How Games Help Me Cope With Grief

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  • @TechDweeb
    @TechDweeb 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    That is truly touching and you captured the sentiment perfectly. Your brother sounds like an awesome guy. I'm sure he would be proud to see this.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you very much. I didn't cover it here, but will in a future one -- he was a great, FUNNY person. I think you would've liked his sense of humor. Also, I wanted to say thank you for having me in the community you've built. I joined not much longer after my brother's passing and it's really been a strong daily source of positivity in my life. YOU are a great guy too.

    • @espelhodasconstelacoes
      @espelhodasconstelacoes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humblemudgames God bless ya and Jesus loves ya, man :)

  • @nsnprotea2127
    @nsnprotea2127 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    My condolences for your loss.
    Truly touching video, btw. It’s interesting how games with their nonlinearity feel like places, while movies and books more like people. I don’t know if I described that right, but as this video pointed out, in games you can just exist, while a movie or a book needs something always happening.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think you described that perfectly. A game can feel like a place, while movies and books feel like people. I like that. This kind of thing is truthfully something I never realized until I went through all of this.

  • @GameTechTalk
    @GameTechTalk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    This video hits different. I lost my Mother unexpectedly within the span of a week. It is after losing her that I decided to do a full 180 and find solace in TH-cam. I have hidden Easter eggs in some of my videos that hold memories of her. I salute your ability to keep your brother’s memory alive the way you have, and I appreciate you for sharing something so personal with us. Thank you.

    • @Sadtiric
      @Sadtiric 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I'm sorry, man. 💚

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Man... My Mom is the strongest woman I know and the only reason I'm the person that I am. I can't imagine. I'm sorry. But I'm so glad you've been finding comfort in TH-cam, it's been saving me as well. My experiences with my brother permeate basically every single video I've ever made -- every game I've talked about and likely will talk about I can relate back to him in some way. I also did some Easter eggs in this video as well ... the reason I was doing some speedrun tricks in Mario 64 was not because I was trying to show off, but because he was an aspiring Mario 64 speedrunner. So I learned tricks like the caged star skip in Whomp's Fortress and documented it in this video.

    • @espelhodasconstelacoes
      @espelhodasconstelacoes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God bless yaa and Jesus loves ya man, there is hope and brighter days ahead

    • @Tamed_Delirium
      @Tamed_Delirium 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      godspeed friend, I hope you're doing alright. I'm sure she was a wonderful woman. I lost my mentor when i was younger and she was like a mother to me, not the same thing ik, but i sort of understand your pain

  • @SimonStevens87
    @SimonStevens87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you for this, it's been 11 years since my dad died, every year I play games that remind me of him, as you say, places we used to go to have since boarded up or changed but the games we played together on our psps remain the same, it's something that nothing else can replicate.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My condolences; my father passed away in 2014 so we're actually in a pretty similar boat there. Every time I boot up Einhander, Galaga, or Namco Museum I think about him too. For him to play games with you like that, he must've been a good dad.

  • @wangchung2157
    @wangchung2157 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Sorry for your loss it never gets easier but time will heal some of that wound. Just lost my grandpa last year in november and its hard to even look at my snes but ive fired it up a few times. My grandpa literally got me into gaming at 3 years old I remember playing DKC 2 at launch sitting in his room with him. I always say gaming is the only true passion I have and this year its proven true and helped understand my grandpas passing. I hope with enough time and games you can heal too. Game on brother

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so glad you've learned some things about loss playing games, as difficult as returning to some of them may be. Our first console was an SNES so there are a lot of memories there for me as well. I'm sorry about your grandpa, it sounds like he was a great man who loved to connect with grandkid.

  • @HellYeahGaming
    @HellYeahGaming 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This is a beautiful tribute. By the sound of it your brother would be incredibly proud. I’m happy for you.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I hope so, thank you. I'd have loved to get him on a video of mine. He'd have been nervous but I bet he would've had some awesome talking points and ideas. He was the quiet type who wouldn't say much but when he DID talk, he'd say the funniest thing of the night. He was very inquisitive and observant.

  • @3challengersam
    @3challengersam 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    this was such a beautiful video. it really is amazing what video games can do for us.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much -- I absolutely agree. They can really be life-changing.

