I just typed a whole comment about how we have had stories where the brother and sister hooked up
@@hayamirin6795 You should delete it, then lol. She is in fact 9. 🤣😂What she's accusing him of is unhinged.
@@diamcole I just edited it
Even if she was older the story would still be absolutely unhinged
@aduckofsomesort Ehhh not necessarily
Story 4...OP is such an ahole...this ISN'T her daughter being ungrateful...this isn't even about the daughter using her mom this is about her making sure her fiancee and his family HAVE SOMETHING TO EAT ON THE WEDDING DAY!!!!!!!
Like seriously, the own groom wouldn’t be able to eat anything on his own wedding day
Right?! I was so confused when they were immediately like “no, OP’s not the ahole.” I mean, if it had been about a food allergy, would they feel the same way? The dad has ulcers! He literally cannot have spicy food! And the daughter is correct. If she’s going to have to pay for the food regardless, she can just pick a catering company and then she can choose exactly what food she wants there.
And why is OP so opposed to just making less spicy food? It’s not like they’re insulting her cooking. OP is basically saying “well, I ONLY cook spicy cajun cuisine so you’re gonna eat it!”
Also didn’t they offer to pay for ingredients? Or did I misremember that?
@@clairesmallwood2953 they did agree to pay for the ingredients, yes. So the cost wouldn’t even be an issue.
And the fact the daughter would rather pay a catering company than OP told me everything about whether they already had the "don't make it spicy" conversation lol 😂
Story 5???? if it’s an abortion and she’s just not making it clear, it’s very obvious she’s intentionally leaving it out because she knows she’s in the wrong. When she was describing what she did I thought she sa’d a kid and that’s why she wanted to move, shea definitely overreacting
IKR? Calling a DOCTOR providing women's healthcare services is not a VIOLENT act.
I had the exact same thoughts by the way she was describing it at first. And if she was really 14 when she had the abortion, and talked about having such a hard life growing up... It doesn't sound like she got pregnant due to a normal relationship with someone close to her age. Implying she's a monster for not going through with a pregnancy when she was a traumatized child herself is absolutely disgusting.
Ikr? I’m still angry about that story. Sounds like SIL had a traumatic event as a 14 year old and a family that was opposite of supportive. Now she has some crazy judgmental bitch in her new family recreating the trauma. OP is definitely TAH.
@@maggiedkyes! And also, there is a possibility the SIL was SA’d when she was 14 resulting in said pregnancy/abortion
I also immediately thought of SA and then my mouth was hanging open by the end of it, how freaking insane are you???
Story 5 gave me whiplash. “Paid a violent male to harm a baby” but then it turns out she really meant “got an abortion at age 14”. That’s like… I mean… that is deliberately misleading.
That’s how truly unhinged extremist pro lifers are though. They see it this way and not open to any discussion. Disregard science. Disregard woman’s right. Disregard health needs. And only see an embryo and fetus as a physical child and all others who have another opinion be damned. Sad.
That doesn't sound like she they're talking about the sis in law having an abortion. If you really look at the wording it sounds like she paid a man to kill her baby or a baby that she was responsible for / over. O P wouldn't be as flipped out w sis in law & worried about her kids if it was abortion
@@mixedness87f35no, it literally sounds like OP describing an abortion in her comments. “Paid a violent male” = a doctor
@@mixedness87f35 if that were the case, then her brother and other family members would have been more appalled.
And there would’ve been legal repercussions ^ but abortion is legal
With the wedding food lady, the groom’s father literally has health issues that won’t allow him to eat spicy things. So you’re willing to risk the man’s life over spices???
She said that also the groom struggle with the spicy food that she made, like it doesn't sound like the best idea for their wedding
Also it's pretty normal for a wedding to have at least one or two alternate options for people with allergies, food restrictions, religious or other preferences etc. One main and a side of just biscuits is fine maybe for a dinner or to bring to a potluck, but for a major dinner? You need more variety than that 🤷♀️
Literally. Like OP is making it seem like her daughter is trying to take advantage of her, but in reality the daughter is just making sure her fiancée and his family have something to eat
I don’t get why the daughter and her husband need to explain anything. Even if nobody had any health issues, and just wanted some options that were not spicy food, it is justified, no further explanation necessary
Right??? That point is really important. It’s the GROOMs family that has legit health problems, not just some random guest making requests. Why cook food for them if the groom and his family can’t even eat it? She is absolutely the asshole
MY JAW HIT THE FLOOOOOORRR WITH THAT SISTER AGE REVEAL OMFG MENTAL ILLNESS
I was imagining the sister was 26 😭😭
When I heard the last story I thought “THAT’S THE SISTER YOU SHOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT!! Not the 9 year old!!”
Literally 😂😂😂
First story really sucks… like I get having trauma but at the end of the day I need to take accountability for your trauma and u cannot take that fear abs trauma out on your parter who loves u. He will never find a partner long term if he can’t get over this accident, because it was an accident.
