Relationships and Schizophrenia/Schizoaffective Disorder
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- In this video, I talk about relationships and schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder. My partner Rob, also joins me for a portion of the video and together we discuss aspects of being in a relationship with someone who has schizophrenia or schizoaffective disorder. This includes some of the challenges we face, as well as some tips for others.
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My husband disclosed to me very early on when we were getting to know each other that he took medication for schizophrenia. I remember already being into him and thinking, "This is the one" so when he told me this I was shocked and thought, "WHAT!?? I finally meet someone and he's got schizophrenia???" But that lasted a few seconds and then I moved on. I fell deeply in love and here we are now, 11 years later, and we are married and have a child. I am so glad I didn't rule out being with someone with this diagnosis because I would have missed out on the best thing ever.
That is a good thing. You did not have the "Instant Freak-Out". A great many people do. Makes one wonder just who is mentally ill and who is not. It is not stigma, it is pure FEAR!!! People are always afraid of what they do not understand, and they will not take the time to understand it.
roki feler no it does not. Stop trolling.
@@paulweston2267 yes understanding is very important!
This also happened to me. At first I was hesitant coz we were just chatting on messenger that time. He's now on medication and we're trying to have a baby but, lately he is having this erection and ejaculation problems. Hope you can share a tip. I feel so down now and Frustrated coz of my situation.
My fiancé has schizoaffective disorder, he told me from the start about having it and I didn’t even flinch. At the time he was only diagnosed as schizophrenic, but still I could not imagine nor do I want to NOT being with him. Its definitely not been completely easy and we b have been through so many things together. It’s been 6 years and we are going strong. Awareness needs to taught more often, AS often as possible. It breaks my heart to think of a person with schizoaffective/schizophrenia not ever getting the chance to love and be loved!
Seeing young people with this level of maturity is very reassuring to me. I have never seen a video like this.
Yes, she might have some disorder, but she's way more mature than lots of ppl over here
@@superswag3252 indeed she is a role model for everyone.
@@jackburton37211 It's good to know that some people out there ar still f*cking normal
You two are absolutely brilliant. This is such a hugely informative video showing how open communication and respect can help support an challenging relationship. I wish you both luck and good health in your future together.
sl5311 age doesn’t equal maturity tho time does mature dealing with this will make you come to the realization that you have problems it makes you grow up fast especially if you mix it’s with trauma
You have changed my view of schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder so much. I thought the stereotype was truth. I imagined homeless people who could not work or have meaningful relationships. I'm so glad I found your videos. I work in healthcare and have contact with people with different mental illnesses. I'm a lab tech and usually am only drawing their blood, but this helps me to approach them not only with empathy but also with respect. Thank you for educating me and others about your strengths.
That is so awesome to hear! I have so many issues with doctors especially when they don't listen to me or think everything is chopped up to somatic symptoms! But my point is I usually relate better to the nurses who actually care about what I deal with and why I'm there because I would not be otherwise unless I had to!!
Thats good that you understand the illness now
To your credit you listened and was open to changing your mind. Your a good person. :)
Jollyfishthe1st, You are very brave for saying this. You do not "just take blood" you are an integral part of the healthcare team. I also work in healthcare.
Its sad that there are a lot of people who don't get help either because where they live don't have any resorces or the people don't want help because no one ever talks about these types of brain deases so its great that there is someone who is successful in life and can articulate so well the true meaning of living with schizophrenia.
I was dumped by my boyfriend, after he told me we had a future together, when I had an acute depression episode. I felt like I would die. Now I’m glad he did. 16 years into a marriage with a wonderful man. Best wishes
India M I have recently experienced this and it sent me into relapse and into a mental hospital.
I am now beginning to feel like I’m able to love myself again ♥️ (very far from recovery yet but taking it one step at a time)
Kt Lev I had been admitted to hospital and that was one of the reasons he gave. I still remember how hopeless I felt. My heart was shattered. But I survived and when I met my future husband I told him about my mental health difficulties- if he was going to dump me I wanted it to be before any feelings developed
It is your former boyfriend's choice whether he wanted to build a life with you. Be glad he had the honesty to say no, which is better than an equivocal yes that changes to no on wedding day. It's best to get this over with quickly. I'm sorry you had to go through this grief.
