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1. YOU have control! 2. Start calling the shots (if you're not ready), 3. Make your time together PHENOMENAL! 4. Suggest time together outside the bedroom, 5. If he says Yes (to spend time outside the bedroom), In crrease non-sexual time with him, 6.If he says No, Decrease sexual time quantity, 7. Get a life! Use the extra time you have to work on yourself, to build a better life ==> He will either dissolves OR reframes you as his GF
I love this because it almost allows you to ease out of the situation to be ok if you lose him except you can still be hopeful that they will come around
I tried doing this but he wouldn't commit so i ended it, and now that i have an amazing boyfriend, he calls me up and texts me nonstop! like really! now you want me bcz I'm taken! btw i love your videos mark!!
If you followl the law of Attraction as soon as you take your attention away from him and focus on you and they can't connect with you and are trying to. That's what does it. LOL you're a good example of that.
This is very helpful Mark. In my situation the guy is just too busy for a relationship - raising his son solo and running his personal business. But I truly feel if a guy sees you as "high value woman" then he'll make time. We'll put some of these steps into place and see where it leaves me. I'll keep you posted!
Keep me posted Denise. I really do agree. I remember one woman in particular from quite some time ago (and I'm a 24/7 busy guy) who stood out so much and I moved mountains to make time for her. It was actually incredible the way I found myself shifting stuff around to see her. This was rare for me so it really does come down to priorities a good portion of the time. I spoke about this in a recent Ask Mark - not sure if you've seen. th-cam.com/video/okYBGvVmPQ4/w-d-xo.html Let me know how the steps go - his non-physical attraction and perceived value of you will shift if you follow them, which hopefully gives him the emotional reasoning to step it up with you.
Thanks Mark! I really like these steps. I also reviewed again the Ask Mark video that you referenced above. I'll definitely keep you posted on the progress.
I have a friend who turns every guys she slept with wanting to date her and her advice is similar like you. But I remember she said that she likes to be give free gf trial for 2 weeks or a month which is all the good positive mind blowing sex and everything she could offer without the clingy or jealousy only good stuffs to her man. And like you said she started to make the relationship moves from stranger to friends in order to get his trust and let him share his secret and dreams and daily life without the obligation to hear from him the next day after they fuck. She said she would let him know she has life and friends and go with her day to show how exciting her life is. Then after the trial is finished she would say that this isn't going anywhere and she doesn't feel like continue it and cut the contact. So it's like a guaranteed trial that she has good quality as a gf but it's just for few weeks and he still wants to get the benefits and continue it then he needs to 'upgrade' it to exclusive relationship. Sounds a bit manipulative but I think guys like free trial 😐
I fell for this guy right off the bat I'm a widow and hes the 1st person I had feelings for I've finally got to see him again but we talked for 4 hours Before even getting intimate We have so much in common We had a good time just talking
These ways are all correct ! And if you didn't find the answers that he's not ready to move forward then drop your effort aspiring him to be the one. Stay in booty level or just drop and find the right one for you and worth of your time.
We've been "casual" for a year. I've tried having the conversation but it always ends with him saying "I'm not ready for a relationship". We hang out a lot especially outside the bedroom and we're definitely exclusive, I've cleared up that much. We are literally in a relationship, I don't know what he's "not ready" for lmao
Same here..... this time I’m a guy and it’s as if me and her are in one. So I just go with the flow and take the lead and act like we are. Ima give it a few more months. If nothing happens I’m out 🤚🏼
Thank you...he asked me to his softball game tonight but then said it was to late to come get me...he stayed at work to long....now the game is over and he texted me what's up......I said I was thinking about getting something to eat....so I said I know that you didn't eat yet want to go get a bite to eat...he said no love, I'm really tired...i said I understand stood ....then he said........well can I stop by and you know before you leave......Mark I told him not just NO!!!! But Hell No....now he is acting like I am crazy and he doesn't understand why I'm mad!!!! Said a lot of girlfriends would want a man who loves them and works all the time...so now he has got me feeling bad......now what do I do???
I feel like we both like each other. We do talk about things OTHER than sex. We do hang out and have deep talks. We are there for each other. But he keeps saying he’s not ready for something serious. Thing is...he wants to do couple stuff. Cuddling, sleeping over (no sex) hanging one on one. He even makes future plans for us. He did get out of a 7 year relationship as did I late last year. He keeps saying he feels he’s not content with himself nor other aspects of his life and said he’s scared of commitment. Even though when I expressed I had feelings for him, he said he may want something more in the future but it’s not what is on his mind right now. I don’t know what to do 😞
Don't fret MyChemicalLove011, your guy might not Emotionally available at the moment. He's testing the tide. If you'd like to chat about this more, I do suggest you book in for 1on1, so I can give you the right advice (FYI there's a fee for doing tis). Just go to www.makehimyours.com.au/booking , I would love to help you sort it out xx
I think if you keep sleeping with a guy who never wants anything to do with you outside the bedroom, the only thing that will happen is he'll lose all respect for you and you'll never be able to bounce back from that. How could he ever like or respect you when you are not showing respect for yourself by continuing with someone who shows you no respect?
Nice comment orange. I guess it depends on your definition of what respect is and constitutes. I talk about this concept a lot in this video here: th-cam.com/video/1TCvIdhTMH8/w-d-xo.html
Well that's true Mark, but what I meant was in context of what you said in the vid. I mean like if you continue to sleep with him even after you've asked him to do other stuff and he flat out says no, as you mention. I don't think that is showing yourself respect if after that you continue to sleep with him. And then if you don't show yourself respect, i don't think others can. I know ppl say they are just having fun but I think in the end it still hurts especially for women. Even though I know often ppl pretend that they don't feel those things.
It would be nice if life were like this but it's not. Even if these "best" people respect you, they will also walk away b/c they respect themselves and want to be with others who also respect themselves. So either way, if you don't respect yourself, you lose.
