A Social Experiment on Mental Health Stigma | Beyond the Label

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  • 1 in 7 adults have experienced a mental health condition in their lifetime. But what do Singaporeans really think about the people affected by it? To find out, NCSS invited members of the public to a social experiment. Hidden prejudices were revealed and stereotypes were challenged.
    Let's unite against mental health stigma. Join the movement. #beyondthelabel
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ความคิดเห็น • 581

  • @ABElizabeth5
    @ABElizabeth5 5 ปีที่แล้ว +560

    This is why we don’t tell people we have a mental illness. This is why we hide our pain. Think before you speak. You have no idea what someone is going through. Compassion is everything.

    • @lnaokii
      @lnaokii 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You see even if you hide your pain you are not really helping your self, there is a such thing called self-stigmating to something. So don’t be afraid so speak out to your loved and trusted ones

    • @Skoopyghost
      @Skoopyghost ปีที่แล้ว

      Benzo almost lead to me Heroin. I think you believe if you have a depression, then you're an полезный идиот which translate to an useful idiot.

    • @M0101EP
      @M0101EP ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I made the mistake to be honest. I still have to go through an ADHD test and that might be the reason I dont filter..
      I've told everyone honestly about my mental health/burn out and diagnoses because in my mind it is not something to be ashamed of.
      Also understand I was 23 when I told people I suffer from it and go to therapy to be better. Nothing to be ashamed of right.
      Still people discriminated me, bullied me, threathened me and hated me, I can't work right now because of the discimination. Some talk down on me like im a child
      It hurts a lot! Never knew this would hurt my life. Just tried to be human and honest.
      I wish the best upon everyone :))

  • @bolognesesauce5011
    @bolognesesauce5011 5 ปีที่แล้ว +956

    started crying when the old uncle said "If you have mental illness, you apply for a job, who in the right sense would really want to take you?"
    people living with mental illnesses already have it hard dealing with their own minds and the social stigma just makes it worse.
    really hope society becomes more open to people with mental illnesses.

    • @idiotstupidboy
      @idiotstupidboy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Singaporeans are educated in knowledge but lack social empathy which isn't reinforce that well due to the culture of getting high grades

    • @drunkersgamers184
      @drunkersgamers184 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      that true I'm here Malaysian same

    • @idiotstupidboy
      @idiotstupidboy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @Yacobus Fitri who are you to say who have and who don't ? Alot of people don't know that they have due to the social norms. Even narcissism can be considered a mental disorder because you are too self absorbed in yourself and always needing the attention. At least these people are brave enough to admit their flaws and seek help. They know they have a problem, and are constantly trying to better themselves

    • @bolognesesauce5011
      @bolognesesauce5011 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      of course I would hire them and assign them to jobs that match their capabilities (to not waste their talent/overstress them). relapse is just part and parcel of recovery and honestly all that is needed is compassion and empathy. not judgement.

    • @syanisah
      @syanisah 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      same. saw this in the cinema today. wanted to cry.

  • @LegendaryProbe
    @LegendaryProbe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +403

    Thank you so much for this. This video means a lot to me. As a person with clinical depression, I often get people telling me to stop being sad or snap out of it. When the truth is, I’m going through an illness that would take me years of therapy and medication. It’s true that I’m weak, that’s because I’m ill. It doesn’t make me less of a human being.

    •  5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      *Depression is for the weak minded*

    • @jessh5827
      @jessh5827 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      *No*

    • @fleecemaster
      @fleecemaster 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      People who go through depression are the strongest people I know

    • @stevewood7884
      @stevewood7884 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      No, you're NOT weak. You're a strong person, because you always fight it. Take care of yourself. X

    • @emilybamford7591
      @emilybamford7591 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @ What the hell is wrong with you? Did you learn NOTHING from this video? Depression is a real thing, the 'weak minded', well that's people like you. People who can't open their mind to have a single thought about others. My guess is either you've never experienced mental illness, in yourself or family, or you have been highly effected by it. I hope what ever the reason is that you commented this, is that you get better.
      Because I can tell your hurt, somehow.

  • @xuanosaur
    @xuanosaur 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    “friends can disappear and i will never hear from them again”
    this hit me the hardest lmao especially when those that leave are those that you trust the most

    • @ameliali6453
      @ameliali6453 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, when I saw all friends left my girl and no longer being patient with her, how much hurt she got I cannot imagine.

    • @AlvorKey
      @AlvorKey 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      easy to lose yourself after you loose so much

  • @leeje.steffie
    @leeje.steffie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    “ stay far away from them “
    first , rude
    second it made me cry because society is so darn cruel but thats just how it is .
    im crying omg

    • @kazama600
      @kazama600 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      itz fië theres no need to cry

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      There are good and bad, noble and selfish people, the trick is to seek out the good and diminish/ignore the bad. It's not easy of course, but it can be done.

    • @swiftkidd9636
      @swiftkidd9636 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same 😥

    • @cherrypie6784
      @cherrypie6784 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@kazama600why?

  • @limsean9439
    @limsean9439 5 ปีที่แล้ว +239

    We don’t need sympathy. We just need to be welcomed and accepted. We are no different. We are survivors.
    Those that are battling it still, It’s okay to be You. You’re beautiful. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤

    • @ishyreddi13
      @ishyreddi13 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      lim sean I believe if no support is given and no helpful action is taken, sympathy is no different than pity.

