I have been following these videos for a long time and i have worked on myself following as much as the videos here have laid out. I have fallen in love with self inprovement and the process along the way. My ex has became warm but i cannot figure out the rest of the process i am missing out on. If you could make a video breifly decribing how to continue it would be forever grateful. I had been in contact with you and your team on and off about joining the program but i cannot afford the full amount in one payment but it is definitely a program id love to join even if my other and i decide not to get together again because the development this channel has helped me so far i know there is a lot more that the program can do. Thank you Geoffrey for your work and the amount of energy you put out there for men and women in our shoes.
Great to hear of your positive results and certainly your changes of perception and implementation played a role in the reconciliation. I am sure you realize there is another important part to this. Your wife also spent months away from the situation. Her personal experience during that period was also critical. You are not a bad guy as witnessed in this video, only a human man. Yes, you may have given an apparent safe tendency to return to her previous relationship, however, something she experienced in her own personal experience while away changed her paradigm as well. She found the reality on the single side in this world for a woman wasn’t conducive to her well being as well, maybe. The lesser of 2 evils, my X, or just hooking up with another relationship. There are many women that would chose the ‘safety’ of living alone long term, they are all over the place. It would be interesting to see how many women that leave their husband and then accept reconciliation actually stay with their man then till death do they part. I found your experience impressive and important to me as I trying to stop this cycle happening by learning what to do before she walks out, even though that threat isn’t on the table, like you and most, I can sense she is close. Thanks for your time on this and also to the host.
The way they worded the conversations about the past is the same way I started them. It was so easily brought up, cause I wanted to hear how to better myself for myself
The program I feel is just the extra coaching. Master the 5 steps, master the building blocks, build psychological and emotional trust. That’s it guys, he gives all the answers. Be confident going in
Actually yes essentially those are the things you are taught. He just gives you the guide on how to implement the changes needed. I have seen his newer videos and it is amazing, but these are changes that can be done regardless as long as you take the time to seek methodologies that lead to learning positive traits. He did so without his program, and look at his life. My wife and I are closer now than prior to our separation and it’s 4 months in, her words. It can be done
You talk about the program for the guy. I'm in this exact situation, in reverse. Iv been able to actually own alot of my behaviors but this whole process resonates with me and had been on the resolution journey for almost 2 yrs. This philosophy approach makes so much sense
Been married 45 years 10 years ago I moved to a separate bedroom i want to make it work and I truly love my wife but she is so cold and wants a divorce at some point. I've worked hard to give us a safe life but she says she loves me but is not in love with me. I'm a good and caring person. I just dont understand at all.
I'm a good person, too, and my ex wife knows that. And she loves me. However, she told me which of my actions and my inactions were problematic, and I took it too personally. I felt that if I'm doing something bad, I must be bad. I shut down, or became defensive. I retreated deeper into and adopted a persona of being a degenerate. Spiraling further from change rather than embracing it. Maybe you can consider taking the first steps to undergo a trial seperation. The distance can sometimes strengthen bonds and revitalize them. Talk about things. Nice things if possible. Don't talk too much about "us". Try journaling. Focus more on the process than the results or the outcome. Sorry if I'm being preachy. I only just got dumped last month after 10 years and I'm still processing it. Talking about it helps. Like with muscle growth, you have to break down the fibers to facilitate hypertrophy. Think of the brain as a muscle. Sometimes it requires radical stimulation and stress to produce significant growth that is authentic and lasting.
Adopt a "less is more" mentality when it comes to communication. Focus more on her feelings and why she is having them, rather than obsessing over your own pain. And who knows, maybe it isn't meant to be. If you love something, you may have to let it go. If you believe in fate and all, you may consider that if it's meant to be, she'll come back around. And think, would I rather do and say things conducive to friendship and building something from the ground up, or push her further away by making it about me, and then ultimately lose her in your life completely. Not trying to scare anyone. It's just some food for thought. Aspire to patience and optimism and personal growth. Perhaps it's not too late to experience good times again and make new, happy memories that are worth the wait.