I have a couple of videos on their way on emotionally unavailable guys and partners Seera - a little bit of time away in the schedule but getting editing now :)
So unlike every other coach you’re saying - don’t withdraw the sex first still have it but make sure you blow his mind make sure when you’re in the car or whatever you’re being yourself - that’s usually me just taking the mick out of myself gotta laugh. Problem there is how do you know it’s phenomenal
Can you please do a video about teenage relationships? Sex tips, how to keep each other interested, maybe date ideas - all that type of thing thank youu :) Love your channel btw
Hi Mark!! First off you're such a cutie!! Love your channel. I subscribed right away!! Thanks for all you do!! I've watched so many of your videos. So I have a situation where I got tired of failed dates or really no dates and put an add on CL. (I know you're probably against dating apps so this must be worse. 😬Idk) Out of 345 replies I only met up with this guy. He ends up being quite the academic going to get his doctorate in the east coast in a month. He tells me upfront in our email exchanges and I said I wanted something steady and he says "Ive had anxious moments about my move, but I am moving, but I will be back regularly a month and half for holidays, spring break and teach in the summer" he's a professor he then says "you never know just meeting may be fun people come into our lives for different reasons and we can let it lead things as it may." Charming right? Lol. Well I bit the bait. We met up and he starts our conversation by asking deep theoretical questions, asking to see my opinion, and asking personal questions. His conversation style and thoughts captivated me. He got his heartbroken last by this girl he also met there and I think just was in a bit of a bad place because she disconnected all forms of communication and it hurt not hearing from her before he left to the other side of the country, plus how the girl before that disappeared on him too. We had a lot that we connected in, I definitely feel I showed him my social worth, my value (best I could in this scenario) but I am educated, working in business entrepreneurship, we laughed and had a lot of fun just talking. There were a few nights we just talked and didn't hook up. But he pulled away when he felt I wanted more and told me upfront he didn't want to be misleading. I let him know I knew he was leaving in a month. He tried pulling a fast one after that but I put him in his place. He was cool after that lol. But then in casual conversations he says I should go with him and then says I should move with him. At one point he said I got him thinking that I'm like one of his friends (one of the boys), that I'm real cool to be with/talk to, and that he may consider dating a Latina. That hurt... He's Hispanic too but is used to dating girls out of his ethnic group. He said jokingly as to not create competition to his mom. He left early August. We've texted here and there. Kept up just a little on his drive to the other side of the country. So he interacts with me. Will this be short lived? But I feel I am the one mostly reaching out. I can't pinpoint if he's stringing me along as you've mentioned, a player, keeping me as insurance when he comes into town, or does he really see potential in me, if he's just afraid to care for me and have feelings since he's moved, afraid to get hurt like he did with his two past dating relationships, he was saying girls play too many games and they all leave. I have never liked someone as fast as I did him. I'm quite picky. He seems smart, humble, giving, quite an overachiever. He holds a lot of things I would love in a partner. But my feelings for him scare me a little, especially in that I'm not thinking right since he's pulled back. I'm so afraid to find he's a narcissistic and egotistical. Or that I will never be able to show my true value due to how we met?? Or maybe that there is not enough time, substance, or interest in him for this to be possible? Any way you can help a girl out with this? I've seen you're videos on long distance, turning fwb into bf, how guys make you obsess with them, how to get a guy to chase you, check if a guy likes you. And besides the actual "dates" we've had a mix of it all!! So confused. Is there hope???? Appreciate your time in reading this if you do. Thanks luv. xo (p.s. This Friday is approaching 6 weeks. The 8 week mark is approaching the 8th of September:) 💋💕🙌🏼
Hey N C - so great to have you on here and thanks for subscribing! There's a lot here. First of all you should be doing better than 1/345, so something to address there! He's certainly been quite hot and cold at times with you, and the distance confuses things further. Any chance you can book in with me on Skype so we can chat about this properly? :) Mark
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Hey A Khan - happy to help you with communicating misunderstandings. If you have a specific situation you'd like help with you can book in with me on Skype 1-on-1 so we can chat :)
Hey! I have a question, I am dating a guy. Haven't declared anything overly-serious, however we go out a lot. Talked about double dates and meeting his friends; but something that was weird to me was something he recently said. A year ago, he got out of a 5 year relationship, we started seeing one another after already being friends, where 7 months have past post breakup and he said to me; "I want to love You". Who in the world says something so asinine as that!?
Yeh, that is weird. I would literally ask him "What did you mean when you said I want to love you" and gauge his response. Come from a place of curiosity, and accept what ever he says positively. Don't back him into a corner etc...
Mark! I have a quick question. I met this guy while on vacation last week and after spending so many days together, we started flirting around back and forth and the last night we kissed :) We've been texting casually since we got back from vaca and I am completely crushing on him. The major cons however is: distance (he lives 2 hours away) and age (he's 19 and just graduated from high school?! I'm 21). I don't plan on dating him or anything but can't help but daydream about us...am I being totally crazy?! He seemed like a really good guy that is so refreshing after meeting so many older guys just trying to hook up.. In fact I think one of the reasons I like him so much is because he is so inexperienced and genuine...it's like the magic and romance hasn't been lost yet (plus being on a cruise in the middle of the ocean with him was pretty romantic too :"). I also wonder if he genuinely likes me though or if I'm just a cute older girl to him. I think I'm just overthinking it all and haven't felt this way since I was like 15...help!
Super normal Kathleen - this happens a LOT on vacation. thoughtcatalog.com/mark-rosenfeld/2016/06/dating-on-holidays-5-traps-you-can-fall-into/ 2 hours isn't too bad, and it's certainly worth investing in him with phone/video chat and seeing if he wants to do the same back. Every now and then this just happens and both partners want to invest until they can be together in person again, or atleast fairly regularly.
Here is my big dilemma... there is a guy that I really really like, and I know he likes me too. But, his career is at the first place right now, he was very upfront with it. He’s worth the wait, but I don’t know if I can or should wait. He’s an engineer, and those guys are very dedicated to their partners. I’m seeing or communicating to him rarely. I know you all would probably tell me don’t waste your time, and blah blah. But maybe someone has a success story? He’s a rare breed as they say, or at least that’s what I feel about him. Thoughts?
So, I blew off my FWB for a couple months, he messaged at one a.m. quite a few times during that time period but he would also come over and watch t.v. for an hour here and there but I held back the sex. Finally, last week, I told him that I needed him, he came over and asked me on a date to a concert on a Saturday night before the bedroom. That's a good sign, right? Even if he hasn't responded to the one text I sent him about seeing how his week was going. He would also message me and I had to tell him he couldn't come over cuz I already had company as well....maybe that helped? Trying to let things happen organically, I guess.
The concert is a good sign, though the not responding to your text is not. The attraction sounds a little better, but not quite there yet. The last part could work well for you or against you depending on the guy and how you frame it. If he complains/gets shirty and you're like "welllll you're having fun too, so if you'd like to change our status you can let me know otherwise I'm quite allowed to have fun" then he may well come around.
Mark Rosenfeld hmm, not making excuses but he needs some time to get his life back together. he just moved out of his ex girls house not that long ago, etc (also has four kids). I also was going through some seriously personal stuff as well. I'm just giving him time and space, ya know? We have a great time together and he reassured if there's anything I ever need no matter what time of day to call him. although, being the independent person I am, not trying to cash in on that (yet). And prior to last Thursday the last time we hooked up was on Valentine's Day. I told him about this other guy that was in my life and he said "That I shouldn't lead the other guy on..." What does that even mean?! I take that as "I don't like that there's another guy"...lol. sigh, dudes....thanks for the response. :)
Mark Rosenfeld thanks! I liked the point about giving it a year, but in the meantime I'm still gonna date and see other men and do my thang. :) if it doesn't continue to progress I'll put the cabash on it.
What if your boyfriend withdraws no matter what , and returns to the "relationship" whenever he wants as if nothing has happened? I know you must quit, but what if it's hard?
This is tough Evdoxia, but you have to have your boundaries in place. If a guy can do this, it means you're letting him back in, therefore it's a function of your boundaries. Growing yourself and your life will help with your confidence a lot. th-cam.com/video/mRFT08r2Y54/w-d-xo.html Let me know if you'd like to book in 1-on-1 on Skype for personal help with this.
