Its not risky just do a prenups and u will be good how about that? or date a woman that is more richer than you thats what ill do lol their are many ways to skin a cat lol its not the black women its the system designed to break marriages ... or date from Africa where they not brainwashed by American system....
Pre-nups can be undone by courts. www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3634949/Victory-hippy-millionaire-s-unemployed-ex-wife-wins-500-000-share-fortune-money-decade-broke-up.html And when courts do things like that, men then wake up and say no thank you.
I think black women are brain washed to diss like the black man they say they love us but all they want to take from you and not give anything but ass and that's not enough infact that's nothing we have body parts that they need and like too(even swap ain't no swindle..?)
From a guy over 40. You women don't get it. Your attitude is it is all about you. You deserve a man's dedication and lifelong committment because you happen to have a vagina. What do you bring to a relationship? Are you warm, caring, empathetic, intuitive, open, respectful, emotionally stable, loving, giving, etc.? Respectful is a big one. We can no longer take abuse at this age. Unlike in our 20s when you said it was "easier", we now have some expectations of you. What do you bring to our life? It is also different now due to the change in society in what divorce had been well publicized to have done to men. Look inward now and take stock of what you can offer to a man. Your best chance for a relationship is to show the man that you are worth his dedication. Your next video should showcase what you can offer a man in a relationship.
Robert .... women are so disrespectful to men these days. I hear it and see it everywhere. I sometimes feel like going up to the man and ask him how does he stand for that crap? However the men have been so emotionally abused by women that the men have become numb to it. Like the horse that has been beaten so often, it doesn't even notice it.
Men are learning to stop being open to attack &losing it all but women never play from a losing it sacrificing it all position by throw men under the bus & use shaming language &socially ostracized men &call them selfish for protecting their self interest.
Exactly Robert! I am 42 and I have a good job, no kids, haven't been married and no debt. I do not put up with stuff I use to when I was in my 20's. Not in a rush to date women until I get to know them for several months. Then I still side eyeing these chicks. Most of the things you said, is what I look for, but these women are still acting like they are in their 20's.
ScarcityPrinciple I agree with you 100% bro. I'm 42 no kids all ducks in a row. Most of these sistas are overweight with kids, greyhound baggage and expect top shelf brothas
So, to sum it all up, you're saying men in their 40's are smarter and wiser than men in their 20's and more difficult to manipulate. Yes, experience and pain tend to do that.
the older you get the less you are willing to take chances on the wrong person. No rush. to many people out there rushing shit. Dating doesn't mean having sex. S e x just complicates things.
Over the years, I have realized that who you marry is the single most important life decision a person makes--nothing comes even close. Your partner can and will make or break you in every sense of the word. CHOOSE WISELY.
I'm a man that just turned 40 and I thought that I was stuck in my ways until I met the right woman. Trust me, we may seem like we a complicated but that's just because a perfect match haven't been made just. Keep trying and just be yourself.
@Capain Everyman - Nah, he's more than generally, because now you have a segment of the White female population who ended up earning more than their ex-husbands who are trying to have child support and alimony laws changed, because they don't like watching a lot of their pay being taken away. The same gripes and accusations men have about ex-wives gouging them, is mirrored to the "T" by those women. And yes, the word "unfair" and the phrase, "I feel" is mentioned a lot during their complaint.
@Angela Simmons - Women don't see the need for marriage, because they can rely on a handful of other people. Those people are, (1) the parents, namely their mama, (2) their children, (3) their siblings, (4) grandparent, depending on their age, (5) the government, (6) friends, (7) others. Women are not independent by a long shot, at best they can be defined as being dependently-independent. So with so many avenues for women to fall back on, the last thing many want to do is be in a marriage where they have to vote trade with another person. Vote trading is anti-autonomous. Autonomous mindset is all too common within women.
Well I just turned 34 myself and I don't feel like wasting anytime dating anymore cause I feel like I'm always being put through a screening process even after a relationship starts and I feel like I'm on a tight rope and the tight rope never ends. I'm already thinking about how whether a marriage benefits me and have taken love and romance out of the equation cause I don't wanna be hurt anymore. I've been called a creep just for talking to a woman I wasn't even trying to date, been told to meet someone somewhere then she pretended to not know me. I've been made fun of for all the positive things about me and have had my time deliberately wasted. Women that don't have kids don't have any time for me so how would a woman who does have kids have time for me. I've been told I wouldn't stand up to a woman and have no spine(couldn't be further from the truth I just pick my fights). I've been told I am poor because I didn't pay the full price for a date(it actually wasn't a date it was just three people hanging out talking and one of them may have liked me I'm not paying for her if she doesn't like me cause I'll come on too strong). Women on Facebook have blocked me just for trying to chat with them not in a romantic way just chatting so I'm tired of all the arrogance, lies, expectations, and general coldness that's out there so I'm just done and doing whatever I wanna do
Welcome to the 21st century. Social media has RUINED dating. I'm 35 also and married and I went through so much BS before I settled down. People hide behind the internet and are a totally different person in real life. Social media has become a fantasy world for people to catfish and lie and take advantage of others. I just hate to hear people loose faith and rather be single than date and find someone, even as just a life partner without a piece of paper behind it; dont give up. I hope you find someone to share life with.😁
Bro, focus on your purpose in this life. Open your own business, or rise to the top of your business. Disregard the approval of women for a long while. Also hit the gym at least 3 times per week without focusing on women. Make yourself a better person, not for a woman, but for yourself. When you do so, women will flock to you.
I'm 41 , and this is how I see things at this point. I want to just relax, and enjoy what i have. To me women will never be able to reach this. Women always want more, always looking for how to make the perfect situation for themselves. Women always need more, and at some point I think a lot of guys mature and say enough of the B.S " I have enough, and I'm going to start living my way " This is where I think a lot of older guys are coming from. I think the majority of Women just can never be happy with what they have; I think that is just in there nature.
Bob Builder, eve wanted adam. she killed herself because she couldn't take being without him. god brought her back to life. read and don't just listen.
swaggalicious3609. the books that were taken out for fear of the people having too much knowledge. book of Enoch. grab it, read it and expand your mind. adam killed himself too. he didn't just say, we gotta leave? ok. there you will learn that it was no apple, it was knowledge. that eve got from the messenger.
She's spot on. I'm a 51 yr old man. Just let me tell u, it gets worse for u as the man ages. I would like to get married again someday but the requirements are such that I truly believe it won't happen. Am I upset about it? NO, and here's why. I'M HAPPY!!!! I'm in a financial position that allows me not to stress out. I've been there done that. Most of my marriage I was happy but she never seemed satisfied. I don't have to please anybody. I don't mind being alone and when I do want company, I have a smorgasbord of women to choose from. I help them out they help me out were both happy. I don't deal with their issues and they don't deal with mine. Which makes a very peaceful exsitance.
I’m a 45 y/o woman who wants marriage. I found a 45 y/o man who wants marriage as well. We both sought out what we wanted. Look for what you want. Go for that. Don’t go for something different and try to change them or their mind. Wast of time. Go for what you want, period. There are all kinds of people out there. Not just one type.
Ruby Chew I got news for you I'm 57 was married for 20 years haven't dated in 6 years and I'm having the time of my life don't drink smoke or get high and im not on any medication I have the same energy I had at 25 I'm running from women my age life is great thank God
Sexual Market Value flips for most people around 35-40. Young attractive women have the advantage in their teens and twenties, but successful single men have the advantage over 40.
Not anymore. That's why so many older men are ''going their own way''. These guys have pretty much been put out to pasture by women but their egos won't allow them to admit it.
What are you really talking about? You were married before. That man got your best years,early 20’s. You now have kids. You really think a man is going to rush into a serious relationship with you? There are to many potential problems. More cons than pros.
Looking to settle down does not mean we are open to your 'Turn up' mentality and dealing with your many children who you can not control. Yet women expect you to be tolerate of their issues. By this time we are settled and comfortable in our lifestyle.
I get the feeling you're dating older men because you expect them to worship you. Just because you're young and good looking doesn't mean they owe you something you know?!
@@jossphrichardson8064 In this cold cost-benefit mindframe, what the f do you think a woman gets out of marriage that men don't, providing she's financially independent (as most women are unless there's an agreement she stays home to care for the kids)? More often than not, the woman takes on all the additional labour of another person's cleaning, cooking and laundry, not to mention emotional labour, and after doing all that being expected to be a sex slave for disappointing lovers. No thanks
I love how she tries to make HER goals into a man's goals. Men don't care about marriage. Anyways.....welcome to life as a 20yr old man. Older women are getting karma for how they USE to treat men in their younger years.
I do not usually respond to videos however, I must respond. First I must let you know I am a man in that age group. I have been divorced for a few years. I am responsible and secure in all ways. With that being said all of my kids are grown. So life is really good for me. I work hard but I play hard. Life experience teaches you things I will share one simple thing with you. I absolutely hate having multiple bottles of shampoo conditioner body wash face wash foot wash and other body parts the have special washes "summers eve" in my shower. I cannot even tell you how foolish I think all of those products are. When I was married every time I got in the shower I had to battle all of those bottles. Of course to accommodate all of her stuff my bottle was under the sink. I think it looks horrible and mold forms. I swore to myself if I ever got out of that marriage I would never have a bathroom like that again. 90% of all women that I would consider to date when I go to their house and I look in their bathroom it is already a problem. Now some men are probably finding humor in this. However I realize who I am and what I want. Yes I am willing to compromise and I have several options for her. Yes they require a little bit of work. However I refuse to be unhappy where I live ever again. What you are experiencing is a man who has been through circumstance and situations that beat him down mentally and emotionally. When I met my ex wife in college she had one bottle of shampoo 1 bottle of conditioner. We were using bars of soap back then. When we had our 1st apartment we shared the bar soap and the same shampoo. It was very easy no mess quick clean up. Being a military man who likes cleanliness and order I will never settle for that again. So yes instead of wasting your time I can learn a lot about a person and not waste our time. I will make it very short and sweet when we were younger we wanted love. We understand now that a relationship takes so much more than love. So as an older wiser mature man I am looking for compatibility. Because if we can are compatible and friendly with a little faith and sexuality we will have a great life together. But if we do not have those components the relationship will never be what it needs to be. I am going to say I hope you find your compatible friend that is sexy to you who you will desire to spend time with and enjoy learning about, while teaching him about you.
