Most empathetic and sensitive people are often the targets of people with narcissistic traits. Because nobody else is gonna put up with their bullshit. It's very sad the best of human beings end up with low self esteem and self worth just because they are dealing with a narcissistic person. This low self esteem makes them attached or addicted to the person, which is what gives power to the narcissist. Once traumatised by a narcissist, the 'victim' has a tendancy to get attracted to other narcissistic people. Taking therapy can save you from regaining your self worth and be protected from narcissism.
Got married to an extremely charming narcissitic boy and had to deal with narcisstic in-laws. Tolerated emotional and financial abuse for 6 years until they claimed that I am crazy. Had to take therapy to regain my mental health. Now divorced, happy, blooming and peaceful. Escape guys!!!! They are not going to change!!!
How we know more about it, i dnt know, iam also In the verge of divorce. I dnt whether i Or him, who is the real problem, i can't find the answer . He went to everyone and told that i am having the problem. He is a victim. Actually now he made me think i have some problem.😢
Glad that you have done a video on NPD. It's true that nowadays people are more aware of physiological disorders and dealing well with them. One thing I want to add is, when you react to the tantrum of an NPD person they will act like a victim.
sorry you have to go through that, love. I understand that more than anything. The best thing you can do is to be financially independent and move out. Consider a good therapist. There are good therapists out there, but still, there are therapists who will understand your current situation.. Everything will be fine. Them being a family member is not an excuse for the things they do to you.
@@logicallyConfused4722 Thanku for your kind words. Actually my mom is the one taking care of the family.. My father never spend a single penny for us. He is also an alcoholic. He is nice to my mom. She supports me a lot.. After completing my graduation, he kicked me out of the house. Then i found a job in ekm and i was working there for almost 1yr. He contacted me several times. He apologised to me and said he will never make the mistakes again.. I'm preparing for cat mba entrance exam. Now i'm in my home.. Taking a break from job. It seems like my father is the same as before. He doesn't even feel guilty. Repeating the mistakes again and again... After the entrance exam i will move out to somewhere.
എൻ്റെ പിതാവ് ഈ type ആയിരുന്നു വളരെ Manipulative ആയിരുന്നു ഞാനും മാനസിക സമ്മർദ്ധത്തിലായിരുന്നു പിന്നീട് അയാളുടെ ചെറ്റതരങ്ങൾ ഞാൻ അറിഞ്ഞു പിന്നീട് അയാളെ എനിക്ക് അംഗീകരിക്കാൻ സാധിച്ചില്ല അയാളുടെ മുഖം മൂടി തകർന്നുവീണു അയാൾ ആത്മഹത്യക്ക് ശ്രമം നടത്തി അതിനാൽ ഞാൻ ഇത്തിരി പിൻമാറി എന്നാലും അമിതമായി എന്നെ പിടിപ്പിച്ചു പിന്നെ ഞാനും വിട്ടുകൊടുത്തില്ല അയാൾ ചെയ്ത ചെറ്റതരങ്ങൾ ഒന്നൊന്നായി പറഞ്ഞു ഞാനും അയാൾക്ക് സമ്മർദ്ധം കൊടുത്തു പിന്നിട് എന്നെ കൊല്ലാൻ ശ്രമിച്ചു തലനാരിഴക്ക് അയാളുടെ കത്തിയിൽ നിന്ന് രക്ഷപെട്ടു ശേഷം അപകടകാരിയാണെന്ന് മനസിലാക്കി ഞാൻ അയാളെ തിരിച്ച്‌ ആക്രമിച്ച് കീഴ്പെടുത്തി പിന്നീട് എൻ്റെ പെങ്ങളുടെ വിവാഹത്തിന് വരാതെ അവളുടെ താലികെട്ടിൻ്റെ സമയം നോക്കി അയാൾ ആത്മഹത്യ ശ്രമം നടത്തി അപകടം മണത്ത ഞാൻ കൂട്ടുകാരെ എൻ്റെ വീട്ടിലേക്ക് പറഞ്ഞ് വിട്ടതിനാൽ അന്ന് രക്ഷപെട്ടു പിന്നീട് മാസങ്ങൾക്ക് ശേഷം പിന്നെയും ശ്രമം നടത്തി അമ്മ അന്ന് വീട്ടിൽ ഉണ്ടായിരുന്നതിനാൽ രക്ഷപെട്ടു പിന്നീട് മാസങ്ങൾക്ക് ശേഷം അയാൾ ആ ഉദ്യമത്തിൽ വിജയ്ച്ചു ആദ്യത്തെ ഏതാനും മാസം എനിക്ക് വളരെ സങ്കടം ഉണ്ടായിരുന്നെങ്കിലും പിന്നീട് ഞാൻ മനസിലാക്കി ഇയാൾ പണ്ടേ ചത്തിരുന്നെങ്കിൽ എത്രയോ ന്നന്നായിരുന്നേനെ എന്ന് പിന്നിട് എൻ്റെ അമ്മ സന്തോഷവതിയായി ഞാനും മികച്ച ഒരു വ്യക്തിയായി അത് കൊണ്ട് ഈ കമൻ്റ് വായിക്കുന്ന ആരെങ്കിലും ഇത്തരകാരുടെ ഇരയാണെങ്കിൽ എത്രയും വേഗം തടി തപ്പുക അദ്യം നിങ്ങൾ ചിന്തിക്കും നിങ്ങൾക്ക് എന്തോ നഷ്ടപെട്ടു എന്ന് പിന്നീട് നിങ്ങൾക്ക് മനസിലാവും നിങ്ങൾ സ്വാതന്ത്ര്യത്തിലേക്ക് രക്ഷപെടുകയായിരുന്നു എന്ന്
