Addiction and Self-Help

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  • Talking about some things I struggle with and what I need to do about them.

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  • @Mongster83
    @Mongster83 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Lol I did absolutely nothing productive yesterday or today besides cook. I skipped all my classes today even and didn’t utilize that time at all, I definitely go through these highs and lows you’re talking about, but I’m glad you’re talking about it brother

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You seem to be a lot busier than I am so some downtime is probably good lol. Thanks though I'm hoping making more videos like this will help me get more comfortable with doing commentary.

  • @BoxBlair
    @BoxBlair 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    So well spoken, I think most if not all of us can relate to some extent or at least take something away from a video like this. I do think it's important to talk about these things, and share our experiences as a means to learn from each other and lift the people around you up, because those same people can help lift you up too.

  • @yanivhaim8091
    @yanivhaim8091 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    i want to add that support from family and freinds can make a big differance and if found in a toxic negative unsupportive field, its only a matter of time before you will fall back into that certain addiction in my case its emotional eating

  • @enpeacemusic192
    @enpeacemusic192 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    A lot of those self-help gurus give the advice: “make a plan for the week you can stick to and you’ll feel like you have way more control” and like, sure, but I know that I’ll get completely overwhelmed when that pattern is broken if I write it down and have the mindset of sticking to it. Add to that my lack of control also comes from my identity changing every other day (which is either me going insane or a form of DID lol)
    And on the “eat healthier and better” advice:
    I have ARFID, which is an eating disorder causing me to be able to eat very little different types of food. So i am happy that I’m even able to enough stuff that I’m not starving and getting enough. This advice is built for people going through a small depression and who want to be better. I don’t have a drive to be better. I don’t fucking deserve to feel any other way than this.
    Sorry for ranting, and thank you so much for this video :)

    • @chloverSP
      @chloverSP 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      its either ill get overwhelmed by the list or i dont make the list. it not i dont want to or anything, i just dont and i cant tell you why. same with homework, studying, so much, i really wanna, i know i should, and itd bennifit me in every way, but i just dont

    • @enpeacemusic192
      @enpeacemusic192 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chloverSP right?? And it feels terrible because I feel like I should be able to just do it, but it’s like a sort of mental barrier

  • @hjartasilfr8734
    @hjartasilfr8734 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Watching Beta Minecraft footage with relatable life commentary cleanses my soul.

  • @Doctor_Sex_Ass
    @Doctor_Sex_Ass 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I keep rewatching this video everyday multiple times a day and it’s making me think about my life. I’ve been feeling so disconnected from being a person for such a long time that I don’t remember the last time I was real. I feel like a character. I either feel super empty or extreme emotions. I cant remember who I was/am. My memories feel fake and most of them are just gone. No one has ever been able to understand this ever and it’s just so much to deal with and it’s exhausting. I want to be real but I don’t know what the real me is anymore idk.

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Have you ever looked into Depersonalization-derealization disorder? I'm not sure if that's what you're describing but it's something I struggled with a lot as a teenager and it sounds similar. I wish you luck Doctor Sex ass and I dig your Zappa cover photo.

  • @jack-ey3ce
    @jack-ey3ce 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is the first video of yours I've been recommended, and I love this content. I generally agree with your point of view, but I do think that people have stigmatized medication so much that some people who genuinely need it will never get it just because they've seen people say things about it that are simply untrue. For example, ADHD medication like adderall. Even now, I have had people tell me to my face that ADHD is not real and I am addicted to my meds, which is just silly. My opinion, and the opinion of most people with ADHD/doctors who prescribe ADHD medication is that most people with ADHD will benefit from being on longterm medication. I don't know if you agree or not, I'm just saying stuff. Great video!

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I definitely agree. I'm not sure if that came across clearly in the video due to the rambling nature of it but that's what I was trying to get across. Thank you for the kind words! I plan to make more.

    • @jack-ey3ce
      @jack-ey3ce 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JPepperL excited for the next video!

