Ummmmm when I had cable they had 2 lifetime channels on was channel 325 ans they had non stop of these ans I was loving for it .the new lifetime movies ehh
OMG...I just switched to this film that I saw on the sidebar because the new ones just make me nauseous and yeah like Habibah said they just seem more realistic.
"I have to save myself" this must be the most important message of this film. No one can save us except our proper self. Someone who doesn't want to get better won't ever get better.
How come there are no EDs in countries with food shortage? I'd send all these anorexic and bulimic girls to Africa, India, South A, or a refugee camp for a week. They'd be cured in no time!
@@vesnahill444 that's probably the dumbest thing you could have say, and spoiler alert : there are anorexic and bulimic person in theses country too. You know that anorexia and bulimia are damn MENTAL ILLNESS right ? And thus sending people who deals with it to country where there's no food would be absolutely useless, apart from maybe giving them some more traumas ? People with ED are not people who "just refuse the food" or that "don't understand how lucky they are to be able to eat" because guess what ? We fcking know. We know we are lucky and oh well, that make us feel even more terrible. PLEASE stay far away from anyone with an eating disorder.
I was in my 30's, active in my addictions and would spend weekends hungover watching these movies all day. I learned so much about eating disorders, mental health battles, domestic violence signs, etc even though I was caught up in a battle myself. 20 years clean and sober now and these are still my favorite movies of all time. So informative and comforting at the same time. Lifetime 1990's forever ❤️💯❤️😊
God bless you its a beautiful story it's OK to ask for help we ask battle different types of problems. Just know when we admit we have a problem them more people speak up
Flashbacks sitting in my living room with mom who isn’t here anymore watching Lifetime movies and just chilln no cell phones no interruptions just peace..
not very many ED movies cover the subject of relapse. I love how this movie carries it out, how the ED tends worsen each relapse, and how they are often triggered by some sort of trauma (her friend's death). from the viewpoint of someone who has an ED, it's all very accurate, so many (sadly) relatable quotes too
@hoibsh Eating disorders are not limited to females. Here is a link concerning stereotypes. Please read if you suspect that someone you know has one. www.healthline.com/health/eating-disorder-gender-stereotypes#1 Get adults to intervene--especially if they know what they are doing.
Lynda Carter is absolutely stunning. She was the most beautiful woman back in the 70s, 80s and 90s! This movie is 1996 and still as gorgeous as 1975. The 70s were really awesome!
@@sparkles1260 So basically if someone doesn't share your (delusions) point of view.. therefore they must be "a hater" or jealous?! Pardon me, but that's ridiculous and rather quite stupid. I agree with Helen, she is not by any stretch "Stunning" In my very own humble opinion.
One thing I really appreciate about this movie is how it shows that the Mom has a healthy relationship with food and her body and encourages that in her daughters, and her daughter develops an ED. Even the best parenting can’t prevent everything, but the best parenting responds well to everything.
@@whoopwhoop9339 but the thing is there’s lots of them I say oh you gain weight but I don’t mean everybody’s gonna get in disorder and I don’t mean creatine sure by saying that like I honestly will sit there is somebody told me I gain weight but I never got an insured because I said that yeah because you’re white goes up and down so you don’t know what am I is mentality is and you can you can’t blame parents for every little thing because sometimes you know you say something you would think much of it it’s not like you know as you get in a little way you don’t mean they’re saying you’re fat but some people in their mind they take it that way so I have to be a depression and the person I said it was actually a doctor and it wasn’t really my doctor it was another doctor and my daughter got mad at she say that because I have some depression and he got mad because he’s like he told me they could cause me have any disorder because you don’t say that to a severe depression because that’s can cause in disorders to you know because he said that I wasn’t and I just getting a little weight but I wasn’t on healthy weight and I’m still healthy and I didn’t want it may have in my head that I’m also I’m getting fat you know but yeah you can’t always you know some people when they say something that they don’t think any disorder or you know it’s you know and some parents don’t think that you know the child gain a little weight because it’s not calling you fat but again you can’t blame parents for everything people try to blame the parents very little thing like they didn’t see this in don’t see things you can’t blame parents for everything they’re not God all I do is there do their best they don’t make them bad parents parents have to live with that guilt
ya uhhh not exactly the best parenting when your already thin daughter tells you she wants to lose at least 10 pounds and you don’t even say anything about it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You really missed the issue didnt you ??? The mother was constantly manipulating her daughters ina sneaky way.. she told Lexi she had gained a few pounds, which she had but what’s unforgivable is going through her diary, making double gynaecologist appointments for them etc.. talking about her feelings about the divorce and their dad.. She used Lexi as her bestie instead of being a mother. She couldn’t wait to sneak to Pamela, and gained absolutely nothing apart from killing Jen and breaking up her friendship with Lexi bcs she was jealous of losing the control she had over Lexi. 😢I hated her through this entire movie. 😊 And if she had a shred of respect she would NOT be at the hospital constantly staring at poor Pamela as shes just been told her daughters dead… geeeeze how rude
No one gives a shit until you’re emaciated. It’s sad. I cried when she looked in the mirror and the nutritionist asked her to describe what she sees. That was such an accurate portrayal of what’s it’s like. For me the body dysmorphia never left after I recovered. I ended up relapsing 8 years later.
So true I had bulimia for years and no one knew because i was not a size 0 or thin I finally broke down and told my fam like 5 years ago I hid it for years they only care when you are very thin or close to death.
My friends when I tell them I am vegan they question me because I am thin I used to diet I lost a lot of weight I ate 200 calories a day but years later I gained it all back because of depression I ate more than I burned I tried to get rid of by throwing up.
It's because anorexics think they're overweight no matter what. Telling them how much they REALLY weigh is supposed to assist in convincing them to get better.
@@veritybritcliffe1391 It still caught her off guard to hear that she was ninety-four. It's to show anorexics just how dangerous their disorder is and to encourage them to get better. It's not that simple, but it's a start.
You obviously haven't watched many anorexia or EDNOS movies because this one is the least real of all that I've watched. Not saying it's a bad movie, but it's a long way from being a good one concerning this topic.
nunya buisness not obviously...you know what they say about assumptions, don’t you? Did you stop to consider that maybe, just maybe, this one is the most realistic for Smartypants? Considering eating disorders (well, all mental illnesses) manifest differently in everyone and all the other stuff that feeds into them (stress & pressure in school/sports, family dynamics, trauma et ct) is different for everyone, what is a realistic and good interpretations for one person may not be for another
@@allisonmary9891 Another true story concerning this weight problem is "The Karen Carpenter Story". She died very young because she thought she was overweight even though she eventually looked like a walking skeleton.
The line "I haven't gotten you this far to watch you die" always hits me hard. I was born early, came very close to dying, and wound up with a physical disability. I have anorexia, and have for over ten years now. That line always makes me think of my own mother.
I want you to know that you will be okay. You will survive and be healthy, it just takes time. Remember that the one time you push through the tough part will change your life forever. I'm not sure where you are in the world but you have someone praying for you. 🌷
@Laura smuzzer anything can go away. we have more control over things in our lives than we care to admit because it makes it easier to have a reason for our screw ups. an eating disorder is not permanent, when you get your mental health together that kind of thing can go away. anyone battling something internal can overcome it. it's all in their hands if they want to do so or not. it is impossible to make changes and see no changes, with dedication and meditation and honesty looking in the mirror it's impossible not to experience change.
The father jumped in AFTER she got sick. He was truly useless. He said he gave his family notice….. he’s gross. He didn’t even try when Lexi stayed with him. The mom should’ve listened to her gut instead of everyone else. Jen’s mother knew deep down.
Of course, Jen's mother knew, but she didn't want to do anything to help her. Like Jennifer said, her mom's the queen of denial. She didn't want to believe it, like Lexi's mom said.. I do agree, that the dad decided to want to become more involved with Lexi, when she's battling with her eating disorder. He should've always been there. He chose to abandon his family, because like you said, he's useless. He only cared about himself, until Lexi was battling with her eating disorder.. it's obvious that Lexi was also blessed to have a mother who truly wanted her to love herself, and was 100% supportive.. thinking about it, Jen's parents wouldn't have been supportive with getting better. They pretended that everything was perfect and alright..
I agree. Especially when they are dying from something like not eating and just eating would save their lives and they just won't do it.. It has to be heartbreaking and so frustrating at the same time!
Yes, this is true😢 I watched my only son struggle with addiction for years. It was the worst time of my life. That includes my own addiction and recovery. It was so much worse watching my baby struggle 😢 He's 2ys sober now and newly married to his first love. I'm so proud of him ❤ It's a long road I have 10ys, so I know it's a neverending battle, but I have all the faith I can in him!
Nice film Years ago I had anorexia And bulimia It took me 7 years to recover but I knew I had a problem And it was me to be determined to help myself . Yes my x husband always compared me to others and I thought to make him happy I would change . But no We divorced in the end which was sad 😔 But never ever allow a man or any other woman to tell you your fat or your ugly Us woman are all beautiful We come in all shapes and sizes . There is not a perfect woman out there . Let’s be happy for who we are the important thing Is Love yourself God is good and helped all those in need . And never allow a man to overpower your thinking if a man loves you He will love your heart and how you are . Love to all ....
They do. We’re all typically a reflection of the people we hang out with, so if you only seem to attract nasty people, you have some work to do too. Good people are out there.
It made me cry at the end when she looks into the bleachers and sees Jen. It’s like Jen saying from heaven “you got this girl, I’m so proud of you”. What an excellent movie.
The will of the one who recovers is very important. And love can help, for the "victim" to deal in a right way with her feelings and toughts that make it difficult for the will to overcome, as the movie shows.
I just think she was jealous and obsessed with Jen as well and wanted to become like her. She should have been at that meeting instead of following Jen around. Lexi was a weak friend. Jen was sick but Lexi was weak and jealous.
Yup me too feel like she lost her best sister but also down side is when Jenn parents were completely in deniel about their daughter not only that she introduced lexi that binging and and purging would help lose wieght not only that coach didnt help either when told her she would move faster if she drop a little bit weight but thing is when you tell someone that need lose wieght its definly a trigger for an eating disorder and can't stop. I also found that the father was a jerk mom was doing her job to save her daughter.
I was diagnosed with ED a year and a half ago and never knew how thin I was getting....this is 💜 heartbreaking...please pray for all who struggle with this
Slippery Slope:NEVER EVER TELL A TEEN (especially a teen girl) that she has "...put on a few pounds"-even if it's truly just a few pounds.Future mothers of tweens and teens heed my warning.It sets a trajectory (not all teens tho many) of self image issues and of course eating disorders.They have enough crap to deal with including social media critiques from other teens,etc
The daughter asked. She's supposed to lie to her over the possibility that she might develop an eating disorder? What's next? Letting her room get messy because she might develop OCD if you tell her to clean up?