    • @Maxlmao46
      @Maxlmao46 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you ^^

    • @limsean9439
      @limsean9439 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I fell back into a depression relapse in 2020. I’m glad to have found some strength through this comment I made in 2019. Thank You all for your comments and likes. I hope y’all are doing well.
      Lost a friend earlier this year due to her own mental conditions. She was starting her schooling term in Poly. She crumbled due to the stress she faced.
      I started struggling awhile afterwards when I started working full time. Just graduated from Uni. Just wanna survive this. :’) stay healthy and safe everyone.

    • @shawnleong3605
      @shawnleong3605 ปีที่แล้ว

      And you can recover :)

  • @jameshiggsboson8913
    @jameshiggsboson8913 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I needed this so badly. I suffer from Clinical Depression and Social Anxiety and I often feel like I can't say anything about it like I'm not allowed to. Stuff like this really helps me out, I hope our current stigmas can change, because after all: "I'm Not My Mental Illness".

  • @user-rr7wd9gu4c
    @user-rr7wd9gu4c 5 ปีที่แล้ว +149

    it hurts that there are so many students suffering from mental illnesses. for god's sake, they're children. children who should be happy, who should enjoy school with their friends, and learn to embrace learning as a journey, something that can't be fully captured in assignments and grades and examinations. nowadays, so many students have depression or anxiety, or other mental illnesses. i have classmates who are all hurting, who are depressed or anxious or starving themselves. this isn't how it should be. my other friend told me that her friend was cutting and i felt so helpless. we should really make this a priority. how can we help them?
    of course, not only children suffer from mental illnesses, but i'm just so worried because of my personal experiences. i feel so burdened, because i'm just so nervous. why are our youth having such issues? we should increase public awareness and get rid of mental health stigma!!!

    • @renjunniebaby5397
      @renjunniebaby5397 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That's why through my twelve years of life, I learnt that maybe nowadays, children just arent meant to be happy

    • @snaggletooth5844
      @snaggletooth5844 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@renjunniebaby5397 im one of those children

    • @renjunniebaby5397
      @renjunniebaby5397 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same

    • @annebutnotreally2209
      @annebutnotreally2209 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm now homeschooled because of how anxious school was making me, I started cutting in my trial day of high school but I had no awareness of what I was doing at the time. I'm doing a lot better now, I hope your classmates are doing better too.

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      A faster-paced world of more people with far more competition for decent paying jobs, instant communication that often trades empathy/honesty for frequency, and of course intense societal pressure.

  • @mylinhnguyen60
    @mylinhnguyen60 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    “I’ve learned that family doesn’t always know how to support you, no matter how much you need them”
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    Ain’t that the truth, relatable as fluff ;-;

  • @DDyzee
    @DDyzee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    1:46 proper hurt... You can see it in his eyes and it literally filled my eyes too...

  • @ameliaaa9436
    @ameliaaa9436 5 ปีที่แล้ว +281

    i wonder why schools in singapore don't take such mental illnesses seriously then. i wonder why the education system in singapore pushes teenagers to the brink of anxiety and depression without caring. you see, during holidays, students get so much homework and remedial times, there's barely anytime for students to truly enjoy their holiday. this shows that schools don't really care about the student's mental health but more about their education. yes, the counsellors in the school try to help, but the teachers don't really care.. all they do is push the students to the counsellors and some counsellors dont even take their job seriously and since they have so many patients, they tend to just treat them the same and like dont care about how each individual really needs to be treated.

    • @discryptency
      @discryptency 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Can't really say that all teachers don't care about mental health of students. I am a student myself and I've talked to teachers who I'm very close with and they were very open about the subject and were very advisable. Lets not always look at it that they always don't care one or something like that but there are those teachers who really go far and beyond what they are supposed to do, in order to change the lives of students. And they definitely have for me.

    • @ameliaaa9436
      @ameliaaa9436 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@discryptency yes, those are exceptions. majority of the teachers don't really care honestly. like, in class, there was this time when a student was looking down and sad, and the teacher just said "maybe if your grades are higher you wouldnt be sad". yes maybe thats just one teacher. i know of teachers that are very caring for students really. but majority of them dont really care. deep topics on mental health such as self-harm isnt even allowed to be brought up in class, how are students supposed to learn about it?

    • @idiotstupidboy
      @idiotstupidboy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Can't blame the teachers because it is the *SYSTEM* which wants to cultivate and grow better working adults by implementing multiple subjects and international examination. But not everyone can cope with studies as well as their personal lives due to the immense pressure from parent's and society.
      Teacher don't have it easy because they are usually underpaid and have too many duties to fulfill. Singaporean students isn't that vocal on topics such as these as it is considered a taboo and they have to "suck it up"
      Only way to be a better Singapore is to change how the education system works in a way that it benefits both the economy and society in the long run.

    • @ameliaaa9436
      @ameliaaa9436 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@idiotstupidboy its up to the individual teachers to bring up topics like such in their lessons. who is stopping them from teaching us students about how to better manage ourselves mentally? who is stopping them from educating us that what we experience isnt because we're abnormal but its just a temporary feeling? maybe if singapore's education system suck it up and admit that maybe the education system is too harsh to some people, then things would be different here. students would learn to be vocal and maybe mental health wouldnt be that big of an issue anymore.