I couldn't agree more. I understand how trauma can be Linked with your body. I have a gut disorder that makes me bloated and made me gain weight and I blame myself for the reason it happened. I don't want anyone to see me naked. But I know it's my issue. The individual in the story is not taking any responsibility for their pain. they are simply projecting their pain onto their partner.
SO well said! See that's why it's in this theme. It could go both ways!
He needs to go to therapy, so obviously. Your trauma is not your fault, but it's your responsibility, and he's turning it into her issue when it's really his.
He doesn’t have to get over it… He needs to learn how to live with it
Also, when his family said how he looks on the outside doesn’t matter, it’s what on the inside that does, that’s something people say a lot about many things. His family probably wasn’t trying to say he was ugly on the outside, they were probably just trying to say he shouldn’t worry about them because he’s beautiful, not understanding that he’d take as he was ugly on the outside. They were probably trying to be supportive and just went about it wrong. Most people don’t have a clue when they haven’t experienced something like he has.
I feel like this episode should've been titled "Siblings or Dating?"
I need a fucking nap.
You and me both!
“any kid that murders the family dog, you’re gonna side eye a little” morgan i love you so much 😂😂😂
Story 4 she is the asshole - she says she KNOWS the groom can't handle spice and chose to cook a wedding dish that the literal groom couldn't enjoy.
I yelled laughed when it was revealed that the sister was nine 😂😂. She's NINE, as in "9". Omaiga 😂
Dude I literally shrieked in horror 😭
Omg is Omaiga meant to be like "oh my God"? If so, I approve 🫂😂
😂😂😂 she is lowkey calling him a pdf file too
@@LuxIqraa yeah that's the worst part. If you think your SO/boyfriend is capable of that stuff then you really think lowly of him and you should just depart from his life sweetie
Heavy on the omaiga 😂
The first story.
My partner has burn scars on various parts of his body that he got as a youth from an accident. I'm thankful he is far from embarrassed or ashamed of them. He was traumatized, but now as an adult, he embraces them. And I find them a special part of who he is. ❤
That’s lovely. This poor kid also lost his mom. Thats such a trauma and to be made fun of. I hope his bully is ashamed as an adult father looking back.
That’s really beautiful 😭 like I’m about to cry , I love that for him and you
Story 5: I don't think the brother reached out. I think OP when out of her way to snoop why SIL was estranged from her family.
I think you’re onto something, she seems like a controlling snoop. And her family are probably religious Bible thumpers that are pro life.
"Per-splextive?" lol
Bless you, Morgan and NEVER CHANGE!
It's so crazy when you can feel your brain short circuiting 🤣
@@TwoHotTakes I agree with the commenter! I know that all these videos are edited BUT I truly love watching genuinely authentic people. I love watching y’all and another channel called Ok story-time. That’s why I love watching both of your channels. I don’t always agree with every take but that’s ok. I love it when a creator says a word that sounds like it would come out of my mouth as well! Thank you for all that you do. My poor brain be short circuiting on a regular basis.
I'm positive the words being combined were portrayed and presented 😂
My first thought was perspective, but I love the mash up! ❤
Story 3- THERE’S NO WAY! How insecure do you have to be to think your partner’s 9 year old sister is a threat? I thought at first the sister might be older but when it was revealed she’s just a kid- bro. She’s 9, she looks up to him/just has love for her sibling! Honestly, hope the bf has a revelation or maybe stumbles upon the Reddit post because the fact she wanted to go by herself just to spy on them is WILD.
Right?! Clearly op hasn’t been around any children that give a shit about her. Kids ESPECIALLY young kids like 9 years old miss their family when they don’t see them very often. This op seems weird AF.
Seriously!!! I have a baby and an 8yo, and that baby LOVES him and loves to kiss his face and snuggle him, and if anyone ever made an implication about my son because of that I ABSOLUTELY flip out. And I'd instantly question the bizarre motives of that person with babies and children.
Honestly it sounds like OP has been dumped and doesn’t even know it yet. No way a good brother like her (ex)BF is gonna tolerate her jealous delusional BS
Imagine if she has a daughter one day who admired her daddy. She'd accuse them both of all kinds of things and can ruin a life. Out of jealousy not concern
I’ve, as an adult, shared a hotel room with my adult brother. Separate beds. There’s nothing weird about it. We aren’t ever in the hotel except to sleep, and why the hell would we pay twice the cost when we change in the bathroom and we both like onsies to sleep in. There is absolutely nothing gross going on.
Story 3: "She makes him take her shopping to stores I don't like." It turns out to be a Build-A-Bear.
Also, when she asked if she could join in the trip, he didn't refuse. He said the Travel Agency COULDN'T accommedate and the Hotel was BOOKED! So accusing him of WANTING to be alone with his sister in a Hotel room is super out of line.
😂 build-a-bear 😂 I lost it.
😂 I asked the same question back to myself and thought Baby Gap
Shit i want my bf to take me to Build a Bear and we don’t have any siblings young enough to be taking as an excuse😂😂
@@samanthahope1316 taking my 9 year old to build a bear is an excuse I use when I want a new teddy bear.