I'm a man in my forties good carrier.grown kids and single.and cool with being single.no headaches..no drama.and a variety of woman.if right one come along I will settle down.don't matter what age she is.real talk
Josephine Donnelley yup because they become TOO ENTITLED as Males who have made EASY money off the strength of Simply being - Male! If he was a woman he'd have it 10x as worse so his attitude alone is why I leave him be. I want a man who respects women struggle to be LEGIT and work hard but finding that in a man who hasn't been catered and pampered too like a big child is hard. Especially since they are used to throwing money at weak females who don't want to be or aspire to be anything else. I need more and these old males are like women now no thank you. I know my worth and it ain't dollars and cents. Turned many old males down because of their entitled attitude I don't take that shit from females I don't take it from males
@@blackmegriffin9240 This is what I'm worried about - falling for a man who got used to a woman catering to him, cooking, cleaning, raising his children for him, wiping his ass....I've never been in a relationship like that and never want to be. We can negotiate tasks and stuff, but I'm not gonna be solely responsible for a house that belongs to both of us...And I'm gonna keep working a job. I f we're both working, then we SHARE domestic tasks. Pick up your own damn shitstained underwear lol
I just started seeing a man who’s 44 and I’m 34. I really enjoy his company. However. I don’t know if he wants to settle down. He keeps saying he wants to continue getting to know me before we make it official. I understand. But I wonder how much time he’ll need. I guess at my age it’s like either we do this or not. I don’t have kids yet either and hope to one day.
Wow lots of bitter men on here 😯. As a woman in her 40s I can relate to what many of these guys r saying and do the same thing this woman complains about. Pre screening and being upfront is a way of not wasting time and with age comes wisdom and a huge bs monitor. Yes being older can mean being stuck in your ways to a certain extent but it also means knowing who u r and not lowering your standards to suit someone else. I've been thru the coals too much for anyone else to do that get again. I don't agree as many men on here seem. To think that every women wants marriage, perhaps cos I've been there and done that for many yrs. For us women who have their lives together we also don't want someone to come in and drag us down financially or emotionally.
Older men do heavy duty pre-screening most of the time because they have done been had by an ex wife. You cannot blame them for this. Many women do the same thing. I am 35 and my husband is 12 years older than me and that is how I like my men. Good conversation, good in bed, good cook, respects me. I, in turn, treat him like he deserves to be treated. He treats me like a queen and I, in turn, treat him like a king. Small things matter - can i get you a glass of tea, let me make your plate for you. It is not that I think I have to do that as a wife, but I want to. And I have been married 3 times. (Divorced, widowed, currently married). Each marriage was different and while my first and I divorced, we get along fine and have a daughter together. We work out visits and child support without a court telling us what to do and that respect is something that was started in our marriage.
Heather Dowling hello my beautiful black queen how are you doing today you see we need more beautiful respectful women like you in this world you don't always have to bring the white man into your business and that's why your ex husband your first one respect and love you till this day
Joseph, that was a very nice compliment, but it made me laugh a little because I am white. My ex and I were separated 5 years before legally divorcing so visitation and child support had long been established without us being told how to work it out. He is actually ordered to pay more than what we had agreed on, but we stick to what we agreed on. I am not trying to break him. Also, it is more important to me that he is in her life. He helps with activities she does and things like that. If I need anything, all I have to do is call him. Hope you have a good woman in your life as well. I love going home to my husband and that is a great feeling!
.... that is why as a black women divorce raising a young boy and being 39 I’ve decided to pursue a PhD, work hard to get my son to college, have a career in an international organization and spend the rest of my life changing other people lives...☺️🤓i cannot win in this game so I am not playing...beside, not all of us will have a man in our lives....
Men also hit a wall btw. We don't confine it to age as we do with women, but you definitely hit a wall when you get so bitter as to write this kind of comment on a TH-cam video...
Honestly it's hard for anyone to date in today's world. To me it sounds like you're choosing guys that are of the same caliber that were known to play around and not committ until they found the "right one" in their eyes to get married to in their youth. Once they get married to her and finally committ, they might've gotten burned and now that they are in their 40's, they're not willing to give in to anyone and waste time for someone that's they feel will be unstable. The checkers analogy would be an analogy that is used in dating in your 20's bc everybody is trying to "WIN". If you're really trying to date and acquire a long term relationship, you shouldn't be trying to "WIN". Checkers is a game where you try to obtain all of your opponent's pieces, and men in their 40's (the ones that are not willing to committ on your timeline) are playing it smart by not letting you acquire all their pieces. They know you want to win, so they're setting you up like in a game of chess to make you exhaust all your moves to capitalize on them. Let's be honest, you too are only willing to play your first few rows to try to make him play all of his rows, when in fact winning shouldn't be a factor and dating shouldn't be a game. There never should be any guess work for anyone. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If a guy says hello and wants to strike up a conversation, say hello. The person on the receiving end of the conversation always has the decision on the outcome. If everyone were upfront and clear about their intentions, dating and relationships would require less work.
Unfortunately, you're right. I can say that because I am a man over 40 and it's difficult for me to become emotionally attached to anyone. But women can be just as detached as men. It's the," I don't care" attitude and I am sure that many have felt it in one form or another. I think the real challenge is to re-engage with emotion while using reason to guide you through romance? What do you think? Chris
Brutal truth: men over 40 have the experience, wisdom and resources to know that they are now the high value partner. It's pretty well open season on women from 20 years old and upwards. Also, if the guy has been through a divorced, you can expect the system to have made him considerably more risk-averse than he was as a young man.
Im over 40 and I dont care about anything but enjoying life.I steer clear of drama and financial debt.I can break it down simple for any woman who wants to know what men want. We want 3 things from you. Faithfull, sexyness,and quiet.If you posess those 3 things you can live life without working.
LoL. second wind of bull shit. These dudes aren't too much different from us in the sense that they ain't trying to get hurt, waste their time and potentially lose everything thing they didn't lose from the last marriage.
+Mesha Hairston Fair enough but it absolutely doesn't take more than 6+ months to determine if you vibe with someone enough to progress. Chemistry and relationship logistics show themselves pretty early on.
Do you even consider the posibility that men want to enjoy the relation for as long as they can without commiting to a woman. They'll extended it for years if possible. Unless he wants to get a child, there is no reason for men to commit to women. They don't care if you waste your time or youth on them. Men aged like old wine, women like milk. Women need commitment, men don't. Think about it.
Aaron Porter you've only done well because you are a male. Men look out for and help other men show me a man who cares about a woman WITHOUT fuckin her I'll wait...... Crickets. So take your privileged bratty entitled ass elsewhere because other than money you have nothing to offer a Real Woman looking to be inspired. You're a just an old trick boo nothing new
Teneice, do you realize everything you're saying is exactly the same way most men feel about women? Too many rules, afraid of wasting time . . . all things women seem to cling to. And yes, it was easier to date when we were younger. Both parties are discovering themselves, discovering what they want in a partner, just looking to have fun. Boy, those were the days weren't they?
Ari Raquel, don't hate me, but I was never feeling Mary J. Blidge. I was probably transitioning to the smooth jazz thing when she was coming out. Now I'm on to listening to NPR or the sports station. My my my how our tastes change as we age.
Provided the older man has himself together and established. A woman has to ask herself "aside from sex, what do I have to offer to make his life better?" If she doesn't have a good answer, it's best to not go further in the relationship.
@Jerome D - Most don't because who and what they are revolve around their sexuality; remember, it's men's job to entertain them and validate their existence.
Sista you made good points. Especially when you mentioned "Risks". I'm 43. And yes I do the "pre-dating" thing. Lot more at risk now. And unfortunately there are just too many dysfunctional people out there. Bad decisions in the past have forced me to be real patient while getting to know these women. We're gonna move real slow and careful. I can't afford to make a bad decision.
Just saw your video and I want to encourage you to hang in there. I am happily married for 21 years and in my mid 50's. I have an older sister who is 60 and in the same predicament as many black women of a "certain age". The most important thing I would suggest in looking/finding/keeping a man is a man with good character; not one who IS a character. It may be disheartening at times, but they are still out there. Good luck and God bless you.
Your exactly right on a lot of points I'm a 42 yr old male divorced in my late 30s lost most of all I'd worked for since I was 26 including my time with my children and that's probably why men put up an extra wall it's not anything towards woman just being extra careful only a fool will make the same mistake twice,but if you have patience and prove your not gonna cut and run out when it gets a little tough sometimes,we'll let you in and we'll BOTH be happy..but what I've seen and i date mostly in 28-35 yr age group most women want it now so they shit test us by going silent or breaking up to get their way which only puts us back at square one..did this with a girl I dated almost 3 years I knew she was the one I wanted to eventually marry but she flip shit about every 6 months and in my mind I'd have to start over with her,I hate it didn't work out but I can't take a chance on another f up at this stage in my life
These men in their 40's run ladies as fast as you can in the opposite direction. My husband is 49 and I am 43. My husband is aging faster and the mid life crisis is hitting and it is ruining our marriage. He never wants to go anywhere or do anything besides have sex and it is not good sex because I count to 5 and its over. Now I see why many women cheat with younger men. I have always honored my vows but I see a divorce very soon because he is too old and boring and people thinks he is my dad. Ugh creepy💔💔💔 I married the wrong man.
by a certain age 38 - 40 men collectively think about their experiences with women in Men start to understand that it's not a man's place to understand a woman and men understand that women don't know what they want also men or less likely to be manipulated because believe it or not a lot of them by that age, have develop better intuition as to what woman is worth taking a chance on. if a man is 38 to 40 and has never married and has never had children he realizes he's rare and needs only to just take his time and pick wisely . he knows that a lot of women women 30 to 40 he knows are still riding the cock carousel. at least in 2017.