    • @idiotstupidboy
      @idiotstupidboy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ameliaaa9436 well if you should know, teachers are one of the most stressed job in the world while being under-appreciated a lot. In Singapore especially where the education system is so harsh, teachers don't really have the luxury to really spend time on the students. 1 teacher, 40 students plus they have to cover the syllabus for the exams.
      Yes I agree about the education here. It's absurd to think that everyone can handle it. Nonetheless, this all boils down to the stigma and culture here. Everyone is so obsessed at getting higher grades that mental state is often ignored

  • @vamperus
    @vamperus 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    This makes me grateful for the boss I have, who saw my scars - asked me what it was about and decided to hire me anyway. I've been SH free for 10 months.

  • @fustigmawithdrlott.
    @fustigmawithdrlott. ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow. I cant stop the tears from falling. This is all I ever talk and teach about and this video expressed my deepest feelings about this topic. Thank you for doing this.

  • @anirudhmahida5725
    @anirudhmahida5725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Its less than month since I have been in remission of depression. I have been going through this for years . Its an illness that rots you from inside. And no one can understand it except for people who have been through it. And one thing people need to realize is not always does someone have a reason for why they have depression or any mental illness. Most of the time there is no reason, there is no answer to the question "Why?" It was the same for me, I had no reason, my life was good but still I went through it. I have been lucky in the fact that My bestfriend was my biggest supporter and he saved my life multiple times. My mom took some time to understand what I was going through but she kept an open mind and accepted me. She learnt about depression and she supported me through my process of recovery. Its very rare to be so lucky and I know that. If anyone wants someone to hear them out ,I am here for you. As while I was lucky not everyone is and that's why I want to be there for you

  • @phytealia117
    @phytealia117 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    As a person who goes through depression. I want to say that the strongest are the people that pull through, fight through a battle that you have to live with everyday. The feeling of not wanting to get out of bed but do it anyways for that little hope you have at those times. Hoping my future would be better. I hurt myself mentally to be as normal as possible because I don't want to upset friends and family. Force myself to be HAPPY and all I want to do is curl up and cry. Cry myself to SLEEP and never wake up because it's all too much. But I want to get through this. Have a future. I believe the strongest are those who survive the greatest battles with themselves and try go on with life even if things go bad. I remember the day I cried to my mum and asked for love and comfort because I can't deal with this anymore. I was 11 at that time. She just blamed all her troubles on me and told me I was a mistake. I realised then. I have to look for myself and myself only if I want to have that piece of future I wanted. That little peace of hope. And I didn't want to let it go bc if you let go it all goes crashing down. And you know what that little hope is? Adopt an abandoned and abused cat and give it the best life possible because I thought nobody deserves to go through what I did. I'm 14 almost 15 btw. I chose to adopt a cat bc I relate to them so much. Plus they cute affffff. I trying to change the mood from my very depressing thing whatever it is up there XD

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wow, I can't imagine a mother saying that to her child. I'm sorry about that, keep your chin up man.

    • @sheryltanlemin
      @sheryltanlemin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can do it :)

  • @aliciajytee3430
    @aliciajytee3430 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I used to struggle with suicidal thoughts due to my disability, and still have depression and I know about the stigma and the misconceptions that people have surrounding mental illnesses but I didn't know that it was till this extent. If these people said this, then how many more out there are thinking like that? Why can't people just get over the fact that mental illnesses just like physical ones? Its something that you cannot control and when it hits, it hits. No one ever expects to be stricken with any sort of cancers, physical conditions and etc, and that's totally the same with MH conditions. We as MH patients, we know that we're sick and we're trying our best to recover but it cannot be possible if society discriminates against us and don't support us.
    Please don't tell us, just deal with it, be more positive, why can't you just get over it? etc. Its not so simple. We need your support, we need to take medications if needed, we need to undergo therapy.
    To anyone of my fellow sufferers-those who are in the midst of treatment, those who are in remission, those who have yet to seek help: It will all be okay, everything will just be fine. You are loved dearly.
    To the public: Please be accepting of us, read up to understand mental illnesses to educate yourself and those around you, learn how you can help, be supportive, show your love, we may be disconnected from society but don’t disconnect yourself from us. “Are you okay?”, while simple, will mean a lot to us. If you know someone who is struggling, reach out to them, encourage them to get professional help.
    If you need help, please call the helpline by Samaritans of Singapore which can be found on the internet or the helpline your country offers.
    If someone is in immediate danger, or in crisis, call 995 or go to the nearest A&E.

  • @saravanananand1894
    @saravanananand1894 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It is easy to say then we should react to the situation that someone really need assistance as m as many out there needs help. Based on the ratio. Of 1-10 we need to address the priority of the individual need morale support. In our own family everyone has their own tolerance of mental illness range from.mild - moderate to severe.

  • @zkl6937
    @zkl6937 5 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    I'm really glad I did not rush to click *Skip Ad.*

  • @killpeople6788
    @killpeople6788 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    If these 2 interviewed me, I wouldn't laugh or judge them, I've been through depression, so I understand them. That letter at the end hit the nail in the coffin. It was so spot on, especially when it's not an identity. Anyone could be depressed, you just don't know it.

