I was in a rebound too. She didn't love me and only used me. We were intimate and she were hot over heels for me the first 3 months and then suddenly she acted flaky and didn't have time to meet me anymore. She eventually told me she was going to try get her ex back. She wanted me to be her friend and her emotional tampon. Today I had enough, I wished her the best and now i'm walking away. She is emotional messed up and had some big red flags that I ignored because I liked her, but I deleted her on fb and now it's time to heal, love myself so I can meet the right person who loves me next time. I had to say that I haven't discovered Corey's work before this happened.
Cool man, I was in the same situation! Just broke up with her a month ago and yesterday I deleted her off every social media! Was tough but I believe I'm happy this way. I wasn't happy for the last 4 months!
@@ginkmdma Just be prepared to get some emotional rollercoasters. Some days I feel like shit, but other days i'm good. I still think about her every day because I honestly felt in love this girl, but my pain is far less what it has been months ago. Sadly we weren't meant for each other, but I will not falter and become a nobody. I will do my best to become a better me and work on myself even more!
@@justaguy8122 Sure thing! Its even worse while being locked in at home, we are here trapped with our thoughts and few distractions ahaha If it helps you brother write down all the red flags you've seen on her and you will see there was no future! In my case my ex-gf was really toxic and emotionally abusive. I believe you will start feeling better man and never forget to work on yourself and recognize your worth. We deserved way more, and they may regret it one day
@@ginkmdma It definitely is harder and I've had countless thoughts everyday about thinking "what if I just..." NO STOP IT! It wasn't my fault, I couldn't do anything since she wanted her ex-bf back. Thanks, I will take your advice and will take my time and write down all her red flags and you are spot on, we do deserve better
People lie all the time. The girl/guy who just broke up may lie to you so that you will date them and to protect themselves . So be sneaky and find out on your own.
This is so interesting. Seems like it always the same thing for most of us in here. Great for 2-4 months. Intimate. Passionate. At some point it seemed she liked you more. But boom. It stops. Things went to fast or she cant do it now. Now you are alone and probably heartbroken. And they move on and are probably on tinder already. For next guy to fill the hole for a while. I will never do this again.
Man, you described my situation to a t. For 3 months it seemed like she was so into me, then suddenly she starts doing the slow fade. After questioning her, she said she's not ready for a relationship. How can someone go from hot to cold so suddenly? Were they faking it all along?
@@bixumbi I also wonder if they faked it all along. Maybe. Maybe not. They probably dont know themselves. The worst thing is i ended up the "bad" guy ..
@@aamm2188 same thing here, bro. Since she's a coward who hates confrontation, she pulled the slow fade until I had enough of it and called it off, thereby being the bad guy while she remained the 'good girl'. What hypocrites
@@bixumbi yes . When they said there part. They want you to shut up and leave. No room for discussion. How the fck are you supposed to shut it down and move on. They made us fall in love with them. Easy for them to say.
Don’t try to prove yourself that you’re better than him. Don’t assume that if you become more affectionate and support her emotionally, she’ll stick around with you. I promise you she won’t. I’m saying this especially to the guys who try to become a white knight with the romantic shit. Don’t do it. All it’ll do will be pushing her back to him. Be your awesome self and let her discover how great you are in time. Gradually, you’ll start to grow on her if you do everything right and she’ll be over him, instead of you.
My story on dating a girl on rebound. (Didn’t realize till later). I dated a girl I met at a work holiday party. We dated for 6 months till she eventually cut things off. From the start she did all the initiating (90%) and I would just set the next date for the week. We hung out almost every weekend for 6 months. We had many fun times dancing, bars, I even went on a trip Vegas trip with her and her family. The sex was constant and amazing. We were always joking around she initiated all the hugging kissing and cuddling etc. We never once got in a argument. There were however red flags that would later appear. Throughout the time we were together she would at times bring up the ex which at first I didn’t mind until I saw it constantly happening. I eventually brought it up to her a couple of times with an indifferent tone simply asking what her situation is with the ex and if she had any contact with him. Every time she would reassure she had no feelings and she was certain she was over him. I was not sure to believe her but saw her affection and high interest toward me as an indication not to worry. I reacted to her with indifference but did have some doubt. Later The turning point I knew she was definitely not over the ex was one time when she brought up ex again and I had asked how it ended. She immediately broke down crying saying she didn’t want to talk about it which was a major red flag! I knew then that things ended really bad in that relationship and he really hurt her bad so I stopped the convo there. I later learned She was with him for 5 years and had been single for 8 months before meeting me. I stupidly proceeded to date her where In my mind I knew that this was likely not going to end well. I hung on solely to the fact of how much she was pursuing me along with her high affection and her high attraction towards me. I didn’t realize till later she probably was not fully emotionally there despite this behavior. Fast forward to end. I texted her in the morning one day she was sick that I hope she felt better. Out of the blue she responds with text saying “I have been reflecting these past few days and I really need to talk to you in person because you deserve that much and more.” I immediately knew exactly what was happening. The feeling of doubt became reality. I responded saying that I knew she wanted to cut things off and she confirmed. I tried to play it cool by saying that we basically got together to see where things went which was true, but I really felt deep down like we were headed into a real relationship. She was saying how hard it was for her to do this. I was upset and wanted to end conversation quick and didn’t ask why she is doing this. Deep inside I felt I had the answer and was certain it was the ex. I was hurt but continued to play it cool. My last responses were “if you want to go separate ways that’s fine. You do your thing I’ll do mine. If you ever reconsider or change your mind you know how to reach me. And if maybe I’m still available we can give this a real shot.” Her last response was “ok sounds good”. I was so upset that I didn’t even bother to ask why she cut things off but I knew in my heart it had to be the ex coming back into picture. We never became exclusive but I felt by her high attraction towards me and her never distancing herself from me, it was going to work out eventually. I saw no signs she was going cold or losing interest which caught me completely off guard. Looking back I had thought I did everything right. Never showed neediness or jealousy or any negative emotion at all. The only mistakes I may have made was being too responsive through text even though she initiated. I begin to think I may have not been affectionate enough or Possibly did not try hard enough to open her up emotionally..... I’m not sure... even at the end I immediately accepted the break up and went NC no begging or anything. Idk if I should of tried to fight to keep seeing each other or if my indifference was the right response. I’m currently on 3 weeks of No Contact. I do wish she comes back. I guess that will depend on the ex fucking up again.