  • @beeupsidedown
    @beeupsidedown 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    5:09 I feel that way. Just the other night, I was laying in bed because I felt super sad. And I so badly wanted to hold onto that feeling because I don't ever give myself the time to sit and wallow in my own sadness. I want to just feel sad, melancholy, and whatever else. I want to feel. IT'S SO HARD SOMETIMES LMAO.

    • @beeupsidedown
      @beeupsidedown 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      yeah and discipline is super hard to achieve. finding that mindset can be super difficult.

    • @msb7289
      @msb7289 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Feeling is so hard like sometimes everything just feels empty and there's nothing and sometimes you're just sad. I feel you bro

  • @alexcasinger6481
    @alexcasinger6481 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    my advice for quitting nicotine would be to ween yourself off of it and substitute it for something not as strong when you get the craving, like zyn nicotine pouches, i havent vaped/smoked in 8 months because of them, I hope they help you in the way they helped me, keep up the good work man, im proud of you

  • @monkeychife
    @monkeychife 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bout a year and a half ago I was in music school, drinking no less than a quarter of a bottle of vodka every night, dabbing a gram every 2 days, and vaping all day. I didn’t leave my apartment unless I had to and I was just trying to feel numb. My gf at the time called my parents and got me into therapy after a pretty severe incident. Therapy and depression medication changed my life. I’m not gonna say I don’t drink or smoke but I do significantly less than I used to. My motivation improved to the point where I actually released a song instead of sitting on it and thinking I suck. For the first time in 2 years I have motivation to finish mixing my album I started recording during the pandemic.
    I will say the one caution about therapy is you get what you put in. As much as I wish I didn’t wait until 26 to deal with my depression I needed to get to the place where I could say “I don’t care what it takes I don’t want to live like this anymore”. Therapists aren’t miracle workers. You gotta do the work.

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely right about that last part. You have to be honest with the therapist and yourself and put in the effort. I finally released an EP within the the last few months and have been doing more youtube stuff as well. Good luck finishing up the mixing man! I wouldn't mind hearing it if you wanted to share when it's done as well.

  • @pumba6559
    @pumba6559 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Recently I have started on sertaline because I had really bad time with my exams and I've felt the best since a very long time. As a person on medication and a psychology student I can say that right therapy and right medication works but there are so many personal, biological and interpersonal complications that maintaing a therapy or trying to find what works for you is tiresome but it is worth it.

  • @senfmeisterlp4773
    @senfmeisterlp4773 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Interesting video. Could relate to much you talked about. I would watch more of these if you keep making them. Definetly agree with the part about people giving advice without really knowing what a person is dealing with. What artists are you listening to?

  • @CWig_99
    @CWig_99 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Man this was something to hear after getting out of bed at 2 PM, behind in 2/5 of my classes... Something about these sorts of conversations with old MC in the background is very enjoyable and thought provoking, loving it man.

  • @salems_graveyard
    @salems_graveyard 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm so happy this came up on my recommended, you've put into words what I can not, going from on top of the world to being crushed by the weight of the world is so relatable, hope youre doing okay though man.

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm happy this came up on your recommended too lol. I am doing okay though thank you! I hope you are too

  • @Couldntve
    @Couldntve 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im 100% here for the new direction for this channel

  • @marksomething
    @marksomething 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Self-help gurus helped me a lot when I didn't really know much other than star wars and Minecraft.Hamza,Noel Deyzel and better ideas gave me (a lots of other men) good guidance that I dont think therapy could provide.A big portion of men don't really solve their problems by only talking about them.

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don't know any of those guys so I can't speak on them but I very much disagree with the last part of your statement. Men don't talk about their problems enough and the types of men who aren't talking about their problems (in a constructive way of course) are not dealing with their problems 99 percent of the time. There are probably exceptions to this but they would be very few and far between and I'd wager the vast majority of those guys who are encouraging people to not talk about their problems probably need therapy.

    • @marksomething
      @marksomething 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JPepperL sorry I made an error with my comment,I meant that only talking won't help you that much,a healthy diet,exercise, journalling and meditation are also things you should do to help yourself

  • @CaptnCat1
    @CaptnCat1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Music can be and is for me the best medicine! Pepper mane more of these vids!!

