we moved to the Charente a year ago, after 4 years in the Allier and maybe we have been lucky but all our neighbours are French and are incredibly kind, helpful and great fun. Lots of laughter!
I am a French fluent in English and I never bump into Anglophones here in France, sadly enough. Would love to have small talks here and there from time to time. Welcome to France.
We’ve been here since 2006 and we have two boys, now teenagers. They have benefited massively from growing up here . When coming to a new country it does take a massive effort to become integrated. Just like in rural areas in England years ago people want to take time to get to know you. We have found d that if they like you they don’t care what your job is or what car you drive etc etc. In our area generally people were fed up with British people not integrating or at least making an effort with the language and social culture. Generally we avoid the English like the plague and that works a treat😉. Bon courage 👍
I have a house in the Dordogne. I spend 3 months there a year. My relationships and interactions with the French improved as my French speaking got better. I have found attending your local fete in the summer, vide greeniers and general chatting breaks down barriers. I have seen lots of laughing etc. Wine definitely loosens them up! Yes, some Brits are best avoided as they form little cliques but it’s better not to generalise.
Hi Marc, long time no comment. Since moving to France last July I’ve generally found the French to be more polite than the British. I think just making a small effort to use my (very) limited French language skills helps. I always try to reverse it and think what it would be like for a French speaker trying to order some plywood in B&Q. 😳
Hi Marc, as high functioning autist I'm totally with you on the "other people" issue. Trust has to be earned. Brave of you to get up that ladder, not my thing either. Good to see you doing great, keep it up. Have a great day, Rob from the Nederlands
My brother married a French Widow with six children and we have kindly been invited to several weddings of her children. We have always been made to feel very welcome, even though our French is non-existent. Perhaps we have just been lucky.
Hello Marc. I found your channel whilst doing a bit of research for mine. Seems we have a bit in common as I moved to France and am now solo (by choice), i've only just started my TH-cam channel AND I'm an ex-Essex girl so grew up in the same county! Just subscribed 🙂
Hi Marc. I always trusted my fellow man until 2020 when I did not comply. From my observations, nothing has occurred since then that would change my mind. Beans are my favourite vegetable. Lucky neighbour.
I lived in the UK for a year during the late 1970's. My American friends and I would trade stories of being insulted when we went to France. Back then if you didn't speak fluent French you were essentially sneered at. A French Canadian friend told me that a Parisian woman compliemented his French but when he said he was Canadian she hissed at him that what he spoke "wasn't really French". I went back to Paris during the early 20's and I found the people I encountered to be reasonably friendly, kind even. It was like a night and day experience.
I adore France. It might depend which area you’re in how friendly they are. I do believe that feelings from the last war still holds certain feelings that are not so good between Brits and French.
We found that our neighbours were very private people but once we got to know them they opened up. The Brits living there didn’t want to mix with the French very much and tended to stick together. It made for a very strange mix. We tended to keep to a small circle but eventually found it limiting. We met some lovely people who visited our gites and many came back several times over the years but they too said how reserved the French people were. We focused on enjoying the weather, the place and the experiences rather than people connections that we made. Have a good week.
The biggest thing I saw in England was the bad treatment of the elite to the regular folk. In the USA we call them snobs. We have them here too and at one point in my career I was thrust among the rich and famous. I found I would rather be among the regular folk any time. More living, caring, generous and sincere than the wealthy.
I am an English speaking South African married to a French man and I speak a smattering of French. Lived here 5 and a half years. I can only say positive things about France. Ps: The worse experiences have been with 3 English couples !!!
Marc, I have lived in a few different countries and it about the same where ever you go. I am also very wary of people having been 'bitten, twice shy as they say'. The most people I see really is the till operators at the supermarkets, or dentist or doctor or if I go into the town for tea, that is about it. People are strange all over, if you do not speak the language of said country you visit then they are not going to respond but what if they came to your country they expect the people in that country to take it into consideration that they are not fluent in that said language. I stick to my world like you Marc and I am much happier. Stay in your happy world and I understand where you are coming from. Have a lovely day Marc.
Hi Marc a very good interesting honest talk. You did make me laugh with seeing the policewoman laughing and it shocked you. You talk a whole lot of sense and what you say makes us think about our own experiences. As for trusting people yes I agree sometimes the person you trusted can put the knife in your back behind your back if you get what I mean. Great you climbed the ladder to the top now make sure you take all precautions to keep safe. Thank you again.