Ohh, did she return to her ex? We are in a bit similar situation, the only difference is that she leave her ex for me because of their toxic relationship, but then she return to him after 4months in our relationship, she suddenly dump me, and after 1 week in our break up she return to her ex saying that they will never ever break up again. Just continue doing no contact. After 2 months of no contact my ex called me and offers a friendship. I dont care about the friendship right now because im moving on and i am not into a friendship with a girl whom i have a romantic moments. Just do no contact and improve yourself. Be a greater version of you. You will be fine.
And by the way, just keep it in your mind, that people cant treat others like shit and live happily in their lives, there is always a karma, and when it strikes back to them, im sure they're not gonna love it.
@P Del Bro.. Your story literally matches mine to a T.. Literally everything you typed is what I'm going thru right now... The only difference is I was a little more needy and clingy.. I'm honestly at a loss for words.. Im in the same exact boat you are right now and it's truly detrimental to me and my mental health.. This girl and I started talking and getting serious right after she got out of a 4 year relationahip.. We had been talking for about 5 months and everything was perfect between us and I truly think we were a great match for eachother.. Then last week (Tuesday 9-21-21) she was acting all weird and said she wanted to "talk in person".. So on Friday 9-24-21, we met in person and talked about everything and to sum things up, she said she wanted to be friends so she can work on herself for awhile and take time to heal herself from her past relationship.. I tried staying optimistic during our whole encounter (being fun and playful) so she didn't see how much I was actually dying on the inside.. I kindly declined her offer and and told her I could not backtrack and be her friend cuz I am truly in love with this woman.. I told her if she changes her mind to reach out to me sometime in the future and we can see what happens (we left off on good terms.. no harm no foul).. I am now on day 5 of no contact and it's freaking killing me dude.. My anxiety is at an all time high and I can barely work..sleep..eat.. and worst of all, I can't get her out of my head.. Its depressing man, it truly is... Any advice on my situation about how you are doing would really help.. Did NC work? Did she ever reach out?
At least she was up front and honest with you. In my experience these women cheat on you with their ex so after that... there's no more leaving the door open.
I’m a sucker who failed to realize I was the rebound relationship for almost a month! Now that I have figured it out, it’s a sigh of relief and I am moving on!
if the girl went back with her ex, This is the very fact that she didnt love You. If You feel that You are her psychologyst giving couple therapy You get out of there. If the ex shows texting, Say less, no explanations get out of there. This is no joke. Guys there are marriages that have not overcome their exs. Don't be part of the stats.
So basically this is the non cheating version of being a plan B The cheating version is when a lady pursues you while having a boyfriend bin the picture
Hey coach i did just what you said with an ex of mine. i didn't went along with the friendship bullshit. and basically she get all upset and got her telling me things like .ohh you think your'e so good.you think you deserve everything you want.everything has to be at your way blah blah. wtf? so i just basically told her to give me a call when she wanted to be nice and talk to me in a better way..and i move on.
Its true it happens to me...Women Lies a Lot... I was also a victim of this rebound relationship, after 3 months dating of this girl break-up with me she said she wants to be single... after stalking to her FB with my troll account I saw that she already returned to her long time Ex BF...
The only thing that I don't understand is Corey's reply "give me a call if things don't work out". To me, that's being some chick's sloppy seconds, there are too many hot women out there, if a girl I liked or was dating chooses someone else over me, it's their devasting and permanent loss with no coming back. I would never want someone back who dropped me for someone else and I wouldn't even want that door ever opened with them again to come back. My response would be your loss, have a good life, please lose my number, I'm worthy of the best and baby, you're not it. I particularly hate when girls start bumping and grinding on me in a dance club which happens all the time, then go do it to some other guy next to me, I'm not some dog, it really disgusts me to be treated like one. That fact I no longer drink and I'm stone sober probably influences my reactions to things girls are doing to me..
It’s a sales pitch dude. “If you change you’re mind” helps a person to move on. And it makes it seem like your feelings are unclear due to the very “take it or leave it” feel. Plus you always want to live in a way that makes the other person feel free. That love comes across better if you tell the “ if you change your mind”.
Zero Bruh. When you become a woman’s “sloppy seconds” when she contacts you she’s given away all her power. That means if you choose to deal with her you will have all the power in the interactions because she came to you from a place of scarcity. That’s the best place to be with a woman. Having her come to you after things don’t work out and you didn’t chase. You’ve shown high value and she knows you have no problem walking away so now she’s gonna do whatever you want so you don’t walk as again. If not you chalk her and let her walk again.
