Therapists help guide and support, but the actual work is by the client. Anthony's therapist didn't fix Smosh. Anthony worked on himself, and "fixing Smosh" is up to both Ian and Anthony.
@sans-befriended-your-mom Bro, I have therapy. It was a joke, chill. I understand therapy isn't to fix your problems, it's for the person to recognize why they feel what they feel and how to work though it
Not a therapist, but as someone who’s wrote similar letters. I feel like it’s because Anthony wrote in privacy and was allowed and encouraged to be a sincere as he wanted to and not have to preform or summarize or anything like that. Some people are more self aware than others, but I feel like allowing yourself to willingly step into an environment and talk openly while being alone with yourselves allows you to be a bit more honest and open minded a towards yourself and even those you’re mad at. I imagine if young adult Anthony said all this to Ian immediately at the time face to face. It might’ve been a bit harder with the pressure and this need “to preform” and lay everything out correctly. Which could lead to them both becoming immediately more defensive and more willing to just angrily point fingers rather than get to the bottom of why they’re upset. Maybe everything would’ve been fine if the talked it out right then, maybe not considering they weren’t ready for these kinds of conversations, who knows I do wonder if anyone else knows more about this kinda stuff can weigh in on if this is a common or not. Like I wonder how sincere people really are when writing letters like these when they know no one will see them. Is it just a me and Anthony thing? Or is it just common overall in general? This is just my two cents after all
@@theradionicrevival8068i feel writing stuff down makes you reflect on your words more. For example, I would not write down anything I didn’t actually feel or mean, I would stumble in my writing if it was untrue or feel the need to cross it out. Besides, you’re on your own and therefore vulnerability is less threatening than in a face-to-face situation which leads to greater honesty in my opinion. You’re less frightened about losing face and there isn’t even an opportunity to get misunderstood and interrupted or provoked, all things that make face to face convos that much more volatile.
All joking aside, it really does sound like a married couple who became too focused on their baby that they forgot to take care of each other and that time apart made them realize how much they really do care about each other and what was wrong. As a child of a broken home (in more ways than one) who never got to see what reconciliation or a healthy relationship, I'm happy to see friends getting along again.
I don't think they knew they were doing it, but they have given many people a wonderful gift. The gift of hope. Hope for a path towards reconciliation.
You put how I feel into words, especially since I started watching smosh when me and my dad moved in with my step-ma and her kids, don´t worry, she is amazing. But yeah, dad and dad got back together
Even if it's muted, Ian is happy to have his best friend back too. Anthony is more of the emotional one while Ian is more logical. Doesn't mean he can't show emotion. He just shows it in a different way from his best pal. Something anybody with a friendship like that can relate to.
Which is hilarious to think of Ian taking any of this the wrong way, like dude needs to be told directions multiple times in life, he's always going to let you explain
I feel like everyone thought Ian was fragile emotionally and mentally to a certain point. Clearly it didn’t go as bad as they thought it would. Truly glad to have them back
Actually I think he was hoping to really make sure Ian understands that he needs to open up more by doing this. Good move. Ian needs to be reminded, because his default is to keep to himself and not show what he's truly feeling. The ending of Anthoy's letter is so on point '' does anyone know the real you? '' . I don't think anyone does. If anyone has a chance though it might him because Ian reacts more strongly to Anthony than anyone else for some reason, it's pretty easy to see.
I see a lot of comments that mention Ian's "indifference" to Anthony's letter, and how it's "on-brand" for him. As someone who can kind of relate to Ian, I'd also like to mention that it might be just Ian's way to protect Anthony. He reacts to everything he reads calmly and follows Anthony's reactions, because he doesn't want to feed any more insecurities. I think Ian is actually a very thoughtful person and even calculative, but the very fact that he doesn't voice his concerns or thoughts might cause him to come off as someone who's cold and indifferent. Even with the joke/not-joke apology, he wants to end things with a lighter mood to take attention away from Anthony's vulnerability by making himself a clown. I might be talking out of my ass but that's how I see it.
i completely agree tbh. i havent watched smosh in years but been binging them after the announcement and seeing ian with other cast, hes exactly like this, just a bit more vulnerable since this is his best friend
I don’t know these people personally so I have no clue if that true, but I’d like to believe that, almost a Billy Madison-esk figure, where he would rather be the subject of ridicule that have his friends be singled out
This is oddly the nicest angry letter I’ve heard. Miscommunication is what tears people apart. It’s beautiful y’all could find common ground to communicate issues y’all had in the past.
Yeah I think Anthony is the type to overanalyze and Ian is the type to just take everything at face value. No wonder misunderstandings happened to be fair, very 2 different types of perception.
Ian is definitely still struggling with emotion(which is understandable and not quick fix), but also Anthony is struggling with overthinking still.. but they are doing so much better already. I understand both 🥲 been through it myself personally too.
@@micholous Same bruh at different points throughout the vid I was like "Ian was being a real jerk", then a second later being like "Anthony expected way too much out of Ian and was being super sensitive"! Humans are complex and I've also felt both sides.
@@howsitgoingbros3711I mean he literally is the only reason smosh is still around. Without Ian when defy was gone smosh would’ve been no more. But he kept it going then Sure thanks to GMM for buying them out, but I’m sure if Ian wasn’t still involved they wouldn’t have done that either. Also he carried an ever evolving cast of characters and shows and crew being a leader while Anthony got to just leave on his life boat while the ship is sinking and say hope it goes good and starts his own channel.
THANK YOU!! I’ve been thinking this for so long, this comment needs to be amplified. Ian’s like the parent who held the house together through the ups and downs like it’s good that people are happy Anthony is back but if it wasn’t for Ian, Anthony wouldn’t have anything to come back to no?
@@danihydrant9767 I think its mostly that Ian does take stuff at face value. If you remember the first thing Ian asked before consenting to reading this in the past video was - when was this written. Once he got confirmation it was longtime ago and it is no longer how Anthony feels, he looked way more comfortable. I dont think Ian is the type to overthink, if you tell him the letter is no longer how the person feels, he will read it with detachement. Which is why they needed to communicate better, coz they have very different perceptions of the same reality. Anthony is the type to actively read into details, while Ian is the type to actively try to see things from above to get a better perspective. both perceptions are very valid, and creatively probably why they work so well together...but it also means that they will constantly experience the same moments and draw totally different conclusions.
if you've ever watched ian enough in any other video, you can see that he's not the overly emotional type, but we can see his growth. he actively listens, provides input, doesn't try to add anything that he doesn't think is there. out of the two of them, ian is definitely the one that doesn't have a tendency to overthink or overanalyze anything, and is generally trying to make a positive experience about even something bad. he said the same sort of thing in the first video when they sat down together. he just wasn't equipped w the right tools to open up but it's also not necessarily in his personality either. i think, between anthony clarifying that a lot of it was his own misinformed, misunderstood, overanalyzing self-judgements being projected outwardly, ian could reflect better on what he did wrong (and then owned up to) and not give much attention to the things he felt weren't accurate or just didn't need any extra clarification. ian strikes me as the type of person that might seem closed off but he's actually warm in different ways. his body language speaks louder for him than his words or tone do.
It's not that, it's just a frustration letter with some of it him feeling guilt over everything because he has an overthinking personality (like I and many other people do)
They did this whole charade for more views... idk why people can't see that. There's nothing wrong with it, I just don't think smosh fans comprehend it. The parasocial relationships people have as fans of smosh is unnerving
It's nice to see Ian seem full of life again. He said in previous videos that people often just asked him 'hey are you okay?' and I'm not going to lie, it was always obvious even during the Shayne/Courtney era of Smosh that Ian just.. wasn't there anymore. He was still funny, and around, and did his boss/manager stuff, but he wasn't Ian anymore. Anthony being back seems to have brought a bit of life back to him.
you described this so well!! i thought i was the only one who saw it. he really seems so much more himself now that anthony is back. he was always so great. and obviously was an integral amazing part of smosh, but it seems like a friendship was restored and strengthened here.
I'm assuming it's because after Anthony left, he had to take charge of the company to allow people to keep their jobs, he had to shoulder so much responsibility and I'm guessing that just broke him down to a very difficult to recover degree, so having Anthony back is probably a big positive in his life now
Watching men being open about their feelings is a huge contribution of smosh to society. We need men to talk and be vulnerable, we need them to feel and be free
I mean you don't speak for everyone, some men don't want to talk. Guys, I just don't like talking about feelings. And I think most of us don't. It's not about finding a "safe space" its about being yourself and letting your feelings out in your own way. you do you 💖
To piggyback on what you said that I totally agree with, I think its also enlightening for so many men who watch this to see that this is being done by two men who obviously have very different ways of processing emotion. While this difference may cause distance or misunderstanding, Ian and Anthony are very diligent and respectful towards each other and the fact they do think about things differently and have different perspectives. I think its wonderful to see two men being vulnerable with each other, and I think its even more wonderful to see these two men being so respectful towards each other's vulnerability as well. It is nice to see that maturity on display here and being a good example for young men who may see this and may have trouble not only with their own vulnerability, but the vulnerability of others as well.
@@IntelloGent Still want to tell you that please don't push yourself too hard if you might do something like that. If you found someone you're comfortable with, told them your feelings is okay.
For real. That's how you have compassion. Ian just sitting there going, "ok." Oof to be Anthony just getting nothing from him. Pretty gut wrenching.. :/
@@Hmm...Whats-Their-Namewell if you're sitting there reading words of resentment is difficult as it is but then, there are a lot of people behind the camera, while you're reading this you know what you say will go online (what do you want to be out there of your personal life) also Ian isn't an open person as I view it. I can totally understand that this is difficult for him
I know a lot of people are commending Anthony for his vulnerability in letting this be shared (and rightly so!) but I want to say it's incredible to see Ian be so vulnerable in receiving and responding to this in real time. He had no idea what the letter would say and you could tell it is still much harder for him to be vulnerable with his emotions than it is for Anthony. A lot of men are taught that they shouldn't open up and be introspective about their own feelings. To watch someone who appears to struggle with that allow himself to hear these things, reflect on them, open up, and respond to them without (at least not 100% of the time) relying on humor as a crutch is so impressive to see and is a telling sign that their partnership is going to work even better this time.
Yeah, I think Ian is noticeably less comfortable than Anthony to immediately delve deeper into what was said beyond "we're in a better place now", but understandably all of it is super fresh information for him so he needs time to evaluate the contents of this letter, let them sink in and form his own thoughts on them. Still, as someone who would probably act the same in the moment and spend the next couple weeks at least with things popping up in my head regarding this letter, mad props to him.
Anthony has grown has part of his own "I spent a day with" series. He has learnt a lot about vulnerability through that. If anything seeing him grow and learn in those episodes is one of the best bits.
This is my favorite part about getting older. There comes a time (which varies on the individual) that you realize negativity or comments that could hurt are just an opportunity to grow closer. Parents, friends, even enemies and bullies, I hope everyone is able to forgive and be able to accept feedback from people in their lives. I think it comes from a blooming confidence in oneself and a “slow to anger” demeanor
Anthony and Ian represent something that the internet hasn’t seen a lot of, Reconciliation, everything on TH-cam feels so fragile and temporary. As many TH-camrs break apart and fracture but we never see them come together and try to heal
@@luisdonoso6154 I know, but I realize Alex and Roi’s separations came a year before Ian and Anthony’s separation, and they both went through a falling out. And then this year, both sets of friends reunited, and just a day after this one, Roi and Alex made a video addressing their separation like Ian and Anthony did.
@@zOMGGaiaOnlineThat was so genuinely distressing to see happen. I remember being genuinely sad about that because I had felt that Mat and Pat had such a similar relationship to me and my best friend, and to think of not having my boi around was crazy depressing. I still to this day hope they can reconcile.
