Dyspraxia is an absolute nightmare in a workplace, I spent the entirety of my work days walking around feeling like an absolute idiot, entirely out of my depth and to think I was wanting to join the police one day... lmao I can forget about that.
Yeah it sucks to be excluded from virtually everything I might want to do, despite the fact I have a masters degree with honours. With severe ADHD as well it doesn't matter how good my grades were. It doesn't matter at al. I get treated like I'm a total moron and get asked to leave. Can only work for myself. Not that I've mastered that at all yet it's just a hope and a wish.
I have just found out in my mid fifties I am dyspraxia. So many things make sense now. I always found I am very much a tactile learner. I have to learn hands on and it does take repition for me.
I have dyspraxia and spent well over a decade as a stay-home parent because I was CONVINCED I was too stupid/forgetful to have a job. I didn't get diagnosed and didn't even know Dyspraxia was a thing. However, I did eventually start working (ironically with the Police) and have now moved on to a career that I really wanted to do. I still have the same feelings around being too stupid, feeling like a fraud, failing to motivate myself often etc., but I get by :) you can too!
This is a great video and I am really happy to have come across it. I am a 24 year old with Dyspraxia and have struggled with it throughout my whole education/work life. I have found it very difficult to talk to people about it because I do not wanted to be labelled as different or disabled. I also worry about how employers may react to when I tell them or if it would affect me getting a job. From my experience, a lot of things in life seem like it takes twice as much effort in order to achieve something that others may find relatively easy for example getting a driving license, keeping up in exams, managing busy workloads etc. I feel that those who see you falling behind/struggling with certain tasks assume that it is down to laziness or incompetence, but really it sometimes just takes a bit longer to process and perform certain tasks. I have been disappointed with myself and frustrated many times in life because of my dyspraxia. But now I see it in a more positive light because it has made me a stronger person and I feel that I am able to appreciate the little things in life and feel a bigger sense of accomplishment when I have achieved something. Never let this get in the way of what you want in life. If you fail then try, try, try again and eventually you will get to where you want to be. I think my biggest struggle right now is finding a workplace that I am comfortable enough to declare dyspraxia and for them to understand it. I have spent 3 years in an office job and feel like I am just coping because of a notebook that I have containing step by step instructions for all the tasks that I deal with. I am good at my job as I am consistent and accurate with my work, but I have never told anyone about my struggle due to feeling that it would either be the talk of the office or have a negative impact on my career. I am now searching to for a new job where I can be happier as I am creative person and feel that I would be better off in the long run doing something that I more passionate about and be surrounded by people who are not in the rat race. Anyway, enough said on that...it is reassuring to know that others are in the same boat.
I hate being dyspraxic , I’ve worked in retail for a month and I’m still finding it incredibly difficult. I’m clumsy, I keep getting told to speed up at work when stocking shelves even when I’m going as fast as I can and it just makes me feel like I’m a bad employee and that I deserve to be fired. I can honestly say I feel like my dyspraxia is making me feel like I’ll never be good enough for any kind of job.
Sorry to hear. Keep going be strong but don't allow dyspraxia to control you. Challenge yourself to be determined and dedicated. This has worked for me. I sometimes laugh at myself over my mix ups aswell.
i havent even told my employer about my dyspraxia let alone my employees, i started my job about 3 weeks a go and they know that i struggle with a lot of the tasks my role involves, but im scared to tell them, they do help me when i need it though and make time for my memory complications, but then theres that one member of staff who says i need to hurry up when im working as quick as i can! ive already had one day that has left me thinking "is this job right for me?" and i absolutely love the work but im just terrified to tell my fellow colleagues! sorry for this super rambly post as well
I have been diagnosed with autism and ADHD but undiagnosed dyspraxia affected me at work more than those two things. I am terrified of getting a job now, terrified of the extreme stress of fighting constantly so hard just to stay employed in constant fear of being sacked. I am so slow physically, what job is that acceptable for? Nothing. No job wants a slow person. My ideal job does not exist in the modern world, living and sitting alone under a tree waiting for people to come to hear words of wisdom as a sage. Living off the land and donations. That is the only job that none of my invisible disabilities would get in the way of. I hate this time period cos every job requires dozens of skills, such as organisation, memory for arbitrary details, and physical speed. Nothing requires pure intellectualism, that is ALL I have. I am in the wrong era.