I'm in the UK and we moved to this part of the country 25 years ago, over that time I've "had" 2 friends. I say "had" because both let me down badly, I don't trust anyone now at all so don't have any friends. I feel better off in myself now. Xx
When I started having hearing challenges because of an illness I have it put me in a different social category. I’ve had to adapt but it’s challenging. I think us humans are not patient. Things have been a bit tight around here other wise we would have been helping out a bit. I hope you know that.
After 30 years living abroad, I have a very wide circle of acquaintances and a handful of friends….the majority of them Spanish ….I never could understand how someone could introduce me as their friend when I didn’t even know their surname….it gradually became clear that they were using me because I speak Spanish and know my way around the local bureaucracy….that was a sad awakening for me😢
I can see you reasoning of thought about friends Marc you are right you have to be a bit wary of people till you get to know them . As like you say you put your trust in them and they let you down . So am with you all the way on that logic. Your grass looks immaculate I must say Marc you can see it is well loved and cared for . Well done Marc😘
It might be that your French neighbors are waiting to see what you are all about too. Would being able to exchange basic pleasantries or speak about the weather in French help a bit? You are smart, interesting and funny so they are missing out!
Some move for a different climate or culture for a slower pace or for a faster pace. It doesn't matter who is nice or not, what matters is how you are and how you feel about how you dealt with things. They might be a bit embarrassed around you, You did nothing wrong, you are dressed nice and they have guilty conscious and stains on their shirts. Just be you Marc. Keep smiling!
I never thought that I would like 5o live in a different country, and was mildly proud to be British, but over the last 6/7 years my attitude has changed, British people have changed, or is it that I used to live in Sussex, just 8 miles from Brighton, and as of 11 years ago ,now live in Kent, were people are different. But I would certainly give it a go. And a true friend is one who respects that you may have a different opinion of something, and even a fall out over something that's not shall we say life changing, but will still have your back when needed. I've never been one for big groups of friends just a few good ones.❤
Mark, your mind never stops, does it? I suppose mine doesn't either but I just stop listening to it, especially when it tries to work out people. Problems, other than people, are far more interesting and satisfying.....like you chimney. Stay in your happy zone and don't let anyone knock you off course. x
It is like I am the one talking here. I have ADHD too, living in another country. Feeling excluded too through my live. I am ahead with my thoughts when talking with someone. I have tried to explain my ADHD to my sister, no luck in that department unfortunately. Been hurt many times because of my misguided trust in people. So I can relate completely. So I love my paradise here, in Hungary. With my dogs and cat and huge garden. I am 65. Why should I worry what other non ADHD people think about me? I AM HAPPY TO BE ME. We are the best of people! 💋🥰🥳🥳🥳🥳🍾🎉🎉🎉
It's subjective I guess. People 'out' themselves by their behaviour, so I merely observe for a time. It's fascinating if nothing else. At 54 I've no time for drama, and expectations are a waste of time. Only person we need trust is ourselves. I've good boundaries but I'm not obsessed with them. Nothing like laughter and time spent with like minds, as rare as that may be, when it does come along it is worth its weight in gold. I guess I'd be considered a Sigma female but it suits me. Life's rich tapestry.
When I was lucky enough to visit Paris in the 70’s, I found if you just attempted to speak French, they would help by answering in English. I so loved France. Where’s my beans mate? lol. I had to buy some today. Every time I eat beans I’ll think of you. lol. You’re very diplomatic Marc. About people that is. lol. I don’t trust either. Too many letdowns.
I have found that every French person I have encountered acted like they were superior to every non French person they were around. I’m American, I don’t think it is targeted just at Brits.
Sometimes people you can trust will think badly of you after an incident, if they think, or in fact, you were in the wrong. And people you can't trust will think well of you only because they benefit from what you said or did. Figuring out who you can trust isn't black and white - some can be trusted with some things but not others - and takes time and lots of interactions, good and bad.
You would think that after watching all of these British/ French Renovation videos, that I could convert metric easier.. nope. All American😂. “Hoo, ha” that makes me laugh.. you could say the people who didn’t like Dave.. we won’t know who they are and the person probably doesn’t watch because they were so offended by a biting pony
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we moved to the Charente a year ago, after 4 years in the Allier and maybe we have been lucky but all our neighbours are French and are incredibly kind, helpful and great fun. Lots of laughter!
I am a French fluent in English and I never bump into Anglophones here in France, sadly enough. Would love to have small talks here and there from time to time. Welcome to France.