I dialed it right back 3 1/2 years ago. He still occasionally contacts me. I realized that I possibly hadn't made myself "CLear enough" when I suggest we "do an activity" first and/or the activity alone. (We've dated others, of course.) I mean, nothing's happened btw us, though his level of contact has actually increased recently, for some strange reason. This month, I bent over backwards (so to speak) re responding to him (via an ignored booty call) that I no longer do hookups, that I found them far too painful for me--not for years, now, "however, it wd still be great to see each other" re such-and-such an activity that I know he'd enjoy. No response yet.
Gillian sounds like if it was meant to happen, it sure would have by now. Hope this guy isn't holding you back from meeting someone even better . If he is, might be time to let go completely.
(Dr.)Mark, 1. Thanks for your prompt reply and for your ongoing teachings. And for your huge sense of humour. 2. I forgot to ask you re your Twin Flames recording(s). If you are knowledgeable, you know that the Universe chooses "the best someone for you" so, the situation becomes more about having, conveying and executing standards appropriately. 3. I only really firmly established my boundaries Last Week so, that there was/is no confusion. I feel that Leo will eventually let me know if he wants me or not. 4. I'm much less obsessive, clingy now so, I feel that, perhaps, this is why "Leo" has been contacting me more. Thanks again, man!
He gives off all the right body language signals; always facing me or pointing towards me even when we arent communicating, pupil dilation etc however he comes across sometimes as rude and moody, at times wouldn't text back even though online among other things (I must mention that he starts the conversations 95% of the time) He says things out of no where, he has even told me that he is not the type of guy to always check up on me and send good morning texts etc as he believes I get guys doing that with me all the time. I am dating other men (I am not explicit with it) so I am not too bothered but it does get annoying!
Hayfer I would apply the advice from the mixed signals video - th-cam.com/video/cbOk6ZR0keA/w-d-xo.html One very clear signal from you and see how he reacts. If you get nothing, shrug your shoulders and enjoy your other guys.
Hi, Mark, greetings from Russia! found you today, great videos! I have a question right away. lets say a girl has hard times and isn't really into looking for passion in life. for example, has been depressed for a long while or even undergoes a psychotherapy. or has a boring life because she is concentrated on work lets say. and she is seeing a guy (booty call) once a week for example and they have a good time together and she really tries to make those "sessions" unforgettable for him. but its only once a week. wont he get a wrong impression about what a relationship with her is gonna be like? wont he be disappointed afterwards when he claims her as a GF? I know the right answer would be to fix the boring stuff first but its not always possible to do that that fast. Im afraid to let anyone into my life so that he sees what its really like, scared not to be accepted the way I am so I reject guys. not seeing anyone at the moment, was hurt last year (were not officially dating with that guy but we got pretty close, spent 1 to 3 days a week together, he wanted me to open up to him and left after I did that, that wasn't the only reason but was painful anyway) but curious to know your opinion.
Hey Kitty - thanks for subscribing and great to have you on the channel. I really do think the solution is to work on the other stuff you've talked about. You clearly feel like you are going to struggle to offer him anything outside of sex, which means, even if you get the guy, what does he have to stay for? It's all about the non-physical attraction when it comes to man wanting more after sex, so if you feel like you don't have any with men (to offer), the best way to create some is to take back your time (a very attractive first step) and build it. The other stuff you've talked about (rejecting me because you're afraid) is deeper and something we'd need to talk about 1-on-1 to get to the bottom of. Mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to do that.
Thanks Mark I'm going to try this... I've already asked him to do stuff with me outside the bedroom he always says yes but at the last minute backs out...its been like this for months...now I am going to dial back my times I see him..and see what happens...he texts all the time , he stops by for a booty call often...but that's all we do...he says he is my boyfriend but we don't do anything but that... He claims he is just to tired to go anywhere because he works 10 hour days 6 days a week.....yet he can find for a booty call.... just saying
Hey Mark. I’ve heard you talking about Girlfriend Benefits and how you should not give them to any guy who isn’t committed. In my case tho, I’m having a long distance relationship and we’re going to meet this winter. We are talking everyday and lots of time on the phone. So yesterday he opened up a little and I listened. Now I don’t know what I should do. I am a naturally caring person and I love being a life coach to just anyone I can help. But how can I still keep them Girlfriend benefits? I mean it’s hard to say: “Um sorry but I am not going to listen/ give you advice. We’re not in a relationship yet”.
Help!! He says that he’s interest in meeting outside but it never happens! Just to explain quickly, our time being sexual is like 1/3 of our time together, he usually comes to my place at 10am when he works at 1pm, but when he works at 5am for a week, we can’t see each other! Sometimes we don’t meet for a month! On the weekend he’s busy with sports and his friends and now he’ll focus on getting his motorcycle license! He says he wants to take things slow and built something with me bc of previous heartbreaks but we know each for almost a year now! He also talks about me to his friends saying that we’re seeing each other. So why can’t we have « normal » dates? I don’t want to sound like I’m nagging to him too
This sounds ridiculous Dadou. A year?!?! You deserve better. If he's not willing to take you on dates and the advice in this video isn't working, my advice would be to open yourself to other men and ultimately, find a man who is.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you so much Mark! This situation is horrible because when together I can feel he’s genuine! I told him that he hurts me a lot and want efforts, I hope he realizes that’s my limit of patience
He proposed we should go eat out together too. Hm actually I don't think it happens often but I as a woman ghosted him and now we are back together. In the relaxed state now. I don't understand most what he does or say but I'm pretty sure he doesn't want a relationship he's free spirited just like me. At this point I'm just curious what is happening. Any idea?
How to prove you have solid interest in a person as interest more than friends if you're demonstrating the relationship that can outwardly be mistaken as a friendzoning?
mark. I need your advice. am in a relationship for a year an my pro is he don't text or call me I have to beg him to come an look for me sometimes he takes weeks before he comes ..I am fed up ..I delete his # so many but add it bk do you think I should just move on or just don't pay him any mind
Calalita Mitchell you know why? if he really loves you,he spend a time for you! Annnnnd.....pls.dont beg him! Do your things what you makes happy,dont focus to him! enjoy yourself..
I was drunk typing that but we gotta have fun hey? LOL! what if.. we started just hanging out without sex (movies, dinner, hikes etc), then we eventually had sex lol BUT we don't text on weekdays (just text to make plans), and I'm not sure if he's seeing other people. :(
I am dating(casually dating)seeing whatever you can name it with this guy. We have been going out for almost a year. I cant say i am just his booty call because we always go for a date almost every week. Sometimes ill stay at his place, cuddling, pillow talk, watching this that this that. So basically when we are together we are like a couple but we dont have status. I am too scared to ask him what are we. Is there anything i can do to make him wanna put a label into this relationship? I am honestly ready if he doesnt wanna move forward but i just cant help wanting to call him baby but im afraid if it would turn him off.
Hey Mark, I really enjoy your videos, thank you so much for sharing your insights. I was wondering what your thoughts are on when a man on instagram follows lots of accounts of girls and women posting mostly sexy shots of themselves, and fairly regularly likes some of those photos. If a guy is in a relationship and does this, what does this indicate? If he is in a relationship and he knows it really bothers his girlfriend and still does it, what does this mean? Thank you.
