Is It Easier To Date Someone Your Own Age? | Filipino | Rec•Create
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 พ.ย. 2021
- For most adults, age is very much analogous to maturity, and as such, romantic relationships involving people with wide age gaps have been the brunt of gossip, as if almost taboo. And yet, we find people on social media--celebrities, influencers, or even just your friends--in happy and healthy relationships with someone much older or much younger than them. In this episode, we invited real couples with wide age gaps to answer questions about the social stigma that comes with this kind of relationship, and why age is irrelevant when it comes to love.
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"You get tired dating yourself"
I've never been this attacked.
The woman with the magenta dress is so beautiful and so articulate. 👏 Miss maam 💅
Totally agree! 💗
Her beauty screams ✨elegance✨
She looks like Dr. Torres from Grey's Anatomy hehe
Lahat naman sila siguro
Yup!!! Ang elegant nya.
Just to be clear "AGE DOESN'T MATTER" Only applies to all ADULTS. Specifically ages from 22 and above hindi for minors. Please keep that in mind
San galing yung 22 mo? Gusto mo lang?
Sana next time mga couples na magkaiba ang beliefs/religion.
^^
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Marvel fans vs DC.
Iglesia and Catholic, bet?
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This line from All Too Well came across my mind
"You said if we had been closer in age maybe it would have been fine"
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I dated way older (i was 18), way younger (legal age), bit older , bit younger, and same age. Important is u love each other, both find attractive, respect each other, happy, support each other, etc. No problem.
What does this mean ?
Sana yung next epi, babae naman mas matanda sa relationship
Can't invalidate the comments about "grooming" pero I think unfair din naman magbitaw ng mga sweeping statements dahil posible lagi na may mga outliers. Haha. I guess sa mga ganitong relationships, only time will tell. It's not easy to understand when you're on the outside looking in. And when you're on the inside looking out, you can't even explain it.
Thanks for this, Rec•Create!
Can validate*
Attendance mga Banyo people 🙋♂️
Present 🖐️
Present 💪
Present
"You said if we had been closer in age maybe it would have been fine
And that made me want to die"
Mareng Taylor at Kuya nyo Jake were shaking.
My girlfriend's age is 31 and my age is 24, we have a age gap of 7 years. But we understand each other and we have healthy relationship. Remember guys! Age is just a number, you must see the attitude and the manners of that person.
I understand that age gap of mid 20s and 30s
but not the 35 guy and 19 girl. likeeee that is sus
@@tinniewinnie3681 RIGHHTTT, also the "mature siya for her age.", expert groomer wtf
Age is just a number only applies if youre both an adult. Anyone below 18 or even below 20 dating a 30+ yr olds is def weird and gross.
@@liraviwhat if nagkajowa ako ng almost 20 and I am 32 is it grooming? Still? Kasi nagkakilala lang naman din kami and realized our age
Thanks so much for letting us be a part of this, Rec•Create!
Btw, I just want to clarify, I MADE A MISTAKE!!! I was 20 and he was 32 when we met, not 35!!!! Nervous jitters got the best of me 😭😭😭
Congrats on getting featured 😊
Siyempre I was never suprised when I saw you here. Hahaha. -SIR JEFF-
Hi Fay! I'm now a fan of yours. I love you already 🥺🤍💗
Would like to see balance kasi sa nainterview nila. The guys were all older here right? I still hate na that others prefer to date older people cos they're mature and eme mentality cos coming from them age is just a number and age also doesn't mean maturity too so why "mature people" mostly guys can't date women in their own age if they have their shit together na pala. Just a thought
EXACTLY 👌
YES! HEAVY ON THIS!
Because in reality men wants power. They still want to dominate the relationship. "Age is just a number" is just a feeling, but the lessons you get from aging is what makes you mature. They are the not the same. Inshort, men prefers a much younger women so that they can have the upper hand, they love to control and avoid the clash from their partner at all cost.
@@stellamariegarcia1238 and there we see kung paano nakakaimpluwensiya yung patriarchal upbringing natin as Filipinos
I don't know why, but that guy saying she's "mature for her age" kind of made me wince. But that's a personal take. He also said he messaged his now partner knowing she was 20 and lively. Idk, I think there are a ton of women in their 30s who are still lively and full of life. Just because you're in your 20s doesn't mean your lively. I guess it just depends on your environment.
But as long as they're consenting adults, I think it should be fine. Maturity tends to vary per person, regardless of age.