We’re you indifferent to her? Did you treat her with love and care like you would with your mother but not treat her like a instinct partner? Did you try to connect, communicate, treat her as a special person? I’ve been married 38 years. We have been like caring roommates for years with no effort and consistency to improve the relationship by my husband. Ask yourself and her what is missing.
can you please make more videos on what to do post breakup. i got broken up with 3 months ago and made a bunch of mistakes in the wake of that. not being in control of my feelings and saying all the wrong things. i’ve been working really hard to level up 10x like you’ve talked about and become the version of myself that would attract her back. i know im not faking it like you said because i know all of it was for me but i still can’t seem to let go of the connection i have to her. how do i reconcile after doing all the wrong things and let her know my emotions and frustrations were just my own insecurities. i want to let her know she can explore like you said but idk how to tell her im still and option when she’s ready
@@ChanceBerryman no i took time to myself to better myself met some new who makes me much happier and im the happiest i’ve ever been in my life that breakup was hard but it forced me into one of the most transformative phases of my life and i came out a strong more emotionally mature man and im happy its something i experienced it had to happen
I have watched a lot of your videos and I am just like these men. I want to reconcile with my wife, however the difference for me is. I'm the one that ended things. I allowed myself to get into a really dark and miserable place and it made things horrible for us. But i knew we had gotten to a point where we both were miserable but neither would pull the trigger and say we needed to take time apart..... I jusy really wanna fix things with my spouse, and reunite and bring out family bacl together
It sounds like nearly every client I have had. Many had found themselves hopeless, mentally checked out, and even some had checked out themselves, as you described. The relationship's downfall always starts with one or both being in a miserable place, perpetuating those negative feedback loops. This is why reconciliation always begins with internal shifts, becoming untethered, and learning to perpetuate those positive loops. The coach in me wants to challenge you to ask, are you like these men also in learning to make yourself irreplaceable?
@GeoffreySetiawan I'm in a very weird mental space, i feel defeated because all i want is her & to bring our family back together (we have 2 boys). And i grew up with a dad who abandoned us & a broken marriage & i never wanted to repeat that. And at least at this time, she isn't interested in reconciliation. Part of me feels that because of wasting a year and a half, she's dealing with someone else. But i also feel hopeful, because even though she's mentioned divorce and we live in to different homes. She's have completely shut me out. So it does give me hope. Untethering is different because i know my brain isnt processing it the way you are trying to explain it. My brain is like "just leave her alone all together" And am i making myself irreplaceable, probably not in the way you mean.
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) 💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> urlgeni.us/MCTSSECADS 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions 🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! th-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Following a lot of this now and your channel is a great resource. I may want to do the course it’s just a money issue. How do I learn about the costs? Have certainly gained back some power and working towards interdependence. The only thing I will not allow is cheating. If she’s been with another man it’s over. Even then I still want to work on changes for my future. For reference we have been together for 14 years and she’s recently pulled away which accelerated in since may… we are back to neutral but it waivers back and forth. No sex for 3 months :(. Any help would be appreciate and thanks for sharing these stories
Hii Brother Geoffrey.. she said she needs space and we have no future she wants to be friends she feels like she has been betrayed as of my low confidence, lying in the past and not not being safe enough to express herself... as soon I said okay she was happily opening up her feelings .. I could use your help...
Great interview once again. What is the approach when the woman, long distance, only seems to reach out to maintain friendship and seek validation while wanting to date other men?
From the interviews you have watched. Do you see there being a different approach? Nothing changes. Make the internal shifts, master the frameworks, create safety, and become irreplaceable! :) Check out more interviews I have with long-distance, no-contact, etc. All the same approach.
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I have been following these videos for a long time and i have worked on myself following as much as the videos here have laid out. I have fallen in love with self inprovement and the process along the way. My ex has became warm but i cannot figure out the rest of the process i am missing out on. If you could make a video breifly decribing how to continue it would be forever grateful. I had been in contact with you and your team on and off about joining the program but i cannot afford the full amount in one payment but it is definitely a program id love to join even if my other and i decide not to get together again because the development this channel has helped me so far i know there is a lot more that the program can do. Thank you Geoffrey for your work and the amount of energy you put out there for men and women in our shoes.