Hi, I have tried to end my relationship with my girlfriend 4 times in 6months because of the fear that I'm a rebound guy. Although she told me that I'm not and she doesn't have feelings for her ex ,somehow I dont believe her. Everytime I end the relationship,I get anxious and think what if it's the real deal ,and I go back the next day. The last time I broke up with her she cried and begged me to stay. I felt her pain. Now I'm thinking that she truly loves me but I've fucked up so much that she won't love me the same .
I think there's a difference between chasing & being fully on a woman. There's got to be a little bit of chase..maybe a lot sometimes. It all depends on how you go about it I believe. Chase but don't be a wuss/doormat.
commonintel You can’t chase someone without being a doormat. You chasing someone doesn’t increase the attraction at all. It actually lowers it. It doesn’t matter how you do it. It always has to be her idea to be with you, not yours.
I was a rebounder. She went out with him for five years. Three months later we started dating. I never knew. She told me 53 years later she rarely mentioned him ( I did know that they went out) but I didn't know the facts. Plus him and I hung out in the same bar and he never mentioned her.
I get so weak when thinking an bout it but I’m a rebound. Was amazing for 6 months then BOOM it’s over… I have crazy feelings for her, she told me she hadn’t gotten over the ex they’ve been together 7 years Im just worn down.
Same situation here. Wonderful 6 months and then boom... She dated with her ex for only 3 months though, so it feels rather unfair as our 6 months is even longer than that, but they lived together and he made the (fake?) 'marriage promise' to her and then cheated on her or something, so she definitely had a stronger emotional connection to him... I feel angry at the ex for manipulating her emotionally though, but she ended up doing the same thing to me. Trauma causes trauma bro. Take care!
Heyy .. any updates? Were you able to move on? Ive been in the same situation as you and i think she got back with him, and she cut off contact and blocked me on all platforms, i cannot get this thing out of my mind for the last two months now. This shit sucks
Went through this. It ended 2 days ago. I did things right but even then, she was still texting back and forth with him. She would sometimes tell him off, and other times initiate conversation. Eventually her and I had a issue over NOTHING. She went to her ex that night and the next few days I acted crazy. I should have just walked away. None the less, make sure the girl your dating doesnt have contact with the ex in any shape or form. They shared a dog. So that was his connection in still. She is with the ex now LOL, but I fucked up the 3 days before she ended it with me.
I was a rebound guy and didn't know it. I really liked her and as soon as she found out she was pregnant she dumped me. Never told me but told him it was his. guess who's kid it was.
It’s taken me 4 months to get over being her rebound ….. she wanted to stay friends and I said heck no. I smashed her ego without offending her, and told her it’s Fd up what she did and not to drag other men into crap like that. Sort your crap out baby.
Just found out the girl I've been dating for 4 months is texting/dating her ex again. We've been seeing each other 3-4 days a week but unfortunately while we were drunk, I had a pretty weak moment and kinda freaked out about it. Now I've realized I need to stop drinking. I'm backing off now and waiting for her to come to me, man it's fucking difficult.
im in the same exact position except she's 5000 miles away from me. she just told me she met up with him. I found out they were together for 3 fucking years, and they met on the anniversary. I stepped away. If it's meant to be she will come back. Do not seem needy or keep writing her bro, it's her turn to run back
raponegod3 Thanks bro, keep your head up. Things just worked out for me last night. After only a few days of walking away she called me and wanted to talk. She said she wants to be exclusive with me and she cut this other dude out, and has started to refer to me as her boyfriend. Now he's sending her a bunch of angry and desperate texts. Coach really knows his shit.
SemperFiMac77 wow dude that's perfect. You displayed an Alpha male presence with her, and her ex is sounding like a woman while she ran back to you.. Good luck
This happened to me . I guess I was the rebound. Was with the ex 4 months. Thing is , I shat where I ate because we worked together. We both lost our jobs, she has 2 kids and I was taking care of them with my resources in the mean time. Guess while we were together, she was talking to her ex fiance behind my back. The ex was from another country . I guess they coordinated something where she left me. I begged and pleaded and everything one can do wrong. Less than a month after break up. She was back with the ex and married ! Guess she made him come back from their country of origin to where we live. Ignored all the red flags of being a rebound since the beginning. I guess everything is a lesson.
Was talking to a woman who started acting flakey. She told me she wanted to try and get things right with her ex before starting something new. I told her I really liked her but I can't and won't do the back and forth, so talk to me when your mind is clear and maybe we can talk. Now I go silent. Wonder how it will work
It will work the way it needs to, I'm doing that Same thing, don't pursue her, make her pursue you, if she wants you, she'll make the effort. All you should do, is not wait for her, do what you want with someone else, if she and you are still available when she talks to you, then try being together, but I wouldn't waste effort or time with her, put her in the bucket and keep fishing.
You know that should be a red flag to begin with, if on multiple occasions, she attempts to put you in the friend zone. A special kind of Torment I tell ya what. Do you need me or not. If so, act like it. otherwise deUces
Wowowowowo im in same exact situation she backed off because she was confuse and wanted me to be her friend and i said no id rather continue what were doing. And she got mad at me. You say not to burn your bridge and i felt that thats what i did with her. And i felt like shit
I may not fully understand women, I'll give you that. But much of this "acting indifferent," "showing unclear feelings towards the woman likes," doesn't make any sense to me. I know casing portrays desperation and insecurity, OK. But when there're really not many alternatives (girls) in the realm, do you have a choice besides chasing? Also it complicates when time (age) is against you. I have the gift or ability of attracting young women. Some of them even decades younger than me. I don't use money, I just show concern for them. I appeal to their conceitedness, vanity and ego. But I remain honest and sincere about my remarks. They still seem to get tired of this and walk away, and i end up feeling used. Is there a solution to this? How do I keep them interested? Thanks
Crap. I'm a bisexual man being the rebound of a guy who just ended an10+ years relationship and this is fucking spot on. Crap. You know your shit man. This is gold. And too.bad I watched it far too late because well, I'm in love and he clearly isn't.