@@ghettomarc50 Okay one. Children as young as 5 can have issues with OCD. It doesn’t all have to do with cleaning. They are struggling. They don’t understand why but they are extremely compelled to have things a certain way or do things a certain way. Don’t compare the two. And mind you, these children suffer all the way into adulthood. It eats them alive and hurts every second of the way. So shut the hell up and educate yourself.
@@2jcward the pain is very real, I would binge until I couldn’t even stand up straight because my stomach was hurting so much from all the food but now I am in recovery so I haven’t felt that pain in along time
@@esval3054 yeah, he looked so happy to see Jen walk through that door then once he saw she brought her friend he then started to look agitated and says "oh, I thought you were coming alone". Yeah, he had a different agenda. If Lexi wasn't there he probably would taken advantage of her.
Wah Lexi should have known she’s not attractive in that way . He never aimed his intentions towards Lexi at all. He was very clear when he asked Jen and only Jen
"bulimics can maintain normal body weights and still be in danger." SOMEONE FINALLY FUCKING SAID IT!! i mean, same for anorexia, but they didnt know that yet so whatever.
I agree by the end of my movie where mom to said Lexi not only are you on your own the part Lexi said back to her mom she didn’t want to die showing her mom that she was finally ready to get better and also I’m proud of Lexi standing up to her father telling him before going back to hospital for treatment that he wasn’t going to be the one or her mom to save herself she had to have the courage save herself on her own and that it was her choice if she wanted saved as for Jennifer’s parents I was shocked that they didn’t wanna believe that own daughter’s eating disorder killed her and Lexi was there to try get her best friend help after she went into treatment herself that shows her best friend Lexi was looking out for her just like Lexi found her one only best friend died blaming herself for her death was not her fault I’m glad Jennifer in spirit was looking out for her when Lexi was struggling back with her own ED again.
@@scanlon1201 Jenniffer's parents were definitely in denial. when catherine returned the sweater she thought was Jen's the look of disugst on jen's mum's face showed she was in denial.
I've watched this movie literally 2 times a year since I was little! I bet i'm not the only one! but now I can watch it in a healthy mindset! I use to watch these movies for some sort of sick motivation!
I rewatched this movie again after a year and it’s still the best representation of eating disorders. It explains anorexia and how it’s not just about being skinny but other issues that play into it. Along with when Jen died and how Lexi relapsed. It was well made. I too have suffered from anorexia and bulimia and though now I can say I’m in recovery and have been for a while it is still a good movie.
These girls have boundless energy in this film I could hardly get out of bed was totally fatigued tired all time I had bullemia for DECADES over 30 years you wouldn’t be bouncing around limitless energy like these girls have in this film total rubbish best representation of a eating disorder WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON LOVE
This movie is the most accurate depiction of EDs probably a little TOO accurate. When I was in middle school and made my first best friend, I remember trying to recreate their friendship dynamic. I taught my friend some things, and I told them about what I did, mostly to show off. I don't remember too many of the details because blocked then out, but so remember feeling so proud about sharing this life with someone. - I didn't realize how sick I was. It's been about 10 years since then, and I fear I'm on the road to a relapse. I'm watching and writing this in the hopes that I will figure out how to get through it, hopefully in the healthiest way possible. It's definitely an addiction. It's really scary, because drug addicts can find ways to avoid drugs, but us with Eating Disorders cannot ever avoid food. It's completely mind consuming, to the point where you don't even know who you are without it anymore It's terrifying how when you're in it, you never feel sick enough.
It sounds like you have a lot of self-awareness now that you probably didn't back then. It can help to use the focus and self-discipline that an ED leeches off of to keep yourself healthy, especially when it's not realistic to say you won't track your food or your weight. Count a streak of the longest you can go without missing a meal (even if it's something small). Or focus on not falling _below_ a certain weight, even if you stay very close to it. If the control and the routine are more your thing, come up with small, healthy, boring meals that you can eat every day, preferably ones that involve some amount of "ritual," which usually feels calming for people predisposed to EDs. (I used to eat a prepackaged fruit and nut thing every morning, and I would put the hot water and my tea bag in a a travel mug, close it up, then eat the dried fruit and cashews while putting every almond I came across on the lid of my mug. When I finished, I'd eat the warmed almonds, then sip on my tea until lunch. It became something I didn't want to miss, and was really helpful in not letting me start any kind of "streak" of not eating.) Self-injury, drugs, disordered eating, drinking -- none of it ever lives up to its initial promise of bringing calm and helping manage the stress. Those things only ever consume what life you could be living, making you plan around the liquor stores being closed on Sundays, or a beach trip coming up, or how you'll manage a big family dinner. Sometimes the biggest deterrent to relapse is focusing all your memories on what it was like by the end -- ugly, miserable, *lonely,* and trapped. I hope you're doing well, and if you're not, I hope you will be soon. You'll have to forgive me, I'm going to dig back into my emo days, when the "It Gets Better" campaign was really getting on my nerves, and find you the excellent Bert McCracken quote I discovered. It helped me infinitely more than just being told it would get better: "It's about being proud of who you are, being proud of your situation and just being stoked that things are always going to get better or always gonna get worse and that's such a great thing." Keep fighting. Whether it's getting better or worse, that's how you know you're alive. And as long as you're alive, you have options, choices, hope, and infinite potential futures. _That's_ why it's such a great thing.
My eating disorder is currently relapsing and my dumb ED brain has been making me obsessively watch ED-related movies to trigger myself. This is probably the best one I've seen yet. It was educational and didn't romanticize eating disorders The worst ED movie I've seen is Starving In Suburbia. I strongly recommend that nobody watch it lol it's beyond triggering and not even an accurate representation of eating disorders
This one, sharing the secret, and for the love of Nancy are my go to triggers. Starving in suburbia is shit the only good thing in that movie is the music lol
Its not that. The ones who love people who battle these eating disorders dont want to believe or accept their loved one is struggling with a demon like this. A lot of people dont understand eating disorders; hence her mom saying "why is it so hard for you to just eat." then her mom starts to feel guilty for not accepting an illness sooner and it may be too late. This is a great movie and a great example of how they feel and react with this battle. Its all in the head. And takes away so many way too young. Look up anorexia and bulimia and read about it. read peoples stories. it literally shatters my heart knowing some people just cant look in the mirror and say "I look beautiful today." more often than not without feeling repulsed by their own body. the death rates are astounding and disheartening; painful to realize. theres a lot going on psychologically that even doctors can be unsure of as well. sometimes its just hard to approach a situation like that without feeling helpless to a loved one battling. And sometimes survivors also feel EVEN WORSE when they are treated like a patient rather than being treated like the person they are trying so hard to see in the mirror. :( sorry for the paragraph, i just want people to be educated on this subject.
She was a control freak.. couldn’t stand the fact her ex had another woman, used lexi as her best friend not her daughter.. what mother makes a double gynaecologist appointment!!! my god!! how sick is that!?!? Reading her diary, poking her nose in.. no wonder lexi hit rock bottom and when she screams at her this is something to do with me she had that right. Jealous of Jen.. the list is endless
the strain of a child doing something awful to their own self is pretty tough. they really showed all the different dynamics of a family here very well. good one.
My eating disorder is overeating. Whether it's too much weight or not enough it's hard to deal with. People say why can't they just eat and people say to me why can't I stop? We are all trying our best. Prayers for everyone.
I love the part where Jennifer went after Lexi and agreed to not take pics for the dude bc he was a jerk to her best friend, she could have stayed but she didn’t. That’s a true friend. And that asshole had another idea in his agenda bc when they both showed up and he responds after seeing that she also brought Lexi “oh, I thought you were coming alone.” Sounding very bummed out. He was so trying to seduce Jennifer.
After seeing so many of these movies blame the moms, it's nice to see one where the mom is, in fact, a very good person who is clearly trying very hard to be a good parent. The reality is that sometimes, as much as parents blame themselves, it's really not your fault.
Typical patriarchal bs in the comments. The mom had some faults yes but daddy cheated, moved out, didn't warn the girls about his new gf, pretty much parented from far until things got almost too late.
I agree with you mostly. I think the mom should have taken her back to the hospital sooner and the dad did right by that, but she had the real tough job by being there every day and trying to figure out how to deal with it. The dad should have moved down there when he found out what was going on. Still, I think he was right to take her back to the hospital.
@@savannah8243 i agree that he had the right idea and intentions to take her back to the hospital but he was way too forceful. if someone doesn't wanna recover, they're not going to recover. forcing her to go to the hospital and shoving a feeding tube down her throat won't help her recover. sure she'll be alive but she won't be recovered. anorexia is a mental illness, it's in the mind.
@@summerrain8390 ok i havent watched the movie yet so idk exactly what happens but i feel like if someone is at risk of dying you should take them to the hospital first so they can be at least a little healthier, because if your body isn’t healthy it’s very hard to get in a healthy mindset
She did not have some faults.. she was one big mistake as a parent!!!! 1: Never buying her own tampons ( sick or lazy, can't work out which ) 2: Snooping in Lexis diary without even asking SMH 3: Forcing her to see a gynaecologist 4: Betraying her trust by poking her nose in and telling Jens mum what Lexi said 5: Using her girls as weapons against the father who they both loved dearly 6: Dragging her kids in to HER emotional claptrap 7: neglectful of Jill through all of this 8: Manipulating to Lexi 9: trying to be the girls friend rather than a mother 10: Controlling who Lexi has as friends Need I go on???? and why does her chin stick out like a witch when she smiles 🧙♀️ 😂
I understand this movie all too well I suffered from anorexia too many years ago This actress is brilliant at portraying a young woman who is struggling with A Eating disorder that I am so familiar with I still feel like I am remembering that her pain. The relapse part was so realistic and the best little girl in the world never showed the relapse In addition, I think when she thought everything was my fault I totally relate I am so glad this movie was done I am now 56 years old and totally recovered from this horrible disease . Anyone have any thoughts on how they relate to the movie or has someone else know anybody else who suffers from it. I had divorced parents that were always fighting with each other and the father t seems so disrespectful and distant from his girls an only intervenes when she is very ill .The mother Lynda Carter portrayed is a beautiful and special and caring and compassionate l person who is so torn between her daughter Lexie and her health peter was harsh . Lexie learned something that she had to save her own self. Beautiful movie well done happy ending
Lexis mother couldn't wait to go and tell jens mum.. she already knew.. like jen said , her mother was the queen of denial..lexis mum killed jen.. next time may e she should go back to weighing potatoes not pretending to be "in" with the other mums who obviously despise her
@@flight101 You are the one in denial. Lexi's Mom thought she was doing the right thing by telling Jen's Mom. And she did not kill Jen. What a stupid thing to say.