Hers needs a sibling anyway.
@@KpopZuko exactly!❤️🤣
The gasp I gusped at “she’s 9” omfg get help
In story 4, try taking the idea and applying it to a different scenario. Mom offered to cook for the wedding, but only offered food that she already knew the husband and at least some of his guests couldn’t eat. To me that makes mom the asshole… it’s like gifting a free skiing trip to the happy couple knowing one is in a wheelchair. Like…. Thanks I guess? But I wish you would’ve gifted something we could actually both enjoy. Is it really a gift if you don’t care about what the recipient wants?
I'm sorry but I screamed at the wheelchair comment lmao
Came to comment from story 2. I get where you’re coming from with it potentially being an olive branch Morgan to reunite the sisters but I really don’t think accepting a last min offer to be maid of honor is it. Like you mention family therapy between them could be beneficial but the pressure of planning for the wedding of someone who historically has not liked you and still resents you doesn’t seem like the way to go about mending their relationship. I think it’s good for OP to have denied her sister since she seems to have always tried everything to include her and the sister is potentially only asking her because she assumes she is a pushover. It sends the message that OP has firm boundaries. The sister needs to realise the ultimate enemy here is the parents. They suuuuuuck and I feel bad for both sisters. I hope they can rebuild and become close.
Exactly! Just because someone decides to show you a hint of interest or kindness after YEARS of mistreatment, does not mean you have to accept it. You can acknowledge the attempt at fixing the relationship but say I cannot put myself here again
I will say though, the sister must feel so alone. There's so much resentment there and when she finally reaches out to her sister herself, she's pushed away again. I feel so horribly bad for her.
Thank you i was like i thought they just explained why that would be unhealthy and then she turned around and says that. I dont think Morgan actually understands the significance in setting that boundary so they can began to have an actual healthy relationship. Plus that boundary was her choosing to love and stand up for herself without that OP wouldnt be reading the advice and maybe making a change. Sorry for how long this is her advice sometimes makes me smh
Last story, from r/AmITheDevil repost: apparently the sister posted "Because I was going to live with my brother, and dedicate all of my energy to him, to his recovery, his emotional well being, his mental state. I just wouldn't have any time at all for my ex."
Also for what it's worth, brother was apparently deployed to South Korea. I'm not military but based on comments that's one of the milder gigs one could be assigned.
SO WEIRD!!! You're not a therapist ma'am or his mom WHUT
😂 it's giving Lannister
@@lilmissmoose1omfg🤣🤣 and Targaryens too💀
from what i know as well SK is not a super difficult place to be stationed. if course no place is easy but aside from NK and SK’s petty beef they have going on…really the most he is doing is training shit every day. and theres a LOT of fun things to do in SK. im mot saying the country is the most amazing, they have their downsides as every place does, but it is MUCH better than being stationed in a warborne country. SK is just not that rn
There was SOOO much context in OPs comments you missed. She basically confirmed she's dating her brother
Story 4 is just not fair to the bride. I don’t think it makes sense to say you’ll cook for her wedding and then decide it can only be specific dishes that you like. If you didn’t want to cook the food they would prefer just don’t offer to cook.
Story 5: “she paid a violent man to harm a child” you mean a doctor?? Or what exactly is she ever alluding to. Sounds manipulated verbally for sure.
The wording of that story is driving me nuts. I think if the SIL hurt a child in their care, the family would want to distance themselves from her. But it it was an abortion, I can see why the fam is telling OP she's overreacting. OP sounds like a major Karen.
@@kittie594 It is 100% that. If it were anything else she would not have been so evasive and weird about it.
The boyfriend didnt just blow up because she asked or questioned something like a friendship once, shes been hounding him over his nine year old sister wanting to hang out with her brother she only sees a few times a year! She hounds him every time they visit! Saying his nine year old sister is in love with him and hes basically grooming her?! And he only blew up after she insinuated that he was going to have sex with not only his sister but a nine year old. Im surprised it took him this long to kick her out.
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1:19:43 This part of story 5 literally made my mouth drop!!!! I have never been so irritated by an OP in my life. She needs to GET A GRIP. Pro-Birthers are some of the most infuriating people on earth. Good Riddance to her, I only feel bad for her children cause they'll be away from the only family they have that has a lick of common sense and compassion for a a woman who was put in a very tough situation as a young girl. Gosh I'm fuming
*S4:Hot+Spicy -* As someone who refuses to be pressured into eating (hot) spicy food after being hospitalized for a week + diagnosed w/colitis from something I ate, this story ticks me off.
If the father of the groom has ulcers that make spicy food painful + dangerous, who is this woman to decide every dish must be what she says, calling her son inlaw “this boy” becuz he turns red when she burns his palate with her food?? ROAR.
Your cooking is not YOU, it’s just a part of you. Being considerate of others should also be a part of you.
I know, right?! I think more people need to realize that spicy food can cause actual physical harm to some people. Just like with food allergies, in a way. If the fiance was allergic to the food, everyone would be calling OP an ahole.