Another question, if lots of these women are fans of his who often have private accounts and he follows them back...what are your thoughts on this? I find it unprofessional and just sketchy...so when he gets defensive and accuses me of stalking if I ask him straightforwardly about it...after I found out there were interactions (online and offline) that he had hid from me during our difficult times ..... what's your perspective? Thank you!!!
We only hear it in old European plays. Even some words have changed in spelling since I have been alive. Catalog used to be catalogue. Donuts used to be doughnuts. That is only in a 56 year span of time.
Hi,mark. Lulu here,so this is not a booty call as in I have not slept with this guy.i really like this guy,he just broke up with his girlfriend a 4months ago.before they broke up he wouldn't text me or give me his number,but after they broke up he gave me his number without me asking for it.but how do i make him see that I don't want to just be friends.one time we were talking about going bed,so I said I was going to sleep in my big bed with my stuffed dog.and he said he that an invite?he likes to tease me a lot in a fun way.but it's hard for me to read him.i can't talk if he likes me as a friend or more.because of that I find it hard to talk to him.please advice .thank you.
It sounds like he wanted to sleep with you lulu. You could have responded with. "Hah... Well no. But if you want to take me out some time I wouldn't say no to that. Niiiiiight"
please i need help i have FWB which i am beginning to get feelings for,i told him calmly without forcing anything he positively accpeted what i said but not verbally saying he does to.but his actions change he become too carering,loving,we practically do things together all the time ,go to occations he is invited together yet he says he doesnt think he want anything serious with me and on the other hand he say he was readay to love me ,he chamged for me ,he gave me his time but i went n flirted with his friend though i did not have sex with him. now he took a giel n had sex with n told me its my fault .for a while now we aint what we where before but he still takes me out n we attend ocaations together n i feel i still got a place in his heart but the fact that i flirted with a friend hurts him.right now i need help am confused today he says he likes me alot tomorow he say he doesnt think he wants something serious with me,,,,,,,,your reply will be soo helpfull thanks
Hey Prisca Malou thanks so much for sharing your story in such a personal way- there's a bit too much going on here for me to really comment extensively. If you would like to book in to chat about this more you can email mark@makehimyours.com.au and organise a time for a skype (Just FYI there is a cost to doing this).
I litterally just ended a 6 year booty call! Yes I said 6 years! there's a big background story but I'll just say this: Basically his gramma somehow figured out what we have been doing and she got mad at him because he doesn't respect me. So just the other day he called and said he wasn't coming over any more.....is there any hope??
Mark Rosenfeld. ok well when I met him it was purly a physical attraction. when we initally connected, he was VERY charming. I thought wow this guy is amazing. Within 2 months, everything changed, he told me at or around this time that he was not interested in a relationship. Of course I held on to hope that he might change. He never did. I eventually got used to the idea that it would never be a relationship and somehow it continued for 6 years! I've only been noticing a few small changes over the past few months. He actually moved into the building across the street from me(he used to live in the other side of town where he'd take a 1 hour bus ride to get here) so I naturally assumed he would be here more often. Nope! Anyway I hope this info helps a bit.....
Ahh Jees. Ok there's a lot going on here. Are you able to book in with me on Skype? I think we'd really need that to be able to give this complex situation the respect it deserves. Mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to do that.
I hear make the sex phenomenal - like grab his clothes push him up against the wall whilst flirting a bit get a bit of throwing about going - if it’s that - I cant be doing that my heart would explode from Anxiety hahaha
Mark Rosenfeld I’m a 49 yo divorced mother of 3 who is feels ready to date again etc. I’ve been chatting/hanging out with a man I knew from high school. He has always been a super kind person and fun to be with. He had his heart broken by his ex wife and has been alone for about 16 years with no other girlfriends at all. He has admitted he is scared of being hurt again and unsure what he wants. I understand his feelings but wonder if I should just cut my loses now. He initiates contact with me. We are sexually active but not until we had been seeing each other for approx 4 mos. I’m curious if all of your dating tips apply to mid-life daters as well or if there are a whole other set of rules. I was married for 20 yrs so I’m pretty clueless about this. Sorry this is so long.
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I just watched the video. I have a FWB guy. I keep getting mixed messages from him. How do I know if he wants more?
I just watched it and l luved ure advice. Will try them♥️ Thank u
1. YOU have control!
2. Start calling the shots (if you're not ready),
3. Make your time together PHENOMENAL!
4. Suggest time together outside the bedroom,
5. If he says Yes (to spend time outside the bedroom), In crrease non-sexual time with him,
6.If he says No, Decrease sexual time quantity,
7. Get a life! Use the extra time you have to work on yourself, to build a better life
==> He will either dissolves OR reframes you as his GF
They say wild horses can't keep a man away from a woman he really wants.I want to be THAT woman!
Monique Palmer I love this comment!
And it's just a saying
I love this because it almost allows you to ease out of the situation to be ok if you lose him except you can still be hopeful that they will come around
I tried doing this but he wouldn't commit so i ended it, and now that i have an amazing boyfriend, he calls me up and texts me nonstop! like really! now you want me bcz I'm taken! btw i love your videos mark!!
If you followl the law of Attraction as soon as you take your attention away from him and focus on you and they can't connect with you and are trying to. That's what does it. LOL you're a good example of that.
I love this video. I offered him to spend some time outside of the bedroom and he said yes! Will take it from there and see how it goes😉 thanks Mark!
How did it go
Love this, Mark!!! This video came out at the perfect time for me! I really appreciate the genuine advice and responses you give to your viewers
Thanks Emma - really glad you got a lot out of it. Thanks for supporting my channel!
This is very helpful Mark. In my situation the guy is just too busy for a relationship - raising his son solo and running his personal business. But I truly feel if a guy sees you as "high value woman" then he'll make time. We'll put some of these steps into place and see where it leaves me. I'll keep you posted!
Keep me posted Denise. I really do agree. I remember one woman in particular from quite some time ago (and I'm a 24/7 busy guy) who stood out so much and I moved mountains to make time for her. It was actually incredible the way I found myself shifting stuff around to see her. This was rare for me so it really does come down to priorities a good portion of the time. I spoke about this in a recent Ask Mark - not sure if you've seen.
th-cam.com/video/okYBGvVmPQ4/w-d-xo.html
Let me know how the steps go - his non-physical attraction and perceived value of you will shift if you follow them, which hopefully gives him the emotional reasoning to step it up with you.
Thanks Mark! I really like these steps. I also reviewed again the Ask Mark video that you referenced above. I'll definitely keep you posted on the progress.
You are awesome Mark!!!!!! Can't get enough of your channel!!!!!
Thanks Gloria - great to have you on here!
Good advice - I'm looking forward to see more of your videos
Wow, Mark. You really know your stuff. You're a godsend.
i really enjoy every single one of your videos!! more power to you, Mark!!!