The price is a lot . No reason why he can’t figure out a payment plan
Great to hear of your positive results and certainly your changes of perception and implementation played a role in the reconciliation. I am sure you realize there is another important part to this. Your wife also spent months away from the situation. Her personal experience during that period was also critical. You are not a bad guy as witnessed in this video, only a human man. Yes, you may have given an apparent safe tendency to return to her previous relationship, however, something she experienced in her own personal experience while away changed her paradigm as well. She found the reality on the single side in this world for a woman wasn’t conducive to her well being as well, maybe. The lesser of 2 evils, my X, or just hooking up with another relationship. There are many women that would chose the ‘safety’ of living alone long term, they are all over the place. It would be interesting to see how many women that leave their husband and then accept reconciliation actually stay with their man then till death do they part. I found your experience impressive and important to me as I trying to stop this cycle happening by learning what to do before she walks out, even though that threat isn’t on the table, like you and most, I can sense she is close. Thanks for your time on this and also to the host.
The way they worded the conversations about the past is the same way I started them. It was so easily brought up, cause I wanted to hear how to better myself for myself
The program I feel is just the extra coaching. Master the 5 steps, master the building blocks, build psychological and emotional trust. That’s it guys, he gives all the answers. Be confident going in
You're a member?
Nope. There is a heck of a lot more. This doesn’t even scratch the surface of
@gobie23 ugh no kidding holy shit it's overwhelming and I'm just getting started
@gobie23 LFG though don't get me wrong!!
Actually yes essentially those are the things you are taught. He just gives you the guide on how to implement the changes needed. I have seen his newer videos and it is amazing, but these are changes that can be done regardless as long as you take the time to seek methodologies that lead to learning positive traits. He did so without his program, and look at his life. My wife and I are closer now than prior to our separation and it’s 4 months in, her words. It can be done
You talk about the program for the guy.
I'm in this exact situation, in reverse. Iv been able to actually own alot of my behaviors but this whole process resonates with me and had been on the resolution journey for almost 2 yrs.
This philosophy approach makes so much sense
Been married 45 years 10 years ago I moved to a separate bedroom i want to make it work and I truly love my wife but she is so cold and wants a divorce at some point. I've worked hard to give us a safe life but she says she loves me but is not in love with me. I'm a good and caring person. I just dont understand at all.
I'm a good person, too, and my ex wife knows that. And she loves me. However, she told me which of my actions and my inactions were problematic, and I took it too personally. I felt that if I'm doing something bad, I must be bad. I shut down, or became defensive. I retreated deeper into and adopted a persona of being a degenerate. Spiraling further from change rather than embracing it. Maybe you can consider taking the first steps to undergo a trial seperation. The distance can sometimes strengthen bonds and revitalize them. Talk about things. Nice things if possible. Don't talk too much about "us". Try journaling. Focus more on the process than the results or the outcome. Sorry if I'm being preachy. I only just got dumped last month after 10 years and I'm still processing it. Talking about it helps. Like with muscle growth, you have to break down the fibers to facilitate hypertrophy. Think of the brain as a muscle. Sometimes it requires radical stimulation and stress to produce significant growth that is authentic and lasting.
Adopt a "less is more" mentality when it comes to communication. Focus more on her feelings and why she is having them, rather than obsessing over your own pain. And who knows, maybe it isn't meant to be. If you love something, you may have to let it go. If you believe in fate and all, you may consider that if it's meant to be, she'll come back around. And think, would I rather do and say things conducive to friendship and building something from the ground up, or push her further away by making it about me, and then ultimately lose her in your life completely. Not trying to scare anyone. It's just some food for thought. Aspire to patience and optimism and personal growth. Perhaps it's not too late to experience good times again and make new, happy memories that are worth the wait.
Join this effing program dude
We’re you indifferent to her? Did you treat her with love and care like you would with your mother but not treat her like a instinct partner? Did you try to connect, communicate, treat her as a special person? I’ve been married 38 years. We have been like caring roommates for years with no effort and consistency to improve the relationship by my husband. Ask
yourself and her what is missing.
Geoffrey this video really resonated with me. Will resume my coursework.
Phenomenal Stuff! I sometimes feel like I am watching the videos for the first time.