@@compulsiverambler1352 just an idea, but something writing based with speech to text software? Do you have some kind of possibility to get benefits for it? Maybe look into your rights as to what you can do so an employer can't just refuse you. I would try to contact the dyspraxia foundation or go to the dyspraxia forums to ask and maybe people can help. You're not alone, and you don't deserve to be screwed over because of difficulties where you have no control over
I have also been waiting for a video like this for quite a while and researched stuff like this. All of your videos on Dyspraxia are so useful, keep them up and can't wait for the next one! The work place has been hell for me, and I have a job interview coming up that I really want. I just want a job I can keep and feel I can function at and enjoy it. People just don't get Dyspraxia, I've only recently discovered I have it and have to admit I didn't even know of it. Thanks for all your information :)
I have waited years for a video like this. Fortunately I do work with people with severe learning disabilities, so my bosses are well aware of what dyspraxia is. Some of my colleagues have been quite rude about it in past jobs. In my last job I was even told by my boss that I shouldn't be in a workplace at all if I had dyspraxia. That last job was a support worker for a Mencap establishment, of all places. You'd think the "voice of learning disability" would have better standards. That's kinda why I got my current job actually. And they truly celebrate differences. It's great.
It sounds like your boss was the one who shouldn't have been working for Mencap with an attitude like that. Ironically though you do seem to find ignorance and prejudice amongst people working for organisations where you would expect there ought to be more empathy- I experienced this from staff working in schools, which made me concerned about how capable (or not) those staff members were at understanding pupils with special educational needs. Sometimes I think people who end up working for organisations such as charities and schools are there for the wrong reasons (ie because they want to feel important or desire power and control).
Worry more about responsibilities than rights. Outsource your weakness, maybe someone else may have a weakness that's your strength and you can work together better as a team. Work towards your strengths but also work at improving your weaknesses. Don't be afraid to use a calculator and make lists. It's more important to get it right than how you arrived at the right answer. Don't be afraid to try new things, not every job may be for you.
I really want to work in an office, even as a part-timer because it would put less stress on my back, I even tried to use my condition to tell people that I've been working back-of-house on-and-off for the past 5 years, and I need a change of environment, even when my education was in hospitality. That being said, I am a bar porter, and I just survived my first 3-month appraisal (because I never held a job for more than that 90-day job trial since 2010, but it also had to do with working with a failing business, but I digress), the biggest problem they had was with my efficiency and speed. I still do to this day, but I had a good team behind me, so once they know my limits, they try to teach me new ways to improve my technique so I can somehow eek out that little extra. I always describe my problem as a car that can only accelerate slowly, get to a low engine rev's and a low maximum speed. When I was first diagnosed with dyspraxia in 2011, I was already on my second stint at uni, and when I was put into a practical tutorial, which was a work-based course about kitchen management, and starting from being an apprentice chef, I struggled mightily when we had to make a 2-course meal in 4 hours as our mid-term test. I passed the theory, but when I was doing the exam, some examiners act like the judges on Master Chef, asking about what you are doing and giving a progress report while you are still cooking, and it was then that they realize I can't multi-task in this sense to the point of being a hazard to myself, if not my team. The question that hit me was: "If everybody in your team called in sick (one group actually had that problem before, but the only person left WAS an apprentice pastry chef, so he wasn't completely out of place), and you must complete this exam all by yourself, will you even cope?" I said I would, but everybody knew I won't. I failed the practical exam of course, but due to my perfect attendance record and my perfect score on my first theory test, they put me on as a guest judge/3rd in charge of the final degustation exam the day after I talked to my doctor.