Thanks Kookie - new one out for you this time tomorrow :)
I have a friend who turns every guys she slept with wanting to date her and her advice is similar like you. But I remember she said that she likes to be give free gf trial for 2 weeks or a month which is all the good positive mind blowing sex and everything she could offer without the clingy or jealousy only good stuffs to her man. And like you said she started to make the relationship moves from stranger to friends in order to get his trust and let him share his secret and dreams and daily life without the obligation to hear from him the next day after they fuck. She said she would let him know she has life and friends and go with her day to show how exciting her life is. Then after the trial is finished she would say that this isn't going anywhere and she doesn't feel like continue it and cut the contact. So it's like a guaranteed trial that she has good quality as a gf but it's just for few weeks and he still wants to get the benefits and continue it then he needs to 'upgrade' it to exclusive relationship. Sounds a bit manipulative but I think guys like free trial 😐
As usual, such a great video with plenty of great advices! Thank you Mark! 😀
Thanks Conejita71
I fell for this guy right off the bat I'm a widow and hes the 1st person I had feelings for I've finally got to see him again but we talked for 4 hours Before even getting intimate We have so much in common We had a good time just talking
Oooo Loved the techniques u know serach n share sounds so impactfull...great thoughts
Glad you liked it Vasudha!
These ways are all correct ! And if you didn't find the answers that he's not ready to move forward then drop your effort aspiring him to be the one. Stay in booty level or just drop and find the right one for you and worth of your time.
We've been "casual" for a year. I've tried having the conversation but it always ends with him saying "I'm not ready for a relationship". We hang out a lot especially outside the bedroom and we're definitely exclusive, I've cleared up that much. We are literally in a relationship, I don't know what he's "not ready" for lmao
Same here..... this time I’m a guy and it’s as if me and her are in one. So I just go with the flow and take the lead and act like we are. Ima give it a few more months. If nothing happens I’m out 🤚🏼
I feel like the only thing he isn’t ready for is only being with you
Thank you...he asked me to his softball game tonight but then said it was to late to come get me...he stayed at work to long....now the game is over and he texted me what's up......I said I was thinking about getting something to eat....so I said I know that you didn't eat yet want to go get a bite to eat...he said no love, I'm really tired...i said I understand stood ....then he said........well can I stop by and you know before you leave......Mark I told him not just NO!!!! But Hell No....now he is acting like I am crazy and he doesn't understand why I'm mad!!!! Said a lot of girlfriends would want a man who loves them and works all the time...so now he has got me feeling bad......now what do I do???
Stop letting him make you feel bad for putting YOUR boundaries in place Maria!
He’s wonderful. I need to invest in him as a Relationship coach.❤️
I feel like we both like each other. We do talk about things OTHER than sex. We do hang out and have deep talks. We are there for each other. But he keeps saying he’s not ready for something serious. Thing is...he wants to do couple stuff. Cuddling, sleeping over (no sex) hanging one on one. He even makes future plans for us. He did get out of a 7 year relationship as did I late last year. He keeps saying he feels he’s not content with himself nor other aspects of his life and said he’s scared of commitment. Even though when I expressed I had feelings for him, he said he may want something more in the future but it’s not what is on his mind right now. I don’t know what to do 😞
Don't fret MyChemicalLove011, your guy might not Emotionally available at the moment. He's testing the tide. If you'd like to chat about this more, I do suggest you book in for 1on1, so I can give you the right advice (FYI there's a fee for doing tis). Just go to www.makehimyours.com.au/booking , I would love to help you sort it out xx
great advice at the right time, thanks baby! x
Shankyou Joanna
Mark Rosenfeld oh you're very welcome Mark x
God, you are a beautiful man! Lol
Arw thanks so much Kyra x - really appreciate you watching and commenting. please don't forget to click the subscribe button
Hi Mark!!! Nice to see you again
Thanks for your support Harseeta
I think if you keep sleeping with a guy who never wants anything to do with you outside the bedroom, the only thing that will happen is he'll lose all respect for you and you'll never be able to bounce back from that. How could he ever like or respect you when you are not showing respect for yourself by continuing with someone who shows you no respect?
Nice comment orange. I guess it depends on your definition of what respect is and constitutes.
I talk about this concept a lot in this video here: th-cam.com/video/1TCvIdhTMH8/w-d-xo.html
Well that's true Mark, but what I meant was in context of what you said in the vid. I mean like if you continue to sleep with him even after you've asked him to do other stuff and he flat out says no, as you mention. I don't think that is showing yourself respect if after that you continue to sleep with him. And then if you don't show yourself respect, i don't think others can. I know ppl say they are just having fun but I think in the end it still hurts especially for women. Even though I know often ppl pretend that they don't feel those things.
Ahh, I see what you're saying. Accepting crumbs. Makes a lot of sense.
I think the best people will respect you whether or not you do yourself ....
It would be nice if life were like this but it's not. Even if these "best" people respect you, they will also walk away b/c they respect themselves and want to be with others who also respect themselves. So either way, if you don't respect yourself, you lose.
Really great advice, Mark. Thanks!!
love your advice, thanks Mark.
please do a video on immature men/emotionally unavailable men.... are they same as players.
why are they like this and how to handle them.
I have a couple of videos on their way on emotionally unavailable guys and partners Seera - a little bit of time away in the schedule but getting editing now :)
Awesome video!Thank you so much!!
Thanks Camila
So unlike every other coach you’re saying - don’t withdraw the sex first still have it but make sure you blow his mind make sure when you’re in the car or whatever you’re being yourself - that’s usually me just taking the mick out of myself gotta laugh.
Problem there is how do you know it’s phenomenal
Amazing advice. Thank you
Thanks Jonay Jones, I hope it helps!
I will definitely take ure advice. Luving those advice. ❤️
Can you please do a video about teenage relationships? Sex tips, how to keep each other interested, maybe date ideas - all that type of thing thank youu :) Love your channel btw
I'll have to make this happen in the future Dall Dall, because you're right it's not an area I've really touched on.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you so much :)
Hi Mark!! First off you're such a cutie!! Love your channel. I subscribed right away!! Thanks for all you do!! I've watched so many of your videos. So I have a situation where I got tired of failed dates or really no dates and put an add on CL. (I know you're probably against dating apps so this must be worse. 😬Idk) Out of 345 replies I only met up with this guy. He ends up being quite the academic going to get his doctorate in the east coast in a month. He tells me upfront in our email exchanges and I said I wanted something steady and he says "Ive had anxious moments about my move, but I am moving, but I will be back regularly a month and half for holidays, spring break and teach in the summer" he's a professor he then says "you never know just meeting may be fun people come into our lives for different reasons and we can let it lead things as it may." Charming right? Lol. Well I bit the bait. We met up and he starts our conversation by asking deep theoretical questions, asking to see my opinion, and asking personal questions. His conversation style and thoughts captivated me. He got his heartbroken last by this girl he also met there and I think just was in a bit of a bad place because she disconnected all forms of communication and it hurt not hearing from her before he left to the other side of the country, plus how the girl before that disappeared on him too. We had a lot that we connected in, I definitely feel I showed him my social worth, my value (best I could in this scenario) but I am educated, working in business entrepreneurship, we laughed and had a lot of fun just talking. There were a few nights we just talked and didn't hook up. But he pulled away when he felt I wanted more and told me upfront he didn't want to be misleading. I let him know I knew he was leaving in a month. He tried pulling a fast one after that but I put him in his place. He was cool after that lol. But then in casual conversations he says I should go with him and then says I should move with him. At one point he said I got him thinking that I'm like one of his friends (one of the boys), that I'm real cool to be with/talk to, and that he may consider dating a Latina. That hurt... He's Hispanic too but is used to dating girls out of his ethnic group. He said jokingly as to not create competition to his mom. He left early August. We've texted here and there. Kept up just a little on his drive to the other side of the country. So he interacts with me. Will this be short lived? But I feel I am the one mostly reaching out. I can't pinpoint if he's stringing me along as you've mentioned, a player, keeping me as insurance when he comes into town, or does he really see potential in me, if he's just afraid to care for me and have feelings since he's moved, afraid to get hurt like he did with his two past dating relationships, he was saying girls play too many games and they all leave. I have never liked someone as fast as I did him. I'm quite picky. He seems smart, humble, giving, quite an overachiever. He holds a lot of things I would love in a partner. But my feelings for him scare me a little, especially in that I'm not thinking right since he's pulled back. I'm so afraid to find he's a narcissistic and egotistical. Or that I will never be able to show my true value due to how we met?? Or maybe that there is not enough time, substance, or interest in him for this to be possible? Any way you can help a girl out with this? I've seen you're videos on long distance, turning fwb into bf, how guys make you obsess with them, how to get a guy to chase you, check if a guy likes you. And besides the actual "dates" we've had a mix of it all!! So confused. Is there hope???? Appreciate your time in reading this if you do. Thanks luv. xo (p.s. This Friday is approaching 6 weeks. The 8 week mark is approaching the 8th of September:) 💋💕🙌🏼
Hey N C - so great to have you on here and thanks for subscribing! There's a lot here. First of all you should be doing better than 1/345, so something to address there! He's certainly been quite hot and cold at times with you, and the distance confuses things further. Any chance you can book in with me on Skype so we can chat about this properly? :)
Mark
You are the Best#1!!!!!