@@ibendover4817 well duh it's cuz they're in their early 20s or Children, so they haven't fully emotionally matured yet (I say that like I'm not a Zoomer)
@@rescuerex7031 Many people from earlier generations didn't have it this bad in their 20s. Stats seem to back this up with zoomers being labelled the loneliest generation, unable to start or maintain friendships or relationships.
Seeing two men from your childhood grow and become vocal about their feelings and mending something what once was emotionally destroyed and kept away. It's a thing of beauty.
Ian reading Anthony's letter gives off "English Teacher reading your essay to the class and Anthony's just trying to explain the things he wrote" energy
You can tell Anthony is legitimately scared to have Ian read this, if we as the audience can see how much you've both grown then I definitely think Ian can understand those feelings aren't the same anymore
I think it has more to do with them reconciling and resolving the issues than with them just coming back into each other's life. I think Ian too has held on to these things for a long time. Edit: Also, Anthony starting the "I spend a day with" series to talk about things from which most people shy away makes too much sense now. He wanted to completely explore this arena of talking about feelings to probably understand what went wrong with their relationship
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who noticed!! Ian is just like his old self, he’s so happy and goofy and just glad to be doing videos with his best friend again. It’s so refreshing and their happiness with each other makes me so happy!!😭😭💚💚💚💚
even in an angry letter to ian u can tell how much anthony cared about him EVEN WHEN their friendship was at their worst potentially. like i just think that is so wholesome. they srsly r soulmates
Ian is never open. You don't see his emotions at all and that was the issue for Anthony, but I think he has just given up on that front and will just accept the fact that he will never see that from Ian.
this video really showed how much really has gone unspoken. The fact that Anthony still kinda stood by some of his feelings in the letter and pretty much all of Ian's responses were "no I didn't really feel that way" or "I dont really remember that" says a lot. They're personalities are exactly the kind that when in a friendship together, these kinds of misunderstanding can so easily happen. Anthony seems like a super anxious person who overthinks the intentions and feelings of everyone around him and feels things very strongly. whereas Ian seems like he struggles to/doesn't often connect with his emotions and the emotions of others beyond the surface level--he seems really low maintenance and not very comfortable with discussing his feelings. Take someone who doesn't share his feelings and someone who's constantly making assumptions about people's feelings and you get some pretty chonky misunderstandings.
@zoeyl4d939 definitely, however by now they have developed the tools to deal with these misunderstandings head on instead of just shoving everything down so the chances of it escalating again like it did before are pretty low imo
As an anxious person i absolutely see this dynamic between them, as long as they are both self aware and willing to see each other out then their friendship reconnection can be successful
anthony making an angry letter about how hurt and betrayed he was towards ian but starting it off with grattitude and appreciation towards ian, the letter filled with compassion and mostly abt trying to understand ian instead of just plain out hating and being vengeful towards ian is such an anthony thing to do.
that beginning literally made me cry. like straight up from the second sentence. Anthony prefacing this as an angry letter but then it reading "I grew up in a broken home with little money and no means to explore the world", practically thanking ian so genuinely for being someone that he could explore the world with, just broke me. they have been, and clearly remained, the realest there is.
@@gibramrivera-yv2loWhat an incel-oid immature take from the situation. Anthony is an adult man who made a choice because he wasn't happy working for Defy any longer. You're weird as hell for pining it on his ex fiance.
@@sarcasticsuperjerk18 I'm under no rock, people made 1 video and moved on lmao, this is a baby's first sketch group at best and half of you are just desprate to keep alive what I was lucky to experience first hand
Ian is deadass the goat. He has such a level maturity here that he is willing to go through a roller coaster of emotion live and realtime. We all need an Ian in our life.
he was actually my favorite out of the smosh duo when they were in their prime. since then, i’ve been loving anthony’s “spent a day” series and i’m glad to see them back together on youtube once again. it’s really inspiring to see them do this like you said in real time. i don’t know if i could’ve held myself together as well as ian did
Ian doesn’t strike me as someone who likes to talk feelings. He’s just chilled. I still see the silly kid from 2006. And then there’s someone like Anthony who just needs constant validation and affirmation, who probably has changed the most since they met. No one’s right or wrong, these are just very different people trying to manage a very long relationship. Kudos to them!
that was actually well said, you perfectly pinpointed their relationship as well as identified their personalities. Sure they may be different, but not all friends need to identical and have a lot in common to be best friends.
Hes not chilled. It comes down to awkwardness and quietness. Hes definitely not the same dude from then. Both of them have changed in different ways. And him not wanting to talk about problems and angst between the two of them because of his awkwardness and neutered emotions is exactly what the problem was between them. Other than that the both of them are extremely frustratingly stupid dudes who have made some bafflingly stupid and goofy decisions in their personal lives and professional. Hopefully they stop acting stupid as phuck
I’m glad someone said that about Ian. I don’t think he’s closed off. He just doesn’t want to talk about his feelings all the time. It’s fine. Anthony is more emotional and I think he’s learning to accept that some people aren’t exactly the same as him. They’re both beginning to understand each other, and that’s cool.
Anthony's letter was kinder than I expected... thank god.. I relate so much to Anthony, overanalyzing and holding on to friends' passive aggressive comments. Trying to interpret every little thing. I feel like the anxiousness is still there, and you just have to not let it consume you by getting it out and talking it out.
same, i completely related to anthony A LOT (i have a lot of mixed emotions towards this one best friend, we started a friend group together, but then i also left it twice, i have an unsent letter for her etc.) so this literally felt like watching myself except a good ending of it lol
It’s so clear Anthony needs words of affirmations to feel loved from Ian, and Ian needs quality time from Anthony to feel loved. Yes and each other, and meet each other’s love languages frequently.😊
@@diegod7936 Guys have only recently started caring more about their friends' wellbeing rather than perceiving caring about friends' emotional health as "being gay". That's what I understood it as, anyway.
I can't believe no one laughed at Ian's reveal of his diary! He is so hilarious and incredibly talented with his comedic timing. Amazing that Smosh is back. I feel so happy lol
Wasn't his apology AI? Maybe he masked the authenticity with comedy, a very Ian thing to do but he said some of the references were made by the AI, so.. not very "I'm using my time to apologise to my friend" of him. Remarking at the end that he forgave Anthony, too. When he did wrongs too. I've got to admit, it didn't feel sincere.
Of course Anthony's "angry letter" would be filled with compassion and understanding and little to no actual rage towards his friend. I think Anthony is really emotionally mature, sensitive and I can see Ian trying really hard to accommodate that. I'm really glad they're both at a point they understand each other and are willing to compromise certain things to make the friendship work. Very proud and happy for you guys 🫂
In addition to your comment, I think people should not harp on Ian for being emotionally insensitive. We are products of our environment. Its obvious that Anthony is the more emotional one whereas Ian is very disassociated from his emotions. Its good to get their issues out like this because it vocalizes their needs to each other.
@@classyjohn1923 I can relate to Ian a lot, actually. I used to be like that due to various reasons (mostly trauma) and slowly became more like Anthony through (shocker!) therapy. That's why I said I can see Ian really trying to accommodate his friend and his feelings, it's something he deserves all the praise for because I know first hand how hard it is to face real and open emotion when you don't know (or don't have the tools) to respond in an equal manner. Very proud of both of them for meeting half way 🥺
@@King_Jonghyun Thanks for being vulnerable. I think thats quite a drastic change to turn from a Ian to an Anthony because they're clearly on opposite spectrums of emotional awareness. I'm sure Ian has his fair share of trauma which caused him to become like that. I've experience quite a bit of childhood trauma in my case which led to me being similar as well (and I've similarly become more empathic through therapy and self-improvement and introspection). Its no secret that people change over time and after going through new experiences. With respect to relationships, I think the ones that last the longest learn to adapt to each other's changes and even that is a form of change as well.
@@classyjohn1923 Thank you for sharing your thoughts as well, I love that this comment section somehow became a safe space for a lot of people to open up and share our experiences. My change wasn't actually that drastic, 10+ years of therapy and still working every day to better myself! It's always nice to meet people going through similar experiences, I know the healing process is hard sometimes but I hope you're doing great in yours 🤍
you could tell how much anthony was embarrassed by how red his face kept getting but really this “angry” letter was just a very hurt guy missing his friendship and not knowing how to fix it (also as someone who watched anthony’s old channel he ran with his ex not surprising that his relationship with her damaged the one he had with ian to some extent)
It read much more like those 2 relationships conflicting with eachother, not necessarily that his romantic one damaged their friendship. They've all acknowledged that they weren't the best.
@@shadow_song they had a vlog channel and anthony later came out and said she was a liar and a manipulator and felt like she used him for their entire relationship. I was a huge fan at the time, always watching smosh and these vlogs, and it was obvious that they never hung out with ian together and her and ian's relationship seemed nonexistent
@@madelame_ also, to add to your comment, his partner felt like she couldn't settle to one thing, for example; she had an aesthetic, and then another and shaded the last aesthetic, it's probably minor, but personally I feel this could came out in other aspects of her personality.
This whole saga of Smosh reuniting has been really emotionally intense. This is like a master class in conflict resolution and discussing feelings from a position of strength and maturity. I’m here for it; I hope all the viewers take this to heart and seriously learn something. You guys are doing a valuable public service, whether you intended to or not.
Sorry I know you commented this a while ago but I think you’re so right. I think a lot of classes on relationship building are so non genuine and are always in controlled environments or with people who already are mature enough to communicate feelings. Here we see two human beings, imperfect, teaching us as long as there efffort and a curiosity instead of judgement, there’s a lot you can do. And they benefit from it so hard. I keep coming back to this even after a year because of how genuine this feels.
Even though this was probably really weird for them to film, this is an amazing example for their younger audience on the importance of communication in relationships and how you can make amends in friendships. That is really important for young people to see, especially since it was years before Ian and Anthony reconnected.
I think it’s also important for younger people to realize that it’s okay to not know who you are even through your 20’s. Life’s complicated and there’s no real formula on how to get through it, everyone takes a different route. Figuring yourself out is a process that takes time and I feel nowadays people try to rush it. Moral of the story it’s okay to not know who you are, as long as you’re working on figuring it out.
This wasn’t really an angry letter to me. It was more like a moderately, emotional, breakdown letter. Based on how much Anthony has been worried about this letter in the comments of the 2 Truths 1 Lie video, I expected to hear much more curse words, as well as him saying horrifyingly awful stuff to Ian. I’m glad Anthony allowed Ian to read this because it burned every bad thing in their past completely away.
To me it was more of angry letter to himself than Ian. Literevery angry point boiled down to his insecurities about himself at the time and projected them to Ian as though they were thoughts of Ian's. I think that's also why Ian had very few feelings about it, because very little to do with anything he actually did or felt at the time.
You can see how much Anthony loves Ian so much by the way he described him in this letter, not to mention how thankful he is to Ian because Ian broke him out of his comfort zone. It's like they're soulmates. Also take note that a soulmate is not always a romantic thing, it can be a platonic thing. It can be felt between these two that no matter how long they spent apart, when they reconnected, everything just worked and fell into place.
Soul mates ain’t real there’s not only one person for you in the world 😂 that’s how creepy obsessive stalkers are made thinking that this person was meant for you in any way is weird they’re just really amazing friends that vibe really well
@@CalebSmith-gg1dt you’re right about one thing it ain’t that deep relax boo getting all offended cause I don’t believe in your weird concept of soul mates that is weird there’s not just one person out there for you there’s plenty of fish in the sea I can tell you’re fragile from your comment
The "angry letter" was literally Anthony wanting to mend back his friendship with Ian but not knowing how to at the time. 😭 I'm so glad they were able to reconnect. And it's so nice to see two men so open about their feelings, that's some healthy masculinity right there. ✨
The best thing about Anthony being back is seeing this beaming side of Ian that we'd been missing for so many years. This video is indeed so heartwarming and Gooch queen
Ians letter is so cute to me. It seeks comedic and it is, but it also shows how he express himself. He isnt the bedt with direct words, but his comedy allows him to let it out without being direct and upfront like his usual self.