I liked the other couples, though. This was a good video.
@six bullet is bad at destiny pedo??? lmao adult na yan after 20 yrs old anong pedo jan!! pedo is when a 50 year old guy makes out with a 18 year old minor,
adults are no longer child anymore ano pang pedo jan? only in the philippines!
@six bullet is bad at destiny technically, they're all at the age of consent. But I won't lie, I think I held back with my comment. The way that guy carried his comments made me so uncomfortable watching back.
@six bullet is bad at destiny honestly, yes. But, with the exception of the couple I mentioned, I was pretty comfortable hearing the rest. They seem to be within reasonable limits to know who they should be with. Main criticism I have is this mentality of "they're older so they're more mature" which isn't the case at all. It shouldn't be.
@six bullet is bad at destiny bruh the stereotype
yes true
Ang ganda ng usapan! Linear ang sukat ng edad, so walang relasyon sa pagiging mature ng tao yan. Character is built through time and experience. Ang galing ng pagkakatahi ng insights ng mga kasama sa video. :)
Can I just say CK and Mikee does not look 10 years apart grabe sobrang baby face nung tattoo guy
This mikee dude is so charismatic and seems cool. Truly a keeper
Dating older people does not guarantee you they're already mature. Your younger self might be more goal-oriented and has more real talk in life. 💯
Thanks for this video, Re.Create! More power, more vids! :)
super agree !!!
I agree 💯
as someone who's still 19, i never found it comfortable to date anyone who's above 5 years older or 2+ years younger than me. i just find that we're in different phases of life na mahirap intindihin ang isa't isa. my current girlfriend is a few months older lang and i'd like to debunk na sinabi nilang boring yun. it can be not redundant. it's not about the age. it's about your similarities and differences as well as the effort you put into making your relationship work. If you find the relationship boring, something is wrong. kasi it's normal to lose the sparks and it's a challenge most couples go through. depende na lang talaga sa couple of they make the effort to bring it back.
edit: but then again. maybe my mindset is like this because i date to marry and not to find comfort. i feel like a lot of people my age date for comfort. the feeling of having someone older to protect or to support you but don't we have teachers or parental figures (can be blood-related, paper, or even friends) for that?
Not comfortable but "its not about the age". Confusing
@@josephdiaz764 "I" am not comfortable kasi I know myself that I can't relate to them. I can't form any sparks with them kasi nga I can't even find a connection between us but if other people are comfortable with those age gaps, then it's fine din. I'm just placing an example that it's all subjective, depending on the person and never really about the age kasi age is a preference at this point. Of course "age is a preference" has it's boundaries which I haven't specified in my paragraph kasi I wouldn't want to spoonfeed :">
And when I said it's not about the age, I'm just saying that the boredom you get from a relationship isn't because of the age and almost everyone go through that falling out stage because the honeymoon phase is over. Some couples withstand that challenge and others don't regardless of age gaps.
@@francinev3971 Its a combination of changing of priorities and likes as we age, when you are a teen you only care about gaming then the enthusiasm to other things like, classic movies, car stuffs, current events, cooking, food hopping and other sorts add up as it is just part of growing up
@@rdu239 hi~ i would just like to say that i'm also in a long distance relationship and communication isn't always there. we also have our own priorities like college and work. i dont even play games that much. if anything, my hobbies are very much aligned with the career path i plan to take. i'm the same age as one of the girls in the video so i'm speaking in that perspective. yes, it also depends on priorities but age comes to play as well especially if the mindsets we have are a lot different. most people i meet who are above 5 years older than i am have ideals and principles that do not match mine and i obviously am exposed earlier to different information via technology compared to those people. culture might come to play as well. older people that i meet, especially those 10 years older than i am, tend to have more conservative views. it's more than just differences in priorities. this is why effort is needed in both sides. effort is what makes different age differences work for different couples. if effort is not enough, maybe you're just not really a match but that doesnt mean you can't possibly match with someone of the same age as your last.
@@rdu239 also, i would like to point out that there are teens who have more "adult" priorities than some adults. i'd take my parents for example. my dad is, in fact, fitting of your description of teens more. he is a lot more focused on games and entertainment whereas my mom is a lot more focused on work and all the adult stuff. they still work out because there is still effort from both of them to work it out.
