The Hopelessness Theory of Depression
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- Do you wonder what causes chronic depression? Perhaps, you yourself are diagnosed with clinical depression or you know someone who has depression, but you aren't sure why they suffer from depression? Depression is an extremely complex mental health problem ranging from combination of genetic to environmental causes. Even professionals are not 100% certain of what causes depression and furthermore, depression varies by individual cases and history. It this video, we do our best to cover three possible causes of depression: NEGATIVE ATTRIBUTIONAL STYLES and causes, & having a NEGATIVE SELF IMAGE. Hopefully, you find this video helpful in shedding some light on the topic of depression. If you would like a video on other possible signs or causes of depression, be sure to turn on the notification bell. We will make a follow up video.
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World Health Organization . The global burden of disease: 2004 update. WHO Press; Geneva: 2008.
Rose DT, Abramson LY. Developmental predictors of depressive cognitive style: Research and theory. In: Cicchetti D, Toth S, editors. Rochester Symposium of Developmental Psychopathology.Vol. 4. University of Rochester Press; Rochester, NY: 1992. pp. 323-349.
Metalsky GI, Joiner TE., Jr Vulnerability to depressive symptomatology: A prospective test of the diathesis-stress and causal mediation components of the hopelessness theory of depression. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. 1992;63:667-675. [PubMed] [Google Scholar]
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Depression is a slow, methodical killer. It’s patient, it understands everything about you and twists everything you see into a negative. It tries to ruin you, to make you turn away from resources that can help you until there is no one left to help you. That’s when it strikes, in the darkness that surrounds you, it poisons your very soul and watches you suffer until you either wither away or decide to end the pain yourself. There’s no reason for this, it just thinks it’s fun to see you in pain.
Ryne Mcgriffin I Feel this
That’s a very powerful but accurate way to describe it. Only if this was animated.. as a script... then the message would be shared with more people.
Does the personification help you deal with it?
Morgan Robinson Yeah, it’s a lot easier to think some force is pushing you towards a fate you don’t want for yourself as opposed to your own mental state trying to deal with a bad situation
I've lived with it for 3 years now and I can say that is slow and methodical because it got severe over time but little did it know is that it can't kill me. It's realized this so now I just live with it and it doesn't bother me too much until I get in a very depressed mood, but it won't kill me as my will power to live is stronger than it. I've thought about suicide many times before and sometimes got close to it but that was when I was in the earlier stages of it. Now I do think about suicide but I'm not going to do it as my will power for that has grown and now I'm used to it.
"Positive thinking" just feels like I'm lying to myself to cover up the fact that I'm really just unhappy
Yes😢
I’ve been masking for years now. The cracks are starting to show since the pandemic lockdown.
My husband is bewildered at the real me.
I’ve just been so good at securing that mask that I forgot to nurture myself for who I really was.
Im exhausted now of pretending to be someone I am not (and never have been).
This is how I feel.
This is why I think ‘positive thinking’ is counter productive.
We need self acceptance, not masks.
Yes I highly agree 😢
There's a difference between "healthy thinking" and "positive thinking". Positive thinking is a scam and causes negative effects. Healthy thinking works with you and is based in truths.
The quickest way I know to start to understand this is by learning about "cognitive distortions".
Positive thinking is a sham, anyway. People expect it so much, yet they don’t know how much it strains your mind.
For most depressed people I've seen, it's because life is mentally stressful but physically unstressful. They have things they want to go do, but their spirit is so crushed that they see no means of doing it. Be it a dream job, building something, wanting to grow a garden, etc. I see people with big dreams while confined in the 9-5 box to afford rent and meals.
That’s me man if I had enough money to not worry about bills for a while. I would be hitting the gym getting active eating healthier foods. Spending time with loved one and friends. Visiting new places. But everything is so damn expensive. Man people don’t even make enough to pay bills and survive so they get stuck in an endless loop that feels almost impossible to get out of.
Yes, when you're spirit is crushed, you can go forward anywhere
İm over here depressed cuz İ want that 9-5, i need it. İ need a proper work, a career so maybe, maybe İ stop feeling like a failure
I had to move back home in my mid 30s after my 13 year relationship ending. Feel like a failure
I once met a person who had depression and they changed the whole way I thought about it. They said,
“Depression is like waking up each day and feeling like everyone you love died.”
Michelle At some point, you will just wish that you don't wake up the next morning at all.
yo, almost everyone I love actually DID die
depression is like drowning except you see everybody else breathe
Depression is like waking up in the morning and having a wave of information crash into you. After its gone, its just the nothingness that embraces you. you don't care to know what happened at all during the day, its just the nice little rest until you have to wake up again and do the entire process over again. That's the best way I can describe it for me.
ugly duckling welp they got it wrong, “depression is like waking up everyday and wanting to die” :)
Who thinks that they should do more videos about self harm, suicide, bi polar and/or schizophrenia?🤷♀️
Thank you for your suggestion. Will discuss about this with the team. What would you like to know more about these topic?
More about suicide, anxiety disorders and panic attacks.
@@Psych2go Could you maybe do something with anger, bottled up feelings and so on?
@@Psych2go try making some on psychological theories too please! Also, therapies that one can apply to disorders. 🙏🙏🙏 greetings from Mexico!
I would love to see more about bipolar. I see very little about this disease and yet i see more and more folks diagnosed with it.
I hate when I’m having an ok day or even an hour, and at the moment someone’s asks me how I’m doing and because I’m having an ok day. I say I’m good… and they get all happy for me, or say “see you’ll be ok” and I’m like yea but I’m gonna feel like dying again if not tomorrow I’m a couple days. It’s a cycle, and people just don’t get that
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
I was in the cycle once the darkness always came back until he freed me from it 100% i cannot remember what it was like to be depressed he makes all things new again!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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It might be hard for the 87% who have never experienced depression to understand but this negative outlook is due to nearly every past experience acting as a perfectly reasonable predictor for future failures. It would be nice if in a world so geared towards making everyone depressed if we could acknowledge that some people are in fact depressed through no fault of their own and actually are victims of constant and repeated negative situations they have no control over
I felt as though the perspective in the video oversimplifies depression and leans towards blaming the victim to an extent. I disagree with this perspective because there are few human problems more complicated than depression. For some it is a brain disorder, while for others it might be circumstantial, or relational, or spiritual, or a thousand other causes. What the sufferer needs most is compassion. My heart feels for you, friend, with all the suffering you have been through. Depression is a personal hell that isolates and torments the soul. May your soul find freedom and relief from, and ultimately victory over, your depression.