This movie was so beautiful yet so devastating. I watch these ED films whether binging, bullumia, anorexia, it doesn’t matter. I use these as a way to cope with my anorexia or just to trigger me. They also really help me get my emotions out so I can feel a bit better!
Why on Earth would you watch something to trigger you In something that ould kill you?! Sorry but that sounds like someone looking for an excuse to go back to an illness.
My jaw hits the floor every time I see this movie and the coach says, "also you'd jump a lot higher if you dropped a few pounds.." coaches can be tough and push their athletes to be the best, but that's just downright cruel and in today's day and age she would be fired if not a hefty lawsuit for weight shaming young girls!
She didn't say it in front of millions. I just think Lexi had a weak mentality. If she was not weak she would've been able to possibly save Jen instead of joining the sick game.
I always think the same thing! First the coach subs her out, Lexy tells her 'I'm having and off day' and then the coach chews her out about her performance and tells her to lose weight. Doesn't matter who else heard it, Lexy did, and took it to heart. If the coach was so concerned she would say, "Lexi I'd like to speak with you after the game/before practice. You said you were having an off day, what's going on?" Or, if she was concerned about her performance or weight, help her develop a training and eating plan to improve.
@@goodone8516 that is a point to be made, but I'm wondering where Lexi would find this mental strength. She's young, going through teenage changes, her perfect family split up, her Dad won't give her the time of day, her Mother is busy with a career and trying to support her daughters, she's moved halfway across the country from her friends and the place she grew up. She's so eager to please and starved for love and attention. Lexi is in the perfect vulnerable state for any addiction to develop. Then she meets Jen, who checks all those boxes for her. Of course she isn't going to say anything against Jen's powerful addiction, but go along with it or risk losing the only love and attention she gets from a person.
@@mountainmommusic8535 You might be right about wanting to please the only friend she had after moving there. Plus Jen was popular. Could've ruin the new comer if crossed. I never really looked at it that way.
God that father pisses me off! He thinks that if he forces her into a hospital, they’ll stuff her full of food, and a week or two later she’ll be fixed. Then he’ll drag her to his place and use strong arm tactics to keep her in line. But he won’t actually want to deal with her - with any of the realities of raising a teenage girl. 😞
How about mothers raising teenage boys? At this time there wasn't much known about eating disorders. Both mothers and fathers knew practically nothing about this subject. Her mother is hoping she'll be better after a week or 2 of treatment also. Her father is just as worried and loves her just as much as her mother. My dad is the one to confide in in my family. My mom is the one who "strong arms" and didn't want to look at the reality of raising a teenage girl. He isn't strong arming her. He is very good at her bedside. He was very good his daughter. He didn't "strong arm" her at all. Ya know, Men aren't so bad. There are some bad men and fathers just as much as there are bad women and mothers. My mom was never, not even now as an adult, as comforting and understanding as Lynda Carter is in this movie! My father on the other hand was and still is!
He doesn't get it, but he's missing the mark on the "compassionate" part of tough love. He can't just decide to come back, snap his fingers, and expect her to accept what he's trying to do. And, Mom has sole custody, so he didn't have the right to force the feeding tube. Putting it in was illegal.
@@audreyann1975 this father doesn’t love his daughters at all. He’s a very selfish person who puts his needs first. A father might leave a mother if the relationship doesn’t work out... but he should never cut his children off the way this prick did. He never calls, never returns calls. Didn’t bother to have a conversation with his daughter about how she felt or what she wanted... just issued orders! None of that indicates that you truly love a person. I talk to my parents at least twice a week, and have done ever since I moved out when I was 20. Both of them, every week. That’s what proper parents do.
@Alicante Actress Did you watch the whole movie? It was pretty clear from the start he didn't care about his children. When he called, he didn't want to talk to them. He was in a hurry to get off the phone. He didn't call or write on a regular basis, as a parent should if not with their kids. When the girls went to spend the holiday with him, instead of spending time with his children, he invited his new girlfriend along and forced them all together. The mother had to beg him to listen to his child - he didn't want to listen. He just stormed in and issued orders. Then wanted to go home! He didn't even want to stick around and see his child every day through this health crisis! Nope, he's a shitty father and had no right to barge in and assume he was welcome or that his input was wanted. Lots of parents are like this. They divorce their spouse, but they also abandon the children. A proper parent can call and/or write every day if not living with their children. They can ask questions about their lives, their schoolwork, their problems. When they have physical visits, they can spend time with their children without their new partner. Those are the ways they can put in the effort to be in their children's lives even if they're not with them physically. But they don't. They're just selfish jerks who abandon their children when they abandoned their spouse.
I had an ED from age 13-21. It stemmed from me having a glow up one year and everyone at school telling me I should model. The boys who didn’t notice me the year before started liking me when I was tall,skinny and prettier. I became so obsessed with looking tall and thin to people and for myself. I heard “you should model” almost everyday. So my ED wasn’t fueled by a put down but by over complimenting. I also was having problems at home with my big sister and parents always fighting. I believe that was a control mechanism also. My family life was full of strife and I couldn’t control anything so I just started to hardly eat and becoming obsessed with fitting into smaller and smaller sizes. I look back now as a 36 year old woman and wonder how I survived my school years living on yogurt drinks,water and slim fast and still make good grades. Geez. I would often get dizzy and see stars from being so empty. Luckily I healed physically but I still have issues mentally with food. I think we should just tell people they look wonderful,great,beautiful,lovely etc but never comment on their bodies. Good or bad.
With regards to the discussion stating that 'the mother is terrible/a bad mother' etc; I mostly just feel sorry for her, and I think she's a great mum. She's so terrified, and like so many parents in this situation she hasn't got a clue what to do. There needs to be more support for carers in this position. I can say from experience, heavy handed treatment like from the father isn't always the best course of action. After being forced into treatment and into hospital myself actually made me much worse. The people who have been most supporting for me are those who are patient, who don't force me to get tubed and don't get all shouty and hysterical if they hear me purging. The gentle, slower support is dangerous, of course. But so is having an eating disorder. Personally while the extreme reactions may be a short-term fix, the mothers attitude and support would be more affective in having a long term, positive effect on a more sustainable recovery. Also this is just my personal opinion, as I say just from my personal experience. Treatments for eating disorders are super complex and what is very effective for one person may do nothing, or may be disastrous for another. :) My best wishes to all those out there struggling with similar disorders. There is an end to it, I promise.
The father pissed me off. He haven't spoken to his daughters in months but, all of a sudden, want to come in acting like he knows best and want to be so controlling.
It is _asinine_ that they (Lexi's mom, the coach, and Lexi) think Lexi needs to lose weight. I was on the varsity volleyball team in high school and there were several girls who weighed much more than Lexi and were excellent players. So what that so-called coach said is a load of crap. Both of these girls are twigs.
In the 90s and before, people thought the more weight you had the less you performed. When in reality, weight has nothing to do with it. Strength is the key, strong legs and arms make for a good volleyball player. As well as agility
Funny as I thought they could have got thinner actresses. They are about average weight. I suppose then they were low budget and had to make the best of what they had,
finally someone who saw things as they were... it's hard for me to see some people blaming the mother, when her dad was hardly around and couldn't care less for his daughters ... new gf was more important
that father is a real jerk, not only does he walk out on his family but he comes marching back into their house and starts ordering the mother around, bet he was physically abusive to her as well when they were together.
I totally agree. If the father hadn't stepped in both times, the mother would've found her dead on the bathroom floor. Also--there was no mention or evidence of physical abuse in the marriage.
Actually it was the mother I disagreed with. You can't dick around with stuff like that. They should have put her in the hospital and got her help long ago. Her mother needs to be more of a mother and get her daughter help so she doesn't die like her friend. Another problem was the mother at the end doesn't help much at all. She is trying to but really doing nothing. Anorexia is a psychological problem she's asking her daughter why is it so hard to eat. It's not hard to eat its hard to get past her mental disorder and telling her daughter 'I think you can I think you can' isn't going to help her get better take her to a hospital where she can actually get help.
I had this. I still struggle. I had to get help as well. What people see & you see are two different things. This movie is on point completely. I weigh more then I want to now but I got so sick when I was had/have anorexia. I've came a long way for sure. I still go through fazes where I wanna lose a lot of weight but ill do it the right way this time. Thank you for the upload! ❤
When Lexi first got admitted into the program and her nutritionist told her to step backwards on the scale, I literally got flashbacks from my summer at PHP. I liked how at the end of the movie, Lexi and her nutritionist grew a connection with one another. My therapist, dietitian, and dietetic all were such amazing people and made my time at the program actually enjoyable. Though when I got discharged, my parents sort of neglected the fact my ED didn't just completely go away. My mom didn't do any of the paperwork to get me into outpatient with my therapist and nutritionist. It hurts to say that I've completely relapsed, and I'm scared it's even worse this time because it's not about my body this time, but just about having a sense of control. I really resonated with Lexi when she started to grow a healthy relationship with food and cooking, but a traumatic event that didn't even involve her eating majorly set her back. Eating disorders are not just about food or your body. It's a psychological illness that eats you alive. It makes you feel angry. Sad. Euphoric. Isolated. It is just like any other addiction, and I don't think people understand that. No matter how bad an eating disorder is gruesomely portrayed, people seek comfort in that because it's what they know. BUT GOD I WISH MY MOTHER WAS LIKE THIS
Danyelle I agree with you. a lot of this has to do with the pictures they show of how skinny the models are in the pictures, but what they do not realize is that they take a airbrush to the pictures to erase the flaws from the pictures... It is really sad... I know of one person that believes if a woman has hips she is fat. that is not right at all. I just wanted to say I do agree with you.
Eating disorders affects people of all ages and both men and women. We all know the risks. It's like people that drink, smoke, overeat etc. Its very similar to an addiction.
Most ppl who develop eds don’t care about the health risks, it’s not just a simple fix to losing weight to most it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism and an addiction similar to smoking
nevaeh peanut you will start caring when your hair starts falling out and you suddenly pass out from starvation I know someone who had an eating disorder and she almost died please don't do that to your body because your bones will become brittle and it will affect you when you get older
When you're dealing worth someone with ED, you can't let them manipulate you. Her guilting her mom into not making her go to the hospital is exactly what people do when they have an eating disorder
i love how her mom waas there for her , i have an eating problem , i binge eat and im still over weight and my mom is so concerned about her weight that it makes me worry about mine then i stop eating for days .
Guess what! Lack of iodine is making people heavy. The supplement regulates your system. Iodoral, nascent, research iodine. Please don't abuse yourself.
