"Yeah but you don't understand he's just one of these engineering types, and he's not really emotional..." As a mechanical engineering major who quite often expresses too much emotion, I can tell you that a systematic, problem-solving mindset and strong emotions are by no means mutually exclusive.
Having been married 5 years I can tell you by my own experience that this man speaks truth! I would also add to it by saying that having children also has the intention of crushing ones ego more. You have to put yourself second, then third, then fourth and on it goes while you dont get a proper nights sleep for weeks at a time.. I love it:-)
Brother, the whole point of this sermon in christ is that there is no "The one", there is only the one God has given you. Viewing marriage as a task in finding "the one" makes it impossible to submit to the will of God that tells men to love and lead your wife. There is no the one because no female will ever fit you perfectly, why? because she's not perfect. Marriage is not about happiness nor perfection, its about submitting to God's will & that is for her to submit and you to lead.
What if you can’t trust his judgement to lead…so you can’t submit? I want to submit to a man I can trust but I this relationship I don’t have the trust to allow him to lead. He isn’t a strong leader
Wish I heard this 5 years ago. Now I'm married to what feels like the wrong guy. We have been married 4 years with 2 kids. And now I don't know what to do but pray that the Lord keeps my kids in His hands
Dear Rachel, Jesus transforms life. Truly! Be faithful to Him and He will make a way. He may transform your marriage that you cannot imagine now that you may testify about how great He is. Go deep with the Bible, be a good wife, disciover Jesus and He will make a way. Your children are blessed. There is always hope becouse Jesus is Lord!
Yes!! This sermon confirms God's leading in breaking up with my ex-boyfriend. I learned: Be strong enough to let go and strong enough for what for what you deserve :)
Love this! It is so applicable to married or single people. In my life there have been plenty of people that either married because of graeco-roman love, convenience, or complacency. Only one has really lasted, and that's because they gained the wisdom of the Lord and started giving each other true, Biblical love. The ways of the LORD are the best! Of course :-D
I’m so grateful God had it written that I discover this at my age.. Just straight using looks and charisma to please my fleshly desires without a thought of what would happen if I die. So grateful and thankful man
Educational and entertaining, LOL! I can listen to this over and over again, and still learn something new each time. So powerful, so truth. Jesus is Lord! Glory be to God.
I think you should see his first video. I do not think there is anything as perfect timing. Either your bf has got it or he hasn't. If you find him meeting criteria for marriage in right way, then go for it :)
True...as are men's unfortunately. Had to learn that the hard way after my brother's first ever girlfriend dumped him. The degree of suffering he went through really made me scared of even trying to get into any type of serious relationship in the future. We'll have to wwait and see, and have faith.
Hello @Jay yang Would you be able to make the videos (part 1 to part 4) available for community contribution? I would like to add the translations for Romanian to be able to have some more friends listen to these wonderful messages! Thank you!
I have only issue with what Voddie said: If there indeed is no "the one," then basically any woman you happen to marry is just as good as any other one. They're all equal, no matter what. If that's true, what is so unique about your wife? How can you say you love her specifically over other women? JUst because she happens to be your spouse? There has to be something more profound than that.
Definitely get where you're coming from, but that's not what Voddie is saying, or else that would contradict him giving God the list of what he wanted in his wife, "and a bag of chips". That's also exactly what Abraham did when he gave his servant the list for Isaac's wife. The point is it's not about finding "the one" as the world means it (a perfectly perfect being who you'll always be perfect with), but finding the one God has for you, who falls within your Godly desires for a woman.
That's because you are still saying there is a magical one! Love doesn't look for a "better option". You WILL marry a imperfect person. And you stick with that person no matter what! Plus you date someone before you marry her, so technically you do "try on the shirt." (This is not a mean tone by the way, promise!)
What if its a great guy but you don't have the emotion anymore and other things don't feel right. I know I shouldn't just be led by emotion but I am not satisfied. But I don't want to follow my emotions (if they are coming from an ungodly place) and loose something good because I am not able to discern between my emotions and God's will. I also know God doesn't lead us to confusion but trying to discern if they're the one is hard.
Why doesn't this video work? I've tried to watch it a few times and it's saying it's not available, is there a reason? I got so caught up in the first one and now I want to see the second one lol.
Lol, no need to apologize; I wasn't confusing your disagreement with any type of hostility ;) if you don't exclude dating, then yeah, you do have a point. I'm still weary of the prospect of only dating one woman, though :( since--to use the shopping analogy again--if you marry the first woman you date, without having experience with multiple partners, it's like buying the first house you see without going "house hunting" prior.
