The 3 PROVEN STRATEGIES To Influence Anyone & WIN ANY NEGOTIATION | Chris Voss
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Chris Voss is known as “The Master Negotiator”, a title earned throughout his time serving as the lead Crisis Negotiator for the New York City Division of the FBI, and then as the lead international kidnapping negotiator for the FBI. In 2008, Chris founded The Black Swan Group, which specializes in teaching you how to never leave money on the table by using hostage negotiation techniques.
In May 2016, he published the national best-seller “Never Split The Difference: Negotiation As If Your Life Depended On It” to teach people everywhere how to apply these life-changing hostage negotiation techniques in their daily lives.
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If you want to learn how to protect yourself during a negotiation, how everyday negotiations can prepare you for the big ones, and more, then be sure to tune in to today’s show! And now, I hope you’ll join me for Episode 1,300 of The School of Greatness.
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Chris's magical powers to get other people talking, even the interviewers, masterful. "Let me be fascinated" - brilliant
Timing on this was great for me. Just had a serious argument with my mom today and I'm trying to figure out how to approach the situation next time. Also Lewis, just wanna say how much I appreciate these interviews. You've introduced me to so many authors of the books i have on my reading list (and books I own!) and it's sooo great to be able to attach a face and a voice to the name.
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Yeah except the second part, it's easier with a terrorist than to negotiate with mama 🤣🤣🤣 Update us what of it, I want to know 😂
Thanks 😊p
The advice about getting to no abd what this means has been incredibly useful. I am glad that Lewis and Chris are now a key part of my life.
I think people don't necessarily feel safe being able to say no, what makes them feel safe is they they've been given the opportunity to say no. Giving someone the opportunity to say no automatically gives them the impression that they have the upper hand, they're incontrol of the situation. This makes them more inclined to say yes because it was originally implied that they would say no, now they feel as though they are doing "a good thing" by saying yes.
Perfectly articulated!
Wow, great insight
Good point Emily 😊
agree
I've felt comfortable with no, real comfortable
This reminds me of the principle of flirting with everyone. It's such a great attitude to have in everyday life.
I read his book a while back whilst negotiating a divorce with a very difficult man, and it really helped me. The book is FASCINATING. I can’t get enough of Chris. Thank you
So happy to hear you are finding value! 🧡
Persuasion is really all about knowing what motivates humans and when to apply it!
Example of Steps (around 31:30):
1. Say, "I'm going to ruin your day." (No-oriented question)
2. Acknowledge you're coming across as another greedy person asking for another day.
3. Ask how much trouble going to get person in to ask for free upgrade.
His negotiating philosophy is well supported by modern psychology findings in communication studies. He's recommending techniques like the ones that therapists use to get agreements from people to stop using heroin lol😂Deeply insightful. He has an intuitive genius but also it lines up with science strongly behind it. This is "the goods"!
The point is always leaving people better than you found them. Absolutely!
Hi Lewis, I just love when you have Chris Vuoss on! (Intentionally spelled with his NY accent lol) so many gems and takeaways when he speaks, he always got you sayin' "mmmm". Me too for that matter! All the best to you!
Lewis: With much, much, much respect, it’s nice that you finally have a guest who does not need a high chair. I say this respectfully. Yes, of course, I also enjoyed Mr. Voss’ comments. Cheers.
That guy is a genius ! The hotel upgrade thing is GOAT !
Lewis, you are a modern day Napoleon Hill. Thanks
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Chris voss and Lewis are the best!!!
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It's hard to top Chris Voss as an iconic guest/leader/mentor, etc. all good things ... Much appreciated Mr. Lewis Howes
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شكرا❤ Thank you so much
After just 10 minutes this is gold , am planing to open my private practice thank you !!!!!
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Lewis another great podcast! I follow everything you do! Thank you 🇨🇦💕
Solid interview. As always, Lewis!!
I just love listening both of you
Thank you so much!
Hi 👋🏽 , very great talk; thanks for sharing those amazing wisdom 😃🤝🏽 I'm really grateful to be one of your humble subscribers and friends 🙏🏾😊 🙋🏽♂️
Pure brilliance love it!!
I LOVE Chris Voss !!!!!!! Thanks for this.
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What an amazing interview! I get good vibes from Mr. Chris Voss. He’s using his power to make things better. Him and the interviewer. I am truly inspired.
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Once again, Greatest lessions and learnings! I always get to learn new things from Chris, Whenver I watch and listen to him and special thanks to Lewis as he had asked him very powerful and simple questions that had chris to spill the beans of golden nuggets.
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Excellent interview, great on point questions and a very strong closer 👏
Chris Voss da boss
Thanks Lewis! For sharing your story about networking event. I really appreciate
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I learned something useful here... Thanks for sharing.
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This is great knowledge 🙏 thank you.
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Chris, may I say, you are fantastic. Where are your master classes?
Here’s my 2c on why Zoom meetings are worse. It’s not the visual information that’s missing. Instead it’s having 8 people (say) looking intensely at you and having to pay attention to all those with the same intensity. And not knowing if anyone is really looking at you. It provokes a lot of anxiety!!
