While we’re all curious, I highly respect you keeping what actually happened private. Your girls will appreciate it and I’m sure Parker does too. Stay strong Mama, you’re doing great from what we’re seeing💕💕
My now husband lived alone when I met him which was a huge green flag for me…he was capable of cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc and now shares the load almost equally with me and I couldn’t imagine having to carry the entire load myself
Yesss same here and though I am taking care of our newborn mostly since I’m on leave, he comes home and instantly knows what I need and what we need for the evening without being asked
Another mom who got divorced while pregnant and with a newborn. I love your content because I didn't think anyone else in the entire world would understand this very unorthodox scenario. I think you're handling the situation so well. Honestly, divorced mom life rocks but it is very hard. I hate how nosey everyone is.
Thank you for being so honest about how you appear fine but you’re really struggling. I think so many of us do that and it’s not talked about enough. One food I ate today was French fries and chicken nuggets. I hope your mental health continues to get better and good luck in your fitness journey. Happy 6 months to baby girl. Just keep taking it one day at a time. You got this. You may not be okay right now but you will be okay one day 🙏🏽
Love how real and vulnerable you were in this aspyn. I feel like I connected with you more in this video than any other because you said things that you really felt and you didn’t sugar coat it. Very happy for your growth 🤍🤍 you’re such a selfless mum
Not exactly a red flag but some of the best advice my mom ever gave me is to think about who you want by your side in the most difficult moments. Who do you want next to you at your parents funeral? When your baby is sick? When you lose your job? Etc just who is that person who will be there for you with unconditional love and support. AND - are you able to be that person for them? Changed my perspective so much in dating! ❤
I married my Highschool sweetheart and we have two kids. I love my husband and he’s a good dad, but the mental load is not 50/50 or even close. I was just telling a friend the bar for men is so freaking low. Proud of you for defending your peace. You matter.
When I met my husband, he was so willing to step in and help. Like from day one. He goes above and beyond to make sure that I am not stressed out and when I feel overwhelmed, I just hand him the to do list and I know he will get it done (without an complaint). He is an actual angel. Constantly checking in on me and telling me how much he appreciates me. I feel like I have an equal partner and that is so rare to find! I definitely feel that he is the only person I ever dated that was so caring and knew how to do things around the house. Everything that I am not good at, he is good at and vise versa. There are good men out there, it may just take some time to find them.
LOVE how real you are and that you're setting clear boundaries! It's so refreshing and nice to see how you're handling everything and I really applaud you for it!
The vibes have been ✨immaculate✨ lately and I’m so glad to see you get some of your sparkle back! I feel like the past couple years I could just tell a little something was off and I’m glad you’re doing okay❤️ sending love to everyone❤️
I have been a subscriber for so many years. Parasocial relationships are weird but it brings me so much joy that you made this decision because it’s what YOU needed. Your kids cannot be okay if you are not okay and getting divorced with a baby on the way is not something that many would do. This must have been such a hard decision and you are so strong for putting yourself first. Women always make all the sacrifice and I’m so glad you’re not sacrificing yourself by being in a relationship that is not serving you. Much love
Hi Aspyn, I've been a long time follower but never commented I think. I just wanted to take a moment to say how much I appreciate you, especially how you've decided to not share your children anymore and how you've handled all of that. I applaud you for your transparency and honesty! I hope your mental health and adjustment to your new life situation will keep improving! Thank you for being so open about your feelings!
