YOU ARE NOT UGLY, THE INTERNET IS LYING TO YOU | Filters, AI & Other Poisonous FAKERY!

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  • Hi lovelies,
    Today I'm continuing to debunk social media lies and sharing my thoughts and experiences of what we see and what we cannot believe...
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  • @gsplady50
    @gsplady50 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +344

    At age 71, I am grey, have wrinkles, and carry extra weight. I also have overcome widowhood, loss of both parents, and near death illness. I carry all of this on my face and body and I like myself. I look at many women who all appear as if they have all gone to the same plastic surgeon and blonding hairdresser. God bless them all. Charlotte, you have made an important video and have spoken truth. Love you.

    • @Tified967
      @Tified967 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      Ha you're right they all look the same! I'm 39 & my biggest idol (admittedly I do look younger but I just have a baby face) was a Russian journalist who started to grey in her 30s & had no work done whatsoever; her intellect & tenacious personality made her by far more attractive than her counterparts.

    • @ritabarcar
      @ritabarcar 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Tified967, who was it, Anna Politkovskaya, or someone else?

    • @LovebyJesus
      @LovebyJesus 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Right, a lot of women look the same.

    • @nataliamirochnitchenko8152
      @nataliamirochnitchenko8152 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Love you, thanks for sharing ❤️

    • @lusciousphilippa
      @lusciousphilippa 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I love your true words, beautiful❤

  • @alison7707
    @alison7707 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +187

    At some point I was wondering why everyone started looking the same. Suddenly all the women had cat eyes, big lips, baby smooth skin, pointy faces and perfect make-up.

    • @fortheloveofrottweilers2428
      @fortheloveofrottweilers2428 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      I thought the same thing too! I was thinking it was plastic surgery, but filters make more sense. I think it kinda makes them look alien like...

  • @ashleylala4293
    @ashleylala4293 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +236

    I don’t even recognize this planet anymore, it’s gone mental.

    • @jentealwaves
      @jentealwaves 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      And every single woman who uses those filters all look the same. Whyyyy????

    • @TelevisionDroolz
      @TelevisionDroolz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Me too :(

    • @merakigemini
      @merakigemini 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      yeah

    • @Yea56909
      @Yea56909 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      People have always used beauty filters and changed their bodies in photos “photoshop” isn’t new started longgg before since the Victorian era and before

    • @LouisaWatt
      @LouisaWatt หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Yea56909it wasn’t widely accessible to the general public until the smartphone. Even photoshop was prohibitively expensive and difficult to learn for the average person. Facetune, on the other hand, is cheap and easy to use.

  • @eimearinez
    @eimearinez 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +393

    I’m so happy to be 46 my own Mother didn’t get past 46 and one day old it’s gift to have life

    • @IceChampakaWolf888
      @IceChampakaWolf888 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Im praying you celebrate your 55th birthday in peace.

    • @tinamenon1593
      @tinamenon1593 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤❤❤

    • @afapple1329
      @afapple1329 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You have a wonderful outlook on life, Dahling. Peace be with you.❤

    • @squarebear619
      @squarebear619 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It's a gift when you have privilege.

    • @eimearinez
      @eimearinez 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@squarebear619 life is the privilege!!

  • @liana2136
    @liana2136 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +197

    The internet has been devastating to people's confidence and mental well-being. There are certainly conveniences but the cost is terribly high. Life was sweeter and richer without this technology.

    • @shandel499
      @shandel499 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Say this to myself every day. Social media wise.

    • @annadidyana518
      @annadidyana518 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yes 😭

    • @george.eliot42
      @george.eliot42 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So true, such an underrated comment.

    • @naeb9486
      @naeb9486 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agree we were appreciated more

  • @Loretta_C
    @Loretta_C 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    "Ugly is represented by peoples insides, not outsides." This is absolutely true and I love that you made this point. I have always said this too.

  • @amyann47
    @amyann47 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +190

    It’s crazy that we (as a society) have all of this technology and all we care about vanity. Absolute shame.

    • @celinag9968
      @celinag9968 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I remember seeing an AI generated video of Zeus as a stripper, and I wondered if that person realized the hundreds of thousands of dollars of water and energy that took to make… Zeus as a stripper…

    • @TracyD2
      @TracyD2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@celinag9968Wait. What?