@@Gayathri361 me too (very much) and hence whatever I express is my own life's tries, efforts, re-tries in healing my *self*., I try because I realised none else even my mother who carried in her womb don't realise I'm also a life and I also need a space for self expression and expansion and specially nurturing., so I started meditating and Researching since past 10 years and was internally guided to practice realigning my motherly connection to mother nature (because if giving timely food is what a mother’s active role is then i received it most (*with nourishment*) and all time availability from mother nature.. എല്ലാ uyirinum സമാധാനം വേണം, അത് സ്വയം കൊടുക്കാന്‍ ഞാന്‍ പഠിക്കുന്നു and I'm learning it at my 35th age., because എന്റെ അമ്മ and elder sister plus my father and the work authority figure whom I chose all had this pattern of NPD., so I lately realised that I'm a person with severe low self worth and I seek for external validation for my self's contentment., which is impossible to attain., so now I see mother nature and my own efforts as the source of my internal peace and contentment I very well relate what you're going through because of my own experiences., give your*self* the chance to break that chain and *at least you* be kind to your soul
Yes💯 ഇത്തരം സന്ദർഭങ്ങളിൽ ഈ പറഞ്ഞ പോലെയുള്ള ടിപ്സ് ഒക്കെ തന്നെയാണ് ഉപയോഗിക്കാറ Especially സംസാരിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കുന്ന സന്ദർഭങ്ങളിൽ തെറ്റ് പറ്റിപ്പോയെന്ന് ഒരിക്കലും സമ്മതിച്ചു തരാറില്ല അത് നേരെ മറിച്ച് നമ്മൾ തലയിലേക്ക് ഇട്ടു തരാനാണ് എപ്പോഴും ശ്രമിക്കാറ് Highly manipulating ഈ ടിപ്സ് ഒക്കെ ഉപയോഗിച്ച് പോകുന്നതുകൊണ്ട് വലിയ ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടൊന്നുമില്ല അങ്ങനെ പോണു😁 പ്രായത്തിന്റെ പ്രശ്നമാണ് എന്നാണ് ആദ്യം വിചാരിച്ചത് പിന്നീട് ഞാൻ അതിനെക്കുറിച്ചൊന്നും ഇതുപോലെ റിസർച്ച് ചെയ്തിട്ടുണ്ടായിരുന്നു
I had a NPD friend( itvwas a combination of NPD/ Saddistic), and I was the victim. I didn't knew she was NPD at that time, but once I cut my relationship with her, I have a peaceful life.
3:06 "Take ownership of your mistake take ownership of your shortfalls take ownership of your problems and take ownership of the solutions that will get those problems solved"
Hi dear. Thanks for the video. I’m dealing with a person who has NPD and it’s very difficult to live with them. As you said very exhausting, each day becomes very difficult.
Yes I'm dealing with my narcissistic dad 🙂ee cheriya age il njn ath manassilaakki munppott pokunnundd..And now I'm clear about how to deal with that and my anxiety. Thanks viya❤
I'm a person with NPD, and very recently I accepted it. I dont know why, but in the beginning stages of a relationship (of any kind) I unconsciously act like someone they would fall in love. The opposite person would feel like I'm the person of their dreams. It happens because a narcissist can easily understand someone's weakness so easily. It's actually after they get attached to us we gradually show the person who we really are. They are trapped at this moment that they love us a lot and at the same time get depressed and exhausted. I've seen my ex cry infront of me and I stood their unempathetic and thought why is he crying for such silly reasons. Silent treatment is my only option and I did that more often. Since I acknowledged my problem I now started avoiding people for their sake, I dont know how long it is possible. The main catch is that I never felt any sort of guilt or remorse naturally in me. Now I just accept that 'oh that person is sad because of me' but I am living a happy life. So i dont know why I should get treated. Its soo confusing!!!
@@RahulRaj-up5ql I had traumas but i'm not sure if that's why i'm like this. I'm not feeling sad. Itz other people feeling sad and blame me for their sadness. If some one blame me i say like 'so you can leave and be happy, why do you still choose to be with me and complain about making them in this situation.'