My ex and I split up in August . I broke up with her because she kept accusing me of cheating . 1st week I was back living with my dad drinking heavily and she pursued me and wanted me back and yada. After the first week I thought I had made a mistake and started to pursue her heavily .. she said she didn’t want one and would barely see me . I figured it was cause of another man she was seeing .. ( all this was prior to knowing about you ) I did the grand jester for almost 2 months . Then I finally came across your work in October . Finally implemented no contact . She wouldn’t ever agree to seeing me , November 11th she changed her Facebook to in a relationship with this guy . I think she’s truly broken it off with me 100% and there isn’t any hope to get her back . We was together on and off for 4 years .. this is a guy she hooked up with last year in November .
hey Corey . Well my situation pretty pathetic because he who used flirt with me without me doing anything ; the same person has been ignoring me for the past few weeks n has started flirting with other guys . the reason is like all my friends teased her a lot .Well what I'm trying to ask is what should I do in this situation
So my ex fiancee left me and jumped quickly into a new relationship within a couple of months. We were engaged to be married and we were together for 9yrs and 9mos. We live in FL but her rebound lives in California. He's come down to FL 2 times in one month to see her. Valentine's Day and then 2 weeks later for her birthday. When I saw them together I kept very calm and cool and I gave them no attention or reaction. 3 weeks ago she reached out to me in person with a stupid excuse. I catch her staring at me all the time we're in the same place. I kind of want to start over with her and she's making attempts at communicating with me. Does this mean that she doesn't like her rebound and wants me back or is she just seeking validation from me? TY gentlemen.
So this happened to me.. I work on the SF ferry in SF obviously and i met this brittish tourist, hot as hell. She was a flight attendant. I got her instagram and we hit it up. She came back the following week and we met up again and we went back to her hotel room. It was the best night of my life. She did just split up from her boyfriend so i kinda suspected I would be the rebound. Throughout that month of us going back and forth we got on so well and she was even suggesting to relocating to the US to be with me lol. We had like awesome chemistry. then one day we busy chating while she was in the UK and i was in the US and telling me how she changed her flights so that she can come to SFO twice next month instead of the once. Then all of a sudden! She blocked me on Instagram, like completely out the blue so i couldnt ask her why or anything? Whatsup with that shit? You think she got back with her ex?
Sasha Vickers definitely! Oh well! Plenty of other women out there. She disrespected you and took the cowardly way instead of telling you why in the first place with at least a phone call.
I know this woman, one guy to the next to the next. No self awareness of why all her relationships fail and her marriage. Shagging the boss b4 her ex had moved out and pregnant with another guys' baby before she was even divorced. I just stopped hanging with her. She just used me like she uses men as a security blanket for her own shortcomings in life.
ahhhh fuck! im only 12 and all this shit he is saying is true about my girlfriend! she told me she loved her ex more than me for the first month we were together and now ive got a feeling she likes another guy who also likes her! im so fucked up over this shit!!!
She called today begging me to be in her life while she was in a relationship. I told her I dont wanna be just friends with you and she said "im begging you to be in my life , but you dont want to because im in a relationship, your loss" I ddnt say shit & hung up. What do you think is running through her mind that I told her that I ddnt want to be just friends with her? Also she said "what do I have to do to keep you in my life" I ddnt kno how to answer that. Reply please
***** thanks for the reply man, i was very lost at that time and ddnt know how to react. My emotions were taking a hold of me and i was making decisions based on fear of losing her. Now that im wiser , I understood the situation, & I learned from that experience. She's tried speaking 2 me now almost 2years later and I dont want anything to do with her because I have many options, and thats how it should be :)
I'm Stealing This: No, I don't want to be your friend. [1] Its such a trap; Reasonable people want friends; [2] You end up being the fall back guy; [3] She will not respect you, having "pigeon holed" you as a bitch resource; And [4], You won't respect yourself....
The friendzone doesn't actually exist. You can easily romance your way out of the friend zone. Just be a fun, lovable person with the occasional sexual innuendo. She'll get the hint. Women want a man they can grow old with... Not some douche that's going to break her heart...
I was in a rebound too. She didn't love me and only used me. We were intimate and she were hot over heels for me the first 3 months and then suddenly she acted flaky and didn't have time to meet me anymore. She eventually told me she was going to try get her ex back. She wanted me to be her friend and her emotional tampon. Today I had enough, I wished her the best and now i'm walking away. She is emotional messed up and had some big red flags that I ignored because I liked her, but I deleted her on fb and now it's time to heal, love myself so I can meet the right person who loves me next time. I had to say that I haven't discovered Corey's work before this happened.
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Cool man, I was in the same situation! Just broke up with her a month ago and yesterday I deleted her off every social media! Was tough but I believe I'm happy this way. I wasn't happy for the last 4 months!
@@ginkmdma Just be prepared to get some emotional rollercoasters. Some days I feel like shit, but other days i'm good. I still think about her every day because I honestly felt in love this girl, but my pain is far less what it has been months ago. Sadly we weren't meant for each other, but I will not falter and become a nobody. I will do my best to become a better me and work on myself even more!