I think one of the key things to understand is that a partner is supposed to SUPPORT the ill person, not HELP them. That is reserved for the professionals, your love or effort can't "cure" the person, it's an impossible mission and you will break yourself down for no good. Be there, listen, care, hug and love, but don't take their illness as your responsibility.
Yes, I made this mistake. It's harder if you don't know about the illness, and how to support.
good comment
I’m often told “you’re too well spoken and intelligent to have schizoaffective” watching your videos I feel a real affinity with you and your insight. My fiancé is so beautiful to me and helps ground me in reality. I fear constantly that I’m not acting rationally but he’s always there showing me the real world.
Rebecca Delatorre How did you know you had schizoaffective disorder? Would love to know your experience ❤️
SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.
This is so sweet I want to be as lucky as you💚
I'm told the same for my BPD, I'm with someone who is schizoaffective, we are both not on meds which is unheard of, being we are high functioning and have a good relationship, of course not without it's challenges, good communication and compatibility are huge contributing factors.
@@LuxMeow Glad to hear you guys support each other. I'm curious about what you actually experience with BPD. I've read about it online, but I figured getting it from the pov of someone who actually has the disorder may better help me understand it.
If you wish not to share I completely understand.
I had a neuropsychology professor who was bipolar, and because of the class he taught, we got a lot of insight into his disorder. What really stuck with me was how supportive his wife was, how she was such a crucial part of his stability and medication use, and the two of you really remind me of that. I wish you both the absolute best, what a fantastic loving relationship!
Seriously, there are both men and women who would abandon their partner knowing that they suffered from some mental disorder, either because of the pressure, the responsibility or the embarrassment of the entire situation. That guy is absolutely God sent. Happy to see that you have someone as supportive as he is. You're very lucky.
I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2019. It manifested in the middle of my divorce, it has now been nearly 3 to 4 years of being single and I am terrified I will never be loved or accepted again. Thank you for giving hope that there are people in the world who will be loving, patient, and understanding.
I have dealt with reoccurring thoughts from age 14 through 32 of being alone for all my life. Having thought I never had a relationship and feeling overly hurt at the thought of feeling never able to provide the things I hear nuclear family believers say. Self conscious about how to have enough money, how to have extra money, where to find someone who I can actually relate with. Feeling like an alien and not knowing how society functions to get where I am at. I knew the pickup line Russell Crowe said as John Nash was not the answer, but what...I decided to prepare myself for being alone and let someone compliment my life if they come along. I have found someone and being filled with PTSD about social interactions in this manner, someone was comfortable initiating conversations and stuff. Two years later, they have had a critical moment and off of medication for a cool minute. But, I am trying to research what is going on and self assessing because soooo many hard symptoms show schizophrenia. I grew up with a single mom with unchecked and unhelped mental health. So I know it's out there. I know people find each other. I can share more info to give an idea of one way that helped me get there. I do think it's harder as a male and not into guys at all. If you still feel this way, or do not, reach out perhaps? I compartmentalize like a genius, but I'm looking at am I capable, how capable or willing are they to move forward, do they have hypochondria or lie about this? Am I getting accurate data while using my qa skills from work and childhood (not what happened, but feelings), and if something is off; do we push forward, take a break (unlike Ross), do we switch for a while and empower more of their work on this to have a more centered and accepting stance on this mental health situation? It is not easy and kind of is easy because of space to think to myself without interaction while they are in a facility stabilizing themselves. I've been in one and I loathed it. I also found the after inpatient interview with this TH-camr to be accurate and helpful too.
You definitely deserve love and I hope you find it! Their are people out there willing to understand.
Please contact me 😭😭
She just lights up like a Christmas tree when introducing her beau. May you have many, many happy years together! (You two are absolutely adorable together.)
Two compassionate, loving, understanding souls right here. What an example you both are to human beings in general. What a beautiful world it would be if we could all be this supportive of our fellow man.