@@RahulRaj-up5ql if i get tired of their complaints and choose to leave myself it is them who come back and beg to be together. I dont know if its true, but people get addicted to a narcissist and cannot think about leaving them. Most of the complaints i have heard is that, 'i dont love them enough' .. 'i'm not understanding their feelings' But in reality it is- I love them and understand them but i dont want to act according to how they prefer.
@@googgleyySilence is the best option.....soonly they will attached to anyone else and in that mean time they will blame you in everything but its only a short time..
My close friend had a friend whom we believe is narcissistic. His behaviours include 1. He was against her involving in a romantic relation with a person because he thought only he had rights on her and the thought that she will be more close to her bf frightened him.He verbally abused and slut shamed her for even thinking about a romantic relation while he himself was dating someone. 2. He was only 3 years elder than us. So he considered us as small kids who knew nothing ( we were in clg). He said that several times and thought that whatever decision we make without consulting him are wrong. 3. We cannot disagree with him on any topic. He believes that he knows everything under the sun and all others who have a different opinion are wrong. ( Like he used to say that I would get married by 23 even though it is my life and I'm sure I'll not) 4. He is very good at talking. He will manipulate us always and make us believe he is right, he is superior to us, and we are lucky to have a friend like him 5. He had many friends who later left him because of his behaviour. Most of them are girls. He spread fake stories about them to other random people which have an image of him as a poor guy and the friend as an evil one. 6. Finally My friend decided to cut the friendship with him. His behaviour was too much after that. Even after telling him his mistakes his point was that you are leaving me even after loving and caring for you so much and was playing the victim. It was so difficult for her to come out of the so-called friendship. If any of you are dealing with a narcissistic person, please leave him/ her and come out of the relationship. There is no point in explaining and giving second chances to them.
My elder brother is with narcissistic personality..I am not financially independent ,i depend on him for money..now I will get a part time job soon , so I could escape from him.. because I always feel he enjoy my pain, force me to take family role as ( Nathoon). I am so tired..it's start from my childhood. Manipulation, create drama, always blame me for silly issues ..i don't know now days I used the trick that viya said , don't give them so much attention and don't take it personally. Ages ago i cry night's remember what he said ...his words are heart breaker 💔.I know that he is the person who save our family from poverty..but it's not the tool to torture some ones feelings.
I remember watching this and trying to see if i am a narcissist 😊 then by the end of the video I thought.. “oh man what a plight it would be to be in a relationship with a narcissist, good that no one i know is”. Now am rewatching this after marriage broke with a narcissist who i loved so much without seeing through it earlier, even when i watched this video sitting next to him 😊 Thanks
Being with Narcissist is the worst thing one can experience...I had faced that for a few months and those memories are still haunting me not only that after keeping my distance the person did close to everything to destroy my mental peace manipulating nearly every others common between us by playing victim card...The saddest thing is when you realise about their traits they had already done damage to your life
Npd ulla gf/bf undel oodi rakshappedanam athanu nallath. Friend aanelum aa relation ozhivakkunnathil thettilla. Break up aanu namale mental health nu nallath. Viya paranja pole npd ullavare deal cheyyanavaraanu treatment nu pokunnath. Ente ex nu problem undaarunnu. Enganeyo aa relationship il ninnu purath vannu.
Ente husband n husband nte achan..ithil husband nekkal valare malignant anu achan.ath pole 25 years ente bestfriend ayrunna aal.ivare deal cheyyan ulla budhimut pole vere onnumilla.thakarth kalayum nammale.ithil 2 pere complete ay ozhivakya sesham samdhanam kity
Some people along with narcissistic trait tend to have other personality traits such as machiavellianism and psychopathy (part of the dark triad). These people are absolutely awful to deal with. But for whatever reason some people (especially women) are attracted to persons who possess these dark traits.
Ivide kuree phycologist maar und orugunavum illa ,npd victim aanu ennu parannu avarude aduthekk pooyal avar nammale accept cheyyilla very sad reality,in my personal experience compleate emotional dittachment is the first step of dealing with a npd pinne nammal art of not giving fuckinte paadagal ooronai padich thudagum,later namukk npdum aayi oru dittached attachment build cheyyavunnathaanu,dettached attachment is the most effective way of living with an npd
Yes. Most of the therapists don't agree with us. They says that we are misguided by youtube videos. And they ask us to work on forgiving when our trauma is not yet healed. They ask us to not to talk like an advocate when our basic human rights are violated. I changed my therapist and saved myself.
Oh i really needed this one. I now understand that all the issues i face lately was due to that person with me suffering this disorder. Actually i was worried that all these problems are happening because of me. I thought i was the one creating problems. Bt now i understand things!! Thankyou so much lady. Like i wasnt able to concentrate in my studies, I actually have my semester exam tomorrow and just yesterday did that person blamed me for things that i have never even thought of. I was feeling so scared even to talk because i think i would end up hurting her. Bt just relieved so much after seeing this. So its because im so emotional and put lots of efforst in saving up relationships. So im jst trying to not take things to my heart. Thankyou♥️ love and repect to both u and unni chettan♥️
I had a close friend had NPD. Whenever i tried to point out a mistake, she always find a way to redirect it and always give silence treatment, she never want to talk out problem and always tried to hurt with words.