  • @Gloomski
    @Gloomski 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    my issue with medication mainly deals with the ones that alter your overall personality, whether intentional or not. when i was a kid, i was prescribed Adderall and it obviously helped me in school, but it killed my appetite, and i've always been a skinny kid, so i was like deathly skinny. people made fun of me and it probably started my anxiety and depression early on just from all the shit people would do or say. i don't think its the medications fault entirely, sometimes kids can just be shitty, but it definitely made me take a step back and realize some of the things that medicine can do even if its not a side effect. the way you act on certain medications can change people's perception of you, and how they interact with you. and for me personally, that's not something i'm ever willing to deal with again. if i can't be myself its not worth it to me, but that's not to say it wont help other people in the exact ways they need it to. i just think everyone should put value on everything that could be changed with it and see if its something they're willing to sacrifice. all in all i agree with 99% of this video and its cool to see people speaking out about it and will support shit like this any time i see it! great idea for a series.

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I definitely understand the qualms with medication. I'm very afraid of trying new medications and the process of finding one that works can be really awful. Of course, it's not for everybody and some people do better without it. I also relate on the weight loss side of things. I was a really underweight kid and, until the past few years, I was still underweight and it was a big issue for me. My psychiatrist at the time actually specifically prescribed a medication that had increased appetite as a side effect because of it. I do think that the goal of medication is to find one where you're still "yourself" but it just lessens the negative stuff you may be feeling (Anxiety, depression, etc) but understand the fear of losing the things you find positive about yourself as well. Thanks for your input though and thanks for watching!

    • @themasterofanalyticsandwie1342
      @themasterofanalyticsandwie1342 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@JPepperLWell. What many don't know, if people wouldn't eat so bad, don't see the sun, or eat good that ruins the guts ability to absorb nutrients. Most people have problems exactly because of that as the body just can't handle tasks that make one happy and satisfied, especially not habdeling stress. For me I managed everything just looking into that and live like a normal person, I even managed to reduce my disability symptoms. Took so many medications and they didn't do anything good in the long term. Actually this feeling of being empty are 3 main things (alongside others) High cortisol, low oxytocin and insensitive Dopamine receptors. Luckily I actually tested that out myself and yes you will feel detached and not real. Hard to compress everything into a comment but if you want we could talk sometime, as I really poured heart and soul into it, as I saw that so many people now struggle with problems that where rare when I had them back then.

  • @user-mh1vk9ox6t
    @user-mh1vk9ox6t 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Man you're doing way more things compaired to me (wrighting/singing/making content) ... my live has been fkn empty , like reeealy empty for 4 years , imagine that .
    4 years not doing sh*t with my life . I graduated in 2019 from that time till late 23 i was doing nothing beside stuffing my face with food and gaining weight , and yeah about sleeping schedule i have never slept the right fricking amount of sleep time like take example today i got to bed at 01:00 you know what time it is now ? Its 05:55 . Yeah My sleeping schedule is pretty fkd ip than yours for sure i always sleep just 4 hours 5 at max which is bad for health you know , and about health .. ill get enough just by saying that my health is not good . I dont exercise enough at all the last time i go out and ran seriously is like 2 maybe 2/5 years . I just go more lazy and lazy so yeah . And if you wonder im not fat lol i weight 68 kg which is also not good because i get no sleep . Anyway i just want to say life is fkn hard at times , no one is perfect , just keep fighing & fixing things in your life and you're gonna be good eventually .
    Yeah that's it i just want to show you that my life is more messy & fkd compares to yours lmao . Hope You Feel Better .
    And about the nicotine addict i have a friend who relies on snus to reduce the amount of nicotine he's taking for maybe like 2 to 3 years now he quit smoking cigarettes for good he can't even sit next to someone smoking fearing he might return to it . But yeah snus are good for quitting . It works for my friend .
    Anyway ... never feel bad bout yourself or about what are you doing or providing as content and such ...

  • @gaminglegend660
    @gaminglegend660 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    yea. I struggled through the first 16 years of my life having no idea what was wrong with me and fucking up everywhere but an autism and adhd diagnosis, adderall, and therapy focused specifically on my disorders fixed everything for me.