Yeah I see where you are coming from! But there is a way to be a girl's friend without leading them on but getting to know them really well! It's exceptionally hard to do without hinting at something else, but it can be done. And then you can decide if you wish to go into a dating relationship! That isn't to say you can only date one girl! Sometimes you get into things and realize, that it is not a healthy relationship. But just be careful! Girl's hearts are very fragile and precious!
Right, but the one God has given you IS the one. Otherwise, if you believe your wife isn't unique because you just happened to marry her and not another woman, she loses her appeal.
The children are not hated. Irresponsible reproduction choices of the adults is hated. And expecting The church to pay the Tab of raising the children the Adults know they cannot afford.
I went to a church where the Pastor said "You know what I hate? Hearing kids crying and distracting others in the service. We have a nursery for kids." What a horrible attitude. We taught our toddlers to sit in church with us. They can draw or whatever but if they are too young for Sunday School they can sit in the main service if a parent wants.
I agree, but there are parents that allow their children to act a fool. They are the reason, my church is good with kids, but the ask the parents to Respect others and if their kids are obnoxious then mom or dad needs to take the child out for a discussion-time out.
Loving the messages that come from Pastor V. Me and boyfriend are watching the whole series. We figure that we desire to get married but we are willing to wait for Gods Perfect timing
so. can anyone help me out here. i understand what Voddie is saying. i really do, and i love these sermons, but then how do you pick a certain spouse? if it's just to submit to Gods will (im fine with that) then how do you go about picking a spouse? if you don't have feelings for him, should you marry him anyway because he's a christian? :/ been struggling with this question for a while. i don't think you need feelings to have a BIBLICAL marriage, but is it ok to want to have feelings for you husband? is that ungodly?
Olyvia iozzi I would guess that he certainly had feelings for his wife before marriage...the feelings aren't a bad thing, but marriage shouldn't be because you have feelings. If feelings is the glue for what's holding your relationship then it isn't a strong glue.
So I'll know they're the right one for me after I've already married? That's like saying that you'll find out if a given article of clothing you purchase is the right size only after you purchase it. I'm sorry, but I don't see how that makes sense.
I admire this man. Him and John MacArthur are my favorite. But regarding to his statement about the unbelievers, I also read in the bible: “But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.” 1 Corinthians 7:12-17 KJV Now I’m really confused.
These verses likely are for those who where already married to an unbeliever when Paul wrote this book. It is also likely for those who became a Christian after they where already married, and might think they now have to divorce there partner, because they are unequally yoked ( one a believer, the other not). Paul is telling them that if the non believer consents to remain married, then they shall remain married and God(vs.14) will make the unbeliever and their children holy. This holy doesn't refer to salvation because then they wouldn't be called an unbeliever. Instead it means the unsaved partner and children are set apart for temporal blessings because the believer belongs to God. (John MacArthur) Verses 15-16 are for those that think forcing an unbeliever to stay married is ok because they can evangelize or bring the non believer to believe in Christ. Though it is possible, it is not promised. Forcing an unbeliever to stay could also cause problems in the home and would be better for the family if they were separated. Forgive me if this is alot, but John MacArthur had alot to say about this😁
I'm 15 about to turn 16 and I'm glad I heard this before entering my 20s. Better sooner than later.
Absolutely. I wish I had all of this knowledge at your age. Praying for you younguns to be blessed. ❤
Amen brodda
I'm 26 I wish I was there
How has this affected your life now at 20/21?
We need a 21 year old update!
I can't count the number of times I've watched this. I hope my futer wife is somewhere listening to truths like these
I wish my wife would listen to this series with me. We are separated right now, and it is killing me. Keep us in prayer.
Sorry to hear , saint. Sending prayers your way.
Praying for you
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This was a year ago. Are y'all back together?
Prayers are out brother God has a plan.
"Yeah but you don't understand he's just one of these engineering types, and he's not really emotional..."
As a mechanical engineering major who quite often expresses too much emotion, I can tell you that a systematic, problem-solving mindset and strong emotions are by no means mutually exclusive.
Having been married 5 years I can tell you by my own experience that this man speaks truth! I would also add to it by saying that having children also has the intention of crushing ones ego more. You have to put yourself second, then third, then fourth and on it goes while you dont get a proper nights sleep for weeks at a time.. I love it:-)
This guy is my second favorite next to John Macarthur. Wonderful!
Brother, the whole point of this sermon in christ is that there is no "The one", there is only the one God has given you. Viewing marriage as a task in finding "the one" makes it impossible to submit to the will of God that tells men to love and lead your wife. There is no the one because no female will ever fit you perfectly, why? because she's not perfect. Marriage is not about happiness nor perfection, its about submitting to God's will & that is for her to submit and you to lead.