i started working in retail shop floor and its honestly such a great environment to learn coping mechanisms with dyspraxia. when being asked to do something by the manager, ill always say it back to them to confirm what it is. however things like moving around trolleys and carrying stuff around the shop floor i always end bumping into stuff or drop some stuff altogether(thank god i dont work in alcohol or anything with glass)
Thank you so much for this, it is very helpful. I am dsypraxic and i have been since i was a child. i’ve have always had supper throughout primary, secondary school & sixth form. i am finding the transition from teenagehood to adulthood quite difficult. so many things are changing and expecially being an adult with a disability is going to be even more difficult. In 2021, i got my first job as a full time nursery practitioner and let’s say it wasn’t the best experience. It was very hard looking after all the children (around group of 5), having to watch them all to make sure they are ok, as well as the activities they were doing, i found it quite overwhelming. It really affected my mental health so i left after 2 months. I have now applied to a course with the Princes Trust for M&S retail so i’m hoping that will be a better and less pressurising experience
Haha I just left a job as a support worker for people with learning disabilities and my boss said I was ditsy which is all kinds of ironic. I suspected a year ago that I might have the condition and then a therapist told me today that she thought this too. I've just applied for a career in outdoor persuits and have an interview coming up I want the job but now I'm going to start perusing a diagnosis I'm not sure what I should tell the employer. Tis confusing times :)
Honestly hate having dyspraxia. I know I can’t help it but I just feel left in the dark. It’s still not well known to people and not many really understand it, so sometimes I do feel really stupid when I know that’s not the case. it’s even worse that my friends don’t really understand it either, they just think it’s normal and if I make a mistake where most people wouldn’t I get seen as an idiot when that’s not it at all but I don’t think I have the energy to explain what’s what with me. It would be more stress than it’s worth😂
hi iv gt it to im 26 and iv strugeld with it my hole life iv tryd sevrel different job and never maniged to make them stick can anyone give me some advice pleas
They don’t accept going through things again and again. They get frustrated and leave us to struggle. I have so much patience with people. I am married to a man 😂. It requires so much PATIENCE! Only in my last employed role they highlighted things in different colours for me but they still refused to let me create and use my own paperwork to help me. It was really horrible. When my colleague struggled with her dyslexia, I actually helped her by creating a document to support her needs. She was so happy and felt understood. Why are we sorry for having a learning difficulty/disability? Who apologies for being physically disabled? Why are people so against people with special needs? It’s not okay. It’s discrimination. Also been told by all employers in my sewing career that I was too slow so I was let go. I will be slow but my work was neat when I was slow. I worked self employed and I earned more money. Do your own thing. Don’t bother with employment. Dyspraxia is never accepted nor adapted for. I am so much happier working for myself 🥰
+archery and gaming and blogs 2 there are so many things that you can do within the military. I'd say get in contact with them and have a conversation about your strengths and weaknesses. They will have a position that suites you I'm sure
Krystal, agreed. I at one point was looking at joining the US Navy and scored very high on the standardized test they use for career potential within the military, it's called the AVAB. The higher your score, the more career options you may have in the military. I had been considering chaplain's assistant or the JAG corps. I'm sure the basic training (physical training, etc) could be problematic or difficult, but if you are committed to serving, it's do-able, and I'm sure the US military will accommodate as much as it can. Just talk to a recruiter and be up front and honest about it.
Different countries have sure different rules but in my country Finland people can go to army with dyspraxia. My dyspraxia surprised me thinked it was not so bad but lastly they set me free. I wanted to accomplish army but marching in pace was so hard for me.
I from the uk Yes Got Dyspraxia I told bross at charity shop I was Volutar that I dyspraxia and mealth health promble and lost volutar job in charity shop incude girlguidinguk and does about give up hope think never get another job because of dyspraxia. Now want job work amnials
Dyspraxia is an absolute nightmare in a workplace, I spent the entirety of my work days walking around feeling like an absolute idiot, entirely out of my depth and to think I was wanting to join the police one day... lmao I can forget about that.
I truly believe there is a job for everyone. I'll work my butt off if it doesn't involve paperwork 🤣
Yeah it sucks to be excluded from virtually everything I might want to do, despite the fact I have a masters degree with honours. With severe ADHD as well it doesn't matter how good my grades were. It doesn't matter at al. I get treated like I'm a total moron and get asked to leave. Can only work for myself. Not that I've mastered that at all yet it's just a hope and a wish.
@@iam1smiley1 I do not believe that at all. It's not realistic. Employers expect near perfection or forget it.
I have just found out in my mid fifties I am dyspraxia. So many things make sense now. I always found I am very much a tactile learner. I have to learn hands on and it does take repition for me.