“Pake niyo” is a mood hahahahahaha
Sana next time meron din mas matanda yung gurl sa guy. ☺️
Sana mag sign up sila. :)
@@Rec.Create sana sa future maka sign up kami
@@Rec.Create where do we sign up, I'm 28 years old and my boyfriend is 22
@@jillianross14how's the relationship. I am confused if I'm dating the right guy
Mikee and CK’s full story please!!!
I hate how guys older than me say "bata paman gud ka" but one of the things they liked about me is how mature I think. Lol. Love this episode btw
danggg, couldn't agree more!
Mikee and CK my fave couple!! 😍
I dont have a girlfriend, but I have the same experience about age gap regarding having "different mindset" with my friend who is 34yrs old, while Im 23 that time. The moment that I knew he's into games, we talked like there's no tomorrow. Until now, even though we parted ways, we still talked a lot about life, games and hobbies.
I’ve seen some comments saying how maturity still weighs more than age, but also remind that maturity comes in any age.
Having someone who's more mature than you is an ace ❤️
Hey an immature partner is kinda cute, until its frustrating hehe
@@josephdiaz764 ikr. Pero mas gusto ko parin Yung mature
Met when she was 20 and he's 35? whaaat 🤫 I like how some couples are really exception to the rule but mostly, nah.
I used to date older guys too but now I realized the grooming part of it. Who's gonna tell them? Older men like younger girls because they are easy to sway around.
Women generally feel MATURED when their older boyfriends are older hence daw "matured" lol
tama! the power dynamic is real.
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Ur wrong, men like youthful appearance in women, its biology, not bcos easier to sway
"mature siya for her age"
It's true. Most men like young girls kasi mas sariwa, mas masarap pa kasi bata e. Pero if decent man ka, or if iniisip mo yung character and maturity talaga, mas pipiliin mo yung halos kaedad mo lang. Depende pa din sa sitwasyon ng tao.
I think as long as you met when you're both consenting adults, there shouldn't be any issue. As opposed to say, you befriended a young person then as soon as they turn 18, you date them. That's grooming and gross.
What if he met her when she was 17, then 30 years later, they meet again, can they be in a relationship now? imsleepy
Here after seeing Mikee's post but staying for this great content! 💗
Kudos to all the guys... they looked younger than their age 👏👏👏
“Basta mabuting tao yung dine-date.” 😍
Truly maturing and growing up is realizing that ppl in their 20s are still figuring shit out and it's such an excuse to use the "theyre already an adult" to think that they cant be groomed anymore. They barely got out of their teen years and what's most disturbing to me is that in most age gaps relationships, the guy is the older one. Sadya namang mga gusto talaga nila eh mas bata sa kanila and how do you even find someone 10 years younger than you? That's not within their circle! That only means, they actively pursue sa circles na mas bata sa kanila. Ewan ko talaga, kasi andami kong nakikita na may experience na ganyan na babae pero saka lang nila narealize the power dynamics they were in. You have to ask yourself, "Why is a full grown adult not able to find someone their age?" Something must be wrong lol. It also irks me that they use the "girls mature faster" or "she's mature for HER AGE". The fact that they know how disturbing the gap is...Since I listened to Taylor Swift talaga, saka ko na-grasp yung whole concept at sobrang uncomfy.
edit: WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THE 19 YO AND THE 36 YO DUDE?! GRABE.
T.swift supremacy💗
TAMA
kaya nag cricringe ako sa relationship ni Rico and Maris kase may power dynamics talaga imagine 25 yrs. age gap nila for sure kayang kaya ni rico imanipulate and icontrol si maris
@@magra4240 omg fr 🙈 not to mention, she's just starting out as a musician pa lang.
@@gwen7819 True tapos pansin ko sa latest music video ni maris si Rico blanco ang director at nag shot e may part dun na nag hubad si maris then naka two piece lang naalala ko may account si rico na puro babae lang ang laman na halos naked na silang lahat, may pattern si Rico kaya i felt bad for maris na isa na sya sa mga biktima ni rico
Sana next is yung couples na ang babae ay may pagkasunggit or overthinker tapos yung boyfriend nila ay understanding type.
Sana next po ung introvert and extrovert relationship ♥️
once again, im here watching these relationship vids and this is me lying single with no one to make away, tampo and have an age gap with hmp!! HAHAHAH
Full story ni Mikee and CK, pleaseeeeeeeeee!!!!
Ang powerful ng last statement!
cute ng mga pairs, this only proves that age does n0t really matter when it comes to relationship but maturity of the person does.