    • @Ajlatango
      @Ajlatango 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Imagine if all this effort and intelligence was put into fighting climate change or world hunger.. but nah battling the vain signs of aging is our societies priority

    • @alisonmercer5946
      @alisonmercer5946 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@Ajlatangothere are wars going on too what kind of vanity is that,,

  • @The_Catnip
    @The_Catnip 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    This is why I am scared of AI.
    People are using/creating it for the wrong reasons and we just started!

    • @liana2136
      @liana2136 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Yes, it is abused in very harmful and disturbing ways.

  • @marielle7505
    @marielle7505 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +202

    The sad reality is that all those filtered and surgically perfected faces look alike. Especially in pictures, influencers and celebrities start to look alike, they all look the same. How is that beauty? When you're not even sure who you are looking at?

    • @marthaj67
      @marthaj67 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      This is the truth right here ☝🏻 I have no idea who the "Kardashian-Jenner" person is in the second set of photos she showed (I've never watched them), but she looks NOTHING like herself in the "after" image. She does look like everyone else, though. Sad.

    • @tammiemartinez6485
      @tammiemartinez6485 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ​@@marthaj67That's the youngest sister. I think she still would have done all of that to herself had her older two sisters hadn't because a lot of strangers said she wasn't as pretty as her other sisters. Sorta the same train of thought when it came to the last sisters photo. Because she didn't look much like a Kardashian she did what she did to herself to make her look more like them. Why they all got BBL's? That I don't know nor will ever understand. Those BBL's never look natural... smh

    • @debranaumczik6286
      @debranaumczik6286 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They do look alike bc honestly they frequently have the same person's they refer there friends and family too. It's weird to me.

    • @debranaumczik6286
      @debranaumczik6286 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I have no idea what BBL stands for 😅...I don't watch the Kardashians... Occasionally hear about them that is all. I wish no one harm either .

    • @TheSharna23
      @TheSharna23 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      That’s my issue! Celebrities literally all look exactly alike.

  • @bevyoung2009
    @bevyoung2009 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +141

    I do monitor what I watch on all platforms. My Grandmother told me when I was little, what you take in, takes you.

    • @Marina-vd
      @Marina-vd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Wow your grandma is genius

    • @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020
      @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Great advice!!!❤

    • @suzyq5522
      @suzyq5522 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Very wise saying from your grandmother ❤

  • @thedallydiaries
    @thedallydiaries 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    As a makeup artist and content creator myself, who is 42 and has never had any fillers/botox etc. I definitely notice how much wrinklier my face is compared to so many others in this space. I've paused a couple of times and asked myself, 'is it ok that I have my natural face?' which is ridiculous. Of course it bloody is! You're absolutely right Charlotte about not even knowing what 40 years olds look like anymore which is so scary. As someone who's brother died when I was young, I try and just be grateful that I'm here ageing and living my life. Thankyou for all the awesome videos you do and for telling it straight! xx

  • @twoleftfeet9626
    @twoleftfeet9626 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +262

    You are one of the few who doesn't use a 'beauty filter' on videos. So many makeup influencers do

    • @exomake_mehorololo
      @exomake_mehorololo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      Which makes a lot of reviews completely useless as you don't actually see the real effect of the product...

    • @twoleftfeet9626
      @twoleftfeet9626 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @@exomake_mehorololo exactly right

    • @estherkasozi4202
      @estherkasozi4202 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      And they think we can't see it I see it all the time lol

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Or a blinding ring light, it seems. It looks like she only uses a soft box. Some people blind themselves with a ring light to the point where their nose isn’t visible. 😅

    • @twoleftfeet9626
      @twoleftfeet9626 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @dewilew2137 oh god yes, and all eyeshadows are more sparkly than the surface of the sun

  • @electron-Volt
    @electron-Volt 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +64

    I'm so glad I got to grow up in a time before social media and Kardashians. I feel bad for the younger generations.

    • @cardsfan5100
      @cardsfan5100 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      At a school event this weekend, a dad was telling me that many parents allow screens to watch their kids. He was saying this was a large reason many kids enter kindergarten without knowing their numbers or letters. If that wasn’t horrible enough, these kids get hooked on screens, too.

  • @Mara.La888
    @Mara.La888 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    It scares me how many people believe everything they see online

    • @rhythmandblues_alibi
      @rhythmandblues_alibi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ikr. Now far we have come from "don't believe everything you see on the internet." How did that message get lost?

  • @jbbb7418
    @jbbb7418 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Women need to come together and break this horrific trend….