I have dyspraxia and spent well over a decade as a stay-home parent because I was CONVINCED I was too stupid/forgetful to have a job. I didn't get diagnosed and didn't even know Dyspraxia was a thing. However, I did eventually start working (ironically with the Police) and have now moved on to a career that I really wanted to do. I still have the same feelings around being too stupid, feeling like a fraud, failing to motivate myself often etc., but I get by :) you can too!
This is a great video and I am really happy to have come across it. I am a 24 year old with Dyspraxia and have struggled with it throughout my whole education/work life. I have found it very difficult to talk to people about it because I do not wanted to be labelled as different or disabled. I also worry about how employers may react to when I tell them or if it would affect me getting a job. From my experience, a lot of things in life seem like it takes twice as much effort in order to achieve something that others may find relatively easy for example getting a driving license, keeping up in exams, managing busy workloads etc. I feel that those who see you falling behind/struggling with certain tasks assume that it is down to laziness or incompetence, but really it sometimes just takes a bit longer to process and perform certain tasks. I have been disappointed with myself and frustrated many times in life because of my dyspraxia. But now I see it in a more positive light because it has made me a stronger person and I feel that I am able to appreciate the little things in life and feel a bigger sense of accomplishment when I have achieved something. Never let this get in the way of what you want in life. If you fail then try, try, try again and eventually you will get to where you want to be. I think my biggest struggle right now is finding a workplace that I am comfortable enough to declare dyspraxia and for them to understand it. I have spent 3 years in an office job and feel like I am just coping because of a notebook that I have containing step by step instructions for all the tasks that I deal with. I am good at my job as I am consistent and accurate with my work, but I have never told anyone about my struggle due to feeling that it would either be the talk of the office or have a negative impact on my career. I am now searching to for a new job where I can be happier as I am creative person and feel that I would be better off in the long run doing something that I more passionate about and be surrounded by people who are not in the rat race. Anyway, enough said on that...it is reassuring to know that others are in the same boat.
I hate being dyspraxic , I’ve worked in retail for a month and I’m still finding it incredibly difficult. I’m clumsy, I keep getting told to speed up at work when stocking shelves even when I’m going as fast as I can and it just makes me feel like I’m a bad employee and that I deserve to be fired. I can honestly say I feel like my dyspraxia is making me feel like I’ll never be good enough for any kind of job.
Sorry to hear. Keep going be strong but don't allow dyspraxia to control you. Challenge yourself to be determined and dedicated. This has worked for me. I sometimes laugh at myself over my mix ups aswell.
i havent even told my employer about my dyspraxia let alone my employees, i started my job about 3 weeks a go and they know that i struggle with a lot of the tasks my role involves, but im scared to tell them, they do help me when i need it though and make time for my memory complications, but then theres that one member of staff who says i need to hurry up when im working as quick as i can! ive already had one day that has left me thinking "is this job right for me?" and i absolutely love the work but im just terrified to tell my fellow colleagues! sorry for this super rambly post as well
Emily Clarke i
I recommend pulling your employer aside and just explaining that your struggling either at the end or beginning of the day
This disorder has ruined my life
Yeah me too.
In what way
I have been diagnosed with autism and ADHD but undiagnosed dyspraxia affected me at work more than those two things. I am terrified of getting a job now, terrified of the extreme stress of fighting constantly so hard just to stay employed in constant fear of being sacked. I am so slow physically, what job is that acceptable for? Nothing. No job wants a slow person. My ideal job does not exist in the modern world, living and sitting alone under a tree waiting for people to come to hear words of wisdom as a sage. Living off the land and donations. That is the only job that none of my invisible disabilities would get in the way of. I hate this time period cos every job requires dozens of skills, such as organisation, memory for arbitrary details, and physical speed. Nothing requires pure intellectualism, that is ALL I have. I am in the wrong era.
@@compulsiverambler1352 just an idea, but something writing based with speech to text software?
Do you have some kind of possibility to get benefits for it? Maybe look into your rights as to what you can do so an employer can't just refuse you.
I would try to contact the dyspraxia foundation or go to the dyspraxia forums to ask and maybe people can help.