We want Mikee and CK's exclusive video! Hahahaha
lodi yan
Tama si sir mikee nakakainis talaga yung "hindi ko alam" na word kapag may argue kayong dalawa.😂
Full story ni mikee at CK please ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
THIS IS SO RELATABLE
We need diversity in this, but it would also be interesting to have another video where the woman is older and may LGBTQIA+.
I don't like dating people who are my age or younger because of my past experiences with people in that bracket. I want someone older, more comfortable, and more open (although di naman lahat ng older people are like that and there are younger people who are like that as well). Pero tulad nung nabanggit sa video, I want a different energy with my partner to balance things out. In the end, di naman yung similarities namin sa culture ang mag matter as long as same kami ng values.
agree
I guess u hv to stick diversity to everything yeah?
@@josephdiaz764 why not? hindi mo gusto ng different perspectives?
Ahhh!!!! Timing! Needed to watch a video like this!
I wouldn't be surprised if the woman in magenta and her partner has an ongoing podcast.
Napapindot agad ako neto ah relate na relate
IYKYK!! 💯
Grabe napaka relatable naman nung sa 'i don't know' 🤣
hahahahaha true
I dated a guy who's 9 years older than me. I was 20 yrs old then and he was 29 and I gave my virginity to him after 3 mos of dating. He's Asian not Filipino and I got pregnant the first time because we wear any protection. We got married and our marriage lasted 34 years and had three adult children now and a grandaughter. He just passed away 8 mos ago. He's my greatest love and missing him so much. I'm still grieving.
Nakakalungkot naman po. 😕
Would have loved to see some diversity (LGBTQ+, Older Women, etc.)
Loud3r
Siguro walang nag audition for that usually kasi bago sila gumawa ng video mag p-post sila kung sino gusto ma-feature
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Senior citizens too, should be inclusive
agreed. para kasing may pattern akong nakikita (usually the males are older, and they often reason "shes mature for her age" no hate though haha) it's just that people use that as an excuse to date younger people. minsan kasi hindi naman talaga mature yung younger person na theyre dating, usually they just appear like that bc they wanna impress the older person in the relationship. minsan then thats the reason they get robbed of their youth kasi they try rlly hard. im not stereotyping, im just speaking out of observations sa mga kaibigan ko who were technically groomed :(
Ayos iyong sagot na iyon ah "when it comes in understanding dapat petiks nalang yan"❤
"Kahit di mo sya maintindihan, pipilitin mo syang intindihin." kinilig ako dun ha. yan palagi mindset sinasabi ng lalaking mahal ko eh🤣
Me and my significant other are 13 years apart and never naging issue ang age gap kahit Millennial ako at sya ay Gen Z. It just really depends on the people within the relationship. Good thing isip bata ako hehehe
pretty ni ate in a black top, hawig ni han sohee
Banyo King and Queen! Nice! IYKYK!
age gap doesnt matter, pero dont forget na dapat both are adults, at hindi minor ang isa sa kanila
magkaiba na un pag minor ang isa
Love see more couples date closer to there age.
PART 2 PLEASE
For me, the emotional age is more important than the physical age between a romantic relationship between two consenting adults I've met people in their early 20s who have the emotional maturity of people in their 40s or 50s and vice versa. I am 19 yrs old and some of my classmates are still immature for a college student while others more matured beyong their current age.
Banyoo represent! Mikee and ck
Would love to see na yung girl naman yung older than the boy.
Go KyChie lol thanks for tackling this 🥰
Oh to live in a world without judgements.
IYKYK 💯
“Mature siya for her/his age.”
Sorry pero I cringe every time I hear someone say that. It makes me think that you can’t pull someone your age or at least closer to your age because your either immature pa or younger people are just EASIER to control. Then you just convinced yourself na “mature” itong si bagets to justify your attraction.
Age doesn’t matter, YES. Pero if you’re going for someone who is 19 and below… bro & sis, wag na tayo maglokohan. 😂 Hindi ko nilalahat pero hindi rin kasi talaga lahat malinis intensyon.
Itong rant ko eh para lang sa mga halang ang sikmura na nag-pupursue ng mga 19 and below tapos 5 years and up ang age gap.
