No contact is the best checkmate. To interact with them will only subject you to more of their abuse and wrath. They will try to provoke you into a confrontation just to get you to respond to them. They are nasty little creatures that bully others to get control.
Freedom is when you don't give a flying fornication what narcs think, as long as you don't have to come into contact with them. Difficult, when you might hoping that "someday, they'll get what they deserve." I'll know I'm completely healed when someone tells me something bad happened to a narc who gave me trouble, and instead of feeling satisfaction, or pity, or a mix of the two, I feel nothing at all. Probably won't ever happen. I'd have to stop being an empath, and according to HG, we can't and shouldn't change.
Excellent. The last time I saw the narc ex husband in court I knew about narcissism (20 years too late …but better than never), I didn‘t look at him. I let my lawyer do everything. I ignored the narc. It wasn‘t easy. I had half a panic attack but knew how to handle it (deep breaths). Afterwards (he won the case of course leaving me with too many bills …🤨) he stormed out of the room and said to my friend who was waiting outside:.“ She never even looked at me. She ignored me.“ And off he went. I haven‘t seen him since (that was 5 years ago). Last month I finally paid the last installment which means I‘m debt free. Freedom is sweet 😊 Thanks for your work HG. It has helped me tremendously.
Excellent advice. I discarded my narcissist partner after being stuck bewildered in the devaluation period for far too long. At the time I acted instinctively, only discovering HG’s body of work several years after putting my own non-contact regimen in place. During disengagement, it was sheer indifference to him on my part that both stunned and terrified him (much to my surprise at the time).
This has been very helpful. I can now consider what terror the Narc might have experienced, when he returned one night, shortly after speaking to me on the phone and finding that I, my dog and a very few personal possessions were utterly gone. There were 5 days of silence of absence and then the police came and arrested him. He’s been in jail ever since.
Not only are they cowards but sickenely immature. I have to agree stringent no contact is far more powerful than trying to get revenge. And yes they do not like the silent for good, no contact treatment. That amazes me since they will readily dish that treatment out for the most stupid of reasons.
With a good lawyer and a perceptive judge I have frightened him. His goal was to make me homeless, penniless, and dependent on his mercy. The judge said NO! My home is safe and his lawyer’s arguments were weak. I can imagine the explosion of fury when he told his family. We are heading into round three in a couple of weeks. If he refuses a reasonable settlement, he could be exposed publicly in a trial.
I'm loving these series of videos - thank you for address the "hot topics" of Narcissism. I hope there are more to come 🙏🏼🛐 Narcissism, empathy, etc., is a lot more complex than most outlets will actually appreciate. There's a lot of click bait out there. Thank you for producing consistently informative and accurate content.
I have done this - discarded and went no contact thus removing his power and control over me together with the residual benefits (mainly money). He’s tried hoovering from new numbers coming back unaccountable, playing the victim. Indignation, then asking me to speak to him please. No fuel here. No response, didn’t even bother blocking the new number /zero supply. I’m gone. His loss.
When the narcissist is kicked to the curb, how long does that effect them? She's with another now, but he can't provide for her in the ways that I did. She tried 4x to hoover, all of which I rejected. When I blocked her (when I learned about NC) she sent a flying monkey, whom I also rejected. I hope all those rejections kicked her in her cold, dead heart. I want her to think of me, I want her to check back to see if she's still blocked. She is.
For a narcissist life turns into a series of inexplicable losses. When young and charming they find another - but the losses accumulate and it gets worse as they get older.
You e still got some emotional thinking going on there- the fact you care what she’s doing & thinking. You keep up that no contact regime for life and try to concentrate on other things. Stay strong ❤
@@GHBHF-i6t Yeah I do.. I am human after all. I don't want to be Mr. Spock. Kidding, I know you wrote this with good intent and it was recieved with good intent.