Yeah. Definitely the Ass. That's her daughter's wedding and she doesn't want to accommodate every guest ? HOW ?!
Honestly to me, sounds like she is against the marriage, doesn't like her daughter being with him. The spicy food is just a way to throw a fit and look down on the fiance.
Story 5: If you're unclear / deliberately vague in a r/AITA post, almost always YTA.
Story 5 is crazy, but sounds like they live in the south. 👀 I knew as soon as she said that the girl harmed a child when she was very young. She was being deliberately obtuse because she knows that not everyone is anti-choice. Like, if the girl was a minor and pregnant, it’s nuts to force her to have a child to teach her some weird lesson about responsibility and change her life forever. What if the sex wasn’t consensual??
Good lord. OP can be pro-life, but she is way overreacting to something that has nothing to do with her.
well the sex couldn't be consensual at the age of 14 surely? I believe most states have the age of consent at 16 but not younger, therefore she is not legally giving consent at that age.
@@ladyk3729 yes ur absolutely right!
@ladyk3729 what if it was another 14yo?
@@na1ani218 I mean sure. But then my original point still stands. It’s nuts to force child to have a baby to teach them some weird life lesson. There could be so many factors and variables at play, the the OP from the Reddit post deliberately hiding that important context is really sus.
@maureen3070 oh I totally agree! I was just saying it wasn't necessarily an older person with the 14yo which would bring up the "non consensual" bit. That OP is crazy wild and I would be embarrassed to have OP in my family.
The first story is so touching! Anyone who survives something traumatic like a fire etc are heros!!! His partner is amazing too for not seeing him for only his scars and it sucks that the bf had stupid people in his past judge him for something he did not ask for. It just goes to show you that if someone truly loves you they won't care about your past ❤
The mom is actually kind of in the wrong. I mean she offered to do it free, but just because she offered to do it free doesn't mean she should go out of her way to make food that half of the wedding party, primarily the father in law, can't eat. Then when having that pointed out, flipping out and being like "IF YOU'RE GOING TO TREAT ME LIKE THE HIRED HELP THEN PAY ME" which is a unacceptable response that kinda gives some narcicistic undertones. This entire time you made a big deal about how good of a cook you are and obviously you'd have to cook for your kids wedding but omf not if it means you cant make the wedding party sick like.... she just wants everything to be about her and to have the spotlight. No doubt she expects loud praise for cooking as well. Wanting to be paid if she was approached out of the blue from her kids is one thing, but she offered and did all this because the daughter wanted everyone to be able to eat like...?????
The groom can't even enjoy it.
@@redbunny22 exactly but at least with him it is a preference thing, for his dad with the stomach ulcers his choices in her ideal world is to eat nothing and make a scene or eat something that could land him in the hospital.
THIS!! You said it perfectly
Mom who cooks is the asshole. Cooking is "her thing" and she let her pride get in the way. You're suppose to cook the food the bride/groom want. Not what you want. Gifts are for the receiver. And also, they wanted none spicy food, mom knew the son couldn't handle spice, dad has a medical condition... is the grooms family not suppose to eat?!?!?! Its not like she was asking for a huge thing.
Yeah ! Right?!
I lived on an island where everyone has different diets / believes. Some don't eat beef, some don't eat pork, some don't eat meat once a week, ... In my own family some are vegetarian, some are celiac, ...
Every time you have a party, you try to accommodate everyone. That's basic respect.
The last story is giving Folgers Christmas commercial lmao
I'm dead such a good comparison
I kept waiting for the joke reveal lol
Hahahahhaha
What a perfect comparison lmao.
For the first story, although it’s nuanced, your partner should not be responsible for your insecurities. Of course sympathy involved, however, for the boyfriend to not consider how much OP has done for him and the literal adjustments to his life and relationship to accommodate his partners feelings is beyond me. I understand the initial reaction. However, to sit with such resentment for your partner who had done nothing but support and love you? That’s just plain selfish.
I have to agree. I mean we always need to acknowledge each other's trauma and have space for it. The issue lies within the individual choosing to continually not get help to deal with their trauma. When someone says, oh I did therapy and it didn't work, I'm like "well do it again". When you think about it, you didn't really hear much about Opie in this story. So, when your trauma is dominating the relationship, it's time to get help
Especially with the way OP did everything in his power to try to avoid the topic of the scars, defending him amongst peers, even being okay with having relations 100% in the dark… I dont understand how the bf overlooked all of that
Story 4 bothers me because she told them what she was going to cook, and then deciding that you only wanted to cook what your daughter can eat isn't a good gift. A gift being conditional, especially since it was a justifiable ask for health reasons, is a terrible gift that you shouldn't be surprised people get mad at. And this depends on how long before the wedding you decided you wanted to die on this hill, they already helped pay for some of the ingredients so not all of it was on you anyways. You didn't offer a gift you had an offer that they decided to turn down.