It’s okay to not be okay. And for everything that you are going through, give yourself grace, and time to heal. Whatever that looks like for you & however long that looks like for you. ❤❤❤ Sending you love, healing, strength & prayers Aspyn
i admire how mindful you are with your content creating! i’ve been watching you since the beginning and i think it’s amazing how so many of your followers have grown with you, this is one of the hardest things we’ve seen you go through and you’re handling it beautifully💗 im excited for this next era in your life of healing and self love 💗
i realized ive been wanting to listen to her say "im okay" because obviously we know a lot of things have happened and we support and i always see aspyn being so well put together but theres so much that we dont know (that we dont need to know) and there was always a part of me that is like "i see she is okay i just hope she actually is" i know here she says shes not okay truly but better and GOD! i respect the aknowledge bc thats fair, thats real and thats it and i appreciate that answer a lot♥ this transition on her content she speaks of since not showing her kids to "mostly just being me" i hope its also helping with her process, obviously making big changes these last months and even going through the difficulties of a divorce - so i mean rebuilding this space for you and to getting to learn about yourself and what youre comfortable with in this new era that i hope its filled with good things and that "im better" only gets better and better we love you aspyn, i respect this so much btw ive only eaten a jam sandwich ... its 1pm
love this era of yours!! ive been watching your videos since before your nose job and currently went through a break up of a 6 year relationship that started when i was 16 so love that we’re kind of in this era together! also, i ate a cupcake today🧁
Just want to say that I’m proud of you, despite many hard things going on in your life you’re showing up every day for yourself and your family. Cheering you on and fingers crossed things get easier soon❤
Part 2 sounds great. Always enjoy chilling out with you especially when wake up in middle night and want something to watch to go back to sleep!!!. It's nearly 5.30 am atm!! Wish you did more videos but understand you're juggling a few things😊
I’ve been loving your vlogs since you shared your news. You can tell there is some lightness to you and you’re coming off so much more genuine. So happy you’ve chosen your happiness.
yay! been subscribed forever always just as excited whenever a video pops up. handling life and its changes in a classy way. it really shows how great of a mom and dad yall are putting the kids first and not letting the outside noise impact the boundaries you’ve set!
I have recently started watching you again after years of not seeing you on TH-cam (just insta). I love your attitude and you're so calming. I'm going through a tough breakup (without kids and no marriage) right now. But to see you seem so strong with kids and moving states. It brings me strength to see you live your life and go on.
I think it’s good you realized early on to split because I waited twenty years which i regret. Staying in an unhealthy relationship is not good for the children. I have been apart now about 7’years and my focus is still my kids. Focusing on another man is just not my priority. My kids are. If Mr right shows up that will be a blessing but I am not at all looking.
About red flags in guys!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE run a background check on them. Someone I thought I could trust had two DV and stalking. And was currently on felony probation. Lied about many many other things.
I have watched Aspyn since around when your first daughter was born, so not OG og, but I feel like this current Aspyn is so wholesome and unapologetically her. It’s really nice to see and enjoyable to watch ☀️
Aspyn, you and Avrey could try out a podcast that utilizes seasons so that it’s a bit less of a full commitment. Personally I don’t think yall need a super detailed plan - my sister and I watch both of yall and while we’re super different from yall, there’s still a weird aspect of relatability just by being "normal" sisters that have always been interested in TH-cam since childhood. :)
I also wish you felt more comfortable to share things but I understand wanting privacy too. I don’t have social media so my boyfriend doesn’t post me on anything and no one outside my real life knows we’re together. I can’t fathom having three kids to take care of and going through what you’re going through Aspyn. But we get through life one way or another. You’re doing great, just keep on going. I hope you enjoy your new chapter in California. Make memories with your girls and spend time with yourself. You deserve it and you deserve someone who respects you and the girls when the time is right.
I totally agree the bar for men is so low! My first bf never took me on dates ever. My second long term bf did take me on dates but it was basically just out to eat and I love more activities.
Yes part 2! Only if your comfortable wiht it. Love this new era and how great youre handling things with sharing stuff with us. Always loved your videos and the vibes you put out💙
I have been following forever and somehow we keep living similar lives 😅 I have 3 boys, got separated from their dad when my youngest was 5 months old. It’s been 2 years now and I’m finally starting to be mentally better, am trying to date, but mostly rediscovering who I am as a person and not just as a mom. It’s so easy to lose ourselves in these suffocating relationships and going through motherhood. Love you and your family. Anyone reading this who may be going through something similar, you’re doing the best you can, you are enough and will always be enough, taking time to take care of yourself isn’t selfish it’s being kind to yourself. You’re a great mom even when you think you aren’t. Even when things don’t go perfect your kids will always remember how loving, silly, and kind you are. ❤️
Love you Aspyn! I hope you know that you have such a supportive fan base that genuinely cares and respects your privacy🤍 Never feel like you’re obligated (which ik you don’t but still)
I’ve been here for a while now and I think you did such a good job of answering the questions while keeping it cute! It felt really honest but also respectful. Thank you for being vulnerable. I hope you start to feel better soon with all you have going on! 🫶
Tacos - I am sending you so many good vibes! Thanks for answering q’s. I love hearing about your new home buying process and you being you! We ask to be nosy but mostly because we have no one else to talk to about our silent struggles with. Love ya.