YES IN DEED I COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER MY SELF , CAUSE AFTER SEEING AND LISTENING TO SOME LADY'S IN MY LIFE TIME , A LOT OF THEM DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT A REAL REAL MAN IS UNTIL HE'S GONE , BELIVE IT OR NOT ; CAUSE IF ANYONE KNOW THESE WORDS HERE (YOU HAVE LOST A GOOD THING) : AND "YOU CAN'T GET IT BACK" SHOULD KNOW WHAT I MEAN, SO TO THE REAL REAL ONES OUT THERE MEANING MEN ; KEEP YOUR EYE OPEN ! AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP ! CAUSE WHEN THE REAL RIGHT LADY COMES "SHE'LL SURELY KNOW YOU JUST AS YOU WILL SURELY KNOW HER" .
Here's a PSA for you: Women over 40 do know what tf they want, they've had time to think about it. If you date women your own age, this is a good thing. You know what you want, she knows what she wants, we're dealing with each other as adults!
How old are you if you don't mind mentioning it? I am 28 and naturally attracted to older men as well. Currently, I'm dating someone that is 40. I'm definitely enjoying it and if things don't work out, I feel comfortable dating another 40 yo man.
Leslie Almanza u should u can still carry a legacy to term.these other 35 to 40 something old dusty womb chicks need to just get on back page and do what they been. doing for years and get a check
OMG...Im having the same conversations with my girls. I typed in "dating men over 40" and your video popped up. Thanks for sharing your experience. Good luck!
Robert Johnson idk they seem to be holding these days, which is why they are more popular. Anywho, people seem to have the wrong idea about marriage, it's sad so many men think it's about a woman cashing out. I know I'm perfectly fine with a sacred ceremony vs. a marriage. It's about me and my man agreeing upon being one. Also I don't want anyone to stay with me bc they are afraid to leave due to legal/financial ramifications. If you're not happy and not willing to do the work...leave. I'm not holding anyone hostage, life is too short for that. So yeah, I want a sacred ceremony with a lovely reception.
Yes, yes, and yeeeeeessssss! Let’s goooooo men 38 and up!!! This video is a “compliment” to men 38 and up. Thanks for making it. I’m relaxed at 40 now. I’m immune to her bs. I’m straight to the point and gone quickly.
I'm 48 and, I've been through hell in my past relationships. So therefore, I fully understand why men my age have trust issues, "rules," etc. Men my age, especially men like myself who are true gentlemen and nice guys, have grown emotionally fatigued with all of the mind and heart games a lot of women put us through. So, why is it shocking to you that men in their 40s have rules, regulations and stipulations??
sounds like she's dating men who are drama queens, I'm in my 50s and swear I see it all the time dudes in their 40s that are worse than the women, I don't understand it.
You are missing a key point. Older men usually are set in what they do and don't like. They commonly have seen so many different things as well as types of women. Manipulating tactics used commonly by women they aren't willing to abide. They could also be at a point due to past relationships that they merely do not want a real relationship headed in a permanent direction. Like men of any age you have to find out the type man he is at that point. Then be okay with it as well of accepting who he is, and his wants. Some men want things to just happen naturally without any labels or pressure. He may also be the type who enjoys being with you in whatever capacity yet doesn't want a relationship with you. By that I mean a real committed relationship naturally progressing to whole nine yards. Not a bad thing just merely is. Could also be a combination of things. If you date while having sex yet aren't in a relationship gradually/naturally moving forward within 6 months to a year reevaluate. You should start getting feelings about it after a month of heavy dating, sex, and contact/ involvement.
I'm a 56 yr old male... I was divorced 7 yrs ago.. by a woman I loved dearly.. that found a younger man (she her self was 46 then).. she left me for a younger guy.. cheated on me and asked me to leave. I left like a dog with his tail between its legs.. I was destroyed.. depressed. I gained weight.. I lost my job and my career.. Now I make just enough to survive.. but that's not enough for women.. I'm a LOSER in the eyes of women. I haven't touched a woman in those 7 yrs.. I tried dating.. but rejection after rejection... and people told me I tried to hard.. they said stop looking and they will find you. Yeah.. I stopped looking.. and nothing. Soooo.. as far as women are concerned men like me are already dead.
Wow! So much male bitterness in these comments! Thank you for this video. I am noticing this pattern with men in my age group not wanting to commit. How can so many lonely souls be online dating....yet are afraid to commit. I'm getting so discouraged, I'm thinking of deleting my dating profile. We've ALL been hurt! But if I can open myself up to the possibility of a relationship, so can these men!
K.... the "bitterness" is just they typical comment that women use when they have no logical response to a statement. What do you care if men are afraid to "commit" or not? Monogamy is a social construct, and men have been told for decades that women are strong and independent and not needed. No one on this comment thread has really discussed "being hurt"... you just interpret statements the way you want to. There are reasons why men have left the "dating game" and marriage rates have declined over the past 3 decades and divorce rates are still at 50%.
@@mgtowarena9636 That 50% divorce rate is pretty deceiving, I think intentionally. What they did was only take the stats out to the 20 year anniversary, if one goes out to 40 years the divorce rate is 65%
Low risk relationship is fine. Companionship. Friendship. Do not insist on anything after being told no. Do not ask for us to stick our neck out. Do not make any ultimatums or demands. Do not endanger us.
100% FIGURED OUT WHAT THE ISSUE WAS! "He doesn't want to move his red pieces. You know in checkers there's red and black." Dating is CHESS NOT CHECKERS! You playing the wrong game home girl! With all due respect learn chess. not checkers. Checkers is a little boy's game. Chess is a man's game. It LITERALLY teaches you about love and war and longevity. But Truth be told most women I try to mention relationships are CHESS not CHECKERS they claim they want a chess player but keep with a checkers mentality. #message. TOTALLY serious about learning chess. Totally figurative about you playing checkers. The goal of CHECKERS is to capture as many as you can. It's a free for all. Every piece for themselves. The goal of CHESS is to CAPTURE THE KING! You're using an analogy where capturing ANY pieces is the name of the game. Can't complain when you get any man. Chess there's only 1 piece to capture that you need a team to help you. And there's always another woman on the board that will give you competition for the king. Let that sit in.. . AGAIN stop playing basic games. You'll remove the basic men out of your life. There are two directions you can take after checkers. In one direction is CHESS. In the other is Connect4. Choice is yours. www.marcensign.com/are-you-playing-checkers-or-chess/ I Literally learned chess. And figuratively the checkers women disappeared out of my life. #score. I can help teach you if interested. Tons of online boards.
Good Men when they are younger lose sooo much in their relationships that fail. Alimony, child support and property that turn their life upside down, why would they not put up serious long term pre screening requisites. The saying if you look at the world when you are 20 and still see it the same at 50, you wasted 30 years of experience.
Lmfao, 40 is still young. Im.not dating a.woman unless she is.marriage material though. If the woman does not want kids, I'm not dating her. I want kids, so that and the woman can not be immature and loud all the time. Those are my 2 rules
As a man almost 40. I am fine being me. I don’t need a woman’s attention to validate my existence. If you are an equal to me or compliment my personality, then a relationship can happen. If you are less and have issues either mentally, personally or professionally then probably work on that instead of being in a relationship.
I'm so glad not all women feel this way. I'm 44 and feel great and more confident than I did when I was twenty. We have far more to offer than a young inexperienced man who still hasn't grown up or got his shit together.
Men at their forties are experienced enough about energy vampires, immature selfish women.. What makes you think that you're entitled to have commitment by a man, while having a big baggage on your back and there's only sex you can offer? This is called solipsism and there's a bunch of miserable single moms out there.
There is no upside for men to get married women leave and take half of your shit. Especially if you've been married before. And no it's not equal women usually leave. Plus women bring all of these kids to the relationship and say it's a package deal and they want you to take care of another man's children.
The pre-screening is the man waiting for the women to submit after a while he will come to the conclusion the women is either submitting and he'll have a relationship or two she is being dominant and he'll check out.
Sis! This is so accurate. I've been "predating" a 43 yr old man for a year and a half 😭😂 but both of us are too stubborn to take the next step. I enjoy his company though! Great video!
I turn "58"in July I have RETIRED and been around the WORLD a few times.The ladies of today can not compare to yesteryear."self esteem"Is missing.Retired USCG
Marriage is a sacrifice. That, by the way, is what love is; sacrifice. What are you, as a woman, willing to sacrifice for your marriage? You basically said that when you were 20, you didn't want to sacrifice your options of other potential bachelors for your husband, and that if it "didn't work out," whatever that means, you were going to divorce him. That tells men that a vow means absolutely nothing to you. That makes you both dishonest and untrustworthy in our eyes. The older we get, the wiser; we want wives, not whores. We are not going to sacrifice our time, industry, treasure and energy to someone who will throw that all away when she feels like it. We have way too much to lose.
I'm in my 40's financially secure never been married nor wanted kids. I have always dated younger but will never be married, just find many women don't bring enough to the table for a steady relationship. I'll be damned if I'm going to get into a relationship only to have her looking for a payday at the end.
@@karebaby700 I am not computer literate, therefore am not going to take the time to search for a link. But from my memory something in the neighborhood of 95% of alimony is paid by men, to women, that is part of what the OP was referring to.
We’ve been burnt, ripped off, sent broke, had our hearts torn from our chests, been told it’s not our fault, when really it was. Treat us like equal partners in a field, that a lot of us haven’t been a part of for a long time.
I don't know why women are so hung up on the marriage thing. It is way overrated. My take is to enjoy the ride and have fun and forget about the marriage thing. Life is so much better without it.
Men in their 40s are entering their best years. We can't waste those years on any woman. We have to assess does she have kids and how many baby daddies will be knocking on our door? Is she feminine? Is she agreeable? Is her body count higher than mine? Alpha Males who are successful are not looking for problems!