Thanks Leslie!
Hi Mark !... Hw Ru? 💁
gud advises as always👌
plzz suggest sumthg on ...hw to deal wid misunderstandings in relationship in married lyf...all terms sumtyms its difficult 4me to make understand thgs n thgs gt worse... plź plzz do advise me
Hey A Khan - happy to help you with communicating misunderstandings. If you have a specific situation you'd like help with you can book in with me on Skype 1-on-1 so we can chat :)
Hey! I have a question, I am dating a guy. Haven't declared anything overly-serious, however we go out a lot. Talked about double dates and meeting his friends; but something that was weird to me was something he recently said. A year ago, he got out of a 5 year relationship, we started seeing one another after already being friends, where 7 months have past post breakup and he said to me; "I want to love You". Who in the world says something so asinine as that!?
Yeh, that is weird.
I would literally ask him "What did you mean when you said I want to love you" and gauge his response. Come from a place of curiosity, and accept what ever he says positively. Don't back him into a corner etc...
Mark! I have a quick question. I met this guy while on vacation last week and after spending so many days together, we started flirting around back and forth and the last night we kissed :) We've been texting casually since we got back from vaca and I am completely crushing on him. The major cons however is: distance (he lives 2 hours away) and age (he's 19 and just graduated from high school?! I'm 21). I don't plan on dating him or anything but can't help but daydream about us...am I being totally crazy?! He seemed like a really good guy that is so refreshing after meeting so many older guys just trying to hook up.. In fact I think one of the reasons I like him so much is because he is so inexperienced and genuine...it's like the magic and romance hasn't been lost yet (plus being on a cruise in the middle of the ocean with him was pretty romantic too :"). I also wonder if he genuinely likes me though or if I'm just a cute older girl to him. I think I'm just overthinking it all and haven't felt this way since I was like 15...help!
Super normal Kathleen - this happens a LOT on vacation.
thoughtcatalog.com/mark-rosenfeld/2016/06/dating-on-holidays-5-traps-you-can-fall-into/
2 hours isn't too bad, and it's certainly worth investing in him with phone/video chat and seeing if he wants to do the same back. Every now and then this just happens and both partners want to invest until they can be together in person again, or atleast fairly regularly.
Here is my big dilemma... there is a guy that I really really like, and I know he likes me too. But, his career is at the first place right now, he was very upfront with it. He’s worth the wait, but I don’t know if I can or should wait. He’s an engineer, and those guys are very dedicated to their partners. I’m seeing or communicating to him rarely. I know you all would probably tell me don’t waste your time, and blah blah. But maybe someone has a success story? He’s a rare breed as they say, or at least that’s what I feel about him. Thoughts?
who should initiate to ask for moving forward in relationship?
Either Vanessa. It's not about forcing the other person though, and ideally it happens naturally.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you so much. I've been struggling on this. I like your channel.
What to do when he's given u mixed signals 4 the last 7mths. uve fallen 4 him and now he up n moves towns
So, I blew off my FWB for a couple months, he messaged at one a.m. quite a few times during that time period but he would also come over and watch t.v. for an hour here and there but I held back the sex. Finally, last week, I told him that I needed him, he came over and asked me on a date to a concert on a Saturday night before the bedroom. That's a good sign, right? Even if he hasn't responded to the one text I sent him about seeing how his week was going. He would also message me and I had to tell him he couldn't come over cuz I already had company as well....maybe that helped? Trying to let things happen organically, I guess.
The concert is a good sign, though the not responding to your text is not. The attraction sounds a little better, but not quite there yet.
The last part could work well for you or against you depending on the guy and how you frame it. If he complains/gets shirty and you're like "welllll you're having fun too, so if you'd like to change our status you can let me know otherwise I'm quite allowed to have fun" then he may well come around.
Mark Rosenfeld hmm, not making excuses but he needs some time to get his life back together. he just moved out of his ex girls house not that long ago, etc (also has four kids). I also was going through some seriously personal stuff as well. I'm just giving him time and space, ya know? We have a great time together and he reassured if there's anything I ever need no matter what time of day to call him. although, being the independent person I am, not trying to cash in on that (yet). And prior to last Thursday the last time we hooked up was on Valentine's Day. I told him about this other guy that was in my life and he said "That I shouldn't lead the other guy on..." What does that even mean?! I take that as "I don't like that there's another guy"...lol. sigh, dudes....thanks for the response. :)
He obv thought you liked him, and not the other guy. But yeh, 100% sounds like he needs the space, especially if he now has a divorce to finalise.
Mark Rosenfeld thanks! I liked the point about giving it a year, but in the meantime I'm still gonna date and see other men and do my thang. :) if it doesn't continue to progress I'll put the cabash on it.
Awesome plan peaches
Thank u loved the video!
Thanks Clarys
What if your boyfriend withdraws no matter what , and returns to the "relationship" whenever he wants as if nothing has happened? I know you must quit, but what if it's hard?
This is tough Evdoxia, but you have to have your boundaries in place. If a guy can do this, it means you're letting him back in, therefore it's a function of your boundaries. Growing yourself and your life will help with your confidence a lot.
th-cam.com/video/mRFT08r2Y54/w-d-xo.html
Let me know if you'd like to book in 1-on-1 on Skype for personal help with this.
Evdoxia Ypsilou i going through that eventually. U will get fed up and leave dont study it
I dialed it right back 3 1/2 years ago. He still occasionally contacts me. I realized that I possibly hadn't made myself "CLear enough" when I suggest we "do an activity" first and/or the activity alone. (We've dated others, of course.) I mean, nothing's happened btw us, though his level of contact has actually increased recently, for some strange reason.
