Agreed, the problem with watching Todd's infield is he is so smooth I feel like I can't be like that so I don't feel like I learn much because I just can't pull off what he's doing. But watching guys struggle and make mistakes and have Todd explain what they are doing wrong, is so much easier for me to relate to.
Seeing Todd's analysis of beginner infield is actually more helpful to me than Todd's own infield. Because when I'm out I THINK I'm doing what Todd does and I don't understand what's going wrong, and seeing this is like - oh... that's what I'm actually doing. Those girls responses look really familiar.
Takeaways: #1 Get to the point (premise / man-to-woman) or else she thinks 1) you are scared of it 2) you are shady, manipulative or have an agenda #2 Get to the point in a subtle way: you and the girl have some kind of relationship developping Beginner mistakes: *Tonality (ending the sentences like a question) *walking behind her => creepy, uncomfortable for her, you following/chasing her; instead walk beside or in front of her *question after question => putting her on a pedestal (=> you are low value, not interesting and a burden), asking her to provide interesting stuff instead of providing something interesting yourself, she has no idea who you are (is this a cool guy? what are his opinions?); instead make assertions, statements, opinions, teasing *you need PREMISE (man-to-woman), e.g. "hey, you're interesting/cute", "we are not gonna get along" instead of platonic conversation... keep up the threshold for enough premise *if you establish the premise too late, she has already decided that you are low value, a burden etc. *if you start direct, don't switch to platonic conversation
yesweepen As evidenced by a time that I was hanging with a chick while we were both naked and she positioned herself so I was literally between her legs and I still didn't fuck her, yeah. You're not going to fuck if your inner game is shot to hell.
animal0mother true that dude, I had a girlfriend years ago when i was a teenager that would want me to fuck her and i would be laying with her making out, and i would always get a phone call from my parents telling me to come home every night when i was at her house and she would be begging me to stay and i would sit there up to like 15 mins saying no i gotta go or my dad will kick my ass while in that time, every time i could of fucked her then left, but didn't because i was afraid to take my shirt off in front of people, i eventually fucked her...but with my shirt on lmao, 2 minutes in her friend comes to the door and interrupts us, and that was the first and last time i had sex fml
The first student video was so hard to watch but it was very necessary to see because it gives insight in a way of experience more than like reading a book fantastic Todd you just keep upping the standard this I don't know how but you are on to something man! Thank you and I think I speak for everybody when I say fucking thank you!!!
Also a good reminder that everyone starts somewhere. I bet 90% of us starting out may have been much much worse than that :*). I remember starting out so bad I froze after my opens xD. However in a way this does make it easier to identify what problems we all may be having and to see what to NOT do.
I really like the "student infield" cuz they relate more to us normal pick up guys, cuz we make those kinds of mistakes as Well. Very creative Tod. It will really bring new clients with this material.
I think it's better to stop a girl if you can, if you normally walk relaxed and slow you are going to have to speed up to stay ahead of her, it looks and feels terrible, of course you can stop a girl, get hook point and then walk as now you can control her pace as she isn't just going to speed off
1.987.200 i thought i was going to click read more and read.... the chloroform takes care of that.... or some other terribly hilarious/inappropriate punch line
Wow, I remember watching this a year ago, and having no clue how to fix the students' situations, I was even worse than them. Now I could comfortably note the mistakes and have thoughts of my own about how to fix them. Keep working guys, and most importantly go out, and approach. If you don't approach it's a no anyway, but a no you'll never learn from. Oh and of course, thank you Todd!
It's not easy cold approaching when you're a beginner without any prior experience. You need to establish the premise quickly, show her your personality, and keep things entertaining and engaging her. Questions are needed to get information, but can't be used too much. The girl will quickly judge your whole package, like appearance, body language and tonality, and make a decision whether or not she likes you enough to continue the interaction.
I like how (from what i can tell) in Tods system the question isnt about direct vs indirect but of graduating from direct as a beginner to indirect at more advanced levels because it requires more subtlety...
Very insightful.... Just got out of a 16 year relationship and so I've been out of the game for so long, these videos are very refreshing and insightful...
It's a gold mine. This video = 500 kg of gold. I would love to see more student in fields than the advance game of anyone. So much to learn from such stuff.
TODD this is one of your best videos. Thanks. Day game, great set up, clear audible sets and perfect analysis. Agreed they make several basic mistakes. Neither seems to have any real character or emotion to speak of. Makes me realise I'm a lot better, probably due to a lot more experience. The first guy is also at a disadvantage due to his height compared to the girl. I rarely do walk withs, can't get eye contact. Better to do a front stop or stationary due to compliance. Or even better situational openers. Finding them is the tricky thing, you can't do them in a lot of shops due to cock block staff and most women hang out in women's shops.
Both times, the girl tried to walk super fast away from him. I don't think we should be overly analyzing this. Both girls have zero interest and they both wanted to get away from him.
yea but they could have still been flipped and got them interested.. that's the point. Getting advanced comes with getting girls that are initially not interested from the start , interested.