  • @PaleOpal21
    @PaleOpal21 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +152

    I remember an article comparing Jennifer Lopez and Rue McClanahan (Golden Girls) at the age of fifty and how old Rue looked. Absolutely ridiculous. Back in the 80's women were more comfortable looking their age and didn't have all the products/procedures that we do now and ripping apart people from decades ago shows how as a society we have become delusional about aging.

    • @debranaumczik6286
      @debranaumczik6286 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      😮😢 how sad is that ..., I enjoyed how funny Golden Girls was ...My brain didn't even go there Gosh what were people thinking

    • @tallisinwonderland4724
      @tallisinwonderland4724 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      I saw that, totally unfair. Anyway, Rue was Blance Devereux, JLo can’t say that 😂😂 I watch The Golden girls Every day, cheers me up ❤❤

    • @akask6458
      @akask6458 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Just looked at pictures. Rue McClanahan actually looks better than Jennifer Lopez who looks plastic and hardness to her face (maybe her character?). I mean Rue has an old fashioned haircut and look but her facial bone structure is solid.

    • @ashleylala4293
      @ashleylala4293 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      @tallisinwonderland4724 It’s my favorite show too! The writing and acting was pure genius compared to the crap shows now. It’s so comforting and reminds me of better times. And I think the girls all looked fabulous!

    • @ennuiblue4295
      @ennuiblue4295 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      ​@@ashleylala4293 they said producers thought a show about 'old' women wouldn't fly at first. Juat goes to show, it has universal appeal now because fun, vibrant, smart personalities never go out of fashion ☺️

  • @TaraK172
    @TaraK172 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    It really irritates me that once again women are the ones who are expected to not age. I’m over it! Thank you for this video 😊

    • @Kwildcat13
      @Kwildcat13 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yep ..

  • @catalinaaddams8581
    @catalinaaddams8581 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    This is why I don’t even play with filters… my self esteem is low enough as it is 😂 I don’t need to make things worse with filters

    • @salamatuharuna833
      @salamatuharuna833 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I refuse using them, they are very addictive

  • @cassandra2685
    @cassandra2685 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Imagine how they feel, those who use extreme filters when they look at themselves when they remove the filter.
    99.999999 of the internet is fake

  • @sarahroot3650
    @sarahroot3650 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I'm a waitress and one of my tables the other night had brought a ring light to dinner...

    • @lorangeamere2435
      @lorangeamere2435 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🤢🤢🤢🤢

    • @GreatMindsSeekTruth
      @GreatMindsSeekTruth 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I would have rolled me eyes at 80MPH had I seen that!
      How big headed must one be?!?!

  • @nalinthalala6204
    @nalinthalala6204 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    I started modelling in the UK at the age of 17, I am 49 now, back then we shot on film, we all worked hard to get the best images for the client, no photoshop, no filters, just good old fashioned work. Am so glad I came from that era. Am enjoying the blessing of life, beauty truly is from within. Looks will fade. Peace and living a life that full and experiencing love is what matters. ❤

    • @lesliehatch-herman9325
      @lesliehatch-herman9325 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    • @yvettephillips8797
      @yvettephillips8797 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I did too back in the day, hard work but so happy to have been part of that era. Important to appreciate and enjoy life and be at peace with oneself. We are all beautiful. Xx❤

    • @ShanRees
      @ShanRees 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I also modeled years ago. TBF we did have makeup and lighting, but film was real work . That Hasselbad didn't lie. I don't remember anyone using filters and retouching was unusual and not as easy as it is now. I tried awhile ago to start again, but it was just icky, everything said in this video is correct. Recently I've used makeup and lighting filters for fun and usually say so (I need to go through them now and make sure). Chemo kind of made my skin really bad, so I went through a period when I did. I never used the "blurred to extinction" filters and never on video

    • @nalinthalala6204
      @nalinthalala6204 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@ShanRees yes I agree! Make up , lighting etc all of it came together! Wish you well in health. 🤍

    • @cardsfan5100
      @cardsfan5100 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      No, I can’t agree. It does matter what you look like. If you’re going to suggest that it shouldn’t, then that’s a different question. The reality is that people get jobs based on how they look. It’s not just models. And people will date you on your looks. Most men never have kids while most women do, and a large reason for this is the way those guys look. I’m middle aged now, and 15 and 16 years old to 50 still flirt with me and treat me much different than they treat most men. And it’s all because of the way I look. Looks matter a lot in this world. If they should matter is a different question.