Ok. She wants a 40 year old single man, who’s most likely been hurt emotionally, romantically, and FINANCIALLY by the time she meets them. The average guy in his 40’s has probably been either married or in a serious relationship or 2, or 3 by the time they’ve hooked up with her. Women have to realize just how fucked up marriage is for a man. We lose everything. We lose 1st the woman that we love, 2nd if kids are involved, we lose the opportunity to wake up in the same house with our kids daily, thus making co-parenting an awful mess, (3) we lose our home, (4) transportation, (5) half of our hard earned pay,(6) part of our retirement benefits, (7) then we still are considered responsible for the needs of the previous woman and of course the kids. ( which don’t get me wrong, it’s rightfully so in regards to taking care of the kids), however, that’s what the child support should cover. As a man we lose more when the marriage fails, and we pay out more when it fails, than we did when it was still going. There is no benefit to a man being remarried that anyone can give me that will balance out the threat of what we lose if it fails. I cannot think of anything. Other than “it’s the Christian thing to do.” I’ve heard people say, (1) well you get companionship. ok, I can get that just being in a relationship. (2) sex. Please, most of the time you get it more single, and it’s better. (3) trust. Once you’ve been hurt as much as the average 40 year old man has, trust is something that we no longer feel is real, along with the concept of loyalty. So go ahead. Give me a reason that I haven’t heard of, that will make men want to run down the aisle willingly. Don’t worry I’ll wait🤔
Pre screening is not beneficial? Omg ....you gotta dig into her past to see what kinda person she is ....if she screwed over her last boyfriend quess what ? Your next .Lol
I'm 61, twice divorced. A gorgeous 38-year-old woman (with whom I'd had some history) was interested in me. Mind you, I was willing to be a good man to her, and I backed it up with action. I was ready to make a commitment. I cared about her and wanted to be there for her. I WAS there for her. But I ghosted her. Why? She started showing unmistakable signs of a fundamental lack of respect for me. I am NOT having it. It is not happening. Message to young men: there's a few things I like about being my age. One is that many of the things I thought were important, I just don't care about it anymore. It's all meaningless. And no woman can hold power over me with her beauty and promises of sex. Learn these lessons now while you're young.
you are so right I don't want to play no games I just want to find my soulmate live the rest of my life and happiness and love because there ain't no girls around here where I live at that are ready for that type of life if you know of some let me know so we can start dating
Women need to chill out and stop believing that men owe them something🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ Love you, have a life and enjoy it without treating men like a bank or like you are their mother!!!! Chill have fun be laid back- life is so much easier
Glad you talked about this subject! What I find interesting is that men in the 40's (you would think) should be done with playing games! I, JUST TODAY, had to cancel a dude because he EVEN AFTER he said he was too old to play games, that's all he did! Funny how times and the dating scene has changed!
@Teneice TV are u serious? a 40+ yr old unmarried, no kids, and financially stable guy is a trophy for any woman anyday. what are u bringing to the table is what u should be asking. u need 29 year old guy/fool who u can manipulate ..and that aint me
Are you sure it's not because you give off constant signals that makes them second guess you as a choice. For example, swearing, aggressive voice patterns, rapid blinking, constantly rolling your eyes, speaking so fast you can barely take a breath, did I mention constantly rolling your eyes cause I know that really pisses most men off. Just saying
You guys are probably running into the same guy because you are dating narcissists..they are all the same..why not date younger or just wait til you know the person and you know it's right
Don't Take it personal if "they won't move". I can speak for myself, I just invested my hart and thousands of dollars in a mirage for 9 years my wife only had her cute face fairly attractive body but that was it. Then after about the seventh year she tried to regulate how I move and handle my business that I had been doing many years before she came on the scene. I gave her the binderies the first time so the second time I had to cut it off, and after the divorce settlement she walked away with over $70k and I got 10%. so this is one reason older men that have a purpose and assets are reluctant specially if you are only bringing your ass and cute face to the table. some real men with substance want to see more than that.
For most men either single or married once 40 hits there's a sense of urgency to recapture some sort of our youth. My 20s were off the hook to get half that fun back would be a godsend. But married men in thier 40s usually go for healthier lifestyle changes that benifit them and wife. Single 40+ men just want what they had or couldn't have in thier prime. It's like when you walk past an attractive man/woman and all you can say is a stuttering good morning but laying down at night you think of a million other things you could have said to that person to extend that interaction. Well that's what the 40s are for men. A do over. Except now in thier 40s thier playing chess not checkers.
We're reduced to relationships being games. Damn! Smh. The Generalizations In these types of videos are ridiculous. After living 40 years on this planet, I hope people know what they want. Unfortunately it's sad that few people want to compromise because of these games. I guess the only guarantee here is that everyone wants that sex, right? Lol.
The great thing about her is she's a thinker so you can communicate with her. She also appears to have a sweet personality. If she wants to use chess or checkers as an analogy than she's playing the game wrong. She shouldn't be an opponent on the opposite side. She should be on his side and let the rest of the world be the opponent. I'm over 40 and don't date woman as a sport or game. Every relationship is a serious attempt to meet that special person. As you get older you're more cautious about choosing someone. I use to bend over backwards to please a fine woman. Now (relatively speaking) I drop them if they have a shitty attitude or display a selfish personality.
The funniest thing about this entire video you did is that all the complaints you speak of are the exact things that women do too. I'll let you in on a little tip about men. Men have the same exact feelings as women. We hurt just like women, it just is not acceptable to show it. More of this happens to be that people have to open up to each other. If a man or woman is always waiting for the other person to open up, it will end up as a stalemate most of the time and you have people like yourself making videos and basically doing the same complaining. The right man will open up to you and not give you truck loads of grief, just like you'll open up and not bring your previous bad life experiences of baggage in tow to the new relationship if you want to be better for him. Try to give the open effort on your side and if he's unwilling to do it on his part, then move on to the next. This case to be in relationships is the church's fault. They always read that verse from the bible that says it's better to be married than to burn with passion, but they never read the verse before it that says it's better to be single than to be married, but it is better to be married than to burn with passion. Matthew Chapter 19 also covers how everyone isn't meant to be married or be with someone. This should help more people in their quest of trying to find romantic love and get some understanding that it really is okay to be single. I've enjoyed my life equally in being single and in a relationship. The shit doesn't really matter. It's all about enjoying life and what is in front of you and not sulking about what or who you don't have because you see everyone else with someone. Enjoy your single life woman. You are still lovely either way.
The attitude is crazy and when you bring that them they often say you can't handle a strong woman😅hahhahaha I understand your previous baby father was a jerk but when you take that attitude to every man you meet it's damn problem, don't blame us for your poor decisions in life
There is NOT an equal amount of risk for both parties. The divorce court system heavily favors the female, who initiate divorce 70% of the time. A man in his 40s has probably already been married and divorced at least once and isn't as likely to walk into a relationship without some major assurances that the thing isn't going to blow up in our faces.
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A lot of men in their 40's have been ruined by divorce. This is why they aren't willing to take the same risks again.
Michael Alexander 💥You speak the truth
Its not risky just do a prenups and u will be good how about that? or date a woman that is more richer than you thats what ill do lol their are many ways to skin a cat lol its not the black women its the system designed to break marriages ... or date from Africa where they not brainwashed by American system....
Pre-nups can be undone by courts.
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3634949/Victory-hippy-millionaire-s-unemployed-ex-wife-wins-500-000-share-fortune-money-decade-broke-up.html
And when courts do things like that, men then wake up and say no thank you.
Michael Alexander, that's the realest thang I've heard all week!
I think black women are brain washed to diss like the black man they say they love us but all they want to take from you and not give anything but ass and that's not enough infact that's nothing we have body parts that they need and like too(even swap ain't no swindle..?)
From a guy over 40. You women don't get it. Your attitude is it is all about you. You deserve a man's dedication and lifelong committment because you happen to have a vagina. What do you bring to a relationship? Are you warm, caring, empathetic, intuitive, open, respectful, emotionally stable, loving, giving, etc.? Respectful is a big one. We can no longer take abuse at this age. Unlike in our 20s when you said it was "easier", we now have some expectations of you. What do you bring to our life? It is also different now due to the change in society in what divorce had been well publicized to have done to men. Look inward now and take stock of what you can offer to a man. Your best chance for a relationship is to show the man that you are worth his dedication. Your next video should showcase what you can offer a man in a relationship.
Robert Johnson brotha you speak truth I tell women this often they give me excuses or a blank stare.
Robert .... women are so disrespectful to men these days. I hear it and see it everywhere. I sometimes feel like going up to the man and ask him how does he stand for that crap? However the men have been so emotionally abused by women that the men have become numb to it. Like the horse that has been beaten so often, it doesn't even notice it.
Men are learning to stop being open to attack &losing it all but women never play from a losing it sacrificing it all position by throw men under the bus & use shaming language &socially ostracized men &call them selfish for protecting their self interest.
Exactly Robert! I am 42 and I have a good job, no kids, haven't been married and no debt. I do not put up with stuff I use to when I was in my 20's. Not in a rush to date women until I get to know them for several months. Then I still side eyeing these chicks. Most of the things you said, is what I look for, but these women are still acting like they are in their 20's.
ScarcityPrinciple I agree with you 100% bro. I'm 42 no kids all ducks in a row. Most of these sistas are overweight with kids, greyhound baggage and expect top shelf brothas
So, to sum it all up, you're saying men in their 40's are smarter and wiser than men in their 20's and more difficult to manipulate. Yes, experience and pain tend to do that.
Captain Everyman very well said
Captain Everyman indeed brother. I couldn't agree with you more.. pushing 40 myself..
Fatcs💯💯💯💯💯
The more Black women call themselves exposing Black men, the more they expose themselves.
Captain I wanted to say something about what Teneice said but you said it perfectly thank you so much brother.
the older you get the less you are willing to take chances on the wrong person. No rush. to many people out there rushing shit. Dating doesn't mean having sex. S e x just complicates things.
So true
Over the years, I have realized that who you marry is the single most important life decision a person makes--nothing comes even close. Your partner can and will make or break you in every sense of the word. CHOOSE WISELY.
I believe that to be true sir
Facts
I'm a man that just turned 40 and I thought that I was stuck in my ways until I met the right woman. Trust me, we may seem like we a complicated but that's just because a perfect match haven't been made just. Keep trying and just be yourself.
Finally, a response from a man who isn't a bitter, woman-hating emotional accountant! You sound awesome.
Thank you for keeping it honest and simple 👏🏽👏🏽
men got to much to lose fooling with the wrong broad
Mo City Beau, I definitely agree with you
marriage is not a win for men
Dougs2fresh generally you're correct.