Exactly.u summed it up for me.
I hate the constant feeling of "knowing" how things will turn out then being proven right
Amen!
I just feel so damn lonely all the time.
Why do you think that is?
Psych2Go I have no friends
@@youraveragekpopthotxd2566 Can we become friends?
@YourBakaSenpai believe me man saying this doesn't help if a person is actually alone and lonely
I am in 3rd year of college, My parents think that I am enjoying my college, but the reality is that I am spending my college life as a loner 🙃
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Psych2Go I'm really thankful to you guys. This channel helps me to understand more psychology and also my own situation. I struggle with many things and i feel comfort watching your videos. I'm looking forward to the videos in the future 💜
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Thanks psych2go these are things I've been doing since elementary school and only now am I realising that it has harmed me in the long run. I'm sure I'm not the only one, though.
Can you guys maybe do a video on stopping a panic attack or grounding activities for people with phobias or paranoia? Honestly, anything helps.
@@sceptre80 I see. Yeah, we definitely could. We will see if we can invite a professional on board to shed some lights on treatment and stuff. Are you currently seeing a professional?
I commented and I need some help, I don’t know what to do.
Treatment doesn't always help. When i saw a psychologist about my depression, we just spent 50 minutes discussing how shit my life is, and conclluded that i'm just unhappy about how it's not perfect. But it's much worse than that. I have a horrible life.
Treatment is very expensive, being almost 30% of my monthly salary. As a person with trouble opening up, it might take months to make a connection for me to trust a psychologist enought to even tell them about the real issues. And at that point you have to wonder why I'm even doing this costly endeavour.
I'm pretty much done for in that regard.
Hello Athetos, as we understand, depression affects everyone differently and therefore it would be safe to assume that treatment should vary for each individual as well. We're sorry to hear that seeing a psychologist did not help and you are completely right that it can take a while to open up to someone. Have you tried any other ways to help with your depression that are free or a much cheaper option for you? A good place to start might be participating in activities to help boost your mood, such as going for a hike or practicing meditation.
@@Psych2go I can't really go for a hike, since I live in a big city. And the healthcare system is just trash. I don't know any ways of getting free psychological help. I'll try to reach out to a support group or something, through. Thanks for making me look, at least.
@@athetos461 hey I am not a professional but your big city (I am assuming) has no physical borders. You need to push yourself to get out there. The only thing that is stopping you is your environment but it isn't illegal to get out there so personally I don't believe it should affect you. If you have tried therapy then you have to try other solutions. If this didn't help you oh well. Good luck in getting better. :)
Therapists I have talked to also happened to be clueless -> worthless. I have suffered from a nightmarish depression for years. What got me out of that is the RIGHT antidepressant. Talk to a PSYCHIATRIST, not a therapist. Now, when I feel much better, working out is also helping me stay functional & not in pain.
For some people psychotherapy is not their thing but there are other options. For exapmle medications, if person is open for that option, can make them feel better.
Finding hope while in pain is like finding hope in a life sentence leading to a death sentence
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Sometimes I feel so depressed, I don't even know why or how to get over it. I cry myself to sleep and feel horribly nostalgic about past events. Now recently I started mediation and it almost immediately makes me feel better. Getting interaction from those outside also improved my mood.
*I suffered from depression for years and this is so true..*
I had to learn life happens for you, not to you.
Your Favorite Lifecoach can you give it back??
That's a great attitude Bahman!
What is that supposed to mean? Life happens for me or to me, same difference. It all sucks and there is no out. Clever platitudes do not change the facts.
I believe life happens to me and I'm the unlucky bastard child of life but when life presents tough shit to me I give it the equivalent to a fuck off and move on. Life created me but I don't give a shit about it so it can go fuck off to someone else.
Thet line is BULLSHIT. Tell that to people with diseases or people being raped,starved and surrounded by never ending war and poverty.
I’ve been diagnosed as clinically depressed for years now. I recall symptoms from childhood, but they became overwhelming once I hit puberty. I hadn’t been diagnosed for years because I would hide what was happening. The self harm, locking myself away as “punishment” for not being good enough, distancing myself from people I love as to not “burden” them. I only got help when doctors discovered the scars during a surgery I went in for. To me, it had always been a matter of being “stronger”. That I wasn’t REALLY depressed, EVERYONE is like that... except they aren’t. I literally used to think everyone had MDD, but others just succeeded at pushing through while I failed. It took my first therapist telling me that waking up and not really caring if I disappeared off the face of the earth isn’t normal by any means.
MDD is scary. I think the reason it’s so deadly is because it saps you... your energy, your emotions, your will... Until you are numb. Which then leads to self destructive behavior to “feel” again. Sleeping all the time or never enough because it didn’t matter what time of the day it was, what’s the point of going outside? Living in utter filth and watching your body try so desperately to stave off the effects of not keeping personal hygiene, not picking up your living space and then SLEEPING there... People often would ask “how do you live like this?”, and the answer is simple: WE DON’T WANT TO! We wouldn’t prefer it! But we also have no energy or motivation to do anything about it. I’ve gotten people that says it’s just laziness, but a lazy person still gets up to do things they enjoy as it benefits them emotionally. Those who’re depressed? Well, the fucks the point? Getting out of bed is expending the little energy you have. You won’t feel anything when attempting something you used to enjoy, because you don’t have the energy to do it properly, and the outcome disappoints. Then comes the thoughts of, again, not being good enough.
I’ve talked to so many people about this, but I almost always get back to this point- clinical depression is NUMBNESS. And when I say numb, I mean it. An emotional void. Which is why so many health issues often follow. Being in a mental state like that 24/7 is of course going to bring hell with it. So even when you’re getting better, you still have to work on fixing the mess the depression left behind.
Personally, medicine saved me. It’s not for everyone, and I heavily recommend trying holistic remedies as well (Ik it’s said like a broken record but better diet and exercise really does help! It will not often fix it, but it will help) but I have seen people get a grip on themselves when they are provided the hormones necessary to function at a human level. It’s not a happy pill. It’s a “this will give you back the energy to FIND motivation again”. The change is entirely dependent on the person.
For me? I know it’s there. It’s like high and low tide. Some days, I can walk just fine, no water in sight. Other days I feel like I’m drowning. But having the energy to fight it... it’s life changing.
I rambled for sure. I always tend to get a little rambley when it comes to mental health, but it’s only because I know how devastating it is. But if someone is reading this, and you feel like there’s no point, I want to remind you that there IS a point in this world. You are not broken. Your mental illness is sapping your energy, but it does NOT mean you aren’t worthy of being here just because of that.