  • @laurieann2714
    @laurieann2714 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    How pathetically sad that people are shocked when they see THEMSELVES without a filter! A sad statement for individuality

  • @sarpel28
    @sarpel28 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Some of the unflattering lights are also in dressing rooms 😂 almost avoid that completely

  • @lisahammond1208
    @lisahammond1208 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    As an older women (late 50's) who never lost the baby weight, I commend you for making this video! I find myself completely swiping delete just over and over because nothing appears real anymore! That whole Kardashian look needs to just go away.

  • @stargazerbird
    @stargazerbird 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Health gurus use them as well, to make it look like their coaching services and supplements are worth it.

  • @infamousamazonian
    @infamousamazonian 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    Your lack of superficiality in a space and subject matter that is incredibly superficial, is deeply appreciated and so important. Ugliness of person truly does not exist, but ugliness of perception of ourselves and others is where the true issue lies.❤

  • @seahorseluv4134
    @seahorseluv4134 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    First let me say how much I enjoy your content and amazing sense of humor!
    I am 42 years old and have seriously considered Botox for my deep set forehead wrinkles. However in the end I decided against it because I have two teenage daughters and I didn’t want them to think that aging was something to be ashamed of.

    • @Tified967
      @Tified967 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I'm now 39 & thinking the same thing. I have a 5 year old son & 8 year old niece. I really do feel the pull of the industry but my children & their mental well-being come first 😊

    • @ninatouchdown2500
      @ninatouchdown2500 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you.

  • @mamabear7648
    @mamabear7648 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    If a Person is too Perfect, I DO NOT FOLLOW THEM. period.
    My peace of mind is more important than her real/fake perfect face, body and lifestyle.

  • @alinadunn8360
    @alinadunn8360 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    The combination of that eyeshadow with that sweater, you’re absolutely stunning! ❤

    • @LisaMarlene.
      @LisaMarlene. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes yes yes ❤

    • @os6078
      @os6078 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sooo pretty!! ❤

    • @Elle-Elle-C
      @Elle-Elle-C 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      100% agree - and what is that mascara!

  • @Alberto-wu1mj
    @Alberto-wu1mj 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    This is why I haven’t had a social media account for 14 years.

    • @numbingzone3559
      @numbingzone3559 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Never had one.
      As soon as I saw the thumbs up thumbs down symbols I knew social media would have a high level of toxicity, for my mental and emotional well being I stay away from it.

    • @Alberto-wu1mj
      @Alberto-wu1mj 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@numbingzone3559 that is why I left social media too. I found it stressful, and I didn’t like how people over shared.

    • @Kwildcat13
      @Kwildcat13 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You tube is social media too though

    • @rhythmandblues_alibi
      @rhythmandblues_alibi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You're commenting on YT, you *do* have social media, friend.

    • @Ocyla
      @Ocyla 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@numbingzone3559 Same, when I saw some people get lots of upvotes and comments over stupid status posts like "omg I can't take it any more!" with no further detail and how bad a person might feel if they post something and get 2 upvotes and others get hundreds, I just bounced. It's ridiculous.

  • @JustMe-zx6ub
    @JustMe-zx6ub 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    As someone who is 42 I have decided to dump social media and allow myself to age, I love my greys ( due free for 3 months). People see me as unkept and can’t be bothered to look after herself person. It took me ages to learn to respect my body and the changes age is causing 🥰

  • @user-zf3rf7pw2s
    @user-zf3rf7pw2s 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Observation: the more natural and "not perfect" and honest a beauty blogger is, the more fun they are to watch. I don't get the same vibe from the most popular ethereal-skin bloggers which also happen to be more boring. Thank you, beautiful woman

  • @Iwona886
    @Iwona886 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    The most sad thing is that I see my teenage cousins with perfect skin still using filters all the time in their photos...

  • @bevyoung2009
    @bevyoung2009 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I agree with you that no one person is ugly. Their hearts are dirty.

    • @DomesticAbuseSurvivor55
      @DomesticAbuseSurvivor55 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      For real. Thinking back, that’s the main reason why I have and still do consider my ex mother-in-law to be UGLY!🙌
      The ugliest woman I’ve ever met in my life!!