Ente best friend aayirunna kutty narcissistic aayirunn... 6,7 kollam edth ath manassilakkanum oodi rakshapedaanum.... Head to toe lie aan avr,karachil ellom kaanumbo 2 pottikkan thonnum ipo😅😅😅
Ohhh my godd!!! I just realised I was going through the same with one of my closest friends. I am not close with the person anymore but the points Viya said about constant admiration, validation, cannot take criticism, attraction towards power, beauty and status.. now your comment about them being head to toe lies.. 🤯🤯🤯
So true And yah if you are going through a lot Follow these therapists and learn more from their TH-cam channels 1 ) Dr Susan Korath 2) Bodhi psych services 3 ) Dr Ramani (english) 4) Danish Bashir (English and Hindi mixed)
I don't think being empathetic with narcissists works. The only way to deal with narcissists is going DEEP as said by Dr Ramani. Do not Defend, Engage, Explain or Personalize!
I understand your point, also, when I said empathetic I didn’t mean to act on it, but instead of taking them personally understand the way they are. That’s one kind of empathy.
Most empathetic and sensitive people are often the targets of people with narcissistic traits. Because nobody else is gonna put up with their bullshit. It's very sad the best of human beings end up with low self esteem and self worth just because they are dealing with a narcissistic person. This low self esteem makes them attached or addicted to the person, which is what gives power to the narcissist. Once traumatised by a narcissist, the 'victim' has a tendancy to get attracted to other narcissistic people. Taking therapy can save you from regaining your self worth and be protected from narcissism.
I so agree with you. 😢
Sathyam anubhavam ind 💔💔💔
Got married to an extremely charming narcissitic boy and had to deal with narcisstic in-laws. Tolerated emotional and financial abuse for 6 years until they claimed that I am crazy. Had to take therapy to regain my mental health. Now divorced, happy, blooming and peaceful. Escape guys!!!! They are not going to change!!!
I had gone through a lot by living with my NPD husband. Now, got seperated. Feeling an eternal happiness now.
How we know more about it, i dnt know, iam also In the verge of divorce. I dnt whether i Or him, who is the real problem, i can't find the answer . He went to everyone and told that i am having the problem. He is a victim. Actually now he made me think i have some problem.😢
Glad that you have done a video on NPD. It's true that nowadays people are more aware of physiological disorders and dealing well with them. One thing I want to add is, when you react to the tantrum of an NPD person they will act like a victim.
In my case my father is the biggest narcissit i have ever seen. My life was hell because of him.. Whenever i see him i get anxiety attack.
sorry you have to go through that, love. I understand that more than anything. The best thing you can do is to be financially independent and move out. Consider a good therapist. There are good therapists out there, but still, there are therapists who will understand your current situation.. Everything will be fine. Them being a family member is not an excuse for the things they do to you.
@@logicallyConfused4722 Thanku for your kind words. Actually my mom is the one taking care of the family.. My father never spend a single penny for us. He is also an alcoholic. He is nice to my mom. She supports me a lot.. After completing my graduation, he kicked me out of the house. Then i found a job in ekm and i was working there for almost 1yr. He contacted me several times. He apologised to me and said he will never make the mistakes again.. I'm preparing for cat mba entrance exam. Now i'm in my home.. Taking a break from job. It seems like my father is the same as before. He doesn't even feel guilty. Repeating the mistakes again and again... After the entrance exam i will move out to somewhere.
Take therapy stay strong 🙏
One of my close relativenu npd ind.. Situations (examples)
1: epozhuum central authority avru ariknm ennu nirbandhama..like oru function poyaal avarod elarum mindanm ..if njano ammayo arodelum mindiyaal pettanu idak keri vann centre of attraction um aavum topicum matum😅
2: Ella karyavum avaru arinje chyavu..avarod paranjille pinne pala paniyum tharum
3: avar paranja course edukathond pinne kure kalam mindathe irikkuka..
4:pappa marichenu shesham familylu oru major problem varunnu..elder one enna nilel avark ath solve chyn patumarnenkilum onnum cheythe nokki ninn
Kurach sankadam abhinayichu kaanich athra matram
4: ethelum family lu amma -makkal or husband nd wife happy ayi irikkunna kanunne avark entho budimutta
5:avark kurach health issues ind..athukond thanne medicine okke kazhikande situation vere oralkku vanna nalla santhosha..
6: oru help cheyth thannit eppozhum oru adima kanakkinu treat chyne ..cheytha help thirich kittanam angane okke ind..
7:eppozhum kazhivu ilathavre pole nammale treat cheyuka..angane thanne elarem paranj thettidharippikuka...