Being indifferent is the best thing ever happened to me. 😉 My brain said "NO THANKS" 😂 HG, thank you, it's always a pleasure listening to your wise words. 🙏
Just was listening to many of the hundred clips on TH-cam from the wonderful Jaguar Wright Who has been outing p. Diddy and his shenanigans for months now actually years. I just saw one where she said Harry and Meghan have a freak off tape. I don't know how true it is.. but everything this woman has said in the last few months has come true. So we'll see😂
I personally couldn’t say anything like that. I’ll never forget the anger that devolved into desperation where I found my ex resorting to crying, and other times just showing up and then telling me no one could ever love me like he did etc. I suppose that’s hovering? I’m not sure if that’s the right term. He had a poly substance abuse disorder that he had hidden from me also…once I found out I had a lot of compassion which kept me hooked too long as well. Ahhh so glad that is well in my past. The topic is only recently on my mind again after finding HG. I do have a young adult son with my ex and I’m saddened he’s sort of displayed traits like my ex recently 😢
I've frightened mine. I exposed her through costly but necessary legal action. She was refusing to cooperate over a problem with the deeds preventing us from selling our house. She was delighting in holding us prisoner. After two years we are now able to sell our house. We are now able to ignore her and her anima possessed husband. He goes away frequently to get away from her. When he does she closes her curtains before it's dark. She never fully opens them in the daylight. The light is off when usually it's on all evening and she's as quiet as a mouse. Deprived of supply and left alone she has withdrawn. Even in his absence still plenty of bottles smash into the recycling lorry so I suspect she's looking for comfort in the bottom of her wine glass. We'll soon be free of her and her flying monkeys when we will be able to heal completely. We've learned some tough lessons but know now to recognise the narc and not take the bait. We're keeping well out of anyone's dramas and off to lead a peaceful quiet life. Almost there! 🙏
HG, if you haven’t already; could you please explain the difference between a narcissist and a narcissistic psychopath? (&, if one exists, a non-narcissistic psychopath?)
Only once in my life have I witnessed a narcissist being scared. It was when my ex hubby almost died of sepsis. He was terrified. His voice changed and was 4 octaves higher. He literally sounded like a little girl.
@@richlisola1 Thanks but I don't think so. The narcissists are kind only when they necessarily need others then they return to being the super hateful ever. If you have not noticed the narcissists bullshit people, they are of everything around that kind and grateful. Then you are free to believe in fairy tales and bend yourself to their will: "Oh yes, please, mistreat me."
Thanks for this video, Mr HG Tudor. What I noticed, that narcissists and borderline people, are crazy about vampire movies and or series. is that a known thing that is true? best regards
The somatic narcissist will surely be afraid of: 1. Not being able to use a mirror 2. Having wrinkles and/or ingrown toenails 3. Gaining excessive weight 4. Dressing sloppily 4. Not being able to wash with expensive products 5. Not owning a car/motorcycle/boat/helicopter/aircraft fleet/house 6. etc.. The cerebral narcissist will surely be afraid of: 1. Having Alzheimer's 2. Having senile dementia 3. Not owning a library/museum/cinema card 4. Losing the internet connection or having it very slow 5. Having an outdated smartphone/pc/monitor 6. Losing one's sight/voice/identity 7. etc..
Off topic. Why did the algorithmic Gods think Hinge was an ad worthy of my time during this one? They've never run Hinge before. Met a lovely couple and their dogs though.
Tell me HG is there a beautiful face behind the beautiful voice? Just wondering!! Thank you for your insight into narcissism. I had a manager with such traits who made my life hell at work and this went on to impact my health.
The last 5 minutes was ok, but the long first bit was just information that probably wont work and something we probably shouldn't do. Pointless. You could have said what was needed in 5 minutes. By the way, I like most of your stuff, but this was not one of them.
