Hey, thanks for the feedback, I made a mistake by implying that Red wasn't a victim of grooming because Purple didn't succeed in grooming. No matter the outcome, Red was still in some instances manipulated and exploited. I apologies !
Hey vic can we also give music ideas for the animations about s/a? If so i think the song "blow out my brains" would suit one of the groomers or all them :D
I kinda knew that red wasn't the victim of grooming because I know there was a scene that purple gave up on trying to groom her since she loved blue a bit too much for that to work on her.
I’ve always been intrigued by Pink and her backstory. I had guessed her husband was abusive, considering the wolf mask could potentially symbolize her husband’s predatory actions and intentions against Pink. I’m also assuming Pink’s lack of eyes symbolizes how her abuse left her “blind” to the harm of her own actions.
I like how you didn’t make blue a “perfect victim” cause no one is perfect, including victims. People like to paint victims as perfect, naive, always good, but thats not really the case, a victim can be anyone.
I agree especially because this mentality can be harmful to the victim sometimes victims will make mistakes in situations and those mistakes are used against them to try and make it so they don't seem like a victim which is false there is no such thing as a perfect victim but that doesn't mean victims don't deserve help
exactly! victims are not always good people, and if they are? they still won’t be perfect, it’s a very hurtful mentality because it can change the view of victims, making them feel invalidated or something else along those lines
Touché. And Blue kind of got consequences for his actions in a way, engaging in an affair with Pink later gave the board of directors an excuse to blame him for Red's behavior, in their mind they probably thought "well, he already engaged in an affair with a married woman, so he's definitely seducing this one too". Of course, this doesn't justify him being abused, or any of the actions of the abusers, but it's interesting to see that Blue can make mistakes and grow because of them later, i rarely see this when talking about victims.
No one is perfect; no one is incapable of making mistakes. People who shame victims for having flaws aren't even trying to hide the fact they never cared enough in the first place. A person should be able to set aside their pride and listen to the victim, instead of being overly critical while finding any excuse to shift the blame onto them.
Exactly! He’s not perfect at all, he willingly had an affair with a married woman. Did he mean for it to end up like this or to get SA’d? No. Is it his fault he got SA’d? Absolutely not. However, he’s still not perfectly innocent. Same goes for pink. Domestic abuse and SA from her husband turned her into someone who loves the power over another. As said in the video - “if she’s the one hurting someone then no one else can hurt her.” Pink did not deserve any of that and those actions towards her were wrong, however the “abused becomes the abuser” trope isn’t excusable at all. Honestly the portrayal is great.
As a victim of SA in adolescence, I have been silently watching Blue's story, and I feel like now is the time for me to comment on it. You did an amazing job explaining all of the girls' actions, representations, and backstories in this video. Seeing so many people shocked that a victim can turn into an abuser, or that grooming can happen between adults, is very scary and disheartening - it makes me worry that we have failed to educate our society enough on SA and DA, because it is something unfortunately very prevalent in both adolescence and adulthood. Remember: Anyone can be an abuser or a victim. Despite all the backlash this series has received, I have never felt so comforted or drawn to a piece of media as I have with Blue's story. The story is so carefully crafted, so realistic, so informative, and well-made, it’s unlike any other portrayal of SA that I have seen, you acknowledge *everyone’s* faults, and explain situations and how to get help. It might be a silly little series online, but it means a lot to me - thank you for making this series, and I’ll be tuning in for the second half as well!
love this, i appreciate your comment on educating people on the side of the video. And i'm really sorry for what you had to go through and i know that was hard. But anything in everyone hand is to work hard enough for your dream's, although i don't know you and i am a stranger on the internet. I just wish the best for you i'll pray do anything that can result to everything good and well for you. Have a wonderful day.
i can confirm we failed society. i got gr••med twice when i was younger, and just because the first guy claimed to be a minor, my friend instantly switched faces and starting yelling at me that gR••mInG oNlY iS dOnE bY AdUlTs, and then i got even worse groomed by another person. teens can gr••m children/other teens too... gr••ming is not strictly pdf filia, it is a type of manipulation. ugh
Unfortunately thats the truth. It goes with physical and emotional abuse too and not just sexual abuse. Many individuals who were abused as a child grow up, have children, and do the same thing that their parents did to them.
It is more common than you might think, specially with DV, but with SA as well. Pink's case is very realistic, as a victim of violence it often feels like the only way for you to not be the victim is to be the abuser yourself. It can be a concious decision or not. Some other scenarios happen because the victim has been so commodified to the cycle of abuse that actual safety feels far-fetched and that leap of faith into clarity feels more dangerous than the abuse itself. When youre trauma wired and things are going well, your brain is just waiting for everything to crash down like it always used to. You cant even enjoy peace when you have it. The brain will make you look for people that will abuse you just the same way, because that at least is familiar; some other times, you will look for vulnerable people to abuse, because then the same cycle will come back to you and that familiarity as well. Breaking the cycle of abuse is hard, it will bring doubts, it wont be this climatic sigh of relief many people think it will be. Many victims feel like theyre not doing the right thing by leaving, or that it's too much work that theu dont deserve being put into them. Doubts are natural to come, know that regardless of how unfamiliar peace may feel, it is still a right you have.
unfortunately the trauma response is fairly common and it happens way too much due to untreated abuse and victims not realizing they are responding to it wrong
happens a lot with child abuse as well, parents live a horrible childhood and think it's normal, enforcing the same treatment on their own children; and if they don't think it's normal, they tend to think that if they suffered then their children need to as well. abuse can be very complex
The fact you don’t give red bpd because you don’t know much about it actually makes me happy. As you said, many ppl don’t understand the real meaning of it and don’t represent it well (and I have to admit it, I don’t know much about it either.) I also thinks it’s nice to see someone who understands not only older people than you can do sexual abuse on you. Honestly, the purple part sadly reminds me a situation my friend went through some months ago
I like how you said that red was able to be redeemable, but she kept on stepping boundaries a later on was not able to be redeemed. Red could’ve been a normal teen, but she took it too far.
Thank you for speaking about such sensitive topic. Me personally as a victim always found my experience less important? Because I'm not a girl and I always hear that I must be lucky when it actually traumatized me.
It doesn’t matter whatever gender you are , girl , man , etc. being a victim never makes you unimportant, I hope you know you shouldn’t feel that way because of your gender
Victims are victims regardless of their gender, age, or power stance. Abusers are still abusers just the same. I hope you find peace and clarity with what you went through, Im sorry people did this to you.
No,no,you're not less important. You're not lucky,you got a trauma,please,talk about this with someone that actually knows how to deal with this topic,not because you're not a girl it means that you are less important!
You are just as important as anyone else. It doesn’t matter what gender or age you are, your experience shouldn’t be downplayed because you’re not a girl.
As someone with bpd I REALLY appreciate the bit on red not being good representation of bpd and we deserve better representation. Yes, red does act a lot like people with bpd. But she is an ABUSER. Having bpd does not make you an abuser or make it easier to become an abuser. I love this series because of how educational it is and you're handling everything amazingly, keep it up!
Child on child SA usually happens when a child is influenced by an adult/teen, meaning they learned that behavior from having it done towards them first. It does also happen if a kid is exposed to adult content too young, making them act out from curiosity
THANK YOU!!! im a victim of cocsa and some people believe its normal because "theyre a kid!!" My cousin (who was about 6 months older) made me sit on his lap and told me about how he wanted to use sex toys on me and i was only 8!
Yep, that’s what happened to me, 12 and 6, my own brother, my parents finally realized why I always tried to make his life a living hell when I finally told them about it. My brother was influenced by his fucked up monster-mother who is a whole other story…
In the intro, the explanation of grooming really hit home. As someone who’s been groomed by someone younger than myself, I have had to defend myself multiple times to the accusation that in fact I was the abuser, and it’s a terrible stereotype. Anyone can be groomed or abused, no matter their age.
YES. went through something similar but it was more like while we were both minors i was still always younger than them, (though for the first case its loose on if the first gr••mer was a minor or not bc he changed his age all the time, and also bc the second gr••mer told me so many lies about who he actually is its all blurry.) but gr••ming is a type of manipulation, not a strictly only done by pdfs thing. i had to explain this basic knowledge to my friend after i WENT TO HIM FOR COMFORT WHEN I REALIZED I WAS BEING GR••MED AND HE YELLED AT ME ALL BC THE GUY SAID "oh im actually 15" which WOULDNT change the gr••ming anyway??? even after that i got gr••med again and i didnt even realize it till a year and a half later i had broken free!! ffs. i hope that asshole feels bad for how he just switched up on me too. how could you do that to someone younger than you who is terrified they found out they are being gr••med?!?! how could someone act like they care and immediately switch like that for no reason?!? good god i hope that guy doesnt do that to anyone else. same with the gr••mers too obviously but i already talked to people both of them already got to/got to after they went through me. im sorry you had to deal with all of that, i wish people would get their heads out of their butts and be normal for once
i have simillar experience too but i was never SAed at the time, was just exposed to harmful content was like 8. and i was the abuser myself thank god my mother stopped me.
@@YamuChika6 There’s a word for it, it’s called Teliophilia or something like that. There’s also Chronophila. I forgot how to spell BOTH of them. I just wanted you to know.
I love how ypu touched on the topic of little kids not truly understanding what they say when they say things like “i wanna marry you” to another family member. Growing up i my little cousin was always oddly attached to me to the point it was uncomfortable and no one ever seemed to hear me out because “he young its just love”
about the incest thoughts in children, im so glad youre mentioning how bad and harmful this actually is. Im seeing TOO MANY parents nowadays who think that their child saying “i want to marry my dad/mom/brother/sister!!!” is completely fine and its a normal behaviour to have a “crush” on your relative without even correcting it and ALLOWING it. It always makes my blood boil anytime i see parents completely normilising it like itll pass on its own, of course some would, but theres always a chance that the child will grow up thinking its normal and eventually inherit this behaviour
Its like "the wierd thing about the johnsons", no one told the boy no, and it led to his father being so scared he ran into traffic because of his abusive son.
The child on child sa representation with lavender genuinely means so much to me. As someone who went through it as a child i barely see anyone talk about it but the way you talked about it comforts me and makes my experience feel validated so much. I truly wish it would be talked about more so that as a child the adults in my life could've stopped things.
I appreciate you mentioning that grooming doesn’t always involve a minor. As someone who was groomed by a much older adult (something honestly this video helped me realize) I think it’s an important piece of info to spread.
I have been a victim of S/A at least five times in my life and i didn't have time to heal from it in a healthy way. I feel guilty because sometimes i can act a lot like red as i have been obsessed with people i have a mere crush on. It never got to the point of stalking or pushing down my s3xual thoughts on people, but i am still scared of harming someone because of it. Being abused made me have a pretty twisted of how i should act on relationships and i tried to fix that problem on therapy. But my therapist downplayed my experiences and said that i was just being overdramatic about my issues. I really don't know what to do about all of this and i just want to stop over s3xualizing myself because I don't want to harm the people that i love.
Im so sorry you had to go through this. Not only this happened 5 times, but your therapist didn’t tell you anything that could actually help you. That’s just disgusting and not a good therapist at all. I understand that you don’t want to harm the people you love due to your experience. Maybe try to get a better therapist who won’t just push away your issues (as it’s very serious, and they shouldn’t be one for that) or try talking to a close person that you know will listen to you? I hope that you heal soon and well, since you didn’t have a healthy recovery from it ☹️🫶 stay strong (I’m sorry if I disrespected or hurt you, haven’t experienced s/a)
Yeah, I'm in the same case as you and what you're going through is 100% valid. I had multiple people downplay my trauma, my bully, my ex best friend, and my mom. Don't let anyone doubt what you had to go through, not even people you love or "professionals". I oversexualize myself a lot in my past relationships and it twisted everything that I view in love. I still struggle with hypersexuality so I often try to find hobbies that keep me busy and more fulfilled. Just know your trauma does not define you as a person and you can get through this. Try to find a therapist that doesn't downplay your issues or tell someone you trust that you know won't betray you.
@@SeaBuni I am sorry this happened to you as well.. It's very sad the way our society makes us think that we are to blame for what happened to us, but, thank you very much... I know my trauma doesn't define me, but it's been a fact that I've simply forgotten as time has passed. Your words really made my day better, thank you so much 💛
I really appreciate you talking about this subject. Not only in a creative form through videos and showing not telling, but also actually using words to explain. Elaborating and discussing the topic more and more helps give it a better feeling, and it is absolutely true that more people should be aware of how Sexual abuse works and how different it can be
I really love the representation of Lavender and Blue as COCSA in their earlier lives, its an extremely common and difficult thing to experience, and sticks with both until adulthood. You handle these topics VERY well, and your story is very well put together!
The way you handled Red is also done really well. Her accidental manipulation even gets to the audience, making us sympathize with her. I am glad she has at least realized whats shes done wrong and is no longer going to interact with Blue.