Ian also knows his audience. Not everyone would get everything between the lines, but if there's one person that definitely will, it's Anthony Padilla. ❤
@@MsCunningLinguisticLike i saw some comments about how weird or mean or whatever it was, but I feel that the metaphors Anthony refers to are pretty self-evident in how they refer to Smosh’s Titanic, and Ian himself as the buddy and the Dinosaur-like pizza eater, and the roles they play in each other’s minds, and for the purview of other people through an act of ventriloquism. I don’t pretend to understand everything he was meaning, or if any of it didn’t intentionally, overtly have a meaning translatable like code. But Anthony seemed genuinely touched to me, Ian’s act was poetry and you can feel the cadence toward to end, especially then
Yeah I was expecting it to be brutal and some unfair things said out of frustration/anger, but this seemed like a proper pondering of their relationship and Anthony's grievances with it
For real. When I was packing up my stuff, I found an old journal around the time of my parents separation and a whole bunch of other things happening that I forgot I even wrote. It was not pretty, nor was it nice at all. It had A LOT of anger and resentment, and immaturity. I was reading through it and I cringed.
I think the fact that Anthony thought that *this* was something truly awful and the fact that Ian was very receptive to the conversation here really is a testament to how much they've both grown. I think what Anthony wrote was very honest, and like of it was self-reflective. He did write a few digs at Ian, but the way he talked about this in the 2 Truths 1 Lie video made it sound like the most brutal piece of writing every put to paper lol. I also really respect Ian for being able to look past the digs that Anthony wrote and see what exactly that real point of it was; people tend to have trouble parsing what is being said out of high emotions and what is being said genuinely, but I really have to hand it to Ian: he's obviously grown a lot and is a lot more comfortable putting his walls down and understanding others. I was one of the ones really worried that this video would turn out awful and just be painful to watch, but it ended up being really honest and kind of sweet. What a way to kick off a new era of Smosh
it was actually so interesting to hear anthony has had that expectation of "if i open up, you open up" because my understanding has always been that if someone's opening up it's their moment/their time and you're just supposed to support them and not make it about you. opening up actually just always seems to be something actively socially frowned on even with friends, so that's such a different view on what i've heard about that kind of thing before.
When one person shares and the other person responds with their own sharing, a reciprocity is developed. It can strengthen the relationship because both people felt comfortable enough to share and value that each person did.
if it's frowned on among your group its not a very close group is all i can say i have people open up and i open up to almost everyone i call a good friend mind you having a bunch of friends that aren't that close is totally normal, just know its layers and not law
The fact that the letter wasn't all that bad, wasn't all that crass or demeaning shows how great Anthony is. Like a truly wonderful human being who is still considerate and leaves room for the benefit of the doubt even when he's angry. Long live Smosh
This is how apology videos should be. Honest, raw and genuine. More of that should be normalized especially when men need to be more vulnerable and open up their feelings.
It's also great to show that men can learn to open up even if that's not their initial instinct (i.e. Ian clearly has never been a super open emotional person but you can see that he's growing and getting better at it).
Ian and Anthony should legit be ambassadors for male mental health positivity, the level of maturity and openness these two men are showing is incredible and I love how vulnerable and nice they’re being with each other Two kings right here
31:47 Just looking at these two, looking at Anthony... This man is on the verge of tears. He put his heart out there, and he's being validated, and two best friends are having a moment that they both needed for years. This is utterly beautiful.
The fact that Anthony and Ian were able to be this vulnerable, for us to watch, is a testament to their commitment to the future of this brand. This felt raw, like they wanted us to heal with them. I’ve always felt that Smosh wanted a community, through inside jokes, callbacks, and fan interactions/participation and this to me was them saying that’s what they plan to continue now that they’re in charge.
I wonder if maybe it’s a bit too much a commitment to the brand especially on Ian’s end, a bit of a reversion? No shade at all to Ian I think he’s doing amazing and so glad they’re back together!!!! But the unicorn journal was a bit silly when I think Anthony was trying to do some soul bearing. I think Anthony’s right in saying you shouldn’t expect anything but more honest and maybe slightly painful but caring communication could be good between them to stop the old patterns arising, and doing things just for the viewers! The fake video friendship is great, but the real friendship is so much more important and more IMPORTANTLY, not for us! It’s between you guys and don’t feel pressure to get everything right but keep loving and being understanding of yourselves and maybe you can challenge that old stuff! Love X
@@jacobwiggans4470 Kinda funny how the next day, Alex and Roi make a heart-to-heart video like this one talking about their separation and open up to each other.
I just want to point out how respectful Ian was being with his words when it came to talking about Anthony's past relationship, not wanting to bash it but also wanting Anthony to know that it had an impact on their friendship. Such growth in this entire video!
This whole conversation really puts into perspective how Anthony thought about their relationship too much and Ian didn't think about it enough. Anthony overanalyzed and overthinked it and Ian just went with the flow and assumed everything would be fine/work itself out
fax i think Ian is the type of person to just assume everything's fine and never talk about anything even if there was an issue hoping that everything would sort itself out eventually 🤷♂️
I felt that too. Ian was just along for the ride in a sense. Gotta say, I didn’t think Ian was the behind the creative side of things. That shocked me a bit. I don’t know why
Ian saying Anthony might have an ulterior motive, earlier in the friendship, says to me that there was way more going on behind the scenes than we know. I'm glad they're friends again but we don't know what kind of people they really are. Which is fine because that's serious parasocial stuff there
As bad of an idea this may sound, I believe it's actually a great thing to show to everyone, especially to young people. It show's how much a conversation with another person is important, especially if it's about your feelings. It shows maturity, it shows that you shouldn't be afraid to express your feelings and what can happen if you don't. I really like this, this is a great example of how important expressing yourself can be. Thank you all.
Honestly it's so refreshing to see two adult men actually talk about their relationship in a healthy and constructive way. So happy for Ian and Anthony's renewal of their friendship.
I found it precious that ian wrote the letter to anthony in his own ian way. You can tell coming out right with feelings isn't necessarily his thing but you can also tell he is truly listening and meaning what he says and that letter clearly gave anthony some clarity! Love this for them!
I think Ian is just generally a more stoic person. He doesn’t seem to show much outward emotion period outside of his theatrics for the channels. (Want to clarify that this isn’t a bad thing or a thing that he needs to work on, some people just tend to be less emotive than others.) Anthony is a much more expressive individual and displays his emotions in ways that are easy to read and understand. Ian is more like trying to find the subtext where as Anthony is just printed right on the page. It can be hard for those two types of people to coexist but like they kept hammering home in the video, communication is KING in all forms of relationships, professional, familial, and platonic.
I have to agree. I noticed that he does not show his emotions that much as he grew older. I know some people that are the same and sometimes it is very hard to read them, you are not sure if they are happy or upset.
I’m sitting here trying to analyze their MBTI types (I’m a nerd about that)… ended up looking up what people say they are. Anthony: ENFJ. Ian: INTP. That’s about what I thought. Very, very different types. It’s no wonder they’ve struggled, but also, there’s a lot of room for these two types to do a ton of amazing collaborative stuff. It’s cool to see them working things out and looking at each other differently.
@@elysebuehrer5981hey, fellow MBTI nerd. For those unfamiliar with MBTI, in essence, Ian acts more stoic while Anthony wears his heart on his sleeve. Ian generates more ideas while Anthony sees the potential in those ideas. They themselves shared this in the interview on Anthony's channel, which are very characteristic patterns of their personality types. They are "polar opposites" in emotion and logic and perceive objects in different ways, but ultimately, they are good at covering each other's weaknesses.
@@elysebuehrer5981 hmm I personally don't think that Ian is an INTP. I agree that he is xxTP and on the Ti/Fe axis, but not Fe inf. He has Fe tert. Ian exhibits obvious traits of Fi blindness, in that he struggles to know how he personally feels about things. This means he is one of the ExTP types. So my money is on either ESTP or ENTP. If I knew a little more about him, I could make a quick decision between those since it is easy to distinguish when you known a person. Anthony has mentioned Ian's creativity and knack for ideas numerous times, which is a common strength of Ne, so extra points for an ENTP vote. INTPs are also very creative with Ne aux, but Ian's emotional unavailability is much more representative of a lack of Fi than a lack of Fe. He is good at limbo-ing his way through conversations that force him to analyze his emotions, often making a joke of it (which is taken the wrong way by Anthony, a Fe dom. He mentions in his journal that he doesn't think anyone knows the real Ian, or whether Ian himself even knows who he is. ExTPs are notoriously bad at self-awareness due to blind Fi). What Ian did in this video was very brave of him considering that introspection is not his strong suit. I completely agree with your typing for Anthony. I get mega strong Fe dom vibes from him, and he actually reminds me lot of an ENFJ that I know of. Especially his Ti grip moment in his journal with that neverending list of questions to himself. Also when he felt frustrated at the time of writing in his journal about the lack of appreciation/validation from Ian. ENFJs often work their asses off for other people, and words of affirmation can be an important part of their love language. Ian was essentially doing the opposite of that. So I'm going with textbook ENFJ for Anthony, and ENTP for Ian.
It's so interesting that Anthony went from "why can't you open up to me?" To his brand being the guy who gets people to open up in in depth personal interviews.
I think Anthony definitely found his niche, as someone who's sensitive and connects easily with other people's emotions, doing what he does is perfect for him
This is therapy for Ian and Anthony for their friendship. They didn't have to share this with us but they did. They wanted us to have closure from that point in time. So thank you.
Their reunion literally made me start watching smosh again. Turns out it was really great even without Anthony but I look forward to see how his vision is input into all of this.
Yeah, I think I just missed seeing them together so watching Smosh got kind of sad. Now that they've reunited I'm enjoying catching up on all the series they came up with.
damn right, I've been watching a lot of smosh last week because of these news, and it turns out that the cast that already was here is really funny and entertaining. It's a shame that I realize of this now, but also it's great news that this helps rediscover Smosh for a lot of us. I'll stay tuned!
Anthony & Ian are TOP TIER MEN. It takes A LOT for men to sit down and have a healthy conversation about issues of the past. Its so awesome to see these two rekindle their friendship.
I agree. It takes a lot for ANYONE to be so vulnerable especially on camera, especially when societally men have been told they can’t share there emotions.
"It's like playing hide & seek, but I decide to be the master of hide and completely forget about the seek part" this line kills me and it's kinda deep
Ian is something special, his way of expressing himself is different and special. On the other hand, Anthony is a sensitive and emotional person. I think I know why they have a conflict and misunderstand in the past. Hope the best of Anthony and Ian
Ians not really special in his way of communicating hes just awkward and quiet. Theyre both awkward and non confrontational which os why they had problems in the first place. You can talk to anyone about anything, but these guys just couldnt do basic communication. Its kind of insane they went through any of this, theyre both just really goofy
the fact anthony doesnt really mind reading out this letter out loud shows how much he has grown as a person since if you've been a viewer for a while you know he had BAD anxiety back.
Time heals for both of them. It let them grow by themselves first and then re establish their friendship when they are ready to face their issues. This is a healthy approach for their personal sakes too.
I Just want to point this out. I remember this Smosh Summer games video titled: Spilling the Tea. One of the questions was "Who hates Ian the most?" And Ian wrote on his board "Anthony". Everybody took it as a joke... But I never thought that they lost their friendship and both of them thought that they hated each other. Remembering that and now seeing them become so open with each other and get the answers they need is so heart warming ❤ May we get a friendship as solid as this. ❤
Hearing Anthony talk now vs. his diary shows how weird it is that some notions may make sense to you in the moment, then time passes and you realize just how wrong you were in some things. It's rather fascinating to get a look into your younger self's brain and see where you matured.
Yes!! It's such a vulnerable feeling to read over things you wrote in the past and sort of decipher the meanings or causes for certain emotions. The growth we can see in both Anthony and Ian in this video is astonishing
There’s been so many letters I’ve written that I rethought almost immediately after I wrote them. I wish I had copies of some of them to see what I would say now, being even further removed from the situation time wise.