  • @pamelarobertson3916
    @pamelarobertson3916 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    I have never ever commented on a video in my life, I’ve always just watched and liked. But I HAD to comment on this to say thank you Charlotte, thank you for making this and reminding us that we are enough - just as we are. What a lovely human you are. ❤

  • @ArtemisB.
    @ArtemisB. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I’ve to be honest - in pictures these people look good, but when you see them in real life they look so gimmicky and it’s very obvious when people have had a lot of things done.

  • @cs4849
    @cs4849 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thanks for this. It distresses me how social media is altering how we perceive aging. Getting older is a gift that not everyone is lucky enough to get. When I got my hair back after chemo, I decided I would never color it again and embrace the gray. I’m thrilled that I might actually get the opportunity to grow old. Now I focus on being grateful for every day I’m given.

  • @colleencc7
    @colleencc7 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    You are so right…. I am 57 and really do look well for my age (just comparing myself to others around me I know personally) but last week in Sephora I truly did see kids who were the age of my possible grandkids (if I had any) running around and later had a discussion with my hairdresser (in her 30’s) about how social media is influencing these kids to feel like they aren’t “good enough” as they are and/or need to use stuff to prevent aging lol. Can’t wait to see where this is going to end, unfortunately. And now the poor Catherine, Duchess of Windsor has been forced to come out and discuss her private medical challenges to the world because everyone was speculating ridiculous things like maybe she’d had plastic surgery because of her age. It’s all so sad.

  • @tomboyraider1015
    @tomboyraider1015 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    18:19 "Its such a privilege to be aging at all" So true!
    We live in a time where natural aging is shamed to the core and people just want to stay looking young and youthful forever. Societal bullying has lead people to be SO ashamed of their age that they have to hide it. But thats not real life. In reality people age and grow older. Thats the real natural thing. Embrace it.

  • @pamjones6909
    @pamjones6909 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    So glad you posted this. I work in education and am regularly horrified by how people feel about themselves comparing to doctored images. Throw in AI and it’s hard to tell what’s real anymore
    Your personality is what makes you beautiful. Thank you for reminding us all of that ❤

  • @clairmorris8104
    @clairmorris8104 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Thanks for this’s. I am clueless about filters etc. I do feel really sad for kids growing up now having to be perfect.

  • @nalinthalala6204
    @nalinthalala6204 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    We are uniquely and wonderfully made. How can we turn our own backs of who we are and be so judgemental and unkind to one another. I worry for the younger generation.

  • @tdsollog
    @tdsollog 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I’ve stopped lots of accounts that fit your description. I’m 52, and I need more joy.

  • @cammierountree5172
    @cammierountree5172 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I agree 100%! AI is very scary.

  • @janicedevereux2839
    @janicedevereux2839 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Due to the fakeness of social media is why Sephora is now filled with 12-year-olds begging their mothers for Charlotte Tilbury, and Dior foundations.
    And the worst part their mothers are doing it .
    If you go on Sephora, I was looking at a drunk elephant skincare item, and in the Q&A questions are from preteen girls asking.
    Girls stating their 12 or 13 asking questions about the skin care😮
    It’s ridiculous. They’re also in stores on the weekend destroying the displays and the testers. …
    It’s really sad, because putting on Charlotte Tilbury‘s pillow talk is not gonna make them look like Kylie Jenner, or Taylor Swift 🤷‍♀️

    • @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020
      @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I feel so bad for these young teens. This is toxic for them. The pressure they must feel has got to be astronomical. It’s hard enough being that age, and then, to have this kinda media bombarding you 24/7….just sad.😢

  • @gingerkitty1425
    @gingerkitty1425 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The Kardashians don't just have surgery, they also control all their pap photos so they get airbrushed too.

  • @RR-mv1vr
    @RR-mv1vr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    If I feel worse about myself after viewing someone’s page it’s a straight mute or unfollow absolutely no exceptions and now I’m left with only an uplifting feed ❤

  • @mariannab.5884
    @mariannab.5884 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Fantastic video Charlotte!!!! Brutally honest and so needed! I'm 61, so I've reached the point in my life where I really don't give a 💩what ANYONE thinks of me or my appearance. But I have the strength of a life well lived behind me with a great career, amazing adult children, long-term beautiful friendships, love and fun! Young women don't yet have that, so they are sucked into image and the fakery you discuss perfectly. So sad. And so happy you mentioned the Kardashians!!! Seemingly, they started it all 🤬Social media can be amazing, but increasingly it is just dangerous and awful.