I don't really comment on videos much, but Lilac reminded me of a twisted memory I had. I remember telling my dad that I wanted to marry my brother and I never saw my brother much, and my reasoning at the time was that being close to the ones I love meant I was showing them how much I loved them. But my brother quickly told me that I was confused and that he still loved me. I don't remember much because I think I was like 6, but now I'm grateful that he, my dad, and my mom were able to clear up the confusion as I also have autism, so I think they struggled a bit more to explain to me how marrying my brother wasn't okay. Sorry for the long comment, but your explanation kinda helps me see the one thing I didn't care for and how I can prepare to avoid this kind of behavior in the future. Hope you have a good day/night/week, and thank you for bringing this topic into light
I feel excited and very scared knowing that possibly the next animation will be about Purple, the fact that it represents grooming already makes me have a bad taste in my mouth. Vic, I just hope that when you finish researching this story you take a well-deserved rest, greetings ❤
One thing I like about this series is the music used in each video about the abusers, and how well it matches their personalities. The most obvious one is Red. She's got happy, bubbly, innocent songs, to suit her "innocent" appearance. The example I like most is Sweet Little Bumblebee, because it combines the seemingly innocent songs with disturbing visuals, to show how upset and guilty Blue feels in comparison to Red's seeming innocence. Even from Blue's perspective, she comes off as innocent, so the music stays harmless even as her actions get worse and worse. Purple's is also very obvious. The song is technically an animation meme song, but it's an extremely serious one that has already been used in multiple videos about SA. And even if you don't know that, you can listen to the song, and tell that it's probably gonna be in a sad video at the least. Purple is a groomer, but she's also the abuser who's meant to be most obviously bad. The song used for her is also the only one that comes off as upsetting or sad, compared to all the other happy, fun songs. You click on the video, and you know it's gonna be something serious. With Pink, you get these very sexual, or at least heavily romantic songs. Normally, these songs aren't weird in any way, talking about regular romance things, but that's why they work so well for her. Pink is the only one who had a romantic relationship with Blue at one point, and she uses this to pressure Blue into intimacy. These relationships seem like they could be normal or consensual, and in videos about Pink, it almost feels like you're seeing a regular, bubbly animation meme the way these songs are combined with colorful visuals. They're fairly cheerful, but the key thing is they're also very assertive, often telling the listener to perform sexual acts. Pink is also very much in tune with these songs, singing and leading the video while Blue is just there. It gives the feeling that it could be a normal video, but when you look closer, Pink is obviously the one in a position of power. Lavender's song is similar. Obviously the "look don't touch" fits for non-consensual voyeurism, but the song is also an animation meme song that comes off as very cheerful and fun. This might be me, but I feel like even the tone of the song feels cool and laid back, just like Lavender feels like a cool older sister until you see her true nature. And just like with Pink, you can see she's the one in charge. But instead of being assertive, she's going with the flow of the song, staying calm while Blue freaks out to make him question the seriousness of the situation. I don't know if this was fully intentional, but I love music as a way to create emotions and atmosphere, and the songs you've chosen work amazing with your videos, both to show the situations at hand and the personalities of the abusers. I can't wait to see how this format works once we begin to explore Blue, and Blue's emotions/personality.
It's honestly a good thing stuff like this is finally being openly talked about now. Or at least a step close to encourage discussion about things like this. Especially on the segment with Lavender. Kids don't know how to process such a behavior. Yeah, they have a right to figure this stuff out in their teens but passing off behaviors as " Oh kids are just being kids, it's harmless. " Is incredibly frustrating to hear when a dismissive parent that thinks their child can do no wrong spews that kinda garbage just so they don't put the effort to ACTUALLY teaching their child/scolding such behaviors that can cause harm to them and others once older. I know this video is mostly on the topic of SA but the statement on the section with Lavender is really important for ppl growing up. This video in general is pretty helpful to opening ppl's eyes for warning signs.
7:36 when I was hearing that part I got nervous as I have bpd until you clarified😅 Edit1: thank you all for the feedback, this helps me so much and I am very confident in this, thank you.
After watching this, I feel like my brother is showing signs. He’s been aiming for my chest and frequently as a ‘joke’ pulling down my sisters and mine pants, I want to confront my parents but I don’t know what to do. Any advice? It really concerns me as I’ve been thinking about this for a year, I’m very careful with these topics so I haven’t confronted yet. It’s usually during summers too, as he doesn’t have anything on his mind so it’s occupied by me and my sister. (My sister is seven) so I stuck around mainly because he’s been ‘active’ and I’ve caught him. He also tries to lift up our shirts, it’s always in private as well, when there is no supervision. And, I’m the oldest on the family so it’s weird having the middle child try and do ‘things’ with others.
@@Neiko__official. 100% go to your parents about it if you think they will understand and help. If you trust them. Also, just call him out in it. Yell at him. Tell him what you know he's doing to his face. Let him know it's disgusting and wrong.
Ask him to stop or explain to him why he shouldn't do it, as its wrong and making you uncomfortable. If he continues then I would go to your parents, and if they refuse to do anything or play it off as hes joking around, then do your best to protect yourself and your sister by not letting him near you or pushing him before he does anything. I can relate a bit as my older brother did this when he was younger to me and my younger brother. He stopped doing it thankfully, but it took a long time and all it did was make me think that it was okay. Obviously it isn't and I don't think that way anymore.
@@Neiko__official. If they are good parents, they will listen to what you are saying, but if they do not take proper actions to stop your brother or dismiss his behavior despite your concerns, I highly suggest getting yourself and your little sister out as soon as possible, setting up cameras might help with proof as well if you want to eventually gain custody of your little sister (this is in the worst of circumstances).
Very great and informative video. You did an amazing job with this. When I first watched one of your videos, I wasn’t really interested to find out more about these characters‘ backgrounds, but now I am, since you explained everything so well. Thank you for clearing things up! Knowing that you put a lot of thought into your videos and that the whole story is so deep, makes them even better.
as a person with bpd, i personally much appreciate the sensitivity to misrepresenting the already misrepresented disorder. the story you have created is amazing, and i can not wait for further animations about it! :)
I like that you emphasize that Pink's abuse at the hands of her husband is still real and valid, she was still a victim, even if she went on to become an abuser. I also really like that BPD wasnt demonized here. I deal with a lot of signs and symptoms of BPD, (not safe for a diagnosis currently) and it makes me very sad to see how its demonized so often. So thank you, for your amazing work and portrayals of these difficult topics.
The dedication you put into this series is honestly insane! I personally was never a victim but it makes me happy that people are spending time to educate others of how awful SA is and that people who were victims are being heard. I cannot wait to see more of this series!! Your dedication to telling a story and proving a point inspires me!
I like how Blue's SA from Pink is a great example of how someone in a relationship could consent to one thing a partner does to not consenting to something else. Even people that are romantically involved with each other and can do or experience SA And I feel like a lot of victims could find that helpful to realise
Lavender is what is called a Codependent. Not to be confused with cooperation, codependence is what happens when someone uses the struggle to gain independence as a means of maintaining control over someone's life. Its not inherently sexual and it is not always done on purpose. However, giving things in order to maintain a feeling of debt and guilt the person into accepting abusive or controlling behavior is a key component of codependence. A codependent person may attempt to hide their behavior by helping people they feel as in need, but this can lead to strained relationships, as the codependent effectively claims responsibility for the lives of others. Most codependents simply see themselves as good Samaritans who give because they need to help, but fail to realize the unhealthy undertone of needing to control the lives of others even if the intention is to help. As for Red. I think she simply has a unrealistic view of love. Think about how many stories talk about true love in the context of romance, and how many stories show people who do not get along growing romantic feeling for each other. Red has the idea that even if feeling are not there, those feelings can grow through bonding. These individuals may even go as far as forcing themselves on the target of their affection. If her behavior continues, escalation is the expected outcome, and that will not end well for Red or Blue. Pink starting out consensual is what makes it so easy to see it as less awful. But that is how many abusive relationships form. Harley Quine and the Joker from batman the animated series springs to mind. A person who abuses you intentional will do so to control you, often being two faced to get the victim to fault themselves rather than acknowledge the abuse they faced. Once it becomes clear that the abusive behavior is intentional, that is when ties need to be cut. Pride that is determined by someone else is less than worthless, being a metaphorical chain that people like pink can pull. Something made worse by how Pink is mirroring her own abuser to become less of a victim in her own eyes.
Something I’ve noticed relating to purple is that the color of her tie matters a lot actually. I think it represents who she is currently manipulating, victimizing, or possibly s/aing, because of the color changing in each of the videos she is in. In WUTIWANT, her tie is a cyan/bright blue, showing that she was s/aing and manipulating blue during that. Like Vic said, purple only chose then to s/a him because he had gotten desensitized and had gone through so much that he had gotten a bit use to it, making it easier to s/a and manipulate him due to blue being so tired of everything. In Sweet Little Bumblebee, her tie is both bright red and white. White representing her either not having a victim or undecided, while the bright red being her manipulating or trying to “help” red. Before red started jumping to conclusions at the couch, the tie was red. But after red talks about her and purple, she’s discomforted and leaves while her tie turns white. We also see purple’s tie being red while looking at the board with red in SLB, implying that the scene had taken place before purple gave up on red. And last, in LOVEFOOL purple’s tie is white, meaning that purple had/was seeking out a victim, specifically red. This also explains what Vic says in the video (talking about the getting close with the victim). Purple was trying to “help” red, that way red would trust purple more and make it easier to s/a her. But, this plan soon failed due to red’s obsession with blue. Anyways, this is just what I think based off of what I’ve seen in all of the videos (WUTIWANT, LOVEFOOL, Sweet Little Bumblebee). Since red is presumably out of the picture now (probably not fully but not a main), We’re probably going to focus more on purple, pink, and hopefully lilac doing atleast something helpful. Since lavender is just a bystander, I highly doubt that lavender is going to have a video about herself after Look Dont Touch, or atleast not in a while.
Damn, i was SA when i was 10 years old..My biggest fear was becoming the monster and repeat the pattern of abuse, but hearing the pink definition and the "You can or cannot be the abuser. It depends on the way you act" Hit me hard..Especially when i was like Red when i was a kid and i didn't know anything about this, I still try to change that thing but its hard, and if someone is seeing this and saying "I feel like one of them" (pink, red or lilac) You can change, it would be difficult since our mind is broken but we can fix it.
I want to show this vid to a kid I know, who is currently experiencing such a horrible S/A or Harassment by her older cousin. The kid is like a daughter to me now and I honestly need advice and really want to help her from this trauma. Her older cousin kissed her on the bed at the age of 12 and he wasn't drunk plus the dude is married and until this day the kid still hasn't told this about her parents because she's worried that her parents will call her a problem and honestly I'm mad and worried at the same time to her and concern for her mentality. The kid is insecure about what her parents will tell her or do. What should I do.
I’d suggest you should show it to the kid, but make sure to explain to them what the videos mean to clear any like misunderstandings and misconceptions. Also If you can, maybe try to meet up with her parents and tell them that “hey your child had been s/a by her older cousin” and just explain the rest. Their response might differ though but just make sure to try and word it well enough that they understand. If ever the parents don’t understand what you’re talking about educate them first on what s/a is, the different types of s/a and more on the topic, THAN you can explain the situation their kid is going through. The kid shouldn’t have to keep silent about this that so disheartening having to live in fear of what her parents might react :( Sorry if this isn’t the best advice I can give but hope it goes well for you tho!!!
I’m actually happy blue is not a really good guy cuz it makes his character seem more actually human yk? And even more relatable cuz even if he started the flirting and affair it seems like he didn’t want to take it that far and or it to go that way.
Your videos made me realize about a lot of stuf that I dismissed in my life cuz people said it was my fault and or that it was just nothing and I’m overreacting about it. Your videos also show that even victims can become abusers, and how even blue who isn’t a perfect character can be a victim. Anyone can be a victim men and women, anyone could be a victim, and victims can even become their abusers. Theses characters feel realistic and actually well thought out. Please keep this up and spreed more awareness about this stuff.
As a girl who been sexually assaulted like almost my entire life I'm so glad u talked abt those, some ppl in my life don't get it they say I'm overreacting or "it's not even sexual harassment" but it obviously is bc I'm being uncomfortable and they keep chasing me, flirting with eyecontacts, making excuses to touch me like my waist arm hand this is absolutely terrible even make me cry everytime I remember this been happening many times in my life I'm really glad u talked abt it Vic especially how the details too keep it up I can't describe how much I'm happy and feel better bc this your really making a lot being heared out including me 🩷🩷
Ohhhhhhhhh my god- okay. I am so glad that this video was made because I’ve been downplaying a lot of my SA experiences and this just- the validation and information is- I can’t verbalize how grateful I am to the awareness this video spreads. I was a victim of both grooming of my older partner and my older family member. I’ve never really talked about either with many people and this video is actually making me cry right now. I feel so seen and so heard. This is seriously helped me understand my experiences better and what happened. Thank you so much. I’ll keep looking into this, but this genuinely makes me feel so much better about what happened. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this.
Watching this and realizing that what my father did to me was not just abuse but.. inherently s/a is disturbing... as a child both publicly and in private how he used to touch me to the comments he made about me finding a boyfriend, becoming pissed off when I talk to boys even in a friendly manner, not stopping touching me when I tell him to stop because he is my "father" is.. scary... thanks for this video man, atleast now I know if I meet someone like my father in the future I'd know immediately its s/a... also good news, my mother divorced him like 4 years ago before his advances could grow into anything beyond touching, and now when he tried to stalk me not only was he stopped by the police but I've been informed I can file for a restraining order ^^
I really wanted to thank you for making this story. Its helped me face my past experiences in childhood in a healthier manner, and in a sense it helped me see that I wasn't at fault for it. Even if I haven't gone through what Blue specifically has gone through, I still resonate a lot with the story and all of the depicted ways he reacts in certain situations. I already knew a lot of information about the topic of SA, but seeing it in an accessible and public manner that serves to inform others about SA gives me hope that more people will grow to understand those who are victims and to know the patterns of those who may be abusers! So, again, thank you for making this wonderful story! Its helping a lot more people than you know.