8: nalla paisa ind..but nere thiricha abhinayam..ishtampole dress vaangi idum but njangal nalla thuni ittal pinne vallatha oru nottava..entho evide oru egoo
9: namle patti vere oralde adukkal kuttam parayuka..
Ivrde makkalum life partnernem ivide under la ...avru parayane pole cheyyatholuu
Pala dhrohavum ariyaathe cheyuka...nammal ath manasilakiyalum pinnem namde eduth vann samsarich naml parayaathe oro help oke cheyth naml ariyaathe namle vashathakum😅
I had similar experience with a NPD
എൻ്റെ പിതാവ് ഈ type ആയിരുന്നു വളരെ Manipulative ആയിരുന്നു ഞാനും മാനസിക സമ്മർദ്ധത്തിലായിരുന്നു പിന്നീട് അയാളുടെ ചെറ്റതരങ്ങൾ ഞാൻ അറിഞ്ഞു പിന്നീട് അയാളെ എനിക്ക് അംഗീകരിക്കാൻ സാധിച്ചില്ല അയാളുടെ മുഖം മൂടി തകർന്നുവീണു അയാൾ ആത്മഹത്യക്ക് ശ്രമം നടത്തി അതിനാൽ ഞാൻ ഇത്തിരി പിൻമാറി എന്നാലും അമിതമായി എന്നെ പിടിപ്പിച്ചു പിന്നെ ഞാനും വിട്ടുകൊടുത്തില്ല അയാൾ ചെയ്ത ചെറ്റതരങ്ങൾ ഒന്നൊന്നായി പറഞ്ഞു ഞാനും അയാൾക്ക് സമ്മർദ്ധം കൊടുത്തു പിന്നിട് എന്നെ കൊല്ലാൻ ശ്രമിച്ചു തലനാരിഴക്ക് അയാളുടെ കത്തിയിൽ നിന്ന് രക്ഷപെട്ടു ശേഷം അപകടകാരിയാണെന്ന് മനസിലാക്കി ഞാൻ അയാളെ തിരിച്ച്‌ ആക്രമിച്ച് കീഴ്പെടുത്തി പിന്നീട് എൻ്റെ പെങ്ങളുടെ വിവാഹത്തിന് വരാതെ അവളുടെ താലികെട്ടിൻ്റെ സമയം നോക്കി അയാൾ ആത്മഹത്യ ശ്രമം നടത്തി അപകടം മണത്ത ഞാൻ കൂട്ടുകാരെ എൻ്റെ വീട്ടിലേക്ക് പറഞ്ഞ് വിട്ടതിനാൽ അന്ന് രക്ഷപെട്ടു പിന്നീട് മാസങ്ങൾക്ക് ശേഷം പിന്നെയും ശ്രമം നടത്തി അമ്മ അന്ന് വീട്ടിൽ ഉണ്ടായിരുന്നതിനാൽ രക്ഷപെട്ടു പിന്നീട് മാസങ്ങൾക്ക് ശേഷം അയാൾ ആ ഉദ്യമത്തിൽ വിജയ്ച്ചു ആദ്യത്തെ ഏതാനും മാസം എനിക്ക് വളരെ സങ്കടം ഉണ്ടായിരുന്നെങ്കിലും പിന്നീട് ഞാൻ മനസിലാക്കി ഇയാൾ പണ്ടേ ചത്തിരുന്നെങ്കിൽ എത്രയോ ന്നന്നായിരുന്നേനെ എന്ന് പിന്നിട് എൻ്റെ അമ്മ സന്തോഷവതിയായി ഞാനും മികച്ച ഒരു വ്യക്തിയായി അത് കൊണ്ട് ഈ കമൻ്റ് വായിക്കുന്ന ആരെങ്കിലും ഇത്തരകാരുടെ ഇരയാണെങ്കിൽ എത്രയും വേഗം തടി തപ്പുക അദ്യം നിങ്ങൾ ചിന്തിക്കും നിങ്ങൾക്ക് എന്തോ നഷ്ടപെട്ടു എന്ന് പിന്നീട് നിങ്ങൾക്ക് മനസിലാവും നിങ്ങൾ സ്വാതന്ത്ര്യത്തിലേക്ക് രക്ഷപെടുകയായിരുന്നു എന്ന്
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Viyaa ❤
Can you please do a video on NPD mother-daughter relationship..i think,it is one of the painful relationships in the world..
Truly true
Indeed
@@Gayathri361 it's a determined decision away, whether to choose happiness or be in misery..
May you choose good for yourself
@@Gayathri361 me too (very much) and hence whatever I express is my own life's tries, efforts, re-tries in healing my *self*., I try because I realised none else even my mother who carried in her womb don't realise I'm also a life and I also need a space for self expression and expansion and specially nurturing., so I started meditating and Researching since past 10 years and was internally guided to practice realigning my motherly connection to mother nature (because if giving timely food is what a mother’s active role is then i received it most (*with nourishment*) and all time availability from mother nature..