Maybe they didnt care at all, maybe advanced game would have changed that - we dont know! Whats definitely true is that he comes across quite cringy and low value compared to someone like Todd (If you watch his infield for example). Its like another universe when you compare those 2 vibes - and girls will respond very different obviously!
''Getting advanced comes with getting girls that are initially not interested from the start , interested.'' - I'm not sure that's really possible. She needs that base level of attraction towards you before you can get her (like how Mark manson spoke about yes girls, no girls and maybe girls). Even Julien in his infields where a girl is initially super uninterested doesn't get the girls. The closest i've seen him 'flip' a girl was that rude LA girl who was basically ignoring him who he eventually got too at least smile, but he never banged her. You just can't force a girl to be attracted to you with 'game'
You need to become way more subtle than this. What do you mean with "base level attraction"? Is it that you are somewhat her type? Is it that you are not extremely ugly? It definitenly happens that a girl who was initially not attracted to you can become so through your personality/game etc. Not every girl obviously, there are some out there who wont give a shit about you even if you are super advanced in game - but denying that this plays a role is also very stupid. I have had women calling me "balding" or "weird looking" and I still banged them - it happens. There will always be a part of the social interaction you cant control but with a skill like game you can put the numbers MASSIVELY into your favor. You could argue that this one or some of Todds students are better looking/younger/more athlethic than him - but guess who gets the girl most of the time?
I enjoy your comments and commentary on videos. From my two decades of trying to talk to women, getting dates, and getting rejections, what I have learned kind of aligns with what you teach and talk about.
I really like this video. I feel like I make a lot of these mistakes. I found Hearing Todd break these sets down was a lot more helpful than just watching guys who know what they're doing. Thanks for the video!
Make assumptions and guesses instead of questions. Technically, any question can be turned into a statement: “where are you from?”--“you seem more like a Midwest type, so I’m guessing you weren’t born here”. Or “what do you do for work?--“I bet you’re a nurse or teacher, you have that vibe”.
Param Bhattacharyya I have tried this, but getting girls to jump in on anything intellectual is difficult, I find it better to think of something that you would talk to a five year old girl about, for example, Ponies.
make a statement about something interesting e.g I started reading books the other day haven't done that in xyz years. Then she'll share something with you.
Dude, this is so fing hard, the whole pickup thing. I watched almost every video out there of yours, and others, and all of rsd, and even more after that, and I feel worse now than ever before. wtf I feel pain
Love this page. Even videos of you are so sloppy, but that's how it is. It's not scripted James Bond movie interactions. And that's how ALL the other dating coaches teach it. This is real advice that I can actually implement. Cause I dont feel super personable all the time, and I dont exude confidence. But I don't need to. I can be natural, little nervous, not pumped or happy or whatever and still pickup chicks by having a simple conversation with a little bit of awareness of navigating the situation. So helpful and a relief too. If I go out 100 nights, maybe 10 of them I'm feeling amazing and confident and pumped and sociable. But I can be successful with this low key method. Good stuff.
Good vid content Todd. Showing us actual breakdown of real approaches is very helpful. I notice that when I give a statement like " excuse me, hi I don't mean to bother you but I see you here and..( insert premise statement)." It seems like it may disarm them a bit and actually maybe look at you as empathetic to the uncomfortableness she feels that accompanies cold approach. You don't want her to feel your interview her for a job she isn't applying for w ?'s. Statement s are best, usually. In a way too many questions convey neediness. Also, validation is what we all seek. If she doesn't see the value in you validating her w your attention than she will dismiss you. That's why showing higher value behavior will make her want to get your validation/ attention perhaps prompting her to invest in the interaction. I' ve been working on this big-time in my life. Starting to see results after many references lol. I would love to be part of something like Todd does- like his team I mean. Anyways, im learning and just telling what I've seen work for me.
This is what 99% of guys doing pickup look like. Low value, cringy and generally unintersting - now compare that to someone like Todd and you have a direct explanation why so many guys cant do that. It takes no more than 5 seconds of infield comparing both and you have 2 completely different vibes/frames and OF COURSE reactions from the girls. This is something to aim for - imagine how much difference it would make in your life if you could add all those nuances to your daily interactions. How great could your life become? Find out: systembytodd.com/
Thanks Tod. I'm gonna learn from mistakes. I love that your a coach that can simply, and clearly express the Dos and Donts in ways everyone can understand
I always say this "I gotta go, I'm already late...but hey, I'm taking you to (the place for eat) so let me grab your number and I'll set something for us" this works for me and when it doesn't she says she has BF. And I've been with the girls who even had bfs and simply lie about it.
Biggest social programming guys receive today that ruin their game and make a bad experience for women is "show your interest in them, show how much you think they are so interesting". That is true once you have demonstrated you are a person who has value, a person who she wants to have interest in her.