7:04 the fact that blue is 25 is amazing, you show people that not only minors get S/A'd, but adults get manipulated and S/A'd too. Specially how red is younger thab blue
5:44 as a older cousin, I used to be that kinda of weird when I was around 14 and younger, I used to tell my female cousins (mostly 3 of them, they are close to my age but I don’t thing age matters) that if I was a man I would marry them or do other not ok things, ofc it was only a joke and I didn’t really mean to damage my cousins, one day I stopped thinking more clearly about what I was doing and I decided to stop, because even tho I didn’t had sexualized ideas about them or actually would hurt them in anyway, i didn’t think speaking like that was something right.
not only was this really interesting and helpful, but helped me recognize i’ve endured a lot more s/a than i previously thought. thank you, you’re series has seriously helped uncover some unsavory stuff happening currently and in my childhood.
This commentary video is amazing. Im so glad that you've taken time to fully understand each form of abuse and even pointed out the ACTUAL definition of grooming. Its often so minimized and it can affect so many people. Your doing great with this series and ive never felt so seen before when it comes to representation. Thank you.
When I first came across this videos, I was really apprehensive, bc often times stories like this that include S/A tend to come across as fantasies, or shock factor, and sometimes they're harmful (I.e. some ppl portray these types of situations between only older men and young girls and brushing off other types of victims/survivors like men, ppl who were dressed 'provocatively', and when it occurs in an established relationship). However, after watching your videos and analysis I've actually realised your content is amazing! Disregarding the awesome animation and character design, your videos are extremely informative, and very helpful in assisting people to recognise, avoid and prevent S/A or grooming in themselves and others! I also appreciate the inclusion of blue, bc you're spreading awareness for victims who are usually overlooked or disregarded! Love the content!
I had child on child SA done to me in kindergarten and it still sickens me to this day on how all the teachers were saying that It was so cute that the SA'ing child "Loved" me even though i was crying for there help and telling the other kid to stop. So thank you so much for talking and acknowledgeing the fact that child on child SA happends and explaining that the adult should stop that situation. Most people just play it off like it is some silly unharmful crush and it isn't a big deal ,even though from my experience of it i still have bad memories and dreams about it to this day.
I've been always amazed by the amazingly good effort you have put into these stories, making it have colorful palletes, using any kinds of songs and still being fully respectful, responsible and educative towards SA.
thank you for mentioning how gr••ming (censored bc youtube hates me) works. im tired of people acting like its only and adult doing it to a minor. a minor can do it to a minor and an adult can do it to an adult. i feel seen, thank you for your series
As someone who has been groomed, thank you for spreading awareness and how much detail your characters have. I also like the detail that the 4 girls especially red and pink seem innocent yet they abuse the victim. I kinda relate to blue because I went through this, in fact all the 4 girls kinda match the things I went through. I hope blue escapes and has the best life
I've been dealing with people like this since 1st grade -a ''friend'' i know would poke me on the chest no matter how many times i said stop scratched him or yelled at him (in front to the teachers) in first grade he never knew how to stop because no one did anything so now he likes to go under my shirt so i ignore him now he still hasn't gotten the hint. -i had a very obsessed and abusive friend (that I'm on good terms with now) had just met me and i became her best friend, she would punch me, hit me, cut off the circulation in my hand after i told her to let me go and tell me that I'm fine. i clearly was being hurt and my teacher (bless her soul i love that woman) wouldn't move us away, the nurse said i was fine no bruises or broken bones but didn't even HELP, and when i had a mental breakdown i went to friends and she asked why i dint go to her, like I'm SORRY i think you know where i live and are watching through my window when i sleep. -and this year some dude i (sorta) know from last year who has/had (I'm out of the area now) would follow me and tried to guilt trip me and give me food and gifts that if i gave the food to someone else he beat the shit out of them to where at one point he knew all my classes followed me at lunch and he even got as far as following me to my CAR and watching me get in and leave, i brought that up with him and he would deny it. he thought i was stupid and i told him to stop so he acted like a sad puppy for a day. he has even lifted my skirt, he has been reported by me multiple times and again no one did anything. he has BRIBED ME with money at one point, my friends has literally encouraged him till they found out and some would still push it. - a guy before the creep was a year above my grade level and knew i had troubles declining people asked me out, and ofc i cant say no, so we dated and it was horrible no one likes him and when my friend broke up with him for me bc i just cant he lashed out at her, SHE WAS HIS FRIEND TOO like damn i don't think he knows i know that tbh bc he would act all friendly with me and i would like sorta ignore him bc he just buts into me and my friends convos. man... my schools have sucked fucking ass at protecting students, i still get phantom pains from the one girl. IT WOULDNT HAVE GOTTEN SO BAD IF THEY DID SOMETHING FOR ANY OF THEM, except the last dude.
This is really well written, it's interesting to find out details about them that some ppl including me haven't picked up on^^ a lot of research and thought has been put into this story! :]💙 blue's story has been some ppl's comfort and in a way of feeling heard too, thank you so much for covering these up and properly analysing them the whole time !^^
Im sorry if this seems weird, but you're amazing at telling this story. Often times, i see people making predators out to be this person who just does it purley cause they can or they aren't properly written. Its like as if they wrote the predator to be this big, strong person and the victim to be this weak, helpless person. But in reality, SA and SH (sexual harassment) that we see around work places or in any place (school, home, even at psycwards) are developed by manipulation. It isn't something that just happen, its a process. Its a process (of most often than not) to make the victim make themselves think they are weak or misinterpreting the abuse as something darker. You are doing an excellent job of displaying that. I would love to learn more about what happens to blue and how this abuse will affect him in the long run.
as someone whos been SA'd several times, in several situations similar to these, and a male. Thank you for the accurate portrayal of these situations, as a survivor, you've executed the series flawlessly so far, thank you for speaking up about male SA awareness.
I've recently gotten out of a grooming case, and I didn't know it was considered grooming until watching this video and noticing clear signs of it that were 'mirrored' from lavender and purple. This whole story is such a good way of representing and helping others interact with what happened to them. I'd blame myself for not leaving and letting what happened occur, but now seeing why i didn't leave and the fear i had, it's clear that what happened was a case of grooming. Im still getting over what happened, and im making improvements on myself to never let anyone take advantage of me again. Honestly, with all my heart, thank you for making this series Victation. It showed me how I can learn not to let people do what they want to me.
the part abt child on child sexual abuse you had explained so well, when I was 7, my neighbors kid (around 8 or 9) had did things that kids arent even supposed to know abt to me and for the longest time I never had seen anyone talk about it so growing up I thought it was normal, thank you for speaking up about this.
Vic, this is such an interesting story you have made. Using gacha life in a way to create characters to showcase important topics such as this is amazing! The second half of blue's story, him dealing with his trauma, I really hope lilac's character gets brought up more in a part of the recovery stage for blue after all he's suffered, since the four girls prior had depicted the different forms of this abuse, I hope lilac is used to represent someone attempting to reach out to blue to help, showing what and what not to do in order to help sa survivors like blue.
Red is sexualizing herself that’s actually really sad. Like she’s so obsessed with Blue she is giving herself to someone that doesn’t want her. This whole thing is rlly sad, and relatable.
I just really want to say thank you for the way you show SA, I remember being really intrigued from the first video I saw at how you portray the multiple colors of how SA abusers abuse and intentionally (or unintentionally) abuse their victims. From Lavender always being dismissive and trying to downplay her actions as a form of "love", to Red's might start off innocent but without the understanding of boundaries and not having a good support system, it can turn much worse. (Also sorry if I'm not explaining this right) I also love how not giving the characters any names besides use of colors reminds me of 12 Angry men, and how in doing that helps us look at the characters as different types of mindsets and characteristics that a lot of people can have in a setting like this. I just wanted to give my appreciations of this series and I'm sorry if I didn't explain things well, but I appreciate you for making this series, and I wish you a good day.
I have seen a lot of people anylising the use of colors on this series, but i have never seen anybody trying to ubdertsand why the colors for each character were choosed for them. So, here is my theory: 1) Blue. This one is easy, Blue is a color than is related to masculine things and manhood, so it makes sense that the only boy there (and also the one that gets the attention from the girls) is that color. I also noticed that his blue tone is neighter a very light blue or a very dark blue. I think it is to represent that he isnt any "pure" and "innocent" person that never does anything bad (as have we have seen him getting in a relationship with a married woman) but he also isnt exactly a terrible and mean person that "deserves" all the bad things happening to him (we can see in the Lovefool video, he tries to reject Red in a respectful way, not wanting to hurt her feelings), he is just a very "decent" man. 2) Purple This color is often related with royality and people with power or in a highest position from everyone else. Im guessing its because she is "the boss" of everyone else, or at least someone with a high position in the job, enough to manipulate everyone to obey her repriments. In her video we see Blue doing something he doesnt wanna for her, i think she could have thretened him with afecting his job if he didnt obey. I also noticed she has a very dark tone of Purple, this could be because she has very dark intentions and doesnt try to hide it. She knows that what she does hurt others, but she doesnt care, and she will abuse the fact that she can do anything without getting consecuenses. She is just plain evil. 3) Lavender. This color is kinda similar to blue, so it makes sense for the siblings to have these colors since they are related. This color is related to tranquility and calmess, maybe its supposed to be how Blue sees her on a "harmless" light since she is his sister, and also has a hard time understanding that what she does is wrong? Her tone is also very light, in a way that she "mask" her intentions and actions as harmless, or even good things that she does because she loves him. As we saw on the "Dont touch it" video, how she gaslight Blue into thinking that she looking at him while changing wasnt that big of a deal. She manipulates him in a "im your family, i would never hurt you! Even if im breaking your boundaries, trust me!" Way. 4) Red. Now, this one is curious. Red is a color that gets assosiated with "intensity" (for example, extremely high temperatures) and strong emotions, so it makes sense for the obsesive girl to have this color. At first, her color is very light, symbolizing how she was "innocent" at that point due to how the only thing she had for Blue was just a crush, but she still had an unhealthy obbsession with him, to the point of harassing him and not respecting his "no". In the "Sweet little bumblebee", her color became more bright and intense, as her obbsession also did; now she changed herself completely to "attract" him and harrassed him more, even forcing herself on him and forcing him to touch her. This can also be seen on her clothes; she used to wear white, but now she dresses in black. She was always intense and obbsessive, it just got worse over time. 5) Pink. This color is related with feminity, romance, attractivenes and charm. This could be to represent that she was the only girl Blue was truly attracted to in this story, and the only one who he had a consensual (at least at first) relationship with. Her color is very similar to a "hot" pink, wich could mean that she was "spicy" and was really flirty to Blue, wich he liked. But Pink wanted him to lust after her at every moment, so she just started ignoring his boundaries and touching him without permision, expecting him to be horny 24/7, as that how she tought all men act. So, that was my little analysis, i may make one on Lilac when we get more about her.
I would like to say that im happy that people are out here warning others and helping people in need who need a hand. I am sadly a victim of SA. I thought that the SA i went throught wouldnt be clasified as SA, so i never spoke up. Im glad there are people encouraging others to speak up and educating them to be safe and never let someone control you. Thank you
vic, i just have to say, i love this so much. I love the case of the “abused becomes the abuser”. I love the representation. I love the clarification. This series is honestly perfect. I don’t know who to pity anymore, but i know one thing. even a serial killer doesn’t deserve to be sexually assaulted. its one of the worst things ti experience, and even though Red and Pink may not be able to be forgiven because of what they have done, the way they responded to the circumstances is completely valid, at least in my personal opinion. (ALSO MITSKI REFERENCE AT 13:09!1?1!1?1?1!)
This may be a stupid question but are you okay with people making similar things to you? Not a direct copy but a similar thing with inspiration, like a story about s/a portrayed with gacha videos with hints to the plotline
Victaton have confirmed several posts ago that he doesn't mind other people making videos of the same topic as his series, as he acknowledged that he doesn't own or invented S/A and is disapproving of people being accused of "copying" him. Regardless of credit or inspiration, he doesn't care either way and rather solely focused on spreading the right message.
I’m not the "OG" of spreading awareness, I don’t hold any right in this topic. I’ve already talked about it on my community post if you want to check it out.
Wow, this made me realize some things I didn't even know. In 9th grade, this guy would keep trying to touch me. I wasn't very uncomfortable with it, but I hardly ever used my voice. I'd just scoot away, but that didn't stop him. He continued and tried touching my chest and thighs, and he would send me weird messages to make me feel bad for him or worry. When I finally couldn't take it anymore, I yelled at him as loud as I could in my class and started crying. I tried having the school counselors/guidance/deputy to help me, but they did nothing. I still see him at school and have panic attacks/freeze/avoid him. One time, I saw him in 10th grade and tried avoiding eye contact with him so he wouldn't bother me, but he came up to me to say something about one of my family members he saw. I walked away as fast as I could, repeating no. I cried in my next class. I didn't realize he was trying to desensitize me to his touch and make me pity him so it would be harder for me to avoid him. I'm glad it didn't work as he planned. School and everywhere else isn't a safe place. I'm glad I didn't turn out how pink is. I have a boyfriend that was s/a and I have been very careful with his boundaries and making sure he is alright with something even if he said it was the first time, I'll ask again. To other victims of s/a, you arnt alone. There is many people out there that have felt the way you have or gone through the same thing. Don't be afriad to use your voice. Don't let them think they have control over you. Talk to someone you know will help or believe they will. If you are judged for it when it isn't your fault, fuck them. Stay safe everyone 🩷
Thanks for making this video, Vic! Honestly, most of the time I could tell what was going on between Blue and the girls, but nonetheless, VERY nice of you to explain what was going on- However, Pink is the one I had doubt the most, I thought it was just to have a "FuN tIme", but with this video, I realized that she also wanted to portray what she went through herself in her marriage, and not precisely become a bad person per say. And she also assumed that "A man can hurt ME if I hurt THEM FIRST", as you stated here. And, she herself became the abuser who abused HER. Instead of improving, ans trying to not behave as your abuser.