Hi Maceon, thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you've been on an incredible journey of self-growth and we're so happy that you've kept fighting for this life. We hope that you continue to help others get through what you've been through because you know it so well. Sometimes the best people to provide advice and support are the ones who have been through it themselves. What are some of these holistic remedies you recommend?
Psych2Go Thank you- It’s been difficult, and I while never perfect, my MDD is manageable now for the most part. I just want people to know they’re not alone.
Cleaning up your diet is a great start. I was (and, admittedly, still am sometimes) guilty of depression meals. Most of the time that meant whatever I could eat that I didn’t have to put much effort into preparing. Crackers, bread, prepackaged stuff. Fast food was one of the worst contributors. Don’t get me wrong, I still enjoy fast food and quick meals, but the difference is that it isn’t my main diet anymore. Depression meals are also often gateways to eating disorders for some people, because not having to prepare the fast food gives an excuse to binge. On the opposite end of that, eating as little as possible because you don’t have the energy to prepare it gives your depression ammo per se. I would often look at myself and without even blinking automatically have negative thoughts.
It’s a hard process to undo, the negative thinking that is. It’s almost a reflex response to insult yourself. Letting your guard down and subconscious wander, often gets you back to the start. But thinking positively is really, really helpful. It sounds weird to a lot of people, but if you think about it, you’re in your own head 24/7. If 90% of that time is you insulting yourself, even in small ways, that’s going to impact your every move in life.
Exercise is also a really big relief since it releases endorphins that can make you “bounce back”. That being said... it’s very difficult. I still even have issues with it sometimes. The whole no energy thing and being disappointed in trying and not getting immediate results is very real, and exercise is VERY motivation/energy based. So while it helps, I understand it isn’t for everyone with MDD. Baby steps. Even walking outside is progress.
Therapy is something I honestly recommend everyone- it’s just healthy to be able to talk freely without judgement from someone with an unbiased opinion who you know won’t go around and gossip. You’re with your thoughts every second of every day. Not talking about what’s going through your mind can seriously impact your overall ability to live, as mentioned in a few paragraphs above. It’s really a shame so many people think therapy is only helpful to those who have mental disorders. Therapy is a coping tool, and a strong one at that. Utilizing it correctly is like breaking out of a confined room and having a breath of fresh air. It liberated me greatly, at least.
As I said I tend to ramble, so I won’t go any further, but that’s pretty much my two cents! Thank you for asking for my thoughts on the subject :)
Anyone reading this looking for advice on where to start- I seriously recommend your diet. The brain-gut connection is very real, and I implore you to research more into what may be the best course of action for you!
@@mewkiuu Hi Maceon, thank you so much for replying :) This is all really insightful and I think you've done an amazing job with providing a clear and thorough explanation of your reasons for putting into practice the methods that you outlined. I especially love your take on therapy as a coping mechanism and one that doesn't just have to be for people with mental disorders. I often feel like therapy almost gets a stigma attached to it and people feel that they don't need therapy because they don't have a mental disorder. You're absolutely right, sometimes just having someone to listen without judgment can do so many wonders for the soul. Thank you again for sharing :) We hope you continue to keep sharing your thoughts with us as well!
Depression is a silent killer. It's hard to deal with it every night and day and when my panic attacks starts, you just want to disappear not because you are a bad person but because you don't want to feel that pain again and again. And the hardest part is when you seek help to the people around you they think it is just an acting or a big joke and you're helpless.
I feel this, totally!!I am at the edge myself😞
I hope God will help us 🙏
@@eiantomyuri393 He sure will.AMEN🙏🙏
If that is what the people around you think, then they are being foolish and ignorant. Please try looking up "guided meditation for beginners" here on TH-cam. Meditation has been the most helpful thing for me when I have panic attacks. Some meditation videos are better than others, but keep looking until you find one you like. It will help you to quiet your overactive mind and ease the pain some, to where it is at least bearable.
Nobody cares about you or anybody else that's just how it is
I had extremely severe depression for a while, but ever since my suicide attempt a year ago, I've slowly been getting better with the help of counseling.
You can get out of the dark and horrid pit that is depression and suicidal thoughts and everything else you are dealing with. I know. Because I did.
I believe in all of you. Stay strong
Hi Huffledork, thank you so much for sharing your story. Your strength is a huge inspiration and we hope that you continue to share it with others! Could you share some advice with others on some of the things that have helped and that you have done for yourself to get through this hard time?
@@Psych2go I'd be glad to. I know counseling is scary, but if you can find the right counselor, it can make a world of difference. Remember to always take time to care for yourself, you deserve and need it.
Thank you. You give me strength
My self image is that I'm wario without a moustache.
sexy
Heated Cheese
Then what are you waiting for? Grow one!
My self image is Pitou from hxh but not that smart
No you’re probably like Luigi without a mustache
Hooooott and thiiiiccc
You mean Mario or worrier? LOL
Psych2Go, do a video about the effects of lack of sleep?
Or what is some good ways to get sleep and how many hours of sleep should a person get?
That's a great topic! Do you guys want one on signs of no sleep and it's effects then?
@@Psych2go
Uh huh!! 😀 yes, please.😁
@@invaderzim1265 Sure thing! Let's brainstorm some ideas here now. How does that sound?
@@Psych2go depression due to stress .. sleep deprivation due to stress and depression ..not being able to wean my two and a half year old daughter .. it's a vicious cycle .. stress due to being overloaded at work .. no support system .. mommy and daddy issues .. ask and you shall find.
@@Psych2go i havent slept this week... due to school and reoccurring dreams of someone who I thought I was over
My friend is constantly bullied and abused by her father, sister and brother. I’m worried about her and I hope life gets better for her.
I don't know this new voice but it feels very familiar and relaxing...
Greetings new voice over......
✌ *holds up peace sign and fades away* ✌
Kaya Evans Thanks for the kind words! We will keep that in mind :)
These are all very accurate in my opinion. I feel like although all 3 apply to me, the second one applies the most. Even if I do poorly on a quiz, I have a tough time convincing myself that I'll have any future life since I screwed it up already. It really is hard to get past that thinking and I've been stuck in it for years. Also with the first one, I definitely agree that in the uncommon scenario where something goes well, it's a challenge to really take credit for it. It feels like doing well in a game; in the end, it really feels like it won't have any impact on real life.
I see. There are definitely many factors that can contribute, but glad this video was able to pinpoint something for you. What do you think you will do going forward?
