Marya Hornbacher: Gender Bias & Sexism in A.A.
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- Join us this Saturday, January 28th, and meet our special guest Marya Hornbacher, who will be discussing gender bias and sexism in Alcoholics Anonymous. Marya is an award-winning journalist and best-selling author. Many of us in the secular recovery community know and love her book "Waiting: A Nonbeliever's Higher Power"
This Saturday, January 28th, at 12:00 PM EST, 11:00 AM CST, 9:00 AM Pacific, and 5:00 PM GMT.
Hey John and Mary, this is a great topic I really appreciate Marya for bringing this issue to the forefront. There are many things that go “unnoticed” or ignored in the rooms, in my little time of sobriety that I’ve noticed. I’m glad this was addressed I know I’m not alone, crazy, or being defiant (as I’m often told when I disagree with something or someone) with my observations.
Marya is brilliant
In my own home group today, we covered the last part of the 12th step and it was so upsetting to hear the part about every little boy wanting to grow up to be president. I feel like a sheep when everytime I hear the gender biases, I don't say anything, I don't change the wording. WORDS are POWERFUL!!! I've got to learn to be TRUE TO MYSELF.
After 30 years of involvement with AA, I walked out over 3 weeks ago. The reasons are numerous. AA is not a bed of mental health and it's apparent to me, the members don't care.
I rarely go now. Not interested in the politics and nonsense. I came to AA to stay sober. not to be held captive by an ideology. I don't do ideologies, because they are all about power. I don't even think about steps any more. What a relief.
@@petemcc152 Good for you. I left the rooms too and now I follow the SMART recovery method.
Thanks for another thoughtful podcast and discussion. I've recently started going to in person AA meetings again and am learning to reconcile what I hold with and what I don't hold with. I go to Eating Disorders Anonymous meetings, I'm a male, there are more women than men and I often find it to be significantly more nurturing than AA, not necessarily because there are more women, but because it is more modern, mental health conscience, and trauma informed. The tough love in AA does not treat eating disorders, recovery requires unconditional love and specialized care. I feel tough love in AA is sometimes invalidating and is not as effective as a more nurturing, unconditional love.
I don't understand why there isn't an offshoot of AA. If people recognize all these issues with AA, why not form an alternative that incorporates similar elements, but is more modernized. Refuge recovery already has an offshoot. People took issue with the original group and started Dharma Recovery which is very similar, but not exactly the same. Why still be AA? Personally, I would love to find a group with a sponsor without all the god stuff and adherence to old AA stuff.
I follow the SMART method. But there are no sponsors there