You're not alone, and you don't deserve to be screwed over because of difficulties where you have no control over
@@compulsiverambler1352there are jobs that are focused with working with people who have disorders
I have also been waiting for a video like this for quite a while and researched stuff like this. All of your videos on Dyspraxia are so useful, keep them up and can't wait for the next one! The work place has been hell for me, and I have a job interview coming up that I really want. I just want a job I can keep and feel I can function at and enjoy it. People just don't get Dyspraxia, I've only recently discovered I have it and have to admit I didn't even know of it. Thanks for all your information :)
I have waited years for a video like this. Fortunately I do work with people with severe learning disabilities, so my bosses are well aware of what dyspraxia is. Some of my colleagues have been quite rude about it in past jobs. In my last job I was even told by my boss that I shouldn't be in a workplace at all if I had dyspraxia. That last job was a support worker for a Mencap establishment, of all places. You'd think the "voice of learning disability" would have better standards. That's kinda why I got my current job actually. And they truly celebrate differences. It's great.
It sounds like your boss was the one who shouldn't have been working for Mencap with an attitude like that. Ironically though you do seem to find ignorance and prejudice amongst people working for organisations where you would expect there ought to be more empathy- I experienced this from staff working in schools, which made me concerned about how capable (or not) those staff members were at understanding pupils with special educational needs. Sometimes I think people who end up working for organisations such as charities and schools are there for the wrong reasons (ie because they want to feel important or desire power and control).
You can sue them, you know.
The instructions part is so relevant to me. Cheers
This is a good insight into dyspraxia within the context of the workplace. This information is very important.
I wish I had known this when I was eighteen. I'm now 31 and unemployed.
I haven't got a diagnosis but I know I'm dyspraxic. I'm 51 and it's impacted every job I've had.
Worry more about responsibilities than rights.
Outsource your weakness, maybe someone else may have a weakness that's your strength and you can work together better as a team.
Work towards your strengths but also work at improving your weaknesses.
Don't be afraid to use a calculator and make lists. It's more important to get it right than how you arrived at the right answer.
Don't be afraid to try new things, not every job may be for you.
This is such good advice. Thanks!
I am having problems with work at the moment, my mistakes and memory have caused me to possibly go on the Capability Procedure.
I really want to work in an office, even as a part-timer because it would put less stress on my back, I even tried to use my condition to tell people that I've been working back-of-house on-and-off for the past 5 years, and I need a change of environment, even when my education was in hospitality.
That being said, I am a bar porter, and I just survived my first 3-month appraisal (because I never held a job for more than that 90-day job trial since 2010, but it also had to do with working with a failing business, but I digress), the biggest problem they had was with my efficiency and speed. I still do to this day, but I had a good team behind me, so once they know my limits, they try to teach me new ways to improve my technique so I can somehow eek out that little extra. I always describe my problem as a car that can only accelerate slowly, get to a low engine rev's and a low maximum speed.
When I was first diagnosed with dyspraxia in 2011, I was already on my second stint at uni, and when I was put into a practical tutorial, which was a work-based course about kitchen management, and starting from being an apprentice chef, I struggled mightily when we had to make a 2-course meal in 4 hours as our mid-term test. I passed the theory, but when I was doing the exam, some examiners act like the judges on Master Chef, asking about what you are doing and giving a progress report while you are still cooking, and it was then that they realize I can't multi-task in this sense to the point of being a hazard to myself, if not my team.
The question that hit me was: "If everybody in your team called in sick (one group actually had that problem before, but the only person left WAS an apprentice pastry chef, so he wasn't completely out of place), and you must complete this exam all by yourself, will you even cope?" I said I would, but everybody knew I won't.
I failed the practical exam of course, but due to my perfect attendance record and my perfect score on my first theory test, they put me on as a guest judge/3rd in charge of the final degustation exam the day after I talked to my doctor.
i started working in retail shop floor and its honestly such a great environment to learn coping mechanisms with dyspraxia.
when being asked to do something by the manager, ill always say it back to them to confirm what it is.
however things like moving around trolleys and carrying stuff around the shop floor i always end bumping into stuff or drop some stuff altogether(thank god i dont work in alcohol or anything with glass)
Thank you so much for this, it is very helpful. I am dsypraxic and i have been since i was a child. i’ve have always had supper throughout primary, secondary school & sixth form. i am finding the transition from teenagehood to adulthood quite difficult. so many things are changing and expecially being an adult with a disability is going to be even more difficult. In 2021, i got my first job as a full time nursery practitioner and let’s say it wasn’t the best experience. It was very hard looking after all the children (around group of 5), having to watch them all to make sure they are ok, as well as the activities they were doing, i found it quite overwhelming. It really affected my mental health so i left after 2 months. I have now applied to a course with the Princes Trust for M&S retail so i’m hoping that will be a better and less pressurising experience
How old were you when you got diagnosed and how old are you you now?