  • @jamesvicary3267
    @jamesvicary3267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    For those of you worried about being discriminated against if you open up about your mental health problems I have two bits of advice for you:
    1. Remember to try and see things from their point of view. It is not their fault they have not gone through what you have gone through. It is also not their fault that society is ill informed about mental health. Going in aggressive or getting emotional about their reaction will not help anybody. Try to smile and see the positive, this is the chance to help educate somebody and raise awareness. even if they don't accept it there and then it plants a seed and that seed can grow. They may change their mind or they may not, the important thing is you handled yourself with dignity and you may have just made this world a slightly better place.
    2. You absolutely own that shit. Do not be ashamed of who you are and what you have been through. Never hold on to feelings of guilt, anger or frustration. Acknowledge these feelings, yes, own them, then let them move on with the breeze. Be thankful that you know what this is like and you can be sympathetic towards others who also suffer. You are amazing and special as is everyone in this world and you can make this world a better place.
    Lastly my own personal experience, overwhelmingly people are either positive when I tell them or at the least try to understand, some have reacted badly and that is OK too, that is their right as it is mine to choose to ignore that reaction and not dwell on it, simply move on with my life.
    Stay safe all you beautiful people, it truly is OK to not be OK. Your perception of the world is what you make of it, if you choose to see love you will find love, if you dwell in anger you will only see anger.

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sage words.

    • @ishyreddi13
      @ishyreddi13 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You have no idea how exhausting it can be to try and educate people yourself about your condition. Not mention we aren’t talking about a couple people who need lecturing, but a mass quantity!!! Even those who are physicians and suppose who have the knowledge!! Sorry I can’t have any patience or sympathy for them.

  • @desireeactionz
    @desireeactionz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    A good video as it serves as a reminder that Singapore really needs more awareness on the different mental health conditions so that more people will understand and learn not to discriminate them. After all, these people are the ones who really need a lot of support. If more people can be educated on the symptoms, perhaps more people would be able to get treatment earlier and get the emotional support that they need.

    • @brandonx3754
      @brandonx3754 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Desiree Tan how was this a good video

  • @abcde_ghijklmnopqrstuvwyxz2188
    @abcde_ghijklmnopqrstuvwyxz2188 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Man… their faces when they realized what they just said to a mentally ill person…
    I’ve always wanted to go to Singapore, but not so much anymore since I heard of this and the laws against homosexuality.

  • @Goranang
    @Goranang 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This damn made me cry. Beautifully captured. People need to understand mental illness such a hidden disability. stay positive and be compassionate towards those. United we stand better the world is.

  • @idiotstupidboy
    @idiotstupidboy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I hope this video goes virals. Traditional stigma still lies within us and I don't blame them. It is because we are not fully educated well enough on social issues. I only wish that stigmas like this die down as we progress. Only then, can we call ourselves a better society

  • @saff9983
    @saff9983 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    mental illness can be incredibly debilitating and i’m so happy that a video addressing the social stigma surrounding mental illnesses has finally been made

  • @serenasandham8619
    @serenasandham8619 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I just feel so sad for all of the people in Singapore with mental illness that are treated as second-class citizens. I guess I have had it easier in the USA because mental health is not publicly discussed, but we are not discriminated as much.
    I just want to tell all of my Singaporean people out there that have, or are currently suffering from a mental illness like me that I love you, and I support you, and maybe you will never be 100% cured, but things will get better. You just have to wait.

  • @scriptons
    @scriptons 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I love this so much. People need to know about whats actually is mental illness, not the everything, but at least know what it represents. HOWEVER, I do not like how they have represented mental illness with just depression. There is a whole spectrum of these things, and each one is so unique.
    I think the best way to express it to people is to: replace the word mental illness with any other physical disability, that is the only way neural typicals can understand. There is simply no way for neural typicals to understand how our mind works. Simply, accept us. Accept us as just another different human being with our own unique problems.

  • @druagablackhart621
    @druagablackhart621 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This video hit me really hard. I personally endure my symptoms of Schizoaffective Disorder ( a grouping of mental illness and behavioral disorders. Commonly, Schizophrenia, Paranoid Schizophrenia, Chronic Depression, Bi-Polar Disorder and manic behaviors). Videos like this, no mater how small or short, make a big difference and impact. Thank you. So much. It means a lot, hearing that letter from a person who knows not enough of these illnesses, and it also meant a lot, knowing that there are others breaking from those molds and keeping their heads up high, not letting their "labels" define them as their identity. You helped me today. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, and happy world mental illness day.

  • @nathannicholson2933
    @nathannicholson2933 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It's not just Singapore that has a basic lack of awareness of mental illness, it's the whole world that does. I have yet to meet someone who fully empathises with me when I talk about my depression. Most people just to tell you to cheer up, that tomorrow is a new day, as if that's gonna cure me of my depression. People just don't understand, whether they don't know how to or whether they don't care to, it's a major problem that needs addressing. Empathy is a skill that everyone should have.

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    @bipkhan7710 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

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  • @eliciayeo
    @eliciayeo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    wow watching this made me feel so uncomfortable. but honestly in sg no one rly talks abt mental illness nor give a damn about it, especially the older generation, just labeling us as crazy lol

    • @ka-im5nd
      @ka-im5nd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It is the same in many countries; older generations know less about it and often think it isn't real.

    • @timelapsesofsingapore5674
      @timelapsesofsingapore5674 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Even elderly call people siao

    • @keirrastoys201
      @keirrastoys201 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mental illnesses are no joke I have depression and it disgusts me how people can't even use proper grammar in a serious topic like this and also what the hell is the "lol" for? That's just plain disrespectful to our community.