എല്ലാ uyirinum സമാധാനം വേണം, അത് സ്വയം കൊടുക്കാന്‍ ഞാന്‍ പഠിക്കുന്നു and I'm learning it at my 35th age., because എന്റെ അമ്മ and elder sister plus my father and the work authority figure whom I chose all had this pattern of NPD., so I lately realised that I'm a person with severe low self worth and I seek for external validation for my self's contentment., which is impossible to attain., so now I see mother nature and my own efforts as the source of my internal peace and contentment
I very well relate what you're going through because of my own experiences., give your*self* the chance to break that chain and *at least you* be kind to your soul
@@Gayathri361sorry dear. I can understand. Actually its very hard to find who is actually having that. I am still confused n that case
Please do more videos about mental health issues
Yes💯 ഇത്തരം സന്ദർഭങ്ങളിൽ ഈ പറഞ്ഞ പോലെയുള്ള ടിപ്സ് ഒക്കെ തന്നെയാണ് ഉപയോഗിക്കാറ
Especially സംസാരിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കുന്ന സന്ദർഭങ്ങളിൽ
തെറ്റ് പറ്റിപ്പോയെന്ന് ഒരിക്കലും സമ്മതിച്ചു തരാറില്ല അത് നേരെ മറിച്ച് നമ്മൾ തലയിലേക്ക് ഇട്ടു
തരാനാണ് എപ്പോഴും ശ്രമിക്കാറ്
Highly manipulating
ഈ ടിപ്സ് ഒക്കെ ഉപയോഗിച്ച് പോകുന്നതുകൊണ്ട് വലിയ ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടൊന്നുമില്ല അങ്ങനെ പോണു😁
പ്രായത്തിന്റെ പ്രശ്നമാണ് എന്നാണ് ആദ്യം വിചാരിച്ചത് പിന്നീട് ഞാൻ അതിനെക്കുറിച്ചൊന്നും ഇതുപോലെ റിസർച്ച് ചെയ്തിട്ടുണ്ടായിരുന്നു
I had a NPD friend( itvwas a combination of NPD/ Saddistic), and I was the victim. I didn't knew she was NPD at that time, but once I cut my relationship with her, I have a peaceful life.
3:06
"Take ownership of your mistake
take ownership of your shortfalls
take ownership of your problems
and take ownership of the solutions that will get those problems solved"
Hi dear. Thanks for the video. I’m dealing with a person who has NPD and it’s very difficult to live with them. As you said very exhausting, each day becomes very difficult.
Viya can you do a detailed video about bipolar disorder
Yes I'm dealing with my narcissistic dad 🙂ee cheriya age il njn ath manassilaakki munppott pokunnundd..And now I'm clear about how to deal with that and my anxiety. Thanks viya❤
I'm a person with NPD, and very recently I accepted it. I dont know why, but in the beginning stages of a relationship (of any kind) I unconsciously act like someone they would fall in love. The opposite person would feel like I'm the person of their dreams. It happens because a narcissist can easily understand someone's weakness so easily. It's actually after they get attached to us we gradually show the person who we really are. They are trapped at this moment that they love us a lot and at the same time get depressed and exhausted. I've seen my ex cry infront of me and I stood their unempathetic and thought why is he crying for such silly reasons. Silent treatment is my only option and I did that more often. Since I acknowledged my problem I now started avoiding people for their sake, I dont know how long it is possible. The main catch is that I never felt any sort of guilt or remorse naturally in me. Now I just accept that 'oh that person is sad because of me' but I am living a happy life. So i dont know why I should get treated. Its soo confusing!!!
What about your childhood and ur life, did u face any traumas in your life, Actually i dnt know that's y asking...
@@RahulRaj-up5ql I had traumas but i'm not sure if that's why i'm like this. I'm not feeling sad. Itz other people feeling sad and blame me for their sadness. If some one blame me i say like 'so you can leave and be happy, why do you still choose to be with me and complain about making them in this situation.'
@@RahulRaj-up5ql if i get tired of their complaints and choose to leave myself it is them who come back and beg to be together.
I dont know if its true, but people get addicted to a narcissist and cannot think about leaving them.
Most of the complaints i have heard is that, 'i dont love them enough' .. 'i'm not understanding their feelings'
But in reality it is- I love them and understand them but i dont want to act according to how they prefer.
@@googgleyySilence is the best option.....soonly they will attached to anyone else and in that mean time they will blame you in everything but its only a short time..
@@googgleyy true. I can understand you.
Very very valid points and I have seen same things in my life
My close friend had a friend whom we believe is narcissistic. His behaviours include
1. He was against her involving in a romantic relation with a person because he thought only he had rights on her and the thought that she will be more close to her bf frightened him.He verbally abused and slut shamed her for even thinking about a romantic relation while he himself was dating someone.