  • @magkeig
    @magkeig 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Sending love to you man. This will probably be the most difficult thing you ever will face in life and you created a beautiful tribute that helped us know your brother and be appreciative for our relationships.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I really appreciate the kind words. I have a lot more videos that I plan to put out about him specifically and have so many memories to share. 💜

  • @PKInTheUniverse
    @PKInTheUniverse 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I'm so sorry for your loss, friend. I lost someone back in June close to me. It's so painful. We truly are blessed in this world to have video games, because of the way they can help us process our grief. Thank you for making this video.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you, brother. I'm sorry for your loss. I appreciate you and your support. I can't wait to watch your Wii Mini video! Today was a heavy day but I'm going to watch it with coffee tomorrow morning :)

  • @trubyproctor3862
    @trubyproctor3862 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Seeing rune scape took me back and so did Spyro

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He played the heck out of those, classics for sure!!

  • @beefchief8932
    @beefchief8932 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My brother and I are the same ages as you two. In my case, I’m the younger brother. I grew up happily spectating him conquer games like Zelda (WW, TP), Mario sunshine, Sly Cooper 2, Star Wars Force Unleashed, Batman Arkham Asylum, Just Cause 2.
    While my brother and I are only separated by a day of travel, I know it’s not the same. But I 100% feel his presence when I play these games.
    Mother 3 is by far my favorite game and sparked my game dev hobby. I hope he knows that if anything were to happen to me, a piece of me will still be in the Nowhere Islands.
    Thank you so much for making this video. I cried

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm so glad this video touched you; perhaps your brother should watch it too and it'll inspire you guys to catch up and make some new plans if it hasn't already.
      Those are some really good games! We really connected via Mario 64, Timesplitters 2, RuneScape, and Pokemon Ruby/Sapphire as you probably saw in this video, but we also have a lot of memories with Halo, Gears of War, and a bunch of Nintendo 64 games as well. I plan to talk about those in another video.
      I see my brother just about everywhere now, in ways I never thought of before, even though now it feels like it was in front of my face this whole time. I really do love him and I'm thankful that was one of the last things I was able to tell him.

  • @Sadtiric
    @Sadtiric 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I just had to watch this again after sending it to my brother. My memories with mine will forever be tied to DK64, Banjo Kazooie, Tony Hawk Pro Skater, Pokémon Stadium, and Smash 64, amongst many others like Jak and Daxter and Modern Warfare 3. The reason I bring this up, and why I'm crying while writing this, is because I shouldn't be alive, due to barely escaping Stage 4 cancer, and my little brother has MS. I know there will be a day in the future, that'll inevitably be too soon, that one of us will be without the other. We don't get time together much these days, but when we do, it's generally to game for a bit. Often reliving some of the classics on NSO. I'm glad I came back for a second watch as your touching video helped me process all this and be more grateful for the times we've had growing up playing games together. Again, I'm proud of you for making this and thank you. 💚

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Make sure you tell your brother you love him. I'm so sorry for everything you guys have dealt with and I hope you all get to have some more quality time together. For us the Nintendo 64 was huge as well, and the Xbox 360 was super important for us too. We never got to play together on the Switch but I have his Nintendo Switch now and looking through his screenshots and play history, I feel like I've been learning new little bits about him. Make more memories with your brother.

    • @Sadtiric
      @Sadtiric 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @humblemudgames Yeah, I plan to. He moved away for the next few months, but we will. I remember when my wife's brother passed a few years back, we ended up learning a lot about him going through some of his old games and saves. I found a copy of Pokémon Gold with a battery he soldered himself and a save file with all his mons having nicknames.

  • @MoFace
    @MoFace 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing your story with us; my deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much -- this means a lot 🙏

    • @MoFace
      @MoFace 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@humblemudgames no problem at all 💜I hope you'll continue to make more videos!

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I will! This is my 14th or 15th video released, I believe? And I'm really proud of them. I've got more on the way for sure. 💜

  • @milkguy1000
    @milkguy1000 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    So many memories flooded my mind listening to this. He was truly one of a kind and I will always remember the times we shared together. God bless you.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing this. The last song I used in this video is called "Never Forget", which I thought was appropriate because like you said, he was one of a kind. 💜

  • @GameCubeGalaxy
    @GameCubeGalaxy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    There’s no denying the bond you and your brother shared, and this video honors him in a beautiful way. You nailed it with why something like a game can provide countless time to bask in memories, versus a restaurant that may no longer be around…there’s something timeless about revisiting a game, and taking the time to relive those memories. I’m sad to state that this is something we can both relate on, but just know that your brother is always with you man. This video hit me, and felt I learned a lot about your brother through this one video alone. Thank you for sharing this 🙏.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for inspiring me to create my own video through your "A Special Tribute" video. You provided the blueprint that let me think through what I would've seen as an impossible task and execute on it in a way I thought would honor him. I still remember exactly where I was when I listened to your video and how I felt. I texted my brother that day and told him I loved him. I hate it for both of us that we share this, but I'm incredibly grateful to have you around.