@Capain Everyman -
Nah, he's more than generally, because now you have a segment of the White female population who ended up earning more than their ex-husbands who are trying to have child support and alimony laws changed, because they don't like watching a lot of their pay being taken away.
The same gripes and accusations men have about ex-wives gouging them, is mirrored to the "T" by those women. And yes, the word "unfair" and the phrase, "I feel" is mentioned a lot during their complaint.
Dougs2fresh for women either.
@Angela Simmons -
Women don't see the need for marriage, because they can rely on a handful of other people. Those people are, (1) the parents, namely their mama, (2) their children, (3) their siblings, (4) grandparent, depending on their age, (5) the government, (6) friends, (7) others.
Women are not independent by a long shot, at best they can be defined as being dependently-independent. So with so many avenues for women to fall back on, the last thing many want to do is be in a marriage where they have to vote trade with another person. Vote trading is anti-autonomous. Autonomous mindset is all too common within women.
Definitely not!
Well I just turned 34 myself and I don't feel like wasting anytime dating anymore cause I feel like I'm always being put through a screening process even after a relationship starts and I feel like I'm on a tight rope and the tight rope never ends. I'm already thinking about how whether a marriage benefits me and have taken love and romance out of the equation cause I don't wanna be hurt anymore. I've been called a creep just for talking to a woman I wasn't even trying to date, been told to meet someone somewhere then she pretended to not know me. I've been made fun of for all the positive things about me and have had my time deliberately wasted. Women that don't have kids don't have any time for me so how would a woman who does have kids have time for me. I've been told I wouldn't stand up to a woman and have no spine(couldn't be further from the truth I just pick my fights). I've been told I am poor because I didn't pay the full price for a date(it actually wasn't a date it was just three people hanging out talking and one of them may have liked me I'm not paying for her if she doesn't like me cause I'll come on too strong). Women on Facebook have blocked me just for trying to chat with them not in a romantic way just chatting so I'm tired of all the arrogance, lies, expectations, and general coldness that's out there so I'm just done and doing whatever I wanna do
The Man 316 Excellent Elegy My Enlightened Brother. We Are The Same Age & I Feel The Exact Same Way. Live Your Life King.👑
The Man 316, I'm sorry you have had such a bad experience with dating, you seem to be a genuine person
Welcome to the 21st century. Social media has RUINED dating. I'm 35 also and married and I went through so much BS before I settled down. People hide behind the internet and are a totally different person in real life. Social media has become a fantasy world for people to catfish and lie and take advantage of others. I just hate to hear people loose faith and rather be single than date and find someone, even as just a life partner without a piece of paper behind it; dont give up. I hope you find someone to share life with.😁
Bro, focus on your purpose in this life. Open your own business, or rise to the top of your business. Disregard the approval of women for a long while. Also hit the gym at least 3 times per week without focusing on women. Make yourself a better person, not for a woman, but for yourself. When you do so, women will flock to you.
Its a simple equation. The Benefits are not greater than the BS.
If you have to go through a lot of bullshit to love someone then, he is not the one. Keep it moving.
I'm 41 , and this is how I see things at this point. I want to just relax, and enjoy what i have. To me women will never be able to reach this. Women always want more, always looking for how to make the perfect situation for themselves. Women always need more, and at some point I think a lot of guys mature and say enough of the B.S " I have enough, and I'm going to start living my way " This is where I think a lot of older guys are coming from. I think the majority of Women just can never be happy with what they have; I think that is just in there nature.
Thomas Anderson I agree I'm there now.
Church! Adam wanted Eve...Eve wanted the apple! Think about it!
Bob Builder, eve wanted adam. she killed herself because she couldn't take being without him. god brought her back to life. read and don't just listen.
captcindy wea did u her tht version???
swaggalicious3609. the books that were taken out for fear of the people having too much knowledge. book of Enoch. grab it, read it and expand your mind. adam killed himself too. he didn't just say, we gotta leave? ok. there you will learn that it was no apple, it was knowledge. that eve got from the messenger.
She's spot on. I'm a 51 yr old man. Just let me tell u, it gets worse for u as the man ages. I would like to get married again someday but the requirements are such that I truly believe it won't happen. Am I upset about it? NO, and here's why. I'M HAPPY!!!! I'm in a financial position that allows me not to stress out. I've been there done that. Most of my marriage I was happy but she never seemed satisfied. I don't have to please anybody. I don't mind being alone and when I do want company, I have a smorgasbord of women to choose from. I help them out they help me out were both happy. I don't deal with their issues and they don't deal with mine. Which makes a very peaceful exsitance.
Happiness whole lot of loving without the stress.
Reggie I think you are on to something I am 42 all I really need is a friend with benefits situation.
Being alone has been my sacrifice for peace!
Reggie Everett - Gold. Don't take your peace and happiness for granted for a second!
I agree
I’m a 45 y/o woman who wants marriage. I found a 45 y/o man who wants marriage as well. We both sought out what we wanted.
Look for what you want. Go for that.
Don’t go for something different and try to change them or their mind.
Wast of time.
Go for what you want, period. There are all kinds of people out there. Not just one type.
Hallelujah sister!
So simple - so true
These older men have been through a lot of games when they were younger and they don't want to go through that again. They date only to have some fun.
Ruby Chew I've got news for you the games don't stop.
Ruby Chew I got news for you I'm 57 was married for 20 years haven't dated in 6 years and I'm having the time of my life don't drink smoke or get high and im not on any medication I have the same energy I had at 25 I'm running from women my age life is great thank God
@@marvinmckinley6220 lmao
@@derekscarrsr2688 lmao
Yes, yes, and yeeeeeessssss!
Sexual Market Value flips for most people around 35-40. Young attractive women have the advantage in their teens and twenties, but successful single men have the advantage over 40.
Not anymore. That's why so many older men are ''going their own way''. These guys have pretty much been put out to pasture by women but their egos won't allow them to admit it.
I'm Sure he means LATE TEENS&EARLY TWENTIES>18-24 after 25 it's down hill fast for most women!!
SMV flips at 27, so sweet when the tables turn.
Solitary Man As long as you work out too.
@@lifeiswhatyoumakeit5505 You seem bitter and sad.
What are you really talking about? You were married before. That man got your best years,early 20’s. You now have kids. You really think a man is going to rush into a serious relationship with you? There are to many potential problems. More cons than pros.
Goat78 amen
What if you don't have kids?
😂😂😂😄
Is this Kevin samuels?
Looking to settle down does not mean we are open to your 'Turn up' mentality and dealing with your many children who you can not control. Yet women expect you to be tolerate of their issues. By this time we are settled and comfortable in our lifestyle.
Quentin Teal hell yah.
Quentin Teal preach my brother
Bang on......
Gosh man not all of us women r like that 🙄
Settled and comfortable, mmm so sexy oh yeahhhh
I get the feeling you're dating older men because you expect them to worship you. Just because you're young and good looking doesn't mean they owe you something you know?!
Lmao
Good looking is a bit of a stretch
What makes you think that ?
the only reason a man should marry is to have children and leave a legacy other than that what is the benefit of marriage to a man?
kenneth kandahar the same goes for women
Johnna Dunston yeah OK hilarious
kenneth kandahar I agee...there are no benefits in marriage for a man
No dumb ass, the woman hits the lottery in divorce court, that is one of the main reasons they get married along with having a baby.
@@jossphrichardson8064 In this cold cost-benefit mindframe, what the f do you think a woman gets out of marriage that men don't, providing she's financially independent (as most women are unless there's an agreement she stays home to care for the kids)? More often than not, the woman takes on all the additional labour of another person's cleaning, cooking and laundry, not to mention emotional labour, and after doing all that being expected to be a sex slave for disappointing lovers. No thanks
I lost my husband September 2016 in a car accident. I'm 35yrs, with 2 kids. I need a faithful male friend I can always talk with. I'm a Nigerian.
I love how she tries to make HER goals into a man's goals. Men don't care about marriage. Anyways.....welcome to life as a 20yr old man. Older women are getting karma for how they USE to treat men in their younger years.
flauze like the song says it ain't no fun when the rabbits got the gun.
Derek S Carr Sr it also ain't no fun when you lose all of your money to the lottery hint hint
flauze 🤗👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍🤐!!!!!!!!......
This is exactly what it is , I use there old lines on them now, I call them creepy, insecure. I tell them they are not acting confident.
Lmao
I do not usually respond to videos however, I must respond. First I must let you know I am a man in that age group. I have been divorced for a few years. I am responsible and secure in all ways. With that being said all of my kids are grown. So life is really good for me. I work hard but I play hard. Life experience teaches you things I will share one simple thing with you. I absolutely hate having multiple bottles of shampoo conditioner body wash face wash foot wash and other body parts the have special washes "summers eve" in my shower. I cannot even tell you how foolish I think all of those products are. When I was married every time I got in the shower I had to battle all of those bottles. Of course to accommodate all of her stuff my bottle was under the sink. I think it looks horrible and mold forms. I swore to myself if I ever got out of that marriage I would never have a bathroom like that again. 90% of all women that I would consider to date when I go to their house and I look in their bathroom it is already a problem. Now some men are probably finding humor in this. However I realize who I am and what I want. Yes I am willing to compromise and I have several options for her. Yes they require a little bit of work. However I refuse to be unhappy where I live ever again. What you are experiencing is a man who has been through circumstance and situations that beat him down mentally and emotionally. When I met my ex wife in college she had one bottle of shampoo 1 bottle of conditioner. We were using bars of soap back then. When we had our 1st apartment we shared the bar soap and the same shampoo. It was very easy no mess quick clean up. Being a military man who likes cleanliness and order I will never settle for that again. So yes instead of wasting your time I can learn a lot about a person and not waste our time. I will make it very short and sweet when we were younger we wanted love. We understand now that a relationship takes so much more than love. So as an older wiser mature man I am looking for compatibility. Because if we can are compatible and friendly with a little faith and sexuality we will have a great life together. But if we do not have those components the relationship will never be what it needs to be. I am going to say I hope you find your compatible friend that is sexy to you who you will desire to spend time with and enjoy learning about, while teaching him about you.