IRL you know if someone is looking at you and you also know all people at the meeting are not expected to show such levels of intensity.
Thanks Lewis ❤
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Outstanding interview ...
Thank you gentlemen
Makes sense! Absolutely!
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A deep conversation between two men learned and profited much by deeply caring for others.
Interrupted the video to get a haircut; put the principles into action, and got the haircut free - without asking!!
What did you do to get the free haircut?
It seems like, it sounds like. He’s the best.
I always advise my guests when we hit it for the bazaar shopping for the first time: everybody has to find their very own unique bargaining style… mine is similar to Criss’ but I had seen some people better in many other techniques :-) I perfected mine… also because I enjoy in it a lot and I love socialising with the sellers :-) and joking and laughing and charming and all that jazz 🎉
Al Pacino is good at negotiating)) sounds very much like him
Great discussion
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In my job, we are advised not to say "no"; instead we were encouraged to use a different way of saying "no" and that comes the difficult part - getting choices that somewhat similar to the customer's preference. 😅
Nature is beautiful ❤️🌹 I can't wait to see your next video 📸😍 I love your content full 🌕 watched
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Great video Lewis! Thank you
Thank you so much for watching!
Awesome interview!
Glad you enjoyed it!
This was so good ❤
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I remember when I was a cashier in the men’s department, in my work they didn’t had sweater vests so I had to go to other stores. So customers started to ask me about my vests n where were they in the store, I said the truth, we do not have any sweater vests here. Manager’s offices heard about this, a week later we were selling sweater vests. Manager came around my area, and invited me to purchase from our own merchandise, I said, are you going to gift me a vest? If they see me wearing our merchandise they will fly away very soon. No, I was told. By that time, I already had enough sweater vests, colors, patterns etc. If men saw me wearing them somehow I provoked them. They didn’t wanted me to gift me one……lol….. I didn’t care, I had enough vests already, I was just trying to see if they would gift me one. I still have those vests…….. People would constantly asked me about my wardrobe, I do get much attention n I’m very good at selling, well used to be…….lol…...
Different things- when u negotiate under pressure it’s one tactic (it’s all about manipulation get result in a particular moment). When you negotiate for long term - you have to utilise sympathy and other side’s persons point of view (when you Agree on your terms that are both comfortable about - then long term productive relationships can start).
1+1=2 but sometimes 1+1=11
It is annoying when i encounter people who are constantly trying to negotiate everything and arent just having a conversation. These are good 'tactics', but if they arent actually a part of who you are and if you cant turn them off occasionally and just talk to people, you're going to make people want you to just shut up and go away and feel sorry for your family who has to put up with you.
It sounds like you are really not going to like this sentence
aha moment to me, and also connect some dots along my journey, proves the oppsite is the way. i would implement motivate and genarate NO intead of Yes.
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As for 1:13:00 and the "energy" you can perceive in-person but not over Zoom calls - There is research (and intuition) suggesting that aromatized chemical signals, including pheromones, can be perceived by humans (even more so by animals), allowing for us to sense many things without any visual, auditory or tactile cues. If you've ever been able to "smell" anger in another human (anger is probably the strongest emotion I can pick up via olfaction) or noticed that your cat/dog can tell what mood you're in without reading your face and body language, this idea might be more intuitive. My pets, who have their own bedroom and don't see me relax at night, can tell when I enter the alpha brain state, triggering them to become very disruptive in order to get my attention and steal it away from my flow (normally within seconds of achieving alpha state, impossible to be a coincidence). There is a lot of information in the air. There is also a study demonstrating that men and women can tell who of the opposite sex is fertile via pheromones.
There is also a cultural element here. For example, when a Japanese buyer says “Yes”, it means Yes, I heard what you said. It doesn’t mean I agree with you! Irish people do not have words for yes or no in Gaelic. They say I did and I didn’t.
Bear in mind international cultural customs & ways of doing business.
It always comes down HOW you ask
Ppl lewrn to say NO 500,000 times before 7 yrs old??? So used to it. Love it. Make their NO be your desired answer😳 👏👏👏
Does that apply to insurance companies when a claim is in need of a payout?
I’m obsessed with this man’s messages! Thank you!
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Do you know this Shark Tank episode Chris is talking about?
What did you do to get the free haircut?
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Would you Spend or dedicate the rest of your life in an idea
For which you would probably receive no material compensation for at least 20 years?
half way there!
I think if you have a voice like Chris Voss you could negotiate your way out of or into anything! 😂
gruesome
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Who is that dude? Who as smart as the Andrew Huberman?
I watched someone interview Ray dalio.
The host started to Ramble On, and I thought Ray Dalio was ready to just get up and leave.
Ray had this very uneasy look on his face! Now, when I get a notification from that guy, I just ignore it!
No doubt great discussion and nice tips. #lewishowes
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Awesome interview. Paraphrasing is key to listening and be open, and playful and people will thank you for it 🔥🙏🏽🦾😎
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