@@TrajGreekFire Got diagnosed when i was about 4/5
@@Lauren-ny1bx I'm 24 and I have most of the symptoms, I'm going to the specialist next week. Having a strong yet slow and unresponsive body is hell
@@TrajGreekFire Aw bless you. i hope everything goes ok
I had a College exam Yesterday for world processing I nearly going to Cry
Cool video
I did work experience in Hotel in Vienna woods hotel in Glanmire in Cork City I did not tell at work that I have Dyspraxia
gillian owens So what was your experience like?
It was ok I did Restaurant and Accommodation I hate so much
Haha I just left a job as a support worker for people with learning disabilities and my boss said I was ditsy which is all kinds of ironic. I suspected a year ago that I might have the condition and then a therapist told me today that she thought this too. I've just applied for a career in outdoor persuits and have an interview coming up I want the job but now I'm going to start perusing a diagnosis I'm not sure what I should tell the employer. Tis confusing times :)
Why are the light switches not parallel?
Honestly hate having dyspraxia. I know I can’t help it but I just feel left in the dark. It’s still not well known to people and not many really understand it, so sometimes I do feel really stupid when I know that’s not the case. it’s even worse that my friends don’t really understand it either, they just think it’s normal and if I make a mistake where most people wouldn’t I get seen as an idiot when that’s not it at all but I don’t think I have the energy to explain what’s what with me. It would be more stress than it’s worth😂
Hi Bella I have dyspraxia and I get frustrated
Bella I'm a new sub and I want to know are you in the UK if so have you got dyspraxia
destro5 Yes i am in the uk, and i do indeed have dyspraxia myself.
+Krystal-Bella Shaw hi can disbriaxa get worst
hi iv gt it to im 26 and iv strugeld with it my hole life iv tryd sevrel different job and never maniged to make them stick can anyone give me some advice pleas
how old are you btw?
I have dispraxia aswell
They don’t accept going through things again and again. They get frustrated and leave us to struggle.
I have so much patience with people. I am married to a man 😂. It requires so much PATIENCE!
Only in my last employed role they highlighted things in different colours for me but they still refused to let me create and use my own paperwork to help me. It was really horrible.
When my colleague struggled with her dyslexia, I actually helped her by creating a document to support her needs. She was so happy and felt understood.
Why are we sorry for having a learning difficulty/disability? Who apologies for being physically disabled?
Why are people so against people with special needs? It’s not okay. It’s discrimination.
Also been told by all employers in my sewing career that I was too slow so I was let go. I will be slow but my work was neat when I was slow. I worked self employed and I earned more money. Do your own thing. Don’t bother with employment. Dyspraxia is never accepted nor adapted for.
I am so much happier working for myself 🥰
Does anyone know if you can join the military if you have dyspraxia
United States btw
+archery and gaming and blogs 2 there are so many things that you can do within the military. I'd say get in contact with them and have a conversation about your strengths and weaknesses. They will have a position that suites you I'm sure
Krystal, agreed. I at one point was looking at joining the US Navy and scored very high on the standardized test they use for career potential within the military, it's called the AVAB. The higher your score, the more career options you may have in the military. I had been considering chaplain's assistant or the JAG corps. I'm sure the basic training (physical training, etc) could be problematic or difficult, but if you are committed to serving, it's do-able, and I'm sure the US military will accommodate as much as it can. Just talk to a recruiter and be up front and honest about it.
I tryed joing the TA and they would let me in cause I had dyspraxia that all got told I did well on the test
Different countries have sure different rules but in my country Finland people can go to army with dyspraxia. My dyspraxia surprised me thinked it was not so bad but lastly they set me free. I wanted to accomplish army but marching in pace was so hard for me.
I from the uk Yes Got Dyspraxia I told bross at charity shop I was Volutar that I dyspraxia and mealth health promble and lost volutar job in charity shop incude girlguidinguk and does about give up hope think never get another job because of dyspraxia. Now want job work amnials