A couple things…I had an apple and it was soooooo perfect. Your teeth look fantastic! And I have a lot of respect for you for not just trashing your ex. You’re handling things online so well and I hope that your heart continues to heal ♥️
Thank you for being so vulnerable with us, I know times have been tough lately, but just remember how loved you are!! We love you Aspyn, stay strong🥲❤️🩹
Aspyn, I’ve been watching for years & years. I’m so glad you’re finding sunnier days in California. It’s okay to not be okay, you’ve been going through it girl. I’ve loved listening to the podcasts and would 10/10 listen to more. Hope you find peace 💕 PS I ate ice cream today 🍦
Regarding what you said about red flags in men, I completely agree about the mental load and how the bar is so slow! I really like the podcast call her dating, Kelly (host) has really great conversations about this!
red flag: condescending comments. making you feel guilty for anything you say, a joke you make, trying to be playful, being your literal and authentic self. never being open to change. someone should love you for you and embrace new phases in your life. cheer you on when you went to try something new. someone in your corner. someone supportive. green flag: someone you can laugh with, and not having to hide even the smallest parts of yourself in fear of judgement.
even though you live your life online you absolutely should still be caring out your own personal "things" and as many others have said, I'm sure your girls will thank you in time for not airing anything. also a food i ate - sunday roast (im from the UK so its like a weekly tradition :D ) love your content, stay strong
The mental load women take on is SO REAL. That is a great red flag. Unfortunately, I feel like you never truly find that out until you're in deep (like living together)
This video was so nostalgic to me. It felt like we are back in high school again after school watching an aspyn video. Loving this version of you mama. Thanks for allowing us to be apart of some of it 💜
A burrito & a pumpkin chai latte 🌯 ⭐️ You’re awesome girl, hang in there. And no you don't owe anybody any “tea” that’s what close friends and family are for! Good job being such a good mom even though it must be so hard and heartbreaking having a long relationship come to an end. It’s ok NOT to be ok but no one would ever know, you handled things very mindfully; quite demure. I’ve been watching since the very start and you’ve really been through so much in your life and you can take the time to feel all of it, the pain, the happiness, the heartbreak, the relief, the joy of motherhood, feel all the feelings. Hope you have a good week as a California girl! 🤍
Aspyn, I am a tattooer and I ask my clients at their appointments“who’s your fav par-asocial relationship” and jokingly, because of how long I’ve watched you and that we’re close in age, I always say you! Haha! Or Megan Thee Stallion… Point is, I’ve watched you forever and I also got divorced- a red flag I wish I could give everyone dating is that whoever you’re with should whole heartedly stand up and defend their partner without being asked to. I think of you often and hope you’re well- even though I know only the tiniest bit about you! Just know you have a lot of people wishing your whole family the best in this time. -Ella
You seem so much lighter. My mom had a similar experience, with her second she had a bad birth experience for her ended up being near death. When she had me her third, she said I helped her get out of the funk she was in
I have lived with my partner for two years now and the mental load has been so heavy. I truly feel that even the good guys are complete man childs. My bf has been in therapy for a year now and is actively working on being better and having really good loving communication. Most important dating advice. Do not, I repeat DO NOT date a guy that refuses to go to therapy and does not recognize how our current world is very much still oppressing women and wants to make a change. Not that he has to be an activist, just recognize the day to day and take responsibility for his own mistakes
I am so curious and wanna know every detail bc im just noisy but equally if u had said everything i would have been like " girlllllll 😅 thats not for the Internet "
Waffle! It’s only the food I’ve eaten today as it’s morning time for me and I’m late to the watch party! My heart hurts for how you feel while you grieve the last chapter of your life but your inspirational strength will carry you through 😊
I ate oatmeal for breakfast :) Not a red flag per se but I would say you need to have similar long term goals as your partner. So many people get married or date thinking that someday their values and dreams will align out of love. It doesn’t work like that. Even Jesus said, how can two walk together unless they agree? You need to be on the same page about family planning, religion, and career goals. You need to understand how you each want to live your life and what expectations you have of other. Communication, communication, communication. If you can’t have hard conversations before you get married, don’t bother vowing “til death do us part”. I’m glad my husband and I had these conversations when we were dating. We knew what ours roles would be in the family, and while priorities can shift expectations and certain burdens can fall on the other, we’re a family. We communicate those needs and they get met. Learning to communicate is key, but you/your partner have to be willing to LISTEN.