  • @marcbisson9351
    @marcbisson9351 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I saw your post on Reddit, and had to find your video here on TH-cam so that I could say “thank you for your strength as a person”.
    The nicest thing I’ve seen wasn’t even in the video, but a reply that you gave to another Reddit comment, where you said, “… I wear his necklace to all the good things I do now… he wouldn’t want to be with me at work”. It was such a moving, beautiful sentiment that I hope others, who haven’t yet stumbled upon this video or your Reddit thread, realize how moving this tribute video, that Reddit thread, and you living for the both of you is.
    Just thanks.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for this. I just want to associate positive things with that necklace, and associate his memory with positive things. And it has worked so far. Wearing it every day means even the rainy days. Wearing it when I go somewhere that I'm sure I'll make some memories at is much more meaningful.

  • @st1ka
    @st1ka 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I know what you mean, a lot of the the places and actions we associate with others will often change in the real world. It sucks :\

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It really does. Even simple things like the place you grew up -- it's going to change and not feel the same once you're an adult, 9.5 times out of ten. That's why I'm grateful I have so many games I can come back to on a whim that are EXACTLY the same as when we played it back then. All of a sudden I'm 12 years old in a basement with my 7 year old brother.

  • @TheKitsuneOnihane
    @TheKitsuneOnihane 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a beautiful tribute to the love and time spent between you two. Thank you for sharing it. I'm glad there's these virtual worlds where you to can, at least symbolically, still spend more time together. I wish you and your family the best in your healing, and I hope this message gets caught by the algorithm so maybe it can help more people in similar situations.
    Also, definitely okay spiritfarer, but prepare yourself a bit. It will hit VERY hard, but it is worth every aching moment as you struggle to let your companions go. The memories are always there though. You'll always have those.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much! I've heard Spiritfarer can be tough -- in my video I said that Mother 3's ending didn't bother as much as it could have due to my brother being the hero -- but that game's ending still ripped my heart out, haha. So I'm sure Spiritfarer would hit me hard too.

  • @giovannireyes1925
    @giovannireyes1925 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow! Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. In these days where theres so much content out there, news and agendas trying to be pushed on people, videos like this one find you just when you need it the most, to remind you the things you value the most.
    Thanks dude
    you made my day😃

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much my man! I appreciate you, and thank you for watching. 💜

  • @tadcken
    @tadcken 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing - this was powerful

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate it and I appreciate you. Thank you.

  • @JustBeeCharmer
    @JustBeeCharmer หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I lost my grandmother a little bit over two years ago, she was the one that raised me and got me into gaming when i was just 4 years old. We played together all my life. She was sick for seven years and throughout all that time we spent a lot of time together. When she got real sick I would stay at home almost 24/7 to look after her and she would play mostly animal crossing. We have over 1000 hours in there and it's really difficult nowadays for me to go back to it but I often think about her when I start a new game that I think she would have liked to see or watch a TV show or movie we were excited about coming out like the last of us and stuff like that.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm so sorry for your loss, and am sorry for all that you had to endure as well. At least now she is no longer in pain. I had a really fantastic great grandma that sounds like this -- she would actively get invested in things like Pokémon or Spyro or Batman just because I was so interested in those things. To wonderful grandmas, may we never forget their love and kindness. 🥂

  • @BLVDESOFFICIAL
    @BLVDESOFFICIAL 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Man, you rock. This video is so good. Wishing you and your family well 🙏

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you, my guy. Thanks for always being such an inspiration.

    • @BLVDESOFFICIAL
      @BLVDESOFFICIAL 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humblemudgamesdude likewise! Your content rocks

  • @radd1865
    @radd1865 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    this video and these concepts are a touching tribute to your brother. i know i'm just an internet stranger, but i'm really sorry for your loss.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The fact that you took the time to comment makes you more than just an internet stranger to me, friend. Thank you.

  • @brandonossont5514
    @brandonossont5514 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for sharing this. Sending you and your family much love. I’m looking forward to seeing what the future brings for you and this channel 🙏🫶

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks so much my man, I really appreciate you and this comment! 💜

  • @Sadtiric
    @Sadtiric 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I know we just met not too long ago, but I feel you and I'm proud of you for making this. 💚 It's very well done.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you man, you are truly such a great friend. I appreciate you.

