Most people who are in these relationships, didn’t sought out a narcissistic and abusive partner. They thought their partners were inherently good and kind people. To see them in a different light, to make sense of it and to finally acknowledge it, having that label and understanding really does help. But I agree with you Dr Ruth, ultimately, clinging on to the label doesn’t help and you need to judge the person based on their actions and how they treat you. Just know that it’s not easy when it’s someone you’ve chosen to love and trust for years.
@@digishahthank you and I agree with you too - it's a double edged sword. Understanding something about pathological narcissism can be helpful in making sense of the dynamic between you and a narcissistic person. In some cases it might even help you to have a better relationship with them.. But it can also become a distraction from taking care yourself. It's a painful realisation that someone you love and trust is hurting you severely.
Great Video! I can totally relate with being able to take a lot of abuse but leaving to save your children. And if possible, get your children into therapy early so they understand that the break up wasn't their fault.
Most people who are in these relationships, didn’t sought out a narcissistic and abusive partner. They thought their partners were inherently good and kind people. To see them in a different light, to make sense of it and to finally acknowledge it, having that label and understanding really does help. But I agree with you Dr Ruth, ultimately, clinging on to the label doesn’t help and you need to judge the person based on their actions and how they treat you. Just know that it’s not easy when it’s someone you’ve chosen to love and trust for years.
@@digishahthank you and I agree with you too - it's a double edged sword. Understanding something about pathological narcissism can be helpful in making sense of the dynamic between you and a narcissistic person. In some cases it might even help you to have a better relationship with them.. But it can also become a distraction from taking care yourself. It's a painful realisation that someone you love and trust is hurting you severely.
noticing traits is very different form calling someone a narcissist
@@HomeFromFarAway very true, and noticing traits in another person is not the same as noticing and tending to what they may be doing to you.
Great Video! I can totally relate with being able to take a lot of abuse but leaving to save your children. And if possible, get your children into therapy early so they understand that the break up wasn't their fault.
@@cLuStErBMiLkShAkE ❤️ very good advice!
Very good.
@@jazzsoul1695 thank you
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@@mokc913 you're welcome! Thank you for commenting