Can you list the products you’re using for face makeup? You look flawless. Also, do you set your makeup up with powder? If not, do you have to touch up throughout the day? I’m trying to learn how to do more natural makeup with cream products. 😊
Buying flowers for you unexpectedly, carrying the fair share, splitting expenses, sharing chores and taking care of kids and pets. Keeping track of what groceries are needed, etc.
Looking amazing. I don't think kids should be exploited so I approve of keeping them off. Hard thing to do for people to say no to the money, but yes to their kids' privacy.
Made giant blueberry muffins today 😅 thanks for being honest and sharing what you feel comfortable with! Wishing you a lot of love on your journey to healing!
I’ll never be able to explain the feeling I get watching your videos, especially since it’s been 10 years since I started! You’re truly one of my favorite TH-camrs but after listening to the podcasts you’ve been on, you have become one of my favorite people! 🥹💖
Apologies if you already answered this question. Are you able to link your makeup items in your next video or does anyone know what products Aspyn used? They look so good. 💖
If you do a podcast, the only thing I would say is don’t include the name sister in it. There are SO many podcasts with sister or sis in them and imo it doesn’t make them stand out. And it’s hard to find the podcast when searching unless it’s massive. But definitely such a good idea to do one!
Some red flags to look for in men as someone who was once engaged and had to break it off (and now i'm happily married to another man who is amazing!) 1) If you confide in him about your worries or anxieties and his response is always "it's all in your head" that is a MAJOR red flag. At the time i thought it was "helpful" because i thought maybe he was trying to just help me realize my anxieties were real - but the truth is that he was just invalidating me and my feelings, and was responding with impatience rather than understanding. 2) If he is always talking down about his family, friends, and your family/friends. You best believe if he has that many negative opinions about people close to him - he's got them about you and is most definitely talking down about you to others. 3) When he says no to simple requests simply because he can. If he is simply just not willing to do something nice for you, and it doesn't have anything to do with his actual ability, that is a serious red flag. I know some of these might seem obvious but I was trapped in a 3 year relationship of that, and I didn't see through any of it until a few months before we were supposed to be married.
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While we’re all curious, I highly respect you keeping what actually happened private. Your girls will appreciate it and I’m sure Parker does too. Stay strong Mama, you’re doing great from what we’re seeing💕💕
This video is SO good. Toeing the line between being respectful but also letting us nosey people know about it. Thanks for sharing!
My now husband lived alone when I met him which was a huge green flag for me…he was capable of cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, etc and now shares the load almost equally with me and I couldn’t imagine having to carry the entire load myself
Yesss same here and though I am taking care of our newborn mostly since I’m on leave, he comes home and instantly knows what I need and what we need for the evening without being asked
Another mom who got divorced while pregnant and with a newborn. I love your content because I didn't think anyone else in the entire world would understand this very unorthodox scenario. I think you're handling the situation so well.
Honestly, divorced mom life rocks but it is very hard. I hate how nosey everyone is.
Thank you for being so honest about how you appear fine but you’re really struggling. I think so many of us do that and it’s not talked about enough. One food I ate today was French fries and chicken nuggets. I hope your mental health continues to get better and good luck in your fitness journey. Happy 6 months to baby girl. Just keep taking it one day at a time. You got this. You may not be okay right now but you will be okay one day 🙏🏽
Love how real and vulnerable you were in this aspyn. I feel like I connected with you more in this video than any other because you said things that you really felt and you didn’t sugar coat it. Very happy for your growth 🤍🤍 you’re such a selfless mum
Not exactly a red flag but some of the best advice my mom ever gave me is to think about who you want by your side in the most difficult moments. Who do you want next to you at your parents funeral? When your baby is sick? When you lose your job? Etc just who is that person who will be there for you with unconditional love and support. AND - are you able to be that person for them? Changed my perspective so much in dating! ❤
& made it to the end - i had a salted caramel protein latte 🤤🤤
I married my Highschool sweetheart and we have two kids. I love my husband and he’s a good dad, but the mental load is not 50/50 or even close. I was just telling a friend the bar for men is so freaking low. Proud of you for defending your peace. You matter.