Not only that, the second one needed to have had at least a year of business experience and PR experience before trying to pick up someone with such experience
Hey Todd. We really like you BREAKDOWN infield videos. This is really unique and usefull. Hope to see more of it in the future! It shows reference experience which are similar and I can immediately relate and correct by these videos. Thanks
you say you cant be too overt or too obvious with premise so how does JP make it work where he shows a lot of intent, over the top things just being straight up from the open? very curious
Aren't sentences like "Wanna grab a drink/coffee back at my place". Basically subtle invitations for sex or to get a little more intimate. She is inviting you to spend some alone time with her. Or if you invite her, she is okay with being alone with you.
1. get to the point in a way that take account of her experience. that you and her have something special. 2. make more of statement than question. 3.make assertion rather than question. 4. its better to start with premise, and if you did you just need to maintain it. 5. walk beside & front rather than behind 6. rapport, share your story 7. dont portray playerish, make her feel its special. 8. more subtle and frequent premise
Hey Todd, i'd love to see a frame controll manifesto from you! That's in my eyes one of the few real key elements to pick up - yet it is rarely ever disussed Just search TH-cam.. it's riduculous how there is almost nothing of quality available to cover this search term
thats's really a great stuff that you posted here. If you could post a series of mistakes that new rookies commit, can be a lot helpful to people like me. Thanks Todd.
When he said “he doesn’t have to know” lmao yo she could see straight through the fake jock..she was like yea you got laid 5 years ago. This is good stuff
I go up to women and literally say “hey I can’t take my eyes off of you” or “hey thought you were pretty cute” and then say “had to come say hi” then ask her name without volunteering yours to see if she has interest.
- Have premise. Lack of which is like watching a movie with no plot. - Stop asking so many questions, lead the narrative - Be aware of success barriers. i.e. Walking behind her thinking he didn't deserve to be there
Hello Todd, I hope you can reply to this comment after reading, because is something that really intrigues me. Since I've been watching your videos lately, you have made me think of the following. I know that your techniques work and they eventually produce results since are backed up on behavioral strategies, experience, and an understanding of women blueprints and psychology. However, and taking also into account the frame that one must "man-up" and accept reality, deal with it or work with it for personal benefit, don't you think that women behaviors are just dead wrong sometimes? Like seriously fucked up and that utilizing these techniques is actually, supporting in a way their behavior since in order to "get her" you must not ask her questions at the beginning, appear high value even if you aren't to get a chance, so basically, applauding their arrogant behavior of "I only respond to alpha male guys". And I know that some of theses concepts are backed by evolutionary biology of wanting or needing a strong man, I certainly have studied pre-selection and all of that. But I honestly believe that the "not asking too much questions" technique necessary nowadays, is mostly something recent & culturally seeded in them. Do you think from a "Compassionate" or "Humanistic" perspective its okay to not even ask a couple of "nice and unintentional" questions at the begining of the conversation regardless of showing interest in a man to woman way, because it would look needy?? Have we really come o this level of pride and making ourselves the impossible and the "important ones" (and by us I mean millenials and this generation), that we cannot ask more than 1 and a half question since it already conveys being "pathetic low value guy" and "showing waaaay too much". And what I mean when I criticize this is that in comparison to lets say "Biblical Compassion" giving too much is actually something hard man! Showing that you care about someone used to be giving your life your them or something like that. Nowadays 2 to 3 questions is being a peasant asking for approval...What do you think on a serious note, I don't mean to offend you or your students.
The thing is we're talking about cold approach here. You have literally seconds to convey your interest, personality etc and the girls are supposed to determine in seconds how to react because they are doing their thing and going somewhere. Of course we can say the female behaviour has changed dramatically since the arrival of the pill, which basically gave women total control over their reproductive/sexual process. This combined with changing social norms around marriage and sex and the fact that we don't live in small communities where everyone knows everyone anymore have changed all of our behaviour. You can't blame women for that. The simply are a lot more free than they used to be and hence can be even pickier when it comes to sex and dating. At the same time men are even more free to try and pickup and sleep with many women without the risk of fathering a whole host of children. Things were a lot more constrained even a hundred years ago. You found your woman, got married at a very young age, no sex before marriage of course, and then every time you had sex you had a baby ;) And of course you stayed married, no divorce (although probably still a lot of extra-marital stuff going on) for your whole life even if you didn't love eachother.
you are right. I found the presentation very boring as it is cluttered with negatives. Generally I like Todd presentations except when it becomes too academic.
Hello Todd, could you iclude a good example at the end of these breakdowns? It is great to see what someone does wrong, but then guys are like "ok, so what do I do instead then?". And you would just show a clip of a student who got the number, break it down in 1 minute.