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Story 4, OP is TA. The daughter is asking her to accommodate a legitate medical issue. His dad having ulcers absolutely means he can't tolerate spicy. She also is TA for how she presents this legitimate medical issue, acting like they just can't handle spice and saying "I didn't think his whole family would be like this" as if it's a negative thing.
Story 3: SHES 9?!? SHE IS 9. N I N E. OP IS CLINICALLY INSANE
Last story...that isnt her brother. It is either her husband or boyfriend and she has been getting it on the side while he has been deployed
This crossed my mind as well. I hope that's the case other wise it's just too fucking weird.
Story 3: F* OP. I have a 2y age gap with my big brother and we used to hang out all the time as teens, went to concerts and the movie theater. He got his first gf at 17yo, an only child, and she single handedly poisoned our relationship lol. Even though my brother spent all his time with her she was super jealous of me and couldn't even stand that we were texting or sitting next to each other at FAMILY DINNER (she was always welcomed in our home)😂🤦🏻♀️. In the end, she even started rumours that I was into my brother even though I thought things were friendly between us and I wasn't jealous at all, just annoyed she was icying me out.
They broke up cause she was heavily isolating him. My relationship with my brother never fully recovered cause he's still a bit self-conscious of us doing solo activities together. I'm 30yo and I still get echoes form that rumour from time to time, it makes for juicy gossip in a small town, even though they only dated for a year lol.
That girl was crazy, just like op.
As someone who was also hated by my siblings for things out of my control… I hope they are able to mend things but also OP should guard themselves. I have tried mending things with my siblings but the anger against me for experiencing a different childhood with our parent will seemingly never go away. We are all full grown adults now and I don’t think that hurt will ever go away for them. I let go of the guilt, accept their trauma, and hope their individual lives are good. We just don’t have a relationship. And if OP chooses that is the best way for both of them to have their most fulfilling life, sometimes that’s what people need.
I feel so sad for the sisters. My sister and I didn’t experience the same level of care and I spent my childhood protecting her. For us though, it’s made us so strong in adulthood. She is my protector and I am hers, I can’t imagine my life without her. I hope they can come back to each other and can love each other the way their parents didn’t.
I don’t think I’ve ever involuntarily facepalmed but story 5 had that effect on me. I had to pause and physically walk away from my phone to take a breath because I was going to scream and throw my phone. Holy sht this OP and the OP from the 3rd story are competing for who’s most insane.
Lol Story 3 is just 😂 and the way OP told all the ages BUT the sister's, like she knew it would make all the difference
Story 1: I’m a first grade teacher who had a student this last year who was in a similar situation at age 2. They have burns scars all up their legs and torso, I believe 40% of their body. Not ONCE did I hear anyone make fun of them or comment about it. Bullying is 100% TAUGHT by parents. If these 6/7 year olds can function without commenting, so can everyone else.
Side note: there are small numbers of kids (especially this young) who become “bullies” temporarily due to changes in their life and not knowing how to cope, but by middle school, they know better.
Agreed. Small kids especially can be very matter of fact about things if it’s told to them in the way of “this happened and that is why this friend has scars” or “this person cannot see very well and that is why she has a white cane to help her”. They don’t associate any negative value to it from themselves unless they are told it is a bad thing.
Fully using the hot sauce bar idea for my wedding. My fiance loves spice and I cannot handle it at all. That's such a great way to accommodate a bunch of different tastes!
Morgan! No more cliffhangers. If OP drops the story with no context they don’t deserve 2HT or our time.
58:11 OP basically asked her BF if there was inappropriate things going on between him and his baby sister! Of course he is going to get upset. Lol. Almost sounds like OP left the age of the little sister out on purpose.
NEVER BEEN MORE EXCITED FOR A VIDEO. video is only 2 minutes old and I've already purchased the merch before the first story. lmao
ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!? UGH I love you
Ditto, I’m toiling away packing my shit and I seriously need to zone into other people’s problems 😄 Thank you for keeping me going binging through this escapade. Love you guys x 🇬🇧
@@TwoHotTakeswell if the shipping wasn’t more then the t-shirt 😅😅 SWEDEN
@@Swedishpanter38 I think it's all of EU tbh. But yeah, I HATE the shipping and customs from the US. It SUCKS.
@@SammyLammy1D yeah but Sweden is always a high in taxes ect
Story 4: Sounds like the food via the mother is possibly cultural. Feels like she’s not stoked about the family the daughter is marrying into. Feels deeper to die on a hill about food.
I was thinking the same thing - that the couple might be interracial or intercultural and the mom is angry about it
Last story: I've done this except it was 3 months and I told the guy beforehand I didn't want something serious and long term BUT 4 YEARS?!
your show has been a part of my life for SOOOO long now (discovered you guys a couple months after your first episode came out) and you never fail to make my day better. i love how you guys are always so willing to learn and honest about your knowledge and opinions.