So true
Schizophrenia is a scary thing, being brave enough to speak up about it is an awesome thing. Thank you for being there for us all. Family and the ill alike.
I think you’re mentally more stable than me.
Hahaha me too lmao
Same here.
Why wouldn't she be? She has a chronic remitting and relapsing disease. It can be managed to the point where one behaves normally.
@@realascanb222 exactly. Psychosis isn't a permanent state.
SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.
I love this video. My mother had schizophrenia, was on psychiatric medicines and suffered with symptoms. She was also happily married. My parents seemingly adored each other. They were committed to each other for life. That is the one thing I was hoping for when I found my partner--a marriage like theirs.
I have schizoaffective I’m 26 and I been with my husband for 7 years 🥰 happily married I love him we are not going to have kids Dow but we have a dog and we can just have fun in life by traveling or saving money and use it for things that makes us happy 😊
Do the voice in your head ever talk dirty to you?
Blessings on you all stay strong
I met my schizophrenic wife on the train. I didn’t find out till our dates when she would out of nowhere laugh uncontrollably and say god talks to her. I stopped seeing her. When she called me I gave her a ultimatum , either she gets help or I won’t be with her. She started going to a clinic and taking meds. She got so much better. But she gets those voices when she stops her meds. I love her
It's so great to see you break your professional characters and giggle and just show how in love you are. It's great how you can be so brave to share and to fight the stigma and help bring people hope. You are doing a great job.
you guys seem so great together
Editing can do that for even the most screwed relationships lol. Not that they aren't great together, but everyone has ups and downs. It's just no one ever posts the downs obviously. It's funny to me when people take any type of post at face value, like that tells you any damn thing about the person or their relationships. That's just silly. It's all a big advertisement of your best self across all personal media. It really just furthers this self important idea most western people have to the detriment of all relationships and the breakdown of the family unit. So let's just be real and not try to keep up or strive for some fake shit like #relationshipgoals because you will just end up alone. It's all bs in the end.
dude, im mrried with a kid and i have schizoffective. i have a caregiver.
Thank you so much for your intriguing and well done videos on schizophrenia. When I was 26, I married a woman who developed paranoid Schizophrenia after a year of marriage. It seems to hit in the early 20's. She refused to take any medication, and became totally irrational. Life became absolute madness. The medications were pretty poor in the late 1970's. There were bad side effects. I'm sure they are much better now. As far as not wanting to take a medication, that seems to be part of the illness. Keep up the great and informative work of making these videos. Lauren, I have to say that you have the most stunningly beautiful eyes and a wonderful smile!!!
I love this! My fiancé is Schizoaffective. He confided in me on our second date, and I could not be more thankful. A few months after that he relapsed and I was able to rehabilitate him every step of the way while he was in the hospital. We had the conversation and the understanding of how and when. Warning words, etc. this video was extremely relatable. The stigma is hard to overcome, the stereotypes etc.
self care is so important, therapy is so important. It helps us so much. Humor helps ALL the time.
SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.
roki feler actually it’s not genetic at all. Thanks though. Our first child is due next year.
roki feler sad to hear that you and your spouse were not open about mental health.
It’s a genetic risk factor - same as alcoholism and drug addiction. with that said, schizophrenia is not directly passed from one generation to the other and there is no single or specific cause to it. Schizophrenia and Epilepsy actually have the same genetic commonalities. I’m glad you talked to a doctor about it, however my sister is a physician and has gone into depth and length about this, along with his psychiatrist and psychologist. These things do happen at random, and it is not schizophrenia itself that is passed, its an abnormality in dopamine across the brain. Mental illness is not a means to an end, and should not be looked upon as lives ruined, that is simply ignorant. Your boys can thrive and live wonderful lives, as my parter does. We own a home, started a family, he’s an engineer for a well known international company in his field - and it’s all because he chose to not let it define him, keep people who support him close, and make sure he advocates for himself when things don’t feel right.