Puas suck at the beginning and have varying results because of their focus Focus is everything. Their focus when approaching is on them. They are out to improve and the girl's responses are more of a supplement that allows them to judge their progress or explore how would a girl react to certain behavior but it ultimately is in their way. The way to see the situation is as a shared space where they are focused on the interaction between them and the girl. And presenting information to the girl about them but not for a hidden agenda of imrpessing her and bragging in order to impress her but rather just because YOU want to present information about YOU to her. In your mind you are looking at the interaction between you and her between two people in a shared space. But you are showing to her that you are the center of all this decision-making and you are the object of interest to her. In short, your focus is both of you and your experience while you are showing her that her focus is YOU.
Lol this video makes my approach anxiety even higher. I see myself being cringy like those guys were here. I had to stop this video multiple time because some moments were just too embarrassing
You can tell how nervous the students are. I’d be a nervous wreck. Totally different when you know the girl actually likes you. That’s the frame you need.
I could game so good in New York, I can see a similar dynamic than in Toronto (full of big shot IT guys who don't know how to game lol), but of course only shares similarities. When she said if he has a boyfriend I would have said I have a girlfriend too but I like making friends ;). Great video man so on point! I always learn so much, I need to get some hot seats with you.
Todd Love your stuff. You're my number 1 guy whenever it comes to elevating myself with women. But slightly off script is there any way that you can possibly bless us with a playlist of the songs in your videos opening
More student infields like this would be great!!! It’s a lot easier to identify problems
Christian Romano true!
Agreed, the problem with watching Todd's infield is he is so smooth I feel like I can't be like that so I don't feel like I learn much because I just can't pull off what he's doing. But watching guys struggle and make mistakes and have Todd explain what they are doing wrong, is so much easier for me to relate to.
Agreed. I feel like Todd's infields are so smooth you can't even tell what he's even doing.
Christian wyd here😂
@@peterg3947 Watching these guys is stressing me out. It's difficult to see this to me for some reason.
Seeing Todd's analysis of beginner infield is actually more helpful to me than Todd's own infield. Because when I'm out I THINK I'm doing what Todd does and I don't understand what's going wrong, and seeing this is like - oh... that's what I'm actually doing. Those girls responses look really familiar.
Takeaways:
#1 Get to the point (premise / man-to-woman) or else she thinks 1) you are scared of it 2) you are shady, manipulative or have an agenda
#2 Get to the point in a subtle way: you and the girl have some kind of relationship developping
Beginner mistakes:
*Tonality (ending the sentences like a question)
*walking behind her => creepy, uncomfortable for her, you following/chasing her; instead walk beside or in front of her
*question after question => putting her on a pedestal (=> you are low value, not interesting and a burden), asking her to provide interesting stuff instead of providing something interesting yourself, she has no idea who you are (is this a cool guy? what are his opinions?); instead make assertions, statements, opinions, teasing
*you need PREMISE (man-to-woman), e.g. "hey, you're interesting/cute", "we are not gonna get along" instead of platonic conversation... keep up the threshold for enough premise
*if you establish the premise too late, she has already decided that you are low value, a burden etc.
*if you start direct, don't switch to platonic conversation
Number #3 : Be ready for spouse and child supports and weekly family courts meet ups!
The dude is masterful at teaching this
trial and error
In night game, RSD Julien Blanc > Todd VanDeHey, but god damn if Todd can't teach it so much more concisely. Unequaled.
Yes, but without master the inner game all these techniques are useless.
yesweepen As evidenced by a time that I was hanging with a chick while we were both naked and she positioned herself so I was literally between her legs and I still didn't fuck her, yeah. You're not going to fuck if your inner game is shot to hell.
animal0mother true that dude, I had a girlfriend years ago when i was a teenager that would want me to fuck her and i would be laying with her making out, and i would always get a phone call from my parents telling me to come home every night when i was at her house and she would be begging me to stay and i would sit there up to like 15 mins saying no i gotta go or my dad will kick my ass while in that time, every time i could of fucked her then left, but didn't because i was afraid to take my shirt off in front of people, i eventually fucked her...but with my shirt on lmao, 2 minutes in her friend comes to the door and interrupts us, and that was the first and last time i had sex fml
The first student video was so hard to watch but it was very necessary to see because it gives insight in a way of experience more than like reading a book fantastic Todd you just keep upping the standard this I don't know how but you are on to something man! Thank you and I think I speak for everybody when I say fucking thank you!!!
Hurrifan C. Yeah it was painful and cringy af. Much respect to them for having the balls, though.
Also a good reminder that everyone starts somewhere. I bet 90% of us starting out may have been much much worse than that :*). I remember starting out so bad I froze after my opens xD.
However in a way this does make it easier to identify what problems we all may be having and to see what to NOT do.
Mind Despot for sure kudos to them
Mind Despot Q
If you find it cringy it simply means you see part of yourself in it
I really like the "student infield" cuz they relate more to us normal pick up guys, cuz we make those kinds of mistakes as Well. Very creative Tod. It will really bring new clients with this material.
that guy is obsessed with talking about yoga
Got a feeling that he likes to do Yoga and Therapy at the same time.