When I met my husband, he was so willing to step in and help. Like from day one. He goes above and beyond to make sure that I am not stressed out and when I feel overwhelmed, I just hand him the to do list and I know he will get it done (without an complaint). He is an actual angel. Constantly checking in on me and telling me how much he appreciates me. I feel like I have an equal partner and that is so rare to find!
I definitely feel that he is the only person I ever dated that was so caring and knew how to do things around the house. Everything that I am not good at, he is good at and vise versa. There are good men out there, it may just take some time to find them.
Your 180° is so refreshing. The content so much better (and safer) this way ❤
LOVE how real you are and that you're setting clear boundaries! It's so refreshing and nice to see how you're handling everything and I really applaud you for it!
The vibes have been ✨immaculate✨ lately and I’m so glad to see you get some of your sparkle back! I feel like the past couple years I could just tell a little something was off and I’m glad you’re doing okay❤️ sending love to everyone❤️
I have been a subscriber for so many years. Parasocial relationships are weird but it brings me so much joy that you made this decision because it’s what YOU needed. Your kids cannot be okay if you are not okay and getting divorced with a baby on the way is not something that many would do. This must have been such a hard decision and you are so strong for putting yourself first. Women always make all the sacrifice and I’m so glad you’re not sacrificing yourself by being in a relationship that is not serving you. Much love
Living in Utah I totally understand how you feel. I respect how much you’re able to share while respecting other parties 💕
Hi Aspyn, I've been a long time follower but never commented I think. I just wanted to take a moment to say how much I appreciate you, especially how you've decided to not share your children anymore and how you've handled all of that. I applaud you for your transparency and honesty! I hope your mental health and adjustment to your new life situation will keep improving! Thank you for being so open about your feelings!
Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️
It’s okay to not be okay. And for everything that you are going through, give yourself grace, and time to heal. Whatever that looks like for you & however long that looks like for you.
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Sending you love, healing, strength & prayers Aspyn
The mental load question and answer was spot on!
i admire how mindful you are with your content creating! i’ve been watching you since the beginning and i think it’s amazing how so many of your followers have grown with you, this is one of the hardest things we’ve seen you go through and you’re handling it beautifully💗 im excited for this next era in your life of healing and self love 💗
i realized ive been wanting to listen to her say "im okay" because obviously we know a lot of things have happened and we support and i always see aspyn being so well put together but theres so much that we dont know (that we dont need to know) and there was always a part of me that is like "i see she is okay i just hope she actually is" i know here she says shes not okay truly but better and GOD! i respect the aknowledge bc thats fair, thats real and thats it and i appreciate that answer a lot♥
this transition on her content she speaks of since not showing her kids to "mostly just being me" i hope its also helping with her process, obviously making big changes these last months and even going through the difficulties of a divorce - so i mean rebuilding this space for you and to getting to learn about yourself and what youre comfortable with in this new era that i hope its filled with good things and that "im better" only gets better and better
we love you aspyn, i respect this so much
btw ive only eaten a jam sandwich ... its 1pm
love this era of yours!! ive been watching your videos since before your nose job and currently went through a break up of a 6 year relationship that started when i was 16 so love that we’re kind of in this era together! also, i ate a cupcake today🧁
Just want to say that I’m proud of you, despite many hard things going on in your life you’re showing up every day for yourself and your family. Cheering you on and fingers crossed things get easier soon❤
Part 2 sounds great. Always enjoy chilling out with you especially when wake up in middle night and want something to watch to go back to sleep!!!. It's nearly 5.30 am atm!! Wish you did more videos but understand you're juggling a few things😊
I’ve been loving your vlogs since you shared your news. You can tell there is some lightness to you and you’re coming off so much more genuine. So happy you’ve chosen your happiness.
yay! been subscribed forever always just as excited whenever a video pops up. handling life and its changes in a classy way. it really shows how great of a mom and dad yall are putting the kids first and not letting the outside noise impact the boundaries you’ve set!
I have recently started watching you again after years of not seeing you on TH-cam (just insta). I love your attitude and you're so calming. I'm going through a tough breakup (without kids and no marriage) right now. But to see you seem so strong with kids and moving states. It brings me strength to see you live your life and go on.