I'm a man in my forties good carrier.grown kids and single.and cool with being single.no headaches..no drama.and a variety of woman.if right one come along I will settle down.don't matter what age she is.real talk
plz add me wish to be your friend
I find that older men have a lifestyle that they do not want to give up or is hard for them to compromise a bit.
Josephine Donnelley why should older men compromise, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
By "a bit" you mean habd over your balls!!!! lol
Josephine Donnelley yup because they become TOO ENTITLED as Males who have made EASY money off the strength of Simply being - Male! If he was a woman he'd have it 10x as worse so his attitude alone is why I leave him be. I want a man who respects women struggle to be LEGIT and work hard but finding that in a man who hasn't been catered and pampered too like a big child is hard. Especially since they are used to throwing money at weak females who don't want to be or aspire to be anything else. I need more and these old males are like women now no thank you. I know my worth and it ain't dollars and cents. Turned many old males down because of their entitled attitude I don't take that shit from females I don't take it from males
@@blackmegriffin9240 This is what I'm worried about - falling for a man who got used to a woman catering to him, cooking, cleaning, raising his children for him, wiping his ass....I've never been in a relationship like that and never want to be. We can negotiate tasks and stuff, but I'm not gonna be solely responsible for a house that belongs to both of us...And I'm gonna keep working a job. I f we're both working, then we SHARE domestic tasks. Pick up your own damn shitstained underwear lol
I just started seeing a man who’s 44 and I’m 34. I really enjoy his company. However. I don’t know if he wants to settle down. He keeps saying he wants to continue getting to know me before we make it official. I understand. But I wonder how much time he’ll need. I guess at my age it’s like either we do this or not. I don’t have kids yet either and hope to one day.
Wow lots of bitter men on here 😯. As a woman in her 40s I can relate to what many of these guys r saying and do the same thing this woman complains about. Pre screening and being upfront is a way of not wasting time and with age comes wisdom and a huge bs monitor. Yes being older can mean being stuck in your ways to a certain extent but it also means knowing who u r and not lowering your standards to suit someone else. I've been thru the coals too much for anyone else to do that get again. I don't agree as many men on here seem. To think that every women wants marriage, perhaps cos I've been there and done that for many yrs. For us women who have their lives together we also don't want someone to come in and drag us down financially or emotionally.
Older men do heavy duty pre-screening most of the time because they have done been had by an ex wife. You cannot blame them for this. Many women do the same thing. I am 35 and my husband is 12 years older than me and that is how I like my men. Good conversation, good in bed, good cook, respects me. I, in turn, treat him like he deserves to be treated. He treats me like a queen and I, in turn, treat him like a king. Small things matter - can i get you a glass of tea, let me make your plate for you. It is not that I think I have to do that as a wife, but I want to. And I have been married 3 times. (Divorced, widowed, currently married). Each marriage was different and while my first and I divorced, we get along fine and have a daughter together. We work out visits and child support without a court telling us what to do and that respect is something that was started in our marriage.
Heather Dowling hello my beautiful black queen how are you doing today you see we need more beautiful respectful women like you in this world you don't always have to bring the white man into your business and that's why your ex husband your first one respect and love you till this day
Joseph, that was a very nice compliment, but it made me laugh a little because I am white. My ex and I were separated 5 years before legally divorcing so visitation and child support had long been established without us being told how to work it out. He is actually ordered to pay more than what we had agreed on, but we stick to what we agreed on. I am not trying to break him. Also, it is more important to me that he is in her life. He helps with activities she does and things like that. If I need anything, all I have to do is call him. Hope you have a good woman in your life as well. I love going home to my husband and that is a great feeling!
Aw lol
.... that is why as a black women divorce raising a young boy and being 39 I’ve decided to pursue a PhD, work hard to get my son to college, have a career in an international organization and spend the rest of my life changing other people lives...☺️🤓i cannot win in this game so I am not playing...beside, not all of us will have a man in our lives....
You've hit the wall & still feel entitled get over yourself. Marriage is a set up why bother ?
Men also hit a wall btw. We don't confine it to age as we do with women, but you definitely hit a wall when you get so bitter as to write this kind of comment on a TH-cam video...
Lmao
@To the point. When people can't have kids anymore
Honestly it's hard for anyone to date in today's world. To me it sounds like you're choosing guys that are of the same caliber that were known to play around and not committ until they found the "right one" in their eyes to get married to in their youth.
Once they get married to her and finally committ, they might've gotten burned and now that they are in their 40's, they're not willing to give in to anyone and waste time for someone that's they feel will be unstable.
The checkers analogy would be an analogy that is used in dating in your 20's bc everybody is trying to "WIN". If you're really trying to date and acquire a long term relationship, you shouldn't be trying to "WIN".
Checkers is a game where you try to obtain all of your opponent's pieces, and men in their 40's (the ones that are not willing to committ on your timeline) are playing it smart by not letting you acquire all their pieces. They know you want to win, so they're setting you up like in a game of chess to make you exhaust all your moves to capitalize on them.
Let's be honest, you too are only willing to play your first few rows to try to make him play all of his rows, when in fact winning shouldn't be a factor and dating shouldn't be a game. There never should be any guess work for anyone. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If a guy says hello and wants to strike up a conversation, say hello. The person on the receiving end of the conversation always has the decision on the outcome.
If everyone were upfront and clear about their intentions, dating and relationships would require less work.
well said..... it's a traumatic landscape out there if you don't think before you act.
Unfortunately, you're right. I can say that because I am a man over 40 and it's difficult for me to become emotionally attached to anyone. But women can be just as detached as men. It's the," I don't care" attitude and I am sure that many have felt it in one form or another. I think the real challenge is to re-engage with emotion while using reason to guide you through romance? What do you think?
Chris
I wish I knew how to do this!
I wish l know
Brutal truth: men over 40 have the experience, wisdom and resources to know that they are now the high value partner. It's pretty well open season on women from 20 years old and upwards. Also, if the guy has been through a divorced, you can expect the system to have made him considerably more risk-averse than he was as a young man.
Im over 40 and I dont care about anything but enjoying life.I steer clear of drama and financial debt.I can break it down simple for any woman who wants to know what men want. We want 3 things from you. Faithfull, sexyness,and quiet.If you posess those 3 things you can live life without working.
LoL. second wind of bull shit.
These dudes aren't too much different from us in the sense that they ain't trying to get hurt, waste their time and potentially lose everything thing they didn't lose from the last marriage.
+Mesha Hairston Fair enough but it absolutely doesn't take more than 6+ months to determine if you vibe with someone enough to progress. Chemistry and relationship logistics show themselves pretty early on.
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Do you even consider the posibility that men want to enjoy the relation for as long as they can without commiting to a woman. They'll extended it for years if possible. Unless he wants to get a child, there is no reason for men to commit to women. They don't care if you waste your time or youth on them. Men aged like old wine, women like milk. Women need commitment, men don't. Think about it.
I'm 53 love the energy of a young woman I've done well for myself I have to be careful
Aaron Porter you've only done well because you are a male. Men look out for and help other men show me a man who cares about a woman WITHOUT fuckin her I'll wait...... Crickets. So take your privileged bratty entitled ass elsewhere because other than money you have nothing to offer a Real Woman looking to be inspired. You're a just an old trick boo nothing new
Black MEGriffin damn! Who hurt you?
Lordt
In single Lady need aman to settle with
Hahaha
Its a Hot mess. Still play games after 40 dude really
Try date women and let me know what you think
Teneice, do you realize everything you're saying is exactly the same way most men feel about women? Too many rules, afraid of wasting time . . . all things women seem to cling to. And yes, it was easier to date when we were younger. Both parties are discovering themselves, discovering what they want in a partner, just looking to have fun. Boy, those were the days weren't they?
imagesfromLA i miss those ..real love ..Wheres my girl mary j blidge? she put it on the map ..real 💘
Ari Raquel, don't hate me, but I was never feeling Mary J. Blidge. I was probably transitioning to the smooth jazz thing when she was coming out. Now I'm on to listening to NPR or the sports station. My my my how our tastes change as we age.
It's almost like women and men are people and really not that different after all.
Lol
Provided the older man has himself together and established. A woman has to ask herself "aside from sex, what do I have to offer to make his life better?" If she doesn't have a good answer, it's best to not go further in the relationship.
@Jerome D -
Most don't because who and what they are revolve around their sexuality; remember, it's men's job to entertain them and validate their existence.
Late to the party, what exactly do you bring to the table to share or negate the risk?
Tubbs 427 a history of serial dating, looking to win the marriage lottery
Sista you made good points. Especially when you mentioned "Risks". I'm 43. And yes I do the "pre-dating" thing. Lot more at risk now. And unfortunately there are just too many dysfunctional people out there. Bad decisions in the past have forced me to be real patient while getting to know these women. We're gonna move real slow and careful. I can't afford to make a bad decision.
The vast majority of women wear WAY TOO MUCH makeup; there is also an issue with the way these products are applied. LESS IS MORE!
I rather be natural mostly
Of the time
Just saw your video and I want to encourage you to hang in there. I am happily married for 21 years and in my mid 50's. I have an older sister who is 60 and in the same predicament as many black women of a "certain age". The most important thing I would suggest in looking/finding/keeping a man is a man with good character; not one who IS a character. It may be disheartening at times, but they are still out there. Good luck and God bless you.
Your exactly right on a lot of points I'm a 42 yr old male divorced in my late 30s lost most of all I'd worked for since I was 26 including my time with my children and that's probably why men put up an extra wall it's not anything towards woman just being extra careful only a fool will make the same mistake twice,but if you have patience and prove your not gonna cut and run out when it gets a little tough sometimes,we'll let you in and we'll BOTH be happy..but what I've seen and i date mostly in 28-35 yr age group most women want it now so they shit test us by going silent or breaking up to get their way which only puts us back at square one..did this with a girl I dated almost 3 years I knew she was the one I wanted to eventually marry but she flip shit about every 6 months and in my mind I'd have to start over with her,I hate it didn't work out but I can't take a chance on another f up at this stage in my life
J Luke same experience. Well stated.