Lolol.. Thought the same thing! Hmmm... Yoga fetish?
😂😂
@@chrisossa2022 There's nothing wrong with yoga. It's a good opportunity to perv at women bending over in tight clothes.
yoga girls usually have their shit together or are married sluts.
Yo wtf that's calfreezy at 0:05 😂 the odds of that happening
Haha yeah that’s fucking amazing, didn’t even notice😂
Same
Holy crap how you even recognize that guy. I actually had to look up the word calfreezy lol
No way
bro I thought you kidding HOLY SHIT
I think it's better to stop a girl if you can, if you normally walk relaxed and slow you are going to have to speed up to stay ahead of her, it looks and feels terrible, of course you can stop a girl, get hook point and then walk as now you can control her pace as she isn't just going to speed off
Wats the difference between a hot Yoga and Normal Yoga?
Girl: Hot Yoga is hotter.
😂😂😂😂
Hot yoga is juicier, is wet..is runny and lubricant...normal yoga is dry !
@@jackassfat And that's why you ain't getting no pussy
I would say smth lime: So its for hotter people or it is becouse of the heat?
I never get rejected at all..
cause I dont approach.
Cumpilations impressive ....teach me lol
Cumpilations I bet that’s the only way to never get rejected.
1.987.200 i thought i was going to click read more and read.... the chloroform takes care of that.... or some other terribly hilarious/inappropriate punch line
Just wait for them to come to you....BALLER!
Mr. I know
If you never shoot you'll never score. But you will also never miss. ;)
learned more from this 20 minutes than from 6 hours of tyler rants
Wow, I remember watching this a year ago, and having no clue how to fix the students' situations, I was even worse than them. Now I could comfortably note the mistakes and have thoughts of my own about how to fix them. Keep working guys, and most importantly go out, and approach. If you don't approach it's a no anyway, but a no you'll never learn from. Oh and of course, thank you Todd!
Do more student infield, I think it is easier to learn what you are doing wrong than what you need to do right
Man, I literally felt pain while watching Student infields... It was like jumpscares in cute kitten videos.
It's not easy cold approaching when you're a beginner without any prior experience. You need to establish the premise quickly, show her your personality, and keep things entertaining and engaging her. Questions are needed to get information, but can't be used too much. The girl will quickly judge your whole package, like appearance, body language and tonality, and make a decision whether or not she likes you enough to continue the interaction.
Thanks por showing us some rejections as well, I'm kinda tired of seeing pure badass pickups, we all know that's pretty much unreal
Humans calculate social interactions so quickly, when you can read the code in the matrix you are basically a super hero.
Great comment my friend how is your social skills journey going 5 years later
Amazing how Todd breaks it down on how to approach if your a Newbee or intermediate in game.
When Todd explains game everything makes sense and falls into place.
I like how (from what i can tell) in Tods system the question isnt about direct vs indirect but of graduating from direct as a beginner to indirect at more advanced levels because it requires more subtlety...
better than RSD platitudinous content.
Better than RSD's platitudes.
Brevity bro.
Very insightful.... Just got out of a 16 year relationship and so I've been out of the game for so long, these videos are very refreshing and insightful...
It's a gold mine. This video = 500 kg of gold. I would love to see more student in fields than the advance game of anyone. So much to learn from such stuff.
TODD this is one of your best videos. Thanks. Day game, great set up, clear audible sets and perfect analysis. Agreed they make several basic mistakes. Neither seems to have any real character or emotion to speak of. Makes me realise I'm a lot better, probably due to a lot more experience. The first guy is also at a disadvantage due to his height compared to the girl. I rarely do walk withs, can't get eye contact. Better to do a front stop or stationary due to compliance. Or even better situational openers. Finding them is the tricky thing, you can't do them in a lot of shops due to cock block staff and most women hang out in women's shops.
Both times, the girl tried to walk super fast away from him. I don't think we should be overly analyzing this. Both girls have zero interest and they both wanted to get away from him.
yea but they could have still been flipped and got them interested.. that's the point.
Getting advanced comes with getting girls that are initially not interested from the start , interested.
Maybe they didnt care at all, maybe advanced game would have changed that - we dont know! Whats definitely true is that he comes across quite cringy and low value compared to someone like Todd (If you watch his infield for example). Its like another universe when you compare those 2 vibes - and girls will respond very different obviously!
