are humans innately selfish
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ม.ค. 2021
- Covered in this video: my thoughts on
human value, relationships with the opposite sex, positive Egoism, why people have kids, honesty, white nationals storming the capitol, why I went gluten free, and probably some other stuff.
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i felt like i was a part of the family when they started talking in the kitchen
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Dina, don't confuse selfishness with love. The difference is that the benefit of selfishness is only one directional. Selfishness only benefits oneself. Love operates in multiple directions. So it does not just benefit oneself, it also benefits others. Love requires self benefit. It is not selfish to benefit oneself. You cannot benefit others without benefitting yourself. It is only selfish when your self benefit hurts others. Benefiting yourself and others is love. Benefiting yourself while hurting others is selfishness.
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I feel like I’ve had this discussion so many times, and having it with different people has always brought new approaches to the table. Very interesting stuff 🥸
you've said it yourself. 'love requires self-benefit' therefore the stem of love is selfishness. in order to give, we must take... taking is literary the first thing we do in life... even before we are born in our mother's womb... so it is inherent to take... to give, however, that is, in and of it self, called selflessness... because we don't necessarily have to, yet we do
what am tryna say is that love born from selflessness is another form of selfishness... everything in life really... we coexist in a world wherein you have what I need. and I have what you need, and for us to live in harmony there must be successful giving and taking, but how can we have the ability to give when we have nothing? that is why we always take first before we give, and it doesn't necessarily mean only from each other as we can take from the earth's seemingly infinite sources like plants and animals, or even from ourselves, like how a women breastfeed a baby that is not her child
btw selfishness isn't necessarily defined as " Benefiting yourself while hurting others". while that is true. we can still help others to selfishly reach an ultimate goal like the breastfeeding example. it's not contradictory
thank you for writing this thought-provoking comment. have a good one
@@mnfsk2156 Taking is not selfish. Self-care is not selfish. Society programs us to think this way. This "pick yourself up by your own bootstraps," "self made man," "I did it all on my own" mentality is a lie pushed onto us by our hyper capitalist society. We do not have a choice to take or not. We must take. If we do not take we die. Receiving help, taking, is literally what life is. Receiving is as much an act of love as giving. Capitalism presents this lie that independence is ultimate success. But there is no success without taking. The truth is that we are all interdependent. We all depend on each other. Our lives depend on our interdependence. The more independent we become the more we suffer. Life is interdependence, radical interdependence. Understanding this truth is what love is.
@@theblackponderer hmmmm, I think we’re actually on the same boat here. It’s just that you don’t like the word selfish huh? Since the second half of your reply goes hand in hand with what I’ve said, I guess it’s just the choice and use of terminology now that is setting us apart
Is it though my friend?
@@mnfsk2156 Well, the word "selfish" implies a disregard for the other, a lack of consideration for other people. But a lack of consideration for others is not the stem of love. At the root of love is a consideration for someone else. But taking for oneself does not necessarily imply a disregard for others. You can take from someone while caring for them too. The very act of taking can be caring. This is not the same thing as selfishness.
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Subscribers: Bewildered, because she is as stunning as always.
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Exactly
@@ramennoodles4132 What about men? Women always get complimented on their beauty every day.
Okay is the whole Caradonna family just so philosophical and smart???? I love it
Ikr lol, I feel like this family is very mentally healthy because they are always talking openly about it
Cascina's good relationship with her father is almost a myth for me 😂
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having a father is a myth for me 😂
Honestly
Atleast u have a father.-.
I love how cascina express herself
Dad be like: Cascina I’m legit just trying to get coffee 😂
I can literally!!! Listen to your thoughts/opinions all day and never get annoyed, they are so interesting to me. Much love cass
Yep, very interesting
I would definitely chill with cass at a bonfire or something and just talk about life and random shit lol.
Who wouldn't??
Then, you would proceed to hit on her 😂😂
facrs man
I love when she puts out one of these videos. It’s good to sit back and just ask the simple question “why...” every now and then. Too many decades have gone by and we’ve just accepted what we’re told for facts. Asking questions are not us rebelling against people it’s simple trying to understand deeper why we do what we do.