@@richlisola1 Nope, something is only going to cause you amusement or diversion if you are interested in it. If you are completely disinterested in say, maths, you are not going to fiddle with numbers to get your rocks off. make it make sense
@@Betulaaah Imagine you are an artist. You love creating art, you are good at it and it provides you with an excellent source of income - it is your life. Then one year a, not so bright family member gives you an ant farm. You glance at it and watch the little ants scurry about being and doing ant things. You realise that you have to provide food and water for these ants and in fact you have total POWER over their very existence. How much of your time, energy and passion are you going to take away from your love of art to torment and torture these ants simply because you have the power to do so? You would only do so if you cared at all about the ants, about what they were feeling, experiencing and thinking. If you don't care one tot for the ants it would be completely beneath your notice to harm them in anyway (or even to look after them). This goes back to my original question; if a psychopath truly were indifferent to the thoughts, feelings and experiences of us why on earth would they bother to have anything to do with us. Having power over a sack of meaningless stones is, in essence meaningless. Make this make sense. I call bull-poo on it. They say they don't care because of their own fears, damaged thinking, organic injury (brain damage) or environmental causes but if they truly thought us an irrelevance, they wouldn't even bother. Gosh, I know this has been long but I am really trying to have a complex conversation with a keyboard and it is hard.
@@Unknown0ne interesting analogy except the psychopath isn’t a fellow ant, but a fellow human embedded in society large & small, so survival without the equipment to forge ‘normal’ connection, ie be a true member of the ‘tribe’ with material needs etc ie gains extrinsic things from those they engage with, but also factor in the narcissism, & how power over others makes them think of themselves & feel about themselves, ie remember there is still the little child in them as in all of us, who would have realised how different they were, ie their internal feelings about themselves & alienation/isolation from the rest, so ie feel about themselves & ie feel alive, my understanding is they experience a dearth of positive feeling generally, an absence, but they recognise fear in others & the route ie power to create it - also they are still human beings, & in some ways & this is just a hunch, it may be on some deeper level below consciousness their only way to actually ‘connect’ to another human being - feel in relation to them & create a genuine feeling in reverse, opposed to all the make believe ‘feelings’ they pretend to have to fit in as best as they can, & likewise they know the feelings they create in others are equally make believe ie not real, it’s just the other person doesn’t know this until they do , because these people are socialised in the normal matrix we all are, there’s quite a lot of recent literature if you search which indicates their experience of fundamental alienation
No contact is the best checkmate. To interact with them will only subject you to more of their abuse and wrath. They will try to provoke you into a confrontation just to get you to respond to them. They are nasty little creatures that bully others to get control.
Freedom is when you don't give a flying fornication what narcs think, as long as you don't have to come into contact with them.
Difficult, when you might hoping that "someday, they'll get what they deserve."
I'll know I'm completely healed when someone tells me something bad happened to a narc who gave me trouble, and instead of feeling satisfaction, or pity, or a mix of the two, I feel nothing at all.
Probably won't ever happen. I'd have to stop being an empath, and according to HG, we can't and shouldn't change.
Excellent. The last time I saw the narc ex husband in court I knew about narcissism (20 years too late …but better than never), I didn‘t look at him.
I let my lawyer do everything. I ignored the narc. It wasn‘t easy. I had half a panic attack but knew how to handle it (deep breaths).
Afterwards (he won the case of course leaving me with too many bills …🤨) he stormed out of the room and said to my friend who was waiting outside:.“ She never even looked at me. She ignored me.“ And off he went.
I haven‘t seen him since (that was 5 years ago).
Last month I finally paid the last installment which means I‘m debt free. Freedom is sweet 😊
Thanks for your work HG. It has helped me tremendously.
❤ Good for you. Hard going but you’re now free. I hope your days are now happier ❤
@@GHBHF-i6t the peace I have in my life now is heaven on earth 🥂
Give them nothing, only silence.
The power is yours then. Worked for me!
Amazing video H.G. Ty
Isolate and ignore, best thing I can tell you, you can do with any ex........ who is a narcissist. The peace of mind is wonderful.
Hallelujah you are correct in every way possible here, it’s the only way to get peace and feel true peace 💜
Excellent advice. I discarded my narcissist partner after being stuck bewildered in the devaluation period for far too long. At the time I acted instinctively, only discovering HG’s body of work several years after putting my own non-contact regimen in place. During disengagement, it was sheer indifference to him on my part that both stunned and terrified him (much to my surprise at the time).