Brian Da
''Getting advanced comes with getting girls that are initially not interested from the start , interested.'' - I'm not sure that's really possible. She needs that base level of attraction towards you before you can get her (like how Mark manson spoke about yes girls, no girls and maybe girls). Even Julien in his infields where a girl is initially super uninterested doesn't get the girls. The closest i've seen him 'flip' a girl was that rude LA girl who was basically ignoring him who he eventually got too at least smile, but he never banged her. You just can't force a girl to be attracted to you with 'game'
You need to become way more subtle than this. What do you mean with "base level attraction"? Is it that you are somewhat her type? Is it that you are not extremely ugly? It definitenly happens that a girl who was initially not attracted to you can become so through your personality/game etc. Not every girl obviously, there are some out there who wont give a shit about you even if you are super advanced in game - but denying that this plays a role is also very stupid. I have had women calling me "balding" or "weird looking" and I still banged them - it happens. There will always be a part of the social interaction you cant control but with a skill like game you can put the numbers MASSIVELY into your favor. You could argue that this one or some of Todds students are better looking/younger/more athlethic than him - but guess who gets the girl most of the time?
That's almost exactly what I do. But I usually bring up video games, movies or the environment around me to get an idea what type of person she is.
Dude I literally had that Aphex Twin track open in another tab and couldn't figure out why it was playing... I'm pleasantly surprised Todd.
I enjoy your comments and commentary on videos. From my two decades of trying to talk to women, getting dates, and getting rejections, what I have learned kind of aligns with what you teach and talk about.
that guy dressed like Tommy from vice city lmao
Super high value content. Its always good to learn from a master but equally you need to learn from mistakes.
I love this kind of detailed social analysis. It's so detailed and spot on, and it relates to every aspect of social interaction, not just dating.
I really like this video. I feel like I make a lot of these mistakes. I found Hearing Todd break these sets down was a lot more helpful than just watching guys who know what they're doing. Thanks for the video!
Nice aphex twin usage
What's the name?
Xtal is the song name
totally unexpected - in a good way
Quick question: How do you avoid asking questions? What would be examples of things you would say that aren't questions?
I'm not sure, but a friend who is good with women once told me, talk about something that you think is interesting.
TheGkmasta thanks man!
Make assumptions and guesses instead of questions. Technically, any question can be turned into a statement: “where are you from?”--“you seem more like a Midwest type, so I’m guessing you weren’t born here”. Or “what do you do for work?--“I bet you’re a nurse or teacher, you have that vibe”.
Param Bhattacharyya I have tried this, but getting girls to jump in on anything intellectual is difficult, I find it better to think of something that you would talk to a five year old girl about, for example, Ponies.
make a statement about something interesting e.g I started reading books the other day haven't done that in xyz years. Then she'll share something with you.
Dude, this is so fing hard, the whole pickup thing. I watched almost every video out there of yours, and others, and all of rsd, and even more after that, and I feel worse now than ever before. wtf I feel pain
I too feel your pain
Brain: u cant just approach her
Me: hold my anxiety.
Love this page. Even videos of you are so sloppy, but that's how it is. It's not scripted James Bond movie interactions. And that's how ALL the other dating coaches teach it. This is real advice that I can actually implement. Cause I dont feel super personable all the time, and I dont exude confidence. But I don't need to. I can be natural, little nervous, not pumped or happy or whatever and still pickup chicks by having a simple conversation with a little bit of awareness of navigating the situation. So helpful and a relief too. If I go out 100 nights, maybe 10 of them I'm feeling amazing and confident and pumped and sociable. But I can be successful with this low key method. Good stuff.
I have zero game, I just can not do it. When I don't approach I don't get rejected, I don't want to feel like shit at the end of the day.
Davon Da_God lets do this together bro I’ll do approaches to and get rejected with you!
Good vid content Todd. Showing us actual breakdown of real approaches is very helpful. I notice that when I give a statement like " excuse me, hi I don't mean to bother you but I see you here and..( insert premise statement)." It seems like it may disarm them a bit and actually maybe look at you as empathetic to the uncomfortableness she feels that accompanies cold approach. You don't want her to feel your interview her for a job she isn't applying for w ?'s. Statement s are best, usually. In a way too many questions convey neediness. Also, validation is what we all seek. If she doesn't see the value in you validating her w your attention than she will dismiss you. That's why showing higher value behavior will make her want to get your validation/ attention perhaps prompting her to invest in the interaction. I' ve been working on this big-time in my life. Starting to see results after many references lol. I would love to be part of something like Todd does- like his team I mean. Anyways, im learning and just telling what I've seen work for me.
Damn, how I missed your stuff till now? You are probably the only pua that can help me out of my "particular" condition...
Todd ladies and gentleman. Time to break the website once again
TotalWarish 💯
This is what 99% of guys doing pickup look like. Low value, cringy and generally unintersting - now compare that to someone like Todd and you have a direct explanation why so many guys cant do that. It takes no more than 5 seconds of infield comparing both and you have 2 completely different vibes/frames and OF COURSE reactions from the girls. This is something to aim for - imagine how much difference it would make in your life if you could add all those nuances to your daily interactions. How great could your life become? Find out: systembytodd.com/
It's coming home boys
But she's not coming home with this guy.
Robert Akerele imagine the scenes if England win ⚽️🥇🏆
For France maybe
The Senate that Belgium team tho, u never know what they can do
C’est vient à la maison
Damn that blonde in the intro tho
@cyb3rpunk 2077 his mom
she is my ex.