I think it’s good you realized early on to split because I waited twenty years which i regret. Staying in an unhealthy relationship is not good for the children. I have been apart now about 7’years and my focus is still my kids. Focusing on another man is just not my priority. My kids are. If Mr right shows up that will be a blessing but I am not at all looking.
About red flags in guys!!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE run a background check on them. Someone I thought I could trust had two DV and stalking. And was currently on felony probation. Lied about many many other things.
I have watched Aspyn since around when your first daughter was born, so not OG og, but I feel like this current Aspyn is so wholesome and unapologetically her. It’s really nice to see and enjoyable to watch ☀️
Sorry..I know its hard but just focus on you and your life. Its your business to share and not
Aspyn, you and Avrey could try out a podcast that utilizes seasons so that it’s a bit less of a full commitment. Personally I don’t think yall need a super detailed plan - my sister and I watch both of yall and while we’re super different from yall, there’s still a weird aspect of relatability just by being "normal" sisters that have always been interested in TH-cam since childhood. :)
Much respect to you trying to keep your private life private. ❤❤❤
I could just tell the mental load was heavy on you for years…I’m sure the divorce is hard but I’m happy you made the hard decision to choose you.
I also wish you felt more comfortable to share things but I understand wanting privacy too. I don’t have social media so my boyfriend doesn’t post me on anything and no one outside my real life knows we’re together.
I can’t fathom having three kids to take care of and going through what you’re going through Aspyn. But we get through life one way or another. You’re doing great, just keep on going.
I hope you enjoy your new chapter in California. Make memories with your girls and spend time with yourself. You deserve it and you deserve someone who respects you and the girls when the time is right.
I totally agree the bar for men is so low! My first bf never took me on dates ever. My second long term bf did take me on dates but it was basically just out to eat and I love more activities.
Yes part 2! Only if your comfortable wiht it. Love this new era and how great youre handling things with sharing stuff with us. Always loved your videos and the vibes you put out💙
I have been following forever and somehow we keep living similar lives 😅 I have 3 boys, got separated from their dad when my youngest was 5 months old. It’s been 2 years now and I’m finally starting to be mentally better, am trying to date, but mostly rediscovering who I am as a person and not just as a mom. It’s so easy to lose ourselves in these suffocating relationships and going through motherhood. Love you and your family. Anyone reading this who may be going through something similar, you’re doing the best you can, you are enough and will always be enough, taking time to take care of yourself isn’t selfish it’s being kind to yourself. You’re a great mom even when you think you aren’t. Even when things don’t go perfect your kids will always remember how loving, silly, and kind you are. ❤️
Love love loving the recent content!! Happy you’re feeling so much better with the move and wanting to be more vulnerable with us 🩷
Love you Aspyn! I hope you know that you have such a supportive fan base that genuinely cares and respects your privacy🤍 Never feel like you’re obligated (which ik you don’t but still)
I’ve been here for a while now and I think you did such a good job of answering the questions while keeping it cute! It felt really honest but also respectful. Thank you for being vulnerable. I hope you start to feel better soon with all you have going on! 🫶
Yes to the part 2!!! I've followed you for like nearly a decade and can't wait to see where life in Cali takes you next!!!
Thank you! 💓💓
Tacos - I am sending you so many good vibes! Thanks for answering q’s. I love hearing about your new home buying process and you being you!
We ask to be nosy but mostly because we have no one else to talk to about our silent struggles with. Love ya.
A couple things…I had an apple and it was soooooo perfect. Your teeth look fantastic! And I have a lot of respect for you for not just trashing your ex. You’re handling things online so well and I hope that your heart continues to heal ♥️
Thank you for being so vulnerable with us, I know times have been tough lately, but just remember how loved you are!! We love you Aspyn, stay strong🥲❤️🩹
Aspyn, I’ve been watching for years & years. I’m so glad you’re finding sunnier days in California. It’s okay to not be okay, you’ve been going through it girl. I’ve loved listening to the podcasts and would 10/10 listen to more. Hope you find peace 💕 PS I ate ice cream today 🍦
this felt like your old vlogs ❤ obviously lots has changed but you should be so proud of yourself ✨
Love the red flags advice!! Would love more advice for women who are about to get married/have kids:)
Regarding what you said about red flags in men, I completely agree about the mental load and how the bar is so slow! I really like the podcast call her dating, Kelly (host) has really great conversations about this!
