Where do LGBTQIA+ people go in their later lives? | Compass | ABC Australia

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  • @sal_alembroke
    @sal_alembroke 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +244

    seeing the old asian ladies playing mahjong made me burst into tears as a gay lil asian kid. do they accept early entry

  • @BiancaDelahaye
    @BiancaDelahaye 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +217

    As a young queer person this makes me so hopeful that those who came before us can still share community and live happy out lives ❤️

  • @tgoddard1988
    @tgoddard1988 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    This is so heartwarming and I hope this becomes a thing by the time my other half and I retire. But change takes time, public perception about something that was seen as wrong for so long will inevitably take longer to go away. But I’m in my 30’s, when I was in my teens thing were very different, but meeting younger people now and seeing how ok and comfortable they are with me being gay and engaged to a guy is incredible!
    I was walking by a school on my way home from work a while ago when the kids were getting out, all 16-18 year olds, a group of kids came out of the school together, obviously all friends, when 2 guys split off and headed towards a car parked on the other side of the road, while the group stopped and waited, the 2 guys hugged and kissed, not a peck but a full on kiss before one got in the car and the other headed back to the group who then headed off down the road.. it made me so happy to see something like that, with no one screaming homophobic slurs or throwing things at them, which happened often when I was that age, they acted as though it was completely normal!
    I am obviously jealous that things weren’t that way when I was younger, because even straight people used to get bullied for being “gay” even though they weren’t and it was worse for those who actually were gay.

  • @Robert-qh3ok
    @Robert-qh3ok 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    We can all learn from Sweden, which has been a progressive, live and let live country, for many decades...

  • @addeenen7684
    @addeenen7684 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    I am 61, Dutch, married for 20 years. Even though I have a large biological family, no one comes to visit. Just my youngest brother. When I get older I would like to go to a house that is separate from the main house, like a holiday park with a large community center in the middle. I don't know if the Netherlands will remain gay-friendly, but Sweden is too cold for me. Australia is too hot. I know the basics of German, Italian, Spanish and English. So if I outlive my husband, I can always move to another country.

    • @suprensa4393
      @suprensa4393 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Do you have reason to fear that the Netherlands will become more queerphobic over time?

    • @landondavis4211
      @landondavis4211 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I wish you the absolute best! I wish more people would visit you❤

    • @shanabenjamin8945
      @shanabenjamin8945 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Totally with you! ❤
      😊

  • @slukas1375
    @slukas1375 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Lovely to see these folks being their authentic selves in such a loving, accepting environment.

  • @jamiejones8508
    @jamiejones8508 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    This is a world wide issue too. I raised it in my NHS trust about 15 years ago and was told that someone was doing something. As far as I know nobody did and I worked with over 65s for years without meeting anyone out & gay…which seemed telling to me.

  • @monochromeduo
    @monochromeduo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    its endearing seeing elderly lgbtq ppl, knowing they're here, co-existing along with us younger queer folk

  • @ricklundeen2722
    @ricklundeen2722 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    Unfortunatly, a lot of these places cost a lot of money to live in

    • @shanabenjamin8945
      @shanabenjamin8945 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A good idea would to be a house share with other guys. Maybe a space where everyone has their own bit of space❤

  • @claudianagel7402
    @claudianagel7402 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Sweden is a beautiful country! With this home for elderly LGBT+ people a dream has come true.

  • @mike-williams
    @mike-williams 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    The dominance (and politial clout) of religous institutions in the elder care sector make this vvery difficult to achieve. Sydney may seem like a gay paradise, but the Anglican diocese is probably the most conservative in the country.

  • @kygladdish2554
    @kygladdish2554 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    So nice to see this. I’m 46 and the anxiety hits me most nights and I wonder what am I going to do when I’m older… I hope that Australia can get something like this together - we’re here, we’re queer and we ain’t getting any younger 😅

  • @_digital_dan
    @_digital_dan 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I’ve cried through the entire video 😭 so heartwarming to see queer people getting old in a safe and welcoming environment

  • @X_85
    @X_85 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    All these beautiful rainbow people ❤

  • @suejowell
    @suejowell 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    How much does it cost? Per month

  • @kimsherlock8969
    @kimsherlock8969 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Wonderful documentary 🎉
    I often wonder when our spaces in Australia will become more intergenerational.
    Old people living in a community who knows them .
    Not hidden together in solitude from life outside.

    • @deb31vers35
      @deb31vers35 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I manage a Retirement Village. It would be amazing to have something like this here.

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I understand. I dread having to go into a nursing home and go back into the closet. I acted straight when I was married to my very accepting wife for 51 years. I cared for her with MS for 26 years before she passed.

  • @Telamond
    @Telamond 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Så fint att se. ❤

  • @danielsoya8435
    @danielsoya8435 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As a member of the lgbt community I try and blend with everyone else… I don’t need my own space or any other special treatment… people will hate on you no matter how you are born

  • @waynejones750
    @waynejones750 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I found this very interesting ❤

  • @markleon411
    @markleon411 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As I approach retirement age, I worry about where I will end up. No children and there is no guarantee that my husband will be around to look after me or even have the capacity to. The Catholics have long had their own age care facilities, as have the Jews, the Baptists, the Greeks, the Italians and so on. The LGBT+ community desperately needs age care facilities that are sympathetic to the community and welcomes them. Surely there's some entrepreneur who would finance something like this.

