I love these tips, even maby adults can use them. I went undiagnosed for ASD for 30 years, trying to adapt to eye contact myself and helping my more severe child do so- Some tips that may or may not work; Glancing up at least, to look at someone's face while they are talking, and the idea that they can look at someone's head/another "visual target" instead of eyes. We just started asking about favorite and least favorite things for the weekend. It didn't even cross my mind to ask everyday. 🥺 We ask them what they would like doing the same/again, and what they would like to do differently. (For our special needs age 11 this is still a struggle but he's talking a lot more!) Self-regulation is so vital! That and boundaries. I have looked into CBT and DBT methods for various issues, it's helped teach me how to teach them those things. And of course the Bible has those lessons! ❤ I'll definitely be looking into the book mentioned here.
We have a friend issue. They all moved! We can make friends but they have moved. There were literally 10 kids in the neighborhood and they ALL moved to different states. All military families. None moved in 🤦♀️. My younger daughter can slip into any situation and be happy. My other daughter not so much She’s 15 and we haven’t gotten her a cell phone. We all want them to have more friends There are almost no homeschooling families in our age group. Struggling now. We go to church and she doesn’t want to be in the youth group. She’s a quiet girl and VERY intelligent. Very much like my husband. Idk. Guess I’m venting now lol
Great information! We homeschool but I have a family member who thinks homeschooling should be illegal and her main reason is "socialization". She is the most poorly socialized person I know so it's comical 😂
I myself am working on emotional regulation and my youngest struggles with impulse control & emotional regulation. Thank you so much for the tips. It's a catch 22 trying to teach a child who struggles when I also have the same problem. I've definitely improved but still have a ways to go.
It's definitely a unique struggle. My child was non verbal for a long time. He's talking more often as he gets older, especially with homeschool. We have had to find many AAC options but he prefers to talk when/if he wants to. I feel guilty because I don't wanna talk "for him"...but most kids give up on him (for friendship) when he won't keep talking or they can't understand him. But we both have autism and I struggle with social situations, I get very exhausted after even an hour or two of positive interaction with new people. That's if I am not struggling with physical problems. Recognizing my own natural challenges, being gentle with myself but also pushing myself enough and my children. My family also loved to "stop crying- [don't be sad/mad]..." like WHAT? Lol But it's easy to say that accidentally when I didn't think anything was u healthy about that until I was a tired parent starting to recognize it didn't feel right. But we can definitely be the end of the toxic cycles we have experienced and start new ones! My husband and I were able to do much better with Christ! Once we accepted salvation. ❤ I love your screen name. Thank you for reading. 🕊️ God puts before us what we can handle to get stronger and to learn to love better. ❤ Odd side note: remember using "the rod" with children likely means guiding and leading them...not beating them. Lol 😆 Many people get that wrong. The rod was used to guide and lead the sheep. Make sure you pray for your own guidance 🙏🙂❤
And "the Happy Child" is a decent app to repair and build good relationships with our kids. I felt a bit annoyed by the presentation method initially but now I am very grateful for it! I revisit it ever-so-often to refresh my knowledge. It's helped us quite a bit!
Truth vs feelings 🙌🏻 Hallelujah. Again I love this!
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I’ve seen adults at church who can’t listen, I keep reminding my kids to listen!!! We are working on all of these!!!
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I love these tips, even maby adults can use them.
I went undiagnosed for ASD for 30 years, trying to adapt to eye contact myself and helping my more severe child do so- Some tips that may or may not work;
Glancing up at least, to look at someone's face while they are talking, and the idea that they can look at someone's head/another "visual target" instead of eyes.
We just started asking about favorite and least favorite things for the weekend. It didn't even cross my mind to ask everyday. 🥺 We ask them what they would like doing the same/again, and what they would like to do differently. (For our special needs age 11 this is still a struggle but he's talking a lot more!)
Self-regulation is so vital! That and boundaries. I have looked into CBT and DBT methods for various issues, it's helped teach me how to teach them those things. And of course the Bible has those lessons! ❤ I'll definitely be looking into the book mentioned here.
Glad this was helpful
Thanks so much! Working on all! Plus manners. Didn’t realize since we home school how bad their eating rude was.
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I’d love to hear more about your calm down space and ideas ❤
Will do
We have a friend issue. They all moved! We can make friends but they have moved. There were literally 10 kids in the neighborhood and they ALL moved to different states. All military families. None moved in 🤦♀️. My younger daughter can slip into any situation and be happy. My other daughter not so much She’s 15 and we haven’t gotten her a cell phone. We all want them to have more friends There are almost no homeschooling families in our age group. Struggling now. We go to church and she doesn’t want to be in the youth group. She’s a quiet girl and VERY intelligent. Very much like my husband. Idk. Guess I’m venting now lol
Feel free to vent anytime
Great information! We homeschool but I have a family member who thinks homeschooling should be illegal and her main reason is "socialization". She is the most poorly socialized person I know so it's comical 😂
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I myself am working on emotional regulation and my youngest struggles with impulse control & emotional regulation. Thank you so much for the tips. It's a catch 22 trying to teach a child who struggles when I also have the same problem. I've definitely improved but still have a ways to go.
It's definitely a unique struggle. My child was non verbal for a long time. He's talking more often as he gets older, especially with homeschool. We have had to find many AAC options but he prefers to talk when/if he wants to. I feel guilty because I don't wanna talk "for him"...but most kids give up on him (for friendship) when he won't keep talking or they can't understand him.
But we both have autism and I struggle with social situations, I get very exhausted after even an hour or two of positive interaction with new people. That's if I am not struggling with physical problems.
Recognizing my own natural challenges, being gentle with myself but also pushing myself enough and my children.
My family also loved to "stop crying- [don't be sad/mad]..." like WHAT? Lol
But it's easy to say that accidentally when I didn't think anything was u healthy about that until I was a tired parent starting to recognize it didn't feel right. But we can definitely be the end of the toxic cycles we have experienced and start new ones! My husband and I were able to do much better with Christ! Once we accepted salvation. ❤ I love your screen name. Thank you for reading. 🕊️ God puts before us what we can handle to get stronger and to learn to love better. ❤
Odd side note: remember using "the rod" with children likely means guiding and leading them...not beating them. Lol 😆 Many people get that wrong. The rod was used to guide and lead the sheep. Make sure you pray for your own guidance 🙏🙂❤
And "the Happy Child" is a decent app to repair and build good relationships with our kids. I felt a bit annoyed by the presentation method initially but now I am very grateful for it! I revisit it ever-so-often to refresh my knowledge. It's helped us quite a bit!
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Love this!
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