Ck and mikee 😍
I am 21 and my partner is 28. i agree with all of them na we just have to compromise rin in a relationship despite the age differences. My partner is more like a father figure and he guides me ganyan especially in controlling my emotions. Im too emotional and sensitive. Parang sa mga maliliit na bagay sobrang big deal sa akin and feeling ko di niya ako gets. But then, i just realized sa lagi niyang payo na, give and take lang. Punan yung di nabibibigay ng isa para mag work nag relationship. Both of us dapat tinatrabaho yun. Now i can say namna na naiintindihan ko na siya and sarap lang sa feeling. Tapos sobrang haba ng patience niya and very open-minded. Yun lang. Adjust tayo and communicate lagi. Dat symbiotioc relationship this applies naman in general whether ka same age or not.
PROOF THAT AGE CAN'T DEFINE MATURITY
I love this Episode Rec•Creatr
Legal + they both love each other = No Issue
ohhhh CK and Kuya Mikee
I love the topic 🖤
Di ko enexpect na makita ko kayo dito ck and kuya mikee
Having someone who's more mature than you is an ace! 😄
Wow! I didn't know my uncle Raphael is in the interview👏😃👍👍👍
Awwwee cute! I always date guys older than me too. Age gap namin ng long term ex ko was 9 yrs, i was 18 that time when we link up and i can say that maturity really does not comes w age. And i can relate dun sa “my partner cannot fully understand me bc of our age difference”
CK AND MIKEE!!!
Tito Mikee and CK ❤❤❤
Good job tho!!!
Dita Von Teese yung vibe nung style nung naka magenta hehe
I feel if you are legally an adult, it would be fine. But any younger makes it really creepy. That’s predatory.
better sana if may couple na older woman and younger guy or same sex couple para mas malawak yung perspective
Hoyyyyy. Y ganon? Yung nakakadate kong older guys nasa "exploring" stage pa 😭 u gals r lucky
Wala nmn kasi sa age yan...kung matured lng habol mo..ewan kb kyong mga girls nagpapaniwala kyo sa mga ganyan..i date nyo kung sino swak sa personality nyo..mas ok yun..kysa sa age kyo nag base..
@@carloconopio6513 Well yeah. I agree. At some point naiisip ko naman na din na i give up na yung idea that maturity comes with age given na nakailang date na ko ng older guys pero lahat failed. Pero ewan.
uy same :< bet ko pa naman kaso fubu hanap
8:40 hahahaha! Mikee boy! 💯
Noti gang here we is!
OG Banyo Peeps represent!! 💯
Some women here judge the guys intention for having a relationship with younger woman. But when they found out that woman is older, they shut the hell up. Listen, everybody has their own story. Di nyo nga alam bkt single pa din sila at a certain age. Some came from unsuccessful very long time relationship, some came from toxic relationship, others just cant find the right partner to be with. You don't want to end up with someone na napilitan ka lang because your are old. Each and everyone of us have a different story. Committing to a long life partner should not because of you are afraid to "Tumandang dalaga or binata". It needs to blend perfectly. I have a LOT of batch mates who marry close or match their age are now seeking for annulment. Others are happy. Whats the point? All of us don't have the same story. Judging someone because of a huge age gap relationship is pretty much immature to me whether the guy is older or the girl is older.
The women wearing the magenta dress sounds like Callie from Grey's Anatomy
I love this episode 💞
I see mikee i click
the guy with tattoo... on point with all the things he said lol
I’m 42 now and I once dated a Brazilian chick that was 18yrs younger. It was a roller coaster ride and it was a headache… Maybe because the age gap was so much bigger than what we call it normal age gap..
Tbh as much as possible I want to date someone older than me and someone who's mature and could help me grow as well. Pero minsan kung sino pa mas matanda yun pa mas immature.
Iba yung feeling kapag mature ung ka relationship mo, imean matuto ka mas lalo ka nyan tuturuan pero di ako sure kasi di raw lahat matured
How about filipino/na with foreigner partners naman hehe e.g. filipino/na-american couple, filipino/na-indian couple, filipino/na-European couple. Kasi for sure they have different beliefs in life like religion, culture, and also the language barrier.
Oh please, Filipino society in general raise their eyebrows when Filipinas have foreign boyfriend/husband, the look on their eyes already say a lot - full of dread and contempt
nice to meet you impostor!!!
Great content! Keep up the good work Rec-Create.
More topic with faye and jay.
Guess my baby is still doing her math assignments and modules. Go babyyy! 😘
Can you guys do the other way around. Like the girls are older than the guys
Nandito pala si Tito Mikeeeee!
Tito Mikee and CK!!!