13:32 I've been wanting to give my parents that look all my life
We need more creators like you and that’s on periodt
Damn we need a book from you or something wow
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Cant argue with facts😘
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Cascina: “We’re just gonna have to deal with the way I look today.”
Me: “beautiful as always? gotcha, sure.” 😂
I know it's a stupid thing but I ADMIRE how Cascina is confident in her house to talk about these philosophycal topics with her dad and her family... I don't have a bad relationship with my family but we're more "material", we could never have a similar conversation
Cascina's community is one of the most wholesome and kind community's on youtube
You’re literally speaking to my soul because I am 25 and I believe that I really have no worth or purpose because I haven’t gotten a Nobel peace prize or cured cancer. I keep going in this perpetual cycle of nothingness trying to figure out why I am here on the floating planet. I feel like I’ll never figure out what I’m destined for or why I was created. I love that you’re so open and expressing what a lot of us can’t put into words! Keep exploring and enjoying life 😉
Day 2 of thanking Cascina for her uploads!
Thank you for making my life better every week, I really love listening to you❤️
These are the kind of stoned rants my old roommate and I used to have all the time. The fact that Cascina does these (I’m assuming lol) sober is amazing. 🖤
Not to mention her parents are open enough to chat about it too
I seriously live for these videos, I love these kind of talks ✨☺️
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I’ve never hit a notification so fast. Science class, you can wait, cascinas more important
I’m in biology too😂
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@@KodiakRaven should I be sorry what's better??
Prioritize school my dude, as a biochemist I can guarantee you it's more important than a video
Honestly your smile and friendliness just made my bad day a bit better :) thank you!
The philosophical mastery displayed here is great. I need more of this random conversation content
I could listen to her talk for hours, I'm serious
I’m the exact same way with music. Always feels better once I dance lol I think it’s natural to do things for other people in order to make yourself feel good, just like you did for your mom. I also think it’s ok to be selfish as long as you help other people as well. Being selfish and doing something for yourself doesn’t have to be a negative. Even though you may feel like you are making these videos (what makes me happy, beliefs that brainwashed me, etc.) for selfish reasons of wanting to feel better, they are still helping other people come to grips with their own feelings as well. So i believe it’s possible to be both selfish and helpful. Being selfish has such a negative connotation, but sometimes you need to look out for yourself.
Please never stop thinking and talking I love it🥰 I like the deep philosophical stuff and listening to it
Love how much thought and passion goes into these.
So refreshing.
cascina's videos is just like therapy for me
Watched this while in the middle of one of those panic attacks that completely immobilize you. Never related to the first 3 minutes of anything more.
Thank you Casina ! It's exactly the kind of video i needed to see today. I was feeling a bit off but now I'm better.
Happy birthday cascina 🥺❤️❤️
Cascina i really enjoy your vids where youre just rambling about what ever is going on inside your head. Many times i agree with what you have to say and i enjoy your delivery. Thanks for making my day a little better.
your vids really make me think girl, I love it
I absolutely love these ramblings!! Just great to watch
That foot slap on the kitchen counter at 8:50 and the fire-raging-through-my-hair mood, real crescent to witness.
I love you so much cascina 😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow. I really don't give myself enough value. At these times I live just like you but just because it doesn't show the productiveness that everyone expects, it makes it valueless. so enlightening. thanks.
I wish I could have deep conversations with you, Cascina! I'm literally so happy I found you and your channel 💛
I think the best thing people can do is to be the best person they can be for themselves. As well as to just try to understand one another before doing or saying something dumb.
Damn Cas, you got deep todayyy
I really enjoy listening to you just blabber it’s comforting 💓
This conversation reminds me of that episode of Friends when Phoebe tried proving to Joey that there was no selfless deeds. Good episode Cascina 🤙🏽
Love you Cass !!! ❤️❤️
i love the way you talk about your thoughts. kisses!!!!