Great point...PREACH IT PREACHA! lol
Hey! I love ur channel 💜
So so good!
Amen
What if you can’t trust his judgement to lead…so you can’t submit? I want to submit to a man I can trust but I this relationship I don’t have the trust to allow him to lead. He isn’t a strong leader
Wish I heard this 5 years ago. Now I'm married to what feels like the wrong guy. We have been married 4 years with 2 kids. And now I don't know what to do but pray that the Lord keeps my kids in His hands
Dear Rachel, Jesus transforms life. Truly! Be faithful to Him and He will make a way. He may transform your marriage that you cannot imagine now that you may testify about how great He is.
Go deep with the Bible, be a good wife, disciover Jesus and He will make a way. Your children are blessed. There is always hope becouse Jesus is Lord!
Was it always like that though? What about when you guys met in the beginning?
Glory be to God! So thankful for this teaching. May God bless anyone reading this.
Jesus doesn't love the church because she's fine haha so true TY Jesus!
I have this sermon on CD. It's outstanding.
hi, do you know where i can buy it?
Yes!! This sermon confirms God's leading in breaking up with my ex-boyfriend. I learned: Be strong enough to let go and strong enough for what for what you deserve :)
Love this! It is so applicable to married or single people. In my life there have been plenty of people that either married because of graeco-roman love, convenience, or complacency. Only one has really lasted, and that's because they gained the wisdom of the Lord and started giving each other true, Biblical love. The ways of the LORD are the best! Of course :-D
I’m so grateful God had it written that I discover this at my age.. Just straight using looks and charisma to please my fleshly desires without a thought of what would happen if I die. So grateful and thankful man
53 and a struggle, but the downs make the ups better
Thank you Voddie, that woke me up.
Educational and entertaining, LOL!
I can listen to this over and over again, and still learn something new each time. So powerful, so truth. Jesus is Lord! Glory be to God.
Amen! Amen! Amen! This is so true! If only we would to look to God for the answers instead of the culture.
Matt Chandler says that you will know they're "the one" when you marry them. That is what makes them special.
You need to know before you say "I DO", because there are different kinds of special.
So who thumps down? God help them.
Ouch.. I needed this so much
"Jesus does Not love the church because she is fine"
Me: Yep, The church ain't fine He had to CLEANSE His church with His Blood.
Amen!
Choosing a biblical love, who is worthy for taking a wife.
I think you should see his first video. I do not think there is anything as perfect timing. Either your bf has got it or he hasn't. If you find him meeting criteria for marriage in right way, then go for it :)
True...as are men's unfortunately. Had to learn that the hard way after my brother's first ever girlfriend dumped him. The degree of suffering he went through really made me scared of even trying to get into any type of serious relationship in the future.
We'll have to wwait and see, and have faith.
How's it going now?
Amen Pastor!
Hello @Jay yang
Would you be able to make the videos (part 1 to part 4) available for community contribution?
I would like to add the translations for Romanian to be able to have some more friends listen to these wonderful messages!
Thank you!
I wish to ti the same for Polish language. People need to know this wisdom!
Such beautiful intentions 🥺
Biblical Love 28:09 ❤
I have only issue with what Voddie said: If there indeed is no "the one," then basically any woman you happen to marry is just as good as any other one. They're all equal, no matter what. If that's true, what is so unique about your wife? How can you say you love her specifically over other women? JUst because she happens to be your spouse? There has to be something more profound than that.
Definitely get where you're coming from, but that's not what Voddie is saying, or else that would contradict him giving God the list of what he wanted in his wife, "and a bag of chips". That's also exactly what Abraham did when he gave his servant the list for Isaac's wife.
The point is it's not about finding "the one" as the world means it (a perfectly perfect being who you'll always be perfect with), but finding the one God has for you, who falls within your Godly desires for a woman.
Amen
41:04 Accompanied by emotion! ❤
That's because you are still saying there is a magical one! Love doesn't look for a "better option". You WILL marry a imperfect person. And you stick with that person no matter what! Plus you date someone before you marry her, so technically you do "try on the shirt." (This is not a mean tone by the way, promise!)
What if its a great guy but you don't have the emotion anymore and other things don't feel right. I know I shouldn't just be led by emotion but I am not satisfied. But I don't want to follow my emotions (if they are coming from an ungodly place) and loose something good because I am not able to discern between my emotions and God's will. I also know God doesn't lead us to confusion but trying to discern if they're the one is hard.
I'm happy for you Diana;) this happened to me as well.. ;)
The Struggle was and is .......real, This is what I require @40
Why doesn't this video work? I've tried to watch it a few times and it's saying it's not available, is there a reason? I got so caught up in the first one and now I want to see the second one lol.