  • @van6355
    @van6355 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    in order to have something like this in Aus, the LGBTQ organisations should be manage sustainability so we can afford to build this financially.

  • @Bea-ex1yf
    @Bea-ex1yf 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    how good their english is! my grandparents rarely knew a word...❤

  • @bastian2934
    @bastian2934 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The beauty i have witnessed right now. Brought me to tears. What a wonderful place. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @SarahLB234
    @SarahLB234 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Love this!

  • @mwangi10
    @mwangi10 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    the singing for the dog 😭😭

  • @ksanurse
    @ksanurse 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Seen some in the nursing homes. They are respected just like any other person should be. Their needs are accommodated as is their wishes. I’ve only seen private bedrooms. They otherwise share communal facilities like lounges and participate in activities as is their choice. When I nursed them they were pleasant to care for and were very entertaining had a sense of humour. I can’t see a problem with older age adults and I don’t see the need that they should be segregated. When you’re old enough to need assistance of a nursing home you sex life isn’t a priority anymore your focus is on your care.

  • @vincyagain
    @vincyagain 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Happy pride month to all of the residents in Rainbow! What a beautifully done video, thank you so much for sharing this story! Seeing old asian ladies playing mahjong and an elderly lesbian couple having a banter, it made me really happy. I hope they can continue to live long and happy lives.

  • @natalie6111
    @natalie6111 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I wish we could have a place like this in my country...but it's impossible😒 thank you for sharing this video

  • @jamiejones8508
    @jamiejones8508 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    It’s pretty insensitive to be using the word “queer” with the older generation. Very 21st century, but whilst many have reclaimed it for some gay folk in the older generation, particularly men, it comes with a lot of baggage.

  • @tobbster99
    @tobbster99 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This makes me really happy. I cried during this video. thank you.

  • @thefilipinojoe
    @thefilipinojoe 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Awesome ❤

  • @sarah.s.flanagan
    @sarah.s.flanagan 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "We fly from flower to flower sometimes" 😆💙

  • @Eyoki777
    @Eyoki777 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was a wonderful documentary. Some amazing people in Australia!

  • @valeriewentzel1789
    @valeriewentzel1789 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    They were going to build a gay retirement home near Daylesford over twenty years ago.I don't know if they actually did build it though.

  • @Kushkloud754
    @Kushkloud754 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Would’ve been nice to see those couples early pictures after so long 😨

  • @deathweaselx86
    @deathweaselx86 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We need this in the US, stat!

  • @EddieHarrison-qx7bb
    @EddieHarrison-qx7bb 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    One of my biggest fear ending up in a nursing home. Just as soon be dead have work in nursing home not for me

  • @yesyes2024
    @yesyes2024 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Happy pride month all 🌈

  • @Stormy-14-
    @Stormy-14- 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is beautiful 👍👍❤️❤️

  • @kingdomfor1
    @kingdomfor1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm Australian, but I've built a life in the Philippines, much easier for gay people here,

  • @Sad_Bumper_Sticker
    @Sad_Bumper_Sticker 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Would love to live out my final years in such a space

  • @Amber-l3p7y
    @Amber-l3p7y 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Aw, I needed to hear a love story like the two gentleman have

  • @eewilson9835
    @eewilson9835 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This looks like what USA provides government assistance people, and aging out could feel invasive so that would definately not be frowned upon, nor presented as a reason for an entire home theme unless it were a rescue situation.

  • @shanabenjamin8945
    @shanabenjamin8945 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a lovely couple! ❤🎉

  • @jtarantula3390
    @jtarantula3390 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sounds quite lovely actually

  • @paulbotaslillington6828
    @paulbotaslillington6828 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Happy people ❤

  • @ArtyBicardi
    @ArtyBicardi 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is so beautiful!

  • @phillipalfalla6306
    @phillipalfalla6306 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I would like to live there so nice and friendly.

  • @shanabenjamin8945
    @shanabenjamin8945 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this! Being judged all my life is enough already! I am in!

  • @paulcgrout5108
    @paulcgrout5108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You really need to look at Sun City .indio. calif. Gated senior community with a lgbt organization of over 600 members. 15 minutes east of Palm Spring. CALIF. INDIO IS FANTASTIC.

  • @neredan1182
    @neredan1182 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    want to watch this for hours.

  • @hollo0o583
    @hollo0o583 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    queer joy!

  • @joeyh3167
    @joeyh3167 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very surprise Australia let some of their elderly travel halfway the world for a shelter home.Despite their sexuality and identity , they are taxpayer Australians who deserved a good life esp at that tender age like that .

    • @maxineb9598
      @maxineb9598 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Who said Australians were going halfway round the wirkd to shelter homes??

