Not only INFPs. Open minded individuals are attractive and being an individual, being yourself is very important. Being real and not judgmental. Intelligence is recommended 😂
Kindness is a must! Then being able to admit when one is wrong and take responsibility in being remorseful, showing a true desire to do some self work. Love is the recipe, and forgiveness is key. But climbing mountains is what leads us to happiness. Never give up on someone who truly loves you, if it's true love.
Cool video, I think a lot of INFPs have expressed similar things (from what I've seen) and yeah I definitely think kindness is the biggest thing. And yeah, it sounds like most types want someone who is kind...but then you look around in the real world and realise this isn't actually true lol.
My Si child wants comfort and feels save, so for sure I prefer kindness, kind words & kind people. Beauty things, if physical, is something Se and not something in my preferences. Somehow, by fate and coincidence, someone I feel safe and comfortable is blessed by androgynous type of beauty.
Probably should specify healthy INFP's because my ex didn’t appreciate me and I did/do all these things (I'm ENFJ) He prefered his self centered ESTP ex who hates him but keeps him around in the friend zone just so she can use him. She is literally the opposite of all these things. No empathy, close minded, she's not smart AT ALL, acts like a damsel in distress, is very manipulative, shallow, superficial.... ugh I sure wish he was healthy because if he was on the same page as all this it would have been an incredible relationship 😢
i don't think mbti types are coupled with sexual attraction, so the androgyny thing or the beauty thing would not be correlated to being infp i don't think. But i do agree kindness is my number 1 criteria always.
Totes agree on a lot of your list. My personal #1 is having my back (friend or relationship) combined with accepting my free spirit (ie respecting my freedom) ❤
Creativity is an absolute must for me. I also think that creativity helps people be able to see things from multiple perspectives, which as you said is a huge one for INFPs. Also, re: your last point, I would say that all types would probably say they are looking for kindness, but nerdiness and androgyny...eh, not so much 😂😂
❤Thanks for the video, Brandon! For me, it’s definitely kindness and empathy (lack of it is an absolute turnoff), authenticity and nerdiness, an open mind or at least the potential to develop one, and some sense of humor. Creativity isn’t so necessary since that’s my area, but not appreciating my creativity or any creativity is a real red flag. 😅 Interestingly enough, physical aspect has been always very important for me, not some standard of handsomeness but rather a wholesome style. I guess I am drawn to people who have their own style, maybe it’s translated to authenticity. Also, Brandon, could I ask if you would be interested in making a video about the relationship between an INFP and someone completely opposite, like an ESTP (which is my situation😅)? For example, I’d really appreciate a video like ‘What ESTPs look for in romantic relationships.’ There’s not much information about this dynamic, but the few resources I found helped me so much! I’m really glad I took the time to look into it, and I thought there might be other couples in a similar situation who could benefit from it too.
Call it self-centered if you will but I'm really looking for myself in a different body, lol. As an autistic INFP, I spend enough time feeling out of sync with everyone else around me that in my romantic relationships I want someone that I feel "gets it" on a visceral, non-verbal level. I like the smart weirdos who can and will talk about anything (within reason) and who are also secure enough that they don't feel abandoned when I need to brood for a few days. I need depth, not shallowness. And being demisexual, a person's mind and demeanor are what makes them beautiful to me, even if my first impression is "is this person's parents a potoo bird and an avocado frog??" (Although, on the subject of androgyny, my eye will always be drawn to men with very long hair and women with short or no hair even if I feel no pull to talk to them. It shows either a confidence in themselves or a middle-finger to society, or both, and that's always attractive to me.)
"Androgynous" only for as much as being physically fit for as much as they are capable, or to at least want to be. Im a Physical Therapist so, i try to practice what I preach and expect my partner to care eniugh to too.
Великий внешний развлетвитель😄.. В этом что то есть))) Не знаю какой романтический партнёров меня может вытерпеть с моими идеями и мыслями которые больше похожи на бред больного человека) Креативность-да ! Но надо дома терпеть шишки, камни, ракушки и прочие ценности)) Если серьёзно то может ИНПФ по этой причине легче одни. Нам трудно найти что бы 100 процентов понимал нас.. Мы очень странные для других и вот эту странность приходится всё время прятать что бы быть таким как все:(
Not only INFPs. Open minded individuals are attractive and being an individual, being yourself is very important. Being real and not judgmental. Intelligence is recommended 😂
Kindness is a must! Then being able to admit when one is wrong and take responsibility in being remorseful, showing a true desire to do some self work. Love is the recipe, and forgiveness is key. But climbing mountains is what leads us to happiness. Never give up on someone who truly loves you, if it's true love.