2. He was only 3 years elder than us. So he considered us as small kids who knew nothing ( we were in clg). He said that several times and thought that whatever decision we make without consulting him are wrong.
3. We cannot disagree with him on any topic. He believes that he knows everything under the sun and all others who have a different opinion are wrong. ( Like he used to say that I would get married by 23 even though it is my life and I'm sure I'll not)
4. He is very good at talking. He will manipulate us always and make us believe he is right, he is superior to us, and we are lucky to have a friend like him
5. He had many friends who later left him because of his behaviour. Most of them are girls. He spread fake stories about them to other random people which have an image of him as a poor guy and the friend as an evil one.
6. Finally My friend decided to cut the friendship with him. His behaviour was too much after that. Even after telling him his mistakes his point was that you are leaving me even after loving and caring for you so much and was playing the victim. It was so difficult for her to come out of the so-called friendship.
If any of you are dealing with a narcissistic person, please leave him/ her and come out of the relationship. There is no point in explaining and giving second chances to them.
This is soo truee!! Thanks viya❤
Your skin is glowing viya...pls do an updated skincare routine ❤ anyway very informative vedio viya.
It’s evidently make up. Thumbnail kandaal ariyam 😂
@@meenu5920didn't get your joke 😂🙄
Well explained !!!
My elder brother is with narcissistic personality..I am not financially independent ,i depend on him for money..now I will get a part time job soon , so I could escape from him.. because I always feel he enjoy my pain, force me to take family role as ( Nathoon). I am so tired..it's start from my childhood. Manipulation, create drama, always blame me for silly issues ..i don't know now days I used the trick that viya said , don't give them so much attention and don't take it personally. Ages ago i cry night's remember what he said ...his words are heart breaker 💔.I know that he is the person who save our family from poverty..but it's not the tool to torture some ones feelings.
I was waiting for this one viya thankyouuuu❤
11:11 This is so true
Thank you for sharing., creating healthy boundaries is very crucial
I remember watching this and trying to see if i am a narcissist 😊 then by the end of the video I thought.. “oh man what a plight it would be to be in a relationship with a narcissist, good that no one i know is”.
Now am rewatching this after marriage broke with a narcissist who i loved so much without seeing through it earlier, even when i watched this video sitting next to him 😊
Thanks
I always feared that am i narcissistic.....
I understood I'm not by seeing this video. Thankyou for helping ❤
Thank you so much Viya❤ for taking this topic !
Can you make a video on borderline personality disorder
Thanks for this video🥺❤
Being with Narcissist is the worst thing one can experience...I had faced that for a few months and those memories are still haunting me not only that after keeping my distance the person did close to everything to destroy my mental peace manipulating nearly every others common between us by playing victim card...The saddest thing is when you realise about their traits they had already done damage to your life
Thankyou for choosing this topic viya... Looking forward for more mental health related videos from you ❤ love the way u present it so fluently
A narcissit can influence others to be come a narcissit
ella symptoms um nallapole relate cheyyan patunnund. ente swabhavam vech njan ith sammathich tharaarilla. pakshe entho... ivide parayanamenn thonni.
extremly introverted aayathinaal njan kaaranam adhikam aalukalkk budhimuttundaavilla enn thonunnu. koodiyal 2. enikk enth cheyyanam enn manasilaakunnilla
Therapy is the only solution
What you said is 200% true.. People who deal with them goes for therapy🥹🥹🥹
I am so proud that a came out from a relationship with a narc .but it was traumatic
Thank you for this 🙏nd yuu looks gorgeous today ❤️
Npd ulla gf/bf undel oodi rakshappedanam athanu nallath. Friend aanelum aa relation ozhivakkunnathil thettilla. Break up aanu namale mental health nu nallath. Viya paranja pole npd ullavare deal cheyyanavaraanu treatment nu pokunnath. Ente ex nu problem undaarunnu. Enganeyo aa relationship il ninnu purath vannu.
Ente husband n husband nte achan..ithil husband nekkal valare malignant anu achan.ath pole 25 years ente bestfriend ayrunna aal.ivare deal cheyyan ulla budhimut pole vere onnumilla.thakarth kalayum nammale.ithil 2 pere complete ay ozhivakya sesham samdhanam kity
Thanks for this video.❤
Thankyou so much viya.i have realised that I have npd
Nyc topic🤗❤
Some people along with narcissistic trait tend to have other personality traits such as machiavellianism and psychopathy (part of the dark triad). These people are absolutely awful to deal with. But for whatever reason some people (especially women) are attracted to persons who possess these dark traits.
New information ❤️thank u viya🤗
Ivide kuree phycologist maar und orugunavum illa ,npd victim aanu ennu parannu avarude aduthekk pooyal avar nammale accept cheyyilla very sad reality,in my personal experience compleate emotional dittachment is the first step of dealing with a npd pinne nammal art of not giving fuckinte paadagal ooronai padich thudagum,later namukk npdum aayi oru dittached attachment build cheyyavunnathaanu,dettached attachment is the most effective way of living with an npd
Yes. Most of the therapists don't agree with us. They says that we are misguided by youtube videos. And they ask us to work on forgiving when our trauma is not yet healed. They ask us to not to talk like an advocate when our basic human rights are violated. I changed my therapist and saved myself.