This month, I bent over backwards (so to speak) re responding to him (via an ignored booty call) that I no longer do hookups, that I found them far too painful for me--not for years, now, "however, it wd still be great to see each other" re such-and-such an activity that I know he'd enjoy. No response yet.
Gillian sounds like if it was meant to happen, it sure would have by now. Hope this guy isn't holding you back from meeting someone even better . If he is, might be time to let go completely.
(Dr.)Mark,
1. Thanks for your prompt reply and for your ongoing teachings. And for your huge sense of humour.
2. I forgot to ask you re your Twin Flames recording(s). If you are knowledgeable, you know that the Universe chooses "the best someone for you" so, the situation becomes more about having, conveying and executing standards appropriately.
3. I only really firmly established my boundaries Last Week so, that there was/is no confusion. I feel that Leo will eventually let me know if he wants me or not.
4. I'm much less obsessive, clingy now so, I feel that, perhaps, this is why "Leo" has been contacting me more.
Thanks again, man!
Great video! How/when did you decide to become a dating coach?
Hey Cynthia - check out this video on the About Page for a bit of background :)
makehimyours.com.au/about/
Just the video that i need 😩😂
Glad to hear cutegirl - hope it helped
Mark Rosenfeld It help, i saw him yesterday and i realized that i don't want him for a relationship. 👍🏻
That sounds like a great realisation
Hi Mark, can you make a video on what to do when someone is playing mind games?
Ooooo good question Hayfer. I like it. Can you be a bit more specific to help me out???
He gives off all the right body language signals; always facing me or pointing towards me even when we arent communicating, pupil dilation etc however he comes across sometimes as rude and moody, at times wouldn't text back even though online among other things (I must mention that he starts the conversations 95% of the time) He says things out of no where, he has even told me that he is not the type of guy to always check up on me and send good morning texts etc as he believes I get guys doing that with me all the time.
I am dating other men (I am not explicit with it) so I am not too bothered but it does get annoying!
So he's usually starting conversations via text and in person?
yes via text mainly (although we dont speak every day) and in person its 50/50 as we work in the same building
Hayfer I would apply the advice from the mixed signals video - th-cam.com/video/cbOk6ZR0keA/w-d-xo.html One very clear signal from you and see how he reacts. If you get nothing, shrug your shoulders and enjoy your other guys.
I think this is good advice even if it isn't just a booty call whether it be dating with or without sex or marriage.
Wow I never looked at this video this way Life, but that actually makes a lot of sense.
Hi, Mark, greetings from Russia! found you today, great videos! I have a question right away. lets say a girl has hard times and isn't really into looking for passion in life. for example, has been depressed for a long while or even undergoes a psychotherapy. or has a boring life because she is concentrated on work lets say. and she is seeing a guy (booty call) once a week for example and they have a good time together and she really tries to make those "sessions" unforgettable for him. but its only once a week. wont he get a wrong impression about what a relationship with her is gonna be like? wont he be disappointed afterwards when he claims her as a GF? I know the right answer would be to fix the boring stuff first but its not always possible to do that that fast. Im afraid to let anyone into my life so that he sees what its really like, scared not to be accepted the way I am so I reject guys. not seeing anyone at the moment, was hurt last year (were not officially dating with that guy but we got pretty close, spent 1 to 3 days a week together, he wanted me to open up to him and left after I did that, that wasn't the only reason but was painful anyway) but curious to know your opinion.
Lets call it "a girl with baggage"))
Hey Kitty - thanks for subscribing and great to have you on the channel. I really do think the solution is to work on the other stuff you've talked about. You clearly feel like you are going to struggle to offer him anything outside of sex, which means, even if you get the guy, what does he have to stay for?
It's all about the non-physical attraction when it comes to man wanting more after sex, so if you feel like you don't have any with men (to offer), the best way to create some is to take back your time (a very attractive first step) and build it.
The other stuff you've talked about (rejecting me because you're afraid) is deeper and something we'd need to talk about 1-on-1 to get to the bottom of. Mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to do that.
Thanks Mark I'm going to try this... I've already asked him to do stuff with me outside the bedroom he always says yes but at the last minute backs out...its been like this for months...now I am going to dial back my times I see him..and see what happens...he texts all the time , he stops by for a booty call often...but that's all we do...he says he is my boyfriend but we don't do anything but that... He claims he is just to tired to go anywhere because he works 10 hour days 6 days a week.....yet he can find for a booty call.... just saying
Hey Mark. I’ve heard you talking about Girlfriend Benefits and how you should not give them to any guy who isn’t committed.
In my case tho, I’m having a long distance relationship and we’re going to meet this winter. We are talking everyday and lots of time on the phone.
So yesterday he opened up a little and I listened. Now I don’t know what I should do.
I am a naturally caring person and I love being a life coach to just anyone I can help. But how can I still keep them Girlfriend benefits?
I mean it’s hard to say: “Um sorry but I am not going to listen/ give you advice. We’re not in a relationship yet”.
Help!! He says that he’s interest in meeting outside but it never happens! Just to explain quickly, our time being sexual is like 1/3 of our time together, he usually comes to my place at 10am when he works at 1pm, but when he works at 5am for a week, we can’t see each other! Sometimes we don’t meet for a month!
On the weekend he’s busy with sports and his friends and now he’ll focus on getting his motorcycle license!
He says he wants to take things slow and built something with me bc of previous heartbreaks but we know each for almost a year now! He also talks about me to his friends saying that we’re seeing each other. So why can’t we have « normal » dates? I don’t want to sound like I’m nagging to him too
This sounds ridiculous Dadou. A year?!?! You deserve better. If he's not willing to take you on dates and the advice in this video isn't working, my advice would be to open yourself to other men and ultimately, find a man who is.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you so much Mark! This situation is horrible because when together I can feel he’s genuine! I told him that he hurts me a lot and want efforts, I hope he realizes that’s my limit of patience
Thats good advice. Even for guys you meet on Pof.com Ty
Definitely Melanie :)
It depends on if the guy is attracted enuf to the woman doesn't it or no
He proposed we should go eat out together too. Hm actually I don't think it happens often but I as a woman ghosted him and now we are back together. In the relaxed state now. I don't understand most what he does or say but I'm pretty sure he doesn't want a relationship he's free spirited just like me. At this point I'm just curious what is happening. Any idea?
What's the best way to tell him, I don't want to intimate yet?
How to prove you have solid interest in a person as interest more than friends if you're demonstrating the relationship that can outwardly be mistaken as a friendzoning?
mark. I need your advice. am in a relationship for a year an my pro is he don't text or call me I have to beg him to come an look for me sometimes he takes weeks before he comes ..I am fed up ..I delete his # so many but add it bk do you think I should just move on or just don't pay him any mind
Calalita Mitchell just move on.
+Lee Jag hey Lee do you thing I should speak with him about it ....or just move on without saying a word
Calalita Mitchell you know why? if he really loves you,he spend a time for you! Annnnnd.....pls.dont beg him! Do your things what you makes happy,dont focus to him! enjoy yourself..