Cascina being motivational once again 🙌
i fkn appreciate u cascina. 🖤
You and your dad talking about selflessness reminds me of Joey and Pheobe's discussion in Friends. And according to Joey, there isn't one single act that's selfless. even a bee dying from stinging or like you said, martyrs.
I hear you and I see you, Cascina. Don’t ever apologize for speaking your mind to us, this is the raw and real aspect we love about you. So go ahead and rant about something that is dear to you because it honestly reaches so many people, you literally have the power to influence people’s minds.
You are beautiful and so talented, I really can’t wait until I see you on tv again because you have a life long fan here in Miami. Forget college degrees, I got one and it literally is just a piece of paper. It brought no happiness. Do what makes you happy and ONLY what makes you happy.
I think it's so wonderful that your father listens to you speak philosophically. He is a very wise man to encourage you to think deeply about life and ponder its meaning. This was a worthwhile video to watch, for many reasons, you have brought up many interesting ideas to consider. Thank you for sharing this snippet of your mind and experience with us.
I love you cascina ❤️
Ok but I could seriously listen to you talk about stuff like this all day 🤠 I have these conversations in my head too often lmao
Its good to see that you're doing alright after this shitshow of a year, specially after hearing the "not gonna lose my marballs for gluten" part. Related to that, i think i've developed a more pessimistic sight about myself. Like even if this shit gets me more mentally ill, who cares? I don't really have this drive to change things in my life anymore, at least not the way it was in 2019, which wasn't perfect either. So i'm glad to see someone still having hope in a silver lining at least for themselves and their mental health every once in a while. Anyway, love your vids, keep doing them and ill keep supporting the channel ❤️
I was hoping he’d mention you gotta have that little “selfish” in you. You gotta have balance- *[OH Shit, he just said it]* lol
The human condition can’t be one way or the other, it’s just...we just need to flow and flow with it. I’m digging this vid, and I’m loving this guy.
+oh, is that her dad? Nice!
I like her character, you don't meet people like her everyday, she is unique and I like how she is so cool while filming you know multitasking❤️
i adore u cascina. I cant really put it in words but you just make sense ??? Pls tell me someone gets it.
The dog in the background is really just *chef’s kiss* beautiful
love you cascina
I love you caradonna!
This reminds me of my conversations with my grandpa (who's very much been my father figure). I didn't want to finish school either, but he gave me that same speech. I didn't buy it either. Instead I found other reasons to continue and now I can say I have a college degree. Throughout that time, I thought (in my head and aloud) about a lot of the things you expressed in this video, like I used to existential dread the shit out of my days and nights. At some point you just have to accept that there are some things you'll never be able to change about the world and decide what you believe in. Some day someone might come along and say something that makes you question those beliefs again. It's okay to be wrong, as long as you try your best to correct that error. I'm glad you shared this because it shows just how much we, as people, have in common even if we don't agree on everything :)
Cascina your amazing !!!!! don’t you dare ever change who you are
I’m fan for cascina 😭❤️❤️!.
Haven’t had time to watch the video yet but just want to say literally yesterday I wished there were more videos of you thinking out loud and having deep talks with the camera, please don’t stop! You have such great perspective on things, I love listening to your thoughts
I have enjoyed this vid so much! Probably my favorite...definitely up there. Oh, and it also adds value.
personally speaking, the acts I do to help people or alleviate others, I do it purely without any expectations at all. Whether I get bashed for it, or whether I get praised for it, it doesn't hit me at all. The reason I do it is because of the foresight (based on experience) of how bad a situation can get for so and so person/people etc. And like your dad said, there are some selfish aspects of us being humans, its inherent, but equating selfishness = something bad doesn't *always* have to be true. I personally feel it boils down to experience I guess. I can be completely off about this lmao but yeah, it's nice to exchange thoughts.