Is the free Facebook group ever coming back?
can you please make more videos on what to do post breakup. i got broken up with 3 months ago and made a bunch of mistakes in the wake of that. not being in control of my feelings and saying all the wrong things. i’ve been working really hard to level up 10x like you’ve talked about and become the version of myself that would attract her back. i know im not faking it like you said because i know all of it was for me but i still can’t seem to let go of the connection i have to her. how do i reconcile after doing all the wrong things and let her know my emotions and frustrations were just my own insecurities. i want to let her know she can explore like you said but idk how to tell her im still and option when she’s ready
I second this
Did she come back
@@ChanceBerryman no i took time to myself to better myself met some new who makes me much happier and im the happiest i’ve ever been in my life that breakup was hard but it forced me into one of the most transformative phases of my life and i came out a strong more emotionally mature man and im happy its something i experienced it had to happen
I have watched a lot of your videos and I am just like these men. I want to reconcile with my wife, however the difference for me is. I'm the one that ended things. I allowed myself to get into a really dark and miserable place and it made things horrible for us. But i knew we had gotten to a point where we both were miserable but neither would pull the trigger and say we needed to take time apart..... I jusy really wanna fix things with my spouse, and reunite and bring out family bacl together
It sounds like nearly every client I have had. Many had found themselves hopeless, mentally checked out, and even some had checked out themselves, as you described.
The relationship's downfall always starts with one or both being in a miserable place, perpetuating those negative feedback loops. This is why reconciliation always begins with internal shifts, becoming untethered, and learning to perpetuate those positive loops.
The coach in me wants to challenge you to ask, are you like these men also in learning to make yourself irreplaceable?
@GeoffreySetiawan I'm in a very weird mental space, i feel defeated because all i want is her & to bring our family back together (we have 2 boys). And i grew up with a dad who abandoned us & a broken marriage & i never wanted to repeat that. And at least at this time, she isn't interested in reconciliation. Part of me feels that because of wasting a year and a half, she's dealing with someone else.
But i also feel hopeful, because even though she's mentioned divorce and we live in to different homes. She's have completely shut me out. So it does give me hope.
Untethering is different because i know my brain isnt processing it the way you are trying to explain it. My brain is like "just leave her alone all together"
And am i making myself irreplaceable, probably not in the way you mean.
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> urlgeni.us/MCTSSECADS
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! th-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Yeah ive failed a few but then apologized for trying to explain and validated her feelings
IS this master cass for free ??? How can i Join from Austria Vienna , These courses are online ?
This was great!
Thanks brother - what were the parts you found MOST valuable?
Following a lot of this now and your channel is a great resource. I may want to do the course it’s just a money issue. How do I learn about the costs? Have certainly gained back some power and working towards interdependence. The only thing I will not allow is cheating. If she’s been with another man it’s over. Even then I still want to work on changes for my future. For reference we have been together for 14 years and she’s recently pulled away which accelerated in since may… we are back to neutral but it waivers back and forth. No sex for 3 months :(. Any help would be appreciate and thanks for sharing these stories
Hii Brother Geoffrey.. she said she needs space and we have no future she wants to be friends she feels like she has been betrayed as of my low confidence, lying in the past and not not being safe enough to express herself... as soon I said okay she was happily opening up her feelings .. I could use your help...
1:06:04...if there's ONE thing you get from Geoffrey's video, this is it.
Great interview once again. What is the approach when the woman, long distance, only seems to reach out to maintain friendship and seek validation while wanting to date other men?
From the interviews you have watched. Do you see there being a different approach?
Nothing changes. Make the internal shifts, master the frameworks, create safety, and become irreplaceable! :)
Check out more interviews I have with long-distance, no-contact, etc. All the same approach.
How do I join the program?
Help help where and how does one join this program
She is reacting so cold but when I want to talk to her she talks to me but not about our relationships she just says she needs time for herself
i dont want to play victim here, she is good person the thing is how do i fight with comfirmatian bias that made up by her friends?
Only choice - become so irreplaceable that you TRANSCEND competition, gossip, etc...
@@GeoffreySetiawanwhat if we already say everything and they very stubborn about that comfirmatian bias and not answering how we get through it?
@@GeoffreySetiawan Thanks, its quite hard for me to be irreplaceable. But i will continue to work on myself