No J Luke she obviously was NOT the one if you were stringing her along for 3 years!
These men in their 40's run ladies as fast as you can in the opposite direction. My husband is 49 and I am 43. My husband is aging faster and the mid life crisis is hitting and it is ruining our marriage. He never wants to go anywhere or do anything besides have sex and it is not good sex because I count to 5 and its over. Now I see why many women cheat with younger men. I have always honored my vows but I see a divorce very soon because he is too old and boring and people thinks he is my dad. Ugh creepy💔💔💔 I married the wrong man.
by a certain age 38 - 40 men collectively think about their experiences with women in Men start to understand that it's not a man's place to understand a woman and men understand that women don't know what they want also men or less likely to be manipulated because believe it or not a lot of them by that age, have develop better intuition as to what woman is worth taking a chance on. if a man is 38 to 40 and has never married and has never had children he realizes he's rare and needs only to just take his time and pick wisely . he knows that a lot of women women 30 to 40 he knows are still riding the cock carousel. at least in 2017.
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Here's a PSA for you: Women over 40 do know what tf they want, they've had time to think about it. If you date women your own age, this is a good thing. You know what you want, she knows what she wants, we're dealing with each other as adults!
@@ingwis if u want to entertain the idea based on facts we can.
@@klevdavful Not sure what you mean..
How old are you if you don't mind mentioning it? I am 28 and naturally attracted to older men as well. Currently, I'm dating someone that is 40. I'm definitely enjoying it and if things don't work out, I feel comfortable dating another 40 yo man.
Leslie Almanza u should u can still carry a legacy to term.these other 35 to 40 something old dusty womb chicks need to just get on back page and do what they been. doing for years and get a check
Leslie Almanza same, I'm naturally attracted to older men. I'm 19 ( going on 20) and seeing someone who's 37.
Wow im 28 and is a attracted to 40 year old man too...he's so sexy
I'm 25 and dating someone over 40. I'm fine with it. I know other people are not but I try not to listen to it.
Phaedra Pugh lol
Girl have fun in life and if the right one come along good if not good to. Enjoy your life do you ,you are young.
OMG...Im having the same conversations with my girls. I typed in "dating men over 40" and your video popped up. Thanks for sharing your experience. Good luck!
Kelli Woo
So are people not comfortable with a prenuptial agreement? I thought that would help provide security to both parties involved
Cha Cha It does not take the risk away, they frequently do not hold up in divorce court.
Robert Johnson idk they seem to be holding these days, which is why they are more popular. Anywho, people seem to have the wrong idea about marriage, it's sad so many men think it's about a woman cashing out. I know I'm perfectly fine with a sacred ceremony vs. a marriage. It's about me and my man agreeing upon being one. Also I don't want anyone to stay with me bc they are afraid to leave due to legal/financial ramifications. If you're not happy and not willing to do the work...leave. I'm not holding anyone hostage, life is too short for that. So yeah, I want a sacred ceremony with a lovely reception.
please cite where they are generally holding up in court.
#TeamSacredCeremony
a prenup is like the u.s. constitution or santa claus ... it only has power over those who believe in its power and abide by it.
Yes, yes, and yeeeeeessssss! Let’s goooooo men 38 and up!!! This video is a “compliment” to men 38 and up. Thanks for making it.
I’m relaxed at 40 now. I’m immune to her bs. I’m straight to the point and gone quickly.
Lol
I'm 48 and, I've been through hell in my past relationships. So therefore, I fully understand why men my age have trust issues, "rules," etc. Men my age, especially men like myself who are true gentlemen and nice guys, have grown emotionally fatigued with all of the mind and heart games a lot of women put us through. So, why is it shocking to you that men in their 40s have rules, regulations and stipulations??
sounds like she's dating men who are drama queens, I'm in my 50s and swear I see it all the time dudes in their 40s that are worse than the women, I don't understand it.
You are missing a key point. Older men usually are set in what they do and don't like. They commonly have seen so many different things as well as types of women. Manipulating tactics used commonly by women they aren't willing to abide. They could also be at a point due to past relationships that they merely do not want a real relationship headed in a permanent direction. Like men of any age you have to find out the type man he is at that point. Then be okay with it as well of accepting who he is, and his wants. Some men want things to just happen naturally without any labels or pressure. He may also be the type who enjoys being with you in whatever capacity yet doesn't want a relationship with you. By that I mean a real committed relationship naturally progressing to whole nine yards. Not a bad thing just merely is. Could also be a combination of things. If you date while having sex yet aren't in a relationship gradually/naturally moving forward within 6 months to a year reevaluate. You should start getting feelings about it after a month of heavy dating, sex, and contact/ involvement.
Pan Is Drunk very well said I like your viewpoints
I'm a 56 yr old male... I was divorced 7 yrs ago.. by a woman I loved dearly.. that found a younger man (she her self was 46 then).. she left me for a younger guy.. cheated on me and asked me to leave. I left like a dog with his tail between its legs.. I was destroyed.. depressed. I gained weight.. I lost my job and my career.. Now I make just enough to survive.. but that's not enough for women.. I'm a LOSER in the eyes of women. I haven't touched a woman in those 7 yrs.. I tried dating.. but rejection after rejection... and people told me I tried to hard.. they said stop looking and they will find you. Yeah.. I stopped looking.. and nothing. Soooo.. as far as women are concerned men like me are already dead.
Wow! So much male bitterness in these comments! Thank you for this video. I am noticing this pattern with men in my age group not wanting to commit. How can so many lonely souls be online dating....yet are afraid to commit. I'm getting so discouraged, I'm thinking of deleting my dating profile. We've ALL been hurt! But if I can open myself up to the possibility of a relationship, so can these men!
K.... the "bitterness" is just they typical comment that women use when they have no logical response to a statement. What do you care if men are afraid to "commit" or not? Monogamy is a social construct, and men have been told for decades that women are strong and independent and not needed. No one on this comment thread has really discussed "being hurt"... you just interpret statements the way you want to. There are reasons why men have left the "dating game" and marriage rates have declined over the past 3 decades and divorce rates are still at 50%.
@@mgtowarena9636 That 50% divorce rate is pretty deceiving, I think intentionally. What they did was only take the stats out to the 20 year anniversary, if one goes out to 40 years the divorce rate is 65%
@@jerrybruckhart9134 instagram.com/p/Br0L5azl7A6/? Yes, I recently saw that the other day.
Low risk relationship is fine. Companionship. Friendship. Do not insist on anything after being told no. Do not ask for us to stick our neck out. Do not make any ultimatums or demands. Do not endanger us.
Wow
They are feeling you out to see if you are crazy..Men over 40 are waiting for you to show your character.
100% FIGURED OUT WHAT THE ISSUE WAS! "He doesn't want to move his red pieces. You know in checkers there's red and black." Dating is CHESS NOT CHECKERS! You playing the wrong game home girl! With all due respect learn chess. not checkers. Checkers is a little boy's game. Chess is a man's game. It LITERALLY teaches you about love and war and longevity. But Truth be told most women I try to mention relationships are CHESS not CHECKERS they claim they want a chess player but keep with a checkers mentality. #message.
TOTALLY serious about learning chess. Totally figurative about you playing checkers.
The goal of CHECKERS is to capture as many as you can. It's a free for all. Every piece for themselves. The goal of CHESS is to CAPTURE THE KING! You're using an analogy where capturing ANY pieces is the name of the game. Can't complain when you get any man. Chess there's only 1 piece to capture that you need a team to help you. And there's always another woman on the board that will give you competition for the king. Let that sit in..
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AGAIN stop playing basic games. You'll remove the basic men out of your life. There are two directions you can take after checkers. In one direction is CHESS. In the other is Connect4. Choice is yours.
www.marcensign.com/are-you-playing-checkers-or-chess/
I Literally learned chess. And figuratively the checkers women disappeared out of my life. #score. I can help teach you if interested. Tons of online boards.
Good Men when they are younger lose sooo much in their relationships that fail. Alimony, child support and property that turn their life upside down, why would they not put up serious long term pre screening requisites. The saying if you look at the world when you are 20 and still see it the same at 50, you wasted 30 years of experience.
Lmfao, 40 is still young. Im.not dating a.woman unless she is.marriage material though. If the woman does not want kids, I'm not dating her. I want kids, so that and the woman can not be immature and loud all the time. Those are my 2 rules
Shawn Moses that sounds easy
@Anna Cadwell who are you speaking of?
@Anna Cadwell I'm 44 with more energy than 20 year olds. I never wanted a baby mama.
As a man almost 40. I am fine being me. I don’t need a woman’s attention to validate my existence. If you are an equal to me or compliment my personality, then a relationship can happen. If you are less and have issues either mentally, personally or professionally then probably work on that instead of being in a relationship.
I'm so glad not all women feel this way. I'm 44 and feel great and more confident than I did when I was twenty. We have far more to offer than a young inexperienced man who still hasn't grown up or got his shit together.
David Williams Get a passport, women of other cultures will be more feminine and receptive to your needs.
Trust takes a long time to build!! A lot of sisters also use the word "friends" hence a lot of brother don't trust!! Real talk!
Men at their forties are experienced enough about energy vampires, immature selfish women.. What makes you think that you're entitled to have commitment by a man, while having a big baggage on your back and there's only sex you can offer?
This is called solipsism and there's a bunch of miserable single moms out there.
There is no upside for men to get married women leave and take half of your shit. Especially if you've been married before. And no it's not equal women usually leave. Plus women bring all of these kids to the relationship and say it's a package deal and they want you to take care of another man's children.
The pre-screening is the man waiting for the women to submit after a while he will come to the conclusion the women is either submitting and he'll have a relationship or two she is being dominant and he'll check out.
Dating require same amount of effort, same amount of energy and same amount of money
Sis! This is so accurate. I've been "predating" a 43 yr old man for a year and a half 😭😂 but both of us are too stubborn to take the next step. I enjoy his company though! Great video!
How old are u?
I turn "58"in July I have RETIRED and been around the WORLD a few times.The ladies of today can not compare to yesteryear."self esteem"Is missing.Retired USCG
Perhaps your frequent use of profanity is what turns them off.