Absolutely love your content for that ❤️ keeeep it cominnn
Def needed this today. It’s been rough
I found your channel like 12 hours ago and I have just been binge-watching all of your vids, you're so cool
Love that 'Ahoy' 🥰 This is how we say Hi in my country (Czech Republic) ♥️
Love you Cascina! ❤
I love thinking of this shit. I really appreciate your relationship with your dad, thats super cool and makes me jealous lol but fr I love hearing these types of conversations. It would be nice to talk to someone about this stuff
i love you cascina
Damn, I really didn’t think I needed this video, thank you.
Nice video cascina!!!love u
Im gonna be so short....
This girl its amazing.... thats all.
Cascina!! never change, never ever. 😉
Cascina and her family deserve a talk show or reality show 🙌
cause at the end of the day when you look at all your actions... they were all because "you wanted to do it." I always ask myself why do I wanna make someone happy or smile etc. and it always boils down to me wanting that reaction, me wanting to see that feeling from another person. I've felt this conversation on a deep level, this is the convo that i'd have to myself because you get around certain people and speak this way and they misinterpret you as wanting to be selfish or advocating for selfish behavior so on and so fourth.
Therapy by cascina is my type of therapy lol
I needed some Cascina energy today fr lol
Bro I live for these videos
I love u cas❤️❤️
You're amazing and this videos was amazing!! I want *burp* more of it!! Pleeeeasee :3
I've been in that place, making those philosophical question when I was just starting college and it does feel good to just think about it and try to piece it all together, with friends.. Like, sure we are all self-driven, but as you said in the beginning we are also "designed" by the society that surounds us. Even when we think we are pleasing ourselves by doing something we want that very pleasure was something we learned to feel. Anyway, I've graduated in history, and had some philosophy and social science classes along the way (now I'm studying linguistics as second grad) and had the opportunity to study a bunch of thinkers who'd thought and written about it all... and it sucks (although it has its merits).. Having "all" the possible "valid" answers just "given" kinda limits the possibility of thinking about the subject "freely". I digress...
Keep that train running =)
CASCINA, I FEEL YOU. 💯
idk how to explain it in any other way but wow your brain is so powerful 💆🏻♀️
Ahoy! Hi Cascina. You are my favorite youtuber and I look forward to your videos every week. I love how real but also extremely energetic at the same time. Oh, and it looks like your leg has gotten better! That’s good.
A lot of what you said is talked about in the book The Courage To Be Disliked and when I realised everything we do is selfish it blew my mind. You’re not alone in these things affecting you, I spiral so often because I panic that no one else seems to notice these things around me. Everyone just seems to live without reeeaaally thinking about it
wow that was deeper than i ever thought. Cascina let everything out.
Everything about this video just loved it
You had so many thoughts it actually made me think about what I’m going through emotional and physically....-
Every time she posts a video like this, I feel so much better.
Ahoy cascina hope your healing better from your bike crash always love your videos you keep me sane and happy I find it hard to talk about stuff aswell the thing I hate the most is how people think their opinions are better and make your opinions wrong that really really pisses me off everyone is equal is allowed to have opinions that really gets my blood boiling I get what your saying about relationships I hate how people ship try to make cute names for couples argh I hate that anyways hope you are doing good and getting better get plenty of rest stay safe healthy cascina love you
That music thing is so true! I always have to listen to music while getting ready to go out
A society with less or no feelings is also without compassion, solidarity or charity.
Also: Gluten is not the enemy. 😝
such a beautiful soul i love you
I have the same conversation with my mother about sense of self vs us. Then there was people storming capitol, which I can relate with storming the kitchen. A difference being one setting being ok and the other not.
Sometimes it can be good to just sit back and listen. Thank you for the video.
GIIIRL I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's thought about this! I just wish I could've join on the conversation in the kitchen honestly 😂 I agree 100% with you, and I'll even add that when I started thinking like this it BROKE my world, because I realised that even the most 'selfless' people are actually as selfish as anybody can be, since we all do it to make ourselves feel better.
BUT I agree with your father about the fact that it doesn't have to be a negative thing. It can be positive when it benefits both parties (or more). Like you said, it's just our we're made. I really can't imagine a being that is not profoundly selfish. Isn't it what consciousness and life and even death is all about?
Okay I'm done now 😅