Ive written angry letters about people i once considered friends and even about coworkers. Im ashamed at myself at how petty and immature i had been with them after hearing how Anthony's was just filled with love and compassion. I wouldnt even call it an angry letter, more like a hope for a better future and a newer, stronger friendship
I think private journal-type angry letters are a perfectly fine place to be petty and immature! It's ok to have petty thoughts or reactions that you don't stand by looking back on them. In fact, channeling those thoughts and that energy into a letter you never intend to send is an excellent way to find an outlet for those thoughts and feelings. I think it would only be immature if you actually shared the letter with them (or with others)!
I was expecting Anthony to be more harsh but man he was way more apologetic than I could ever be in that situation. It truly showed how much he cared for their friendship, and I’m so happy they were able to remend their friendship.
Okay, that was the most polite angry letter I've ever heard and will probably ever hear. The conversations and reflections throughout added so much depth, and it's honestly so refreshing to hear. This deserves all sorts of recognition. It's an excellent guide on how to have these conversations, and I'm glad we got to see this.
I was about to say the same thing. I expected it to be something more aggressive or perhaps rude. I'm not saying it's okay or that it's the same context, but with my friends we consistently treat each other much worse and still know there are no real grudges. The letter was very Anthony, it shows that he is a mainly sensitive person and that Ian is more reserved and rough to express himself.
This is such an eye opener. They showed in real time how important communication is. They showed how the lack of it ruined their friendship and how when they finally did, it healed both of them and strengthened their friendship.
The comments here are mostly lighthearted but I just want to say I love how genuine and therapeutic this was. And how compassionately and maturely they discussed the past. Healthy communication, self reflection, and healing.
So so true. It's so amazing to see grown men showing feelings without being aggressive or hostile towards one another. Men tend to grow up not being able to show a lot of emotion just for being men so seeing it being communicated here in such a respectful and vulnerable way is refreshing
The letter wasn't as brutal as Anthony thought it was, but man hearing it read out loud kinda hurts. I had a best friend I lost that I reconnected with finally after 5 years and he and I had the same issue with miscommunication and self-esteem issues on my part, so hearing Anthony's perspective and Ian's acceptance feels good in a weird way - like things will actually be okay for my friend and me, having grown into the people we are now.
The apology genuinely made me tear up. Just after listening Anthony’s vulnerable side and the apology of Ian’s vulnerable side just (can’t think of a metaphor), but god this was healing
I remember way back when Ear Biscuits was Rhett and Link interviewing TH-camrs and it was almost like a therapy session for them and I remember Ian and Anthony going on and R&L discussing the hardships of being a best friend duo working together and I don’t remember much but something that always stuck with me is that Ian and Anthony said they never had fights and never had and Rhett and link expressed that they do and how healthy it has been for them to do so and to see where both pairs ended up since has been really interesting, like it really has highlighted for me the importance of open communication even if it risks a fight, and being able to see these two now being so vulnerable and risking a potential fight/disagreement for the sake of their friendship and the sake of having open communication is so beautiful to see after the far from ideal place they were in that podcast episode all those years back
Yeah that interview really highlighted how much a decade can impact your maturity level plus Rhett and Link had gone through college and gotten married before they even started TH-cam together, so they were able to mature without having to also run a business together. Really interesting stuff!
therapist here-watching this is filling me with warmth. being vulnerable, reflecting, communicating, validating, healing, admitting faults, it’s amazing. openness and confrontation can be so beyond daunting, and it’s absolutely worth it. keep reflecting and growing, boys. and anthony, all the kudos in the world to you for writing this. it’s beautifully written and an excellent example of effective therapeutic writing. i imagine you went through countless extreme emotions writing this, and you did it anyway. this is healthy as fuck and you’re sending a great message by showing this ❤️
I really appreciate this trend Smosh is doing of normalizing being honest and open for the sake of healthy communication. This could have been done behind the scenes, but sharing it online is a huge positive move.
Oof, Ian finding out Anthony knew he was talking shit... I'm sure that must've hurt to both of them. It truly shows how lack of communication can destroy even the best friendships. Thank you for being vulnerable and uploading this. I think more people need to understand what can happen if people don't communicate
As someone who was an active viewer of Anthony’s old vlog channel, it’s so crazy to learn about the dark and bitter context surrounding that time. It makes more sense now why Ian wasn’t featured often in those vlogs and it’s interesting to hear how unhappy Ian was with Anthony’s relationship at the time, even from a distance he could tell something wasn’t right. Of course I was like 11 when I was watching the vlogs, so I couldn’t see it at the time. But now I definitely see how questionable some aspects of the relationship were and I’m glad Anthony is happier now and that he’s found a friend in Ian again
I remember when him and Kalel were together sooooo well. I truly hope she’s in a good place now but I remember them moving into their own apartments even for a while but them still being together???
Anthony's therapist watching this like: I FUCKING DID IT, I FIXED SMOSH
The champion
The hero that no one's talking about XDD
Therapists help guide and support, but the actual work is by the client. Anthony's therapist didn't fix Smosh. Anthony worked on himself, and "fixing Smosh" is up to both Ian and Anthony.
@@wisedamenah, the therapist fixed it
@sans-befriended-your-mom Bro, I have therapy. It was a joke, chill. I understand therapy isn't to fix your problems, it's for the person to recognize why they feel what they feel and how to work though it
Two bros, sitting in a studio, 5 feet apart repairing their friendship
this deserves a pin
Fr
it got a heart atleast
Love to see it ❤
Why did this make me tear up
Anthony: “This letter could ruin our relationship”
The letter: 70% complimenting Ian
I love that he was humble about it and truly meant well. Better than I could have done in that state
Humbled real quick lol
Not a therapist, but as someone who’s wrote similar letters.
I feel like it’s because Anthony wrote in privacy and was allowed and encouraged to be a sincere as he wanted to and not have to preform or summarize or anything like that.
Some people are more self aware than others, but I feel like allowing yourself to willingly step into an environment and talk openly while being alone with yourselves allows you to be a bit more honest and open minded a towards yourself and even those you’re mad at.
I imagine if young adult Anthony said all this to Ian immediately at the time face to face. It might’ve been a bit harder with the pressure and this need “to preform” and lay everything out correctly. Which could lead to them both becoming immediately more defensive and more willing to just angrily point fingers rather than get to the bottom of why they’re upset.
Maybe everything would’ve been fine if the talked it out right then, maybe not considering they weren’t ready for these kinds of conversations, who knows
I do wonder if anyone else knows more about this kinda stuff can weigh in on if this is a common or not. Like I wonder how sincere people really are when writing letters like these when they know no one will see them. Is it just a me and Anthony thing? Or is it just common overall in general?
This is just my two cents after all
@@theradionicrevival8068i feel writing stuff down makes you reflect on your words more.
For example, I would not write down anything I didn’t actually feel or mean, I would stumble in my writing if it was untrue or feel the need to cross it out.
Besides, you’re on your own and therefore vulnerability is less threatening than in a face-to-face situation which leads to greater honesty in my opinion. You’re less frightened about losing face and there isn’t even an opportunity to get misunderstood and interrupted or provoked, all things that make face to face convos that much more volatile.
Pistolll K!
Not gonna lie, this totally makes me feel like I'm watching a marriage in therapy
True xD
@@dark_nightmin You have a beautiful pfp by the way! :)
LOL
If only my parents had these communication skills… 😔
Wait- we aren’t
Anthony: Emotionally damaged teen vs Ian: Emotionally unavailable teen. Glad it ended well.
👨🚀 🔫👨🚀
Always has been
!remindme1year
Spot on 👍
@@SuperFlawless2010brutal
I mean
great summary
I'm convinced that to work at Smosh you're required to have written incriminating diaries at one point in your life
Lol can’t wait to hear Joven’s
who hasnt, tbh?
@@theitfactorjameswheezer2852 but he no longer works in smosh...
I’m reminded of Courtney’s diary entries.
We submit our childhood diaries along with our resumes and cover letters.
All joking aside, it really does sound like a married couple who became too focused on their baby that they forgot to take care of each other and that time apart made them realize how much they really do care about each other and what was wrong. As a child of a broken home (in more ways than one) who never got to see what reconciliation or a healthy relationship, I'm happy to see friends getting along again.
I don't think they knew they were doing it, but they have given many people a wonderful gift. The gift of hope. Hope for a path towards reconciliation.
Realise*
@@DaragonalHi, US/Canada English spells 'realize' with a 'z.'
@@Daragonal Both spellings are correct. Do you correct “colour” too?
You put how I feel into words, especially since I started watching smosh when me and my dad moved in with my step-ma and her kids, don´t worry, she is amazing. But yeah, dad and dad got back together
i like how you can tell anthony genuinely likes being back.
And Ian looks very happy about it. His whole aura has changed when he did videos with Anthony. He doesn't say much but his eyes tell everything
@@redblackshirtyeah
truly and it's so sweet to witness. i love this man
My brain is so broken that I read your comment as "genuinely likes being black"
Even if it's muted, Ian is happy to have his best friend back too. Anthony is more of the emotional one while Ian is more logical. Doesn't mean he can't show emotion. He just shows it in a different way from his best pal. Something anybody with a friendship like that can relate to.
The look in Anthony’s eyes just screams “I know it was 6 years ago but holy fuck I hope he doesn’t take it the wrong way”
Which is hilarious to think of Ian taking any of this the wrong way, like dude needs to be told directions multiple times in life, he's always going to let you explain
especially at 27:07 omg
I feel like everyone thought Ian was fragile emotionally and mentally to a certain point. Clearly it didn’t go as bad as they thought it would. Truly glad to have them back
@@JericunoI didn’t. He’s always seemed like nothing really got to him.
Actually I think he was hoping to really make sure Ian understands that he needs to open up more by doing this. Good move. Ian needs to be reminded, because his default is to keep to himself and not show what he's truly feeling. The ending of Anthoy's letter is so on point '' does anyone know the real you? '' . I don't think anyone does. If anyone has a chance though it might him because Ian reacts more strongly to Anthony than anyone else for some reason, it's pretty easy to see.
Can’t believe I’m watching two dads having a marriage counseling session
Lol
Lmao
GOD THE ACCURACY
Cringe
@@empath1969 ok AVATAR- 2 LEAKED TEASER HQ
Ian is acting like a dad reading his kids book report
LMAO YES
Ian always had dad energy
I'm not crying, you're crying, shut up!
Ian’s voice when he says short phrases like “.. well then” sounds exactly like my dad 😭fuckin wild
with Ian's glasses hit that spot 😍😍
I see a lot of comments that mention Ian's "indifference" to Anthony's letter, and how it's "on-brand" for him. As someone who can kind of relate to Ian, I'd also like to mention that it might be just Ian's way to protect Anthony. He reacts to everything he reads calmly and follows Anthony's reactions, because he doesn't want to feed any more insecurities. I think Ian is actually a very thoughtful person and even calculative, but the very fact that he doesn't voice his concerns or thoughts might cause him to come off as someone who's cold and indifferent. Even with the joke/not-joke apology, he wants to end things with a lighter mood to take attention away from Anthony's vulnerability by making himself a clown. I might be talking out of my ass but that's how I see it.
i totally agree with this take
i completely agree tbh. i havent watched smosh in years but been binging them after the announcement and seeing ian with other cast, hes exactly like this, just a bit more vulnerable since this is his best friend
I feel I relate a lot to Ian too, and I completely agree!
I definitely agree
I don’t know these people personally so I have no clue if that true, but I’d like to believe that, almost a Billy Madison-esk figure, where he would rather be the subject of ridicule that have his friends be singled out
This is oddly the nicest angry letter I’ve heard. Miscommunication is what tears people apart. It’s beautiful y’all could find common ground to communicate issues y’all had in the past.
tea
You're so right
Anthony is probably one of the nicest people I know. And I know a lot of nice ones...