roki feler as I said - I’m sorry that you feel this way and I’m sorry the communication between your wife and you was lost. As for my soon to be husband, it was not genetic at all. No one in his family has a history of mental illness above bouts of depression. It was entirely random and that is how it is for some people. The genetic pool is vast and complicated, there are many factors and influences and vulnerabilities that can be at play, that does not make something genetic, environment also plays a huge part in mental disorders. Oxford university released a huge study on the genetic relations of bipolar, schizophrenia, and schizoaffective disorder proving that while an increased vulnerability factor can play a part, in twins, one who is diagnosed with the above disorder the other has a 0-10% chance of also being diagnosed. It is still an at will, at random diagnosis. Your hardships are valid, and it’s good you’ve been doing research, the studies are there and they are plain as a day, the rhyme and reasoning is still very unsure.
Frank289100 dude you made me laugh so hard! Thanks!!
You are incredibly articulate. It’s so easy to listen to you talk.
Lauren is such an intelligent & self-aware individual. She is enlighten and engaging individual. I wish more people were as intelligent and accepting of their illness.
Well said!
My partner's daughter has schizophrenia, she does not take her medicine on a regular basis because she is in denial for over 15 yrs. Her Dad is a doctor so gives her medicine because she refuses to see a psychiatrist, she is being enabled by her father. Otherwise, she won't take meds. I refuse to deal with her as every time I help her she bites me like a snake, so I'm done with her because she is not mature at 30+ yrs old and does not want to evolve by consulting a psychiatrist. I wish she could be more like you. You are indeed very mature, open, and intelligent. You are a role model, an example of going to your human potential even if you are not perfect all the time (no one ever is even people who do not have this disease). Your couple with Rob seems to be great, congratulations, guys make a great couple and seem to support each other. Thanks again for the video.
The way you two looked at each other when you were talking about having someone loving to bring you out of your own headspace and sort of take care of brought so much love to my heart.
Hi, lauren. like your hopeful videos, I am lecturer of one of Egypt universities. I am a mother of 2 childeren and my husband understand my illness. I diagnosed as schizophrenic 4 years ago.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. One of my ex was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I had no idea what that meant at the time. A big part of me wishes I had more knowledge and understanding of the disease at the time. She'd have these episodes where I had no idea what she was talking about or why she was so upset. Looking back I can only imagine how helpless and alone she must have felt, me being there but not having a clue how to be supportive and help her through it. Thank you for posting your videos. Very educational.
I Absolutely agree with making things a bit light about the illness. I suffer from a different type of mental illness that I take medication for and my wife will notice the change in me and say "dude, you forgetting something?" I love that support you both offer each other. My wife of 26 years married into my world and we are happy as can be. Keep up the beautiful work and looking forward to more posts. Thank you so much for sharing.
SCHIZOPHRENIA AND WITH OTHER MENTAL ISSUES START OFF AS DEMONIC INFLUENCES. WHICH WE ALL HAVE THROUGHOUT OUR LIFETIME. THEN ONCE YOU TAKE THE ANTIDEPRESSANT AND OTHER SCHIZOPHRENIC DRUGS THEY TURN YOUR BRAIN INTO SCREAMED EGGS. I'M 58 AND I REMEMBER AS A CHILD BACK IN THE 1960'S BEING TOLD THAT DEMONS ROAM THE MENTAL INSTITUTIONS TORMENTING THE SOULS AND MINDS OF PEOPLE. 50 YEARS LATER WITH FACE TO FACE EXPERIENCE 27 YEARS AGO WITH SATAN, HOW TRUE THOSE WORDS WERE BACK THEN AS A CHILD THAT THE ALMIGHTY GOD INSTILLED IN ME TO REFLECT WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD TODAY. START A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND STAY AWAY FROM THESE ANTIDEPRESSANTS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE WORK OF THE DEVIL SATAN.