    • @ellagrant6674
      @ellagrant6674 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      the young people were really ignorant too tbh

    • @angeange
      @angeange 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mental illness shouldn't be seen as such a "big deal" negatively. It's like every other "physical illness" one could have :'(

  • @TenpiGT
    @TenpiGT 5 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    Really hope they change the education system itself singapore’s future is in the younger generation hands but schools stresses us alot with homework,exams etc and we suffer alot of depression and anxiety that school doesn’t really seem to care but we do have school counsllers but it doesn’t change if the education system do not change nothing will it will just be a re-cycle and lead to suicide etc this is why we have high anxiety count in this country for the younger generation. if we ourselves the younger generation now are mentally ill how will we run the future of singapore? Really hope something changes in the education system itself. i myself too suffer from anxiety but school doesn’t really help they just assign u to a counsller and thats it they take it so lightly until someone actually commit suicide then they will do something about it but thats all i have to say now if something changes good if not we’ll just see

    • @furrywhitesnakewithl
      @furrywhitesnakewithl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I noticed something similar in my experience in the US military in an ACADEMIC setting. I was learning Mandarin and the only response to stress and anxiety was to add more stress to people who were struggling. If you were burnt out you were given more homework. It was 16 hour study days for two years and I barely made it. Two years is short when compared to the whole childhood of students in Singapore, Japan, China, S. Korea etc. where this type of educational approach is common. The teachers (Chinese natives) only had scorn for our distress. Any sign of vulnerability or a "crack in your armor" was addressed with shame and ridicule and meant more study time, less freedom. Of about 450 of my peers we had 2 die by suicide in a two year time. That is 18.5 times the US national average of 12 per 100000. Is academic achievement worth dying for? Why not have a reasonable course that just lasts longer and allows students to be human beings? We have our whole lives to study...why does only the study in your childhood count?

  • @lindamullahy5752
    @lindamullahy5752 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I myself suffer from depression and other mental illness to see the video just shows that we do have a life and people don’t understand mental illness so like my family they walked away from me and my friends too this makes me feel unloved but now I am with my new family who love me and support me.
    Thank you for sharing your video with us and hope more people will see this video.

  • @mariiwa7942
    @mariiwa7942 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much for filming this. You are both so brave and so alive. I am a single mum and live in UK. You just saved me x

  • @rifieschi
    @rifieschi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    wow i cried watching this after Nicholas said "I didn't introduce myself fully. I suffered from clinical depression." HIT RIGHT IN THE FEELS :(

  • @nikluvtoeat
    @nikluvtoeat 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Mental illness should never be a label. It's something you have, but it doesn't have to define you. As a person who has anxiety disorder, people usually told me it's just sign of weakness and put the blame on me for not being able to control it. To my fellow friends with mental illnesses, remember we are STRONG people. This too shall pass. The best days are yet to come :)

  • @solar1164
    @solar1164 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video shows exactly why we don't tell anyone beyond our family about our mental conditions. For those of us who cannot share with our family due to various circumstances, we just keep silent.
    As someone who has and is still suffering from Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) for the past 8 years, I have seen too many people I call friends distance themselves when you show them that you have this part of yourself troubling you. Truly, like the video said, the greatest wars are those that we fight with ourselves. Every day can feel like a week or a month, especially when we struggle to perform our usual responsibilities as if nothing was ever wrong to begin with.

  • @superrrrliz
    @superrrrliz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This video made me cry so hard. I am so thankful these people could have this interaction.

  • @Marissa2000
    @Marissa2000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This was amazing. 💕 My hat goes off to you. This is a bit of a segue, but what do people think when others use the word 'crazy' when they see someone who is struggling? I lived on a street (since moved) where a woman terrorized her neighbor by screaming how crazy she was, (and gossiped about her to have everyone pass by her house to call her crazy and laugh) because she said she was "always crying" and called her bonkers. This went on for years. She was unaware that her mom passed away, and suffers from #PTSD; and didn't even stop to think or feel what she was struggling with. I just found out she is writing a book on "mental health" and this feels so contradictory to how she treats people, and hypocritical, as well. I'm amazed that she has the audacity to even think she is an expert, because she perpetuates the stigma on "#mentalhealth I was just as bad not to stand up for the woman. I think about her; I hope she is doing well today.

    • @JustGregMc
      @JustGregMc 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Some people lack integrity and go with the hottest trends to sell books regardless of their insufficient amount of compassion and empathy. Kudos for recognizing that looking on and doing nothing to help was just as bad. It brings me hope that YOU at least understand that using the term "crazy" gets us no where and will put the person suffering in a darker and deeper mind space; essentially, it sounds like she was being bullied. That is adding on to her suffering/struggles. Again, thank you for sharing this and bringing awareness. I have a bestie that I grew up with that has depression. I, too, hope that person is doing well. Another example to learn about their story, then uplift instead of bringing down. #mentalhealth #Beyondthelabel #Stopbullying

  • @joshuacollins7398
    @joshuacollins7398 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I almost started to cry. I feel bad for these people that try to hide their illness so they can live a simple life. God bless them.