Respect the guy for going for it
in the intro there is a youtuber "Calfreezy" passing by and he didn't notice the camera so that proving Todd infield are professional.
Todd, I can't believe you put my favorite Aphex Twin song in the intro! Huge respect!
You are freaking awesome todd
Thanks Tod. I'm gonna learn from mistakes. I love that your a coach that can simply, and clearly express the Dos and Donts in ways everyone can understand
I always say this
"I gotta go, I'm already late...but hey, I'm taking you to (the place for eat) so let me grab your number and I'll set something for us" this works for me and when it doesn't she says she has BF. And I've been with the girls who even had bfs and simply lie about it.
Biggest social programming guys receive today that ruin their game and make a bad experience for women is "show your interest in them, show how much you think they are so interesting".
That is true once you have demonstrated you are a person who has value, a person who she wants to have interest in her.
To be honest, I feel like the two students could use alot less lessons in game, and alot more in social intelligence...
J.Les Project Game lessons are social intelligence lessons...
Hahaha yeah that "what therapy" part killed me
Not only that, the second one needed to have had at least a year of business experience and PR experience before trying to pick up someone with such experience
War Is Wrong or he could divert form that premise all together and move I to another topic
Hey Todd. We really like you BREAKDOWN infield videos. This is really unique and usefull. Hope to see more of it in the future! It shows reference experience which are similar and I can immediately relate and correct by these videos. Thanks
As an African American, I feel like you should transcend knowledge beyond your skin color. That is how you achieve mastery. Great advice Todd.
you say you cant be too overt or too obvious with premise so how does JP make it work where he shows a lot of intent, over the top things just being straight up from the open? very curious
Aren't sentences like "Wanna grab a drink/coffee back at my place". Basically subtle invitations for sex or to get a little more intimate. She is inviting you to spend some alone time with her. Or if you invite her, she is okay with being alone with you.
The god has spoken once more 🙌🏻🙏🏻
I can now clearly see my mistakes in throughout each of the individuals. Time to go to work on this! Thanks Todd.
Your infield videos are extremely valuable. Thank you for sharing Todd!
You have to learn to be a good social person before learning game if not it’s just a waste of time
Joe might consider that seems like a good side hustle and those would be great benefits
Zachary Hodgson absolutely bro it helps a alot.
No you can learn it, but until you do it, you'll never really learn it
This is the best video ever! THANKS. Please More student infields like this would be great!!! It’s a lot easier to identify problems
Guys, value yourself....stop giving your value away. Don’t forget when your in the interaction. This is very clear when your new.
1. get to the point in a way that take account of her experience. that you and her have something special.
2. make more of statement than question.
3.make assertion rather than question.
4. its better to start with premise, and if you did you just need to maintain it.
5. walk beside & front rather than behind
6. rapport, share your story
7. dont portray playerish, make her feel its special.
8. more subtle and frequent premise
You should make more videos like this. Great way to teach
This video was golden, I'm surprised you gave away all that advice for free!! Can't wait to buy The System!
I love how you jump up and down while explaining.
You remind me of Gordon Ramsey and his mannerisms when he speaks.
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I came here to like the video
I’ll watch it in a few minutes
Hey Todd, i'd love to see a frame controll manifesto from you! That's in my eyes one of the few real key elements to pick up - yet it is rarely ever disussed
Just search TH-cam.. it's riduculous how there is almost nothing of quality available to cover this search term
Really loved the student infield breakdown; so interesting to see all the mistakes that I must have been making all these years!
damn you're such a great teacher how accurate are you with all the details, it feels like you have learnt from those same mistakes and improve
thats's really a great stuff that you posted here. If you could post a series of mistakes that new rookies commit, can be a lot helpful to people like me. Thanks Todd.
When he said “he doesn’t have to know” lmao yo she could see straight through the fake jock..she was like yea you got laid 5 years ago. This is good stuff
is this guy adicted to Hyoga or something?
please post more student infields with explanation, there are amazing
The funny thing here, Todd, is that this video itself got to the point, rather than beating around the bush like some other pickup gurus..
I go up to women and literally say “hey I can’t take my eyes off of you” or “hey thought you were pretty cute” and then say “had to come say hi” then ask her name without volunteering yours to see if she has interest.
Awesome Todd. Love student infield breakdown, very helpful, snd your explanations are super clear
For daygame study "London Daygame Model". Just stop the damn girl!
- Have premise. Lack of which is like watching a movie with no plot.
- Stop asking so many questions, lead the narrative
- Be aware of success barriers. i.e. Walking behind her thinking he didn't deserve to be there
Hello Todd, I hope you can reply to this comment after reading, because is something that really intrigues me.
Since I've been watching your videos lately, you have made me think of the following. I know that your techniques work and they eventually produce results since are backed up on behavioral strategies, experience, and an understanding of women blueprints and psychology.