This has been very helpful. I can now consider what terror the Narc might have experienced, when he returned one night, shortly after speaking to me on the phone and finding that I, my dog and a very few personal possessions were utterly gone. There were 5 days of silence of absence and then the police came and arrested him. He’s been in jail ever since.
That is pretty much robust no contact regime.
Not only are they cowards but sickenely immature.
I have to agree stringent no contact is far more powerful than trying to get revenge.
And yes they do not like the silent for good, no contact treatment.
That amazes me since they will readily dish that treatment out for the most stupid of reasons.
Fine. No repurposing kitchen utensils. And I'll cease surreptitiously tying their shoelaces together.
Or put syrup of figs in their coffee
@@RedSquirrel69 Good suggestion! Wouldn't dream of it.
With a good lawyer and a perceptive judge I have frightened him. His goal was to make me homeless, penniless, and dependent on his mercy. The judge said NO! My home is safe and his lawyer’s arguments were weak. I can imagine the explosion of fury when he told his family. We are heading into round three in a couple of weeks. If he refuses a reasonable settlement, he could be exposed publicly in a trial.
I'm loving these series of videos - thank you for address the "hot topics" of Narcissism. I hope there are more to come 🙏🏼🛐
Narcissism, empathy, etc., is a lot more complex than most outlets will actually appreciate.
There's a lot of click bait out there. Thank you for producing consistently informative and accurate content.
Thank you HG for these wonderful nuggets of information, much more valuable than gold for me!
I have done this - discarded and went no contact thus removing his power and control over me together with the residual benefits (mainly money). He’s tried hoovering from new numbers coming back unaccountable, playing the victim. Indignation, then asking me to speak to him please. No fuel here. No response, didn’t even bother blocking the new number /zero supply. I’m gone. His loss.
💯same. .didn't need to block his number he called on withheld number 🤷🏼♀️😂
@@lisahill8385💪 power to us
@@lisahill8385 Ya, Why would you block? I'm not afraid of anything she says. It's not like one must respond.
When the narcissist is kicked to the curb, how long does that effect them? She's with another now, but he can't provide for her in the ways that I did. She tried 4x to hoover, all of which I rejected. When I blocked her (when I learned about NC) she sent a flying monkey, whom I also rejected. I hope all those rejections kicked her in her cold, dead heart. I want her to think of me, I want her to check back to see if she's still blocked. She is.
For a narcissist life turns into a series of inexplicable losses. When young and charming they find another - but the losses accumulate and it gets worse as they get older.
You e still got some emotional thinking going on there- the fact you care what she’s doing & thinking. You keep up that no contact regime for life and try to concentrate on other things. Stay strong ❤
@@GHBHF-i6t Yeah I do.. I am human after all. I don't want to be Mr. Spock. Kidding, I know you wrote this with good intent and it was recieved with good intent.
Great visuals!
Don’t play with them! 🤐 shhh ! 🤫 stay quiet and far away .
This was a great Video, loved the Visuals. Thankyou HG. ❤️🌻
I’m going to love this one 😂
It was a fun one.
Me too.
Another important video 👍🏼
Great video. Such a good voice to match your videos.!
Being indifferent is the best thing ever happened to me. 😉 My brain said "NO THANKS" 😂
HG, thank you, it's always a pleasure listening to your wise words. 🙏
I LOVED the visuals and accompanying cemetery music! Thanks for your sound advice! 💜
Pretty sure holding a gun at most people will elicit fear. It's the ones who aren't afraid that you need to look out for.
Just was listening to many of the hundred clips on TH-cam from the wonderful Jaguar Wright Who has been outing p. Diddy and his shenanigans for months now actually years.
I just saw one where she said Harry and Meghan have a freak off tape. I don't know how true it is.. but everything this woman has said in the last few months has come true. So we'll see😂
WOW,if that's true, they are done for.