    • @zozel77
      @zozel77 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You spoke my mind 👍❤️

  • @pamcroasmun3519
    @pamcroasmun3519 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    The eyeshadow you’re wearing today really makes your eyes stand out. Beautiful.

  • @safebeauty9162
    @safebeauty9162 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Yes, I can agree having worked in the beauty industry for 14 years that only since social media almost everybody in the buisness has heavily filtered and distorted pictures of themselves… So much so, that I would see the pictures and ask who’s that? Only to find out it was somebody I actually personally knew and looked completely different online.

  • @bloojelli
    @bloojelli 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I stopped using filters on my videos and pictures years ago and my confidence skyrocketed. Now, when I take photos, I simply pick the ones with the best angles and lighting, and post them as is. No filters, no retouching, no reshaping... nothing. Just me captured in time.

  • @elizabethbc8293
    @elizabethbc8293 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I have to say, I have never felt pressure or judgement from a single man in my life when it comes to aging and my looks. It has ALL come from women in my life and in the spotlight. We need to stop being so insecure in ourselves and comparing ourselves to others. It’s hard aging it really is, but why do we care so much what other people think? That is rhetorically, btw

  • @leahmiranda8359
    @leahmiranda8359 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Hi Charlotte.
    Thank you for updating this video. ❤
    All the photos I see make me feel old and ugly! I’m nearly 75 so I AM old. 😂😂 But I don’t enjoy feeling like I’m ugly as well.
    All these people are going age, but the world will never know what they really look like!
    How unsettling must it be to see all of the glowing photos of yourself….and then see the reality in the mirror!😮

    • @patriciam.1204
      @patriciam.1204 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I am your age it’s hard sometimes but i refuse to be down on myself, I have a scraggy neck but I am old lol. I can put some nice make up on and feel good.

  • @Boyhead1973
    @Boyhead1973 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I stopped coloring my hair a few years ago and my gray is coming in nicely... I have a gray streak in the front and some grays sprinkled in here and there. I stopped giving a flying flick what anyone says about my gray. I enjoy aging... at 50 years old I am so blessed and I appreciate each day/week/month/year that I'm able to exist and get better each day. Love your video... new subbie.

  • @ellaeadig263
    @ellaeadig263 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I feel like there's a real fear among Gen Z women about getting old, more than I remember any other generations doing. I feel like that needs a deep dive.

    • @InnerPower4me
      @InnerPower4me 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      l think because they grew up on social media and every is obsessed with aesthetics.

  • @monid.1687
    @monid.1687 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    It is so important to speak about these things. I'm over 50 now and I'm not saying it is easy getting older. I wish my skin was firmer and I had no wrinkles under my eyes etc. But do I need a surgery or would I change something in my face? Absolutely NO. I wouldn't be myself and I definitely don't want to look like everybody else - like a uniform for the face. I'm unique! When you look into a mirror and you're struggling with yourself, smile! That changes everything 🎉

  • @MyWalk3296
    @MyWalk3296 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Agree, true beauty is from within. No matter what one does to try to enhance oneself in appearance if your ugly on the inside your ugly on the outside. Can't hide that

  • @beriscarbone9890
    @beriscarbone9890 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    A very accurate subject Charlotte, I'm so lucky and free being in my sixties, because I just don't care, I take care of myself and I'm happy, I don't need any ones approval anymore 😁

  • @raniressler
    @raniressler 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    After I got my braces off, I had a complimentary professional picture taken. I was amazed because this guy used a light that he called a ring light. It was the coolest and newest thing I had ever heard of or seen. It made my picture look fantastic and my eyes just popped! That was about ten years ago and now everyone has access to ring lights. Seriously?! Now everyone can do the same things as a professional photographer. Crazy!

  • @elizabethbc8293
    @elizabethbc8293 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Charlotte, I just wanted to commend you for using your voice and platform to speak out about this so important topic. Thank you. Personally, I have never been so glad to have grown up in the 70s and 80s.

  • @deeherring7368
    @deeherring7368 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    This is a wonderful post, especially for people who have not yet learned to be comfortable in their own skin. It took me decades to get to that point. I think these days it's so important for impressionable people to know that they don't need to look like a Kardashian or some other famous person in order to be beautiful. I learned long ago that I was never going to be a willowy, leggy model (I'm 4 foot 11 inches). I knew I had to work with what I was given and be the best me I could be. That's when we can truly let our own beauty shine through and can learn to be happy with ourselves.
    You are a person whose inner beauty shines through, and your sense of humor never fails to brighten my day.