@@justaguy8122 Sure thing! Its even worse while being locked in at home, we are here trapped with our thoughts and few distractions ahaha If it helps you brother write down all the red flags you've seen on her and you will see there was no future! In my case my ex-gf was really toxic and emotionally abusive. I believe you will start feeling better man and never forget to work on yourself and recognize your worth. We deserved way more, and they may regret it one day
@@ginkmdma It definitely is harder and I've had countless thoughts everyday about thinking "what if I just..." NO STOP IT! It wasn't my fault, I couldn't do anything since she wanted her ex-bf back. Thanks, I will take your advice and will take my time and write down all her red flags and you are spot on, we do deserve better
People lie all the time. The girl/guy who just broke up may lie to you so that you will date them and to protect themselves . So be sneaky and find out on your own.
This is so interesting. Seems like it always the same thing for most of us in here. Great for 2-4 months. Intimate. Passionate. At some point it seemed she liked you more. But boom. It stops. Things went to fast or she cant do it now. Now you are alone and probably heartbroken. And they move on and are probably on tinder already. For next guy to fill the hole for a while. I will never do this again.
Sums up my exact situation. Never ever will I put myself in this position again.
Man, you described my situation to a t. For 3 months it seemed like she was so into me, then suddenly she starts doing the slow fade. After questioning her, she said she's not ready for a relationship. How can someone go from hot to cold so suddenly? Were they faking it all along?
@@bixumbi I also wonder if they faked it all along. Maybe. Maybe not. They probably dont know themselves. The worst thing is i ended up the "bad" guy ..
@@aamm2188 same thing here, bro. Since she's a coward who hates confrontation, she pulled the slow fade until I had enough of it and called it off, thereby being the bad guy while she remained the 'good girl'. What hypocrites
@@bixumbi yes . When they said there part. They want you to shut up and leave. No room for discussion. How the fck are you supposed to shut it down and move on. They made us fall in love with them. Easy for them to say.
Don’t try to prove yourself that you’re better than him. Don’t assume that if you become more affectionate and support her emotionally, she’ll stick around with you. I promise you she won’t. I’m saying this especially to the guys who try to become a white knight with the romantic shit.
Don’t do it. All it’ll do will be pushing her back to him. Be your awesome self and let her discover how great you are in time. Gradually, you’ll start to grow on her if you do everything right and she’ll be over him, instead of you.
My story on dating a girl on rebound. (Didn’t realize till later).
I dated a girl I met at a work holiday party. We dated for 6 months till she eventually cut things off.
From the start she did all the initiating (90%) and I would just set the next date for the week. We hung out almost every weekend for 6 months. We had many fun times dancing, bars, I even went on a trip Vegas trip with her and her family. The sex was constant and amazing. We were always joking around she initiated all the hugging kissing and cuddling etc. We never once got in a argument.
There were however red flags that would later appear. Throughout the time we were together she would at times bring up the ex which at first I didn’t mind until I saw it constantly happening. I eventually brought it up to her a couple of times with an indifferent tone simply asking what her situation is with the ex and if she had any contact with him. Every time she would reassure she had no feelings and she was certain she was over him. I was not sure to believe her but saw her affection and high interest toward me as an indication not to worry. I reacted to her with indifference but did have some doubt.
Later The turning point I knew she was definitely not over the ex was one time when she brought up ex again and I had asked how it ended. She immediately broke down crying saying she didn’t want to talk about it which was a major red flag! I knew then that things ended really bad in that relationship and he really hurt her bad so I stopped the convo there. I later learned She was with him for 5 years and had been single for 8 months before meeting me.
I stupidly proceeded to date her where In my mind I knew that this was likely not going to end well. I hung on solely to the fact of how much she was pursuing me along with her high affection and her high attraction towards me. I didn’t realize till later she probably was not fully emotionally there despite this behavior.
Fast forward to end. I texted her in the morning one day she was sick that I hope she felt better. Out of the blue she responds with text saying “I have been reflecting these past few days and I really need to talk to you in person because you deserve that much and more.” I immediately knew exactly what was happening. The feeling of doubt became reality. I responded saying that I knew she wanted to cut things off and she confirmed. I tried to play it cool by saying that we basically got together to see where things went which was true, but I really felt deep down like we were headed into a real relationship. She was saying how hard it was for her to do this. I was upset and wanted to end conversation quick and didn’t ask why she is doing this. Deep inside I felt I had the answer and was certain it was the ex.
I was hurt but continued to play it cool. My last responses were “if you want to go separate ways that’s fine. You do your thing I’ll do mine. If you ever reconsider or change your mind you know how to reach me. And if maybe I’m still available we can give this a real shot.” Her last response was “ok sounds good”. I was so upset that I didn’t even bother to ask why she cut things off but I knew in my heart it had to be the ex coming back into picture.
We never became exclusive but I felt by her high attraction towards me and her never distancing herself from me, it was going to work out eventually. I saw no signs she was going cold or losing interest which caught me completely off guard.
Looking back I had thought I did everything right. Never showed neediness or jealousy or any negative emotion at all. The only mistakes I may have made was being too responsive through text even though she initiated. I begin to think I may have not been affectionate enough or Possibly did not try hard enough to open her up emotionally..... I’m not sure... even at the end I immediately accepted the break up and went NC no begging or anything. Idk if I should of tried to fight to keep seeing each other or if my indifference was the right response.
I’m currently on 3 weeks of No Contact. I do wish she comes back. I guess that will depend on the ex fucking up again.