My girlfriend, has Schizoaffective Disorder, bipolar. Thank you for sharing this information. My partner showed me this channel and I look forward to learning, supporting, and being there for her. Thank you
My son is the hospital because his going through that 😭😭😭I’m so happy you so good and so happy you have a boyfriend!! You know my son is 24 and he never had a girlfriend ! God blessed you 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for this video. My fiancé of over 6 years was unofficially diagnosed with schizo-effective disorder with major depressive tendencies. She's a wonderful woman with so much love in her heart, but has a significant amount of childhood abuse. This has left her scarred in many ways, most significantly the constant feeling of inadequacy. Part of my role over the years has been to reassure her that she's fantastic and be a support while she's feeling low. She needs constant reassurance that I love her, I support her, and that she's not useless (which she believes most of the time). She's only 23, but she's making her way in the world. Hopefully I can be enough of a support system for her to succeed in the ways she wants to, but it's difficult on both ends knowing that I'm really her only constant support. She doesn't want to resort to anti-phychotics due to the (perceived?) high potential for negative effects (such as a fog over emotions and desires). I realize that I can only mention the possibility of medication and gage her reaction, but she has to come to the conclusion herself that she wants to move forward in that regard. I love her so much, and I will continue to reassure her that she's a wonderful person who can do anything that she sets her mind to, even if it takes longer than expected.
Your videos have really helped both of us, and me in particular. The increase in understanding that her need for constant reassurance isn't a lack of trust or love in me, but a symptom that can be managed with patience and love from both. Thank you.
Bless you and your partner, Tyler!
Thank you. I’m gonna share this with my BF, seems the 4 of us live parallel lives lol so this might help
Continue your showing love and support stay strong 💪💪
This is a good man.
You've brought a new positive look at Schizophrenia, Thanks it's a long road, mine since 1978, but I made it 2 retirement after 40 years of working.
My father told me you might have a problem rest of your life, but I'll tell you it's better 2 have a pocket of money with a problem than have a problem with no money.
I took a old med from the 50s that had reputation 4 helping people keep a job , Trilaphon,
Recently I saw a biography on Nina Simone in Netflix and they put her on trilaphon and she was able to perform 4 the rest of her life,I recommend this movie.
I'm 67 know and have some TD but not in public, but if had 2 take Trilaphon again, I definitely would, I got to live a more normal life, & and when you retire you can get off psych drugs, you outgrow them when your a senior by the way I' have a Scizoeffective disorder, don't mention it 2 much these days, Thanks again 4 the positive new face of Scizoeffective disorder. ✌🖖
Stay bless and enjoying your retirement 💞
Lauren, please do an episode on what friends and family can/should do when a 27-year old woman denies the diagnosis despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. Did you go through such a stage?
1. Find out what happened the day she was born. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1992 2. Get her a gift or send one that shows you understand. 3. Visit her (or video confrence). 4 (Most importantly) Treat her like a person, not a problem. :)
Let her be. Don’t force anything. I’m a 31 yr old diagnosed, never taken meds, never will. It’s hard, very hard, but it’s a better life to me. Maybe suggest she go speak to someone just to get things off her chest. I saw someone for a while who didn’t pressure me and accepted how I waned to do things. It was such a relief to remove the burdens and secrecy of all the years. Maybe that’s all she needs, too?
I guess I should clarify. I don’t believe I’m schizophrenic, I don’t believe in the disease. I’m a *very* spiritual person and my conditions all make perfect sense to me. Reality isn’t something you can put your own label on. Let her be free in her own world. Does she seem to be a harm to herself or others? Is she in a lot of pain? I think I could help her, quite a bit
Terry Heaton ❤️
@@starlite369 hi hun, do you have bad thoughts about hurting someone or anything like that? I am currently dating a guy who is one of the most sweetest person I've ever met! He says his very spiritual as well and that his OK. But he has schizophrenia its just too obvious
I dated a girl with PTSD and it felt like I was dating PTSD. There was no “our relationship is larger than the illness” so I am relieved that other people are living with illness and not being defined by it. Because I walked away with thinking that having a mental illness was the end for someone
😂 the first sentence sounded like a meme.
But yeah. I think it just happens that she presented more symptoms. Whereas for others people with mental illness, their condition is more well managed or less severe.
Still, no one is to blame. In the newest Joker movie, he wrote in his diary “ the worst part about having mental illness is being expected to act as if you don’t have one”.