Very true.
Thanks y'all.
Ian and Anthony are so fundamentally different, it’s funny to see how they both respectively perceived their time together.
Yeah I think Anthony is the type to overanalyze and Ian is the type to just take everything at face value. No wonder misunderstandings happened to be fair, very 2 different types of perception.
@@Kunoichi4ever4Anthony at the time also struggled with mental issues
And yet they still have the same laugh
@@notaseat5934 lol true
@@Kunoichi4ever4the production of the last 5 years we never knew we needed
It’s oddly sweet, in a way, that Anthony was so concerned over how he treated Ian, and Ian himself says he never felt treated badly at all.
I've been with smosh ever since I was a little kid, and this was the first time I realised how much I relate to Anthony
Ian is definitely still struggling with emotion(which is understandable and not quick fix), but also Anthony is struggling with overthinking still.. but they are doing so much better already.
I understand both 🥲 been through it myself personally too.
@@micholous Same bruh at different points throughout the vid I was like "Ian was being a real jerk", then a second later being like "Anthony expected way too much out of Ian and was being super sensitive"! Humans are complex and I've also felt both sides.
ok
They’re both so adorable 😭😭😭
The “Smosh was something I was doing and you were tagging along” thing HURTS bc he STAYED. I’m glad they’re back and healed.
“he STAYED” sounds so dramatic, like it’s from The Notebook or something
@@howsitgoingbros3711I mean he literally is the only reason smosh is still around. Without Ian when defy was gone smosh would’ve been no more. But he kept it going then Sure thanks to GMM for buying them out, but I’m sure if Ian wasn’t still involved they wouldn’t have done that either. Also he carried an ever evolving cast of characters and shows and crew being a leader while Anthony got to just leave on his life boat while the ship is sinking and say hope it goes good and starts his own channel.
THANK YOU!! I’ve been thinking this for so long, this comment needs to be amplified. Ian’s like the parent who held the house together through the ups and downs like it’s good that people are happy Anthony is back but if it wasn’t for Ian, Anthony wouldn’t have anything to come back to no?
Ian reading some hard-hitting stuff and then just going “mmmmkay”…. Is pretty on brand for him 😂
He still has some learning and healing to do especially with his communication
@@danihydrant9767 I think its mostly that Ian does take stuff at face value.
If you remember the first thing Ian asked before consenting to reading this in the past video was - when was this written. Once he got confirmation it was longtime ago and it is no longer how Anthony feels, he looked way more comfortable. I dont think Ian is the type to overthink, if you tell him the letter is no longer how the person feels, he will read it with detachement. Which is why they needed to communicate better, coz they have very different perceptions of the same reality. Anthony is the type to actively read into details, while Ian is the type to actively try to see things from above to get a better perspective. both perceptions are very valid, and creatively probably why they work so well together...but it also means that they will constantly experience the same moments and draw totally different conclusions.
if you've ever watched ian enough in any other video, you can see that he's not the overly emotional type, but we can see his growth. he actively listens, provides input, doesn't try to add anything that he doesn't think is there. out of the two of them, ian is definitely the one that doesn't have a tendency to overthink or overanalyze anything, and is generally trying to make a positive experience about even something bad. he said the same sort of thing in the first video when they sat down together. he just wasn't equipped w the right tools to open up but it's also not necessarily in his personality either. i think, between anthony clarifying that a lot of it was his own misinformed, misunderstood, overanalyzing self-judgements being projected outwardly, ian could reflect better on what he did wrong (and then owned up to) and not give much attention to the things he felt weren't accurate or just didn't need any extra clarification. ian strikes me as the type of person that might seem closed off but he's actually warm in different ways. his body language speaks louder for him than his words or tone do.
Oh no the TH-cam comments are psychoanalyzing Internet personalities again
@@Kunoichi4ever4🧐 damn. Can you be my therapist?
I was ready for the most scathing, friendship-ending letter of all time.
It’s a love letter. You wrote a love letter Anthony.
I thought he was going to be like, absolutely CRUEL. It's a literal LOVE LETTER. 😭
Tho the end was just..kinda aggressive therapy?
It's not that, it's just a frustration letter with some of it him feeling guilt over everything because he has an overthinking personality (like I and many other people do)
a broken heart love letter :D
Ian makes a better apology than most TH-camrs right now.
Give this man a ukulele 🪕
Boom Shots fired lol
Actually saying "I'm sorry" or "I apologize" and without immediately following it with excuses - rarest apology ever
considering the bar is below earth itself rn ....
They did this whole charade for more views... idk why people can't see that. There's nothing wrong with it, I just don't think smosh fans comprehend it. The parasocial relationships people have as fans of smosh is unnerving
It's nice to see Ian seem full of life again. He said in previous videos that people often just asked him 'hey are you okay?' and I'm not going to lie, it was always obvious even during the Shayne/Courtney era of Smosh that Ian just.. wasn't there anymore. He was still funny, and around, and did his boss/manager stuff, but he wasn't Ian anymore.
Anthony being back seems to have brought a bit of life back to him.
you described this so well!! i thought i was the only one who saw it. he really seems so much more himself now that anthony is back. he was always so great. and obviously was an integral amazing part of smosh, but it seems like a friendship was restored and strengthened here.
I'm sure that's part of why he's been so focused on bummer topics too. I know I tend towards morbid interests then i'm not doing great.
I'm assuming it's because after Anthony left, he had to take charge of the company to allow people to keep their jobs, he had to shoulder so much responsibility and I'm guessing that just broke him down to a very difficult to recover degree, so having Anthony back is probably a big positive in his life now
@@BouncingTribbles Hope you are doing good and staying healthy ❤
Watching men being open about their feelings is a huge contribution of smosh to society. We need men to talk and be vulnerable, we need them to feel and be free
I mean you don't speak for everyone, some men don't want to talk. Guys, I just don't like talking about feelings. And I think most of us don't. It's not about finding a "safe space" its about being yourself and letting your feelings out in your own way. you do you 💖
To piggyback on what you said that I totally agree with, I think its also enlightening for so many men who watch this to see that this is being done by two men who obviously have very different ways of processing emotion. While this difference may cause distance or misunderstanding, Ian and Anthony are very diligent and respectful towards each other and the fact they do think about things differently and have different perspectives. I think its wonderful to see two men being vulnerable with each other, and I think its even more wonderful to see these two men being so respectful towards each other's vulnerability as well. It is nice to see that maturity on display here and being a good example for young men who may see this and may have trouble not only with their own vulnerability, but the vulnerability of others as well.
@@IntelloGent but we all should :D
Preach 🙏🗣
@@IntelloGent Still want to tell you that please don't push yourself too hard if you might do something like that. If you found someone you're comfortable with, told them your feelings is okay.
That was the most gentle and compassionate angry letter I've ever seen in my life
Yeah my unsent letters are not like that
For real. That's how you have compassion. Ian just sitting there going, "ok." Oof to be Anthony just getting nothing from him. Pretty gut wrenching.. :/
@@Hmm...Whats-Their-Namewell if you're sitting there reading words of resentment is difficult as it is but then, there are a lot of people behind the camera, while you're reading this you know what you say will go online (what do you want to be out there of your personal life) also Ian isn't an open person as I view it. I can totally understand that this is difficult for him
@@Hmm...Whats-Their-Namedid you even watch more than 2 minutes of the video?
true, it just shows how he treasured their friendship
I know a lot of people are commending Anthony for his vulnerability in letting this be shared (and rightly so!) but I want to say it's incredible to see Ian be so vulnerable in receiving and responding to this in real time. He had no idea what the letter would say and you could tell it is still much harder for him to be vulnerable with his emotions than it is for Anthony. A lot of men are taught that they shouldn't open up and be introspective about their own feelings. To watch someone who appears to struggle with that allow himself to hear these things, reflect on them, open up, and respond to them without (at least not 100% of the time) relying on humor as a crutch is so impressive to see and is a telling sign that their partnership is going to work even better this time.
Yeah, I think Ian is noticeably less comfortable than Anthony to immediately delve deeper into what was said beyond "we're in a better place now", but understandably all of it is super fresh information for him so he needs time to evaluate the contents of this letter, let them sink in and form his own thoughts on them. Still, as someone who would probably act the same in the moment and spend the next couple weeks at least with things popping up in my head regarding this letter, mad props to him.
Anthony has grown has part of his own "I spent a day with" series. He has learnt a lot about vulnerability through that. If anything seeing him grow and learn in those episodes is one of the best bits.
Who cares, it’s content
This is my favorite part about getting older. There comes a time (which varies on the individual) that you realize negativity or comments that could hurt are just an opportunity to grow closer. Parents, friends, even enemies and bullies, I hope everyone is able to forgive and be able to accept feedback from people in their lives. I think it comes from a blooming confidence in oneself and a “slow to anger” demeanor
@@memenatsuki2577 literally the majority of viewers. Don’t do that lmao.
Anthony: *stress ball of anxiety, constantly concerned about everyone around him*
Ian: Cool bro. 🤠👍
👍
"what are emotions"
😂
Ian is also a stress ball of anxiety, he just doesn't express it as openly for whatever reason
32:30 look at how Ian processes things. It’s internal.
Anthony and Ian represent something that the internet hasn’t seen a lot of, Reconciliation, everything on TH-cam feels so fragile and temporary. As many TH-camrs break apart and fracture but we never see them come together and try to heal
Alex and Guava Juice did the same thing too.
@@paolotorres8537yeah but Anthony's and Ian's reunion was bigger I think
God please the sbfp
@@luisdonoso6154 I know, but I realize Alex and Roi’s separations came a year before Ian and Anthony’s separation, and they both went through a falling out. And then this year, both sets of friends reunited, and just a day after this one, Roi and Alex made a video addressing their separation like Ian and Anthony did.
@@zOMGGaiaOnlineThat was so genuinely distressing to see happen. I remember being genuinely sad about that because I had felt that Mat and Pat had such a similar relationship to me and my best friend, and to think of not having my boi around was crazy depressing.
I still to this day hope they can reconcile.
It’s actually so refreshing to see two adults have a respectful discussion about their relationship 🥺
Alex and Roi did the same thing the next day in a video
righhttt
Can't imagine zoomers doing this. It's like society is regressing to boomer emotional intelligence.
@@ibendover4817 well duh it's cuz they're in their early 20s or Children, so they haven't fully emotionally matured yet (I say that like I'm not a Zoomer)
@@rescuerex7031 Many people from earlier generations didn't have it this bad in their 20s. Stats seem to back this up with zoomers being labelled the loneliest generation, unable to start or maintain friendships or relationships.
Seeing two men from your childhood grow and become vocal about their feelings and mending something what once was emotionally destroyed and kept away.
It's a thing of beauty.
It’s inspiring. Shows that people can grow and learn the tools to communicate.
agreed
@@geoffreydevereaux3272 it's so wholesome it makes you wanna cry
Ian reading Anthony's letter gives off "English Teacher reading your essay to the class and Anthony's just trying to explain the things he wrote" energy
You can tell Anthony is legitimately scared to have Ian read this, if we as the audience can see how much you've both grown then I definitely think Ian can understand those feelings aren't the same anymore
Yeah, and I feel like only true friends would be able to look back on the past like that and laugh about it
The Smosh cast is full of mature and emotionally intelligent people, and it's so nice to see.
This is why I've stuck so strong to the Smosh channel even after he left (but so happy he's back!!)
You got to love the mature and emotionally intelligent fart jokes their channel is filled with. 👌
W
this is the ultimate factor in me coming back to smosh!! the emotional growth has been insane
Ian and Anthony are not cast members but okay
You can see the effect Anthony being back has on Ian. He's absolutely *BEAMING!!*
*BOTH* of them just seem so genuinely happy!
I think it has more to do with them reconciling and resolving the issues than with them just coming back into each other's life. I think Ian too has held on to these things for a long time.