@Alicante Actress we are all suffering from lack of iodine. Salt has iodine removed. Our bread has bromine which sucks iodine out of our system. No wonder why everyone is so fat.
ugh so true. when they banned feelings in 1999 my parents were devastated to have to raise me in a post feelings world. it’s awful that now whenever someone cries, yells, or smiles they are executed. take me back to the good old days 😔
It’s so crazy, in 9th grade I was voted best butt(no joke, some kids started this list and that’s what I was on there for)but now I always get told I have no ass/flat ass etc.. 🙄 That’s why you never ever try to make others or the world happy, just make yourself happy!
This dad reminds me of mine. As a teen He left my mom, never saw him without a girlfriend on his arm. Forced me to use antidepressants and never to deal with how I felt. And he wonders why I don’t visit him to this day..🙄
This is Jennifer Sinclair. Does the movie help you eat again or help you not eat? Eat. Remember, that is how many women hold themselves back in life. Their male counterparts are focusing on educational and fun things and the girls are focusing on food.
@@tanickasinclair7035 I suggest that you do some research into eating disorders. They very rarely have anything to do with just “thinking about food,” and it trivializes a very serious mental illness to say so. It’s about control.
@@tanickasinclair7035 man what? The reason why I have an eating disorder is because my life has been a mess ever since I was born and it's the only thing that makes me feel worthy and being in control. It's not that simple
@@earthbruja5268 watering that seed is still equally as guilty as planting it in this case. The coach was like that in that Perfect body movie too. They encouraged the eating disorders by telling them to lose weight.
I had a friend who was much taller than all of us and she was a little big, the boys constantly made fun of her, I got into some fights with the boys over her and surprisingly I didnt get in trouble when I got home. Then they moved two hours away, it was a few months before they came to visit and she looked so scary! She went from a cool friend that we did everything together to a little stick that was too sick to do anything. She had to go through intensive care for a while and then my other friend and I went to spend summer break with her. We stayed with her mom when she went to her group meetings. It was horrible, she smelled bad like I cant even explain, and she looked worse than a cancer patient. She finally got it under control and is a beautiful mother now with a great career! Sadly I have had more friends than her to get this disease and I still cant understand it, because they truly believe they are fat as they are looking at their bones! It is very sad to watch someone you know slowly kill their self to be what they think is beautiful
So good to see a good movie where there was real frienship, love, and care, for each other. This you don't find too often. I've had about 3 or 4 like this in my life, and it sure make the world a better place having them. Jen was a beautiful friend model like. So sad about her end.
Lifetime needs a channel dedicated to old movies like this.
agreed!! I miss the old movies.
You both speak the absolute truth! I vote for the old movies any day!
Ummmmm when I had cable they had 2 lifetime channels on was channel 325 ans they had non stop of these ans I was loving for it .the new lifetime movies ehh
I agree.
@@dreadedweirdohippie9524 We def did
These old lifetime movies way better then the new lifetime movies on now
Angel Spivey more realistic
OMG...I just switched to this film that I saw on the sidebar because the new ones just make me nauseous and yeah like Habibah said they just seem more realistic.
U got that right!
Can't agree more....
Yep!
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"I have to save myself" this must be the most important message of this film. No one can save us except our proper self. Someone who doesn't want to get better won't ever get better.
How come there are no EDs in countries with food shortage? I'd send all these anorexic and bulimic girls to Africa, India, South A, or a refugee camp for a week. They'd be cured in no time!
Ilona I was anorexic as a teenager, and had to put in the anorexic ward at the children’s hospital for a week. It is not a good way live. ⛄️🎄🎅🏼❄️
@@vesnahill444 that's probably the dumbest thing you could have say, and spoiler alert : there are anorexic and bulimic person in theses country too. You know that anorexia and bulimia are damn MENTAL ILLNESS right ? And thus sending people who deals with it to country where there's no food would be absolutely useless, apart from maybe giving them some more traumas ? People with ED are not people who "just refuse the food" or that "don't understand how lucky they are to be able to eat" because guess what ? We fcking know. We know we are lucky and oh well, that make us feel even more terrible. PLEASE stay far away from anyone with an eating disorder.
@@victoriamayo5774 That's hard, I hope you're good now! I'm dealing with eating disorder too, i just started to see a therapist :)
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I have to fully agree with all you state here.
I was in my 30's, active in my addictions and would spend weekends hungover watching these movies all day. I learned so much about eating disorders, mental health battles, domestic violence signs, etc even though I was caught up in a battle myself.
20 years clean and sober now and these are still my favorite movies of all time. So informative and comforting at the same time. Lifetime 1990's forever ❤️💯❤️😊
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God bless you its a beautiful story it's OK to ask for help we ask battle different types of problems. Just know when we admit we have a problem them more people speak up
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you should be proud of yourself
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Flashbacks sitting in my living room with mom who isn’t here anymore watching Lifetime movies and just chilln no cell phones no interruptions just peace..
My heart goes out to you ❤️❤️❤️
RIP to your mom 🙏🏽❤️
Aww I know how you feel lost my mom too
I am so very sorry about your Mom. I wish you Peace.
Sorry for your lost. Lost my mom on Mother's Day of 2019. Man the days when it was her and I watching Lifetime. #Mon&Son
I know this sound silly but I like how cool Jen and Lexi's guy friends are. Usually the males in Lifetime teen movies portrayals as jerks. :)
I k ow
*Yes so true, love that **#RyanReynold** was in this movie!* 💙
You're right I like this too...a lot
Ryan Reynolds was a bit of a comedian even in this. I was at first 🧐 Why do I recognize this guy!😂
@haley i guess that doesn’t negate all the other scenes🤷🏾♀️
not very many ED movies cover the subject of relapse. I love how this movie carries it out, how the ED tends worsen each relapse, and how they are often triggered by some sort of trauma (her friend's death). from the viewpoint of someone who has an ED, it's all very accurate, so many (sadly) relatable quotes too
@Adrian At And T if you feel that way, why are you watching it then?
@@lilbabydoll00 How are you doing now?
@Adrian At And T It's never outdated to talk about topics like this.
@Adrian At And T a man would never understand the struggle.
@hoibsh Eating disorders are not limited to females. Here is a link concerning stereotypes. Please read if you suspect that someone you know has one. www.healthline.com/health/eating-disorder-gender-stereotypes#1
Get adults to intervene--especially if they know what they are doing.
Lynda Carter is absolutely stunning. She was the most beautiful woman back in the 70s, 80s and 90s! This movie is 1996 and still as gorgeous as 1975. The 70s were really awesome!
So true.
how odd. she is unremarkably plain in my view.
She is a stunning woman!
@@helenlauer9545 jealous?
@@sparkles1260 So basically if someone doesn't share your (delusions) point of view.. therefore they must be "a hater" or jealous?! Pardon me, but that's ridiculous and rather quite stupid. I agree with Helen, she is not by any stretch "Stunning" In my very own humble opinion.
One thing I really appreciate about this movie is how it shows that the Mom has a healthy relationship with food and her body and encourages that in her daughters, and her daughter develops an ED. Even the best parenting can’t prevent everything, but the best parenting responds well to everything.
Yeah I mean the mom didn’t help with a lot of the things she said though. Like when she told Lexi she gained weight. That really stuck with her.
@@whoopwhoop9339 but the thing is there’s lots of them I say oh you gain weight but I don’t mean everybody’s gonna get in disorder and I don’t mean creatine sure by saying that like I honestly will sit there is somebody told me I gain weight but I never got an insured because I said that yeah because you’re white goes up and down so you don’t know what am I is mentality is and you can you can’t blame parents for every little thing because sometimes you know you say something you would think much of it it’s not like you know as you get in a little way you don’t mean they’re saying you’re fat but some people in their mind they take it that way so I have to be a depression and the person I said it was actually a doctor and it wasn’t really my doctor it was another doctor and my daughter got mad at she say that because I have some depression and he got mad because he’s like he told me they could cause me have any disorder because you don’t say that to a severe depression because that’s can cause in disorders to you know because he said that I wasn’t and I just getting a little weight but I wasn’t on healthy weight and I’m still healthy and I didn’t want it may have in my head that I’m also I’m getting fat you know but yeah you can’t always you know some people when they say something that they don’t think any disorder or you know it’s you know and some parents don’t think that you know the child gain a little weight because it’s not calling you fat but again you can’t blame parents for everything people try to blame the parents very little thing like they didn’t see this in don’t see things you can’t blame parents for everything they’re not God all I do is there do their best they don’t make them bad parents parents have to live with that guilt
ya uhhh not exactly the best parenting when your already thin daughter tells you she wants to lose at least 10 pounds and you don’t even say anything about it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
You really missed the issue didnt you ??? The mother was constantly manipulating her daughters ina sneaky way.. she told Lexi she had gained a few pounds, which she had but what’s unforgivable is going through her diary, making double gynaecologist appointments for them etc.. talking about her feelings about the divorce and their dad.. She used Lexi as her bestie instead of being a mother. She couldn’t wait to sneak to Pamela, and gained absolutely nothing apart from killing Jen and breaking up her friendship with Lexi bcs she was jealous of losing the control she had over Lexi. 😢I hated her through this entire movie. 😊 And if she had a shred of respect she would NOT be at the hospital constantly staring at poor Pamela as shes just been told her daughters dead… geeeeze how rude
@@minou3427 exactly !!!!! everyone blamed the coach but it was the mom
No one gives a shit until you’re emaciated. It’s sad.
I cried when she looked in the mirror and the nutritionist asked her to describe what she sees. That was such an accurate portrayal of what’s it’s like. For me the body dysmorphia never left after I recovered. I ended up relapsing 8 years later.
I hope you're ok now ♥ you are beautiful sister ♥ don't forget that ♥
So true I had bulimia for years and no one knew because i was not a size 0 or thin I finally broke down and told my fam like 5 years ago I hid it for years they only care when you are very thin or close to death.
My friends when I tell them I am vegan they question me because I am thin I used to diet I lost a lot of weight I ate 200 calories a day but years later I gained it all back because of depression I ate more than I burned I tried to get rid of by throwing up.
People use to think I was bulimic or anorexic just bc I was a size 0 weighed 99lbs
In reality I was just on heroin lol I been a year clean thank God
I’m so sorry you have went through that.
*weighs her backwards so she doesn't see her weight*
"Soooo you weighed in at 94 pounds"
It's because anorexics think they're overweight no matter what. Telling them how much they REALLY weigh is supposed to assist in convincing them to get better.
@@autumnemerald1019 that doesnt help tho. to her that isnt enough still
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It still caught her off guard to hear that she was ninety-four. It's to show anorexics just how dangerous their disorder is and to encourage them to get better. It's not that simple, but it's a start.
@@autumnemerald1019 umm. No we don't. I mean, some of us have body dysmorphia but we know 94 isn't overweight. Just not where we wanna be
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That's my point. You are constantly wanting to be thinner because you never feel thin enough.