red flag: condescending comments. making you feel guilty for anything you say, a joke you make, trying to be playful, being your literal and authentic self. never being open to change. someone should love you for you and embrace new phases in your life. cheer you on when you went to try something new. someone in your corner. someone supportive. green flag: someone you can laugh with, and not having to hide even the smallest parts of yourself in fear of judgement.
even though you live your life online you absolutely should still be caring out your own personal "things" and as many others have said, I'm sure your girls will thank you in time for not airing anything.
also a food i ate - sunday roast (im from the UK so its like a weekly tradition :D ) love your content, stay strong
The mental load women take on is SO REAL. That is a great red flag. Unfortunately, I feel like you never truly find that out until you're in deep (like living together)
Off topic…. Could you please share makup you’ve been loving lately? Your glowing!
standing on business and setting your boundaries 👏🏼
This video was so nostalgic to me. It felt like we are back in high school again after school watching an aspyn video. Loving this version of you mama. Thanks for allowing us to be apart of some of it 💜
A burrito & a pumpkin chai latte 🌯 ⭐️
You’re awesome girl, hang in there. And no you don't owe anybody any “tea” that’s what close friends and family are for! Good job being such a good mom even though it must be so hard and heartbreaking having a long relationship come to an end. It’s ok NOT to be ok but no one would ever know, you handled things very mindfully; quite demure. I’ve been watching since the very start and you’ve really been through so much in your life and you can take the time to feel all of it, the pain, the happiness, the heartbreak, the relief, the joy of motherhood, feel all the feelings. Hope you have a good week as a California girl! 🤍
You’ve handled this whole divorce with such grace and I look up to you!
Aspyn, I am a tattooer and I ask my clients at their appointments“who’s your fav par-asocial relationship” and jokingly, because of how long I’ve watched you and that we’re close in age, I always say you! Haha! Or Megan Thee Stallion…
Point is, I’ve watched you forever and I also got divorced- a red flag I wish I could give everyone dating is that whoever you’re with should whole heartedly stand up and defend their partner without being asked to.
I think of you often and hope you’re well- even though I know only the tiniest bit about you! Just know you have a lot of people wishing your whole family the best in this time.
-Ella
You seem so much lighter. My mom had a similar experience, with her second she had a bad birth experience for her ended up being near death. When she had me her third, she said I helped her get out of the funk she was in
🚩a man who doesn’t something half ass or doesn’t finish a task
🚩 a man who is all talk and no action.
🚩 a man who has a bad temper
🚩 a man that is greedy
I have lived with my partner for two years now and the mental load has been so heavy. I truly feel that even the good guys are complete man childs. My bf has been in therapy for a year now and is actively working on being better and having really good loving communication.
Most important dating advice. Do not, I repeat DO NOT date a guy that refuses to go to therapy and does not recognize how our current world is very much still oppressing women and wants to make a change. Not that he has to be an activist, just recognize the day to day and take responsibility for his own mistakes
The way I clicked so fast!! Happy for the new chapter in your life🫶🏻 wishing you happiness and healing mama!!!!💖💖💖
You are naturally beautiful, you’ve always been. I don’t know how you didn’t like your teeth before, they are perfect :)
You doing great job hon !!!! Not alot of people would be able to be this graceful at this difficult time, ❤❤❤❤ we have your back aspyn!❤❤❤❤
The most class I’ve seen in a TH-cam video in a long time ♥️
Sundried tomatoes. Sending positivity and love your way. I hope this season if your life is kind to you.
Yes to the part 2! :) we are hear for you aspyn! sending lots of love your way.
We love you Aspyn, you’re such an incredible woman!! I’m watching this in the morning so only coffee in the system.
“ the bar is so low for men”” thisss soooo true
I am so curious and wanna know every detail bc im just noisy but equally if u had said everything i would have been like " girlllllll 😅 thats not for the Internet "
Your videos are so inspiring and I love your editing ❤ have a great day aspyn ❤
Dear Aspyn, you are so strong. Even when you don’t feel like it.
What moisturizer and foundation did you mix? They mixed so good and looked so good on your skin!