I think Red and Pink's cases are very intriguing, Red was in fact redeemable but her co-workers had a negative influence on her and she misunderstood what Purple told her, and for Pink, she was once in Blue's situation and was sexually abused by her own husband, she took on the behavior of her husband onto Blue when she took on the fact that "Nobody can hurt her if she hurts them first" it was truly fascinating.
I've already been through a situation involving purple, and one involving red (Purple was a 15 yo guy when i was 6 yo, and red was one of my 11 yo classmates)
Blue isn’t a perfect victim. He’s not just an innocent little fool who becomes depressed and sad because of S/A. Reminds me of Angel Dust, how he’s a victim of S/A because of Valentino, but he’s not just an innocent little fool either, he’s not innocent, like how most people depict S/A victims. Everyone depicts S/A, C/A or V/A victims to be completely innocent and perfect until they were put into their situation. In depictions, The Victims are always perfect and innocent, then become depressed because of their Abusers. In reality, The Victims aren’t perfect nor innocent, they could have fallen into a trap or just straight up let someone take advantage of them and then it turned abusive. How Pink is, her role as an Abuser isn’t perfect either, she was also a Victim that turned into an Abuser, which could be because it was the only way of life she knew (like most people do). In depictions, Abuser’s only have one role and no explanation or backstory for being an Abuser. They’re just evil for no reason at all. I don’t have much left to say, but keep on fighting on. ✌
When I was younger, my mom abused me. But I took the stress she gave me out on my pets but since I was very young I never knew and I didn't mean to hurt them.. Now I take care of them better they are healthy and happy.
I'm not proud of this, but when I was watching this series I really felt bad for red because I use to be in the state she was in in her innocent phase. I had a Massive crush on a guy in my Sophomore year of high school. We started off as friends and as a few months went by I admitted that I had a crush on him since he was moving. He told me that he was in a pretty toxic relationship with a previous girl so he wanted to take a break with relationships. And instead of seeing that as a sign to step off I brushed it off. After he moved we haven't spoken to each other for about a year and a half few weeks after I graduated we chatted more through social media and all the feelings I tried to leave behind came back. I was a bit more clingy and obsessive and "Jokingly" talking about marriage. I 've never been that deep in love before so in the moment I thought I was being sweet and loving with what I said because of the "bad relationship" moment he told me. It wasn't until he told me that he didn't see US being in a relationship ever happening and him telling me that how I was treating him made him feel both uncomfortable towards me and damaged towards himself when I started to relapse and rethink a lot about what I could've been doing to him this whole time.(ᵀʰᵒᵘᵍʰ ᴵ'ᵐ ᵃˢʰᵃᵐᵉᵈ ᵗʰᵃᵗ ᶦᵗ ʰᵃᵈ ᵗᵒ ᵍᵒ ᵗʰᵃᵗ ᶠᵃʳ) So when I watch Red's story I don't see her as myself, but more of what I could've been If I haven't stepped down.
The ending mentioning how next will be about blue and how he responds, the doodles make me think Fight Flight Freeze and Fawn eh? Also, I love the detailed drawings and the different styles! Super cool and love the experimentation.
Thank you for bringing 'bystander' to light. I'm a victim of this, my parents were arguing and my dad pinned my mom to a wall. Which was dangerous for my mom, i was sobbing, crying, screaming for help. But the people watched them and just laughed. I no longer feel as safe in public knowing i could be in danger but no one would care.
As I watched blues story, I realized that blue got less and less vibrant and in the end of the series for the time being his cheeks were black, possibly meaning that when blue got paler, it could be blue loosing his innocence, and the black on his cheeks could've been signing him feeling dirty. I also realized that his heart glasses have been broken, maybe also signing his heart has been broken due to the SA. (I'm sorry if it's wrong it's just a theory of mine)
Lavender reminds me of one of my friends.. My friend once pranked me with he friend for her friend to act weird(S/A) me. I tried to confront her and she was like "it's not that big of a deal." It make me feel really weird and it made me confused, i hated it. I'm still really happy that you started this series. It makes me happy, and calms me down, I understand blue. (Pink also reminds me of another person, i don't wanna explain, because it makes me uncomfortable to say.) -an S/A victim, (aka,me)
I'll say, i haven't commented on blues story until now. You did and are doing a really good job! When i was sa'd i wasn't a boy at the time but i still feel as if it wasn’t important because an older child did it to me and that made me think it was a normal and ok thing. I know it isn't now of course, though i still feel guilty and its messed up my perception of physical and emotional intimacy. I hope everyone else here whos a survivor recovers well, its hard but you'll get there.
Purple reminds me of Valentino from Hazbin Hotel, because he tricked Angel Dust by being nice and also made him use to his touch, and also Lavender also kinda reminds me of something that Val did, because Valentino gifted Angel Dust his pet pig named Fat Nuggets
Lilac reminded me of smt I did when I was 7-8 I ended up touching my siblings in weird ways with out knowing it was wrong for like 2-3 months and when I realized it was wrong and stopped the behavior i felt horrible I’m not sure if they remember but I hope they don’t because I don’t want to ruin our relationship.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE READ IF U CAN HELP 🙏🏼 as a victim of cocsa (or something of the sorts, i dunno how to label it??) im now hypersexual and its been very self destructive. im nervous i could end up like pink if i dont seek help. i care for others and do acknowledge that my assaulter's actions were wrong, but im so so scared the desire could get out of hand. i am a very impulsive person and i tend to act out of line if im angered enough (this is associated with some form of anger issues) and that itself was concerning enough. now, after hearing about pink, im just paranoid. if anyone can help me out, please reply and remember your thoughts/emotions are valid
I think there are some anxiety medications that could help with your impulsiveness, and reaching out to a therapist about this can also be beneficial. If you have a new partner, explaining that you’re hyper and impulsive and that they need to tell you bluntly to stop if you go too far should help a bit aswell. I would recommend trying to worry less about it, as long as you make sure you can identify the signs of abuse and make sure you don’t do them should be good enough to prevent anything, though having a source you can check with to make sure you’re doing okay and not becoming abusive (like a therapist) should be extra help. Best of luck out there
I have been stalked around about four times through out my life but still remember the time I was attending TAFE..it’s something like college but I remember studying about media and editing. As within that time of studying I met someone who acted like red, and it was difficult because I couldn’t go anywhere with out the person go and look for me. I would actually hide in the bathroom and i did make my teachers aware of what’s happening but they didn’t do anything so I dealt with it, and when they begin bringing up sexual things towards me and I had to put my foot down and brought it up again for help and they finally dealt with it. By explaining what they were doing was wrong while getting help as I found out they had some disability that made things hard for them to know what they were doing was wrong.
THANK THE LORD 4 U. Goodness In the past when this video came out I had watched this and realized the type of abuse going on with my cousins and classmates was COSCA I studied more on it and now I feel more in control of my situations. All your videos make me so happy.
I love how well explained Reds part is (coming from a victim of S/A myself), having to deal with a "Red" type of S/A was so mentally draining for me and nerve wrecking. When i finally got the chance to stand up for myself against my abuser, he would repeat the same words again and not listen well to what im trying to say. The entire time i never realized he only needed me when he was horny.
06:46 I love that you mentioned this because this topic is never getting enough attention,as an example my female relaitives/elders touches or directly grab my boobs or my butt to check if they've grown since i'm in my puberty years and its just makes me so uncomfortable even my mom does this sometimes and when i say i dont like this type of touch coming from them they always say that its how they express their love
I was looking for this comment. My grandma always touches me, is obsessed with my body (everyday I visit her and she always weights me, checks how much my chest is measuring and has to comment about my lips) and talk about how boys would love different things about me (no comment at all) and I just don't understand why relative sexualizing you is such an accepted thing. I'm sorry for what they're doing / sayjng to you. I hope one day they'll understand how weird and wrong they're acting. It's so normalized it's disgusting. It's so normalized with female relatives too. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. What the hell are they checking anyways? How do they not see they're being creeps no matter if they didn't mean it?
I want to thank you for making these videos. I’ve already made a comment on one of these thanking you, but when you explained more about lavender and how wrong it is, it helped me be able to see what exactly I have gone through. These videos have helped me and I hope they can help inform others.
Im not too sure if youll read this or anyone else will, but this series has helpped me so much. It helped me realize my best friend at the time actually assaulted me, and i wasnt delusional like they made it out i was. They turned my friends against me, calling me a narcissist. They did it as well while being in a relationship with someone. Similar to pink. She used my weaknesses against me. Thank you so much victaton. Like seriously. I relate to blue alot.
When talking about Lavender it made me remember a time when my two cousins (they both played together a lot) told each of their moms they were marrying each other. Both my cousins were girls and most my family is h0m0ph0bic so my aunt sat them down and said girls can’t marry girls, but said absolutely nothing about how cousins shouldn’t feel that way about each other. So I agree, please educate kids around you about how bad 1nc3st is, and just $A in general
Thank you for talking about Lavender, as someone who used to be naive in what was right or not and would let my brother touch me and encourage him to who's always felt guilty about it then I really needed to hear that part where you said to let the child know because no one ever told me it was bad (and my mom even defended my brother saying he wanted to marry me because we were both young so it was harmless)
Im going through the same case as blue with her sister, but instead with my older brother, its being a hard situation for me as a victim, my mom already knows what he did/said to me and he only plays the victim, just like in 4:24 he just excuses himself and only thinking on him because he knows he fucked up (just like lavender), and it gives the victim (me and blue) a feel of impotence and feeling that we may have over-reacted over a small thing, this series you've made had have helped me a lot on feeling that is not my fault, but that bitterness an abuser's leaves never lefts you, sadly.
Thank you so much for making a video explaining the characters cause I have been trying to figure it out by my self...it has not been going well. Now that I know what the character's symbolize I can better enjoy your amazing videos and Blue's story.
With how you explained the characters in this video gives me more of an understanding of a past experience of mine. I think, with these explanations, I was accidentally an abuser to my ex gf and even tho I know I did terrible stuff to her I didn't know that it was a case like this. Sadly me and my ex didn't properly communicate with each other about this and I think she thought I wanted a type of very sexual relationship. To which after awhile I started to not like the stuff we did constantly because I encourage it and never asked my ex and me to communicate about it until it was too late when she broke up with me. I won't go into detail as that part of my life is mine and my ex's business and in a past I don't want to re-live. I really do want to be better as a person and I just really do hope that my ex finds someone who treats her how she should be treated and that I can build myself well enough to not continue the disgusting behaviours that I've done before (Please do not shame me or my ex for this situation. There was fault on both of our parts in our relationship and I kind of wanted to share my story of how I was an abuser and how I'm willing to try not to go down that bad rabbit hole and change for the better)
As a person who did experience S/A on multiple occasions i can totally agree on everything and i actually feel like its better representation for the cause and i love it sm 💕😭
You taught me a lot in this video, explains why my grandpa randomly spoils me and my little brothers (I knew he was a groomer, but since i don’t know much Spanish, I didn’t know how to tell my parents about it). Thank you so much.
As much as i rewatched your videos, i did not catch up on the fact that at first Pink and Blue were consensual with each other so thank you for actually telling us instead of leaving it out!
The Lavender part was so accurate, I once was in a incestous relationship with my cousin when I was 6 and didn’t realize it was wrong. he always tried to touch my private parts and pretend that he is my bf also tried to kissed me. I hadn’t realize it was wrong and when I was watching vids he forced me to “play” his sexual game and when I told him no many times he didn’t listen. Luckily my grandma found out and punished him. The Pink part was also good, my mother was always verbally abused by my grandmother which caused her to be abusive towards me (hitting me, yelling/screaming at me, guilt tripping me, and blaming me for some fcked up situation I experienced like when my principal banned me for wearing a skirt or a guy bullying me or my friends being ableist towards me.), she was really homophobic and didn’t accept the fact that I was a trans guy. She always agree with my grandma every time that old women nags and scolds me. Also would defend actions like my grandmother hitting me, yelling at me, insulting me, and being ignorant. I fear the act of me becoming like my mom or grandmother also treating my kids horribly(if I ever had kids..).
Hey, thanks for the feedback, I made a mistake by implying that Red wasn't a victim of grooming because Purple didn't succeed in grooming.
No matter the outcome, Red was still in some instances manipulated and exploited. I apologies !
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Hey vic can we also give music ideas for the animations about s/a? If so i think the song "blow out my brains" would suit one of the groomers or all them :D
I kinda knew that red wasn't the victim of grooming because I know there was a scene that purple gave up on trying to groom her since she loved blue a bit too much for that to work on her.
Thanks for this topics and making me aware its very informative
@@Linda_the_eye Red is still a victim.
I’ve always been intrigued by Pink and her backstory. I had guessed her husband was abusive, considering the wolf mask could potentially symbolize her husband’s predatory actions and intentions against Pink. I’m also assuming Pink’s lack of eyes symbolizes how her abuse left her “blind” to the harm of her own actions.
So he’s a furry💀
Actually I've seen alot of theories that she might have been the victim but ultimately became the abuser because of it
@@Bun-k3xno it's obvious in the drawing it's a mask if you look closely you could see a face under it
@@LimenShen That’s…. Literally what I said…. And what vic confirms in this video….
The wolf mask could also represent the husband being the "alpha". One of the other ways of being in control.
I like how you didn’t make blue a “perfect victim” cause no one is perfect, including victims.
People like to paint victims as perfect, naive, always good, but thats not really the case, a victim can be anyone.
I agree especially because this mentality can be harmful to the victim sometimes victims will make mistakes in situations and those mistakes are used against them to try and make it so they don't seem like a victim which is false there is no such thing as a perfect victim but that doesn't mean victims don't deserve help
exactly! victims are not always good people, and if they are? they still won’t be perfect, it’s a very hurtful mentality because it can change the view of victims, making them feel invalidated or something else along those lines
Touché. And Blue kind of got consequences for his actions in a way, engaging in an affair with Pink later gave the board of directors an excuse to blame him for Red's behavior, in their mind they probably thought "well, he already engaged in an affair with a married woman, so he's definitely seducing this one too".