This is probably the realest ED lifetime movie. The whole "I have to get rid of it," mindset. It's right on the money.
You obviously haven't watched many anorexia or EDNOS movies because this one is the least real of all that I've watched. Not saying it's a bad movie, but it's a long way from being a good one concerning this topic.
its very realistic. if you like this check out "starving in suburbia"
+nunya buisness Everybody’s ed hits differently. The family drama, the need to get rid of it... all relatable.
nunya buisness not obviously...you know what they say about assumptions, don’t you? Did you stop to consider that maybe, just maybe, this one is the most realistic for Smartypants? Considering eating disorders (well, all mental illnesses) manifest differently in everyone and all the other stuff that feeds into them (stress & pressure in school/sports, family dynamics, trauma et ct) is different for everyone, what is a realistic and good interpretations for one person may not be for another
@@allisonmary9891 Another true story concerning this weight problem is "The Karen Carpenter Story". She died very young because she thought she was overweight even though she eventually looked like a walking skeleton.
The line "I haven't gotten you this far to watch you die" always hits me hard. I was born early, came very close to dying, and wound up with a physical disability. I have anorexia, and have for over ten years now.
That line always makes me think of my own mother.
I want you to know that you will be okay. You will survive and be healthy, it just takes time. Remember that the one time you push through the tough part will change your life forever. I'm not sure where you are in the world but you have someone praying for you. 🌷
@Laura smuzzer it isnt.
@Laura smuzzer anything can go away. we have more control over things in our lives than we care to admit because it makes it easier to have a reason for our screw ups. an eating disorder is not permanent, when you get your mental health together that kind of thing can go away. anyone battling something internal can overcome it. it's all in their hands if they want to do so or not. it is impossible to make changes and see no changes, with dedication and meditation and honesty looking in the mirror it's impossible not to experience change.
@@elainadevora1506 That’s a Beautiful way to Speak LIFE into Someone!!🌷
@@Aariyan096 thank you ❤
The father jumped in AFTER she got sick. He was truly useless. He said he gave his family notice….. he’s gross. He didn’t even try when Lexi stayed with him. The mom should’ve listened to her gut instead of everyone else. Jen’s mother knew deep down.
Of course, Jen's mother knew, but she didn't want to do anything to help her. Like Jennifer said, her mom's the queen of denial. She didn't want to believe it, like Lexi's mom said.. I do agree, that the dad decided to want to become more involved with Lexi, when she's battling with her eating disorder. He should've always been there. He chose to abandon his family, because like you said, he's useless. He only cared about himself, until Lexi was battling with her eating disorder.. it's obvious that Lexi was also blessed to have a mother who truly wanted her to love herself, and was 100% supportive.. thinking about it, Jen's parents wouldn't have been supportive with getting better. They pretended that everything was perfect and alright..
Ikr honestly if Lexi didn't get sick he still be going out with the other woman
Watching your own child fights for his or her own life is one of the Parents worst nightmare.
Absolutely. And it is all the more disheartening.
I agree. Especially when they are dying from something like not eating and just eating would save their lives and they just won't do it.. It has to be heartbreaking and so frustrating at the same time!
My daughter is a walking skeleton, shes a heroin addict and theres nothing me or anyone else can do to help, she has to help herself.
Yes, this is true😢
I watched my only son struggle with addiction for years. It was the worst time of my life. That includes my own addiction and recovery.
It was so much worse watching my baby struggle 😢
He's 2ys sober now and newly married to his first love.
I'm so proud of him ❤
It's a long road
I have 10ys, so I know it's a neverending battle, but I have all the faith I can in him!
@@pettykittyfamI've had this thing for years but my mother is dead and my father might as well be so lucky for me no one cares about me lol
Nice film
Years ago I had anorexia
And bulimia
It took me 7 years to recover but I knew I had a problem
And it was me to be determined to help myself .
Yes my x husband always compared me to others and I thought to make him happy I would change .
But no
We divorced in the end which was sad 😔
But never ever allow a man or any other woman to tell you your fat or your ugly
Us woman are all beautiful
We come in all shapes and sizes .
There is not a perfect woman out there .
Let’s be happy for who we are the important thing
Is
Love yourself
God is good and helped all those in need .
And never allow a man to overpower your thinking if a man loves you
He will love your heart and how you are .
Love to all ....
I do not want to recover... i am losing weight like crazy and thats GGREATTT
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Thank you for the reminder! Every girl is beautiful in their own ways
I would love to go back to my high school weight. I use to be so small n i had bad shape. I am 40 now.
@flight101 are you ok?
I know it's a horrible friendship but man, I wish friends that support each other this much, for positive things, existed.
they do.
i think you might need better friends
They do. We’re all typically a reflection of the people we hang out with, so if you only seem to attract nasty people, you have some work to do too. Good people are out there.
@@Andy-xx3ttExactly! We are the company we keep.
@@Andy-xx3ttor things are way more complicated than that, and nasty people are all you've know so far.
It made me cry at the end when she looks into the bleachers and sees Jen. It’s like Jen saying from heaven “you got this girl, I’m so proud of you”. What an excellent movie.
@@SteveOhDuncan what is your problem??? Get a damn life
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Yeah it's one of the best Lifetime movies. 'Lies of The Heart' and 'Death of A Cheerleader' are also really good too.
It just made me mad how Jenny died.
If you were watching the movie instead of looking at the comments, then it wouldn't have gotten ruined for you. Now who's the b*tch? Huh?
That photographer had bad intentions all along. I'm glad Jen left
Me too.
Totally
I can’t believe no one recognizes Ryan Reynolds in this!!!
I thought he looked familiar
Which one was he
The guy with the Dawson’s Creek haircut
Oh I did right away
Ben
I love how it shows that recovery isn’t always up. There’s downs too and how she slipped back into the comfort of her ED after Jen died
The will of the one who recovers is very important. And love can help, for the "victim" to deal in a right way with her feelings and toughts that make it difficult for the will to overcome, as the movie shows.
@@rio-impetuoso4271 love you too
I just think she was jealous and obsessed with Jen as well and wanted to become like her. She should have been at that meeting instead of following Jen around. Lexi was a weak friend. Jen was sick but Lexi was weak and jealous.
Yup me too feel like she lost her best sister but also down side is when Jenn parents were completely in deniel about their daughter not only that she introduced lexi that binging and and purging would help lose wieght not only that coach didnt help either when told her she would move faster if she drop a little bit weight but thing is when you tell someone that need lose wieght its definly a trigger for an eating disorder and can't stop. I also found that the father was a jerk mom was doing her job to save her daughter.
20:20 ryan reynolds?
so the first time the dad sees his kids in a while, he has to have his new woman there. great parenting.
He pisses me off
Latoya Hale same girl. i wanted to punch him in the throat when he introduced the girls to the side chick.
@@mommymarz 🤣🤣🤣
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Just great
I was diagnosed with ED a year and a half ago and never knew how thin I was getting....this is 💜 heartbreaking...please pray for all who struggle with this
Slippery Slope:NEVER EVER TELL A TEEN (especially a teen girl) that she has "...put on a few pounds"-even if it's truly just a few pounds.Future mothers of tweens and teens heed my warning.It sets a trajectory (not all teens tho many) of self image issues and of course eating disorders.They have enough crap to deal with including social media critiques from other teens,etc
Dieting is what young girls do.
Bulimia triggered this I think
It’s not just parents of a teen girl it’s also teen boys that can go through this. Or not even teens some adults go through this too
Wise Up Not all teens diet some actually are very happy with the way they look mostly because of how they were raised to love themselves.
The daughter asked. She's supposed to lie to her over the possibility that she might develop an eating disorder?
What's next? Letting her room get messy because she might develop OCD if you tell her to clean up?
@@ghettomarc50 Okay one. Children as young as 5 can have issues with OCD. It doesn’t all have to do with cleaning. They are struggling. They don’t understand why but they are extremely compelled to have things a certain way or do things a certain way. Don’t compare the two.
And mind you, these children suffer all the way into adulthood. It eats them alive and hurts every second of the way. So shut the hell up and educate yourself.
Who's still watching this in 2020
I just found this for the first time so I hope I like enough to come back
I love the older lifetime movie's cause they were based on true stories
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When she binged and wanted to throw it up saying her stomach would explode I got sad because I have felt that
same, I literally cried
Was it actually physically painful or just all in your head?
@@2jcward The pain is real. Refeeding syndrome causes a lot of abdominal pain and injures them badly.
@@2jcward the pain is very real, I would binge until I couldn’t even stand up straight because my stomach was hurting so much from all the food but now I am in recovery so I haven’t felt that pain in along time
Oh man that sounds horrible, I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hope you are in recovery or getting help
“Your friend’s not really model material”
Uh just take pictures of her to not be a jerk??
Aww poor guy was just reading the script
Username I know😂 it was directed at his character tho
He didn't care about models. He just wanted to fuck Jenn
@@esval3054 yeah, he looked so happy to see Jen walk through that door then once he saw she brought her friend he then started to look agitated and says "oh, I thought you were coming alone". Yeah, he had a different agenda. If Lexi wasn't there he probably would taken advantage of her.
Wah Lexi should have known she’s not attractive in that way . He never aimed his intentions towards Lexi at all. He was very clear when he asked Jen and only Jen
I felt like this in my teenage years even now at sometimes 😢i was 19 yrs old in 1996 i am now 47 yrs old
"I want you to eat when you're hungry, stop when you're full, and trust food. How does that sound?" Ha -Very difficult!
Yeh right, trust a 5000 calorie burger and donuts.. sure 😂
Everybody's A Love Hate Relationship With Food. 😊😢
fr my body tells me i'm full after i've eaten 3000 calories in one sitting.
Finally someone uploaded this movie in good quality. Thank you very much
"bulimics can maintain normal body weights and still be in danger."
SOMEONE FINALLY FUCKING SAID IT!!
i mean, same for anorexia, but they didnt know that yet so whatever.
She said still be under nourished not in danger .
@@flight101 she say both things and they are true
I did a research paper on anorexia after watching the movie perfect body.
Very true ❤
It’s true … anorexic people can maintain their weight, 😢 it’s about control ..
What finally got to her daughter is when she told her, "you're on your own." The look on her daughters face said everything.
I agree by the end of my movie where mom to said Lexi not only are you on your own the part Lexi said back to her mom she didn’t want to die showing her mom that she was finally ready to get better and also I’m proud of Lexi standing up to her father telling him before going back to hospital for treatment that he wasn’t going to be the one or her mom to save herself she had to have the courage save herself on her own and that it was her choice if she wanted saved as for Jennifer’s parents I was shocked that they didn’t wanna believe that own daughter’s eating disorder killed her and Lexi was there to try get her best friend help after she went into treatment herself that shows her best friend Lexi was looking out for her just like Lexi found her one only best friend died blaming herself for her death was not her fault I’m glad Jennifer in spirit was looking out for her when Lexi was struggling back with her own ED again.