I completly agree. Its so difficult to actually believe that your hard work resulted in that good outcome. I can convince myself but deep down I dont believe it. I just cannot help it. And when I bend under work pressure and it hits back that feeling emerges from deep down and starts chewing on whatever little self-confidence I need or have in that difficult time. I feel if you really have someone you can openly talk about it wihtout giving a damn and person listens and guides you the right way, depression is nothing less than a root canal. But if you dont, its like performing your own brain surgery on anaesthasia with forks in your hand. Very hard to find genuine people these days.
A video about having a toxic family and living without them/detaching would be great.
We thought about that. What did you have in mind for the title?
Psych2Go maybe “Being the Black Sheep in a Toxic Family” or “How to Detach from a Toxic Family” or “Finding Peace in Leaving a Toxic Family Behind” or something different. I would so love to see this topic being explored. Thank you!
@@curlyydancer would really help.
I’m a black sheep and it’s the main thing that caused my issues. A lot of unexplained and not knowing why I was left out and then used as a scape goat because I was seen as spent anyway. The best thing I did is walk but even that cost me.
@@curlyydancer "must you be loyal to blood no matter what?"
I was just researching depression and this notification popped up
TH-cam is stalking u. or we are?
@@Psych2go damn idk man, are you? 👀
Blake_TheNBHD Not sure!
@@Psych2go better delete my browsing history just to be safe
I've been suffering from depression , anxiety and at times severe social anxiety for about 12 years , a toxic family will always make things worse,
Everything good in me died now i'm just a walking hopeless thing
You are not alone 😔,in the same state too...I have given up all hope I had because life has constantly reminded me how unworthy I am
I suffered 4 years from depression, anxiety and eating problems. Today I think I'm almost cured. Never give up :)
That's a great attitude! We are rooting for you! :D
Please do a video on ADD/ADHD and depression, or other psychological illnesses that often come along!
xToxicFusselx How would you like the title of the video to be? Any suggestions?
Psych2Go maybe something along the lines of "AD(H)D and related psychological illnesses" or "Common comorbidities of AD(H)D"?
Hi I'm one of those people, I can loose appetite, i have lack of sleep, anxiety, low self-esteem.
This video is telling what I've been through in all my life..
These videos tell us, but they don't help us.
I've been struggle with serve clinical depression for the last 30 years. It's been really hard. Recently I lost my dog of 12 years. He really balanced me out, gave me hope. Now that he's gonna I am once again alone to face the hopelessness. I don't want to die. I just know there's no hope for me. No reason to go on. I've tried numerous suicide attempts, but have been saved everytime. I don't know what the point of this comment was. I just felt like writing it. To me, suicide is like walking out of a shitty movie..
The worst part is not knowing how to fix it or talk about it. Especially being a male it’s very hard and awkward to ask for help. Primarily because you act fine around your family and they don’t take it serious because they know how you act on the outside but don’t know what goes on inside your head
Make a video about 10 tips to boost your self confidence.😁😁
That's a great video idea! Thank you for your suggestion. Will discuss about this with the team. Stay tuned :)
I need that
@@Psych2go And perhaps the effects of prolonged loneliness.
@@Junokaii Yes ;-;
I mean, I'm no longer as lonely now, but I'm still curious how it might've affected my past self and stuff...
@@klltsun_2576 Messed with me perhaps permanently.
I think I’ve been struggling with depression for a long time now but recently it’s gotten so much worse, I think of killings myself or what would happen if I did almost daily now. I feel like I’m pushing all my friends away and any attempt at me being funny and cool just comes off as annoying so I’ve stopped trying, I used to be able to at least rely on humor but now I can’t even do that. I’m so scared I’ll end up hurting myself but I think like there’s nothing I can do and I’m not even trying to stop it at this point, I keep imagining scenarios in my head where I have tons of friends and I’m happy and productive and it always makes me feel horrible about myself. All I do now is think and I really want it to stop.
Please share with me what you are going through belive me I feel what you are going through i battle with comparison always feeling im nothing to the next but I would like to hear what you are going through
I have this deep seated sense of hopelessness
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
I know what its like to feel empty and without hope. He is the way.
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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@@GhostMonkey772 Thanks for sharing this. I’m a believer and will see you in heaven.
I came to Christ on March 25th 2012.
My heart and thinking are taking a long time to heal from everything that happened in my former life.
I hope Jesus comes back soon.
God bless you
@@JasonSchmidt-1979 Prayers going up for you. I hope that too, the way the world is headed it wouldn't surprise me. I had a dream a couple of years ago that makes me think it's not very long. God Bless you.
@@GhostMonkey772 Thank you for the prayer brother!
@@JasonSchmidt-1979 Anytime
Depression squad where you at?
Oh me...
@@evastojiljkovic4357 welcome...i guess...does anyone know how i can quit the depression club?
How do u unsubscribe from depression?
Actually I was depressed as hell for a long time until I got my depressed after failing relationships there kicked me when I was down, no lie the I had 2 close family members die at the same time. I was jacked up until it happened again another bad girl got me hard, I mean I went to pick her up in the morning from a random guys house band. Then it happened, I found ways to get out of depression
Looks like the depression squad here is getting bigger. 30 likes from 2 yesterday.
I went to therapy for a while but stoped when I moved away from my home country... I decided to leave medication since it was affecting me in other ways. I can certainly relate to all NIS. After going to therapy and just trying to speak with my family I became afraid to even open up a lot about it with anyone else other than the people I know strugle or used to strugle with depression. I admit that leaving medication might have not been the best idea but at the same time it was making my insomnia, eating problems and focus worse.
I think that for me, the hardest part of this is having a mother that blames herself for everything that happens to her children, which makes me feel even more worthless and useless because I'm anything but the person she wanted me to be.
that must be rotten being aware of that energy coming from your own parent. i feel that way, but the source of the disappointment is entirely mine. i make music, and on good days, it feels like it's enough, despite not being able to support myself financially and needing to be on disability benefits at 43. but when a slump comes around, which they do frequently, i return to all the familiar feelings of dread for the future and failure and constant comparison with just about anyone i can think to compare myself with.
It's so difficult and I can relate to feeling like I don't measure up or lack the confidence to do something that I know would bring me joy. Going to try to be strong and push through even when it feels impossible... like if I could explain it- it's like deflation and no energy- simple tasks become overwhelming and exhausting. I can easily go down a tunnel of darkness and pain if I don't try to actively but gently pull myself away from going there. It's a battle and I do know exercise helps but I have a hard time even starting due to pain. I just would love a community where we could openly talk without judgement. I think that could be freeing and help to move past and know you're not alone or crazy.