    • @Sadtiric
      @Sadtiric 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humblemudgames I appreciate you too, man 💚

  • @zachbaker9325
    @zachbaker9325 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Beautiful video and tribute. Your love for your brother is so clearly evident. He’s proud of you.

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thanks so much, that means a lot. 💜

  • @Tamed_Delirium
    @Tamed_Delirium 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My condolences to your brother and the family as a whole. Brothers are the best...
    Fantastic video btw. I had to sub, theres definitely something special to getting editing down (you did a phenomenal job) and just playing video games as a whole. I thought this video was so well done I had to share it to my friends and family. Hopefully this boosts your channel!

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so so much, that really means a ton! I did notice a bump in subscribers. I'm just glad to connect with people. And this video opens the topic up so people are aware, and makes it easier for me to tell more stories about him. We had lots of gaming memories together that I'm excited to talk about and share with everyone.

    • @Tamed_Delirium
      @Tamed_Delirium 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humblemudgames I love a good passionate gamer as much as the next person and you’re very creative and skilled at it! I sincerely think you deserve a couple million subs for the kind of quality you produce

    • @Tamed_Delirium
      @Tamed_Delirium 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humblemudgames I just wanted to say I sent this to my grandma and she watched it multiple times as my grandfather had passed a few years ago and today was around the time of their anniversary, so we were remembering him. But you made her day. That was really special to me. This video is so well done I can’t express it enough. Thank you

  • @Sterling-xk1xy
    @Sterling-xk1xy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ily man

    • @Sterling-xk1xy
      @Sterling-xk1xy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@humblemudgames love you too brother

  • @Everything-Wii
    @Everything-Wii 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Man, this video is one of my favorite of the year. Just this past November after my birthday, I learned my grandfather had terminal illness. The news was so abrupt. Just after talking, through lots of tears, I booted up Luigi's Mansion on the GameCube. And that's what I did everytime something came up. There's an odd comforting aspect to some video games, even if they have a theme that suggests the opposite. I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. It's difficult, and there's always that memory in the back of your head that makes you remember. But having something to occupy yourself is such a help. Hearing other people's stories through comments I receive, though I've never met them, is such an awesome thing for me, and it reminds me, no matter what we are talking about. This video of yours reminded me that one day, I'll miss the time I had with someone. I already do with my grandpa. You are totally right. Stay humble. 🙏

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much for this; this was so kind and though I'm sorry for your loss, I'm glad that you are also able to find comfort in games like Luigi's Mansion when things get difficult. Like you said, there will be someone else in the future we likely will miss. It's best the cherish the times we have with them now and try to stay present -- the moment you're enjoying with them today might be the thing you think back on fondly ten years from now.

    • @espelhodasconstelacoes
      @espelhodasconstelacoes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God bless ya and Hesus loves ya friend, keep your head up knowing bright days lie just ahead

  • @Lynk56
    @Lynk56 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Really profound. the bit about being able to immerse yourself in another world at your own convenience, especially one that reminds you of good memories, really spoke to me. I’m sorry for your loss and hope you’re doing well. Mother 3 might be my favorite game of all time, even with all its flaws and cut content; you’re much stronger than me for playing that after losing your own brother. Either way, great video🫡

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's something I've really appreciated about games lately, especially now. Thank you for the kind words. I still cried like a baby at the end of Mother 3, it still affected me really hard. But Earthbound is my favorite game of all time and so I had to play it eventually -- it helped me sort out a lot of emotions, too.

  • @RestorationRelaxation
    @RestorationRelaxation 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m sorry to hear about your loss man. I hope that with time you’ll heal, and the memory of your brother will always stay with you

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the kind words 🙏

  • @Lexi-ro7mk
    @Lexi-ro7mk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I use games to cope with anxiety games let me escape from reality and let me be in the game. you think disconnecting from reality a lot would be bad but it made me the person I am today. every single moment of my life I shape to me into this person...
    and this all happened because I ended up English in a French family

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sorry you deal with anxiety and familial issues... If I could suggest a game, Dragon Quest XI has some elements of that in its storyline that you might appreciate. The escapism video games offers is pretty unparalleled in my opinion. Absolutely rivals, if not trumps, books and movies.

    • @Lexi-ro7mk
      @Lexi-ro7mk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@humblemudgames no my family is loving and supportive but Dragon Quest does sound fun

  • @ex-itguy
    @ex-itguy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great video! Takes some courage to open op like this. I'm glad you found a good way to remember him. ❤

    • @humblemudgames
      @humblemudgames  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much, making this video took a huge weight off my chest during a time I was very overwhelmed. it was a release for sure