@@scanlon1201 Jenniffer's parents were definitely in denial. when catherine returned the sweater she thought was Jen's the look of disugst on jen's mum's face showed she was in denial.
She needed that
I've watched this movie literally 2 times a year since I was little! I bet i'm not the only one! but now I can watch it in a healthy mindset! I use to watch these movies for some sort of sick motivation!
Trigger. I get it! 😶
I watch this religiously since 1996 I’m 37
I've been fully recovered since sept 2017 but i still watch these sort of things.
Me too. Or used to watch eating show videos so I can see other people eat and I felt full, I guess.
really ?
it made me wanna vomit lol
I rewatched this movie again after a year and it’s still the best representation of eating disorders. It explains anorexia and how it’s not just about being skinny but other issues that play into it. Along with when Jen died and how Lexi relapsed. It was well made. I too have suffered from anorexia and bulimia and though now I can say I’m in recovery and have been for a while it is still a good movie.
Congrats on your recovery.
No it’s NOT I had bullemia for years years ITS NOT no where near ACCURATE your talking rubbish
Sorry but IT ISNT had eating disorder for DECADES LOVE NOT YEARS full of rubbish
These girls have boundless energy in this film I could hardly get out of bed was totally fatigued tired all time I had bullemia for DECADES over 30 years you wouldn’t be bouncing around limitless energy like these girls have in this film total rubbish best representation of a eating disorder WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON LOVE
And you won’t dare lecture me I had an eating problem for 30 YEARS grown woman what are you 17 years old FIGURES
What's wrong with Lex's dad. Leaving Wonder Woman over some random bank employee.
He’s a jerk hell if i was a parent I wouldn’t leave my spouse for bank employee especially if my child is suffering from illness that could kill her
@Alicante Actress you're absolutely fucking delusional 🙄...
Lol
lol my thoughts exactly
He shouldn't even be called a father. he didn't even take responsibility for lexie's problem and help get through it.
This movie is the most accurate depiction of EDs probably a little TOO accurate. When I was in middle school and made my first best friend, I remember trying to recreate their friendship dynamic. I taught my friend some things, and I told them about what I did, mostly to show off. I don't remember too many of the details because blocked then out, but so remember feeling so proud about sharing this life with someone. -
I didn't realize how sick I was. It's been about 10 years since then, and I fear I'm on the road to a relapse. I'm watching and writing this in the hopes that I will figure out how to get through it, hopefully in the healthiest way possible.
It's definitely an addiction. It's really scary, because drug addicts can find ways to avoid drugs, but us with Eating Disorders cannot ever avoid food. It's completely mind consuming, to the point where you don't even know who you are without it anymore
It's terrifying how when you're in it, you never feel sick enough.
It sounds like you have a lot of self-awareness now that you probably didn't back then. It can help to use the focus and self-discipline that an ED leeches off of to keep yourself healthy, especially when it's not realistic to say you won't track your food or your weight.
Count a streak of the longest you can go without missing a meal (even if it's something small). Or focus on not falling _below_ a certain weight, even if you stay very close to it. If the control and the routine are more your thing, come up with small, healthy, boring meals that you can eat every day, preferably ones that involve some amount of "ritual," which usually feels calming for people predisposed to EDs. (I used to eat a prepackaged fruit and nut thing every morning, and I would put the hot water and my tea bag in a a travel mug, close it up, then eat the dried fruit and cashews while putting every almond I came across on the lid of my mug. When I finished, I'd eat the warmed almonds, then sip on my tea until lunch. It became something I didn't want to miss, and was really helpful in not letting me start any kind of "streak" of not eating.)
Self-injury, drugs, disordered eating, drinking -- none of it ever lives up to its initial promise of bringing calm and helping manage the stress. Those things only ever consume what life you could be living, making you plan around the liquor stores being closed on Sundays, or a beach trip coming up, or how you'll manage a big family dinner. Sometimes the biggest deterrent to relapse is focusing all your memories on what it was like by the end -- ugly, miserable, *lonely,* and trapped.
I hope you're doing well, and if you're not, I hope you will be soon. You'll have to forgive me, I'm going to dig back into my emo days, when the "It Gets Better" campaign was really getting on my nerves, and find you the excellent Bert McCracken quote I discovered. It helped me infinitely more than just being told it would get better: "It's about being proud of who you are, being proud of your situation and just being stoked that things are always going to get better or always gonna get worse and that's such a great thing." Keep fighting. Whether it's getting better or worse, that's how you know you're alive. And as long as you're alive, you have options, choices, hope, and infinite potential futures. _That's_ why it's such a great thing.
My eating disorder is currently relapsing and my dumb ED brain has been making me obsessively watch ED-related movies to trigger myself. This is probably the best one I've seen yet. It was educational and didn't romanticize eating disorders
The worst ED movie I've seen is Starving In Suburbia. I strongly recommend that nobody watch it lol it's beyond triggering and not even an accurate representation of eating disorders
hope you're doing ok, stay strong
Here for you
Can we talk about how thinspiration movie feels awful and like it was made by a man who knows nothing about Ed
This one, sharing the secret, and for the love of Nancy are my go to triggers. Starving in suburbia is shit the only good thing in that movie is the music lol
you think nobody should watch the movie but you put the name...
Watching today June 18, 2024 Long Island, NY. Lynda Carter always good in the roles she plays. 😊😊😊
I love how everything pretends they can't tell she is literally gray
Stephanie S what? She is gray? What the hell does that mean and how did you get so many likes for a comment that makes no sense lol
I meant her skin is gray. She looks so obviously unhealthy but in the movie no one notices.
Its not that. The ones who love people who battle these eating disorders dont want to believe or accept their loved one is struggling with a demon like this. A lot of people dont understand eating disorders; hence her mom saying "why is it so hard for you to just eat." then her mom starts to feel guilty for not accepting an illness sooner and it may be too late. This is a great movie and a great example of how they feel and react with this battle. Its all in the head. And takes away so many way too young. Look up anorexia and bulimia and read about it. read peoples stories. it literally shatters my heart knowing some people just cant look in the mirror and say "I look beautiful today." more often than not without feeling repulsed by their own body. the death rates are astounding and disheartening; painful to realize. theres a lot going on psychologically that even doctors can be unsure of as well. sometimes its just hard to approach a situation like that without feeling helpless to a loved one battling. And sometimes survivors also feel EVEN WORSE when they are treated like a patient rather than being treated like the person they are trying so hard to see in the mirror. :( sorry for the paragraph, i just want people to be educated on this subject.
Why were her lips pale? She looked like a ghoul
i love lexi's mom she cares and loves her daughter so much and wanted to do everything she could to help her it reminds me of my dad
Catherine is a hands-on mom for saving Lexi from herself, I'll tell you that
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She was a control freak.. couldn’t stand the fact her ex had another woman, used lexi as her best friend not her daughter.. what mother makes a double gynaecologist appointment!!! my god!! how sick is that!?!? Reading her diary, poking her nose in.. no wonder lexi hit rock bottom and when she screams at her this is something to do with me she had that right. Jealous of Jen.. the list is endless
@@karate_girl_ibizaYou’re just yapping
I was so ADDICTED to this movie when I had an ED . It’s funny how time flies ED dies but my love for this movie hasn’t.
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the strain of a child doing something awful to their own self is pretty tough. they really showed all the different dynamics of a family here very well. good one.
Lynda Carter is beautiful she's definitely a wonder woman lol
That really isn't a nice thing to say. It's not just weight comments (like in the film) that hurt people, it's comments like you said as well.
Old or young s HF e is gorgeous
My eating disorder is overeating. Whether it's too much weight or not enough it's hard to deal with. People say why can't they just eat and people say to me why can't I stop? We are all trying our best. Prayers for everyone.
These old lifetime movies are THE BEST 👍😀
I love the part where Jennifer went after Lexi and agreed to not take pics for the dude bc he was a jerk to her best friend, she could have stayed but she didn’t. That’s a true friend.
And that asshole had another idea in his agenda bc when they both showed up and he responds after seeing that she also brought Lexi “oh, I thought you were coming alone.” Sounding very bummed out. He was so trying to seduce Jennifer.
@Alicante Actress are you serious? Lol smdh.. I'm not even gonna argue with you.
After seeing so many of these movies blame the moms, it's nice to see one where the mom is, in fact, a very good person who is clearly trying very hard to be a good parent. The reality is that sometimes, as much as parents blame themselves, it's really not your fault.
Typical patriarchal bs in the comments. The mom had some faults yes but daddy cheated, moved out, didn't warn the girls about his new gf, pretty much parented from far until things got almost too late.
I agree with you mostly. I think the mom should have taken her back to the hospital sooner and the dad did right by that, but she had the real tough job by being there every day and trying to figure out how to deal with it. The dad should have moved down there when he found out what was going on. Still, I think he was right to take her back to the hospital.
@@savannah8243 i agree that he had the right idea and intentions to take her back to the hospital but he was way too forceful. if someone doesn't wanna recover, they're not going to recover. forcing her to go to the hospital and shoving a feeding tube down her throat won't help her recover. sure she'll be alive but she won't be recovered. anorexia is a mental illness, it's in the mind.
@@summerrain8390 ok i havent watched the movie yet so idk exactly what happens but i feel like if someone is at risk of dying you should take them to the hospital first so they can be at least a little healthier, because if your body isn’t healthy it’s very hard to get in a healthy mindset
Her eating disorder started before the girlfriend
She did not have some faults.. she was one big mistake as a parent!!!!
1: Never buying her own tampons ( sick or lazy, can't work out which )
2: Snooping in Lexis diary without even asking SMH
3: Forcing her to see a gynaecologist
4: Betraying her trust by poking her nose in and telling Jens mum what Lexi said
5: Using her girls as weapons against the father who they both loved dearly
6: Dragging her kids in to HER emotional claptrap
7: neglectful of Jill through all of this
8: Manipulating to Lexi
9: trying to be the girls friend rather than a mother
10: Controlling who Lexi has as friends
Need I go on???? and why does her chin stick out like a witch when she smiles 🧙♀️ 😂
I always start crying when jen dies and at the end when lexu sees jen give a thumbs up
Erica Menz yes me too I was mad she died I wanted them to make up
I understand this movie all too well I suffered from anorexia too many years ago This actress is brilliant at portraying a young woman who is struggling with A Eating disorder that I am so familiar with I still feel like I am remembering that her pain. The relapse part was so realistic and the best little girl in the world never showed the relapse In addition, I think when she thought everything was my fault I totally relate I am so glad this movie was done I am now 56 years old and totally recovered from this horrible disease . Anyone have any thoughts on how they relate to the movie or has someone else know anybody else who suffers from it. I had divorced parents that were always fighting with each other and the father t seems so disrespectful and distant from his girls an only intervenes when she is very ill .The mother Lynda Carter portrayed is a beautiful and special and caring and compassionate l person who is so torn between her daughter Lexie and her health peter was harsh . Lexie learned something that she had to save her own self. Beautiful movie well done happy ending
Miss these lifetime movies I don't like the new ones for some reason lol....thank u you tube
Me either.