Ohh, did she return to her ex? We are in a bit similar situation, the only difference is that she leave her ex for me because of their toxic relationship, but then she return to him after 4months in our relationship, she suddenly dump me, and after 1 week in our break up she return to her ex saying that they will never ever break up again. Just continue doing no contact. After 2 months of no contact my ex called me and offers a friendship. I dont care about the friendship right now because im moving on and i am not into a friendship with a girl whom i have a romantic moments. Just do no contact and improve yourself. Be a greater version of you. You will be fine.
And by the way, just keep it in your mind, that people cant treat others like shit and live happily in their lives, there is always a karma, and when it strikes back to them, im sure they're not gonna love it.
Did she get back to you until now?
Update !!
@P Del Bro.. Your story literally matches mine to a T.. Literally everything you typed is what I'm going thru right now... The only difference is I was a little more needy and clingy.. I'm honestly at a loss for words.. Im in the same exact boat you are right now and it's truly detrimental to me and my mental health.. This girl and I started talking and getting serious right after she got out of a 4 year relationahip.. We had been talking for about 5 months and everything was perfect between us and I truly think we were a great match for eachother.. Then last week (Tuesday 9-21-21) she was acting all weird and said she wanted to "talk in person".. So on Friday 9-24-21, we met in person and talked about everything and to sum things up, she said she wanted to be friends so she can work on herself for awhile and take time to heal herself from her past relationship.. I tried staying optimistic during our whole encounter (being fun and playful) so she didn't see how much I was actually dying on the inside.. I kindly declined her offer and and told her I could not backtrack and be her friend cuz I am truly in love with this woman.. I told her if she changes her mind to reach out to me sometime in the future and we can see what happens (we left off on good terms.. no harm no foul).. I am now on day 5 of no contact and it's freaking killing me dude.. My anxiety is at an all time high and I can barely work..sleep..eat.. and worst of all, I can't get her out of my head.. Its depressing man, it truly is... Any advice on my situation about how you are doing would really help.. Did NC work? Did she ever reach out?
At least she was up front and honest with you. In my experience these women cheat on you with their ex so after that... there's no more leaving the door open.
I’m a sucker who failed to realize I was the rebound relationship for almost a month! Now that I have figured it out, it’s a sigh of relief and I am moving on!
if the girl went back with her ex, This is the very fact that she didnt love You. If You feel that You are her psychologyst giving couple therapy You get out of there. If the ex shows texting, Say less, no explanations get out of there. This is no joke. Guys there are marriages that have not overcome their exs. Don't be part of the stats.
So basically this is the non cheating version of being a plan B
The cheating version is when a lady pursues you while having a boyfriend bin the picture
My man you tell me exactly what I need to hear thanks G
Good job!
None of your video work in getting a women full of packed fraud you tuber all a big waste of time. No monitors bs loads of videos.
Hey coach i did just what you said with an ex of mine. i didn't went along with the friendship bullshit. and basically she get all upset and got her telling me things like .ohh you think your'e so good.you think you deserve everything you want.everything has to be at your way blah blah. wtf? so i just basically told her to give me a call when she wanted to be nice and talk to me in a better way..and i move on.
My girlfriend said I was acting like a jerk because she dumped me and didnt want to answer when she tried to ask how I was..
Its true it happens to me...Women Lies a Lot... I was also a victim of this rebound relationship, after 3 months dating of this girl break-up with me she said she wants to be single... after stalking to her FB with my troll account I saw that she already returned to her long time Ex BF...
Daimonon tnx man already done your advice..
Legendre Because you were not better than him in her opinion.
I met my ex girlfriend a few months after her husband died and I was her rebound we were together for about a year and a half
The only thing that I don't understand is Corey's reply "give me a call if things don't work out". To me, that's being some chick's sloppy seconds, there are too many hot women out there, if a girl I liked or was dating chooses someone else over me, it's their devasting and permanent loss with no coming back. I would never want someone back who dropped me for someone else and I wouldn't even want that door ever opened with them again to come back. My response would be your loss, have a good life, please lose my number, I'm worthy of the best and baby, you're not it.
I particularly hate when girls start bumping and grinding on me in a dance club which happens all the time, then go do it to some other guy next to me, I'm not some dog, it really disgusts me to be treated like one. That fact I no longer drink and I'm stone sober probably influences my reactions to things girls are doing to me..
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Your overthinking, that’s the world we live in...as long as you are on your purpose people will come and go.
I was with you til the last part bro. It’s a club. Drink and live life lmao. No girl in the club is your property.
It’s a sales pitch dude. “If you change you’re mind” helps a person to move on. And it makes it seem like your feelings are unclear due to the very “take it or leave it” feel. Plus you always want to live in a way that makes the other person feel free. That love comes across better if you tell the “ if you change your mind”.
Zero Bruh. When you become a woman’s “sloppy seconds” when she contacts you she’s given away all her power. That means if you choose to deal with her you will have all the power in the interactions because she came to you from a place of scarcity. That’s the best place to be with a woman. Having her come to you after things don’t work out and you didn’t chase. You’ve shown high value and she knows you have no problem walking away so now she’s gonna do whatever you want so you don’t walk as again. If not you chalk her and let her walk again.
Hi, I have tried to end my relationship with my girlfriend 4 times in 6months because of the fear that I'm a rebound guy. Although she told me that I'm not and she doesn't have feelings for her ex ,somehow I dont believe her. Everytime I end the relationship,I get anxious and think what if it's the real deal ,and I go back the next day.
The last time I broke up with her she cried and begged me to stay. I felt her pain. Now I'm thinking that she truly loves me but I've fucked up so much that she won't love me the same .
Not even worth it stay single bro lol
Scarcity mindset is a heck of thing!