Edit: Also, Anthony starting the "I spend a day with" series to talk about things from which most people shy away makes too much sense now. He wanted to completely explore this arena of talking about feelings to probably understand what went wrong with their relationship
The divorce was really hard on him
Yea it makes me feel happy too ❤
It truly feels like, in a weird way, a part of Ian's "soul" is back.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who noticed!! Ian is just like his old self, he’s so happy and goofy and just glad to be doing videos with his best friend again. It’s so refreshing and their happiness with each other makes me so happy!!😭😭💚💚💚💚
even in an angry letter to ian u can tell how much anthony cared about him EVEN WHEN their friendship was at their worst potentially. like i just think that is so wholesome. they srsly r soulmates
And knowing that ian still had pictures of Anthony in his house during breakup, they are really like soulmates.
Honestly, the most shocking thing from this video is imagining Anthony and Ian drinking whiskey and smoking cigars to celebrate buying Smosh back.
What are you, 12?
@@dimwitted-fool?
OR some people just don't give whiskey and cigar energy ?
They think they're the salamanca family 😭😭😭
@@dimwitted-fool Do you think all adults drink whiskey and smoke cigars? What are you, 12?
@@Fnukysknukfr i thought anthony would have like a little cocktail or something & ian has already taken 13 tabs of acid
It's great to see two men being so open and honest with each other about their feelings. Our society doesn't encourage that enough.
Be the change you want to see in the world
Yes!!!
Two bros being honest...
@@notmyhairyarmpits 5 feet appart cuz they're not gay
Ian is never open. You don't see his emotions at all and that was the issue for Anthony, but I think he has just given up on that front and will just accept the fact that he will never see that from Ian.
the fact that ian spent 37:57 minutes cradling that unicorn journal underneath his jacket while reading a very serious letter is so ian
I’m dead 😂
I didn't even notice. thanks for the key detail.
Bro you just spoiled it for me ;-;
@@51lettername95thats why you shouldnt read the comments during the video
@@51lettername952023 and you still reading comments not expecting spoilers. Good luck in life to you.
this video really showed how much really has gone unspoken. The fact that Anthony still kinda stood by some of his feelings in the letter and pretty much all of Ian's responses were "no I didn't really feel that way" or "I dont really remember that" says a lot. They're personalities are exactly the kind that when in a friendship together, these kinds of misunderstanding can so easily happen. Anthony seems like a super anxious person who overthinks the intentions and feelings of everyone around him and feels things very strongly. whereas Ian seems like he struggles to/doesn't often connect with his emotions and the emotions of others beyond the surface level--he seems really low maintenance and not very comfortable with discussing his feelings. Take someone who doesn't share his feelings and someone who's constantly making assumptions about people's feelings and you get some pretty chonky misunderstandings.
The experience I lived through lol
so... in your thoughts. with each other personalities. can this happen again between them at some point? human are not perfect so i dont know
@zoeyl4d939 definitely, however by now they have developed the tools to deal with these misunderstandings head on instead of just shoving everything down so the chances of it escalating again like it did before are pretty low imo
@@mementomori4817 | agreed
As an anxious person i absolutely see this dynamic between them, as long as they are both self aware and willing to see each other out then their friendship reconnection can be successful
anthony making an angry letter about how hurt and betrayed he was towards ian but starting it off with grattitude and appreciation towards ian, the letter filled with compassion and mostly abt trying to understand ian instead of just plain out hating and being vengeful towards ian is such an anthony thing to do.
that beginning literally made me cry. like straight up from the second sentence. Anthony prefacing this as an angry letter but then it reading "I grew up in a broken home with little money and no means to explore the world", practically thanking ian so genuinely for being someone that he could explore the world with, just broke me.
they have been, and clearly remained, the realest there is.
Postulies
@@gibramrivera-yv2loit’s not that simplistic, there were many other problems before and after that
I miss in our mail
@@gibramrivera-yv2loWhat an incel-oid immature take from the situation. Anthony is an adult man who made a choice because he wasn't happy working for Defy any longer. You're weird as hell for pining it on his ex fiance.
Anthony really underestimated how much his return would break the internet and give the whole world a nostalgia kick
Yet no ones talking about it.... really broke the Internet didn't it
For real. I don't think I've ever seen a comeback quite like this. The reaction has been insane.
@@devarientsimply not true
@@devarientMan I wanna live in the rock you’re under it has to be cozy af
@@sarcasticsuperjerk18 I'm under no rock, people made 1 video and moved on lmao, this is a baby's first sketch group at best and half of you are just desprate to keep alive what I was lucky to experience first hand
Ian is deadass the goat. He has such a level maturity here that he is willing to go through a roller coaster of emotion live and realtime. We all need an Ian in our life.
he was actually my favorite out of the smosh duo when they were in their prime. since then, i’ve been loving anthony’s “spent a day” series and i’m glad to see them back together on youtube once again. it’s really inspiring to see them do this like you said in real time. i don’t know if i could’ve held myself together as well as ian did
I'd feel more vulnerable having the letter I wrote read. They both get mad props for being great role models here.
wtf this is so trippy to see actually healthy relationship skills on full display like this
Ian doesn’t strike me as someone who likes to talk feelings. He’s just chilled. I still see the silly kid from 2006. And then there’s someone like Anthony who just needs constant validation and affirmation, who probably has changed the most since they met. No one’s right or wrong, these are just very different people trying to manage a very long relationship. Kudos to them!
that was actually well said, you perfectly pinpointed their relationship as well as identified their personalities. Sure they may be different, but not all friends need to identical and have a lot in common to be best friends.
Very true.
Hes not chilled. It comes down to awkwardness and quietness. Hes definitely not the same dude from then. Both of them have changed in different ways.
And him not wanting to talk about problems and angst between the two of them because of his awkwardness and neutered emotions is exactly what the problem was between them.
Other than that the both of them are extremely frustratingly stupid dudes who have made some bafflingly stupid and goofy decisions in their personal lives and professional. Hopefully they stop acting stupid as phuck
common for broken home kids
I’m glad someone said that about Ian. I don’t think he’s closed off. He just doesn’t want to talk about his feelings all the time. It’s fine. Anthony is more emotional and I think he’s learning to accept that some people aren’t exactly the same as him. They’re both beginning to understand each other, and that’s cool.
Anthony's letter was kinder than I expected... thank god.. I relate so much to Anthony, overanalyzing and holding on to friends' passive aggressive comments. Trying to interpret every little thing. I feel like the anxiousness is still there, and you just have to not let it consume you by getting it out and talking it out.
He’s never come off as an a-hole and I feel like if it was really bad he wouldn’t have brought it up let alone shared it.
same, i completely related to anthony A LOT (i have a lot of mixed emotions towards this one best friend, we started a friend group together, but then i also left it twice, i have an unsent letter for her etc.) so this literally felt like watching myself except a good ending of it lol
I related to Anthony’s feelings too
i feel like if u write a letter like that about ur best friend ur gonna feel like its worse then it actually is
True but if you vent about it too much to the friend, it gets overwhelming
It’s so clear Anthony needs words of affirmations to feel loved from Ian, and Ian needs quality time from Anthony to feel loved. Yes and each other, and meet each other’s love languages frequently.😊
Hey, dude kind is only now trying to be more worried about our friends unaliving themselves more than "being gay" recently, we're working on it
Fucking love languages lmfao. Shut up
@@DJYoungBeastwhat??
@@DJYoungBeasttf are you on about
@@diegod7936 Guys have only recently started caring more about their friends' wellbeing rather than perceiving caring about friends' emotional health as "being gay". That's what I understood it as, anyway.
I can't believe no one laughed at Ian's reveal of his diary! He is so hilarious and incredibly talented with his comedic timing. Amazing that Smosh is back. I feel so happy lol
It was genuinely difficult to tell if Ian was serious or not lol
probably because anthony was really sincere and earnest about his pain and the joke apology just came across like a slap to the face
Wasn't his apology AI? Maybe he masked the authenticity with comedy, a very Ian thing to do but he said some of the references were made by the AI, so.. not very "I'm using my time to apologise to my friend" of him. Remarking at the end that he forgave Anthony, too. When he did wrongs too.
I've got to admit, it didn't feel sincere.
If this video gets 500k likes, Ian will write an angry letter to Anthony.
😂😂
He did in the video
420 likes
Wait… I was reading this comment via Ian’s voice. 😂😂😂
Its nice to see ian and anthonys haircuts slowly syncing up again now that they’re back together
What once was lost may always return
it’s like how the beatles always had the same haircut lol
I didn't notice until you pointed it out, but it's so accurate.
why are you right😭
Of course Anthony's "angry letter" would be filled with compassion and understanding and little to no actual rage towards his friend. I think Anthony is really emotionally mature, sensitive and I can see Ian trying really hard to accommodate that. I'm really glad they're both at a point they understand each other and are willing to compromise certain things to make the friendship work. Very proud and happy for you guys 🫂
exactly this. I couldn't have said it any better
In addition to your comment, I think people should not harp on Ian for being emotionally insensitive. We are products of our environment. Its obvious that Anthony is the more emotional one whereas Ian is very disassociated from his emotions. Its good to get their issues out like this because it vocalizes their needs to each other.
@@classyjohn1923 I can relate to Ian a lot, actually. I used to be like that due to various reasons (mostly trauma) and slowly became more like Anthony through (shocker!) therapy. That's why I said I can see Ian really trying to accommodate his friend and his feelings, it's something he deserves all the praise for because I know first hand how hard it is to face real and open emotion when you don't know (or don't have the tools) to respond in an equal manner. Very proud of both of them for meeting half way 🥺
@@King_Jonghyun Thanks for being vulnerable. I think thats quite a drastic change to turn from a Ian to an Anthony because they're clearly on opposite spectrums of emotional awareness. I'm sure Ian has his fair share of trauma which caused him to become like that. I've experience quite a bit of childhood trauma in my case which led to me being similar as well (and I've similarly become more empathic through therapy and self-improvement and introspection).
Its no secret that people change over time and after going through new experiences. With respect to relationships, I think the ones that last the longest learn to adapt to each other's changes and even that is a form of change as well.
@@classyjohn1923 Thank you for sharing your thoughts as well, I love that this comment section somehow became a safe space for a lot of people to open up and share our experiences.
My change wasn't actually that drastic, 10+ years of therapy and still working every day to better myself! It's always nice to meet people going through similar experiences, I know the healing process is hard sometimes but I hope you're doing great in yours 🤍
you could tell how much anthony was embarrassed by how red his face kept getting but really this “angry” letter was just a very hurt guy missing his friendship and not knowing how to fix it (also as someone who watched anthony’s old channel he ran with his ex not surprising that his relationship with her damaged the one he had with ian to some extent)
It read much more like those 2 relationships conflicting with eachother, not necessarily that his romantic one damaged their friendship. They've all acknowledged that they weren't the best.
@@UnBesoDeCristal what do you mean by this? what went down in their relationships that created issues in their frienship?
@@shadow_songI'm wondering the exact same thing. Was it toxic or something?
@@shadow_song they had a vlog channel and anthony later came out and said she was a liar and a manipulator and felt like she used him for their entire relationship. I was a huge fan at the time, always watching smosh and these vlogs, and it was obvious that they never hung out with ian together and her and ian's relationship seemed nonexistent
@@madelame_ also, to add to your comment, his partner felt like she couldn't settle to one thing, for example; she had an aesthetic, and then another and shaded the last aesthetic, it's probably minor, but personally I feel this could came out in other aspects of her personality.
This whole saga of Smosh reuniting has been really emotionally intense. This is like a master class in conflict resolution and discussing feelings from a position of strength and maturity. I’m here for it; I hope all the viewers take this to heart and seriously learn something. You guys are doing a valuable public service, whether you intended to or not.