  • @SelryamZephine
    @SelryamZephine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    "12 years is a long time to live with a mental health condition. In the 12 years that I’ve been diagnosed with depression, this is what I’ve learnt. I’ve learnt that the greatest battle we fight are the ones with ourselves. I’ve learnt that most conversations about employment end the moment I reveal my diagnosis. I’ve learnt that shame is something society teaches you. I’ve learnt how to say sorry for showing symptoms of my condition. I’ve learnt that friends can disappear and I will never hear from them again. I’ve learnt that family doesn’t always know how to support you no matter how much you need them. I’ve learnt that hope is a little voice that whispers “Maybe.” I’ve learnt that recovery is a process. I’ve learnt that one small crack doesn’t mean I’m broken. I’ve learnt that I have an illness but this illness is not my identity."

  • @itscjx8148
    @itscjx8148 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    as a student in Singapore who has bipolar disorder and attempted suicide multiple times and has a family full of people unaccepting/like to blow up mental health disorders i just want to say that everyone’s struggles are different and everyone’s tolerance levels are different-aka don’t be ignorant, just because you can lift a 12kg dumbbell doesn’t mean I can too. Instead of saying “I feel you bro” or “I also kena before, you’ll get through” why don’t you take a step forward, give a warm hug and a pat on their back and say “times are tough, and i can see that it is not easy for you but I will be there for you, i will be behind you and support you throughout your tough journey” because those will be the most comforting words someone can hear at their bluest and darkest days. Sending a virtual hug to yalls :)

  • @worthlivingmentalhealth4784
    @worthlivingmentalhealth4784 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Discrimination is world wide. I felt it in my own small city in Canada when I went public with my depression. As a lawyer, I had lots of friends and colleagues. I had only two people reach out to offer to help. If I had had a heart attack or cancer, there would have been a queue to visit me. But it didn't deter me to continue to advocate.

  • @samanthalee2979
    @samanthalee2979 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Idk how to feel after watching this video. It brings such a big topic up in the society in singapore today. More specifically mental illness. There are actually alot more people suffering in the dark because they are afraid of speaking up. They are afraid when they speak up, they would be judged or outcast. Thats how many people in singapore is brought up. I hope that through this project, more people will get help, especially the youth who are suffering in the dark. I hope people understand that those who have mental illness needs the more care not just let them be alone. U just need to say" you have done well" it means alot to them:))

  • @gamingnerd19
    @gamingnerd19 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One of my friends said I had depression because I would always have a very sad and emotionless face everywhere I went. We then went to a massive pep rally thing and I panicked. She asked if I was depressed and I said no. I then realized how badly my anxiety came about with four years of not knowing why I would panic at times.
    I’m not really friends with her anymore.
    This is a video that speaks to me and shows how we shouldn’t discriminate people for having a mental disorder. The person could be one of the best people ever and yet suffer from a mental illness, but everyone leaves.
    Don’t discriminate please 💜

  • @annettecigliutti7731
    @annettecigliutti7731 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is a wonderful video and I cry every time I show it. I have 2 questions, the first is if there was other filming done in any other countries. The second is regarding the end of the video when the two interviewers ask the people they are interviewing if they "have any questions for me". I can only speak for myself, but I want to know what, if any, the questions and the answers to their questions were. I am both a person with multiple diagnosises and I train staff to work on a behavioral health unit. I would be very interested in seeing more videos like this and would also be open to assisting if I can. We need more of this to combat growing stigmas of all sorts, including addictions.

  • @MartellThaCool
    @MartellThaCool 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I suffer in silence as a person with mental illness and I feel for my forgotten people dealing alone with anxiety disorder and depression

  • @kclee8177
    @kclee8177 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Compassion. Understanding. Acceptance. And we must reach out to those who have not recovered, even those who denied they have mental health condition.

  • @xxkillin3mxx
    @xxkillin3mxx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have crippling anxiety, and I dropped out of school because of it. I have no friends, i am introverted and pretty bipolar as well. I went through childhood trauma, and my whole life is basically garbage. Mental illnesses are a horrible thing, and as much as you suffer in pain from it not many people will give a shit. Some will even laugh at you and tell you to get over it. People just don't understand or even try to understand what they have to go through in their daily lives because they are selfish and don't care about anyone but themselves.

  • @ivanpoh7679
    @ivanpoh7679 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wonderful, simple and objective advertisement, get the message across. Spread the love, spread the awareness on mental health condition, the more we know, the less we are ignorant about it. Cheers!

  • @minh1619
    @minh1619 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    it's not just depression and bipolar disorder, eating disorders are mental too

    • @bolognesesauce5011
      @bolognesesauce5011 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      they probably didn't have time to list down all the mental disorders...

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      An addiction like binge eating, alcohol, drugs, pornography, sex, gambling etc etc. would be a symptom of depression or some other mental issue.

    • @ishyreddi13
      @ishyreddi13 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yellowblanka porn and somewhat binge eating for me

  • @racy7072
    @racy7072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for uploading this been fighting manic depression and serve anxiety and a personality disorder for 11 years thanks gives me hope

  • @tianyangzhang4727
    @tianyangzhang4727 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Having in a relationship with a person with mental health issue for a year made me realize that I have to let go some of my empathy. I am not saying people with mental health are inferior, in contrary, I have respect to them. But it is part of my right to avoid negativity, avoid someone that might ruin my day, and to find myself someone with the same value, same emotional stability etc. It is not my responsibility to compromise the needs of people with mental health to an extent that most of my right are lost. Our primary role is ourselves rather than care givers, so before helping others, take care of yourself.

  • @peterburger8921
    @peterburger8921 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is both sad and beautiful -- there is pain but hope.