Sadly, it’s still very common for people to expect such things. As much as physical illnesses have their own challenges, mental illnesses do too.
I’m sure you saw some kind of value in her, for you to date her despite PTSD. In any case, it is an experience. Getting to know another human being. I think you’re still lucky, getting to understand having mental illness is as difficult and real as physical illness, without having to have the illness itself and be in pain long term. I’m sure it changed your perspectives, so you’re not going to feel that people should just get over it and use will power, or that having mental illness means that you’re weak.
Being in this relationship wasn’t a waste of your time and energy, since it allowed you to see your personal threshold.
Oh I'm very happy I found your channel. I have generalized anxiety disorder and feel so alone. Mental health is still taboo and I feel like a failure. My husband is very supportive 😀
AnneLien1987 I have gad too. Are you able to work? I’m having a really hard time right now.
My partner was diagnosed with schizophrenia 15 years ago but we've known each other from school and all that... more than 25 years. I've been living with her for 7 months now and appart some discussions and fights, it's been bliss. Although she has that tendency to not accept the diagnose and keeps telling me i should help her leave the medication. I try to explain it's better to take the medication and accept it rather than try to avoid it. It's really complicated.
How’s everything now ?
I've had ALOT of positive relationships with people who were just like me with schizophrenia. I've met both men and women (I'm bisexual)as well as socialized with friends at a number of places including the bar, nightclubs, the club, coffee houses, poetry meets, comedy clubs, the mall, shopping centers, restaurants and the like. Jacksonville FL is a very social place. It's easy to find people. I've also found dates on dating sites, dating centers, etc. Right now, I am dependent on church activities to find people and that's a bit harder, but it's true, don't let your illness scare you. You can find love.
Why is it 80 of these idiots put thumbs down on this video. These all make sense. Lauren your doing a fantastic job with Rob on these videos. I've been in too many relationships because of this problem. It really depresses me and because of this I'm spending Christmas alone with no family or friends this year. I'm staying home
This is so lovely. I’ve just found your channel and watched several videos already. You really give me hope as someone who also has a very stigmatized and misunderstood diagnosis. I’m pretty open about having CPTSD, but I’ve yet to really disclose the rest (and when I have, it’s mostly not gone very well- lots of “You don’t have that” and misunderstanding that has just made me stop talking about it again). I want to learn to be more open because not being open and having to keep so much to myself is a lot of unhealthy pressure, and you’re really modelling a way forward. And of course I’m learning so much more about schizophrenia and schizoaffective disorder and can hopefully be a better support and friend to others who are dealing with it as well. Thank you for making these videos! I know the stigma can make it really scary and risky. I really appreciate what you’re doing.
I just want to say how amazing you guys are. I just found your videos last night and shared them with my girl friend. I can already see how much your videos are going to help us. So thank you so very much!
Thank you for sharing your experiences, so inspiring
Very inspirational for those of us with family members living with schizophrenia.
I love your videos, you have really opened my eyes to the reality of Schizophrenia/Schizoaffective disorder. I honestly had no idea the quality of life someone with such a diagnosis could live. Thank you, you are doing amazing things to break the stigma. I can't imagine dealing with that kind of stigma. I myself recovered from bpd which has its own stigma, obviously each illness has its own unique challenges though. ❤
Perfect timing ❤️ This video is exactly what I needed, as I have so much inner turmoil about opening up to my recent partner of 3 months about my DID and occasional psychotic episodes. It's taxing trying to hide these things that unfortunately consume so much of my day to day life, but I have a terrible fear of rejection.
Fascinating! TH-cam teaches me so much 😮
This is so wonderful to watch! I think it’s brilliant, Lauren, that you are being open and honest about the challenges you have faced and how it is possible to live with your diagnosis. Rob, you seem absolutely wonderful too. It’s refreshing to hear you speak to honestly about the challenges and how you have grown and learned in the relationship. You also seem like a very intelligent, kind hearted person.