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Lauren is always my favorite guest, makes me so happy when I see she’s the cohost
I was looking for an old one to re-watch while working, and this popped up! So happy
The sister in story 2 was honeslty so lucky to have OP. The story is extremely similar to my cousins. Their parent's always treated my older cousin like crap but the younger so much better. Because my younger cousin didn't know better and it was all she was exposed to, it made her also think badly of my older cousin for no reason and seriously damaged their relationship until my younger cousin went to college and realized how insane her parents are.
So OP's sister is lucky that OP recognized what was happening and tried to counteract it.
Deceptive ops should be its own theme fr
The way I gasped when you said the sister was 9!!?!?!?! Some people really can be so confidently delusional
My dad was burned over 80% of his body as a kidm it definitely messed him up. It's a lifelong thing. He never worked on it. And it ended up effecting my life as a child.
He really messed me up. And now I'm dealing with the mental health consequences.
He always wore a white tank top underneath everything.
I've also experienced extreme bullying. Schools claim to have zero tolerance but that's not true at all. They'll pick and choose who gets protected or not.
Bullying in any form should be punished and treated as serious as it is.
Fiancé got the hint when I sent him the merch link. 🤭😉🤣 we listened to you guys on our way home (3 1/2 hour drive). He’s a fan too now🤪
Ayyyyy there we go!!
My mom and I cooked most of the food for my sister’s wedding with a couple aunts contributing a couple dishes. Since the wedding was in our area (the husband’s family lives a few states away) only his mom, dad, sister and a few friends came to the wedding. His sister is allergic to capcasin (the thing that makes a lot of things spicy, like red pepper, cayenne, etc.), gluten makes his mother ill, and a couple friends are vegan/vegetarian. We made sure to have more dishes than not fit their dietary needs. Sure there were some foods that certain individuals couldn’t eat, but we made sure everyone had plenty of options.
this!!! if it was really a problem, then OP should request that someone else make the couple of other dishes!
14:01 I have two boys. The eldest is almost 5. We just had a weird phase of….aggressive behavior. (Three boys, including mine, were getting weirdly violent with each other…but they are friends 🤷🏻♀️).
We ended up grounding him for a week for no screens or sleepovers. (Real wake up when we left a friends and he couldn’t have a sleepover) everyday that he acted up, I added a day to his grounding. As he was learning to control himself, one of the boys hit him in the stomach. We discussed how that made him feel and now knowing that it hurts, we know why we shouldn’t do it to others. I also stated that hitting ppl can have unintended consequences, like hitting someone in the eye could make their eye stop working. He is a sensitive kid, so this really shook him.
I guess giving him consequences for his actions and also explaining what can happen (make the pain a reality) really helped us.
Also the slight brainwashing. (If you have ever started singing the clean up song around toddlers you’ll know…they are sleeper agents) golden rule and “we are nice people who are nice to others” has helped with my littlest. (Does every thing big brother does…so we had two aggressive phases happening at once).
Wait... Have you grounded kids that hit him in the stomach??
Also... Do your kids share the room? It might be why they fight all the time - "hell is other people" and all that.
@@cardboard2night lol no. The kid hitting twice in the stomach happened in the middle of grounding and I did not add another day that day. He probably got a piece of candy that day actually for not reacting. (The three I’m talking about mainly are about 4/5 that were in the same daycare class).
My two don’t really fight. They barely play fight because the 5yr is scared of hurting the 2yr old. They more….hug wrestle. Lol but the issue with the two year old is that…he’s two and pushes ppl out of his way, which can be hard to notice as an adult, but becomes painful as parent when he does it to other toddlers.
omg i feel honored to literally watch this at a minute old
I discovered you guys a last month... sad to say I've finished every episode... I totally binged on you guys I love yall and can't wait for the next episode!!!
Yay! Another best friend episode. We need one with all three of you again. Lauren, Alejandra, and Morgan are my favourite combination. Sorry, Justin.
Hear me out frozen grapes in your wine instead of grapes. Keeps it cold without watering it down.
So true, & frozen grapes are so tasty to snack on too... thank you for reminding me of this 😂🙏🏼
I agree with you guys on the abortion story. However, please don’t call people that are against abortion “pro-life” because they aren’t. They’re pro-birth. If they were actually pro-life this country would be very different.
100%. If they were truly pro-life, they would be against corporal punishment, support welfare and social services, and funding education. Sounds like religious bigotry to me.
@@misshellI definitely know prolife people who do all of those things
Pro-life is a lie; they don’t care if women die.