  • @hayleyfay4779
    @hayleyfay4779 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    love the lgbtq community ❤ love that they can bring their pets with them to the retirement home

  • @kezananafleur8480
    @kezananafleur8480 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Retirement houses should be focused on well-being otherwise their Spirit will sink in selfie mode.

  • @dawnmullen4348
    @dawnmullen4348 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    awesome!

  • @NakaidaBeauzec
    @NakaidaBeauzec 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is there going to be female only aged care?

    • @kakonthebed
      @kakonthebed 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      There already is, you would know this if you actually genuinely wanted to know.

  • @haywardgarner4850
    @haywardgarner4850 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yay for people who can afford to live here. It’s so inclusive when you have the money to lock yourself in an ivory tower. 😕

  • @James-q1d1o
    @James-q1d1o 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

  • @jujub4553
    @jujub4553 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    🌈

  • @cadicorniche
    @cadicorniche 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Brilliant.

  • @burtonwillis6454
    @burtonwillis6454 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    If I when the lottery, this is what I'm going to do

  • @josephang9927
    @josephang9927 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    alone, forgotten and irrelevant 😢

  • @deb31vers35
    @deb31vers35 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What an awesome place.

  • @Carriecottagecore
    @Carriecottagecore 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    beautiful!

  • @asthecrowflies737
    @asthecrowflies737 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Wow, such lovely, down-to-Earth people! The older generation is so utterly different from the LGBTQIA +people I see today who spend their time hollering about their rights while trying to trample on the rights of others and making a general nuisance of themselves.

    • @pibbitybibbity
      @pibbitybibbity 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, people who insist about being treated with dignity and respect like everybody else can be such a nuisance!

    • @petercritchley8472
      @petercritchley8472 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can assure you that these people would have been hollering for their rights through their lives and made a so-called nuisance of themselves. This sort of life and this sort of facility would never have been possible if they weren’t prepared to put themselves out there. Delve into their history and there will be many brave stories. The suggestion that LGBTQ people trample on the right of others is simply not true. Insisting on the right to live an authentic life does not take anybodies rights away.

    • @heliusfengari
      @heliusfengari 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Trying to trample on the rights of others? Really?? Never heard of any LGBTQ+ person who wants anything more that fair treatment and rights, and wants to enjoy life just like anybody else.

    • @jackfriend4u
      @jackfriend4u 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      "trample on the rights of others"? please elucidate. you do realize it's because of these queer elders kicking up a fuss, protesting, marching etc. when they were younger that us LGBTQI folk have the "rights" we have now. And those rights are also your rights.They made a "general nuisance of themselves" and thank goodness they did.

    • @shanewall9092
      @shanewall9092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’ll find that those people still exist and are the majority. It’s like saying all straight people are nasty, bigoted arseholes. Both loud mouthed groups are the loud minority.

  • @denkoxh8610
    @denkoxh8610 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What good is it if you segregate people based on sexuality, culture, religion etc. We are all human, we need to coexist and live togeher

    • @billgreen1861
      @billgreen1861 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes, we need to ... but, here we are talking about it and no change in sight. We must look out for ourselves because no-one will.

  • @j2174
    @j2174 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What is "being queer"? That's a derogatory word used to target homosexual men, often while physically assaulting or attempting to murder them. I am a gay man and do not like to be referred to as queer. I haven't meant many homosexual men that do, especially those that are not constantly in the "community".

    • @valsonder
      @valsonder 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      people are also called gay whilst being harassed and assaulted, but you keep the word all the same because it's Yours, don't you? the same applies to queerness. as well as that, disregarding either of our feelings on the matter, queer is the word used in a lot of academic applications, like papers and university modules. it's going to get used a lot because it is the most widespread single word to refer to us after the acronyms. in the end it's fully in your rights to not want to be referred to individually as queer, but you don't get to decide what the entire community feels on the matter 🤷‍♂️

  • @karenavey2183
    @karenavey2183 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Stop erasing the words lesbian and gay with ‘queer’.

    • @lucymorrison
      @lucymorrison 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      using words that box people in less isn't erasure.

    • @Tia-Louisa
      @Tia-Louisa 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      To me the slur "Queer" is still negative and depressing. Not sure why the older person used it on here as they should remember how awful the derogatory word was used with h@yte towards LGBT.

  • @lifebelle5430
    @lifebelle5430 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    do not go to north europe it is boring cold and ugly.

    • @EricaGamet
      @EricaGamet 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I prefer the cold of Sweden over somewhere like Italy any day. But that's a personal preference. My mother prefers the opposite.

  • @brite1217
    @brite1217 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You keep living… things don’t “get better” necessarily, you just get better at dealing with life’s bs. You realize this is all bs that won’t matter when you die, so you sort of say fuck it and just be yourself

  • @jayng153
    @jayng153 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Give me a break. I'm a proud Gay man. But that's it, I'm still a MAN. Not "Queer", not "LGBTeidneowoow8848++++"...
    We need to STOP segregating ourselves. Stop acting like aliens from another planet and winging that people treat us differently!

  • @kimmickal
    @kimmickal 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Love this!!