+Lee Jag thank a lot Lee
Calalita Mitchell let him chase you!
But what if we started with nonsexual dates, then sexual dates but he doesn't text or there's no label at all!
Not sure what you mean Joanna? Could be because it's 3am lol
I was drunk typing that but we gotta have fun hey? LOL! what if.. we started just hanging out without sex (movies, dinner, hikes etc), then we eventually had sex lol BUT we don't text on weekdays (just text to make plans), and I'm not sure if he's seeing other people. :(
Thank you
I am dating(casually dating)seeing whatever you can name it with this guy. We have been going out for almost a year. I cant say i am just his booty call because we always go for a date almost every week. Sometimes ill stay at his place, cuddling, pillow talk, watching this that this that. So basically when we are together we are like a couple but we dont have status. I am too scared to ask him what are we. Is there anything i can do to make him wanna put a label into this relationship? I am honestly ready if he doesnt wanna move forward but i just cant help wanting to call him baby but im afraid if it would turn him off.
What if he is my ex ... what should I do
Hey Mark, I really enjoy your videos, thank you so much for sharing your insights. I was wondering what your thoughts are on when a man on instagram follows lots of accounts of girls and women posting mostly sexy shots of themselves, and fairly regularly likes some of those photos. If a guy is in a relationship and does this, what does this indicate? If he is in a relationship and he knows it really bothers his girlfriend and still does it, what does this mean? Thank you.
Another question, if lots of these women are fans of his who often have private accounts and he follows them back...what are your thoughts on this? I find it unprofessional and just sketchy...so when he gets defensive and accuses me of stalking if I ask him straightforwardly about it...after I found out there were interactions (online and offline) that he had hid from me during our difficult times ..... what's your perspective? Thank you!!!
wahala Mark! so true ohh my been waiting for this thanks bestie
Thaaaaankyou Racheal
+Mark Rosenfeld my pleasure handsome (:
Hi Mark. I love you advices.
Thanks Farnaz
U r so great and handsome :) thanks for the video ::)
Arw, so kind of you. Thanks so much for watching xx
He says he is committed to me but doesn't want to feel obligated to have dinner with my family, or friends, etc... and do other "boyfriend" things.
If he really loves you, he won't feel obliged to anything that pleases you. Thanks for watching Tracy xx
Thanks for this video. I wish I had this problem. Just kidding!!!
Hehehe - thanks for watching and commenting Victoria
Am I the only one who chuckled at the casual use of the word "fortnight"?
It's so funny. I never knew other countries didn't use this word.
We only hear it in old European plays. Even some words have changed in spelling since I have been alive. Catalog used to be catalogue. Donuts used to be doughnuts. That is only in a 56 year span of time.
Hi,mark.
Lulu here,so this is not a booty call as in I have not slept with this guy.i really like this guy,he just broke up with his girlfriend a 4months ago.before they broke up he wouldn't text me or give me his number,but after they broke up he gave me his number without me asking for it.but how do i make him see that I don't want to just be friends.one time we were talking about going bed,so I said I was going to sleep in my big bed with my stuffed dog.and he said he that an invite?he likes to tease me a lot in a fun way.but it's hard for me to read him.i can't talk if he likes me as a friend or more.because of that I find it hard to talk to him.please advice .thank you.
It sounds like he wanted to sleep with you lulu. You could have responded with. "Hah... Well no. But if you want to take me out some time I wouldn't say no to that. Niiiiiight"
Thank you mark.
please i need help i have FWB which i am beginning to get feelings for,i told him calmly without forcing anything he positively accpeted what i said but not verbally saying he does to.but his actions change he become too carering,loving,we practically do things together all the time ,go to occations he is invited together yet he says he doesnt think he want anything serious with me and on the other hand he say he was readay to love me ,he chamged for me ,he gave me his time but i went n flirted with his friend though i did not have sex with him. now he took a giel n had sex with n told me its my fault .for a while now we aint what we where before but he still takes me out n we attend ocaations together n i feel i still got a place in his heart but the fact that i flirted with a friend hurts him.right now i need help am confused today he says he likes me alot tomorow he say he doesnt think he wants something serious with me,,,,,,,,your reply will be soo helpfull thanks
Hey Prisca Malou thanks so much for sharing your story in such a personal way- there's a bit too much going on here for me to really comment extensively. If you would like to book in to chat about this more you can email mark@makehimyours.com.au and organise a time for a skype (Just FYI there is a cost to doing this).
im just thinking how to make YOU mine hahaha !! ( just kidding ) you're awesome keep going
Said it before and will say it again. You need a whole bunch of cute cats.
@@Markrosenfeld LMBO! Gotta love a man who loves cats!
I litterally just ended a 6 year booty call! Yes I said 6 years! there's a big background story but I'll just say this: Basically his gramma somehow figured out what we have been doing and she got mad at him because he doesn't respect me. So just the other day he called and said he wasn't coming over any more.....is there any hope??
Sammy there would be, but I'd need to know a whole history. I guarantee he'll miss you, and when he does, that's an opportunity to change the dynamic.
Mark Rosenfeld. ok well when I met him it was purly a physical attraction. when we initally connected, he was VERY charming. I thought wow this guy is amazing. Within 2 months, everything changed, he told me at or around this time that he was not interested in a relationship. Of course I held on to hope that he might change. He never did. I eventually got used to the idea that it would never be a relationship and somehow it continued for 6 years! I've only been noticing a few small changes over the past few months. He actually moved into the building across the street from me(he used to live in the other side of town where he'd take a 1 hour bus ride to get here) so I naturally assumed he would be here more often. Nope! Anyway I hope this info helps a bit.....
Ahh Jees. Ok there's a lot going on here. Are you able to book in with me on Skype? I think we'd really need that to be able to give this complex situation the respect it deserves. Mark@makehimyours.com.au if you'd like to do that.
Mark Rosenfeld it won't let me add u
Mark Rosenfeld I messaged you on your Facebook page
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Hope you enjoyed Nina :)
Seen u sooo long after..
I hear make the sex phenomenal - like grab his clothes push him up against the wall whilst flirting a bit get a bit of throwing about going - if it’s that - I cant be doing that my heart would explode from
Anxiety hahaha
Could you talk about divorced Middle-aged men and their fear of commitment
I can do Tammy! What specifically?
Mark Rosenfeld I’m a 49 yo divorced mother of 3 who is feels ready to date again etc. I’ve been chatting/hanging out with a man I knew from high school. He has always been a super kind person and fun to be with. He had his heart broken by his ex wife and has been alone for about 16 years with no other girlfriends at all. He has admitted he is scared of being hurt again and unsure what he wants. I understand his feelings but wonder if I should just cut my loses now. He initiates contact with me. We are sexually active but not until we had been seeing each other for approx 4 mos. I’m curious if all of your dating tips apply to mid-life daters as well or if there are a whole other set of rules. I was married for 20 yrs so I’m pretty clueless about this. Sorry this is so long.
Why not a video on how to begin a relationship properly? Like, actually starting out where both want a relationship. That'd be better. 😂
catch you again ☺
Will do Jemma. Hah
I just emailed you....waiting for ur reply
Thanks Samuel!
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Thankyou rb