@@zippityzoop1478Well the majority don't
Who cares, stop policing other peoples language just cause its not “politically correct” anymore. Yall are annoying af fr 😂
The story with the GF being insecure of the BFs 9 YEAR OLD SISTER give me the vibes that she’d be one of those mums whose in constant competition with their daughters 💀💀
Morgan, as someone who struggles very hard with "ADHD fast brain words are hard", too - You're my hero. You've helped me feel so much more confident in myself.
story 3 is insane. Kids tend to get close to older figures they feel close to. I've worked as a camp counselor with kids 5-10 and even over a week kids will latch on to you, want to hug and snuggle up to you, and more. It's normal, especially since it's her brother, that bond/attachment is even stronger. OP is crazy to think something is weird. Her boyfriend needs to RUN
1:07:11 the thing is the mom isn’t asking to pay for extra supplies its more about actually paying her to cook because they dnt want to follow what she wants to cook
I really resonated with Story 2. My half-brother was 12 when I was born and I was told all my life by my mom how differently my dad treated me versus my brother. I was the golden child and he was the scapegoat. He’s resented me my whole life and has never wanted a relationship with me. He has never flat out said that he wishes I was never born (from what I remember, at least) but he doesn’t have to and didn’t have to when I was a child. From the outside, being the golden child seems like it wouldn’t be all that difficult but that’s just not true. From a very young age, I internalized that my sibling resented me for being born and I believed that I had to be the perfect daughter in order to make up for my half-brother. I can’t even begin to express the impact that’s had on me. I have chosen to go no-contact with my brother because he has grown up to be a very volatile and abusive person. Now that he has two kids of his own, I cannot build a relationship with someone who is actively abusing their children. I feel so very sorry for my half-brother’s child self but I feel so angry at him as an adult.
When you all were describing insecurity in story 1, I wonder if you meant “psychological safety”. It is the concept that if things feel unsafe, we conceal or hide aspects of ourselves out of self protection.
That sounds like exactly what they meant haha, thanks for giving us the term
Therapy is a great wedding gift…
A gift if sessions to reconnect them would be very heartfelt.
Why is it bad for a brother to take a trip with his sister? Two sisters were taking a trip together or two brothers were taking a trip together. Would it be such a big deal? My kids are super close and I know for a fact that my son would totally take his younger sisters on a trip. If A girlfriend is jealous of his siblings. That’s absolutely ridiculous.
OMG she is 9! Run! 🚩 🚩
This whole episode was unsettling....even at the end, I feel like we didn't get a closure
omg at 38:30 when Lauren talks about the knee jerk reaction to be nice to someone mean if they're being nice in the moment is so relatable I hate it hahaha
Being bullied has been nothing but hell so I understand how insecure he was
I hope you’re still not being bullied, but regardless- I’m sending you love and screw the haters! 🫶🏼
The second story -
I feel like the ball is in the sister’s court. OP has done SO much for her and is only human. She can only take so much emotional toll herself.
The sister needs to be the one to come apologize and get the help she needs to sort this mess out.
I feel like it was that the ball was in sisters court, and she reached out to Op, and then op turned her back on her. The absolute trauma this poor girl must have must be massive
@@shelbylee242the sister is in her 20s now right? This is going to sound cold but she’s an adult that knows right from wrong. Yes, she went through trauma, but that never gives her the right to lash out at the sister who’s been constantly supporting her.
If I had a sibling like OP growing up, it would be very hard to even say something negative about her, much less come to her with a “you owe me” attitude.
@@shelbylee242
I had a traumatic childhood, one part being when my dad and stepmom moved in together and she had her son. My stepbrother is 2 years younger than me. My stepmom and her parents would treat him like the only child or they would intentionally do things to make me feel less than. ie. during holidays like Christmas or birthdays, they would send him money or get him a game console ect and I would get maybe half the amount of money and a greeting card. Which I was always grateful for anything I got, but we were kids and it eventually took a toll on me and made me so upset. Lots of double standards, stepbrother could do what he wanted when he wanted, I was under strict rules until I graduated and left the house at 17. And my dad is a good man overall, but he enabled the abuse and double standards. I was a bit resentful of my stepbrother every now and again when it got bad but he never asked to be treated better by adults who knew better than we did. He and I remained close until I moved out. I've long since been in therapy and I've even had tough conversations with my stepmom, stepbrother, and my dad, and while they didn't give me closure I learned to find it for myself as an adult. All of that to say, when you are no longer a product of your environment that you cannot control, when you become an adult who can make their own choices and cultivate your own relationships, you can no longer use trauma as an excuse. It can 110% be an explanation for prior behavior, but there has to be accountability for who you choose to be after you're safe again. The sister in that story would be there with open arms, she loves her sister more than anything it seems like. But she can't just be her proverbial punching bag for the rest of their lives when sister needs a last minute fill in because she doesn't reflect on what actually happened to her and everything her sister did to try to protect her.
Story 3: OP is absolutely nuts omg. I have a very close relationship with my brother (always have) and the amount of people we’ve come across who don’t understand that siblings can be close friends too is just baffling to me. It’s not like OPs brother is going out with some random girl or a close friend who’s a girl, it’s his SISTER. I absolutely don’t blame him at all for getting fed up with it and kicking OP out after her continuously insisting that there’s incest going on, and honestly if I was him I’d be strongly considering ending the relationship altogether. Like, imagine being jealous of your partner’s SIBLING??? And the fact that now she’s gonna book a hotel close by to creep on them and “keep an eye out”??? Absolutely unhinged behavior. It is completely normal for an older brother to be doting on his younger sister, ESPECIALLY when there’s a big age gap.