  • @zhengde
    @zhengde 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I once suffered from mental illness and although this video broken my heart, it must be made known that there is hope.
    The portrayal and stories told of people with mental illnesses perpetuated the fear of the unknown to people who never had to go through such an ordeal. Thus the views and opinions shown in the interview.
    I once tried my best to help a friend who was struggling to find himself at that moment in his life. The journey was arduous. We mustn't stop trying.
    I hope that this video is spread far and wide to generate awareness.

  • @bazla123
    @bazla123 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was an eye opener. It's sad that the world isn't properly educated about mental health.

  • @contenderfortruth
    @contenderfortruth 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Being in the mental health field for 30 years I can tell you with all confidence, depression is not a mental illness. It is the sense of hopelessness. No drug on the market will do anything to help this sense of hopelessness. Give someone hope that is real and long lasting and the depression goes away. Most will disagree with me but the harsh reality is in concept it is easily remedied. Give real long lasting hope in something other than yourself and it disappears.

  • @terrimcwilliams852
    @terrimcwilliams852 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I have mental illness. All of my life. I can honestly say I have been treated this way and it's very hurtful. I didn't choose mental illness.....it chose me.

  • @LydiaM8
    @LydiaM8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Speaking from my experience, this is true! Someone I knew have share with me her story, she told her parents that she having depression, but what is her parent reaction? They just said, 'owh that's just stress from work, and bla bla. She seek a treatment, now getting much better. Happy for her.

  • @dianaahakim2001
    @dianaahakim2001 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Why is it SO HARD for them to understand them? You don’t need to “handle” them, just understand them betters.

  • @sweetenglow1263
    @sweetenglow1263 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is a great video. While this tells us that people with mental health issues can also be very normal and should not be discriminated, this also means that people around you that appeared normal may have such conditions as well. Care for the people around you ❤

  • @venuschun
    @venuschun 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love this! Thank you ❤️

  • @StealthheartDraws
    @StealthheartDraws 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    As someone who struggles with severe depression anxiety and adhd hearing the stigma really upsets me

  • @cc-gv3mm
    @cc-gv3mm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This made me cry. I'm scared to tell anybody about my mental issues because I'll just be labeled as crazy.

  • @sarahtan3792
    @sarahtan3792 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I watched this for a group project, really touched me, will definitely respect mental illness!

  • @lailawehbe
    @lailawehbe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow thanks so much for this video!! It is so powerful and so needed. These are real things you have to deal with when you have been diagnosed with a mental health condition.
    A million times thank you!!

  • @laurafrakinroslin
    @laurafrakinroslin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That moment was vicious and I loved it. On a less vindictive note it was encouraging to see how the people were affected by the letter. There’s still a stigma against mental illness in the US but I’ve seen the attitudes towards it improve substantially in the last 20 years as more people talk about their very human experiences. I hope Singapore will see even faster change with projects like these.

  • @alexkromer5118
    @alexkromer5118 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you very much for this wonderful post. Education as such is an essential step towards altering the conversation surrounding mental illness.

  • @caseylim6027
    @caseylim6027 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This is so important, thank you for making this

  • @butterroses7794
    @butterroses7794 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I hope that this video will be a small step that will spark off better things to come with regards to this issue. Thank you for taking that small step and showing how this matter should be of greater awareness to members of society:)

  • @zetacon4
    @zetacon4 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The point here is we all need to learn to love each other. We all have parts of our selves that are not whole and we are not perfect. Compassion and love is the the answer. Do unto others what you desire others to do unto you.

  • @fallen7828
    @fallen7828 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    trying to research for a project, but i started crying because of this

  • @khairilsyafiqosman5114
    @khairilsyafiqosman5114 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for creating this video. Personally, I really do think that these should be taught and made aware at a very early age in schools. Yes, we are being told and taught that our future will only be bright if we study hard and get good grades and perform well academically. However, not many realize that depression starts at a very young age and not many have the capability or the same amount of emotional and mental strength to overcome it. If only students were being taught and made aware of mental health in schools, many precious lives of our loved ones can be saved. Psychology/Mental health should be a subject in school. You don't have to ace it or score distinction for it, but it should be an open discussion in class, and (maybe some might have already done this) teachers should have a heart to heart talk with each student personally or a 'catch-up' (during my time I didn't have this).

  • @ayayapudding
    @ayayapudding 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It brought to me into tears😢
    Thank you for making this video and sharing.

  • @Lodeken
    @Lodeken 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This advertisement made me tear publicly... :'(

  • @wendylady69
    @wendylady69 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    A frustrating fact: People have difficulty in relating to what they haven't experienced for themselves. A lack of understanding creates stigma for the already afflicted. Basic human decency prevents discriminatory treatment of the vulnerable. Even if ignorant to the bone, a decent human being would NEVER demonise those less fortunate than themselves.

  • @evantoys2681
    @evantoys2681 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    great video produced. it's really emotional and amazing. great job.

  • @lindaalvarez8855
    @lindaalvarez8855 2 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    In 1985, I had admitted to my boyfriend at the time that I suffer from serious mental health issues & if he was serious about me & us, he had to know our life would be like being on an emotional roller-coaster if we were to get married in the near future. In 1988, we got married. Yes, our marriage was very emotional at times. But, we made it work until his untimely death on April 22nd of this year. I wouldn't have traded my 35+ years with him. I miss him so much 😢❤!