I get confused when these videos essentially describe me or points about me. I don't know anymore maaaan
Lol. We swear. We're not following you...
@@Psych2go mhm...
Do you ever think the world or society is just messed up? Being positive in a negative world is just delusional. Maybe just maybe depression is the truth.
Yup. No matter how positive someone is, they still live under corrupt psychotic governments. Life is no gift, it's a curse. Perhaps this reality is Hell
I’ve been dealing with depression and anxiety my entire life. Went to therapist and was given meds but that never helped. I haven’t taken them in over a year now. Thought would get religious here in the US but that only caused more issues that made the depression worse. Had the perfect woman but let her slip away because my stupid decisions and mistakes I made with idiotic mind. We work together so now I get to see her with her new guy and it’s my fault but I screwed it up. I have a good job so not just gonna quit it but an looking to transfer to another office in another city but it won’t fix my negative depressed thinking it just means I won’t have to see her with her new guy and making my depression worse. I’m trapped in a body on this earth with no escape and a prison for my mind I can’t escape either. Why I was ever born I do not know, would have been a kindness to me if I never existed then I wouldn’t be trapped in a world and a mind that just brings me misery no happiness at all.
exactly what I feel
Sometimes I feel like this too. I wish you all the best. Get therapy and medication. It will help
I am 30 and am so relieved this will go away some day when I am dead.
This honestly made me feel better because I’m not doing as bad as what this video explains
You're never lonely when the voices in your head keep you company
Which voices
Thank you for this video.. Gratitude to those researchers who analysed the problem very well and to the team who made this content so that it can reach many who silently going through this.. Thank you again, it helped me a lot
Im in a very bad depression, and with Christmas coming up.. it seems to be getting worse. I feel so weak.. no energy,, a dull head. i dont feel alive i feel like im not even living. im always tired. and i cant feel love. Im longing for it to lift.
My depression developed from three years of bullying and intimidation in the workplace by a marginal narcissistic. She took great pleasure in tearing away my self esteem and self worth. I was left with hopelessness, guilt and shame.
My depression phase is getting stronger this month: I can‘t sleep very well, I feel hopeless, sad and uncomfortable when people are around me, I don‘t know who I really am and I try to fight against suicidal thoughts...
I wish I could just snap away that damn Depression...
I wish I could just snap out of it too. I spent years building walls so that everyone around me just brushed off anything wrong as me just being me. I was great at skirting the issue, as I tend to internalize because no one truly wants to deal with it. Now that all cards have been placed on the table due to events over the last two months, it has become obvious that my new support group has settled back into normal life and have put those walls I tried to bring down right back up again. I made it as clear as I could that I needed their help, to ask me and force me to be upfront and to not internalize, but they aren't doing it. I needed them to help hold me accountable, and they haven't. Now I feel as though I am right back where I was before I attempted suicide. Elephants in the room are easier, I guess.
Oh no, we're sorry to hear it's gotten worse this month. Have you tried seeking help or researching on some methods that might help you?
Going through the same currently...
can depression come out of nowhere, without particular reason?
Do not let difficult circumtances define and affect you negatively. Somehowe in today's world we're so captivated by failures. We feel so hopeless due to our failures in life. Just remember all you do is not useless or a failur even if not succeed. Keep treating yourself well and others.
Out of all descriptions of Depression I've heard over the years, I think that this one suits me best. Thanks for this. I owe you one.
The problem is not always the lack of possibilities to get better.
It's the lack of reasons why you should invest so much time, energy and money and endure so much stress and pain, just for a HOPE to get better at some point.
I'm from Sri Lanka,
I'm very brokenhearted person and fed up of my life..😣
I couldn't get a degree or good academic qualification even if I tried.
I'm from a poor family background.
the jobs which I have done were not suitable for me and I was not satisfied with them.
I'm 28 years old,
I'm jobless, I have no money.
No any path no any option.
I feel I'm stucked.
I hardly feel I'm just useless,
My future is dark.
peoples are laughing at me, They know I'm bankrupted and they treat me like that way.
I'm desperated,Hopeless.
I don't to want to live like beggar, and a poor life anymore..
I'll live only for this year..If I coudn't able to make a good move/step in this year, I will no longer live in this damn world..
I love this video. It was a great way to point out one of the aspects of depression. feel like I need to clarify that it is possible to suffer with depression and not deal with these self deprecating and self sabotaging thoughts. I think that is why many people assume they can never suffer from the mental illness of depression and will say depression is all in the head or other stereotypical comments. While the theory is true when it comes to hopelessness tendacies that can make a person more vulnerable, there is the wonder of what comes first, the chicken or the eggs. I knew something was truly wrong with me when I felt a sense of dread and hopelessness and I thought to myself, “why am I depressed when my life is on track, I have terrific friends, I just got...” What I’m trying to say is I was having these terrible feelings and irrational thoughts, but on the other hand I had the rational thoughts listing out all the high self-esteem reasons why I shouldn’t be having these feelings and thoughts. When I went to my doctor about this feeling (which was long after I had these thoughts and feelings and when it started interrupting my job) my doctor suggested I was depressed. I told her it was impossible because...I gave her the same list and I said to her that I felt good about myself, etc. That was my argument. I felt good about myself. Therefore it was impossible for me to be depressed. She told me to do my own research and come back to her. She did a lot of hormonal imbalance tests in the meantime. I did what she and learned a lot of what I didn’t know about depression. What this video tells us is just one possibility. That was something I use to believe depression was all about. While I know those who suffer know that depression isn’t just this video and these guys have done an excellent job at giving us all angles of this disease, some will believe it is like I ignorantly believed and only watch the one video and the proof to their arguement without digging. Thanks for your great and hard work.
Hi Jeanne, thank you for sharing your own personal experience. It's very insightful to also get a look at your perspective and how you approached your symptoms. You're absolutely right, people should do the necessary research before coming to conclusions. We're so happy you decided to share your thoughts with us today. :)
Now that you have come to some sort of realization of what is going on, what are you doing to improve on your feelings of hopelessness?