You two are so precious!! Honestly relationship goals, bc the level of communication and understanding between y'all is freaking stellar. Love to you both from Texas 💙💙💙
your channel is a game changer! Thank you for teaching me and for your bravery... time to binge watch all your uploads!
Thank you for posting for Schizoaffective.
You guys are great. I also believe it is possible to have a great relationship with schizophrenia/schizoaffective. Me and my husband have been together 13 years now and he is so amazing and helped me through the bad times, the times before I was honest and when I wasn’t on medication, to being re-diagnosed a 2nd time involuntarily put in hospitals, and the fight with medication. Today I take my meds most of the time and I am doing well (not perfect but way better with therapy and other things) I’m having a rough week with symptoms and these videos have really helped. Thank you so much for making them
I struggle with paranoid schizophrenia. I do not have children of my own, but I am an aunt, the kids love me but - YOU HAVE TO BE MED COMPLIANT If you are going to be around his kids!!! One time before I was diagnosed and put on medication I became psychotic, (I have had 6 psychotic episodes, that I remember, where police had to be called), and I broke a friend's arm. I am never completely alone with my sibling's kids and I am ok with that because this is unfortunately a part of this illness.
Most people are not violent when ill, but if someone is frightened and feel threatened it's definitely a risk. Basically be very kind, compassionate and careful dealing with people in full-on psychosis.
Laura Fagan my grandma had schizophrenia and bipolar, my mom said she wasn’t allowed to be near my sisters and I (we’re triplets lol) until she got better and on medication
Good for you for being so open. Kudos to you for saying stay on your meds
@@personincognito3989 Staying on meds if you have a chronic mood/psychotic disorder is the best thing you can do. It's the foundation of being able to live a good life.
@@deardeaddays8673 that makes no sense at all.
thank you for giving us hope 💚
This video is SO INSPIRING. Love it!!!
You two are adorable! Really interesting video x
You are such a fighter! I had depression and I fought also a lot! So you give me hope! Im sending you my love for the hard work you do for the community and just anyone who struggles! Thank you for being open! Its so difficult to talk about this matters with the outside world because of the stigma as you said! Thank you! Keep up the good work! You are amazing!
Bless you sister.
What a wonderful video! Can't say enough good things about how well you explain everything. Thank you!
You are very blessed to live in Canada and have an outstanding and supportive worry free health care system. Not driven by money but buy respect and dignity regardless of ones social or financial standing.
@Matt G apparently not, but just imagine that happens to you then you get a bill for $78k.. because that's the American way.
Excellent. Thank you
I am so very thankful to see your blog. I have seen first hand the challenges of mental illness's including schizoeffective with loved ones as well as my own struggles with depression. It is always important to know we can overcome these challenges especially with a positive informed support system. I am so very happy for you as well, and you are a brave, strong woman. I pray for all the best for you guys.
Bless you and your partner. As a person that has dealt with depression most of my life, I wish you all the best!
This video was great, uou are two beautiful souls ❤️❤️❤️ i can feel/see so much love and support and both your eyes, its beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for sharing, wow! You truly helped me view this in a different form but I also feel your breaking barriers from stigma. It takes a lot to do this, I wish more people would open up on mental health. Thank you so much for your channel. Please keep making more.
You deserve the Nobel Prize in medicine - and peace.
I so agree with you . I hope ppl in authority will see her video and even make her a medical ambassador for mental illness ❤️💪
This is a great video. You both communicate effectively, and it is great to see how you listen to each other and respect one another.
Love it when you break from the script. Your face just light up and especially whenever Rob says something your eyes just gleam
Thank you for info
Hey Rob, thanks for the videos Lauren.
I'm a newer sub and these videos are comforting i think you're doing justice.
I suffered psychosis alone at twenty-one, five years ago. I had some support but no one knew anything and no one listened.
This was great, seeing you two together and how you interact. You're doing a very important thing for couples like you.
Oh you are such a gift! And you really are changing the face of mental illness for the better. For everyone. Thank you ❤️
GOOD! Thank you!