  • @timelapsesofsingapore5674
    @timelapsesofsingapore5674 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    People with mental illness doesn't mean they are crazy, we all are human beings. #makelove

  • @CalumnMcAulay
    @CalumnMcAulay 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Powerful poignant video; enough to bring a tear to most peoples eyes!

  • @typhlosionmaster6832
    @typhlosionmaster6832 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Two years ago, I would’ve cried from watching this video. Today, I see it as manipulative and vindictive - especially on the part of those in the video who had mental illness. I don’t disagree that we should mitigate negative stigmas, but they exist for a reason. The world is a nasty, vile place. People can be incredibly mean and heartless. That being said, we need to encourage those with mental illness to push forward through their suffering. We need to tell them to get back up when they get knocked down. But we need to be real with them. It genuinely hurts me to see the kid with down syndrome get a standing ovation at graduation and the wheelchair kid being applauded for making a basket that nobody tried to block. Why? Because that’s not how the world works. People are going to make fun of them, they’re going to treat them rudely, they’re going to stare. We need to prepare them for that and teach them how to be strong despite it all rather than teaching them they’re vulnerable, beautiful, water lilies. I would rather applaud someone who keeps pushing, keeps fighting, and keeps getting back up than a weak, beautiful, helpless, amazing little water lily. #mytwocents

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'll agree it's probably edited/the people were chosen to express a certain message, but in this case it's a positive message, they're not trying to sell you a product or push you to vote for a certain candidate, they simply want society to be more accepting of those struggling with a mental illness. Also, by cheering for those people, they're helping improve their self-confidence which will enable them to better navigate the cruelty of the real world. True, they won't always be getting applause, or even neutrality, but a positive self-image makes it far easier to push on and ignore detractors.

  • @Amir-ez2qh
    @Amir-ez2qh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Maybe it's my depression and pessimism talking, but from my experience when most of the people who were once in my life learn of my mental condition they will say things like "I'm sorry you are going through this.." or "I hope you will get better..", it pleases me that people can give such words of compassion at first. I am not saying everyone who I have met and learned of my mental condition has done this but a good number of them, not too long after they have learned of my mental condition, they will quite swifltly drift away from me eventually not even making contact with me at all. With this experience and to add on with my mental condition, I find it hard to trust people or even their words if they even mean it.

    • @andrewfreeman88
      @andrewfreeman88 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes but the best kind of friends will try to help you cheer up and do things that make you happy!

    • @yellowblanka6058
      @yellowblanka6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm sorry about that, you need to find new friends. Those sound like associates/"fair weather" friends, true friends would stick by you and try to cheer you up, not drift away.

    • @andrewfreeman88
      @andrewfreeman88 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@yellowblanka6058 thanks for saying what I said, in a slightly different way ; )

  • @LoneWolf-sk6yh
    @LoneWolf-sk6yh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this.. This is a big help for my research

  • @antoniomonteiroai
    @antoniomonteiroai 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Amazing content! Keep up with the videos, excited about paying attention to much more of these

  • @ohworm8909
    @ohworm8909 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Such an inspirational video, mental health should be talked about more

  • @meowkhim78
    @meowkhim78 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I suffered from depression and some of my best friends made fun of my depression and some of my best friends said stop being sad and my family said that why are you so fat but I'm just normal
    But I'm still suffering and seeing my councillor and I'm trying to cope with it

  • @meow4322
    @meow4322 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The Japanese society discriminates mental illness. I live in that scenario every day and it just pushes me over the edge every single time.

  • @violette7430
    @violette7430 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We really have to discuss more about this in Singapore

  • @maisiemaciver3791
    @maisiemaciver3791 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Singaporeans really understand people who are affected by it.

  • @dariusfarzetta1636
    @dariusfarzetta1636 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Family can help yet struggle to understand

  • @hebafatima1056
    @hebafatima1056 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    WOW just WOW

  • @pamphinney3234
    @pamphinney3234 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were all taught to not discriminate against anyone for anything? Wish more people knew what depression really is and how it feels.

  • @FranzBlackheart03
    @FranzBlackheart03 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for making and posting this...

  • @salma-amlas
    @salma-amlas 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    *Hope is a little voice that whispers "Maybe"*

  • @0rangeeige199
    @0rangeeige199 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The one about family makes me sad because My Mom was gonna put me on medication so I can the help I need and so that I can actually make it through school without having a panic attack but all she cares about is the stigma that comes with carrying pills around, she yelled to my face about it and I think she's embarrassed of me. I don't want to be diagnosed with this unless people are going to help me get through it :(

    • @isaacwong5966
      @isaacwong5966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      stay strong fam, we're rooting for u!

  • @krittikasingh494
    @krittikasingh494 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ufff i cried, this is beautiful.

  • @wolfania
    @wolfania 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My heart! This is beautiful and important

  • @ksk622
    @ksk622 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I must say this is a very very very good video. i am touched.

  • @adarkdreamproductionawesom6127
    @adarkdreamproductionawesom6127 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My father suffer from bipolar type 1, phycosis, and others, but i dont stay away from him, im not scared of him, he is very protective and kind and very smart, but then society says that they are very unstable, dangerous, and should be keeped away. But irl they are not

  • @RextheRebel
    @RextheRebel 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I relate to this wayy too much, im not gonna talk about what my life is like and how it has played out but, its really bad. TH-cam is a savior for me, a chance to escape the world.