This video was superbly done ! Loved the moving images ! Thank you, HG 💕
I've never seen a Narcissist in fear. Evil minded and outsmarted with everything they do.
Where was this video when I was employed by one? 🤣
Desk supplies in jello. Classic defense!
Well now I don't want to.
Right, I don’t know why anyone would want to seek to truly frighten anyone, unless they have some sort of pathological personality themselves
Best not to
Thanks for the accurate, insightful video HG! ❤❤xx
Dissolve the self, and become nothing. Harmonize your inner-light and merge with the dust.
Just tell em nobody wants them
I personally couldn’t say anything like that. I’ll never forget the anger that devolved into desperation where I found my ex resorting to crying, and other times just showing up and then telling me no one could ever love me like he did etc. I suppose that’s hovering? I’m not sure if that’s the right term. He had a poly substance abuse disorder that he had hidden from me also…once I found out I had a lot of compassion which kept me hooked too long as well. Ahhh so glad that is well in my past. The topic is only recently on my mind again after finding HG. I do have a young adult son with my ex and I’m saddened he’s sort of displayed traits like my ex recently 😢
But that's still fuel, silence is power
I've frightened mine. I exposed her through costly but necessary legal action. She was refusing to cooperate over a problem with the deeds preventing us from selling our house. She was delighting in holding us prisoner. After two years we are now able to sell our house. We are now able to ignore her and her anima possessed husband. He goes away frequently to get away from her. When he does she closes her curtains before it's dark. She never fully opens them in the daylight. The light is off when usually it's on all evening and she's as quiet as a mouse. Deprived of supply and left alone she has withdrawn. Even in his absence still plenty of bottles smash into the recycling lorry so I suspect she's looking for comfort in the bottom of her wine glass. We'll soon be free of her and her flying monkeys when we will be able to heal completely. We've learned some tough lessons but know now to recognise the narc and not take the bait. We're keeping well out of anyone's dramas and off to lead a peaceful quiet life. Almost there! 🙏
Test
I hope your hard fought victory & freedom is sweet. Well done! ❤
HG, if you haven’t already; could you please explain the difference between a narcissist and a narcissistic psychopath? (&, if one exists, a non-narcissistic psychopath?)
Read the Angelia Jolie series- she’s a narc psycopath.
Only once in my life have I witnessed a narcissist being scared. It was when my ex hubby almost died of sepsis. He was terrified. His voice changed and was 4 octaves higher. He literally sounded like a little girl.
Yes, and their voices also start to tremble, it almost seems like they are about to pass away.
@@remembermyname718that’s any frightened person
@@richlisola1
Thanks but I don't think so.
The narcissists are kind only when they necessarily need others then they return to being the super hateful ever. If you have not noticed the narcissists bullshit people, they are of everything around that kind and grateful. Then you are free to believe in fairy tales and bend yourself to their will: "Oh yes, please, mistreat me."
I am listening to this many times today. I am also bundling it up for a subliminal and hypnosis listening after today. Thank you, H.G.!
OM-HG, the video footage is horrendous!! 😮 … but totally on it haha ❤
Exactly I don't threaten or confront.I work surreptitiously Painstaking.
I can't wait!
Police or lawsuits when you got em by the balls. I know.
Interesting! Nice video btw
Thanks for this video, Mr HG Tudor.
What I noticed, that narcissists and borderline people, are crazy about vampire movies and or series.
is that a known thing that is true? best regards
The phycological thriller/drama ..like they are 'picking up tips'..new ideas..of how to do it better!!
Anyone that watches TV a great deal of time is red flag in my world.
Hello Lovely H.G.💫
The somatic narcissist will surely be afraid of:
1. Not being able to use a mirror
2. Having wrinkles and/or ingrown toenails
3. Gaining excessive weight
4. Dressing sloppily
4. Not being able to wash with expensive products
5. Not owning a car/motorcycle/boat/helicopter/aircraft fleet/house
6. etc..