Of course, this doesn't justify him being abused, or any of the actions of the abusers, but it's interesting to see that Blue can make mistakes and grow because of them later, i rarely see this when talking about victims.
No one is perfect; no one is incapable of making mistakes. People who shame victims for having flaws aren't even trying to hide the fact they never cared enough in the first place. A person should be able to set aside their pride and listen to the victim, instead of being overly critical while finding any excuse to shift the blame onto them.
Exactly! He’s not perfect at all, he willingly had an affair with a married woman. Did he mean for it to end up like this or to get SA’d? No. Is it his fault he got SA’d? Absolutely not. However, he’s still not perfectly innocent.
Same goes for pink. Domestic abuse and SA from her husband turned her into someone who loves the power over another. As said in the video - “if she’s the one hurting someone then no one else can hurt her.” Pink did not deserve any of that and those actions towards her were wrong, however the “abused becomes the abuser” trope isn’t excusable at all.
Honestly the portrayal is great.
As a victim of SA in adolescence, I have been silently watching Blue's story, and I feel like now is the time for me to comment on it. You did an amazing job explaining all of the girls' actions, representations, and backstories in this video.
Seeing so many people shocked that a victim can turn into an abuser, or that grooming can happen between adults, is very scary and disheartening - it makes me worry that we have failed to educate our society enough on SA and DA, because it is something unfortunately very prevalent in both adolescence and adulthood. Remember: Anyone can be an abuser or a victim.
Despite all the backlash this series has received, I have never felt so comforted or drawn to a piece of media as I have with Blue's story. The story is so carefully crafted, so realistic, so informative, and well-made, it’s unlike any other portrayal of SA that I have seen, you acknowledge *everyone’s* faults, and explain situations and how to get help. It might be a silly little series online, but it means a lot to me - thank you for making this series, and I’ll be tuning in for the second half as well!
love this, i appreciate your comment on educating people on the side of the video. And i'm really sorry for what you had to go through and i know that was hard. But anything in everyone hand is to work hard enough for your dream's, although i don't know you and i am a stranger on the internet. I just wish the best for you i'll pray do anything that can result to everything good and well for you. Have a wonderful day.
i can confirm we failed society. i got gr••med twice when i was younger, and just because the first guy claimed to be a minor, my friend instantly switched faces and starting yelling at me that gR••mInG oNlY iS dOnE bY AdUlTs, and then i got even worse groomed by another person. teens can gr••m children/other teens too... gr••ming is not strictly pdf filia, it is a type of manipulation. ugh
What's DA?
Whats DA?
@@JENNAA.. Domestic Abuse
i had no idea that the victim could become the abuser, its so horrible and i wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy ☹️
Unfortunately thats the truth. It goes with physical and emotional abuse too and not just sexual abuse. Many individuals who were abused as a child grow up, have children, and do the same thing that their parents did to them.
It is more common than you might think, specially with DV, but with SA as well. Pink's case is very realistic, as a victim of violence it often feels like the only way for you to not be the victim is to be the abuser yourself. It can be a concious decision or not.
Some other scenarios happen because the victim has been so commodified to the cycle of abuse that actual safety feels far-fetched and that leap of faith into clarity feels more dangerous than the abuse itself. When youre trauma wired and things are going well, your brain is just waiting for everything to crash down like it always used to. You cant even enjoy peace when you have it. The brain will make you look for people that will abuse you just the same way, because that at least is familiar; some other times, you will look for vulnerable people to abuse, because then the same cycle will come back to you and that familiarity as well.
Breaking the cycle of abuse is hard, it will bring doubts, it wont be this climatic sigh of relief many people think it will be. Many victims feel like theyre not doing the right thing by leaving, or that it's too much work that theu dont deserve being put into them. Doubts are natural to come, know that regardless of how unfamiliar peace may feel, it is still a right you have.
unfortunately the trauma response is fairly common and it happens way too much due to untreated abuse and victims not realizing they are responding to it wrong
happens a lot with child abuse as well, parents live a horrible childhood and think it's normal, enforcing the same treatment on their own children; and if they don't think it's normal, they tend to think that if they suffered then their children need to as well. abuse can be very complex
It’s actually very common, in my family there’s a lot of generational trauma and parents tend to abuse children because their parents abused them
The fact you don’t give red bpd because you don’t know much about it actually makes me happy. As you said, many ppl don’t understand the real meaning of it and don’t represent it well (and I have to admit it, I don’t know much about it either.) I also thinks it’s nice to see someone who understands not only older people than you can do sexual abuse on you. Honestly, the purple part sadly reminds me a situation my friend went through some months ago
I hope that your friend is doing okay.
@@Pringlproductions she is, she’s doing much better :))
I like how you said that red was able to be redeemable, but she kept on stepping boundaries a later on was not able to be redeemed. Red could’ve been a normal teen, but she took it too far.
Thank you for speaking about such sensitive topic.
Me personally as a victim always found my experience less important? Because I'm not a girl and I always hear that I must be lucky when it actually traumatized me.
It doesn’t matter whatever gender you are , girl , man , etc. being a victim never makes you unimportant, I hope you know you shouldn’t feel that way because of your gender
Victims are victims regardless of their gender, age, or power stance. Abusers are still abusers just the same.
I hope you find peace and clarity with what you went through, Im sorry people did this to you.
No,no,you're not less important.
You're not lucky,you got a trauma,please,talk about this with someone that actually knows how to deal with this topic,not because you're not a girl it means that you are less important!
You are just as important as anyone else. It doesn’t matter what gender or age you are, your experience shouldn’t be downplayed because you’re not a girl.
As someone with bpd I REALLY appreciate the bit on red not being good representation of bpd and we deserve better representation. Yes, red does act a lot like people with bpd. But she is an ABUSER. Having bpd does not make you an abuser or make it easier to become an abuser.
I love this series because of how educational it is and you're handling everything amazingly, keep it up!
Child on child SA usually happens when a child is influenced by an adult/teen, meaning they learned that behavior from having it done towards them first. It does also happen if a kid is exposed to adult content too young, making them act out from curiosity
THANK YOU!!! im a victim of cocsa and some people believe its normal because "theyre a kid!!" My cousin (who was about 6 months older) made me sit on his lap and told me about how he wanted to use sex toys on me and i was only 8!
@@StannMarshIRL im so sorry for the both of you especially you 🙁❤️
Yep, that’s what happened to me, 12 and 6, my own brother, my parents finally realized why I always tried to make his life a living hell when I finally told them about it. My brother was influenced by his fucked up monster-mother who is a whole other story…
Damn so Lavender is a victim
Not always the case
In the intro, the explanation of grooming really hit home. As someone who’s been groomed by someone younger than myself, I have had to defend myself multiple times to the accusation that in fact I was the abuser, and it’s a terrible stereotype. Anyone can be groomed or abused, no matter their age.
YES. went through something similar but it was more like while we were both minors i was still always younger than them, (though for the first case its loose on if the first gr••mer was a minor or not bc he changed his age all the time, and also bc the second gr••mer told me so many lies about who he actually is its all blurry.) but gr••ming is a type of manipulation, not a strictly only done by pdfs thing.
i had to explain this basic knowledge to my friend after i WENT TO HIM FOR COMFORT WHEN I REALIZED I WAS BEING GR••MED AND HE YELLED AT ME ALL BC THE GUY SAID "oh im actually 15" which WOULDNT change the gr••ming anyway??? even after that i got gr••med again and i didnt even realize it till a year and a half later i had broken free!! ffs. i hope that asshole feels bad for how he just switched up on me too. how could you do that to someone younger than you who is terrified they found out they are being gr••med?!?! how could someone act like they care and immediately switch like that for no reason?!? good god i hope that guy doesnt do that to anyone else. same with the gr••mers too obviously but i already talked to people both of them already got to/got to after they went through me.
im sorry you had to deal with all of that, i wish people would get their heads out of their butts and be normal for once
Finally someone said it
Yes adult can be groomed by minor
i have simillar experience too but i was never SAed at the time, was just exposed to harmful content was like 8. and i was the abuser myself thank god my mother stopped me.
@@YamuChika6 There’s a word for it, it’s called Teliophilia or something like that. There’s also Chronophila. I forgot how to spell BOTH of them. I just wanted you to know.
@@ThatGalFromDominoeswhat are those
I love how ypu touched on the topic of little kids not truly understanding what they say when they say things like “i wanna marry you” to another family member. Growing up i my little cousin was always oddly attached to me to the point it was uncomfortable and no one ever seemed to hear me out because “he young its just love”
I’m sorry that’s awful I hope you don’t see that person often anymore after the situation
about the incest thoughts in children, im so glad youre mentioning how bad and harmful this actually is. Im seeing TOO MANY parents nowadays who think that their child saying “i want to marry my dad/mom/brother/sister!!!” is completely fine and its a normal behaviour to have a “crush” on your relative without even correcting it and ALLOWING it. It always makes my blood boil anytime i see parents completely normilising it like itll pass on its own, of course some would, but theres always a chance that the child will grow up thinking its normal and eventually inherit this behaviour
When I was little I would always say things like “I’m gunna marry daddy!” But I only said that bc I loved my dad I don’t actually want to marry him.
Its like "the wierd thing about the johnsons", no one told the boy no, and it led to his father being so scared he ran into traffic because of his abusive son.
The child on child sa representation with lavender genuinely means so much to me. As someone who went through it as a child i barely see anyone talk about it but the way you talked about it comforts me and makes my experience feel validated so much. I truly wish it would be talked about more so that as a child the adults in my life could've stopped things.
I appreciate you mentioning that grooming doesn’t always involve a minor. As someone who was groomed by a much older adult (something honestly this video helped me realize) I think it’s an important piece of info to spread.
I have been a victim of S/A at least five times in my life and i didn't have time to heal from it in a healthy way.
I feel guilty because sometimes i can act a lot like red as i have been obsessed with people i have a mere crush on.
It never got to the point of stalking or pushing down my s3xual thoughts on people, but i am still scared of harming someone because of it.
Being abused made me have a pretty twisted of how i should act on relationships and i tried to fix that problem on therapy.
But my therapist downplayed my experiences and said that i was just being overdramatic about my issues.
I really don't know what to do about all of this and i just want to stop over s3xualizing myself because I don't want to harm the people that i love.
Im so sorry you had to go through this. Not only this happened 5 times, but your therapist didn’t tell you anything that could actually help you. That’s just disgusting and not a good therapist at all. I understand that you don’t want to harm the people you love due to your experience. Maybe try to get a better therapist who won’t just push away your issues (as it’s very serious, and they shouldn’t be one for that) or try talking to a close person that you know will listen to you? I hope that you heal soon and well, since you didn’t have a healthy recovery from it ☹️🫶 stay strong (I’m sorry if I disrespected or hurt you, haven’t experienced s/a)
Yeah, I'm in the same case as you and what you're going through is 100% valid. I had multiple people downplay my trauma, my bully, my ex best friend, and my mom. Don't let anyone doubt what you had to go through, not even people you love or "professionals". I oversexualize myself a lot in my past relationships and it twisted everything that I view in love. I still struggle with hypersexuality so I often try to find hobbies that keep me busy and more fulfilled. Just know your trauma does not define you as a person and you can get through this. Try to find a therapist that doesn't downplay your issues or tell someone you trust that you know won't betray you.
@@Asua1 Thank you so much for the advice
@@SeaBuni
I am sorry this happened to you as well..
It's very sad the way our society makes us think that we are to blame for what happened to us, but, thank you very much...
I know my trauma doesn't define me, but it's been a fact that I've simply forgotten as time has passed.
Your words really made my day better, thank you so much 💛
@@luccasmith493 I’m happy to hear that I made your day better and I know you and I can get thru this. You’re not alone.💛
I really appreciate you talking about this subject. Not only in a creative form through videos and showing not telling, but also actually using words to explain. Elaborating and discussing the topic more and more helps give it a better feeling, and it is absolutely true that more people should be aware of how Sexual abuse works and how different it can be
I really love the representation of Lavender and Blue as COCSA in their earlier lives, its an extremely common and difficult thing to experience, and sticks with both until adulthood. You handle these topics VERY well, and your story is very well put together!
The way you handled Red is also done really well. Her accidental manipulation even gets to the audience, making us sympathize with her. I am glad she has at least realized whats shes done wrong and is no longer going to interact with Blue.
will we get more on lilac soon?
yes
I don't really comment on videos much, but Lilac reminded me of a twisted memory I had. I remember telling my dad that I wanted to marry my brother and I never saw my brother much, and my reasoning at the time was that being close to the ones I love meant I was showing them how much I loved them. But my brother quickly told me that I was confused and that he still loved me. I don't remember much because I think I was like 6, but now I'm grateful that he, my dad, and my mom were able to clear up the confusion as I also have autism, so I think they struggled a bit more to explain to me how marrying my brother wasn't okay. Sorry for the long comment, but your explanation kinda helps me see the one thing I didn't care for and how I can prepare to avoid this kind of behavior in the future. Hope you have a good day/night/week, and thank you for bringing this topic into light
@@Dahlia.FI’m glad you were born in the right environment ❤
@@VicTheExplorer
I fr wanna know if she's good or not
@@Dahlia.F Lavender is Blue’s sister, Lilac has a bun in her hair and possibly works at a nurse in a hospital with Lilac.
I feel excited and very scared knowing that possibly the next animation will be about Purple, the fact that it represents grooming already makes me have a bad taste in my mouth.