I think there's a difference between chasing & being fully on a woman. There's got to be a little bit of chase..maybe a lot sometimes. It all depends on how you go about it I believe. Chase but don't be a wuss/doormat.
commonintel You can’t chase someone without being a doormat. You chasing someone doesn’t increase the attraction at all. It actually lowers it. It doesn’t matter how you do it. It always has to be her idea to be with you, not yours.
This is a great video im in the same situation
I was a rebounder. She went out with him for five years. Three months later we started dating. I never knew. She told me 53 years later she rarely mentioned him ( I did know that they went out) but I didn't know the facts. Plus him and I hung out in the same bar and he never mentioned her.
I get so weak when thinking an bout it but I’m a rebound. Was amazing for 6 months then BOOM it’s over… I have crazy feelings for her, she told me she hadn’t gotten over the ex they’ve been together 7 years Im just worn down.
same thing happened to me too bruh. she was extremely toxic as hell too
Same situation here. Wonderful 6 months and then boom... She dated with her ex for only 3 months though, so it feels rather unfair as our 6 months is even longer than that, but they lived together and he made the (fake?) 'marriage promise' to her and then cheated on her or something, so she definitely had a stronger emotional connection to him... I feel angry at the ex for manipulating her emotionally though, but she ended up doing the same thing to me. Trauma causes trauma bro. Take care!
Heyy .. any updates? Were you able to move on? Ive been in the same situation as you and i think she got back with him, and she cut off contact and blocked me on all platforms, i cannot get this thing out of my mind for the last two months now. This shit sucks
Is there a chance she will ever come back to the rebound guy?
Thank you, Corey. You’re a fucking legend.
Went through this. It ended 2 days ago.
I did things right but even then, she was still texting back and forth with him.
She would sometimes tell him off, and other times initiate conversation.
Eventually her and I had a issue over NOTHING.
She went to her ex that night and the next few days I acted crazy.
I should have just walked away.
None the less, make sure the girl your dating doesnt have contact with the ex in any shape or form.
They shared a dog. So that was his connection in still.
She is with the ex now LOL, but I fucked up the 3 days before she ended it with me.
I was a rebound guy and didn't know it. I really liked her and as soon as she found out she was pregnant she dumped me. Never told me but told him it was his. guess who's kid it was.
Ohhh daaang bro.... hope everything worksout with yall
Whos kid was it?
It’s taken me 4 months to get over being her rebound ….. she wanted to stay friends and I said heck no. I smashed her ego without offending her, and told her it’s Fd up what she did and not to drag other men into crap like that. Sort your crap out baby.
Dude this is thee best advice ive heard!! (:
My girlfriend won't commit to the future with me. She says she's over her ex husband but all the signs show otherwise.
Just found out the girl I've been dating for 4 months is texting/dating her ex again. We've been seeing each other 3-4 days a week but unfortunately while we were drunk, I had a pretty weak moment and kinda freaked out about it. Now I've realized I need to stop drinking. I'm backing off now and waiting for her to come to me, man it's fucking difficult.
im in the same exact position except she's 5000 miles away from me. she just told me she met up with him. I found out they were together for 3 fucking years, and they met on the anniversary. I stepped away. If it's meant to be she will come back. Do not seem needy or keep writing her bro, it's her turn to run back
raponegod3 Thanks bro, keep your head up. Things just worked out for me last night. After only a few days of walking away she called me and wanted to talk. She said she wants to be exclusive with me and she cut this other dude out, and has started to refer to me as her boyfriend. Now he's sending her a bunch of angry and desperate texts.
Coach really knows his shit.
SemperFiMac77 wow dude that's perfect. You displayed an Alpha male presence with her, and her ex is sounding like a woman while she ran back to you.. Good luck
This happened to me . I guess I was the rebound. Was with the ex 4 months. Thing is , I shat where I ate because we worked together. We both lost our jobs, she has 2 kids and I was taking care of them with my resources in the mean time. Guess while we were together, she was talking to her ex fiance behind my back. The ex was from another country . I guess they coordinated something where she left me. I begged and pleaded and everything one can do wrong. Less than a month after break up. She was back with the ex and married ! Guess she made him come back from their country of origin to where we live. Ignored all the red flags of being a rebound since the beginning. I guess everything is a lesson.
Was talking to a woman who started acting flakey. She told me she wanted to try and get things right with her ex before starting something new. I told her I really liked her but I can't and won't do the back and forth, so talk to me when your mind is clear and maybe we can talk. Now I go silent. Wonder how it will work
It will work the way it needs to, I'm doing that Same thing, don't pursue her, make her pursue you, if she wants you, she'll make the effort. All you should do, is not wait for her, do what you want with someone else, if she and you are still available when she talks to you, then try being together, but I wouldn't waste effort or time with her, put her in the bucket and keep fishing.
follow up ?
Updates?
@@spambot6959 she ended up 2x pregnant , dumped by a hole bf. She tried to talk to me again and I never did. Kept it moving🤣
You know that should be a red flag to begin with, if on multiple occasions, she attempts to put you in the friend zone. A special kind of Torment I tell ya what. Do you need me or not. If so, act like it. otherwise deUces
Wowowowowo im in same exact situation she backed off because she was confuse and wanted me to be her friend and i said no id rather continue what were doing. And she got mad at me. You say not to burn your bridge and i felt that thats what i did with her. And i felt like shit
I may not fully understand women, I'll give you that. But much of this "acting indifferent," "showing unclear feelings towards the woman likes," doesn't make any sense to me. I know casing portrays desperation and insecurity, OK. But when there're really not many alternatives (girls) in the realm, do you have a choice besides chasing? Also it complicates when time (age) is against you. I have the gift or ability of attracting young women. Some of them even decades younger than me. I don't use money, I just show concern for them. I appeal to their conceitedness, vanity and ego. But I remain honest and sincere about my remarks. They still seem to get tired of this and walk away, and i end up feeling used. Is there a solution to this? How do I keep them interested? Thanks
I am dealing with this right now and this helps a lot.