The cerebral narcissist will surely be afraid of:
1. Having Alzheimer's
2. Having senile dementia
3. Not owning a library/museum/cinema card
4. Losing the internet connection or having it very slow
5. Having an outdated smartphone/pc/monitor
6. Losing one's sight/voice/identity
7. etc..
Nice early Halloween footage, HG.
🏴🏴🏴🏴
Hello Scotland.
You are a sociopath telling us how to scare those like you.. awesome!!
How do you do that when you are retired, have no means and are totally dependent on the narcissist?
Off topic. Why did the algorithmic Gods think Hinge was an ad worthy of my time during this one? They've never run Hinge before. Met a lovely couple and their dogs though.
Tell me HG is there a beautiful face behind the beautiful voice? Just wondering!! Thank you for your insight into narcissism. I had a manager with such traits who made my life hell at work and this went on to impact my health.
You should know his answer already: he's the handsomest guy on the planet according to him.
Hazy woodpaths near the cemetery. Yes please
What is the biggest fear for a narsisist? To be exposed or ignored?
Both!
Exposed
Pressure them into taking mushrooms. They were a disaster.
The last 5 minutes was ok, but the long first bit was just information that probably wont work and something we probably shouldn't do. Pointless. You could have said what was needed in 5 minutes. By the way, I like most of your stuff, but this was not one of them.
If a psychopath doesn't care about others suffering why do they bother to cause it?
They get bored
@@richlisola1 Nope, something is only going to cause you amusement or diversion if you are interested in it. If you are completely disinterested in say, maths, you are not going to fiddle with numbers to get your rocks off. make it make sense
Power
@@Betulaaah Imagine you are an artist. You love creating art, you are good at it and it provides you with an excellent source of income - it is your life. Then one year a, not so bright family member gives you an ant farm. You glance at it and watch the little ants scurry about being and doing ant things. You realise that you have to provide food and water for these ants and in fact you have total POWER over their very existence. How much of your time, energy and passion are you going to take away from your love of art to torment and torture these ants simply because you have the power to do so? You would only do so if you cared at all about the ants, about what they were feeling, experiencing and thinking. If you don't care one tot for the ants it would be completely beneath your notice to harm them in anyway (or even to look after them). This goes back to my original question; if a psychopath truly were indifferent to the thoughts, feelings and experiences of us why on earth would they bother to have anything to do with us. Having power over a sack of meaningless stones is, in essence meaningless. Make this make sense. I call bull-poo on it. They say they don't care because of their own fears, damaged thinking, organic injury (brain damage) or environmental causes but if they truly thought us an irrelevance, they wouldn't even bother. Gosh, I know this has been long but I am really trying to have a complex conversation with a keyboard and it is hard.
@@Unknown0ne interesting analogy except the psychopath isn’t a fellow ant, but a fellow human embedded in society large & small, so survival without the equipment to forge ‘normal’ connection, ie be a true member of the ‘tribe’ with material needs etc ie gains extrinsic things from those they engage with, but also factor in the narcissism, & how power over others makes them think of themselves & feel about themselves, ie remember there is still the little child in them as in all of us, who would have realised how different they were, ie their internal feelings about themselves & alienation/isolation from the rest, so ie feel about themselves & ie feel alive, my understanding is they experience a dearth of positive feeling generally, an absence, but they recognise fear in others & the route ie power to create it - also they are still human beings, & in some ways & this is just a hunch, it may be on some deeper level below consciousness their only way to actually ‘connect’ to another human being - feel in relation to them & create a genuine feeling in reverse, opposed to all the make believe ‘feelings’ they pretend to have to fit in as best as they can, & likewise they know the feelings they create in others are equally make believe ie not real, it’s just the other person doesn’t know this until they do , because these people are socialised in the normal matrix we all are, there’s quite a lot of recent literature if you search which indicates their experience of fundamental alienation
Why is it that you STILL cannot pronounce regimen correctly????? I corrected you on this years ago....🙄🙄🙄
Who cares ?
@@AlessandroMoreschi-i5q Everyone except the lowlifes like you...
GOSO. Drama cannot survive without your participation. Ty HG.