Maybe she murdered a family dog 😂😂😂
I laughed so hard, reacted exactly like Lauren hahahaha
Im 26 and have a 9 yo nephew, we absolutely cuddle to watch movies and I make time together a little special. There's nothing weird about it, he's a kid and I'm just glad he wants to be around me
Story 3: I am laughing as I’m writing this. Never mind the fact that she was already jealous of her boyfriend’s sister, the fact that the sister is nine years old, I literally rolled on the floor. 😂😂😂
Honestly all these stories were INSANE. What an episode 🫨
Story 4-
Mom offered, she wasn't asked. It seems like she wants to grandstand her FABULOUS food. A gift with conditions isn't a gift.
Love Morgan's idea about a hot sauce bar. I'm sure 'mom' would hate the idea of people having control over the taste of 'her' food.
Also, I'm a floral designer and have done wedding and funeral flowers for family and friends, and only charged for the wholesale cost of the flowers. Fortunately, I have awesome people in my life that were nothing but grateful and appreciative.
Acquaintances on the other hand...nightmare demands!
Lesson learned.
I love working on Thursdays and other days you post because that means I get to clean while listening and that makes the job go by WAY faster
seeing a new two hot takes episode on my youtube: great!
seeing a new two hot takes episode WITH LAUREN?? ..... AAAAAAAAMAZING!
I saw story 3 on ig already, so I cannot wait to hear Lauren’s reaction when she finds out the sister is only NINE
The 5th story was frustrating to listen too 😅lol
Story 2 at the end of it i rolled my eyes yes you are a people pleaser and that would keep them in an unhealthy cycle its not an olive branch again its a test. If everyone one is too hurt and going through trauma that some cant operate from a healthy place no progress will be made, enabling can be done at best. I have to shake my head almost every time you give advice
The mom isn’t doing them any favors! “I’ll cook for you but you don’t get to chose the menu” also…. the husband at the wedding wouldn’t be able to eat any of the food, that should be enough to change it
"I have two kids and I cannot imagine not loving them unconditionally! Your love grows with each child. You become softer and full of love. My heart breaks for these girls. The parents are not doing well, and they need to know they have failed as parents."
Story 3: I have 5 brothers, I’m not super “cuddly” with them, but I am partial to hugs. So I didn’t think anything of that from the beginning. Bc I don’t think “oh their siblings… must be fucking”, but maybe that’s just me. BUT SHES 9 YEARS ILD??
9 YEARS OLD?!! That is insane. OP needs to be in therapy or hospitalized (that’s dramatic but…) bc what the fuck. If you see a young girl hanging out and cuddling with her older BROTHER! and you think “ooooohh they’re hooking up” THERE IS SOMETHING GENUINELY WRONG WITH YOU!! SHE IS NINE!! I can’t remember his age, 26? but she is NINE!!! And your worried that their hooking up or something? Get help. Seriously.
And if she does think her boyfriend is gonna hook up with his 9 year old sister… WHY IS SHE NOT CALLING THE COPS??!? WHY IS SHE JUST LIKE “ugh 😡cheating” like bruh if that were true the sister would be in serious danger and you need to get her AWAY from your boyfriend
About the hot sauce bar suggestion for story 4, Jambalaya is the kind of food you cook *with* the spice. You don't just add it later. It affects the flavor in surprising ways. I still think it's a little unreasonable for a mother to demand payment for cooking for the wedding, but in my culture the family of the betrothed do almost everything for the wedding from cooking to providing a venue on some distant relatives property and doing set up. It's not necessarily required, just kind of the default. I do understand not everyone can do that, just where I'm coming from
Its 100% the parents fault if their kids are bullies 1st story "i wonder if its nature or nurtre" story about parents treating op like the golden child "why do parents think its ok to cause such trauma" 999 cases out of 1000, its the parents fault!
For the first one I feel for OP because it seems he’s in a rough situation but this is not acceptable or okay. I recognize the trauma his partner has endured but it is under no circumstances okay for your partner to walk on egg shells out of fear they might leave you if you see them naked. Therapy should be the bare minimum requirement- couples and individual. No one should walk on egg shells in their own home or a lock and knock policy to prevent your partner from seeing you without a shirt. To blow up on uour partner, leave and not communicate is incredibly immature and frankly abusive.
Justifying OP’s sister when she straight up told OP she wishes she never even lived is crazy 😭😭
It's no crazy at all
they weren’t justifying her they were saying they can empathize with her. those are two separate things. you can feel for someone and also think they’re in the wrong for their decisions. If a persons mom dies and they in turn lash out and yell and insult people afterwards, you can both understand and empathize with their grief and also say insults and yelling isn’t the right thing to do. both things can exist at the same time. OPs sister is blaming the sister when she should be blaming the parents and she’s in the wrong for that. but that doesn’t mean the pain her parents caused her doesn’t exist.
Yayyyy I love new merch! My Thursday shirt is always the lets dive in tshirt. I always tell people its my favorite podcast to try and get them to listen
awhh I'm so glad! I spent so much time getting it right. Also thank you for sharing the pod