Psych2Go Thanks for your reply. It's been a very long road since my diagnosis 12 years ago. (I was, in the end, diagnosed w/bipolar) I still have ups and downs, but I learned a lot and I pick up new lessons along the way from others and informative videos like these. In a nutshell: medications, exercise, diet and keeping stress at arms length are my main practices. I've had to give up a lot to lessen my stress. I live in Hawaii and helps. So when I have depressive episodes I limit my isolations & get outside little by little eventually making it to the beach, hiking and then finally out with friends. Lots of self care like home medi/pedies. I clean house a lot because it helps with mindfulness, keeping things organized helps with anxious episodes and it’s also exercise (perfect when I can't get out the house because of an episode.) I write, tell stories on online, draw (terribly) and other artsy things. And my favorite: Cartoons! Yeah I'm a 45 year old who loves her cartoon...what? 😄😄 Therapy is a must, but changes with the insurance (love you government) caused me to have to give that up. However, DBT and CBT was a huge help in the past & I draw on those tools. I'm a nerd so this is easy: education, education, education...knowing the way the brain and body works also helps me understand why I feel or think a certain way. I watch such video as yours and others and read a lot. It's all fascinating and it helps me to sit tight knowing symptoms are just symptoms that will pass. So, as you can see, for me it takes a lot to keep out the rabbit hole and to pull me out when I fall in cuz I do still fall in. I think there's more but we’d be here all-day. 😄 Thanks for asking. Keep up the great work! You guys are helping so many. You're helping me! ❤️
Could you do a video about overcoming driving anxiety?
You suck at driving high and you should be anxious about it. Don’t do it!
Interesting idea.
That's a good topic! Perhaps, we can see if we can collab with someone on this topic.
It's so hard meditating sometimes, hearing about the "law of attraction", no matter what, I feel hated, unworthy, silently judged by all who cross paths with me, all just waiting for me to leave to discuss how pathetic I truly am. Sometimes I feel like my insides are being ripped out constantly. Sometimes feeling understood is all I need. It's surprising how normal these feelings can be...
Going through the same currently.Life has become so unbearable 😢😢
@@blessedsoul949 aw man... I'm sorry to hear that... It's definitely been a difficult time to sort through a lot of emotions that have been swept under the rug... I've been starting to feel a little bit better and it's so terrifying and hard to not let myself fall back into old patterns... How are you feeling these days?? If it's alright with you I'll be praying for better days and I hope that you can see the sunshine and begin pulling yourself out of the pit ❤️
@@tianaenever8270 I kind of got to accept the hard times I went through being dumped,assault,job loss and being scammed money but now am unwell.Please do pray for me.Will pray for you too🙏🙏
@@blessedsoul949 oh my God! That is a lot. I'm really sorry to hear that. Of course I will pray for you! It may have been many bad things happening at once, but I pray that this means that there is plenty of room for new and better things for you on the way! I pray you heal, physically, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically ❤️ I pray for new and better things in your horizon, and I pray that you are able to feel celestial guidance ❤️ I pray good opportunities come your way and you are able to trust and receive in them ❤️ sending you so much love, my friend!!! ❤️
Friend, I do not hate or judge you, and I certainly do not think you are pathetic. On the contrary, you are very strong and brave for continuing to battle your way through this onslaught of painful emotion. My heart grieves for your suffering, and I pray you will conquer depression and find true and lasting peace. 🕊️.
I'm clinically depressed and have been for years. Even though I have lived through a lot of suicidal behavior and self harm issues, I am now getting way better. I'm going to therapy at least once a week and I've got a wonderful girlfriend who helps me through the worst of it. Without her and my best friends, I wouldn't have made it, I am sure of that.
Hi Saphira, thank you for sharing your wonderful story of overcoming your depression! Things like this really brighten our day :) What kind of advice would you give others to help them through their own depression?
Psych2Go Thank you for answering!
As hard as it may sound, the most important thing for me was and still is to stop isolating myself. In my opinion, it's impossible to overcome your struggles on your own. The first time I started getting better was when I reached out to a friend of mine and my mother. Therapy can be helpful as well, but it's on you to change your views and get better. It's not just overcoming depression, it's overcoming a huge part of what you may think of as yourself.
It can be hard to tell reality and sickness apart, which is why you need someone to lead you.
I hope that's understandable and that everyone who isn't going through the best of times is going to get better. Have a nice day.
me: *-casually watches this at 2 am while hating myself while hating everyone while stressing about the stress i’ll stress about tomorrow while telling myself how dumb i am for lacking motivation to do my 10 page essay that’s due tomorrow while not studying for a test also tomorrow-*
me: nice video
Jesus loves you..
He died on the cross so you can have eternal life.. He created you for a great purpose..
The dude's voice makes me even more depressed.
Should we have added some bg music?
I found it somewhat soothing tbh, sometimes you need a no-nonsense voice to explain the situation when all you can see is the negative side of things, and with it being just a voice, i was able to focus more on what was said
@@Psych2go yes
@@Psych2go wow it's good see you took it positively and wanted to improve. 👌👌
I agree
The thing that they left out while testing all of this is when people in their family die. There is no way to turn that into a positive situation especially if the person has absolutely no family members left. Unless someone knows what that is like they don't have a clue as to what they're going through. Other than that this video is very good and this channel is very good.
I'm starting to get anxiety really bad and I feel hopeless like out of nowhere I know I'm not depressed but it would be nice to know what's going on
Could be puberty or something in your personal life that’s causing you to be anxious all the time. For me I have anxiety because I’m self conscious about my appearance maybe it’s a little different for you.
Listen, if someone is depressed and is watching this, I don't know if it was chronically diagnosed as depression but I was in a dark time and everyone said it would get better and I never listened, but really it will, I'm so happy with life now, you just have to give it time and if anyone needs someone to talk to, message me on here
I have had depression for 25 years now, and it gradually gets worse, not better. Did you just go through a hard time at one period of your life, or do you have Major Depressive Disorder? They are not the same. Major Depressive Disorder is always with you. Even when you are enjoying something, it is right there on your shoulder as a constant reminder that this moment of enjoyment will end. It is always there, distracting you in everything you do. You are always on the precipice, slowly sliding deeper into the mud pit. For every step forward, you take two steps back. Medication is the only thing that holds it at bay, but even then it does not help improve the situation, it only slows the descent.
Lucky for you that you healed.For me,I have no hope left.Life has become meaningless and I do not have any one to turn to.Everyday I feel much worse and empty and I am always blamed for it.I guess you really are lucky and your life is worth living
I can relate to some of the causes, and when I realize what I’m doing (i.e. over reacting and panicking over a small thing) I tend to feel worst since I know that I shouldn’t be freaking out. And then I panic over that and I get into a really weird cycle often hating myself when I get out of it. I think the cause is my anxiety to impress others so I will make a big deal over a small issue that I think will make others hate me.