Lol, no need to apologize; I wasn't confusing your disagreement with any type of hostility ;)
if you don't exclude dating, then yeah, you do have a point. I'm still weary of the prospect of only dating one woman, though :(
since--to use the shopping analogy again--if you marry the first woman you date, without having experience with multiple partners, it's like buying the first house you see without going "house hunting" prior.
This is a great message. I have a question, what comes first according to the bible between love & marriage?
Marriage
Yeah I see where you are coming from! But there is a way to be a girl's friend without leading them on but getting to know them really well! It's exceptionally hard to do without hinting at something else, but it can be done. And then you can decide if you wish to go into a dating relationship! That isn't to say you can only date one girl! Sometimes you get into things and realize, that it is not a healthy relationship. But just be careful! Girl's hearts are very fragile and precious!
00:37 starts
Right, but the one God has given you IS the one. Otherwise, if you believe your wife isn't unique because you just happened to marry her and not another woman, she loses her appeal.
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The children are not hated. Irresponsible reproduction choices of the adults is hated. And expecting The church to pay the Tab of raising the children the Adults know they cannot afford.
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most men in this day n age 2023 are NOT the head the women are lol
Been married 37 years. Love my man even when I don’t feel like it. Why? Because he is my gift from God and I’m determined to treasure him.
That’s so sweet. I’m still trying to figure out who sent mine
@@Dadoux869 lol
I went to a church where the Pastor said "You know what I hate? Hearing kids crying and distracting others in the service. We have a nursery for kids." What a horrible attitude. We taught our toddlers to sit in church with us. They can draw or whatever but if they are too young for Sunday School they can sit in the main service if a parent wants.
I agree, but there are parents that allow their children to act a fool. They are the reason, my church is good with kids, but the ask the parents to Respect others and if their kids are obnoxious then mom or dad needs to take the child out for a discussion-time out.
And it's 2022 and still the truth PREVAILS !
He is right. Wish I heard this years ago.
Amazing sermon. Thanks for posting this :-)
Loving the messages that come from Pastor V. Me and boyfriend are watching the whole series. We figure that we desire to get married but we are willing to wait for Gods Perfect timing
How are y’all?
Amazing, factual and enlightening message. I wish this brother was preaching to me before I got married.
love&marriage pt.1 Voddie Baucham
35:14....LOL
so. can anyone help me out here. i understand what Voddie is saying. i really do, and i love these sermons, but then how do you pick a certain spouse? if it's just to submit to Gods will (im fine with that) then how do you go about picking a spouse? if you don't have feelings for him, should you marry him anyway because he's a christian? :/ been struggling with this question for a while. i don't think you need feelings to have a BIBLICAL marriage, but is it ok to want to have feelings for you husband? is that ungodly?
Olyvia iozzi I would guess that he certainly had feelings for his wife before marriage...the feelings aren't a bad thing, but marriage shouldn't be because you have feelings. If feelings is the glue for what's holding your relationship then it isn't a strong glue.
Olyvia iozzi Go to the end of the sermon, he totally has feelings for his wife. John Piper has a good explanation on that on his channel as well.
Part one of this sermon series he talks about the feelings. Highly recommend it :)
His homecoming picture was adorable.
Note 14:40 - 26:10
So I'll know they're the right one for me after I've already married? That's like saying that you'll find out if a given article of clothing you purchase is the right size only after you purchase it.
I'm sorry, but I don't see how that makes sense.
First of all, *_don't_* treat a marriage partner as just some article of clothing, 'cause they're not.
I admire this man. Him and John MacArthur are my favorite. But regarding to his statement about the unbelievers, I also read in the bible:
“But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.”
1 Corinthians 7:12-17 KJV
Now I’m really confused.
These verses likely are for those who where already married to an unbeliever when Paul wrote this book. It is also likely for those who became a Christian after they where already married, and might think they now have to divorce there partner, because they are unequally yoked ( one a believer, the other not). Paul is telling them that if the non believer consents to remain married, then they shall remain married and God(vs.14) will make the unbeliever and their children holy. This holy doesn't refer to salvation because then they wouldn't be called an unbeliever. Instead it means the unsaved partner and children are set apart for temporal blessings because the believer belongs to God. (John MacArthur)
Verses 15-16 are for those that think forcing an unbeliever to stay married is ok because they can evangelize or bring the non believer to believe in Christ. Though it is possible, it is not promised. Forcing an unbeliever to stay could also cause problems in the home and would be better for the family if they were separated.
Forgive me if this is alot, but John MacArthur had alot to say about this😁
Gelli Danielle
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