Crap. I'm a bisexual man being the rebound of a guy who just ended an10+ years relationship and this is fucking spot on. Crap. You know your shit man. This is gold. And too.bad I watched it far too late because well, I'm in love and he clearly isn't.
My ex and I split up in August . I broke up with her because she kept accusing me of cheating . 1st week I was back living with my dad drinking heavily and she pursued me and wanted me back and yada. After the first week I thought I had made a mistake and started to pursue her heavily .. she said she didn’t want one and would barely see me . I figured it was cause of another man she was seeing .. ( all this was prior to knowing about you ) I did the grand jester for almost 2 months . Then I finally came across your work in October . Finally implemented no contact . She wouldn’t ever agree to seeing me , November 11th she changed her Facebook to in a relationship with this guy . I think she’s truly broken it off with me 100% and there isn’t any hope to get her back . We was together on and off for 4 years .. this is a guy she hooked up with last year in November .
Why the fuck im always a rebound ?
Probably you're a very honest and caring man. They use them up :(
Cant believe she got back with that guy she broke up with 17 months ago. What for? They are an ex for a reason, it needs to stay that way.
When you find out she just got out of a relationship… red flag. Leave immediately
Great advice Corey.
hey Corey . Well my situation pretty pathetic because he who used flirt with me without me doing anything ; the same person has been ignoring me for the past few weeks n has started flirting with other guys . the reason is like all my friends teased her a lot .Well what I'm trying to ask is what should I do in this situation
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Great shit my man!
So my ex fiancee left me and jumped quickly into a new relationship within a couple of months. We were engaged to be married and we were together for 9yrs and 9mos. We live in FL but her rebound lives in California. He's come down to FL 2 times in one month to see her. Valentine's Day and then 2 weeks later for her birthday. When I saw them together I kept very calm and cool and I gave them no attention or reaction. 3 weeks ago she reached out to me in person with a stupid excuse. I catch her staring at me all the time we're in the same place. I kind of want to start over with her and she's making attempts at communicating with me. Does this mean that she doesn't like her rebound and wants me back or is she just seeking validation from me? TY gentlemen.
Make yourself a favour dude, don't be the second option...good luck
So this happened to me.. I work on the SF ferry in SF obviously and i met this brittish tourist, hot as hell. She was a flight attendant. I got her instagram and we hit it up. She came back the following week and we met up again and we went back to her hotel room. It was the best night of my life. She did just split up from her boyfriend so i kinda suspected I would be the rebound.
Throughout that month of us going back and forth we got on so well and she was even suggesting to relocating to the US to be with me lol. We had like awesome chemistry.
then one day we busy chating while she was in the UK and i was in the US and telling me how she changed her flights so that she can come to SFO twice next month instead of the once.
Then all of a sudden! She blocked me on Instagram, like completely out the blue so i couldnt ask her why or anything?
Whatsup with that shit? You think she got back with her ex?
Sasha Vickers definitely! Oh well! Plenty of other women out there. She disrespected you and took the cowardly way instead of telling you why in the first place with at least a phone call.
you didn’t get her number? FaceTime? WhatsApp?
My hero!
thanks coach
awesome advice coach
Damn Jenny. That’s what she did to me
You the man brother
I know this woman, one guy to the next to the next. No self awareness of why all her relationships fail and her marriage. Shagging the boss b4 her ex had moved out and pregnant with another guys' baby before she was even divorced. I just stopped hanging with her. She just used me like she uses men as a security blanket for her own shortcomings in life.
Thanks for the advice. You a god
ahhhh fuck! im only 12 and all this shit he is saying is true about my girlfriend! she told me she loved her ex more than me for the first month we were together and now ive got a feeling she likes another guy who also likes her! im so fucked up over this shit!!!
hahah dude you are like a fucking super genius.!
Never again
She called today begging me to be in her life while she was in a relationship. I told her I dont wanna be just friends with you and she said "im begging you to be in my life , but you dont want to because im in a relationship, your loss" I ddnt say shit & hung up. What do you think is running through her mind that I told her that I ddnt want to be just friends with her? Also she said "what do I have to do to keep you in my life" I ddnt kno how to answer that. Reply please
***** thanks for the reply man, i was very lost at that time and ddnt know how to react. My emotions were taking a hold of me and i was making decisions based on fear of losing her. Now that im wiser , I understood the situation, & I learned from that experience.
She's tried speaking 2 me now almost 2years later and I dont want anything to do with her because I have many options, and thats how it should be :)
I'm Stealing This: No, I don't want to be your friend. [1] Its such a trap; Reasonable people want friends; [2] You end up being the fall back guy; [3] She will not respect you, having "pigeon holed" you as a bitch resource; And [4], You won't respect yourself....
true but women lies a lots
The friendzone doesn't actually exist. You can easily romance your way out of the friend zone. Just be a fun, lovable person with the occasional sexual innuendo. She'll get the hint. Women want a man they can grow old with... Not some douche that's going to break her heart...
NABEntertainment You’re as dumb as they come aren’t you.
@@bluerabbit1236 lol
That's dark blue pill bullshit. Cope blue 🧢