A cause que nous sommes tous essayant apprendre le français😂
We’ve been here since 2006 and we have two boys, now teenagers. They have benefited massively from growing up here . When coming to a new country it does take a massive effort to become integrated. Just like in rural areas in England years ago people want to take time to get to know you. We have found d that if they like you they don’t care what your job is or what car you drive etc etc. In our area generally people were fed up with British people not integrating or at least making an effort with the language and social culture. Generally we avoid the English like the plague and that works a treat😉. Bon courage 👍
Where's your area?
I have a house in the Dordogne. I spend 3 months there a year. My relationships and interactions with the French improved as my French speaking got better. I have found attending your local fete in the summer, vide greeniers and general chatting breaks down barriers. I have seen lots of laughing etc. Wine definitely loosens them up! Yes, some Brits are best avoided as they form little cliques but it’s better not to generalise.
Hi Marc, long time no comment. Since moving to France last July I’ve generally found the French to be more polite than the British. I think just making a small effort to use my (very) limited French language skills helps.
I always try to reverse it and think what it would be like for a French speaker trying to order some plywood in B&Q. 😳
Hi Marc, as high functioning autist I'm totally with you on the "other people" issue. Trust has to be earned.
Brave of you to get up that ladder, not my thing either. Good to see you doing great, keep it up.
Have a great day, Rob from the Nederlands
The only time I saw my French dentist laugh/smile was when I told him I was in agony!
My brother married a French Widow with six children and we have kindly been invited to several weddings of her children. We have always been made to feel very welcome, even though our French is non-existent. Perhaps we have just been lucky.
Language is key to integrate.
Hello Marc. I found your channel whilst doing a bit of research for mine. Seems we have a bit in common as I moved to France and am now solo (by choice), i've only just started my TH-cam channel AND I'm an ex-Essex girl so grew up in the same county! Just subscribed 🙂
Good luck with your channel :-)
Hi Marc. I always trusted my fellow man until 2020 when I did not comply. From my observations, nothing has occurred since then that would change my mind. Beans are my favourite vegetable. Lucky neighbour.
I lived in the UK for a year during the late 1970's. My American friends and I would trade stories of being insulted when we went to France. Back then if you didn't speak fluent French you were essentially sneered at. A French Canadian friend told me that a Parisian woman compliemented his French but when he said he was Canadian she hissed at him that what he spoke "wasn't really French". I went back to Paris during the early 20's and I found the people I encountered to be reasonably friendly, kind even. It was like a night and day experience.
I adore France. It might depend which area you’re in how friendly they are. I do believe that feelings from the last war still holds certain feelings that are not so good between Brits and French.
We found that our neighbours were very private people but once we got to know them they opened up. The Brits living there didn’t want to mix with the French very much and tended to stick together. It made for a very strange mix. We tended to keep to a small circle but eventually found it limiting. We met some lovely people who visited our gites and many came back several times over the years but they too said how reserved the French people were. We focused on enjoying the weather, the place and the experiences rather than people connections that we made. Have a good week.
The biggest thing I saw in England was the bad treatment of the elite to the regular folk. In the USA we call them snobs. We have them here too and at one point in my career I was thrust among the rich and famous. I found I would rather be among the regular folk any time. More living, caring, generous and sincere than the wealthy.
I am an English speaking South African married to a French man and I speak a smattering of French. Lived here 5 and a half years. I can only say positive things about France.
Ps: The worse experiences have been with 3 English couples !!!
Marc, I have lived in a few different countries and it about the same where ever you go. I am also very wary of people having been 'bitten, twice shy as they say'. The most people I see really is the till operators at the supermarkets, or dentist or doctor or if I go into the town for tea, that is about it. People are strange all over, if you do not speak the language of said country you visit then they are not going to respond but what if they came to your country they expect the people in that country to take it into consideration that they are not fluent in that said language. I stick to my world like you Marc and I am much happier. Stay in your happy world and I understand where you are coming from. Have a lovely day Marc.
Hi Marc a very good interesting honest talk. You did make me laugh with seeing the policewoman laughing and it shocked you. You talk a whole lot of sense and what you say makes us think about our own experiences. As for trusting people yes I agree sometimes the person you trusted can put the knife in your back behind your back if you get what I mean. Great you climbed the ladder to the top now make sure you take all precautions to keep safe. Thank you again.
I'm in the UK and we moved to this part of the country 25 years ago, over that time I've "had" 2 friends. I say "had" because both let me down badly, I don't trust anyone now at all so don't have any friends. I feel better off in myself now. Xx
When I started having hearing challenges because of an illness I have it put me in a different social category. I’ve had to adapt but it’s challenging. I think us humans are not patient. Things have been a bit tight around here other wise we would have been helping out a bit. I hope you know that.