What about Alex and Roi reuniting? They were going through the same thing
Sorry I know you commented this a while ago but I think you’re so right. I think a lot of classes on relationship building are so non genuine and are always in controlled environments or with people who already are mature enough to communicate feelings. Here we see two human beings, imperfect, teaching us as long as there efffort and a curiosity instead of judgement, there’s a lot you can do. And they benefit from it so hard. I keep coming back to this even after a year because of how genuine this feels.
Even though this was probably really weird for them to film, this is an amazing example for their younger audience on the importance of communication in relationships and how you can make amends in friendships. That is really important for young people to see, especially since it was years before Ian and Anthony reconnected.
mte
True
I think it’s also important for younger people to realize that it’s okay to not know who you are even through your 20’s. Life’s complicated and there’s no real formula on how to get through it, everyone takes a different route. Figuring yourself out is a process that takes time and I feel nowadays people try to rush it. Moral of the story it’s okay to not know who you are, as long as you’re working on figuring it out.
This wasn’t really an angry letter to me. It was more like a moderately, emotional, breakdown letter. Based on how much Anthony has been worried about this letter in the comments of the 2 Truths 1 Lie video, I expected to hear much more curse words, as well as him saying horrifyingly awful stuff to Ian. I’m glad Anthony allowed Ian to read this because it burned every bad thing in their past completely away.
I agree I also think it well help in some way from this
We’re view it as outsiders, we don’t know everything they’ve been through
@@sailorgallifrey1365 yeah that's true but from we heard I also think we as viewers can kinda relate to with friends or family
It’s better then my rant letters. There might be some swear words in there. 😬but yes it is a lot of questions you just throw out there.
To me it was more of angry letter to himself than Ian. Literevery angry point boiled down to his insecurities about himself at the time and projected them to Ian as though they were thoughts of Ian's. I think that's also why Ian had very few feelings about it, because very little to do with anything he actually did or felt at the time.
You can see how much Anthony loves Ian so much by the way he described him in this letter, not to mention how thankful he is to Ian because Ian broke him out of his comfort zone. It's like they're soulmates.
Also take note that a soulmate is not always a romantic thing, it can be a platonic thing. It can be felt between these two that no matter how long they spent apart, when they reconnected, everything just worked and fell into place.
Soul mates ain’t real there’s not only one person for you in the world 😂 that’s how creepy obsessive stalkers are made thinking that this person was meant for you in any way is weird they’re just really amazing friends that vibe really well
@@tubbymontana7090I can see disrespect and disgust just seething from your comment. Chill out. It's not that serious
@@CalebSmith-gg1dt you’re right about one thing it ain’t that deep relax boo getting all offended cause I don’t believe in your weird concept of soul mates that is weird there’s not just one person out there for you there’s plenty of fish in the sea I can tell you’re fragile from your comment
@@tubbymontana7090why are you so angry
@@tubbymontana7090 The actual meaning of soul mates is wholesome, it's stalkers that are the ones that took it too far and ruined it's meaning.
The "angry letter" was literally Anthony wanting to mend back his friendship with Ian but not knowing how to at the time. 😭 I'm so glad they were able to reconnect. And it's so nice to see two men so open about their feelings, that's some healthy masculinity right there. ✨
Anthonys facial expressions when ian read certain things was halleriously awkward 😂😅
The best thing about Anthony being back is seeing this beaming side of Ian that we'd been missing for so many years. This video is indeed so heartwarming and Gooch queen
HELP THE GOOCH KING 😭
For the next 6 years we better get used to hearing “Where’s Ian”
"All I want is Ian" doesn't sound the same =(
@@BlazeReborn2But "All I want are Ian's teeth" does
@@purp4168right.
@@purp4168 "all I want is Ian's teets "
" 's penis?"
Ians letter is so cute to me. It seeks comedic and it is, but it also shows how he express himself. He isnt the bedt with direct words, but his comedy allows him to let it out without being direct and upfront like his usual self.
Ian also knows his audience. Not everyone would get everything between the lines, but if there's one person that definitely will, it's Anthony Padilla. ❤
@@MsCunningLinguisticLike i saw some comments about how weird or mean or whatever it was, but I feel that the metaphors Anthony refers to are pretty self-evident in how they refer to Smosh’s Titanic, and Ian himself as the buddy and the Dinosaur-like pizza eater, and the roles they play in each other’s minds, and for the purview of other people through an act of ventriloquism. I don’t pretend to understand everything he was meaning, or if any of it didn’t intentionally, overtly have a meaning translatable like code. But Anthony seemed genuinely touched to me, Ian’s act was poetry and you can feel the cadence toward to end, especially then
Old Ian and Anthony would communicate via lawyers, present Ian and Anthony would go to couples therapy
Luckily, they have a psychology-graduate cast member in Smosh, so they don't have to pay extra for that.
@@johngona5929Ya, they have two available for both parties ig lmao (Kimmy and Shayne)
Dr. Shania in the house!
That letter wasn’t all that bad. It was a lot more tame than what I’m sure everyone expected.
Yeah I was expecting it to be brutal and some unfair things said out of frustration/anger, but this seemed like a proper pondering of their relationship and Anthony's grievances with it
@@FaeMasquerade he's such an eloquent and thoughtful writer
For real. When I was packing up my stuff, I found an old journal around the time of my parents separation and a whole bunch of other things happening that I forgot I even wrote. It was not pretty, nor was it nice at all. It had A LOT of anger and resentment, and immaturity. I was reading through it and I cringed.
I think the fact that Anthony thought that *this* was something truly awful and the fact that Ian was very receptive to the conversation here really is a testament to how much they've both grown. I think what Anthony wrote was very honest, and like of it was self-reflective. He did write a few digs at Ian, but the way he talked about this in the 2 Truths 1 Lie video made it sound like the most brutal piece of writing every put to paper lol. I also really respect Ian for being able to look past the digs that Anthony wrote and see what exactly that real point of it was; people tend to have trouble parsing what is being said out of high emotions and what is being said genuinely, but I really have to hand it to Ian: he's obviously grown a lot and is a lot more comfortable putting his walls down and understanding others.
I was one of the ones really worried that this video would turn out awful and just be painful to watch, but it ended up being really honest and kind of sweet. What a way to kick off a new era of Smosh
I relate so much to your comment! ❤ glad it turned out great
How would you think it would have been bad?
it was actually so interesting to hear anthony has had that expectation of "if i open up, you open up" because my understanding has always been that if someone's opening up it's their moment/their time and you're just supposed to support them and not make it about you. opening up actually just always seems to be something actively socially frowned on even with friends, so that's such a different view on what i've heard about that kind of thing before.
Opening up could mean he wanted Ian to open up about his feelings about what was brought up to him, not necessarily open up about himself
@@savannahfalcone2809 OOOOOHHHHH that makes sense!! i've never heard it phrased that way thank you for explaining 😅
When one person shares and the other person responds with their own sharing, a reciprocity is developed. It can strengthen the relationship because both people felt comfortable enough to share and value that each person did.
if it's frowned on among your group its not a very close group is all i can say
i have people open up and i open up to almost everyone i call a good friend
mind you having a bunch of friends that aren't that close is totally normal, just know its layers and not law
The fact that the letter wasn't all that bad, wasn't all that crass or demeaning shows how great Anthony is. Like a truly wonderful human being who is still considerate and leaves room for the benefit of the doubt even when he's angry. Long live Smosh
This is how apology videos should be. Honest, raw and genuine. More of that should be normalized especially when men need to be more vulnerable and open up their feelings.
Idk I personally think they could have used a ukulele (if you know you know)
this. thank you.
It's also great to show that men can learn to open up even if that's not their initial instinct (i.e. Ian clearly has never been a super open emotional person but you can see that he's growing and getting better at it).
Raw, honest, genuine and put off for several years until they had the tools and communication skills necessary to reflect and atone.
@@rhonal4198 agreed I’m also the same way as Anthony and Ian. I’m learning how to vulnerable as well with my feelings too.
Ian and Anthony should legit be ambassadors for male mental health positivity, the level of maturity and openness these two men are showing is incredible and I love how vulnerable and nice they’re being with each other
Two kings right here
31:47 Just looking at these two, looking at Anthony... This man is on the verge of tears. He put his heart out there, and he's being validated, and two best friends are having a moment that they both needed for years. This is utterly beautiful.
The fact that Anthony and Ian were able to be this vulnerable, for us to watch, is a testament to their commitment to the future of this brand. This felt raw, like they wanted us to heal with them. I’ve always felt that Smosh wanted a community, through inside jokes, callbacks, and fan interactions/participation and this to me was them saying that’s what they plan to continue now that they’re in charge.
Yes 😭😭😭
I wonder if maybe it’s a bit too much a commitment to the brand especially on Ian’s end, a bit of a reversion? No shade at all to Ian I think he’s doing amazing and so glad they’re back together!!!! But the unicorn journal was a bit silly when I think Anthony was trying to do some soul bearing. I think Anthony’s right in saying you shouldn’t expect anything but more honest and maybe slightly painful but caring communication could be good between them to stop the old patterns arising, and doing things just for the viewers! The fake video friendship is great, but the real friendship is so much more important and more IMPORTANTLY, not for us! It’s between you guys and don’t feel pressure to get everything right but keep loving and being understanding of yourselves and maybe you can challenge that old stuff! Love X
For real
@@jacobwiggans4470 Kinda funny how the next day, Alex and Roi make a heart-to-heart video like this one talking about their separation and open up to each other.
I just want to point out how respectful Ian was being with his words when it came to talking about Anthony's past relationship, not wanting to bash it but also wanting Anthony to know that it had an impact on their friendship. Such growth in this entire video!
This whole conversation really puts into perspective how Anthony thought about their relationship too much and Ian didn't think about it enough.
Anthony overanalyzed and overthinked it and Ian just went with the flow and assumed everything would be fine/work itself out
fax i think Ian is the type of person to just assume everything's fine and never talk about anything even if there was an issue hoping that everything would sort itself out eventually 🤷♂️
I felt that too. Ian was just along for the ride in a sense. Gotta say, I didn’t think Ian was the behind the creative side of things. That shocked me a bit. I don’t know why
Ian saying Anthony might have an ulterior motive, earlier in the friendship, says to me that there was way more going on behind the scenes than we know. I'm glad they're friends again but we don't know what kind of people they really are. Which is fine because that's serious parasocial stuff there
I haven't been able to watch this til now but I'm sobbing at Dad and Dad's DIY marriage counseling
This went so much less bad as I expected
website is good
Nice
Damn, droppin' them oxymorons hard I see.
@@niklasnieminen3097pretty ugly sentence I’d say
Good
As bad of an idea this may sound, I believe it's actually a great thing to show to everyone, especially to young people. It show's how much a conversation with another person is important, especially if it's about your feelings. It shows maturity, it shows that you shouldn't be afraid to express your feelings and what can happen if you don't. I really like this, this is a great example of how important expressing yourself can be. Thank you all.
This is Exactly why I wanted them to read this letter openly, and Im so very glad they actually did!
This hit hard….
Well spoken
Honestly it's so refreshing to see two adult men actually talk about their relationship in a healthy and constructive way. So happy for Ian and Anthony's renewal of their friendship.
I found it precious that ian wrote the letter to anthony in his own ian way. You can tell coming out right with feelings isn't necessarily his thing but you can also tell he is truly listening and meaning what he says and that letter clearly gave anthony some clarity! Love this for them!
I think Ian is just generally a more stoic person. He doesn’t seem to show much outward emotion period outside of his theatrics for the channels. (Want to clarify that this isn’t a bad thing or a thing that he needs to work on, some people just tend to be less emotive than others.) Anthony is a much more expressive individual and displays his emotions in ways that are easy to read and understand. Ian is more like trying to find the subtext where as Anthony is just printed right on the page. It can be hard for those two types of people to coexist but like they kept hammering home in the video, communication is KING in all forms of relationships, professional, familial, and platonic.
I have to agree. I noticed that he does not show his emotions that much as he grew older. I know some people that are the same and sometimes it is very hard to read them, you are not sure if they are happy or upset.