@@gahanaclive128can you suggest any good therapists?
@@schrodingerscat7247 . Dr Susan Koruthu.
Good topic..👌
Yes. I also have gone through similar situations in my life
My Grandmother
We want daily videos viyaaaaaa❤️
*what a comeback from viya🔥*
*6 മണി കഴിഞ്ഞു കാണുന്നവർ ഉണ്ടോ🥳*
Ithum single aayi irikkunnathum thammil enth bandham??
ഒരു Assemble! ആണ് സാധാരണ 😅 ഇന്നെന്ത് പറ്റിയോ ആവോ
@@aneesharavind2343 comment maattiyatha. Adhyathe ithalla 🤣🤣🤣
@@ammu_jyothi സ്ഥിരം tactics 😂 ഇനി സൊല്പം time പിടിക്കാം
Thank you, thanks a lot
Much needed vedio
very true
Oh i really needed this one. I now understand that all the issues i face lately was due to that person with me suffering this disorder. Actually i was worried that all these problems are happening because of me. I thought i was the one creating problems. Bt now i understand things!! Thankyou so much lady. Like i wasnt able to concentrate in my studies, I actually have my semester exam tomorrow and just yesterday did that person blamed me for things that i have never even thought of.
I was feeling so scared even to talk because i think i would end up hurting her. Bt just relieved so much after seeing this. So its because im so emotional and put lots of efforst in saving up relationships. So im jst trying to not take things to my heart.
Thankyou♥️ love and repect to both u and unni chettan♥️
Eppo 1 and half year aayi silent treatment phase l aan athond kurach samadhaanam und...
I had a close friend had NPD. Whenever i tried to point out a mistake, she always find a way to redirect it and always give silence treatment, she never want to talk out problem and always tried to hurt with words.
I have toxic, dark and narcissistic traits because ot trauma 😮
Can you do a video on hypothyroidism
കവർട്ട് നാർസിസ്റ്റിനെ മറ്റുള്ളവർക്ക് മനസിലാക്കികൊടുക്കാനാകില്ല. നമ്മുടെ സുഹൃത്തുക്കൾ നമ്മൾക്ക് വട്ടാണെന്ന് പറയും . അങ്ങനെ സെറ്റാക്കും
I have been in a family full of narcissists it is running in the family mainly mine is a joint family n im glad im out of it....!!!!!!
Can you do a video on how to deal with a victim of narcissistic abuse?
Deshyam enna vikaram manushyanu avashyamulla timil prakadippikkenda onnanu... Deshyapettu ennathintae peril NPD label cheyyynna alukal keralathil undu.
Njan 1 year psychologist nte couselling l ayrunu.escape akan nokuanu ipo.but veruthe vidunna lakshanamilla
Dress evide ninna ?
What to do first day at college
Ithine petty oru video cheyamo??
Pls
They dont need so sympathy or empathy
Ente best friend aayirunna kutty narcissistic aayirunn... 6,7 kollam edth ath manassilakkanum oodi rakshapedaanum.... Head to toe lie aan avr,karachil ellom kaanumbo 2 pottikkan thonnum ipo😅😅😅
Ohhh my godd!!! I just realised I was going through the same with one of my closest friends. I am not close with the person anymore but the points Viya said about constant admiration, validation, cannot take criticism, attraction towards power, beauty and status.. now your comment about them being head to toe lies.. 🤯🤯🤯
Mere pyare deshvasiom...
Sathyam 🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Is Harvey in suit series Narcissistic???
So true
And yah if you are going through a lot
Follow these therapists and learn more from their TH-cam channels
1 ) Dr Susan Korath
2) Bodhi psych services
3 ) Dr Ramani (english)
4) Danish Bashir (English and Hindi mixed)
I don't think being empathetic with narcissists works. The only way to deal with narcissists is going DEEP as said by Dr Ramani. Do not Defend, Engage, Explain or Personalize!
I understand your point, also, when I said empathetic I didn’t mean to act on it, but instead of taking them personally understand the way they are. That’s one kind of empathy.
How can I contact you to talk
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You joined on zoom call.
Pretty lady 🌹
Thanku for this video❤
Videokku volume kuravaaa...... Athum koode onnu sredhikkane❤
Nar-ci-ssi-sm
നാർ-സി-സി-സം
നാർ-സി-സി-സ്റ്റിക്
🙂🙂
I was waiting for this video. Thank you Viya❤
Thank you 👍
*what a comeback from viya🔥*
*6 മണി കഴിഞ്ഞു കാണുന്നവർ ഉണ്ടോ🥳*
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