Right lol
Right but if Lexi die
From getting skinner I cried because that not okay man .
Elida Luna i don’t like them either. They don’t have the same pizzazz.
Same
It's sad that Jen's mom didn't listen maybe if they would taken her to the hospital she might be alive
Lexis mother couldn't wait to go and tell jens mum.. she already knew.. like jen said , her mother was the queen of denial..lexis mum killed jen.. next time may e she should go back to weighing potatoes not pretending to be "in" with the other mums who obviously despise her
@@flight101 You are the one in denial. Lexi's Mom thought she was doing the right thing by telling Jen's Mom. And she did not kill Jen. What a stupid thing to say.
@@flight101What? 😂🤣😂
This movie was so beautiful yet so devastating. I watch these ED films whether binging, bullumia, anorexia, it doesn’t matter. I use these as a way to cope with my anorexia or just to trigger me.
They also really help me get my emotions out so I can feel a bit better!
Sometimes it triggers me sometimes it helps me see how sick I’ve been, either way they help lol
Why on Earth would you watch something to trigger you In something that ould kill you?! Sorry but that sounds like someone looking for an excuse to go back to an illness.
My jaw hits the floor every time I see this movie and the coach says, "also you'd jump a lot higher if you dropped a few pounds.." coaches can be tough and push their athletes to be the best, but that's just downright cruel and in today's day and age she would be fired if not a hefty lawsuit for weight shaming young girls!
She didn't say it in front of millions. I just think Lexi had a weak mentality. If she was not weak she would've been able to possibly save Jen instead of joining the sick game.
I always think the same thing! First the coach subs her out, Lexy tells her 'I'm having and off day' and then the coach chews her out about her performance and tells her to lose weight. Doesn't matter who else heard it, Lexy did, and took it to heart. If the coach was so concerned she would say, "Lexi I'd like to speak with you after the game/before practice. You said you were having an off day, what's going on?" Or, if she was concerned about her performance or weight, help her develop a training and eating plan to improve.
@@goodone8516 that is a point to be made, but I'm wondering where Lexi would find this mental strength. She's young, going through teenage changes, her perfect family split up, her Dad won't give her the time of day, her Mother is busy with a career and trying to support her daughters, she's moved halfway across the country from her friends and the place she grew up. She's so eager to please and starved for love and attention. Lexi is in the perfect vulnerable state for any addiction to develop. Then she meets Jen, who checks all those boxes for her. Of course she isn't going to say anything against Jen's powerful addiction, but go along with it or risk losing the only love and attention she gets from a person.
@@mountainmommusic8535 You might be right about wanting to please the only friend she had after moving there. Plus Jen was popular. Could've ruin the new comer if crossed. I never really looked at it that way.
@@goodone8516 another terrific point, and one I missed! Jen was popular, and everyone wanted to be her. I miss these cheesy moment of truth movies lol
I cried when she seen Jen at her last game 😭
Like Jen was proud of her
I’m glad for a good ending for Lexi.
I love, love, love these old lifetime movies. They are the best, I miss them so much. Keep them coming 😍
God that father pisses me off! He thinks that if he forces her into a hospital, they’ll stuff her full of food, and a week or two later she’ll be fixed. Then he’ll drag her to his place and use strong arm tactics to keep her in line. But he won’t actually want to deal with her - with any of the realities of raising a teenage girl. 😞
How about mothers raising teenage boys? At this time there wasn't much known about eating disorders. Both mothers and fathers knew practically nothing about this subject. Her mother is hoping she'll be better after a week or 2 of treatment also. Her father is just as worried and loves her just as much as her mother. My dad is the one to confide in in my family. My mom is the one who "strong arms" and didn't want to look at the reality of raising a teenage girl. He isn't strong arming her. He is very good at her bedside. He was very good his daughter. He didn't "strong arm" her at all. Ya know, Men aren't so bad. There are some bad men and fathers just as much as there are bad women and mothers. My mom was never, not even now as an adult, as comforting and understanding as Lynda Carter is in this movie! My father on the other hand was and still is!
He doesn't get it, but he's missing the mark on the "compassionate" part of tough love. He can't just decide to come back, snap his fingers, and expect her to accept what he's trying to do. And, Mom has sole custody, so he didn't have the right to force the feeding tube. Putting it in was illegal.
@@audreyann1975 this father doesn’t love his daughters at all.
He’s a very selfish person who puts his needs first.
A father might leave a mother if the relationship doesn’t work out... but he should never cut his children off the way this prick did.
He never calls, never returns calls. Didn’t bother to have a conversation with his daughter about how she felt or what she wanted... just issued orders!
None of that indicates that you truly love a person.
I talk to my parents at least twice a week, and have done ever since I moved out when I was 20. Both of them, every week.
That’s what proper parents do.
@Alicante Actress Did you watch the whole movie?
It was pretty clear from the start he didn't care about his children.
When he called, he didn't want to talk to them. He was in a hurry to get off the phone.
He didn't call or write on a regular basis, as a parent should if not with their kids.
When the girls went to spend the holiday with him, instead of spending time with his children, he invited his new girlfriend along and forced them all together.
The mother had to beg him to listen to his child - he didn't want to listen. He just stormed in and issued orders. Then wanted to go home! He didn't even want to stick around and see his child every day through this health crisis!
Nope, he's a shitty father and had no right to barge in and assume he was welcome or that his input was wanted.
Lots of parents are like this. They divorce their spouse, but they also abandon the children. A proper parent can call and/or write every day if not living with their children. They can ask questions about their lives, their schoolwork, their problems. When they have physical visits, they can spend time with their children without their new partner. Those are the ways they can put in the effort to be in their children's lives even if they're not with them physically.
But they don't. They're just selfish jerks who abandon their children when they abandoned their spouse.
@@audreyann1975 Agreed 2000%.
WOW! I watched this as a kid. I can't believe I found it again.
I had an ED from age 13-21. It stemmed from me having a glow up one year and everyone at school telling me I should model. The boys who didn’t notice me the year before started liking me when I was tall,skinny and prettier. I became so obsessed with looking tall and thin to people and for myself. I heard “you should model” almost everyday. So my ED wasn’t fueled by a put down but by over complimenting. I also was having problems at home with my big sister and parents always fighting. I believe that was a control mechanism also. My family life was full of strife and I couldn’t control anything so I just started to hardly eat and becoming obsessed with fitting into smaller and smaller sizes. I look back now as a 36 year old woman and wonder how I survived my school years living on yogurt drinks,water and slim fast and still make good grades. Geez. I would often get dizzy and see stars from being so empty. Luckily I healed physically but I still have issues mentally with food. I think we should just tell people they look wonderful,great,beautiful,lovely etc but never comment on their bodies. Good or bad.
Mine was a control issue.
It was the ONLY thing I could control.
Same here-
❤
wow that would be alot being told that everyday very annoying and pressurising
The photographer is the actor that later goes on to play the bad guy in so many Lifetime movies 😂
@Strong Gurl511 yes he does haha
And he became blackhood in riverdale
Yet, I never heard of him
Except that his career never unfolded past these mediocre roles
dont forget he also came out in the movie a night at the Roxbury
With regards to the discussion stating that 'the mother is terrible/a bad mother' etc;
I mostly just feel sorry for her, and I think she's a great mum. She's so terrified, and like so many parents in this situation she hasn't got a clue what to do. There needs to be more support for carers in this position. I can say from experience, heavy handed treatment like from the father isn't always the best course of action. After being forced into treatment and into hospital myself actually made me much worse. The people who have been most supporting for me are those who are patient, who don't force me to get tubed and don't get all shouty and hysterical if they hear me purging.
The gentle, slower support is dangerous, of course. But so is having an eating disorder. Personally while the extreme reactions may be a short-term fix, the mothers attitude and support would be more affective in having a long term, positive effect on a more sustainable recovery.
Also this is just my personal opinion, as I say just from my personal experience. Treatments for eating disorders are super complex and what is very effective for one person may do nothing, or may be disastrous for another. :)
My best wishes to all those out there struggling with similar disorders.
There is an end to it, I promise.
The father pissed me off. He haven't spoken to his daughters in months but, all of a sudden, want to come in acting like he knows best and want to be so controlling.
Lynda Carter really came into her own when she started doing TV movies,really a fantastic actress.
It is _asinine_ that they (Lexi's mom, the coach, and Lexi) think Lexi needs to lose weight.
I was on the varsity volleyball team in high school and there were several girls who weighed much more than Lexi and were excellent players. So what that so-called coach said is a load of crap.
Both of these girls are twigs.
Same with my experience!! Its not like shes in ballet. Ha we need our power muscles and all the protein in our bodies!
This is how it starts with coaches quite often.
In the 90s and before, people thought the more weight you had the less you performed. When in reality, weight has nothing to do with it. Strength is the key, strong legs and arms make for a good volleyball player. As well as agility
During summer volleyball practice they made us strength train so much we ended up gaining.
Funny as I thought they could have got thinner actresses. They are about average weight. I suppose then they were low budget and had to make the best of what they had,
As someone who suffered from Anorexia I can relate to this. Glad to say I am doing much better these days
It’s a rough journey. Keep going you got this 🤗🫂💙💪✨
Lynda was a wonder woman in this movie. she did turn her daughter around...loved it ty
finally someone who saw things as they were... it's hard for me to see some people blaming the mother, when her dad was hardly around and couldn't care less for his daughters ... new gf was more important
Ryan Reynolds definitely grew better looking with age.
I think he got a nose job or something.
ewww
Ryan is in this movie?
True, but he wasn't styled too well in this. the hair
Well he lost weight and got a slight nose job. He looks better as a brunette than with blonde.
whoa whoa whoa... huge trigger warning for forced feeding tube at 47:13. that shit came outta nowhere
it scared the crap outta me lol
ive been forcefully tubed a bunch. bad doctors, nurses who dont care, and a mom who found pleasure in it. i will be skipping that part thank you.
lasts until 47:28 for anyone trying to skip it
This should be pinned at the top 🔝
The dad is so smug and nonchalant about not being there for his family
He's an aloof m§¥‡€&#*@%?£, that's for sure.😒
@@danacarter9147 hes so nice
@Lady Heart Amen. He is nowhere near father material.