The world needs people like you to share your story. Thank you for your courage to put your story out there 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your videos they are so helpful and positive. My girlfriend is schizoaffective and all the advice and tips you've laid out in your videos help me so much to understand and cope with whats going on. Thank you again!
Love this and helps me in a new relationship, all unique challenges for sure. My struggle is when he is irritated at me when he is having a psychotic episode and hears voices, so hard to not take it personal and to work hard to stay together & love each other. Thank you!
I just discovered your channel the other day. Both of my parents have a schizophrenia diagnosis, my mom has schizoaffective disorder and my dad had schizophrenia. It's been very helpful to hear your story. I hope more people can understand this disorder and illness and move away from the stigma. 🦋😊
Thank you for this video. I’m currently frequenting a girl and recently she opened up about having the diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder. I got very scared and worried about still going deeper in a relationship. After viewing this video, it gave me a better insight and vision of the disorder. I’m diving in with more information and a general better insight. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing! I've been watching your videos and you explain things so well ... "for the rest of us.." who need to understand.
You two àre sooo Uh-Doooor- able!
I listen intently as you share and teach, then another part of another video where you and Rob converse crossed my mind. It is then that I smile and laugh at the love and caring we get to witness.
Thank you!!
Thank you for making this! Your relationship is beautiful as are you ❤️
This is another beautiful video xxx
Great video. I liked the Ellen Saks quote. I finished reading "The Center Cannot Hold" recently and really enjoyed it. Keep it up 👍
Last week I just disclosed to my friends that I was experiencing psychosis. All of them were really accepting. It was really nice hear that from them since I had no idea how they would react. This is a good video I will definitely take you advice for any future friendships.
So happy for you both, this is a wonderful compassionate approach.
And humor is always good.
Thank you so much for this video, it has been very helpful! I appreciate seeing how a relationship works with this diagnosis.
Thank you so much for this video. It has inspired me to continue to fight. I was just diagnosed a few months ago and my 8 year relationship is in real trouble. This video gives me something to aspire too. Keep up the good work.
Today I found out my girlfriend has symptoms. Ima bit nervous but my love for her makes me wanna help her and stay by her side. I appreciate your videos and your stories for helping me understand the difficulties and ways to overcome them. This is something I’m new to, so gaining as much knowledge for this topic has been a priority for me. I thank you for educating people like me who has a loved one who deals with Schizophrenic symptoms
Hang in there bro you are doing the right thing 💪💪
Love your channel, have been here since day 1!
Can't get over how cute you and Rob are together
Thank you for giving better understanding of schizophrenia.
This channel has entirely changed my perspective on schizophrenia and schizo effective disorder. I’m ashamed to say I was actually fearful of people with these conditions; my biggest phobia was developing one. However, now I see that through resilience of your strength and support that you can live so well with these conditions. Thank you for taking the brave step to share part of your life online; it is changing the world one persons view at a time x
This gives me hope for my son seeing you two together is amazing and sir you are so empathetic and caring you are one of a kind I wish I were more of you
Thanks for helping the people who need it. My symptoms sometimes were an issue early in my marriage, but after time a lot of the distress going along with relationships normalizes a lot. Remember have patience with each other, love & respect always as any problem can be solved together.
Girl, you are so brave! Thanks for helping us to understand schizophrenia with your experiences. I am sure it helps a lot of people.
Your videos are very helpful for understanding people with unique life challenges. We all have them but some just get bigger LABELS but I believe we all can learn from somebody like you. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences of finding mental balance in your life.
Wow....you are helping millions expand their minds on this....thank you from my heart.
I am happy to see that u r surrounded by thoughtful people. Also appreciate how you are honest about this and you show how mental illness is an illness. All it takes mostly to deal with it is a proper diagnosis, care and acceptance.
This is such a wonderful video. You are both role models.
It was really nice to see how much you lit up in the presence of your boyfriend! More power to you both! Thank you for your videos I have learned a lot from you.
You truly are a blessing to so many people. God had a wonderful purpose for your life ❤️
You are very smart and very brave to tell your story, and to continue to tell your story. I’m certain that, by doing so, you are helping people and yourself too! Brava!