    • @Tified967
      @Tified967 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ah I'm 5ft2 so not far off from yourself! I had anorexia for a decade wishing & aspiring to be something else. Now I'm 3stone heavier & in a much better place mentally. I can't say it's been easy nor am I completely comfortable in my skin but it's a work in progress. Hey, I never knew I had 30G boobs until I got to a healthy weight lol

    • @leahwilliams9333
      @leahwilliams9333 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@Tified967 Damn, I am the leggy, tall model woman (5'10") but with B boobs. I would be envious of you. I'm sometimes tired of towering over all women and half of men...and have always considered getting a boob job. 😂

  • @mzmerryweather
    @mzmerryweather 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Bravo! Best dang video I have seen, Thank you Charlotte. I've made to 60 ( many more to go!) am short, healthy, plumpolishious vibrant woman, lots of smile lines and a head full of white/silver pixie hair..and if I had to say anything to my younger self so as not to waste too many yrs worrying for nothing..it would be pretty much what you said at the end- you are who you are meant to be right now, value your beautiful self. filters can be fun, but not this insane fake craziness its come to be. The mood hoover...OMG brilliant! You're the best, Thank you!

  • @kimjohnson8471
    @kimjohnson8471 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No matter your age...newborn to the oldest person currently on the planet...WE ARE ALL AS YOUNG NOW AS WE EVER WILL BE!

  • @wildflowers100
    @wildflowers100 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I am so glad you are addressing this. Great discussion.

  • @kelly.nicole
    @kelly.nicole 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    Imagine scammers when they get their hands on this technology..... this is going to get really bad.

    • @PostCrimsonStorm
      @PostCrimsonStorm 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I don't think there's anything keeping scammers from accessing everything you do?!?

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      You think they don’t already have it?

    • @xragdoll5662
      @xragdoll5662 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Say hello to China

    • @PostCrimsonStorm
      @PostCrimsonStorm 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No but seriously- where do you think scammers live? You think they're up some coconut tree on an abandoned foreign island or something?

    • @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020
      @enlightenedinterstellarbei8020 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It already has with some people ending up getting their faces superimposed onto pornographic videos. What a nightmare!!!

  • @lissettejavier3777
    @lissettejavier3777 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This video is a perfect example of why I love your videos.I turn 50 y/o this month and I am glad to support videos that support women being their true selves. Thank you for helping us Take care of our natural skin and enjoy having fun with makeup.

  • @Dianaalex108
    @Dianaalex108 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am so so so grateful that there are people out there like yourself shining the light on this disgusting, degrading trend! Thank you

  • @drewcassavetes5726
    @drewcassavetes5726 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I always recognize Tom Ford’s Daydream when you wear it. So pretty. 💜

  • @heather-cz8yk
    @heather-cz8yk 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Totally agree with you. What happens when someone actually meets you in person after seeing filtered shots?

  • @winifredsanni9205
    @winifredsanni9205 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Nobody is ugly,everyone is beautiful and pretty in there own way ❣️

  • @7EmpathicBeauty
    @7EmpathicBeauty 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yeah…my phone camera never captures how I actually look in real life. While I look hideous on camera, I have the opposite reaction in person. I was confused for years so now I don’t take selfies anymore.

  • @angeliarossett5934
    @angeliarossett5934 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I have some weird I’m getting old flakey eyelids situated. Doc told me how to make better. Before doc the attitude was: meh, I’m greasy, it’ll look shit like the rest of my face once it starts melting 😂 I d love to have all of the treatments ( I’m available for adoption‘I cook👀) your attitude is so important in your self esteem. I am so saddened that we as a society feel we have to fake ourselves. Keep fighting the good fight, this message needs to be spread far and wide.

  • @Strawbettys
    @Strawbettys 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    this series is my fav please dont stop doing this type of videos

  • @littybritty9983
    @littybritty9983 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The blues in this look you’re serving are glorious

  • @SofiaSeesBeauty
    @SofiaSeesBeauty 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    As a creator, it is definitely sobering to see that the accounts that receive the most views, most clicks, and most retention are the ones that have picture, perfect studio, lighting, and (maybe?) filters. As humans we are naturally drawn to what is pleasing to the eye, and in many cases, we feel like that person is more professional and their opinion is more legit. I hear from people that they want to see authentic and natural content, but that unfortunately is not reflected in the data, and I rarely see creators filming in natural light, and showing their faces very close to see the texture and imperfections. Not sure if this will change unless, like you said, consumers curate their feeds. Creators will continue to follow the real preferences of consumers and that is measured in views, clicks, etc. Its sad but true.