@Tiffany F. I see.
Yep. the dad was so aloof
Linda carter is fabulous and she plays a great mom for lifetime movies
from my two years of an ED and constant watching of ED films, this is by far the best/most accurate rep of AN and my favourite of them all.
Totally understand. Newer movies don’t feel the same!! I’m watching the 80s 90s movies!!
Love old movies
They need movies about boys who have these issues also
Starving in Suburbia.
Head Sea Worst ED movie imo
@@Snivy100 Hella cringey but I still love to watch it.
The Mitch Rules no it wouldn’t.
To the bone does include a male inpatient he's not the main character but its a step in the right direction
Watching this movie as an adult hit different than watching it as a kid. I cried when she saw the image of Jen on the beach :(
What I'm gonna help you do is -- to change the mirror
Best line
that father is a real jerk, not only does he walk out on his family but he comes marching back into their house and starts ordering the mother around, bet he was physically abusive to her as well when they were together.
I totally agree. If the father hadn't stepped in both times, the mother would've found her dead on the bathroom floor. Also--there was no mention or evidence of physical abuse in the marriage.
I think it's the actor, he's nasty in other movies too n ain't too nice in Days Of Our Lives. Sour thing he is.
Actually it was the mother I disagreed with. You can't dick around with stuff like that. They should have put her in the hospital and got her help long ago. Her mother needs to be more of a mother and get her daughter help so she doesn't die like her friend. Another problem was the mother at the end doesn't help much at all. She is trying to but really doing nothing. Anorexia is a psychological problem she's asking her daughter why is it so hard to eat. It's not hard to eat its hard to get past her mental disorder and telling her daughter 'I think you can I think you can' isn't going to help her get better take her to a hospital where she can actually get help.
@@justsandra71 right. He has one of those sour pus faces 😂
@@purplecabbage4406
Sure does n a boring, morbid voice.
Can’t get over Ryan Reynolds playing Lexi’s friend Ben ~ he’s so young!!
Lynda Carter is such a beauty💐
Maxine F
those EYES...!!
I was always called " come to bed eyes" lol
You should have seen her in wonder woman man she was stunning
@Living-in Ibiza Why are you so salty?
I had this. I still struggle. I had to get help as well. What people see & you see are two different things. This movie is on point completely. I weigh more then I want to now but I got so sick when I was had/have anorexia. I've came a long way for sure. I still go through fazes where I wanna lose a lot of weight but ill do it the right way this time. Thank you for the upload! ❤
When Lexi first got admitted into the program and her nutritionist told her to step backwards on the scale, I literally got flashbacks from my summer at PHP. I liked how at the end of the movie, Lexi and her nutritionist grew a connection with one another. My therapist, dietitian, and dietetic all were such amazing people and made my time at the program actually enjoyable. Though when I got discharged, my parents sort of neglected the fact my ED didn't just completely go away. My mom didn't do any of the paperwork to get me into outpatient with my therapist and nutritionist. It hurts to say that I've completely relapsed, and I'm scared it's even worse this time because it's not about my body this time, but just about having a sense of control. I really resonated with Lexi when she started to grow a healthy relationship with food and cooking, but a traumatic event that didn't even involve her eating majorly set her back. Eating disorders are not just about food or your body. It's a psychological illness that eats you alive. It makes you feel angry. Sad. Euphoric. Isolated. It is just like any other addiction, and I don't think people understand that. No matter how bad an eating disorder is gruesomely portrayed, people seek comfort in that because it's what they know.
BUT GOD I WISH MY MOTHER WAS LIKE THIS
Word to the wise if your child ia complaining about weight never tell them they just put on a few pounds! Moms worse mistake!
Danyelle I agree with you. a lot of this has to do with the pictures they show of how skinny the models are in the pictures, but what they do not realize is that they take a airbrush to the pictures to erase the flaws from the pictures... It is really sad... I know of one person that believes if a woman has hips she is fat. that is not right at all. I just wanted to say I do agree with you.
He's still an asshole. He cheated and then got a divorce and moved away from his kids.
I know! She pretty much encouraged her to lose weight! And don't even get me started on the coach!
true that!
Danyelle Bush mom was dumb af about practically everything
Sad how young girls get caught up in this not realizing the severe health risks and even death. Good movie.
MARY JOE very sad. Although neither age nor awareness of the health risks have any bearing in whether or not someone will develop an ed
I know the risks but i still have an ed 😔
Eating disorders affects people of all ages and both men and women. We all know the risks. It's like people that drink, smoke, overeat etc. Its very similar to an addiction.
Most ppl who develop eds don’t care about the health risks, it’s not just a simple fix to losing weight to most it’s an unhealthy coping mechanism and an addiction similar to smoking
nevaeh peanut you will start caring when your hair starts falling out and you suddenly pass out from starvation I know someone who had an eating disorder and she almost died please don't do that to your body because your bones will become brittle and it will affect you when you get older
whos watching this in october 2024
It’s too funny that Ryan Reynolds is in this 😂 love this film
@@zoeyjackson5974he is so sweet in this but he is awful now.. he aged horribly.. !
When you're dealing worth someone with ED, you can't let them manipulate you. Her guilting her mom into not making her go to the hospital is exactly what people do when they have an eating disorder
You obviously know nothing about ED. She wasn't guilting her mom into not going. She was just acting desperate because she didn't want to go.
Cats Forever Agree. Sad
Wendy Fiolek acting desperate by trying to guilt mom.
Wendy Fiolek She was guilting her mom. I do the same. Eating disorders make you very manipulative without even knowing it
true cause she doesnt want to get better saying her mum doesnt care about her.
i love how her mom waas there for her , i have an eating problem , i binge eat and im still over weight and my mom is so concerned about her weight that it makes me worry about mine then i stop eating for days .
Guess what! Lack of iodine is making people heavy. The supplement regulates your system. Iodoral, nascent, research iodine. Please don't abuse yourself.
@@wiseup8729 depression can also make people overweight. My chronic depression causes me to overeat at an attempt for happiness.
@@julieannanderson2228 nonetheless iodine drops weight like crazy.
Iodoral
Overeating for comfort is really self abuse. Aggression turned inwards.
Terribly destructive
@Alicante Actress we are all suffering from lack of iodine. Salt has iodine removed. Our bread has bromine which sucks iodine out of our system. No wonder why everyone is so fat.
@Alicante Actress thyroxine? Never heard of that. Glad its working for you!
Oh thyroid hormone. Hmmmm
"Hey, I know a really good movie with Ryan Reynolds in it that we can watch!"
Back then when humans had feelings.
bro what
ugh so true. when they banned feelings in 1999 my parents were devastated to have to raise me in a post feelings world. it’s awful that now whenever someone cries, yells, or smiles they are executed. take me back to the good old days 😔
Sigh 😢 @@astridrose2002
Back when people cared 😢
It's crazy how women went from dying to be skinny (literally) to dying to have curves
Trust me women still die to be thin every year
The Mitch Rules just because you don’t know about it, doesn’t mean there aren’t people struggling there
Yes and the insane, giant butt craze has taken over for many years, including getting implants... really bizarre values being pushed in our culture.
It’s so crazy, in 9th grade I was voted best butt(no joke, some kids started this list and that’s what I was on there for)but now I always get told I have no ass/flat ass etc.. 🙄 That’s why you never ever try to make others or the world happy, just make yourself happy!
Trust me eating disorders are more than wanting to look a certain way. I've had bulimia for years....
WOW< I can't believe how young Ryan Reynolds is in this.....it makes me feel so old!
Honestly, I thought this movie was going to be cheese city....but it was actually good. I even shed a tear....
Kenya Wilson Yeah I shed a few pounds just watching it
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This is back when they knew how to make good movies!
Great movie showing a drastic transition.
Emotional and great psychological accuracy ,,
This dad reminds me of mine. As a teen He left my mom, never saw him without a girlfriend on his arm. Forced me to use antidepressants and never to deal with how I felt. And he wonders why I don’t visit him to this day..🙄
Just me here rewatching this for the 7th time to feed my disorder 🤡
Right here with you. 😔😕
This is Jennifer Sinclair. Does the movie help you eat again or help you not eat? Eat. Remember, that is how many women hold themselves back in life. Their male counterparts are focusing on educational and fun things and the girls are focusing on food.
@@tanickasinclair7035 I suggest that you do some research into eating disorders. They very rarely have anything to do with just “thinking about food,” and it trivializes a very serious mental illness to say so. It’s about control.
@@tanickasinclair7035 man what? The reason why I have an eating disorder is because my life has been a mess ever since I was born and it's the only thing that makes me feel worthy and being in control. It's not that simple
@Alicante Actress Yeah…no. You couldn’t be more wrong. The anonymity of YT and the Internet makes it easier to talk about.
I am surprised that the coach never came under fire. She started the whole thing telling her to lose a few pounds.
Nah that little seed was already planted into lexi's brain. The coach just made it grow.
I think when the sister called Lexi a pig after eating three slices of pizza in the beginning of the movie is how all this started.
@@earthbruja5268 watering that seed is still equally as guilty as planting it in this case. The coach was like that in that Perfect body movie too. They encouraged the eating disorders by telling them to lose weight.
Idk about anyone else, but when we order pizza I usually eat like 4 slices. 😂
Your point is?
I eat the whole thing 💀
@@marsp5636 that their were three of them and they only had 1 pizza. Jill also thought it was weird that Lexi ate 3 when she’d not had much.
@Lemon Betts 🤣🤣🤣
“Fine. You can eat it off the floor..” 😂😂 the mom in this movie was not to be fucked with, ok? 🙌🏽
I had a friend who was much taller than all of us and she was a little big, the boys constantly made fun of her, I got into some fights with the boys over her and surprisingly I didnt get in trouble when I got home.
Then they moved two hours away, it was a few months before they came to visit and she looked so scary! She went from a cool friend that we did everything together to a little stick that was too sick to do anything.
She had to go through intensive care for a while and then my other friend and I went to spend summer break with her.
We stayed with her mom when she went to her group meetings.
It was horrible, she smelled bad like I cant even explain, and she looked worse than a cancer patient.
She finally got it under control and is a beautiful mother now with a great career!
Sadly I have had more friends than her to get this disease and I still cant understand it, because they truly believe they are fat as they are looking at their bones!
It is very sad to watch someone you know slowly kill their self to be what they think is beautiful
So good to see a good movie where there was real frienship, love, and care, for each other. This you don't find too often. I've had about 3 or 4 like this in my life, and it sure make the world a better place having them. Jen was a beautiful friend model like. So sad about her end.
I remember seeing this movie back in the day. Lynda Carter was phenomenal in this movie. Lynda Carter is a phenomenal actress.