What are some things you can do to help keep yourself from overreacting and panicking?
I tend to mentally remove myself from the situation by distracting myself with a breathing exercises or drawing. Just something that will help take my mind off of the problem.
Then when I’m calm I’ll try either talk with a trusted friend or will introduce it slowly again to myself and try to stay calm wile I work out a plan to solve it or just to simply accept that it happened and to let it go or learn from it.
I'm 40 years old & have been living with depression for 30+ years. It was not only passes through genetics but spoon-fed to my brothers, sister & I by our father who suffered from untreated bipolar disorder/ manic depression. I'm fed up with never getting the treatment that I need. My doctor insists on giving me the same medication that doesn't work & makes me fat! I've been on a waiting list to speak to a psychiatric counsellor for over 10 years & my mental state is at the end of its tether & I feel just like giving up & ending it! I have worked out the quickest method of suicide for myself. I just don't see why I should go on living this half-life, when there's literally no help out there for NHS patients with mental health issues. I'm done
I suffer from depression. It really interfer with my life
It gets better.
You are loved
I've felt this way for along time I struggle finding balance with mental and physical health
Can you make a video on the pros and cons associated with age gap relationships? ❤️
That's a bit tricky. We can do a video on types of relationship dynamics if you like.
Psych2Go that'll do!
I think I watched this video when I started becoming from socially competent to less engaging, A+ student and decent physical fitness.
Now I lost all my friends, failed multiple subjects, have joint aches to breathlessness and social repulsion.
I didn't accept the fact that my sorrows and fatigue were slowly consuming me over the course of these 4 years, my friends and family didn't notice it and naturally I dismissed it, until they all started getting off my life when I became more and more reclusive. Now I'm unrecognizable and a sad excuse of a 22 year old who is too cynical and pessimistic for his age.
Reach out to your friends who go quiet, and to people who are suffering from poor mental health keep fighting.
It's sad that people go through this and I most definitely empathise for anyone this affects!!
A little shill: however I do have self-improvement/empowerment content on BadBoyD TV channel
I wish everyone much Peace, Prosperity and many blessing! Keep yo head up folks👊
Thank you for always mentioning and sharing your videos with our community :)
@@Psych2go I mention it yes, I do watch your videos too. Pardon the shameless plugs and thanks for not deleting them
@@DanTrustsTheFathersPlan still crafty i see 😏.... 😁👍... 🤗
@Twiddle Bee Ops, it's supposed to say "With our" Thanks for pointing that out.
BadBoyD TV great! Videos to make people believe they are failing because they don’t try hard enough.👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Wow sometimes it feels like we are the only ones going through depression…!
Be strong for yourself. If you can't do that, then who else will?
Sincerely,
The one who wanted you to get better and be happy.
I'm trying to be strong for myself. I tried to be strong for myself and make others happy as well. I almost feel like i failed at both. I'm not the type of person to give up. I still believe i can beat my depressiøn....these past two weeks have been.....just so damn hard
That's really empowering! Thank you!
@@Taishawn24.7 HEY. YOU CAN DO THIS. I believe in you. Although I do not know you, but I believe in your capability. You can definitely do this.
Don't easily give up. ✨
@@yoteamotanto8544 I'll keep on doing my very best. I actually don't doubt myself....but you know, in this video it talked about people who blame the world for their problems. I'm one of them....
@@Taishawn24.7 It's okay to feel that. It's okay to blame the world. It's okay to blame people around you. It's completely okay.
I experience this since mid school, and now I graduated this year. idk what to do, I guess this is what life is like.
I am also about to graduate,, this is seriously driving me crazy
I struggled with depression last year and it's still affecting me today. Even though it's not as bad as it was, I now have a hard time dealing with any amount of stress or pain, whether it's physical or emotional. I suppose I should say that I am also a former self harmer. I'm ok with telling my story but I'm a 16 year old girl and I'm using my dad's account, and I don't want him or my family to know about this. Also, could you guys find out if having done self harm affects someone later on in life and if so could you post a video about it? It's been over a year since I've cut myself but I came close a couple of months ago and I sometimes think about doing again. Not in a way that I want to do it again, but I think about it again and about what I've done to myself before. Just, can you please help me? I don't want to live the rest of my life like this.
I can totally relate. Stress relieving hobbies helped me on this, dark poetry for instance, helps me accept the fact that life is not in my control whether it turns out good or bad. Exercising and weed smoking has also helped me a lot
@@takudzwamazwienduna Well I can't smoke weed yet so that not an option unless I want my parents to kill me, lol. Sadly have never been a fan of poetry, can understand it always and definitely can't do it myself. I know that whether things turn out good or bad in my life aren't in my control, and it stresses me out. I guess I might have gained a bit of anxiety because of my experience with depression and self harm. I'm just gonna a say it, I'm too much of a lazy mother f***er to exercise, and I wouldn't be able to fit it into my school schedule anyways. I'm really happy those things are working for you and that you're in a better place, they're just not methods I would use. I guess I just haven't found the right thing yet, everyone's different. So far the only thing that calms me down is my boyfriend. I just want to stop this. Two nights ago at my sister's birthday party, there was a bowl with some used hand held razor blades. I don't know why but I started thinking about cutting myself again and I was getting really anxious, like I wanted to scream and cry (which I almost did). I just want to know why this is happened and what I can do to help it.
@@scwillems1616 can we be friends? To help each other out?
Been in recovery for 15 years since I was 12. I just want to give up. Something always happens and I hit a wall again. Just doesn’t seem worth it anymore and that scares me.
Just know there is always somebody there to listen, life at times sucks belive me im going through it but know there is always someone who will listen, bruh share your story
Only 13% doubt that
Very well done!! I really enjoyed this! As someone with a TH-cam channel based on recovery from addiction, I am always interested in watching what other larger channels are doing on the topic of mental health. I'm a huge believer that to break the stigma we need to be more open about our experiences. I do this with the topic of recovery and love it!
I have a little headache and eating fast food late at night after my night shift and can't go to sleep and this pops up.....
Hope your headache goes away. Are you currently drinking water?
I think I'm going to tell my parents what's going on with me tomorrow. I am terrified, but I haven't been able to function for about a year. I think it's time. Wish me luck.
Could y'all maybe add subtitles? I'm not an english speaker and sometimes I can't really understand what it's being said
There's an icon on the bottom right of the video that says "subtitles/closed captions (c)" when you hover over it. Try clicking on that to turn subtitles on :)
I have all 3 of these things. My life is ruled by negativity.
Can you make a video on something like, coming out of the closet, getting help ect. ?