  • @LIK64
    @LIK64 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Kardashian truly started this ALL

  • @Ljmunseeable
    @Ljmunseeable 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I deleted snap chat because even after just a couple of days of playing with filters I was crushed to see my real face. I don’t need any help damaging the self esteem that I worked 39 years to build.

  • @susanbotein1320
    @susanbotein1320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Excellent video and a great insight into effects of lighting, filters, etc.

  • @VegaChastain
    @VegaChastain 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Some of the creators I've been watching the longest have recently become more comfortable talking about their 'treatments' and it's just shocking to me how EVERYONE seems to have all kinds of work done on a regular schedule. WOW, you're beautiful anyway, so weird.

  • @jackieturner4144
    @jackieturner4144 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    videos need to be made like this every so often to really make sure people know what is reality and what's not 🎉xx

  • @bevyoung2009
    @bevyoung2009 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It's like the monkey status we had in my day: see no evil, hear no evil, and speak no evil.

  • @Queenofcats36
    @Queenofcats36 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I don't filter any of my instagram posts. I refuse to.

  • @Amanda-yd2ey
    @Amanda-yd2ey 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    These videos about social media being so misleading and feeling like others are rich.. are fascinating!
    Keep’em coming… this is beauty content too
    The ending comments about helpful advice is great.
    Years ago I got lip fillers after seeing Alana Davison and “wtf!” Was I thinking. Never again. Unsubscribe.

  • @purpleivy9174
    @purpleivy9174 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I don’t understand how regular people are paying for Ozempic? Unless I have diabetes, my insurance won’t cover the $1,300 price tag.

  • @anne-mariecouvrette3613
    @anne-mariecouvrette3613 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    An important video bringing some of us back to reality. I do hope the younger ones will see this. Thank you

  • @darlosmurf148
    @darlosmurf148 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Such good content - thanks. I feel for youngsters who don't realise these people aren't real and are brought down by the images. It's not healthy

  • @carolynhoge5346
    @carolynhoge5346 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    No matter what concealer/corrector I use I can’t get rid of my dark circles like all the influencers do! Duh, it’s the lighting!!

  • @Julie2554
    @Julie2554 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I am plain but I don’t filter my photos. I know a lady on social media who never seems to have any skin blemishes on her photos. I have blemishes. I am 40 and happy to be aging. It makes me cross when pretty women use filters on their photos. I used to get called ugly when I was at school which wasn’t nice.

  • @amandacarden3787
    @amandacarden3787 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am not willing to go through all of that suffering

  • @johannaa.l.7143
    @johannaa.l.7143 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Absolutely agree about following positive accounts! My IG feed is only about drawing, creating and cats. No Kardashian and beauty influencers! And I feel no pressure while I use it. But TH-cam algorithms are more problematic and sometimes recommended toxic things out nowhere.

    • @keanahernandez9763
      @keanahernandez9763 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yess mine is cats and things I wanna buy

  • @humus4000
    @humus4000 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I agree ..everyone is beautiful in their own way

  • @nobodysummonsmegatron
    @nobodysummonsmegatron 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I've never understood why ppl are so mean about SJP's appearance, but they've been at it for ages. I'd love to rock a gray smokey eye like she does.

  • @Jess-bee
    @Jess-bee 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for making this ❤

  • @mariafrommiami
    @mariafrommiami 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Keep going. This is an important series of videos ❤ thank you 😊

  • @SarahHovley
    @SarahHovley 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you this. I really needed to hear this. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @KathleenMcCormickLCSWMPH
    @KathleenMcCormickLCSWMPH 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this. It is needed.

  • @dnaturalartist546
    @dnaturalartist546 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Beautiful content and thank you for making an updated video on this topic. It affects us all regardless if we are aware or not, and being mindful is imporatant in this environment that is fostering illness and robbing joy.

  • @mina-ala
    @mina-ala 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love this! ❤❤❤

  • @chantalmeijer8491
    @chantalmeijer8491 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It is so good that your doing these kind of video's! ❤ Thank you for keeping it real!

  • @superuchic3153
    @superuchic3153 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am new to ur channel and i absolutely LOVE your videos! So well spoken and actually comical too! Every word is truth . Im officially hooked ❤