Marriage is a sacrifice. That, by the way, is what love is; sacrifice. What are you, as a woman, willing to sacrifice for your marriage? You basically said that when you were 20, you didn't want to sacrifice your options of other potential bachelors for your husband, and that if it "didn't work out," whatever that means, you were going to divorce him. That tells men that a vow means absolutely nothing to you. That makes you both dishonest and untrustworthy in our eyes. The older we get, the wiser; we want wives, not whores. We are not going to sacrifice our time, industry, treasure and energy to someone who will throw that all away when she feels like it. We have way too much to lose.
I'm in my 40's financially secure never been married nor wanted kids. I have always dated younger but will never be married, just find many women don't bring enough to the table for a steady relationship. I'll be damned if I'm going to get into a relationship only to have her looking for a payday at the end.
U must be a younger dude
I can say the same thing about a man trying to get over on a financially stable female.
@@karebaby700 Of course you can say it, doesn't mean that such cases are a significant portion of the statistics though.
@@jerrybruckhart9134 what does your stats say? All I am saying is that it's hard.
@@karebaby700 I am not computer literate, therefore am not going to take the time to search for a link.
But from my memory something in the neighborhood of 95% of alimony is paid by men, to women, that is part of what the OP was referring to.
We’ve been burnt, ripped off, sent broke, had our hearts torn from our chests, been told it’s not our fault, when really it was. Treat us like equal partners in a field, that a lot of us haven’t been a part of for a long time.
I don't know why women are so hung up on the marriage thing. It is way overrated. My take is to enjoy the ride and have fun and forget about the marriage thing. Life is so much better without it.
Of course you know, it is the easiest path to resources she didn;t need to work for.
Because men don't want to pay and care for a woman until marriage. Only in marriage men spend a lot of money on a weed woman.
Men in their 40s are entering their best years. We can't waste those years on any woman. We have to assess does she have kids and how many baby daddies will be knocking on our door? Is she feminine? Is she agreeable? Is her body count higher than mine? Alpha Males who are successful are not looking for problems!
My lady is 26 and I am 39. She is naturally attracted to older men and she says the same thing about men in there 40's
Nice.
Mkku Neteru naw 90% of girls under 30 are like 30 is old. she loves what older men can do for her. check back in 10 years for now.
Ok. She wants a 40 year old single man, who’s most likely been hurt emotionally, romantically, and FINANCIALLY by the time she meets them. The average guy in his 40’s has probably been either married or in a serious relationship or 2, or 3 by the time they’ve hooked up with her. Women have to realize just how fucked up marriage is for a man. We lose everything. We lose 1st the woman that we love, 2nd if kids are involved, we lose the opportunity to wake up in the same house with our kids daily, thus making co-parenting an awful mess, (3) we lose our home, (4) transportation, (5) half of our hard earned pay,(6) part of our retirement benefits, (7) then we still are considered responsible for the needs of the previous woman and of course the kids. ( which don’t get me wrong, it’s rightfully so in regards to taking care of the kids), however, that’s what the child support should cover. As a man we lose more when the marriage fails, and we pay out more when it fails, than we did when it was still going. There is no benefit to a man being remarried that anyone can give me that will balance out the threat of what we lose if it fails. I cannot think of anything. Other than “it’s the Christian thing to do.” I’ve heard people say, (1) well you get companionship. ok, I can get that just being in a relationship. (2) sex. Please, most of the time you get it more single, and it’s better. (3) trust. Once you’ve been hurt as much as the average 40 year old man has, trust is something that we no longer feel is real, along with the concept of loyalty. So go ahead. Give me a reason that I haven’t heard of, that will make men want to run down the aisle willingly.
Don’t worry I’ll wait🤔
Pre screening is not beneficial? Omg ....you gotta dig into her past to see what kinda person she is ....if she screwed over her last boyfriend quess what ? Your next .Lol
I'm 61, twice divorced. A gorgeous 38-year-old woman (with whom I'd had some history) was interested in me. Mind you, I was willing to be a good man to her, and I backed it up with action. I was ready to make a commitment. I cared about her and wanted to be there for her. I WAS there for her.
But I ghosted her. Why? She started showing unmistakable signs of a fundamental lack of respect for me. I am NOT having it. It is not happening.
Message to young men: there's a few things I like about being my age. One is that many of the things I thought were important, I just don't care about it anymore. It's all meaningless. And no woman can hold power over me with her beauty and promises of sex. Learn these lessons now while you're young.
you are so right I don't want to play no games I just want to find my soulmate live the rest of my life and happiness and love because there ain't no girls around here where I live at that are ready for that type of life if you know of some let me know so we can start dating
Women need to chill out and stop believing that men owe them something🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Love you, have a life and enjoy it without treating men like a bank or like you are their mother!!!!
Chill have fun be laid back- life is so much easier
Glad you talked about this subject! What I find interesting is that men in the 40's (you would think) should be done with playing games! I, JUST TODAY, had to cancel a dude because he EVEN AFTER he said he was too old to play games, that's all he did! Funny how times and the dating scene has changed!
@Teneice TV are u serious? a 40+ yr old unmarried, no kids, and financially stable guy is a trophy for any woman anyday. what are u bringing to the table is what u should be asking. u need 29 year old guy/fool who u can manipulate ..and that aint me
who 'dates' anymore ? its all about hooking up now. #netflicksandchill
Me n my man does that lol 😂
Blame Feminism!
Fredrick Williams
Lmao
Hahaaaa! Such a convenient scapegoat for underdeveloped men.
Are you sure it's not because you give off constant signals that makes them second guess you as a choice. For example, swearing, aggressive voice patterns, rapid blinking, constantly rolling your eyes, speaking so fast you can barely take a breath, did I mention constantly rolling your eyes cause I know that really pisses most men off. Just saying
What is an "aggressive voice pattern"?
Love your take on dating
It's complicated for no reason
You guys are probably running into the same guy because you are dating narcissists..they are all the same..why not date younger or just wait til you know the person and you know it's right
Even the younger ones are getting tougher, 70% of men age 20 to 34 are never married, that is not a coincidence.
Don't Take it personal if "they won't move". I can speak for myself, I just invested my hart and thousands of dollars in a mirage for 9 years my wife only had her cute face fairly attractive body but that was it. Then after about the seventh year she tried to regulate how I move and handle my business that I had been doing many years before she came on the scene. I gave her the binderies the first time so the second time I had to cut it off, and after the divorce settlement she walked away with over $70k and I got 10%. so this is one reason older men that have a purpose and assets are reluctant specially if you are only bringing your ass and cute face to the table. some real men with substance want to see more than that.
IAM 40 and hate to be sold too....you talk to damn much that's like tring to sale to me..
j SHAW disrespectful ..you chose to watch her channel .she has to talk to get views
What did you come here to see then? A woman moving but not talking?
For most men either single or married once 40 hits there's a sense of urgency to recapture some sort of our youth. My 20s were off the hook to get half that fun back would be a godsend. But married men in thier 40s usually go for healthier lifestyle changes that benifit them and wife. Single 40+ men just want what they had or couldn't have in thier prime. It's like when you walk past an attractive man/woman and all you can say is a stuttering good morning but laying down at night you think of a million other things you could have said to that person to extend that interaction. Well that's what the 40s are for men. A do over. Except now in thier 40s thier playing chess not checkers.
We're reduced to relationships being games. Damn! Smh. The Generalizations In these types of videos are ridiculous. After living 40 years on this planet, I hope people know what they want. Unfortunately it's sad that few people want to compromise because of these games. I guess the only guarantee here is that everyone wants that sex, right? Lol.
The great thing about her is she's a thinker so you can communicate with her. She also appears to have a sweet personality.
If she wants to use chess or checkers as an analogy than she's playing the game wrong. She shouldn't be an opponent on the opposite side. She should be on his side and let the rest of the world be the opponent.
I'm over 40 and don't date woman as a sport or game. Every relationship is a serious attempt to meet that special person. As you get older you're more cautious about choosing someone. I use to bend over backwards to please a fine woman. Now (relatively speaking) I drop them if they have a shitty attitude or display a selfish personality.
Bwahahaha! MGTOW, baby!
DAN SPARKS Hasn’t stopped me from finding my man who’s 49. 🤷🏾♀️
The funniest thing about this entire video you did is that all the complaints you speak of are the exact things that women do too. I'll let you in on a little tip about men. Men have the same exact feelings as women. We hurt just like women, it just is not acceptable to show it. More of this happens to be that people have to open up to each other. If a man or woman is always waiting for the other person to open up, it will end up as a stalemate most of the time and you have people like yourself making videos and basically doing the same complaining. The right man will open up to you and not give you truck loads of grief, just like you'll open up and not bring your previous bad life experiences of baggage in tow to the new relationship if you want to be better for him. Try to give the open effort on your side and if he's unwilling to do it on his part, then move on to the next. This case to be in relationships is the church's fault. They always read that verse from the bible that says it's better to be married than to burn with passion, but they never read the verse before it that says it's better to be single than to be married, but it is better to be married than to burn with passion. Matthew Chapter 19 also covers how everyone isn't meant to be married or be with someone. This should help more people in their quest of trying to find romantic love and get some understanding that it really is okay to be single. I've enjoyed my life equally in being single and in a relationship. The shit doesn't really matter. It's all about enjoying life and what is in front of you and not sulking about what or who you don't have because you see everyone else with someone. Enjoy your single life woman. You are still lovely either way.
I totally agree with you and definitely can relate. Im attracted to older men as well.
What most women don't get, nice men in their 40s are not into winning anything, they just want peace of mind.
The attitude is crazy and when you bring that them they often say you can't handle a strong woman😅hahhahaha I understand your previous baby father was a jerk but when you take that attitude to every man you meet it's damn problem, don't blame us for your poor decisions in life
it's your circle you keep dating the same guy no matter how old you are.
There is NOT an equal amount of risk for both parties. The divorce court system heavily favors the female, who initiate divorce 70% of the time. A man in his 40s has probably already been married and divorced at least once and isn't as likely to walk into a relationship without some major assurances that the thing isn't going to blow up in our faces.
Partnership is about understanding and compromise