I totally agree with what you are saying. Thank you for sharing. 😊
After 30 years living abroad, I have a very wide circle of acquaintances and a handful of friends….the majority of them Spanish ….I never could understand how someone could introduce me as their friend when I didn’t even know their surname….it gradually became clear that they were using me because I speak Spanish and know my way around the local bureaucracy….that was a sad awakening for me😢
I can see you reasoning of thought about friends Marc you are right you have to be a bit wary of people till you get to know them . As like you say you put your trust in them and they let you down . So am with you all the way on that logic. Your grass looks immaculate I must say Marc you can see it is well loved and cared for . Well done Marc😘
It might be that your French neighbors are waiting to see what you are all about too. Would being able to exchange basic pleasantries or speak about the weather in French help a bit? You are smart, interesting and funny so they are missing out!
Some move for a different climate or culture for a slower pace or for a faster pace. It doesn't matter who is nice or not, what matters is how you are and how you feel about how you dealt with things. They might be a bit embarrassed around you, You did nothing wrong, you are dressed nice and they have guilty conscious and stains on their shirts. Just be you Marc. Keep smiling!
I never thought that I would like 5o live in a different country, and was mildly proud to be British, but over the last 6/7 years my attitude has changed, British people have changed, or is it that I used to live in Sussex, just 8 miles from Brighton, and as of 11 years ago ,now live in Kent, were people are different. But I would certainly give it a go. And a true friend is one who respects that you may have a different opinion of something, and even a fall out over something that's not shall we say life changing, but will still have your back when needed. I've never been one for big groups of friends just a few good ones.❤
Mark, your mind never stops, does it?
I suppose mine doesn't either but I just stop listening to it, especially when it tries to work out people.
Problems, other than people, are far more interesting and satisfying.....like you chimney.
Stay in your happy zone and don't let anyone knock you off course. x
It is like I am the one talking here. I have ADHD too, living in another country. Feeling excluded too through my live. I am ahead with my thoughts when talking with someone. I have tried to explain my ADHD to my sister, no luck in that department unfortunately. Been hurt many times because of my misguided trust in people. So I can relate completely. So I love my paradise here, in Hungary. With my dogs and cat and huge garden. I am 65. Why should I worry what other non ADHD people think about me? I AM HAPPY TO BE ME. We are the best of people! 💋🥰🥳🥳🥳🥳🍾🎉🎉🎉
Can you talk about your diet again. Give us an update. I just started on a meat and egg diet too.
It's subjective I guess. People 'out' themselves by their behaviour, so I merely observe for a time. It's fascinating if nothing else. At 54 I've no time for drama, and expectations are a waste of time. Only person we need trust is ourselves. I've good boundaries but I'm not obsessed with them. Nothing like laughter and time spent with like minds, as rare as that may be, when it does come along it is worth its weight in gold. I guess I'd be considered a Sigma female but it suits me. Life's rich tapestry.
When I was lucky enough to visit Paris in the 70’s, I found if you just attempted to speak French, they would help by answering in English. I so loved France. Where’s my beans mate? lol. I had to buy some today. Every time I eat beans I’ll think of you. lol. You’re very diplomatic Marc. About people that is. lol. I don’t trust either. Too many letdowns.
Come visit Al Madina in Saudi Arabia,this city is so beauthifull
I have found that every French person I have encountered acted like they were superior to every non French person they were around. I’m American, I don’t think it is targeted just at Brits.
Bullshit.
Sure we all have our incidents with one another, perhaps yours are just more obvious, no worries
Yes......All of it truexx
Sometimes people you can trust will think badly of you after an incident, if they think, or in fact, you were in the wrong. And people you can't trust will think well of you only because they benefit from what you said or did. Figuring out who you can trust isn't black and white - some can be trusted with some things but not others - and takes time and lots of interactions, good and bad.
I remember going to live in Malta for 8 years and ensured that I lived In Sliema far away from the Brits.
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Scaffolding required to work on that chimney
You would think that after watching all of these British/ French Renovation videos, that I could convert metric easier.. nope. All American😂. “Hoo, ha” that makes me laugh.. you could say the people who didn’t like Dave.. we won’t know who they are and the person probably doesn’t watch because they were so offended by a biting pony
I agree. I try to talk to people here but i might as well talk to a brick wall.
Your neighbours must be so fed up hearing a lawnmower so much 😂you do make me laugh 🤗
Its a love hate relationship which will never change. Brexit has not helped very much
Someone laughed 😅
Not sure this has anything to do with France. More to do with how you interact with people and operate in your environment.