Hi Aspyn, Divorce is really Hard to Navigate, it's takes a Long Time to get over, things will get Better Overtime you just got to be Patient🥰🥰🇬🇧🇬🇧
You were definitely spilling the tea in the most cutest way
Sushi. Also I agree it's huge to discern if someone will split the load of adulting with you appropriately if you have a home together at minimum
sending you all the love Aspyn 🤍
Waffle! It’s only the food I’ve eaten today as it’s morning time for me and I’m late to the watch party! My heart hurts for how you feel while you grieve the last chapter of your life but your inspirational strength will carry you through 😊
i’ve been going through a break up and your authenticity has brought me so much comfort, so thank you ❤️🩹
I ate oatmeal for breakfast :) Not a red flag per se but I would say you need to have similar long term goals as your partner. So many people get married or date thinking that someday their values and dreams will align out of love. It doesn’t work like that. Even Jesus said, how can two walk together unless they agree? You need to be on the same page about family planning, religion, and career goals. You need to understand how you each want to live your life and what expectations you have of other. Communication,
communication, communication. If you can’t have hard conversations before you get married, don’t bother vowing “til death do us part”. I’m glad my husband and I had these conversations when we were dating. We knew what ours roles would be in the family, and while priorities can shift expectations and certain burdens can fall on the other, we’re a family. We communicate those needs and they get met. Learning to communicate is key, but you/your partner have to be willing to LISTEN.
Can you bring back monthly favorites - vlog style :) that's all about youuuuu!
She’s got her pink back ✨
Can you list the products you’re using for face makeup? You look flawless. Also, do you set your makeup up with powder? If not, do you have to touch up throughout the day? I’m trying to learn how to do more natural makeup with cream products. 😊
I don’t know if you’re friends with Lauren but I’d love to see you on Wild Till 9!
I love these chit chat vlogs! All I ate today is watermelon my toddler refused to eat🤣
One food I ate today was candy corn. I love all your content Aspyn! You're awesome and I admire you! :) Sending you all the best vibes!
Buying flowers for you unexpectedly, carrying the fair share, splitting expenses, sharing chores and taking care of kids and pets. Keeping track of what groceries are needed, etc.
And 10000% date nights!
I love this type of videos!! Thank you for being so honest and sharing with us. Today I ate shepherd's pie
you look like ur having so much fun in cali i love it for you and ur girlies ❤❤
Looking amazing. I don't think kids should be exploited so I approve of keeping them off. Hard thing to do for people to say no to the money, but yes to their kids' privacy.
just had some toast with nutella- a childhood fave 🩷
Made giant blueberry muffins today 😅 thanks for being honest and sharing what you feel comfortable with! Wishing you a lot of love on your journey to healing!
I've been watching you since your teal room
Your podcast with avrey would be EVERYTHING
COFFEE!!!! Also red flag is when they do not tell their friends about you or introduce you to their friends! Big one for me!
I’ll never be able to explain the feeling I get watching your videos, especially since it’s been 10 years since I started! You’re truly one of my favorite TH-camrs but after listening to the podcasts you’ve been on, you have become one of my favorite people! 🥹💖
Apologies if you already answered this question. Are you able to link your makeup items in your next video or does anyone know what products Aspyn used? They look so good. 💖
If you do a podcast, the only thing I would say is don’t include the name sister in it. There are SO many podcasts with sister or sis in them and imo it doesn’t make them stand out. And it’s hard to find the podcast when searching unless it’s massive. But definitely such a good idea to do one!
Love this era 💛
I’d listen to a podcast with you & Avery! One food I had today was cereal
Pasta and ground beef. My go-to toddler approved meal for those nights that cooking is a no.
Some red flags to look for in men as someone who was once engaged and had to break it off (and now i'm happily married to another man who is amazing!)
1) If you confide in him about your worries or anxieties and his response is always "it's all in your head" that is a MAJOR red flag. At the time i thought it was "helpful" because i thought maybe he was trying to just help me realize my anxieties were real - but the truth is that he was just invalidating me and my feelings, and was responding with impatience rather than understanding.
2) If he is always talking down about his family, friends, and your family/friends. You best believe if he has that many negative opinions about people close to him - he's got them about you and is most definitely talking down about you to others.
3) When he says no to simple requests simply because he can. If he is simply just not willing to do something nice for you, and it doesn't have anything to do with his actual ability, that is a serious red flag.
I know some of these might seem obvious but I was trapped in a 3 year relationship of that, and I didn't see through any of it until a few months before we were supposed to be married.