However, and taking also into account the frame that one must "man-up" and accept reality, deal with it or work with it for personal benefit, don't you think that women behaviors are just dead wrong sometimes? Like seriously fucked up and that utilizing these techniques is actually, supporting in a way their behavior since in order to "get her" you must not ask her questions at the beginning, appear high value even if you aren't to get a chance, so basically, applauding their arrogant behavior of "I only respond to alpha male guys". And I know that some of theses concepts are backed by evolutionary biology of wanting or needing a strong man, I certainly have studied pre-selection and all of that.
But I honestly believe that the "not asking too much questions" technique necessary nowadays, is mostly something recent & culturally seeded in them. Do you think from a "Compassionate" or "Humanistic" perspective its okay to not even ask a couple of "nice and unintentional" questions at the begining of the conversation regardless of showing interest in a man to woman way, because it would look needy?? Have we really come o this level of pride and making ourselves the impossible and the "important ones" (and by us I mean millenials and this generation), that we cannot ask more than 1 and a half question since it already conveys being "pathetic low value guy" and "showing waaaay too much".
And what I mean when I criticize this is that in comparison to lets say "Biblical Compassion" giving too much is actually something hard man! Showing that you care about someone used to be giving your life your them or something like that. Nowadays 2 to 3 questions is being a peasant asking for approval...What do you think on a serious note, I don't mean to offend you or your students.
The thing is we're talking about cold approach here. You have literally seconds to convey your interest, personality etc and the girls are supposed to determine in seconds how to react because they are doing their thing and going somewhere. Of course we can say the female behaviour has changed dramatically since the arrival of the pill, which basically gave women total control over their reproductive/sexual process. This combined with changing social norms around marriage and sex and the fact that we don't live in small communities where everyone knows everyone anymore have changed all of our behaviour. You can't blame women for that. The simply are a lot more free than they used to be and hence can be even pickier when it comes to sex and dating. At the same time men are even more free to try and pickup and sleep with many women without the risk of fathering a whole host of children. Things were a lot more constrained even a hundred years ago. You found your woman, got married at a very young age, no sex before marriage of course, and then every time you had sex you had a baby ;) And of course you stayed married, no divorce (although probably still a lot of extra-marital stuff going on) for your whole life even if you didn't love eachother.
Damn...This really hurts to watch but I'm loving this kind of content. More guys failing please!
summing this is.. mindfulness. this whole video is true mindful and beautiful layout of the concept.
I think you shouldve shown what to do as well
Basically every other video
you are right. I found the presentation very boring as it is cluttered with negatives. Generally I like Todd presentations except when it becomes too academic.
Hello Todd, could you iclude a good example at the end of these breakdowns? It is great to see what someone does wrong, but then guys are like "ok, so what do I do instead then?". And you would just show a clip of a student who got the number, break it down in 1 minute.
this is pretty funny.... I think the simplest form of advice is, remember that you are the prize in these interactions.
That was awesome...love the student infield breakdown.
Puas suck at the beginning and have varying results because of their focus
Focus is everything. Their focus when approaching is on them. They are out to improve
and the girl's responses are more of a supplement that allows them to judge their progress
or explore how would a girl react to certain behavior but it ultimately is in their way.
The way to see the situation is as a shared space where they are focused on
the interaction between them and the girl. And presenting information to the
girl about them but not for a hidden agenda of imrpessing her and bragging
in order to impress her but rather just because YOU want to present information
about YOU to her. In your mind you are looking at the interaction between you and her
between two people in a shared space. But you are showing to her that you are the center
of all this decision-making and you are the object of interest to her.
In short, your focus is both of you and your experience while you are showing her
that her focus is YOU.
Lol this video makes my approach anxiety even higher. I see myself being cringy like those guys were here. I had to stop this video multiple time because some moments were just too embarrassing
Are you spending time in England recently? Any tours over here going on?
These student breakdowns are very helpful.
I swear tod you know how to explain very well the game thanks homie keep it up 👍
Todd please show us how to establish and keep premise the proper way
Being a salesman actually helps a lot with talking to women. I was horrible at it at first.
You got a Ig bro I want to discuss that more or a what’s app
You can tell how nervous the students are. I’d be a nervous wreck. Totally different when you know the girl actually likes you. That’s the frame you need.
I could game so good in New York, I can see a similar dynamic than in Toronto (full of big shot IT guys who don't know how to game lol), but of course only shares similarities. When she said if he has a boyfriend I would have said I have a girlfriend too but I like making friends ;). Great video man so on point! I always learn so much, I need to get some hot seats with you.
I always said this" if you approach her and game her if she likes you she will help you
You nailed it man, "desperate desperation of love" copyright it
Todd Love your stuff. You're my number 1 guy whenever it comes to elevating myself with women. But slightly off script is there any way that you can possibly bless us with a playlist of the songs in your videos opening
Woow, hey! I've heard that intro song before!! Oh my god, which one is it? Amazing sound