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- Change is a part of life, especially when you get married or become a parent. Who wouldn’t want to grow? Men often struggle to see beyond our own POV, and therefore have difficulty understanding that women are more likely to be merging their individual desire with the best interest of the entire group/family. #marriage #parenting #growth #change #patriarchy
This woman needs to take responsibility for improving her communication skills and make better word choices instead of blaming her husband for misunderstanding.
Dear Billy, way to miss the point completely. Are you aware that strict literal adherence to spoken/written word rather than looking for the meaning behind communication is a tenet of white supremacy? Check it out.
@@JaimeandJosh Or maybe you're just a crap communicator. Lol
@@cantrell0817 Amen!!
Yeah I have so many issues and questions that I don’t know where to begin. Mind you, this is my opinion on the matter since you posted this on a public platform so here goes. Why do you view your needs and the collective needs of your family one in the same? That seems selfish to me because I guarantee if your husband had that mindset, you’d call him selfish too. I understand if there are habits that need to be change in things like diet so that way everyone can be healthy and live longer, by all means have a conversation about it but if you’re going to take away something because you feel is bad for him…then by your logic because you view your needs and the collective as one in the same, it’s YOU that sees it as bad for him. I don’t know your family. I’m just a random guy commenting my opinion. Have a great day.
Hey Mark, I appreciate you weighing in. Though not sure I’m following entirely. But it could just be that this video outside of its original context on TikTok isn’t entirely clear either. The crux of this video response is that often women and mothers put the best interest of the family before even their own whereas many men, including myself often, tend to prioritize our own individual needs first. You can see this in lots of ways, but an example might be how money is spent in families where budgets are tight - not uncommon for women to spend any free money on the kids’ needs (e.g. clothing, education) where guys seem more likely to spend on their own hobbies. Not necessarily bad, but different enough that men don’t often see the ways in which women see themselves as inseparable from the community. Another way to look at it is that in patriarchal systems you find will find hierarchal power structures that offer more benefits to those on top whereas in matriarchal cultures the needs of the entire community come first as top priority. Going back to the video, she never took anything away from me or even tried - she just wanted to have the conversation about how to prioritize the family’s health as a value where I wasn’t ready to do that. Hope that helps a bit.
@@JaimeandJosh I completely understand but the thing is, the word patriarchy doesn’t exist without matriarchy. Those two are what make a home. As long as the family is taken care of, who cares what you spend your money on as long as you both agree that your hobbies and spending habit is not going to negatively impact the home. Truth be told, not all marriages are the same. Should they be? No of course not. But all marriages should be a union, not a democracy.
@@marksman.85 Marriage 101 is that you’re not gonna change anyone. However, in all their videos she’s like change=growth. I’m not changing him I’m helping him grow. Uh…..huh. The only people growing you can do is in your uterus. Which is pretty amazing. The rest is 100% up to the individual to change or grow on their OWN.
@@bryanstumpf8643 hence why I said a marriage should be a union and not a democracy.
Sooooo…..you don’t properly communicate it’s the family’s needs because you say “my needs” instead. Then you say men think individually and not collectively. 😂😂😂 Like it’s us who don’t get it cuz you say the wrong thing. Then Mr. Simp calls all men stupid. Please discontinue giving bad advice.
Dear Bryan, thank you for so well illustrating what a poor listener looks like. You couldn’t spend a single second actually hearing a message because your fragile ego and small dick energy thinks that the world has to line up exactly your way or else it just doesn’t make sense. There are people who don’t think like you. There are people who don’t even think in words and yet you believe based on the tenets of white supremacy (look it up) that language has to operate a certain way, your way, otherwise it doesn’t count. But rather than even entertain that the world is bigger than your peep hole view, you think you did something here by parading your ignorance. Get your head out of your ass. Affectionately - Mr. Simp
@@JaimeandJosh Words mean what words mean. I sure as heck didn’t make them up. While different cultures and socioeconomic groups may communicate things differently. There is generally a shared vernacular that is understood. Guess what? We speak the same damn honky language so don’t give me that school taught english language is white supremacy crap. The problem is when you expect someone to anticipate what you’re saying or how you feel without you communicating it to them you are being co-dependent. Yes anticipating their needs because you want them to be happy is beautiful. However, setting that expectation is unfair and co-dependent. You should not advise people to be that way because that is a very toxic type of relationship. If that advice came from your marriage counselor I’d be worried.
@@bryanstumpf8643She heard something she didn't like and immediately insulted your penis size. Wow. Alarm bells are raging
How. How. Is life this copy and paste?! 😮😂😂 to think our lives are like snowflakes is clearly bullshit.