I’m sitting here trying to analyze their MBTI types (I’m a nerd about that)… ended up looking up what people say they are. Anthony: ENFJ. Ian: INTP. That’s about what I thought. Very, very different types. It’s no wonder they’ve struggled, but also, there’s a lot of room for these two types to do a ton of amazing collaborative stuff. It’s cool to see them working things out and looking at each other differently.
@@elysebuehrer5981hey, fellow MBTI nerd. For those unfamiliar with MBTI, in essence, Ian acts more stoic while Anthony wears his heart on his sleeve. Ian generates more ideas while Anthony sees the potential in those ideas. They themselves shared this in the interview on Anthony's channel, which are very characteristic patterns of their personality types.
They are "polar opposites" in emotion and logic and perceive objects in different ways, but ultimately, they are good at covering each other's weaknesses.
@@elysebuehrer5981 hmm I personally don't think that Ian is an INTP.
I agree that he is xxTP and on the Ti/Fe axis, but not Fe inf. He has Fe tert. Ian exhibits obvious traits of Fi blindness, in that he struggles to know how he personally feels about things.
This means he is one of the ExTP types. So my money is on either ESTP or ENTP. If I knew a little more about him, I could make a quick decision between those since it is easy to distinguish when you known a person. Anthony has mentioned Ian's creativity and knack for ideas numerous times, which is a common strength of Ne, so extra points for an ENTP vote.
INTPs are also very creative with Ne aux, but Ian's emotional unavailability is much more representative of a lack of Fi than a lack of Fe. He is good at limbo-ing his way through conversations that force him to analyze his emotions, often making a joke of it (which is taken the wrong way by Anthony, a Fe dom. He mentions in his journal that he doesn't think anyone knows the real Ian, or whether Ian himself even knows who he is. ExTPs are notoriously bad at self-awareness due to blind Fi). What Ian did in this video was very brave of him considering that introspection is not his strong suit.
I completely agree with your typing for Anthony. I get mega strong Fe dom vibes from him, and he actually reminds me lot of an ENFJ that I know of. Especially his Ti grip moment in his journal with that neverending list of questions to himself. Also when he felt frustrated at the time of writing in his journal about the lack of appreciation/validation from Ian. ENFJs often work their asses off for other people, and words of affirmation can be an important part of their love language. Ian was essentially doing the opposite of that.
So I'm going with textbook ENFJ for Anthony, and ENTP for Ian.
I dont understand is this like astrology
It's so interesting that Anthony went from "why can't you open up to me?" To his brand being the guy who gets people to open up in in depth personal interviews.
I think Anthony definitely found his niche, as someone who's sensitive and connects easily with other people's emotions, doing what he does is perfect for him
This is therapy for Ian and Anthony for their friendship. They didn't have to share this with us but they did. They wanted us to have closure from that point in time. So thank you.
As an Ian, seeing this helps me empathize and understand the Anthonys in my life.
Same
Their reunion literally made me start watching smosh again. Turns out it was really great even without Anthony but I look forward to see how his vision is input into all of this.
Yeah, I think I just missed seeing them together so watching Smosh got kind of sad. Now that they've reunited I'm enjoying catching up on all the series they came up with.
Honestly, all those "new" Smosh members have grown on me these past weeks. It was never them who made it bad, it was the company behind the screens.
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damn right, I've been watching a lot of smosh last week because of these news, and it turns out that the cast that already was here is really funny and entertaining. It's a shame that I realize of this now, but also it's great news that this helps rediscover Smosh for a lot of us. I'll stay tuned!
@@nickvang7shayne topp is a legend
Anthony & Ian are TOP TIER MEN. It takes A LOT for men to sit down and have a healthy conversation about issues of the past.
Its so awesome to see these two rekindle their friendship.
I agree. It takes a lot for ANYONE to be so vulnerable especially on camera, especially when societally men have been told they can’t share there emotions.
@@ericaisepic5695 100 percent.
@@VinceeWilliamsMagicyeah, and fittingly, Alex Wassabi and Roi did the same thing a day after
"It's like playing hide & seek, but I decide to be the master of hide and completely forget about the seek part" this line kills me and it's kinda deep
Ian is something special, his way of expressing himself is different and special. On the other hand, Anthony is a sensitive and emotional person. I think I know why they have a conflict and misunderstand in the past.
Hope the best of Anthony and Ian
Ians not really special in his way of communicating hes just awkward and quiet. Theyre both awkward and non confrontational which os why they had problems in the first place.
You can talk to anyone about anything, but these guys just couldnt do basic communication. Its kind of insane they went through any of this, theyre both just really goofy
He didn’t even say anything 😅
@bruvm8yuusuk351 ok armchair life coach
the fact anthony doesnt really mind reading out this letter out loud shows how much he has grown as a person since if you've been a viewer for a while you know he had BAD anxiety back.
Time heals for both of them. It let them grow by themselves first and then re establish their friendship when they are ready to face their issues. This is a healthy approach for their personal sakes too.
I Just want to point this out.
I remember this Smosh Summer games video titled: Spilling the Tea. One of the questions was "Who hates Ian the most?" And Ian wrote on his board "Anthony". Everybody took it as a joke... But I never thought that they lost their friendship and both of them thought that they hated each other.
Remembering that and now seeing them become so open with each other and get the answers they need is so heart warming ❤
May we get a friendship as solid as this. ❤
Hearing Anthony talk now vs. his diary shows how weird it is that some notions may make sense to you in the moment, then time passes and you realize just how wrong you were in some things. It's rather fascinating to get a look into your younger self's brain and see where you matured.
Yes!! It's such a vulnerable feeling to read over things you wrote in the past and sort of decipher the meanings or causes for certain emotions. The growth we can see in both Anthony and Ian in this video is astonishing
There’s been so many letters I’ve written that I rethought almost immediately after I wrote them. I wish I had copies of some of them to see what I would say now, being even further removed from the situation time wise.
Also seeing Anthony's faces go "wtf does that mean??"
Ive written angry letters about people i once considered friends and even about coworkers. Im ashamed at myself at how petty and immature i had been with them after hearing how Anthony's was just filled with love and compassion. I wouldnt even call it an angry letter, more like a hope for a better future and a newer, stronger friendship
I've written a lot of angry letters to my mum but as an adult, I love and cherish her. She never gave up on me even in my lowest moments.
I think private journal-type angry letters are a perfectly fine place to be petty and immature! It's ok to have petty thoughts or reactions that you don't stand by looking back on them. In fact, channeling those thoughts and that energy into a letter you never intend to send is an excellent way to find an outlet for those thoughts and feelings. I think it would only be immature if you actually shared the letter with them (or with others)!
I was expecting Anthony to be more harsh but man he was way more apologetic than I could ever be in that situation. It truly showed how much he cared for their friendship, and I’m so happy they were able to remend their friendship.
Okay, that was the most polite angry letter I've ever heard and will probably ever hear. The conversations and reflections throughout added so much depth, and it's honestly so refreshing to hear. This deserves all sorts of recognition. It's an excellent guide on how to have these conversations, and I'm glad we got to see this.
I was about to say the same thing. I expected it to be something more aggressive or perhaps rude.
I'm not saying it's okay or that it's the same context, but with my friends we consistently treat each other much worse and still know there are no real grudges.
The letter was very Anthony, it shows that he is a mainly sensitive person and that Ian is more reserved and rough to express himself.
@@lucianorizzicura8933completely agreed. well put
When Ian said I don't feel like these words are enough I 100% thought he was going to pull out a ukelele
Omg 😂
I’m so glad someone had the same thought as me lol
SAME!!!!
This is such an eye opener. They showed in real time how important communication is. They showed how the lack of it ruined their friendship and how when they finally did, it healed both of them and strengthened their friendship.
The comments here are mostly lighthearted but I just want to say I love how genuine and therapeutic this was. And how compassionately and maturely they discussed the past. Healthy communication, self reflection, and healing.
Its so nice to just see two men talking about their feelings with no weight of judgement. You don't see much of that today ❤
So so true. It's so amazing to see grown men showing feelings without being aggressive or hostile towards one another. Men tend to grow up not being able to show a lot of emotion just for being men so seeing it being communicated here in such a respectful and vulnerable way is refreshing
Anthony does a lot of that on his channel. The "I spent a day with _______" series he does.
It happened a lot . People just don't film it
The letter wasn't as brutal as Anthony thought it was, but man hearing it read out loud kinda hurts.
I had a best friend I lost that I reconnected with finally after 5 years and he and I had the same issue with miscommunication and self-esteem issues on my part, so hearing Anthony's perspective and Ian's acceptance feels good in a weird way - like things will actually be okay for my friend and me, having grown into the people we are now.
The apology genuinely made me tear up. Just after listening Anthony’s vulnerable side and the apology of Ian’s vulnerable side just (can’t think of a metaphor), but god this was healing
I remember way back when Ear Biscuits was Rhett and Link interviewing TH-camrs and it was almost like a therapy session for them and I remember Ian and Anthony going on and R&L discussing the hardships of being a best friend duo working together and I don’t remember much but something that always stuck with me is that Ian and Anthony said they never had fights and never had and Rhett and link expressed that they do and how healthy it has been for them to do so and to see where both pairs ended up since has been really interesting, like it really has highlighted for me the importance of open communication even if it risks a fight, and being able to see these two now being so vulnerable and risking a potential fight/disagreement for the sake of their friendship and the sake of having open communication is so beautiful to see after the far from ideal place they were in that podcast episode all those years back
I really miss the interview Ear Biscuits. They were soooo good.
i rly hope they kinda go back on ear biscuits and talk about them now
Woah
Which ep are you talking about?
Yeah that interview really highlighted how much a decade can impact your maturity level plus Rhett and Link had gone through college and gotten married before they even started TH-cam together, so they were able to mature without having to also run a business together. Really interesting stuff!
therapist here-watching this is filling me with warmth. being vulnerable, reflecting, communicating, validating, healing, admitting faults, it’s amazing. openness and confrontation can be so beyond daunting, and it’s absolutely worth it. keep reflecting and growing, boys. and anthony, all the kudos in the world to you for writing this. it’s beautifully written and an excellent example of effective therapeutic writing. i imagine you went through countless extreme emotions writing this, and you did it anyway. this is healthy as fuck and you’re sending a great message by showing this ❤️
Smosh went from immature jokes to maturity... And immature jokes sometimes 😂
Immature jokes become even funnier once you've matured
I mean, the immature jokes are the best jokes.
I'm not even a regular Smosh viewer and this is making me cry.
I really appreciate this trend Smosh is doing of normalizing being honest and open for the sake of healthy communication. This could have been done behind the scenes, but sharing it online is a huge positive move.
Oof, Ian finding out Anthony knew he was talking shit... I'm sure that must've hurt to both of them. It truly shows how lack of communication can destroy even the best friendships. Thank you for being vulnerable and uploading this. I think more people need to understand what can happen if people don't communicate
As someone who was an active viewer of Anthony’s old vlog channel, it’s so crazy to learn about the dark and bitter context surrounding that time. It makes more sense now why Ian wasn’t featured often in those vlogs and it’s interesting to hear how unhappy Ian was with Anthony’s relationship at the time, even from a distance he could tell something wasn’t right. Of course I was like 11 when I was watching the vlogs, so I couldn’t see it at the time. But now I definitely see how questionable some aspects of the relationship were and I’m glad Anthony is happier now and that he’s found a friend in Ian again
same here, tho i liked the cats on the channel lol
@@aremika9781 yes!! their cats were so cute, I felt bad that they were caught in a complicated situation like that
who was Anthony's girlfriend at the time? I seem to remember green haired girl, I think they were even engaged at one point
@@Mixer2904You are correct.
I remember when him and Kalel were together sooooo well. I truly hope she’s in a good place now but I remember them moving into their own apartments even for a while but them still being together???
"I didn't learn until I was well into adulthood that you shouldn't just say things because they're honest" LOL I felt that