Cool video, I think a lot of INFPs have expressed similar things (from what I've seen) and yeah I definitely think kindness is the biggest thing. And yeah, it sounds like most types want someone who is kind...but then you look around in the real world and realise this isn't actually true lol.
My Si child wants comfort and feels save, so for sure I prefer kindness, kind words & kind people.
Beauty things, if physical, is something Se and not something in my preferences. Somehow, by fate and coincidence, someone I feel safe and comfortable is blessed by androgynous type of beauty.
I’m infp and everything was accurate 😅
Probably should specify healthy INFP's because my ex didn’t appreciate me and I did/do all these things (I'm ENFJ)
He prefered his self centered ESTP ex who hates him but keeps him around in the friend zone just so she can use him. She is literally the opposite of all these things. No empathy, close minded, she's not smart AT ALL, acts like a damsel in distress, is very manipulative, shallow, superficial.... ugh
I sure wish he was healthy because if he was on the same page as all this it would have been an incredible relationship 😢
i don't think mbti types are coupled with sexual attraction, so the androgyny thing or the beauty thing would not be correlated to being infp i don't think. But i do agree kindness is my number 1 criteria always.
Totes agree on a lot of your list. My personal #1 is having my back (friend or relationship) combined with accepting my free spirit (ie respecting my freedom) ❤
Creativity is an absolute must for me. I also think that creativity helps people be able to see things from multiple perspectives, which as you said is a huge one for INFPs.
Also, re: your last point, I would say that all types would probably say they are looking for kindness, but nerdiness and androgyny...eh, not so much 😂😂
❤Thanks for the video, Brandon! For me, it’s definitely kindness and empathy (lack of it is an absolute turnoff), authenticity and nerdiness, an open mind or at least the potential to develop one, and some sense of humor. Creativity isn’t so necessary since that’s my area, but not appreciating my creativity or any creativity is a real red flag. 😅
Interestingly enough, physical aspect has been always very important for me, not some standard of handsomeness but rather a wholesome style. I guess I am drawn to people who have their own style, maybe it’s translated to authenticity.
Also, Brandon, could I ask if you would be interested in making a video about the relationship between an INFP and someone completely opposite, like an ESTP (which is my situation😅)? For example, I’d really appreciate a video like ‘What ESTPs look for in romantic relationships.’
There’s not much information about this dynamic, but the few resources I found helped me so much! I’m really glad I took the time to look into it, and I thought there might be other couples in a similar situation who could benefit from it too.
Yes I’ll add that to my list and you’re welcome I’m glad you enjoyed it and shared.
Yes on "creativity" only for as much as it allows one to think outside of the box, and not be with a fixed mind set and lack of open-mindedness.
Call it self-centered if you will but I'm really looking for myself in a different body, lol. As an autistic INFP, I spend enough time feeling out of sync with everyone else around me that in my romantic relationships I want someone that I feel "gets it" on a visceral, non-verbal level.
I like the smart weirdos who can and will talk about anything (within reason) and who are also secure enough that they don't feel abandoned when I need to brood for a few days. I need depth, not shallowness. And being demisexual, a person's mind and demeanor are what makes them beautiful to me, even if my first impression is "is this person's parents a potoo bird and an avocado frog??" (Although, on the subject of androgyny, my eye will always be drawn to men with very long hair and women with short or no hair even if I feel no pull to talk to them. It shows either a confidence in themselves or a middle-finger to society, or both, and that's always attractive to me.)
This is soooo true!!!
"Androgynous" only for as much as being physically fit for as much as they are capable, or to at least want to be. Im a Physical Therapist so, i try to practice what I preach and expect my partner to care eniugh to too.
Великий внешний развлетвитель😄.. В этом что то есть)))
Не знаю какой романтический партнёров меня может вытерпеть с моими идеями и мыслями которые больше похожи на бред больного человека) Креативность-да ! Но надо дома терпеть шишки, камни, ракушки и прочие ценности))
Если серьёзно то может ИНПФ по этой причине легче одни. Нам трудно найти что бы 100 процентов понимал нас.. Мы очень странные для других и вот эту странность приходится всё время прятать что бы быть таким как все:(