Thanks if u can! :)
Hi! I will definitely bring it to the attention of my team :) Is this a personal experience you're needing help with?
Depression isn’t an illness but a thought disorder. Your thoughts, coping skills, and the inability to not having the right tools is what hurts us the most…
I've been looking for a video, an article or anything that talks about being truly helpless and powerless to change one's situation.
But then again, those stories never get to be told. Learned helplessness can be overcome, whereas actual helplessness ends with a rope around the neck.
I feel this so much. I think it's also possible that instead of a rope around the neck you can find yourself justifying and making excuses for all the true horrors in the world/that have happened to you. To completely give up and resign yourself to the suffering and believe you deserve it. Gaslighting yourself, basically. I don't know if you're still around or anything or if anyone else will ever see this and care, but I've been looking for exactly the same thing. I haven't really found much but Ralph Ellison's Invisible Man is a novel that kind of speaks to it. It describes the truly helpless/hopeless experience of an African American man in the US in the 1950s but it's also got odd sci fi elements in places. Basically it's about the slow realization of the narrator that everyone/where he turns to isn't really seeing him for himself and doesn't care about him. If nothing else it's kinda cathartic, I'd definitely recommend it.
I totally agree though that this video comes off as victim blamey and it bothers me since some of the other content on here can be good at times. Like, the video literally gaslights people in hopeless situations in the same way they described in a video about warning signs of gaslighting. Maybe I shouldn't be surprised. Psychiatry started with Freud gaslighting women to try and prove his hunches after all.
Depression for me is not wanting to do anything but sit, no enthusiasm about going out, not interested about anything, think.about nothing, non-functioning life. It's dysfunctional life.
Hey I don’t wanna seem rude, however, could you expand your video topics instead of the usual depression/anxiety/suicide trend? I don’t have any of these issues and I don’t mean to sound selfish when I say that, it’s just that viewers who can’t relate don’t really benefit from your latest videos. It seems rather redundant to me, but if I’m being judgey, I shall politely slide away into the smoke and shadows .....
I agree, it seems overdone just a bit. Romance too
Thanks to your channel I now know I want to go into psychology and therapy for college. I'm so glad I found your channel .
Z Studios We’re glad you discovered it!
never clicked so fast. eeeeee
Why?
So what did you discover? :)
I’m going through a very depressing time in my life. I’ve been living inside my head for the past year. I injured myself during a manic episode and caused myself a hiatal hernia. I’m in pain everyday of my life and I’m fearful of the future. I had health anxiety before but never experienced this level of depression. Sometimes I just don’t want to deal with it
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life"
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EVERYONE WATCH TEAL SWAN'S LATEST VIDEO!!! it may be difficult to grasp but it was so eye opening for me!
She’s amazing and healed me. No joke. I tried everything and nothing helped
Please never hurt anyone, it really can change someone's life
True...I really regret hurting people in my life and am reaping the consequences now,the hurt I am receiving is even worse than what I caused others.I really regret my former deeds.
True...I really regret hurting people in my life and am reaping the consequences now,the hurt I am receiving is even worse than what I caused others.I really regret my former deeds.
Game of thrones was epic
I suffer from serious self image issues but I’ve never seen my reflection turn all cruella de vil on me
I feel the hopelessness of Depression when I lose my diamond armour in minecraft
vAqeii same ugh😔
Relatable!
May I make a statement? - I changed my diet.
I got out more.
I found new avenues of hope.
Yes... I failed at first...
But after my trials and tribulations, I found that diet and walks slowly helped me.
Diet most of all. - not just less eating, WHAT I eat is making the most difference.
I just realized, finally.... that I was at rock bottom... the only was? Up.
I wish only the best for all that suffer.
In this? We are brothers and sisters.
I finally also realize.
I will NEVER give in to the demon of depression.
You may believe me when I say I love you all.
Do not give in.
Fight like hell!
This is just a convoluted version of “stop being sad”
One major factor in recovering is to accept your reality as it is don’t be so delusional
There are things that out of your hand and you can’t control in life and what happened to you from problems I’m pretty sure that is not as big as you make it your mind some people lost their families most of you who are reading this comment didn’t
Instead of lamenting you should change the things you are capable of like changing a bad habit you always do for example being an alcoholic or a porn addict those are things in your power you are in control of yourself nobody is forcing you to drink but you
Therapy can't fix me, I've tried. I really am hopeless. I'm too messed up to be fixed. There is no hope. I hate myself so much, I would give almost anything to be someone else, but knowing my luck, I would end up being in an even worse state than I am now, crippled, disfigured, imprisoned or enslaved...I at least have a sense of normalcy, a roof over my head. I am so selfish that I still feel bad though, and the fact that I am so selfish means I'm even more awful than I realize. I just wish I was a different person. I hate myself, every time I look in the mirror I'm disgusted and angered, and I know I'm pitiful and awful. I just want to curl up and cry myself to sleep, but I can't even seem to do that. I thought committing to therapy and working hard in school would be the key, that I could finally be saved....but no. :( Now, my last hope is gone, and this is my mediocre existence.
i relate :( i just want to be somebody i feel like i am nobody and am unlovable
I was in a bad state of mind when I wrote this because I had seen my crush and her bf at a party. I'm doing a little better right now. Avoiding triggers and talking to friends helps.@@julius-ceasar
I feel so sad I don't know what to do and I think so many things I hate it I always felt pain I am a college student, have stressful life , financial problem, no friends and I feel hopeless
I just feel so empty even in situations I should be mad.
2:48 I went through this and had none of these. It seriously depends. I was extremely depressed and suicidal and had most symptoms except these. Just because that stuff is very common amount majorly depressed people doesn’t mean it happens to every single person who is depressed.
we have to learn that we can't help everyone on the way. I tried and sometimes I hurt myself on the way :(
Hello Skye, you're definitely right about that. I think it's very important for you to look out for your well-being first and to never put yourself at harm.
Truth is theres no way out of it it consumes you till your emotional dead and that's when its time
,,I have always felt alone... My whole life. I don't know if I like it... Or if I'm just used to it. But I do know this. Being lonely does things to you. And feeling sh!t and bitter and angry just... Eats away at you"
Cry of fear
I feel like therapy doesn’t help. I spend every second of every day in emotional pain, I don’t have the energy, time, or hope that explaining it to my therapist is worth it. I won’t change…can’t change. I’ve tried my whole life. Why is it supposed to help, to keep making me explain it.
Why can’t anyone understand some ppl just don’t get to have hope.