Vic, I just hope that when you finish researching this story you take a well-deserved rest, greetings ❤
One thing I like about this series is the music used in each video about the abusers, and how well it matches their personalities.
The most obvious one is Red. She's got happy, bubbly, innocent songs, to suit her "innocent" appearance. The example I like most is Sweet Little Bumblebee, because it combines the seemingly innocent songs with disturbing visuals, to show how upset and guilty Blue feels in comparison to Red's seeming innocence. Even from Blue's perspective, she comes off as innocent, so the music stays harmless even as her actions get worse and worse.
Purple's is also very obvious. The song is technically an animation meme song, but it's an extremely serious one that has already been used in multiple videos about SA. And even if you don't know that, you can listen to the song, and tell that it's probably gonna be in a sad video at the least. Purple is a groomer, but she's also the abuser who's meant to be most obviously bad. The song used for her is also the only one that comes off as upsetting or sad, compared to all the other happy, fun songs. You click on the video, and you know it's gonna be something serious.
With Pink, you get these very sexual, or at least heavily romantic songs. Normally, these songs aren't weird in any way, talking about regular romance things, but that's why they work so well for her. Pink is the only one who had a romantic relationship with Blue at one point, and she uses this to pressure Blue into intimacy. These relationships seem like they could be normal or consensual, and in videos about Pink, it almost feels like you're seeing a regular, bubbly animation meme the way these songs are combined with colorful visuals. They're fairly cheerful, but the key thing is they're also very assertive, often telling the listener to perform sexual acts. Pink is also very much in tune with these songs, singing and leading the video while Blue is just there. It gives the feeling that it could be a normal video, but when you look closer, Pink is obviously the one in a position of power.
Lavender's song is similar. Obviously the "look don't touch" fits for non-consensual voyeurism, but the song is also an animation meme song that comes off as very cheerful and fun. This might be me, but I feel like even the tone of the song feels cool and laid back, just like Lavender feels like a cool older sister until you see her true nature. And just like with Pink, you can see she's the one in charge. But instead of being assertive, she's going with the flow of the song, staying calm while Blue freaks out to make him question the seriousness of the situation.
I don't know if this was fully intentional, but I love music as a way to create emotions and atmosphere, and the songs you've chosen work amazing with your videos, both to show the situations at hand and the personalities of the abusers. I can't wait to see how this format works once we begin to explore Blue, and Blue's emotions/personality.
I think it was intentional so that way people could see the abusers personalities. Instrumentals can symbolize someone’s personality.
And I agree this series is great.
It's honestly a good thing stuff like this is finally being openly talked about now. Or at least a step close to encourage discussion about things like this. Especially on the segment with Lavender. Kids don't know how to process such a behavior. Yeah, they have a right to figure this stuff out in their teens but passing off behaviors as " Oh kids are just being kids, it's harmless. " Is incredibly frustrating to hear when a dismissive parent that thinks their child can do no wrong spews that kinda garbage just so they don't put the effort to ACTUALLY teaching their child/scolding such behaviors that can cause harm to them and others once older.
I know this video is mostly on the topic of SA but the statement on the section with Lavender is really important for ppl growing up.
This video in general is pretty helpful to opening ppl's eyes for warning signs.
I like this series. Very educational and I hope Blue gets a happy ending..
7:36 when I was hearing that part I got nervous as I have bpd until you clarified😅
Edit1: thank you all for the feedback, this helps me so much and I am very confident in this, thank you.
After watching this, I feel like my brother is showing signs. He’s been aiming for my chest and frequently as a ‘joke’ pulling down my sisters and mine pants, I want to confront my parents but I don’t know what to do. Any advice? It really concerns me as I’ve been thinking about this for a year, I’m very careful with these topics so I haven’t confronted yet. It’s usually during summers too, as he doesn’t have anything on his mind so it’s occupied by me and my sister. (My sister is seven) so I stuck around mainly because he’s been ‘active’ and I’ve caught him. He also tries to lift up our shirts, it’s always in private as well, when there is no supervision. And, I’m the oldest on the family so it’s weird having the middle child try and do ‘things’ with others.
@@Neiko__official. 100% go to your parents about it if you think they will understand and help. If you trust them. Also, just call him out in it. Yell at him. Tell him what you know he's doing to his face. Let him know it's disgusting and wrong.
PLEASE tell your parents about it, it’s not normal, and it’s REALLY disgusting.
Ask him to stop or explain to him why he shouldn't do it, as its wrong and making you uncomfortable. If he continues then I would go to your parents, and if they refuse to do anything or play it off as hes joking around, then do your best to protect yourself and your sister by not letting him near you or pushing him before he does anything. I can relate a bit as my older brother did this when he was younger to me and my younger brother. He stopped doing it thankfully, but it took a long time and all it did was make me think that it was okay. Obviously it isn't and I don't think that way anymore.
@@Neiko__official. If they are good parents, they will listen to what you are saying, but if they do not take proper actions to stop your brother or dismiss his behavior despite your concerns, I highly suggest getting yourself and your little sister out as soon as possible, setting up cameras might help with proof as well if you want to eventually gain custody of your little sister (this is in the worst of circumstances).
Very great and informative video. You did an amazing job with this. When I first watched one of your videos, I wasn’t really interested to find out more about these characters‘ backgrounds, but now I am, since you explained everything so well. Thank you for clearing things up! Knowing that you put a lot of thought into your videos and that the whole story is so deep, makes them even better.
as a person with bpd, i personally much appreciate the sensitivity to misrepresenting the already misrepresented disorder.
the story you have created is amazing, and i can not wait for further animations about it! :)
I like that you emphasize that Pink's abuse at the hands of her husband is still real and valid, she was still a victim, even if she went on to become an abuser.
I also really like that BPD wasnt demonized here. I deal with a lot of signs and symptoms of BPD, (not safe for a diagnosis currently) and it makes me very sad to see how its demonized so often.
So thank you, for your amazing work and portrayals of these difficult topics.
The dedication you put into this series is honestly insane! I personally was never a victim but it makes me happy that people are spending time to educate others of how awful SA is and that people who were victims are being heard.
I cannot wait to see more of this series!! Your dedication to telling a story and proving a point inspires me!
I like how Blue's SA from Pink is a great example of how someone in a relationship could consent to one thing a partner does to not consenting to something else.
Even people that are romantically involved with each other and can do or experience SA
And I feel like a lot of victims could find that helpful to realise
Lavender is what is called a Codependent. Not to be confused with cooperation, codependence is what happens when someone uses the struggle to gain independence as a means of maintaining control over someone's life. Its not inherently sexual and it is not always done on purpose. However, giving things in order to maintain a feeling of debt and guilt the person into accepting abusive or controlling behavior is a key component of codependence.
A codependent person may attempt to hide their behavior by helping people they feel as in need, but this can lead to strained relationships, as the codependent effectively claims responsibility for the lives of others. Most codependents simply see themselves as good Samaritans who give because they need to help, but fail to realize the unhealthy undertone of needing to control the lives of others even if the intention is to help.
As for Red. I think she simply has a unrealistic view of love. Think about how many stories talk about true love in the context of romance, and how many stories show people who do not get along growing romantic feeling for each other. Red has the idea that even if feeling are not there, those feelings can grow through bonding. These individuals may even go as far as forcing themselves on the target of their affection. If her behavior continues, escalation is the expected outcome, and that will not end well for Red or Blue.
Pink starting out consensual is what makes it so easy to see it as less awful. But that is how many abusive relationships form. Harley Quine and the Joker from batman the animated series springs to mind. A person who abuses you intentional will do so to control you, often being two faced to get the victim to fault themselves rather than acknowledge the abuse they faced. Once it becomes clear that the abusive behavior is intentional, that is when ties need to be cut. Pride that is determined by someone else is less than worthless, being a metaphorical chain that people like pink can pull. Something made worse by how Pink is mirroring her own abuser to become less of a victim in her own eyes.
Something I’ve noticed relating to purple is that the color of her tie matters a lot actually. I think it represents who she is currently manipulating, victimizing, or possibly s/aing, because of the color changing in each of the videos she is in.
In WUTIWANT, her tie is a cyan/bright blue, showing that she was s/aing and manipulating blue during that. Like Vic said, purple only chose then to s/a him because he had gotten desensitized and had gone through so much that he had gotten a bit use to it, making it easier to s/a and manipulate him due to blue being so tired of everything.
In Sweet Little Bumblebee, her tie is both bright red and white. White representing her either not having a victim or undecided, while the bright red being her manipulating or trying to “help” red. Before red started jumping to conclusions at the couch, the tie was red. But after red talks about her and purple, she’s discomforted and leaves while her tie turns white.
We also see purple’s tie being red while looking at the board with red in SLB, implying that the scene had taken place before purple gave up on red.
And last, in LOVEFOOL purple’s tie is white, meaning that purple had/was seeking out a victim, specifically red. This also explains what Vic says in the video (talking about the getting close with the victim). Purple was trying to “help” red, that way red would trust purple more and make it easier to s/a her. But, this plan soon failed due to red’s obsession with blue.
Anyways, this is just what I think based off of what I’ve seen in all of the videos (WUTIWANT, LOVEFOOL, Sweet Little Bumblebee). Since red is presumably out of the picture now (probably not fully but not a main), We’re probably going to focus more on purple, pink, and hopefully lilac doing atleast something helpful. Since lavender is just a bystander, I highly doubt that lavender is going to have a video about herself after Look Dont Touch, or atleast not in a while.
Damn, i was SA when i was 10 years old..My biggest fear was becoming the monster and repeat the pattern of abuse, but hearing the pink definition and the "You can or cannot be the abuser. It depends on the way you act" Hit me hard..Especially when i was like Red when i was a kid and i didn't know anything about this, I still try to change that thing but its hard, and if someone is seeing this and saying "I feel like one of them" (pink, red or lilac) You can change, it would be difficult since our mind is broken but we can fix it.
I want to show this vid to a kid I know, who is currently experiencing such a horrible S/A or Harassment by her older cousin. The kid is like a daughter to me now and I honestly need advice and really want to help her from this trauma. Her older cousin kissed her on the bed at the age of 12 and he wasn't drunk plus the dude is married and until this day the kid still hasn't told this about her parents because she's worried that her parents will call her a problem and honestly I'm mad and worried at the same time to her and concern for her mentality. The kid is insecure about what her parents will tell her or do. What should I do.
I’d suggest you should show it to the kid, but make sure to explain to them what the videos mean to clear any like misunderstandings and misconceptions. Also If you can, maybe try to meet up with her parents and tell them that “hey your child had been s/a by her older cousin” and just explain the rest. Their response might differ though but just make sure to try and word it well enough that they understand. If ever the parents don’t understand what you’re talking about educate them first on what s/a is, the different types of s/a and more on the topic, THAN you can explain the situation their kid is going through. The kid shouldn’t have to keep silent about this that so disheartening having to live in fear of what her parents might react :(
Sorry if this isn’t the best advice I can give but hope it goes well for you tho!!!
yeah, what @poofmagictrick said! just make sure she knows that you're there for her and try to keep her away from her cousin as much as you can.
You should rlly tell someone about what's happening, ether your parents or someone else you know of who is trusted.
I’m actually happy blue is not a really good guy cuz it makes his character seem more actually human yk? And even more relatable cuz even if he started the flirting and affair it seems like he didn’t want to take it that far and or it to go that way.
Your videos made me realize about a lot of stuf that I dismissed in my life cuz people said it was my fault and or that it was just nothing and I’m overreacting about it. Your videos also show that even victims can become abusers, and how even blue who isn’t a perfect character can be a victim. Anyone can be a victim men and women, anyone could be a victim, and victims can even become their abusers. Theses characters feel realistic and actually well thought out. Please keep this up and spreed more awareness about this stuff.
As a girl who been sexually assaulted like almost my entire life I'm so glad u talked abt those, some ppl in my life don't get it they say I'm overreacting or "it's not even sexual harassment" but it obviously is bc I'm being uncomfortable and they keep chasing me, flirting with eyecontacts, making excuses to touch me like my waist arm hand this is absolutely terrible even make me cry everytime I remember this been happening many times in my life I'm really glad u talked abt it Vic especially how the details too keep it up I can't describe how much I'm happy and feel better bc this your really making a lot being heared out including me 🩷🩷
Ohhhhhhhhh my god- okay. I am so glad that this video was made because I’ve been downplaying a lot of my SA experiences and this just- the validation and information is- I can’t verbalize how grateful I am to the awareness this video spreads. I was a victim of both grooming of my older partner and my older family member. I’ve never really talked about either with many people and this video is actually making me cry right now. I feel so seen and so heard. This is seriously helped me understand my experiences better and what happened. Thank you so much. I’ll keep looking into this, but this genuinely makes me feel so much better about what happened. I’m so glad I’m not alone in this.
Watching this and realizing that what my father did to me was not just abuse but.. inherently s/a is disturbing... as a child both publicly and in private how he used to touch me to the comments he made about me finding a boyfriend, becoming pissed off when I talk to boys even in a friendly manner, not stopping touching me when I tell him to stop because he is my "father" is.. scary...
thanks for this video man, atleast now I know if I meet someone like my father in the future I'd know immediately its s/a...
also good news, my mother divorced him like 4 years ago before his advances could grow into anything beyond touching, and now when he tried to stalk me not only was he stopped by the police but I've been informed I can file for a restraining order ^^
I really wanted to thank you for making this story. Its helped me face my past experiences in childhood in a healthier manner, and in a sense it helped me see that I wasn't at fault for it. Even if I haven't gone through what Blue specifically has gone through, I still resonate a lot with the story and all of the depicted ways he reacts in certain situations. I already knew a lot of information about the topic of SA, but seeing it in an accessible and public manner that serves to inform others about SA gives me hope that more people will grow to understand those who are victims and to know the patterns of those who may be abusers!