  • @janTanjo985
    @janTanjo985 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love this type of video too man. It's great to hear you talk about this stuff, I really think it helps people to open up about it. Thanks ❤

  • @Yorelz
    @Yorelz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It’s all about what works for you as an individual. I’m 22 and I’ve dealt with depression/anxiety and took SSRIs and they just didn’t do it for me. For me religion saved me, but I understand that it’s not a cure all for everyone and I still deal with but helps a lot. For anyone interested leave you with this verse.
    Psalm 55:22: Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved

    • @Yorelz
      @Yorelz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think you’re very well spoken and you’ve earned a sub btw

  • @msb7289
    @msb7289 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    damn. it's like 3.30 am for me, i'm doing a presentation for 9am class. i,ve done nothing productive from 11am yesterday to 2am today. i just can't get my shit together and start doing any real work. i've got my enginnering degree do on 28th and i've barely started doing it and i just sit for 14 hours doing nothing not even playing games just some music and random reading and it's like everyday i'm at uni and it's real bad i know imjust have to do it. i will write this b*tch of a thesis and i'll be gone from uni for good and my only motivation is not wasting 3,5 years i've been studying like nothing else motivates me just not being a total failure and i know i can do it i just always tell myself i'm starting real work tomorrow, then tomorrow comes and it's the same. but i will do it, i think. sorry for the incoherence of this comment it's just complete lack of outward emotion and lying to myself and others speaking thru me

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Na don't apologize. I like the genuine comments the most.

    • @msb7289
      @msb7289 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@JPepperL it's the most genuine comment my inner demons ever written LOL

  • @Jankleheimer
    @Jankleheimer 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As someone who subscribed to all of the major talking points of these gurus. Don't listen to any of it. Listening to these people has made my life worse. You can't apply these "presets" they create to your own life and expect them to work. They'll tell you "it's easy just remove X". All these "gurus" are doing is taking advantage of the desperate so they can get these clicks and views and the sad thing is that they do. They're the modern equivalent of snake oil salesmen from the 1800s and personally I despise them

  • @average.yt.commenter609
    @average.yt.commenter609 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There's a reason why so many people self pity. There's comfort and pleasure in it. Great that you are self aware enough to admit that, takes some balls. About the gurus, have you tried to give Jordan Peterson university lectures on personality a chance? I don't agree with him on a lot of stuff but those classes were really helpful for me atleast.

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah some of his stuff is actually really solid advice. I know people dislike him and I dislike a lot of his opinions as well but he's not always wrong like his detractors say. His basic life advice is pretty standard I think.

    • @average.yt.commenter609
      @average.yt.commenter609 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@JPepperL I didn't know if you never had a good experience with a guru before, but I agree that the vast majority are hurting people. The advice JP gives is standard, but he makes a strong argument for it, like lying. Everyone knows that they shouldn't lie but still do. Reading the chapter about it on 12 rules really convinced me like nothing ever had.

  • @m0dn_
    @m0dn_ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    fast redstone mining

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's really nice lol

  • @fayenotfaye
    @fayenotfaye 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Therapy might not solve your problems but self help gurus almost definitely won’t

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's true

  • @gerhard_adler
    @gerhard_adler 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Pepper :) Can I get a link to your music? Would be cool to hear!

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah let me DM it to ya

  • @thunderkatz4219
    @thunderkatz4219 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What version of Minecraft are you playing

    • @JPepperL
      @JPepperL  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A lightly modded beta 1.7.3

  • @mrbolga9357
    @mrbolga9357 หลายเดือนก่อน

    dude this helped

  • @themasterofanalyticsandwie1342
    @themasterofanalyticsandwie1342 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I must disagree for few reasons
    One is that these "self help gurus" you meant aren't the one who are actually helpful. It's not as simple.
    And true health influencers will in the end help more as most Mental health are mostly and only diet and nutrition, causing a downward spiral on all areas making you less socially likeable, attractive and mentally stable. That wouldn't be in a normal diet, and then you wouldn't need therapy to handle all day life. Nutrition is key
    And remember, our behavior is biochemical behavior or the absence of it