So, again, thank you for making this wonderful story! Its helping a lot more people than you know.
7:04 the fact that blue is 25 is amazing, you show people that not only minors get S/A'd, but adults get manipulated and S/A'd too. Specially how red is younger thab blue
5:44 as a older cousin, I used to be that kinda of weird when I was around 14 and younger, I used to tell my female cousins (mostly 3 of them, they are close to my age but I don’t thing age matters) that if I was a man I would marry them or do other not ok things, ofc it was only a joke and I didn’t really mean to damage my cousins, one day I stopped thinking more clearly about what I was doing and I decided to stop, because even tho I didn’t had sexualized ideas about them or actually would hurt them in anyway, i didn’t think speaking like that was something right.
not only was this really interesting and helpful, but helped me recognize i’ve endured a lot more s/a than i previously thought. thank you, you’re series has seriously helped uncover some unsavory stuff happening currently and in my childhood.
This commentary video is amazing. Im so glad that you've taken time to fully understand each form of abuse and even pointed out the ACTUAL definition of grooming. Its often so minimized and it can affect so many people. Your doing great with this series and ive never felt so seen before when it comes to representation. Thank you.
When I first came across this videos, I was really apprehensive, bc often times stories like this that include S/A tend to come across as fantasies, or shock factor, and sometimes they're harmful (I.e. some ppl portray these types of situations between only older men and young girls and brushing off other types of victims/survivors like men, ppl who were dressed 'provocatively', and when it occurs in an established relationship).
However, after watching your videos and analysis I've actually realised your content is amazing! Disregarding the awesome animation and character design, your videos are extremely informative, and very helpful in assisting people to recognise, avoid and prevent S/A or grooming in themselves and others! I also appreciate the inclusion of blue, bc you're spreading awareness for victims who are usually overlooked or disregarded! Love the content!
I had child on child SA done to me in kindergarten and it still sickens me to this day on how all the teachers were saying that It was so cute that the SA'ing child "Loved" me even though i was crying for there help and telling the other kid to stop. So thank you so much for talking and acknowledgeing the fact that child on child SA happends and explaining that the adult should stop that situation. Most people just play it off like it is some silly unharmful crush and it isn't a big deal ,even though from my experience of it i still have bad memories and dreams about it to this day.
I've been always amazed by the amazingly good effort you have put into these stories, making it have colorful palletes, using any kinds of songs and still being fully respectful, responsible and educative towards SA.
thank you for mentioning how gr••ming (censored bc youtube hates me) works. im tired of people acting like its only and adult doing it to a minor. a minor can do it to a minor and an adult can do it to an adult. i feel seen, thank you for your series
As someone who has been groomed, thank you for spreading awareness and how much detail your characters have. I also like the detail that the 4 girls especially red and pink seem innocent yet they abuse the victim. I kinda relate to blue because I went through this, in fact all the 4 girls kinda match the things I went through. I hope blue escapes and has the best life
I've been dealing with people like this since 1st grade
-a ''friend'' i know would poke me on the chest no matter how many times i said stop scratched him or yelled at him (in front to the teachers) in first grade he never knew how to stop because no one did anything so now he likes to go under my shirt so i ignore him now he still hasn't gotten the hint.
-i had a very obsessed and abusive friend (that I'm on good terms with now) had just met me and i became her best friend, she would punch me, hit me, cut off the circulation in my hand after i told her to let me go and tell me that I'm fine. i clearly was being hurt and my teacher (bless her soul i love that woman) wouldn't move us away, the nurse said i was fine no bruises or broken bones but didn't even HELP, and when i had a mental breakdown i went to friends and she asked why i dint go to her, like I'm SORRY i think you know where i live and are watching through my window when i sleep.
-and this year some dude i (sorta) know from last year who has/had (I'm out of the area now) would follow me and tried to guilt trip me and give me food and gifts that if i gave the food to someone else he beat the shit out of them to where at one point he knew all my classes followed me at lunch and he even got as far as following me to my CAR and watching me get in and leave, i brought that up with him and he would deny it. he thought i was stupid and i told him to stop so he acted like a sad puppy for a day. he has even lifted my skirt, he has been reported by me multiple times and again no one did anything. he has BRIBED ME with money at one point, my friends has literally encouraged him till they found out and some would still push it.
- a guy before the creep was a year above my grade level and knew i had troubles declining people asked me out, and ofc i cant say no, so we dated and it was horrible no one likes him and when my friend broke up with him for me bc i just cant he lashed out at her, SHE WAS HIS FRIEND TOO like damn i don't think he knows i know that tbh bc he would act all friendly with me and i would like sorta ignore him bc he just buts into me and my friends convos.
man... my schools have sucked fucking ass at protecting students, i still get phantom pains from the one girl. IT WOULDNT HAVE GOTTEN SO BAD IF THEY DID SOMETHING FOR ANY OF THEM, except the last dude.
This is really well written, it's interesting to find out details about them that some ppl including me haven't picked up on^^ a lot of research and thought has been put into this story! :]💙 blue's story has been some ppl's comfort and in a way of feeling heard too, thank you so much for covering these up and properly analysing them the whole time !^^
Im sorry if this seems weird, but you're amazing at telling this story. Often times, i see people making predators out to be this person who just does it purley cause they can or they aren't properly written. Its like as if they wrote the predator to be this big, strong person and the victim to be this weak, helpless person. But in reality, SA and SH (sexual harassment) that we see around work places or in any place (school, home, even at psycwards) are developed by manipulation. It isn't something that just happen, its a process. Its a process (of most often than not) to make the victim make themselves think they are weak or misinterpreting the abuse as something darker. You are doing an excellent job of displaying that. I would love to learn more about what happens to blue and how this abuse will affect him in the long run.
as someone whos been SA'd several times, in several situations similar to these, and a male. Thank you for the accurate portrayal of these situations, as a survivor, you've executed the series flawlessly so far, thank you for speaking up about male SA awareness.
5:36 Thank you so much for including this. My brother has been acting weirdly since a long time and it’s usually brushed off by my parents..
I wish they’d talk about it with him sooner..
@@5tr4wberrys0daWhy do your parents brush it off? That’s messed up.
I've recently gotten out of a grooming case, and I didn't know it was considered grooming until watching this video and noticing clear signs of it that were 'mirrored' from lavender and purple. This whole story is such a good way of representing and helping others interact with what happened to them. I'd blame myself for not leaving and letting what happened occur, but now seeing why i didn't leave and the fear i had, it's clear that what happened was a case of grooming. Im still getting over what happened, and im making improvements on myself to never let anyone take advantage of me again. Honestly, with all my heart, thank you for making this series Victation. It showed me how I can learn not to let people do what they want to me.
the part abt child on child sexual abuse you had explained so well, when I was 7, my neighbors kid (around 8 or 9) had did things that kids arent even supposed to know abt to me and for the longest time I never had seen anyone talk about it so growing up I thought it was normal, thank you for speaking up about this.
Vic, this is such an interesting story you have made. Using gacha life in a way to create characters to showcase important topics such as this is amazing! The second half of blue's story, him dealing with his trauma, I really hope lilac's character gets brought up more in a part of the recovery stage for blue after all he's suffered, since the four girls prior had depicted the different forms of this abuse, I hope lilac is used to represent someone attempting to reach out to blue to help, showing what and what not to do in order to help sa survivors like blue.
Red is sexualizing herself that’s actually really sad. Like she’s so obsessed with Blue she is giving herself to someone that doesn’t want her. This whole thing is rlly sad, and relatable.
I just really want to say thank you for the way you show SA, I remember being really intrigued from the first video I saw at how you portray the multiple colors of how SA abusers abuse and intentionally (or unintentionally) abuse their victims. From Lavender always being dismissive and trying to downplay her actions as a form of "love", to Red's might start off innocent but without the understanding of boundaries and not having a good support system, it can turn much worse. (Also sorry if I'm not explaining this right) I also love how not giving the characters any names besides use of colors reminds me of 12 Angry men, and how in doing that helps us look at the characters as different types of mindsets and characteristics that a lot of people can have in a setting like this. I just wanted to give my appreciations of this series and I'm sorry if I didn't explain things well, but I appreciate you for making this series, and I wish you a good day.
I have seen a lot of people anylising the use of colors on this series, but i have never seen anybody trying to ubdertsand why the colors for each character were choosed for them. So, here is my theory:
1) Blue.
This one is easy, Blue is a color than is related to masculine things and manhood, so it makes sense that the only boy there (and also the one that gets the attention from the girls) is that color. I also noticed that his blue tone is neighter a very light blue or a very dark blue. I think it is to represent that he isnt any "pure" and "innocent" person that never does anything bad (as have we have seen him getting in a relationship with a married woman) but he also isnt exactly a terrible and mean person that "deserves" all the bad things happening to him (we can see in the Lovefool video, he tries to reject Red in a respectful way, not wanting to hurt her feelings), he is just a very "decent" man.
2) Purple
This color is often related with royality and people with power or in a highest position from everyone else. Im guessing its because she is "the boss" of everyone else, or at least someone with a high position in the job, enough to manipulate everyone to obey her repriments. In her video we see Blue doing something he doesnt wanna for her, i think she could have thretened him with afecting his job if he didnt obey.
I also noticed she has a very dark tone of Purple, this could be because she has very dark intentions and doesnt try to hide it. She knows that what she does hurt others, but she doesnt care, and she will abuse the fact that she can do anything without getting consecuenses. She is just plain evil.
3) Lavender.
This color is kinda similar to blue, so it makes sense for the siblings to have these colors since they are related. This color is related to tranquility and calmess, maybe its supposed to be how Blue sees her on a "harmless" light since she is his sister, and also has a hard time understanding that what she does is wrong?
Her tone is also very light, in a way that she "mask" her intentions and actions as harmless, or even good things that she does because she loves him. As we saw on the "Dont touch it" video, how she gaslight Blue into thinking that she looking at him while changing wasnt that big of a deal.
She manipulates him in a "im your family, i would never hurt you! Even if im breaking your boundaries, trust me!" Way.
4) Red.
Now, this one is curious. Red is a color that gets assosiated with "intensity" (for example, extremely high temperatures) and strong emotions, so it makes sense for the obsesive girl to have this color.
At first, her color is very light, symbolizing how she was "innocent" at that point due to how the only thing she had for Blue was just a crush, but she still had an unhealthy obbsession with him, to the point of harassing him and not respecting his "no".
In the "Sweet little bumblebee", her color became more bright and intense, as her obbsession also did; now she changed herself completely to "attract" him and harrassed him more, even forcing herself on him and forcing him to touch her.
This can also be seen on her clothes; she used to wear white, but now she dresses in black.
She was always intense and obbsessive, it just got worse over time.
5) Pink.
This color is related with feminity, romance, attractivenes and charm. This could be to represent that she was the only girl Blue was truly attracted to in this story, and the only one who he had a consensual (at least at first) relationship with.
Her color is very similar to a "hot" pink, wich could mean that she was "spicy" and was really flirty to Blue, wich he liked. But Pink wanted him to lust after her at every moment, so she just started ignoring his boundaries and touching him without permision, expecting him to be horny 24/7, as that how she tought all men act.
So, that was my little analysis, i may make one on Lilac when we get more about her.
I would like to say that im happy that people are out here warning others and helping people in need who need a hand. I am sadly a victim of SA. I thought that the SA i went throught wouldnt be clasified as SA, so i never spoke up. Im glad there are people encouraging others to speak up and educating them to be safe and never let someone control you. Thank you
vic, i just have to say, i love this so much. I love the case of the “abused becomes the abuser”. I love the representation. I love the clarification. This series is honestly perfect. I don’t know who to pity anymore, but i know one thing. even a serial killer doesn’t deserve to be sexually assaulted. its one of the worst things ti experience, and even though Red and Pink may not be able to be forgiven because of what they have done, the way they responded to the circumstances is completely valid, at least in my personal opinion.
(ALSO MITSKI REFERENCE AT 13:09!1?1!1?1?1!)
This may be a stupid question but are you okay with people making similar things to you? Not a direct copy but a similar thing with inspiration, like a story about s/a portrayed with gacha videos with hints to the plotline
Victaton have confirmed several posts ago that he doesn't mind other people making videos of the same topic as his series, as he acknowledged that he doesn't own or invented S/A and is disapproving of people being accused of "copying" him. Regardless of credit or inspiration, he doesn't care either way and rather solely focused on spreading the right message.
I’m not the "OG" of spreading awareness, I don’t hold any right in this topic. I’ve already talked about it on my community post if you want to check it out.
Wow, this made me realize some things I didn't even know. In 9th grade, this guy would keep trying to touch me. I wasn't very uncomfortable with it, but I hardly ever used my voice. I'd just scoot away, but that didn't stop him. He continued and tried touching my chest and thighs, and he would send me weird messages to make me feel bad for him or worry. When I finally couldn't take it anymore, I yelled at him as loud as I could in my class and started crying. I tried having the school counselors/guidance/deputy to help me, but they did nothing. I still see him at school and have panic attacks/freeze/avoid him. One time, I saw him in 10th grade and tried avoiding eye contact with him so he wouldn't bother me, but he came up to me to say something about one of my family members he saw. I walked away as fast as I could, repeating no. I cried in my next class. I didn't realize he was trying to desensitize me to his touch and make me pity him so it would be harder for me to avoid him. I'm glad it didn't work as he planned. School and everywhere else isn't a safe place. I'm glad I didn't turn out how pink is. I have a boyfriend that was s/a and I have been very careful with his boundaries and making sure he is alright with something even if he said it was the first time, I'll ask again. To other victims of s/a, you arnt alone. There is many people out there that have felt the way you have or gone through the same thing. Don't be afriad to use your voice. Don't let them think they have control over you. Talk to someone you know will help or believe they will. If you are judged for it when it isn't your fault, fuck them. Stay safe everyone 🩷
I am kind of young myself and I wanted to know more abt these kinds of topics to get a better understanding and this video helped me a lot, thanks :)
Thanks for making this video, Vic!
Honestly, most of the time I could tell what was going on between Blue and the girls, but nonetheless, VERY nice of you to explain what was going on-
However, Pink is the one I had doubt the most, I thought it was just to have a "FuN tIme", but with this video, I realized that she also wanted to portray what she went through herself in her marriage, and not precisely become a bad person per say.
And she also assumed that "A man can hurt ME if I hurt THEM FIRST", as you stated here. And, she herself became the abuser who abused HER. Instead of improving, ans trying to not behave as your abuser.
I think Red and Pink's cases are very intriguing, Red was in fact redeemable but her co-workers had a negative influence on her and she misunderstood what Purple told her, and for Pink, she was once in Blue's situation and was sexually abused by her own husband, she took on the behavior of her husband onto Blue when she took on the fact that "Nobody can hurt her if she hurts them first" it was truly fascinating.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TALKING ABOUT CSA!!! I FEEL SO SEEN THANK UOU
I've already been through a situation involving purple, and one involving red
(Purple was a 15 yo guy when i was 6 yo, and red was one of my 11 yo classmates)
you're actually so good at writing these character, i love how realistic these are too.
Blue isn’t a perfect victim. He’s not just an innocent little fool who becomes depressed and sad because of S/A.
Reminds me of Angel Dust, how he’s a victim of S/A because of Valentino, but he’s not just an innocent little fool either, he’s not innocent, like how most people depict S/A victims.
Everyone depicts S/A, C/A or V/A victims to be completely innocent and perfect until they were put into their situation.
In depictions, The Victims are always perfect and innocent, then become depressed because of their Abusers.
In reality, The Victims aren’t perfect nor innocent, they could have fallen into a trap or just straight up let someone take advantage of them and then it turned abusive.
How Pink is, her role as an Abuser isn’t perfect either, she was also a Victim that turned into an Abuser, which could be because it was the only way of life she knew (like most people do).
In depictions, Abuser’s only have one role and no explanation or backstory for being an Abuser. They’re just evil for no reason at all.
I don’t have much left to say, but keep on fighting on. ✌
Well said. This can go to any type of abuse.
I’m so thankful for this as I have my own experiences and it helps to see that more ppl go through it
When I was younger, my mom abused me. But I took the stress she gave me out on my pets but since I was very young I never knew and I didn't mean to hurt them.. Now I take care of them better they are healthy and happy.
I'm not proud of this, but when I was watching this series I really felt bad for red because I use to be in the state she was in in her innocent phase. I had a Massive crush on a guy in my Sophomore year of high school. We started off as friends and as a few months went by I admitted that I had a crush on him since he was moving. He told me that he was in a pretty toxic relationship with a previous girl so he wanted to take a break with relationships. And instead of seeing that as a sign to step off I brushed it off. After he moved we haven't spoken to each other for about a year and a half few weeks after I graduated we chatted more through social media and all the feelings I tried to leave behind came back. I was a bit more clingy and obsessive and "Jokingly" talking about marriage. I 've never been that deep in love before so in the moment I thought I was being sweet and loving with what I said because of the "bad relationship" moment he told me. It wasn't until he told me that he didn't see US being in a relationship ever happening and him telling me that how I was treating him made him feel both uncomfortable towards me and damaged towards himself when I started to relapse and rethink a lot about what I could've been doing to him this whole time.(ᵀʰᵒᵘᵍʰ ᴵ'ᵐ ᵃˢʰᵃᵐᵉᵈ ᵗʰᵃᵗ ᶦᵗ ʰᵃᵈ ᵗᵒ ᵍᵒ ᵗʰᵃᵗ ᶠᵃʳ)
So when I watch Red's story I don't see her as myself, but more of what I could've been If I haven't stepped down.
The ending mentioning how next will be about blue and how he responds, the doodles make me think Fight Flight Freeze and Fawn eh?
Also, I love the detailed drawings and the different styles! Super cool and love the experimentation.
Thank you for bringing 'bystander' to light. I'm a victim of this, my parents were arguing and my dad pinned my mom to a wall. Which was dangerous for my mom, i was sobbing, crying, screaming for help. But the people watched them and just laughed. I no longer feel as safe in public knowing i could be in danger but no one would care.
as a male victim of abuse by women I thank you for making this feel realistic and also doing your research
As I watched blues story, I realized that blue got less and less vibrant and in the end of the series for the time being his cheeks were black, possibly meaning that when blue got paler, it could be blue loosing his innocence, and the black on his cheeks could've been signing him feeling dirty. I also realized that his heart glasses have been broken, maybe also signing his heart has been broken due to the SA. (I'm sorry if it's wrong it's just a theory of mine)
Lavender reminds me of one of my friends.. My friend once pranked me with he friend for her friend to act weird(S/A) me. I tried to confront her and she was like "it's not that big of a deal." It make me feel really weird and it made me confused, i hated it. I'm still really happy that you started this series.
It makes me happy, and calms me down, I understand blue. (Pink also reminds me of another person, i don't wanna explain, because it makes me uncomfortable to say.)
-an S/A victim, (aka,me)
I'll say, i haven't commented on blues story until now. You did and are doing a really good job! When i was sa'd i wasn't a boy at the time but i still feel as if it wasn’t important because an older child did it to me and that made me think it was a normal and ok thing. I know it isn't now of course, though i still feel guilty and its messed up my perception of physical and emotional intimacy. I hope everyone else here whos a survivor recovers well, its hard but you'll get there.
Purple reminds me of Valentino from Hazbin Hotel, because he tricked Angel Dust by being nice and also made him use to his touch, and also Lavender also kinda reminds me of something that Val did, because Valentino gifted Angel Dust his pet pig named Fat Nuggets
I genuinely love the fact that you made blue a 'bad person'. It really shows that even if he isn't perfect, he is still 100% a victim
Lilac reminded me of smt I did when I was 7-8 I ended up touching my siblings in weird ways with out knowing it was wrong for like 2-3 months and when I realized it was wrong and stopped the behavior i felt horrible I’m not sure if they remember but I hope they don’t because I don’t want to ruin our relationship.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE READ IF U CAN HELP 🙏🏼
as a victim of cocsa (or something of the sorts, i dunno how to label it??) im now hypersexual and its been very self destructive. im nervous i could end up like pink if i dont seek help. i care for others and do acknowledge that my assaulter's actions were wrong, but im so so scared the desire could get out of hand. i am a very impulsive person and i tend to act out of line if im angered enough (this is associated with some form of anger issues) and that itself was concerning enough. now, after hearing about pink, im just paranoid. if anyone can help me out, please reply and remember your thoughts/emotions are valid
I think there are some anxiety medications that could help with your impulsiveness, and reaching out to a therapist about this can also be beneficial.
If you have a new partner, explaining that you’re hyper and impulsive and that they need to tell you bluntly to stop if you go too far should help a bit aswell.
I would recommend trying to worry less about it, as long as you make sure you can identify the signs of abuse and make sure you don’t do them should be good enough to prevent anything, though having a source you can check with to make sure you’re doing okay and not becoming abusive (like a therapist) should be extra help.
Best of luck out there
I have been stalked around about four times through out my life but still remember the time I was attending TAFE..it’s something like college but I remember studying about media and editing. As within that time of studying I met someone who acted like red, and it was difficult because I couldn’t go anywhere with out the person go and look for me. I would actually hide in the bathroom and i did make my teachers aware of what’s happening but they didn’t do anything so I dealt with it, and when they begin bringing up sexual things towards me and I had to put my foot down and brought it up again for help and they finally dealt with it. By explaining what they were doing was wrong while getting help as I found out they had some disability that made things hard for them to know what they were doing was wrong.
Thank you for saying outright red does not have bpd. As someone with bpd, I appreciate you.
THANK THE LORD 4 U. Goodness In the past when this video came out I had watched this and realized the type of abuse going on with my cousins and classmates was COSCA I studied more on it and now I feel more in control of my situations. All your videos make me so happy.
I love how well explained Reds part is (coming from a victim of S/A myself), having to deal with a "Red" type of S/A was so mentally draining for me and nerve wrecking. When i finally got the chance to stand up for myself against my abuser, he would repeat the same words again and not listen well to what im trying to say. The entire time i never realized he only needed me when he was horny.
06:46 I love that you mentioned this because this topic is never getting enough attention,as an example my female relaitives/elders touches or directly grab my boobs or my butt to check if they've grown since i'm in my puberty years and its just makes me so uncomfortable even my mom does this sometimes and when i say i dont like this type of touch coming from them they always say that its how they express their love
I was looking for this comment. My grandma always touches me, is obsessed with my body (everyday I visit her and she always weights me, checks how much my chest is measuring and has to comment about my lips) and talk about how boys would love different things about me (no comment at all) and I just don't understand why relative sexualizing you is such an accepted thing. I'm sorry for what they're doing / sayjng to you. I hope one day they'll understand how weird and wrong they're acting. It's so normalized it's disgusting. It's so normalized with female relatives too. I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. What the hell are they checking anyways? How do they not see they're being creeps no matter if they didn't mean it?
I want to thank you for making these videos. I’ve already made a comment on one of these thanking you, but when you explained more about lavender and how wrong it is, it helped me be able to see what exactly I have gone through. These videos have helped me and I hope they can help inform others.
Im not too sure if youll read this or anyone else will, but this series has helpped me so much. It helped me realize my best friend at the time actually assaulted me, and i wasnt delusional like they made it out i was. They turned my friends against me, calling me a narcissist. They did it as well while being in a relationship with someone. Similar to pink. She used my weaknesses against me. Thank you so much victaton. Like seriously. I relate to blue alot.
When talking about Lavender it made me remember a time when my two cousins (they both played together a lot) told each of their moms they were marrying each other. Both my cousins were girls and most my family is h0m0ph0bic so my aunt sat them down and said girls can’t marry girls, but said absolutely nothing about how cousins shouldn’t feel that way about each other. So I agree, please educate kids around you about how bad 1nc3st is, and just $A in general
Thank you for talking about Lavender, as someone who used to be naive in what was right or not and would let my brother touch me and encourage him to who's always felt guilty about it then I really needed to hear that part where you said to let the child know because no one ever told me it was bad (and my mom even defended my brother saying he wanted to marry me because we were both young so it was harmless)
Im going through the same case as blue with her sister, but instead with my older brother, its being a hard situation for me as a victim, my mom already knows what he did/said to me and he only plays the victim, just like in 4:24 he just excuses himself and only thinking on him because he knows he fucked up (just like lavender), and it gives the victim (me and blue) a feel of impotence and feeling that we may have over-reacted over a small thing, this series you've made had have helped me a lot on feeling that is not my fault, but that bitterness an abuser's leaves never lefts you, sadly.
Thanks for the info. I was sort of confused from all of this. Thanks for doing all of this ❤
This made me realize I was SA'd so many times but not realizing it.
Thank you so much for making a video explaining the characters cause I have been trying to figure it out by my self...it has not been going well. Now that I know what the character's symbolize I can better enjoy your amazing videos and Blue's story.
With how you explained the characters in this video gives me more of an understanding of a past experience of mine. I think, with these explanations, I was accidentally an abuser to my ex gf and even tho I know I did terrible stuff to her I didn't know that it was a case like this. Sadly me and my ex didn't properly communicate with each other about this and I think she thought I wanted a type of very sexual relationship. To which after awhile I started to not like the stuff we did constantly because I encourage it and never asked my ex and me to communicate about it until it was too late when she broke up with me. I won't go into detail as that part of my life is mine and my ex's business and in a past I don't want to re-live. I really do want to be better as a person and I just really do hope that my ex finds someone who treats her how she should be treated and that I can build myself well enough to not continue the disgusting behaviours that I've done before
(Please do not shame me or my ex for this situation. There was fault on both of our parts in our relationship and I kind of wanted to share my story of how I was an abuser and how I'm willing to try not to go down that bad rabbit hole and change for the better)
I like how you are giving advice to people while talking about the different s/a characters and how it can be seen irl
As a person who did experience S/A on multiple occasions i can totally agree on everything and i actually feel like its better representation for the cause and i love it sm 💕😭
You taught me a lot in this video, explains why my grandpa randomly spoils me and my little brothers (I knew he was a groomer, but since i don’t know much Spanish, I didn’t know how to tell my parents about it). Thank you so much.
As much as i rewatched your videos, i did not catch up on the fact that at first Pink and Blue were consensual with each other so thank you for actually telling us instead of leaving it out!
The Lavender part was so accurate, I once was in a incestous relationship with my cousin when I was 6 and didn’t realize it was wrong. he always tried to touch my private parts and pretend that he is my bf also tried to kissed me. I hadn’t realize it was wrong and when I was watching vids he forced me to “play” his sexual game and when I told him no many times he didn’t listen. Luckily my grandma found out and punished him. The Pink part was also good, my mother was always verbally abused by my grandmother which caused her to be abusive towards me (hitting me, yelling/screaming at me, guilt tripping me, and blaming me for some fcked up situation I experienced like when my principal banned me for wearing a skirt or a guy bullying me or my friends being ableist towards me.), she was really homophobic and didn’t accept the fact that I was a trans guy. She always agree with my grandma every time that old women nags and scolds me. Also would defend actions like my grandmother hitting me, yelling at me, insulting me, and being ignorant. I fear the act of me becoming like my mom or grandmother also treating my kids horribly(if I ever had kids..).